March 2021 Vol 13. No 1

VOL 13 NO 1

BECOMING A WOMAN OF SUBSTANCE BIRTHING DESTINY through PRAYERS

YOU ARE NOT FORGOTTEN JUST BEING PREPARED

SLEEP

HOW MUCH IS NECESSARY

PASTOR

EZE & ENO JERRY WHAT GOD CANNOT DO DOES NOT EXIST

INSIDE AFRICA’S LUXURIOUS BEACH HOLIDAY & EVENT DESTINATION

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Team PUBLISHER/CEO Bolanle Olawale EDITOR Toluwalase Olawale CREATIVE/GRAPHICS ARTIST Tonye Edet DIGITAL/TECHNICAL SUPPORT Adura Arowolo SALES AND LOGISTICS Francis Unufe CONTRIBUTORS Kingsley Okonkwo, Kehinde Adollo, Busola Jegede, Olamide Adeleye, Olufunlola Ifebogun, Ibironke Olubamise, Taiwo Isijola, Oluseyi Farinu, Ife Isijola, Kehinde Adollo, Ronke Adeoti, Dammy Timothy CHAIRMAN ’Kunle Olawale gemWoman is digitally published by gem Publications Ltd. All Rights Reserved, © 2021 For subscriptions and advert enquiries, please call or visit #10 Jide Ayo Close, Omole Phase 1, Ikeja, Lagos, Nigeria WhatsApp: +234 706 931 4010 Email: editor@gemwoman.net Website: www.gemwoman.net Follow us on instagram: @gemmagazines and @gem.event Like us on facebook: gemmagazines

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Contents gemWOMAN MAGAZINE

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VOL 13 NO 1

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KANDID TALKS Innovate, Initiate, Inspire

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ETIQUETTE Responding With Grace

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SPIRITUALITY 7 Keys To a More Prayerful Life in 2021 42

LIGHT REFLECTIONS

CAREER

You Are Not Forgotten

Change Your Workplace Through Prayer 94

Just Being Prepared

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CUISINE COVER INTERVIEW Pastor Eze & Eno Jerry

Crepe Cake

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GREY AREAS TESTIMONY

Death of A Spouse: How Can You help

He Gave Me Double

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My 72 Hour Miracle

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God Did It

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Someone Who is Grieving

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DECISION God Wants You, No Case is Hopeless

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WE’VE GOT MALE Birthing Destiny through Prayer

BEAUTY

Prayer 12

Facial Oils

FROM THE PUBLISHER’S DESK

TECHY YOU

FEATURE

4 Questions To Ask Yourself When

Inside White Deck Resort:

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Surfing On Social Media

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HERE’S TO HEALTH

POEM

The Difference a Year Can Make

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Sleep; How Much is Necessary?

Africa’s No 1 Luxurious Beach Resort

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FEMININE Becoming a Woman of Substance

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APPLES OF GOLD Quotes On Prayer

TRAVEL GUIDE

Intercultural Marriage:

Travel Made Easy: 7 Essential Tips Every

Making it Work 20

HAIR CARE Hair Accessories to Spice Up Your Look! 24

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FEATURE 31

Traveller Needs to Know

Pearlyn Oloyede

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Eula Amosun

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HOME AND YOU

Shermaine Oselukwue

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10 Easy Creative Ways to Declutter Your Home

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CONTRIBUTORS

Olufunmilola Ifebogun is the CEO of Blooms Soft Furnishing, which she established in 1994 and is fast gaining recognition within and outside Nigeria.

She is an associate of Dorothy Van Riet Design Academy in South Africa and also possesses a Diploma in Color Concept from Interior Design, Texas, USA.

Kehinde Adollo is a Profile Marketing communications expert who just wants to make a change in every little way she can. She loves to be in the company of good and inspiring people.

The God factor has been her support through the years She often asks herself, “where will I be without him?”

Adedamola (Dammy) Timothy Lead Pastor, Dominion Word Centre, London, United Kingdom.

International Conference Speaker | Life Coach | Media Personality.

Youtube: DammyTimothy Facebbok Page: DammyTimothyPage Instagram: @dammytimothy Twitter: @DammyTimothy

Taiwo Isijola is a seasoned expert on International Protocol and Etiquette.

Taiwo’s passion is to make an impactful difference to humanity by promoting societal dignity, decorum and values..

Olayinka Ashogbon Clutter Relief Specialist at TidyRx–a Professional Organizing Company with a mission to bring clutter relief to any space.

She specializes in Home and Business Spaces as well as Move Management.

Visit her website, www.tidyrx.com and follow her on Instagram @tidyrx for organizing tips.

Dr Olamipo Bamigboje ‘Olamipo’ as she loves to be called is Christian with a passion to help in any capacity she finds herself. She loves to teach, write, tidy up & take pictures when not practicing medicine. She is married to Kayode Bamigboje and they are blessed with 2 miraculous boys.

Ronke Adeoti is a pastor, a mentor and a prolific writer, she’s the initiator of the Quintessential Concept. She’s a passionate lover of God and a stickler for excellence. She is a worshipper and loves to pray. She’s passionate about women taking their place in life and destiny and fulfilling their God given assignments. She loves to leave a lasting impression on everyone she meets, an ever ready counselor always willing to be of help and assistance. A friend, model and a mother to many.

She is married to her heartthrob Pastor Yemi Adeoti, and are blessed with three children.

Olamide Elizabeth Adeleye is a chartered Arbitrator and a legal practitioner who specializes in Corporate Law and Real Estate.

She is also a pastor, and a poet. She currently runs her own legal practice and oversees the Women’s Ministry of God’s Favourite House Church, Lekki.

Her passion is to help women acquire the drive to thrive and not just survive in all spheres of life. She is joyfully married and blessed with two nations.

Oluseyi Farinu is a Nigerian Canadian Pastry Chef based in the beautiful Vancouver, British Columbia. She is passionate about God and good food.

At Honey and Grace, her goal is to bring joy to her client’s momentous occasions through consistent, quality, and delicious treats that anyone will love to eat and be proud to share with your guests. You can check out her work on her Instagram page @honeyandgracehouse and @seyi_farinu.

Ibironke Olubamise (B.SC., M.Sc., MBA, FLEAD, Chevening Scholar, IPMS, IVLP) is an intercessor/ counsellor; an ordained pastor at Throneroom Trust Ministry and Secretary of the Women in God’s Prophetic Agenda. She is the National Coordinator, UNDP GEF-Small Grants Programme; has coordinated over 170 projects and empowered over 125 Civil Society Organizations. Ronke was married to Pastor Bankole Olubamise of blessed memory. They are blessed with two children.

Ife Isijola has a passion and love for travel and this is seen through her dedication to helping people fulfill their dreams of exploring new cultures through amazing travel adventures.

She uses her extensive knowledge to plan all styles of vacations for her clients. Her specialties include destination weddings, honeymoons and custom tours. She is blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Toluwalase Olawale is a law student and beauty entrepreneur from Dallas, Texas by way of Lagos, Nigeria. She is passionate about travel, youth mentoring, advocacy and authentic living as a Christian. She shares on her podcast “Live Intentional” practical tips, and applicational scripture that aid in self-betterment, and that of the world at large.

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Prayer Lamide Adeleye

In the place of prayer First thing before dawn

He takes you higher

From all others He’s withdrawn

You’re not just a player

So to His Father He can be drawn

But an empowered slayer

His spiritual account was never overdrawn

Declaring victory over the destroyer

He prayed with passion And so He was always moved with compassion

Make His presence Your heart’s desire And in His service you won’t retire

Like Jesus, don’t forget to always pray

You’ll always experience fresh fire

Then you won’t become a prey In His presence you must stay

Yes, in prayer you must travail

From divine instructions never stray

It may not always be a smooth sail

Then, spiritually you will slay

But in the end you are sure to prevail

Prayer takes away your distraction

You’ll be the head and not the tail

And gives you traction

For our God does not fail

Yes! Prayer is indeed the key

It’s the dawn of a new Day

It can never be risky

In this New Year

When you pray, He’ll always make a way

Let Him always be near

Even where you don’t have a say

And you shall not fear For to Him, you are dear

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From the Publisher’s Desk

The Difference a Year Can Make

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his month, March 25th, marks the fourteenth year anniversary of publishing gemWOMAN magazine.

The various articles on prayer will

Life continues to change, and the

surely inspire you to pray more.

pandemic continues to evolve. But we will continue to trust the Lord.

On a lighter note, headbands seem to be

Knowing fully well that God is able to

the hit accessory of choice and a must

keep all those who trust in Him.

for all events (via zoom ladies)read about it on the hair page.

Additional features in this edition like “4 questions to ask yourself when

Generally, I believe we can all agree

surfing on social media” will help you

While reflecting on how far we have

there are almost no closing hours or

that we’ve been forced to take a look at

rethink some things about your online

come, I was pondering last week at

off days.

some of the things we just hadn’t had

presence, and the feature on Different

time for and to prioritize them.

But the Same gives us a glimpse into

just how much our world has changed in the past year. My youngest two

A lot of life as we once knew it has

children have not set foot in their

become a thing of the past as we wait

One of the best things to come out of

school in a year. We have been engaged

for the pandemic to pass.

the pandemic, for us, is the creation

in virtual learning since the pandemic hit and I have had the task of being a home tutor in

intercultural marriages between Nigerians and non-Nigerians.

of our digital publishing platform;

The first edition is being released later

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May the Lord bless and keep you safe and secure in Jesus name.

Till next time, Bolanle Olawale

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FEMININE

FEMININE

Becoming a

Woman of Substance

importantly, she has learned from her

leads and she follows. This is definitely

“mistakes.” And the best part?

not about me forcing a feminist lien

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committed to God and God only. He

but rather about emphasizing that

She is thankful for her mistakes. She’s

there is so much more to you than your

creative, stands firmly on her own two

financial worth or credentials.

feet.

The substance of a woman comes

If she wants a better relationship, she

from her choosing her battles wisely,

makes it happen. If she wants a better

he term “woman of substance”

we will see that this definition cannot

yet she does not avoid voicing what is

life, she strives for it. She is not a

is interpreted in various ways.

be right.

important. If you stand for nothing,

spectator of life but is a participator in

you are nothing. Walking in neutrality,

the navigation of her life. She dreams and she puts her dreams to action.

Some have defined it to mean

a woman of great wealth, power and

To become a Woman of Substance is

accepting, and avoiding any discussion

influence. Others, a woman of authority

to practice the art of living a dignified

or confrontation reflects a dull person

and great accomplishments. The

life. Therefore, this is a never ending

with no substance.

latter definition has made many women discount themselves because they believe it

journey and not a particular status. This is a journey towards

becoming

One such woman in the Bible was Jael. A person who’d most likely be dismissed

Being a woman of substance is a

as an ordinary tentmaker, yet within

woman who owns her decisions.

her was a future king slayer. (Judges

is an unattainable feat.

unaware of who she is as

So before you write

a person to becoming

She owns her life, she has a very

and even the limited resources didn’t

yourself off thinking

aware of what is needed

specific mindset: She’s blissfully

stop her from becoming a woman of

“that definitely cannot

to grow into a woman

aware of her worth. She doesn’t care

substance. She killed a king with a tent

who understands her

to waste time because she has no time

peg and hammer. She became a hero

worth. A woman of

to waste: she sees opportunities and

by believing in her abilities and using

grabs them.

what she had to make an impact.

She has neither the time nor the

Remember becoming a Woman of

patience for Self Doubt.

Substance is a process.

She’s been around. She’s seen a few

A delightful, challenging, status-quo-

things. She’s taken a few knocks. Most

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be me.” Let us look to the Bible for the definition

substance is one

of the phrase

who does not

“woman of

allow anyone to

substance”

take over the

4:20-22). Her profession, location,

reins of her When we look at this biblically

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APPLES OF GOLD

QUOTES ON

APPLES OF GOLD

PRAYER

DAY 7 “Prayer is the open admission that without Christ we can do nothing.

And prayer is the turning away from

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rayer is the way in which we communicate with God, Bible verses and inspiring words about prayer are great if you want to know how to pray. The following

quotations will encourage your daily walk with Christ and help you experience the power of prayer!

DAY 2

“Prayer is asking God to align you

“Prayer is exhaling the spirit of man

with His will rather than asking Him to

and inhaling the spirit of God.”

be aligned with yours.”

“Prayer should not be regarded as a duty which must be performed, but rather as a privilege to be enjoyed.”

E.M. BOUNDS

DAY 5

JOHN WESLEY

God as wealthy.”

DAY 9 “Good things come to those who

DAY 10

believe, better things come to those

“Never stop praying, even after God

who are patient and the best things

gave you what you prayed for.”

DAY 4

DAY 11

DAY 12

“When praying for the Lord’s will

“Not to pray because you do not feel fit

“As is the business of tailors to make

about something questionable, don’t

to pray is like saying, “I will not take

clothes and cobblers to make shoes, so

give up if you don’t receive clear

medicine because I am too ill.” Pray

it is the business of Christians to pray.”

leading after one prayer; just keep on

for prayer: pray yourself, by the Spirit’s

MARTIN LUTHER

praying until God makes it clear.”

assistance, into a praying frame.”

CURTIS HUSTON.

CHARLES SPURGEON

DAY 6

condition by which the Father is

The value of persistent prayer is not

pledged to put the Son in possession

that He will hear us but that we will

of the world. Christ prays through His

finally hear Him.

people.”

WILLIAM MCGILL

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Prayer humbles us as needy and exalts

everything with it.”

come to those who don’t give up.”

“Prayer is the one prime, eternal

E. M. BOUNDS

that He will provide the help we need.

“God does nothing but by prayer, and

JOHN PIPER

DAY 1

DAY 3

ourselves to God in the confidence

DAY 8

DAY 14 DAY 13 “Any concern too small to be turned into a prayer is too small to be made into a burden.”

“Our prayers may be awkward. Our attempts may be feeble. But since the power of prayer is in the one who hears it and not in the one who says it, our prayers do make a difference.”

MAX LUCADO

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APPLES OF GOLD

APPLES OF GOLD

DAY 24 DAY 15 “Prayer delights God’s ear; it melts His

DAY 16

“Beware in your prayers, above

DAY 23

everything else, of limiting God, not

“If you are a stranger to prayer, you

heart; and opens His hand. God cannot

“God listen to even the smallest

are a stranger to the greatest source of

deny a praying soul.”

prayers.”

power known to human beings.”

T H O M A S W AT S O N

only by unbelief, but by fancying that you know what He can do. Expect unexpected things ‘above all that we

B I L LY S U N D A Y

ask or think.”

A N D R E W M U R R AY

DAY 17 “God is fighting your battles, arranging things in your favor, and making a way even when you don’t see a way.”

DAY 18 “Prayer is the cure for a confused mind, a weary soul, a sickness, and a broken heart.”

DAY 19

DAY 20

“I believe above the storm the smallest prayer will still be heard.”

DAY 25

“When prayer becomes your habit, miracles become your lifestyle. Never give up on prayer no matter what comes your way.”

not on the difficulties.

lives of those who uttered them.”

OSWALD CHAMBERS.”

EDWARD MCKENDREE BOUNDS

DAY 27

DAY 28

“A day without prayer is a day without

“God will lead you where He wants

“The greatest battles are won when

blessing, and a life without prayer is a

you to be, but you have to talk to Him

you pray.”

life without power.”

daily to see where He wants you to go.

EDWIN HARVEY

The key is prayer.”

DAY 22

“To be a Christian without prayer

“Every great movement of God can be

is no more

traced to a kneeling figure.”

possible than to

D.L. MOODY

be alive without breathing.”

MARTIN LUTHER

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“We have to pray with our eyes on God,

Prayers are deathless. They outlive the

DAY 29 DAY 21

DAY 26

“God shapes the world by prayer.

DAY 30 “Prayer is the most important conversation of the day. Take it to God before you take it to anyone else.

DAY 31 “Don’t forget to pray today, because God didn’t forget to wake you up this morning.”

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HAIR CARE

HAIR CARE

Hair Accessories

Clips If large headbands aren’t really your style, you might like hair clips. Worn

to spice up your look!

alone or stacked, hair clips are a great and subtle way to spice up your hairstyle. It is however important to

Toluwalase Olawale

match your clips to your hair color for

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lips, crowns and headbands, oh my! The happenings of the past year have really influenced how we dress.

While more of us are spending more time at home and on screens from the waist up, there has been a change in the aspects of our outfits that we choose to accessorize. Lately a recent trend has been to accessorize our hair more. Here are a couple of trends we’ve been seeing lately in the world of hair accessories.

a complementary look.

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Wide Headbands From braided to beaded to studded, headbands have surfaced and they are back in full force! Headbands are a great way to add a head turning statement to your outfit, and they accentuate even the most mundane haircuts. Try styling a casual outfit with a braided headband for texture, or a blinged out headband to complete your look for a glam night out. Headbands are also a great substitute for geles and turbans for your favorite owambe (Nigerian party).

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Soft Scarves and Bandanas Think Thelma and Louise. Soft scarves in an array of prints add that extra pop of color! Tied like headbands or wrapped around the face and neck, they are also a great way to protect yourself from the harmful effects of the sun.

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BE AU T Y

Facial Oils Toluwalase Olawale

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here’s only one way to really benefit from facial oil.

Save oil for the final step of your skin-care routine. If you apply oil first, any moisturizer that follows won’t be able to fully penetrate the

The benefits of using facial oil is

barrier you have created with the

enormous but if used wrongly you

oil; it’s like sitting in a car when it’s

do your skin more harm than good.

raining and expect to get wet.

Remember, oils are only the gatekeepers, not producers of hydration, so load up on humectants (lotions) first, and then pile on the oil afterward to keep moisture from escaping. gw

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TECHY YOU

TECHY YOU

1

Am I qualified to comment on this issue? Commenting on every

post isn’t necessary especially as Christians. Don’t feel compelled to do so. Sometimes it’s okay to read news and refrain from posting our opinions.

2

Are you guilty of “Confirmation bias”. “Confirmation bias” is the

tendency to believe the stories that tell the best news about “your person” or your tribe and the worst news about the others and their tribes. We should be willing to acknowledge the fallibility of our people or party and willing to acknowledge the goodness of others in another party or movement.

4 Questions To Ask Yourself When Surfing On Social Media Toluwalase Olawale

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his isn’t an exhaustive list, but perhaps these diagnostic questions can help us as Christians to think wiser about reading and reacting to the news we read on social media.

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question we should still ask ourselves is if we are capable of adding to healthy

3

Do I have the whole story? This is

public discourse.

a question we need to ask before

forming opinions. These days, we are

It’s amazing how people rant and go

so used to skimming and not bother

on a tweeting rage, some excuse it as

about the actual details. But if we are

being “prophetic” while in reality they

indeed people who care about truth, we

are only reacting angrily.

can’t form opinions without getting all of the facts.

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God does care about our actions on social media. So when next you are about to

Can I say something constructive

express yourself, check your spirit and

that will provoke a healthy

ask whether God will be pleased with

conversation? Assuming we have a

what you are about to do. gw

good understanding of a news story, a

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F E AT URE

Intercultural Marriage: Making it Work

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eing of different races can definitely pose a challenge for intercultural couples.

Just like any marriage, however, the thing that binds interracial couples together, and what helps them bridge the divides they face, is having the same values and shared vision of life.

We met with 3 couples who shared a bit about their experiences. ↘

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F E AT URE

F E AT URE

Pearlyn Oloyede

“I love how Nigerians take pride in their culture and are very patriotic.”

Tell us a bit about yourself

My name is Pearlyn Oloyede. I’m an American born Liberian. I am from the

was. I was confused as to why that was

Vai tribe; my village is So (pronounced

an issue. My husband explained that a

Zoh), located in Cape Mount County

young woman shouldn’t ask an older

(West Liberia). I was born in New

man, especially if he’s not her father

Jersey but raised in Atlanta. My mother

or related to her, how his Work day

works for the U.N., and as a result of

was. In my culture, asking anyone–

her job, I lived in Nepal, Liberia, and

regardless of age, sex, gender–how

Nigeria.

their day is considered hospitable. I’m used to seeing that in Liberian culture

How did you meet your spouse?

and American culture. I was raised on

I met my husband through my mom at

“Southern Hospitality”; conversing

their church in Lagos. While visiting

some concern. He wanted me to marry

their individual traditional attires

with elders in that way is considered

my mother in Nigeria, Summer of

a Vai man and have a traditional Vai

and languages spoken throughout the

hospitable and good conduct. Also,

2013, she invited me to her church,

family. None of his children married

nation.

this type of hospitality is practiced

RCCG Covenant House in V.I.

Vai people, so he was concerned that

in Liberia. Another aspect of Yoruba

our cultural identity was no longer

What aspects of the Nigerian culture

culture I found a bit confusing was

How long have you been married?

relevant. After meeting my husband

have been challenging for You?

curtseying and bowing. In Vai culture,

We’ve been married for six years.

and his family, he no longer had those

Understanding my husband’s

we don’t bow unless they’re a Chief or

concerns and was very happy with the

language, Yoruba, and understanding

a deity.

choice I made to marry my husband.

Yoruba culture’s cultural dynamics

Was the fact that you were not a Nigerian an issue for your family or

have been the most challenging. I

Which Nigerian foods can you cook?

his?

What aspects of the Nigerian culture

remember a conversation where an

I can prepare efo riro, Nigerian jollof

No, there wasn’t an issue from my

do you like?

older man felt disrespected (for the lack

rice, Nigerian fried rice, Nigerian stew,

family or his. Before meeting my

I love how Nigerians take pride in their

of a better word) because a lady many

eba, and semovita. gw

husband, my late grandfather did voice

culture and are very patriotic. I love

years his junior asked him how his day

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F E AT URE

F E AT URE

Texas. I was afraid to open up, and

Eula Amosun

allow people to help me with certain responsibilities such as opening up our home, and allowing assistance with our daughter and just being personal

Tell us a bit about yourself

all round. I tend to live a private life.

I am Eula Amosun married to SPC

My husband is very private as well so

Kolawole Amosun (United States

once I allowed the help. I was reminded

Army). I’m originally from Southern,

of how family works and the strong

Louisiana. I grew up in Mississippi

cultural values that my husband brings that keeps our love and life in order.

How did you meet your spouse?

With my husband I feel safe enough

We met during my visit to a worship

to submit and wise enough to follow

service spring of 2018 at Grace

when he leads.

Covenant Center What aspects of the Nigerian culture How long have you been married?

have been challenging for You?

2 years

Having to adapt to life without my in-laws. I’m very family oriented and

Was the fact that you were not a

seeing my mother and father in law on

Nigerian an issue for your family or his?

video is different. We’ve actually never

The fact that he was African was a bonus for my family, and they loved him at first sight.

What aspects of the Nigerian culture do you like?

There’s this African proverb that says “it takes a village to raise a family.”My Nigerian family is an example of that.

Being African American and not from

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“I was reminded of how family works and the strong cultural values that my husband brings that keeps our love and life in order.”

had that chance to meet in person. My husband is the only child of his parents that is currently living in the United States of America.

Which Nigerian foods can you cook?

Stew and I mainly fry plaintain but my husband had adapted to multicultural dishes very well. gw

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F E AT URE

F E AT URE

Shermaine Oselukwue

“I personally think God made me for this situation.

I am adaptable.”

“this is how we do things in Nigeria” was a famous saying in the house in the beginning. But now that they live in the states and learnt from me and

Tell us a bit about yourself

Nigerians. They (some of my siblings,

have seen (how fabulous I am)

My name is Shermaine Oselukwue. I

Not all. I have 7 siblings) placed the

was outgoing and treated me kindly

was born in Jamaica, but grew up in

African continent in one category.

My Husband’s family wanted to

New york city I have worked in the

Most were welcoming because he

make sure I was first Black/African

Some of the traditions made absolutely

field of Social Work for over 20 years.

American (none white). They were

no sense to me. A few examples are as

I also have a business that handles

more accepting that I looked more like

follows: pressing my stomach with hot

placement, and care management

them .

towels after giving birth and thereby

for senior citizens and Christian couselling and therapy.

they

are now more accepting.

exposing myself to a mother in law I I do believe not being Nigerian helped

barely knew, No way that I couldn’t

at times and in some aspects I was

accept. Vicks vapor rub is a cure for

How did you meet your spouse?

excluded. “you wouldn’t understand,

everything. I had to learn to go along

I met my spouse through his cousin

it’s in my village”.

with some, and had to put my foot

who I worked with in New York City.

down on some others.

My husband and I started speaking on

I personally think God made me for

the phone before we met in person. I

this situation. I am adaptable, I was

The rest as they say (I will leave for my

believed that God worked it out that

bent frequently, but was never broken

memoirs)

way, because of the type of man I

completely. I am truly better off for

thought I liked. I might not have given

being married to an African man.

Which Nigerian foods can you cook?

the relationship a chance.

The family aspect for me was very

Stew (tomatoes) we know everything’s

important because of the peculiar

soup (LOL) that took some adapting

How long have you been married?

experiences I had growing up. Its very

for me.

I have known my husband for 19 years,

important for me that my children all

but married for 17 years

have the same father.

Pepper soup, because it is something familiar to me culturally. Fried rice and

Being a non-Nigerian, was it an issue

What aspect of the Nigerian culture

for his or your family

has been a challenge for you?

My family did not know much about

His parents were not open minded.

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KAN D I D TAL K S

Innovate, Initiate, Inspire Kehinde Adollo

I

t’s a very competitive world we live today, we are not expected to wait for the opportunities or believe they will fall easily; the global dynamics truly have changed and keeps changing constantly.

hear the word innovate what quickly comes through their mind is “an idea that is technical or out of this world ‘.. innovation is an extra to the ordinary, it is said… little drops of water do create an ocean so this means one step each day is innovation or lets help to bring it home so it doesn’t sound too

Every business or career woman must have an innovative plan. A guide for life and destiny.

One major addition you can bring to work or business is providing solutions and being known as someone who constantly searches for new ways whether big or small to make things better daunting … To innovate is improving on yesterday’s challenge .

Personally, every business or career woman must have an innovative plan.

A guide for life and destiny –If you fail to innovate you cannot bring meaning to life – How can you begin to innovate

I once heard a profound state. . “You

you may ask? Look inwards and search

don’t wait for things to happen you

for those gaps you would like to make

must create things to happen”

a difference or see get better and begin to take steps towards achieving them.

Which leads to my topic – innovate, initiate and inspire- this will be 3

One major addition you can bring to

part series that will help us along

work or business is providing solutions

our career, personal and business

and being known as someone who

aspiration journey.

constantly searches for new ways whether big or small to make things

Firstly, we will start with Innovate.

better … so get up, brace up, line up and

What does this mean—thinking of

begin that mind setting goals— the

new ways to add value, when people

world eagerly awaits you!! gw

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ETIQUETTE

ETIQUETTE

Responding with

Grace Taiwo Isijola

How do we respond with Grace?

1. Think through carefully before responding to any issue- You don’t have to respond immediately to everything. Please take some time to carefully consider first.

Stay graceful, most especially during pressure and tough situations…

2. Your response must be civil and respectful. Do not use offensive or

R

esponding with Grace is communicating or responding with civility and with sound intelligence.

derogatory words.

3. The response should be brief and straightforward.

Most often, it has been widely

We are oftentimes in a hurry to

observed that people respond to

think through issues—As a result,

issues without a careful thought.

the outcome or response appears

“responding” is not the same as

arrogant, and ungracious.

“reacting”. It should be logical and

4. A l w a y s

remember

that

solution-minded.

5. A graceful response should be calm and cordial.

Advise: Stay graceful, most especially during pressure and tough situations- You will come out winning.

It distinguishes you exceptionally and

Always remember that “responding” is not the same as “reacting”.

positively.

This article is beneficial for business entrepreneurs, customer service agents, public relations and media professionals. gw

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no situation in life that you will not find in his word.

2. Praying in the Spirit: what a treasure we have in the Holy Spirit, some Christians don’t seem to know

7 Keys To a More Prayerful Life in 2021

the benefit of praying in tongues.

Praying in tongues is a sure way of praying the perfect will of God because the Holy Spirit is giving you utterance. Acts 2:3-4. Praying in the Spirit enables you to pray for the unknown and also pray for the wisdom of God. When a believer is baptized in the Holy Spirit, one of the evidences of the baptism is the gift of praying in tongues.

Ronke Adeoti

P

Praying in tongues can be likened to a

rayer is an essential part

So, what are some of the keys to a more

of prayer power this year, look out

hot meal, flies and insects would not

of our lives as Christians;

prayerful life in 2021?

for scriptures you can lay hold on

dare come close but when the meal

to bring as strong reasons before

is lukewarm, all manner of flies and

hence, we need to know how to watch and pray especially

1. Pray the word: God’s words to us are

the throne of mercy Isa 41:21. God

insects would be seen around it. So, I

because of the happenings in the world

His promises; but you can’t lay claim

honors his word not quotes or

dare you to set yourself on fire in the

now, we ought to pray for guidance

or possess what you don’t know or

poems; the bible says’’ bring forth

Holy Spirit and people will watch you

and seek God’s help and presence to go

have access to. To be more prayerful

your strong reasons…” you reason

burn.

with us on this journey. I love an adage

this year, take time to know the

with God through his words. Do you

which says “he that asks for direction

one to whom you are praying to –

want to know God’s will about that

3. Speak faith filled words: Your

will not lose his way.” We need God’s

through His word. Praying helps us

matter? His will is in his words; so,

mouth is your weapon of victory

help and support if we want this year

birth the word or promises of God to

search his will out and place it before

Pro.12:6,14:3,18:21 and deliverance.

to be a year with a difference for us.

us; To experience a new dimension

him in the place of prayer. There’s

Whatever you have said in the

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place of prayer, don’t cancel them

SPIRITUALITY

zz

by your utterances. Words are powerful weapons which are potent

of the Holy Spirit. zz

Speak in his name. Phil. 2:9-11. Your

not just in the realm of the spirit,

words are essential in every spiritual

but also in the physical realm. In

warfare.

1sam.17:23 Goliath was instilling

One thing that you cannot do without this year is not having God in your boat.

Speak according to the inspiration

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Speak against every contrary

fear into the heart of God’s army;

thoughts and imaginations. Every

but David would not take that from

challenge has a name and they all

the uncircumcised philistine. In this

have ears, speak to them. Zech. 4:7

story, I see a battle of words. Before the real fight, David had killed him

4. Recognize that He lives in you:

with the words of his mouth, that is,

Greater is he that is in you than he

before he cut off his head physically.

that is in the world 1Jn 4:4; do you

I challenge you to “Never keep

know you have God in you, with you,

quiet” this year. Job 22:28 begin to

on you and all over you? When we

decree things on your knees child of

come to this realization, then the

God; speak out your desires; decree

devil will not or will stop messing

faith-filled words, don’t allow the

around with us. Dan. 11:32- “they

10:4- the bible says what you carry is

disappeared. That name registers in

devil silence you.

that know their God shall be strong.”

mighty through God; you are armed

heaven, on earth, and underneath

Do you know God? I am not talking

and dangerous. 1sam.17:34-49; Acts

the earth. We all have access to that

about knowing about him, but do

27:24-25. David knew who he was

name, let us use it to our advantage

Speak the word of God not the word

you know him for yourself? Do you

and whose he was. Jesus lives in you.

as we go into this new year.

of man: Heb. 4:12, God’s words

know what he is capable of doing?

Therefore, you should not live like

changes your world, situation,

Are you even aware of what or who

someone that has no hope; his name

5. Develop a living relationship with

circumstances

is on your inside? Declare to yourself

is a force that registers in three (3)

God and walk in the reality of

Use your words to speak about

– I AM TOO LOADED (to fail, to be

worlds Phil. 2:4-8; 1sam 17:45-49;

his presence: Amos 3:3 says “can

solutions, i.e. life not death or

subdued, to be oppressed, to be

Ps.82:5. I once had an encounter

two walk together except they be

problems.

conquered etc). Do you know God

with the spirit of infirmity about

agreed? One thing that you cannot

Speak your desire not what you are

has equipped you with everything

twenty five years back while taking

do without this year is not having

going through; speak revelation or

you need in this life? Eph. 6:10-18.

care of my mum in an hospital;

God in your boat.

insight not doubt.

What you carry is sophisticated 2cor.

all I could mutter was Jesus and it

How to speak faith-filled words? zz

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I once heard a story of a merchant who travelled in the desert where there were bandits; surprisingly, this particular man was never robbed, because the bandits always saw a tall wall around this man and all his goods and servants. But a day came, they started seeing some cracks in the wall, later the cracks got wider until they could enter through it; on entering, they woke the merchant up, he was really scared, but the bandits said they were not there to rob him but they needed to ask him some questions.

They asked him what he had been doing that they couldn’t gain access but this time around, they noticed cracks in his wall? The merchant remembered and told them he was always praying having a good fellowship with God before sleeping but recently he was getting too tired hence not having time to pray like before; this he concluded was the reason for the cracks in his

If you count your blessings, your blessings will count and the reverse is also true.

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wall. Luk. 18:1.

I challenge you to draw near to God so he can draw near to you.

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6. Learn to cast your cares and

be bitter and be better at the same

burdens upon the Lord: Psa 55:22;

time. Forget the past and move on;

1Pet.5:7 nothing weighs one down

forgive yourself of the past mistakes

than having to carry a heavy load

because God has forgiven you.

on one’s head or shoulders. A good Samaritan once gave an elderly man

7. Live a life of gratitude: to be more

a lift in his car, on looking through

prayerful this year, you must be a

his rear mirror, he noticed the man

person given to gratitude. If you

was still carrying his big load on his

count your blessings, your blessings

head, he stopped to ask the man to

will count and the reverse is also

put the load in the trunk of the car,

true. You cannot lavish your love

but the elderly man turned to him

on God and he will not show up and

saying he had assisted him by giving

show off in your life. Let’s look at the

him a lift, that he didn’t want to

story of the ten lepers, only one of

bother him again by putting the load

them came back to show gratitude,

in the trunk of the car. Do you know

this of course opened him up to

in the same vein, when God said cast

something bigger and better than

it i.e. give it, throw it and leave it

what the others got; the other nine

there; “if he carried the weight of the

got cleansed, but he was made

world upon his shoulders, be sure

whole–in other words there was

he will carry you”. You can’t afford

no trace that he ever had leprosy.

to bear grudges, have bitterness,

Wholeness there also meant he got

malice 1 Pet.2:1-2; 5:7 guile and

saved, delivered, restored, nothing

all evil speaking in you. You can’t

was missing and nothing was lacking in his life etc.

I trust God that your prayer life will take a new turn this year in Jesus name, amen.

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I trust God that your prayer life will take a new turn this year in Jesus name, amen.

God bless you. gw

LIGHT REFLECTIONS

LIGHT REFLECTIONS

You are not Forgotten just Being Prepared Bolanle Olawale

I

was speaking with a young lady who was going through some challenges and she just couldn’t understand why God was allowing her to go through all the troubles she was facing simultaneously. “ It’s just not fair”, she exclaimed with tears running down her face.

Indeed no one likes going through

that would be used for furniture were

trials and tribulations, yet the Lord

chosen. As the logs came downstream,

asks us to count it all joy (James 1:2-

the logger would suddenly reach out

4). The Message translation even says

and hook one, pull it up, and then set it

we should consider it a gift when we

down. He would sometimes wait for a

are faced with trials. Why would the

few minutes before grabbing another.

Bible say this? Facing challenges is

There didn’t seem to be any rhyme or

certainly not anyone’s desire. How

reason to his choices.

can having a challenging boss at work, being betrayed by a friend, having a

After a while, the visitor said to him, “I

bad diagnosis from the doctor and the

don’t understand what you’re doing.”

many other challenges we face be a gift? How can we rejoice in the face of

“These logs may all look alike to you,”

troubles and be thankful when faced

the logger said, “But I can recognize

with trials? The story below might help

that a few of them are quite different.

bring some context to this passage.

The ones that I let pass came from trees that grew in a valley. They were

A traveler was visiting a logging area

always protected from the storms. The

in the Pacific Northwest and was

grain on those trees is rather coarse.

interested in seeing how the logs

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TESTIMONY

Yes, the storms of life May have beaten against you and the trials have tried to overwhelm you, but God is only using them to prepare you for great things.

NSPPD Testimony

I

’m here with my own testimony cos what God cannot do does not exist....

I was diagnosed of Ovarian Cyst, Sub-acute appendicitis and Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (chronic PID) on January and since then I’ve been having this constant bleeding and abdominal pains and cramps that I could barely walk well, I kept on praying,crying to God every

“The logs that I pulled aside are from

orphan and a slave in a foreign land.

high up on the mountain, where they

Before David became a king, he was

were beaten by strong winds from

ostracized by his family, pursued by

the time they were quite small. That

Saul, and lived as an exile for many

happened with a wired look on my face) then she told me

toughens the trees and gives them

years before being crowned king.

to join their 7am prayer the next day meanwhile

a fine grain. We save these logs for

Refuse to be moved by that which

choice work. They’re too good to be

you see as a challenge today. Joseph

used for ordinary lumber.”

understood this and declared to his brothers, “But as for you, you meant

now and then believing God for a miracle.

Then on the 15th of March a friend just walked up to me and asked if I’ve heard of NSPPD and I said yes (what

this friend doesn’t know what I’ve been passing through oo.....

Fast forward to the next day being the 16th of March I even forgot about the prayer section until 7:42am when I remembered then I cued

Only logs that had been beaten were

evil against me; but God meant it for

in, immediately Pastor Jerry mentioned my case

now considered too good to be put to

good, in order to bring it about as it is

and i felt this very sharp pain on my lower right

ordinary use.

this day, to save many people alive.”

— Genesis 50:20 NKJV

Yes, the storms of life May have beaten

abdomen, I was just screaming Amen! Amen!

Amen! with tears rolling down my cheeks in pains,I claimed my healing instantly,meanwhile I bleeded all through the previous night and

against you and the trials have tried to

One of the most potentially difficult

even that morning before I joined the prayer ooo,only for the prayers and testimonies

overwhelm you, but God is only using

aspects of being a Christian is knowing

to be over and I went to the bathroom to check on myself lo and behold there was no

them to prepare you for great things.

that when you surrender to Jesus, the

You are made to rule and reign. When

enemy comes against you intending

we look through scripture, we see all

evil upon your life. And, yet no matter

the various tests and hardships that

what comes, God is the Master Weaver.

our bible heroes had to face. Before

He takes what was meant for evil and

among us?) and I replied with excitement, Yes oo Doc ‘I’m a proud Member I give all

Joseph could get to the palace he went

reweaves it for good. God has not

the glory to God almighty, God is indeed too faithful to fail, Thank you Pastor Jerry,

through the pit and the prison. Before

forgotten you. He is only preparing you

Esther became a queen she was an

for greater things. gw

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bleeding again ooooooh, (Pastor Jerry it was a now now healing oooo) So I decided to go for another scan on the 22nd of March just for the doctor to confirm that the pelvic inflammatory disease, Ovarian Cyst and Sub-acute appendicitis cannot be found not even little particles are left in my system, immediately I screamed ‘What God cannot do does not exist’ then the doctor turned and echoed (ahhh So you’re

Pastor Eno and Pastor Uguru for all you do for the people of God. Attached is the results of the test before and after.

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PASTOR

EZE & ENO JERRY Interview by Bolanle Olawale

T

he term “power couple” is often used when referring to a husband and wife team that have

achieved great success. This couple is often revered and admired for the wealth they have amassed and the material things they possess. Our cover personalities can be referred to as a power couple not according to typical societal standards, but because of their power source, which is Jesus. Pastors Eze and Eno Jerry are the senior pastors of Streams of Joy International, headquartered in Umuahia, Abia State, Nigeria. They are also conveners of the daily NSPPD prayers which has hundreds of thousands of people joining from different parts of the world.

The NSPPD platform has lifted peoples faith in the possibilities and power of prayers especially in these perilous time. As a result of this dynamic word based prayer platform, it has produced mind blowing and multiple testimonies to the Glory of God.

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JERRY EZE PASTOR

PERSONAL LIFE

P

astor Jerry Uchechukwu Eze is the dynamic Founder

We are pleased to have you as our

were poor, I was from a single parent

first cover personality of the year

and God still turned everything round

and there are many facets to you-

to show me mercy.

father, husband, pastor etc . Who is Eze Jerry, the man?

Besides the Bible and Jesus

growing Streams of Joy International

I am the little boy GOD picked from

Christ, what books and people

ministry. He is a seasoned Pastor,

nowhere. I love God passionately. To

have most influenced you in life

leader, consummate conference

do His Will is my ultimate desire. I can

and ministry?

afford to describe myself either by my

Many of them. In every phase of my

‘highs’ or ‘lows’ but I will rather stick

journey, there have been men and

has endeared him to many who have

to the simple description of THAT

books that I needed and they have

become proud NSPPDians. “A little

LITTLE BOY THAT GOD SHOWED

become too numerous. But two men

boy God picked from nowhere, and

GREAT MERCY.

who wrote books that affected my

and President of the fast-

speaker and leadership coach. His deep passion to see people fulfill their God-given purpose on earth

showed great mercy”, Pastor Jerry overcame his humble background to attain positions with the United Nations and the World Bank Project,

You have been described by

Akanni and Tommy Tenney.

many as being humble, how do you stay grounded?

How do you strike a healthy bal-

God’s instruction in 2009, and went

How on earth can I not be humble. I

ance between marriage, family

into full-time ministry. An interview

Dey craze? I never forget where I am

and ministry?

two years in the making , this man

coming from. I am a product of mercy.

I do so by revelation. God helps. He

of prayer finally sat down with us to

I never imagined God will help me thus

most certainly helps. My wife has been

far. Never thought life could make

amazing. She doubles up where and

sense beyond where I was. Did I think

when I am not around.

after which he resigned pursuant to

discuss faith, family, and the famous phrase “What God cannot do, does not exist”.

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phases of journey in God were Gbile

He could use me to touch the world? We

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What are the top 3 things you

How would you describe your

What has been the biggest mistake you have

love about your wife and why?

wife?

made in ministry and also your biggest joy?

She loves God passionately. She loves

She is just a chill person with a burning

My biggest mistake? Maybe I would not really call

to Pray. She loves to laugh. That I love

passion for God.

it a mistake, perhaps I erred and often prefer

to do as well.

to err on the side of kindness, and I have ended up trusting some people more than

MINISTRY LIFE

they deserved to be trusted.

How did it all start? Can you tell us

What are your non-negotiable?

My biggest joy has been to see God lift

about your call to ministry?

Well I would say non-negotiables,

men from their situations and make

I have always been in ministry from

Love For God, Honesty and Honour for

their lives better. I get excited when

my very young years. I remember

people.

people testify to God’s goodness.

6. Where I laid hands on people and

You speak in tongues a lot while

The phrase “What God cannot do,

ministered healing and deliverance on

preaching, what informed this

doesn’t exist” has become a regu-

them; but then again, the call to down

preaching style?

lar part of cultural lexicon. Is there

tools from my UNITED NATIONS

I would say that it comes from the

any experience that spurred the

job came in 2009, and so to speak, I

overflow of what happens in my spirit

phrase?

became a full time ministry person.

man.

Well it was born out of the several

ministering in my class in my primary

strange acts of God that we have

My biggest joy has been to see God lift men from their situations and make their lives better.

I get excited when people testify to God’s goodness.

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How do you keep being account-

witnessed as a people. When you see

able in your personal life and in

what we have seen, you would have no

ministry? Do you have any pro-

option but to scream that phrase.

cesses in place to ensure that?

I set safe boundaries, and I have

What inspired the NSPPD daily live program?

people around me who give me honest

It was the beginning of the Covid-19 lockdown, there

feedback. I don’t have a cupboard nor

was so much hopelessness all around, and I felt God

skeletons to be kept in a cupboard.

lead me to inspire hope and increase prayers. I didn’t plan for it to become what it has now become, but let’s say I just wanted to do what God would have me do.

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PERSONAL BELIEFS What is your preferred translaKnowing what you know now,

tion of the bible? And why?

what would you say to yourself

It’s not cast on concrete, but I often

when you first started ministry?

defer to King James and The Message

Be brave, follow your convictions.

Translation. I also freely refer to every available translation.

What’s your strategy for consistent Bible study and a culture of

What do you believe to be the

prayer?

greatest challenge of the church

My me time does it. I have spent all my

in the end time?

nights in the past 15 years, in prayer. I

Worldliness. The church of today

am first a child of God before being a

wants to think like the world, dress

Man of God, so my hunger for more of

like the world, behave like the world,

God drives me.

reason like the world, etc.

We just have to ask, how many

What role do you see the Nigerian

hours do you pray each day?

Church playing in the end- time?

I pray for an average of 6 hours daily,

I see the church giving direction to the

mostly at night.

nation. I see the church becoming the eye of the nation.

What counsel will you give a Christian struggling with their

Any Words of advice for young

prayer life?

pastors?

Crave for Divine encounters, and connect to men who are carriers of divine encounters and plug into the overflow of their own encounters with God

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She loves God passionately. She loves to Pray. She loves to laugh.

That I love to do as well

Be consistent, be a child of God first, be brave, hear from God, let your motivation be to bring God pleasure.

Rewards will come from God, but don’t make it the focus of your ministry. gw

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PASTOR ENO JERRY

A

uthentic and refreshingly raw, Pastor Eno Jerry has become an unmistakably familiar face the world over. Resident pastor of Streams of Joy International Church, convener of the Pastor’s Wives and Women in Ministry conference, and author of the book, How I almost ruined my marriage, Pastor Eno is undeniably a multifaceted woman.

In our exclusive interview with her, Pastor Eno gave us a further glimpse into the person beyond the face we see on our screens and how mistakes, motherhood, marriage and ministry have shaped her into the woman we have all grown to know and love.

PERSONAL LIFE We are so glad to have you feature

Can you recommend some books

alongside your husband as our

you have read or movies you have

cover personalities, Can you please

watched?

tell us a bit about yourself?

Well, I recommend my books- I

I am also delighted to be doing this

Almost Ruined My Marriage because it

with my husband. I am a young girl that

is my true-life story and The Proverbs

loves Jesus. I have grown to treasure

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my work with God. I am very simple;

(smiling). I really don’t watch movies

I love to make those around me happy

not because there’s anything wrong

and I love smiling.

with it. I just don’t have the time for them.

What is a typical work day for you?

Very busy. My day starts with NSPPD,

How do you unwind?

then to work, counselling, to my home

Hhhhmmmm this is an interesting

and children.

question. I unwind by playing with my children.

What is your favorite food?

I don’t have a favourite food.

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MARRIAGE

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sold out to God. For us, Ministry has brought us closer. We share this in

What are the best qualities you like

common and it has strengthened our

about your husband and why?

communication and relationship.

He is a kind and good man. He loves God’s people passionately. He has a

How do you and Pastor relax?

good heart. He is very disciplined, has

Well, I don’t yet have an answer to

maintained a consistent walk with

this question. Maybe when we start to

God in the 19 years of our relationship.

relax, I will know what to say (smiles).

He loves to celebrate people. He loves having high fliers around him and

What informed your decision to

he pushes anyone including me to

write your book,” I almost ruined

be more and to do more. He is very

my marriage”?

generous and he takes very good care

God placed the burden in my heart. He

of me and our children.

said there was an urgency in the spirit to save marriages and relationships.

Can you share your story about

So, I got an approval from God and also

how ministry has affected your

my husband confirmed it.

relationship with your husband?

Ministry has affected our relationship positively. And this is interesting because it wasn’t always like this.

When we got married initially, it had a negative impact because I felt he was too busy working for God (smiles). I couldn’t understand how a man will give God so much of his time and I felt I needed more attention from him.

However, as the years went by and I started growing in my walk with God, I understood how one could be so

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Knowing what you know now,

It’s February so we just have to ask,

what would you say to yourself

what is the most romantic thing

when you first got married?

Pastor has ever done for you?

Understanding is very important. I

Hahhhhhaaaa, Pastor is not romantic

should have been more understanding.

oooo. I am still thinking ooo… No wait a minute, my birthday which was in

What’s your most and least favour-

February, wishing me a happy birthday

ite part of being a pastor’s wife?

and saying the things he said to me in

Well, I don’t have a least favourite part

the view of the world (on NSPPD) was

neither do I have a most favourite part.

so surreal. I would have crossed seven

I just consider being a Pastor’s wife as

seas for him that day (laughing).

a Ministry and it is a huge privilege and honour to be Pastor Jerry Eze’s wife

How can women in challeng-

(smiles).

ing marriages still pray for their husbands?

What would you say is the major

Yes, they can and should. If my husband

role of a pastor’s wife?

didn’t give up me, I encourage them

To give her husband (the Pastor) 101%

not to give up on their spouse. Their

support and honour him.

marriage is their assignment. What God cannot do does not exist.

Always remember that the devil does not like you and if he can’t get to you or your husband, he will come for your seed.

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PARENTING AND FAMILY LIFE It is often said that pastor’s children

memorize bible verses from a tender

are either perfect or tyrants. What

age. Teach them hoe to fast even as

advice will you give to young pas-

early as two years old. They could

tor’s wives in raising their children

fast for two hours, instead of having

right?

breakfast by 7am, they will have it by

Start early. Start teaching them

9am. As they grow up, their fast hours

about God very early. Expose them

should be increased. Keep praying and

to the supernatural early. Make them

fasting for them. Don’t stop.

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Pray they experience/encounter God

even if they want to go astray, your

for themselves and not just be aware of

prayers won’t allow them stray.

God because of what you have taught them. Depend on God for guidance

How can we, in practical terms,

and direction in raising your children.

show our family that they are

Always remember that the devil does

important to us despite the

not like you and if he can’t get to you

demands of the ministry?

or your husband, he will come for your

By making out time for them and

seed. Most importantly, soak their

ensuring that during their special

lives/destiny with your prayers that

occasions or whatever they consider as special we are physically present.

MINISTRY LIFE Who are your spiritual influences?

What are the main ministries you

My husband Pastor Jerry Eze tops the

are involved in right now?

list and many others.

Streams of Joy International, New Season Prophetic Prayers and

We are curious, how much do you

Declarations and Women on Fire

pray each day?

Network.

Always. The bible says in Ephesians 6:18 (NLT), “Pray in the Spirit at all

What would you be doing if you

times and on every occasion”. I just

were not a pastor?

spend my day talking to my Father.

I would have been serving God

I pray when I am driving, bathing,

passionately in my local church and

cooking, doing chores, when I am

would have built a successful and

alone etc. all the time.

amazing career in Human Resource Management. gw

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TESTIMONY

TESTIMONY

He Gave Me Double

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raise God!!!! I have come

that our Child was now on the

back to Thank God and

accepted list!!. I have heard people

return the Glory to Him

talk about getting text messages

for what He did in my Family after

on Sundays now I believe!!!

the February prayer and Fasting

God made a way!! God answers

and Prophetic Prayers.

prayers!!

My 72 Hour Miracle

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am writing to share a small testimony. After the prophetic prayers in March, Pastor said we should expect a 72 hour miracle. The next day (Friday) I got 9 translations to do. You know I work as freelancer and

charge per page. So that was a great blessing being that I was not getting many translations lately.

The next day, I got another email work 17 translations more. Thank God for His mercies and grace.

1. W e a p p l i e d t o a v e r y

2. In that same month, God made

competitive school for my

a way for my Husband in his

child. Children are accepted

career. He got a job that gives

from a lottery. The day right

him a better work life balance

after the prayer and fasting and

and more time to do the things

the Prophetic Day of Prayer tbe

of the Kingdom of God and

lottery was conducted live. 280

attend to his personal pursuits.

people applied and the school

Hallelujah

was only going to accept 59

Just received 3 more! Thank you Jesus! Open heavens!

God Did It

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lory be to God in the highest. One of my prayer requests for March was for my products to be carried in American stores.

children. The lottery ran live

I pray this encourages someone,

and my child’s name was on

that God still attends to our

the waiting list of 221 children.

prayers and nothing is too little

the day of prophetic prayers I got another email from another store that

I was distraught but I had

to pray about.

has 11 branches in Oregon and they want 5 of my products in all of their

to remind myself that I had

Day 2 of the (3 day fasting and prayers) I got an email that my

Akarapancake was accepted in one of the stores I applied for. Day 3 after

11 stores. Glory to God on high.

prayed and now is the time to

And whatever things you ask

truly trust God.

in prayer, believing, you will receive.” Matthew 21:22 NKJV gw

Fast forward to the following Sunday!! We got a text at 5:35am

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Birthing Destiny through

Prayer Pastor Dammy Timothy

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od really wants you to pray.

to give birth. It is an invitation to the

Prayer is important. One of

delivery room where you must of a

the major reasons behind

necessity push before you give birth.

every defeat, powerlessness, poverty,

The delivery room of the spirit is the

sicknesses, diseases are in the seven

place of prayer. The word that stood

closing words of James 4:2 – “You

out in that scripture is ‘travail’. It

have not because you ask not”. The

brings out what you must do to bring

neglect of prayer is the neglect of

forth.

power. Power failure is as a result of

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prayer failure. If you must effectively

It is time for you to bring forth and

fulfil your ambassadorial role on the

give birth. Giving birth here does not

earth then you must be able to have a

only connote giving birth to biological

constant and effective communication

children. God is speaking to you

with the country that sent you, which is

about your life and destiny. Nothing

heaven. You and I are here to represent

is birthed in life without travail.

the Kingdom of God. We are not here

There are so many things that God

on our own account. We are here to do

wants you to accomplish in destiny.

God’s bidding. Prayer now becomes

You must transact in prayers to take

a medium by which you discover

delivery of everything that belongs

your assignment and download your

to you in destiny. Great ministry,

job descriptions. Prayer also is what

career, business, marital life, family

empowers you to exercise you given

etc are not just a result of great ideas,

authority in order to carry out your

or happenstances. These things are

assignment.

birthed in the place of prayer.

Looking at our text, Isaiah 66:8 – this

People nowadays do have the habit

bible scripture brings to remembrance

of telling everyone but God about

that there is something you have to do

their challenges. There was certainly

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a time that I was going through some challenges. I told some of my trusted friends and associates, unfortunately the challenges remained unsolved. I was driving one day and was trying to ask God questions in my heart, then suddenly I heard what sounded like someone clapping for me sarcastically, it was like a voice was saying “well done” to me sarcastically. He said, you have told everyone about your problem but me. Sincerely, I knew it was God speaking to me and I began to repent and told God I was sorry. Right there and then, I began to pour my heartfelt prayer to God regarding the issue and that was exactly what I needed. I had a solution to the issue in that same week.

Miracles, signs, wonders, healings and all kinds of breakthroughs in life and destiny require travail. The universal language of birth is travail.

The universal language for revival is travail. Life does not give to you what you desire or deserve but what you demand. You have the privilege as a joint heir with Christ to snatch what belongs to you back from satan’s hands.

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Anything messing up your redemptive package is a slap on God’s face.

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Your long-time problem, poverty,

Prayer must precede the next level that

joblessness, prolonged singleness,

lies ahead of you. It is prayers that pull

academic failure, business failure,

divinity into the affair of humanity.

marital failure, relationship failure,

Jeremiah 33:3.

sicknesses, diseases, deadly habits etc are ridicules to your redemptive right.

Lastly, let me tell you how to approach

All of these can be sorted in the place

your labour room in a way that will

of prayer. It is often said that if you do

guarantee answers to your requests.

not pray, you will definitely become a

You must go to the labour room

prey to the devil. This will not be your

with a heart of gratitude. When you

portion in Jesus’ name. Amen!

acknowledge His goodness, you are calling Him to do more. You must also

Anything messing up your redemptive

let your prayer be heartfelt (James

package is a slap on God’s face. Now

5:16). Any prayer that will not touch

is the time to say ‘NO’. There is no

you cannot touch God. Thirdly, pray

welfare without warfare. What you

according to His will (1 John 5:14). Let

do not resist will remain in your life.

the word of God be the basis for your

Poverty, sickness and disease are not

asking. Lastly, pray in faith because

your birthright.

any prayer outside of faith is not pleasing to God and will not guarantee

There will be no revival without

answers (Hebrews 11:6). God is an

prayers. Intense prayer is what

ultimate rewarder of the people who

sets a church on fire and not just a

seek Him.

beautiful flyer. It is revelation with prayer perspiration that brings about

I see you birthing destiny in this time

productivity in ministry. Pastors!

and season. The best days of your life

Do you want to pull crowds and lead

have begun in Jesus’ name, Amen. You

large congregations? Please Pray! The

have the tools already, now get to work

promises of God require the prayer

and PRAY! GOD BLESS YOU. gw

of the saint (bring out your strong reason).

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SLEEP;

H E R E ’ S T O H E A LT H

How Much is Necessary?

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Dr Olamipo Bamigboje

H E R E ’ S T O H E A LT H

stay awake continuously to get work

Sleep requirements can differ from

done. An African (Yoruba) adage says

person to person; hence one size

‘the lifespan of work is always longer

may not fit all. However, on a general

than the lifespan of man”, therefore

note, the National Sleep Foundation

you can’t finish working in a lifetime,

recommends the following hours of

so what’s the point of not resting? The

sleep based on age classification

only one who can neither sleep nor slumber is God (Ps 121: 1).

leep is a beautiful thing; it is a necessity we are to enjoy to attain our aspirations. God gives

18-26 years: 7-9 hours

(6 or 10-11 hours maybe appropriate)

26-64 years: 7-9 hours

(6 or 10 hours maybe appropriate)

65 years and above: 7-8 hours

(5- 6 hours or 9 hours maybe appropriate)

his beloved sleep (Ps. 127: 7b) hence it is a good thing, but on

So, this can help determine if you are

the flip side “A little sleep, a little

falling behind on or accumulating

slumber, a little folding of the

sleep. Sleep issues occur in at least one

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Alcohol

hands to rest; so, shall poverty

in every three adults and about a third

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Environmental issues; shift work, jet

come like a prowler and your need

of the adult population seem to suffer

like an armed a man” (Pro. 24:

from lack of sufficient sleep. Sleep

33-34). Having established the

issues are usually greater in women at

fact that physically or materially

3: 2 ratio.

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lovers)

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as the bible tells us “but while men slept, his enemy came and sowed tares’’ (Matt.13:5).

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Psychological issues e.g., depression, anxiety

Causes of lack of sleep can include but not limited to the following:

Causes of excess sleep can include but not limited to the following

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Poor sleep hygiene

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Medications e.g. opioids,

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Medical issues e.g., hypothyroidism

decongestants

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Psychological issues e.g. depression

Physiological conditions e.g.,

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Medications e.g. sedatives.

menopause

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Physiological issues e.g. pregnancy

So really, how much sleep is necessary as we know we can’t

Medical issues e.g. Pain, headaches, urinary concerns

speaking, sleep should be rationed, the spiritual aspect is not left out

Caffeine (yea yea, I see you coffee

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Have a notebook and pen beside your bed; if your mind is racing with so many thoughts of all you want to do, get the pen and book notepad and write down those thoughts

H E R E ’ S T O H E A LT H

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electronics, no gadgets, no screens.

you guessed right at the end of the

Have a notebook and pen beside your

Avoid caffeine especially after the

article.

bed; if your mind is racing with so many

Avoid stimulating activities like

thoughts of all you want to do, get the

thrilling TV shows or horror movies

pen and book notepad and write down

Consumption of tryptophan

those thoughts, so your mind can rest knowing you have written them down.

1st half of the day. zz

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Avoid large meals or spicy foods at least 3 hours before bed

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Avoid alcohol/ nicotine

containing foods can help induce

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Avoid daytime naps

sleep e.g. warm milk

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Avoid blue- light emitting screens

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Have a regular time to go to bed.

(e.g. phones, iPad, computers)

Ensure an enabling environment e.g., good temperature, comfortable and

before bedtime

Kindly note; if after 30 mins-1 hour

No exercise 3 hours before bed time.

you haven’t fallen asleep, don’t stay in

Recommendations for healthy sleep

However, there’s a twist to this

bed. Get out of bed to do a short chore

These are some suggested steps to

recommendation as one exercise

(within 15minutes) e.g. reading, empty

help attain sleep, if they don’t help, it

For adults

is recommended. Guess which

dish dishwasher, fold clothes etc , get

may be a good idea to check with your

Ensure the bedroom is for sleep and

exercise; make sure you guess before

back to bed and try again. Repeat the

doctor.

intimacy. No TVs, no reading, no

you continue reading. We shall see if

cycle until you fall asleep.

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clean beddings, blackout curtains.

NB–Exercise recommended before bed time or even in bed is called “coitus”.

Just a big name for sex, is someone happy, yayy, as a matter of fact, sex is good for sleep, so the next time, you need a code word (maybe you are in the midst of friends) to let your husband or wife know that it is time to “know” yourselves’ (‘as Adam knew Eve”) you can say “it’s time for exercise” or “I really do need some sleep aid now”. Hopefully your friends would not have read this article, so they wouldn’t decode your code *wink*.

References -UpToDate; Sleep issues -Pepid PCP Platinum; Sleep -Medscape Journal; Insomnia

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F E AT URE

Inside White Deck Resort: Africa’s No 1 Luxurious Beach Resort

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resort’s boat shaped architecture masterpiece. The rooms on each deck are named after famous tourist cities, and specifically designed to reflect the

agos, Africa’s commercial capital

in luxury. And it’s no shock that the

cultural aesthetics of each city. And

is home to some of the luxurious

stylish beach resort has continued to

that’s not all, White Deck’s standard,

beaches in Africa. But there is

attract a well-heeled crowd.

deluxe and executive rooms balance

one real luxurious beach everyone is

style, space, and sophistication while

talking about right now in the centre

So what’s inside this Africa’s best-

delivering breathtaking views that

of excellence. Hidden away along the

kept secret? Apart from it’s soul-

make each White Deck Beach Resort

coastal region of Lagos, White Deck

calming atmosphere, nature and

moment, truly magical.

Beach is a true definition of peace. It

views, White Deck Beach Resort

is a world apart from everyday hustle

offers a mix of 16 amazing rooms,

The upscale beach resort which has

and bustle of the mega city. White Deck

suites and penthouses. At White Deck

become a favorite among Africa’s rich

Beach is all about peace, serenity and

Beach Resort, all floors of the resort

and affluent boasts a refreshing spa,

gym facility, restaurant, cabanas,

security. It’s a place of refuge soaked

are named decks as inspired by the

classic bar and lounge, an incredible

private beach and pool. Other bonus include the outdoor fish koi fish tank.

As a top-tier luxury beach resort concept, White Deck Beach resort combines the elements of dining, music, entertainment, and arts to create the ultimate lifestyle experience.

Described as a glimpse of heavenly paradise, White Deck Beach is also an ideal destination for corporate events and A-class parties. Relaxing yet refreshing, the stylish resort has become a go-to place for classic birthday, intimate wedding parties and a glorious vacation haven. gw

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T R AV E L G U I D E

Travel Made Easy: 7 Essential Tips Every Traveller Needs to Know Ife Isijola

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utting a perfect trip together can be quite fun, but it can also be overwhelming. It does not really have to be overwhelming though. Here are the basic tips to help you plan a perfect (well almost perfect) trip.

1. Research on the destination

Your air ticket will of course be the main determinant for your budget.

There are a few things you need to consider to get the cheapest flights such as dates, ticket class, airline, connections etc. .

The next highest expense is definitely accommodation. Nowadays, most established destinations have a huge range of accommodation types from hostels, apartments, guesthouses

How much will things cost? What local

and hotels, which makes

customs should I be aware of? etc.

it so much easier to travel

One of the best ways to enjoy a trip is

on a budget.

to know your destination well. You do

2. Set a budget

not have to be an expert, but make the

Keep in mind that you can travel the

For meals, expect to budget

effort to learn the basics of the country

world without breaking the bank. Your

more if you are staying

and city you intend visiting. Exactly

budget depends on your travel style. It

in a hotel and eating out

how do you go about it? ...SEARCH

all boils down to what your priorities

for every meal. Budget for

ONLINE.

are. The most important rule for your travel budget is flexibility. Be strict!!

Every worry or question can be

Deciding what your priorities are will

answered online. Questions such as:

help you decide how you want to spend

Do I need a visa? What are the travel

your money.

restrictions? What can you do at your destination? What will the climate

Look at how much the average costs

be like? What kind of clothing is

for things such as food, transport,

appropriate to wear? What is the food

activities, excursions and pretty much

like? What is public transport like?

anything that would cost you money.

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groceries if you plan to stay in a hostel or apartment with a kitchen. To get an estimate of transportation costs, learn how much traveling around will cost. .

Don’t forget to include expenditures on visas, excursions, travel insurance and vaccinations.

3. Book your Flight Booking a flight is one of the most important parts of finalising your plans. But between various airline

including the day of the week you book,

luggage allowance before finally

price, distance (e.g. from the town

prices and the many different options

how far in advance you book, and even

booking your ticket.

centre), star category, facilities etc.

of where to purchase your flight,

the website on which you book. The

booking can get a little confusing.

more flexible you are, the more likely

4. Book you Hotel

multiple databases for you and present

you are to get a great deal on your

Whether you want to spend a few

several hotel options that best match

How much a flight costs varies

flight. Some of the tricks including

nights in a luxury hotel, boutique hotel

your needs and that are discounted or

greatly depending on many variables

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Book approximately six weeks in

or just a basic room, the trick is to pick

offer cheaper rates.

advance if you can.

what is within your budget, then try to

Booking wednesdays flights as that

get it for the best price possible. It is

Once you have settled for a shortlist

is generally the cheapest day to

very important to do your homework.

of choices, use a review site such

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These online sites will then search

travel Searching for flights on Tuesdays

With many hotel reservations done

travellers have reviewed concerning

around 3pm Eastern time

online, there are online tools you can

your choices to help make your final

Compare prices from different sites

use to compare rates and shop around

choice. Before booking, make sure you

before booking. Simply enter your

check for any hidden extra charges and

Another easy option is to speak to a

destination and your desired travel

confirm that everything is correct. gw

travel agent who can provide various

dates, and let the hotel search engine

flight options to consider. Remember

compare accommodation prices. To

to alway check the fine print for

refine your search results, filter by

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as tripadvisor to check what other

Concluding part in next edition.

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Easy Creative Ways to Declutter Your Home

Olayinka Ashogbon

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iving Clutter Free is Possible and you can do it! It’s important to establish that truth before we dive into creative ways to declutter your home.

HOME AND YOU

Do you have Clutter? If you answer Yes

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Do you spend countless hours

to any of these questions you would

clearing up your any space within

want to keep reading.

your home before a guest arrives?

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Are you always looking for items in your home?

Clutter is having items in your home

Do you have a “catch all” drawer or

that are not useful, necessary or bring

space?

you joy thereby making any space in

Do you think you need more space or

your home disorderly or messy. In

more storage space?

most cases, clutter comes as a result

Do you have items that have no use

of not making the right decision or

or designated purpose?

unmade decisions. Clutter has to do

Do you feel overwhelmed by the

with decision making? Yes! For every

amount of stuff in your home?

purchase, you have to make a decision on the purpose of the item in your home. If you don’t give each item a reason to be there, they would lay fallow and the more of “fallow” items you have the bigger the clutter.

That said, decluttering is removing items in any space in your home that is not useful, unnecessary and does not bring you joy. Decluttering is about making a decision par time and per item.

Creative ways to Declutter 1. One Space at a time: The secret to decluttering is handling it in little baby steps. Start small and then build on it. Start with under your

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kitchen sink before you take on

putting things back to their

your walk-in closet. This will help

home/address.

prevent burn-out or the stress from several unfinished decluttering

8. O r g a n i z a t i o n a l S y s t e m s :

projects around your home.

After you declutter, create organizational systems based

2. Let the seasons serve as a guide:

on your lifestyle. Make is

At the end of every season Purge

relatable, Simple & practical.

items using the Keep, Donate and

Organizational systems give

Dispose approach. Have a box for

you clarity on what you own

items you want to keep, Items you

and how many of it you own.

want to donate and items you want to dispose. This approach works best for closet spaces.

4. A place for everything: Every item in your home needs to have a home.

9. F i n d

your

minimum

viable points: To keep your home looking clutter-free,

5. Everything in its place: Return all

understand your minimum

items back to their home after the

viable points. Find the focal

item serves you.

points and at a minimum keep those points in each space

3. Keep up with the mail: Paper clutter

6. Labels, Labels, Labels: By labeling

clutter-free. For example, the

each item’s home, you create

bed in most cases is the focal

designated & identifiable “addresses”

point in most bedrooms, a

within your address. Everyone in your

made bed makes the room look

home should know exact where to

and feel less cluttered.

return an item to after it serves.

piles up easily. Have a landing spot

Bonus: Stop it at the Store – Stop adding to existing clutter. On your next

10.

Create a Routine: Once you’ve

trip to the store, before you get that

for your mail and decide on each mail

7. Educate and mirror the behavior:

identified your minimum viable

item ask yourself, “Do I need this?”

as soon as you get them. Action? or

Bring everyone in your home on

points, create a routine around

“Does it add value to an item I already

Shred?. Best solution for mail/paper

board. Let them know where items

it. For example, cleaning up the

have?” “Is it a want or a need?”

clutter is go paperless.

go and why. Then in turn model

Kitchen counter daily or making

the behavior by being the Chief of

the bed daily.

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CAREER

Change Your Workplace Through Prayer

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ot all workplaces welcome prayer, but you don’t have to make your prayers audible or visible. You can pray quietly anywhere and everywhere. Prayer does something amazing. When you commit to pray for someone, your heart grows in tenderness towards that person. You will find yourself more interested in their world, their struggles, and their career. Your focus will move from self to others as you begin to pray quietly for those around you.

The more you listen to God, the more

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you hear. The more you listen, the more you will know. The more you

It is my prayer that God will open your eyes and your heart to see the needs and pray for your coworkers.

Pray that your coworkers will come to know and follow Jesus.

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Pray that those who do follow Jesus

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Pray that God will ignite a fire in you

workplace–change your workplace

listen, the more you can pray. Pray

(you + others) will boldly lead

to go that extra mile, to care more,

through prayer, and you will see a

quietly of course

change in the workplace.

and to work more diligently.

newness of spirit begin to build.

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So what do you pray about with regards to your workplace?

the ones that aren’t so easy to love.

you in praying more.

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Prayer does change EVERYTHING.

It is my prayer that God will open your

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Pray for that difficult boss.

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Pray for your workplace in general

Why does prayer create change?

and pray for your coworkers. As you

that the business will thrive.

Because prayer changes people. People

pray, May the Lord change you, change

Pray for yourself for God to use you

change the workplace. So go ahead.

others, and change your workplace in

in your workplace.

Rather than grumble pray for your

Jesus name. Amen. gw

You can pray the following and as you begin to pray the Holy Spirit will lead

Pray for the coworkers you like and

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CUISINE

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2 1/3 cup Unbleached all-purpose flour

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1/3 cups Granulated Sugar

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1/2 teaspoon Salt

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4 Large Eggs

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3 cups whole Milk

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1teaspoon Vanilla extract

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4 tablespoon or 60ml Unsalted butter, melted

Filling zz

1 Litre 35% Heavy Cream or Whip Cream

Crepe Cake Seyi Farinu

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5 ounces milk chocolate, melted

Preparation Step 1: Mix the batter: Using a blender, blend eggs, milk, vanilla, sugar, flour and melted butter

hat comes to mind when you hear the word “love”?

I think Paris, or my first trip to Brussels where I tried to most amazing chocolate and other yummy desserts. Then it occurred to me: Crepes. I think of crepes. A crepe is a thin pancake sweet, or savoury served with a variety of fillings.

This recipe is an ode to my summer of falling in love with Europe and stuffing my face with chocolate and mini pancakes.

until smooth and silky, (there should

We are going to elevate the basic crepe by turning it into a fun and romantic crepe cake. It’s a labour of love but I promise it’s worth it.

butter. Once the skillet is hot, pour 4

be no lumps). Cover batter and let it chill in your refrigerator for at least 45 minutes or over night.

Step 2: Cook the crepes: Place an 8-inch skillet over medium heat and generously grease with tablespoons of batter into the center of the pan. Tilt and twirl the pan so

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the batter stretches as far as it will

plate or tray and repeat the process

the love in the air, hence my using

go. (You will want the crepes to be as

with the remaining batter, making

chocolate, (but you can use any filling

thin as possible for the best texture).

sure to butter the pan between each

you want. If you want something sweet

Cook for 1 minute on each side, (try not

crepe. Let the crepes chill at room

you can go for a whipped cream with

overcook the crepes or they become

temperature, covered with a towel or

strawberries mix; or craving tart I

dry and rubbery. Also, if you notice

loose plastic wrap.

recommend lemon curd for that tangy

your crepe batter is too thick do not

(This recipe should yield about 25 crepes)

bit, it’s amazing)

1 tablespoon of milk at a time till it

Step 3: Work the filling.

Filling

gets to the desired loose consistency).

I made this crepe cake a day after

Using a hand mixer or a whisk (this is

Transfer the cooked crepe to a large

valentine’s day, and I was still feeling

a workout without a mixer, keeping

fear. You can easily loosen it up with

your cream and bowl very cold makes the process easier) Next pour 1 litre of 35% heavy cream into a cold bowl and whip the cream still stiff peaks, (try not to over whip the cream as it could turn to butter).

Chill cream and melt chocolate in the microwave for 45 seconds.

layering process, be sure to add some whipped cream and melted chocolate

Step 4: Assemble the cake

between each layer until the last crepe

Now here’s the fun part. Get you

is placed on the top.

favourite cake stand or plate and an

Spoon the remaining whipped cream

offset spatula.

on the top and lightly dust with cocoa

Spread a tablespoon of filling on the

powder. Sprinkle chocolate shavings.

center of your cake stand or serving

Next chill for at least 30 minutes before

plate- this helps adhere the cake to

slicing.

the stand/plate. Place a crepe and

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spread about 3 big tablespoons of

Step 5: Let us eat cake

the filling evenly. Feel free to drizzle

I recommend a hot cup of coffee or hot

some melted chocolate and repeat the

cocoa if you are not into coffee. gw

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THE OLD BOREe resting, and

hom A tired pastor was at he saw a woman through the window . She was one of approaching his door ople, and he was those too-talkative pe th her. He said to his not anxious to talk wi stairs and wait until wife, “I’ll just duck up she goes away.” e then he tiptoed to th An hour passed, and d. un ed ... not a so stair landing and listen , so he started down He was very pleased fe, “Well, My Dear, calling loudly to his wi old bore at last?” did you get rid of that heard the voice of The next moment he r, and she couldn’t the same woman calle hearing him. Two possibly have missed em both staring up steps down, he saw th ly a crisis moment. at him. It seemed tru pastor’s wife The quick-thinking , she went away over answered, “Yes, Dear Jones has come to an hour ago. But Mrs. and I’m sure you’ll call in the meantime, be glad to greet her.”

THE DEAD MULE

SAD BUT TRUE

Unfortunately many homes, yes even socalled Christian homes, are like the one in which the little girl pointed to the Bible on the mantle that was never opened, and said to her mother, “Whose book is that?”

Her mother quite startled by her daughters question replied, “Why honey, don’t you know? That is God’s book!”

The child demonstrating that she had a very practical turn to her mind said, “Don’t you think that we had better give it back to him? No one around here ever reads it.”

red a dead mule in the church on Monday morning and discove ce offi rch chu his to t wen tor A Pas y, the police referred did not appear to be any foul pla re the ce Sin ice. pol the ned yard. He telepho ent. the Pastor to the Health Departm call the Sanitation no health threat you’ll need to was re the nce “Si ed, lain exp y The Department.” itation Department artment, the Manager of the San Dep ion itat San the ed call tor When the pas the mayor.” mule without authorization from d dea t tha up k pic ’t can “I , said sed a very bad temper and was er to call the mayor, who posses The Pastor was not at all too eag Pastor called the mayor to deal with, but, eventually, the d har and ant leas unp ely rem always ext anyway. began to rant and rave. After Pastor. The mayor immediately The mayor did not disappoint the me anyway? Isn’t your yor finally said, “Why did you call ma the , tor pas the at t ran ed his continu job to bury the dead?”

The lord led the the Lord to direct his response. ed ask and , yer pra f brie a for The pastor paused y the dead, BUT I always like “Yes, Mayor, it is my job to bur g, kin see was he ds wor the to pastor to notify the next of kin first!”

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GREY AREAS

DEATH OF A SPOUSE:

How Can You help Someone Who is Grieving Ibironke Olubamise

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umanly speaking it is difficult to cope with the passing of a loved one because it is impossible to forget the death of a spouse; especially if there were no ill feelings and disagreements between the couple. Only God can help us to overcome the grief and cope with the transition into glory of a great companion. You sometimes don’t even want to think about it so that you don’t stir up emotions. The feeling that you get, when your friends, are talking about their living spouses and sometimes make hurtful statements that could hurt, forgetting that you are listening can be very hard to overcome.

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It is made worse when the world refers

gain.”. The preceding and subsequent

is a win for the Kingdom. At the risk

to it as having “lost your husband/

verses gave good explanations and

of being insensitive, I’d be happy for

wife”. Really! Did I truly lose him? I

I encourage anyone to read and

someone to transit to glory than to

don’t think so. Well, to be frank, it took

meditate on this. Except the person

deny Christ and live.

me sometime to get to this level. I pray

who died was not born again, then I can

that it will not take as long as it took

grieve, because that is really a LOSS.

My experience has also taught me

me for anyone in the same situation

What the devil would have us think is

that the person who transited may

to realize that they did not lose their

that we have lost. Not at all! I rejoice

actually have wanted to. Some had

spouse, as they read this piece.

evermore because this one has gone to

made statements that though based

be with the Lord and the fear of him/

on ignorance, may require them to go

One of the eternal revelations I have

her being lost to the devil while still

home earlier than God has designed

and which I keep using to console

alive is gone forever. It turns out to be

for them. I have heard countless people

people grieving is in Phil1:21. “For

a gain to the Kingdom. HALLELUIAH!

make awful statements when they are

distress. This is why we should let the

to me to live is Christ, and to die is

So, whichever side of the stick we get

going through pains or some intense

devil know that we know and refuse

I can boldly say, there’s no question I asked which He has not answered; no need He has not met and no fellowship I have been denied of God.

to plunge into any form of discomfort because any of the above may have happened.

God has proven to be more than enough through it all. I can boldly say, there’s no question I asked which He has not answered; no need He has not met and no fellowship I have been denied of. God has answered my questions about everything including physical intimacy. The devil would want me to grieve but I know better to rejoice evermore. Now I think about him having travelled and some day we will be reunited again at the feet of Jesus. Halleluiyah! gw

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DECISION

God Wants You, No Case is Hopeless

you can imagine her surprise on that

was no longer a nobody embraced by

fateful day at the well when a Jewish

the love of God accepted in Christ. She

man happened to be sitting there

boldly went to meet the very people

precisely when she arrived.

she ran away from. She was no longer a slave to fear but a child of God. Do you

This was rare, the very reason she came

know that every cry is heard? Every

to the well at such an obscure time

prayer is answered. There is Unlimited

was because no one came to the well at

salvation in Christ.

this time. Used to being ignored. The Jewish man spoke to her and asked her

Have you ever thought of your case

for kindness, which she gave. And then

as“hopeless” This word is for you.

he announced that he was the Messiah.

No case is hopeless to God. You can be

In fact, by telling her that his name

reconciled like this Samaritan woman.

was “I Am” (John 4:26—very clear

Why not make the decision today to

in the Greek), Jesus was telling her

surrender your life to Christ. All you

that God himself had come to her. Her

have to do is to say the prayer below

broken connection with God and with

and mean it with all your heart.

her community had been restored.

Please say this prayer with me. Lord God the creator of heaven and earth

Jesus I give my heart to you today. I

would bother with a “ hopeless case”

have felt lost but today I know and acknowledge that you are the good

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Jesus is the Shepherd who finds the

Shepherd who searches for the lost sheep.

sheep. It is never the other way around.

In you I find joy, hope and peace. From

he Samaritan woman at the

She was a perfect example of a hopeless

Even when we think that he is far off,

today my life belongs to you. I am born

well was the talk of the town.

case. Men definitely had written her

God is close.Very close (Psalm 145:18).

again. My case is not hopeless. Thank you

Everyone knew about her

off. She probably had written herself

And he cares. He hasn’t written you off

Lord for saving me.

shady past, colorful present and could

off too. Yet despite her resume, God

and your case is never too bad for God.

almost predict her unfortunate future.

had not written her off. She had gotten

She had a ruined reputation— broken

used to being ignored, disregarded and

On that fateful day the silent cries of

Do join a bible believing Church and

relationships, and a shattered heart.

was regularly given sneering looks so

the Samaritan woman was heard. She

read your Bible daily. gw

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