June 2021 Vol 13. No 2

VOL 13 NO 2

IT’S TRUE

GOD DOES NOT LOVE US EQUALLY

STOP THE COMPARISON

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WAYS TO LIVE AN ENVY FREE LIFE

DON’T GIVE UP

YOU’RE COMING OUT LIKE GOLD

BEAUTY is MORE THAN SKIN DEEP SELF RELIANT vs GOD DEPENDENT WHICH ONE ARE YOU?

BIMBO FOLA-ALADE

SPEAKS ON GOOD THINGS ABOUT TURNING 50 AND MORE

PUBlish ON

Team PUBLISHER/CEO Bolanle Olawale EDITOR Toluwalase Olawale CREATIVE/GRAPHICS ARTIST Tonye Edet DIGITAL/TECHNICAL SUPPORT Adura Arowolo SALES AND LOGISTICS Francis Unufe CONTRIBUTORS Kingsley Okonkwo, Kehinde Adollo, Busola Jegede, Olamide Adeleye, Olufunlola Ifebogun, Ibironke Olubamise, Taiwo Isijola, Oluseyi Farinu, Ife Isijola, Kehinde Adollo, Ronke Adeoti, Dammy Timothy CHAIRMAN ’Kunle Olawale gemWoman is digitally published by gem Publications Ltd. All Rights Reserved, © 2021 For subscriptions and advert enquiries, please call or visit #10 Jide Ayo Close, Omole Phase 1, Ikeja, Lagos, Nigeria WhatsApp: +234 706 931 4010 Email: editor@gemwoman.net Website: www.gemwoman.net Follow us on instagram: @gemmagazines and @gem.event Like us on facebook: gemmagazines

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Contents gemWOMAN MAGAZINE

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VOL 13 NO 2

55 Most days I start my day with prayer and bible study–it is the most important part of my day. It leaves me feeling set for the day ahead.

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FEATURE

Sister Pastors

Follow Your Passion

Bola Musiwa

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Rolake Adedara

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TRAVEL GUIDE

Olamide Adeleye

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Travel Made Easy:

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7 Essential Tips Every Traveller

Makes it seamless and scam free!

Needs to Know

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REAL ISSUES Why You Need A Coach

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HOME AND YOU Keeping Your Home Tidy

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ISSUES OF THE HEART Don’t Give Up

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CUISINE Lemon Rosemary Olive Oil Cake

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LIGHT REFLECTIONS DECISION

Stop the Comparison 3 Ways to Live an Envy Free Life

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It’s True; God Does not Love us Equally 108

Awake 12

REAL ISSUES FROM THE PUBLISHER’S DESK I Can Relate

Self Reliant or God Dependent?

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ETIQUETTE KANDID TALKS Initiative… Make the Move!

Making a Difference

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SPIRITUALITY APPLES OF GOLD Quotes On Awake

Maximising Strength 20

BEAUTY Beauty is not Skin Deep

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in Your Quiet Time

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COVER INTERVIEW 25

Pastor Bimbo Fola-Alade

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CONTRIBUTORS

Olufunmilola Ifebogun is the CEO of Blooms Soft Furnishing, which she established in 1994 and is fast gaining recognition within and outside Nigeria.

She is an associate of Dorothy Van Riet Design Academy in South Africa and also possesses a Diploma in Color Concept from Interior Design, Texas, USA.

Kehinde Adollo is a Profile Marketing communications expert who just wants to make a change in every little way she can. She loves to be in the company of good and inspiring people.

The God factor has been her support through the years She often asks herself, “where will I be without him?”

Adeyanju Olomola is a graduate of Industrial Chemistry from University of Ibadan. She is the Lead Coach and CEO of The Source Coaching Ltd. Prior to setting up her Coaching Practice, she garnered over 20 years of diversified experience in the FMCG industry. She is a certified John Mattone Intelligent Leadership Executive Coach.

Taiwo Isijola is an Etiquette coach.

Who trains and coaches on business protocol and etiquette. Her goal is to teach people what they need to distinguish and conduct themselves in all aspects of business and social settings.

Olayinka Ashogbon Clutter Relief Specialist at TidyRx–a Professional Organizing Company with a mission to bring clutter relief to any space.

She specializes in Home and Business Spaces as well as Move Management.

Visit her website, www.tidyrx.com and follow her on Instagram @tidyrx for organizing tips.

Dr Olamipo Bamigboje ‘Olamipo’ as she loves to be called is Christian with a passion to help in any capacity she finds herself. She loves to teach, write, tidy up & take pictures when not practicing medicine. She is married to Kayode Bamigboje and they are blessed with 2 miraculous boys.

Ronke Adeoti is a pastor, a mentor and a prolific writer, she’s the initiator of the Quintessential Concept. She’s a passionate lover of God and a stickler for excellence. She is a worshipper and loves to pray. She’s passionate about women taking their place in life and destiny and fulfilling their God given assignments. She loves to leave a lasting impression on everyone she meets, an ever ready counselor always willing to be of help and assistance. A friend, model and a mother to many.

She is married to her heartthrob Pastor Yemi Adeoti, and are blessed with three children.

Olamide Elizabeth Adeleye is a chartered Arbitrator and a legal practitioner who specializes in Corporate Law and Real Estate.

She is also a pastor, and a poet. She currently runs her own legal practice and oversees the Women’s Ministry of God’s Favourite House Church, Lekki.

Her passion is to help women acquire the drive to thrive and not just survive in all spheres of life. She is joyfully married and blessed with two nations.

Oluseyi Farinu is a Nigerian Canadian Pastry Chef based in the beautiful Vancouver, British Columbia. She is passionate about God and good food.

At Honey and Grace, her goal is to bring joy to her client’s momentous occasions through consistent, quality, and delicious treats that anyone will love to eat and be proud to share with your guests. You can check out her work on her Instagram page @honeyandgracehouse and @seyi_farinu.

Ibironke Olubamise (B.SC., M.Sc., MBA, FLEAD, Chevening Scholar, IPMS, IVLP) is an intercessor/ counsellor; an ordained pastor at Throneroom Trust Ministry and Secretary of the Women in God’s Prophetic Agenda. She is the National Coordinator, UNDP GEF-Small Grants Programme; has coordinated over 170 projects and empowered over 125 Civil Society Organizations. Ronke was married to Pastor Bankole Olubamise of blessed memory. They are blessed with two children.

Ife Isijola has a passion and love for travel and this is seen through her dedication to helping people fulfill their dreams of exploring new cultures through amazing travel adventures.

She uses her extensive knowledge to plan all styles of vacations for her clients. Her specialties include destination weddings, honeymoons and custom tours. She is blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Toluwalase Olawale is a law student and beauty entrepreneur from Dallas, Texas by way of Lagos, Nigeria. She is passionate about travel, youth mentoring, advocacy and authentic living as a Christian. She shares on her podcast “Live Intentional” practical tips, and applicational scripture that aid in self-betterment, and that of the world at large.

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Awake Lamide Adeleye

Awake my spirit soul & body!

His grace makes them brilliant

His promises are for everybody

They subdue the intimidating giants

You have no reason to be downcast

On their faces shall be no shame

His faithfulness you must broadcast

For the glory of His name

Because fully forgiven is your past

And the power of His fame

The land He has prepared for you is vast Awake!

Awake!

Just as the sun rises everyday

Be the light in a dark world

And the trees never cease to sway

Spread the fragrance of His Word

At the instance of heavenly breeze

Which is the sharpest sword

His blessings have come to stay

Be the hope of this generation

And are as sure as honey flows from the bees

Come out from hibernation

His love for you is of the deepest degree

Awake!

Awake!

Child of God, arise and shine

For His name sake

With your Father be ready to dine

He won’t remember your mistake

Before you is set the cup of wine

Though the mountains shake

He will make you fine without a fine

And the whole earth quake The blessings are yours to take

Awake

Rise up! Pursue! Overtake!

Like the sun when it rises in its fullness

Awaiting you is His glorious handshake.

In Him there is no dullness Those who look to Him are radiant

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From the Publisher’s Desk

I Can Relate

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t this point, one thing

I am looking forward to my fiftieth

I think we can all agree

in a few months. I also resonate with

on is that we cannot

the feature on CapturedbyAdesuwa

wait for the world to

as she is like a daughter to me, and

fully reopen quickly enough. Are we

I’m excited to see her following

sure 2020 had only 12 months? And

her dreams in the entrepreneurial

to top it all off, we are almost halfway

world. Adesuwa’s interview is very

through the year 2021. Despite all the

inspiring and will surely stir people

challenges of the previous year, we

of all ages to reach for their dreams.

somehow got through it together,

The “Sister Pastors” interview is

with God on our side. I hope that, in

also a very unique read. “Maximizing

our small way, gemwoman has been

strength in your quiet time” will

able to help by sharing inspiring

inspire you to run to your quiet place

stories to help you get through this

and maximize your time with God. As

season.

always, every page in the magazine will inspire you to aspire.

This month’s magazine has a lot that I personally can relate to and

I’d love to hear how this edition

I hope you will find aspects of this

blesses you. Feel free to keep

edition that you can relate to as

up with me on instagram

well. Our cover personality recently

@bolanlegemwoman gw

celebrated her fiftieth birthday and

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This month’s magazine has a lot that I personally can relate to and I hope you will find aspects of this edition that you can relate to as well. gemwoman.net 15

KAN D I D TAL K S

Initiative…

Make the Move!

Kehinde Adollo

A

KAN D I D TAL K S

This brings me to the second topic of this series tagged Initiate -making moves. That is exactly what I had to do for the team. As a leader, you need to find the strength to push your team forward, you need to pave the way forward so that others can also learn from your “never give up” attitude.

nother Kandid talks is

So I braced up in spite of the pressures

here, I must confess that

knowing that one day I will look back

the past few months

and say WoW! God did it! with a big

have been quite unique.

smile and joy on my face .

As a career woman having to work on quite a few important projects

The road to greatness is certainly

simultaneously; Projects that are life

not easy, it comes with prayer and

changing to organizations. To tell you

persistence.

the truth there were days I just wanted to close up my laptop and travel to an

So initiate! get up! get going! keep

island in Capri and live my best life

going! and take some rest in between,

with a glass of pineapple and carrot

very important.

juice and grilled fish on my plate. And of course listening to some worship

In summary, my counsel will be to seek

music, watching the waves on the

God’s face, grace, direction, wisdom

ocean move in a rhythmic style. I am

and help constantly as you initiate

sure you get the picture,need I say

those moves. He is dependable and

more. Despite all my dreaming, I told

reliable, He will grant you rest without

myself it would happen but definitely

stress. gw

not now. The sheer importance of the projects at hand meant I had to pay the sacrifice needed to get the job done.

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APPLES OF GOLD

APPLES OF GOLD

QUOTES ON

AWAKE DAY 2

DAY 1

“When God takes out the trash,

“Be fully awake.”

don’t go digging back through it.

L AIL AH GIF TY AKITA

Trust Him.”

DAY 7 “Inspiration is an awakening, a quickening of all man’s faculties, and it is manifested in all high artistic achievements.”

DAY 9 “Curiosity is the first step down the path of awakening.”

DAY 8 “Awakening is not changing who you are but discarding who you are not.”

DAY 10 “Awakening is an inside job.”

AMAKA IMANI NKOSAZANA , HEART CRUSH

DAY 3 “When you are evolving into a

DAY 4

higher-self, the road may seem

“When you arrive at the knowledge

“Get out of your comfort zone.

“The mind must be awakened

lonely but you’re simply shedding

of self, you have arrived.”

Wake up the sleeping giant in you.”

if you are to reach the heights of

the energies that no longer match

A N I E K E E TO C H U KW U E Z E K I E L

DR T.P.CHIA

greatness.”

DAY 11

DAY 12

the frequency of your destiny.”

DAY 5

DAY 6

“Awaken to your true potential

“The true awakening takes

and live the life of your dreams.”

place within.”

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DAY 13 “To be awake is the refreshness of being.”

L AIL AH GIF TY AKITA

DAY 14 “It takes a person who is wide awake to make his dream come true.”

ROGER BABSON

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DAY 15 “Lose an hour in the morning, and you will be all day hunting for it.”

R I C H A R D W H A T E LY

APPLES OF GOLD

DAY 16 “Prove to the world that you are alive; let your words breathe life into the nostrils of the universe.”

MICHAEL BASSEY JOHNSON

DAY 24

DAY 23

“When you are evolving to your

“Everything that you are going

higher self, the road seems lonely.

through is preparing you for what

But you’re simply shedding

you asked for.”

energies that no longer match the frequency of your destiny.”

DAY 18

DAY 17

“Do this, knowing the time that it is

“Dream big while you sleep, and

already the hour for you to awaken

even bigger when you’re awake.”

from sleep; for now salvation

“There’s more to our species

JARED LETO

is nearer to us than when we

than we see in the mirror.”

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believed.”

DAY 26 “You must be willing to let go of who you have been to become who you were meant to be.”

ROMANS 13:11

DAY 19

DAY 20

DAY 27

“Awake, my glory!

“Mindfulness means being awake.

“We are ready to awaken when we

“The reason people awaken is

Awake, harp and lyre!

It means knowing what

don’t have any more doubts or any

because they have finally stopped

I will awaken the dawn.”

you are doing.”

more questions about who we are.”

agreeing to things that insult

PSALM 57:8

JON KABAT-ZINN

ROXANA JONES

their soul.”

DAY 21 “If you really want to dream, be fully awake.”

PAU LO CO E L H O

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DAY 22 “Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it.”

BRENE BROWN

DAY 28

DAY 30

DAY 29

“I experienced by the grace of God

“Who looks outside dreams; who

a spiritual awakening, which was

looks inside awakens.”

to lead me to a richer, fuller, more

CARL JUNG

productive life.”

J O H N C O LT R A N E

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BE AU T Y

BE AU T Y

Beauty Skin Deep IS NOT

Some ways your lifestyle habits affect your skin Toluwalase Olawale

W

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hile Beauty is not merely

You are not sleeping: Simply put,

skin deep, skin health and

“beauty sleep” is necessary. Your skin

appearance often have an impact

goes through repair and restoration

on our feelings of beauty. The skin is

while you are asleep. Therefore, the

the largest organ on the body yet is

less sleep you get, the less time your

often neglected in beauty routines.

skin has to repair itself. Collagen is

If you’ve ever wondered why the

produced when skin cells regenerate,

multitude of beauty treatments and

and since skin cells regenerate faster

skincare products you use are not

when you sleep, you limit the amount

giving you your desired results, here

of collagen that is produced when you

are a few reasons why your skin is not

do not get enough sleep. Lack of sleep

improving:

can also lead to dark circles, wrinkles,

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BE AU T Y

puffy eyes, and a dull appearance to the skin. Aim to get 7-8 hours of sleep a night and ensure to apply a hydrationrich moisturizer before going to bed to further protect your skin from drying out while you sleep.

While Beauty is not merely skin deep, skin health and appearance often have an impact on our feelings of beauty.

Your diet: Good skincare starts from within Eating a large number of

sunscreen protect against aging, but it

processed foods, saturated fats, dairy,

also protects against skin cancer and

and sugar can be detrimental if you

sunburns. Also, if your facial skincare

have acne-prone skin. Not only that,

products contain vitamin c, you need

but these foods can make one prone to

to ensure to use sunscreen with a broad

aging quickly. A healthy diet is not only

spectrum of at least spf 50 as vitamin

beneficial to physical health but is also

C makes the skin more prone to burns.

great for skin health. Foods like leafy greens, carrots, tomatoes, nuts and

You are expecting rapid results: The

berries are great for the skin.

epidermis of the skin replaces itself every 28 days, therefore, you will not

You are not wearing sunscreen:

be able to see the true effects of a new

Sunscreen is extremely important to

skincare regimen or procedure for a

protect the skin from aging and the

few weeks to a month. Give your skin

harmful effects of UVA and UVB rays. As

time to go through the 28-day cycle

the temperatures globally have gotten

and remain hopeful and optimistic

higher, so have the harmful effects

about results. skincare products that

of UV rays increased. Do not believe

promise immediate results, often do

the myth that darker skin/African

not have lasting effects or are harmful

skin does not need sun protection.

in the long run. Remember, a watched

All individuals need to wear a facial

pot never boils. gw

sunscreen of at least 30spf, and full body sunscreen as well. Not only does

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Sister Pastors Whom shall I send, and who will go for us. “How then shall they call on him in whom they have not believed? and how shall they believe in him of whom they have not heard? and how shall they hear without a preacher?”

ROMANS 10:14

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sually our relationship with God focuses on what God can or will do for us. We think in terms of what we need, yet God has a need.

God is looking for men and women who are willing to go for Him. Very few people are willing to answer the call of becoming a pastor either because of preconceived notions about what is expected of pastors, or because they consider themselves “background” people.

Having a pastor in a family poses immense spiritual benefits.

Having two pastors in a family is a blessing, and having three pastors in one family is indeed an expression of exceptional grace.

Meet the Sister Pastors Family, and read their inspiring interviews. ↘

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Bola Musiwa A

Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying), Certified Life Coach, Speaker, Counsellor and an Educator. She is based in Canada. She runs a ministry called “Trash to Treasure” and a private Counselling and Therapy Center called “Treasure in You Counseling Centres.”

God. We were raised as Baptists and even at that we were key participants in Bible challenge retreats, we would go to camps and we did competitions with other churches reciting over 100 Bible passages. We all took part in different departments and we

When did you give your life to Christ?

Why do you think you and your

all were very committed. We were

At the age of 13, while in secondary

sisters eventually became pastors?

part of Girl’s Auxiliary and in the

school precisely in JSS 3.

I do not believe that it was what we

choir as well. Times that we were in

did that qualified us to be Pastors,

boarding schools, we all were active

When were you ordained as a

I strongly believe that just like

in our fellowships. I believe our hearts

pastor?

Jeremiah 1:5 says, before He formed

always yearned for more. I remember

I was ordained in 2006

us, He knew us, and before we were

Pst Lamide and I went to a higher

born, He appointed and He ordained us

institution in Ibadan, Nigeria, and

How was life growing up?

to be who He had created us to be from

we both served as campus fellowship

Growing up was interesting because I

the foundations of the earth. Needless

leaders in our respective schools, we

grew up in a family of 8 (parents, six

to say, He has been preparing us right

were also both in the choir, also a part

children, 2 boys, 4 girls). Our parents

from our youth, our parents also

of a group I started called Shammah

raised us in a godly and Christian

played a very crucial role in laying the

sisters, with the main purpose of

environment. We were taught to

foundation for us. They put our foot in

evangelizing, we went from streets

always look out for one another. We

the way of the Lord.

to streets, in buses, in houses, door

never lacked anything, our parents did and gave their best in bringing us up.

to door preaching the gospel and Ever since we were young, we’ve

handing over tracts.

always had passion for the things of

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All through, none of us ever backslided,

able to also grow in their ability to

we have been consistent in our walk

share their faith with others. We also

with God.

teach them or help them to be more like Christ, as they serve they understand

Above all, in spite of how we served, its

the role stewardship plays in our walk

God’s prerogative to have chosen us. It

with God. The Bible says, ‘train up

is a privilege we don’t take for granted.

a child in the way we want them to

It is also a blessing that He has found

go, when they grow up, they will not

us worthy to be His chosen vessels.

depart from it.’ My earnest prayer for my children is that God by Himself will

Are you raising any of your children

order their steps in accordance to His

to be pastors?

will.

Depending on what God has in store

It will be a great opportunity for our children to grow in their faith and able to also grow in their ability to share their faith with others. We also teach them or help them to be more like Christ

for them, if that is their calling, why

Please share any challenge you have

not, but I know my second son walks

faced being a pastor.

in my gifts, since he was about 6 years

For me, ministry has been rewarding

he keeps saying he sees visions and he

and challenging too. There have

sees what happens way ahead of time,

been lots of betrayals, people taking

far, we grew up in a very closely knit

he calls it day dreaming. He said it

advantage of the office, like “use and

family setup like I said earlier, that

happens to him even in school, things

dump”, and a lot of ingratitude and,

foundation has really helped us so

just flash as a vision and they come to

a lot of pain too, really deep pain. But

far so good, not a lot of tension in our

pass. My younger son says he wants

one thing has always been crystal

relationships. But the few we have had,

to be like TDJakes. I have helped him

clear, God’s faithfulness has been

God has always been our focus in the

to turn that to a prayer that he will be

my bedrock, every time there was a

way we have treated one another so

greater than TD Jakes.

betrayal, He always opens a new and

far. I will say we have come a long way,

even greater door. So in all God has

a very long way in our relationship. It

always come through for me.

has not been all smooth, we have had

What advice will you give to women

our ups and downs, but at the end and

about raising their children to serve in ministry?

How is your relationship with your

in all situation the love of Christ has

It will be a great opportunity for our

other pastor sisters?

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children to grow in their faith and be

Our upbringing has really helped us so

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Rolake

Adedara

F E AT URE

Why do you think you and your

they know Him for themselves and

sisters eventually became pastors?

have a personal encounter with Him,

I think it is God’s divine plan and

He will reveal to them His intentions

providence. We have always loved

for their lives and their God-given

God with our hearts and I believe the

purpose.

solid Christian foundation also helped to propel us to what God had in mind

We are truly blessed with seeds that

concerning each one of us.

love God.

You know, the Scriptures declare in

In carrying on the legacy of faith, I

Jeremiah 3:15, that God will give us

trust that our children also shall know

When did you give your life to Christ?

pastors after His heart who will lead

the Lord, love Him and serve Him. If

A while back in high school in 1988 at

with knowledge and understanding.

it happens to be in a pastoral calling,

the age of 16 at Federal Government

So, I believe He sees that each of us

hey, to God be the glory!

Girls College, Oyo State, Nigeria.

has a heart of compassion, a heart

A Certified Public Accountant (CPA) and a music minister, who currently serves as a Co-Pastor at the Fountain of Life church, RCCG, Chicago.

that nurtures and above all a heart that

What advice will you give to women

When were you ordained as a

seeks to please Him and do His will,

about raising their children to serve

pastor?

therefore in His own divine mercy, has

in ministry?

Ordained as a Pastor in the RCCG in

called us.

I would tell women to first of all seek to

June 2014; but I had served in that capacity for several years prior to that.

please God first and do His Will.

Are you raising any of your children to be pastors?

How was life growing up?

Grew up in a Christian home, parents

By the special grace of God, He has enabled

attended the Baptist church. It was

us to lay the

a great childhood, with lots of fun

path of our 2

memories. Godly values were instilled

children in

Be example of what I will call the “AUTHENTIC” faith! Children imbibe what they see us do as parents, not just what they hear us say.

The Apostle Paul told Timothy in 2

in us and we were brought up to believe

godly ways.

Timothy 1:5 that “the faith which first

that there is nothing we want to

However,

lived in his grandmother Lois and then

become that we could not.

I believe

in his mother Eunice, that same faith

that once

he saw it in Timothy!

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I think that women need to know that gender doesn’t define them nor limit their calling in Christ–“there is neither Greek nor Jew, male or female....”

that gender doesn’t define them nor

in lives by the power of God, every

limit their calling in Christ–“there

challenge has been well worth it!

is neither Greek nor Jew, male or

Halleluyah!

female....”

How is your relationship with your

We have to take our place in the

other pastor sisters?

Kingdom of God!

we are truly SISTERS! We are friends and admire once another greatly.

Know who has called you, know whose you are and who you are!

We do not see each other as perfect,

We also have to pray for them. Invest

ministerial offices, that our Lord Jesus

quality time in declaring that our seed

put in place after He left the earth, is

Burn with that passion, irrespective

we celebrate that uniqueness and

shall serve him. Declarations and

truly a gift!

the challenges of non-acceptance,

difference in each other.

words are powerful!

doubting of your calling, lack of initial Doing the work of a pastor comes with

Be their advocate and greatest

we are unique in our own ways and

results in ministry, etc..

lots of challenges

cheerleader, let them know that

and our feisty moments where we tell Above all, LEAN ON GOD, He is the one

whichever way they go and in whatever

Now, in my case being a female pastor,

who has called you and May He give

capacity they serve, that you will

it comes with a lot more challenges

EASE and RESULTS!

always have their back!

When God gives us results in ministry,

In summary, to raise children that

My husband, Tope is a tremendous

the evidence of His calling is glaring

will love God and serve in ministry,

support and my number one fan. He

and nothing can diminish that.

we’ve got to be great examples and

enables me to live out my own calling

role models, exhibit authenticity in

as well as support him in ministry. He

There are certainly lots of challenges

our daily living and above all, pray for

has stood solidly behind me and given

in being a pastor but by God, we

them.

me opportunities to blossom. He has

overcome!

supper system also helps.

faced being a pastor

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Iron sharpens iron, so as friends, we

I think that women need to know

top, we share words of wisdom.

We also pray together as it is said that the “family that prays together, stays

also mentored me. So, having a wrong

I will say being a pastor, as is one of the

each other the candid truth!

challenge each other to reach for the I am a pastor’s wife as well as a pastor.

Please share any challenge you have

We have our moments of togetherness

together’!

We have each been through our “thick and thin” in our journeys of life, so we

Lastly for me, despite the challenges, it

appreciate the vastness and broadness

has been extremely rewarding for me,

in our experiences as we impact one

seeing the impact and transformation

another and our world! gw

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Olamide Adeleye A

lawyer and a poet, she is currently called into the women’s ministry.

How was life growing up?

Why do you think you and your

With many siblings, growing up was

sisters eventually became pastors?

fun. I grew up as a Baptist until we all

First and foremost, I believe God

started getting born again one after

ordained it to be so and I also believe He

the other beginning with our eldest

saw our hearts. I had served in church

brother. Initially, our parents would

in different leadership capacities,

have none of it, saying we cannot

from my teenage years, with my

Christ?

be “more Christiany than being

motive always being: “let them see

A while back in secondary school

Baptists”, until they eventually joined

Christ in me so they can ask who my

as a JSS 1 student, at the age of 13. My

us in the exuberance of our love for

God is” and this hasn’t changed, as I

Christ.

always go out of my way to allow the

When did you give your life to

elder brother’s exemplary life, as a Christian served as a great impetus

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good Lord to prove His love through. I

and as soon as I had the opportunity

Our parents were strict about church

didn’t realize this would land me in the

in a boarding school, FGGC Oyo, away

attendance and were strong supporters

pastoral field.

from my parents who were strict

of the church and inevitably, we

Baptists, I gave my life.

became committed members as

Are you raising any of your children

children. I remember my mum was

to be pastors?

When were you ordained as a

a chorister and with my dad, they

We are raising our children to love

pastor?

belonged to a small group, who met in

the Lord with an undying love and be

Ordained as a Pastor in God’s Favourite

homes of members-alternate hosts,

a pillar in His House, not just church

House on the 7th of February 2016.

every month to just party and have a

goers. We encourage them to find

good time.

avenue for their talents and giftings

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to be used for His glory, first and

Our two kids are on different spiritual

foremost, in the Body of Christ.

journeys and we are super-thankful as we believe that’s the best legacy we

We tend to always elevate the

can give them. One has already been

importance of their walk with God

nick-named a pastor and the sibling is

above all other successes, academics

amazingly passionate about her walk

inclusive, because we (my husband

with God.

and I) believe if the foundation is right, all others will be well.

#Ensuring that ministry doesn’t encroach on the family time is another challenge I’ve had to deal with, as a result, I have to ensure my time is well planned Please share any challenge you have

Despite the challenges, I still regard it

What advice will you give to women

faced being a pastor

as a great privilege to be a vessel in His

about raising their children to serve

#The burden that comes with serving

hand.

in ministry?

people and the pain associated with

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‘Do as I do’ and not ‘do as I say’. They

real life experiences of some of the

How is your relationship with your

are watching and can tell if your

people you have been called to serve

other pastor sisters?

faith is genuine.

can sometimes be heavy in the heart.

We all love God and love one another

Ministry can be messy, thank God He

deeply. We have a good relationship,

turns the mess into messages.

however, I must say that, but for the

Also, never give up on any child, you may not be able to tell when the good Lord begins His work in them, that’s

love of God, we may not be together #Ensuring that ministry doesn’t encroach

today! His love has been the bedrock

on the family time is another challenge

of our relationships. We have had our

I’ve had to deal with, as a result, I have to

tough times as a family, our ups and

Don’t wait for a special

ensure my time is well planned while at

downs and times of disagreement and

moment to talk about the love

the same time leaving some margin for

discouragement but we know that

the Holy Spirit to lead as He pleases.

forgiveness is not a choice. Our mum has

my daughter’s story. zz

of God, let them see it in every day living. My daughter once said, “Mum you see God in everything.” zz

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also been a unifying force, on her knees. #It is said that the higher you go in ministry, the lonelier it gets. As a

We often pray and fast together as

Do not allow ministry to deprive

pastor, I can’t just pick up the phone

a family. One person’s burden, if

you of precious moments with the

and start talking about my challenges

revealed becomes our burden. God has

children, you must be deliberate and

to anyone. Thankfully, my husband

been faithful to us all. gw

intentional about spending quality

and I have trusted parties with whom

time with them.

we can be vulnerable.

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There is a huge amount of fraud in

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Tell us a bit about yourself?

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My name is Abigael Akintola, a

How can one avoid being scammed?

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and has to be treated as such.

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Can anybody apply?

You can verify the status of your

Yes, anybody can apply but your

immigration consultant to ensure

eligibility and admissibility are two

the person is truly licensed and in

major criteria for Canadian Immigration

How long does the process take?

Does your marital status affect your

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There is no fixed time duration for

immigration approval?

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other hand, applies to all immigration

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processing, they need to inform IRCC and the application will be rejected.

Marriage fraud or marriage of convenience is not allowed and where

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an applicant is married or divorced,

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your terms of employment and

he/she needs to update the IRCC about

commitments, qualifications and

status in Canada, you could have a

the change in their marital status while

other requirements needed to be met

tax refund at the end of the fiscal

their application is in process.

for every program.

year.

What would you advise anyone

In addition, the immigration process

3. Cost of Living: This differs from

seeking to move to Canada?

is not as seamless as it looks. Hence,

one city to another. The major cost

I would simply say: go for it!

for best results, applicants are advised

component of your living expenses

to enlist the help of Immigration

is accommodation while other costs

However, before you make the move,

consultants who have vast experience

include, food, utility bill, childcare,

it is important to read and learn about

in immigration and know what is

transit, car insurance, parking,

your destination prior to moving

required to be successful.

etc. The required proof of funds in

there, this will help set you on the

your immigration application is the

right immigration journey and also

What are 4 things to bear in mind

settlement fund that shows how

integrate you into the Canadian

when planning to immigrate to

much money you need to settle in

life. In order to avoid confusion and

Canada?

Canada. The Canadian Immigration

career job while you are actively

unrealistic expectations prior to

1. Weather: Canada has 10 provinces

has stated the required settlement

applying for your dream job. There

moving to Canada, planning and

and 3 territories. It is necessary to

fund for 1 family member to be

are legitimate recruiting firms

proactiveness are important to

do a background research on your

$12,960/year while each additional

and settlement organizations that

province of destination to find

family member requires on average

offer free services to newcomers in

out about the climate. Generally,

about $3,175.

Canada.

…the immigration process is not as seamless as it looks. Hence, for best results, applicants are advised to enlist the help of Immigration consultants…

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REAL ISSUES

Why You Need A

COACH REAL ISSUES

I

Adeyanju Olomola

f you could have sorted it out, fixed it, moved forward, got unstuck, changed the outcomes you are getting, achieved personal and

professional growth or got clarity on what next to do, you would have done it by now! These words though simple, challenged my long-held thoughts about my ability to change things about me.

Perhaps the reluctance or apathy where coaching is concerned is largely due to the lack of understanding of what the profession is all about, to the proliferation of 2-3 days seminar attendees (I heard a new term “studio coaches”) who proclaim themselves to be coaches to the fact that it’s a growing profession without regulation yet.

I can tell you all about coaching, give you definitions and explain what it is and isn’t but I personally feel the

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best way to get people to understand

That said, the benefits attributed

The focus in a coaching conversation

transformation as your awareness is

what coaching is all about is when

to coaching are numerous. The

is the individual and the agenda solely

heightened, thinking is deepened and

they experience it. coaching is future-

outcome of research done over the

his/hers. This is a partnership where

widened, perspectives broadened, you

focused and is about moving you from

years by ICF and PriceWaterhouse

you have someone for a determined

begin to see different options available

your current state to a desired state.

Coopers. People who have experienced

period of time in your corner,

and you chart a course to your desired

There are so many apt definitions, here

professional coaching have attested to

listening to all you say and don’t say;

outcomes.

are a couple to give a general overview.

improvements self-confidence, work

challenging with care, your beliefs and

performance, relationships, business

stories you have held on to which may

We see global change makers,

“Partnering with clients in a thought-

management, communication skills,

require re-examination to determine

accomplished men and women who

provoking and creative process that

time management, team effectiveness

their validity; reflects back to you, your

have worked with a professional coach

inspires them to maximize their personal

and life/work balance or integration.

words, your emotions; champions

at some point attest to the power and

your accomplishments; evokes

impact of coaching. The famous quote

and professional potential” —The International Coaching Federation

attributed to Bill Gates “Everyone needs a coach”, really makes a case for

“A collaborative solution-focused,

the profession to be available to all.

results-orientated and systematic process in which the coach facilitates

Whilst one is advocating for coaching

the enhancement of performance, life

as an integral part of society, helping

experience, self-directed learning and

people to unleash the enormous

personal growth of individuals and

potential within, it is equally important

organizations”—Anthony Grant

to provide guidance on how to go about choosing a coach. Which coach would

“Coaching isn’t therapy. It’s product

be most appropriate for you? More to

development, with you as the

come on this….

product.” —Fast Company Coaching transforms! gw “A coach is someone who tells you what you don’t want to hear, who has you see

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what you don’t want to see, so you can be

CEO/Lead Coach

who you have always known you could

The Source Coaching Ltd

be.”— Tom Landry

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ISSUES OF THE HEART

Don’t Give Up Dr. Faith Adewale

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ou have heard about people

Yes! I know that you feel so terrible

who are going through

that you even ask God why all these

challenging situations in

are happening to you. Yes! I know

life, and you must have

that I might not really be able to

wondered how they fared through

“understand” because I am not

the storm. Maybe you had even been

passing through the same thing

instrumental in providing succour to

you’re passing through. Yes! I know

them during those times. However, it

that the pain can be so unbearable

hits differently when the walls come

that taking your own life becomes

crashing around you, and it seems as

enticing. Yes! I also know that people

though all hell was let loose just for

are not even helping matters with

your sake; at times like these, giving

the way they treat you with so much

up seems like the only doorway open

disdain and mockery. But, I want

before you.

you to know that you have a Father

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Life happens in phases and seasons. Those unpleasant situations and circumstances surrounding your life right now are tools in God’s hands to show forth His infinite wisdom in and through your life. who has gone ahead of you and has

and He is with you forever (John 14:16

given you His sure promises. He said,

AMP). So, engage the ministry of the

“...Fear not: for I have redeemed thee, I

Holy Spirit within you and let Him help

have called thee by thy name; thou art

you throughout every season of your

mine. When thou passest through the

life.

waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow

Life happens in phases and seasons.

thee: when thou walkest through the

Those unpleasant situations and

fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither

circumstances surrounding your life

shall the flame kindle upon thee. For I

right now are tools in God’s hands to

am the LORD thy God, the Holy One of

show forth His infinite wisdom in and

Israel, thy Saviour: I gave Egypt for thy

through your life. They are not your

ransom, Ethiopia and Seba for thee.”

destination, but rater someting you

(Isaiah 43:1-3 KJV) [Emphasis mine]

are temporarily passing through. This

Your Heavenly Father knows you

might just be your season of pruning

better than you know yourself and He

and training. Seek God’s face to know

has given you His Holy Spirit to live in

what He is working out in you through

you, who is greater than every force,

this season and you’ll be better

situation and circumstance which

positioned to maximise each season

seeks to bring you down [1 John 4:4].

and phase of your life. Giving up was

You’re not disadvantaged, rather,

not an option at the cross, so it is not

you’re the advantaged one. The Holy

an option for you now and it will never

Spirit is right there within you as

be God’s option/choice for you. Stick

your Helper, Comforter, Advocate,

through till the end, you’re coming out

Intercessor, Counselor, Strengthener

SHINING LIKE GOLD! gw

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LIGHT REFLECTIONS

3

Stop the Comparison

Ways to Live an Envy Free Life Bolanle Olawale Envy consists in seeing things never in themselves, but only in their relations. If you desire glory, you may envy Napoleon, but Napoleon envied Caesar, Caesar envied Alexander, and Alexander, I daresay, envied Hercules, who never existed.”

E

—Bertrand Russell

nvy in this world of materialism, competitions, factions and divisions seems to be inevitable.

You would think this is relegated to the world and not found in the church but this is not the case. We find that even in the church, we can see the schemes of envy at work. This monster called envy thrives in many communities and is responsible for many tragic occurrences. Let’s put it in context:

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Envy is the desire to have a quality, possession, or other desirable attribute that belongs to someone else.

Envy’s loud whispers says; “They have this and I want what they have”.

LIGHT REFLECTIONS

Here are three ways to get rid of envy

1

There are always new business opportunities to find, new jobs to

Develop an abundance mentality.

apply for and new people to date or

Envy often seems to come from a

make friends with.

perceived scarcity in some area of

your life.

This whisper will always affects the

This way of thinking relieves you of so much pressure and helps to align your

mind and heart and bring troubles to

Maybe you feel envious because

thinking right.

anyone. The bible has a lot of warnings

someone else got the job you wanted,

concerning this ancient troublemaker.

or because someone else got the

We should not envy sinners, our

opportunity that you had hoped for.

Satan’s device is to use this sin to hinder

Perhaps you are feeling envious

2

the progress of the Gospel, by creating

because you are afraid of losing

the sinful nature desires what

disunity among believers. Envy is a sin

something and feel that you cannot do

is contrary to the Spirit, and

that has devastating effects and must

without it.

the Spirit what is contrary to

neighbors, or our fellow believers.

Living by the Holy Spirit So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the

not be allowed in our midst.

desires of the sinful nature. For

the sinful nature. They are in Focusing your mind on the perceived

conflict with each other, so

Envy prohibits us from taking chances

scarcity can cause these strong

that you do not do what you

or delving into the unknown because

negative emotions to arise in you.

want. “But if you are led by

we end up so focused on other people.

the Spirit, you are not under

You just judge people that have taken

To get out of this confining and

the chances from the safety of the

destructive mentality, you can

sidelines.

choose to focus on the opportunities

Every Man has to be led by

that abound and instead develop an

something. Man’s life must

abundance mentality.

have a driver, to direct and

Feeling envious can also make you feel like a victim.

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the law.” (Galatians 5:16-18)

lead his life on the right path

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To overcome and live a life free from envy we should live by the Spirit, and choose the Holy Spirit as our leader.

Spend less time analyzing life and more time living and exploring it in whatever way you believe God wants you to.

and to the right place. We should

The thing is that there is always

Adding a regular gratitude exercise

If you find yourself sitting around

choose the Holy Spirit as the leader

someone with better or more than you.

into your everyday life will also greatly

too much and not having enough to

and the driver of our life and not flesh.

So you can never “win”. You cannot

help to minimize envious thoughts.

do then it’s very easy to feel stuck,

always focus on who is doing better or To overcome and live a life free from

who has more than you.

envy we should live by the Spirit, and

get stuck and eventually go into a So take just five minutes out of your

downward spiral.

day to focus on being grateful for all

choose the Holy Spirit as our leader.

A more useful way to compare is to just

the things you have. Make a list of

By filling your life with more activities

Give him full control and the voice of

compare yourself to yourself.

them in your head or write them down

and opportunities to be a blessing to

in journal at the beginning or end of

others, you will fiind that you have

the day.

less time to be envious, or preoccupied

envy will be silenced.

3

Look at how you have grown and what

what others have is a good way to make

Comparing yourself with yourself

yourself miserable.

will make you more positive and

Get a life.

whatever way you believe God wants

emotionally stable since you are no

I can’t say it more bluntly than that.

you to do. gw

Compare yourself with

you have achieved. Appreciate what

yourself.

you have done and what you have.

Comparing what you have to

with the happenings of others.

I know I said 3 ways but I need to add this:

The Bible states that those that

longer comparing and feeling envious

compare themselves are foolish!

of others. By doing this you become

So spend less time analyzing life and more time living and exploring it in

more grateful for what you have.

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Self Reliant

I

or GOD Dependent?

Milly Ola

n this modern world of many amenities, we have come to depend on many things whether we notice it or not. We depend on electricity in our homes to run our appliances, we depend on our phones to communicate with people. We heavily even depend on Google to give us the right answers.

According to Merriam-Webster’s

to show up and be of assistance?

online dictionary, ‘depend’ means to

Unfortunately, people and things

place reliance or trust in. The fact is

are going to let you down. Being

that we depend on many things and

disappointed is a part of being human.

many people for our survival however, at any time those things or those

But who you depend on could be the

people can fail you.

difference between constant stress, frustration, peace and harmony.

Have you ever had one of your appliances fail you? Car suddenly

Really, the only person who we can

stops working or your laptop suddenly

totally depend is God. Why? The list

doesn’t power on. Or have you been

is unending, but a few of them are:

let down by someone who was meant

Because He never fails, He always

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Learning to depend on God, means learning to fully trust in Him to supply all of your needs.

shows up, He always does what is best for us (even if we don’t like it) and He is always trustworthy.

Acts 11:28 reminds us: “For in him we live, and move, and have our being.

When you learn to depend on God for everything, what you’re really doing is relinquishing control of your life and handing over the steering wheel to Jesus.

When your dependence lies on the one who is master of all, even through situations where everything seems to be going wrong, you will be able to run to your Abba Father and cast all of your cares upon Him, knowing with full faith

to themselves as “self made” and

that He is going to take care of you.

they often boast in their abilities and capabilities.

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“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with

They fail to acknowledge that the

thanksgiving let your requests be made

mere fact that they’re awake today is

known unto God.” (Philippians 4:6)

a testimony and is dependent on God .

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When you acknowledge his workings

Learning to depend on God, means

in your success.

learning to fully trust in Him to supply

When you pray daily because you

all of your needs. By doing so, you are

know you cannot go through the day

modelling Jesus, who trusted in His

without God.

father and did all things according to

When you call on God for both the

His will.

big and small stuff. zz

When you practice obedience,

So I ask, are you self-reliant or Goddependent? Examine yourself. gw

On the contrary, A self-reliant person

You know you are God-dependent

regardless of the situation you find

is one who believes “my intelligence,

when:

yourself.

strength, power, and money can

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handle my life”. You hear them refer

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you believe that God is able to keep his promises to you.

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When you live your life according to the principle; ‘Less of me, more of Him’

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ETIQUETTE

Making a Difference Taiwo Isijola

M

aking a difference means

If everyone imbibes the culture of

having your mind set on

a making a difference, it will create

positively impacting the

an exceptional, progressive and

world, your community.

innovative environment.

This mindset features decorum,

If you are not making a difference,

integrity and wisdom as the principles

then you are not fulfilling purpose,

of living and engaging with people.

and missing a great opportunity to make an indelible mark.

Be the best, exude excellence and diligence in your outlook to life and

Make a difference, no matter

relationships with people. This is key

how little, Make a Mark.

in making a difference.

Remember you are called to be a ‘Light’ in a complex

Another aspect in making a difference

society.

is a mind of innovation. A mind of innovation will see new ways to impart

We are not called to

knowledge and positive values to your

conform, but called

generation by:

to transform lives and destinies.

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Ministering hope, and building the potentials of your generation.

Make a difference

Cultivating the culture and aura of

today! gw

excellence.

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Make a difference, no matter how little, Make a Mark. Remember you are called to be a ‘Light’ in a complex society.

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Maximising Strength in Your Quiet Time Ronke Adeoti

T

he world, presently, is

shadow of the Almighty”. The secret

filled with all manner of

place is where God dwells, but not

wickedness, evil, negativity,

many of God's children are acquainted

injustice, famine, deaths etc.

with this place. For you to access the

as already prophesied in 2 Timothy 3:1-

secret place of the Most High, you must

5. But there is a place to run to despite

have a personal relationship with Him.

the challenges we encounter around us, and that place is the secret place of

To maximise means to make as large

the Almighty. Psalm 91:1 states, “He

as possible; to make the best use of; to

that dwelleth in the secret place of

make something as great in amount,

the most High shall abide under the

size, or importance as possible; to

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increase; to use something in a way

utterly fall: But they that wait upon the

from God, and we must always

these things I delight, saith the

that gives you the greatest practical

LORD shall renew their strength; they

acknowledge Him as the source of

LORD.”

value or the best results.

shall mount up with wings as eagles;

it. We are not to take the honour of

they shall run, and not be weary;and

the power God has endowed us with

they shall walk, and not faint.”

upon ourselves, we must always

nothing without His strength. In

give the accolades to Him. Jeremiah

our weaknesses, we could fall prey

The word “katei” in Greek means “power, strength, might". In the

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Rely On His Strength: We can do

Bible, strength is often linked to God’s

Hence, how do we increase, grow , or

9:23-24 says, “Thus saith the

to the antics, wiles and schemes of

power. The unlimited power of Christ

raise God’s power in our quiet time?

LORD, Let not the wise man glory in

the devil, but our total dependence

is the source of strength for those who

How do we maximise the strength of

his wisdom, neither let the mighty

on His strength makes His

belong to Him.

God during our quiet time?

man glory in his might, let not the

strength perfect in our weakness

rich man glory in his riches: But let

(2 Corinthians 12:9). Habakkuk 3:9

Acknowledge God as the Source

him that glorieth glory in this, that

says, “The Sovereign LORD is my

“He giveth power to the faint; and to

of Your Strength: He’s the giver of

he understandeth and knoweth me,

strength, he makes my feet to like

them that have no might he increaseth

strength and He gives it to whom

that I am the LORD which exercise

the hinds feet, he enables me to

strength. Even the youths shall faint

He wills. Whatever strength we

loving kindness, judgment, and

tread upon my high places.”

and be weary, and the young men shall

have now is not our own, it comes

righteousness, in the earth: for in

Isaiah 40:29-31

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Wait On the Lord: To wait means “to

saying that you get renewed by being

Cultivate an Atmosphere of His

where the Spirit of the Lord is,there

bind together”, it’s about binding

very close to the Lord. Waiting is a

Presence: God wants us to draw

is liberty.” In this place, we are not

together with Him; to abide, to tarry,

proactive stance of drawing close to

close to Him. He wants us, His

only strengthened but we can hear

to continue, to be present, to last and

God. Psalm 27:14 says, “Wait on the

children, to live and be in His

Him more clearly. When you draw

endure. Those who bind together

LORD: be of good courage, and he

presence always, not just once in

nigh to God, He will draw nigh to

with Him shall renew their strength.

shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I

a while. 2 Corinthians 3:17 says,

you. Living in His presence is living

Prophet Isaiah in Isaiah 40:31 was

say, on the LORD.”

“Now the Lord is that Spirit: and

in the very life of the Most High

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where no evil can touch or come close to you. It is possible to cultivate the atmosphere of God’s presence every where you go and this is done mostly by praying in the Holy Spirit or praying in tongues. Jude 1:20 says, “But ye, beloved, building up yourselves on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Ghost”. You can also cultivate an atmosphere of His presence through the act of worship. zz

Live a Joy-filled Life: A joyfilled life is a strong life. There’s something joy does to a man’s heart that people cannot understand.

Having a happy disposition or a glad heart improves the body. When the heart rejoices, the countenance is cheerful but a depressed heart weighs a person down or makes the person vulnerable to sicknesses and diseases which dries up the bones.

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Take with You Words: Faith-filled words in your quiet time and place gives you extraordinary strength.

Remove any form of poisonous words that drains and kills from your mouth. The Bible says death and life are in the power of the tongue and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. You want life, strength and power to be activated in your life, then speak only faithfilled words, not otherwise. Your words count because what you say is what you will receive.

Proverbs 6:2 “Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of thy mouth.”

Faith-filled words strengthen, dominating the laws of sin and death.

God is our source of strength, call out

The Bible says death and life are in the power of the tongue and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. You want life, strength and power to be activated in your life, then speak only faith-filled words, not otherwise.

to Him during your difficult times and let His power carry you through those

May you be strengthened in your inner

challenging times.

man in Jesus’ name, Amen. gw

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PASTOR

BIMBO FOLA-ALADE Interview by Bolanle Olawale

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ome people say that the 50s are the new 30s, and our invigorating cover personality proves it. Her story will inspire you to chase your dreams and maximize the gifts that God has blessed you with. She

also shows us that getting older earns us benefits that we should eagerly embrace and celebrate. While most people look back nostalgically at their youth, very few people actually want to be 22 again. The uncertainty and anxiety of our 20s is replaced by a sense of acceptance, equanimity, and self-knowledge once we reach our 40s, 50s, and beyond. A Pastor, Counsellor, author, wife, and mother, Bimbo Fola-Alade shares with us just a few things to celebrate as we age, how to win at relationships and how to maximize our time on earth for God.

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PERSONAL What would you name the auto-

experiences but longing to live more

biography of your life?

purposefully and stronger than before.

Interesting! Perhaps, ‘Growing into grace’. The great quest of my life is

People say age is just a state of

learning to be settled in all God has

mind. Why do you think many

done for me, put in me and called me to.

women are af raid of getting older and what advice would

You recently celebrated your

you give such women?

50th birthday how do you think

I think women are scared of getting

your perspective has changed

older because so much of our value as

ever since?

women societally can be wrapped up in

That’s a great question. One of the

our looks and that tends to decline with

things that turning 50 has afforded me

age. But we need to measure ourselves

is the privilege to look back at the areas

more by our donation to society and the

of my life where God has used me to

people we are becoming, growing into.

make some impact and to rest in that

Age has so many benefits–insight,

and build on it; instead of thinking of it

know-how, experience, wisdom. It

as a fluke or something that happened

should be embraced.

by chance.

What’s the toughest choice It seems 50 is the new 40, what

you’ve ever had to make?

new experiences are you looking

Toughest choice. Hhmm, one of them

forward to in this new stage of life?

was switching my boys from a day

I agree! 50 is definitely the new 40

school to different boarding schools at

or maybe even 35, just with more

the secondary level. It was extremely

experience and confidence. I am not

hard for me because they had always

so much looking forward to new

been together; but it was necessary

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Have you ever had something happen to you that initially

The importance of understanding my husband’s personality, expectation and needs and adapting myself to meet them

seemed negative but it turned out to be for the best?

Not being able to really build my legal career because my boys came very to stretch them to their potential.

early on in marriage when I was trying

Another tough choice was deciding to

to build my legal career; but it meant I

relocate to the UK to court and then

could focus on being present as a mum

marry my husband; so much was at

and become more involved in serving

stake.

at church.

Do you have a morning (or eve-

What chore do you absolutely

ning) ritual that helps you be

hate doing?

more efficient and productive?

I actually enjoy housekeeping so there

Most days I start my day with prayer

are no chores I really hate. But I do not

and bible study–it is the most

like untidy spaces so it leaves me very

important part of my day. It leaves me

unsettled when a space is in that state.

feeling set for the day ahead.

MARRIAGE What is the best part of being

whether it would happen or if I would

married to Pastor Sola?

meet someone I could settle down with.

He carries a lot of favour, spiritually and naturally, which I enjoy by

What’s the best marital advice

association.

you’ve ever received?

How are you able to prioritize your

and be together. The key word here is

The importance of understanding my

marriage with your busy life?

try because we often end up talking

What do you wish you had known

husband’s personality, expectation

It’s tough. We try to be strict with our

about church anyway, but we try not to.

before getting married?

and needs and adapting myself to meet

day off and not do anything ministry

We also prioritise our family holidays.

To not fret about getting married i.e.

them.

related on that day so that we can rest

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What are the most common pit-

What one decision has helped

falls to avoid in marriage?

you achieve the most success in

Being self-centred, inconsiderate,

marriage?

hasty in speech and unforgiving.

To always lean on God to build my home.

PARENTING / FAMILY LIFE

My children are very different and have different strengths. I have tried not to force them in a particular direction but to recognise their giftings…

What memories do you hope your children have of their childhood?

That they were truly loved, valued and cared for.

How have you been able to recognize and encourage both of your children’s strengths?

My children are very different and have different strengths. I have tried not to force them in a particular direction but to recognise their giftings and interests and support them in being excellent in those areas.

What do you most enjoy and appreciate about each person in your family?

My husband is a lot of fun. He makes me laugh a lot and I enjoy spending time with him. He’s my best friend. He’s also very romantic and emotionally demonstrative which is lovely.

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What’s an important lesson you’ve learned in ministry and how has it proven invaluable?

Know why you are doing what you are doing.

Most days I start my day with prayer and bible study–it is the most important part of my day. It leaves me feeling set for the day ahead.

Ministry is unto the Lord, sometimes you’ll give a lot to people and get nothing in return; but God is a rewarder.

If you could witness any event in the bible what would it be?

Oh wow, it would be to see Jesus in the flesh, to just behold him. What a privilege!

FAITH / COUNSELLING What would you tell a woman who is What is your favorite scripture and

struggling to make things work?

why?

Go to God and get a strategy for what you are

Oh my, I have so many. Scriptures that I have

seeking.

lived in, that God has used to anchor me or prompt faith in me at key points in my life.

How do you know when it’s the right time

One of them is Psalm 107:23-24. They that go

to leave a relationship?

down to the sea in ships, that do business in great

Relationships need work and even right

waters; these see the works of the LORD, and his

relationships can be difficult. It would be difficult

wonders in the deep. There are some wonders

to give a general answer as that will depend on the

of the Lord that we will only see out of our

specifics of the relationship and the individuals

comfort zone, in the deep. This speaks to me

involved.

of when we stepped out to start our ministry and saw God’s provision and care in amazing

Thank you. gw

ways in what was a wilderness season.

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F E AT URE

Follow Your Passion

CAREER into has been a buildup towards my

Enoshowo Lois Eworo

photography career.

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e are told over and over again that we should always follow our dreams, follow our passions and make our dreams a reality.

How did your family react when you

We met up with the CEO of “captured by Adesuwa photography” CBA, who did

decided to pursue photography

just that. CBA is a photography company that specializes in newborn, children and

instead of architecture?

family portraits based in Lagos, Nigeria. In this interview, she shares her journey

Well, it was a roller coaster of mixed

towards living her dream, following her passion and discovering her niche.

emotions, my dad wasn’t so convinced about how I would make a living from

PERSONAL

photography (even though it’s an inherited hobby from him) my mum on

Tell us a bit about yourself and your brand

Your pictures are beautiful, but your

the other hand was really supportive,

Okay, I’m Enoshowo Lois Eworo, by

children pictures are so exceptional

as far as it wasn’t taking me away from

God’s grace a passionate young woman

how do you get those amazing

and a graduate of Architecture. I own

pictures?

a brand called “Captured by Adesuwa

To be very honest, it most definitely

Photography” CBA. Adesuwa is one

has to be God with a touch of passion

Why did you choose to pursue

of my many names given to me by my

and patience, because children

photography as a career, even though

GrandFather, in case you’re wondering

photography requires an extra level of

you studied architecture?

where Adesuwa came from lol.

patience as we get to work with infants

This question! Well, I’ve come to

and toddlers who pretty much don’t

believe it’s a calling as I’ve evolved in

understand things yet.

the craft. But really, as much as I love

CBA is a photography company, that specializes in newborn, children and

Architecture, I couldn’t see myself

family portraits and is based in Lagos,

So how do I get those “exceptional

doing a routine job and sitting long

Nigeria. My purpose with this brand

images” in your words. It’s God,

hours (ironically I do that now, but

is to document family & children

patience, passion and constantly

staring at adorable humans)

memories in the most timeless and

acquiring knowledge about the craft.

creative way and as a result showcasing

However, one thing I’m certain about

the love of the Father.

is that every single thing I’ve delved

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the path of righteousness she was there

space I’m not familiar with, second

on how fast these little ones grow and

What advice would you give to

to cheer and encourage all the way.

was how do I convince parents of the

why it’s important to freeze moments

upcoming photographers?

importance of documenting their

in pictures for a life time. I believe it

Don’t chase the money or the fame,

Daddy eventually came around when

infants and also getting them to trust

was quite convincing because no one

those come with excellence, diligence

he saw my zeal, passion and devotion.

me to handle their babies, third was

can say no to those adorable eye and

and dedication. Many make the

the challenge of how to charge for this

smiles right?

mistake of wanting to make all the

What are the challenges you have had

service per right time.

to overcome in your career?

money at first, but it’s really a process For the third, it’s still a present

and processes should not be rushed.

The first challenge that readily comes

For the first, I decided to reach out

challenge, because as CBA evolves,

Also, invest in materials, courses,

to mind was how do I navigate this new

and help out photographer friends

a whole lot changes with it, and the

workshops, equipments.

and get acquainted with the field,

value and quality of work is what we

asked questions, watched videos, read

sell. Having to convince parents that

A word to that young lady that wants

articles etc

this isn’t just spending money, but it is

to start a business and doesn’t know

investing in your child’s and families

how?

For the second, I had to show them the

story for a life time. I mean years

Think Big, Start Small. Make your

importance, so I used my niece, offered

to come when they’re all great and

research, invest and begin somewhere.

some families complimentary session

doing so well, professional family and

Don’t allow fear of failure keep your

to sort of practice and build a credible

individual portraits from way back will

down. Every failure is a stepping stone

portfolio, and also enlightening them

be more valued and cherished.

for greatness. gw

Don’t chase the money or the fame.

Those come with excellence, diligence and dedication.

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T R AV E L G U I D E

Travel Made Easy: 7 Essential Tips Every Traveller Needs to Know Continued From Last Edition

Ife Isijola

5. Plan your itinerary

your travels. Deciding what to do is

Planning your travel itinerary is

probably one of the most exciting parts

everything and then put the list in

Alway keep in mind airline size

actually quite simple. Once you have

of making travel easy. You should look

priority order against your days to

and weight limits when choosing a

nailed down the destination, flight

on travel blogs, use great sites such as

create a daily schedule.

suitcase.

and accommodation, your next travel

tripadvisor.com, and ask friends who

planning step is to start a rough

have been to the destination before.

All in all, the most flexible itinerary is

Carry-on: Airlines include the wheels,

itinerary. This helps you organise

Once you have an idea on what you

often the best. Just because you have

not just the actual packing space when

your time and make the most out of

want to see or do, then make a list of

everything scheduled doesn’t mean

measuring carry-on height. Take note,

you have to follow your itinerary to the

many bags that are marketed as carry-

letter. The travel itinerary is there to

ons in shops are technically too tall to

help keep you on track, but it definitely

fit into some airlines’ bag sizers.

is not meant to constrain you. The button line is HAVE FUN.

Checked Luggage: Every kilogram counts, so when purchasing a suitcase,

6. Pack Well

you might want to look out for

Packing a suitcase may seem like a

ultralight luggage that would not eat

straightforward task, but do it wrong,

into your weight allowance.

and you could end up losing valuables,

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paying overweight baggage fees, or

When packing, start by making a

dragging about things you don’t need.

packing list a few days before your trip

That is why it is vital to learn how to

so you have time to pick up any last-

pack a suitcase the smart way. Take

minute items. Gather all the garments

note the following:

you anticipate needing, then reduce

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by half. The average 22-inch carry-

Packing too much can cost you dearly

Finally, you might want to lock your

on bag fits roughly two pairs of jeans,

in overweight baggage fees, so weigh

luggage to discourage theft.

three tops, two dresses, and five shirts.

your bag with a luggage scale before

The most efficient way to get things

going to the airport.

7. Get your documents in order

Label your bag with your name, email

For the most part, your passport is the

address, and phone number so the

most important piece of identification

Even if your carry-on is within legal

airline can contact you if it loses your

you can travel with. However, it helps

the copy to expedite the process of

limits, you might still be forced to

suitcase.

to have originals of at least one other

getting a replacement.

into your suitcase is to roll softer garments and fold stiffer ones.

check it at the gate, so it is important

Do not get stuck at the border without a printed or electronic itinerary.

piece of identification available such as

the bag has a luggage tag and any

If you have a black suitcase that looks like

a driver’s license. Make sure you have a

Despite the lack of a legal requirement

important or breakable items are

everyone else on the baggage carousel,

photocopy of your passport, and carry

for it, travel insurance is a must-have

easily accessible in case you need to

ensure you tie a colorful ribbon around

it on you separately from the original.

when abroad. An unexpected accident

transfer them to your personal item.

the handle or mark it so it’s easier for

This way, if your original is lost or

or illness could ruin your trip and

you to recognize.

stolen, you can show your consulate

impact your finances if you are not properly insured. Carry your travel insurance information with you at all times.

Some countries will not let you in without proof of onward travel in the form of a plane ticket or itinerary. Do not get stuck at the border without a printed or electronic itinerary.

Ensure you carry everything (passport, travel itineraries, insurance policies, and other items) safely and securely.

A ziplock bag or waterproof plastic folder is a great choice. gw

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HOME AND YOU

Keeping Your Home Tidy

Clean as You Cook Cleaning as you go saves time and keeps your kitchen tidy before, during and after meal preparation. If you’ll rather use the dishwasher, load it as you go to avoid a pile-up in the sink.

Olayinka Ashogbon

C

leaning is a way to relax for some, but a stressful and exhausting venture for others. There is a refreshing feeling that accompanies a clean home. Regardless of where you are on the spectrum, these six tips will help you always maintain a clean home always and cut down on time spent cleaning; so you can enjoy more of the things that matter.

Make Your Bed

Clean High Traffic Areas

As basic as that sounds, you will

The kitchen often has more traffic

be amazed at the impact making

than other spaces within the home,

your bed has on your wellbeing.

thereby, collecting a lot of dirt, stains,

Studies have shown there is

and debris. Spend few minutes each

a clear link between feeling

day sweeping and cleaning the kitchen

organized and making one’s

floor to prevent dirt from moving into

bed, as it helps improve focus,

other spaces within the home. This

goal setting and lowers stress

also applies to the living room if your

levels. Making your bed in the

living room is the high-traffic area

morning puts you in the right

of your home. While you are in the

frame of mind to tidy up other

kitchen, keep your counters clean and

things around the room.

clutter-free.

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Put Items Away After Use

Have a Routine

One of the keys to having a clean home is having a spot for everything in your home.

Tiny displaced items can pile up and turn into a big mess, so pick them up on the go. Teach your family members to do the same.

Create a routine that works for you, your home and family.

The above tips are perfect daily routines anyone can incorporate into their daily

Sort the Mail

schedule. In addition, create weekly, monthly, and seasonal cleaning routines

Sort the mail as soon as it arrives

to help maintain a clean and tidy space. Create a routine that works for you, your

into three categories namely:

home and family. Below is an example of daily routine to maintain a clean space

Action – Save for later – Shred.

and combat clutter.

“Action” stack could include

DAY

SUGGESTED ACTIVITY

for Later” stack should be a short

Monday

Dusting

pile of items you want to add/

Tuesday

Sheets and towel laundry

Wednesday

Kitchen counters and cabinet surfaces

Thursday

Fridge and trash clean out

Friday

Other laundry

Saturday

Bathrooms

Sunday

REST

bills, items to act on etc. “Save

use in the future e.g. Coupons.

For retail ads you might need in the future, take a picture of the ad and shred the paper ad. Junk mail goes in the “Shred” stack and shred those items as soon as possible.

With consistency, you can always maintain a clean home and spend more time relaxing. gw

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Lemon Rosemary Olive Oil Cake

CUISINE

Ingedients

fold mixture until just combined.

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125grams Sugar

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1 Lemon, zest, and juice

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1 Spig Rosemary

pan and bake for 35-40 minutes

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80ml Extra Virgin Olive Oil

or until toothpick comes out clean

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1 teaspoon Vanilla Extract

when you test the cake.

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2 Eggs, Large

hoop-whoop winter is finally over…and to awaken my tastebuds to spring

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1 teaspoon Baking Powder

I have enlisted my trusty weapon “Lemon”. I love lemon, from its zest in

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1/4 teaspoon Salt

cake to a cooling rack and let cake

cakes and juice for lemonade or tea; it’s hard not to love lemon. If I could only use

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115grams of All-Purpose flour

rest until it is cool to touch.

one flavour for my deserts it will be lemon; but I digress This weekend over dinner,

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60ml Milk

Seyi Farinu

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Step 3: Pour batter into a lined cake

Step 4: When cake is baked, transfer

Lemony Whipped Cream

I had an interesting idea to make a sweet cake out of savoury ingredients and I am must say this olive oil cake doesn’t make me miss butter at all. It’s everything

Directions

you would want in a cake and more;

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250ml 35% Cream

Step 1: Preheat oven to 325°F. Oil

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1 Lemon, zest, and juice

moist, light and young delicious. For

a 6-inch cake pan or loaf tin with

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2 tablespoons Powdered Sugar

this cake premium extra virgin olive

cooking spray or vegetable oil and

oil to enhance the taste of the lemon

line the bottom with parchment

In a large cold bowl combine all

and rosemary. (Yes, you heard me,

paper (this recipe works best with

ingredients and whisk with a hand

Rosemary)

a metal or cast-iron cake pan and

mixer or large whisk until the mixture

not a glass pan; metal and cast-

reaches stiff peak.

My family is as obsessed with

iron pans conduct heat evenly and

this cake as I am, even my fit-fam

results in a crispier edge)

brother didn’t allow me to take any home.

Finish the cake by spooning large amounts of the lemon whipped cream

Step 2: In a bowl, whisk the flour,

on the top of your garnish and garnish

salt and baking powder and set aside.

with lemon slices, fresh rosemary and

This cake is simple, and it doesn’t

In another bowl, whisk the olive oil,

a drizzle of olive oil.

require any special equipment

sugar, lemon zest, juice, vanilla

or skill, but it yields a unique and

extract and chopped rosemary for

Enjoy cake with friends and a chilled

unforgettable cake. But don’t take

about 3-4 minutes. Add eggs one at

refreshing beverage (lemonade would

my word for it, try it out for yourself

a time and whisk until emulsified.

be great). gw

(I dare you)

Add the dry ingredients and milk;

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PAINTING CHURCH, THE SMART WAY IT SEEMS THAT THERE WAS a little old church out in the countryside: painted white and with a high steeple.

One Sunday, the pastor noticed that his church needed painting.

He checked out the Sunday ads and found a paint sale. The next day, he went into town and bought a gallon of white paint. He went back out to the church and began the job.

He got done with the first side. It was looking great. But he noticed he had already used a half gallon. He didn’t want to run back in town and being the creative person that he was, he found a gallon of thinner in the shed out back, and began to thin his paint.

It worked out great. He finished the remaining three sides with that last half gallon of paint.

That night, it rained: it rained hard. The next morning when he stepped outside of the parsonage to admire his work, he saw that the first side was looking great, but that the paint on the other three sides had washed away.

The pastor looked up in sky in anguish and cried out, “What shall I do?”

A voice came back from the heavens saying, “Repaint, and thin no more!”

GOD IN THE OCEAN— STRONG FAITH! THERE WAS A PREACHER who fell in the ocean and he couldn’t swim. When a boat came by, the captain yelled, “Do you need help, sir?” The preacher calmly said “No, God will save me.”

A little later, another boat came by and a fisherman asked, “Hey, do you need help?” The preacher replied again, “No God will save me.”

Eventually the preacher drowned & went to heaven.

The preacher asked God, “Why didn’t you save me?” God replied, “Fool, I sent you two boats!”

LADY WITH VICTORIOUS FAITH VS. ROBBER ONE NIGHT A LADY came home from her weekly prayer meeting, found she was being robbed, and she shouted out, “Acts 2:38: ‘Repent & be baptized & your sins will be forgiven.’”

TAXI DRIVER AND THE PRIEST A PRIEST AND A TAXI DRIVER both died and went to heaven. St. Peter was at the Pearly gates waiting for them.

The robber quickly gave up & the lady rang the police. While handcuffing the criminal, a policeman said, “Gee mate, you gave up pretty easily.

How come you gave up so quickly?”

The robber said, “She said she had an axe and two 38’s!”

‘Wow, thank you’, said the taxi driver.

‘Come with me’, said St. Peter to the taxi driver.

The taxi driver did as he was told and followed St. Peter to a mansion. It had anything you could imagine from a bowling alley to an olympic size pool.

Next, St. Peter led the priest to a rugged old shack with a bunk bed and a little old television set.

‘Wait, I think you are a little mixed up’, said the priest.

‘Shouldn’t I be the one who gets the mansion? After all I was a priest, went to church every day, and preached God’s word.’

‘Yes, that’s true. But during your sermons people slept. When the taxi driver drove, everyone prayed.’

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DECISION

DECISION

It’s True; God Does not Love us Equally

The older brother thought erroneously

There will be times when you will

that he and his younger brother was

doubt it. There will be days when you

competing for their father’s affections.

misunderstand his love. But one thing

W

He assumed that he deserved more of

is certain: you will never escape it, for

hoever you are, your

it and it seemed to him that his dad was

love is who God is, and therefore loving

heavenly Father loves

playing favorites and giving away all

is what God does.

you differently than he

his love to his brother. But the father

loves other people. You are more than

reminded him that each child, while

He is a one-of-a-kind God who loves

a grain of sand in the vast desert called

fully beloved, is loved differently. And

the one-of-a-kind you.

humanity.

even in that mild rebuke, the father was

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What one child needs is not always

leading his oldest son toward a greater

All He asks is that you surrender

During one of those very authentic

what another needs. Just as there is a

clarity of what love is and what love does.

your life to Him so that He will guide

conversations with my children. One

time for a compassionate love, so there

of them asked me who I loved the most

is a time for tough love, as well as every

Whoever you are, your Father loves

and I immediately replied that I loved

manifestation of love in between.

you differently than he loves other

them all the same. I know they were

Imperfect as my love is, I strive to love

people. You are more than a grain of

Will you invite him to your life today

asking me in quantitative terms even

fully, as well as uniquely, the children

sand in the vast desert called human-

and make the decision that will ensure

though love cannot be measured like

God has given to me.

ity. You are a person in the truest kind

you live with Him in heaven for

of personal relationship, for you are

eternity?

one would measure cups of flour.

and keep you and ensure you live victoriously.

We do not call God “Father” because

in a relationship with your Father. He

Rather, what I was trying to let them

God is like men. We call men “fathers”

formed you in the womb, knows the

Please repeat this prayer below:

understand is that I love them all

because they are like God is.

number of hairs on your head.

Dear Father, I know that I am a sinner

uniquely.

and there is nothing I can do to save The father in the parable of the

You, as an individual, are the reason

myself. I confess my inability to forgive

Each child is precisely that—unique,

Prodigal Son, for example, loved both

Jesus came and died on the cross.

my own sins. I thank you for Christ who

an individual. I love each child in a way

his sons. He loved the one who stayed

befitting who they are, and the special

and the one who strayed. But he loved

Just as you are, he loves you. Totally

faith, I receive you into my heart as my

relationship we share.

each one differently, uniquely, in the

and yet uniquely, he loves you because

Lord and Saviour. From now help me to

way they needed to be loved.

you are His child.

live for you only in Jesus name. Amen. gw

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