a friend to have. Sometimes we confuse people who are around us, as friends. Friends do not hate, they honestly critique. Check yourself, do not surround yourself with haters. Sometimes you hear people say, “You either hate me or you love me.” Hate is not the opposite of love. Love and hate are more closely connected than what we think. They are just different sides of the same coin. When someone hates you, they still deeply care about you. When you are doing good work, someone will love it, not everyone, but someone will. You have gotten worried when no one cared enough to pay attention to you. When people do not love or hate you — when people do not care enough to feel any way about you and what you are doing — that is when you worry. Hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is.
DEALING WITH JEALOUSY AND HATRED The best way to tell who a hater is: Look at how they treat others and look at their actions. Do not think you are special. If they tear down and disrespect people, they consider friends and then smile in their faces when they come around, do not deceive yourself by thinking they will not be the same with you. I think the hardest thing for us as humans to do is to accept people for exactly who they are. Mrs. Christie Esi Bobobee said, “When someone shows you their true colours, believe them.” Hatred ultimately destroys the hater. Do not get tricked into thinking that you have to carry the burden of hate. The psychology of a hater is to impose their self-hate on 34
