Dealing With Jealousy And Hatred

a friend to have. Sometimes we confuse people who are around us, as friends. Friends do not hate, they honestly critique. Check yourself, do not surround yourself with haters.

Sometimes you hear people say, “You either hate me or you love me.” Hate is not the opposite of love. Love and hate are more closely connected than what we think. They are just different sides of the same coin. When someone hates you, they still deeply care about you. When you are doing good work, someone will love it, not everyone, but someone will. You have gotten worried when no one cared enough to pay attention to you. When people do not love or hate you — when people do not care enough to feel any way about you and what you are doing — that is when you worry. Hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is.

DEALING WITH JEALOUSY AND HATRED

The best way to tell who a hater is: Look at how they treat others and look at their actions. Do not think you are special. If they tear down and disrespect people, they consider friends and then smile in their faces when they come around, do not deceive yourself by thinking they will not be the same with you. I think the hardest thing for us as humans to do is to accept people for exactly who they are. Mrs. Christie Esi Bobobee said, “When someone shows you their true colours, believe them.” Hatred ultimately destroys the hater. Do not get tricked into thinking that you have to carry the burden of hate. The psychology of a hater is to impose their self-hate on

others. It is not as much about you as it is about them. Do not take hate personally, because at the end of the day — it just is not. Do not look at hate as a reflection of yourself and your work, but do not use it as a crutch either. Take time to reflect and critique yourself and surround yourself with others who are honest enough to do the same. Now go get you some haters!

2. TIME WASTERS: A person who either consciously or unconsciously tries to engage you in a fruitless investment of your energy, time, money, or attention. These people can be “takers” or simply object individuals. The truth is that engaging in these types of interactions is an act of time-wasting because you might have something better doing at that time.

3. MONEY GRABBER: Money grabbers are people who snatch other people’s money. From my point of view, those people are called money grabbers. Clearly something which does not belong to you and you take it in the absence of that person is money-grabbing.

4. OVER-SENSITIVITY: Mr. Ebenezer Arthur, The Regional Stool Lands Officer - Ashanti Region, says that people with sensory processing sensitivity feel more stressed by their work environment than most, but their managers rate them as the best performers. Although too much sensory or social stimulation can overwhelm highly sensitive people and make them stressed and withdrawn, they are conscientious, creative, hardworking, and dedicated individuals. Mr. Aaron Amfo-Adjei, a former