These Are Some Question From The Community Where I Live

CHAPTER 9 COMMUNITY Q&A

THESE ARE SOME QUESTIONS FROM THE COMMUNITY WHERE I LIVE

Question:

How can I be confident with weight?

Expert Answer:

(Licensed Professional Counselor, Mrs. Lady Evangelist C. Nanapain Akosua Amankwa-Arhin, Onua FM) Try to accept your weight rather than neglect it. You cannot fool yourself. Instead, try writing down the things you like about yourself and focus on those while accepting your current weight.

Question:

How do I stop putting myself down so much so I can be confident?

Community Answer:

Monitor your internal dialogue. Speak to yourself the way you would speak to a friend or family member. In other words, give yourself respect.

Question:

How do I feel better about myself when I feel like everyone around me is prettier, faster, smarter or whatever than me?

Community Answer:

Remember that everyone has flaws. Even if someone is pretty, fast, or smart, that person may be having a tough time too even though outwardly they make it look like life is a breeze.

Question:

How can I stay confident in front of jealous or mean-spirited people?

Community Answer:

Jealous people lack confidence themselves, and they’re trying to get a reaction out of you that brings you down to their level. Cut them out of your life if you can, and “kill them with kindness” if you can not.

Question:

How can I win people with my newfound confidence?

Community Answer:

Walk proudly and smile like everybody is happy and excited to see your changes. But always remember to be humble.

Question:

What if my friends let me down?

Community Answer:

Talk to them about how you feel. If they keep letting you down, let them go and find new friends. It may be hard now, but in the long run, you will be a lot happier without them bringing you down.

Question:

How can I become confident enough that I do not worry about people talking about me behind my back?

Community Answer:

Just be confident. Do not worry about what other people have to say - let them talk because you know exactly what you do and do not do.

Question:

When I make eye contact with people, they always look somewhere else on my face. What do I do? It is hard making eye contact when people do not focus on my eyes. It messes with my confidence.

Community Answer:

Do not worry, a lot of people do that as they are not always comfortable with eye contact, or you may be looking at them too long, too intensely. Remember that the eyes are windows to the soul and others may feel uncomfortable looking at them straight in the eye. If people do not look at you straight in the eyes, they’re probably just uncomfortable doing it. If you are staring too much, then look away now and then, to give them some space.

Question:

When I am talking to someone or a group, sometimes I get a mental block or I lose my train of thought. How do I stop doing this so I can sound more confident?

Community Answer:

This may well occur because you probably think about the thoughts the other person has for you instead of concentrating on the task of conversing. Stop worrying about what the other person is thinking and instead, think positively and be your true self. Focus most on ensuring the other person’s comfort and your comfort will occur as a result.

Just remember that every person in that group is an individual and that you are speaking to them as such. When you talk eye to eye with someone, you want them to hear what you say, to understand what you say. The difference when talking in a large group is that you’re now addressing a bunch of individuals, gathered in front of you and you’re still talking person to person.