Seven Ways to Make the Youth Feel Important

(Hebrews 8 verse 3), “For every high priest is appointed to offer both gifts and sacrifices. Therefore, it is necessary that this one also should have something to offer.”

SEVEN WAYS TO MAKE THE YOUTH FEEL IMPORTANT

The key to excellent relationships with others is quite simple: make them feel important. To the degree which you can make other people feel important – starting with members of your family and then extending outward to your friends and coworkers- you will become one of the most popular people in your world.

There are seven ways to make other people feel important. These simple practices one can learn through repetition. 1. Accept People the Way They Are: One of the deepest cravings of human nature is to be accepted by other people without judgment, evaluation, or criticism.

Psychologists call this behavior “unconditional positive regard”. This is when you accept the other person completely, without reservation for exactly the way he or she is.

Because most people are judgmental and critical, to be unconditionally accepted by another person raises that person’s self-esteem, reinforces his or her self-image, and makes that person feel happy about him or herself.

2. Show your Appreciation for others: whenever you appreciate another person for anything that he or she has done or said, you raise that person’s self-esteem and make him or her feel more important. Expressions of

appreciation – from small nods and smiles through to cards, letters, and gifts – raise people’s self-esteem and can cause them to like themselves more. As a result, by the law of indirect effort, they will like you more as well.

3. Be Agreeable: The most welcoming people in every situation are those who are generally agreeable and positive with others. On the other hand, argumentative people who question, complain, and disagree are seldom welcomed anywhere. When you nod, smile, and agree with another person when he or she is talking or expressing an opinion, you make that person feel intelligent, respected, valued, and important. When you are agreeable with another person, even if he says something with which you may not be in complete accord, you make that person feel happy to be in your presence. In every case, however, you smiled and agreed, nodding and asking them questions and listening to them express their ideas and opinions.

They go away feeling that they have had a good conversation with the speaker and that he/she probably agrees with them. It costs you nothing and it makes them happy. It makes them feel important.

4. Show your Admiration: people usually invest a lot of personal emotion in their possessions, traits, and accomplishments. When you admire something belonging to another person, it makes him feel happy about himself. As Abraham Lincoln said: “everybody

likes compliments”. Express your admiration for people’s appearances and specific items of their clothing or dress. Men are especially complimented when you say something nice about their ties and shoes. Women enjoy being complimented about their hair or any other item of their appearance. People spend a lot of time putting themselves together before they go out.

5. Pay Attention to Others: the most powerful way to raise another person’s self-esteem is to listen to him attentively when he speaks. The key to great listening is for you to ask questions and then hang on every word of the answers. When the person slows down or comes to the end of a statement, ask another question. Lean forward attentively. Listen without interrupting. Listen as though what the person is saying is the smartest and most interesting thing you have ever heard.

6. Never Criticize, Condemn, or Complain about anything, whether it be directly or indirectly. Never do or say anything that lowers a person’s self-esteem or make him feel less important or valuable. Refuse to gossip or negatively discuss other people. Never say anything about a person that you would not say to his face. So never complain needlessly about people or situations that you don’t like. Just be nice. ‘Nice’ is the kindest word to use for people in every field. Whenever you recommend or refer someone to someone else, don’t forget to mention how nice the person is.

In sales and business, the nicest people are always the most successful. People like to buy from them, buy again and then recommend them to their friends. People enjoy seeing nice people and they look forward to seeing them again.

7. Be Courteous, Concerned, and Considerate of Everyone

You Meet: Think of these as “the three Cs” and practice them with everyone you meet.

When you treat someone with courtesy and respect, he or she feels more valued and important, and will in turn value and respect you the more.

When you express concern about things that are happening in a person’s life, he warms up to you and likes you more. When someone is in a difficult situation and you express your concern or compassion, you touch his heart.

You connect with his emotions. Through this, you make yourself a more likable person.

Consideration is the third of the three Cs. When you practice consideration, you discipline yourself to do and say things to people that make them feel more valued and important.

PRAYER

Dear father, I thank you for enlisting me as an end time soul winner, armed with the glorious gospel of Christ. I’m committed to do the urgent spread of the gospel around the world, turning many unto righteousness, by your grace and power at work in me, in Jesus’ Name; Amen.

(1 Corinthians9 vs 16), “For if I preach the gospel, I have nothing to boast of, for necessity is laid upon me; yes, woe is me if I do not preach the gospel.”

For I have availed myself to spread the gospel to the youth of today for them to know that if you have God you have everything.