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Successfully re-entering the workforce Hey Taylor - I was laid off a few months ago and took the opportunity to travel and enjoy life for a bit. Now I’m ready to get back to work and want to find a job I Taylor Kovar enjoy. Any thoughts for a 32-year-old starting from scratch? - Tony Hey Tony - I hope the time off was refreshing! Nice that you were able to step out of the workforce for a minute and enjoy yourself. As for what you do next, start by thinking about what you want generally, then see if you can narrow it down to a few select fields. 1. Where do you want to be? Whether it’s a new city or a specific part of the town you live in, where you go definitely affects how much you like your job. Maybe you could even take this opportunity to start working from home! If your last job had you sitting behind a desk and you got tired of that, perhaps you’ll enjoy something a little more physical that has you working outdoors. If you aren’t tied to your current location, there could be good jobs in an area where the cost of living is lower. Or, maybe you don’t care at all about where you work and just want to find a company you love. “Where” is a good first question to ask yourself, no matter what the answer is.
you’ll have opportunities for advancement wherever you go, crunch the numbers and figure out if you can start small without hurting yourself financially. Sometimes taking a pay cut proves to be the first step in a long and fulfilling career. 3. What industries are on the rise? By giving yourself a blank slate, you have the opportunity to look at all the different job markets. If you were laid off from your previous job, maybe that’s because your old industry is struggling and it wouldn’t be wise to try and go back. Instead, read about emerging business models and see if anything piques your interest. I’ve got a post up at GoFarWithKovar.com identifying 10 trending businesses that might give you some ideas for where to look. My biggest piece of advice for your job hunt is to stay openminded. The best job in the world could be hiding in plain sight, so be open to everything and don’t sell yourself short. Good luck, Tony! Taylor Kovar, CEO of Kovar Capital. Read more about Taylor at GoFarWithKovar.com
Disclaimer: Information presented is for educational purposes only and is not an offer or solicitation for the sale or purchase of any specific securities, investments, or investment strategies. Investments involve risk and, unless otherwise stated, are not guaranteed. Be sure to first 2. How much do you need to consult with a qualified financial make? We all want big paychecks, adviser and/or tax professional but it’s so much more important to before implementing any do something you enjoy. By strategy discussed herein. To making a budget and figuring out submit a question to be what you really need to make to get answered in this column, please by each month, you could free send it via email to yourself up to take an entry-level Question@GoFarWithKovar.com, or position at a company you really via USPS to Taylor Kovar, 415 S like instead of heading straight for 1st St, Suite 300, Lufkin, TX a management job at a company 75901. you aren’t that fond of. Assuming
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Living with children Q: Some friends of ours who’ve read a couple of your books and attended one of your talks told us that they solved some major discipline problems with their 4-year-old John Rosemond just by using what they called alpha speech. They tried to explain it to us, but we’d like to get it straight from the horse’s mouth, so to speak. Would you please help us better understand what they were talking about, and are there other parenting authors who say the same thing? A: The concept of alpha speech is not original to me. In generations past, it was widely understood to be the essence of proper child discipline. I simply named it. I also refer to it as leadership speech. Regardless, it is the very traditional understanding that the successful discipline of a child is more a matter of properly conveying authority than properly using consequences (albeit the latter is also important).
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Alpha speech rests on the simple and historically verified proposition that “a child’s natural response to the proper presentation of authority is obedience.” Before venturing any further, I need to stress that obedience on the part of a child is definitely in the child’s best interest. The more obedient the child, the more relaxed and happy the child, which is precisely the opposite of what mental health folks alleged. Alpha speech in four parts: (1) When giving instruction to a child, speak from a fully upright position (as opposed to the silliness of “getting down to the child’s level.” (2) Use the fewest words possible. (3) Do not explain yourself, but simply tell the child what you want him to do in a matter-of-fact tone. (4) When a child wants to know “Why?” (which is what children ask in the absence of an explanation), your answer should be “Because I said so” or a variation thereof.
For example, if you want a child to put on his coat and wait by the front door, you say, “I want you to put on your coat and wait for me by the front door.” You DON’T say, “I have to go down the street As a rule, today’s parents believe in and give a casserole to Miss Gloria and it would really help Mommy if behavior modification. They believe in techniques, such as time you’d put on your coat because it’s out and star charts and approaches chilly out and wait for me by the of that sort, approaches that involve front door.” That approach is likely to draw resistance of one the manipulation of reward and punishment. Somewhat derisively, I sort or another. refer to them as “consequence Alpha speech is nothing more than delivery systems.” saying what you mean and meaning what you say. It is The wrong-headed notion that employed by effective leaders, correct consequences, used thus the alternate label. It is neither correctly, would solve just about threatening or promising. Oh, and any behavior problem became when the child obeys, it is best to popularized in the 1970s. The say simply “Thank you” without mental health professional an exclamation point as opposed to community claimed that rewards “Good boy! Mommy’s going to and praise – the operative meme take her little man to the ice cream was “catch ‘em being good” – store later today!” would strengthen good behavior while punishment and ignoring would weaken bad behavior. It all In discipline, as in decorating, less sounded quite simple, utopian even, is usually more. but we now know, or should, that what works quite reliably with rats Family psychologist John Rosemond: johnrosemond.com, and dogs does not work nearly as parentguru.com. well with human beings. In fact, researchers have found that reward and punishment, when used with children, can be and often are counterproductive, which goes a long way toward explaining why the behavior and discipline of children has become increasingly problematic since parents began
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relying on behavior modification.
John Rosemond has worked with families, children, and parents since 1971 in the field of family psychology. In 1971, John earned his masters in psychology from Western Illinois University and was elected to the Phi Kappa Phi National Honor Society.
