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How To Parent Well After The Loss Of A Spouse Ibironke Olubamise
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emotions which started manifesting in strange ways. Thank God we were able to overcome through prayers and support of brethren. Afterwards the children better appreciated the fact that we have “no other God but Him”.
I have learned that as a Christian, it’s best to learn the character side of Christianity first before the charisma side.
o one prays to lose his/her
and loving family fellowship that we
spouse or to be a widow/
used to have, is proof that God really
I have learned that as a Christian,
widower; it is not a good
has our back and I can’t ask for more.
it’s best to learn the character side of
is also an important part of raising
Christianity first before the charisma
children. I believe people should attach
experience… for obvious reasons. However, I can categorically say that
Talking about challenges after his
side. This helped us to stabilize not too
discomfort or reward to behaviors, so
I am enjoying God in a dimension
demise, while myself and my daughter
long after my husband’s demise.
they understand the consequence of
that I could never have if my spouse
cried our hearts out, my son shed
was still around. Of course, I had it
no tear and we took him for acting
In leading by example, my son and I
rough at the beginning, giving in to
strong. But when I started seeing
have now become so similar spiritually
the devil’s tricks and gimmicks but
some negative behaviors, it dawned
(1Tim 5:4), and beyond that, my
I realized the devil doesn’t care
I soon discovered that my Father’s
on me that he had bottled up his
son became a very good example
what your situation is. He delights
word is true and He is faithful and I
for emulation to other children and
in afflicting saints, as we see in John
am precious in His sight, no matter
parents. He was and still is immersed
10:10. So never take it for granted that
the condition. However, this is a story
in God’s work and all I try to do is to
you (and your children) cannot/will
for another day- I am supposed to talk
ensure he checks his motive so he
not be his target. This knowledge, in
about the dimension of parenting after
doesn’t deviate. His sister is full of
addition to standing your ground by
the loss of a spouse and I pray someone
wisdom and has such an analytical
the Word, delivers powerfully.
is blessed by this.
mind that I must always be ready
I must say that my husband laid a
their actions. I also explore brethren’s support.
for real questions during bible study
While this is not an extensive list, I do
times.
hope that these tips that have aided in
solid foundation for us spiritually and
my parenting of our children will bless
physically, and he did so with haste. I
Communication is very important; I
you as well. Ultimately, our children
usually wandered if he knew he wasn’t
created time for spiritual, emotional
are the Lord’s, and His wisdom and
going to be with us here for long. But
and financial discussions. As much as
His guidance are the only guaranteed
for his absence to still make a complete
we don’t love to discuss it, punishment
effective parenting tools. gw
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