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FEATURES 8 Classifying Your Kids’ Friends 14 Things My Grandmother Taught Me 22 Eat the Flower, It’s Good for You 36 Career Connections 46 44 What If? Presents Fall Planting and

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Cold Frame Gardening

48 The Lost Pirates of North Carolina’s Coast

50 Plans, Schedules and Effective Habits

52 Stop Comparing Already!

60 The Rosey Side of Rosemary 64 Journeying With Jesus:

Out & About in Winston-Salem with the National Black Theatre Festival

The Fancy Fork (High Protein) Spicy Chili Dumpings

The Church’s PR Problem

My Grace-Full Life My Fruit-Full Life

A Father’s Perspective

COVER STORY

A Senior Woman with a Freshman Mind

Reflections of a Southern Yankee I Miss the 80s

Triad Moms on Main 7 Ways to Advocate for Your Child at School

It’s a Grand Life Bring On Autumn and New Challenges

Dining Guide Be Kind Coffee: The Fall Menu

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Summer

is slipping by as Autumn approaches. Being the summer baby that I am, I hate to see it go, but like most folks, I’m ready for a dip in temps. Having lived here all my life, I enjoy the different seasons we appreciate here in the Piedmont. I can’t say I’m 100% excited about all the falling leaves to deal with, but I sure have enjoyed the beautiful majestic trees we are graced with at our new home.

School routines are back in place for those with school-age children and those working in the school system. Can I get a shout-out for all those teachers, administrators, custodians and bus drivers? Thank you for your commitment to educating our future generations!

Busy times in the Bralley household! Wedding plans are well under way for Morgan and Deep. We have a venue now, therefore, we have a date. It’s pretty incredible how booked all these places are. Gone are the days of picking a date and then finding a venue, at least for now anyways. By the time you read this, most likely “the dress” will have been chosen. Still a myriad of things to work out, but at least some of the biggest decisions will have been made. Fingers crossed that by the time you are reading this, Briana and Jonathan’s house will be under construction as well. Hurry up and wait as permits, etc. get worked out. Backlog from lack of staff, etc.!

Kitchen Tune-Up is our cover focus this month. Mr. Fransisco Blu is living his best life sitting proud with his mom and dad, Rebecca and Peter. If you’ve been thinking of a kitchen remodel, be sure to call Kitchen Tune-Up! Activities abound and are scattered throughout the pages of this magazine. Wake Forest football and the Carolina Classic!

Autumn is surely upon us!

Shout out to Ryann Michelle Photography! Just had to share this pic from our Florida vacation. I didn’t have these back in time to use in last month’s issue, but if you’re ever in the St. Pete/Tampa/Clearwater area and need photos. Ryann is your girl! She is adorable and so easy to work with. She took “save the date” photos for Morgan and Deep that were simply breathtaking. Check her out on Instagram @RyannMichellePhotography Blessings!

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Classifying Your Kids’ Friends

BY MICHAEL JOHNSON

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parents are always on the heightened prowl to keep our kids engaged and running in supportive and worthwhile social circles.

Part of our job as good parents is to keep our kids crashing around with the right crowd. Every day with our offspring, we scan the horizon endlessly for positive influences when approving or disapproving our children’s choices for friends.

Consequently, our kids meet a wide array of fellow youngsters who either become fast friends, convenient alibis, partners-in-crime, or parental favorites. It takes a village to form the pack that crosses paths with our kids daily.

I am here today to over-generalize potentially in a controversial way and categorize some archetypes of our children’s friends. Here are some notable categories: The Gladiator This youngster is always up for a contest. The competitive spirit is strong in this one. They are always looking for the victory and hate losing. They can turn a simple game of basketball or bottle flipping into something in which there is a clear delineation between the loser and the winner. There is no in-between. They tend to inspire your child to raise their “game,” but can also be none-too-modest when they are victorious and therefore leave your own offspring pouting on occasion.

The Polite One This kid is a parent’s dream. He always has a “Thank you” or “Yes, sir” chambered and ready to aim at you at a moment’s notice. Granted, he doesn’t offer the same thrills typically of the more edgy or boisterous friend, but frankly, that is okay. You hope that this demure and polite child rubs off on your own child in terms of being grateful for everything and a delight in the presence of other people. This childhood friend is a dream to have over for sleepovers or on a day trip, where all you want is gratitude and pleasant discourse in return for the money expended on gas and food or admission price to this or that.

The Pleasantly Privileged This friend is the kid living in the high-end neighborhood with three more bedrooms and three more bathrooms at his house than at yours. He knows what it is like to have a PlayStation and Xbox running simultaneously in his bedroom that is bigger than your first apartment. He invites your child to the coolest destinations and has the most elaborate birthday parties with virtual reality trailers parked out front of the house. Refreshingly, this friend, in fact, has parents who are always very cognizant that he leads a privileged life and wants to make sure he is grateful in your presence when he is away from home.

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The Eddie Haskell If you are an old man like me and happen to remember the TV show “Leave it to Beaver,” you know the character Eddie Haskell. Eddie Haskell was a wiseguy and mischievous young man who would always turn on the charm when elders were present.

When addressing Beaver Cleaver’s mother, Eddie would say things like, “Good afternoon, Mrs. Cleaver, that is a lovely dress you are wearing today.” He was a bit of a sneaky sycophant, and out of earshot of the parents, he was up to mischief. I have not always seen through this type of friend, but my son is sometimes quick to fill me in on how I have been duped unsuspectingly.

The Lover of the Great Indoors Here we have the child who, if presented with a recreational opportunity outside, will inevitably balk.

He seems keener on video games than frolicking outside in the elements. He is just as happy at home perched on a cozy gaming chair than in an environment where there might be excessive heat or viruses or bugs or exertion of any sort. Some may classify him as the ultimate “homebody,” who never wants to stray too far from his mom’s fried mozzarella sticks. He is unassuming and just a little shy, but once the fun gets underway and against his better judgment, he raises his “game” and suddenly finds himself having a good time, even if it is outside.

The Search Engine I have always been enamored of my son’s friends who are walking “Google search” engines. These are the kids whom you can ask, “Who had the highest batting average in the National League in Major League Baseball last season?” or who can tell you if salamanders are reptiles or amphibians.

They are whiz-kids with technology and while you try to figure out how simply to scan a QR code instead of your own retina, they can probably tell you how computer programmers wrote the algorithms for reading QR codes. These friends will sometimes get an eyeroll from your own child when you have asked this little Einstein friend if he has any idea how to make the font on your phone bigger so you can read it.

Maybe you, too, have a horribly generalized set of categories for your children’s friends. Perhaps you have your favorites and those you want to steer clear of. Either way, our kids manage to collect a vast basketful of compadres who fit themselves comfortably into stereotypes that are entertaining, enduring, and memorable. Here’s to celebrating the mixture of personalities who travel into and out of our kids’ adventurous lives!

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Creating Social Media Boundaries with Family Members for the Safety of Your Children

BY TARYN JEREZ

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children in a digital age where social media plays such a large role in our daily lives creates new layers of safety and social concerns for parents.

Thankfully, more recently parents are having discussions about what the role of social media will look like in their own children’s lives, including when they will have access to these media and under what level of supervision.

It’s just as important, however, to decide what boundaries you want other family members and caregivers to acknowledge when it comes to involving your children Understanding the Importance of Setting Social Media Boundaries Social media can keep us in touch with old friends and far-away family members, or inspire and teach us; it can also be a breeding ground for toxic thoughts, unhealthy comparisons, and mentally damaging images. Where children are involved, the negative aspects tend to stack up. There are safety concerns, such as private information being shared publicly or a permanent virtual footprint being established before they even have a say. Seek awareness over these issues and have conversations with your parenting partner about what you are and are not comfortable with, when it comes to what is shared on social media.

Prioritizing Your Family’s Safety and Comfort First and Foremost Understand that even when you put a lot of consideration into setting boundaries to benefit your children, not every person in your life will share how you feel. Whether it’s social media use, how you discipline or when bedtime is to be—everyone

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will have an opinion! Even when it’s difficult, prioritize what makes you feel comfortable when it comes to your children’s safety, mental health, and future.

Questions to consider when creating social media boundaries: • Am I comfortable with photos/ videos of my child on social media?

• Are there specific boundaries around what kind of photos/videos can be shared?

• Do I want to approve content that pertains to my child before it’s posted?

• Is there any information about my child/family that is off limits to share?

• Are there any social media platforms that I don’t want my child shared on?

• Do you refrain from “real time” images being shared when my child is somewhere else besides at home?

• What will or won’t my child be happy about that I shared online when they are older?

• Are there privacy settings I want enforced if content is being shared?

Communicate Clearly and Set Firm, Equal Boundaries Conversations around boundaries aren’t exactly ‘“fun” to have or to hear. To keep things as neutral as possible when sharing with your friends

and family; try to be as clear as possible about what you are asking. This includes any absolutes you decide on—the things that you really need them to agree on and understand fully. It may be helpful to provide a simple statement as to why these boundaries are important. This isn’t because you have to justify your parenting, but to help drill in the importance of what you’re doing, so they absorb it fully. Equal boundaries can help prevent different people from following different rules, or ill feelings coming out later. For example, whatever boundaries you express to your motherin-law, be sure to share the same ones with your own mother! (That’s just an argument waiting to happen!)

Have a Plan for When Someone Inevitably Messes Up Remember, there will be slip ups! Perhaps grandma saw no harm in sharing photos from the family pool day on her Facebook—she wasn’t thinking about the request you made to not share photos of your kids in bathing suits or not fully clothed. Instead of calling to tell poor grandma off, think about kindly reminding her about the boundaries you’ve set and why these are important to your family. More than likely, it will be a good reminder and hopefully result in her removing the photo. These reminders aren’t meant to make anyone feel bad, but to advocate for your children and their safety.

Allow Space for Change and Boundaries to Evolve with Time Just because you did or didn’t have a certain boundary set previously doesn’t mean you can’t change that now. Remember that’s your prerogative as a parent. You, more than anyone, know your child and their emotional and mental maturity, allowing you to be most informed and make decisions at different stages for which boundaries may be appropriate. There is nothing wrong with evolving your boundaries and sharing those updates with family members if it helps them to keep enforcing what you’re working on at home, or the safety of your child a priority.

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All About BY BYANGELIA ANGELIACORNATZER CORNATZER

WHAT WHAT IS IS EDUCATOR EDUCATOR WAREHOUSE? WAREHOUSE? Educator Educator Warehouse Warehouse isis aa project project of of Forsyth Forsyth Educator Educator Partnership Partnership and and Winston-Salem Winston-Salem Forsyth Forsyth County County Council Council of of PTAs PTAs that that isis located located right right behind behind Diggs-Latham Diggs-Latham Elementary Elementary School.

School. They They have have aa huge huge selection selection of of new new and and gently-used gently-used items items to to be be used used by by classrooms classrooms and and teachers! teachers! Everything Everything has has been been donated donated by by individuals, individuals, organizations, organizations, and and businesses businesses from from the the community community for for teachers teachers to to have have what what they they need need in in the the classroom. classroom.

Educator Educator Warehouse Warehouse isis able able to to offer offer online online shopping shopping for for teachers teachers as as well well as as in in person person shopping. shopping. To To shop shop in in person, person, teachers teachers need need to to sign sign up up online online to to secure secure their their spot spot for for aa specific specific day. day. IfIf aa teacher teacher isis shopping shopping online, online, they they will will be be able able to to pick pick up up their their items items in in person person at at Educator Educator Warehouse.

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CLASSROOM CLASSROOM AND AND OFFICE OFFICE SUPPLIES SUPPLIES •• Paper—all Paper—all colors, colors, sizes, sizes, and and types, types, copy copy paper paper 88 1/2 1/2 xx 11 11 •• Pens, Pens, pencils, pencils, crayons, crayons, markers, markers, highlighters, highlighters, dry dry erase erase markers markers •• Scissors, Scissors, glue, glue, pencil pencil sharpeners sharpeners and and erasers, erasers, pencil pencil boxes boxes & & pouches pouches •• Kleenex, Kleenex, wet wet wipes, wipes, disposable disposable gloves, gloves, and and hand hand sanitizer sanitizer •• Post-it/sticky Post-it/sticky notes, notes, composition composition notebooks, notebooks, sheet sheet protectors, protectors, & & pocket pocket folders folders •• Staplers, Staplers, tape tape dispensers, dispensers, binder binder clips, clips, tape, tape, glue glue sticks, sticks, rubber rubber bands, bands, organizers, organizers, and and more! more!

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MOST MOST NEEDED NEEDED CORE CORE ITEMS ITEMS FOR FOR CLASSROOMS: CLASSROOMS: •• Pencils Pencils •• Pens Pens •• Colored Colored Pencils Pencils •• Mechanical MechanicalPencils Pencils •• Crayons Crayons •• Notebook Notebook Paper Paper

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GIVE! GIVE! Monetary Monetary donations donations are are welcomed welcomed at at Educator Educator Warehouse Warehouse to to further further the the impact impact on on classrooms classrooms in in the the community. community. All All donations donations are are 100% 100% taxtaxdeductible. deductible. You You can can make make an an online online donation donation or or mail mail checks checks payable payable to to Educator Educator Warehouse Warehouse to: to: Forsyth Forsyth Educator Educator Partnership, Partnership, PO PO Box Box 141 141 -Winston-Salem, Winston-Salem, NC NC 27102.

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Things My Grandmother Taught Me

BY KAREN COOPER

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come from a long line of people who defy their life expectancy. Some who live to be almost 100 and are still pretty good at remembering things (most days) and even on their bad days are an absolute treasure, just because they’re alive. My grandmother lived to be 98 and that meant I had her in my life for 40 years! We spent a lot of time together all throughout my life and I learned and adopted her quiet ways.

I didn’t realize how much I was like her and how much I had learned from her until she was gone. I hope she knows…and I suspect she does…how grateful I am for these lessons.

“A strong work ethic gives your life purpose.”

My grandmother was always moving. Like many women of her era, she cooked three meals a day, kept her house organized and cozy, grew the most beautiful flowers and plants, canned and put up vegetables and preserves every year, and made sure everyone around her had what they needed. She also worked at Belks department store for many years. She was busy all the time, but I never once heard her complain. In fact, just the opposite…even though she was reserved and somewhat guarded, she seemed to enjoy the work she did at home and her work at the store. She seemed fulfilled and content and not like someone who was searching for something more, something different, or better. What I learned from watching her was to be thankful for the blessings in your life and the people who surround you. It doesn’t pay always to be wishing for something more than you have.

“The simplest things can bring the greatest joy.”

Now that I’m older this really hits home, as I remember my moments with her in her modest, cozy home and warm inviting kitchen as some of the most special times of my life. Truly simple pleasures and pure joy to be had there when she was doing just about anything.

“Food will always bring family together.”

The spreads my grandmother could put before us while keeping calm, cool, and collected…you wouldn’t

believe. And when this spectacular array of culinary choices was laid out like something out of a magazine, she would always say, “I hope there’s something here you can eat.” She didn’t even know how amazing it was. I could never replicate those meals and certainly not without becoming frazzled and asking for all family members to pitch in! I don’t know how she did it.

It must have taken days of preparation and planning, knowing when to start everything so it all came up ready at the same time. It was truly an art form. And some of our best family times were around those elaborate meals. Enjoying the food, the conversation and lingering long after the eating was done to listen to the stories being passed down from grandmother and grandfather, uncles, and aunts. The best memories were made around those tables. Cooking was my grandmother’s way of showing love to the people she loved most. In fact, she would make special dishes for me that didn’t have onions in them because she knew how much I didn’t like onions. There would be one dish for me and one for everyone else! She was showing me her love. From these times, I learned to cook big meals for my family (albeit on a smaller scale) and I learned that making and serving my family food is a love language I understand, just like my granny did. Because, like her, nothing makes me happier than filling my loved ones’ bellies and lingering around the table in telling stories.

“Humility is powerful” Through her own humility, my grandmother was a wonderful role model for showing love and compassion and how to serve others graciously. People were drawn to her because of her humble way of being in the world. She never raised her voice… not that I ever heard. She spoke softly, but her words were heard, because we wanted to know what she said. She was always a good listener. She focused on you as if you were the only person who mattered in the world. She took care of those she loved without expecting acknowledgement (though she did get lots of it). Her reward was in the satisfaction she got from making others happy. All these things made me want to be like her; and I strive to live in a way that I know would please her.

She was a trusted, comforting force in our lives. Her actions spoke louder than her words and she lived out the truest description of love…. “ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” “ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails.

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MEET THE ADVISORS Behind Making Dollars Making Sense

BY DENISE HEIDEL Securities offered through LPL Financial, Member FINRA/SIPC, Investment advice offered through Independent Advisor Alliance, a registered investment advisor, Independent Advisor Alliance and Marzano Capital Group are separate entities from LPL Financial.

MICHAEL MCGILVARY: PARTNER AT MARZANO CAPITAL GROUP A very wise saying goes like this: “Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.” It’s no secret that people significantly influence our lives, and for Michael McGilvary, this truth is demonstrated.

For much of his childhood, Michael’s mother, Angela, worked for Marzano Capital Group so he was exposed to the industry at an early age. After meeting Jon Marzano, Michael developed a great interest in the world of investments. His circle of influence paved the way for his future career.

“Jon was a huge encouragement for me,” Michael shared.

“When I visited Mom at the office, I was very curious about investments, and he was incredibly patient with me – encouraging my interests. Over time, I determined I wanted to follow in the same footsteps. After college, I joined the industry in 2014, and two years later, I joined Marzano Capital Group.

“What I learned very quickly is that our business isn’t about numbers. It’s really about relationships and trust.

I can input numbers all day long, but nothing gives me as much satisfaction as helping individuals and families.

You could even argue that Marzano Capital Group is in the relationship business; investments are just the vehicle we use to get there.”

Marzano TWO FUN FACTS & A TIP Michael McGilvary shares two fun facts and his best financial tip: 1. If Michael could have any other career – he would have wanted to be a stand up comedian or a musician.

2. Michael and his wife love to travel, but nothing beats the North Carolina coast for them, especially Ocean Isle.

MICHAEL’S TIP: ‘Don’t sweat the latte.’ In other words, don’t sweat the small purchases, but plan for the large ones.

Today, Michael is a partner in the firm. His favorite kind of clients are the ones who reach out to him for financial advice and to learn about their options. “I have a great deal of satisfaction in helping my clients make smart financial decisions. I want them to be educated investors and serve as a resource for them!”

in 2020 and currently serves as the VP of Leadership Development. “We have an amazing business community,” said Michael.

“I love connecting with others through the Chamber!”

A native of Clemmons and graduate of West Forsyth High School, Michael has deep roots in the community. “I love Clemmons. Other than a short stint working in Charlotte and my time at East Carolina University, Clemmons has been home. I think we have an incredible community, and I feel incredibly blessed to go to work every day to a job I love in a community that I have grown up with.”

Michael has been married to his wife, Kelly, since 2017, and together, they have a 17-month-old daughter, Waverly.

A committed family man, Michael loves spending time with his family, traveling, and pursuing fitness. “In college, I participated in track and field, and so I still enjoy running, as well as mountain biking. Beyond that, I enjoy playing guitar in my spare time.”

His love for community is also demonstrated through his servant leadership. Michael has been an active member of the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce Board of Directors since 2018. He served as President

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Extending the Freshness of Fruits & Vegetables

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Apples,

blackberries, figs, raspberries, persimmons, and pumpkins top the list of favorite autumn fruits. With the vast array of options, the thrill of the season is to rise early to select the freshest produce from local farmers’ market vendors.

You’ll find there greens, onions, snap beans, corn, sweet potatoes, yellow squash, and zucchini. In the semi-cool temperatures, patrons often feel at leisure to peruse before buying. On your next visit, become a well-informed, savvy shopper by knowing how to spot the most delicious jewels and extend the season with good storage practices.

Isn’t it amazing that fruit and vegetables have rules?

BASIC FRESHNESS RULES In desiring the best fruit and vegetables, inspect the produce by looking at the coloring, plumpness, and also determining whether, like apples, they have a shine. If the packaging is damaged, do not take the chance.

and other similar tree fruits in paper and place them in a cool location.

ASPARAGUS: The tender tip of the spears will wilt if kept in the plastic bag; instead, remove an inch at the stem and place them into a glass filled with one inch of water. Cover the tips with a plastic bag and use within a week.

THE “WATER TRICK”: Fresh herbs placed in a glass of water and covered with a sandwich bag will survive up to three weeks in the refrigerator.

BLACKBERRIES: Choose the package which has shiny and plump blackberries.

Like tree fruits, immediately remove from the packaging to ensure that molded, or crushed berries do not rot and spread this condition, ruining the bunch.

WASHING TIP: Only rinse berries, fruits, and vegetables you intend to eat. Water will result in soggy fruit and rot.

Additional rules:

SEPARATION TIP: Bananas, apples, mangoes, kiwis, and pears especially need to remain apart from other fruits and vegetables to prevent early spoilage.

• You can smell the health of produce.

Trust your senses! Fragrance corresponds to the quality of its taste.

CABBAGE: To test for maturity, gently squeeze the cabbage head, looking for firmness.

• Feel the weight. An apple and an onion, for instance, should be heavy.

As a cool weather crop, cabbage should be stored in a cool, damp environment, such as the floor of a root cellar or in a refrigerator. Wrap the head in a damp paper towel and place it into a ventilated plastic bag.

APPLE: Four characteristics guarantee an excellent pick: firmness, a natural shine, vibrant coloring, and a good weight.

AFTER-BUYING TIP: Always remove the fruit from its crate, box, or bag and assess each one for dents, bruises, or rot. One bad apple will indeed ruin the bunch. For best longevity, individually wrap apples

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RUBBER BAND RULE: Take off the bands that hold vegetables together; this releases restriction and builds vitality.

ONIONS: Choose well when considering

a storage location for the edible bulb. It requires a cool, dark place, inside a mesh or braided bag. Unfortunately, if the condition is too cold, wet, or hot, they will rot or start sprouting. Distance the onion from all other produce to avoid all fruits and vegetables smelling alike. Consider chopping and freezing in a Ziploc bag.

TIP: Keep onions far away from potatoes.

CHERRY TOMATOES: Like most whole fruits, tomatoes also should not be refrigerated. Although they are subject to losing flavor, tomatoes will continue to ripen. Whole fruits should be able to remain at room temperature, cool and dry, for five days.

REFRIGERATION TIP: Maintain a temperature of at most 40 degrees or lower. Overstocking inhibits airflow, leaving no space to prevent food from going bad. Freezing fruits and vegetables is ideal; they can last beyond a year if sliced and well-sealed.

GREENS: Toss rotten leaves, but wrap unwashed leafy greens in a dry paper towel to retain excess moisture. Place into a plastic bag, keeping it opened before placing it into the “crisper drawer.” Keep vegetables away from mangoes, pears, and kiwi. Reviving lettuce and herbs needs only two minutes in ice water.

CONTAINER TIP: A store owner is required only to provide what is for him or her an economical container, which does not imply longevity. Consider alternatives, such as Mason jars, Ziploc bags, or other sealable items.

Lastly, let’s resolve one more question about vegetables—unhusked corn should be refrigerated.

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“In our view, this needs to change,” said Piedmont Advantage’s President & CEO Dion Williams, however. “If it weren’t for our IT team, as a credit union, we would be unable to achieve that needed balance of modern and traditional banking experiences our members expect and the market demands.”

Williams went a step further and pointed out that “I” in IT is “information.”

“Information rules everything we do. No decision is made, and very little purposeful action is taken, without information to guide us. The chief caretaker of information in our organization is Senior Vice President Robert Payne, who develops and manages the plan for how information is accumulated, organized, stored, transacted, and analyzed.”

Piedmont Advantage Credit Union’s IT team are (left to right) IT Technicians Anthony Rodgers and Tony Dyer, Senior Vice President of IT Robert Payne and Network Administrators Garrett LaRue and Jack Larkins, who is pictured remotely.

This “Behind the Screen” article is intended to shine a much- deserved spotlight on the area’s IT departments, using the financial industry as an example of the significant role this department’s leader and team plays in the credit union’s success to deliver exceptional service and relevancy in the marketplace.

Humbled by Williams’ comments, Payne and his team of four prefer flying under the radar. Knowing that they contribute to the success of the credit union and their colleagues’ ability to deliver exceptional service is rewarding in itself.

“It’s a given if you’re in IT, you have the technical knowledge to do the job. But having this knowledge isn’t enough anymore. You need to be, above all else, a good listener and problem-solver. As a team, we strive to deliver on this each and every day,” Payne said.

Payne emphasized, as Williams alluded to in the introduction, that IT is more than technology. It’s about how technology affects people. “In reality, we’re in a unique position to implement technology strategies that make people’s lives easier,” he said.

Network Administrator Jack Larkins agreed. “I really enjoy taking an idea and figuring out how best to automate it so that it improves productivity and overall effectiveness of others in our workplace.”

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When Payne had to step away from the interview briefly, his team praised his leadership and management style. They all agreed he has a proactive mindset. He has the ability to foresee problems before they actually arise, which is a necessity in the financial industry, where regulation and security are more intense concerns than in most other industries.

For example, years before the pandemic, Payne had formidable remote management capabilities in place. The IT department diagnosed, configured, troubleshot and updated PCs, as well as installed new software remotely on a regular basis. Not only did this remote infrastructure improve IT system management and help reduce IT support costs, but it also minimized corporatewide downtime. Scaling these remote management capabilities across the credit union in a secure manner so that employees could work from home was efficient and relatively easy and quick to do.

The team also mentioned that Payne is a good listener within the team. “He knows our strengths and gives us opportunities to use our strengths to grow professionally,” said IT Technician Tony Dyer.

According to Network Administrator Garrett LaRue, he loves what he does, because every day is different and being a life-long learner is essential. Agreeing with LaRue, IT Technician Anthony Rodgers added, “I’m fortunate to work with a talented group of people, each of whom brings a different level of expertise and skill to the conversation.”

The moral of this article, as Piedmont Advantage’s IT team demonstrated, is that today’s IT departments don’t merely focus on technology. They have leaders who are versatile, sensitive and strategic, enabling organizations to be more creative and responsive. As new issues come to light, valued leaders of IT teams, as with Piedmont Advantage, put forth more creative solutions to get ahead of where the technology needs to go. They solve problems that the organization may not even know they have.

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Eat the Flower,

It’s Good for You

BY LISA S.T. DOSS*

The

mindset believes that nourishing foods are fruits, vegetables, nuts, greens, and animal proteins. Flowers, on the other hand, are exquisite extensions of plants, fortifying the pollinating community of birds, bees, and other wildlife. We tend to forget that flowers, the ornamental beauties, are packed full of vitamins and minerals, antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties. Indeed, nature provides us with an abundance of wild and edible plants.

Sometimes, venturing beyond your garden into the fields and forests is the best way to find local edible and herbal plant species.

Wildcrafting A term synonymous with foraging, “wildcrafting” involves harvesting plants from their natural or wild habitat. To learn more about your local plants, take a walk and look at what’s growing alongside roads, trails, and woodland areas. Take pictures to learn more about their surrounding environment. Be sure of its identity before plucking a flower or leaf, and only take a small amount, ensuring the plant can continue to thrive. Getting to know familiar trails and pathways will open the door to valuable learning.

Spring Edibles As new spring life emerges, plants seeking the sun begin to move upward. It’s a perfect time to discover the signs of transformation. Usually, the plants that may be too bitter at maturity are incredibly tender during the spring season. Likewise, our bodies benefit from warmer and drier foods.

• DANDELION LEAF: Most are familiar with the flower, which is a true edible; however, before the blossom arrives, the leaves contain calcium,

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iron, magnesium, potassium, and vitamins A, C, and K. Added to salads, soups, or stir-fries, the greens are tasty and nutritious.

•V IOLET LEAF AND FLOWER: Short in stature, the blue, purple, white, and yellow flowers are a welcomed sight, discovered in fields, orchards, and rocky environments. High in vitamins A and C, the flowers add to the pastry world and can thicken soups, due to their mucilage content.

•T ULIPS: Rather than eating a stuffed pepper, try a stuffed tulip! The flavor depends upon the color. Red petals are sweet, while white has a slight pepper aftertaste. As an oil infusion, the flowers are known to heal skin conditions and provide a soothing effect.

WARNING: It’s wise to research edible flowers before tasting. For instance, avoid consuming fruit-tree flowers, since some varieties contain low levels of cyanide.

Summer Edibles As temperatures warm the soil, delicious berries and other fruits, flowers, and fungi fill the fields and forests. Miraculously, the harvest from wildcrafting excursions provides the body with well-needed nutrients, such as antioxidants and antiinflammatory flavonoids, to ease the internal heat levels.

You will find: • HIBISCUS: The large colorful blossom has properties to boost your immune system, treat inflammation, and prevent cell damage in the body, to name a few.

Hibiscus is often used as an ingredient in teas and is similar in taste to the

pomegranate. Additionally, you can eat the flower raw and cook the leaves, or use it in jams, relishes, and salads.

• ROSE: Bathing with fresh rose petals or drinking rose water is a luxurious experience. Eating the organic flower is no different. The petals have a refreshingly smooth texture. Consider sprinkling rose petals on your salad, make “rose sugar,” or use it to improve the flavor of water.

• LAVENDER: Widely known for its distinctive fragrance, the lavender flower has become a staple in our edible lifestyles. You can find it in baked goods, infused syrups, herbal teas, spice rubs, and herbal mixtures. It pairs well with citrus, berries, chocolate, and particular herbs, like rosemary, sage, and thyme. As an infusion, lavender tea is an excellent stress reliever, easing muscle pains, aches, and calming the mind and body.

WARNING: N ever harvest the following plants from the wild: American ginseng, echinacea, goldenseal, sandalwood, and wild yam.

Bee balm flowers taste minty and spicy, while borage and daylily flowers have a flavor similar to cucumbers. No two blossoms taste the same. By learning about edible flowers growing in your garden and the wild, you, too, can gain unexpected nutrition and impart unique colors and flavors to your favorite meals. * Lisa is an N.C. Cooperative Extension Master Garden volunteer, a statecertified beekeeper, and is presently studying herbalism.

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BY MARTIE EMORY Keith Bond, PA-C, is as passionate about his patients at Novant Health Vein Specialists as he is about the community where he lives. He found his calling many years ago on a mission trip. By the end of that adventure, he knew he wanted a career serving others and eventually decided to pursue medicine as a physician assistant (PA).

At Novant Health Vein Specialists, the providers are committed to providing quality care in a patient-centered, safe, and comfortable environment. With clinics located in Winston-Salem, Kernersville and High Point, the team takes the concept of serving every member of their community very seriously. “That’s a mission that resonates within the team from day one,” Bond said.

For Bond, that community investment is what sets Novant Health apart, and one of the many positives that originally drew him to join the Novant Health family. Focused on venous disease, Bond treats patients suffering from vascular conditions, including varicose and spider veins, and helps them get back the quality of life they deserve.

“This really is our community,” explains Bond. “We love making a difference, and making it our home, by keeping our neighbors healthy, one person at a time!”

Family—both personally and professionally—is absolutely everything to Bond, and a career with Novant Health has made that possible. Originally from San Jose, California, Bond participated in a mission trip in his late teens that left him certain he wanted a career where he could help other people.

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Fortunately, he was also gifted in science, and received a Bachelor of Science in Nutritional Science from Brigham Young University, before obtaining a Master of Science in Physician Assistant Studies from Northwestern University School of Medicine. While living in Chicago, he met someone who had attended Wake Forest University, and truly loved the Winston-Salem area. That piqued his interest—as well as his wife’s, Katie Bond, who is a Registered Dietitian. They decided to move to North Carolina to see what it was like for themselves. Today, the two have been married 14 years, and have three children, ages nine, seven, and five, who keep them busy.

Bond has been with Novant Health for eight years, and feels strongly that the organization offers something special, including an unmistakable camaraderie and next-level care from a dedicated team.

“I simply could not find a better group to work with,” he said. “I immediately saw how they look out for each other—and each other’s patients, and today, eight years later, everything we do is still a complete collaboration.”

Another positive for Bond—he values the honest relationships he develops with his patients. From the first clinic visit until they enter the hospital for their surgical procedure, the relationship is a strong one.

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“Trusting your provider is so important,” he explained.

“It’s a privilege to take care of patients and make them feel as comfortable as possible, all the way through the process.”

Bond was fortunate to work in an imaging center during school, and realized he enjoyed all aspects of working with the cardiovascular system. Choosing a specialty is a crucial part of the PA process, along with graduating from an accredited program and sitting for board exams.

In order to enter PA school, candidates are required to have 1,000 hours of patient care experience in an authentic health-care setting, which ensures that most students come in already equipped with a natural comfort level when it comes to patient care.

That is a huge advantage, said Bond, as a typical PA is already focused on the most important element of their career—providing the most personalized care available, and what is best for the individual patient.

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Sambucus Nigra The

Hippocratic Oath remains a promise of safe healing from a man whom legend defines as the demigod of medicine, the son of Apollo himself, the god of healing and the sun. Since his handwritten journals have survived, we know that Hippocrates believed that “our natural aptitude is the soil; the instruction our teachers give us is in the seeds. Our basic education is the planting of the seeds at the right time…. Commitment and time ensure strong growth.” As a staunch proponent of medicinal herbs, he compared the elder tree to nature’s medicine chest and kept the berries readily available during his travels in villages. Since 400 BC, our love of elderberry has grown stronger.

What is Black Elderberry?

Growing along the roadside, at farms, and in bee gardens, is a shrub with enlarged, beautiful white floral blossoms, which transition to bluish-purple medicinal berries in late summer. Sambucus nigra is one of the species in the Adoxaceae family, known by the common names of elder tree, elderberry, black elder, black lace, blue elderberry, and the list continues. One distinguishing quality is that the stems leading to the fruit are purple.

Discovering a plant is exhilarating; however, do not eat them raw; they are poisonous.

PROPAGATION TIP: Between December and February, use clean, sharp clippers to cut sixinch “sips.” Remove leaves near the bottom of the stem and place in a glass of water near a sunny window. After four to six weeks, transfer the young plant to soil. Always remember, elderberries love water; so, water deeply.

Planting can occur as early as April. Use a three-gallon bucket to protect them from freezing temperatures or frost.

Berry Benefits Flavonoids, with high levels of Anthocyanin, provide a distinctive water-soluble pigment that may appear blue, purple, or black, and which offer an additional boon to good health—natural antioxidant properties.

Elderberry is a tasty ingredient found in foods, drinks, skin care products, medicines, and supplements.

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Oh, How I Love Thee Flower Benefits

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Between the cluster of five dark green leaves lies the elderflower. Before flowering, the buds grow larger until they blossom out of the stem. While the berry itself has extraordinary medicinal powers, the flowers possess antiseptic and anti-inflammatory properties to treat, among other conditions, colds, sinus infections, and respiratory disturbances.

The health benefits: • Elderflowers reduce congestion, runny nose, and the ills and chills associated with allergies and a cold; • They are used as a treatment to prevent bleeding; • They alleviate swelling in the joints and lower arthritic pain levels; • They can lower blood sugar levels; • Elderflowers boost the functioning of the immune system, and eliminate bacterial pathogens; • They can calm itchy eyes due to pollen or dust.

The elderflower is safe for consumption, but requires drying. Consider it an ingredient as a tea, tisane, tincture, poultice, or made with beeswax to create a unique balm or salve.

FACT: Native Americans used the branches of Black Elderberry to make flutes and deemed it, “The Tree of Music.”

Recipes From baked apples with elderberry syrup served with ice cream to cranelderberry relish—ideal for a Thanksgiving meal—any recipe including Sambucus nigra will include a tasty and immune-supportive benefit.

ELDERBERRY SYRUP: The two most essential ingredients are elderberries, either fresh or dried, and raw honey. Once the berries, clove, cinnamon stick, and vanilla bean are cooked, well-infused and mashed, strain. For medicinal syrup, add an equal proportion of honey to water and consume one teaspoon morning and night. Thicker syrups for teas and pancakes, for instance, require a 75% addition of honey. Homemade syrups will last approximately one year if kept in a cool, dark location.

ELDERBERRY CHERRY FREEZE POPS: As hydration is critical in summer or avoided in the winter, try the following recipe to ensure a boost of good nutrients and health.

Directions: In a large bowl, mix 1.5 cups of water, 1 cup of tart cherry juice, a half-cup of elderberry syrup, and a splash of lemon juice; then pour the mixture into an ice cube tray, cover with plastic wrap, and poke a toothpick through to the middle of each mold. Wait 12 hours before serving!

The world of elderberries is available to you, especially since the season is perfect for hand-picking; however, you’ll find it difficult to choose just one recipe!

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Early education is often overlooked and the early learning educators are frequently treated like babysitters at a daycare facility.

But we need to treat them and their profession with the respect and admiration that they deserve in order to boost employee retention and overall satisfaction with the important career that they have chosen. These early childhood educators are creating and molding the future of our community.

Here at Smart Start of Forsyth County (SSFC), we are a blend of a quasi government and non-profit organization that is devoted to early childhood education programs in Forsyth County. We provide free resources to local early childhood educators and education centers.

Smart Start was created in 1993 by Governor Jim Hunt as an innovative way to tackle an important problem: children were coming to school unprepared to learn. Today, Smart Start of Forsyth County provides funding for innovation, and also serves as an incubator of innovative ideas and practices that impact children, birth to five and their families.

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In addition to providing funding for many childcare centers across the county, we also provide free community resources to families.

Parents and caregivers can visit our website to apply for scholarships, emergency scholarships, and subsidies at www.SmartStart-FC.org. Families with children that are five and under can also register for the Dolly Parton Imagination Library which is a free literacy program that sends Spanish or English books to registered children every month based on their age. Our newest program is ROOTS and it is funded by the Kate B Reynolds charitable Trust. The ROOTS program is designed to help our community break the cycle of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and help local children develop strong roots with their families as well as within our community.

At SSFC, we work with parents and educators to provide resources to help their children thrive.

Smart Start takes the time needed to understand each person’s situation and then we are able to guide them through programs that cater to their specific needs such as the NC Pre-K program, Dual Subsidies, Emergency Childcare Scholarship’s, Teaching & Learning Services, R.O.O.T.S, and our free Diaper Bank.

Experiences a child has during the first 2,000 days—from birth to kindergarten—have been shown to have an impact throughout life. Therefore, SSFC invests time and money in local, evidence-based initiatives to improve early care and education, family support, health, and literacy as a holistic approach for children birth-to-five.

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As we shopped for spaghetti-string paneled shirts and kids’ sports bras, we talked about the value of being seven and what significant milestones are around the corner.

By age ten, when breast buds were impossible to hide, she claimed she wanted to start a revolution and burn every bra she possessed. How could I resist? “Sorry sweetheart, that’s already happened; you’re 60 years too late!”

Emotional Purge All I asked was, “How was your day?” With hands hiding her tears, she screamed, “I don’t know what to do with my feelings. First, I’m angry, then sad. And then, I’ll laugh at something stupid. I feel I’m on a roller coaster ride.

And, today, when my emotions slammed against me, I did the worst possible thing imaginable; I cried in front of everyone!”

Of course, she didn’t believe me, but crying is the most normal, productive response. As a parent, it’s easy to remember being her age, feeling like no one understands while you are questioning your body and mind. As stomps

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Women with daughters talk to each other, especially if their girls are close to the same age. We whisper phrases like, “Has she started her period yet?” and “How’s the emotional roller coaster going?” Open communication helps parents who need advice or support. Some children show the signs of puberty in late elementary school by the appearance of “breast buds” or “testicular enlargement.” Noticeable hormonal changes will appear through physical developments, such as the increase of body hair, fat mass, and more mature muscle tone.

Whoever uttered the words “appearances don’t count” has never experienced living with a prepubescent child. Suddenly, adolescents may care about their complexion and clothing and argue against daily showers and wearing deodorant. By seventh grade, boys and girls exhibit emotional and social changes. For example, teens will pull away from their parents, showing less affection for them and more interest in their peer group.

Additional changes: Teens • have difficulty maintaining high expectations and feeling confident; • are distressed by the added social demands of middle school; • are constantly trying to control the emotions of sadness and depression.

Sixth Grade Opens Adult Conversations Less than two months into sixth grade, my daughter said, “I need to ask you a few questions.” From October through May, we covered fellatio, masturbation, defining a female, why she is a girl, secret crushes, mapping the characteristics of friendship, and peer kissing, vaping, and drug use. As puberty continues to unfold, she continually asks two questions: “Is this normal?” and “Am I enough?” Reassurance is offered through honest responses; perhaps, it’s the reason why she still reaches for my hand and initiates conversations.

Many ‘tweens and ‘teens feel alone with their overwhelming problems. Parents can be honest and answer questions to dispel all girl and boy myths around the topic. When sons and daughters do not want to talk, share time by going for a walk or making dinner together. Sometimes, being together is an easy solution!

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The Kitchen Tune•Up Team

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Kitchen Tune-Up started in 1988, and after decades of fine-tuning their process, they franchised in 2017. Peter Mahoney is a local franchisee (or “Tunie,” as the Home Office folks, or “Homies,” refer to them) for the Triad. For this edition of Forsyth Family, Peter and his team are excited to introduce themselves and their business to Forsyth Family readers!

ABOUT KITCHEN TUNE-UP Kitchen Tune-Up offers a bold promise: A complete kitchen transformation in five days! Not only is their business model based on efficiency, but it’s also cost-effective. Peter shared, “A kitchen tune-up is about giving an existing kitchen space a facelift,” said Peter. “If the bones are good, we can bring cost-effective solutions to the homeowner.”

Through excellent service, experienced professionals, and a great selection of products— homeowners can quickly add value to their homes with a Kitchen Tune-Up!

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PETER & REBECCA MAHONEY Tenure at Kitchen Tune-Up: 3 years Peter Mahoney spent ten years in Boston working in remodeling, while Rebecca is retired from the US Air Force. They knew they wanted to pursue entrepreneurship and began to look into their options. When they found Kitchen Tune-Up, they knew they had found the perfect business model.

As a family-owned business, Peter and Rebecca have a great love for the Winston-Salem community. In fact, it was because of Kitchen Tune-Up that they relocated to the area three years ago and quickly discovered the great features and benefits offered in the Triad. “Choosing to move to Winston-Salem to open our business was a major change for us,” explained Peter, “But it has been a great move. It’s been time-consuming to build the business, but we still enjoy taking time off and discovering more about our new hometown. Rebecca and I love the outdoors and especially hiking. We have had fun finding all the beautiful areas to hike in and around the Piedmont!”

“Maintaining a healthy work-life balance has been an important part of our growth plan,” Peter explained. “It’s not all about profit margins and bottom lines. Our business has had an impact on my team’s life. I love the fact that, as a small business, we get to employ people in our community.

The responsibility is not lost on us—it’s part of the “shop-small” movement. Everything we do has an impact—from our customers to our employees to our community.”

When Peter isn’t working, and Rebecca isn’t teaching water aerobics at the neighborhood pool, they enjoy catching up with Peter’s 23-year-old daughter, Allison, who still lives in Massachusetts.

Also, they both enjoy spending time in the kitchen. “While I do most of the cooking, Rebecca has some great Mexican recipes that I love for her to make—especially her Green Chili Chicken Enchiladas and Albondigas!”

BRIAN ROGERS Tenure at Kitchen Tune-Up: 3 months Brian is often the first person Kitchen Tune-Up clients meet. As the Kitchen Specialist, Brian helps homeowners make decisions about their kitchen transformations. According to Brian, the most common question he gets asked is, “What is this going to cost, and how quickly can you get it done?”

Brian explained, “We start by eliminating choices. By removing the “No’s” first, we simplify the final selection and help remove some of the “overwhelmed” factor. Additionally, we spend time talking with our clients before we even do the in-home consultation. This enables us to get to know them better on the front end, so we can offer the best options in order to fit their needs and their budgets.

“Overall—I love that every day of my job is different,” Brian continued. “Every day brings the opportunity to meet new people and offers new challenges. I thrive on that.”

Brian has sent more than 20 years working in the home services field and in his free time, he enjoys playing music and visiting with his three children—who are all young adults.

DANA GIANFORTE Tenure at Kitchen Tune-Up: 1 year Dana serves as the Job Support Specialist for Kitchen Tune-Up, and for her, it’s all about teamwork in action! “We each play an important role in the process, and we’re all working toward a common goal,” Dana said. “We aim for top-notch customer service and work hard to build lasting relationships with our clients.”

“My job,” she continued, “is to set appointments, verify information about projects, and often—serve as the bridge between the project manager, installation team, and the clients. So, communication is a big part of my job. And what I find most rewarding is getting to hear the excitement from our client as our team transforms their old kitchen into a dream kitchen!”

Dana has been married to her husband for 25 years, and together, they have two children.

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ANTHONY “TONY” COOK Tenure at Kitchen Tune-Up: 2 years Tony serves as the Lead Technician for Kitchen Tune-Up, and he is exceptional at what he does. “I just love the variety of this job,” he explained. “Every day is something new. I enjoy meeting our clients and knowing that our work makes a difference in their daily lives. I love that we can create a space where memories are made, and meals are prepared and shared.”

When he’s not renovating kitchens, Tony enjoys working with his hands and is generally busy in his personal workshop doing woodworking. He is married with two sons and three grandchildren.

DON NEWTON Tenure at Kitchen Tune-Up: 8 months Retired US Marine Don Newton is the Cabinet Technician at Kitchen Tune-Up, and he loves the job. “This job is never boring. There’s something new every day, and I enjoy that. It’s fun, too, to watch the transformation. Homeowners often get overwhelmed by the amount of work, but we do this all the time. I always encourage our clients to trust the process, and they won’t be disappointed.”

Not only does Don work on cabinets, he also specializes in tile work. He installs all the tile backsplashes for Kitchen Tune-Up. In his free time, Don loves spending time with his wife, their four children, and three grandchildren. He also loves fishing, hiking, and anything that gets him outdoors.

FRANSISCO BLU Tenure at Kitchen Tune-Up: 3 years While he doesn’t pull his weight as much as the others, Fransisco Blu makes up for his lack of productivity through sheer cuteness and a little hint of puppy breath. A French Bulldog, Fransisco Blu is living his best life alongside his humans, Peter and Rebecca, as well as his favorite chew toy—Mr. Gorilla. He loves hanging out in the kitchen with his humans and is always excited when his favorite food—green beans— falls off the counter.

Now that you know the team, does your kitchen look like it’s ready for a Tune-Up? Kitchen Tune-Up is based in Clemmons, NC, and serves the Winston-Salem, High Point, and Greensboro areas. Financing is available. Contact Kitchen Tune-Up at 336.970.3419 or e-mail Peter at PMahoney@KitchenTuneUp.com. Visit the website at KitchenTuneUp.com and be sure to like them on Facebook.

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Career Connections

BY KATIE MARSH

It’s

no secret that the job market has changed significantly in recent years. Employers have struggled with a shortage of manpower to meet the demands, but in the middle of this, we’ve seen unprecedented measures to recruit. In an effort to address the employment challenges -- the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce, in partnership with the Shallow Ford Foundation and Forsyth Technical Community College’s Small Business Center, has created a unique series of events to connect employers with candidates who have a specific interest in specific industries.

Denise continued, “We don’t want to waste anyone’s time. We know job seekers are looking for rewarding and purposeful careers. They want to feel valued and that what they are doing matters. These panelists can show them how that happens. And, of course, we have allowed plenty of time for networking so that job seekers can meet with potential employers in a smaller setting.

Denise Heidel, the Executive Director of the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce, shared, “Career Connections is meant to bring a strong educational component to the table. When we began brainstorming this idea, we were adamant that we did not want to create a job fair. Instead, we wanted something more purposeful and strategic because we know that not all industries will attract the same audience.”

“Everyone we’ve talked to is super excited about Career Connections. We feel confident that this will provide a great bridge between local employers and serious candidates.”

To that end, Career Connections is divided into five categories: • Trade (September 7)

• Education (September 14)

• Hospitality / Retail (September 21) • Medical / Health (September 28) • Finance / Insurance (October 5)

“Each program day will feature a variety of panelists who are experts in their industry, but also who represent different facets of the industry,” explained Denise. “For instance – on Trade Day, our panelists represent everyone from commercial and residential construction, HVAC, plumbing, and even property management. Similarly, the other industries have a variety of panelists representing different aspects of their fields. Our panelists are respected industry leaders who can educate job seekers on the opportunities they are interested in.

“Career Connections is for job seekers at any level – whether the soon-tobe or recent high school graduate, the mid-career job seeker looking for new opportunities, or a recent retiree who still wants to work – but wants to try something new! We are excited to welcome job seekers at any stage of their career!”

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Career Connections will be hosted at the Historic Broyhill at 3540 Clemmons Road in Clemmons. This is a free community event for job seekers, and the Chamber also has opportunities for Vendors and sponsorships. Please contact Denise Heidel at Denise@Lewisville-Clemmons.com for more information.

The primary objectives of Career Connections are: • To bring awareness of job opportunities in the community.

• To educate others on specific fields who have a high demand and need for employees.

• To connect employers with job seekers.

A special thank you to our event sponsors!

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Child Safety Series BABY SAFETY MONTH

BY TARYN JEREZ

Each

month this series will provide important facts and tips surrounding child safety, in an effort to support parents and caregivers as they navigate reducing risks and creating the safest environment possible for the children in their lives.

Founded by the Juvenile Products Manufacturers Association (JPMA) in 1983, “Baby Safety Month” occurs annually each September. Whether you are a new mother, a seasoned parent or grandparent, or other caregiver, this month offers a great opportunity to brush up on the latest safety standards and protocols to keep your babies safe!

This month we’ve rounded up some helpful tips across several categories to help give you the education and assurance you need to avoid safety hazards with your little ones.

Newborn and Infant Feeding Whichever feeding option is best for you and your baby, make sure to follow safety guidelines to ensure they are receiving clean options and enough nutrition to keep them healthy.

If breastfeeding and/or pumping, be sure to wash hands before handling breastmilk and baby.

If you’re having trouble breastfeeding, ask a lactation consultant or your pediatrician for help, especially if

feedings are painful or your baby isn’t gaining weight. Don’t microwave breast milk, as it tends to heat up unevenly and can burn your baby, as well as damage the breast milk. Instead, use warm water, testing the temperature before feeding the baby. Always follow the CDC guidelines for proper storage and preparation of breast milk to avoid contamination and illness.

If formula feeding, always be sure to check the “use by” date on the can and store it accordingly. Never waterdown formula to make it last longer, as this can be detrimental to your child’s nutrition.

If bottle feeding (breastmilk or formula) you’ll want to sanitize all pump and bottle parts, using hot water and soap, and cleaning thoroughly with a bottle brush. Never “prop feed” (placing bottle against an object to allow for milk to flow without a care holder holding the bottle for baby), as this can be dangerous and increase risks of choking, aspiration, and suffocation.

Safe Sleep Practices The sleep environment deserves a lot of attention when it comes to safety.

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Make sure your crib, bassinet, or pack-n-play has a firm mattress and your baby is placed on their back to sleep, as recommended to reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDs). All sleeping arrangements should be made away from windows to avoid cords or strings that could lead to strangulation.

Avoiding crib bumpers, blankets, stuffed animals, low hanging mobiles, and any other items that can reduce airflow is crucial. Utilizing safe sleep products, such as swaddles and sleep sacks, up until their appropriate recommended expiration times or milestones can help keep babies warm and comfortable.

Car Seat Safety Taking your little one on trips to the pediatrician, to visit family, or to the park for a nice stroller walk? Always have a federally-approved car seat installed, preferably one you can confirm has never been in an accident previously or had any recalls. If you are unsure, have a certified car seat specialist check that you’ve correctly installed your car seat in your vehicle. Some local firehouses provide this service. Infants should be rear-facing in the backseat until two years old or they reach weight and height requirements provided by the manufacturer. Never use aftermarket add-ons that were not originally made for your car seat, as these can impede safety in the event of an accident.

Bath & Water Safety Bathing your baby can be a beautiful time for bonding, just make sure to pay attention to details. Gather all bath supplies, such as baby wash, towels, washcloth and more, before turning on the water and never leave a baby alone in their bath. Even 1 inch of water can be deadly to an infant. The Mayo Clinic recommends setting your hot water heater below 120 F (48.9 C) to avoid the water temperature getting too hot ever to cause burns. Have a bath thermometer handy to check the water temperature and aim for it to be around 100 F (38 C). Always check the water with your hand before placing your child in the tub, to make sure it feels safe.

Taking Action If Injury or Accidents Occur When possible, have all immediate caregivers get infant CPR certified in case of an emergency. Always have a First-Aid kit close nearby as well as any important documents or phone numbers with contact information for pediatricians and emergency contacts.

If you are unsure about the severity or care of an injury, but have concern, don’t wait to head to your nearest emergency room or call 911.

Helpful Resources to Learn More: • Juvenile Products Manufacturers Association (JPMA) - www.jpma. org {ONLINE ARTICLE HYPERLINK: https://www.jpma.org/page/baby_ safety_month# } • Center for Disease Control www.cdc.gov {ONLINE ARTICLE HYPERLINK: https://www.cdc.gov/ breastfeeding/recommendations/ handling_breastmilk.htm}

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Growing with the Times: Truliant at Work When the COVID-19 pandemic began to materialize for businesses, Truliant Federal Credit Union realized the need to reinvent its Truliant at Work outreach program.

The program has been agile and continued to evolve, improving online resources to better meet the needs of workforces that suddenly migrated to home offices.

Supporting Employees At its core, Truliant at Work is a financial education and wellness program that aims to benefit businesses who offer their employees membership in the credit union. Once an employee joins Truliant, they can open accounts, apply for loans, receive specialized financial education and services, and attend many on-site or virtual financial seminars that support their individual financial needs and goals.

“One key component missing at many companies is how financial health is correlated to the mental health of employees,” said Kim Alderman, Truliant’s vice president of member experience and the executive in charge of Truliant at Work.

“When employees are comfortable with the elements of their personal finances, it makes them healthier and more productive at work. It helps them adjust and manage the added stress of financial changes.”

The Truliant at Work team.

Truliant at Work currently has six employees who teach classes, handle relationships with business partners, develop curriculum and on-board new business partners. For employers, the program’s experts are able to meet with Truliant at Work member businesses and discuss relevant financial topics like identity theft, retirement planning, credit reports, budgeting and estate planning. The program currently offers 25 classes.

Business Partnerships

The program has more than 1,000 business partners.

Truliant Several presentations are geared to specific age

More Resources Truliant has enhanced online resource pages and added a learning center to help make engaging with the program easier in a remote environment.

Employees can now access Truliant’s new video series on personal finances, and schedule appointments with specialists who are available to speak with them about their personal financial situation.

“Financial education is so relevant right now,” Alderman said. “There is a large gap in many people’s knowledge.

Truliant at Work aims to ensure that all our members are financially stable and better able to enjoy their lives.”

“Financial education is so relevant right now. There is a large gap in many people’s knowledge.”

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groups. Last year, Truliant at Work held 297 classes and scheduled about 300 individual appointments with employees. It is also engaging in market research to identify trends and demographic groups that can benefit from additional financial education.

Truliant at Work offers a survey for employees who work for business partners. The survey anonymously gauges where the employees are in their financial lives.

It also allows employees to set up a review session of their own personal finances.

Truliant at Work is working on long-term programming incorporating financial education into formal wellness programs. For example, one business partner is offering points for employees who attend financial education webinars, seminars and personal financial checkups.

The points an employee accumulates can be used to reduce their personal healthcare insurance costs.

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MAKING AN IMPACT

How Volunteers are Supporting Women Facing Unplanned Pregnancies

BY MARY HOLLOMAN

“I want to be a part of the solution.”

That’s the mantra of Angie, a volunteer serving at The Pregnancy Network in Greensboro, North Carolina. For her, getting involved with the nonprofit’s mission was a no brainer—especially in light of current events. As the nation swells with a variety of responses to the Supreme Court’s decision to overturn Roe, many women like Angie are searching for opportunities to provide practical support.

“We have to make sure each woman in our community knows she is loved, her baby’s life is valuable, and that there are resources available to help her walk through her unplanned pregnancy without fear,” says Angie. She gives of her time by fulfilling a variety of administrative tasks at The Pregnancy Network—tasks that ensure women get the quality care and resources they need.

The Pregnancy Network, a non-profit that exists to empower women to face their unplanned pregnancies without fear, has been serving the Triad of North Carolina since 1985. The organization provides pregnancy tests, limited OB ultrasounds, STD testing and treatment, pregnancy and parenting classes, material resources, community referrals, a mentorship program, and more—all at no cost to clients.

Medical services are administered by staff registered nurses.

But it’s volunteers who carry out many of the day-to-day administrative tasks as well as facilitate classes, serve as peer advocates, assist with organizing donations, and ensure fundraising events come together smoothly.

“We like to say that we are volunteer-led and staff-supported,” says TPN Director of Partnerships Allison Herrington.

Lauren is a physician’s assistant who volunteers at TPN as a class facilitator. She is currently being trained as a peer advocate and recognizes the importance of men and women who give their time.

“The more people we have supporting and working with TPN, the more women we can reach,” she says. In a world

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where as many as 4 in 10 pregnancies are unplanned and many women feel pressure to make a quick decision, a volunteer’s time can make all the difference.

For Lauren, it’s about coming alongside women and offering both compassionate love and practical support. “[We want to] show them that they aren’t alone,” she says.

“There are resources and people who love and want to help support them.”

Rose, a volunteer nurse who administers STD tests and serves as a peer advocate, views her role at TPN as an undeniable link between love and action. “Women with unplanned pregnancies need to see the love of Christ through his people,” she says, “[and this] is demonstrated by providing support, resources, and mentorship.”

Carol, a retired school teacher who has served as an administrative volunteer every week for over a year, believes The Pregnancy Network is worthy of the time investment.

“I am ever more impressed with the education, resources, and mentoring given to prepare women for motherhood,” she says. “All is done in a well-organized manner and with care and kindness.”

Current TPN volunteers feel confident that new volunteers are adequately prepared.

“Attending a First Look class will give you a thorough overview of what types of volunteer opportunities there are as well as an explanation of TPN’s mission,” says Carol. The “First Look” is a monthly event offered by TPN at both Greensboro and Winston-Salem locations. This is the first step for all potential volunteers who are interested in getting involved.

Judy Roderick, Executive Director of TPN, has watched

volunteer involvement multiply over the last 11 years. She believes it’s because community members want to be a part of something bigger than themselves.

“No matter where you serve, every person makes an impact on the life of another.”

For Angie, Carol, Lauren, and Rose, it’s all about reaching more women with the love of Christ.

“The way the staff and volunteers love on the mothers and babies is a beautiful testament to the passion of this organization,” says Lauren.

“It’s a reflection of the love of God.” And their message for those who are considering getting involved? Don’t wait.

“I would absolutely encourage anyone who is considering it to attend a First Look to see the many ways you can get involved,” says Angie.

“You have a vital role to play in this mission,” says Roderick. “There is a place for you here.”

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What If?

Presents Fall Planting & Cold Frame Gardening BY LISA S.T. DOSS

“What-if?” the worrisome words, arrive in the conscious topics spinning in our mind, from safety and financial security to loved ones and pet health. Asking, “What can I do?” leads to a proactive decision to invest time in the ultimate insurance policy—valuable life skills comprising security, shelter, food, water, and medical care! In any emergency, from extreme weather to a personal disaster, you have the power to take charge of your fate by making plans and taking action!

Gardeners tend to focus all their efforts on a prosperous harvest between April and July. Since August and September are still hot, it’s not a time to give up. With shorter days of sunlight approaching and the disappearance of pesky insects, the change of weather brings a new desire to grow a wide range of hearty vegetables, ideal for soups and other comforting recipes, whether stored in crates, canned, or frozen. Just imagine having on hand homegrown goodness for the upcoming season of festivities, holidays, and chilling winter forecasts!

Choosing the Right Location Take a walk around your garden and decide the best location to begin improving the soil. Do not disturb vines, vegetable plants, or herbs thriving or continuing to produce; instead, think about the spaces needing a rejuvenation of the soil. Fortunately, restoring the nutrients to areas that bore a successful crop does not have to be a chore or expensive. Add compostable items, such as tea leaves, coffee grounds, and crushed eggshells, to boost the soil’s nutrient levels. Turning, raking, or tilling will help mix the earth. Additionally, consider an organic material, such as straw, grass clippings, leaves, or aged manure to improve drainage.

Use a Calendar for Guidance Fall gardening is a race against the first freeze. According to the Almanac, the first frost in the Piedmont Triad will arrive on November 3rd. A light freeze, ranging from 29 to 32 degrees, will kill tender plants. The solution is to cover crops with an old sheet, which at least will offer some protection. Temperatures 28 degrees and lower can wreak heavy damage and vast destruction to a garden; therefore, it’s vital to check nighttime temperatures to ensure you do not wake up to devastation.

Cool Weather Crops Throughout August, gardeners can sow arugula, climbing beans, beets, broccoli, cabbage, carrots, cauliflower, chives, collards, cucumber, kale, leeks, lettuce, mustard greens, rutabaga, squash, and turnip seeds. In September, the list slightly changes, by eliminating climbing beans, cucumber, kale, and squash, while adding broad beans, garlic, onions, and radish. Accessing a gardening app, such as www.gardenate.com, will offer a means to know what to plant in zone 7b each month of the year.

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As you prepare to plant, take into consideration the following information or instructions: • Soak seeds hours before planting to increase germination rates.

• Lettuce is the ideal cold-weather plant, with a shortened harvest period. Try planting a crop of lettuce every two weeks to ensure you have fresh produce without feeling overwhelmed.

• Use companion plants to utilize garden space while accommodating the needs of certain plants. For instance, carrots and onions are perfect growing partners, while lettuce, spinach, and arugula create the ideal “salad bed.”

• Hearty herbs like cilantro and parsley are green companions for pansies and other winter flowers. Additional cool-weather herbs are sage, rosemary, thyme, chives, lavender, and mint. Think about a future pot roast with a few fresh sprigs of thyme or crushed garlic. As you plant, consider your family’s favorite meals during the week or throughout the holiday season.

Extending the Growing Season Low temperatures can’t stop a gardener from growing food year-round. An insulated cold frame box is the solution.

While constructing your box from a variety of materials, such as wood, concrete blocks, or bricks, start looking online for a blueprint that accommodates your location. While some people use old windowpanes to disburse light while retaining heat, others combine a handmade wooden frame and six-mil plastic. (Lower-grade plastics won’t provide the greenhouse effect you seek.)

The goal is to insulate your vegetables and keep them safe from the elements. And, most importantly, extend the season of fresh homegrown vegetables.

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RETIREMENT

Adjusting to the Emotional Journey

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

Feelings.

Try as you might to deny, discount, or ditch them, they’re real. And when it comes to adjusting to retirement, your feelings may shift into high gear in unfamiliar territory. The recently-retired people I spoke with candidly identified a host of unexpected, difficult feelings that accompanied their exit from the workforce: • l ost, because they no longer had an “identity” •g uilty about spending their time “frivolously” •b ad for friends and family “still chained to the old 9 to 5” • i ncapable of simply relaxing • just plain bored • c onfused about how to structure and spend their time • s tressed about having more time but less money •g enerally disappointed because retirement wasn’t what they’d imagined But here’s the really good news: most of these very same people say they worked through those feelings and arrived in a much better retirement groove.

Sage advice from those who have been there Okay, but how? The very first thing they did was to home in on their feelings – was it guilt, stress, loss, disappointment, or something else? Once they had a clear handle on the feeling, they dug deeper to understand its cause.

By staying with it, they found ways to work through their feelings and arrive at a better place. Here are the key tips I gathered from them: Remind yourself that you’ve earned this new chapter – if guilt is dragging you down, then take a good hard look at the investment of time, energy, and heart that you put into your working decades.

Consider the many fruits of your labor and see your retirement chapter as one of those “fruits.”

Remember that retirement is a huge life change – as with marriage, relocation, parenting, and so many other life adventures, retirement is a journey, not a fixed destination. It takes time to figure it out, to find your groove. After all, you’re new at this!

Give yourself permission to focus on you – whether you owned your own business or worked for someone else, your main focus was achieving goals. And you did so by contributing your knowledge, skills, wisdom, and experience. Now “you” or “this new chapter” is where you can channel all of that. Make “you” your worthy project!

Allow yourself the time you need to explore new things – you can feel as if you are a failure if you decide to learn golf and discover you’re no good at it or that you hate it. So what?

Move on to the next new thing.

Try several new activities as you experiment with what you want and don’t want now. Think of it as a grand adventure.

Create a new sense of purpose that makes you feel good about yourself – Perhaps making a difference or giving back is a priority for you. If so, identify what would give you a real sense of satisfaction. Is it starting a vegetable garden and literally sharing the fruits of your labor? Volunteering in real time instead of just sending in a donation?

Helping a neighbor on a regular basis?

Your “purpose” on the other hand could be to finally make your health your priority.

Set new goals – Once you have a sense of what you are going for, set a few reasonable goals. Tomatoes this year and then two more vegetables next year? A few hours a week of volunteering now, and increasing those hours once you find the group or organization that really resonates with you? Or how about some very specific health and wellness goals?

Adopt a “less is more” lifestyle and enjoy everything that is free!

Many retired people want to be less encumbered by the very “things” they sought when they were younger.

Consider downsizing or giving away some of your “good” things to those you love so that you can actually see the joy they experience from them. If funds are fixed and limited, enjoy the great outdoors more than ever before, attend free community events, and the simple pleasure of people watching in a local park, chatting with a neighbor, or taking a walk together.

And finally, I heard these words – which speak for themselves – over and over again: • Take good care of yourself – you will be glad that you did • Stay connected with others – relationships are priceless • Stop worrying so much – what you most fear rarely happens!

• Be grateful – to nurture a healthy mood and outlook

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The

LOST PIRATES

of North Carolina’s Coast

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Ahoy,

matey! What did the ocean say to the pirate?

Nothing, it just waved.

Yes, this joke may be a little corny, but I think we can all admit that talking like a pirate and making pirate jokes is fun. These rough and tough people of the seven seas experienced lives of harsh conditions, greed, and thievery. The life of a pirate is one that is known to have been short and mainly tiresome. Yet, learning about the many pirates throughout history and their daily adventures is fascinating, especially when the pirates were somewhat local.

When you think of pirates who “graced” the coast of North Carolina, Blackbeard generally comes to mind. Believed to be legally named Edward Teach, Blackbeard was an English pirate who traveled throughout the West Indies and the Eastern coast of the American colonies. He was born in the United Kingdom, but died in Ocracoke, North Carolina, in 1718. After serving as a privateer in the Royal Navy, Blackbeard turned to piracy. He would steal from merchant ships, and legend has it he would intimidate his enemies by attaching burning fuses to the end of his beard. However, Blackbeard is most famous for his blockade of Charleston Harbor in 1718. In his ship, Queen Anne’s Revenge, Blackbeard and his crew of three smaller ships ravaged five merchant ships in the harbor. As a result, traffic in the harbor stopped and a group of citizens were taken hostage by Blackbeard and his crew. The citizens were ransomed for medicine. After the looting and hostagesituation ended, Blackbeard went north. He wasn’t too faithful to his crew, as he ran three ships aground and left most of his crew. From there, Blackbeard went to North Carolina, where it is stated that he buried a treasure chest or two. Months later, in November 1718, a bounty was placed on Blackbeard by the governor of Virginia, Alexander Spotswood. The legendary pirate met his end in a naval battle off the Tarheel state’s coast and was killed by Robert Maynard, who then cut off Blackbeard’s head and hung it on his ship. Today, the skull is in storage at the Peabody-Essex Museum in Salem, Massachusetts. As for his body, it was thrown into the Pamlico Sound in the Outer Banks.

The legend of Blackbeard is much longer and more detailed than the snippet above, but he isn’t the only pirate to be familiar with our state’s coast. Here is a little bit about three, still famous, but somewhat lesser-known pirates of NorthCarolina.

1. JACK RACKHAM - Known for his Jolly Roger flag with crossed swords, Jack Rackham traveled throughout the Ocracoke Inlet. Nicknamed “Calico Jack,” Rackham was ordered to flee from a French warship after leaving Blackbeard at Ocracoke by his boss, Charles Vane. After traveling to New

Providence, Rackham joined forces with Anne Bonny and the life of piracy for these two began. In 1720, Rackham’s crew was overtaken in Jamaica. He was convicted of piracy and hanged in Port Royal, Jamaica on November 20.

2. STEDE BONNET - With his career in piracy beginning in 1717, Stede Bonnet focused on the areas of Southport, Bath, Beaufort, and Ocracoke. A former planter, Bonnet bought a sloop, hired a crew, and sailed with Blackbeard. After losing his crew and loot to the more well-known pirate, Bonnet sailed to Bath, got a new crew and supplies, and set out to get revenge on Blackbeard. This effort ended with bad luck. Bonnet’s career ended in 1718, when he was captured

by Colonel William Rhett and taken to Charleston. He was hanged on December 10, 1718.

3. WILLIAM KIDD - Located in Carteret County, Money Island is the supposed place where William Kidd left his buried treasure. Whether you are a treasurer hunter or not, the story of William Kidd is still captivating. Before turning to piracy, Kidd was a successful privateer and husband in New York.

On January 30, 1698, Kidd captured an Armenian ship with an English captain. This action caused Kidd to become a wanted man. After leaving his crew in Madagascar, Kidd was enroute to New York, making stops along the way to bury his treasure, including a stop in North Carolina. In 1701, Kidd was arrested and convicted of piracy and murder. Like other pirates before and after him, Kidd was hanged on May 23, 1701.

North Carolina’s majestic coast is known for many things.

According to some historians, our coast was an ideal stop for pirates. We were a midway point between the Caribbean and larger colonial ports in the North. In addition, our waters were often treacherous and created the perfect situation for shipwrecks, thus forming the “Graveyard of the Atlantic.” Authorities in the Outer Banks rarely did anything to stop pirates and often enforced their actions to get their own portion of the pirates’ loot.

Shiver me timbers! Who knew North Carolina was such a popular location for piracy? There are tons of resources throughout our state to learn more about these four pirates and many more who are a part of North Carolina’s coastal history.

And there is no better time to say “Aye, Aye, Captain” and brush up on this portion of our state’s history than at the end of summer; otherwise, you may have to walk the plank. Ok, I’ll stop now with the pirate puns. “Blimey, heave to!”, which means to stop. Last pun, I promise.

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Plans, Schedules, & Effective Habits

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Summer

provides time for growth, rejuvenation, and reinvention. The month of August should reveal a transformed student ready for the new school year. It leads to anticipation with unlimited potential. While students are still learning to juggle school’s numerous responsibilities, calm guidance and a great plan can help them find confidence and project leadership!

CREATE A WORKING PLAN While it may be hard to implement initially, a working plan is essential for student success. Promise! Consider the following questions: 1. What is your after-school schedule Monday through Thursday? It’s vital to write it down to create a visual.

2. How much time is needed to complete homework, reread notes, or correct quizzes or tests on a given night? Using your visual as a guide, do you have enough time to complete schoolwork, factoring in your extracurricular activities and practice schedule? Sometimes, students must sacrifice a few activities to reduce stress levels.

3. While organizations, clubs, church, and community service provide opportunities for socialization, is time factored in for family, friends, and yourself?

Creating a workable plan is a promise to yourself. By setting boundaries and following a schedule, you will have room for all the essential aspects of life, especially eating well and exercising, laughter, and a good night’s sleep.

TIME MANAGEMENT AND ORGANIZATION What makes you a great student? Perhaps you can easily find your notes, which are sequentially dated and have a headline, or you consistently record your assignments in one location. What areas need improving?

Many students are easily distracted or become too sleepy during homework sessions. The following tips may help.

• If deadlines sneak up unexpectedly, would using a dry-erase board or a desk calendar help you to be aware of deadlines? In addition, starting a project immediately and setting deadlines for completion allows extra time to check for errors.

• Number your classes from most demanding number 1, to enjoyable. To eliminate exhaustion, start studying the most challenging subject first.

• If easily distracted, could you study at the kitchen or dining room table for 50-minute stretches and take 10-minute breaks?

• An effective strategy proven to help students gain long-term understanding and improve test scores is reading the day’s notes after class.

• When do you begin long-term assignments, such as projects, papers, and exams? By starting immediately, you can achieve a welldeserved grade.

• How do you identify completed assignments? The ability to check off tasks and confirm completion is a great feeling.

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MAKING PROMISES Every student would like the process of reading, writing, calculating, and studying to come naturally. It takes time to figure out the tools needed to learn and process effectively; therefore, this year, start with a few promises. Perhaps your needs are a study schedule, a means to organize your time or to eliminate the word “procrastination” from your vocabulary. Once you think about what promises you’d like to make, the most challenging part comes—creating a plan that has room for breaks, time with family, and, most importantly, downtime!

The plan will not be perfect after the first “tweak.” However, creating a workable schedule is an investment in reaching for the stars. Students can then define what environmental factors, strategies, and schedule they most need to learn. A plan can boost confidence, grades, and overall wellbeing. Don’t give up! Instead, determine how to devise a solution. Consider it a form of dance; once the rhythm begins, all the steps will soon fall into place!

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Stop Comparing Already!

We All Do It Did you know that as much as ten percent of our thoughts involve making comparisons of some kind?

Yipes! We compare ourselves based on: • attractiveness • wealth • intelligence • success • even the quality of our relationships There isn’t much that escapes our scrutiny, which means that comparison-making is loaded. As social animals, we make comparisons to determine how we stack up against others: Who am I? How am I doing?

Am I progressing or improving? Do I fit in?

This process can be healthy if it motivates us to get on a better track, or to actively seek improvement in a specific area of our life. Most of us are thrilled to be able to tell someone, “You have no idea what a positive impact you’ve had on me. You were my role model for ___________(FILL IN THE BLANK).”

But there is a dark side to making comparisons, one we may be all too familiar with.

Why We Shouldn’t Do It Dr. Deborah Carr cites three reasons, paraphrased below, why comparing ourselves with others is something we shouldn’t do: • First, doing so is foolhardy because the image of perfection that many people cultivate is an illusion – regardless of what they might project on social media and everywhere else.

• Second, life isn’t and never will be a level playing field. We come into this world with different advantages and disadvantages, some of which no amount of “hard work” can make up for.

• Third, rivalry can replace meaningful friendship when making comparisons leads to jealousy and the inability to be happy for others.

If making comparisons is interfering with living your life in a way that you feel good about, it’s time to take some action.

How to Stop Doing It • Notice what triggers you – remember the key comparisons we humans tend to make: attractiveness, wealth, intelligence, success, relationship quality. Identify your key triggers and how you respond. Do you beat yourself up? Feel envious? Judge the other person who has what you want? Next, do what Dr. Susan Biali Haas suggests: write down how your response negatively affects

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BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

you and why focusing on it is a waste of your time. PSA: this may include people who constantly judge you or attempt to make you feel inferior.

• Turn a trigger into a motivator – use that trigger as a motivator to go after what you want for yourself instead of coveting what the other person has. Maybe you get back to the gym, work on your relationship with your significant other, or get started on that longterm financial strategy.

• Give a shout out to your strengths – if your habit is to uphold others’ strengths while focusing on your own weaknesses, you have set yourself up for a lifetime of “self-dissatisfaction” and discontent.

Turn that around by looking at yourself objectively, as an outsider.

Then get busy listing your strengths, your positive qualities, the things that make you unique. Do this often to remind yourself of your innate worthiness.

• Cultivate a generous spirit – at the same time, “be generous of spirit.” We’ve all known people who are stingy with their regard.

Don’t be. By genuinely praising others for their positive qualities and strengths, both you and they are uplifted. Besides, doing so gives you one more positive strength to add to your list!

• Curtail social media – studies repeatedly show a correlation between social media and higher rates of depression, anxiety, and loneliness. If social media is your Go To, work on breaking the habit. Be good to yourself by creating healthy substitutions such as calling a friend (a real friend), going for a walk, gardening, or reading uplifting material.

• Remember that money doesn’t buy happiness – I know, it can sure look as if it does. For a short period of time, a bright, shiny, new bauble does lift our spirits. But over the long haul? No way. In fact, studies repeatedly find that the wealthy don’t experience greater happiness or a stronger sense of well-being than others.

• Get serious about gratitude – yes, you keep hearing this. But gratitude is key to contentment, particularly when you focus on feeling appreciation for the things that matter most in our human experience: loving and being loved, friendship, community, and spiritual abundance.

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No-Mess Painting Projects for Your Littles

BY TARYN JEREZ

There’s

something really amazing that happens when you let a child get creative with paint and play! And for my mother that amazing thing was learning how much she loved me, despite how much of that paint got all over her living room walls and new carpet flooring. (Don’t worry, carpet cleaner and bleach saved the day, from what I’m told!)

If you are looking for a cleaner, mess-free way to let your kids explore with paint and color while still making beautiful artwork with their little hands, here are a few great paint projects to try! Each one is appropriate for toddlers through elementary school, and you may just find yourself wanting to make your own!

#1 Smush Painting in a Bag

If you’re looking for the perfect toddler art activity to help build on sensory experience and exploration, smush painting is it!

SUPPLIES: • Large gallon Ziploc bag • Washable non-toxic paint • Cardstock or other thick paper source • Packing tape, optional Start by folding your paper in half or cutting it to size to make sure it fits nicely inside your Ziploc bag. Next, place different color drops of paint on the paper in any layout you prefer. It can be fun to have your child pick out which colors they want to include! Carefully place your paint-dropped paper inside your Ziploc bag and seal it tightly. You can choose to tape the border down on your child’s highchair tray or table to help keep the bag in place, as this helps some smaller children from trying to open it up! Now watch as little fingers smush the blobs of color all over, making their very own masterpiece! When they are finished, you can take their art out of the bag and lay it safely out of the way to dry.

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#2 Shake-it-Up Splatter Painting

#3 Washable Bath time Gel Painting

If you’ve got an active kiddo on your hands with both energy and creativity to let out, get ready to watch them shake it up!

Making bath time fun is a whole lot easier when you’re washing a little Picasso in the tub! Both older toddlers and bigger kids can get on board with this “messy” painting project!

SUPPLIES:

SUPPLIES: • Mixing bowl • Whisk or hand mixer • Muffin tin • Water • Shower gel • Food coloring • Paint brushes

• Large, clean jar • Washable, non-toxic paint • Dried beans •C ardstock or other thick paper source Start by cutting your paper to make it fit inside your jar, rolling it slightly to fit inside.

Carefully add different color drops of paint to the inside bottom of your jar. (An empty washed-out peanut butter or tomato sauce jar works great!) Pour out a few dried beans into your jar as well, covering the bottom of the paint. Now this is where your kid gets to go crazy!

Encourage them to shake it up, roll it, dance around and get all their energy out while creating something fun. When they finally stop, take out the paper and pick off any beans that may be stuck to the paint. Place it to dry somewhere safe out of your little one’s reach.

Grab your mixing bowl and add a few large pumps of your child’s shower gel or body wash along with about ½ cup of water and begin mixing. Once you start to see that the mixture is turning foamy, you’re ready to add equal parts into your muffin tin. Choose which color food dye you’ll be adding and squirt a few drops into each muffin tin section and mix until the foam turns the right color. Your “paint” is ready to go! Add a few paint brushes and head to the bath to let your little one create some beautiful bath time artwork. This one may not be 100% mess-free, but washes away easily with warm water and won’t leave the tile and grout stained.

Remember, your kids’ greatest learning opportunities will come from simply having fun with you and being able to explore and create. Enjoy trying these no-mess painting projects to make memories together while keeping things clean!

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Out & About

in Winston-Salem with the National Black Theatre Festival

BY HEATHER SPIVEY Photos by Bruce Chapman, Qwens Daniels & Will Nixon

The

National Black Theatre Festival returned to WinstonSalem after a three-year break due to Covid and running biennially, for the week of August 1 – 6, 2022 The event kicked off as the purple carpet was rolled out for the star studded Gala and over 1,000 guests on August 1st at the downtown Benton Convention Center.

The founder of the event, Larry Leon Hamlin created the festival in an effort to connect black theatres from around the country. He wanted to ensure that black theatre survived and thrived. He felt having the event every 2 years would guarantee that there would be enough time for proper planning for a successful festival.

There were many local sponsors for the NBTF that helped make the event possible, including Truliant, Atrium Health, Novant Health and the Winston Salem Forsyth Arts Council. There were also many volunteers who helped make the 6- day event such a welcoming back success, along with leadership from the NC Black Repertory Company, April Broadway – Managing Director NCBRC, Jackie Alexander – Executive Producer of the NBTF and Dr. Eric Sadler – Board Chair NCBRC. Downtown Winston-Salem has become known as the ‘City of Arts and Innovation’ and with the NBTF in town it certainly lived up to its name.

There were over 130 performances throughout the community in 22 different venues during the festive week all performed by professional Black theatre companies from around the world. There were also workshops, a reader’s theatre of new works and many other activities during the week. The celebrity co-chairs for this year’s event was Lisa Arrindell (“Madea’s Family Reunion” and “Livin’ Large”) and Petri Hawkins-Byrd (‘Bailiff Byrd’ from “Judge Judy”).

Brian McLaughlin, Media Relations Director with the National Black Theatre Festival comments, “The NBTF is one of the most historic and culturally significant events in the history of black theatre and is produced by The North Carolina Black Repertory Company (NCBRC). NBTF is the only theatre festival in the country offering six consecutive days of professional theatre. We honor both Larry Leon Hamlin and Sylvia Sprinkle-Hamlin for leaving us such a legacy to continue here on black theatre holy ground.”

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THE

Fancy

Fork

(High Protein) Spicy

Chili Dumplings PREP TIME: 25 MIN COOK TIME: 10 MIN TOTAL TIME: 35 MIN SERVINGS: 6

INGREDIENTS: FOR THE DUMPLINGS: 20 Wonton or Dumpling Wrappers

BY LAUREN SEPHTON These (High Protein) Spicy Chili Dumplings with a tender ground turkey, spicy ginger filling are packed with flavor and beyond easy to make! Perfect for making with the family, for date nights, or a girls’ night in.

1 lb. Ground Turkey or Tofu (This adds the protein but is optional)

FOR THE SPICY GINGER SAUCE:

1 large Carrot, grated

1” Fresh Ginger, grated

¼ Red Onion, finely chopped

2 Garlic Cloves, minced or grated

1 cup Mushrooms, sliced or chopped

3 Tbsp. Soy Sauce

2 Garlic Cloves, minced

1 Tbsp. Agave, or Maple Syrup

1 Tbsp. Ginger, grated or minced

2 tsp. Flour

1 Tbsp. Olive Oil

1 tsp. Chili Pepper Flakes

2 Tbsps. Soy Sauce

½ cup Water

¼ cup Fresh Parsley, chopped

Salt & Black Pepper, to taste

1 tsp. Olive Oil

INSTRUCTIONS: FOR THE SPICY GINGER SAUCE:

As we approach the beginning of fall and end of summer, the seasonal produce is ready to introduce new, hearty vegetables and berries. Some of the September vegetable harvest includes broccoli, cauliflower, artichokes, French beans, leeks, spinach, and sweet corn. And the fruit we’ve all been waiting for...apples! But the list doesn’t end there. September is bursting with blackberries, blueberries, figs, nectarines, persimmons, melons, plums, and peaches. Let’s not forget that September is also “N.C. Wine and Grape Month.”

1. In a small saucepan, sauté the olive oil, ginger, and garlic over mediumhigh heat for 1 minute.

But this month, we’re diving further into the health benefits of two specific September delights—mushrooms and carrots.

Mushrooms are a rich, yet low-calorie, source of protein, fiber, and antioxidants.

They also may help reduce the risk of developing serious health conditions, such as Alzheimer’s, heart disease, diabetes, and cancer. Lastly, they’re a great source of Selenium that is important in helping to make DNA and protect against cell damage.

Did you know that the fiber in carrots could help keep blood sugar levels under control?

They’re also a phenomenal source of betacarotene, vitamin A, calcium, and vitamin K, which may help strengthen your bones and lower diabetes risk.

FOR THE DUMPLINGS:

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1- 2 tsp. Chili Pepper Flakes (depending on how spicy you want it)

2. Add the remaining ingredients, whisking until evenly combined and smooth.

3. Bring the sauce to a boil, then reduce heat to medium until thickened, about 5-7 minutes. Let the sauce cool to room temperature (if serving immediately) or keep warm on low heat to serve with the dumplings.

1. In a large skillet, allow the olive oil to warm up for 1 minute over mediumhigh heat.

2. Sauté the garlic, red onion, and ginger until fragrant, about 1-2 minutes.

3. Add the ground turkey. Using a spatula, break up the turkey occasionally until fully cooked.

4. Add in the grated carrots, sliced mushrooms, soy sauce, and chili pepper flakes. Stir until the mushrooms are tender, about 3-4 minutes.

5. Remove from heat and allow to cool to touch. Stir in the fresh parsley.

6. To assemble the dumplings, add 1 Tablespoon of filling to the center of the dumpling wrapper. With your finger, lightly coat the outside of the wrapper with water. Fold the moistened half of the wrapper over the filling and, using your fingers, pleat the edges to seal. Repeat with the remaining wrappers and filling.

7. Heat a little olive oil over mediumhigh heat in a large skillet and add a few dumplings, cooking them in batches. Once the bottoms of the dumplings start to brown, add a splash of water and cover with a lid. Steam for about 4-5 minutes, or until the dumplings are cooked and the water has evaporated. Transfer the cooked dumplings to a paper towel-lined plate to remove any excess moisture.

8. Top with chopped scallions and serve alongside the Spicy Ginger Sauce.

Enjoy!

Now, it’s time to grab our aprons and enjoy the seasonal delights of end-ofsummer produce!

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The

Rosey Side of

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“There’s rosemary; that’s for remembrance. Pray you, love, remember.” ~ William Shakespeare

“Dew

of the Sea” Rosmarinus, known as rosemary, is a fragrant sprig connected to remembrance, love, and fidelity. Perhaps, to you, it may bring to mind the names of loved ones and comforting meals. On a medicinal level, the mere scent causes surges in energy levels, increased mental clarity, and minimizes certain aches and pains.

It’s the reason this specific herb has been a staple woven into traditional life for centuries. One sprig holds the memory of a favorite family recipe, a household remedy, a tea blend, candle scent, or medicine. As a source of antiinflammatory and antioxidant compounds and essential vitamins and minerals, the woody perennial is irresistible for overall good health!

A Cognitive Stimulant Smell drives our desire. Like many herbs in the mint family, Rosemary is a cognitive stimulant. Studies prove that evergreen leaves offer neuroprotective effects to enhance mental clarity, concentration, memory retention, and wakefulness.

While candles and aromatherapy oils are effective, try adding a few drops of rosemary and lemon essential oil to a spray bottle filled with distilled water, and begin using it as an air freshener. The result will be infectious!

Rosemary Tea The warm mug held between two hands is a feeling of comfort. The infusion, steeped for minutes or refilled, leads to diversified medicinal effects. Two primary active compounds, caffeic and rosmarinic acids, have anti-inflammatory and antioxidant

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compounds, strengthening the body against heart disease and cancer.

Additional healing: • Rosemary loosens overworked muscles and arthritic joints; • Warms chronically cold hands and feet; • Restores balance to hormone levels; • Treats indigestion and pain associated with cramps, bloating, and heartburn.

• Controls skin conditions like eczema, rashes, and fungal infections; • Protects the surface of the skin from harmful UV rays; • Relieves headaches and mild migraines; • Can be applied topically as a facial wash or on the scalp to support the growth of healthier and stronger hair.

Making Homemade Rosemary Tea For over two thousand years, drinking an herbal infusion has remained fashionable, especially if you love the fragrant, earthy taste. While a tea bag facilitates the intended result, consider clipping one healthy sprig. Just remember, fresh leaves have a mild flavor; therefore, consider adding twice the amount, such as two measured teaspoons per cup of water; dried herbs, on the other hand, only require one measured teaspoon.

• Elevate the flavors with a splash of lemon or an orange wedge.

• Select a natural sweetener, such as honey, versus using a variation of sugar.

• Add a splash of milk or a plant-based

alternative—for example, almond or coconut milk—for a rich taste.

Steeping is a preference depending on whether you like a standard or deep, herbal, embodied taste. Start with four minutes and take a sip; continue extending the time until you’ve achieved a cup of perfection!

Growing Rosemary Every garden needs at least one hardy perennial that can tolerate freezing conditions, strong gales, and thrives during drought. Pesky bugs, such as mosquitoes, black flies, and ticks, will fly far away from the Rosemary plant, whether located near the porch, a child’s sandbox, or along a walkway. If you need a miracle to effectively keep cabbage loopers, slugs, and cockroaches away from your raised beds, plant rosemary. Now that you know the secret, consider surrounding your outdoor sitting areas with rosemary, or creating a stunning scent barrier by including additional colorful and fragrant herbs, like lavender, basil, thyme, and sage, that produce attractive flowers to lure beneficial insects and pollinators.

With ample rosemary sprigs at your disposal for a medicinal need or recipe, hang the woody trimmings in your kitchen or bathroom, or burn them in the fireplace to further boost the senses of mind, body, and spirit! Herbs need frequent trims for a new generation to carry the tradition of one amazing super herb! * Lisa is a N.C. State Master Gardener volunteer and a state-certified beekeeper.

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MY MIND-FULL LIFE

BY DENISE HEIDEL

We’re

in the home stretch of this series based on My Grace-Full Life. We wrap up in December, and with only four more issues to go – this month, we’re focused on “My Mind-Full Life.” As I sat down to write this column, “Just Want You” by Sarah Reeves was playing on the radio. It occurred to me how timely the song was when I was preparing to write about being mindful…. If you’re not familiar with the song, the lyrics include: I don’t want it if You’re not in it I just want You No, I don’t want it if You’re not in it I just want You Your heart, Your ways Show me Your face Your song and Your voice Break through the noise The song is, in short, a mindful decision to choose God’s way and His will above the singer’s own. It’s the singer’s declaration that she wants to be closer to God. And that’s what “My Mind-Full Life” is about. Being mindful of God’s way over our ways. Mindful of His will above our own.

Purposefully choosing to seek Him above our own agenda.

In a world that gives lip service to being an individual while simultaneously punishing those who refuse to conform, mindfully choosing God is definitely not the norm in our culture. It’s kind of an oxymoron since Christians have long been accused of being boring and no fun. But to quote Alice Cooper, “Trashing your hotel room is easy. But being a Christian, that’s a tough call. That’s real rebellion.”

Because purposefully choosing to follow Jesus is to rebel against the world’s narrative. The Bible tells us to be mindful in this manner – “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God” (Romans 12:2) What does it mean to be transformed by the renewing of your mind? How do you renew your mind?

It starts by backing up to Romans 12:1 – where Paul wrote that we should present our bodies as “a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God.” Because we have received the gifts of forgiveness, mercy, and grace from God’s overflowing generosity

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through His Son’s sacrifice for our sins – it’s out of gratitude that we allow His Holy Spirit to transform our minds to be like-minded with Christ.

To be a living sacrifice means to sacrifice our will for God’s.

We must be mindful of saying no to ourselves and yes to God. To be holy is to live set apart; Christians should look different from the world. We have to be mindful to reject what the world says and embrace what God says.

To be acceptable is to put on the righteousness of Christ.

We must be mindful to make the right choices over the easy ones as instructed in His Holy Word.

We’ll never be perfect at it in this lifetime, but it’s our weakness that His strength is magnified (2 Corinthians 12:9). The more mindfully willing and obedient we are, God is faithful to equip us, and that’s where transformation occurs.

When we surrender to Jesus, trusting in Him for our salvation, we recognize His authority in our lives. We acknowledge that we aren’t enough, but He is. Being mindful in our faith journey is an instrumental part of the sanctification process that begins when we receive the Holy Spirit.

The beautiful thing is – the more we practice mindfulness, the closer we draw to God. The easier it becomes to sing along: I don’t want it if You’re not in it I just want You

No, I don’t want it if You’re not in it I just want You

Your heart, Your ways Show me Your face

Your song and Your voice Break through the noise

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MINUTE for your Minister PASTOR’S WIFE— SEEN & WATCHED

BY JOHN MCKEEHAN

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pastor’s wife recently shared that she was overwhelmed with all the jobs and responsibilities she had in her role as a pastor’s wife. She said, “I don’t feel ‘seen’ and yet I know I’m always ‘watched.’” She then added, “Does that make any sense?”

Yes, her description makes total sense to anyone who’s been in ministry. It accurately describes the unique and often forgotten position many pastor’s wives find themselves in.

How about your pastor’s wife? Do you really “see” her and make sure she is “seen” and appreciated for all she does, often behind the scenes and often without pay?

Do you make sure she doesn’t feel “watched” and talked about for what she does or doesn’t do or how her children behave?

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BY PASTOR RON GARNER

The Church’s PR Problem Several

years ago, my denomination came out with a new marketing campaign, “ReThink Church.” I thought it was extremely timely. Don’t get me wrong. I fully realize I am no marketing expert. I was one of the few kids in the ‘80s who actually thought the “This Is Your Brain on Drugs” campaign, the one with the egg frying in a pan, was effective. A Don Draper of Mad Men fame, I am not.

But back to “ReThink Church.” Churches (all churches) in the last decades have taken a hit. I have to disagree with P.T. Barnum’s dictum that “all publicity is good.”

Because, let’s face it, it’s not. Like someone tweeting they found rusty screws in their chocolate shake at a popular fast-food chain, some PR is just simply bad. LIkewise, most of the church’s publicity these days is less than stellar. And I am not one of those pastors who is going to blame the media. Sure, we don’t see many stories on our news app like “Christ Community Church Feeds the Hungry!” Or “First Baptist/Methodist/Presbyterian/etc. Collects Clothes for the Homeless!” Why not? I personally don’t think it’s because there is some secular cabal out to squash everything Christian. In my humble opinion, it’s because it’s not sensational. Which are you more likely to read and, more importantly from the media’s perspective, be exposed to the paid advertising: “Church Quilters Knit Sweater Vests for Veterans” or “Yeti Eats a Veterinarian!”? Okay, I know, over the top, but you get the point. Sensational sells. Routine doesn’t. This is why, when we do hear something in the news about a church, it’s something along the lines of, “Pastor Caught in Sex Scandal!” or, “Church Treasurer Defrauds Congregation.” I think the media is less to blame than we, the media consumers.

Again, I digress. I believe the marketing campaign and idea itself of “ReThinking Church” is important, because many, or maybe most, people who don’t go

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to church (and even a significant number who do) have a negative perception of the body of Christ. Rather than seeing it as a force for good and the loving hand of God in this world, they see the Church as a mere institution filled with hypocritical, judgy people. And, of course, they’re right! I say this as someone who loves the Church and who at times is judgy and hypocritical himself. And that is the paradox. The Church Universal (all Christians everywhere), the very bride of Christ being transformed into His beautiful, splendid image (Ephesians 5:25-27), is also made up of broken, fallen people—well, like me.

This is why I believe the churches, at least in the United States, have a PR crisis, or at least a challenge, on our hands. How do you say, “There is something wonderful, divine, and life-changing going on here, and you should come and experience it!”, while warning simultaneously, “we are wounded, fragile, sometimes petty, and yes, judgy, people”? I think even Mr. Draper would have a challenge with this one.

I believe the mistake the Church has made too often is emphasizing the first, to the exclusion of the second.

What I mean is that we paint a lopsided view of church as all good, without admitting the messy parts. It’s like serving an elegant dish at a five-star restaurant. The patrons never see how the dish was made in the kitchen.

And that is the way it should be in that context, but in the Church, everyone at some point sees the kitchen.

They witness how the “dish” is made, and at times, it ain’t pretty.

Thus, the “ReThink Church” campaign hits the proverbial nail on the head. We need to move away from the idea that people in churches have it all together (we don’t), and everything we do is on moral point (it isn’t). Instead, we need to convey to the world (to quote the original “Dear Abby”) that we are “a hospital for the sinners, not a museum for saints.” If we can do this, we will get people not only to “Rethink Church,” but also to reconsider giving us a try.

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The View from My Section – A Father’s Perspective

A Senior Woman with a Freshman Mind

BY A. KEITH TILLEY

Years

ago, in my junior year of college as I sat in my Art History class on the first night, I witnessed an elderly woman sitting on the far side of the room intentionally spacing herself a small distance from the rest of the class. I could tell she was apprehensive. She wasn’t talking to anyone, simply reading a small book she had brought with her before class began. When the professor arrived, he introduced himself, and then he had us go around the room to do the same.

When he reached the older woman, she told a short story of how she had finished high school and always wanted to go to college. Life got in the way, she got married, had children and before she knew it, her fate had been sealed as a lifelong mother, and that would be her claim to fame from then on.

She had a few hobbies as I remember, but the idea of getting a college degree was something she could never let go of in her mind. Finally, around the age of 67 (if my memory is correct) she decided to apply. And, this was her first class, in her first semester of college, in her entire life.

Now, ideally, I should have been marveling at her perseverance or her determination to not let anything prevent her from achieving this dream. However, as a somewhat younger man myself, all I could think of was “why?” Why would someone that age want to endure the struggles and challenges of getting a degree when obviously they would never use it for a job? I simply couldn’t fathom learning for the sake of learning. It wasn’t a part of my vocabulary then.

Fast forward to today, and now I can understand her inspiration. I’m not saying I want to go back through this experience all over again at my age, but I can see how the thought of being around young people, hearing different perspectives, learning new technologies and ideas, and understanding the world in a way

you didn’t before would be intriguing.

When we’re young, aside from enjoying every moment in the present, we look forward to the day we no longer have homework, quizzes, tests, term papers and late-night cram sessions. We certainly don’t see ourselves ever needing to be in this situation again. After all, that’s when life truly begins, after college graduation.

In reality, though, we never stop learning.

The process by which we learn may take different forms, but the result is the same.

This grand lady understood this when the rest of us didn’t. She participated in the class from that night on in a very rewarding way. She had lots to offer with her experiences, travels and family history to bring thoughtful commentary on the artwork we studied. Her presence and contributions began to affect the rest of us. Participation grew, conversations sprang out of her comments and the result of the dialog dispersed allowed us to remember certain pieces of art and periods that, quite frankly, I’m not sure we would have otherwise. She actually made “us” smarter. We never told her this, of course. I don’t know why; blame it on youthful arrogance, perhaps.

She began that first night apprehensive, a bit nervous and unsure of herself, but as the semester progressed, she became the most popular student in the class.

She made us comfortable. She asked questions we were reluctant to ask. She

opened our minds to a perspective we didn’t have before. And, her actions led us to participate in a way that made the class one of the most memorable ones I ever took.

The lesson she taught us all was lifelong learning is not some marketing cliché, it’s real. The more we read and open our minds to the world around us, the better we become as thinkers, decision makers, citizens, parents and, most certainly, grandparents. It keeps our minds sharp; it makes our conversations more interesting, and as long as we remember to be respectful of others’ opinions and beliefs, it makes us more fun to be around, even for the younger folks.

So, whatever your interest, continue to pursue it, learn as much as you can and don’t let dreams die as long as you’re still above ground. You may not use this newfound information and knowledge for traditional purposes (i.e., job) but that doesn’t diminish what it can do for the rest of your life.

Upon finishing my master’s degree four years later, she was a part of my overall graduating class. I remember fondly her participating in that day. She had lots of family around her, including grandkids, supporting her every step of the way. I know she was as happy and proud as we were, and now, she had even more great stories to tell.

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I MISS the Once

every seven days, we stopped what we were doing to intently listen to a man with the perfect radio voice countdown the Top 40 hits of the week. Would Madonna hold on to that top spot? Or would Michael Jackson be crowned king again?

Thinking back on it now, I’m amazed we had the attention span to listen to the entire show. But, considering we didn’t have nearly the number of distractions that are present today, it does make sense.

I miss Casey Kasem.

I miss the ‘80s.

Paul Harvey would keep us entranced until he revealed “the rest of the story.” Dick Clark was the gentleman who helped us ring in every New Year. Ronald Reagan brought us out of the gas lines of the ‘70s and urged another superpower’s leader to “tear down this wall.” Dan Rather and Tom Brokaw gave us the Evening News.

I miss Paul, Dick, Ron, Dan, and Tom. I miss the ‘80s.

BY DAMIAN DESMOND

I miss my trapper keeper.

I miss the ‘80s In the evenings after the news, we became part of the TV families. Whether it was the Keatons on Family Ties, or the Huxtables on the Cosby show, we always looked forward to the laughs, the tears, and the escape from reality that those TV families provided us for just a little while. If it wasn’t sitcoms, then we knew there was always a different sort of escape—music videos on MTV! (When MTV did nothing but play actual music videos.)

Those were the days! Sometimes, the choice in our TV viewing centered around education. The options were plentiful. But my favorites were the reruns of The Electric Company, Mutual of Omaha’s Wild Kingdom and Marty Stouffer’s Wild America. I miss the Keatons, the Huxtables, MTV, Morgan Freeman (yes, he was on The Electric Company), Marlin Perkins and Mr. Stouffer.

My very first movie at the theater was none other than Indiana Jones and the Raiders of the Lost Ark. I was mesmerized the entire time by the amazing Dr. Jones played by Harrison Ford. Mr. Ford would also star in one of the next movies I saw in the theater—Return of the Jedi.

My mother swears that the nonstop action and sounds of that movie helped push her into delivering my younger sister. I sat with glee with my cousins and uncle as we traveled through time with Marty McFly and the eccentric, but lovable, Dr. Emmett Brown. And yet again, with my cousins, I watched a group of crazy scientists battle the supernatural in Ghostbusters.

I miss the ‘80s.

I miss Indy, Han, Marty, and Dr. Venkman.

I miss the ‘80s.

I miss the ‘80s.

Every summer, early in August, I would make the pilgrimage to the mall with my grandmother for the back-to-school shopping experience. New shoes. New outfits. But the crème de la crème? The new trapper keeper. It just wouldn’t be the first day of school without seeing everyone with their brand-new trapper keepers—every pencil neatly in its pouch. The loose-leaf paper and notebooks smartly clipped into it. So what if most of them looked like a garbage heap within a week or two? It didn’t matter to us. What did matter was the pride we all had walking in on that first day with our highlyorganized-ready-to-learn-super-cool-trapper keeper!

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In the fall on Sundays after church, we would return home where I would spend the afternoon supporting my favorite football team. After heating up a TV dinner and placing it onto the folding card table that was set up in front of the sofa, I would cheer on Joe, John, Art, Gary, Dexter, and of course the Hoggettes! “Hail to the Redskins “was a song I grew to love.

I miss the Redskins.

When we drove somewhere and it was a nice day, we rolled down the car windows with our hand. If we wanted to change the channel on the TV, we stood up and walked over to turn the knob. If we wanted to have popcorn, we cooked it on the stove. If we needed to make a mix tape for our Walkman, we recorded songs off the radio. When we wanted to earn some money, we delivered newspapers or cut lawns.

I miss those simpler times of life.

I miss the ‘80s.

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7 Ways to Advocate for Your Child at School

BY TRIAD MOMS ON MAIN GUEST BLOGGER NEELY TURLINGTON

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you’re like me, the start of a new school year can bring on a range of emotions. There can be excitement for the possibilities ahead, worry about the challenges, and anxiety about how to get the year started on the right track.

As the parent of a child with learning difficulties, special needs, or differences, this can be a difficult time of year. But it doesn’t have to be overwhelming if you have a game plan. If you are ready to welcome the new school year and get your student off to a great start, consider these seven tips to make it a great year!

1 – Know the law and how it works.

Knowing your rights to access special services and accommodations is the first step in creating success for your student. The NC public school laws about education are written with very specific and sometimes confusing vocabulary. Laws about special education are no different. Terms like Individualized Education Plan (IEP), 504 Plan, IDEA, and Free and Appropriate Public Education (FAPE) can make your head spin! For that matter, what is a child with “special needs,” a “learning disability” or “least restrictive environment,” anyway?

Take time to understand what different terms mean, how they work in school and how to access what your child needs to succeed.

The more you know about your options, the easier meetings and conversations with educators become. For more information on your rights as a parent of a child in public school, visit Wrights Law at www.wrightslaw.com.

2 – Find an education advocate.

If your student is struggling with a lesser-known disability or challenge, find an advocate who can help you explain it. Taking another parent, a professional advocate, doctor, or child specialist to school meetings can go a long way in educating your child’s education team on his/her needs. As parents we are emotionally attached to the situation, and having to educate someone on the specific ins and outs can be emotional. An advocate is unbiased and often can be a very valuable asset in answering questions and making recommendations.

3 – Get organized.

There are many tools you can use to stay organized. However, especially in the public school system, you’ll rack up a lot of paper as a parent with a child that has special needs. My advice is to get a big notebook! Keep copies of documentation and notes and take your notebook with you to all meetings at school. The more organized you are, the more proactive you can be in conversations with teachers and administrators.

4 – Document everything.

Bullet points will work! Taking notes of conversations, questions for your next meeting, answers to those questions and so forth creates a story about the school year. Documentation can save you from repeating past conversations or help you refresh your

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teacher’s memory. Let’s be honest, as much as you are advocating for your child there are other parents with children in the same class who are doing the same. Our teachers have many different plans in place, so let’s help them by taking good notes, keeping the dialog moving forward, and gently reminding them when it’s needed.

5 – Communicate appropriately and often.

I’m not encouraging you to dominate the class at Open House or Facebook message your child’s teacher every day. In the first few weeks of school find out how your teacher likes to communicate.

Do they use e-mail, texting or an app? When do they schedule meetings, before or after school?

Your child’s teacher is your primary partner in his/ her education. If the teacher needs to bring in other educators or administrators, they will. It doesn’t hurt to also get to know the school guidance counselor, psychologist, and principal. They are a part of your student’s education team, too.

6 – Be a partner.

Think about how you can be a resource for your child’s teacher or the school as a whole. Parents have limited time, but sending in needed supplies, volunteering during your lunch hour, helping your child at home or offering to volunteer in the class once a month, can go a long way. You are your child’s greatest asset. Any way you can support the ones who are on the front lines with your child each day, will create more open communication and show you support the educational environment.

7 – Be flexible; it’s a marathon, not a sprint.

For most of us, our children will be in some formal educational setting for 15-20 years. While what’s happening in fifth grade will no doubt impact what’s going to happen in tenth grade, it’s not urgent to make that leap overnight. Trial and error are a part of learning, and finding what works for your student is no different. Yes, you want to see success and gains in the short-term, but take a long view and recognize all the progress along the way. Keeping a positive and encouraging outlook when it comes to education will help you and your child.

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Bring On Autumn and New Challenges After

a long and very hot summer, it will soon be the wonderful season of autumn. The cooler weather, fires in the fireplace, beautiful fall leaves, Halloween, Thanksgiving, football, ice hockey – what’s not to love about this time of year?

It also means schools are back in session. As long ago as it was, I remember the waning days of summer vacation.

Part of me dreaded the thought of having to wake up early, a day of classes, homework, and what seemed like an eternity until the weekend came. The other part loved getting back to seeing friends daily, new school supplies and clothes, and new teachers. However, to be honest, that second part wore off after a couple of weeks. I smile when remembering one of my granddaughter’s reactions after her first week in kindergarten. She was used to going to pre-school four days a week from 9-12. When the weekend came after her first week in all-day kindergarten, she was stunned to find out that she had just started the long road of education.

Six of my seven grandchildren are of school-age. Two are in first grade, one in third, one in fourth, one in sixth, and one entering high school. They are all amazing students, love learning, and are well adjusted to their schools. I am having a little trouble wrapping my head around the fact that our eldest grandchild is now in high school. The years keep flying by!

After attending the same school from K-8, she will embark on a new experience. High school is an adjustment no matter where you have been previously. These are the years that take you from teenager to young adult. The

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classes you take may give an insight into what you will pursue if your next step upon graduation is college, trade school, or entering the workforce.

My granddaughter is extremely focused, wise, and mature beyond her years. She has always excelled in her schoolwork, but is well-rounded in activities in and outside of school. She graduated from her previous school with the highest award given. To say I am proud of her would be an understatement. However, entering this phase of her education will bring new challenges and experiences.

Going from a small, private school to a large, public school will be one adjustment. She has been accepted into the highly competitive International Baccalaureate program which numbers more than 1,075 students enrolled with nearly 100 on a waiting list. I want her to continue her love of learning, but I also want her to find time to enjoy being a teenager. I know her parents will be vigilant in watching for signs that she can or cannot handle this new pressure. Finding a balance is important.

I know in my heart that my granddaughter will succeed in everything she attempts as she always has. I will pray that it will be an easy transition and the beginning of four safe and happy school years. As with each new season, we adapt to the change. The heat of the summer will give way to the cooler days and nights of fall; as nervous anxiety will give way to finding ease with a new school and schedule that has become routine. And, as her grandmother, I will be here if she needs me!

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Congratulations to Connor & Kayla Dalton on the birth of their daughter Mara Justine on July 3rd, 2022!

Congratulations to Alexander Katers & Libby Ewald who were married on July 9th!

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The FALL Menu

BY DENISE HEIDEL

School

is back in season, and that means the fall season is right around the corner. For many, fall is a favorite season. Certainly, that is the case for the Gogolak family, owners of Be Kind Coffee Co., a coffee shop in Clemmons that has quickly earned a reputation for delicious drinks, divine baked goods, and is a community favorite for its friendly atmosphere and ambiance.

Co-owner and CEO Amanda Gogolak shared, “Fall was always our favorite time of year. Not only for the cooler weather, but we love watching the trees turn their gorgeous autumn colors. And at our house, it’s also the start of the holiday season and family get-togethers.”

For the Gogolaks, that means gathering around the kitchen table to sample a variety of fall favorites—family recipes that have been passed down from grandmothers on both sides of the family. “For as long as I can remember, the kitchen has always been the heart of our home. The temptation to reach for something delicious often earned a loving smack on the hands from our grandmothers, who were always busy preparing traditional family dishes. At Be Kind Coffee Co., this time of year reminds us of those wonderful women who paved the way for our store. Not only do we pay homage to our grandmothers by sharing their recipes with our customers, we, in essence, get to invite our customers to our family table—to share the culinary memories we grew up with.

“Not only are these recipes passed down from my grandmothers and great-grandmothers,” Amanda continued, “We have my husband’s grandmother’s recipes.

Gibran’s grandmother was from Mexico, and we have our sweet empanadas thanks to her. They are a fall favorite for many! In addition, we have other heirloom recipes we look forward to sharing with our customers!”

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All that said, the fall menu at Be Kind Coffee is here! Stop by soon to enjoy: • Pumpkin Empanadas • Apple Pecan Empanadas • Spiced Sweet Potato Cardamom Biscuits • Apple Cake • Pumpkin Loaf • Brown Butter Pumpkin Pecan Cookies • Oatmeal Pecan Chocolate Chip Cookies • Pumpkin Spice Muffins (Vegan) • Pecan Bars (Gluten-Free) • Cardamom Pumpkin Bread (mini-loaves shaped like pumpkins)!

Additionally, Amanda and her crew have been busy perfecting some fall drinks that coffee enthusiasts won’t want to miss: • Caramel Macchiato with Praline Cold Foam • Fireside S’mores Mocha • Heath Bar Latte • Pumpkin Spice Macchiato with Praline Foam • Salted Caramel Mocha • Spicy Cayenne Chai • Pumpkin Pie Frappe • Salted Caramel Cold Brew with Pumpkin Cream Cold Foam “At Be Kind Coffee Co, we always offer a year-round selection of gluten-free and dairy-free baked goods, as well as dairy-free milk options for our beverages,” explained Amanda.

“Not only do we have tons of delicious reasons to visit the shop— our regulars know we LOVE to party! So, mark your calendar for Halloween! Make sure to ‘trick or treat’ with us, grab a Spooky Krispy Treat or Mint Graveyard Cake Cup, Toasted Marshmallow, or Mint Frankenstein Frappe! They are Spooktacular!”

Be Kind Coffee Co. is located at 3560 Clemmons Road, Suite B, in Clemmons. Call the store at 336.893.9892, or e-mail them at info@bekindcoffeeco.com. Also, be sure to like Be Kind Coffee Co. on Facebook and follow them on Instagram!

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NOW THROUGH OCTOBER 1 F45 TRAINING WINSTONSALEM CHALLENGE F45 Training Winston-Salem, 486 N Patterson Avenue, Suite 125. Fitness.

Nutrition. Accountability: 6-week challenge to bring together exercise and nutrition to help you meet your goals. This is an opportunity to combine your fitness journey with a nutritional guideline to help each participant reach his or her goals. We will be offering pre, mid and post goal meetings with our coaches. This challenge provides all meal plans (mainstream, vegan and vegetarian), and recipes are delicious!

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SEPTEMBER 1 SCHUBERT TO SHAW – MUSIC CAROLINA SUMMERFEST 7:30pm, Piedmont Music Center, 212 North Broad Street in W-S. The Eno String Quartet and guests perform works by women composers Fanny Mendelssohn and Caroline Shaw, as well as Schubert’s “Trout” Quintet. Cost: $26/person. app.arts-people.com/ index.php?show=140772

SEPTEMBER 10 UR AWAKENING DIRECTOR’S CONFERENCE 9am-1pm, UR Coliseum, 4421 Poindexter Street in Walkertown.

This is an intimate conference limited to just 100 guests allowing for more meaningful conversations and likeminded professional connections. Every guest at UR Awakening will receive VIP treatment

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from the moment they arrive – with access to complimentary welcome reception, gourmet food and wellness experiences. Cost: $199/person. urcoliseum.com/events

As always, each attendee receives four tickets for the fabulous prize board drawings! Please consider bringing school supplies to donate to the Educator Warehouse.

FALL FESTIVAL 2022 AT YOUR HOME MARKETPLACE

SEPTEMBER 16-17

9am-6pm, Your Home Marketplace, 670 South Stratford Road in W-S. Come explore our 11,000-square-foot vendor mall, featuring 87 vendors, which will be stocked with new fall merchandise in addition to the other high quality merchandise we offer year-round! Oneday-only sales event with discounts of 10%-30% throughout the mall. yourhomemarketplacenc.com

SEPTEMBER 12 KIDS’ MORNING OUT 10-11:30am, Salem Gymnastics & Swim, 4870 Country Club Road in W-S. Free event! Come see all that Salem Gymnastics & Swim has to offer with a variety of individual activity stations and two warm water pools with amazing instructors. If you’d like to give pool a try, don’t forget your bathing suit and towel. Children under 3 must be accompanied by a parent in the pool.

And as always, each adult also receives four tickets for the fabulous prize board drawings.

SEPTEMBER 14 GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT 5pm-until…Bermuda Run, 324 Bermuda Run Drive in Bermuda Run. Grab a friend, a neighbor, your sister, your mother, a co-worker and have a much-needed Girls’ Night Out! Reservations required…$20 per person includes a taco bar, live music by Michael Cheney and a photo booth.

2022 JOYTIME WOMEN’S RETREAT Church on 68, 300 NC 68 in Greensboro. Women from across the Triad and beyond are invited to this two-day retreat that will feature Christian author, speaker and radio personality Dr. Joy Green and lead singer of the award-winning band Big Daddy Weave, Mike Weaver. The topic of the event will be “steadfast faith.”

Tickets for the retreat are $22-$44/ person and can be purchased through eventbrite.com.

SEPTEMBER 17 FORSYTH COUNTY EXTENSION MASTER GARDENER VOLUNTEERS’ FALL PLANT SALE 8am-2pm, 1450 Fairchild Road in W-S. Annual fall plant sale that is a major fundraiser for the Extension Master Gardener Volunteer Program. Shop early for best selection. Sales are cash or check only. Rain or shine you will find a great selection of native plants, pollinator plants, flowering shrubs and trees.

ABBY BRYANT & THE ECHOES 7:30pm, The Historic Earle Theatre, 142 North Main Street in Mount Airy.

Hailing from Gastonia, singer Abby Bryant and guitarist Bailey Faulkner have been hanging out and playing music together since they were kids.

The pair has recently cemented their presence as a regional powerhouse with their debut album Not Your Little

Girl released with their full group Abby Bryant & The Echoes. Cost: $15/person. eventbrite.com/e/abby-bryant-theechoes-tickets-360644967807 WINTER GARDENING WORKSHOP Minglewood Farm and Nature Preserve, 238 Minglewood Road in Westfield. Get your winter garden started! Participants will learn about the great varieties of vegetables that grow in cooler weather, how to prolong your harvest and help feeding your garden during winter. eventbrite.com/o/minglewood-farmand-nature-preserve-17188338999

SEPTEMBER 23-25 DAMAGED WOMAN’S BLUES 7-9pm (23rd-24th); 12-2pm (25th), SECCA, 750 Marguerite Drive in W-S. Live theatre event.

SEPTEMBER 24 WINSTON-SALEM WALK FOR LIFE Registration begins at 9am. Walk starts at 10am. Two Cities Church, 854 West Northwest Boulevard in W-S. The Walk for Life is a family friendly event with a short program, a twomile walk (through the West End neighborhood), kids activities and a hot dog lunch to conclude the day. thepregnancynetwork.org/wswalk NATURE CRAFT DAY Minglewood Farm and Nature Preserve, 238 Minglewood Road in Westfield.

Join us for a day of nature crafts!

Trails will be open for hiking. In this event, you’ll find art projects using simple natural elements like pine cones, leaves, rocks and twigs. You’ll

love getting crafty with these natural materials. This program is donationbased. Visit our website to learn more about our mission and upcoming opportunities (minglewoodpreserve. org). eventbrite.com/o/ minglewood-farm-and-naturepreserve-17188338999 WILDFLOWERS: THE WOMEN OF COUNTRY MUSIC STARRING KATIE DEAL The Historic Earle Theatre, 142 North Main Street in Mount Airy. Katie Deal takes the stage with her powerful one-women concert featuring her rockin’ Nashville band. This original tribute honors legends such as Loretta Lynn, Patsy Cline, Dolly Parton, Tammy Wynette, Reba McEntire, Crystal Gayle, Shania Twain, Kitty Wells and many more. Cost: $40/person. eventbrite. com/e/wildflowers-the-women-ofcountry-music-starring-katie-deal-2022tickets-314773966407

OCTOBER 1 2022 TOUR DE BOUTIQUE $40 includes a swag bag with an exclusive FW gift just for you! You’ll receive door prize tickets, and the more stores you visit on the tour, the more opportunities you’ll have to win! Also, every store on the trip is going to have special sales, exclusive to Forsyth Woman’s Tour de Boutique shoppers! Grab your mom, your sister, your co-workers, your best friends, your neighbor and join us for another shop-til-you-drop adventure! Shop ‘til you drop, stimulate the local economy... even get a jump start on your Christmas shopping! Then, wait for us to call you to tell you if you won any prizes throughout the day! *Winners notified

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SEPTEMBER 28 MONARCH HIRING FAIR 11am-6pm, Best Western Hotel, 3330 Silas Creek Parkway. If you have a passion, we have a place for you!

Hiring enhanced services and care management professionals. On-site interviews. monarchnc.org

FUTURE SEPTEMBER 30-OCTOBER 9 CAROLINA CLASSIC FAIR Ridin’, Rockin’, Livestockin’. Buy tickets early and save!

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ACTIVITIES

Kaleideum....................................................................... 49 Rise Indoor Sports........................................................... 31 Salem Gymnastics & Swim.............................................. 53 Triple Threat..................................................................... 27 YMCA............................................................................... 51

BAKERY/CONFECTIONS

Anna Bakes Cookies........................................................ 79 Baked Just So ................................................................. 79 Be Kind Coffee ................................................................ 79

BEAUTY / STYLING

MEDICAL

Atr ium Health Wake Forest Baptist – Orthopaedics & Sports Medicine...................................2 Duke Eye Center.............................................................. 15 Hillcrest Vision................................................................. 61 Lewisville Laser................................................................ 31 Lyndhurst......................................................................... 45 No vant Health – Orthopedics & Sports Medicine Institute...............................................7 Novant Health Vein Specialists........................................ 25 WomanCare..................................................................... 55

Lewisville Laser................................................................ 31 Lyndhurst Medical Spa.................................................... 45

PHOTOGRAPHY

CHILDCARE

RADIO STATIONS

Imprints Cares................................................................. 53 YMCA............................................................................... 51

CHURCHES

New Day Community Church.......................................... 65

DENTISTS / ORTHODONTISTS

Salem Smiles................................................................... 41 Vivid Dental........................................................................9

EDUCATION

Calvary Day School.......................................................... 31 Forsyth Country Day School............................................. 19 Imprints Cares................................................................. 53 YMCA............................................................................... 51

FINANCIAL

Cannon Wealth Management......................................... 23 Marzano Capital Group.................................................... 17 Neo Home Loans............................................................. 41 Piedmont Advantage Credit Union.................................. 21 Truliant Federal Credit Union............................. Back Cover

HEALTH & FITNESS

Washington Park Crossfit................................................ 69 YMCA............................................................................... 51

HOME

Berkshire Hathaway, Susan Maier-Colon......................... 69 Head Realty Group.............................................................5 Kitchen Tune-Up.............................................................. 19 Neo Home Loans............................................................. 41 Piedmont Advantage Credit Union.................................. 21 Piedmont Sheet Metal..................................................... 47 State Farm, Will Wilkins................................................... 53 Weedman........................................................................ 61 Weeks Hardwood Flooring.............................................. 11 Zirrus..................................................................................3

JEJ Photos....................................................................... 59 WBFJ................................................................................ 67 Q104.1............................................................................ 75 99.5................................................................................. 77

REAL ESTATE & HOUSING

Berkshire Hathaway, Susan Maier-Colon......................... 69 Head Realty Group.............................................................5 Neo Home Loans............................................................. 41 Piedmont Advantage Credit Union.................................. 21 Truliant Federal Credit Union............................. Back Cover

RESTAURANTS

Baked Just So.................................................................. 79 Be Kind Coffee................................................................. 79 Black Mountain Chocolate Bar........................................ 79 Hakkachow Asian Eats..................................................... 79 Little Richard’s Smokehouse BBQ.............................. 33, 79 Mossy’s............................................................................ 79 Nothing Bundt Cakes...................................................... 79

RETAIL

Clemmons Bicycle........................................................... 69

SERVICE

City Lights Ministry.......................................................... 51 Crossnore Communities for Children.............................. 27 Hayworth-Miller Funeral Home & Crematory.................. 55 Second Harvest Food Bank.............................................. 37 Smart Start of Forsyth County.......................................... 29 The Pregnancy Network................................................... 43 The Resume Nerd............................................................ 61 Victory Junction Gang Camp........................................... 23 Zirrus..................................................................................3

UPCOMING EVENTS

Carolina Classic Fair......................................................... 13 Forsyth Family Kids’ Morning Out................................... 71 Mistletoe Run.................................................................. 51 Wake Forest Athletics....................................................... 83

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