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Bishop of the Diocese of Trenton: Most Reverend David M. O’Connell, C. M. Pastor: Reverend Fr. Jeffrey E. Lee

THE PARISH OF SAINT MARY A Catholic Community Proclaiming the Greatness of God in our Time

One Phalanx Road, Colts Neck, NJ 07722 Phone: 732-780-2666 Fax: 732-780-0394

Pastor Emeritus: Reverend Fr. William J. Bausch Deacon: John Wedemeyer

Trustees: Bill LaMorte Irene Weller Parish Office hours Sunday 9 am – 12 noon Mon. & Tues. 8:45 am – 7:30 pm Wed. & Thurs. 8:45 am – 6:00 pm No office hours on Fri or Sat.

Parish Membership: New parishioners are welcome to register at the office at any time. New Parishioner Orientation (quarterly) - will be held November 10, 11 am Contact Parish Office at Registration is required. Sacraments: Eucharist Detailed Mass times listed on page 2 Penance & Reconciliation Saturday 4 pm or by appointment. Marriage Contact the Parish Office one year in advance for information & guidelines. Baptism Next Baptismal Class Nov. 10, 9 am Contact the Parish Office for information & requirements three months in advance. There are no Baptisms during Advent or Lent, please plan accordingly.

Monday, Nov. 11th 9:00 am Mass in Church After Mass, please go to Cedar Drive School at 11:00 am for a Veteran's Day Ceremony honoring all our Veterans. The Woman's Club of Colts Neck will host their traditional luncheon immediately following the Colts Neck Township observance. The luncheon will take place at Cedar Drive School. All veterans and their families are invited.

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November 10, 2019


Mass Intentions for the Week of November 11- November 17 For * Requested by Saturday, November 9 – 4 PM Church The Dedication of the Lateran Basilica Pro Populo Lillian Albano * Danielle Hennessey Eileen Galligan * Maureen Resch and Family Sunday, November 10 – Church 32nd Sunday in Ordinary Time 8 AM DeStefano/Albruno Families * Mr. & Mrs. Franceschetti Tom Telesca * Michele Telesca Cory Aufiero * Sean and Denise Devaney and Family 10 AM

Salvatore Sgroi * Stevens Family Paul Dimeck * Carmel and Peter Vickers Frank Scalpati * Bruce and Lee Parker

12 PM

Fr. Francis Xavier Vitacolonna CP * Gerbino Family John Michael O’Malley * Eileen Ladley Brian O’Malley * Eileen Ladley

Baptisms during the 12 noon Mass: Sara Taylor Christensen Monday, November 11 – 9 AM Church St. Martin of Tours; Veterans Day Dr. Michael Bonomo * Alyssa Sans Carmen O. Villapaz * Joseph Pellicone Tuesday, November 12 – 9 AM Chapel St. Josaphat Marion Panebianco * Elsie Mimmo Ivanka Sabanovic * Nick and JoAnn Pellicone Wednesday, November 13 – 9 AM Chapel St. Frances Xavier Cabrini Intentions of Fr. Ed Griswold * Rev. Fr. Jeffrey E. Lee, Staff & Parishioners Joseph J. Corcoran * Fran and Joe Corcoran

Welcome to the newest members of our Saint Mary Parish family who was Baptized recently: Ryan Paul Gaglio

Thursday, November 14 – 9 AM Chapel Irene Baron * Michele Telesca Sergio DeGioia * Sergio DeGioia Friday, November 15 – 9 AM Chapel St. Albert the Great John Meagher *Freda O’Doherty Special Intention * Suzanne Schlesinger Saturday, November 16 – 4 PM Church St. Margaret of Scotland; St. Gertrude Intentions of Leonidas Mavrookas * Suzanne Schlesinger Jo Clement * Rorie and Jack Coppola Mary Coppola * Linda Fredda Sunday, November 17 – Church 33rd Sunday in Ordinary Time 8 AM Pro Populo Joan LaVance * Michele Telesca Annette Brittain * Philip Stagliano 10 AM

Frank Baron * Dickinson Family Salvatore Sgroi * Jeanne and Matt Cerbone Stephanie E. Hogan * John and Dawn Reinhardt

12 PM

Henry Felix * Lydia and Tim Kevill Frances Norulak * Weller Family Lori A. Romer * Richard and Maria Gerbino

Baptism following Mass Lorenza Spagnola

Sanctuary Lamps These intentions are on a weekly basis starting with the Sunday. The suggested donation for Sanctuary Lamp is $25. Upcoming availability Christ Chapel: 11/ 17 - 11/23, 11/24 - 11/30, 12/1 - 12/7, 12/15 - 12/21, 12/22 - 12/28 CHRIST CHAPEL

Rest in Peace Please remember in your prayers, those who have recently died. Michael Riley Carroll Vincenzo Verga Dering Sprague

In Thanksgiving Janet, Chris and Suzy CHURCH Nicholas J. Bonamo Linda Dickinson-Pancila

November 10, 2019

Parish Office: 732-780-2666 Bulletin Deadline: Electronic format by 12 noon Thursday of the prior week (10 days before). Bulletin Editor: Catherine Love Liturgical, Music & Worship Ministries Contact: Andrew J. Macirowski Principal Cantor Contact: David Maliakel Adult Faith Formation & Religious Education Contact: Dr. Jim Bridges Temporal Administration, Stewardship & Outreach Contact: Edwin A. Sevillano


Please pray for the following members of our parish family who are ill: Marcela Abril Kathleen Amatel Fr Bill Bausch Eileen Beckley Susan Condon Logan Dayton John DeStefano Kaitlin Donahue Nagle Tom Fadale James Fiedler Emily Gioacchini Edward Habrack Tom Hudak Theresia Kopp Bridget Korn

Lori Lettieri Donna Lodi Leonidas Mavrookas Donna McInerney Mary Joan McNamara Diane O’ Donnell Kevin O’Shea Stanley Rembisz Paola Richmond Owen Shoemaker Christine Shrewsbury Seneida Tomasetti Nancy Vida Lauren Vinci

PRAY for Military & First Responders

To add a family member to the sick list for 8 weeks, please call or e-mail the Parish Office.

SN Colton Boag, USCG LCpl Devon Francis Chrzan, USMC Chief Blake Conley, USN Lt. Col. John Anthony Coppola, US Army Major Douglas Coppola, US Army Lt. Mary Herman, USN SN Christian Houlihan, USN Ensign Jason Joseph Howe, USN SPC Michael John Mento, US Army Pvt Nicholas Poskonka US Army Captain Richard Savo, US Army 1st Lt. Adam Sjoholm, US Army 1st Lt. Ryan Tanguay, US Army SSgt Stephen Witherow, USAF LCpl Edward Zarzecki ,USMC

Thank you! 732-780-2666 or Lifelong Catechesis Week November 11 - 17 Readings for the Week Monday: Wis 1:1-7; Lk 17:1-6 Tuesday: Wis 2:23 -- 3:9; Lk 17:7-10 Wednesday: Wis 6:1-11; Lk 17:11-19 Thursday: Wis 7:22b -- 8:1; Lk 17:20-25 Friday: Wis 13:1-9; Lk 17:26-37 Sunday, November 17 - 33rd Sunday in Ordinary Time Mal 3:19-20a; 2 Thes 3:7-12; Lk 21:5-19 Questions for Deeper Reflections: Question for Children: Jesus teaches us that work is good for us. What kind of work do you do during the week? How does it help you? Question for Youth: Jesus tells us that even though bad things will happen, we are safe in God. When have you felt the safety of God’s life in your own life? Question for Adults: Paul's words to the Thessalonians are tough: if you want to eat, you must work! How does this translate into our society today? How do you reconcile this with Jesus' command to love and feed the poor? -Lifelong Catechesis

The Parish Office will close for Thanksgiving on Wednesday, November 27 at 12 noon, and remain closed Thursday, November 28. The Parish Office will reopen on Sunday, December 1 at 9 am.

November 10, 2019


Andrew J. Macirowski Pastoral Coordinator for Worship & Music / Principal Organist

Papal Basilica of Saint John Lateran The Papal Basilica of Saint John Lateran, is the largest of the papal basilicas, the oldest church in Europe, and is the cathedral church of Rome, and the seat of the Pope, the Bishop of Rome. As it is in Rome proper, and not in Vatican City, the Pope more often celebrates Mass with a general audience at Saint Peter’s in Vatican City, and not at the Lateran Basilica. The complex is filled with intricate marble-work, stone, statues, other artwork, and relics. Some items of note are:  Larger than life statues of the 12 apostles (the great convert, Paul, in place of Judas the betrayer)  One of 8 officially designated Holy Doors, which are cemented shut and only opened during Jubilee years, upon decree from the Pope  Many Papal tombs  The Holy Stairs - the marble steps, originally leading to Pilate’s praetorium in Jerusalem, upon which Jesus walked on his way to his trial before Pilate during his passion. Moved to Rome, they are covered with wooden steps to protect the ancient structure. Also of note, as the cathedral church of Rome, the Archbasilica also stands as the mother church of the world, and it’s dedication date of November 9 is celebrated as a feast day in the Catholic Church.

November 10, 2019


November 16 - November 17: Thirty-third Sunday in Ordinary Time Altar Server

Saturday, 4:00 PM (Church)

Sunday, 8:00 AM (Church)

Sunday, 10:00 AM (Church)

Sunday, 12:00 PM (Church)

EMs of Holy Communion

Reader 1

Reader 2


LWD Fernando Pinguelo


Abigail Cowles Daniel Cowles Jonathan Stubbs

Emily Santangelo - Center Cup Martha Cowles - Organ Host Helene Lind - Center Host Susan Baker - Tabernacle Host Donna Sikorskas - Organ Cup Gail Cargiulo - Tabernacle Cup Suzanne Schlesinger - Pres Cup

Jennifer Stubbs

Kathy Maher

Ellen Balestiero

Anthony Buzzetta Michael Buzzetta NOT FILLED

Michael Staub - Center Cup Justine Buzzetta - Organ Host Gina Shute - Center Host Joyce Flynn - Tabernacle Host Lisa Aldridge - Organ Cup Maureen Staub - Tabernacle Cup Michael Stivala - Pres Cup

Christopher Aquinas

Bruno Savo

David Maliakel

Valeska Yaninas Danek Yaninas Alessandra Zilinski

Mary Aiello - Center Cup Sue Fitzpatrick - Organ Host Helen DeCerce - Center Host Maureen Geiger - Tabernacle Host Steve Stanley - Organ Cup Dawn Reinhardt - Tabernacle Cup Carol Donahue - Pres Cup

Julia Cullen

Barbara Schaflin

David Maliakel

Jessica Ward

Leigh Gavinelli John Orrico Greg Penczak Jack Zumba Charlie Gavinelli Allan Ryan Jaime Steiner


Lee Gesner - Center Cup Patricia Balbo - Organ Host Irene Weller - Center Host Anna May Schellenberger - Tabernacle Host Maria Gerbino - Organ Cup Ann Byrnes - Tabernacle Cup Patricia Gesner - Pres Cup

Richard Gerbino

Dan Mazzeo

Marybeth Jacobson

Melissa Widmeier

James Dolan Joe Mancino Joseph Rinaldo William Starce NOT FILLED

John Grabowski Jim Davis Bob Lind Frank Sikorskas NOT FILLED NOT FILLED George Watts James Pifer Jim Boliver NOT FILLED NOT FILLED

REMINDER: Today, please submit names of men ages 16-40 who you think would make a fine priest by placing your CALLED BY NAME response card in the collection basket. You may also drop off the card at the parish office. Please continue to pray for the success of this program in our parish and our diocese, especially during these weeks of prayer for vocations.

PERSPECTIVE We must often draw the comparison of time and eternity. This is the remedy of all our troubles. How small will the present moment appear when we enter that great ocean! --St. Elizabeth Ann Seton

November 10, 2019


Quo vadis‌ My Dear Parishioners: Today we celebrate the Thirty Second Sunday in Ordinary Time. Paschal mystery living means that we live this life, so that it is infused with the life that is to come. The dying part of the mystery always reminds us that suffering and death pale in comparison to the categorically new life that God offers us in Christ. When we live our Christian life, like the brothers in the first reading, we will meet with controversy. In fact, controversy may be a sign of integrity since truly living the gospel always precipitates conflict. This does not mean that we go out looking for controversy; it does mean that when controversy happens because of the authenticity of our Christian living, we see through the controversy with hope for eternal life. This weekend we continue the Called By Name opportunity to surface late high school, college and young adult men whom YOU have prayerfully discerned might be a candidate for the seminary. Both Monsignor Troiano and I have shared the story of our vocation which culminated in ordination to the priesthood for service to the Church of the Diocese of Trenton. Thank you for your prayers this past week and throughout the year for vocations to the priesthood, our seminarians and our priests. This week our country observes Veteran’s Day. We will celebrate the Eucharist and offer our prayer for all veterans, living and deceased, as well as their family members. Serving in the armed forces is a noble career and we should never forget that the freedom we enjoy rests

upon the sacrifices that many have made through the years. This past week our parishioner Sue Fitzpatrick was selected to join the Colts Neck Township Committee beginning January 2020. We congratulate Sue for her willingness to serve our community. We thank her family for their willingness to support her in her new role. We pray for all those who embrace the noble role of public service. Parish Families with children preparing for the Sacrament of First Penance & Reconciliation will be gathering soon to prepare for the reception of this sacrament. During this preparation session families can participate in the lottery to select the day, date & time for the Mass during which their child will receive the Holy Eucharist for the first time. These are great moments for our parish community. Our Parish Advent Penance & Reconciliation Service is scheduled for Sunday, 8 December 2019 at 3:00 pm. Please make a note in your personal schedule and plan to participate. We will have 16 priest confessors for your convenience. Do not forget our Thanksgiving Food Drive as listed in the bulletin. We need your participation to continue the great tradition of sharing that has long characterized our parish community. Those who participate in the on-line giving program can select to designate a one time or on-going financial gift for the poor and needy/charitable appeals. Enjoy these beautiful Autumn Days. Have a great week. Let us remember one another in prayer. Happy Sunday. Peace. Father Jeff

November 10, 2019


Dr. Jim Bridges Pastoral Coordinator of Faith Formation and Religious Education

All Communion Prep. 2nd Graders (Including Summer) Religious Education Families - Penance & Reconciliation Rehearsal and Lottery On Tuesday, November 12, at 6 pm in Church, we will be having an important meeting for all 2nd graders and their parents. This includes all of our summer students and our current students in our Tuesday classes.

Tuesday grades 1 & 2 students will not be having their normal classes that day. The 2nd graders will be receiving their First Penance on December 8 during the parish's Advent Penance & Reconciliation Service. Our meeting on November 12 is meant to prepare all of us for that day. In addition, at this meeting we will be holding our First Communion lottery. This is the mechanism we use to schedule the children for the time of their reception of the Sacrament of Holy Eucharist. Our First Communion ceremonies for 2020 will occur on April 26th and May 3rd at the 10 am and 12 noon Masses. NOTE: Your attendance to this event is Mandatory. In order to participate in the Lottery, a parent or designated proxy must be present. If neither is present, the child will be placed in an available spot after the lottery has been concluded. Dr. Jim Bridges Pastoral Coordinator of Faith Formation & Religious Education

Ecumenical Service - November 26, 7:30 pm Advent Wreath event - Sunday, December 1. This starts with the 12 noon Mass and then moves to Madonna Hall. Please send RSVP to Dr. Jim Bridges at Save The Date next year will be The Diocese of Trenton’s triannual trip to the Basilica of the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception in Washington, DC, November 7, 2020.

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November 10, 2019

Sharing Our Treasure November 3 Thirtieth-first Sunday in Ordinary Time Weekly Sacrificial Stewardship

$ 17,070

Envelope Contributions

$ 11,158

Electronic/Online Contributions

$ 4,951

Loose Contributions



Avg. Contribution per Household this week $42.62 # of Contributing Households # Registered Parishioner Households

378 1,101

Building & Mortgage Reduction Fund $4,580 (Our monthly mortgage payment is $6,289.04) Included in this week’s offertory will be the collection for Military Services appeal. THANK YOU for the Sacrificial Stewardship Offerings as we support the ministries, programs and facilities of our parish. May God Bless you for the sacrifices that you make.

PROCRASTINATION Tomorrow is always the busiest day of the year. --Anonymous


ANNUAL CATHOLIC APPEAL 2019 UPDATE As of 4 November 2019 Parish goal: $75,000 Total raised: $45,200 Percentage of goal: 60% # of Donors: 196 Average gift: $231 There’s time to pledge! Take an envelope from the credenzas in the church, complete and place in the Sunday collection basket, bring to the parish office or donate online by going to

THANK YOU for your continued support!

Parish Fall Clean-Up Saturday, November 23, 9 am-1 pm Join us to PICK UP leaves and branches from the parish grounds before the winter months. Please bring rakes to the event. Adults with equipment to lead crews and cut fallen branches on the ground are needed. Two Hour Shifts & Community Service HOURS Available. Group Leaders Needed, National Honor Society leadership hours available. For more information & volunteer sign up or contact Edwin at

Christmas Ministry in Need of Leadership St. Mary Christmas Sponsor-A-Family is in need of between two and four volunteer coordinators to take charge of running the program which provides Christmas gifts to several organizations such as The High Point School, Aslan Youth Ministries, The Center in Asbury Park (Aids affected families), Families in need within the Parish Community of Saint Mary, and the St Mary Charitable Outreach Program. Responsibilities include:  Placing bulletin ads, at the appropriate time of year, to solicit sponsoring families from the parish community;  Contacting the organizations and obtaining the gift recipient’s names and gift requests;  Giving the gift recipient information to and instructing the sponsors on shopping, wrapping, and delivery of gifts;.  Monitoring the progress of the shopping, wrapping, and delivery of the gifts to assure that the items will be ready for pickup or delivery at the times required by the distributing organizations. To facilitate this transition, the new coordinators would be guided the first year by the present program leaders, who would work alongside the coordinators. If you are interested in helping in this worthwhile ministry to families in need at a very sensitive and emotion-filled time of year, please contact Roger Zurro – Director of Charitable Appeals and Outreach Programs, at 732-290-8841 x 320, or by email at: < >

November 10, 2019

Saint Mary Parish Sewing Circle November meetings are the 12th and 26th

Thanksgiving Baskets Collection For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, a stranger and you welcomed me…” - Matthew 25:35

The ministry meets in Meeting Room #11 twice a month (Meetings are held the nd 2 and 4th Tuesday of each month from 1- 3 pm. CONTACT for more information: Kathe Flanagan at

Got Halloween Candy? Collection boxes are in the Gathering Space, Parish Hall & outside the Parish Office from 10/26 -11/17. The candy will be used by Holiday Express for 20,000 gift bags to be distributed at events hosted this season.

“Light Up a Memory” Plans for the St. Mary Parish “Memory Tree” 12th Anniversary in December are already underway. A $10.00 donation signifies a light to honor all those we wish to remember during the Christmas season – both living and passed. His/her name will be inscribed in a special “Memory Book”, which will be on display in the Church Gathering Space. Each $10.00 also entitles the donor to a lovely card to send to the family of the deceased or to the honoree. The deadline for forms is Dec. 3, 2019. All contributions will benefit improvements at the Parish of St. Mary. For more information, call the office at 732-7802666 or the co-chairs, Molly Aiello at 732-5986808 and Freda O’Doherty at 732-577-9541. All are invited to be a part of this lovely Christmas tradition. The “Memory” lights will twinkle until the feast of Epiphany (“Three Kings”) on January 5. Thank you for the continuous support of the community, which enables us to celebrate our 12th year!


Every year, Saint Mary Parish parishioners generously provide donations for Thanksgiving Baskets for over 200 area families who are in need in the Monmouth County area.

Please purchase items to feed a family of four:    

Canned Fruit Dry Milk Stuffing Gravy

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Cranberry Sauce Coffee or Tea Bags Green Beans Corn

 Canned Yams, Potatoes, or Rice  Pie Crust Mix/Pie Fill or Cake Mix/Frosting The Parish of Saint Mary provides turkeys along with the non-perishable food. Due to lack of freezer space we ask for monetary donations towards the purchase of turkeys. Therefore, in lieu of donating turkeys or gift cards, please make your check payable to “The Parish of Saint Mary” & put ‘Thanksgiving Food Drive’ in the memo section.

Your contribution will be used for turkeys or additional canned goods if needed. Help us exceed last year's donations of 200 bags of groceries and 160 turkeys to greater serve the needs of the community at large. Please bring your donations to the Parish Hall from November 2 - November 22, 2019 If you would like to volunteer to help shop, sort, pack or load please contact Rose Farrow at You can make a difference! Simply shop at

Everyone is welcome to participate in this wonderful tribute to our loved ones. and AmazonSmile donates to St. Mary Parish

November 10, 2019

Advent Pancake Breakfast

December 15, 2019 Madonna Hall 8:30 AM to 12 noon

Join us for a great community event featuring hospitality, great food, crafts and a few special guests... Tickets: $5.00 in advance *$10 at the door Children ages 5 and under free **Tickets are for sale in the Parish Office. On-line sales opening soon. Want to help out at this year’s breakfast? More info contact the Parish Office

Future Generation Early Learning Center

Martha Mary Guild’s Special Meeting to Honor Veterans’ Day The official Veterans’ Day is Nov. 11, but the Martha Mary Guild will be celebrating this important holiday at their meeting on Wednesday, Nov. 13. Several military women will speak about their careers and will have a question & answer session. We will welcome the following women: 1SG Kennedy, Sandra SSG David, Trisha SGT Schwarzenberger, Rebekah SGT Search Rafanan, Samantha SSG Tores, Jelissa At this meeting the Guild will collect the following items to benefit the military: (Thank you ahead of time for your continuous generosity.) New Recruit Bag Supplies (Travel Size) Toothpaste Baby Powder Razors Toothbrush Lip Balm Mole skin for feet Mouthwash Deodorant Packaged Snacks Emery Boards Hand Sanitizer Sports Bras Shampoo Hand Wipes Underwear Hand Cream Black Ankle Socks Tan, brown or black hair ties All women of the parish are welcome to join us at 11:30 am in the Spiritual Center Chapel for the Rosary, followed by BYOL (Bring Your Own Lunch) in Madonna Hall. The Guild will provide desserts and refreshments. This patriotic program will begin around 12:30 pm.

Christmas Sponsor-A-Family Donations will be accepted at the preschool Monday, Nov. 4 - Thursday, Nov. 14 from 7 am - 5 pm on weekdays ring the bell at the preschool We will be collecting new or gently used men, women and children’s clothing, shoes, purses, belts, bed and bath linens and stuffed animals. Every piece helps! We can also accept bicycles and baby strollers. NO Pillows, Books, Toys, Furniture, Appliances, or Household items. Thank you for your support! Questions? Call Jessica: 732-780-0135


Purchase gifts for a family. You select the size of the family you wish to sponsor (2-6 people). Several families or a group of people can sponsor a larger family. Gifts per person are usually a value of $50 and based on a list of needed items prepared by the family. This program adopts families from Aslan Youth Ministries. The goal is to sponsor families in need at Christmas. If you, your family, your neighbors, coworkers, or friends would like to sponsor a family in need this holiday season, please contact: Kathy Maher

The Tree of Love will be up next weekend November 16/17 Presents with their gift tag attached, are due back Dec. 1st

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Saint Mary, Colts Neck, NJ Weekly Bulletin

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Saint Mary, Colts Neck, NJ Weekly Bulletin