JubliTimes Issue. No. 16 April 2022

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I SSUE No . 16: Apr i l 2022

BCDE

Behavioural management Conflict resolution Discipline Emotional regulation

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Message From Principal

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Bullying and the Role of Parents

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Student’s Corner

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Creative Corner

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MESSAGE FROM PRINCIPAL PAULUS LEE Dear Students and Parents, This month, I would like to touch on the topic of bullying,

solution to this whole incident is the value of

or more extensively, what I would like to call BCDE

understanding. Although I believe we all need to take

(Behavioural management, Conflict resolution, Discipline,

responsibility for our growth in our EQ and our behaviour,

and Emotional regulation). Recently, during the live

much of the conflicts we face with one another would be

television broadcast of the 94th Academy Awards (Oscars),

solved by understanding. How?

host Chris Rock's comedic monologue included a joke about actress Jada Pinkett Smith's shaved head. As a

a.

Understanding that each of us is on a journey

result, her husband, Will Smith, strode onstage and

b.

Understanding that each of us has our own flaws and

slapped Rock across the face. The video became viral and conversations exploded all across the internet over who was right or wrong in the clash amongst the 2 renowned

we are not perfect c.

Understanding the hurts and struggles we may be facing at the moment

actors, one of whom even won the award for Best Actor that night. What irony indeed! Some say Rock was the

More often than not, we then realise that the above are

victim for being slapped, others would claim that Will was

the roots of these conflicts where when understanding is

the victim of an insult by Rock. In my opinion, both actors

applied, restorative action can take place for resolution.

were indeed in the wrong, and the retaliation of Will Smith made matters worse.

So how is this connected to bullying? Bullying is a mere symptom of BCDE. As such, this is what we at Seri Jubli strive for: To empower the lives of our students to be able to tackle and grow holistically in the areas of BCDE along with character education which instils values of understanding and more. Bullying would not only be out of sight but out of mind in our school community.

Before signing off, I would like to wish all my Muslim teachers, parents and students a Blessed Hari Raya. This year is a unique year where both the Ramadhan and Good Friday events coincide for a time of reflection, forgiveness

The incident provides a great opportunity to dive into the

and acknowledgement of our need for God. Whether you

importance of BCDE even at a school level. We may take a

observe these events or not, may we draw on the values

critical standpoint on both actors’ characters. However, if

each event brings as we continue on this journey of

we are honest with ourselves, we must admit that we have

disseminating understanding wherever we go.

either been a Rock or a Will before. As educators, we come across numerous incidences where we hear the phrase ‘But teacher, he/she hit me first, so I hit back’. Isn’t that a great parallel to the Rock Will incident? I believe the key

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亲爱的学生及家长们， 本月，我想谈谈关于霸凌这个话题，亦或更广泛的说法，我称为BCDE (行 为管理、解决冲突、纪律和情绪调节)。近期，在第94届奥斯卡颁奖典礼的 电视直播中，主持人克里斯·洛克的喜剧独白中开了一个针对女演员贾达· 萍克特·史密斯剃光头的笑话。其丈夫威尔·史密斯继而冲上台，扇了洛克 一记耳光。这段视频不止在网络上疯传，也引起关于这两位著名演员之间 冲突的对与错的一番热议。其中一位甚至在当晚的颁奖典礼上获得了最佳 男演员的奖项，还真是讽刺呢！有些人说洛克被扇耳光，是受害者；有些 人则觉得威尔是受到洛克侮辱的受害者。在我看来，这两位演员都有过 错，而威尔·史密斯的反擊使事情变得更糟糕。 此事件于学校层面而言提供了一个很好的机会以深入了解BCDE的重要性。 我们可以针对两个演员的性格保持着严谨的立场。然而，若我们坦诚以 对，我们需反思的是我们是否曾一度是“洛克”或者是“威尔”。作为教 育工作者，我们此前听到过无数次这样的对话：“老师，是他/她先打我 的，所以我才还击”。这不就与此次“奥斯卡打人”事件有极大的相似之 处吗？我认为解决整个事件最关键的就是相互理解的价值。虽然我相信我 们需对各自情商和行为的成长承担责任，但我们与他人所面对的许多冲突 都需要相互理解以解决冲突。那要如何相互理解呢？ a. 了解到我们每个人都在各自的人生旅途中 b. 了解到我们每个人都有自己的缺点，我们并不完美 c. 了解到我们当前可能面临的伤害和挣扎 在多数的情况之下，我们会意识到以上都是引起冲突的根源，而当我们去 理解到对方情况的时候，恢复性行动可以用来解决冲突。 那么这与霸凌有什么关系呢？霸凌只是BCDE的其中一个情况。为此，这就 是我们在致理国际学校所努力的目标：让本校的学生能适应和全面性的成 长于一个充满着BCDE及灌输理解价值观的品格教育中的校园内。在校园 内，霸凌事件应当不复存在。 在结束本文之前，我想祝愿所有穆斯林老师、家长和学生们开斋节快乐！ 今年是格外独特的一年，斋戒月和耶稣受难日是在同一个月份的，这是一 个反思、宽恕以及承认我们对各自的信仰需要的时刻。无论您是否察觉到 这些事件，在我们继续传播“相互理解”的旅途上，无论我们身在何处， 我们都应善加利用每一件事所带来的相互理解的价值。

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父母在霸凌事件所扮演的角色

随着校园霸凌的事件频繁地在媒体曝光， 这一现象已经成为社会关注的话题。 除了 探讨在校园霸凌发生后，学校、施害者以 及被害者需要如何应对以外，作为家长沟 通部门的主要负责人，本身也是一名家 长，我觉得对家长来说，最重要的不是事 情发生后怎么办，而是：怎么不让事情发 生。这其中又包括了，如何不让自己的孩 子成为霸凌者，以及如何防止孩子被霸 凌。综合相关教育机构及网站的调查与报 道，我为家长们总结了以下要点：

防止孩子成为霸凌者 不管是男孩还是女孩，都有可能成为霸凌 者，有时候孩子之间跟风的嘲笑和辱骂也 会让他们不自觉成为霸凌者。父母可以从 以下三点着手，防止自己的孩子成为霸凌 者： 1、 教育和引导孩子正确的观念，培养孩 子的同情心。 孩子容易对比自己力量弱的人产生霸凌倾 向，就是所谓的恃强凌弱。针对这种情 形，父母首先要为孩子建立起观念：即真 正强大的人应该从保护弱小来体现自己的 强大，而不应该和自己力量不对等的人相 比来获取满足感。此外，要在生活中不断 地培养孩子的同情心，让孩子去帮助比他 不幸的人而不是去嘲笑、把自己的快乐建 筑在别人的痛苦之上。最后，要让孩子认 识到犯错的代价。在施暴者的心中，欺凌 行为常常被认为是可以容忍的，且认为未 成年人犯罪无大碍。

2、教给孩子如何用非暴力的手段解决问题。 要坚定地告诉孩子：校园霸凌是极其糟 糕、极其错误的行为。假如自己不幸遭 遇到这种行为，要第一时间告诉自己信 孩子在小的时候，解决问题的办法比较单 任的成年人，要用坚强的信心、勇敢地 一，身体是他们解决问题最简单直接的方 去应对，即使遭受伤害，自己的价值也 式。因此，在孩子展现出暴力倾向的时候， 不会因此受损分毫；错的是施暴者！ 父母就要教会孩子如何用非暴力的手段解决 问题。 另一方面，帮助孩子学习识别和建立有 益的人际关系，对抗人际孤立和欺凌也 3、 家长自身要做好榜样。 很重要。容易遭受校园霸凌的孩子，还 有那些孤僻、不合群、人际交往能力差 孩子都是通过模仿身边的人做出行为决策 的孩子。家长要从小培养孩子和同伴建 的，所以在家最重要的是家长的言传身教。 立善意、支持性人际关系的能力。 家长和孩子在日常的交流中就要体现出公理 性和公平性，不要用家长的权威去要求孩子 如果孩子遭受欺凌，而仍然能和班里的 做事，也不要对孩子使用冷暴力或打骂孩 一些同学建立良好的人际关系，那么就 子。(Children See, Children Do https:// 会对校园霸凌的影响产生很大的缓冲作 youtu.be/jOrGsB4qG_w) 用。家长也需要和孩子解释，某个同学 的孤立和排挤可能是出于嫉妒或其他动 防止孩子被霸凌： 机，但并不意味着不能和其他同学建立 好的关系，让孩子对同伴关系抱有合理 经过相关机构的追踪调查，发现有四类孩子 的预期和期望。 在学校更容易被「霸凌」： 1.

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缺乏父母关爱的孩子 一味地被要求听话的孩子 不被尊重的孩子 不被聆听的孩子

作为孩子的第一位老师，家长们需要在孩子 准备开始集体生活，以及开始集体生活后， 要有计划地、持续地对孩子进行反霸凌教 育，就像进行性教育一样。对于低幼龄孩子 的家长可以借助一些绘本帮助孩子识别霸 凌，反抗霸凌，做到不欺负别人，也不被别 人欺负。

家长们要多带孩子参加一些亲友间的社 交活动，营造环境提供机会让孩子参与 同伴社交，耳濡目染，会对孩子上学后 的人际适应产生良好的影响。如果察觉 孩子性格有些孤僻，缺少有意义的同伴 关系，一定要及时的干预和治疗。 校园霸凌无法彻底断绝，但可以防患于 未然；重度霸凌也不是一天形成的，但 可以通过父母、学校及时的关注来尽早 断绝。愿每一位父母都能够正确养育， 愿每一个孩子都远离霸凌。

介绍

Introduction

高丹丹，致理国际学校学务主

Tr. Gao Dan Dan is the head of the School Community Relations Department here in Seri Jubli. Originally from China, she graduated with a master’s degree in Cultural Anthropology from the Academy of Korean Studies in South Korea. She married a Malaysian and has two daughters and a son. After studying and living overseas for many years, she is committed to promoting healthy parent-child relationships and caring for the psychological development of children and youth.

管。中国人，韩国中央韩国学 研究所文化人类学硕士，远嫁 马来西亚，育有两女一男。在 海外学习、居住多年，致力于

Tr. Gao Dan Dan

高丹丹老师

研究及推广健康的亲子关系， 关怀儿童与青少年心理发展。

Bullying and the role of parents

By Tr. Gao Dan Dan

2. Teach children to use non-violent means to solve problems.

inform an adult they trust as soon as

regards to bullying, this issue has definitely become a topic of social concern. When it

When children are young, the way they

Even if they are hurt, they do not need to

comes to bullying, the response and

solve problems is relatively simple. As

worry because it does not change who

actions of the school, the bullies and the

using the body is the simplest and most

they are inside. It is the bullies that are

victims are definitely important. However,

direct way for them, children tend to

wrong!

as the head of the School Community

resolve issues using violence. Therefore,

Relations Department and also a parent

parents should teach children how to solve

On the other hand, it is also important to

myself, I believe that for us parents, the

problems through non-violent means.

help children learn to build healthy

With the frequent media exposure with

most important thing about bullying is not

possible and deal with it courageously.

relationships to combat social isolation and bullying. Children who are vulnerable

we prevent it from happening in the first

3. Parents themselves should be good role models.

place. This includes two aspects: how we

Children make decisions by imitating the

withdrawn, unsociable, and have poor

prevent our children from becoming bullies

people around them. So, the most

interpersonal skills. Parents need to

and how we prevent our children from

important thing to pay attention to at

nurture their children’s ability to build kind

being bullied. Based on the surveys and

home is the parents' words and actions.

and supportive relationships with their

reports from relevant educational

Parents should treat their children with

peers from an early age.

institutions and websites, I have

fairness at home without manipulating

summarised the following points for

their parental authority to force their

If a child is bullied and can still establish

parents:

children to do things or use violence on

good interpersonal relationships with his

them. (Children See, Children Do: https://

classmates, it will lessen the impact of

youtu.be/jOrGsB4qG_w)

bullying greatly. Parents also need to

what we do after it happens but how do

Prevent your child from becoming a bully Both boys and girls can become bullies.

to bullying tend to be those who are

explain to their children that sometimes,

Prevent your children from being bullied

Sometimes the trend of mocking and

their friends may exclude them out of jealousy or other reasons. It does not mean that they cannot establish good

insulting can unconsciously cause our

After a follow-up survey by relevant

relationships with other classmates. This is

children to become bullies. Here are three

organisations, it was found that there are

to help children have reasonable

things parents can do to prevent their

four types of children who are more likely

expectations towards their relationships.

children from becoming bullies:

to be bullied at school: Parents should also take their children to

1. Cultivate the right values such as compassion in our children.

Children have a tendency to bully those

1. Children who lack parental care

participate in social activities. This creates

2. Children who are blindly asked to be

an environment that provides

obedient

opportunities for children to participate in

who are weaker than themselves. In

3. Children who are not shown respect

social interaction, which will have a good

response to this situation, parents must

4. Children who are not heard

impact on their interpersonal skills in

first establish certain values for their

school. If you notice that your child is

children: A truly strong person should use

As a child's first teacher, parents need to

withdrawn or lacks meaningful peer

his strength to protect the weak. He

prepare their children for community life

relationships, parents need to intervene

should not try to compare himself to those

and educate them on the topic of bullying

before it is too late.

who are weaker to feel good. In addition, it

in a conscientious way, just like sex

is necessary to continuously cultivate

education. For parents of young children,

School bullying cannot be completely

compassion in our children by letting them

they can use visual aids such as books to

eliminated, but it can be prevented before

help those less fortunate than themselves

help their children to identify and resist

it happens. Severe bullying does not

instead of laughing at the misfortunes of

bullying so that they too do not bully

happen overnight, but it can be stopped

others. Finally, children need to be

others or vice versa.

immediately through the attentiveness of

punished when they are wrong. In the

parents and schools. I hope that every

minds of bullies, bullying is often seen as

Be firm and tell your children that bullying

parent can raise their children to be free

tolerated, and juvenile delinquency is

at school is extremely bad and wrong. If

from bullying.

considered a small matter.

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Student’s Corner

In this issue of Jubli Times, as it is the month of Ramadan, we decided to interview five

students about the fasting month and what they look forward to for Hari Raya this year!

Here are the combined responses from five of our students:

It is written in the

fasting

To experience what the poor go through.

Holy Book (Quran).

Q: Why do you have to fast during Ramadan?

The gates of hell are closed

To help get rid of bad habits such

during the fasting month.

as eating too much or being greedy.

Here are some interesting facts about the fasting month!

Did you know that… ▶

Muslims have to fast for 30 days for around 12-13 hours each day

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We have to fast from both food and water.

▶

Every year, the fasting month will change as it is based on the Muslim

(6am-7.30pm).

calendar. ▶

We are supposed to go on with our daily lives, doing what we usually do.

▶

Most Muslims start fasting at the age of 7 but it is only compulsory after

▶

If we are unable to fast (unwell or on period), we need to replace the

▶

If you accidentally eat or drink something and you realise it after, the

you hit puberty. fasting after Hari Raya. fasting is still considered valid. But if you knowingly eat or drink, then it is not valid anymore. ▶

During the fasting month, there will be Ramadan Bazaars where people sell food, drinks and even clothes.

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Q: Can you share some of your personal experiences of fasting with us?

I started fasting when I was 7 years old. Fasting is not too difficult for me but it does require discipline.

I started fasting when I was 6. The first day is usually very hard. One time, I woke up and saw some food on the table. I

Rizqi (Y9)

forgot that I was fasting and ate the food. My aunty saw me and quickly shouted at me to spit the food out! It was quite funny.

Ayra (Y5) I started fasting when I was 7. Some say it is a good way to lose weight but most of the time we don’t because we end up eating more when we buka puasa

The thing I find difficult is adjusting back to waking up at a

normal time after Ramadan because we would wake up at 5am.

Syuqri (Y5)

I started fasting around 5 years old. There was once after CCA, I reached home and had too much saliva in my mouth so I had to spit it out. Unfortunately, I ended up vomiting and had to drink some water after that. So, my fast was “cancelled” for that day

Rayyan (Y7) I started fasting when I was 7. It felt hard at first but my mum told me not to force myself and that if I was really hungry, I could just eat something.

Now that I am older, I can fast properly without eating and drinking.

Aidilfitri

Ariana (Y5)

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Hari Raya Aidilfitri

Q: What do you look forward to for Hari Raya this year?

Visiting family members

Open House!

Food!

and playing with fireworks!

Rizqi

Syuqri

Loud music, duit raya, lots of crying

Ayra Spending time with family. Meeting

and being able to salam properly!

& forgiving each other.

R

Rayyan Ariana

Q: Tell us more about Hari Raya!

The night before…

It’s very hectic! We help with the baking and bake a lot of cookies! We change the

curtains and even the sofa sometimes. If we don’t bake cookies, we would just buy them.

We also eat kuih!

Ariana

The first day of Hari Raya…

Raya morning is very fun! It feels different from other days. We are happy to wake up early because there is no school!

There is also “Takdir Raya” where we go to the mosque for special prayers.

I like to see everyone cry while we ask each other for forgiveness.

Rizqi Rayyan

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Your favourite food during Hari Raya…

Rendang and Lemang, Lontong, Ketupat; Mostly savoury food.

Each house you visit, you have to eat, so you end up eating a lot of food!

Ayra

Baju Raya…

It is usually custom-made and each family chooses a colour theme. Then, we would go to the tailors to make our clothes. Nowadays, many people also buy their clothes online.

Ramadan

I could still fit into the same Baju Raya for 4 years in a row!

Syuqri

I had to buy new clothes because I grew bigger!

Rayyan

My favourite part is that I get to choose the theme colour for my family.

Ayra

Thank you, students, for your informative and interesting sharing!

We hope you have a wonderful Hari Raya with your family this year!

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CREATIVE CORNER Everyone has someone they look up to, or admire in some way. In this issue of Jubli Times, let us look at 4 biographies written by our Year 8 ESL students about the athlete they admire most.

Kobe Bryant is a well-known American basketball player.

He unfortunately died in a helicopter crash on January 26, 2020.

Kobe Bryant started playing basketball at the age of 3, and his favourite team was the Lakers. When Bryant was 6, his father left the NBA and moved his family to Rieti in Italy to

Lee Zii Jia is one of the top 10 well-known Malaysian

continue playing professional basketball.

Olympic Badminton players across the world. He was born on 29th March 1998.

Kobe Bryant had a very successful basketball career. He won the Most Valuable Player (MVP) award for 4 times, in

As a child, Lee Zii Jia loved nothing more than getting

2002, 2007, 2009 and 2011. Bryant also won the All-Star

into a badminton court. When he was six, he started

award for 18 times. He was chosen 15 times to be one of

playing badminton with Loh Kean Yew. When he was

the members of the All-NBA team, 12 times to be on the

twelve, he started playing professional badminton. By

all-defensive team. Additionally, he won the NBA slam

the time he was nineteen, he had won his first bronze

dunk contest in 1997, Cleveland.

medal in the Victor Polish International 2017 championship.

Kobe Bryant once said that the most important thing is to try and inspire people so that they can be great in

In 2016, Lee Zii Jia competed at the Bilbao World Junior

whatever they want to do. Everything negative - pressure,

Championship where he won two medals, a silver and a

challenges - is all an opportunity for us to rise. If you're

bronze. In 2019 he also competed at the Philippines

afraid to fail, then you're probably going to fail. Despite

South Asian Games where he won two medals, a gold

his tragic death, he will always be an inspiration to

and a silver.

basketball lovers.

By Ng Hong Xun Y8

By Terry Yoong De Lit Y8

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Lee Chong Wei is a Malaysian Olympic badminton

Lee Chong Wei is a Malaysian badminton player. He is

player. Lee Chong Wei has won numerous laurels and

one of the greatest badminton players

medals throughout his career and is celebrated as one

in the world, ranked number 1 worldwide back in

of the greatest ever to hold the badminton racket.

2006.

As a child, Lee favoured basketball, however his mother

Lee Chong Wei was born on 21 October 1982 in Bagan

soon banned him from the game due to the searing

Serai, Perak. In his early years, he favoured

heat of the outdoor basketball court. Lee began to

basketball, however his mother soon banned him from

learn badminton at the age of 11, when his father, who

the game due to the searing heat of the outdoor

liked to play the game, brought him to the badminton

basketball court. Lee began to learn badminton at the

court. Every day after school, he would train under a

age of 11, when his father, who liked to play the game,

local coach. His talent was later discovered by a

brought him to the badminton hall.

Malaysian former leading badminton player.

Throughout his career, he has won several gold In 2008, Lee competed at the Beijing Olympics, where

medals, including the 2006 Commonwealth Games in

he won his first silver medal. He was also the first man

Melbourne and the 2010 Commonwealth Games in

from Malaysia who had reached the finals in the men's

Delhi. He won a silver medal in both the 2008 and

singles event.

2012 Olympic Games, making him the sixth Malaysian to win an Olympic medal and the first Malaysian to

Besides that, Lee has won 64 BWF titles. In his prime

reach the finals in the men's singles event.

years, he reached an unprecedented 9 major championship finals.

For Lee’s achievement, he received RM 300,000 on 21 August 2008, as a reward for his silver medal effort in

By Abikiran A/L Chandran Y8

the 2008 Olympic Games. He was also appointed as UNICEF Malaysia's National Ambassador in February 2009.

By Tan Gui Kai Y8

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Phone: 017-4040039

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