What is self-worth by Nichole Poole
he definition is clear, self-esteem, “the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person.” It is how we view and feel about ourselves as individuals. Unfortunately for some, it’s a hard topic to hit. Like myself, I struggled with my self-image and how I felt about myself for many years, fighting depression, anxiety, and surviving alone. I never felt good about myself. In most cases, self-esteem is mas or abusive relationships later in life. There are many ceive ourselves mentally, and even how we see ourselves in the mirror. There are many contributive parameters involved in someone’s self-definition, like appearance, success, who you know and even in the cases of how much one makes financially. It is noteworthy that nobody
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has all the positive qualities in high quantity. Nobody is perfect. Hence, building a high self-esteem or appreciating our self-worth comes with ambition and struggle to move out of situations that bring us down. It’s honestly not an easy task, but many have successfully redeemed their self-esteem. For instance, coming out of a mentally abusive relationship (like me) can make us feel less than what we really are, or just even hitting a block in the road. On a daily life basis, we all have our milestones and life struggles (God only knows I’ve had so many), and knowing our own self-worth can play a big part in how we continue to live a better life day by day. I had found that my relationship was becoming more controlling and I was being called names, being put down, at
one point hit in my belly while pregnant, being told I didn’t deserve the life I was carrying inside of me etc. Over the years, I began to believe everything that was being told me: I was nothing but fat, and no one else would ever want me. From being a horrible mother, I will never become anything. I found myself going a downward spiral with my depression eventually leading to attempted suicide. After being in a mentally and physically abusive relationship for 15 years, I couldn’t live life anymore, or so I felt. A particular event when one of my children had been harmed changed my life, I said enough was enough. I stood up for myself and my children, and fought back. Being told for so many years that I wasn’t worth anything and I couldn’t do things, I decided to take a look in the mirror and say yes, I am and yes, I can. AND
