THE BEGINNING SIGNS OF ABUSE

THE EG I NN I NG

SI GNS O F BUSE

by Shameka Chapple

The first signs and experi- me. These are the signs you ences of abuse for many of should look out for because us start in the womb: when a nine times out of ten, these parent is on drugs while preg- are excuses to keep you, nant, when a mother is being to control you in order to abused by a partner or huband continue to abuse you over or even family member, when and over again, and then the a parent makes a statement blame game technique, “You that you were not wanted. In made me do it, if you had relationships, the first sign of done what I told you to do.” abuse is that first fist you feel, The abuser even uses the that first kick you received, child hood and upbringing as the words bitch, slut, whore, a reason as to why they treat you’re nothing , you are you a certain way. worthless, you can’t do anything right, I don’t know why I Another sign of abuse is am with you, I don’t know why financial, when they start to I married you. steal your money or keep your debit or credit cards and These are all the first signs of issue out your own money abuse followed by the paci- as they see fit. These are the fying words afterwards: I love signs you want to look out you, I will never do that again, for. There is no excuse to I don’t know what came over mistreat any one. Get away, call the abuse hot line, tell someone. Isolation is a sign of abuse, excessive drinking day after day, night after night is a sign of abuse. That first inappropriate touch is a sign of abuse. That first inappropriate kiss is one of the first signs of sexual abuse. The first time being fondled is one of the first signs of sexual abuse. Yes, I am touching on all subjects because there is more than one type of abuse and signs every man, woman, and child should be aware of. Once again, there are hotlines out here you can call. There are groups that you can attend to help overcome the cycle of abuse. Don’t continue to allow yourself to be a victim of abuse; get away, get help!!!