BOUNDARIES ARE GIFTS, NOT BARRIERS
How are you feeling, beloved? If you are feeling nervous about having to assert yourself if you never have, or learning to speak up when something goes against your values, or having to learn to communicate directly - I get it. And I see you. This was not second nature for me initially for me, either. I grew up in a household and family where children were expected to be seen, not heard and silence was the solution to all the problems. I had to unlearn that programming not just to make it where I wanted to go in life, but because the silence eventually turned on ME. My dance with learning to put in boundaries for myself has been a spiral dance and sometimes it was one step forward and two steps back. Every DAY, I have to uphold my rules of engagement and it's not always comfortable or easy. I have to check myself every day on moments when it feels easier to give in to someone's small request of my time when I've made plans for myself, or allow a disruption when I've made it clear verbally or nonverbally that I was in work mode. I have learned over time that if I choose to ignore my intuition or go against my commitments to myself and my rules of engagement, it always costs me. ALWAYS.
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