LKN MAR 24

EMBRACE EVERY MOMENT IN YOUR OUTDOOR OASIS

DISCOVER YOUR OUTDOOR LIVING STYLE AT THE GARDEN ROOM

Dear LKN Readers,

As March unfolds, I find myself reflecting on the incredible journey we've undertaken together. Since the inception of LKN Magazine, my mission is – to help, connect and share love with our readers, dedicated team and the vibrant community that surrounds us.

I am so proud of how far we've come, and it's your unwavering support that has fueled our growth. Every story we've told, every connection we've forged and every shared moment has played a part in shaping the unique tapestry of our LKN Magazine family.

With the arrival of March, we're on the cusp of bidding farewell to winter, eagerly anticipating the warmth and vibrancy that comes with the approaching summer. Living in a lake community adds an extra layer of excitement as we look forward to the sun-kissed days, lakeside gatherings and the sense of camaraderie that defines our unique locale.

What perfect timing to feature our friends at The Garden Room in beautiful downtown Mooresville. As you can see from our cover, they have some gorgeous outdoor furniture, accessories and so much more! Head on over to page 28 to see and read more. Not sure about you but our outdoor space is where my family spends the majority of their time from March until, sometimes, December.

As we inch closer to April 27th, mark your calendars for a special event that promises to be a highlight of the season – our Boutique Crawl! This is

not just an opportunity to shop; it's a celebration of local businesses, a chance to discover hidden gems and a day to revel in the spirit of community. Join us on this day as we explore, connect and support the diverse array of boutiques that make our community thrive.

In the spirit of our ongoing mission, I invite you to continue this journey with us. Let's embrace the changing seasons, celebrate our community's vibrancy and strengthen the bonds that make LKN Magazine more than just a publication – it's a shared experience, a connection and a reflection of the love we have for our readers, team and community.

Thank you for being an integral part of our story.

Warm regards,

KEELA JOHNSON LKN MAGAZINE, PUBLISHER

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FEATURES

14 A Giving Spirit Foundation: Bourbon and Boots

18 Gaskin Asset Management: A Living Legacy

20 Happy in the Here and Now

24 Caregiver Zen

28 COVER STORY The Garden Room

40 When Life Gets Overwhelming: Take the Time to Regroup and Refocus

42 Recipes: Colcannon, An Irish Staple

46 Celebrating Women's History Month

48 Ryan's Place: Choosing Kindness Every Day

50 The Benefits and Struggles of Being an Introvert

52 Children's Hope Alliance: Inspiration for Healthy Healing

56 Choplin's Restaurant and Watchmen of the Streets: Feasting with Neighbors

58 The Seven Types of Rest We All Need

64 Read Anything Good Lately? Here's What is on My Reading Watchlist for the Year

70 Elizabeth House Foundation: Second Annual Hats and Dresses Tea for Pink Party

74 Are You a Good Team Player?

08 The Publisher Perspective

12 Mother Nurture: Investing in Knowledge that Lasts a Lifetime

16 Be Well Table: Broccolini with Whipped Goat Cheese

22 Living Life Accent Prone: Sprucing Up Your Home

26 Art Speak: Jennifer Stein, Abstract Impressionist Artist

32 LF Wellness Consulting: The Couch or the Gym?

34 Marzano Capital Group: Protect Your Children

34 from Their Inheritance

36 Coach's Corner: A Conversation with the Legendary Bob McKillop

38 A Bow of Gallantry: Volume XIII

44 919 Backyard BBQ: Pork Chop Recipe

60 Ask Dr. Keith

62 One Man’s Perspective: Cost Rica

66 Lake Norman Music Stage: Local Musician Finalists in the 66 2024 Carolina Country Music Awards

72 Joyful Journey: Raven Rock State Park

76 Calendar of Events

82 The Last Word on Life at the Lake: Lake Spiders

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MOTHER NURTURE

INVESTING IN KNOWLEDGE AND SKILLS THAT LAST A LIFETIME

by IVEY GASKIN BAKER

Evidently, it’s an El Niño year.

Early January, the Carolinas were hit with a huge rainstorm that shut down my kids’ school and caused power outages all over the state. My yard also happened to flood that day, meaning, my future flower beds flooded that day. El Niño brings wetter than normal winters to the southeast and, after a long dry spell in Charlotte, we’ve had steady and occasionally heavy rain. I now know more than I ever thought I would know about water run-off and soil drainage. For flowers and produce that need a well-draining environment to grow, sitting in consistently wet soil is not ideal.

Back to the drawing board.

We were having soil delivered in February, so I needed to find a solution fast. I found a company that sells metal, raised garden beds that the boys helped me assemble. They had an impressive amount of fun screwing together nuts and bolts. We laid chicken wire underneath the beds to attempt to prevent our tiny outdoor neighbors from tunneling up into the beds to eat the roots. We’ll see if that helps. The beds are pretty tall. To save money, we first filled the beds with fallen sticks and branches, then shoveled leaves into the beds from piles that I have been collecting throughout the fall and winter. Soil and compost will fill the rest of the beds as we get ready for planting season.

I must say that this was a disappointing but important lesson – the lesson of accepting what is. Learning to take appropriate action after disappointment is critical in life. My oldest son is on his first ever basketball team through the YMCA. He started the season with all the excitement in the world but with very little knowledge about the game or technical skills. Last weekend, he tearfully said to me, “Mom, no one ever passes me the ball. No one likes me.” My question to him was, “If you had the ball and wanted to be sure that your next pass would score a point, would you pass it to yourself?” He said, “no.” I said, “That’s why your teammates don’t pass you the ball. They like you. They just aren’t confident that you’ll score. You just need to practice.”

I came into 2024 with my garden plan nailed down. I was confident that we were going to be successful gardeners. But, sometimes, things don’t go to plan. I stood in my yard, at one spot nearly eight inches under water, and thought that all hope was lost for a backyard garden business. I was borderline tearful with my bags of seeds, seed trays and lamps getting ready to start plants indoors that need some cold weather months for germination. But, it’s not lost. I just needed a new plan. It will cost more money in the short run to modify the garden plan with the new beds and filling in these beds with even more dirt. However, we may prevent future problems and lost product related to poor drainage and rot, just by making this simple modification early on.

Starting a business, raising children and managing your health or your finances, you must accept what is and adjust. We put up a basketball goal in the driveway. My “niño” is outside shooting hoops every day after school now, rapidly improving. But, between shots, he’s helping me plant seeds. Seed planting starts today!

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A GIVING SPIRIT

BOURBON & BOOTS

A GIVING SPIRIT FOUNDATION’S PREMIER FUNDRAISING EVENT PRESENTS AN UNFORGETTABLE NIGHT OF SOUTHERN CHARM

Bourbon & Boots, the annual fundraising event hosted by A Giving Spirit Foundation (AGSF), is back and promises an evening of philanthropy and entertainment with a southern flair. The event, known for its live music, dancing under the lights and signature tasting experiences (now with bubbles!), will take place on Friday, March 22, at 6:30 pm at a new location – Magnolia Woods in Huntersville.

“Dust off your boots and join us at our annual Bubbles, Bourbon & Boots night! It’ll be a fun evening of drinks, dancing and casual cuisine with a down-home southern twist,” said Emily McGlon, AGSF Chair. The night will also feature a silent auction, live music, DJ and photo booth.

The Bourbon Tasting Experience was introduced a few years ago and was a resounding success, with attendees enjoying the rich and diverse world of bourbon. Building on that success, AGSF introduced a Bubbles Experience last year for those who prefer champagne and sparkling wine. The Bubbles Experience offers a delightful journey through premium bubbly selections.

Guests have the option to indulge in either the Bourbon or Bubbles Experience, or better yet, enjoy the best of both worlds. Exclusive access to dedicated tasting rooms accompanies each experience, ensuring a unique and intimate setting for all attendees. Both experiences will be hosted by Black Moth Bartending, a local company specializing in tasting events and specialty cocktails.

All proceeds from the event support A Giving Spirit Foundation, a non-profit inspired by Laura Woodall, a Davidson mother who was diagnosed with ALS. Since 2008, AGSF has been dedicated to supporting local mothers facing financial struggles after receiving devastating health news. The foundation provides grants to help alleviate some of the burdens of housing, utilities, household expenses and medical bills.

AGSF Bubbles, Bourbon & Boots is set to be an extraordinary event that combines entertainment with the spirit of giving. Tickets, tables and tasting experiences are available for purchase now at agivingspiritfoundation.org.

BROCCOLINI WITH WHIPPED GOAT CHEESE

by KATHARINE ROSENTHAL, RDN

A nourishing, elevated side dish that is ready in 20 minutes and pairs well with any weeknight dinner.

Servings: 4

Prep time: 10 minutes

Total time: 20 minutes

Ingredients:

• 1 bunch broccolini

• 3 T olive oil

• 1 shallot

• 1 T garlic, minced

• Salt and pepper, to taste

For Whipped Goat Cheese:

• 8 oz goat cheese

• ½ T lemon juice

• ¼ tsp. salt

• ¼ tsp. red pepper flakes

Instructions:

1. In a food processor, whip together all of the ingredients for the whipped goat cheese. Pulse until it is nice and creamy. Spread the whipped goat cheese on a platter and set to the side.

2. Boil salted water in a large pot. Once boiling, add the broccolini and cook for about four minutes or until bright green. Remove from the pot and set aside.

3. While the broccolini is cooking, thinly slice the shallot.

4. In a large skillet, heat olive oil over medium heat. Add the shallots and garlic, and cook until they are crispy. Once crispy, add the salt and pepper, mix and remove from the heat.

5. Place the cooked broccolini over the whipped goat cheese and top with the crispy shallots.

Recipe Tips:

• Broccolini, also known as baby broccoli, is packed with vitamin C. Vitamin C can help strengthen your immune system.

• Broccolini is also a great source of folate, fiber and antioxidants.

• If you do not like spicy, omit the red pepper flakes.

For more recipes and nutrition tips, head to the Be Well Table blog.

A LIVING LEGACY

by IVEY GASKIN BAKER, CFP®

We attended a lot of funerals in 2023. Listening to someone’s legacy or life story compressed into brief monologues really makes you think about your own life and the words that follow your name in a sentence. Death is not reserved for the elderly. Young people die tragically. Parents bury their children. The certainty of death is the agreement we all make when we take our first breath, which makes life that much more special, knowing there is an end. The idea that we are guaranteed a long, healthy life is worthy of hope, but it is out of our control. Whatever time we are given is a gift, and it’s foolish to let our shot at life slip and waste away. Still. It is easy to get overwhelmed by the chaos of life, in a rut, thinking that you don’t have enough time or energy to pursue your dreams or discover who you truly are. I’m in the thick of raising three young boys, building a career of my own, with a husband that just started his first job out of surgical training. Life can be hard. Somedays all you’re trying to do is just make it to tomorrow. Any idea of embracing the journey, living intentionally or building some kind of meaningful legacy may feel frivolous. Who has time to think about their legacy? What is a legacy anyways?

In working with our clients, especially those with children or charitable intent, leaving a legacy is often a goal. A legacy is not necessarily a trust account, a business or real estate portfolio. Yes, money is often involved in the discussion of leaving a legacy, but more importantly, it is the countless daily decisions that we all have to make. It’s in the passing moments

of kindness. It’s in the lessons you teach your children either in words or in action. It’s in consistently adding value to the lives of others. A legacy is how your life will live on in your absence. You don’t have to be gone to have a legacy; it lives with you.

I happen to work with my dad. We are often discussing time and its fleeting nature. When I moved to Cleveland, Ohio for a brief period, I told my dad, “It’s only three years. It will fly by.” I will never forget his response, “Ivey, I want you back, but I don’t want time to fly by. I have a lot fewer years to live than you.”

Dad turns 60 this month. He is the husband to my mother of nearly 40 years, father of three girls and grandfather of five. He is a business owner with his brother with our family name on the door. He is a proud veteran and helicopter pilot, outdoorsman, craftsman, Sunday school teacher, avid reader and writer. Dad is a loyal and honest friend. He is the stable hand when your body is shaking. He is the kind of man young women hope their husbands will grow to be. He is the honorable financial advisor that many of our clients consider part of their families.

Ever since I was a kid, I was my dad’s sidekick. He would take me on the weekends to look at cars, sailboats and pygmy goats. Some 20 years ago, he took me (not my mother) to see a piece of property in the country he was planning to buy with his oldest brother. It looked like a dump. It had a cinderblock hunting cabin with no power or running water.

“A legacy is how your life will live on in your absence. You don’t have to be gone to have a legacy; it lives with you.”

IVEY GASKIN BAKER, CFP® GASKIN ASSET MANAGEMNT

There was a burning pile of brush from where they just logged the fields and planted new pine trees. At first glance, all I saw was that it needed an overwhelming amount of work. He saw 60 acres of potential, with the Uwharrie mountain range in the background and bordered by a mile of riverfront. Twenty years ago, Dad was investing in his career and raising three young girls himself. He didn’t have the time or excess income to spend on a plot of land in the middle of nowhere. Today, with a fishing pond, miles of trails and a fully renovated and expanded cabin, this property looks entirely different. It represents decades of his vision, love and hard work. What we didn’t realize is that he was investing in a piece of his legacy. Family land that would live beyond his life, treasured by his three daughters and their families.

As financial advisors, we are often a critical part of the planning related to leaving a financial legacy, but it goes much further than this. As I sit in meetings, with mourning families settling the estates of their loved ones, I can promise a legacy has even more to do with who you are in life than what financial assets you leave behind. People who fear death often fear that there are stones left unturned, words left unsaid or goals unaccomplished. A legacy incomplete. Amidst the chaos, our goal as advisors is to help individuals check in with their values or to work through the obstacles in pursuing their dreams. If there is a business you’ve been pulled to start or a piece of property on the water calling your name, stop waiting. If you feel called to talk about it with someone, give us a call and let us know what dreams you’re pursuing. We’re eager to hear about them.

GASKIN ASSET MANAGEMENT

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Securities offered through Raymond James Financial Services, Inc., Member FINRA/ SIPC. Investment advisory services offered through Raymond James Financial Services Advisors, Inc. Gaskin Asset Management is not a registered broker/dealer and is independent of Raymond James Financial Services, Inc.

Any opinions are those of Ivey Gaskin Baker/ or Gaskin Asset Management and not necessarily those of Raymond James.

HAPPY IN THE HERE AND NOW

by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

If that raise comes through…

When I get through chemo...

If I get to retirement...

When I lose weight…

We know better than to cancel out the heartbeat of hope that lies just beyond the ellipsis, but we’re not always so good with being happy in the here and now.

Thankfully, life tends to deliver our lessons when and often where we least expect them. And so I remember...

We didn’t get far. On our way down the meandering hallway, she paused in genuine awe as her soft brown eyes scanned the wall before her. It was a tapestry of sorts, photos of residents on the patio, visiting The Botanical Gardens on a field trip, playing bingo and petting a service dog – a snapshot of life as it is lived in the here and now, in “The Home.”

“Look, Jeannie. Such nice people live here.” I smiled, marveling at life through her eyes. As she turned toward the opposite wall, her face assumed a perplexed look.

A clear early autumn day when hope hangs in the balance between a soft summer and the foreboding of another northeast winter... nothing that a little gospel music balanced with some vintage Jimi Hendrix wouldn’t settle. Instead, I went to visit my mother at “The Home.” That Sunday afternoon, I wanted to take her down to the community room where 1940s war time music was guaranteed to draw a big crowd.

“Come on, Mom. Let’s go. They’re playing your music.”

She was tired, more compliant than inspired. But good-natured and ever eager to please, she grabbed “Buddy,” her affectionately named cane, and off we went.

“What’s this, Mom?” Of course, I knew that it was a depiction of the future, the “coming soon” new facility which residents, like my mom, would eventually call home. The plans and room shots, staged to perfection, had been up for months. They were purposeful, intended to make residents comfortable with change and happy about what the future had in store.

“Beats me. It sure looks fancy. You know, Jeannie, they’re so good to me here.”

Thinking back, I wonder if she was simply confused or disinterested. Perhaps both. I thought for a split second that I would explain the impending move – again – but this time, touched by the grace of my mom’s good heart, I held my tongue.

She looked away, leaned on her cane and simply repeated “They’re so nice here.”

That was the point I was missing. A mind may grow old and feeble, but a heart in the here and now is a different matter.

At least, it can be.

I realize now that, for my mom, the wall of the present and the wall of the future were like bookends devoid of intermediary content. The space between the two was a chasm that might as well have been 800 feet, instead of a mere eight. I had no business messing with that when, for her, hope and happiness were synonymous with the here and now.

Maybe she was the one messing with me.

She always had that sort of wisdom, the kind that reminded me that when you find a penny, you put it in the “Poor Box” at church, because there was always someone poorer than you. The kind that encouraged me to feed the birds, even if it meant throwing out scraps on the second-floor roof of a second rate flat to scrappy urban pigeons that made a big mess of what little you claimed as yours.

My mom was the kind who simply knew that as long as you have breath, you can do good. And, you could be happy.

I, on the other hand, tend to complicate things with the “ifs and whens.”

There are thousands of well-intentioned resources “out there” on hope and happiness. But, I’ve chosen to ignore their more esoteric allure in favor of following my mother’s lived wisdom about finding happiness in the here and now.

This is big, and it sounds sappy, even to me. But, I remain open to the probability that happiness isn’t “over there,” in a perfectly imagined tomorrow. It just may be in the perfectly imperfect here and now.

No ifs, whens or conditions. No ellipsis. Thanks, Mom.

“Whether you’re a seasoned decor enthusiast or a rookie in the world of interior design, there’s one concept that can transform your home and uplift your spirits: accents!”

CHERI LINGAFELT, OWNER ACCENT PRONE

Hey Friends! I’m Cheri, the owner of Accent Prone, and it’s truly an honor to embark on this journey of sharing my insights into the world of interior design through this monthly column. As a recent member of the close-knit Huntersville community, I’m eager to connect with you all and exchange experiences and ideas on home decor. So, what brings me here? Allow me to tell you a bit about myself. Alongside my husband, Justin, we’ve lovingly nurtured Accent Prone for nearly 12 amazing years. What was once just a small shop has blossomed into a creative space for crafting unique interior designs in collaboration with our incredible clients. Our roots outside the furniture capital of the world have instilled in us a deep appreciation for the industry, and we’ve journeyed through furniture markets since childhood and embarked on home decor projects spanning the nation. Design isn’t just a profession for me; it’s an allconsuming passion, and I can’t wait to share my experiences and love for design with all of you through the pages of LKN Magazine!

For the very first column, it seems only fitting to talk about my favorite aspect of design, accents! Accents are like the fancy bling to a simple outfit, the sweet drizzle on top of your favorite dessert and, in my humble opinion, the secret sauce that turns a mundane space into a jaw-dropping sanctuary. Whether you’re on a budget or just not in the mood for a total space overhaul, a little switch-up of selected accents here and there can breathe new life into your home, giving it that fresh, reimagined feel.

Whether you’re a seasoned decor enthusiast or a rookie in the world of interior design, there’s one concept that can transform your home and uplift your spirits: accents!

My top five easy accents to swap in and out of your home are pillows and textiles, greenery, artwork, lighting and accessories. Let’s dive into them!

Accent Pillows: Let’s start with the humble accent pillow. These colorful, textured pillows are the chameleons of home decor, effortlessly transforming the mood of your living room or bedroom. Picture a neutral sofa as your blank canvas, waiting to be adorned with the vibrant hues and patterns of accent pillows. Swap them out with the changing seasons to welcome the warmth of autumn, the coziness of winter, the freshness of spring and the vibrancy of

summer. Don’t be afraid to experiment with various sizes, shapes and textures – mix and match to your heart’s content. Likewise, various textiles like a vintage rug or knitted throw can add another layer to your space. Vintage Turkish rugs for an element of surprise will always be one of my favorite accents to throw into any room!

Greenery: I swear by greenery as the ultimate styling tool – seriously, every room needs it! It’s the warmth and vibrant burst of color for me. I’m all about that tall fiddle leaf fig tree making a statement in a cozy corner or those cute tabletop succulents sprinkled around. And, let’s not forget the fresh flowers in beautiful vases or those organic stems casually jazzing up a mantel. Greenery just has this magic way of bringing life and a touch of nature into any space. Don’t have a green thumb? Then you’re my kind of people! Adding faux greenery works just as well and is a core product we always have in stock at our shop for all of our styling needs.

Artwork: Artwork is the ultimate room accessory, and here’s why: it brings character, mood and a touch of personality to any space. Whether it’s a vibrant abstract painting, a serene landscape or a striking photography print, artwork sets the tone for the room’s ambiance. The best part? It’s so easy to swap in and out based on your mood or evolving style. One minute you’re drawn to a bold, colorful piece that demands attention, and the next, you’re craving a minimalistic black-and-white print. Artwork effortlessly adapts to your tastes, allowing you to refresh your space with new energy whenever you please.

Lighting: Let’s talk about lighting – it’s like the secret ingredient that totally transforms a room, and here’s the deal. Whether it’s a sleek floor lamp casting a warm glow, a statement chandelier stealing the show in the dining room or those art lights that make your favorite pieces pop, lighting is the unsung hero of interior design. It sets the mood, creates a vibe and adds that extra touch of personality to your space. Best part? Just like swapping out artwork, you can change up your lighting game to match your ever-evolving style. Dim the lights for a cozy night in, or crank them up for a lively gathering – lighting’s got your back, ensuring your space always shines in the best possible way.

Accessories: And, last but not least, let’s talk accessories! I’m talking about that killer vase that steals the spotlight, the modern sculpture that sparks conversations and the vintage bowl you scored at a flea market. Accessories are where your personal style really comes alive. Incorporating accessories is an art form – it’s all about curating pieces that speak to you and tell your story. From small trinkets to eye-catching statement pieces, accessories add that extra personality and charm to every corner of your home, making it uniquely yours.

In a nutshell, accents are the ultimate game-changer for giving your home a fresh new vibe. No need to bust out the sledgehammer or break out the paint rollers for a full-on overhaul (although I’m all about a bold paint statement, and we’ll tackle that in the coming months). I’m excited to stay connected and hear all about your journey to making your homes accent prone!

Until next month, Cheri

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CAREGIVER ZEN

by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

When we were told that it would be best to operate, the hospital stay could be a week, recuperation at least a month and that postop tests would determine “next steps,” my heart sank for my dear man who would have to endure yet another health setback. And then, another raw truth emerged – I was feeling very anxious about what might lie ahead for him, for both of us. Having had enough experience with “bad news,” I knew that to sit with fear and uncertainty was the best course of action for this hereand-now moment. Once the reality of the surgeon’s words had fully sunk in, I recalled our COVID ordeal, reminding myself that day by day, week by week, month by month, we got through it.

We got through it.

A few months after Dean had recovered from the worst impacts of his COVID nightmare, I snapped a photo of him in a neighbor’s driveway. Backlit by the sun of a warm May morning and decked out in a straw hat and sandals, he smiled at the camera as he held a tray of gifted spring plants that would soon be rehomed in our backyard. I treasure that photo because it says everything I need to be reminded of about the fact that we do get through it. It made me think about how many times in the course of our lives we get through things that rattle our spirits, devastate our hearts and try every last emotional and material resource we can muster. But, we do.

Facing a new and scary health challenge ahead, I reflected on several key lessons I learned – as a loving caregiver – during Dean’s COVID nightmare:

Take it one day, one challenge at a time. Some personalities – like mine – focus on all of the “what ifs” and get ahead of themselves – which can induce greater fear and anxiety. Curb this by focusing on what you need to do right now to support your loved one on his or her journey.

Accept that you can’t know everything; just do the best that you can. I was thrown into a world of case managers, OTs and PTs, and medical lingo that was foreign to me. Be patient with your own learning curve.

Ask for and accept help. Many of us have issues about being on the receiving end of help. You know who really cares and who will truly want to help you. At another time, they will need your help, and you will be there for them; our experience tells us that’s how it works.

Ask lots of questions and carry around a dedicated notebook for medical visits and calls. My notebook was my crutch and my support from Day One. It allowed me to capture key conversations, terminology and instructions, and was a record I referred to many times.

Accept that life as you know it will be upended for a while. Yes, it’s another Achilles Heel of which to be aware. Your house won’t be spic and span, the laundry will pile up, dinner may be ad hoc at best and Book Club will be canceled indefinitely. Give perfection the heave ho for once. Lean into being adaptable and flexible, knowing that this upheaval to your reliable norm is temporary.

Stay connected. Now, more than ever, you need the continuity of comfort that comes from family and friends who love you. Allow them to be there for you emotionally. Many have been through their own major challenges and will empathize wholeheartedly with your situation, even if the details are quite different.

Love yourself through all of it. Only you know what this means for you. It could be your religious practice, meditation, working out, walking, reading poetry or taking those long warm baths. Whatever it is, squeeze in some time so that you have what you need to be there for your loved one.

We’ll get through this. And so will you.

ART SPEAK:

UNVEILING LAKE NORMAN’S CREATIVE VOICES

by LAURA CZERWINSKI

ARTIST NAME | JENNIFER STEIN – ABSTRACT IMPRESSIONIST ARTIST

How would you describe your work?

The majority of my works reflect the peace and happiness of life that I experience and have lived, whether from growing up on the salty sea, which brought forth my series “Long Island Summer” or from seasons of God turning ashes into beauty which birthed the “Sophie’s Garden Series.”

Which other artists most inspired you?

I could answer this question by naming artists such as Monet, O’Keeffe, Twombly or Diebenkorn. While they have created art that has been inspiring on some levels, this next group of artists are the ones who truly inspire me – those who take risks, the lesser known but who are aspiring to become all they can be, the creators who step outside the box and don’t color in the lines, these few are the ones that cause me to rise and take notice.

Where do you find your best sources of inspiration?

Being raised on the Great South Bay with its alluring blue/gray waves filled with dancing sailboats; or having strolled through beautiful flower fields in Amsterdam and on dahlia farms in the PNW; or taking a hike in our majestic Blue Ridge Mountains; or simply walking down my road gazing at wild flower filled fields in my small rural town; these are God-given inspirations which cause my mind to go wild with possibilities.

What is the greatest compliment you’ve received about your work?

For a person to view my work, contemplate it, desire to have a certain piece as it pulls them in and causes them to experience beautiful emotions, and finally purchase and display that piece, this to me is the greatest compliment I could ever receive.

What are you working on now that you are excited about?

Besides always loving to create my impressionistic floral pieces and abstracts which sometimes contain sailboats, I’ve started combining the florals and the abstracts which leave a very interesting piece of art. This is a statement about a painting I recently sold that describes this new combination so well.

“Life is full of happenings, some easy to deal with, some very challenging, messy and, at times, can borderline feel like insanity. Learning to find joy, be thankful and create beauty, even in the midst of chaos, is imperative and can be done! This Sophie’s Garden piece has an under layer of ‘holy mess’ abstract which peeks through here and there, yet never fully gone. Glorious color splashes over the mess, heralding a bright garden of beautiful, impressionistic flora. This is life, finding and ‘Holding onto Joy in the Chaos.’”

Also, I am working on a large commission piece to be hung in a newly built lake home which will draw from its natural outdoor surroundings and complement this neutral modern farmhouse décor with pops of fun colors.

What is one piece of creative advice you didn’t take?

A person once said to me, “You would do well to take art lessons.” I have nothing against bettering oneself, learning from “the best” or immersing myself in study. A dear artist friend, whose work I greatly admired, gave me a lesson that changed my life. He opened the door to my artistic career, and I am eternally grateful. Other than that single session, I can wholeheartedly say that I am a self-taught artist. I’ve created my niche by years of leaning on spirit-led intuition, learning what works and doesn’t work through trial and error, creating beautiful works and ones that ended up in the junk pile. It’s taken courage and determination. For all of this, I am grateful, and most humbly say, I am proud.

To see more of Jennifer’s work in person, visit Juelerye in Mooresville or KF Studios in Davidson. You can also follow her on Instagram @JenniferSteinArt.

IF YOU LIVE AROUND THE LAKE, YOU KNOW THE PURE MAGIC OF THE SUN-KISSED SETTING AND RELAXING AMBIANCE, ESPECIALLY AT DAY’S END. WITH SPRING UPON US AND SUMMER JUST A BLINK AWAY, IT’S THE PERFECT TIME TO SET THE TONE FOR A SERENE ESCAPE TO YOUR OUTDOOR LIVING SPACE.

That feeling of serenity is what Erin Clark first experienced on a trip to California, where she stopped at an outdoor furniture store by chance and found the vibe there so incredibly soothing and comfortable, she wanted nothing more than to sit all day and soak in the feeling. Already seeking a new creative adventure, she and her husband, Mike, realized nothing quite like that store existed in the Lake Norman area. Last June, they officially opened The Garden Room in Mooresville.

“Your outdoor retreat should reflect the same level of quality and style as your indoor surroundings,” said Erin.

Meet Erin and Mike at The Garden Room, schedule an in-home consultation if you’re looking for a totally new look for your outdoor space or shop their creative inventory to add some updated accessories (think gorgeous new planters, outdoor rugs or cool deck lanterns) to the outdoor areas you already enjoy. An avid gardener, Erin is excited to offer window box and planter

THE GARDEN ROOM

design and installation this year for those who want gorgeous containers outdoors but need a little nudge.

The Garden Room carries outdoor furniture products from several different manufacturers including Barlow Tyrie, Sunset West and Pawley’s Island. They offer a wide variety of styles and popular materials including all-weather wicker, teak, powdercoated aluminum and Durawood, poly lumber – each made to withstand harsh outdoor elements. Powder-coated aluminum furniture is rust-proof, lightweight and comes in a variety of styles, while authentically designed all-weather wicker is also made of high-density material that’s stronger, fade-resistant and rot-resistant. All-weather rope is an exciting new material currently used in many outdoor furniture products – it’s durable, and both water and fade resistant.

Everything you find at The Garden Room is built to last, including solution dyed acrylic fabric from Sunbrella, with timeless designs and a five-year warranty against mildew and fading. Don’t forget furniture covers to keep your investment safe in inclement weather, or explore their many comfortable cushion-less options.

To balance those hot summer days, a full line of easy-to-operate outdoor umbrellas awaits, including center pole and side cantilever in a variety of sizes and colors. For cooler evenings, The Garden Room is your source for sleekly designed fire tables.

New for 2024 – The Garden Room is hosting creative floral arranging classes, led by an experienced floral designer. At the

first sold-out class, participants enjoyed a fun night learning to create a beautiful floral design to take home. Classes are scheduled around a holiday or seasonal theme, and on March 27th, enjoy an Easter/Spring themed class and another in May for Mother’s Day. Space is limited, and classes fill up quickly –register now by calling the store!

From long-lasting furniture to the charming extras that make your outdoor space a welcoming spot to celebrate our favorite seasons, The Garden Room is one-stop shopping to create the retreat your soul definitely needs!

The family owned business also offers unmatched service including personal delivery.

“We enjoy delivering the product and installing it ourselves,” said Erin. “It’s so satisfying to see the end result at a customer’s home!”

The Garden Room’s cozy location – a beautiful two-story historic building in downtown Mooresville – evokes that same feeling that enchanted Erin a few years back and is sure to inspire your outdoor décor shopping as well! Visit them at 162 N. Main Street, Mooresville, NC, 704.213.9279. Hours are Tuesday through Saturday 10:30 a.m. – 5:00 p.m., and Sunday and Monday by appointment. Email erin@thegardenroomlkn. com to schedule an appointment, enjoy browsing their current product galleries at thegardenroomlkn.com and follow them on Facebook and Instagram @thegardenroomlkn.

THE COUCH OR THE GYM?

by LINDSEY FISHER

Our unconscious mind always takes us to the path of least resistance. Where things are comfortable. Where life is intuitively more desirable.

In a world that often emphasizes the pursuit of comfort and security, it may seem counterintuitive to actively seek out challenges and do the hard things. However, science suggests that stepping outside our comfort zones is not only beneficial for personal growth but has a profound impact on our brain's structure and function, as well.

Science has proven that challenging ourselves and embracing difficulty can lead to the formation of new neural pathways, ultimately enhancing our cognitive abilities and building resilience.

The comfort zone conundrum – your “comfort zone” is a psychological state where you feel safe, familiar and in control. While it provides a sense of security, it can also lead to stagnation and a lack of personal growth. When we consistently engage in routine activities that pose little challenge, our brains become accustomed to the familiar, and we miss out on opportunities to be better and do better.

A little sciency – neuroplasticity, the brain's ability to reorganize and form new neural connections throughout life, is a key concept in understanding why challenging ourselves is crucial. Research has shown that engaging in activities that push us beyond our comfort zones stimulates the production of neurotrophic factors, including brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF). BDNF plays a crucial role in promoting the growth and survival of neurons, fostering the creation of new neural pathways and stimulating mental clarity.

Cold plunge. A new language. Attend an event that interests you where you don’t know anyone. Go on a weekend retreat and totally unplug from all digital connections. Travel to a foreign country. Go skydiving. Initially, these activities may be challenging and mentally taxing, but over time, the brain adapts. Neuroplasticity allows the formation of new neural pathways associated with improved proficiency.

The process of stepping outside our comfort zones involves facing uncertainty, experiencing discomfort and often encountering failure. While these challenges may initially induce stress, they also trigger the release of stress hormones like cortisol. In moderation, stress hormones can have positive effects on cognitive function, such as heightened alertness and improved focus.

Moreover, facing and overcoming challenges prompts the brain to release dopamine, a neurotransmitter associated with reward and pleasure. This creates a positive feedback loop that reinforces the idea that tackling difficult tasks is not only beneficial but emotionally rewarding, as well.

Beyond cognitive benefits, embracing challenges fosters emotional resilience. When we confront difficult situations and navigate through them, we develop a sense of self-efficacy and confidence in our abilities to overcome adversity. This resilience extends to various aspects of life, enabling us to cope with stress, adapt to change and face new challenges with a positive mindset.

Embrace the discomfort, for it is in those challenging moments that we sculpt the resilient and adaptable minds to keep us alive and on the planet longer.

If you want to learn how to take your mind, body and spiritual health to an exceptional level this year and release what has been holding you back contact Lindsey directly at LindseyFisherNC.com.

PROTECT YOUR CHILDREN FROM THEIR INHERITANCE

by STEVEN GALLO, CFP®, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

Wealthy families often find themselves grappling with how to effectively pass along assets to their children while ensuring those children are ready for the responsibility. As we tread towards the largest generational wealth transfer in history, there is a growing need to ensure those inheriting the assets are adequately prepared to handle them.

There are a variety of risks involved, including:

• Lack of Financial Literacy: Without proper financial education and guidance, heirs may struggle to manage their wealth effectively, leading to overspending or poor investment decisions.

• Entitlement Issues: Inherited wealth can sometimes foster a sense of entitlement, which may hinder your children’s motivation to work hard and achieve their goals independently.

• Predatory Influences: Wealth can attract unscrupulous individuals seeking to exploit your heirs, potentially leading to financial loss or ruin.

• Family Conflict: Inequities in inheritance distribution or differing views on how to manage family assets can lead to conflicts among siblings or other family members.

• Taxes and Legal Issues: Poor estate planning can result in substantial tax liabilities and legal disputes, eroding the value of the inheritance.

Each of these potential dangers can be mitigated through proper planning. The following are essential strategies for ensuring you and your heirs are prepared. As you read through them, take an honest self-assessment of whether or not you’ve “checked the box” or still have some work to do.

Educate and Prepare

Begin by providing your children with a solid financial education. Encourage them to develop financial literacy and understand the principles of budgeting, investing and saving. Consider involving them in discussions about your family’s wealth and financial goals.1

Implement a Trust

Establishing a trust can be a powerful tool for protecting your children’s inheritance. A trust allows you to control the distribution of assets, set conditions for access and appoint a trusted trustee to manage the assets on your children’s behalf.2

Gradual Wealth Transfer

Rather than transferring your entire estate to your children at once, consider a gradual approach. Structured distributions over time can help your heirs become accustomed to managing their wealth and reduce the risk of impulsive spending.

Encourage Philanthropy

Instill a sense of responsibility and purpose in your children by involving them in charitable activities and philanthropic endeavors. Creating a family foundation or donoradvised fund can be a meaningful way to teach them the importance of giving back.

Professional Guidance

Engage the services of financial and legal professionals with expertise in estate planning and wealth management. They can help you structure your estate plan to minimize tax liabilities and navigate complex legal issues.

Facilitate Communication

Open and honest communication within the family is paramount. Encourage regular family meetings to discuss financial matters, estate plans and expectations. Clear communication can help prevent misunderstandings and disputes in the future.

Update Your Estate Plan

Review and update your estate plan regularly to ensure it reflects your current wishes and financial circumstances. Changes in tax laws or family dynamics may necessitate adjustments to your plan.

Protecting your children from their inheritance is not about depriving them of wealth or showing a lack of trust in them, but rather about ensuring they are equipped to handle it responsibly. By following these strategies, you can take proactive steps to safeguard your family’s legacy and provide your children with the tools they need to thrive in the world of wealth.

Sources:

1Lieber, Ron. The Opposite of Spoiled: Raising Kids Who Are Grounded, Generous and Smart About Money. HarperCollins, 2015.

2The American Bar Association. Family Trusts Guide. americanbar.org/groups/real_property_ trust_estate/resources/estate_planning

“By following these strategies, you can take proactive steps to safeguard your family’s legacy and provide your children with the tools they need to thrive in the world of wealth.”

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A CONVERSATION WITH THE LEGENDARY BOB MCKILLOP

I am with the legendary Coach Bob McKillop. I’ve known him for nearly 50 years and admired him from the first day we met. Bob has played an integral role in my life and remains someone I turn to when seeking sound advice. He is my mentor, my friend, a former coach of mine and was the head coach at Davidson when I was an assistant coach there. It will be two years this June since Bob announced he was retiring as head men’s basketball coach at Davidson College. He led Davidson to 23 conference championships, 10 NCAA Tournament appearances and 634 wins. We caught up recently to talk a little March Madness hoops and discuss what’s in store for him in 2024.

MATT: Great as always to see you, Bob. Congratulations on your upcoming induction into the North Carolina Sports Hall of Fame. It is truly well deserved. You have earned numerous accolades over the years, including having the hardwood at Davidson’s John M. Belk Arena named “McKillop Court.” Do any stand out above the others?

BOB: What that stands out to me the most is the unwavering loyalty extended to me by my family, by our Davidson players and assistant coaches, by the

Davidson College administrators, faculty, staff and the community of alumni, townspeople and fans. It started in 1989 and was a 33-year experience. That loyalty is something I deeply cherish and I will carry with me forever.

MATT: You have had massive success. People looking from the outside can say you lived a charmed life, but like all of us, you had to deal with adversity… failure. What was the biggest challenge in your life and how did you “rebound” from it?

BOB: The greatest failure and adversity that I experienced was being infected with the disease of me. As humans, we all come face to face with this challenge. In my case, I let it ravage me. I was confident but arrogant, committed but consumed; I cared about others but did not often show it. It was all about me, and what’s in it for me as I worked to climb the corporate coaching ladder. It started from the day I first stepped onto the Davidson campus until the day that failure, losing games, and then disappointing and failing those who put their trust in me eventually

by MATT DOHERTY, photography courtesy of DAVIDSON COLLEGE

THE COACH’S CORNER WITH MATT DOHERTY

brought me to my knees. I had to cleanse myself of the pride and arrogance that was a daily partner.

Thankfully, the Davidson College leadership of President John Kuykendall and Athletic Director Terry Holland allowed me to work through my inadequacies. I also had the unwavering support of my family and a long list of Davidson players and assistant coaches. And, most significantly, the grace and mercy of a loving God which brought me to an understanding of what my purpose in life should be. Despite getting knocked to the mat many, many more times, I was given the gift of being able to get back off the mat and into the center of the ring every time failure and adversity sent me to the mat or even to the ropes.

MATT: You recently told me that a key concept you’ve learned throughout life is that we are always on stage. Someone is always watching us. What do you mean by that?

BOB: Trust is one of the foundational bricks upon which to build your life. It is also one of the most elusive virtues in our contemporary culture. Can you be trusted to do your best? Do you trust yourself, your family, your business, your company, your supervisor, your staff? Is trust something that we can count on from politicians, the media, educators, coaches? Years ago, Robert Shapiro, OJ Simpson’s lawyer, was asked on national TV: “What do you think was really the truth about that night?” He replied: “My job is not to deal with the truth.” That says it all. When you “are always on stage,” you imagine that the camera is always on you, the audience is always watching. The camera doesn’t lie. You cannot hide from the truth.

MATT: Who have been the most influential people in your life and why?

BOB: I thoroughly enjoy reading about and even knowing people who have had to fight through adversity and challenges, be it a historical event, a personal obstacle or a competitive athletic experience to be a leader.

Can you imagine what it must have been like to lead the people of England, amidst the nightly horror of the blitzkrieg?

There was fear, uncertainty, death and destruction night after night, yet Prime Minister Winston Churchill gave the English people hope and courage as the Nazis were poised just across the Channel to invade the British Isles. Despite his many noted inadequacies, Winston Churchill led the English and the Allies through these “darkest hours.” What a model of leadership amidst human frailty.

The lessons of courage from Martin Luther King Jr.’s leadership throughout the civil rights movement are also rather extraordinary and another very compelling story.

In 2018, our Davidson team had the life changing experience of being escorted through Auschwitz by Eva Mozes Kor, one of the Mengele twins and a Holocaust survivor. Together with our team, Eva stood on the “selection platform” just inside the Auschwitz gates where families were torn apart and separated to go to either the gas chambers or become slave laborers. She told our players and coaches that she forgave the Nazis. She said this while standing in the precise spot where her parents and older sisters were ripped away from her and her twin sister, Miriam. Forgiveness! What a powerful impact this had upon all of us.

The world of sport is “Mickey Mouse” compared to these historical events, yet there are so many vital and significant lessons that have also been taught to me by players and coaches. The sports world shows us glamor and fame, but there’s a lot of pain deeply embedded in the hearts, minds and souls of so many of these champions. I have always tried to dig deeper than the wins, the awards and the championships and find the challenge conquered, the adversity overcome.

I’m so happy to witness Rick Barnes and his Tennessee team high in the national rankings and knocking on the door of the Hall of Fame despite the heartbreaking challenges he faced in his formative years while growing up in an incredibly adverse and difficult situation in Hickory, North Carolina.

And you, Matt, I’ve known you before you were even a teenager. To see the challenges that you have faced, fought through and experienced, and to witness up close, how you have responded,

rebounded and been resilient has been exceptionally inspiring for me.

There is an army of people, some I know, some I never knew, who have their fingerprints all over my life.

MATT: How do you feel watching your son, Matthew, as he leads the Davidson program you led for more than 30 years?

BOB: During my early years as Davidson’s coach, I wish I was the leader that our son Matt is already. He is far more advanced as a leader and a coach than I was. Davidson’s record reflects that as he’s already experienced more victories in a year and a half than I did through my first three years. Additionally, his teams are doing it in a vastly more difficult and competitive conference and significantly more challenging NCAA environment than I faced in the early 90s. Together with his very cohesive staff, he and they teach, encourage and inspire a terrific roster of guys who want to and work to be excellent. I feel his joy in victory and his heartbreak in defeat. I do so with a very special sense of pride knowing he’s fully embraced this challenge, and he’s doing it with honor, dignity and respect.

MATT: As you reflect on your tremendous career, what is the thing of which you are most proud?

BOB: Lefty Driesell, Terry Holland and a host of outstanding players created one of the greatest stories in college basketball history during the 1960s. Davidson College Basketball was a culture. It was like a torch that burned brightly. The lack of coaching continuity in the 1970s and 1980s was an interruption of this culture and almost led to the torch being extinguished. Now, after three decades of continuity, and with the commitment of so very many coaches and players, the torch is once again burning brightly. The trailblazing efforts of the players and coaches from the Davidson basketball’s glory years of the 1960s is now connected to the program today. What a joy that is for me to know that the guys who started it are still part of it, and the guys who’ve inherited it are trying to make every effort to keep that torch burning brightly.

MATT: Thanks so very much for your time. It’s always great to catch up with you, my friend.

A BOW OF GALLANTRY

by TYLER A. HAMPTON

Springtime in the South is off to the races! Whether you’ll be attending Keeneland’s Spring Meet races, going all out at The Derby or a local Derby party, or taking a trip to Wilmington for the North Carolina Azalea Festival’s annual Garden Party, there are countless opportunities to don your best ensemble. You may see some wild, ridiculous looking outfits at the races, but not to worry; I’m here to help you avoid that catastrophic offense!

For the ladies, it’s all about the hats. For the men, however, the jacket is king. Several factors will play into whether a particular coat is proper for the occasion: fabric composition, internal construction and tailoring, pattern, and color all play a role. My personal favorite fabric composition for the spring and summer months is a blend of cashmere, silk, and linen. The cashmere provides an exceptional softness, the silk ensures a proper drape while remaining lightweight, and the linen allows for incredible breathability. I know you’re probably thinking “cashmere, in the summer?!” Absolutely… when used as a spring-summer sportcoat fabric, it’s not the lofty cashmere you may be imagining. In terms of internal construction and tailoring, the more handwork a jacket has in it, the softer and lighter it will feel. Nothing feels as great as Neapolitan tailoring on the shoulders! Lastly, pattern and color are equally important. Don’t be afraid to go bold here for these occasions… but do so tastefully. This spring, the colors to wear will be aquamarines, teals, greens, and pinks. These are all great colors to wear, and plenty versatile for other occasions (Easter is a quickly approaching March 31st this year).

When it comes to styling these jackets, I tend to add details you won’t see on most others. Hacking pockets, which originated for ease of access while mounted on a horse, are a staple on any jacket I may wear to a horse race. They are angled instead of being cut straight across, and this gives a distinguished look seen generally only on custom coats. Fun linings, coordinating buttons,

and different lapel styles are also great customization options when considering your new go-to Spring jacket. When designing the inventory for my store, I add several of these features to many of our ready-to-wear jackets, so if custom isn’t an option but you’d still like to look the part, we have you covered… and don’t forget the accessories- the shoe, tie, and pocket square can really pull together a look if chosen properly, and absolutely destroy it if not.

Perhaps the most important part of your outfit is complementing that of your date. Truly matching is a bit much and lacks individuality; complementing is perfection. This should be achieved throughout the entire outfit, and not just the accessories. I have guys come into the store often looking for ties to match dresses their wives are wearing, but the ties won’t necessarily go with the suit or coat they’re wearing. It’s a noble and appreciated effort, but we want to make sure you look tasteful and knowledgeable in your efforts. If she’s wearing red, you should wear blue with red accents. Should she decide to wear pink, a green coat with pink accessories would be a great option, as would a lighter shade of blue.

Spring style is a great opportunity to break out of your comfort zone and add something you may not normally consider. The colors are versatile, fabrics are purposeful, and the best part is you’ll show that you know what you’re doing as opposed to looking like you’re rushing a fraternity in the boring old navy blazer and khakis. Stop by Hampton’s for our March 15th & 16th custom clothing event and we’ll be happy to help you assemble your ideal spring and race-ready wardrobe… you don’t want to look careless when cashing in the big ticket!

If you have any questions or a topic you’d like to see addressed, please feel free to contact me at Tyler@HamptonsMens.com

WHEN LIFE GETS OVERWHELMING: TAKE THE TIME TO REGROUP & REFOCUS

by MEGAN TAYLOR

Life can be hectic. It can get busy, and it can get stressful; all thanks to the many responsibilities, challenges and uncertainties we often face on a day to day basis. Add in the demands of work, balancing relationships and accomplishing individual goals and expectations, and life can quickly become overwhelming.

It happens to us all at various stages of our lives. We are often left with mixed emotions, confusion and exhaustion. We are pulled into multiple directions and struggle to keep up with our constant demands. One of the primary reasons life becomes overwhelming is the constant juggling act required to meet multiple demands. However, life doesn’t have to be overwhelming all the time. There are many things a person can do to take the time to regroup and refocus to prevent the overwhelming feeling life often gives us. Think of it as a form of self-care; one that you’ll thank yourself later for fulfilling.

It is important to understand that stress is an inevitable part of life. Whether it be from work, health concerns, relationships, finances, etc, stress will usually be in a person’s life in some form. When stress becomes overwhelming and hard to handle, it can lead to physical and mental health problems. First, take the time to recognize the source of your stress. Is it a full schedule? Is it multiple tasks you need to complete at once for work? Once you see where your stress is coming from, you’ll be better able to regroup and refocus, by keying in on and tackling one element of being overwhelmed at a time.

Here are some tips to help you do just that:

1. Prioritize and Delegate When Possible – Identify tasks and responsibilities that are most urgent and important. Prioritize them and delegate when possible. Recognize that it’s okay to ask for help, whether at work or in personal life. This can be hard to do, especially at first. However, by doing so, you will save yourself time and exhaustion.

2. Establish Boundaries – Learn to set boundaries to protect your time and energy. Say “no” when necessary and communicate your limits to others. It is completely okay to put those two letters together and say it to other people. Establishing clear boundaries helps prevent overcommitting and spreading yourself too thin.

3. Practice Mindfulness – Incorporate mindfulness techniques, such as meditation and deep breathing exercises, into your daily routine, hopefully during the morning. Mindfulness helps bring attention to the present moment, reducing anxiety about the

past or future. It can only take five minutes, but by practicing mindfulness, you are able to regroup and refocus on what is most important to you.

4. Take Breaks – Breaks are essential for maintaining productivity and mental well-being. Schedule short breaks during work or daily activities to refresh your mind. Physical activity, even a short walk, can have a profound impact on reducing stress.

5. Set Realistic Goals – One of life’s hardest lessons to learn is that one person can’t do everything. Break down large tasks into smaller, manageable goals. Setting realistic and achievable objectives allows for a sense of accomplishment and helps prevent feeling overwhelmed.

6. Create a Support System – Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends, family or colleagues. Sharing your feelings and seeking advice can provide valuable perspectives and emotional support. This support system can also help with delegating tasks.

7. Learn to Let it Go – Thanks to Elsa from the movie Frozen, the phrase “let it go” has become immensely popular and recognizable in recent years. Yet, this phrase has an impactful meaning. Accept that not everything can be controlled or perfected. Recognize that mistakes and setbacks are part of life, and learning to let go of unrealistic expectations can alleviate stress.

8. Focus on Self-Care – Prioritize self-care activities that bring joy and relaxation. Whether it’s reading, exercising or spending time with loved ones, taking care of yourself is crucial for maintaining resilience in the face of life’s challenges.

Life’s overwhelming moments are always going to be there in one way or another, but how we navigate and respond to them can make a significant difference in our overall well-being. By recognizing the signs of stress and taking the time to regroup and refocus, you can build resilience and a stronger approach to handling life’s challenging times. Remember, it’s okay not to have everything figured out; no one does. By embracing that knowledge and using the strategies above, you can navigate the overwhelming aspects of life with greater ease and resilience.

COLCANNON –AN IRISH STAPLE

by KATIE MAXEY, MS, RD

When people think of cooking an Irish staple on St. Patrick’s Day, they tend to think of corned beef and cabbage or soda bread. And, while these are familiar dishes, many have not heard of colcannon, which is a staple for people that live in Ireland. Are you wondering what colcannon is? It includes cabbage, but it’s a combination of shredded cabbage and mashed potatoes which is served alongside traditional Irish meats. If a cook does not have cabbage, other greens are substituted using what is on hand. Interestingly enough, this dish is actually associated with Halloween, but you’ll find this dish year-round as well, including St. Patrick’s Day celebrations.

Ingredients:

• 2 pounds potatoes, peeled and cubed (Yukon gold and Russet work well)

• ½ head cabbage, chopped

• 1 large onion, chopped

• ½ cup milk

• 2 T butter

• ¼ cup butter, melted

• Salt

• Pepper

Instructions:

1. Cook the peeled and cubed potatoes in a saucepan and cover with water. Bring to a boil, cook for 20 minutes until tender. After they are cooked,

drain the potatoes and mash them with milk. Season with salt and pepper. Set aside.

2. Melt 2 tablespoons of butter in a skillet, add cabbage and onions. Cook until softened. It may help to cover the cabbage and onions with a lid to cook faster, stirring occasionally.

3. Once the potatoes, onions and cabbage are done, fold the onions and cabbage into the potatoes and transfer to a serving bowl.

4. Top it all with melted butter by making a well in the center of the potato mixture, and pour in the butter.

5. Serve immediately.

PORK CHOP RECIPE

by TANNER JOHNSON

While I don’t often indulge in pork chops, I saw some beautiful bone-in/porterhouse chops at the store and decided to give them a go. Anytime you can choose between boneless and bone-in, I have to go with the bone-in for that extra flavor. The combo of the flavorful marinade and the tangy sauce really complements each other well, and it’s definitely something I’ll be making again!

Ingredients:

• 2 porterhouse/bone-in pork chops

• Cackalacky pepper powder seasoning

• 1/2 cup yellow mustard

• 3 T white vinegar

• Juice from 1 lemon

• 2 T minced garlic

• 1 tsp. cayenne pepper

• 1 tsp. chopped cilantro

Sauce (to top with after cooking) ingredients:

• ¾ cup yellow mustard

• ½ cup honey

• ½ cup apple cider vinegar

• ¼ cup brown sugar

• 2 T ketchup

• 2 tsp. Worcestershire

• 1 tsp. garlic powder

• ½ tsp. salt

• Few dashes of Texas Pete (or any kind) hot sauce

Instructions:

1. Season the pork chops generously with Cackalacky pepper powder or any kind of BBQ seasoning.

2. In a bowl, mix yellow mustard, white vinegar, lemon juice, minced garlic, cayenne pepper and chopped cilantro.

3. Coat the pork chops evenly with the marinade mixture, and let them rest in the fridge for a few hours, allowing the flavors to infuse.

Cooking Process:

1. Preheat your smoker or oven to 250°F.

2. Smoke the pork chops for approximately 35-40 minutes or until the internal temperature reaches 135°F.

3. While the chops are smoking, prepare the searing station by firing up a charcoal or regular grill or a hot cast iron pan until it reaches a temperature in the 650-700° range.

4. Once the chops are done cooking in the first part, transfer them to the hot grill for a quick sear, about 2 minutes per side, until they develop a beautiful crust and reach an internal temperature of 145-150°F.

5. Lastly, you’ll let them rest for 5-7 minutes while you prepare the sauce to put on top after you slice them up!

Sauce:

1. In a saucepan, combine yellow mustard, honey, apple cider vinegar, brown sugar, ketchup, Worcestershire sauce, garlic powder, salt and a dash (or 2-3) of hot sauce.

2. Simmer the sauce over low heat until it thickens slightly, stirring occasionally.

For more recipes and demos, follow Tanner on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook @919backyardbbq

HARNESSING EMOTIONAL POWER, ENTREPRENEURSHIP, CONFIDENCE, AND RELATIONSHIPS

As we enter the month of March, the world comes together to honor and celebrate Women’s History Month. This dedicated time allows us to reflect on the incredible achievements, contributions, and progress made by women throughout history. This year, let’s delve into the powerful themes of emotional strength, entrepreneurship, confidence, and the significance of relationships in shaping the narrative of women’s history.

Emotional Power:

Women have long been recognized for their emotional intelligence, resilience, and ability to navigate complex situations with empathy. Women’s History Month is an opportune time to celebrate the emotional power that has fueled countless advancements. It’s a testament to the strength and grace displayed by women in the face of adversity.

One notable aspect of emotional power is the capacity to create positive change. Throughout history, women have harnessed their emotions to drive social and cultural transformations. From suffragettes fighting for voting rights to activists advocating for gender equality, emotional intelligence has been a driving force behind these movements.

In contemporary society, emotional power is evident in women’s leadership roles across various fields. From politics to business, women are breaking barriers and leveraging their emotional intelligence to foster inclusive environments and sustainable progress.

Entrepreneurship:

Women’s entrepreneurship has been on the rise, marking a significant shift in economic landscapes globally. Women-owned businesses contribute not only to the economy but also bring diversity and innovation to industries. Women’s History Month is an ideal time to celebrate the entrepreneurial spirit that has empowered women to pursue their passions and make a lasting impact.

The stories of women entrepreneurs serve as inspiration for aspiring business leaders. From tech innovators to sustainable fashion pioneers, these women showcase the power of determination, creativity, and resilience. Their entrepreneurial journeys contribute to a more inclusive and dynamic business world.

By highlighting the achievements of women entrepreneurs, Women’s History Month encourages the support and recognition of female-led businesses. It reinforces the importance of equal opportunities and representation in entrepreneurial endeavors.

Confidence:

Confidence is a key element in the journey of empowerment for women. Women’s History Month provides an opportunity to celebrate the strides made in building confidence and self-esteem. The recognition of women’s accomplishments, both past and present, contributes to a positive shift in societal perceptions.

Throughout history, women have defied expectations and overcome barriers with unwavering confidence. From challenging societal norms to entering maledominated fields, confident women have paved the way for future generations. Women’s History Month serves as a reminder to nurture and celebrate confidence in all its forms.

Building confidence in women is a collective effort that involves challenging stereotypes, providing mentorship, and fostering a supportive environment. Recognizing and appreciating the confidence of women in various spheres of life contributes to a more equitable and inclusive society.

Relationships:

At the heart of women’s history lies the strength derived from relationships – connections that have fueled movements, sparked change, and forged paths toward equality. Women’s History Month acknowledges the importance of these relationships, whether they be familial, professional, or community based.

The interconnectedness of women is evident in their collaborative efforts to bring about positive change. From mentorship programs to grassroots movements, women have historically supported each other, creating a network of strength that transcends generations. Celebrating women’s relationships underscores the power of unity and solidarity.

As we commemorate Women’s History Month, let us not only honor the individual achievements but also recognize the collective power that has shaped the narrative of women’s history. Embracing emotional strength, entrepreneurship, confidence, and relationships propels us forward in the ongoing journey toward gender equality and empowerment.

In the words of influential women throughout history, “Empowered women empower women.” Let this mantra guide us as we celebrate and amplify the voices and stories of women during this Women’s History Month and beyond.

RYAN’S PLACE

CHOOSING KINDNESS EVERY DAY

by MARTIE EMORY

Juelerye | Artisan Gallery & Gifts owners Jacqueline and Nelson Bassett are known for inspiring their clientele with artful passion – creating a destination shoppers always return to and share enthusiastically with family and friends.

Each day, they deliver happiness by encouraging clients to fill their homes with meaningful treasures that bring them joy. That gift of daily happiness was also something Jacqueline’s son, Ryan, was well known for sharing. Friends, family and even strangers knew him as “Mr. Wonderful.” That was how he introduced himself – and it couldn’t have been more appropriate!

Jeffrey “Ryan” Lanford always envisioned doing big things, even after being diagnosed with the genetic syndrome 22q.11.2 at the age of 16. He believed anything was possible.

“Ryan wanted to make a difference, to get married, have a nice place to live and have children,” said Jacqueline. “I wanted that for him, too, but it was not meant to be. There was a different path for him and for me.”

Over his lifetime, Ryan was given multiple diagnoses (Autism, Asperger’s, PDD-NOS, Intellectually Disabled, Developmentally Disabled, Mental Retardation) and many, many labels. Between 2014 and 2016, Ryan really struggled with heart and kidney issues but seemed to always get through it. He lived a full, happy, challenging life for 37 years, but on April 10, 2016, his big heart gave out.

“Once you lose someone, you’re changed forever,” said Jacqueline. “There is never enough time on this earth for those we love most. Although Ryan is no longer with us physically, his life touched so many people.”

While Jacqueline shares it was unimaginable when she lost Ryan, it’s equally unimaginable what has taken place since that time – to honor his spirit. Two big things happened in 2021.

“At Juelerye, we offer a pottery line by Vermont artists ZPots (Eric Hendrick and Noelle VanHendrick). I fell in love with their handinscribed cups with words such as Happy, Laughter, Strength, Friendship, Hope, Kindness and more,” said Jacqueline. There are more than 20 different words that are available on their cups and other pottery pieces. “One of the best parts about having this business is the relationships we have developed with customers and artists all over the world.”

Over time, Jacqueline got to know Noelle and shared stories of Ryan. In early 2021, she received a call from Noelle with the news that ZPots “word” for 2021 was going to be “wonderful” – in honor of Ryan. The Cup of Wonderful is inspired by Ryan’s love of the world, his curiosity and, of course, his nickname! The cup’s color choices express his favorite color, purple, and his orange/red wild hair.

“To the world you may be one person, but to one person, you may be the world. This really speaks to the power of one and how the actions of one person can make a profound difference to someone else.”

“In the spirit of doing good things, I wanted to take this a step further and give back the proceeds of the ‘Cup of Wonderful’ to the international 22q11.2 Foundation’s mission of raising awareness,” said Jacqueline. “We do that with each cup that is purchased either online or in the store.”

She was also deeply touched when learning Luis Hernandez, one of Ryan’s AFL providers, would be opening Ryan’s Place, with a goal to help families and individuals secure services for their loved ones with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Ryan’s Place in Matthews, NC, held its ribbon cutting on May 21, 2021 which coincided with Ryan’s birthday.

“I spent years fighting for services for Ryan,” said Jacqueline. “What Ryan’s Place is providing for families and those with developmental disabilities is just incredible. The system is so flawed and, because of Ryan, Luis started his own business to help others. Ryan always wanted his own place, and now he has it. He would say to me, ‘Mom, do you think I’ll ever have my own place?’And, I would say, yes, I think you will. When I look back at pictures of Ryan and his life, knowing what a difference he has made is so amazing. I smile and cry at the same time. Ryan’s Place is more than I could have ever imagined, and they keep growing to provide more services to the community.

No doubt he is smiling down on all the great things happening.”

For Luis, sharing daily life with Ryan was like caring for a friend or little brother.

“Ryan came to live with me when the system had really failed him,” said Luis. “In our time together, I watched him grow, hold a job, navigate adult responsibilities, like relationships or transportation, and learn to set goals for himself. Ryan was a ladies’ man, and we often dressed the same and wore the same cologne! He was kind beyond measure and capable of forgiving and forgetting, treating everyone with that same kindness no matter what. This is something I struggled with before Ryan, and I am eternally grateful for the things he taught me in our time together.”

Luis thinks that’s what drives the message of Ryan’s Place: Choose kindness, be someone’s sunshine and carry ourselves with purpose. If we resolve to carry ourselves the way Ryan did, the world would be a brighter and better place.

In Ryan’s words, “Ain’t Life Grand?”

Jacqueline reminds us of the poignant quote: “To the world you may be one person, but to one person, you may be the world. This really speaks to the power of one and how the actions of one person can make a profound difference to someone else.”

To become involved with Ryan’s Place, visit the website at ryansplaceclt.com for upcoming events, or call 980.339.5676. To purchase a Cup of Wonderful, visit Juelerye Artisan Gallery & Gifts, 112 S. Main Street in Mooresville, NC, 704.728.0460 or purchase at juelerye.com. You can also learn more about the genetic disorder 22q11.2 deletion syndrome at 22q.org.

THE BENEFITS AND STRUGGLES OF BEING AN INTROVERT

by MEGAN TAYLOR

The word “introvert” can be defined as “a shy, reticent person.” It is also said that an introvert “feels more comfortable focusing on their inner thoughts and ideas, rather than what’s happening externally and enjoys spending time with a few people rather than a large crowd.” This type of personality is the opposite of an extrovert. An introvert, instead, prefers more quiet spaces to flashier stimuli, likes to get to know people on a deeper level, takes longer to process information and needs time to recharge after socializing.

Hi! It’s me. I’m an introvert and have been for the majority of my life. While I do enjoy being social and getting out of the house, I need moments to myself. I can be outgoing and energized, but I also realize when my social battery needs to be recharged. I enjoy spending time at home. Being an introvert has many benefits, such as these:

The Positives of Being an Introvert:

• We are observant. We watch and think before speaking. If an introvert is sitting quietly, they are taking the time to reflect and absorb the information and happenings going on around them. We value all forms of communication, including body language and facial expressions. By being observant, introverts often notice things others may not notice. Think of it as “taking the time to smell the roses.”

• We are good listeners. Part of being observant also means introverts listen before speaking, and we listen for meaning. According to Dr. Laurie Helgoe, author of Introverted Power: Why Your Hidden Life is Your Hidden Strength, “extroverted people are more inclined to jump into a conversation before fully processing what the other person has said.” As for introverts, we process information and conversations internally, thus giving thought to how we should respond before doing so.

• We can be compassionate leaders. As leaders, introverts dig deep and use their natural strengths. Not always wanting to be in the spotlight, introverted leaders credit the group for their successes and share the rewards amongst others. In addition, these leaders usually learn more about their team members and have intentional conversations. They

use the time to get to know their team members’ strengths, talents and skills. Then, in return, use those traits to the advantage of the group, highlighting everyone’s contributions.

While these are only three of the many positives to being an introverted person, there is also a downside to this personality style.

The Struggles of Being an Introvert:

• We can get overlooked and don’t stand out. Since introverts tend to blend in with the crowd, it can often be hard to stand out and be noticeable. We don’t speak out about our accomplishments or draw attention to ourselves. This can cause introverts to be overlooked and passed by for their successes.

• We can underestimate ourselves. Second-guessing is part of our nature. We overthink our abilities, skills and decisions. In return, we underestimate our worth and our capabilities. We may have powerful comments and observations to add to our conversation, but we second-guess ourselves thinking nobody wants to hear them or will think our comments are unnecessary. In addition, introverts will fool themselves into thinking they “can't or “aren’t” able to do something when, in reality, they are perfectly able to succeed.

• It can be hard to get to know us. Introverts are very private and only give details when necessary and to those who we can trust. We often feel left out of conversations and events because people don’t know we are interested or have something in common. While introverts can speak up and share about themselves, more vocal people tend to get the attention.

It is a balance between handling the positives and navigating the struggles of being an introvert. Sometimes I wished to be more extroverted, but then, I realized being an introvert is a combination of the two personalities. I can be outgoing while still needing time to myself. It is a personality I wouldn’t change.

CHILDREN’S HOPE ALLIANCE INSPIRATION FOR HEALTHY HEALING

by MARTIE EMORY

Lighting the pathway to healing and a brighter future, Children’s Hope Alliance is committed to helping children and families of all shapes, sizes and blends.

As a 501(c)(3) non-profit, Children’s Hope Alliance has a history of advocating for the welfare of children that dates back more than 130 years, helping children in 62 counties across North Carolina. The CHA is also strongly committed to improving services in order to alleviate the severity of the local mental health crisis. Those services include Foster Care and Adoption Services (including support and training), Child ACTT (a technology-based service with the mission of healing hurting children in their own homes), Out-patient Therapeutic Services (developing the mindset to overcome challenges and strive for better emotional health) and other community-based services (including skill-based interventions within the family environment to facilitate more healthy behaviors).

Psychologist Dr. Laura Skinner, based in Cornelius and a member of the Board of Directors, says it’s

clear the comprehensive programs developed by Children’s Hope Alliance are making tremendous differences in children, families and communities.

“I’m amazed, honored and so inspired to have been able to witness and participate in the contributions that CHA has made to the community,” said Dr. Skinner. “I have seen unbelievable growth, adaptation and quality services as Children’s Hope Alliance has responded to the mental health needs of children and families in NC. I absolutely love that I have been able to work with children, adolescents and families up close as they maneuver the complex, difficult, delightful and dynamic nature of being human.”

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She has seen the change in mental health needs through her 25 years of service, and the evolution of the agency in response. Research, real-time legislative and policy changes, and specific community needs have helped guide the process. Dr. Skinner and other CHA board members are always aware of their mission: “Providing Hope, Health and Healing for Generations.”

When it comes to mental health, it’s important that parents assess their child’s or teen’s maturity level and capacity of emotional stimulation when determining how to approach sensitive news topics. Parents should talk with their children and encourage open discussion. Dr. Skinner also notes there are several “big issues” facing teens today, most of which are difficult to navigate on their own.

“Many adolescents and children experience loneliness, disconnection from others and struggles with identity development,” Dr. Skinner explains. “Feelings of hopelessness and powerlessness are prevalent and exacerbate the mood and anxiety reactions that may be present. As a result, we are seeing an increase in anxiety, depression and suicidal behavior, as well as addictive behaviors including drugs, alcohol and ‘screen’ addiction.”

CHA provides a variety of services that address these larger issues, including outpatient behavioral health services, early intervention and prevention services. Comprehensive clinical assessment, individual and family therapy are available in CHA’s clinics and schools through Outpatient Therapeutic Services. One of CHA’s early intervention and prevention programs – Heartstrings Therapeutic Music and Arts – allows children and adolescents access to more wholistic and “fun” activities that are profound therapeutic tools. If a history of trauma is already known or suspected, the agency has clinicians trained in completing TraumaInformed Comprehensive Clinical Assessments, as well as Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

Throughout the spring season, CHA experts will share what they know about brain science and how a child’s view of the world around them can impact brain development and well-being. “Planting” positive thoughts and experiences in a child’s life through therapy builds resilience to overcome future life struggles. The goal is for communities to better understand the challenges youth face today – whether it’s too much screen time or peer pressure about self-image.

Depending on the child’s need, therapeutic services can cost approximately $75 per hour on average – and donations can change lives. Children’s Hope Alliance has a goal to raise funds for at least 10,000 hours of therapy –to make a real difference in the community. Stay tuned for more information about plans for March, April and May, and how you can participate. Children’s Hope Alliance is located at 194 Barium Springs Drive in Statesville, 800.320.4157. To learn more about their services, please visit childrenshopealliance.org, and follow them on Facebook and Instagram @childrenshopealliance.

THE 7 TYPES OF REST WE ALL NEED

by MEGAN TAYLOR

It is no secret - we all need rest. Whether it is through relaxing, sleeping in, or practicing self-care, rest is beneficial to a person’s health. But, did you know there are different types of rest? Seven types to be exact.

In her TED Talk, Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, a board-certified internal medicine physician in Alabama, explains that a person needs to be rested physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, sensorily, socially, and creatively. Dr. Dalton-Smith discovered these various types of rest after researching the reasons why her patients (and herself) were still tired after getting a good night’s sleep. She explains her findings in her book, Sacred Rest, published in 2017 and encourages creating a “rest revolution,” by focusing on all types of rest, rather than just sleep, and moving away from a burnout culture. To some people, this can be overwhelming, thinking about their normal schedule and the fact that they have to now get in multiple types of rest. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be overwhelming and it is easier than you think.

According to Dr. Dalton-Smith, the various versions of rest are all linked together and if you are needing one type, you are probably needing more than just that one. When considering what types of rest you may need, the first step is to always look at the descriptions and the ways to include them in your life.

1. Physical Rest - This category includes, of course, sleep (which is considered to be passive physical rest) and active physical rest activities. During physical rest, a person is completing slow, easy, and peaceful exercises to help their body heal and lower their stress levels. Yoga, massages, stretching, and pilates are great examples of how to obtain physical rest. Walking is another option. It is suggested for a person to add some type of physical rest into their schedule at least every other day. This will help prevent swelling and body aches, which are key signs you are in need of this particular type of rest.

2. Mental Rest - Do you have trouble concentrating or absorbing new

information? Do you need coffee to get you through the day, because you are having difficulty sleeping at night? Mental rest is what you need to block out the stimuli coming into your brain. Scheduling breaks and time away from the stimuli throughout the day will be beneficial and give your mind a chance to reset. For example, moving away from your work and taking a short walk outside or just sitting outside in the sun. Journaling, making lists, and writing down your thoughts throughout the day is another opportunity to receive mental rest.

3. Spiritual Rest - According to Dr. DaltonSmith in the article “What are the 7 Types of Rest? (Plus, The Best One for You),” she states that “someone lacking spiritual rest might have trouble feeling like what they do everyday matters”. This could come from a person searching for purpose, belonging, and community. To recharge spiritually, it is suggested that you find a strong community to guide you in finding understanding and relating to your own beliefs. Meditation, daily prayer, keeping a gratitude journal, and volunteering are also great practices.

4. Sensory Rest - I can relate to this type of rest. There are times when I have all my senses working with hearing information, trying to type, while reading on the computer. Sensory overload happens to the majority of us. Lights, noises, and more can cause us to be overwhelmed and can affect our feelings and personalities. To take a break, simply close your eyes for a minute, unplug your electronics, and remove yourself from the noises and lights for a moment. The key is to find a quiet spot to relax and step away from the world. One thing that helps me is driving home from work in silence. By doing so, I am able to regain my thoughts and be at peace for a moment.

5. Emotional Rest - We all do it - we all tell others we are “okay” when in actuality we are not. We say “yes” to things when we really (and need) to say “no.” If this happens to you, you are in the market for some emotional rest. Getting fulfilled on your emotional rest can be tricky, because you are opening up yourself and possibly

feeling vulnerable. Start by being honest and talking to someone you are comfortable with about what you are feeling and advocate for yourself. For this type of rest to be successful, you are encouraged to be authentic and cut back on pleasing people. In addition, fill your life with positive and supportive people, who you trust. Lastly, therapy is another wonderful option. The goal with emotional rest is to be able to let down your guard and truthfully answer the question “How are you?” depending on what you are really feeling.

6. Creative Rest - When you hear the word “creative,” you may associate it mostly with the arts and being artistic. However, for our version of rest, creativity is related to problem solving, critical thinking, and thinking outside of the ordinary, and we can oftentimes find ourselves stumped in creativity. There are two ways to recharge in creative rest. First, appreciate beauty and nature. Get outside and watch the colors of the sunset. Take in all of the colors around you and absorb the beauty of your surroundings. Second, enjoy the arts, whether it be music, dancing, painting, etc. Turn your workspace into something inspirational for you to be productive. Or take a moment and let your mind draw or write wherever it goes on paper. Lastly, grab challenges head on and don’t be afraid to make mistakes. When you find inspiration and motivation in your surroundings, you will regain your creativity.

7. Social Rest - I am an introvert. I enjoy my time at home and by myself. This is a perfect example of social rest, that even extroverts can use every now and then. Prioritize your time with people you want to be around and ones that fulfill you. Also, don’t overcommit yourself and don’t be afraid to schedule some “me” time into the calendar.

As you can see, these different types of rest blend together. While getting creative rest, you can also be getting physical rest with a walk through the park to notice its beauty. A simple five minutes a day, focusing on the rest you need the most, can help lead you to a healthier, calmer, and less stressful life.

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I’m a 62-year-old woman who, after three years of being divorced, decided to get back into the dating pool, as deep and scary as it looked. My ex-husband was jealous, controlling, verbally abusive and unaffectionate. For years, I felt lonely and miserable and planned on leaving as soon as our two children were grown, finished college and were out on their own. However, as the years moved on, and the kids moved on, the fear of being alone and starting over terrified me. I chose to stay, thinking maybe I could fix him and the relationship. I wasn’t prepared for what was to come and, even knowing for years this is what I wanted and the best thing for me, I was devastated. After 32 years of marriage, my husband asked me for a divorce. Fortunately, finances weren’t an issue, however, the roller coaster of emotions took its toll on me. It took me a while to rally and gain the courage to explore the dating world. I signed up with a couple of dating apps and connected with a gentleman who was charming, attentive and knew exactly the right things to say. My defenses started to evaporate and, soon, he told me he loved me, wanted to move in together and was planning our future – his version, not mine.

Here’s my dilemma. I’m still in a relationship with this man, the first person I’ve dated and been with since my divorce. We’ve been together for a couple of months, and the red flags are starting to show. He doesn’t like doing anything with my friends, criticizes the way I do things, what I wear, my make-up and how I spend my money. When I get upset, he’ll apologize and promise to be better, bring me flowers and temporarily be loving and kind. It feels good to have someone in my life, however, I’m fearful of repeating the past. Do I give it more time to see if he lives up to his promise to be better, or should I move on?

ASK DR. KEITH

by KEITH O’NEILL, PH.D.,C.HT.

Hey Terri,

This is not a gender specific issue. The good news is I’ve had many clients throughout the years experience similar situations, learn, grow and create a wonderful life for themselves after moving on. Negative events, experiences and people in our lives are our opportunity to learn and grow, if we choose to. I believe one of the greatest things we possess is our free will, our freedom to choose. Stay or go, only you know what you’re willing to put up with in a relationship. However, red flags, like a stop sign, are there to signal danger. We may change them in our minds to blue, yellow or some other color to mitigate any fears we may have of being alone, starting over or to justify staying in a negative situation or toxic environment. If you choose to keep the flags red, you’ll gain clarity and eliminate confusion. Actions do speak louder than words; pay attention to his actions and don’t buy into false promises. “Don’t tell me, show me” is a good mantra. You mentioned this is the first person you’ve dated since your marriage, the rebound guy. A rebound is great in the game of basketball, but in the game of dating, not so much. For the first six months of a relationship, most of us are on our best behavior, a false representation of who we really are. The person we start dating is presenting their best side, as well. In about six months, you’ll get to know the real person, their positive and negative traits. The question is, are you able to live with his negative behaviors? Are they deal breakers? The person you’re with hasn’t even made it to the sixth month, and the red flags are already popping up, and they’re not little, they’re huge. When we go to the grocery store and want to buy apples, we’ll look at the different varieties. We’ll pick up a specific piece of the fruit, touch it, feel it, make sure it looks good and purchase it not knowing it’s shelf life, or how it’s going to taste until we get home. People can be like apples. They look good at first, however, the problems may arise when we take them home, incorporate them into our lives and find that they’re bruised or rotten to the core. One bad apple can spoil your whole life, so choose wisely. When I speak at events, I use demonstrations and visuals to clarify messages. One example is when I invite people to join me on stage and have them sit in a chair next to me with their hands resting in their lap. I start firmly tapping on the back of their hand and ask them,”does this feel good?” Their consistent answer is, “No.” My response is “What are you going to do about it?” Their response is to remove their hand because it doesn’t feel good. Relationships are work, however, they shouldn’t be hard work. Is this the kind of relationship you want for the rest of your life? Do you want to grow old with this person? If the answer to either one of these questions is “no,” be true to yourself and pay attention because the red flags are there. Maybe it’s time to remove your hand…

If you have questions for Dr. Keith, email them to keith@s-teamkids.com.

Terri R.

Charlotte NC

Keith O’Neill Ph.D., C.Ht is a Psychotherapist, Professional Speaker, Author, Clinical and Sports Hypnotherapist, Mental Performance/Self-Esteem Coach and survivor of a life threatening head injury. If you’re struggling emotionally, need a speaker or a mental performance coach, visit theself-esteemcoach.com for more information.

ONE MAN’S PERSPECTIVE – COSTA RICA

by CHARLIE SCHULER

Costa Rica, a beautiful tropical paradise in Central America bordered by the Caribbean on one side and the Pacific Ocean on the other with national parks and volcanoes between them.

Three couples decided this is where we were going on our vacation. One couple had connections with a nice motel, another with the airline and I said I would rent a van for our stay there. I didn’t realize that I would be doing all the driving. I also didn’t realize that the van would be a VW bus, but it all worked out.

We landed at San Jose and got our VW van, loaded it with our group and luggage and took a trip to see the town, buy some staples and try to find the motel we had rented. We didn’t know it was in the middle of the jungle. The motel was nice, but the location was unbelievable. We were in the jungle with exotic birds, wildlife and plants – some of which I had never seen before. And, it was warm; I like it warm, and the average temperature was in the high 70s to mid 80s – perfect for sightseeing.

About half of Costa Rica is rainforest so that was first on our to-do list, and rainforest means that you should always have a light rain jacket handy. You don’t walk through the rainforest; it is too thick. We took a cable chair built for two. It went into the forest at ground level and came out at treetop level. It was great, and we saw things we had never seen before.

Our next stop was the butterfly farm. We had been in some butterfly houses here in the states, but we were in Costa Rica. They had a huge building with the perfect environment and plants designed to attract butterflies. As we entered the two-door entrance, it didn’t take long for the butterflies to find us. They were everywhere and as curious about us as we were about them. It was wonderful. The varieties and colors were brilliant. We were impressed.

I mentioned volcanoes earlier. There are more than 20 named volcanoes in Costa Rica, and five are active. To be considered active they must have erupted in the last 10,000

years. Interesting, but let me say that there is nothing like seeing the glow of active volcanoes in the night while swimming in waters warmed by them. Breathtaking.

Next up is sailfishing in the Pacific Ocean. We had chartered a captain and his mate for a day. Good thing, too, because we didn’t get a nibble for the first few hours, and part of our crew was starting to get seasick. Just trolling along is tough on the stomach. We had the outriggers and two lines trolling over the stern. Wham, a fish hit the bait on one of the lines. A sailfish was jumping out of the water, and the reel was screaming as the sailfish tried to throw the hook while the rest of us were trying to get the other lines out of the water while the person on the reel was working the sailfish in. We got him after a tough fight. It was catch and release. When we had landed him, we took his picture with the person who landed him. Then we released him. This was exciting, and nobody thought any more about seasickness. We literally caught a total of nine sailfish. In the middle of all of this, the port (left) engine started to act up. The captain went down below to the engine compartment and yelled to shut the engine off. Then, a moment later, he asks, “Is there a captain on board?” I immediately volunteered and soon had two fish on the lines, each going in their own direction. The best news is everyone got their chance to fight the sailfish.

Our day of departure arrived, and we planned to drive to San Jose for one last fling at shopping. The city was crowded, and we had trouble finding a parking spot. We figured we would arrive at the airport early to make sure everything was okay. One small problem arose. We couldn’t find the van. We knew where we left it, and it wasn’t there. Somebody stole the van! What were we going to do now? We got our luggage and told the rental office our problem. They suggested we board the plane and leave the contract open. Scary stuff. No van to return, open contract and foreign country, and no other alternative. A few weeks later, a bill and the contract arrived in the mail. The police had towed the van and returned it to the rental company. Thank you, Lord.

READ ANYTHING GOOD LATELY?

HERE’S WHAT IS ON MY READING WATCHLIST FOR THE YEAR

by MEGAN TAYLOR

Reading is a popular hobby for lots of people, myself included. As I sit writing this article, I have two books waiting to be read beside me. Also in the same room are two more half-finished books surrounded by a dozen other titles. This is in addition to an audiobook I’m currently listening to. If it isn’t obvious, I love to read multiple books at once, and I’m always on the hunt for my next one.

Each year, I set a goal for the number of books I would like to read. Sometimes I accomplish it; sometimes I don’t. To help find what I should read, I keep a running list of novels – a watchlist, if you will. My watchlist is compiled from suggestions from friends, the website Goodreads and social media. I have a paper and digital copy, filled with recent and older titles from all genres.

During the school year, I try to read as many books from this list as possible. However, it is during the summer where I make headway and work towards my goal. Nevertheless, my watchlist is always there for me. If you are looking for your next read, take a look at my list and see if anything appeals to you. Here are the titles on my reading watchlist for 2024.

The Silent Patient by Alex Michaelides

Published in 2019, The Silent Patient is tagged as “a shocking psychological thriller.” Famous painter Alicia Berenson is married to Gabriel, her fashion photographer husband. After arriving home late from work one night, Alicia shoots Gabriel five times in the face. Refusing to talk about her motive, Gabriel’s shooting becomes a public mystery. Alicia, the silent patient, is taken to a secure forensic unit in North London where she meets criminal psychotherapist Theo Faber. Together, they solve more than just the mystery at hand.

The Women by Kristin Hannah

Kristin Hannah is one of my favorite authors. Her book, The Nightingale, is at the top of my must-reads. The Women is her newest novel, published last month. It tells the story of army nurse Frances McGrath. Her view of America is changed when she is quickly shown the realities of war in 1960s Vietnam.

A Court of Thorns and Roses by Sarah J. Maas

Edging on the fantasy genre, A Court of Thorns and Roses is the first book in the series, titled the same. The series starts out with 19-year-old Feyre killing a wolf in the woods. After the death, she is met by a terrifying creature who wants retaliation. This comes with Feyre being taken to a magical land, full of twists and turns.

All the Dangerous Things by Stacy Willingham

It has been one year since Isabelle Drake’s toddler, Mason, was kidnapped from his crib in the middle of the night. Now, one year later, Mason is still missing and Isabelle hasn’t slept for a year. With little evidence and clues to go on, she agrees to be interviewed by a true crime podcaster. However, the interviewer’s interest in her past leaves her feeling unhinged. Isabelle begins doubting her memories of what happened the night of Mason’s disappearance and begins to trust no one, including herself.

Daisy Jones and The Six by Taylor Jenkins Reid

I’m currently reading Malibu Rising, another book by Taylor Jenkins Reid. While I’m not always a fan of her writing, there has been much discussion surrounding her novel, Daisy Jones and The Six, that is on my reading watchlist. Set in the late 1960s, Daisy Jones’ voice is noticed by the band, The Six. After years of struggling, Daisy and bandleader Billy Dunne find stardom and success. However, the two soon discover that the making of a legend isn’t always glorious.

These five books are just a few on my reading watchlist for the year. If you have any more suggestions, send them my way!

THE MUSIC STAGE

LOCAL MUSICIANS FINALISTS IN THE 2024 CAROLINA COUNTRY MUSIC AWARDS

by ROBIN SHUPE KELLER photography by LISA CRATES PHOTOGRAPHY

Local music legends, April Dawn and Walter Finley, known for their BYOBoat with floating stage concerts on the lake, lit the stage at the Carolina Country Music Awards on January 20th at the famous House of Blues in North Myrtle Beach, SC.

Lake Norman country music artists Walter Finley and April Dawn continue to shine on the music landscape, with their fourth consecutive nomination for the coveted “Duo of the Year” at the esteemed Carolina Country Music Awards. This exceptionally gifted duo has also garnered a nomination for the esteemed “Single of the Year”

category with their debut co-authored track, “Lean To,” injecting a fresh and dynamic dimension into their flourishing career.

Before these most recent nominations, their music stood out in the vibrant landscape of the country music industry, and they have garnered numerous accolades and honors. Notably, they clinched the prestigious “Duo of the Year” title at the Carolina Country Music Awards for both 2020 and 2021, solidifying their status as a powerhouse duo. Additionally, their remarkable “Country Tour of the Year” win in 2022 further solidified their status.

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The Carolina Country Music Association presented the annual Carolina Country Music Awards (CCMAs)

Saturday night, January 20, 2024. A standing room only crowd estimated at 2,500 filled the House of Blues in North Myrtle Beach to watch the annual show, which was hosted by the ever-charismatic Frank Johnson, Chief Meteorologist at News 13 (WBTW Television) and the enigmatic Sweet Tea, on-air personality at the Carolina Country Radio Network (93.9 WMIR in Myrtle Beach, 100.1 WFAY in Fayetteville and 106.3 WYAY in Wilmington). The evening was highlighted by special guests including platinum recording artist John Berry, who not only took the stage to perform his #1 hit song, “Your Love Amazes Me,” but also another very prominent BMI and Country Music Association artist by the name of Skip Ewing performed, as well. Skip is known for his hit song “The Gospel According to Luke.”

An exciting night of music was had by all that attended and featured dynamic live performances by 19 of the Carolinas’ most accomplished singer-songwriters. It was an emotional rollercoaster for all the nominees, fueled by their poignant lyrics, soul-stirring melodies and genuine country vibes. The spotlight shone on renowned artists such as the 2022 CCMA Entertainer of the Year and CCMA Male Artist of the Year, Greg Parrish, the multi-CCMA Award Winner, Paige King Johnson, the sensational Damien Horne, and the special guest Texas Singer-Songwriter, Donice Morace.

As April Dawn was leaving for the CCMAs the Friday prior to the big event on Saturday, she texted me that, though she was looking forward to the awards, she was already missing Mooresville. A local native to the Lake Norman area, April’s strong faith and love of music keep her grounded, though her popularity has soared.

April noted, “Sweet Tea actually found us during Covid on one of our Facebook live shows. She and

her husband, Jeff, would watch and request our original music.”

Seeing Walter and April on stage at this prestigious event brought home the significance of their nomination and its importance of representing the Lake Norman music scene. They were joined on stage by Mike Frost on bass guitar and Larry Cioffi of Denver, NC. The four held the audience spell-bound as Walter and April sang their hit single “Lean To.” While they were singing their hearts out to a packed house, Lisa Crates of Lisa Crates Photography captured the magical night on film for all of us to enjoy.

Back in Mooresville after the event, April talked about the performance. “The song we performed was our first co-write, and it’s about the American dream of having a home. That “AH-HA’’ moment in love when a couple realizes that they both want the same kind of home, the same kind of life and are actually doing what they love together to get it. We filmed the video for “Lean To” up in Pennsylvania last year with the crew of Polstar Pictures during the strike and are seriously considering using some of the performance footage to remix the video before releasing it later this year.”

April Dawn and Walter Finley continue to perform concerts on Lake Norman – BYOBoat! They have a floating stage, and their music echoes over the water! If you would like to meet April and Walter, they will be performing at a book signing that includes a story about their BYOBoat adventures on Saturday, March 2nd from 11am-1pm at Fred and June’s Books in Mooresville. You can also check them out on Facebook – facebook.com/AprilCofieldHolt89/, facebook. com/walterfinleymusic, Instagram – instagram.com/ walterfinleymusic or see more information about them at walterfinley.com.

ELIZABETH HOUSE FOUNDATION 2 ND ANNUAL HATS & DRESSES TEA FOR PINK PARTY

In the heart of our community lies a beacon of hope, born from the unwavering love and determination of one woman. Founded by Brandy Sims, the Elizabeth House Foundation stands as a tribute to her late mother, Ruth “Elizabeth” Sims, whose courageous battle with breast cancer ignited a passion for change.

Ruth’s journey was one of resilience and grace. Diagnosed with Stage 3 breast cancer in 2003, she faced her diagnosis with unwavering courage and fought valiantly for five years. Her tenacity, her spirit and her hope left an indelible mark on those who knew her. Her daughter, Brandy, found inspiration in her mother’s strength, vowing to carry on her legacy of advocacy and awareness.

Driven by her mother’s memory and fueled by the belief that early detection could have prolonged her mother’s life, Brandy embarked on a mission to spread the importance of early breast detection. Thus, the Elizabeth House Foundation was born, a beacon of light in the fight against breast cancer.

Central to our mission is the belief that every woman deserves access to life-saving mammograms. We believe that through early detection and intervention, we can change the course of this deadly disease. That’s why we’re thrilled to announce our upcoming event, the 2nd Annual Hats and Dresses Tea for Pink Party.

This elegant event celebrates life, love and the power of community. It’s a day where guests can indulge in delicious teas, showcase their unique style and come together in support of a vital cause. Through the generosity of our supporters, we aim to fund 240 mammograms this year, providing essential care to those who need it most.

As we prepare for this momentous event, we reflect on the journey that brought us here. We are grateful for the opportunity to honor Ruth’s memory and to continue her legacy of hope. Together, we can transform fear into empowerment, darkness into light and uncertainty into hope.

Join us on March 23rd, 2024 from 11:00 am - 2:00 pm at the Eastway Regional Recreation Center in Charlotte, NC, and be part of something truly extraordinary. Purchase your tickets now at eventbrite.com/e/ehf-2nd-annual-hats-and-dresses-tea-partyfor-pink-fundraiser-tickets-779753382357, and help us make a difference in the lives of women in our community.

RAVEN ROCK STATE PARK: A NATURAL HAVEN IN NORTH CAROLINA

by ROBIN SHUPE KELLER

This month’s journey, Raven Rock State Park, stands as a testament to the state’s commitment to preserving its natural beauty. Encompassing more than 4,800 acres along the Cape Fear River, this park offers a haven for outdoor enthusiasts, history buffs and nature lovers alike. With its rich history, diverse recreation opportunities and unique geological features, Raven Rock State Park has become a cherished destination for those seeking a respite from the hustle and bustle of modern life.

BRIEF HISTORY

Raven Rock State Park traces its roots back to the early 20th century when efforts were initiated to protect the region’s unique natural assets. Established in 1969, the park was named after the impressive Raven Rock, a 150-foot cliff that towers above the Cape Fear River. The area was once home to the indigenous Siouan and Tuscarora peoples, and evidence of their presence can still be found in the form of ancient artifacts scattered throughout the park.

Over the years, the park has witnessed the passage of time, evolving from a hidden gem known only to locals to a thriving state park with a mission to preserve the natural and cultural heritage of the region. Interpretive programs and exhibits within the park provide visitors with a glimpse into the past, connecting them with the rich history that defines Raven Rock.

RECREATION

Raven Rock State Park offers a diverse range of recreational activities for visitors of all ages. Hiking trails wind through the lush forests, providing stunning views of the Cape Fear River and the surrounding landscape. The Raven Rock Loop Trail, a moderate 2.6-mile hike, takes you to the park’s namesake cliff, offering breathtaking vistas of the river below.

The trails along the bluffs that lead to the namesake 150-foot crystalline structure that overlooks the Cape Fear River, are dotted with beautiful wildflowers, including mountain laurel. Alternate hikes towards the river reward visitors with landmarks like Lanier Rapids, Fish Traps Rapids and the remains of the Northington Lock and Dam. Other accesses offer bridle trails, bike trails and a campground with RV camping and camper cabins. Whether you prefer traditional tent camping or the comfort of a cabin, spending a night under the stars allows you to fully appreciate the tranquility and natural beauty that Raven Rock has to offer.

Anglers can cast their lines into the Cape Fear River in pursuit of catfish, bass and sunfish. The park’s waters are teeming with life, making it a favorite spot for both novice and experienced fishermen.

UNIQUE FEATURES

What sets Raven Rock State Park apart are its distinctive geological features. The park’s namesake, Raven Rock, is a massive crystalline structure that has withstood the test of time. The rock, along with the ancient hardwood forests and diverse ecosystems, provides a glimpse into the geological history of the region.

One of the park’s highlights is Lanier Falls, where the Cape Fear River cascades over a series of rock ledges. The soothing sound of rushing water creates a serene atmosphere, making it an ideal spot for contemplation and appreciation of nature in its raw beauty.

AT THE END OF THE DAY

As the sun sets over Raven Rock State Park, the landscape takes on a magical quality. Campfires flicker, and the nocturnal sounds of the forest come alive. Whether you spend the day hiking the trails, fishing along the riverbanks or simply enjoying the peace and quiet, the park offers a sense of fulfillment and connection to nature that is often elusive in our fast-paced lives.

As night falls, the sky becomes a canvas for stargazing. Away from the city lights, Raven Rock State Park provides a clear view of the stars, offering a celestial spectacle that adds a touch of wonder to the overall experience.

Raven Rock State Park stands as a testament to the importance of preserving natural landscapes for future generations. From its intriguing history and diverse recreation opportunities to the unique geological features that define its character, this North Carolina gem invites all of us to immerse ourselves in the beauty of the outdoors. Whether seeking adventure, relaxation or a bit of both, Raven Rock State Park offers a haven where the wonders of nature unfold at every turn.

The main access and visitor center for Raven Rock State Park is 3009 Raven Rock Road, Lillington, NC 27546 and the Moccasin Branch Access is located at 814 Moccasin Branch Road, Lillington, NC 27546. Park, visitor center and office hours vary by month. For more information, visit the website at ncparks. gov/state-parks/raven-rock-state-park or call 910.893.4888.

George McAllister,

Owner, Bees of Lake Norman

Local honey made from the abundant variety of flowering plants growing around Lake Norman.

“The taste of local honey is something you will never forget. It stays with you like a fond memory.”

ARE YOU A GOOD TEAM PLAYER?

by LESLIE SPEAS

We are involved in teams at work, in the community, in our churches and in many different facets of our lives. Having a great team is critical to success in any of these forums. Some of the characteristics of the best teams include the following:

• They are made up of team players working towards a common goal.

• They have a good leader.

• Team members trust one another and feel safe as part of the team.

• Team members are willing to engage in healthy conflict.

• Roles and responsibilities are clear.

• Team members show they appreciate one another.

Let’s delve into what it means to be a good team player. Team players pitch in to help others on the team. They are focused on helping the team achieve its goals instead of just achieving their own. In the book, The Ideal Team Player by Patrick Lencioni, the ideal team player is humble, hungry and smart. To further support this notion, Dwayne Johnson says, “Be humble, be hungry and always be the hardest worker in the room.” Never really thought I'd be quoting the Rock – but he certainly has been successful.

TRAITS OF THE IDEAL TEAM PLAYER

HUMBLE

Humility is sometimes associated with weakness or meekness, but that isn’t the case at all! C.S. Lewis says, “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less.” Patrick Lencioni says this is the most important of the three traits of an ideal team player. It involves a lack of excessive ego or concerns about status. Humble people put others before themselves.

Below are some behaviors that demonstrate a humble mindset:

• Minimizing status differences.

• Being slow to see attention for yourself and quick to point out the contributions of others.

• Putting others before yourself.

• Being willing to be vulnerable.

• Listening to others and seeking their input.

HUNGRY

People who are hungry are always looking for more to do, to learn and new things to take on. They don’t have to be pushed by a manager to work harder because they are self-motivated and diligent. They are dependable and reliable as it relates to showing up at work and doing what they say they will do. Being hungry essentially means that they display a good work ethic.

SMART

This definition is a little different than you might think. Lencioni defines it as having common sense about people. You may have heard the term “emotional intelligence” which I prefer to call “people smarts.” People who are smart ask good questions, listen well and engage effectively with others. Patrick says this one is the most coachable of the three traits – and, if the person is humble, they will be coachable.

ARE YOU A GOOD TEAM PLAYER?

How would others rate you on a scale of 1 (lowest) to 5 (highest) in these categories? If you have opportunities, it's a perfect time to start working on them.

CALENDAR OF EVENTS

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THURSDAYS

WELCOME HOME VETERAN LIVING MILITARY MUSEUM @ RICHARD’S COFFEE SHOP-FREE COFFEE FOR VETS

9am-1pm

165 N. Main Street Mooresville, NC 28115

Every Thursday morning veterans get together and enjoy each other’s company and a free coffee.

SATURDAYS

WELCOME HOME VETERAN LIVING MILITARY MUSEUM @ RICHARD’S COFFEE SHOP-MUSIC JAM

9am-12pm

165 N. Main Street Mooresville, NC 28115

On Saturdays we have a Music Jam session, where anyone is welcome to come in and either play or have a cup of coffee, or just enjoy the music!

NOW THROUGH JUNE 7 2023/2024 AFTERSCHOOL AT EVEREST GYMNASTICS

3-6pm

Everest Gymnastics Training Center

Everest Gymnastics is proud to offer your child a healthy, happy and safe environment to meet their afterschool needs. We offer a 1, 2, 3, 4 or 5-day program, along with an afternoon snack, juice/water each day, homework/reading time and supervised gym time. Relax as you pick up your child knowing that homework is complete and playtime enjoyed. You and your family can enjoy a stress-free evening! Programs are offered at both of our locations in Cornelius and Huntersville.

MARCH 1-2 BE MORE CHILL

7:30-9:30pm (1st); 2-4pm (2nd)

Cain Center for the Arts, 21348 Catawba Avenue in Cornelius

Musical Theater Cain Center for the Arts presents a brand-new initiative that puts the area’s most skilled theatre students together with a challenging piece of musical theater for an exciting process resulting in a unique staged concert. Based on the 2004 novel by Ned Vizzini, the musical follows Jeremy Heere, an average teenager until he finds out about “The Squip,” a tiny supercomputer that promises to bring him everything he desires most: a date with Christine, an invite to the raddest party of the year and a chance to survive life in his suburban New Jersey high school.

MARCH 1-31

INFRARED SAUNA, TARGETED CRYOTHERAPY, COMPRESSION THERAPY, WEIGHT LOSS

816 Brawley School Road in Mooresville

TLU Athletic Recovery & Wellness now offering weight loss program which combines current services w/ customized exercise program, recipe guide & consultation. Call 704.315.5397 for details!

MARCH 5

DAVIDSON HORTICULTURAL SYMPOSIUM

Davidson College Campus

The Davidson Garden Club has put on this all-day event for 38 years. We welcome gardeners and professionals in the fields of garden design, landscape architecture and horticulture to enjoy nationally known speakers on topics of relevance to us all. Join us for this inspiring all-day event in Davidson. Learn more at davidsonsymposium.org.

MARCH 7

POTTERY CLASS – LIDDED JARS

6:30pm

Albertine Florals, Wine & Gifts, 751 N NC 16 in Denver

Visit albertineflorals.com for more information, or call 704.489.6202.

MARCH 8

2024 BEACH BASH: YACHT ROCK STYLE

5:30-9:30pm

Lost Worlds Brewing

Join the Big Day at the Lake crew of Cornelius, NC at Lost Worlds Brewing for the 2024 Beach Bash in support of one-to-one mentoring with Big Brothers Big Sisters of Central Carolinas. This year, join the 2024 Beach Bash: Yacht Rock Style to enjoy a night of food, live entertainment, a live auction and more! For more information, please visit the website at BeachBash2024.eventbrite.com.

CALENDAR OF EVENTS

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MARCH 8

JOE GRANSDEN: “THE GOOD LIFE: THE ARTISTRY OF TONY BENNETT”

8pm

Cain Center for the Arts, 21348 Catawba Avenue in Cornelius

Join Jazz Vocalist/Trumpeter Joe Gransden and his quartet as they take you on a swingin’ stroll through the life and career of Tony Bennett! Tickets: $35-55/person.

MARCH 8-9

DIAMOND SHOW AT DANA’S FINE JEWELRY

Dana’s Fine Jewelry, 108 North Main Avenue in Newton

Sparkle into March with our Diamond Show on Friday and Saturday! Find your perfect diamond setting or explore unique custom designs – all under one roof. Don’t miss this exclusive event – two days only! Come in for diamond upgrades – Dana’s Fine Jewelry will be purchasing diamonds as well as offering custom options. Join us and let the sparkle begin!

MARCH 9

THE HIGH VIBE SUMMIT

8:15am

Goodwill Opportunity Campus in Charlotte

Don’t miss out on an incredible opportunity to boost your career or business and personal growth! Join us for a transformative learning experience centered around the core pillars of High Vibe – love, leadership and literacy. Learn more at HighVibeSummit.co.

MARCH 9

ROBIN SPIELBERG

8pm

Cain Center for the Arts, 21348 Catawba Avenue in Cornelius

Now in her fourth decade of creating music and touring, Spielberg has had a long and storied career as a pianist, composer, recording artist, entrepreneur, speaker, writer, music therapy advocate and educator. Tickets: $25-45/person.

MARCH 14

SPRING WINE TASTING

6:30-8:30pm

Albertine Florals, Wine & Gifts, 751 N NC 16 in Denver

Visit albertineflorals.com for more information, or call 704.489.6202.

MARCH 15

SOCKS IN THE FRYING PAN

8pm

Cain Center for the Arts, 21348 Catawba Avenue in Cornelius

Socks in the Frying Pan is a multi-award-winning trio from County Clare on the West coast of Ireland, the universal hub of Irish traditional music. Their dynamic vocal harmonies, virtuosic musical ability and their onstage wit has captivated audiences the world around. Tickets: $25-45/person.

MARCH 21

CANDLE MAKING CLASS

6pm

Albertine Florals, Wine & Gifts, 751 N NC 16 in Denver

Visit albertineflorals.com for more information, or call 704.489.6202.

MARCH 22

BOURBON & BOOTS, A GIVING SPIRIT FOUNDATION’S PREMIER FUNDRAISING EVENT

6:30-11pm

Magnolia Woods

Bourbon & Boots, the much-anticipated annual fundraising event hosted by A Giving Spirit Foundation (AGSF), is back and promises an unforgettable evening of philanthropy and entertainment with a southern flair. The event, known for its live music, dancing under the lights and signature cowboy boots, will take place at Magnolia Woods in Huntersville. Tickets, tables and tasting experiences are available for purchase now at agivingspiritfoundation.org.

MARCH 23

MOORESVILLE DAY

12-4pm

Downtown Mooresville

This annual hometown festival showcases local art, food and entertainment. Take a journey through the open-air artisan market featuring a kaleidoscope of art and unique handmade items. Enjoy an array of the best cuisine from local food trucks and downtown eateries. Experience entertainment that features live performances, music and activities that promise to keep the atmosphere lively and engaging.

CALENDAR OF EVENTS

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MARCH 23 SUSAN WERNER

8pm

Cain Center for the Arts, 21348 Catawba Avenue in Cornelius

Over the course of her colorful career, singer songwriter Susan Werner has cultivated a reputation as a daring and innovative songwriter with a killer live show. Tickets: $30-40/person.

MARCH 27

FLOWER DESIGN CLASS

7pm

The Garden Room, 162 North Main Street in Mooresville

Springy, fun arrangement flower design that will be perfect for an Easter centerpiece! All materials are provided and no experience is necessary! The cost of the class is $75 per person. Light refreshments are served. To sign up, email Erin at erin@thegardenroomlkn.com.

MARCH 28

WATERCOLOR CLASS

6pm

Albertine Florals, Wine & Gifts, 751 N NC 16 in Denver

Visit albertineflorals.com for more information, or call 704.489.6202.

MARCH 29-30

DINOSAUR WORLD LIVE

7pm (29th); 2:30pm (30th)

Cain Center for the Arts, 21348 Catawba Avenue in Cornelius

Discover a pre-historic world of astonishing (and remarkably life-like) dinosaurs. Meet a host of impressive creatures. A special meet and greet after the show offers all our brave explorers the chance to make a new dinosaur friend. Don’t miss this entertaining and mind-expanding Jurassic adventure, live on stage! Cost: $20/child; $25-$45/adult.

APRIL 11

JOANNE SHAW TAYLOR

8-10pm

Cain Center for the Arts, 21348 Catawba Avenue in Cornelius

Join Joanne Shaw Taylor and her stellar band performing songs from her critically acclaimed studio album, “Nobody’s Fool,” as well as songs from the upcoming new album. Her guitar prowess, vocal abilities and songwriting talents reach new heights as she presents a bold slate of material at the peak of her career

APRIL 13

ALWAYS LORETTA

7-9pm

215 North Main Street in Mooresville

Mooresville Parks & Recreation is excited to bring “Always Loretta” The Ultimate Loretta Lynn Tribute Show to the Joe V. Knox Auditorium at the Charles Mack Citizen Center. For more information or tickets, visit ourtownstage.com.

APRIL 27

LKN MAGAZINE BOUTIQUE CRAWL

This is a one-day, self-guided crawl to boutiques around the Lake Norman area! There will be 14 participating stores ready to roll out the red carpet for you and your crew! Your general admission ticket is your all-access pass to exclusive discounts, specials and refreshments at all participating boutiques! There will also be gift card giveaways, door prizes at every stop and a grand prize giveaway! But wait, there’s more! Start the day at our pre-game party, details coming SOON! tinyurl.com/LKNMagBoutiqueCrawl24

APRIL 27

SAFE HARBOR PENINSULA YACHT CLUB CAR & BOAT SHOW

8am-12pm

18501 Harbor Light Boulevard

Join us for an unforgettable day of maritime marvels and automotive wonders at the Safe Harbor Peninsula Yacht Club Car and Boat Show! Whether you’re a fan of classic cars or sleek boats, this event promises a visual feast for all enthusiasts.

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LAKE SPIDERS

by ROCKY THOMPSON

If you live by the lake and you have a dock, spiders are part of your daily life. Covered docks must be their perfect habitat, at least if the volume of webs that can build overnight are any indication of suitability. If you don’t go out on your dock with a cobweb sweeper every day, you don’t want to be the first person to walk out onto the dock. Ideally, the first person to go onto the dock each day would be someone a bit taller than you, so he or she can walk through and clear your path.

The biggest spider we’ve seen at the lake wasn’t on our dock but hiding under the cover of our well. Our home builder was showing me some stuff about our place and, when he popped the well cover off, a silver-dollar-sized spider ran out, and we both jumped back a few feet. Snakes, spiders and those massive creepy-crawly, hard-bodied millipede things that get in the house are things I never want to see. It’s like when a fly buzzes past my face and I think, “You have existed in my presence, and for that, I shall destroy you.”

So, when we had the chance to move to Australia, everyone I talked to started telling me about the country’s legendary spiders. “They’re the size of squirrels,” I heard. A quick online search revealed that they were not lying. You don’t have to look hard to find photos and videos of dinner-plate-sized spiders crawling around inside people’s homes.

The first month or so in Australia, I think my wife and I scanned every room we entered, looking for a hidden pancake-sized spider. We started to relax about it a bit as time went on, and we didn’t encounter any. Talking to the locals helped. In fact, they started to get a bit exasperated by our

obsession with huge spiders. “Sure, they’re a bit ugly,” locals would say, “but they can’t hurt you... and they kill mosquitoes and cockroaches.”

When I did find a baby-sized version of one of the big spider species in our house, I killed it pretty quick and felt like maybe we’d get through all of our time in Australia without ever having to deal with them. Wrong.

A week or so later, we came home from dinner, and I asked our son to hop up on the gate outside of our house to unlock it. Just as he was reaching over to open the door, I said, “Is that one of those huge spiders?” The thing had materialized out of nowhere. It stood on the gate in a spotlight, and I’d guess it was close to a foot across. The kid screamed like the spider was going to drag him off, and we all backed slowly away while making our way to a different entrance.

The next day we told our neighbor about the massive spider. I thought most Aussies would have the same attitude of “just leave it alone” when it comes to spiders, but that’s when I learned that there’s another whole segment of the population that has more of a “send them back to hell” attitude about spiders.

We’ve had a couple more run-ins with spiders. On one of the kid’s birthdays, we spotted a goodsized spider on the window outside. I went out and sprayed it, and it ran under the door and into our house trying to get away from me. We’ve seen plenty of little ones out on the porch or in the garage, but thankfully so far, no poisonous ones. And, now that we’ve seen the huge ones, that’s where I’ve set my new bar: hopefully no poisonous ones.