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This month, we’re so excited to feature Salem Gymnastics & Swim on our cover! They recently launched a Ninja program, and let me tell you… it’s not often I wish I was a kid again—but I definitely wish I could sign up for this class! (The CrossFitter in me just loves everything about it.)

I’ve always believed gymnastics is one of the best sports you can put your kids in; the benefits are endless. Flexibility, mobility, balance, confidence, learning new skills— it’s all there. I actually took gymnastics at Salem as a kid, and it was one of the highlights of my childhood. I absolutely loved it! Learn more about this amazing local gem on page 18.

This month, I also had to share this special photo with you—it’s from Forsyth Woman Magazine’s 20th Anniversary Celebration a few weeks ago. What a night to remember! I’m endlessly grateful for the bond I share with my mom and my mamaw, two of the strongest women I know.

You’ll notice in the photo my mom is holding up a large picture of my Pop Pop Charlie (her dad)! Here’s the story behind that moment. Back in August, our family took a trip to Maine to visit my aunt and uncle. My grandparents go every summer and look forward to it all year long. Just before we left, Pop Pop wasn’t feeling well and made a last-minute decision to stay home. We are thanking God that he did because less than 48 hours later, he needed emergency surgery. At 91 years old, that’s no small thing. Had he joined us on the island in Maine, getting to a hospital would’ve been nearly impossible.

He spent quite a while in the ICU but, by the grace of God, made it home. We made the tough call for him to stay home from the

anniversary party since it had only been a week, but of course we had to make sure he was there in spirit! My mamaw came to celebrate, and we carried Pop Pop’s photo around all night—everyone took pictures with him, and he loved seeing them afterward. It’s one of those sweet memories I’ll always cherish.

I can hardly believe it’s already November and we’re heading toward the end of 2025. What a year it’s been! This issue is full of things you don’t want to miss:

• The Nutcracker at the Tanger Center, December 5–7 (page 8)

• The Gospel According to Scrooge, a musical drama at Redland Church, December 5–7 (pages 11–12)

• Lewisville Laser’s 17th Birthday Celebration on November 7 (page 7)

• A Carolina Christmas: Home for the Holidays with the Winston-Salem Symphony, November 29... scan the QR code on page 25 for tickets before they sell out!

• The Mistletoe 5K & Half Marathon, happening on December 6. A YMCA tradition we love!

• Jodie Brim’s unforgettable Holiday Experience, December 11 at The Crest (page 37)

And don’t miss Suzy’s delicious round-up of local pumpkin favorites—from the pumpkin pancakes at MidTown to the Savage Pumpkin Dirty Chai at Be Kind Coffee (page 32).

Here’s to a November filled with gratitude, community, and supporting local

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A DICKENS OF A TALE Returns to Redland Church Stage

Community Theater Meets Ministry in This Beloved Christmas Tradition

The fog of Victorian London will once again drift across the stage at Redland Church this December, as the congregation presents its seventh annual production of The Gospel According to Scrooge: A “Dickens” of a Tale by John Worre.

This isn’t just another Christmas play. With 80 church members bringing the production to life – 40 on stage and 40 working behind the scenes – The Gospel According to Scrooge has become an anticipated holiday tradition, drawing audiences from across the Triad since 2017.

A CHRISTMAS CAROL WITH HEART

Adapted from Charles Dickens’ timeless A Christmas Carol, Worre’s script offers a fresh, modernized retelling that stays true to the story’s core message of redemption. Originally produced as a television film in 1983, the adaptation was praised as “a story of redemption and hope that proves it’s never too late to change your life – and how a relationship with Christ makes all the difference.”

The production seamlessly weaves together drama, music and ministry. Live musicians accompany the cast while a talented ensemble of offstage singers provides rich vocal backing. Authentic period costumes transport audiences to Dickens’ era, and an elaborate Victorian set creates the perfect backdrop for Scrooge’s transformative journey.

SEASONED LEADERSHIP, PASSIONATE PERFORMANCE

Producer Becky Pierce brings decades of experience to the production, having created and originally directed Behold Him, a musical drama that ran for 25 years in Winston-Salem. Under her guidance, The Gospel According to Scrooge has evolved into a polished, professional quality production that rivals any regional theater.

Ken Baker, owner of Piedmont Signs in Winston-Salem, returns for his seventh consecutive year as Ebenezer Scrooge. His powerful portrayal of the miserly businessman’s transformation has become the emotional centerpiece of the show.

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“The message never gets old. It’s the story of a hardened heart changed by grace – and that is the true spirit of Christmas.”

- Lead Pastor Dave Richardson, Redland Church

MORE THAN ENTERTAINMENT

For Redland Church, this annual production represents ministry in action. The congregation has poured countless hours and immense talent into sharing a message of hope and transformation with their community, taking only a brief hiatus during the pandemic years.

“This production is our gift to the community,” Richardson explains. “We want people to experience the joy of the season and be reminded that redemption is possible for everyone.”

PERFORMANCE DETAILS

When: December 5-7, 2025

• Evening performances: Friday and Saturday, December 5 & 6 at 7:00 p.m.

• Matinee performances: Saturday and Sunday, December 6 & 7 at 2:00 p.m.

Where: Redland Church, 137 Baltimore Road, Advance, NC

Tickets: Free admission, but tickets are required for seating. Reserve yours by visiting rphc.net or calling 336.998.4226.

Whether you’re seeking uplifting holiday entertainment, spectacular music or simply a meaningful way to celebrate the season with family and friends, The Gospel According to Scrooge promises an unforgettable experience. Don’t miss this moving reminder that hope, joy and redemption are gifts available to us all.

For more information about Redland Church and upcoming events, visit rphc.net.

The Transformative Power of Giving

by DEBBIE LINVILLE

NATIONAL PHILANTHROPY DAY

Philanthropy, derived from the Ancient Greek phrase philanthropia, first coined by Aeschylus, a famous writer from 2,500 years ago, is composed of the words philos (love) and anthropos (humanity) and essentially means “the love of humankind.” National Philanthropy Day was officially established in 1986 when President Ronald Reagan signed Proclamation 5771 – spotlighting the contributions of philanthropists who give of their time and money in ways that provide a lasting impact. November 15th is a day set aside for individuals and organizations across the United States (and beyond) to pause and reflect on the significance of philanthropy as an enduring force that helps shape communities and strengthen societies.

From the very beginning, civilizations around the world were built with the idea that caring for and understanding the needs of others was critical to shared survival and growth.

~ National Philanthropic Trust

PHILANTHROPY CHANGES THE WORLD

Philanthropy is woven into the fabric of our global connectedness. Unlike charity, which is often a temporary solution for a temporary problem, philanthropy attempts to solve those problems at their root causes and work toward positive transformation. Philanthropic efforts support countless initiatives to improve lives and address pressing societal challenges. Monetary donations are one of the most direct ways to support philanthropic causes, and thoughtful giving makes a big difference. When deciding where to donate money, it is critical to research organizations to ensure donations go toward meaningful programs. Following are some of the many ways financial contributions make the world a better place:

• Civic Engagement and Community Building – Fund libraries, youth mentorship initiatives, neighborhood programs

• Arts and Culture – Preservation of historical sites, promote artistic endeavors, accessibility of cultural education

• Economic Development and Poverty Reduction – Job training, small business grants, employment assistance

• Disaster Relief and Humanitarian Aid – Rapid response efforts, rebuild infrastructure in devastated areas, supply aid

• Healthcare and Medical Research – Fund hospitals, access to medical services, advance research for diseases

• Environmental Conservation – Reforestation programs, climate change mitigation, wildlife conservation

• Social Justice and Human Rights – Fund advocacy groups, legal aid services, address poverty and climate change

• Education Advancement – Scholarships, educational reform and innovations, libraries and technological resources

CELEBRATE BY PARTICIPATING

Philanthropy encompasses more than financial contributions – it involves dedicating time, skills and shared resources to uplift communities and tackle social challenges. Take time on National Philanthropy Day to celebrate generosity while encouraging ongoing contributions to a better, more compassionate world. As November 15th approaches, take a moment to reflect on the impact of philanthropy in your life and plan to be part of the movement. There are many ways to do good in the world. Even the smallest act of generosity has the potential to create meaningful change.

10 WAYS YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE

1. Share how philanthropy has impacted your community.

2. Donate to a cause – food bank, education initiative, etc.

3. Volunteer time at a local nonprofit that aligns with your passion.

4. Share your favorite organization’s page and your favorite projects.

5. Set up a monthly donation to one of your favorite charities.

6. Organize a fundraiser – charity walk or online campaign.

7. Perform small acts of kindness – e.g. writing thank you notes.

8. Volunteer to tutor students or mentor a young person.

9. Learn more about philanthropy efforts in your community.

10. Raise awareness for causes – share stories on social media.

Philanthropy is not about the money. It’s about using whatever resources you have at your fingertips and applying them to improving the world.

~ Melinda Gates

THE FUTURE OF PHILANTHROPY

Philanthropy is a living organism – it adapts and grows alongside technological innovation, social progress and economic change. Online platforms have revolutionized the way people give, making it easier for individuals to support causes through crowdfunding, recurring donations and virtual volunteer opportunities. Younger generations are redefining philanthropy by championing sustainable, equitable giving and advocating for social justice. Additionally, corporate responsibility is driving businesses to integrate philanthropy into their core strategies. No doubt philanthropy will continue to evolve and shape a future where generosity is not only widespread, but deeply impactful, as well.

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For more than 45 years, Salem Gymnastics & Swim has been a trusted name in Winston-Salem. Salem has served tens of thousands of children, building confidence through movement. Known for its engaging gymnastics and swim programs, Salem recently expanded its facility. This expansion allowed Salem to accommodate the demand for their sought after programs. Not only that, they added one of its most exciting programs yet, the Salem Ninja program. Parents are already seeing the difference it makes in their kids’ lives.

WHAT IS SALEM NINJA?

Ninja blends gymnastics, obstacle training and strength in a fast paced, high energy format for kids. The program challenges children to climb, leap and swing through courses that change regularly to keep things fresh and fun. With its focus on agility, coordination and problem solving, Ninja is a great activity that keeps kids moving.

Unlike many sports, Ninja doesn’t require a specific body type or skill set to begin. Every child, regardless of athletic background, can find success as they learn to master new challenges and obstacles.

DEVELOPING THE WHOLE CHILD

Children are made to move, and with proper instruction, they can all learn to move well. In today’s world, children lack opportunities to run freely outside until the streetlights come on, exploring the world in myriad ways. Sadly, today’s sedentary children quickly see themselves as “non-movers” which can become a selffulfilling prophecy. Fortunately, Salem Gymnastics & Swim encourages children to move in the water and on land, unlocking a lifelong habit of healthy activity.

While the physical benefits are clear, the programs at Salem support mental and emotional growth. Classes offer exciting challenges teaching perseverance, resilience and problem solving. When kids struggle, they are encouraged to keep trying; learning firsthand that failure is simply part of the process, ultimately leading to success.

These lessons translate into school and everyday life. Children at Salem gain greater confidence in their ability to tackle challenges, whether it’s a tough math problem or trying something new with friends. This is one reason former students bring their children and grandchildren back to Salem. They know the value of growing through movement.

Salem began in 1980 with its cornerstone program –gymnastics.

WELL ROUNDED PROGRAMS

Classes start with parent-tots where children learn the joys of movement through a variety of activities and challenges – climbing, tumbling, balancing, kicking, jumping, hand-eye coordination and so much more. As they grow through their preschool years, this leads not only to physical success, but success in the classroom, as well. Scientific studies prove that exercise activates the brain, so what you see, and what you get, are children who are mentally sharper. Active children are more attentive, less impulsive and less fidgety. They can sustain attention longer, promoting their ability to sort through information and take it in. Salem’s students also learn social skills such as sharing, taking turns and cooperation, which are important heading into kindergarten!

Gymnastics classes for boys and girls begin with the kindergarten year and teach skills on all Olympic apparatus. While some students do gymnastics for the fun of it, many progress into recreational teams, USA Gymnastics Teams and, over the years, more than 30 athletes have earned NCAA scholarships. Salem currently boasts one athlete each on the gymnastics teams at West Point, the US Naval Academy and the US Air Force Academy.

Salem is also home to lifesaving swim lessons, where children as young as infants learn essential water safety skills. These lessons aren’t simply about technique – they teach children to love and respect the water, a skill every parent knows is critical. Salem’s swim program combines gentle, confidence-building instruction with proven teaching methods to help children progress from their first splash to becoming strong, independent swimmers.

This unique combination of programs means that children at Salem can grow in multiple directions all under one roof, whether in weekly classes or during our Totally Kids Camps where all three of our programs are highlighted each week.

STATE-OF-THE-ART FACILITY & QUALITY STAFF

As part of its recent 7,400-square-foot addition, Salem Gymnastics & Swim tripled the space available for school-aged kids in the gym. In addition to Salem Ninja, there is now a dedicated space just for beginner girls’ gymnastics, expanded room for intermediate and advanced gymnasts, and state-of-the-art additions for the competitive team. This expansion means children now have even more opportunities to test themselves in a safe, supportive environment designed to encourage progress at every skill level.

One of the hallmarks of Salem Gymnastics & Swim has always been its commitment to safety and excellence in instruction. Instructors are trained not only to teach sound skills, but also to foster encouragement, teamwork and respect. Curriculums are designed to minimize risks while still pushing kids to stretch their abilities.

Parents can feel confident knowing their children are developing strength and coordination in a structured environment where safety is top priority.

With more space, new equipment and innovative course layouts, Salem is able to serve more children and provide a richer, more dynamic experience.

WHY KIDS LOVE IT

Ask any child about classes or camps at Salem, and their eyes light up. The programs tap into the natural sense of adventure most kids crave. They get to swing like superheroes, climb like adventurers, swim like fish and leap like athletes – all while building “can do” attitudes and lifelong fitness habits. The activities change often which means there’s always something new to master. This variety keeps children motivated and excited to come back week after week.

JOIN THE MOVEMENT

With nearly five decades of experience helping kids build confidence through movement while “sweating and smiling,” Salem Gymnastics & Swim continues to evolve to meet the needs of today’s families. Whether your child takes lessons in swim, gymnastics, ninja or participates in a camp or school’s out fun day, they are sure to enjoy the experience.

For parents looking for a program that goes beyond athletics to build confidence, resilience and joy, Salem is more than just another activity –it’s an adventure!

Prioritize Your Well-Being:

Why Your Annual Well-Woman Exam Matters

When was the last time you scheduled your annual well-woman exam? Far too often, women put their own health on the back burner—juggling careers, families, and countless responsibilities—yet prioritizing preventive care is one of the most powerful things you can do for your long-term well-being.

A well-woman exam is more than just a checkup; it’s a proactive approach to maintaining your health, preventing problems before they start, and ensuring you have a clear picture of your body’s needs at every stage of life. At Hawthorne OB-GYN Associates, conveniently located at 4605 Country Club Road in Winston-Salem, NC, their experienced and compassionate team is dedicated to helping women feel supported, informed, and empowered during every step of their health journey.

BEYOND

THE BASICS: WHAT A WELLWOMAN EXAM OFFERS

Early Detection:

Regular exams can be lifesaving. By monitoring your health annually, your provider can detect conditions like breast and cervical cancers, osteoporosis, and high blood pressure early— when treatment is often most effective.

Reproductive Health:

Whether you’re planning for pregnancy, exploring contraception, or navigating the challenges of menopause, your well-woman

exam provides the perfect opportunity to discuss reproductive health and receive tailored advice.

Comprehensive Health Picture:

At Hawthorne OB-GYN Associates, your exam goes beyond physical screenings. Your provider will review your medical history, discuss lifestyle habits, and check in on your mental and emotional well-being. Depending on your age and health profile, this may include a clinical breast exam, pelvic exam, and Pap smear.

Personalized Guidance:

No two women are the same—and your care shouldn’t be either. Your provider will offer recommendations specific to you, from nutrition and exercise to weight management and preventive screenings, helping you make choices that support your healthiest life.

A Safe Space for Questions and Concerns:

Your annual exam is also your time. It’s a chance to bring up questions about family planning, STIs, changes in your body, or even concerns about stress or unhealthy relationships. Hawthorne’s providers prioritize creating a comfortable, judgment-free environment where you feel heard.

Don’t Delay Your Health

The truth is, many health conditions develop quietly over time without obvious symptoms. Skipping your annual exam might feel harmless in the short term, but preventive care is the foundation for a healthier future. Even if you feel well today, a yearly well-woman exam is an investment in your tomorrow.

At Hawthorne OB-GYN Associates, the team’s mission is to partner with you in prioritizing your well-being—through compassionate care, trusted expertise, and personalized guidance.

TAKE THE NEXT STEP

Don’t wait until symptoms appear to take control of your health. Schedule your well-woman exam with Hawthorne OB-GYN Associates in Winston-Salem today, and give yourself the gift of proactive, preventive care.

Located at 4605 Country Club Road, Winston-Salem, NC

Call to schedule your appointment: 336-768-3632

Your health matters — make yourself a priority.

Morgan Stanley is proud to congratulate Sutton C. Miller

Named one of Forbes’ Top Next-Gen Wealth Advisors Best-In-State

Being named to Forbes’ 2025 Top Next-Gen Wealth Advisors Best-In-State list is a testament to your experience, focus, and dedication to your clients’ financial future.Thank you for the work you do each day and for carrying forward the standard of excellence at our firm.

Sutton C. Miller

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2025 Forbes America’s Top Next-Gen Wealth Advisors & Top Next-Gen Wealth Advisors Best-In-State

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Fancy fork

Recipe developed by LAUREN

SEPHTON (@BRIGHTMOMENTCO)

Welcome back to the Fancy Fork – your seasonal produce insight and farm-style recipes that are made to satisfy.

The holidays have arrived! Laughter of family and friends, comfort foods at their finest and cozy movie nights have marked the evenings. But, that’s not all November brings. This month, you’ll find a variety of hardy vegetables such as carrots, parsnips, sweet potatoes, beetroot, turnips, collard greens, kale, leeks, swiss chard, cabbage, Brussels sprouts, butternut

PUMPKIN GNOCCHI WITH SPINACH AND SAUSAGE

PREP. TIME: 10 MINUTES | COOK TIME: 20 MINUTES

TOTAL TIME: 30 MINUTES | SERVES: 4

INGREDIENTS

1 lb. Italian Sausage, ground

¼ cup Fresh Sage, chopped

16 oz. Potato Gnocchi

1 cup Whole Milk

1 cup Pumpkin Puree

INSTRUCTIONS

1 cup Chicken Broth ½ cup Heavy Cream

2-3 cups Baby Spinach ½ cup Aged White Cheddar, grated

Salt & Black Pepper, to taste Grated Parmesan, for garnishing

1. Roll the ground Italian sausage into 1-2 tablespoonsized balls. Add to a large skillet over medium high heat to sear 2-3 minutes on each side. If not fully cooked yet, transfer to a baking pan to bake at 350F for 8-10 minutes.

2. In the meantime, add the sage and gnocchi to the skillet. Sauté in the sausage oils for 2-3 minutes, until the sage is fragrant.

3. Add the whole milk, heavy cream and pumpkin. Stir until smooth, then season to taste with salt and black pepper.

4. Let simmer for 6-8 minutes until slightly thickened.

5. Add the broth, spinach, grated cheddar and meatballs. Stir to combine. If needed, add more broth to help thin out the sauce, then simmer to desired sauce thickness.

6. Enjoy warm with freshly grated parmesan!

squash and broccoli. And, besides a holiday classic – cranberries – being back in season, you’ll also find blackberries, clementines, grapefruit, oranges, pear, pomegranates, chestnuts, walnuts, kiwi, figs and grapes.

This month’s recipe is focused on all the incredible flavor and health benefits of pumpkin. Packed with vitamins and minerals, pumpkin is also very high in beta-carotene, a carotenoid that your body turns into vitamin A. The vitamins in pumpkin have been known to boost your immune system, promote eye health, may lower risk of cancer and are full of healthy fiber that may benefit heart health.

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Saturday evening of Thanksgiving Weekend, ring in the holidays with your Winston-Salem Symphony, Symphony Chorus, and Billboard® top-ten jazz vocalist, Tony DeSare!

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The GOOD and the BAD of Optimism Bias

Humans are wired for hope. From imagining a successful career to believing we’ll ace that big presentation, most of us lean toward optimism. Psychologists call this tendency “optimism bias,” the inclination to overestimate the likelihood of positive events and underestimate the possibility of negative ones. On the surface, it seems harmless—even beneficial—but like most traits, it has both bright and shadow sides.

ON THE POSITIVE END, OPTIMISM BIAS CAN BE A POWERFUL MOTIVATOR. People who expect favorable outcomes tend to take more risks and persist longer in the face of challenges. For example, an entrepreneur who believes in their business idea is more likely to push through obstacles, network strategically, and innovate, whereas a less optimistic counterpart might give up at the first sign of difficulty. Optimism bias can also bolster mental health. By focusing on potential success rather than failure, individuals experience less stress and greater resilience. This mindset helps people recover more quickly from setbacks and maintain a sense of purpose.

OPTIMISM BIAS ALSO FOSTERS HEALTHIER SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS. When we project confidence and positivity, we attract others, inspire trust, and encourage collaboration. People naturally gravitate toward individuals who expect the best, which can create a supportive feedback loop—positivity begets more positivity.

HOWEVER, OPTIMISM BIAS IS NOT WITHOUT ITS DRAWBACKS. Overestimating positive outcomes can lead to poor decision-making. Investors, for instance, might pour money into risky ventures believing failure is unlikely, only to face significant losses. In personal health, optimism bias may cause individuals to underestimate risks, like assuming they won’t develop chronic conditions despite poor lifestyle habits. Ignoring potential pitfalls can have tangible consequences, ranging from financial strain to emotional setbacks.

ANOTHER CONCERN IS THE EFFECT ON ACCOUNTABILITY. Excessive optimism can blind us to mistakes or warning signs, making it difficult to adjust plans or behaviors effectively. Leaders who consistently underestimate challenges risk poor team outcomes or organizational failures. Similarly, in relationships, assuming “everything will work out” without communication or effort can lead to misunderstandings and unmet expectations.

INTERESTINGLY, OPTIMISM BIAS IS OFTEN SUBCONSCIOUS. Most people aren’t deliberately ignoring risks; they genuinely perceive positive outcomes as more likely. This makes the bias difficult to moderate but also highlights the importance of balance. Awareness is key—recognizing that optimism can inspire action while simultaneously considering realistic risks allows for more informed decision-making.

Ultimately, optimism bias is neither good nor bad—it’s a tool. Used wisely, it motivates, inspires, and fosters resilience. Used carelessly, it can blind, mislead, and disappoint. The trick lies in pairing optimism with strategy: hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. Embracing optimism bias mindfully ensures it remains a force for growth rather than a recipe for unintended consequences.

LEWIS SWICEGOOD, BROKER/AUCTIONEER

Where Faith, Family and Auctions Meet

by CAROLYN SHORE PETERSON

For Lewis Swicegood, auctioneering isn’t just a career, it is a family tradition built on resilience and values. His grandfather, Jerry Swicegood, paved the way as a real estate broker, later joined by Lewis’ father and mother who, together, formed The Swicegood Group.

“I grew up surrounded by the rhythm of real estate. My grandfather laid the foundation, my parents carried it forward and watching them instilled in me the drive to honor that legacy,” recalled Lewis.

When the 2009 financial crash shook the country, the Swicegood family realized the traditional paths of real estate weren’t as steady as they once seemed. Instead of retreating, Lewis’ father pivoted into auctioneering. “What began as his way of finding new opportunities in uncertain times, quickly grew into a family passion,” Lewis said. That bold step would light the spark for his own future.

FINDING HIS VOICE

Lewis’ first live auction took place at the Nashville School of Auctioneering. As part of completing his training, he conducted a small benefit sale. His parents and sister were in the crowd, cheering him on.

“It was such a wonderful experience that taught me how to manage my nerves on stage,” Lewis recalled. That moment cemented his path forward, blending family support with personal courage.

THE ART OF THE AUCTION

Unlike a traditional sale, auctions create excitement by letting the market decide the value in real time. “An auction is open, fast and competitive. Buyers compete; sellers win. It’s about energy, rhythm and trust,” commented Lewis.

For Lewis, preparation is both mental and physical. Lewis credits tongue twisters, rhythm exercises and even workouts as essential. “I’ll hum, practice filler words and run through ‘Betty Bonner’ to get my bid chant sharp,” Lewis said.

VALUES THAT GUIDE THE WORK

At the core of his career are three principles: honesty, integrity and selfless service. “Clear terms, equal opportunity for every bidder and strict honesty ensure trust because, without trust, the performance means nothing,” stated Lewis.

Faith also plays a central role. “God has guided me through many things in life, and I’m always striving to honor the blessings He has given me,” Lewis commented.

MEMORABLE AUCTIONS & LESSONS LEARNED

Every auction has its story. Lewis recalls his first real estate simulcast auction, where live and online bidding took place together. “The seller was pleased, the buyer was happy and the pride in my wife’s eyes was a reward in itself,” said Lewis.

Another standout memory was a personal property auction of a Hummel figurine collection, conducted with his sister, Ashton Burton. “I had never even heard of Hummel before, and that’s the beauty of this business – you’re constantly learning something new,” Lewis commented.

For Lewis, auctions aren’t just about selling assets. “They bring people together; families navigating estates, collectors chasing passions or neighbors rallying for a cause. Every person has a story, and it’s my job to carry that story to the next buyer,” stated Lewis.

A TRADITION OF COMMUNITY

Lewis believes that the auctioneer’s role is about more than the chant…it’s about connection. “In a live auction, the seller and buyers are connected through the auctioneer. The seller offers the asset, buyers compete openly and the auctioneer drives the energy, while keeping the process fair.”

He also values the camaraderie of the profession. “We have a saying, AHAAuctioneers Helping

Auctioneers. I love picking the brains of others to learn and improve. Much like life, you always have to work hard and strive to get better,” said Lewis.

HONORING THE PAST, SHAPING THE FUTURE

Though online auctions are the future, Lewis remains grounded in tradition. “Online bidding gets the most eyes on your asset, but the live chant is still very much alive,” Lewis explained.

Carrying on the Swicegood legacy is deeply personal. “I lost my grandfather last year, and I hope to honor his memory, the man who started it all.” Lewis said. “I stand on the shoulders of giants. My hope is that one day people will say I honored my father’s and mother’s legacy. If I can do that, then I’ve added to the foundation they built.”

For more information on Swicegood Group, Inc., contact Lewis through Ready2bid. com or call 336.970.7944

Triad Area Events in November

November offers a variety of interesting and exciting events for families to experience in and around the Triad. Here are some of the top offerings:

Brandy & Monica: The Boy Is Mine Tour

First Horizon Coliseum, Greensboro

Nov. 1, 8 p.m.

Tickets start at $99

This is Brandy and Monica’s first-ever U.S. tour with special guests Kelly Rowland, Muni Long, and Jamal Roberts, the 2025 American Idol winner.

Drinks @ Dusk: Camel City

Reynolda House Museum of American Art, Winston-Salem

Nov. 5, 6-9 p.m.

Tickets $30, ages 21+ only Drinks @ Dusk will be an evening of socializing while enjoying art, history, exploration, food, and crafty drinks. A scavenger hunt will take guests into the new exhibition, Camel City: Tobacco & Transformation, 1875-1964.

Il Divo: By Candlelight, with Simply Three

Steven Tanger Center, Greensboro

Nov. 7, 8 p.m.

Tickets start at $75

For more than 20 years, Il Divo has embodied the power of music, brotherhood, and artistic evolution. The iconic quartet has redefined classical crossover, captivating worldwide audiences with their vocals and electrifying performances.

Memphis Thunder, Featuring Taylor Vaden:

The Last Storm of 2025

The Reeves Theater, Elkin

Nov. 8, 8 p.m.

Tickets $25-$37

Memphis Thunder is celebrating its 10th anniversary with “The Last Storm” tour. The concert features Taylor Vaden, an award-winning Elvis tribute artist.

TINA – The Tina Turner Musical

Steven Tanger Center, Greensboro

Nov. 12-13, 7:30 p.m.

Tickets start at $47

An uplifting comeback story, this musical is an inspiring journey about a woman who broke barriers and became the Queen of Rock ‘n’ Roll. This show is set to the pulsepounding soundtrack of her greatest hits.

Whose Live Anyway?

Schaefer Center, Appalachian State University

Nov. 14, 7:30 p.m.

Tickets start at $51

The current cast members of “Whose Line Is It Anyway?” are presenting their new improv tour. It’s 90 minutes of hilarious improvised comedy and song all based on audience suggestions.

Kruger Brothers

Yadkin Cultural Arts Center, Yadkinville

Nov. 15, 7:30 p.m.

Tickets $35

The Kruger Brothers have a unique blend of bluegrass, folk, and classical influences. Their music flows like a gentle river, guiding audiences through a rich tapestry of emotions.

Gabby’s Dollhouse Live!

Steven Tanger Center, Greensboro

Nov. 20, 6 p.m.

Tickets start at $39

In this a-MEOW-zing show, Gabby unboxes a special acorn that needs the magical touch of a rainbow to grow. But when CatRat causes a color cat-astrophe and breaks the rainbow, Gabby and the Gabby cats must find the colors again to set things right.

Piedmont Craftsmen’s Fair

Benton Convention Center, Winston-Salem

Nov. 23-24, 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Saturday, noon to 5 p.m. Sunday

Tickets $13 for day pass, $20 for weekend

This is the 61st annual crafts fair. The fair showcases the handwork of more than 100 fine artisans from across the U.S. They work in clay, wood, glass, fibers, leather, metal, photography, printmaking, and mixed media.

A Carolina Christmas: Home for the Holidays

Winston-Salem Symphony, Reynolds Auditorium

Nov. 29, 7:30 p.m.

Tickets start at $10

Tony DeSare, a popular vocalist, brings jazz-club intimacy, Carnegie Hall glamour, and Las Vegas glitz to traditional holiday favorites featuring the orchestra and chorus.

in Forsyth County

it brings. I’ve found pumpkin offerings in Forsyth County tend to evolve throughout the season.

As September kicks off, it feels like pumpkin spice flavors are everywhere. Next up in October, there seems to be a focus on Halloween. But, November really captures the fruit’s essence. Yes, it’s a fruit, not a vegetable! This is the month of Thanksgiving after all. Local restaurants, cafes, bars and bakeries have really homed in on their pumpkin offerings for the year at this point.

So, this November, give thanks for all the amazing pumpkin drink and food options we have in Forsyth County! Below are a few places you’ll want to add to your fall eats and drinks list!

Ava’s Cupcakes

This local bake shop was recently remodeled and has a luxurious feel you can expect to come with high quality baked goods. They also added a new coffee bar which will complement any of their classic pumpkin treats. You can expect to find their classic pumpkin cannoli cupcake or a pumpkin flavored baked good, like a croissant or cinnamon roll. They also offer gluten free and vegan cupcake options.

Location: 1483 River Ridge Drive, Clemmons

Be Kind Coffee Co.

This local coffee shop brings all the fall classic flavors well beyond pumpkin to their drinks, from pecan to apple cider. This November, their pumpkin drink lineup includes a wide mix of drink types from the Savage Pumpkin Dirty Chai which is their bestselling pumpkin drink to the Butter Pecan Latte with Pumpkin Cream. Their pumpkin eats are just as tasty. You won’t want to miss their Pumpkin Cream Cake, Vegan Pumpkin Crumb Muffins or Pumpkin Spice Loaf. For one week only, they will sell Pumpkin Empanadas which will be announced on their social media.

Location: 3560 Clemmons Road, Suite B, Clemmons

Midtown Cafe and Dessertery

Known as a top brunch spot in Winston-Salem, Midtown captures all the classic pumpkin dishes you could want. Their pumpkin pie is a must have in November. Plus, every weekend in November, they have pumpkin pancakes. Whether you are visiting for brunch, lunch or dinner, you’ll want to get your fall-inspired caffeine fix by trying their Pumpkin Cold Brew or Pumpkin Spice Latte.

Location: 151 S. Stratford Road, W-S

Dewey’s Bakery

A community staple, Dewey’s never disappoints on their fall and pumpkin items. True to fashion, they sell a fall-inspired cake square – the pumpkin spice cake square. Every day, all their cake squares, cupcakes and tarts are “buy five, get the sixth free.” Your stomach and your wallet will thank you. Be sure to stop by on a Monday to get a free cake square! If you need desserts for your Thanksgiving feast, their Classic Thanksgiving Cake Square platter or tarts (either sweet potato or pumpkin flavors) are sure to be a hit.

Two Winston-Salem Locations: 262 S. Stratford Road and 2876 Reynolda Road

The Remedy Cafe and Bar

This spot perfectly embodies the cozy vibes of fall. They bring pumpkin flavors to life with their Pumpkin Pie Spiced White Russian and Pumpkin Pie Shaken Flat White. You can get a seasonal latte that boasts pumpkin spice, date syrup and is topped with smoked sea salt. In contrast, if you want a fall cocktail, they have a Pumpkin Pie Boozy Cold Brew that features a housemade pumpkin pie syrup, vodka, coffee liqueur, cold brew and topped with whipped pumpkin pie foam and cinnamon.

Location: 492 W. End Boulevard, W-S

NOVEMBER:

November is known for bringing families and friends together, most notably around a large Thanksgiving meal. This said, it is quite fitting to designate this time as “Diabetes Awareness Month.” Especially considering the rich, delectable foods this holiday is known for, it is often laden with sugar. Consider taking time this month to investigate more about this disease and what symptoms are often overlooked.

WHAT IS DIABETES EXACTLY, AND WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN

TYPE I AND TYPE II? Diabetes is a disease that causes high blood glucose, also known as sugar. A hormone called insulin is what is needed to move the sugar out of your system; however, diabetes limits the body’s ability to make enough insulin. This said, when your body cannot make enough insulin, sugar builds up in the blood. The result can be extreme harm to your eyes, kidneys and nervous system.

According to the Healthline.com article, “Type I and Type II Diabetes: What’s the difference?” both types of diabetes are dangerous; however, they are vastly different in how they attack your system. “A key difference is type 1 diabetes (T1D) is an autoimmune condition, in which the insulinmaking cells in the pancreas stop producing the hormone for an unknown reason.” While genetics play a strong role in both types of

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diabetes, Type I is often known as “Juvenile Diabetes” and usually affects young children and teens. Type II is developed because of lifestyle choices, such as exercise and diet, and usually affects adults.

Sadly, according to the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases website, “[Diabetes] affects about 38 million Americans, including adults and youth.” Specifically, this type of diabetes affects those who have a family history of diabetes, especially African Americans, American Indians, Asian Americans, Hispanics or Latinos, or Pacific Islanders. However, there is good news. By educating yourself on your risk of developing this disease, as well as what symptoms occur with it, you can avoid becoming Pre-Diabetic. Luckily, if you discover you are already developing diabetes, this month you can also learn methods to monitor your blood glucose, blood pressure and cholesterol levels.

DIABETES SYMPTOMS:

There are specific symptoms that will occur with both types of diabetes. According to the Mayo Clinic, symptoms include feeling more thirsty than usual, urinating often, losing weight without trying, feeling tired and weak, feeling irritable or having other mood changes, having blurry vision, having slow-healing sores, getting a lot of infections, such as gum, skin and vaginal infections, and finally, the presence of ketones in the urine. “Ketones are a byproduct of the breakdown of muscle and fat that happens when there’s not enough available insulin.”

HOW CAN YOU DISCOVER IF YOU HAVE DIABETES OR ARE BECOMING “PRE-DIABETIC?”

Visiting your doctor is the first step. At the office, they will administer an A1C test, which will measure your average glucose levels. If a healthcare professional determines you have been diabetic or at risk of developing the disease, they will advise you to begin with simple lifestyle changes.

Awareness Month

TIP #1: Develop small steps towards changing your daily lifestyle habits. This could be as simple as paying closer attention to the labels on the food you buy, to changing your diet completely. Your doctor will provide you with lots of information on what foods are great for managing diabetes and which ones to avoid completely.

TIP #2: Set aside time each day to be active! By no means does this mean enrolling in a strenuous boot camp at the local gym. According to the Mayo Clinic, people with diabetes must be careful, in that too much exercise can lower blood sugar significantly. First off, do not exercise when your blood glucose is extremely high, or lift heavy weights if you have high blood pressure or eye problems. Also, make sure to check your feet to make sure you do not have cuts or sores, which can get worse by exercise or make exercise painful. Make sure to drink plenty of water and, finally, make sure to talk to your doctor about the right type of exercise for you. Starting slowly, like taking a walk after dinner each night, is an excellent start.

TIP #3: Seek support from those who live with the disease.

Having diabetes or discovering that you are pre-diabetic can be incredibly discouraging. It is completely normal to feel upset, defeated and even depressed. Make sure to surround yourself with those who either are going through a similar diagnosis, or those who understand what you are going through. Your doctor will provide you with information on diabetes support groups, such as the YWCA’s “Gateway to Success Program,” which specifically focuses on helping low-income patients manage diabetes through a unique model. There are also many medical support groups through Novant Health, Atrium Health and The Salem Center for Endocrinology. Finally, the North Carolina Minority Diabetes Prevention Program (NC MDPP) is a free, year-long diabetes prevention program. Once enrolled in the program, you will learn about healthy eating, meal planning, physical activity and overcoming barriers.

Funded by the NC Office of Minority Health and Health Disparities, this program is open to all eligible adults!

THE HOLIDAY EXPERIENCE

N.C. FARM BUREAU INSURANCE

Building Lifetime Relationships with Families & Small Businesses

by MARTIE EMORY, photos by JODIE BRIM CREATIVE

The dwindling art of personal service is alive and well at N.C. Farm Bureau Insurance – where helping families and small businesses thrive is goal number one.

As Agency Manager of the South Winston-Salem N.C. Farm Bureau office, Dalton McGuire is proud of his staff’s focus on advising local families and business owners through life’s inevitable changes.

“With a combined 40+ years of experience in auto, home, life and health insurance, our staff knows insurance plays a crucial role in keeping small businesses and families financially stable when catastrophe strikes,” Dalton explains. “Both groups need to have someone in their corner, looking out for their best interests and advising them through the constant changes they face as they grow. That’s where Farm Bureau steps in. We can make a difference in the actual communities we live in.”

Whether it’s a family home that’s been destroyed, a small business vehicle that’s been damaged or the loss of a loved one, the Farm Bureau team in Winston-Salem is there to guide, advise and show up – when even the worst has happened. Agents see the direct impact they have on their community by being there during some of the toughest times of their clients’ lives.

“The most important thing our agents do on a daily basis is meeting our clients and their families in person,” adds Dalton. “The impact of sitting down at a family’s dinner table or in a small business owner’s shop and having a conversation face to face cannot be overstated. We learn about the dynamics of their family, the long-term goals for their new business and then we come to understand what they value and what they can do without. How on Earth could we provide that type of service without personal conversation?”

N.C. Farm Bureau agents are known for building relationships that last a lifetime. That might mean working with husbands and wives who are just starting a family and helping them navigate the newborn phase, their kids’ first cars, college costs and their own retirement.

“We become a part of that family in a way, and it’s truly the most satisfying job in the world having those interactions and impacts on a daily basis,” Dalton adds.

When it comes to small businesses owners, N.C. Farm Bureau agents walk the space with them when they buy an office or a shop, guide them through hiring their first employees or purchasing their first major piece of equipment and ensuring what they put their heart and soul into every day is protected.

“Watching those businesses grow, and knowing that you play an essential role in protecting what they are building, gives every agent here a reason to get up in the morning!” shares Dalton.

The South Winston-Salem N.C. Farm Bureau Insurance office is located at 1451 Trademart Boulevard, Suite C, in Winston Salem, 336.785.3978. Office hours are Monday through Friday 8:30 a.m. until 5:00 p.m. With agents located in every county throughout the state, Farm Bureau offers a variety of products to protect your family. Learn more about their services at ncfbins.com.

OPERATION CHRISTMAS CHILD

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Expressing Gratitude

THIS NOVEMBER AND BEYOND

by ELISA WALLACE

What exactly is gratitude? In simplest terms, gratitude is the act of feeling grateful for what you have. According to the PositivePsychology. com article, “What is Gratitude and Why is it so Important?” there are several reasons why expressing gratitude daily is vital. Expressing thanks is directly tied to strengthening your social, emotional, psychological and even physical well being. Studies have shown that practicing gratitude can lead to lower blood pressure, strengthen your immune system and help you sleep better. “Gratitude also has a domino effect. If a person experiences gratitude, they are more likely to recognize the help and later reciprocate that help,” the article states. Often, people who are thanked are more likely to offer help to others in the future.

While it is important to express gratitude for the obvious life experiences, like obtaining a new job or developing a new relationship, oftentimes, it is easy to overlook the unnoticed everyday joys life brings all of us. What is called the “Iceberg of Gratitude” is a visual representation of looking below the surface for other more simpler pleasures. For example, “laughter with a friend, a great new book, sunshine and a stranger’s kindness” are a few instances the article lists as acts for which we can express gratitude.

What are a few ways one can express gratitude this month and beyond? Read on for five methods you can incorporate into your daily life, and begin to feel the joy that expressing gratitude can achieve.

Expressing thanks verbally. While a simple “thank you,” can go a long way for its recipient, being specific about what you are grateful for will increase the effect your message delivers. For example, if you receive a gift, try and reflect on your emotions and the effort put into this gift. “Your birthday gift to me makes me delighted. I appreciate the length you went to to find this limited edition book by my favorite author!”

Reflect through a gratitude journal.

This act does not have to be an extremely long, time consuming event. Simply taking a few moments either at the beginning or end of the day to write down a few things that happened that you were grateful for will do wonders for your spirit. It is a simple yet incredibly powerful way to refocus on what in life is going well.

November is a month synonymous with expressing thanks. It is a time, especially for those who celebrate Thanksgiving, when all can take a moment and give thanks for the various blessings received this past year. However, this month is not the only time you can or should express gratitude. 1 2 3

Create a gratitude action plan. Based on your interests, decide what volunteer effort with which you most connect. If you feel a strong connection with animals, consider volunteering for a few hours a month at a local pet shelter. If you worry about those left without shelter this season, consider signing

up at one of the Winston-Salem rescue centers. After choosing which avenue to volunteer in, act! Contact the nonprofit/center and find out what steps you need to take next. By putting a plan in place, you will begin to connect with others in need, thus creating a greater sense of gratitude and connectedness.

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Take it outside with a Gratitude Walk. Mindfulness does not have to occur only in the quiet of your bedroom. Enjoy the outside and go for a walk, noticing the beauty around you. Whether it’s the sound of the leaves rustling through the fall trees, the warmth of sunlight on your forehead or a simple smile from a friend passing by, warmth of the sun or the smile of a passerby, expressing gratitude for these simple joys can elevate your mood.

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Find a Gratitude Accountability Partner. Expressing gratitude does not have to be a solo project. By finding someone who can hold you accountable, you are more likely to complete your gratitude exercises. Sharing what you are doing with a partner, friend or colleague can enhance liability and influence. Over time, by having a gratitude partner, they can help you notice things you might otherwise overlook. In the end, through having support as you begin this new outlook on life, gratitude will become a shared practice, creating a more profound impact on all around you!

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Forsyth County Library Spotlights:

Carver School Road Branch Library – An Inspiring Place for Creativity, Learning, Play and Community

by SUZY FIELDERS

Located on the northeast side of Winston-Salem, not far from the Smith Reynolds Airport, is a must visit Forsyth County library. The Carver School Road Branch Library has a great mix of fun and learning.

Why is it a must visit? The children’s room is huge and has so much to do for littles. Plus, it has great workspaces.

MASSIVE, FUN FILLED KIDS’ ROOM TO EXPLORE

Unlike some libraries that just have kids’ sections or are mostly focused on books, the children’s room at the Carver School Road Branch is spacious and fun. There are, of course, books, but it also features kids’ computers, a large Lego table, tables for coloring or reading, plenty of interactive wall toys, a large screen television that plays kid-appropriate shows and a large learning play cube.

Not only is there plenty of space to roam, play and have story time, but the decorations are spot on and add to the appeal, as well.

QUIET, FOCUSED SPACE FOR WORK AND STUDY

There are plenty of desks and computer workstations with a quiet atmosphere at this library. It’s the perfect place to get focused on your work or assignment. I’ve had great success writing articles here!

This library is one of only two in the system that offer free computer and internet access for individuals with physical disabilities. It features specially designed technology to meet their unique needs.

A conference/multi-purpose room is available to rent at no cost, with space for up to 30 people. Advance booking is required to reserve the room.

CREATIVE DETAILS AND ARTISTIC SURPRISES

While subtle, art is a true focus in this library’s setting. It features contemporary Afrocentric decor that beautifully complements the space and reflects the surrounding community. A striking Winston-Salem mural brings one wall to life, offering a vibrant backdrop for nearby tables. Just outside the kids’ room, a colorful tree mural and a cheerful elephant statue add a playful and artistic touch.

LEARN MORE OR VISIT THE CARVER SCHOOL ROAD BRANCH LIBRARY

Location: 4915 Lansing Drive, Winston-Salem

Hours: Monday - Thursday 9 am – 8 pm, Friday 9 am – 6 pm, Saturday 10 am – 5 pm, Closed Sunday

Parking: Ample free parking

Website: forsyth.cc/library/Carver

Instagram: @fcpubliclibrary

The

STRESS

Isn’t from the

WORK -

It’s from What’s Still Unfinished

Lately, I’ve realized something important: my stress isn’t actually coming from the work I’m doing — it’s from all the things I haven’t finished

My brain is constantly juggling a heavy mental load of open loops: half-written emails, unread articles, unanswered texts, and half-started projects that quietly hum in the background of my day. None of them feel urgent enough on their own, but together, they create a persistent, low-level buzz of stress that never fully shuts off.

Psychologists have a name for this — the ZEIGARNIK EFFECT. It’s the idea that our minds fixate on incomplete tasks, keeping them active in our working memory until they’re finished or resolved. It’s why you can’t stop thinking about that email you meant to send, or why your brain brings up a random “don’t forget to…” at 2 a.m. Our minds hate open loops.

And when those loops pile up? It’s not just distracting — it’s draining. That mental clutter saps our focus, creativity, and energy, even when we’re technically “off the clock.”

I’ve been experimenting with a few strategies to lighten that load and start closing some loops — not perfectly, but intentionally.

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THE 2-MINUTE RULE

If a task takes less than two minutes, I do it immediately instead of adding it to a list. Sending a quick reply, paying a small bill, forwarding a file — these tiny actions are surprisingly satisfying. Each one is a loop closed and a little mental weight lifted.

BATCHING SMALL TASKS

I’ve started blocking out “admin hours” — specific chunks of time to tackle all those minor, nagging to-dos in one go. It helps keep them from scattering across my entire week. There’s something incredibly calming about clearing a cluster of small tasks in one focused session.

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THE BRAIN DUMP

When my mind feels cluttered, I write everything down — every unfinished task, idea, and reminder, no matter how small. Getting it out of my head and onto paper instantly relieves pressure. It’s not about finishing it all right away; it’s about freeing my brain from the job of remembering it all.

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PRIORITIZING RUTHLESSLY

Maybe the hardest part: accepting that I can’t finish everything. I’m learning to choose what actually matters this week — not everything that could, in theory, get done someday. Focusing on just a few key priorities helps quiet the noise and makes progress feel tangible.

Because here’s the truth: productivity isn’t just about doing more. Sometimes it’s about clearing space — mentally, emotionally, and logistically — so we can actually think, rest, and create again.

Does anyone else feel this? That quiet exhaustion that comes not from hard work, but from too many open tabs in your mind?

I’m curious — how do you close your loops and quiet your brain?

Questions to Ask the Specialists

Essential Questions to Advocate for Your Child Through Diagnosis and Treatment

by SUZY FIELDERS

By the time you are required to see a specialist, you likely have a lot of questions, very few answers and plenty of frustration. That’s completely common and, unfortunately, part of the medical diagnosis process. While you might feel like you’ve “used up” all your questions or couldn’t have any more, it’s imperative to exhaust all the possible questions at these specialist appointments. That is because this is usually where and when you get to a diagnosis and, ultimately, treatment. Therefore, in part 4 of this series, I’m discussing questions to ask the specialists.

WHAT TO ASK IN YOUR FIRST VISIT

Like almost everything in the medical field, questions tend to be specific to the issues, potential diagnosis, etc. However, there are some general questions you’ll want to consider asking in your first appointment.

• What is the next step to get my child feeling better?

• What tests and labs will my child need? (Be on the lookout for part 6 with “Questions to Ask About Labs.”)

• How long does it take to get the test or lab results?

• Should I be tracking anything to help with a diagnosis? If yes, what?

• What is your best guess for how long it will take to get a diagnosis?

• Do you have an online portal or MyChart that shows labs and allows me to send messages?

These are just a few of the overall questions you will want to think about asking your specialists. Before the appointment, think hard about the symptoms and issues your child is having and if you have additional questions specific to those.

WHAT TO ASK WHEN YOU RECEIVE A DIAGNOSIS

Receiving a diagnosis comes with a mix of emotions. You’ll likely feel relieved to finally know the issue. If it’s a lifechanging, unexpected or unfortunate diagnosis, then you’ll likely feel fear of the unknown. These emotions are all perfectly normal. A good way to manage it is to take it all one step at a time.

Now that you finally have some answers, it likely will lead to more questions. Here are a few general questions to consider asking your specialist.

• What does this diagnosis mean? I know that seems obvious, but you’d be surprised how that transparent question helps to lay out things initially.

• Is this a lifelong diagnosis or something they could grow out of at some point?

• What are the treatment options?

• If medicine is required, how long will my child need to be on these medications?

• Is surgery going to be a potential treatment option? (Be on the lookout for part 5 with “Questions to Ask for Surgeries and Procedures.”)

Before the specialist leaves the room, be sure to feel confident about an understanding of the diagnosis, treatment options and next steps.

WHAT TO ASK WHEN YOU’VE YET TO GET A DIAGNOSIS

There is truly nothing more frustrating in the medical field than having a sick or unhealthy child and not knowing what is wrong. Just remember to keep a clear mind and not let frustration cloud your mind. This will allow you to think clearly and ask what you need to ask on your child’s behalf.

• Do we need to transfer to a different specialty practice?

• Does my child need additional testing? If so, what tests?

• What are the next steps to get answers?

• Are there symptoms you know of that I could be missing or forgetting to mention? Remember they are the experts in their field.

I know I’ve mentioned this in the series before, but always trust your instincts. You might not be a medical expert, but you are an expert in your child. If the specialist isn’t helping, get a second opinion or go back to the pediatrician for help. At the end of the day, you are your child’s advocate for getting answers. Don’t give up!

Unfortunately, illnesses, accidents or other medical issues may end up needing surgery or a procedure. The best way to combat fear for either is to be knowledgeable about it, and that is accomplished by asking questions. That’s why part 5 of the series coming out in December is, “Questions to Ask for Surgeries and Procedures.”

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Washington Park CrossFit Hosts First-Ever Hot Dog Mile: ALL “FOR THE DOGS!”

Washington Park CrossFit found a creative way to combine fitness, fun, and fundraising this October with their first-ever Hot Dog Mile, held on October 4th at Happy Hill Park. The one-of-a-kind event brought together more than 60 participants (and plenty of dogs!) to raise money for AARF — the Animal Adoption and Rescue Foundation of Winston-Salem.

The idea started as a vote among gym members: a Burpee Mile or a Hot Dog Mile? The results were unanimous…hot dogs by a landslide! The WPCF crew is known for their community spirit and love for furry, four-legged friends, so supporting AARF felt like the perfect fit.

Of course, no Hot Dog Mile would be complete without, well… great hot dogs! The beloved Winston-Salem spot PB’s Takeout generously donated every single hot dog for the event, which meant 100% of the registration fees went straight to AARF. (And let’s be honest, if you’re going to eat four hot dogs mid-run, they better be PB’s!)

So, what exactly is a Hot Dog Mile? Simple! Eat a hot dog, run a lap (400 meters), and repeat four times. Some brave souls completed all four laps (and all four dogs!) solo, while others opted for relay teams of two or four. Families, friends, gym members, and even a few folks from other local gyms and The Run Club (@_therunclub) came out to join in on the fun.

The event was filled with laughter, cheering, and just the right amount of chaos— all for a great cause. Between the costumes, the creative team names, and the dogs stealing the show, it was a day to remember.

Washington Park CrossFit is already planning to bring the event back next year, and if the turnout from the first one is any indication, it’s sure to be even bigger (and tastier) the second time around.

A huge thank-you to PB’s Takeout for their generosity, and to AARF for the incredible work they do every day to rescue and rehome homeless and helpless cats and dogs across the Triad.

We’d love to encourage you to support all three of these amazing local spots that made this event possible:

AARF (Animal Adoption and Rescue Foundation)

Helping homeless cats and dogs find loving homes. aarfws.org | Instagram: @aarf_winstonsalemnc

Washington Park CrossFit

Building strength, community, and connection in Winston-Salem. 2020 Hollyrood St, Winston-Salem, NC 27127 washingtonparkcrossfit.com | Instagram: @washingtonparkcrossfit

PB’s Takeout

Winston-Salem’s go-to spot for the best hot dogs in town. 1412 S Hawthorne Rd, Winston-Salem, NC 336.748.8990

Because in Winston-Salem, community means showing up— whether it’s with a barbell, a leash, or a hot dog in hand.

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NURTURING NEW NORMS:

by TARYN JEREZ

Each month, this series introduces fun and impactful healthy habits to help families with kids and teens prioritize physical, mental and spiritual well being – fostering a lifestyle of shared growth and lifelong wellness. Healthy habits built together are the ones that last a lifetime.

This time of year, we gain so many new memories gathering with family and friends during the holidays. If we’re being honest, sometimes those memories come with some uncomfortable conversations – in between the good ones, of course. Whether it’s a simple sibling squabble or a heated debate at the dinner table, this season offers plenty of opportunities to model how to navigate hard conversations with grace, empathy and confidence.

IT’S NORMAL FOR EMOTIONS TO FLARE OR VOICES TO RISE

Our initial response to conflict may be to shield them from it, but the reality is that families will always have differing opinions – whether inside your own home or across the Thanksgiving table. Witnessing hard conversations helps kids learn how to express themselves, listen to others and handle conflict in a healthy way. The truth is that many of us didn't grow up in homes where healthy communication around conflict was exemplified.

CONFLICT RESOLUTION IS A KEY LIFE SKILL

We’ve all seen children who immediately bottle up their emotions or lash out when conflict is present. (In fact, you can probably picture adults who handle conflict in this way even faster!) Learning how to communicate when things aren’t easy is one of the most valuable life skills we can give our children. Whether it’s deciding who gets the last cookie, asking a classmate to stop teasing or disagreeing with a teacher, knowing how to speak up and stay calm helps them

Hard CONVERSATIONS

feel empowered rather than overwhelmed. When they learn how to have difficult conversations around an array of topics, they have more confidence in standing up for themselves, more empathy towards others and are more equipped to handle inevitable disagreements.

3 PRACTICAL WAYS TO PRACTICE CONFLICT RESOLUTION

1

Help them identify their emotions.

It’s incredibly difficult to communicate what you’re feeling if you don’t have the words for it! Adding a simple tool like a feelings wheel can make a big difference, helping children learn to name emotions like “frustrated,” “disappointed” or “embarrassed” instead of just “mad.” When they can identify their feelings, it helps them understand what’s going on inside them and helps them express it more clearly.

2 TEACHING KIDS

Practice “Listen & Respond” language.

Learning how to pause rather than immediately react during moments of frustration takes time for kids to learn! Teach your kids to use phrases like “I feel ___ when ___” or “I understand that you feel ___” to help them build empathy and keep conversations respectful. Make it a point to roleplay situations as a family, so these tools feel familiar before big emotions hit in real life.

3

Model respectful disagreement at home.

Our kids learn more from what we do than what we say. When you and your partner disagree, or when a tough topic comes up around family or friends, show them what respectful communication looks like. Let them see you use the tools you are teaching them about. Take a deep breath, listen actively to what the other person is saying and respond thoughtfully, sharing how you feel and try to come up with a resolution together.

CREATING PRACTICES THAT LAST A LIFETIME

Conflict isn’t something to be afraid of, just something to navigate! When you are intentional about teaching and demonstrating conflict resolution with your kids, they will benefit from it in every stage of life. Honest and open dialogue in the midst of disagreement reinforces the idea that relationships can withstand hard conversations and even grow stronger through them. We don’t want our kids to shy away from difficult discussions; we want them to embrace that honesty and empathy can coexist and that even the hardest conversations can be handled with heart.

For the LOVE of

by BRIAN JARED Instagram handle @Winstonsalem_nc_bbq

Pit Master Tip:

You can do this on a charcoal grill or pellet grill. I really like the flavor of charcoal, and it does not dry out the meat. For a family of five, I used three breasts, but you can definitely alter the recipe for more guests. I hope you enjoy making this!

Bang Bang Chicken

Sweet, Spicy and Delicious!

Prep Time: 30 minutes | Cook Time: 30-45 Minutes

Ingredients:

3-4 chicken breasts

½ T paprika

½ T onion powder

½ T garlic powder

½ T black pepper

½ T salt

½ T chili powder

Yields: Varies

For the Sauce:

½ cup of mayonnaise

½ cup sweet Thai chili sauce

½ cup of sriracha

Bang Bang chicken is an easy meal you can do on a weeknight for your family. I used three chicken breasts, but feel free to make more or less.

Cube up your chicken breast in a bowl and add paprika, onion powder, garlic powder, salt, pepper and chili powder. Mix seasoning and chicken together, and put on wooden or metal skewers.

I used a charcoal grill and set the chicken on the grill until an internal temperature of 160 degrees. Throw this right over the flames at the end to get a good char on them until an internal temperature of 165 degrees.

While that is cooking, mix together mayonnaise, sweet chili sauce and sriracha.

Dip your skewers in the mix and let rest for a few minutes. Dig in. This recipe is so easy, and everyone will love it!

I smoked this on my Weber Kettle over Meat Head Charcoal. You can purchase the charcoal online and pick up the grill in stores locally.

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November’s Must-Visit Spot Getaway Guide

Discover Cary’s Glow: Lanterns, Culture and An Unforgettable Adventures

by SUZY FIELDERS

As it’s just outside Raleigh, Cary is an often overlooked day trip destination. However, every November, the town lights up – literally –with the NC Chinese Lantern Festival. That’s why it’s the perfect spot to learn about another culture, enjoy a gorgeous town and start a new tradition.

One of the best things about Cary is it isn’t far from Forsyth County, and it’s so easy to get to. It’s literally a straight shot down I-40 East! Don’t want to drive? Never fear! Cary has a train station and is a stop when you travel by train in NC.

CARY IS ROOTED IN THE PAST YET STILL THRIVING IN THE PRESENT

Don’t let Raleigh overshadow this rapidly growing southern town. It’s full of renowned restaurants, world class shopping and a great mix of entertainment, culture, arts and outdoor experiences.

“With its small town atmosphere and close proximity to Raleigh, Research Triangle Park and RDU International Airport, Cary provides an impressive variety of recreational, sports, environmental, historical and cultural arts programs and services. Natural beauty awaits along 35-plus greenway trails open sunrise to sunset, providing more than 70 miles of recreational amenities for walking, jogging and bicycling in a splendid outdoor setting,” says Dana Goodwin, public relations and international tourism manager of Visit Raleigh.

TOP 5 THINGS TO DO IN CARY

It might be hard to tear yourself away from the stunning lanterns, but you must as Cary has so many other amazing things to do and see.

1. Experience Fine Dining at Herons at The Umstead Hotel and Spa – This destination is a recipient of numerous accolades including Five Stars from Forbes Travel Guide and a Five-Diamond Award from AAA.

2. Enjoy Local Theater – The performing arts at the Cary Arts Center showcase performances by the local ballet, community theater and youth.

3. Catch Exciting Sports Action – Witness the North Carolina FC and North Carolina Courage soccer teams compete at WakeMed Soccer Park. You can also enjoy America’s favorite pastime with events at the USA Baseball National Training Complex.

4. Page-Walker Arts and History Center – This historical gem is listed on the National Register of Historic Places and features the Cary Heritage Museum, gallery exhibitions, public events and more.

5. Downtown Cary Park – This newly opened park celebrates two years this November and is truly an iconic public space. From a stunning sky walk to a market and a one-of-a-kind play space, it’s seven acres of gorgeous space.

WHY VISIT IN NOVEMBER?

Since 2015, Koka Booth Amphitheatre has been the proud host of this dazzling festival, one of only a few stops on its national tour each year. Presented in partnership with Tianyu Arts & Culture, Inc., the event celebrates the artistry and elegance of Chinese culture through stunning lantern displays.

With a tradition spanning more than 2,000 years, Chinese lantern making is a craft passed down through generations, now famously featured in Chinese New Year celebrations. At the festival, each lantern is brought to life by more than 25 visiting Chinese artisans and performers, who meticulously handcraft and assemble these luminous works of art for the community to enjoy.

There are two food options at The Café or Cobblestone Courtyard. Beer, wine and spirits are also available for purchase.

Walk among brilliant lights that take you into a whole new world and showcase an amazing culture and celebration.

DETAILS TO VISIT CARY & THE NC CHINESE LANTERN FESTIVAL

Distance from Winston-Salem: Around 1 ½ hours

Learn more about Cary: downtowncarync.org

Learn more about NC Chinese Lantern Festival: boothamphitheatre. com/events-tickets/events/chinese-lantern-festival

Dates: MumFest takes place Saturday, November 15, 2025 – Sunday, January 11, 2026

Instagram: @booth_amp, @downtowncary_nc and @visitraleigh

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PHOTO BY DAVID KUHN

What’s Your Thanksgiving Side Dish Personality?

Because let’s be honest… sometimes the sides steal the show!

Questions

1. AT THANKSGIVING DINNER, YOU’RE MOST LIKELY:

A. Hosting and making sure everyone has what they need

B. Starting a fun conversation or telling stories at the table

C. Piling your plate high with ALL the carbs

D. Sneaking into the kitchen for a taste test before the meal is ready

2. WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE THANKSGIVING VIBE?

A. A big, formal dinner with place cards and candles

B. Loud, casual, and full of laughter

C. Cozy and laid-back with stretchy pants encouraged

D. A mix of family chaos and quiet moments by the fire

3. PICK A THANKSGIVING DESSERT:

A. Classic pumpkin pie

B. Apple pie with vanilla ice cream

C. Pecan pie (extra gooey, please)

D. Leftover pie for breakfast the next morning

4. WHAT’S YOUR HOLIDAY SUPERPOWER?

A. Organizing everything so it runs smoothly

B. Making sure no one ever gets bored

C. Cooking enough food to feed an army

D. Adding little surprises that make everyone smile

Results

MOSTLY A’S: MASHED POTATOES

You’re classic, dependable, and loved by all. Everyone counts on you to keep things smooth and comforting.

MOSTLY B’S: STUFFING

You’re the life of the party—fun, flavorful, and full of surprises. You know how to make every gathering exciting.

MOSTLY C’S: SWEET POTATO CASSEROLE

You’re sweet, nostalgic, and maybe a little over the top (in the best way). You bring warmth and joy wherever you go.

MOSTLY D’S: GREEN BEAN CASSEROLE

A little quirky, but full of personality—you may not be everyone’s first choice, but those who love you REALLY love you.

10 Ways to Prepare Your Child for Preschool

by TMOM TEAM MEMBER DENNETTE BAILEY UPDATED BY SARAH MARCHWIANY

Starting preschool is a big milestone for kids, and it can be both exciting and emotional. This big transition marks a new environment, new friends and a new teacher which can bring about a mix of emotions for both parents and toddlers. Whether it’s your child’s very first day of preschool, or you’re preparing him or her for a new school year, having a plan in place can help make the big day a smooth and positive experience. Here are practical ways to prepare your toddler (and yourself) for this big change with patience, understanding and a focus on building new skills.

TAKE A TOUR BEFORE THE FIRST DAY

Before your child’s first day of preschool, arrange a visit to see the classroom and meet the new teacher. This helps them feel more comfortable in the new environment and reduces separation anxiety. Walking through the space, seeing where they will sit, play and do fun activities, and maybe meeting a few kids can make the first day feel less overwhelming. As you count down to the big day, talk about the things they saw – like the art station, playground or reading corner, so they start to feel excitement instead of uncertainty.

TALK ABOUT FEELINGS OPENLY

Preschool is a big change, and it’s normal for kids to experience a swirl of emotions – nervousness, excitement or even sadness. Let your toddler know that all emotions are important. Share stories about a time when you felt the same way and how you handled it. This not only validates their feelings but also teaches them that emotions are a normal part of any big transition. Acknowledging these emotions now can make drop-off much easier later.

CREATE A CONSISTENT SCHEDULE

A predictable schedule helps kids adjust more easily to preschool life. In the weeks before the big day, start waking up, eating breakfast and getting dressed around the same time they will for school. Include a special goodbye ritual for dropoff – like a unique handshake or a set number of hugs and kisses – so your child knows what to expect each morning. Let them know when you’ll be back, such as “after snack time” or “after nap” to give them a sense of timing and comfort.

PREPARE YOURSELF FOR DROP-OFF

Parents feel the emotions of a big change, too, and it’s important to prepare yourself for the first day of preschool. Prolonged goodbyes can make separation anxiety worse for both you and your toddler. Instead, keep drop-off short, calm and positive. Trust that the teacher is ready to comfort your child, and know that they will soon be engaged in fun activities and making new friends.

ORGANIZE SUPPLIES THE NIGHT BEFORE

A smooth morning starts the night before. Lay out clothes, pack snacks or lunch, if needed, and gather any required items like extra clothes or paperwork. Most preschools have rules about

what kids can bring from home, so check ahead to avoid disappointment. Having everything ready reduces stress for both you and your child, making the first day run more smoothly.

TEACH SELF SOOTHING SKILLS

While preschool teachers are great at offering comfort, it’s helpful for your child to have simple, self soothing strategies for moments they miss you. This could be a family photo on their cubby wall, a shirt with a picture of your family or a special kiss on the forehead before you leave. Talk about cozy corners, art supplies or other ways they can feel better when they’re sad. Practicing these strategies beforehand can build their independence and resilience.

READ BOOKS ABOUT PRESCHOOL

Introduce the concept of preschool through age-appropriate books that show kids having fun, making new friends and learning new skills. Reading together helps spark conversations and eases uncertainty. Titles like “The Night Before Preschool” or “Llama Llama Misses Mama” can make the experience feel familiar before it even begins.

ARRANGE PLAYDATES WITH FUTURE CLASSMATES

If possible, connect with families whose kids will attend the same preschool. A familiar face on the first day can be a huge comfort for a toddler in a new environment. Even one or two playdates before school starts can help your child feel more at ease during this big transition.

PRACTICE INDEPENDENCE AT HOME

Encourage your child to practice skills they’ll need in preschool, like putting on shoes, using the bathroom or washing hands. These new skills boost their confidence and make it easier for them to navigate their day without constant help.

TRUST YOUR DECISION

Choosing a preschool is a big step, and trusting your choice is important. Preschool helps children build independence, social skills and confidence. It allows them to follow directions from other adults, explore fun activities and develop friendships. Most importantly, it prepares them for the structure and expectations of kindergarten.

It’s a Grand Life Grand

Pets and Responsibility

by SUSAN WOODALL

While wondering what I was going to write about this month, I looked over to see our two dogs blissfully sleeping side by side. I then started reminiscing about all the pets I had been blessed with all my life. I am thankful that my parents were open to that.

My first recollection of a pet was a parakeet my sister was gifted and picked out at the pet store. Tweetie, as my sister named him, quickly became a family member. He was a beautiful shade of blue with dark gray and white feathers in his wings and head. He learned countless words, sometimes putting them in a funny order. We almost lost him one day when he flew out of my sister’s open window. Never expecting to get him back, my father appeased her by taking out a lost and found ad in the local paper. Surprisingly, we received a phone call from a lady who lived about a half mile away. While outside her home talking to a neighbor, Tweetie landed on her shoulder and proceeded to ask her “whatcha doing?” Fortunately, she had a parakeet, put Tweetie in the cage and looked to see if there was anyone looking for a lost parakeet. Stunned that he’d been found, windows were always checked before he was allowed out of his cage. He lived a long life, and we lost a much loved family member when he died.

Through the years, we raised baby ducks and a bunny (that went to live on a lovely farm), more parakeets, goldfish and dogs. While all of our family enjoyed each of these, they were my sister’s and my responsibility. It was a lesson that served us in many ways.

Our daughters grew up always having a dog around. The responsibility of a pet is a wonderful lesson that extends beyond the care of the animal. A young child can put their food dish down after it’s been filled. As they get older, the responsibilities grow. Not only to the care of the pet, but expectations of taking care of items that pertained to themselves, as well.

Our grandchildren have learned that they are part of a family and share in the chores appropriate to their age. Our youngest grandson can turn their playroom upside down while he creates incredible buildings, bridges, cars and trucks with a number of MAGNA-TILES®, Lego and blocks. His mom cleaned it up when he was a toddler, but as he aged, he helped, and now it is his job to put things away when he’s finished.

Teaching children to be responsible is a good life lesson. As a child, I had a weekly chore chart. It was simple tasks at first – pick up my toys and put them away, set the table for dinner, put my dirty clothes in the laundry hamper, make sure that whatever pets I was lucky to have had what they needed, etc. As I grew, there was no longer a chart, just expectations. I knew what was expected of me, not only at home, but school as well.

I have found that, with my grandchildren, they may forget to throw away a wrapper or put their dishes in the sink or dishwasher, but will if reminded. It’s really nice when you get the surprise of watching them feed their pets or empty the dishwasher without being asked.

Having a pet, whether it be a dog, cat, hamster, bunny, lizard, etc., is a great start in learning responsibility. Like all of us, they will find that all through their lives they will have responsibilities and need to be responsible. And, it is the adults in their lives that need to make sure they understand that.

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LOCAL EVENTS

*Event details are subject to change. Please check event websites & social media pages for updates as the dates draw near.*

NOW THROUGH NOVEMBER 23

(SATURDAYS AND SUNDAYS)

RENAISSANCE FESTIVAL

9:30am-5:30pm (rain or shine), 16445 Poplar Tent Road in Huntersville. The Carolina Renaissance Festival was introduced in 1994 with six acres of exhibits, attractions and entertainment. The event has grown into a 25acre theme park filled with charming cottages and castles, kitchens and pubs, and a most unusual collection of people powered rides, games of skill and immersive entertainments –all nestled in 325 acres of pristine woodlands just north of Charlotte. The Carolina event has grown to be one of the largest of the Renaissance Fairs nationwide. Visit carolina. renfestinfo.com/about-us for more information.

NOVEMBER 1

FIREFLY MARKET AT FOOTNOTE

11am-4pm, Footnote Coffee & Cocktails. An open-air market featuring local artists and makers showcasing handmade and repurposed items.

NOVEMBER 6

BOUTIQUE BACKSTAGE PASS: FLEET FEET WINSTON-SALEM

6-8pm, Fleet Feet Sports in W-S. Sip, snack and shop local during the final stop of Forsyth Woman’s first-ever Boutique Backstage Pass Tour! Enjoy exclusive deals, local vendors, giveaways and door prizes while you browse your favorite finds. Forsyth Woman will be onsite with gift card giveaways for shoppers

– and rumor has it, there may be espresso martinis. It’s the perfect night out to celebrate community, style and supporting local businesses. Don’t miss this exciting finale –come join the fun!

NOVEMBER 7

WICKED MOVIE NIGHT AT TRUIST STADIUM

6-8pm, Truist Stadium. Pink or green? Join the Dash, Candor Home Services, LLC and Candor Roofing, LLC for a special showing of the movie, Wicked. This is a free event! For every guest who attends, $1 will be donated to the WSFCS All In For Our Schools Campaign.

NOVEMBER 7-8

42ND ANNUAL COZY COTTAGE CRAFT SHOW

9am-8pm (7th); 9am-3pm (8th), Kernersville Community House, 405 Salisbury Street in Kernersville. Unique handcrafted gifts, home décor, jewelry, yard art, holiday decorations, baked goods and more. Proceeds from the raffle benefit Trellis Supportive Care. Free admission! For more information, visit CozyCottageChristmasCraftShow on Facebook or call 336.993.2260.

NOVEMBER 8

YOUR HOME MARKETPLACE CHRISTMAS FESTIVAL

9am-6pm, Your Home Marketplace, 670 S. Stratford Road in W-S. Come prepared to shop! It’s a great time to complete your gift buying, because every booth in Your

Home Marketplace’s 11,000 square foot showplace will feature a sale! Event begins at 9 AM (rather than the regular opening time of 10 AM). Peruse a beautiful and eclectic array of home decor and furnishings, vintage items and antiques, furniture, jewelry, clothing, Fusion Mineral paint, lots of gift ideas and much more! Bring family or friends and be sure to put your name in our gift certificate drawing box! Follow us on Facebook at “Your Home Marketplace” and on Instagram at “yhmwinston”.

NOVEMBER 8

ARDMORE ART WALK

11am-4:30pm, 501 Miller Street in W-S. A peaceful walk through one of W-S’s most beautifully unique neighborhoods. This event features local artists, live music and food trucks. Enjoy performances from local musicians and browse beautiful art. ardmoreartwalk.com

NOVEMBER 16

WALK TO END ALZHEIMER’S –WINSTON-SALEM

8am-5pm, Winston-Salem Fairgrounds. Now is the moment we’ve been waiting for. With new treatments emerging in the fight against Alzheimer’s, now is the time for hope. Now is the time for action. Help us keep the momentum going in your community at the Alzheimer’s Association Walk to End Alzheimer’s® -- WinstonSalem. For more information or to register, visit act.alz.org/WinstonSalem.

NOVEMBER 16, DECEMBER 14 & 21

TOUR POUR DU JOUR AT THE GRAYLYN ESTATE

4-6pm, The Graylyn Estate, 1900 Reynolda Road in W-S. Travel back in time as you learn about the Gray Family’s beginnings in W-S and learn more about the mysteries of The Graylyn Estate. Enjoy a guided tour of the Manor House while viewing the architectural gems of our estate. Cost: $60/person and includes appetizers and wine in our library. To book a tour or to make a dinner reservation, please call 336.758.2425. Tour Pour Du Jour reservations may also be made at the event link. Dinner reservations may be made on OpenTable.

NOVEMBER

22-23

PIEDMONT CRAFTSMEN’S 62ND ANNUAL FAIR

Times vary. Benton Convention Center, 301 W. 5th Street in W-S. Piedmont Craftsmen’s Fair is held annually in November the weekend before Thanksgiving. Since 1963, Piedmont Craftsmen’s Fair has celebrated quality craftsmanship and design. Each year, more than 100 artisans from across the U.S. showcase one-of-a-kind works in clay, wood, glass, fiber, leather, metal, photography, printmaking and mixed media -- both functional and beautiful. Tickets may be purchased at the door or online, and event parking is located at 527 North Cherry Street. piedmontcraftsmen.org/fair

NOVEMBER 28-29

MERRY MARKER MARKET

10am-4pm, Paul J. Ciener Botanical Garden. 215 S. Main Street in Kernersville. Our two-day event is sure to bring you smiles! There will be different vendors each day, so make sure you come out one or both days!

NOVEMBER 29

A CAROLINA CHRISTMAS: HOME FOR THE HOLIDAYS

7:30-8:30pm, R.J. Reynolds Auditorium, 301 N. Hawthorne Road in W-S. Music Director Michelle Merrill’s spin on traditional holiday favorites for orchestra and chorus features jazz and popular vocalist Tony DeSare, who brings jazz club intimacy, Carnegie Hall glamour and Vegas glitz right home to Reynolds on Thanksgiving weekend.

FUTURE

DECEMBER 6

CHRISTMAS AT BETHABARA

1:30-4:30pm, Historic Bethabara Park. Travel through time as we explore eighteenth and nineteenth century Christmas traditions in Old Town Bethabara. Explore the decorated 1788 Gemeinhaus and 1834 Log House; enjoy seasonal music from Duo Licht and a Moravian Brass Band; interact with 18th century craftsmen; meet Sister Anna Catharina (a lively first-person performance); and make a Christmas craft or two. Admission is free!

DECEMBER 6

2025 WS AMBASSADORS HOLIDAY PARADE

4:45-5:45pm, 4th Street at Poplar Street in Downtown W-S. The official event of the WS Ambassadors Holiday Parade!

JANUARY 7-FEBRUARY 28

DEAN ROLAND JOHNSON EXHIBIT

Salem College’s Elberson Fine Art Center. After receiving a MFA from Pratt Institute, he taught art in college for several years. During that time, he exhibited and received several museum purchase awards. While his professional journey has taken many paths, the common thread has been all things visual. This exhibit features botanical paintings inspired by his love of nature. Dean has been painting with passion since childhood.

The View from My Section – A Father’s Perspective

The Decade That Defines You: Building Life on Your Terms

by A. KEITH TILLEY

My niece is a twenty-something, postcollege graduate, already having embarked on a critical phase of her life. My twentysomething sons know all too well my philosophy that what you do in your twenties is critical and highly impacts where your life and career go from there. Simply put, where you start matters in life. Whether it’s a career, relationships or personal finances, you name it, this era of your life is vitally important. The problem is, how many of us, remembering back to this time, recall being incredibly wise in the area of decision making?

For several years now, I’ve been knee deep in advice and guidance for my two young men/ sons. In recent years, however, my sisterin-law’s two daughters, who are very close in age to my sons, have shown me that the female perspective on this very important decade of life – that being from age 20 to 30 – can be even more stressful and challenging. And, they’re right.

In this important span of time, both genders must decide on next steps towards further education and/or training, the ultimate career sector they wish to pursue, housing (be it rental or purchase), sudden accumulation of debt (education, insurance, automobile, credit cards, start-up costs including deposits, furniture and more) and how to manage it effectively, while maintaining a beneficial social life and sustainable friendships (now that everyone is beginning to go their own way). Notice I haven’t even mentioned intimate relationships which are so volatile in this era of life. They can either propel you to further heights or squash your ego and self esteem, requiring even more precious time to overcome. Treading this decade is like walking on onion-skin paper; each step you take risks breaking the fiber of what comes next.

For the females, however, there’s an added concern. As young women today aspire to accomplish the goals and objectives already mentioned, two other very important decisions weigh heavily on many young women’s minds. These, of course, are marriage and children. The men feel this as

well, but not at the same level of intensity most often, and not with the same physical barriers incumbent on delayed choices. So, take everything from the paragraph before, and add a spouse and children to the mix of decision-making in this 10-year period and you have potentially one big ball of stress, walking around masquerading as a confident, intelligent, alpha-female, who knows where she’s going and exactly how she’s going to get there. And I thought raising sons was tough. I know my sister-inlaw’s cellphone is a lifeline for the day-to-day struggles her daughters have to navigate.

Now that I’ve presented a picture resembling The Scream (by Norwegian artist Edvard Munch), I probably should offer some well meaning advice on circumnavigating this treacherous terrain. The answers are not much different than what we all should be doing routinely in our lives. First, avoid letting social media envy affect your desire and motivation to shape your own course. Exercise, eat healthy, try yoga, meditation and other healthy options that make you feel good. Join sports leagues, special interest groups, volunteer – basically all things that get you out of the house and increase healthy social connections. Never stop learning; continue to gain insights into things that will help shape your life in the direction you want. Keep your skills sharp, especially those in the field in which you aspire to grow. If possible and available, find a mentor to guide you in the areas of your life where you need help the most. During this period, the problem is also the solution – always be looking ahead. Sure, it can bring worry, but it can also bring careful thought and consideration that avoids the typical pitfalls of procrastination. You won’t do everything right, most likely, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s wrong. It’s just a different path. Maya Angelou said, “Do the best you can until you know better; once you know better, do better.”

Also essential, understand and realize that, although this period is important for your future, you still have the opportunity afterwards to mend mistakes, change directions if needed, further enhance your

skills and knowledge, and find that special someone. As Maya advised, “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” As for the past, “The past can hurt...you can either run from it or learn from it.” ~ The Lion King

Finally, squeeze all the juice you can out of this moment. “If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it.” ~ Harvey MacKay. And, don’t be afraid. “You can’t be that kid at the top of the water slide, overthinking it. You have to go down the chute.” ~ Tina Fey

As for my niece, mentioned earlier, over the last few years, she has celebrated college graduation, an engagement, a flourishing career in the security and legal field, and recently purchased her first home. Congratulations, Kinsey; to quote AJR, “Don’t turn around kid, you know what you’re doing.”

Musical Selection: AJR - The Big Goodbye (Official Video) [Warning: brief strong language.]

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