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This photo will always hold a special place in my heart—my mom holding our very first issue and me holding our 20th anniversary issue. From September 2005 to September 2025… wow, what a journey it’s been!
Our 20th Anniversary Celebration was truly a night to remember. A huge thank you to our readers, advertisers, family, friends, and community—this magazine simply wouldn’t be possible without all of you. Be sure to check out pages 74-77 for fun photos from the event and special shout-outs to the vendors and sponsors who helped make it all happen. We’re so grateful!
This month, we’re honored to feature Family Services of Forsyth County on our cover. Did you know they’re the oldest charitable organization in Winston-Salem, founded in 1905? Family Services has some exciting news to share about their One Step Closer campaign—an initiative to build a larger, safer shelter for domestic violence victims. Learn more about this incredible organization and the impact they’re making in our community beginning on page 52.
Speaking of nonprofits, November is National Hospice and Palliative Care Month. We’ve worked closely with Trellis Supportive Care for many years, and this organization is near and dear to my heart. My uncle spent his final days in the Kate B. Reynolds Hospice Home, and Trellis does remarkable work to make end-of-life care compassionate and meaningful—through music and art therapy, pet therapy, and so much more. Read their story on page 32.
Of course, November also means Thanksgiving—and I can’t imagine the holiday without dessert from MidTown Café & Dessertery! My personal favorite is the chocolate chip cheesecake, but honestly, I’d never turn down a slice of their pumpkin pie. You’ll find them on page 38.
Happy Birthday to Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics, celebrating 17 years this month! Dr.
Summer and her team are truly the best—I trust them completely with my skin care, Botox, filler, facials, and all things medical-grade glow. Stop by their celebration on November 7 and check them out on page 39.
And I’m so excited that Jodie Brim’s Holiday Experience is benefiting LEAD Girls of NC again this year! It’s happening December 11 at The Crest in Winston-Salem, and trust me—this event will sell out fast. Don’t wait to grab your tickets (page 41)!
November also kicks off our Holiday Gift Guide, one of my favorite annual traditions. We love spotlighting local businesses and sharing gift ideas that make your shopping meaningful and fun. Head to page 68 for some incredible finds and don’t miss next month’s December issue for even more local inspiration!
Wishing you a wonderful Thanksgiving and a month filled with gratitude, community, and joy.
All my best,
Brooke Culler, @brooke__culler Publisher
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For many diagnosed with scoliosis, the most common advice sounds all too familiar – “watch and wait.”
Doctors may suggest monitoring your spinal curve until it progresses enough to require a brace or, in some cases, surgery. But, what happens in the meantime? For most, those years of waiting come with growing discomfort, muscle compensations and limited options for proactive care.
That’s exactly where ScolioPilates® at Inner Strength Pilates comes in – a groundbreaking, movement-based program led by Amy Dixon, the area’s only authorized ScolioPilates® practitioner and one of just two in the entire state of North Carolina. With more than 30 years of expertise in Pilates, post-rehab and Neuromuscular Reprogramming, Amy offers a fresh, empowering path for scoliosis management.
A PERSONALIZED START
No two spines are alike, and scoliosis is no exception. Each client begins with a comprehensive evaluation that includes X-ray review and education, functional assessments and muscle testing. Amy doesn’t just look at the numbers – she helps you understand what your specific curve means for your body and your lifestyle. From there, she designs a corrective program tailored to your needs, so you leave not only with answers, but with a clear plan forward, as well.
Finding Strength in Movement:
How ScolioPilates® is Changing the Game for Men & Women with Scoliosis
PROGRESS YOU CAN FEEL
Instead of one-size-fits-all exercises, ScolioPilates® is built as a structured series of sessions, each layering on new tools and techniques. These sessions focus on correcting muscle imbalances, improving postural alignment and teaching scoliosisspecific, three-dimensional exercises. Between appointments, Amy assigns simple homework routines that reinforce progress and begin reshaping everyday movement patterns.
The result? Clients often feel lighter, taller and stronger – because they’re not just exercising, they’re rewiring how their body supports itself.
MOVING SAFELY, MOVING SMART
Another key piece of ScolioPilates® is learning what not to do. Daily Movement Guidance is a cornerstone of the program:
You’ll receive clear guidance on which movements to avoid:
• Rotations, side-bending and excessive backbending
• Repetitive motions under weight that can further distort spinal alignment
Instead, we teach safe, supportive alternatives designed to stabilize and rebalance your spine.
Amy also gives practical tips on movements that may worsen scoliosis, replacing them with safe, spine-supportive alternatives designed to stabilize and rebalance your posture. That kind of education is priceless – it empowers clients to move with confidence both in and out of the studio.
TEAM-BASED CARE
Amy also believes scoliosis care shouldn’t happen in a silo. She collaborates directly with physical therapists, chiropractors and surgeons, ensuring your care team is on the same page. This holistic,
team-driven approach means every effort is working toward the same goal – your strength, comfort and long-term spinal health.
WHY IT WORKS
ScolioPilates® is unique because it looks beyond the spine itself. It focuses on the muscle system, functional movement and three-dimensional correction. This combination helps prevent compensations from deepening and supports stronger, healthier postural muscles over time. And, unlike the passive “wait-and-see” model, it makes the client an active participant in his or her own care.
A LOCAL EXPERT WITH GLOBAL TRAINING
What sets Amy apart isn’t just her rare credentials, but her passion for lifelong learning, as well. Alongside ScolioPilates®, she holds certifications in Polestar Pilates and Neuromuscular Reprogramming – powerful tools she blends into every program. Her decades of experience mean she knows when to challenge, when to support and how to adapt the practice to fit everyone’s unique story.
For people living with scoliosis, the choice doesn’t have to be between waiting and surgery. With Amy Dixon and ScolioPilates®, the choice can be movement, education and empowerment.
Learn more or book an evaluation at innerstrengthpilatesnc.com or by calling 336.813.5320.
Balanced:
JUGGLING PERSONAL GOALS, FAMILY AND CAREER – THE HARMONY AT THAT MOMENT IS ALL THAT MATTERS
by JOY NELSON THOMAS
In today’s fast-paced world, “balance” often feels like a myth. There have been times I’ve even been guilty of believing it’s not even a real thing!
I’ll never forget a season when I was racing from T-Ball practice with my then three-yearold son to late night work with my laptop open on the kitchen counter while dinner simmered on the stove. I thought balance meant juggling it all flawlessly. But, in the middle of that chaos, my son walked up and said, “You have to work again.” In that moment, I realized balance wasn’t about doing everything, it was about being fully present where I was.
We are constantly pulled in multiple directions. Personal ambitions, family responsibilities and career goals all demand our attention. Yet, over the years, I’ve come to realize that balance isn’t about doing it all perfectly. It’s about embracing harmony in each moment. I know you’re wondering, what does that mean? I’m glad you asked, holding onto the delicate moments of calm that keep us grounded.
LET’S THROW THE PERFECT BALANCE MYTH OUT THE WINDOW
We often imagine balance as a steady scale: equal parts career, family and self, neatly aligned at all times. But, real life is much messier than that! That’s too easy. I’ve come
to realize that we must embrace it and enjoy harmony during that moment. A work deadline might require our full attention for a week. A family crisis may demand immediate care. And personal goals, those deeply personal pursuits of passion or self growth, might be in the passenger seat for months. Trying to have it all simultaneously can lead to guilt, burnout and the false belief that something is “wrong” with us when the scales tip.
Here’s the truth: balance isn’t a formula, it’s a flow.
Some days it looks like you are putting your career first because a deadline calls. Other days, it’s dropping everything for family. And sometimes, it’s carving out a little sacred space for yourself. Balance is about listening to the rhythm of your own life and giving yourself permission to shift with it.
EMBRACING THE RHYTHM OF LIFE
Instead of seeking perfection, I’ve learned to embrace the rhythm of life. Balance is less about splitting things evenly and more about being truly present where you are, whether at work, at home or in your personal pursuits. That might mean reading a bedtime story with your child before finishing a work email or celebrating a small career victory while postponing a personal project for a day.
If you’re wondering how to practice this, start small.
• Give yourself five minutes of stillness before your day begins.
• Celebrate little wins instead of waiting for the “big” ones.
• Learn the power of “no” so that your “yes” can be more meaningful.
Balance isn’t about perfection, it’s about presence. And presence is built in these small choices.
BEING PRESENT IS A GIFT
Presence transforms how we experience balance. When we focus on the task, person or moment at hand, we invite a sense of harmony that transcends schedules and expectations. That quiet morning tea before emails, the laughter shared at dinner or a few uninterrupted minutes of reflection are the pauses that ground us and bring harmony.
This is where a sense of balance begins to take root.
So, maybe balance isn’t something we “find” once and for all. Maybe it’s something we create, moment by moment. My hope for you is that you pause long enough to notice the harmony already woven into your days. The laughter, the quiet cup of tea, the small victories – these are not interruptions, they are balance. And they are enough.
Until next time, enjoy the journey and the harmony.
Keeping It Real
IS CONVENIENCE CRIPPLING US?
by DR. DEBBIE LANIER
Remember life without microwaves and dishwashers? What about those days of clotheslines and push mowers?
Some of you young chicks cannot fathom a time before air fryers and air pods. Toting an outdated iPhone feels akin to the Dark Ages. (You make me feel so old!)
Entrepreneurs spend an inordinate amount of time creating new gadgets and platforms to make the daily grind easier. AI apps can now do everything from creating customized resumes to translating languages on the spot…in your own voice! It’s truly unfathomable how quickly such inventions have radically replaced our need to do hard things.
I LOVE comfort and convenience that seemed impossible a generation ago. Efficiency is my middle name!
But, the more I watch the world around me, the more concerned I become about the toll it’s taking on us.
As we seek to make life easier, we inadvertently teach a generation that adversity is harmful. We avoid it at all costs! Most millennials would rather take the long way home than tackle daunting situations. We now appropriate the word “trauma” for nearly any discomfort.
It leaves me asking, “What effect does adversity have on us as humans?”
Stay with me. German psychologists tested two groups of rats. Researchers fed the first group each day with no striving involved. They “compassionately” laid the food before the rats. It was theirs for the taking.
For the second group, these scholars created a maze. The rats struggled to obtain their food. And…every day, the scientists altered the maze, so the rats
could not predict tomorrow’s pursuit. They faced adversity daily simply to survive!
When the examiners compared both groups, they discovered something shocking. Confronting difficulty resulted in no harm whatsoever to the second group. Quite the opposite, the rats forced to solve problems and face hardships actually lived six months longer than those having everything handed to them. Y’ALL! In rat years, that’s a whole lifetime!
Are you getting this? Though we avoid hard things like the plague, facing challenges makes us stronger! It lengthens our lives!
Parents, are you connecting the dots? We love our children so much that we instinctively rush in to alleviate any pain and suffering. But, are we helping them or ultimately harming them?
Of course, we never stand by while our children experience real danger. I’m NOT suggesting that! But, I AM saying, perhaps we rush in to rescue too quickly in too many situations. Maybe our children (AND WE!) need to discipline ourselves for daily difficulties instead of always taking the easy way out!
We remember great heroes of history precisely because they didn’t take shortcuts. They confronted adversity. They tackled problems instead of avoiding them. As a result, it lengthened their lives!
My own living consistently proves that the opposition I initially resist the most often brings the greatest blessing.
What are you facing right now that you’d rather scoot around? What if
you chose to forego immediate comfort and intentionally do hard things?
Facing challenges looks different for all of us. Maybe it’s sitting around your Thanksgiving table with people who see the world completely differently. Perhaps it’s demonstrating love to a seemingly unlovable co-worker.
What about awakening earlier to read Scriptures that renew your mind or staying up later to read books that make you better?
What hard thing will you confront today? Overcoming hard things works for your good, never to your detriment.
It’s time to strengthen your resolve. Choose one hard thing today, and make sure you keep choosing it tomorrow, too! It will lengthen your life! Live like an overcomer!
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Sarah Bridges PEOPLE OF PROMINENCE SERIES
“Individual commitment to a group effort – that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work.”
~ Vince Lombardi
Sarah Bridges is the Chief Experience Officer for NC Fusion. She is a stalwart and bright daily presence who leads the charge for everything NC Fusion promotes. She is in place to help with “building athletes who thrive beyond the game.” Her journey and intentions are discussed below.
TALK
ABOUT WHERE YOU GREW UP AND YOUR SPORTING PATH AS A YOUNGSTER.
I’m a Winston-Salem native. While born in Blacksburg, VA, we moved south when I was a toddler and laid roots. Fortunately, my whole family is still here – my parents and my brother’s family. Despite moving around a bit as an adult, Winston-Salem has always been home.
Having an athletic older brother who was into any and everything sports related set the tone for my own sports journey as I wanted to do everything he did. We were sports junkies playing everything in the neighborhood from soccer and basketball to roller hockey and tennis.
On the competitive sports front, I started early in gymnastics, basketball, swimming and soccer. I later played volleyball as well for my school but, as the years passed, soccer and basketball became the joys of my sporting journey.
WHAT DOES YOUR ROLE AS CXO ENTAIL?
While it may be an unusual name in the sports world, it really does speak to what I do as I’m responsible for the experience of all stakeholders in the organization – our players, our parents and our staff. Essentially, I oversee the programs we provide and the people who are involved.
by MICHAEL JOHNSON
WERE YOU ALWAYS DESTINED FOR A LEADERSHIP ROLE IN SPORTS OR WERE THERE OTHER INITIAL
INCLINATIONS?
Honestly, we’re all destined for leadership, aren’t we? We’re all leading others in one way or another – whether we want to or not. Whether it’s our peers or our kids or our neighbors, I feel confident that someone is always watching each of us and either striving to be more or less like us. With that in mind, I’d say yes, I was always going to land in a leadership role in the sports space in some capacity – whether coaching at varying levels or in a position like I’m in now. Leadership is a weighty responsibility, and we all have it. It’s what we do with it that’s up to each of us. I can only hope that I’m having some kind of positive impact regardless of the role in which I’m serving.
WHAT ARE THE IDEALS FUSION HAS FOR PLAYERS, PARENTS AND OFFICIALS?
The Core Values of NC Fusion are the heartbeat of who we are, and when our staff leads by example in this space, we hope and have experienced that there’s an overflow of impact into our players and families. We hire (and even fire) by these values, so they really do set the tone of the expectation within our organization, and the trickle down effect is palpable as it’s become part of our actions and language from top to bottom.
Core Values: Model the Mission. Be Accountable. Care Deeply. Sweep the Sheds. Communicate Well. Invest in Your Development.
WHAT ARE THINGS TO CELEBRATE IN FUSION’S JOURNEY, AND WHAT ARE SOME THINGS ALWAYS TO IMPROVE UPON?
There’s certainly much to celebrate as we’ve witnessed countless players and staff have significant impact in the community presently but also move on from their youth sports journeys to thrive in whatever their future holds – whether that’s athletically, academically or in the community – within their families, in the work force, etc. That’s the goal, right? Impacting all stakeholders so that they’re prepared for whatever comes next. Having been a part of the organization for 12 years, it’s been a joy to watch that happen in real time.
One of the things that I love about NC Fusion is the collective spirit to always improve and be a pioneer in the youth sports space. We are never satisfied knowing there is always space to get better and more opportunity to provide a deeper impact for our players, families and staff. Through seasons, as an organization, we consistently reflect and review with a mindset of improvement just like a coach does for their team after a training day or game weekend. While we have improved upon multiple things this year from the last, the expectation will be the same for next year and so on.
SPEAK TO THE IMPORTANCE OF YOUTH SPORTS.
I’m a firm believer that there may be no better teacher of life than a youth sports environment. There’s something about the safe space of a team, a coach and a competitive environment that creates tremendous opportunity to develop life skills if we let it – resilience, grit, work ethic, effective communication, collaboration, how to lose, how to win, etc.
Youth sports also can become a universal language for all of us. Regardless of our backgrounds, language or journeys, we can share a court, a ball or a field, and the environment is leveled and protected. Sports are a powerful tool that organically creates community.
WHAT DOES THE FUTURE HOPEFULLY HOLD FOR FUSION?
Since you said hopefully, I so hope the future for NC Fusion – in the simplest terms – is a lifelong community impact. That the mission of NC Fusion would continue to be deepened and elevated so that the community and the people of the Triad (and beyond) are better because the organization is here.
Should I Pay Off My Mortgage? Making Dollars, Making $ense
BY JON MARZANO, AIF®, MANAGING PRINCIPAL
Being unsure whether to pay off your mortgage or not is a good problem to have. It means you have significant savings and have afforded yourself some choices. While the idea of being debt-free is appealing to many, there are also compelling reasons to keep your mortgage. Let’s explore both sides of the debate to help you make an informed decision.
THE CASE FOR PAYING OFF YOUR MORTGAGE
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Financial Confidence
There is a certain financial confidence that comes with knowing your home is fully paid off. It also offers a sense of accomplishment as you’ve reached the end of a major financial commitment.
Return on Investment
Paying off your mortgage offers a return equivalent to your mortgage interest rate. For example, if your mortgage rate is 4%, you’re essentially getting a 4% return, if you save the same amount, as you’re now done with that obligation.
Reducing Financial Risk
By eliminating your mortgage, you reduce the risk of financial strain if your income decreases or if you face unexpected expenses. This can be particularly important for those approaching retirement.
Simplified Finances
Paying off your mortgage simplifies your financial life. With one less bill to worry about, budgeting becomes more straightforward and you free up mental bandwidth to focus on other financial goals. Keep in mind, if you are currently taking a tax deduction for interest on your mortgage and you pay it off, your deduction will go away along with your payment.
THE CASE FOR KEEPING YOUR MORTGAGE
Opportunity for Higher Returns
One of the primary arguments against paying off your mortgage is the potential for higher returns elsewhere. Historically, the stock market has delivered average annual returns that exceed most mortgage interest rates. To be fair, the S&P index has averaged more than 10% a year for the last 30 years which would exceed the interest rate being charged on most mortgages during that same time period.
Maintaining Liquidity
Tax Benefits
For those who itemize deductions, mortgage interest can be tax-deductible, reducing the overall cost of your loan. Although the tax benefits of mortgage interest have decreased with recent changes in tax laws, they are still worth pursuing.
Low Interest Rates
If you locked in a low interest rate, you might want to hang on to it. Rather than paying off a low rate mortgage, you might prefer to use your money for other investments, lifestyle upgrades or even keeping it in savings for future needs.
Paying off your mortgage ties up a significant amount of money in an illiquid asset. If you need access to cash for an emergency or investment opportunity, having funds invested in accessible accounts can be very helpful.
Ultimately, the decision to pay off your mortgage early depends on your individual financial situation, goals and comfort level with debt. If your primary goal is financial independence and financial confidence, paying off your mortgage might be the right choice for you. However, if you are comfortable managing debt and see potential for higher returns through investing, keeping your mortgage may make more sense. 2 3 4 1 2 3 4
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UNCSA to Present 60th Season of “The Nutcracker” at the Tanger Center
The sweetest holiday tradition returns to the Piedmont Triad for its 60th season this December when the University of North Carolina School of the arts (UNCSA) presents its beloved production of “The Nutcracker.” For the third year, “The Nutcracker” will take place at the Steven Tanger Center for the Performing Arts in Greensboro while the Stevens Center in Winston-Salem, the traditional home of “The Nutcracker,” continues to undergo a comprehensive renovation. “The Nutcracker” is presented by Flow Automotive.
The temporary move to the Tanger Center provides students with the unique experience of mounting and performing a production in a 3,000-seat, state-of-the-art venue a short distance from UNCSA. UNCSA will offer five performances of “The Nutcracker” December 5 through 7. Opening night will be Friday, December 5, with a performance at 7:30 p.m. On Saturday, December 6, there will be a matinee at noon and an evening performance at 7:30 p.m. Sunday, December 7, will include 1 p.m. and 6:30 p.m. shows.
Featuring a magical collaboration of the UNCSA schools of Dance, Design & Production and Music, this beloved tale will come to life at the Tanger Center through Ilya Kozadayev’s captivating choreography and Tchaikovsky’s timeless score—performed live by the UNCSA Symphony Orchestra, conducted by alumnus Felipe Tristán.
“We are so pleased to be able to perform ‘The Nutcracker’ at the Tanger Center again this year,” UNCSA School of Dance Dean Endalyn T. Outlaw said. “It is our honor to provide our students with the experience of creating and performing in this fantastic venue, and to welcome loyal patrons from the Winston-Salem area as well as new audiences from Greensboro and beyond. We can’t wait for opening night on December 5!”
“We are delighted to host UNCSA’s production of the ‘The Nutcracker’ once again this holiday season,” said Scott Johnson, Oak View Group General Manager for the Tanger Center. “For the last two years, ‘The Nutcracker’ has been one of highlights of the Tanger Center’s schedule. We love watching the UNCSA students experience and learn from performing at our venue. We are also thrilled to be able to offer the Greensboro community the opportunity to enjoy this very entertaining and high-quality production that is traditionally hosted in Winston-Salem.”
Create unforgettable memories with family and friends at UNCSA’s “The Nutcracker” while celebrating the upcoming holiday season with wonder, whimsy and dance! Tickets for “The Nutcracker” begin at $39 (taxes and fees not included) and can be purchased at TangerCenter.com. Optional upgrades include on-site VIP parking, Lee & Wrangler Lounge access and the Tanger Center’s pre-event Prelude Dining experience for select performances. More information about “The Nutcracker” can be found at uncsa.edu/nutcracker.
Introducing the Healing Power of Halotherapy aeracura salons
by MARTIE EMORY, photos by MEGAN SMITH PHOTOGRAPHY
Appreciated for more than a decade as a place for authentic self care and empowerment – and where clients are valued as family –Aeracura Salons is adding yet another inspired experience to their impressive services.
Owner and Master Stylist Christi Bradham and her husband, Zach, have created a private salt cave in the Clemmons spa location.
“This unique Halotherapy room will provide guests with an immersive wellness experience, offering countless benefits to their overall health,” shares Christi. “The Himalayan salt used in the space contains 84 trace minerals and, with the support of a specialized halogenerator, concentrated salt particles are released into the air. These tiny particles, when inhaled or absorbed through the skin, can help support the immune system, improve athletic performance, breathing and skin health, reduce stress and promote better sleep. Everything is anti-microbial and anti-bacterial –enhancing your overall well being.”
Also known as dry salt therapy – Eastern Europeans recognized the benefits of salt as early as the 12th century. Today, Halotherapy offers a wide variety of benefits:
RESPIRATORY
• Opens the bronchial tubes in the lungs, helps to reduce inflammation in the sinuses and small airways.
• Breaks up and clears mucus.
• Increases PH level – reduces acidity.
• Beneficial for those with allergies, asthma, chronic bronchitis, COPD, hay fever, cystic fibrosis, sinusitis, smoker’s cough, various acute or chronic respiratory diseases, snoring and sleep-related problems – even the everyday cold and flu.
SKIN
• Naturally triggers skin microcirculation and membrane activity.
• Enhances skin’s protective and reparative properties.
• Helps with eczema and psoriasis.
• Fortifies skin’s protective barrier and stimulates microcirculation.
• Can normalize skin’s pH-balance.
• Promotes healthy tissue regeneration.
• Clears impacted follicles to prevent acne formation.
• Reduces inflammatory, anti-bacterial and anti-edematous effects.
ATHLETIC PERFORMANCE
• Expands the airways for increased lung functions and capacity – therefore enhancing performance.
• Increases oxygen aturation and exchange.
• Helps with muscle endurance and recovery.
Halotherapy can also greatly relieve the swelling and pain that is common with ear infections by penetrating the ear canal with salt particles. Salt, as an anti-bacterial and anti-inflammatory agent, reduces the swelling of the tubes in your ear, allowing the fluid to drain.
Aeracura Salons continues to be fully dedicated to supporting their guests’ complete wellness regimen – hair, skin and massage – and the team is thrilled to bring these new offerings to their Clemmons location.
“We’ve also recently added a new head spa experience in a private treatment room, exclusively featuring luxurious Aveda products. Each treatment can be customized to meet the unique needs of the scalp and hair, ensuring the experience is both deeply relaxing and beneficial,” she adds. “We look forward to welcoming guests to experience these beautiful new additions and continuing to provide the high level of care our community has come to expect.”
Christi will tell you she’s beyond grateful that her team of talented, passionate professionals strives every day to nurture all-important lasting relationships with every client!
“We’re also celebrating two milestones this year – 10 years at our Reynolda salon and five years at the Clemmons salon and spa. As a family owned and operated business, these anniversaries mean so much to us,” Christi shares.
Upgrade your own self care routine with a visit to Aeracura Salon located at 101A Reynolda Village in Winston-Salem, 336.448.0792, or Aeracura Salon & Spa located at 6265 Town Center Drive in Clemmons, 336.448.2044.
Follow them online at aeracurasalon.com and on Instagram @aeracurasalon and @ aeracurasalonwest. Salon hours at both locations are Tuesday through Friday 10 am – 8 pm and Saturday 9 am – 5 pm.
A Backward Glance at youthful wisdom
by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON
The card arrived not entirely unexpected – a touching love note from an old, dear friend with whom I’d recently reconnected at our high school reunion. The envelope bore a tad more weight, I noticed upon retrieving it. Probably an inspirational poem, or maybe a black and white photo from back in the day. Wouldn’t that be a hoot?
After reading my friend’s heart-stirring words, I reached for what she had included – not a backin-the-day sentimental relic, but a joyous reunion photo of us, and something more – a lined, faded piece of yellow writing paper with the dates: 10/6/75 – 10/7/75. Fifty years ago! I stared with startled recognition at the somewhat familiar cursive handwriting and braced myself. It read:
“Life consists of unpaved roads, fringed with the thorns of all that has gone before. But once does each man venture Life’s Road, believing always that each obstruction that makes him stumble and falter, each deviously concealed pitfall is uniquely his own. But, there comes a revelation – a time when he no longer looks upon the thorns of his sorrow with self-pitying eyes. No sorrow is a new sorrow as each pitfall, each obstruction, each thorn has existed since time inconceivable. All men share in the unity of their sorrows.”
I paused in my reading, caught up in a complex mix of emotion and memory, then read on.
“And always, there are friends to pave over the pitfalls, remove the obstructions with loving hands and pluck the numerous thorns from the wounded skin...consolation, understanding, compassion, love. So, life goes on, along the winding path, over the hills and plains, converging with the open, waiting arms of warm Mother Sun. To feel her embrace is to come to know the unity of all men – in love as in sorrow – because no man is born without inevitably travelling life’s unpaved roads.”
I placed the card and the unexpected, handwritten musing on the smooth surface of my 19th century sideboard, alongside a card and a glass Venetian shoe, courtesy of a more recent friend. That singular space serves as a shrine of sorts – a place of reverence and gratitude, an evolving homage to steadfast friendships.
And I thought...
Back in 1975, that “too serious” young woman must have intuited the priceless role that enduring friendship would play on the unpaved roads of her own life – offering “consolation, understanding, compassion, love.” But, she had yet to fully experience, yet to learn, just how much her cup would be filled and refilled with the steady and unexpected joys of friendship – much like the welcome embrace of warm Mother Sun! Much like the card in the mail, the photo and my 17-year-old “wisdom musings.” My etched-in-time smile lines are surely proof.
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CELEBRATING 70 YEARS OF COMPASSION: Cancer Services, Inc. in Winston-Salem
This year marks a monumental milestone for Cancer Services, Inc., the Triad’s community of caring for people facing cancer. For seven decades, Cancer Services has been a beacon of hope, providing unwavering financial, physical and emotional support to individuals navigating the challenges of a cancer diagnosis. Since its inception in 1955, the organization has touched the lives of thousands, and under the leadership of Chief Executive Officer Tara O’Brien, for the past 30 years, its impact has only grown stronger.
Cancer Services’ dedication to excellence has been recognized through numerous accolades, including the Joel A. and Claudette B. Weston Award for Excellence in Nonprofit Management in 2001, 2011 and 2021. Additionally, the organization maintains a Platinum Seal of Transparency from GuideStar, the highest nonprofit ranking, demonstrating its commitment to accountability and impact.
A LEGACY OF CARE
Founded in 1955 as a local independent nonprofit from a committee of medical professionals from both of our local medical centers, Cancer Services has a mission of “enhancing health, life and survivorship” of individuals affected by cancer. With this start, we are unique in our community, demonstrating a focus on what survivors and families in our community need. Our agency has continually evolved to meet the changing needs of patients and their families. Delivered by a Patient Advocate Team, led by Patient Advocate Director Melissa Lyle-Nipper, MSW, direct patient services are designed to uniquely meet our community’s needs. Today, the organization provides a comprehensive range of services, including transportation assistance, access to vital medications and equipment, home health equipment and survivorship programs – all completely free of charge to anyone with any form of cancer.
Beyond physical support, Cancer Services recognizes the emotional and financial
burden that comes with a cancer diagnosis. Through patient advocacy, support groups and direct financial aid, the organization ensures that no one has to face cancer alone.
In 2024, Cancer Services made a significant difference in the lives of cancer survivors and their families:
• 3,248 Cancer Survivors & Families Served
• $4,980 of Patient Advocate Assistance Provided DAILY
• 1,610 Transportation Trips Provided for Patient Treatments
• 91% of Annual Expenses Directed to Direct Services
• $1,244,914 in Secured Medication & Financial Assistance
• 3,159 Clients Participated in 430 Survivor Wellness Programs
• 746 Hours of Watch Time on the Cancer Dietitian YouTube Channel
• 7,564 Cancer Survivors & Caregivers Subscribed to CancerDietitian.com
• 5,418 Pieces of Equipment, Medications & Supplies Provided to Patients
THE IMPACT OF WELLNESS PROGRAMS
Cancer Services is dedicated to addressing not just the physical needs of cancer patients but also their overall well being. The organization’s nutrition and art and wellness programs provide cancer survivors with essential tools to improve their quality of
life. Nutritional support helps patients maintain strength and manage treatment side effects, while art and wellness programs foster emotional healing, reduce stress and promote mental well being. These programs empower survivors to regain a sense of control, build community and find joy throughout their cancer journey. By integrating holistic care approaches, Cancer Services enhances the resilience and overall health of those it serves.
A key leader in Cancer Services’ wellness efforts is Julie Lanford, the community engagement director for Cancer Services – a registered dietitian, licensed nutritionist and board certified specialist in oncology nutrition. She developed CancerDietitian.com, a healthy living website for Cancer Services that translates evidence-based nutrition guidelines into consumer friendly messages for everyday life. The site reaches thousands of people across the country who are interested in cancer nutrition and the most current topics on healthy lifestyle in our culture.
HOW YOU CAN SUPPORT
The success of Cancer Services in the past 70 years has been made possible by the generosity of donors, sponsors and volunteers. As we commemorate this special anniversary, we invite the community to join us in supporting Cancer Services’ mission. Whether through a donation, sponsorship or volunteering your time, every contribution makes a meaningful difference.
To learn more about Cancer Services, Inc. visit CancerServicesOnline.org or call (336) 760-9983.
Let us celebrate 70 years of compassion, resilience and community as we look forward to a brighter future together.
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TRELLIS SUPPORTIVE CARE EMBRACING BODY, MIND & SPIRIT
by MARTIE EMORY
With November marking the celebration of National Hospice and Palliative Care Month, there’s no better time to explore the heartfelt work that takes place every single day at Trellis Supportive Care in WinstonSalem.
This year’s theme for the month of recognition – “We See the Whole You” –truly encompasses the Hospice mission of caring for the body but also nourishing the mind and spirit.
“Unlike anything else in healthcare, Hospice cares for not only a patient’s physical symptoms, but also the wholeness of the individual,” explains Trellis Supportive Care CEO Dr. Michael Lalor. “Most of the individuals we care for are part of a larger system at home – and our Hospice team really cares for the entire family unit – however they identify –and supports them fully.”
To nurture the mind, spirit and overall well being of the patient, complementary therapies add a unique dimension to the total care plan created by their interdisciplinary team. Provided by trained staff, volunteers and interns, these are non-invasive therapies such as music, art, massage and pet therapy, all utilized to give care and comfort beyond a patient’s physical needs.
A licensed massage therapist can provide gentle touch support and energy-based therapies that increase a patient’s physical comfort. These therapists address pain, anxiety, sleeplessness and isolation – all based on each patient’s unique circumstances.
Music therapists also work with patients at every stage of Hospice care using a variety of experiences that include listening to live music, songwriting and even improvisation. Especially in Hospice care, music therapy has always been a powerful tool for emotional and spiritual support, and the board certified music therapists at Trellis find music decreases anxiety and pain, and promotes relaxation.
With the option of pet therapy, patients and families can enjoy a visit with a volunteer and one of their highly trained animal companions. Animal assisted therapy can be an immensely soothing and comforting experience for patients feeling scared and anxious.
In addition to a chaplain – who is always a valued member of every interdisciplinary team – social workers are also available to assist patients and families with resources and support. That special bond and communication can be pivotal in overall comfort and well being.
When asked what he feels is most inspirational about the staff at Trellis Supportive Care, Dr. Lalor emphasizes their level of compassion that is simply immeasurable.
“One hundred percent of our people here – whether it’s those at the bedside or those working behind the scenes – are absolutely here for the right reasons,” he adds.
Senior Director of Public Relations Ann Gauthreaux explains how the staff goes above and beyond to seek out what’s really meaningful in the lives of each patient.
“For example, we recently had a patient who had restored cars, and we arranged for his family to bring his cars to the parking lot so he could enjoy them!” she shares. “Another couple had planned an anniversary trip to Paris they never got to take because the wife became ill. Our staff recreated an authentic Parisian scene in one of the rooms – with a bistro table and Eiffel Tower posters – to make that moment incredibly personal for them. Those extra efforts can bring closure and help a patient truly reflect on his or her life.”
For more information on the services at Trellis Supportive Care, and to donate or volunteer your time, visit trellissupport. org.Trellis Supportive Care is located at 101 Hospice Lane, Winston-Salem, NC, 336.768.3972. Follow them on Facebook and Instagram @trellissupport.
Social Worker, Alexis Hicks
President & CEO, Dr. Mike Lalor Chaplain, Rev. Rennie Adcock Music Therapist, Emily Kiefer
Every Victim Has a Face. Every Survivor Has a Story. Lisa
Everyone deserves peace, respect, and safety in their relationships.
Domestic violence often starts with what seems like small, controlling behaviors. It can escalate over time, becoming a pattern when one partner or family member exerts power and control over another. Unfortunately, it often only gets worse.
“The abuse started with just the push or ‘sit down’ or just a smack in the face,” Lisa* shares, looking down as she remembers.
Her story is similar to many survivors who never thought they’d experience abuse at the hands of someone they loved. “He had isolated me from everybody. There was really nobody that I could call.” Lisa remembers the moment she first
heard about the shelter: “I just saw a pamphlet, so I gave them a call, set up a time, and I left. I never went back.”
Stories like Lisa’s are not uncommon; however, it often takes seven times before most leave for good. Exiting the relationship is usually the most unsafe time, and is when the abuser senses they are losing power, increasing danger as they attempt to regain control over their victim.
“He destroyed everything,” Lisa recalls. “But I did it. I bought my first home, and I love it,” she exclaims. “I’ve got two cars in the driveway, and I did all of that, and I’m proud of myself and the things that I’ve been able to accomplish. I don’t know if it wasn’t for the shelter staff, I don’t know if I would be here now.”
As Lisa reflects, she shares that her experience helped her find her inner strength and intelligence, learning through resources like Family Services offer help and support.
“There’s no more survival mode, and everything isn’t just a blur anymore. The fog has finally lifted. There’s no more pending doom. The world has finally opened.”
Thanks to the resources she received, she now feels safe and at peace.
“Don’t think 30 steps ahead. Just think one step ahead. Those little baby steps, they really do get you one step closer to where you want to be – and you’ll be ok too.”
*Not her real name
Prepared or Paranoid: TRUE CRIME
by ISABELLA CASTINEYRA
In2020, when college classes were online and I had an endless amount of spare time, my friends and I were constant true crime watchers.
From Hulu’s The Girl from Plainville starring Elle Fanning or Netflix’s American Murder: The Family Next Door, we were absolutely hooked on true crime, case after case.
With this fascination, I decided to couple my college degree with a minor in criminology. I absolutely loved the criminology courses, especially one where our professor posed a simple question – is society more violent now than in the past? To the surprise of the majority of the class, the data showed our current times are statistically less violent than previous generations, despite us considering the seemingly constant violence in news headlines. One theory we discussed was that the rise of true crime media may be shaping our perception, making the world feel more dangerous than it actually is.
PARANOIA OR PREPARED?
Studies have consistently shown that playing violent video games does not increase violent tendencies, but research on true crime is less conclusive. Infamous offenders have released manifestos citing earlier crimes as inspiration, known as a copycat crime, but this does not
decisively apply to audiences who consume true crime content as entertainment.
What is clearer is that heavy consumption of true crime often increases anxiety and fear rather than providing a realistic picture of everyday risks. The cases that dominate documentaries and headlines tend to be the rare and sensational ones – serial killers and shocking twists. In contrast, most real world violence occurs within familiar relationships rather than at the hands of strangers.
This raises an important question – does an emphasis on the types of stories that make headlines make us more fearful of strangers than we need to be? If violence is more likely to come from people we know, perhaps it is just as important to focus on strengthening and checking in on our close relationships as it is to take precautionary measures against unlikely dangers.
IMPACT ON CASEWORK
The Ted Bundy trial in 1979 and the OJ Simpson 1995 trial were two of the first televised, high profile trials in American history, beginning what now is common practice – an undeniable media storm whenever an interesting case begins.
There is a lot of good that can happen with the general public becoming aware of cases, it can lead to victims and families garnering support. It’s even led to the development of organizations like The Innocence Project, a group that uses DNA evidence to exonerate wrongly incarcerated individuals. When
more people can create support for a cause, there can be a louder fight for justice.
On the other hand, TikTok and Reddit detectives posting their theories online, often with little evidence, allows a level of virality of false information like never before. This is clearly displayed in One Night in Idaho: The College Murders on Amazon Prime with direct accounts from the students that were wrongfully accused online; as they tried to mourn the deaths of their friends, they were receiving online threats of their own from internet sleuths who tried to uncover the case before the police.
This is a deeply personal problem, and circles back to having everything in moderation. If true crime content starts to heighten anxiety, it may be worth stepping back. There’s value in being informed about potential dangers, but it’s also important to keep perspective –most violence occurs within familiar circles rather than from strangers. With that in mind, one of the best ways to support your own well being is by supporting healthy and attentive relationships with those around you.
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LSweet Finishing Touches For Your Holiday Gathering
by MARTIE EMORY, photos by JEJ PHOTOS
oyal followers of Midtown Cafe & Dessertery in Winston-Salem have known for the past 38 years that they could count on this local dining icon for comforting lunch and dinner options. Best of all, every memorable meal has been topped off with one of their legendary desserts!
Now that we’re full-on celebrating the holidays with family and friends, this time of year always means sharing one (or several) of those amazing desserts. Whether you’re gathering in a booth at Midtown’s cozy South Stratford Road location or dropping by the restaurant to pick up your family’s favorite sweet treat to savor at home – missing out on their dessert menu is simply not an option!
“For the Thanksgiving holiday, some of our most popular choices are Apple Crunch Pie, Pecan Pie, Pumpkin Pie with Spiced Nut Crust, and Gluten-Free Chocolate Torte,” shares Shara Rubino, director of operations at Midtown Cafe & Dessertery. “Once we’re fully into Christmas celebrations, the most popular choices are definitely our Five-Flavor Pound Cake, Macadamia Nut Carrot Cake, Dessertery Cheesecake and Italian Cream Cake – with the Italian Cream and Pound Cake always at the top of everyone’s list.”
Don’t forget Midtown Cafe & Dessertery is also a favorite local brunch spot, with breakfast served all day. Bring the kids for a fun holiday morning outing, or meet friends for a tasty brunch to relax amid your many shopping stops.
Along with a sweet bite to get you through another round of shopping or holiday get-togethers, the Midtown team knows you also need that all-important specialty coffee beverage!
“We have several new delicious seasonal drinks, including Peppermint Mocha, Peppermint Hot Chocolate, Toasted Marshmallow Latte, Lavender Blueberry Latte, Brown Sugar Cinnamon Latte, Apple Pie Chai and Maple Chai Latte – both top sellers,” adds Shara. The cafe’s permanent beverage menu also features a new option – Honey Vanilla – which is already a customer favorite.
If you’ve got your tastebuds set to enjoy one of these irresistible scratchmade desserts, Shara suggests you take advantage of the ease of their online ordering and advises placing a cake or pie order two weeks in advance.
As you’re making plans for holiday get-togethers at the restaurant, she also recommends securing reservations for larger parties at least a week in advance. Please note, the restaurant only accepts weekend reservations for after 3:00 p.m. Guests can also add their names to the convenient online walk-in waitlist on the website (look for the reservations and waitlist tab) – especially on Saturdays and Sundays. Secure your place in line, get live updates on your expected wait time and then check in with a staff member once you arrive.
Make plans now to show your out-of-town holiday guests the delicious treats you enjoy all year long!
Visit Midtown Cafe & Dessertery at 151 South Stratford Road in Winston-Salem. Call to place a food or dessert order at 336.724.9800, visit midtowncafews.com to place an online order or browse the menu, and follow them on Instagram @midtowncafe_ws for menu updates, specials and any new cut-off dates for holiday dessert ordering.
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The Dessertery is baking up all the Thanksgiving favorites - Apple Pie, Pecan Pie, Pumpkin Pie with a Spiced Nut Crust, and a full lineup of cakes. Fresh, scratch-made, and full of love.
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A Fresh Look and R R at the other
by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON
We ladies understand the importance of keeping rest and relaxation high on our personal “to do” list. I hear you and fully support you in that! And, if you’re a boss lady, here’s another R and R combo you would be wise to embrace: rewards and recognition. This dynamic duo is one of the most powerful people practices on the planet. With technology ever-ready to prompt us, connect us, schedule us and support us, you can’t afford to lose sight of these two high touch people practices.
The good news is that companies continue to place a strategic priority on rewards and recognition. With a persistent need to attract, retain and develop the best of the best employees – they have to in order to remain competitive! This is true for companies of all sizes, so don’t think: “But we’re just five employees. This isn’t about us.” Well, it is because people are people. Regardless of company size, every employee wants to know that their specific contributions matter. It’s simply a human thing!
REWARDS VARY
When it comes to rewards, there is no one-size-fits-all approach. Some companies continue to use monetary or non-cash rewards exclusively, while others use a combination of the two. And they vary a great deal. A trip to Tahiti may be one organization’s grand prize for stellar performance, while a gift card to a local coffee shop may be another’s. In fact, those delightful cards (who doesn’t love them?) as well as select parking spaces continue to be at the top of the “most coveted” list of non-monetary rewards.
The best practice behind effective R and R is straightforward: employee involvement – since rewards are intended to both encourage and acknowledge specific behaviors and results. By asking employees what they value and desire, you show that you respect your employees and want to offer rewards that matter to them. Depending on your company’s size and structure, you might consider:
• an online survey
• focus group
• team meeting
• one on one conversation
as the means of getting input. What matters more than how you ask is that you ask, and then listen.
FOLLOW UP AND FOLLOW THROUGH
We also know that companies who excel in “rewards management” pay particular attention to how performance is tracked and communicated. Employees in these companies know where they stand because the process for tracking is clear, visible and communicated in a timely way. Again, while there is no specific formula for tracking or communicating; it’s the clarity and consistency that counts.
RECOGNITION PREVAILS
While formalized recognition programs are great, I am particularly struck and encouraged by the fact that increased attention is being paid to informal ways to acknowledge and appreciate employees. If you’re the boss lady wondering how you can make the most of recognition and rewards, you can start by honing your “noticing skills.” This means paying attention to those brilliant moments when a sincere thank you or a bold shoutout of praise will speak volumes. This form of recognition reinforces desired behaviors while making your co-worker feel good about herself and her contribution. Who doesn’t love to be on the receiving end of a spontaneous, sincere expression of gratitude for a job well done? It’s actually pretty magical!
If you are in the process of taking a fresh look at your company’s “R and R,” be sure to tap into these best practices:
• Ask employees what types of rewards matter to them – and be ready to hear the unexpected.
• Create a clear system for tracking and communicating progress and results – so employees always know where they stand in regard to expectations and goals.
• Revisit how well and how often you demonstrate your appreciation and thanks for the contributions of your employees – then bump that up – but always keep it sincere!
THE HOLIDAY EXPERIENCE
Because There’s Always a Reason to Celebrate! HOUSE OF POSH & CO.
by MARTIE EMORY
When Jossy Bueno started House of Posh & Co. in 2021, she was a busy mom of a two-year-old, happily rediscovering her creative side after opting to DIY her own wedding.
As her creative spirit and love of events took over, Jossy’s business really began to grow! Since then, she has found herself exploring a variety of innovative paths – all while imagining exciting possibilities for the future of House of Posh & Co.!
“This past year has been a major transition – stepping into running the business fully on my own,” Jossy shares. “It’s been a true journey of resilience, creativity and growth, and has shaped me personally as well as professionally.”
From organic balloon décor to stylish event design that includes backdrops, columns and many other ultra-creative elements, Jossy and her team bring a touch of “posh” to every
celebration. That means designed, delivered and installed onsite! Besides Jossy – owner and lead creative who guides the overall design vision of each event – the talented team includes Aurora (the specialist in inventory and event reset), Maddison (the master of hands-on coordination and content creation) and Kenia (who energetically supports design and event setups).
Using 100% biodegradable, professional grade products, House of Posh & Co. offers DIY kits from their “to-go” collection that are curated with convenience and affordability in mind; grab-and-go garlands are available in a variety of sizes that truly bring the personality to your gathering, as well as full service designs from start to finish. Serving the Triad and surrounding areas, Jossy and her team welcome you to fill out their design questionnaire with details of your upcoming event and secure your date online with a deposit. Color and size guidelines are available on the website to help you determine every detail.
“There’s something special about helping others mark the moments that matter most –whether big or small – and being able to add joy, beauty and meaning through our work,” she explains. “My favorite part is seeing how our designs create memories that last well beyond the event itself!”
“At House of Posh & Co., we believe every celebration deserves to feel unforgettable,” Jossy explains.
“What makes us different is our commitment to constantly learning, innovating and pushing the creative boundaries. We’re never afraid to step outside our comfort zone, test new ideas and bring fresh designs to life for our clients.”
Jossy and company are constantly inspired by how magical celebrations bring people together.
Each design is crafted with intention, creativity and a touch of signature style. From larger-than-life balloon displays for festive first birthdays to adding a “posh” touch in corporate spaces where leaders and educators gather to inspire, the House of Posh team is honored to be part of life’s milestones and meaningful moments.
“Through the years, we’ve built a recognizable style around the Triad – and clients are telling us they can always spot one of our installations!” says Jossy.
If you’re planning a celebration of friends, family or “firsts” – reach Jossy and her incredible team through their website at houseofposhandco.com. You can also email contact@houseofposhandco.com for more information and guidance in styling an event to remember, and follow them on Instagram @houseofposhandco for updates and creative inspiration!
Remodeling & Cohesive Design
When remodeling happens in phases, it’s important to ensure that each stage feels connected so your home has a cohesive flow. In the kitchen, the first phase of this remodel, the design highlights modern functionality with clean cabinetry, a farmhouse sink and brass fixtures that bring warmth and elegance. The soft neutral palette keeps the space timeless, while touches like the wood flooring and quartz surfaces balance practicality with style. This kitchen establishes a design foundation, both in color tones and material choices, that can then guide future rooms.
The dining room, completed in the second phase, carries forward that same sense of elegance while adding its own character. The neutral walls and brass chandelier echo the tones and finishes in the kitchen, while patterned chairs and the statement China cabinet bring in more personality and texture. The transition between the two spaces feels intentional, as if one naturally leads into the other, thanks to the shared use of wood flooring, light wall colors and metallic accents. By repeating key elements while layering in new details, the remodel achieves harmony without feeling repetitive; proving that phased updates can still create a seamless, beautifully blended home.
Our portfolio is listed on our website, junedelugasinteriors.com, under “Design Projects.” You can see some of our projects from the past 10 years and how we specialize in giving every home a cohesive and timeless look that will last for years to come. The first step is picking up the phone and reaching out to our design team who will serve as your designer and licensed general contractor. We look forward to discussing your dream design with you.
God Bless,
PHOTO BY JAY SINCLAIR
PHOTO BY JAY SINCLAIR
The Importance of Vulnerability in Women’s Leadership and Friendships
I’m sitting on an airplane, 30,000 feet in the air, reflecting on my journey in leadership –what it means to lead and, more personally, why me? It feels like I’ve been in leadership in some form since I graduated high school, whether it was starting my own small boutique and hiring local students, managing seasonal retail shops or eventually launching an organization.
As the years have passed, I’ve started to shape my definition of leadership into one that centers around servanthood. Why I’ve been chosen for this path, only God truly knows. Titles mean nothing to me; leadership, at its core, is about taking care of your people and remembering to take care of yourself, too. It’s standing up for what’s right. It’s being authentic because, Lord, I can’t imagine how exhausting it would be to pretend to be someone else. It’s walking with integrity, guiding with both your head and your heart and giving grace because we’re all still learning.
VULNERABILITY: A MISUNDERSTOOD STRENGTH
Vulnerability is often misunderstood as weakness, especially for women in leadership, where we’re expected to be confident, competent and unshakable. But, I’ve learned that vulnerability is one of the most powerful tools we have for leadership, influence and meaningful connection. When we embrace it, we lead more authentically, connect more deeply and cultivate trust both at work and in friendship.
REDEFINING STRENGTH IN LEADERSHIP
Traditional notions of leadership often equate strength with certainty and emotional
by JOY NELSON THOMAS
distance. But, real strength lies in authenticity. Admitting mistakes, asking for support and sharing struggles are not signs of weakness; they’re signs of courage and self awareness. Vulnerable leaders inspire trust because they remind others that imperfection is human and that collaboration is always stronger than isolation.
I’ll be honest, I’ve often operated at such a high level of excellence that, when I make a mistake, it almost feels like an inhuman experience. But, I’m grateful that my faith grounds me. I remind myself often: Joy, you are not perfect – only God is
BUILDING AUTHENTIC CONNECTIONS
In women’s friendships, vulnerability is the bridge to genuine connection. When we share our real experiences, our victories, our fears, our frustrations and our hopes, we create a safe space where judgment is replaced by empathy and competition is replaced by encouragement. These friendships become anchors, providing resilience when life or leadership feels overwhelming.
Authentic friendships remind us that we don’t have to lead alone. They hold us accountable, cheer us on and remind us of our humanity when we forget it ourselves.
VULNERABILITY AS A CULTURAL SHIFT
When one woman chooses to be vulnerable, it gives others permission to do the same. In organizations, this choice fosters a culture of openness where creativity, collaboration and innovation thrive. Among friends, it builds communities where honesty and empathy are valued over appearances and perfection. Vulnerability invites dialogue, understanding and shared growth.
THE COURAGE TO BE SEEN
Choosing vulnerability as a female leader or friend is a revolutionary act. It challenges the expectation that women must always be “put together” and shows that true power lies in connection, transparency and authenticity. Leadership is not just about direction; it’s about influence, empathy and courage.
By embracing vulnerability, women can lead with strength and humanity, create friendships that sustain them and cultivate communities that value honesty and trust. In a world obsessed with image, vulnerability cuts through the noise and brings about real, lasting impact.
PRACTICAL WAYS TO LEAD WITH VULNERABILITY
Now, I know what you might be thinking: “That sounds freeing, but in my line of work, I can’t do that.” I believe you can. Here are a few ways to begin:
1. START SMALL. Vulnerability doesn’t mean sharing everything. Begin by being honest about small challenges or asking for feedback. It shows strength and invites trust.
2. TRULY LISTEN. Give others the safety to be open without rushing to respond or judge. Vulnerability deepens when it’s met with presence and care. (This is often the hardest part because we’re human, and we almost always have a response!)
3. LEAD WITH GRACE. Extend yourself the same compassion you offer others. Grace fuels growth and keeps us humble and human.
Until next time, enjoy the journey and Be You!
Embracing Life Setbacks as Growth Opportunities
by HALLEIGH MILLESON
Have you ever experienced a season of life where you feel like you cannot move forward or feel as if you are behind where you want to be? I understand how frustrating this can feel as I experienced setbacks during my time in college. Specifically, during my junior year of college, I experienced health issues that brought me back home where I took time off from school to focus on feeling better. My junior year of college was a difficult time for me, but today, I can say that if I had never walked through that season, I would not have the greater appreciation that I do of the growth experiences that setbacks can bring. If we are intentional about searching to see the good even during a discouraging setback, we will find it. During my setback, I learned to see the good through my family and friends who supported me, the doctors and nurses who helped me and for the appreciation of the good days I experienced where I had more energy and felt more like myself. Below, I share a few questions that helped me focus on positive thinking during my setback.
WHAT AM I LEARNING FROM THIS SETBACK?
It is incredibly helpful to think about what lessons you are learning from this setback that you may have never thought about before. During this time, I learned that it was okay to take a semester off from school even though I had always thought that I needed to graduate by a certain age. I was able to gain experience working during this time while also being able to be with my family during a time where I needed extra support. I can confidently say that experiencing this setback allowed me to learn that there is not a specific timeline for your life that you must follow and that, sometimes, feeling behind just allows you more time to be prepared for the next chapter of your life.
HOW CAN I GROW FROM THIS SETBACK?
I also like to think about how this setback can help me grow. For example, during my health issues, I was able to grow into a more mature, confident version of myself at the age of 21. I saw myself persevere through challenging times in a way that I had not experienced before. I thought to myself: “Wow, this was extremely difficult, but I can make it through hard circumstances because of my faith.” I believe this growth has only helped me be able to better navigate challenges that have occurred since 2022.
HOW CAN I USE THIS SETBACK FOR GOOD?
Lastly, I like to think about how I can use this setback to help encourage the people around me. For example, I have been able to provide uplifting words to my aunt who has experienced a similar setback to mine. Additionally, I have had meaningful conversations with friends about feeling behind in life and have reminded my friends that they are not behind in life. There is a purpose for every season we walk through.
My hope is that this article would provide encouragement to anyone who is currently walking through a challenging setback. While it is easier to focus on the negatives during a setback, doing so will only make it harder to notice the small moments of joy that are around you. By being intentional about finding the good and looking for ways to grow during this season, you can one day look back on this setback through a lens of gratitude.
GRETCHEN’S KIDS BOUTIQUE Small Business, Big Heart
by CAROLYN SHORE PETERSON
For the owner of Gretchen’s Kids Boutique, Michele Mathias, children’s clothing has always been more than fabric and thread; it’s about comfort, confidence and memories. The boutique was born from her love of dressing her daughter, Gretchen, in outfits that were both beautiful and built to last.
“When Gretchen was little, I loved finding unique, high quality outfits for her. I grew tired of buying pieces from big box stores that looked worn after just a few washes. I wanted clothing that was soft on her skin, great for playtime and still looked beautiful wash after wash,” recalled Michele.
The boutique first opened under the name Gretchen’s Treasure Chest, but as the store grew, so did the vision. “It became clear that Gretchen’s Kids Boutique better captured what we offer and how we’ve grown,” Michele said.
A COMMITMENT TO QUALITY AND SELECTION
What sets Gretchen’s Kids Boutique apart is its commitment to quality. The clothing carried in the store is carefully chosen for its durability, comfort and charm.
“The difference is in the details – softer fabrics, better stitching, thoughtful designs and items that are meant to last. I look for family owned, small batch brands that use softer, high quality fabrics. I also want the styles to be fun, unique and versatile…pieces kids actually want to wear. My customers share with me how impressed they are with the softness of the fabrics and how well the clothing holds up. They love that their kids look adorable, but can still run, play and feel comfortable,” stated Michele.
THE POWER OF SHOPPING LOCAL
Beyond clothing, Gretchen’s Kids Boutique is about community. Supporting local has always been at the heart of Michele’s philosophy.
“When you shop local, you’re not just making a purchase, you’re investing in your community. You’re supporting families, dreams and relationships, not just sending money to a big corporation,” Michele said.
Word-of-mouth has fueled the boutique’s growth since day one. Parents and grandparents return not only to shop, but to share stories and encouragement, as well. “When families shop here, they’re not just another transaction. They’re
greeted, offered help and leave with pieces that reflect their child’s personality. That’s something a big box retailer simply can’t offer,” commented Michele.
CUSTOMER LOYALTY AND GROWTH
Recognizing the importance of her loyal customer base, Michele is working on new ways to give back. Plans include a rewards program and a referral system that lets families earn points or share codes with friends. Currently, Michele partners with PTAs at elementary and preschools to do spirit days and gives a portion of the sales back to the school.
“Returning customers are the heart of this boutique. Their loyalty keeps our doors open. Programs like rewards and referrals help turn shopping into a relationship rather than a one-time shop,” Michele stated.
INNOVATION AND FUTURE PLANS
Looking ahead, the boutique is embracing new ways to connect. Live sales and styling videos are on the horizon. Website improvements, expanded seasonal collections and even baby or birthday registries are also in the works. “My hope is to create a shopping experience that’s easy, fun and always feels fresh. I’d like to see Gretchen’s Kids Boutique become a family favorite both locally and online, while staying true to what makes us special – quality, personal service and family at the heart of everything,” said Michele.
PERSONAL TOUCH AND PHILOSOPHY
For Michele, the greatest joy of running the boutique is the relationships. “I love meeting families, watching their kids grow and helping them find something that makes them smile. Every little twirl in a new dress or cuddle in cozy pajamas reminds me why I do this,” Michele commented.
For those who haven’t discovered the boutique yet, Michele’s invitation is simple – “come see what makes us different. We’re not just another children’s clothing store; we’re a place where families find unique, high quality pieces with a personal touch. You’ll leave with more than clothing…you’ll leave with a memory,” stated Michele.
Gretchen’s Kids Boutique is located at 4916 Old Country Club Road, Winston-Salem, NC. Hours of operation: Monday-Friday 9:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.; closed Saturday and Sunday. For more information, call 336.306.9930 or visit gretchenskidsboutique. com. If you are interested in Michele partnering with your school for spirit days, please contact her at the information above.
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Left to Right: 1st Row: Sheila McClelland, Pamela Dockery-Howard, Kenya Thornton, Nailah Calamese, Christy Spencer, Shereka Floyd, Cassandra Shine, Gloria Hoover.
3rd Row: Christin Blevins, Dawn Schipper, Audrey Johnson, Erin McCulley, Edy Hurdle, Jen Vance, Sarah Norris, Amber Rucker.
Visualizing a community where all families feel safe and secure, Family Services continues to provide hope and healing to Forsyth County residents who are victims of domestic abuse.
As the city becomes more diverse, the scenarios become more challenging. The oldest charitable organization in Winston-Salem, Family Services first launched its programs
in 1905 – that’s more than 115 years of community support that has never wavered. Now, embracing the urgent need for a new domestic abuse shelter to ensure the safety of families and individuals, the staff and board of directors at Family Services is seeing that community spirit continue to soar.
“One Step Closer is our capital campaign designed to support the changing needs of victims of domestic violence,” explains
8,000 Around reports of domestic abuse are documented in Forsyth County each year...
Michelle Speas, chief operating officer of Family Services, Inc. “More diverse programs and services are needed as we see victims from many different neighborhoods and backgrounds.”
Whatever the person’s age, race, ethnicity, gender or gender identity, there’s no charge to stay at the shelter. The current space was last renovated in 1988 and is no longer functional or efficient. Maintenance issues, coupled with an overall layout not well suited for women with young children, have steered the nonprofit towards the inevitable task of replacing a building built nearly 100 years ago.
“The current shelter has a dorm-style design, with two beds and a shared bathroom,” Michelle explains. “Our new facility will offer double the space and allow accommodations for women with three or more children, as well as single rooms. As a point of reference, the average length of stay for abuse victims is 42 days.”
In announcing One Step Closer – a $10,834,500 campaign ($7,834,500 from local giving and $3,000,000 from state and federal sources) –the ultimate goal is a larger and safer shelter to accommodate domestic violence victims. As always, the identity and dignity of victims will be respected during the care and healing process.
Around 8,000 reports of domestic abuse are documented in Forsyth County each year and can include elder abuse, child abuse, human trafficking, sexual assault and stalking. A larger facility would also welcome survivors back into the mission of the shelter – reminding them they still have a voice and a true connection here.
Capital campaign co-chairs Danna Wortman and Tom Adams – both community leaders passionate about the project – are driving the march towards realizing the $10.8 million goal. As of October, about 82% of that goal had been reached.
“I was introduced to Family Services 10 years ago when my son accepted a position with them, and I quickly became an advocate and volunteer,” said Danna. “About four years ago, my husband, Tom, and I decided we would like to become more involved, particularly when we heard about the efforts to build a new shelter. After touring the existing shelter and seeing its state of disrepair, we were compelled to help with the campaign.”
Forsyth County's 24/7 sexual assault and domestic violence crisis line experienced a remarkable increase in calls last year - more than 90% - making the need greater than ever.
Campaign Co-Chairs Tom Adams and Danna Wortman
The shelter's new dining area will include a trauma-informed design, with ample lighting, vaulted ceilings, and secured personal lockers.
...and can include elder abuse, child abuse, human trafficking, sexual assault and stalking.
The new shelter will be built with a trauma-informed design, supported by survivors who have firsthand experience. Security measures will be increased with an eight-foot metal fence, bulletresistant windows, a double-locking front door entry and extensive camera and security systems. It will include private handicapped-accessible guest rooms with ADA-compliant bathrooms, something not available nearly 100 years ago when the existing building was built. Personal apartments for extended stays will be in place – for those survivors who need extra time to find temporary housing.
“Research also shows many victims won’t leave an unsafe relationship due to their bond with a pet or fear of retaliation against their pet. Thanks to a generous donation, our shelter will allow for a 72-hour temporary holding area for family pets until foster housing is located for them,” Danna adds.
Forsyth County’s 24/7 sexual assault and domestic violence crisis line experienced a remarkable increase in calls last year – more than 90% – making the need greater than ever.
“This is about a community coming together to build a healthier, safer Forsyth County,” Danna explains. “You can help by making your own commitment to the
capital campaign – a one-time gift or over the course of five years – hosting an event for friends, co-workers or your church group to raise funds, and by advocating for survivors’ rights and spreading awareness about the campaign to others.”
Fundraising efforts are ongoing, and Michelle optimistically predicts a groundbreaking date in early 2026 for the new shelter, with hopes of being open and fully operational by the end of 2027.
Another vital Family Services initiative is the survivor-based group, Survivor Voices. Cassandra Bethea Shine became involved with the group after losing her sister, Cheryl Anise Bethea, to domestic violence.
“I was asked if I would be interested in being one of the co-chairs for the program, and of course I said yes,” shares Cassandra. “Survivor Voices welcomes those who have moved beyond their own crisis and are ready to give back to the community through education and advising. Through our outreach, we rarely know who a victim is, unless they’re willing to share. But, we let them know they aren’t alone and have a voice to seek help through many collective and collaborative resources in our community.”
Cassandra is also proud to be involved in the continuous planning for the new rebuild of the Family Services emergency domestic violence shelter.
“It’s been very exciting to have a voice heard – and a vision considered – that will help survivors not only feel safe, but give them a warm, welcoming space on their new journey of life and healing,” she adds. “What’s most inspiring to me is hearing victims, survivors and concerned family members thank me for sharing my sister’s story. They tell me Cheryl gave them a voice, she inspired them to get out of a domestic violence situation and/or she saved their life. They ask me to please keep sharing because someone else still needs to hear her story.”
For more information on Family Services of Forsyth County, visit familyservicesforsyth.org or reach them at 336.722.8173. For their Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Crisis Line, call 336.722.8125. To learn more about the ongoing capital campaign for the new domestic abuse shelter, visit giveonestepcloser.org.
*Huge thanks to Anne Rainey Rokhar for making this shoot possible at Trouvaille Home — such a beautiful space for our photos!
The new shelter's exterior has been carefully designed to consider the rich architectural history of Winston-Salem while offering a sense of increased security for guests.
Jen Vance, Survivor Voices Member Christin Blevins, Survivor and Family Services Employee
Erin McCulley and Chris Hermansen, FemFest leadership and Family Services donors
Washington Park CrossFit Hosts First-Ever Hot Dog Mile: ALL “FOR THE DOGS!”
Washington Park CrossFit found a creative way to combine fitness, fun, and fundraising this October with their first-ever Hot Dog Mile, held on October 4th at Happy Hill Park. The one-of-a-kind event brought together more than 60 participants (and plenty of dogs!) to raise money for AARF — the Animal Adoption and Rescue Foundation of Winston-Salem.
The idea started as a vote among gym members: a Burpee Mile or a Hot Dog Mile? The results were unanimous…hot dogs by a landslide! The WPCF crew is known for their community spirit and love for furry, four-legged friends, so supporting AARF felt like the perfect fit.
Of course, no Hot Dog Mile would be complete without, well… great hot dogs! The beloved Winston-Salem spot PB’s Takeout generously donated every single hot dog for the event, which meant 100% of the registration fees went straight to AARF. (And let’s be honest, if you’re going to eat four hot dogs mid-run, they better be PB’s!)
So, what exactly is a Hot Dog Mile? Simple! Eat a hot dog, run a lap (400 meters), and repeat four times. Some brave souls completed all four laps (and all four dogs!) solo, while others opted for relay teams of two or four. Families, friends, gym members, and even a few folks from other local gyms and The Run Club (@_therunclub) came out to join in on the fun.
The event was filled with laughter, cheering, and just the right amount of chaos— all for a great cause. Between the costumes, the creative team names, and the dogs stealing the show, it was a day to remember.
Washington Park CrossFit is already planning to bring the event back next year, and if the turnout from the first one is any indication, it’s sure to be even bigger (and tastier) the second time around.
A huge thank-you to PB’s Takeout for their generosity, and to AARF for the incredible work they do every day to rescue and rehome homeless and helpless cats and dogs across the Triad.
We’d love to encourage you to support all three of these amazing local spots that made this event possible:
AARF (Animal Adoption and Rescue Foundation)
Helping homeless cats and dogs find loving homes. aarfws.org | Instagram: @aarf_winstonsalemnc
Washington Park CrossFit
Building strength, community, and connection in Winston-Salem. 2020 Hollyrood St, Winston-Salem, NC 27127 washingtonparkcrossfit.com | Instagram: @washingtonparkcrossfit
PB’s Takeout
Winston-Salem’s go-to spot for the best hot dogs in town. 1412 S Hawthorne Rd, Winston-Salem, NC 336.748.8990
Because in Winston-Salem, community means showing up— whether it’s with a barbell, a leash, or a hot dog in hand.
For those of you following along over the last few months, the good news is that my move to the Wilmington area has been quite a success.
I’ve been able to spend warm and sunny September and October days on Wrightsville Beach, I picked up a part time job at a local bistro for nights and weekends to keep me occupied and my cat is happy with her new balcony. I think I made the right choice. The bad news? I lost a friend in the process.
I didn’t lose a friend due to my move. Truthfully, I’m not sure exactly what happened. What I initially believed was a misunderstanding after weeks of distance turned into me being met with deafening silence and coldness once I sought clarity. To be left hanging by a best friend of 28 years is jarring and makes me question my character, likability as a person and most of my life choices. I know she has her own struggles with depression unrelated to me that are contributing to her disengagement, but I didn’t think we’d get to this point. I understand depression firsthand, and hurt people hurt people. With my trust issues having been
Burned Bridges Aging Out
by AM Y HILL
inflamed following a rather toxic dating experience over the last year, I am left to assume my need for reassurance in response to emotional distance clashed with her overwhelm, depression and grief from a prior relationship ending. However, in the aftermath of the friendship implosion, I am left feeling like I was (yet again) too much and holding the emotional bag. It’s a wound a little too familiar for my liking.
I’ve woken up feeling like I got hit by a train numerous mornings after romantic breakups but didn’t expect a friendship breakup to carry the same emotional hangover. Radical acceptance is not easy for me as I tend to wrestle with reality when I am hurt, and feeling shut out by her has been a surreal experience. In my early 20s, a couple of my friends and I drifted apart due to natural distance or tiffs, but we always found our way back in some capacity. This time feels less hopeful.
Having to adjust to the “new normal” of someone’s absence – well, the absence of someone still alive but simply choosing not to respond to your messages – stings when it’s sudden and confusing. Fortunately, I have had new acquaintances enter my life through my move and work, and
I seem to be well received at my new job. However, would their opinion or acceptance of me also change if they got to know the real me outside of work? Trying to reassure myself that I am not the sole issue in the breakdown of a friendship is another full time job in and of itself.
The communication I received from her in response to my questions about the state of our friendship and her distance didn’t even sound like something she had written herself and took nearly 30 dreadful hours to land in my inbox. It was one message that didn’t address the insecurities I expressed or the inconsistencies I had picked up on; to put it briefly, she stated that my questioning whether she cared about our friendship was hurtful to her and that she hoped we would eventually “come to a conclusion” when we are both in better emotional places.
Somewhat stunned upon reading and attempting to process her reply, I immediately followed up by explaining that I didn’t understand what was going on and asked exactly what she meant by that, but she never answered. Perhaps she interpreted my questions as attacks rather than bids for reassurance. Or, perhaps, I wouldn’t question whether she cared had she not suddenly began
acting as if she didn’t – but that’s just a thought. I may be annoying, but I’m not entirely delusional.
Once this happened, I started mentally beating myself up. If I hadn’t gotten into that last toxic relationship, I wouldn’t have become so insufferable and pushed her away. I’m a self-fulfilling prophecy. This is why I’m still single at 33. I am the problem.
Fortunately, the support systems I do still have around me (at least for the time being) have assisted in combating those negative thoughts, but they’re always lurking in the background and waiting to take hold of my brain at any given moment. If she happens to stumble upon this article, I hope she understands that this column is about the realities of “growing up” and, well, this is one of those curveballs. To relinquish control and accept friendship defeat for the foreseeable future has been a tough pill to swallow to say the least. At the end of the day, I know I tried to communicate and seek repair, and I can live with that. I hope when she overcomes her depression that she still finds me where she left me, but I can’t promise she will. If and when that happens, I may be found in rooms with people who deem me worthy of a conversation.
Upper and Lower Eyelid SurgeryWith or Without Brow or Forehead Surgery
(a.k.a. “Blepharoplasty and Brow Lifting”)
by COOPER SCURRY, MD
Surgery around the face can be either cosmetic, reconstructive or functional. In other words, facial surgery can be performed to correct a particular problem (functional), to restore the face to a previous state (reconstructive) or to change certain features to look more desirable. Such surgeries can be performed for either the upper or lower eyelids.
UPPER EYELID SURGERY
Upper eyelid surgery is often performed for either cosmetic or functional reasons. Patients commonly present to their plastic surgeon requesting removal of loose skin of the upper eyelids. The upper eyelid skin and heavy eyebrow tissues can contribute to decreased peripheral vision. Sometimes a patient notices this decreased peripheral vision while riding a bike or driving their car. Other patients who love to read notice themselves holding their eyebrows upward at night when they are trying to read. Some patients are noticed to have decreased peripheral vision while they are being evaluated by their eye doctors.
When patients present to my office for evaluation of their bothersome upper eyelids, I have found that the most important detail of the visit is my physical exam. I find that patients fall into one of three categories. In category #1, the patient has some loose skin of the upper eyelids and is a great candidate for undergoing removal of this skin by upper blepharoplasty. A limited upper eyelid surgery like this is routinely performed in the office with light sedation and local anesthetic. In category #2, the patient is one in which
the heaviness of the brow tissue means that a patient will not get a good result unless they undergo some version of a brow repositioning procedure (a.k.a. “brow lift”) in addition to the upper blepharoplasty. These types of brow procedures have become very powerful, effective and sneaky. I say sneaky here because the scars from these procedures can be very hard to find. Finally, a category #3 patient simply falls between the #1 and #2 patients. These category #3 patients could get by with only the upper eyelid surgery, but would do best and have the most long-lasting result if they chose to have both procedures.
LOWER EYELID SURGERY
A common complaint from many patients about their lower eyelids is “the bags.” The puffiness, fullness or bags of the lower eyelids are best treated surgically. This lower eyelid fullness is caused by fatty tissue that lives within our eye socket. There is a thin membrane of the lower eyelid that is supposed to contain the fatty tissue within the eye socket but, as we age, and in some families, this thin membrane weakens over time and the fatty tissue begins to seem to bulge outward. While there are lots of important intricacies of the lower eyelids, one of the safe and conservative ways to treat these fatty tissues is to make an incision on the back surface of the eyelid for the sake of preserving and protecting the skin and the muscle of the lower eyelid. Such an approach can go a long way in preserving
and protecting the important position of the lower eyelid after such a surgery. After approaching the fatty tissue of the lower eyelid in this manner, these fatty tissues can be conservatively removed or alternatively repositioned. Other lower eyelid procedures such as laser or chemical peel can be performed simultaneously in order to smooth the wrinkly skin of the lower eyelid. Finally, some lower eyelids are indicated for a tightening technique during surgery.
In conclusion, surgery around the eyes can make a huge difference in helping a patient to look younger! When cosmetic surgery of the face is performed, the results should be very natural. A patient should always “look like themselves” when the bruising and swelling has resolved. 80% of bruising and swelling should be resolved within about two weeks time. If you have an event coming up, like a wedding or reunion, you should try to give yourself about two months to be completely healed. The goal of these surgeries is to look like you did about 10-15 years ago.
Start the process by seeking out a surgical practice and come see one of us! We’d love to meet and talk to you in our office during a detailed and personal office consultation. If you live a ways away, I’m glad to meet you on Zoom or via a FaceTime phone call. Give us a call and jump on the consultation schedule.
Cooper Scurry is located at 855 Bethesda Rd SW Winston-Salem, NC 27103. For more information, visit cooperscurrymd.com, email info@cooperscurrymd.com or call 336.747.3737.
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My Favorite Tiny Traditions
by HALLEIGH MILLESON
When I think of traditions, I typically think of going to the beach with my family every summer, eating cake with my friends on my birthday and gathering with my entire family at my grandmother’s house every Christmas. I always look forward to gathering with my family and friends to spend time together eating and having genuine conversations. Just like experiencing larger event traditions, we can also easily have smaller events or tiny traditions in our everyday lives. I always thought that, to have a tradition, it meant having a large social gathering for a holiday or celebratory event, but I have also discovered that traditions can be small, weekly activities that bring happiness. Below, I share some of my favorite tiny traditions that I look forward to each week.
ICED COFFEE SATURDAYS
Every Saturday, you will find me heading to a local coffee shop to get an iced coffee. Going to get an iced coffee on Saturdays makes me happy since I get to enjoy a delicious coffee. While I like to get the same iced coffee most Saturdays, I do like trying new flavors such as when the fall or winter drink menus are available. Sometimes I will meet a friend at the coffee shop, and sometimes I get my coffee to go. Either way, I look forward to this tiny tradition during the week and am always excited when Saturday mornings arrive.
MAILING HANDWRITTEN CARDS
One of my all time favorite tiny traditions is sending handwritten cards in the mail to my family and friends. Whether it be a happy birthday card, a Merry Christmas card, a thank you note or simply just an “I am thinking about you” card, I always enjoy sending these cards. In a time where technology is on the rise, I believe there is something genuine about still taking time to send handwritten notes in the mail. I love how such a simple gesture can bring joy to another person’s day.
INTENTIONAL MUSIC FOR THE DRIVE
Another tiny tradition that I have recently started is listening to different genres of music in the car during different times of the day. In the mornings on my way to work, I like listening to worship music as this music helps me feel encouraged and peaceful to begin my day. Then, in the evenings after I have been at the gym, I will listen to more pop music on my way home. Even though this is a little detail during my day, I do enjoy listening to different types of music based on how I feel or where I am driving.
BAKING FOR THE WEEK
On Sundays, I enjoy baking a dessert to enjoy throughout the upcoming week. Sometimes I bake chocolate chip muffins, banana muffins, banana bread or pumpkin bread. Then, during the week, I look forward to having a chocolate chip muffin or slice of banana bread after dinner as my dessert. Part of why I love this tiny tradition is that I appreciate having time on Sundays to bake as baking is relaxing to me. This is time to slow down while making a homemade recipe before the busyness of the week begins.
Getting iced coffees, mailing handwritten cards, listening to different genres of music while driving and baking a dessert for the week are a few of my favorite tiny traditions that I am excited about each week. I am grateful for tiny traditions and for how these traditions give us opportunities to feel joyful. I hope this article encourages you to start creating or keeping tiny traditions in your everyday life as these small moments truly do bring happiness throughout the week.
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Hustle Heart
&by TARYN JEREZ , OF GOFORITCREATIVE.COM
This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.
NORMALIZE BALANCE, NOT BURNOUT: 5 Things Small Business Owners Need to Quit Accepting
Somewhere along the way, small business culture decided that exhaustion equals success. We’ve been fed the narrative that if you’re not constantly bogged down by work, doubting yourself or chasing a specific number in your bank account then, clearly, you’re not doing it right.
Well, spoiler alert: that’s absolute nonsense.
The things we are starting to see normalized in entrepreneurial culture aren’t moving us forward but holding us back from happy and healthy businesses. This month, we’re hitting the reset button to gain clarity around what is actually toxic despite it trending.
Here are a few things it’s time to stop normalizing as small business brands.
#1 BEING “BUSY” ALL THE TIME
Say it with me: “busy” is not a badge of honor. This one falls under what many of us know as “hustle culture” where small businesses need to look like the Energizer bunny if they are really working toward success. Being constantly maxed out isn’t a sign of success – it’s a sign that something’s off. Working intentionally instead of endlessly is what needs to be normalized instead. Learning how to outsource, simplify, automate and say “no” are some of the best skills you could learn to have a successful business. Balance will always be the goal, not burnout.
#2 IDENTIFYING AS AN IMPOSTER
Imposter syndrome is absolutely a real issue that business owners struggle with, especially women. The problem is that it’s become the default mindset for so many like it’s just part of the package. We joke about it, we post about it, we see it
as something every woman in business struggles with when, in reality, it doesn’t have to be. Don’t give it permanent residence in your identity, acknowledge when it pops up, then show it the door. You aren’t an imposter – you are a woman building something she believes in that provides value to the world around her. “Confidence isn’t something you earn later; it’s something you practice now.”
#3 REINVENTING THE CONTENT WHEEL
We’ve got to stop pretending that new equals better! You already have incredible messaging and content, so stop adding to your overwhelm by trying to reinvent the wheel! Repurpose your Instagram posts for your newsletter, turn your blog posts into Reels or bring your best-performing stories back for an encore. Repetition builds recognition, and recognition builds trust. It’s not normal to keep creating more when what you have in front of you is more than valuable to your audience.
#4 SIX FIGURES = SUCCESS
The six-figure obsession has got to go. Somewhere along the line, “success” got reduced to hitting this one amount, and it’s doing more harm than good. Let’s normalize building a business that’s sustainable, profitable and in alignment with your actual life goals, not a mere bank balance. Let’s create success metrics that include a business that brings us joy, supports our family, funds getaways and leaves breathing room!
#5 DOING IT ALL ALONE
Women-owned businesses love to wear independence like armor. Doing everything in your business by yourself isn’t what being a boss looks like, but
bringing in the right resources is. Rather than highlighting solopreneurs doing things alone to become successful, how about normalizing collaborations and asking for help? Whether that means hiring a coach, outsourcing a piece of the business or joining a mastermind – growth doesn’t happen in isolation, and that’s perfectly okay.
It’s time we start asking, “is this helping me grow or making me focus on things that aren’t getting me closer to success?” Be bold, trust your gut, embrace what you do differently and throw all the “shoulds” out the window. If you’re a small brand, you don’t have time to waste on things that drain you, so focus on what sustains you instead!
Hustle & Heart Challenge
This month, take inventory of the thoughts you are having around success in your business. What is trying to keep you small rather than help you grow towards your version of success? Ditch whatever is keeping you caught up in comparison and overwhelm, and lean into what you know your new normal deserves to look like.
The Art of ACCOUNTABILITY
by LESLIE SPEAS
Accountability is simply taking responsibility for performance and results, both the wins and the misses. I love this quote from Stephen Covey: “Accountability builds response-ability.”
And, it’s true. Without accountability, you’re unlikely to get a response – or the one that you want.
From my years as a human resources consultant, I’ve noticed that most leaders don’t handle accountability very well. In fact, a Harvard Business Review study found that 46% of managers were rated poorly at “holding people accountable when they don’t deliver.” Not just mediocre, but poorly. That’s a big problem.
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN ACCOUNTABILITY IS MISSING?
• Goals slip through the cracks.
• Priorities become unclear across the team.
• Turnover rises, and your best performers are usually the first to go.
• Morale takes a nosedive.
• Trust erodes.
THE FIVE CS OF ACCOUNTABILITY
To help leaders get this right, I often use what I call the Five Cs of Accountability:
Clarity
Set clear expectations that align with your company’s culture and values. Be specific about outcomes and how success will be measured. Start early (during the hiring process) and reinforce regularly.
Courage
This is the hardest one. Accountability requires courage. You can’t shy away from tough conversations. Problems don’t disappear if you ignore them. In fact, failing to address issues essentially endorses them. Remember – what you permit, you promote
Collaboration
Accountability isn’t about dictating – it’s about partnering. Involve employees in setting goals, and invite their input. When people help create the plan, they’re much more invested in making it happen.
Consistency
Feedback should be ongoing, not a once-a-year event. Regular one-on-one check-ins allow for two-way dialogue and real-time course correction. Also, check yourself to ensure you are applying accountability fairly. Holding one person to a standard while letting another slide breeds resentment and undermines trust.
1 2 3 4 5
Correction
If you’ve done the first four Cs and issues persist, it’s time for correction. That may mean coaching, counseling or, in some cases, disciplinary action or termination.
BOTTOM LINE
Accountability isn’t about being tough. It’s about being fair, clear and consistent. When done well, it strengthens trust, improves performance and creates an environment where both employees and organizations thrive.
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Get a Head Start on Your Holiday Shopping!
The holiday season is just around the corner, and there’s no better time to start planning those perfect gifts. Supporting local businesses ensures that your purchases contribute to our community’s growth while offering unique, high-quality presents for your loved ones. Check out this year’s top picks from some of our favorite local spots!
SHOP LOCAL
WINDSOR JEWELERS
526 S. Stratford Road
Winston-Salem, NC 27103
windsor-jewelers.com
CHOPARD WATCH
Enhance your wrist this holiday with Chopard’s Happy Sport watch in 18K ethical rose gold and stainless steel with a red alligator strap. Playful, free-spinning diamonds and rubies dance between two sapphire crystals for a unique style that’s sporty and chic, all in one timepiece. Available at Windsor Jewelers. Visit windsor-jewelers.com or in store at 526 S Stratford Road in Winston-Salem.
CHILDRESS VINEYARDS
1000 Childress Vineyards Road Lexington, NC 27295
WINE CLUB
The Fast Track Wine Club from Childress Vineyards is the perfect pairing of indulgence and exclusivity. With a one-year membership, your recipient will receive three thoughtfully curated shipments (three wines each) delivered in April, September, and December — 9 bottles in all — with all shipping and handling included. As a welcome bonus, each member is gifted a 1.5 L “join bottle,” and on renewals. Members enjoy 20% off wines, 10% off merchandise and bistro purchases, free shipping on orders over $200, and six complimentary tasting vouchers each year. With reserved seating at the winery, exclusive event access, and loyalty rewards, this isn’t just a wine club — it’s a year-long celebration. Treat someone special to a gift that pours joy all year long. Located at 1000 Childress Vineyards Rd, Lexington. Learn more at childressvineyards.com
RESTORATION MED SPA
250 Executive Park Blvd #105 Winston-Salem, NC 27103 restorationmedspa.com
GIFT CARDS
GIVE THE GIFT OF CONFIDENCE & BEAUTY
A Restoration MedSpa Gift Card is more than a present — it’s an experience of self-care and renewal. From fillers, injectables and revitalizing facials to a variety of rejuvenating treatments, your loved one can choose exactly what makes them feel radiant, confident, and restored. Give the gift that inspires beauty from the inside out. Call 336-999-8295 or visit restorationmedspa.com to reserve yours today!
Share the gift of beauty and confidence with your loved ones! Enjoy our range of services from Dysport/Botox and fillers with our Facial Plastic Surgeon to Radiofrequency Microneedling, facials, and chemical peels. Plus, explore our product lines including Jane Iredale, SkinCeuticals, and more. We have something for everyone. Pick up your gift certificate today! Call 336-747-3737 or email info@cooperscurrymd.com to schedule!
GRETCHEN’S KIDS BOUTIQUE
4916 Old Country Club Road Winston-Salem, NC 27104 gretchenskidsboutique.com
ANN LAUREN DOLLS Ann Lauren 17” Newborn Baby Dolls Bring home the magic of childhood with these beautifully crafted baby dolls. Designed in Spain, these dolls feature a soft cloth body with vinyl limbs that are lightly scented with vanilla for a sweet, lifelike touch. With sparkling eyes and gentle sound features, they feel just like a real baby in little arms. Multiple styles available. Safe for ages 3+ and ASTM tested, this 17-inch doll makes a timeless holiday gift that children will cherish. Shop in store Monday–Friday 9 a.m.–5 p.m. or online anytime! Free shipping on orders over $99. Located at 4916 Old Country Club Road in Winston-Salem. Visit us online at Gretchenskidsboutique.com
LEAD GIRLS OF NC
500 4th St NW
Winston-Salem, NC 27101
leadgirls.org
DONATION
Give the gift of empowerment this holiday season! By donating to LEAD Girls of NC in someone’s honor, you’re helping unlock the full potential of girls at one of the most critical moments in their lives. LEAD Girls is building a future where girls become women who lead and are not only accepted but celebrated—transforming the landscape of leadership and the face of decision-makers in every community. This year, give the gift of dreams realized! Learn more at leadgirls.org.
This holiday season, treat someone special (or yourself!) to the ultimate escape. Enjoy a 30-minute Halotherapy session in our private Himalayan salt cave—breathe deeply, relax, and let the healing minerals restore balance and calm. The perfect gift of wellness and bliss—wrapped in pure relaxation at Aeracura Salon & Spa. $30 for 30 minutes. Visit Aeracura Salon or shop online at aeracurasalon.com. Gift certificates are always available!
WINDSOR JEWELERS
526 S. Stratford Road Winston-Salem, NC 27103 windsor-jewelers.com
ROBERTO COIN NECKLACE
Elevate your elegance with this 18K yellow gold Venetian Princess Carnival 17-inch necklace from Roberto Coin. Featuring a captivating medium flower design, it’s beautifully adorned with 0.18 tcw sparkling diamonds and 0.10 ctw vibrant rubellite gemstones. This piece adds refined sophistication and a touch of color to any ensemble, perfect for special holiday occasions or enhancing your everyday style. Available at Windsor Jewelers.Visit windsorjewelers.com or in store at 526 S Stratford Road in Winston-Salem.
SKI & TENNIS STATION
119 S Stratford Road
Winston-Salem, NC 27104
skiandtennisstation.com
PATAGONIA DOWN SWEATER
Ski & Tennis Station is your one-stop shop and local destination for women’s winter clothing, offering styles to fit all ages and sizes. This classic Down Sweater provides the perfect warmth for just about everything. It is lightweight and windproof, and available in multiple colors, as well as men’s, women’s, and kids’ sizes, plus vest and hooded versions!
WASHINGTON PARK CROSSFIT
2020 Hollyrood Street Winston-Salem, NC 27127 washingtonparkcrossfit.com
GIFT CARDS
Give the gift of FITNESS this holiday season! Whether they’re new to working out or a seasoned athlete, a 10 or 20 class pack at Washington Park CrossFit is perfect for anyone. Our workouts are suitable for all levels and ages—everything can be modified to meet your needs. Plus, take wellness to the next level with cold plunge and infrared sauna sessions, also available for purchase! Learn more at washingtonparkcrossfit.com or by emailing info@washingtonparkcrossfit.com.
by TARYN JEREZ
A monthly column that keeps its finger on the pulse of Forsyth’s artists and their inspiring stories!
Laura Morales | Watercolor and Acrylic Painter
This month’s featured artist, Laura Morales, creates unique artwork that carries a touch of whimsy and wonder in every stroke! She finds magic in the process of painting itself, bringing her work to life through elegant and playful pieces.
How would you describe your unique work?
My work can best be described as classically illustrative with a hint of whimsy.
How have you grown, personally, as an artist?
Learning to thoroughly enjoy the process of creating. This is my 11th year as a painter, and what has kept me enchanted is the process. The very act of taking liquid and arranging it on a flat surface is pure magic.
What have you learned about yourself since becoming an instructor?
I must paint and/or create what I love. I’ve learned that what brings me joy will inevitably bring others joy.
What is your secret for carving out time to truly be creative?
You have to be okay with the mess. Even though I have a very supportive husband and business partner, Richard, who takes care of our children, I still struggle to maintain an organized work space. I’ve learned to let go of a lot of mess in order to complete orders and create my own work.
Do you have a favorite story behind your projects and why?
Since I struggled with dyslexia since childhood, I didn’t read children’s books growing up, but I was deeply enamored of the pictures. My style reflects all the illustrations I loved as a child.
What are you working on that excites you right now?
My bug collection. (No, seriously!) I found so much joy in embracing my love for nature that I’ve painted and named an entire series of insects around North Carolina. They are an elegant and whimsical take on my bug collecting days as a child.
What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with fellow artists, especially those at the start of their careers?
I strongly believe that even though rejection feels personal, it is not a sign that you should give up. It’s one to keep going. If you genuinely love what you do, don’t stop going after it.
If you are interested in learning more about this month’s artist, you can find her work online at lauramoralesstudios.com as well as follow her on Instagram @laura.morales.studio.
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CHICKEN GREENS & GRAINS BOWL W/TACO
For this month I wanted to do a weekday favorite around my house. A chicken greens & grains bowl. It’s so much better at home and a fraction of the price vs. going to a Cava or Sweetgreen. It’s healthy, full of flavor and pretty simple to make.
INGREDIENTS
1 Pack of chicken thighs or breasts
Romaine lettuce head (butter lettuce, or iceberg works fine too!)
1 Cup White (brown, any other kind) rice
1 Bell Pepper
1 white onion
Chopped cilantro
Black beans
Seasoning of choice for chicken (I have been using Cuso’s Tequila Lime Habanero lately, it is great!)
TACO SALAD VINAIGRETTE INGREDIENTS:
¼ Cup White Wine Vinegar
2 Tbsp sugar
2 Tbsp Olive Oil
1 Tbsp taco seasoning mix (any kind works)
½ tsp salt
½ tsp ground cumin
1 Tbsp lime juice
1 Tbsp fresh chopped cilantro
INSTRUCTIONS
1. Mix all above vinaigrette ingredients in a small mason jar or bowl - set aside.
2. Season your chicken before lighting up the grill.
3. Start your rice if cooking on the stove or a rice maker, if using instant microwave rice just do it at the end.
4. While the grill is getting hot, chop your onion and bell peppers, cilantro, romaine etc. You can also get the black beans cooking on low heat throughout the rest of the cook.
5. Get the chicken on the grill, I always use chicken thighs for this, and they only take about 10-15 minutes on high heat over charcoal.
6. Once the chicken is getting closer to done, I’ll start sauteing the peppers and onions.
7. Pull the chicken around 175-180 if it’s thighs, 160 internal for breasts.
8. While the chicken rests for 5-10 minutes, finish sauteing the peppers and black beans.
9. Once the chicken has rested, I like to dice it up into small bite size pieces, lay down a bed of rice and romaine in a bowl, then assemble all the rest of the ingredients on top.
10. Once everything is in the bowl, drizzle that Taco Salad Vinaigrette all over and you’re ready to eat!
11. The taco Vinaigrette and some fresh chopped cilantro on top really brings the flavors in this bowl to the next level.
Purpose Push:
What Trials Teach Us About God’s Provision
I enjoy highlighting scriptures in the Bible that may not be too popular to shout all the time. One of them is when Jesus said in John 16:33, “In this world you will have trouble. But, take heart! I have overcome the world.” In the King James Version, instead of “trouble,” it says “tribulation.” Trials and tribulations are words that are consistently paired, and if you never pondered the difference between the two, think of tribulations as external experiences of suffering, distress or hardship, and trials as internal spiritual tests of your character, qualities and faith.
I want to share a story of a trial and tribulation I will never forget. In the beginning of my entrepreneurial journey, there was a moment that I faced a difficult decision about what I should do with the money that was left in my bank account. I could either use it to pay my rent, or I could use it for my business. I couldn’t do both.
External factors, or tribulations, were at play because I was temporarily unemployed. And that gave me tremendous stress, but I was uncertain about the future. However, at the same time, I was on trial. I was growing closer to God than I ever had before, and He was testing me. God told me to start my jewelry business and He would provide. He told me to spend all the money in my bank account on display items for my upcoming craft markets. My immediate thought was, “What if I don’t make my money back? I will be evicted!”
Then, God showed me Matthew 6:30. My next thought was simply, “Why?” And God showed me Proverbs 3:5-6.
This did not eliminate my nervousness or overthinking; however, the most powerful thing I could have done was step out on faith. I ordered the display items, looked at my bank account afterward and cried.
It’s human nature for us to want to go through life without trials, but the Bible tells us it’s inevitable, especially when we’re doing God’s will. In fact, James 1:2 says we should rejoice when we face them because it’s an opportunity to test and grow our faith.
Sheridan C. Watkins is a journalist and the owner of Perennial Peaces, a jewelry and gifts brand focused on transcending human understanding of God’s love and being a source of peace on Earth. Her true work began after victory over depression, and her calling is to provide peace through her Divine gifts to help women heal and transform their lives. Follow the mission on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok: @perennialpeaces.
by SHERIDAN C. WATKINS
I had two craft markets that upcoming weekend, and I made enough money to recuperate what I spent on the display items and cover my rent. I was overjoyed, in disbelief and in awe of what God had done for me. That moment taught me how powerful faith is and it’s all God needs to do wonders that will supersede your conscious thinking.
I’ve grown to welcome the trials because it’s an indicator that I am still doing the will of God. The enemy doesn’t attack those who aren’t a threat. So, I want you to be encouraged that God has your front, back and side, and no weapon formed against you will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Every time you overcome, think of James 1:12 which says, “Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.”
God’s provision always prevails. I hope my story gives you confidence that you are equipped to handle any trial and tribulation by simply believing you will overcome. I have faith in you.
Thriving Through the Holidays with Health and Joy
by JANE BURNETTE healthcoachjane.com
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The holidays bring twinkling lights, joyful gatherings and plenty of good food. They also bring a flood of sugary treats, heavy dishes and festive drinks that can make staying on track with health goals feel tricky. The good news? With a few intentional choices, you can savor the season without guilt or overindulgence. The key is balance – finding ways to enjoy traditional favorites while supporting your well being.
BUILD A SMARTER PLATE
The way you arrange your plate can set the tone for how you feel during and after a holiday meal. A little strategy goes a long way.
Load up on color: A plate that looks like a rainbow usually means you’re getting a wide variety of nutrients. Focus on above ground vegetables such as broccoli, Brussels sprouts, leafy greens and bright bell peppers. These colorful choices add fiber, help keep you full and naturally crowd out less nourishing options.
Prioritize protein: Aim for two to three servings of protein at each big meal. Think of a deck of cards as a visual for one serving size. Protein from turkey, chicken, fish, tofu or legumes helps steady your appetite and reduces the urge to keep circling back to the dessert table.
Slow down: Holiday meals often happen in lively, busy settings. Instead of rushing, take time to enjoy every bite. Rest your fork between mouthfuls, talk with the people around you and let your body register when it’s satisfied. Eating more slowly makes the experience more enjoyable and reduces the chances of overeating.
SUPPORT DIGESTION WITH FERMENTS
Big holiday spreads can sometimes leave you feeling bloated or uncomfortable. Fermented foods offer a simple, natural way to support digestion. Sauerkraut, kimchi, pickles, kefir and unsweetened kombucha are all loaded with probiotics that help balance your gut.
Try eating a small portion of fermented food about 30 minutes before sitting down to a heavy meal. Doing so can help minimize digestive distress, enhance nutrient absorption and leave you feeling lighter after the feast.
SOUP AS YOUR SECRET STRATEGY
When you know you’re heading into an event where rich foods will be everywhere, soup can be a quiet gamechanger. Enjoying a warm bowl of soup 30 to 60 minutes beforehand fills your stomach, signals fullness and makes it easier to say “yes” to your favorite dishes in smaller portions.
Homemade soups are both affordable and versatile. Make a batch in advance using ingredients you love – vegetables, beans, spices or bone broth –and you’ll have a go-to option ready to help you balance out the holiday indulgence.
TAKE A WALK AFTER MEALS
One of the simplest yet most effective habits is heading out for a short walk after a big meal. Walking helps your body manage blood sugar more smoothly, preventing that sluggish crash that often follows a heavy dinner. It also eases digestion by helping food move through your system which can reduce bloating and discomfort.
This doesn’t have to be a long or strenuous workout – even 10 to 15 minutes of gentle movement makes a difference. Plus, it doubles as quality time with family and friends.
CELEBRATE WITHOUT COMPROMISE
The holiday season should never feel like a tug-of-war between enjoying yourself and staying healthy. With a few swaps, mindful choices and the right mindset, you can fully embrace the festivities while feeling good in your body. Fill your plate with nutrient-dense foods first, add probiotic-rich choices and honor your body’s signals.
Most importantly, let yourself enjoy the moments that truly matter – time with the people you love, laughter around the table and memories that last long beyond the season.
A little about me:
My name is Jane Burnette, and I’m passionate about health and wellness. As a holistic health coach with a degree from UNC-Chapel Hill and numerous certifications, I specialize in lifestyle changes that empower people to achieve their health goals.
My mission is simple – guide clients to optimize their daily habits, so their bodies’ natural healing processes can kick in. Rather than focus on diets or quick fixes, I teach sustainable strategies for nutrition, exercise, stress relief and more.
Trying New Things: Recreational Softball
by ISABELLA CASTINEYRA
Welcome to Trying New Things!
In this monthly column, I try a health, wellness or fitness endeavor to help you decide for yourself if it’s something you want to give a go. We’ve been all over the board with our activities, but after last month’s article on walking, a very individualized activity, I thought it would be fun to try a team sport –recreational softball.
WHAT IS IT?
People have been getting together to play sports since ancient civilizations, including running, swimming, archery and wrestling. In the United States, recreational sports grew with the development of playgrounds in the late 1800s. They grew even bigger with the development of intramural sports in colleges. NC State University was the first college in North Carolina to develop intramural sports programs all the way back in 1924.
For this recreational sport endeavor, I joined a rec softball team that I heard about through a friend and joined for around $30. It consists of 15 people of a variety of ages and skills, getting together twice a week to play slowpitch softball for an hour.
There are some nuances within the rulebook that differ from conventional softball and baseball, and to be forthright, I often just
listen to the others on my team that are more familiar. For example, everyone starts their at bat with one ball and one strike, there must be an even amount of men and women on the field at the same time, and the order of when people bat must be a man then a woman. If any of these rules are broken, even accidentally, the team receives an extra out as a penalty.
BEGINNER FRIENDLY?
If you don’t know the first thing about softball, that’s perfectly fine. The team I play on is very beginner friendly. Kids hang out in the dugout, we switch positions every inning just to try something new and no one gets upset over mistakes. The focus is on having fun, being social and enjoying a few evenings outdoors each week. Of course, not every team in the league takes the same approach. Some are far more competitive; they’ve beaten us by 20 runs and aren’t shy about debating calls with the umpires. Personally, I’m glad to be part of a more laid back group, but for those who thrive on competition, there are teams that match that energy, too.
DID I FEEL LIKE I WAS WORKING OUT?
I am slightly embarrassed to admit that I struggled to get out of bed the morning after my first softball game.
Part of it was the sprinting. I can’t remember the last time I had to launch into a full speed run, but those 90 feet from home plate to first base reminded me just how tough sprinting really is and how valuable it might be to add into my workouts (maybe even as part of a future Trying New Things).
Another component that I did not anticipate to be so hard on my body is batting. The twisting motion, especially as someone without a background in tennis or golf, is entirely new to me and did a number on my back. It was a reminder that even movements that seem simple can challenge your body in unexpected ways. I did not feel like I was working out, but my sore muscles were proof that, while it didn’t feel like exercise at the moment, my body certainly knew otherwise.
Even without knowing the other members of the team, I had a great time chatting and playing softball. I certainly will be joining rec sports in the future, especially if I move to a new place as it is a great way to immediately be thrown into a social circle. If softball isn’t your thing, there are basketball, volleyball and even ultimate frisbee groups to join and find people that are interested in the same things and want to play outside a few times per week.
The Technician, NC State Student Newspaper Article, October 3rd, 1926
READY FOR WHAT'S NEXT: Navigating the Shift From Work to Retirement
by LESLIE SPEAS
Retirement is one of life’s biggest transitions. For many, it brings excitement and relief – the thought of more freedom, time with family, travel and hobbies can feel like a long-awaited reward. At the same time, it often stirs up anxiety, loss of identity, uncertainty or even guilt about leaving work behind. These mixed emotions are normal. The key is not to push them aside but to embrace them as part of the journey.
As I’ve seen in my work with individuals navigating career and life transitions, retirement isn’t just about leaving work. It’s about building a new chapter of life that feels meaningful, balanced and fulfilling. That doesn’t happen by accident – it takes some intentional thought and planning.
CLAIMING YOUR IDENTITY
One of the biggest challenges is shifting your sense of identity. For decades, many of us have answered the question “What do you do?” with our job title. But, you are so much more than your work role. Retirement is an opportunity to redefine yourself and explore new ways to use your time, energy and talents. Ask yourself: Where do I want to focus now? What excites me most?
PRIORITIZING HEALTH AND WELL BEING
None of the dreams for retirement – travel, grandkids, new hobbies – are possible without good health. Focusing on physical, mental and emotional well being creates the foundation for thriving in this new season. Move your body every day in ways you enjoy, fuel yourself with good nutrition and keep up with preventive care. Just as important, nurture your mental health by staying curious, connected and joyful. Stress will still be part of life, but learning how to manage it will help you stay resilient.
FINDING PURPOSE
Purpose gives us a reason to get up in the morning. In retirement, that purpose may shift, but it doesn’t disappear. You might find it in volunteering, mentoring, joining a club, starting a creative project or deepening your involvement with your faith or community. Even small actions, like practicing gratitude or setting a monthly goal, can strengthen your sense of meaning and direction.
STAYING CONNECTED
Social connections are essential. Work often provides built-in community, and when that goes away, loneliness can creep in. Be intentional about maintaining and expanding your circles. Think about which communities (family, friends, church, neighborhood groups) will remain strong and where you might want to build new connections. Whether through volunteering, taking classes or attending local events, connection is what keeps us grounded and energized.
A PRACTICAL NEXT STEP
The most effective way to move into this new season is to start small. Choose one area – identity, health, purpose or community – and commit to one action you can take in the next 30 days. Maybe it’s signing up for a class, scheduling regular walks, joining a volunteer project or reaching out to a friend with whom you’ve lost touch. Write it down, tell someone for accountability and take that first step.
In conclusion, retirement is not the end of your story. It’s the beginning of a new one where you can create a life that’s rich with purpose, connection and joy.
Navigating a Job Search IN AN AI WORLD
The job search has never been simple, but throwing artificial intelligence into the mix has made it a whole new ballgame. Between applicant tracking systems (ATS) scanning your résumé, AI tools writing job descriptions and even AI-driven interviews becoming a thing, it’s easy to feel like you’re competing against the robots instead of other candidates.
But AI isn’t going away, it’s here to stay. So, how can you navigate a job search in this AI-driven world without losing your human edge?
UNDERSTAND THE SYSTEMS INVOLVED
Most companies use Applicant Tracking Systems to scan résumés before a human ever sees them. That means formatting and keywords matter more than ever before. A résumé that looks pretty but isn’t optimized may not make it through.
Here are a few tips that will help:
• Use clear section headers (Experience, Education, Skills).
• Keep formatting simple (avoid tables, text boxes and fancy graphics).
• Mirror the language in the job description – if they say “project management,” don’t write “coordinated projects.” Use the same language.
Think of it as speaking the system’s language, so you can get to the human conversation.
USE AI AS YOUR JOB SEARCH ASSISTANT
AI isn’t just something employers use, it can help you, too. Tools like ChatGPT can help you:
• Brainstorm strong résumé bullet points.
• Customize your resume for various jobs.
• Prep for interviews by practicing responses.
• The key is to make sure the output still sounds like YOU. Use AI for structure, then add your personality, stories and examples.
by LESLIE SPEAS
SHOWCASE WHAT AI CAN’T REPLACE
AI is powerful, but it can’t replicate human qualities like creativity, empathy, leadership and collaboration. Make sure your materials and interviews highlight:
• Times you solved messy people problems.
• Examples of how you led through change or conflict.
• Stories that show grit, resilience and adaptability.
NETWORK LIKE A HUMAN
It may be tempting to rely 100% on job boards when searching for a job, but remember that AI doesn’t run your professional relationships. Referrals and personal connections still open a lot more doors than an online application.
So yes, polish your résumé. But, also reach out to former colleagues, attend networking events and engage on LinkedIn. AI can get you noticed, but humans still make the hiring decisions.
KEEP LEARNING AND ADAPTING
AI is certainly changing the world of work, and employers want to see candidates who can use it to their advantage. Upskill yourself in digital tools and AI basics, and show that you aren’t afraid of change.
Navigating a job search in an AI world is challenging. Use AI strategically and then lean into the skills that make you uniquely human. That’s where the magic will happen!
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SARAH VALLIERE
ABBEY MCCALL
Leadership Winston-Salem is proud to announce the hiring of Abbey McCall as its new Alumni Engagement Director. Abbey is a graduate of the Flagship Class of 2023 and brings nearly a decade of nonprofit leadership experience, along with deep community involvement and a proven passion for building meaningful connections. Prior to stepping into this role, she served LWS in several capacities, including as a member of the Marketing Committee, a member of the Alumni Council and as Vice Chair of the Flagship Program’s Social Services Committee. Her commitment to the organization and its mission has already left a lasting mark, and now she will lead efforts to strengthen alumni engagement and deepen LWS’s community impact. Abbey holds a bachelor’s degree in sport and event management with minors in business administration and accounting from Elon University, where she graduated Magna Cum Laude and received the James P. Drummond Service Award. “Abbey’s leadership, creativity and dedication to community engagement make her the perfect fit for this role,” said Katherine Perry, executive director of Leadership Winston-Salem. “We are thrilled to welcome her to the team and confident that she will continue to inspire and strengthen connections among our alumni.”
The Clemmons Food Pantry is pleased to announce the appointment of Sarah Valliere as its new Executive Director. Valliere brings a wealth of experience in nonprofit leadership, community engagement and program development to the role and will lead the pantry as it continues its mission to provide nutritious food to local families in need. Valliere has spent her career working with community focused organizations, including the YMCA of NWNC, West Forsyth Parent organizations and Feeding America. Over the years, she has built strong partnerships, led teams and developed programs to support children, families and individuals. She is passionate about building relationships and ensuring that neighbors have access to resources and services they need. “I am honored to join the Clemmons Food Pantry and to serve a community that cares so deeply about supporting one another,” said Valliere. “Food insecurity touches so many lives, and I look forward to working alongside our dedicated volunteers, supporters and staff to expand our reach and impact.” The Clemmons Food Pantry, founded in 2004, has grown to become one of the largest pantries in the region, serving more than 800 households each month. In 2024, more than 480,000 pounds of food were distributed to needy individuals and families by the pantry. With Valliere at the helm, the organization is poised to strengthen its programs and partnerships to meet the increasing demand for food assistance. “We are excited to welcome Sarah as our new Executive Director,” said Board Chair of Clemmons Food Pantry Patrick Sizemore. “Her leadership skills, nonprofit experience and commitment to service make her the right person to guide the pantry into its next chapter.”
THE MOVE
TAMMY CAUDILL
CASSANDRA SHINE
Cassandra Bethea Shine is the founder of Sound the Silence in Domestic Violence, a domestic violence advocacy and outreach organization in Forsyth County. She created the nonprofit agency after the loss of her sister, Cheryl Bethea, due to a domestic violence homicide over a decade ago. Cassandra is also the author of Her Voice Beyond the Grave: A Sister’s Cry to Sound the Silence in Domestic Violence which details the history of Cheryl’s experiences with her abuser and the healing journey of family, friends and community. Her organization sponsors an annual donation drive that generously shares needed items to selected agencies serving survivors of interpersonal violence. Cassandra is a sought-after speaker as a surviving family member whose “up close and personal” perspective provides clarity and guidance for individuals seeking triumph after tragedy. “At this stage of healing, I want survivors to know that healing is indeed possible and that your best life is within your reach,” said Cassandra.
Tammy Caudill has stepped into the newly established role of Chief Marketing Officer at United Way of Forsyth County, bringing more than 20 years of experience in nonprofit marketing and public relations. Her leadership comes at a pivotal time, when clear and compelling communication with donors, partners and the community at large is more essential than ever. Today, nonprofits face growing funding challenges while demand for services continues to surge. United Way of Forsyth County supports 40 partner agencies and 60 programs throughout Forsyth County. “I’m excited to help show our community how every donation -- no matter the size -- can make a meaningful impact when united,” said Caudill. “United is the Way we build a stronger, more resilient community.”
Women Wild in the
by AMY HILL
Monkeys in Costa Rica
One of Costa Rica’s largest tourism draws is its diverse wildlife population. In North Carolina, seeing a cow in a pasture or a squirrel running up a tree trunk is nothing out of the ordinary. If you’re itching to see playful monkeys swinging from branches while relaxing on a beach, a trip to Costa Rica may pique your interest. In fact, my desire to mingle with monkeys was exactly what drew me to visiting Costa Rica. Continue reading to learn which types of monkeys you’re likely to see during your stay.
WHITE-FACED CAPUCHIN MONKEY
With white faces, necks and shoulders contrasting the black fur covering their bodies, it’s understandable where they got their name. Yes, this is the exact monkey on my head in the photo and the type of monkey you’re likely to see posted on social media or postcards as the face of Costa Rica (and for good reason). I was fortunate enough to take a tour to a sanctuary and interact with a troop of these adorable (and quite soft) animals, but they can be slightly more aggressive than they appear.
If you visit Manuel Antonio National Park, you’re almost guaranteed to see a few walking along the trails or even outside of the park on power lines and in trees. They are highly intelligent, have surprisingly
great comedic timing and make the cutest monkey noises. Crafty and stealthy, these monkeys are very social. As a precaution, it is wise to remove any sunglasses in their vicinity, as seeing their reflection in lenses can provoke their territorial side.
HOWLER MONKEY
These monkeys are named “howler monkeys” for a reason. Known as the loudest land animal in the world, their distinct roar can be heard up to three miles away. Once you’ve heard it once, you’ll never forget the unique sound (I highly recommend listening on YouTube for reference). Prevalent in Guanacaste (cities like Tamarindo are great starting places), howler monkeys and their uniform black fur may not be as striking as the aforementioned Capuchin, but they are excellent alarm clocks with their howls being heard at dawn and dusk.
SPIDER MONKEY
Unlike howler monkeys, spider monkeys are not known for making a lot of noise; instead, their exceptionally long limbs and strong tail that often serves as a fifth limb is what makes these nimble creatures stand out in the jungle. Their agility could put most Cirque du Soleil performers to shame, making them highly entertaining to observe. You can find them around hanging bridge trails at dawn in the popular Arenal/La Fortuna area. They are also frequently spotted on Costa Rica’s Caribbean coastline in Tortuguero National Park.
SQUIRREL MONKEY
Smaller than other monkeys in Costa Rica, squirrel monkeys have an orangebrown tint to their fur and socialize in large troops. Quick and agile like spider monkeys, the squirrel monkey can be found in the Puntarenas Province in parks like Manuel Antonio and Corcovado National Park (one of the most biodiverse places on Earth). Squirrel monkeys are known for being clever due to their large brain size in comparison to the rest of their bodies. With their distinct black and white facial markings, they are sadly considered to be an endangered species.
The next time you find yourself in the Costa Rican jungle, keep your eyes peeled (without sunglasses, please) and ears open for multiple monkeys throughout the country. Please understand that touching or feeding monkeys encountered in areas like Manuel Antonio National Park is strongly advised against, as feeding them makes them more likely to approach tourists, steal personal items and become angry when they don’t get their way.
LOCAL EVENTS
*Event details are subject to change. Please check event websites & social media pages for updates as the dates draw near.*
NOW THROUGH NOVEMBER 23
(SATURDAYS AND SUNDAYS)
RENAISSANCE FESTIVAL
9:30am-5:30pm (rain or shine), 16445 Poplar Tent Road in Huntersville. The Carolina Renaissance Festival was introduced in 1994 with six acres of exhibits, attractions and entertainment. The event has grown into a 25acre theme park filled with charming cottages and castles, kitchens and pubs, and a most unusual collection of people powered rides, games of skill and immersive entertainments –all nestled in 325 acres of pristine woodlands just north of Charlotte. The Carolina event has grown to be one of the largest of the Renaissance Fairs nationwide. Visit carolina. renfestinfo.com/about-us for more information.
NOVEMBER 1
FIREFLY MARKET AT FOOTNOTE
11am-4pm, Footnote Coffee & Cocktails. An open-air market featuring local artists and makers showcasing handmade and repurposed items.
NOVEMBER 6
BOUTIQUE BACKSTAGE PASS: FLEET FEET WINSTON-SALEM
6-8pm, Fleet Feet Sports in W-S. Sip, snack and shop local during the final stop of Forsyth Woman’s first-ever Boutique Backstage Pass Tour! Enjoy exclusive deals, local vendors, giveaways and door prizes while you browse your favorite finds. Forsyth Woman will be onsite with gift card giveaways for shoppers
– and rumor has it, there may be espresso martinis. It’s the perfect night out to celebrate community, style and supporting local businesses. Don’t miss this exciting finale –come join the fun!
NOVEMBER 7
WICKED MOVIE NIGHT AT TRUIST STADIUM
6-8pm, Truist Stadium. Pink or green? Join the Dash, Candor Home Services, LLC and Candor Roofing, LLC for a special showing of the movie, Wicked. This is a free event! For every guest who attends, $1 will be donated to the WSFCS All In For Our Schools Campaign.
NOVEMBER 7-8
42ND ANNUAL COZY COTTAGE CRAFT SHOW
9am-8pm (7th); 9am-3pm (8th), Kernersville Community House, 405 Salisbury Street in Kernersville. Unique handcrafted gifts, home décor, jewelry, yard art, holiday decorations, baked goods and more. Proceeds from the raffle benefit Trellis Supportive Care. Free admission! For more information, visit CozyCottageChristmasCraftShow on Facebook or call 336.993.2260.
NOVEMBER 8
YOUR HOME MARKETPLACE CHRISTMAS FESTIVAL
9am-6pm, Your Home Marketplace, 670 S. Stratford Road in W-S. Come prepared to shop! It’s a great time to complete your gift buying, because every booth in Your
Home Marketplace’s 11,000 square foot showplace will feature a sale! Event begins at 9 AM (rather than the regular opening time of 10 AM). Peruse a beautiful and eclectic array of home decor and furnishings, vintage items and antiques, furniture, jewelry, clothing, Fusion Mineral paint, lots of gift ideas and much more! Bring family or friends and be sure to put your name in our gift certificate drawing box! Follow us on Facebook at “Your Home Marketplace” and on Instagram at “yhmwinston”.
NOVEMBER 8
ARDMORE ART WALK
11am-4:30pm, 501 Miller Street in W-S. A peaceful walk through one of W-S’s most beautifully unique neighborhoods. This event features local artists, live music and food trucks. Enjoy performances from local musicians and browse beautiful art. ardmoreartwalk.com
NOVEMBER 16
WALK TO END ALZHEIMER’S –WINSTON-SALEM
8am-5pm, Winston-Salem Fairgrounds. Now is the moment we’ve been waiting for. With new treatments emerging in the fight against Alzheimer’s, now is the time for hope. Now is the time for action. Help us keep the momentum going in your community at the Alzheimer’s Association Walk to End Alzheimer’s® -- WinstonSalem. For more information or to register, visit act.alz.org/WinstonSalem.
NOVEMBER 16, DECEMBER 14 & 21
TOUR POUR DU JOUR AT THE GRAYLYN ESTATE
4-6pm, The Graylyn Estate, 1900 Reynolda Road in W-S. Travel back in time as you learn about the Gray Family’s beginnings in W-S and learn more about the mysteries of The Graylyn Estate. Enjoy a guided tour of the Manor House while viewing the architectural gems of our estate. Cost: $60/person and includes appetizers and wine in our library. To book a tour or to make a dinner reservation, please call 336.758.2425. Tour Pour Du Jour reservations may also be made at the event link. Dinner reservations may be made on OpenTable.
NOVEMBER
22-23
PIEDMONT CRAFTSMEN’S 62ND ANNUAL FAIR
Times vary. Benton Convention Center, 301 W. 5th Street in W-S. Piedmont Craftsmen’s Fair is held annually in November the weekend before Thanksgiving. Since 1963, Piedmont Craftsmen’s Fair has celebrated quality craftsmanship and design. Each year, more than 100 artisans from across the U.S. showcase one-of-a-kind works in clay, wood, glass, fiber, leather, metal, photography, printmaking and mixed media -- both functional and beautiful. Tickets may be purchased at the door or online, and event parking is located at 527 North Cherry Street. piedmontcraftsmen.org/fair
NOVEMBER 28-29
MERRY MARKER MARKET
10am-4pm, Paul J. Ciener Botanical Garden. 215 S. Main Street in Kernersville. Our two-day event is sure to bring you smiles! There will be different vendors each day, so make sure you come out one or both days!
NOVEMBER 29
A CAROLINA CHRISTMAS: HOME FOR THE HOLIDAYS
7:30-8:30pm, R.J. Reynolds Auditorium, 301 N. Hawthorne Road in W-S. Music Director Michelle Merrill’s spin on traditional holiday favorites for orchestra and chorus features jazz and popular vocalist Tony DeSare, who brings jazz club intimacy, Carnegie Hall glamour and Vegas glitz right home to Reynolds on Thanksgiving weekend.
FUTURE
DECEMBER 6
CHRISTMAS AT BETHABARA
1:30-4:30pm, Historic Bethabara Park. Travel through time as we explore eighteenth and nineteenth century Christmas traditions in Old Town Bethabara. Explore the decorated 1788 Gemeinhaus and 1834 Log House; enjoy seasonal music from Duo Licht and a Moravian Brass Band; interact with 18th century craftsmen; meet Sister Anna Catharina (a lively first-person performance); and make a Christmas craft or two. Admission is free!
DECEMBER 6
2025 WS AMBASSADORS HOLIDAY PARADE
4:45-5:45pm, 4th Street at Poplar Street in Downtown W-S. The official event of the WS Ambassadors Holiday Parade!
JANUARY 7-FEBRUARY 28
DEAN ROLAND JOHNSON EXHIBIT
Salem College’s Elberson Fine Art Center. After receiving a MFA from Pratt Institute, he taught art in college for several years. During that time, he exhibited and received several museum purchase awards. While his professional journey has taken many paths, the common thread has been all things visual. This exhibit features botanical paintings inspired by his love of nature. Dean has been painting with passion since childhood.
Conversation with Your BFF
“What Topics Should BFFs Be Able to Discuss?”
by REBECCA COOPER
Best friends are the people we laugh with, cry with, lean on and sometimes, unfortunately, avoid saying the real important stuff to. We’re often scared of hurting them, or being judged, or making an easy friendship awkward.
But, here’s the thing, real friendship isn’t just built on the good stuff. It is built on the true stuff. And that means talking about what matters most, even when it feels uncomfortable.
So, what topics are worth braving the “we need to talk” territory? I am so glad you asked!
I FEEL HURT
Maybe your BFF canceled plans again, and this has become a weekly occurrence. Perhaps, she made a joke that maybe hit too close to home. You don’t have to blow up, but you also don’t want to bottle it up either. You can address the moment with “I know you probably didn’t mean it, but when you said ____, it really hurt my feelings. Can we talk about it?” Good friends want to know when they’ve crossed a line.
BIG CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE
New relationship? New job? New home? Tell her. Don’t wait for the “perfect time.” With everyone’s busy schedules these days, the “perfect time” might not come any time soon, and big changes are meant to be shared. Let your BFF in because, if she is the real deal, she’ll want to be part of your next life chapter.
MENTAL HEALTH STRUGGLES
Feeling anxious, overwhelmed or just a bit “not yourself?” Share that. You don’t have to have the right words, just real ones. Don’t expect your BFF to be a therapist, but she can be a lifeline. BFFs check in, sit with you and remind you that you aren’t alone in this world.
WHEN YOU NEED SPACE
It’s okay to need a break from a friend. I’d be worried if you didn’t! It doesn’t make you a bad friend. Life gets heavy and brains get crowded with life’s issues. You can say, “I love you, but I am feeling a little stressed right now and I might be quiet for a bit, but I am still here.” True friends understand silence and will wait for you on the other side of it.
HARD TRUTHS THEY MIGHT NOT WANT TO HEAR
This can get tricky, but sometimes love looks like honesty. If your BFF is in a toxic relationship, making a poor choice or losing herself trying to please everyone else, you can say something with care and gentleness. Remember, you are her support and she is yours, and that brings a responsibility with it to be honest.
GRATITUDE
Remember, don’t just text your BFF when you need something. Text her because something reminded you of her or just to say thank you for always being there to listen, send memes and show up when others walked away. Appreciation is something rarely given but always needed.
The best friendships are made up of hard conversations. The right friend won’t run when times get hard. She’ll listen to you, grow with you and be there with an even deeper bond – because that is what BFFs do!
