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DO YOUR CALIFORNIA ROOTS INFLUENCE YOUR WORK AS A STYLIST? ANY UNIQUE APPROACHES?
Absolutely! I’ve only lived in North Carolina for 3 years, but I worked as a stylist from California’s Central Valley to San Francisco for 15 years. My mentor, Karla Chancellor, started doing hair in the 60s and had extensive experience in different styles, trends, and techniques. I was so lucky to be taken under her wing at the beginning of my career. I love to add a little spice to a cut or color. On the West Coast, we called this “small drama,” which could be anything from a subtle infusion of color to razored texture.
WHAT’S YOUR ABSOLUTE FAVORITE SERVICES?
Vivids—I love bright colors, especially reds and coppers. No matter the shade, coloring takes a lot of creativity and skill and results in some incredible transformations. I also love adding texture and creating styles that give you that “I just woke up like this” look. Formal styling is also one of my favorites. Sculpting the perfect look for the occasion is so fun and satisfying.
HOW DO YOU PERSONALIZE YOUR SERVICES FOR EACH CLIENT?
No one has the same hair texture or density on every part of their scalp, so I always take the time to customize texture for all my clients in a way that’s going to look best on them—and be the most manageable at home.
WHAT ARE YOUR TOP TIPS FOR AT-HOME HAIR CARE?
Dry your roots! It’s well worth the little bit of time for the extra volume it gives you. To prolong your color, use a good color-safe shampoo like Oribe Beautiful Color or Davines Alchemic Shampoo and wash with tepid water. Use heat protection, always. And never, ever sleep in a ponytail.
WHAT TYPE OF CLIENT BEST MATCHES YOUR PERSONALITY?
I’m pretty good at matching my clients’ mood and energy. I want my clients’ experiences to be unique to them. But if you’re a dog lover, book lover, or enjoy baking, we’ll have a great time nerding out together about pets, books, and recipes!
OUTSIDE OF BEAUTY, WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO DO FOR FUN?
Obviously, I love baking! But I also adore nature and the great outdoors in general. I also enjoy reading and have a nice little veggie patch in my garden.
Do you want incredible, vibrant hair and an experience that’s all about you? Then you’ll love Kascondra! Book your appointment today!
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Although this is our November issue, I’m writing this in early October, and the devastation from Hurricane Helene remains top of mind for many of us. While it can feel overwhelming to witness everything happening, I’ve chosen to focus on the silver lining: watching our communities come together in support of Western North Carolina has been heartwarming and inspiring. The road to recovery is long, and they’ll need help for months to come. While I know you’re likely inundated with ways to assist, I wanted to share a few options with you:
• Second Harvest Food Bank of NWNC: They are accepting monetary donations and have a list of current needs on their website (secondharvestnwnc.org).
• Donate to Operation North State (operationnorthstate.com).
• NC Disaster Relief Fund through the American Red Cross.
• Volunteer with a local organization.
• Foster or adopt a pet rescued from WNC.
This month, we’re thrilled to feature the lovely Cheri Lingafelt, owner of Accent Prone, on our cover. I’ve known Cheri and her husband, Justin, for years, and it’s been a joy to watch their business grow and evolve. Impressively, they launched Accent Prone at just 23 years old. Cheri says she’s glad they started so young—before the fear of failure could set in. From home décor to jewelry and clothing, their store is a one-stop-shop, and I always look forward to visiting! Read more on page 52.
In case you missed it on social media, we recently announced our 2025 date and new venue for the 4th Annual Women on the Move Conference! Mark your calendars for Thursday, March 20th, 2025, at the stunning Legacy Stables and Events. We’re beyond excited for this event! Be sure to subscribe to our newsletter at forsythwoman.com and follow us on Instagram (@forsythmags) to be the first to know when tickets go on sale.
As always, our November issue kicks off with the first of our two Holiday Gift Guides! We’re passionate about shopping local, and we encourage you to do the same. I challenge you to get as many holiday gifts as possible from local businesses this year—it truly means the world to them!
Also, in this issue, Jodie Brim announces her first-ever Holiday Give Back Event! Happening
Had the pleasure of visiting Glamping Wild in Ashe County with my mom, my best friend, and her mom the weekend before Hurricane Helene hit.
The place is absolutely gorgeous, and I can’t recommend it enough! Once they’re back up and running, make plans to visit—you won’t regret it!
on Thursday, December 19th, with all proceeds benefiting LEAD Girls of NC, a nonprofit very near and dear to me. I absolutely love their mission of providing preteen girls with resources and tools to become changemakers and leaders in their communities.
November is always a reminder to take extra time to practice gratitude. Even on tough days, there’s so much to be thankful for.
Wishing you a month full of gratitude and love,
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In 2010, Emily and Keith Davis, owners of Fleet Feet in both Winston-Salem and Clemmons, initiated Mission: Feet First as an opportunity to provide well-fitting shoes to those in need around our community. With faith, family and caring for others always at the heart of their personal and professional journey, the mission was a blessing to build!
“Mission: Feet First has been the resource for shoes for so many in our local community,” shares Emily. “But over the years, our charitable efforts have been able to expand, and God has brought new opportunities for us to serve and invest our financial resources.”
Closely involved with charitable efforts in Kenya and with a local prison ministry, Emily and Keith organize mission trips for first-time visitors to Kenya and have provided the resources to build three churches there. Closer to home, they organize an annual 5K at the local prison and recently provided 300 sports bras to the Winston-Salem State University cheer camp.
“So, this year, we decided to rename the charity Good Works Engine and restate its legal purpose, so we could have the flexibility to be involved in more than just giving shoes,” Emily explains. “We also wanted to be able to invite the Winston-Salem community to participate in the broader scope of what the charity really represents – helping underserved populations both locally and globally.”
Good Works Engine is based on a core mission to help people activate their faith by experiencing the needs of others. In daily life, it’s about putting your faith to work and answering the call to serve others.
by MARTIE EMORY
As their own faith continues to grow, Emily and Keith have found themselves enlightened so much more to the needs of the world, with fundraising for the charity steadily growing. Emily shares the following initiatives where their efforts are largely focused:
Provides proper fitting shoes for homeless adults, sheltered adults and low-income students in Forsyth County.
With Keith’s big heart for the at-risk youth in our community, they have invested in the development of the YMCA Reach Center – and are excited to see this project come to life.
International Cooperating Ministry’s goal is to build a healthy church within walking distance of everyone in the world. With a focus area in Kenya, the Davises have helped fund three new church buildings.
Fleet Feet provides a shoe scholarship for men who are released from the Forsyth Correctional Center and coordinates an annual 5K at the prison.
This running academy in Cherangany, Kenya was founded by Boston Marathon Champion Wesley Korir. The academy provides a high-level high school education and run training to Kenya’s most talented
student-athletes. In 2022, Emily and Keith partnered with Wesley to build a school for the academy, and the group now partners with Forsyth Country Day School. FCDS has opened their international scholarships to welcome Transcend students. Emily is also the VP of Kenyan Kids Foundation USA, the governing and fundraising entity for Transcend.
Contributing to Good Works Engine is easy by selecting the donate button under “community” on their website – fleetfeetws. com, by visiting goodworksengine.orgor by emailing emily@fleetfeetws.com.
Fleet Feet Winston-Salem is located at 278 Harvey Street in Hanestowne Village Shopping Center, 336.722.8477 and at 6339 Jessie Lane in Clemmons, 336.293.8660. Hours are Monday through Friday 10:00 a.m. – 7:00 p.m. and Saturday 10:00 a.m. – 6:00 p.m. Follow them on Facebook and Instagram @ Fleetfeetws, and also learn more about their running gear, fit process and fitness inspiration at Fleetfeetws.com.
by LAUREN SEPHTON
Hi! I’m Lauren. I’m a freelance writer and a food blogger with a passion for food that tastes good and is good for you! Stay tuned each month to find everything from achievable dessert ideas to healthy, quick dinners that’ll happily feed the family.
Homemade apple fritters are the ultimate cozy breakfast or easy dessert made with fresh apples, in the air fryer instead of deep fried for a healthier swap, and dipped in a simple glaze!
Servings: 12-14 Prep Time: 10 minutes
Cook Time: 20 minutes Total Time: 30 minutes
1 ½ cups All Purpose Flour
2 tsp. Baking Powder
½ tsp. Fine Sea Salt
1 ½ tsp. Ground Cinnamon
½ tsp. Ground Allspice
¼ cup Granulated Cane Sugar
1/3 cup Whole Milk
2 large Eggs
1 tsp. Vanilla Extract
2 T Melted Butter
3 T Applesauce
2 cups Honeycrisp Apples, finely diced
1 T Apple Cider Vinegar
2 T Olive Oil
2 cups Powdered Sugar
¼ cup Milk, for the glaze
1. In a large bowl, combine the flour, baking powder, salt, cinnamon, allspice and sugar.
2. Create a well in the center to add the milk, eggs, vanilla, butter and applesauce. Mix the wet ingredients, then fold into the dry ingredients.
3. Add the diced apples and apple cider vinegar. Fold all ingredients together with a spatula just until combined.
4. Line your air fryer with parchment paper. Use a large cookie scoop to drop large dollops of batter onto the paper, working in small batches of 3-4 fritters at a time.
5. Drizzle lightly with olive oil.
6. Bake at 425F for 7-8 minutes, until deeply golden, then flip to bake an additional 2-3 minutes on the other side.
7. To make the glaze, whisk the powdered sugar and milk together until smooth. Dip the tops of the cooked apple fritters in the glaze, then let rest on a wire rack until the glaze is set, about 1-2 minutes. Enjoy warm!
Is your skin looking a little dry and dull after the summer?
Maybe you’re seeing some brown spots and more fine lines and wrinkles? Well, here’s some good news – fall is the start of laser and peel season, and both are excellent for getting your facial skin, neck and chest area back on track.
Dr. Leslie Branch, one of the board certified plastic surgeons at Forsyth Plastic Surgery, says “November is the perfect time for a peel or laser treatment. You’re most likely spending less time in full sun and your skin will have time to heal and look refreshed and renewed before holiday parties come up.”
Board certified plastic surgeon Dr. Andy Schneider agrees. He says, “The fall is a great time to do a laser or a peel on your face to rejuvenate the skin. The skin is like any organ in your body, it needs exercise and a little refreshing every once in a while. So, think of a peel or laser treatment as exercise for the skin. It rejuvenates and freshens the skin and gives you a healthier look and revitalized glow.”
Kinsley Nix, one of the licensed medical aestheticians at The VISTA (Forsyth Plastic Surgery’s award winning MedSpa) says, “Peels are great for the fall to clean up
the damage that we get from the summer, especially pigmentation issues. They’re also great for pores, textures, fine lines and wrinkles. If someone has a concern about deeper fine lines and wrinkles, a laser might be better suited for them.” Kinsley notes that lasers can really help target new collagen production and can be used to treat the face, neck and chest.
Gina Racca, head aesthetician at The VISTA, says she loves recommending a peel as a nice way to start your fall skincare reboot. She says, “I love our Pumpkin Peel and our Perfect Peel. The pumpkin peel is very light and smells delicious. The Perfect Peel is a medium depth peel and will have more visible peeling.” Gina adds, “Both are great for brightening up the skin, especially if you have an event to go to. Give them at least two to three weeks prior to your party to make sure your skin is healed and rehydrated.”
Gina offers one caution on peeling – don’t pick at peeling skin! She says, “While it’s tempting, don’t pick at your skin while it’s peeling because you can hyper pigment or scar that area. The skin tissue needs to release on its own, so you have a nice clean finish and beautiful, fresh glow.”
Dr. George Lawson, another board certified plastic surgeon at Forsyth Plastic Surgery,
recommends patients do their research when choosing where to have their peel or laser treatments performed. He says, “Our med spa, The VISTA, was a natural extension of our plastic surgery practice. We offer the best service and treatment options, highly qualified and experienced aestheticians and we have four board certified plastic surgeons on staff who can help guide and direct patients. You’re going to get excellent care and excellent results.”
Looking to do more than just treat fine lines and wrinkles with a peel or laser? Dr. Gil Kingman, a board certified plastic surgeon at the practice says, “If you feel like you’re ready to talk about a facelift, eyelift, neck lift, Botox or other injectable treatment, we’d love to meet with you. All four of the doctors at our practice are board certified in plastic surgery. There’s so much we can do to help you achieve the natural, beautiful results you’re looking for.”
For more information on Forsyth Plastic Surgery or The VISTA, please visit the practice’s website at forsythplasticsurgery. com. Consultations with a plastic surgeon are $125. Beauty consultations with Gina and Kinsley are free. To make an appointment, call 336.765.8620.
by MARTIE EMORY
There’s nothing more fun – or sure to lift your spirits – than a visit to Fraleigh’s, the always-bustling Clemmons boutique where family vibes emerge the minute you step through the door.
When the boutique opened in August of 1981, Owner Donna Merriman and her mom, Mary, were simply the most fashionable and down-to-Earth mother-daughter duo around. Today, you’ll find Donna and her daughter-in-law, Ally Merriman, lovingly navigating the Fraleigh’s journey. It’s still an experience where fashion may be the focus, but the comfort level of their client relationships brings out all the feels!
While you’re certainly accustomed to relying on Fraleigh’s for the highestquality collections of casual attire and updated career looks, Ally shares they’ve recently discovered that local customers don’t always realize the boutique carries formalwear, as well.
“We’re really a one-stop shop for mothers of both the bride and groom, not just for dresses, but also stylish shoes, jewelry and evening bags to finish an elegant look for a memorable occasion,” Ally explains.
If you’re looking for wedding day attire for mothers or grandmothers, remember it can also be their time to shine! Fraleigh’s is blessed with a stylish, knowledgeable
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staff that’s personally invested in helping these special people in your life feel the most comfortable in what they’re wearing on the big day. Now that it’s November, the team is also ready to show you a collection of beautiful cocktail dresses for those upcoming holiday parties!
Try on something wonderful and unexpected, take a twirl around the showroom and watch for the team’s nod of approval. Since the holidays can often include a flurry of engagements, it’s never too early to start browsing if you anticipate a family wedding in the new year. Fraleigh’s is proud to carry dresses from Adrianna Papell, Alex Evening, Jeanne Alexander, SLNY, Betsy & Adam and Jessica Howard.
“Making you feel your most comfortable in what you’re wearing, no matter what the occasion, is what we do best,” adds Ally. “If a special occasion pops up and let’s say you’re still struggling with losing that last 10 pounds, the Fraleigh’s fashion team is here to find what flatters your figure and give you the confidence to wear it with some sparkle!”
If you’re new to the Fraleigh’s experience, know that you’ll never feel sales pressure, just family friendly encouragement to maybe try out a new style or two. First time shoppers are offered a quick tour to get a feel for the boutique, then left to browse on their own. It’s the goal for you to absolutely love the items you take home!
While attending fashion markets four times a year, Donna and Ally are totally focused on selecting items with their specific customers in mind – a shopping adventure that is truly a labor of love. Watch for Fraleigh’s live videos on Facebook, Instagram and YouTube, and keep up with specials and new arrivals on Facebook and Instagram @fraleighsboutique – including details coming soon on their holiday open house in December. Visit Fraleigh’s at 2626 Lewisville-Clemmons Road in Clemmons, 336.766.7440 and online at Fraleighsboutiquenc.com. Boutique hours are Monday through Friday 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m. and Saturday 10:00 a.m. – 4:00 p.m.
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Sprinting toward the checkout, I flung my items on the counter. I concealed my hurriedness, exchanging pleasantries with the lady at the register. She scanned my signature then peeped back at me. “I know you. I read your articles in Forsyth Woman.” Before I could express gratitude, a former gym acquaintance approached. The friend graciously shared good reports he’d received about our ministry. Within minutes, everyone standing near the front of the store overheard the conversation. I couldn’t help but stand a little taller and smile a little bigger. Then, it happened.
Right in the middle of the generous exchange, the sales lady interrupted the chat. “I’m sorry ma’am, but your credit card has been denied.” Stunned, I muddled, “Please slide it again.” Once more, she announced that the company declined credit.
by DR. DEBBIE LANIER
My insides balked, but I remained calm, explaining the impossibility of this predicament. “I just used this card earlier today. Besides, we faithfully pay our balance in full each month. There’s no way they denied my credit.” The patient clerk hurdled the awkwardness, then kindly asked for another form of payment. As I reached for the debit card, my peripheral view spotted the line forming behind me.
That’s just great! The same folks who, only minutes ago, heard people bragging on my good name hear, in the next breath, that I have no good name!
I stomped to the car, then sank into my seat. Humiliation and shame lurked. (Ok, a little rage, too). I’ve lived my whole life believing integrity is more than an accessory. It’s essential! No matter your talents, education or income, being a person of your word matters substantially more. (I have my parents to thank for that wisdom.)
As I hustled to meet my husband for dinner, I phoned the company. I skipped pleasantries this time. After my emotional inquiry (ok, so it was a rant), the gentleman conveyed that the post office reported my bill as undelivered. He explained, “It’s standard procedure to freeze the card.” At this point, I’m freaking. “You mean you tarnished my credibility because of someone else’s mistake? What’s more, you didn’t consider contacting me before you froze it?”
By this time, mascara streaked my cheeks. My daddy’s words reverberated in my ear, “All you’ve got is your name. Be a person of your word.” No matter how the credit company attempted to redeem the mess, folks in that store wouldn’t forget the stain on my name.
The ordeal gnawed at me for days. Finally, the One who loves me in spite of myself got my attention. God’s whisperings to my soul abruptly halted my self-righteous mantra. What am I doing? I obsess over someone discrediting my name, yet I proceed without pause when people dishonor God’s Name. To make matters worse, I’ve been that person, tainting His reputation.
How many times have I said or done something that contaminated the credibility of the One who generously gives me everything I possess?
I engage people every day who loathe even the mention of God. Such disdain stems from a misrepresentation of Jesus at some point in their journey. There’s no other way to explain the disengagement. Once you authentically encounter the true essence of this Faithful Father, it’s impossible to walk away uninterested. IMPOSSIBLE!
I left those moments with God asking myself, “If someone’s perception of Jesus is based solely on my representation of Him, how do they perceive this Lover? “Does my life brag about the One who matters most? Does my journey boast about this God who makes me feel like I matter most?
Certainly, integrity is essential, but it’s not so that people will think well of me. It’s so they will think well of Him! I’d rather brag about His Name all my days than live an empty life advertising my own. If I succeed at the things that don’t really matter, it’s not success at all. Lord, soak my soul in that which matters most, and help me trust You to take care of the rest.
by MARTIE EMORY, photos by MEGAN SMITH PHOTOGRAPHY
Walking into newly opened Blowouts & Bubbles in the charming West End neighborhood of Winston-Salem evokes some serious Palm Beach vibes – plus a delicious feeling that something beautiful is about to happen!
That’s how Owner and Founder Armine Cisneros felt when she moved to Greensboro from Boca Raton, FL and discovered this perfect small business niche. She knew beautiful things were on the horizon, both for her family’s relocation and her fun new business venture – Blowouts & Bubbles – which first opened in Midtown Greensboro in December of 2023.
Having noticed that the concept of blow dry bars was not a common thing in the Triad, she knew this was a Palm Beach mainstay she could introduce to her new community – and, as a mother, she also knew how grateful busy clients would be to have a new, luxurious option!
The amazing pink-and-green motif inside this West End gem (courtesy of Theodore B. Interiors) is more than décor – it’s an invitation to relax and lose yourself in much needed time of self care. Inviting the skilled stylists at Blowouts & Bubbles to work their magic – seven days a week – is not
only a splendid escape, but it’s no secret that looking good makes us feel good, as well.
Armine shares that the entire experience has been a blessing!
“I am not a cosmetologist and never thought I would be involved in the hair or beauty industry,” she explains. “Having the luxury of blow dry bars all around South Florida, I knew the people of the Triad would love it as well!”
She also understands the value of services that cater to making women’s busy lives a bit easier. “Having your hair washed and looking its best gives you one less thing to worry about throughout the week,” she adds, pointing out that many clients schedule regular weekly appointments and admit they no longer even have shampoo and conditioner in their showers. Stylists Hope, Jaimie, Emilee, Erika and NeAva are making the routine of a weekly blowout a wonderful reality for clients – a luxury they never knew they needed.
“It’s really a timesaver, besides being so much healthier for your hair,” adds Armine. Using the highest quality products – which they also sell in the shop – provides a full focus on the art of the perfect blow-out – something that might be an after-thought at a conventional salon.
As a happy bonus to relaxing and emerging with fabulous hair, you’ll enjoy a glass of Prosecco, wine or tea while you’re being pampered, and the shop also features a curated display of fun gift items including cute hair accessories and jewelry. If you’re stopping for a blow-out on your way to a lunch or dinner party, pick up a unique hostess gift or birthday surprise while you’re here.
Another of those beautiful things about expanding Blowouts & Bubbles to Winston-Salem has been joining the small business community here – something Armine is thankful for and excited to watch grow. Armine and her husband moved here originally to raise their three children – Nyree, Ara and Nazeni – two girls and one boy – and all under age five! So, being embraced by such a supportive community and feeling camaraderie with other small business owners has proven to be an added joy.
Blowouts & Bubbles also offers services for brides-to-be and hosts bridal parties right in their adorable space. What could be better than pampering your bridesmaids with a relaxing blow-out while sipping champagne! Stylists can also provide onsite wedding hair services – and suggest you book those two to four weeks in advance.
With a repertoire that includes the Signature Blow-out, Extended Signature, Light Signature, Mini Signature, Dry & Fly plus Updo Styling and scalp massage, your relaxing “me” time will leave you fully rejuvenated, with maybe even a new sense of style and confidence!
The newest Blowouts & Bubbles is located at 431 West End Boulevard in Winston-Salem, 336.293.8384. Book an appointment by calling the salon or online at blowoutsandbubbles. com, and follow them on Instagram @ blowoutsandbubblesws. Hours are Monday through Thursday 8:30 am - 6:30 pm, Friday & Saturday 8:30 am - 7:30 pm and Sunday 10:00 am - 4:00 pm.
A DONATED PAIR OF SHOES HELPED ME STEP INTO A NEW CAREER IN RETAIL.
Reflecting on the recent struggles that NC residents have endured, it is painfully obvious that life often throws us curveballs. Sometimes it comes in the form of stress of a demanding job, relationship struggles or dealing with unexpected challenges like illness or loss. During these hard times, it can feel nearly impossible to stay grounded and calm. While we can’t control everything that happens to us, we can control how we respond to it.
One of the most effective ways to navigate life’s ups and downs is by nurturing the mind-body connection through mindfulness, breathwork and movement. These practices, when used together, create a powerful toolkit for self-care, resilience and healing.
At its core, MINDFULNESS is the practice of being fully present in the moment, without judgment. When we’re going through difficult times, our minds tend to dwell on the past or worry about the future which can lead to feelings of overwhelm and anxiety. Mindfulness helps break this cycle by bringing our focus back to the present moment. By integrating mindfulness into your daily routine, you can create a mental safe space where you can pause, reflect and reset.
Mindfulness can be as simple as taking a few moments each day to pause and breathe. A quick and effective mindfulness exercise is the “5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique.” Identify five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell and one thing you can taste. This exercise grounds you in the present and engages all your senses.
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Breath is a vital part of our lives, and we often take it for granted. When we are stressed, our breath tends to become shallow and rapid, which triggers a “fight or flight” response. By practicing intentional breathwork, we can work to promote relaxation and help the body return to a state of calm.
One simple breathwork technique is “box breathing.” You have probably heard of this technique which is as simple as inhaling for a count of four, holding the breath for four, exhaling for four and holding again for four. Breathwork is particularly powerful because it can be done anywhere and anytime. Whether you’re in the middle of a stressful meeting or struggling to fall asleep at night, breathwork provides an immediate and accessible way to reduce anxiety and restore balance. Studies have shown that regular breathwork can improve heart health and reduce feelings of pain.
When we’re under stress, physical movement may be the last thing on our minds. However, gentle movement such as yoga, stretching or walking can have profound benefits for the body and mind. Movement releases endorphins, the body’s natural mood boosters, and helps alleviate symptoms of stress, including headaches.
Mindful movement practices, like yoga or tai chi, combine physical activity with mindfulness and breathwork, creating a full body experience. These practices encourage us to listen to our bodies, honor our limits and move with intention. Unlike high-intensity workouts, mindful movement is about creating a sense of ease rather than pushing the body.
Even a short daily walk has mental health benefits. Nature has a calming effect on the mind, and the act of walking helps clear mental clutter. As you walk, focus on your surroundings – the sound of the birds, the feel of the breeze, the colors of the trees –and notice how your body feels with each step.
While each of these practices – mindfulness, breathwork and movement – can be beneficial on its own, they work best when integrated. A simple daily routine might include starting your morning with a few minutes of mindful breathing, incorporating gentle stretches or yoga into your afternoon, and taking time at night to reflect on your day.
With practice, you can strengthen your mind-body connection, allowing you to better cope with life’s challenges. It’s not about perfection or eliminating stress – it’s about creating a toolkit that helps you navigate difficult times with greater ease, compassion and resilience. In hard times, caring for yourself is a necessity. Mindfulness, breathwor and movement can provide the foundation you need to thrive, no matter what life throws your way.
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I f your dream scenario includes a wedding with a view, you’ll fall in love with every timeless detail at Legacy Stables & Events in Winston-Salem.
Absolutely everything about this 30-acre family estate is truly something special, reflecting a blend of elegance, tradition and natural beauty that’s perfect for both indoor and outdoor events. Discovering the endless elements that set Legacy Stables & Events apart from other venues is a pleasure, starting with the incredible versatility of their event spaces!
Director of Weddings and Social Events Caitlynn Barth says she’s never given a tour where there wasn’t an option that made sense for the logistics of the event.
by MARTIE EMORY
“We can truly host events as small as 10 to 25 guests and as large as 800,” she shares. “On top of that versatility, we have a variety of styles to choose from! The Grace Barn is rustic and romantic, the Forsyth Barn is bright and modern and the Legacy House is that very popular perfect garden setting.”
While those qualities alone would be quite enough to distinguish this picturesque setting, Legacy Stables is also a mere 10 minutes away from downtown WinstonSalem and conveniently located near countless hotels, Airbnbs and local airports.
“Still, the biggest thing that sets us apart from other places is the smile you get with your service!” Caitlynn adds. “It’s one thing all of our staff have in common! From your first tour and planning meeting to the event staff working on your wedding day – we are all excited for you! Our facilities staff is going to give you a smile and a wave as they set tables and chairs, our parking attendants are known to be conversational and offer their congratulations and I always see our inclusive catering staff and bartenders beaming with excitement for our couples! That’s just something you don’t find everywhere. It takes a special team to keep a place like Legacy pristine and running smoothly, and we can’t wait to introduce ourselves to all the brides who come to our show in January!”
If you’re anticipating a holiday engagement or if you’re already showing off a sparkly engagement ring, plan to attend the Legacy Bridal Show on Sunday, January 19, 2025, from 12:00 p.m. until 3:00 p.m. Tickets are free with no physical ticket needed, but
registering online in advance is important so you’ll have a name tag ready and waiting!
“Many of our preferred vendors will be here to showcase the services they can provide to enhance a couple’s special day, and some will have giveaways or discounts that are available only that day,” says Caitlynn. “And, of course, our beautiful property will be staged for wedding inspiration!”
Legacy’s in-house catering partner, Twisted Pine, will be providing delicious samples of their cuisine, and couples can view specialty rental options from their exclusive rental partner, Party Reflections. Plus, Legacy’s day-of coordination team will be available to answer questions!
“The event is open to our current brides, potential brides and brides who have already booked a venue but still need other vendors for their wedding,” adds Caitlynn.
There’s no better opportunity to get a feel for the unique ambiance Legacy Stables & Events has to offer, and to sit back, relax and enjoy a few minutes envisioning how your own personal style blends with this incredible event venue.
Legacy Stables & Events is located at 4151 Thomasville Road in Winston-Salem, 336.293.7159. Visit legacystablesandevents. com/upcoming-events to register for the Bridal Show, or email events@ legacystablesandevents.com for more information on scheduling a consultation and tour! Follow this amazing local venue on Facebook and Instagram @ legacystablesandevents.
by MARTIE EMORY
One of the first comments Drs. Jessica and Joshua Katz hear from new patients is a heartfelt desire to “get back” to their lives.
Where productive days being active with children and grandchildren were once the game plan – the pain of peripheral neuropathy stepped in.
The doctors first opened Aligned Health & Wellness in Kernersville in 2007, and the busy practice has now expanded to both Winston-Salem and Burlington, where the two devote their time to improving the daily routines of neuropathy patients who suffer with typical symptoms that can include numbness, tingling, burning, itching, sharp/stabbing pain, throbbing, coldness, heaviness, sensitivity to touch, balance problems and weakness.
Lunch-and-learn educational seminars are one way the doctors spread the word about their non-drug based approach to peripheral neuropathy, with seminars held on most Tuesdays at the Olive Garden located at 170 Hanes Mall Circle in Winston-Salem. Reservations are required and can be made by calling the Aligned Health & Wellness office at 336.600.2477.
A recent, grateful success story, Brenda Ireland discovered Aligned Health & Wellness when she received a card in the mail about one of their educational events.
“I had suffered with neuropathy for about 10 to 12 years without any consistent relief,” shares Brenda. “I experienced pain, numbness and cold and hot sensations – all at one time. I was taking gabapentin twice a day to control the pain, but I am not a fan of taking meds. I was getting nowhere fast, and after hearing about their treatment, I was excited to try it.”
Brenda went for her first evaluation in May of 2023, and from that day forward, has been very dedicated to the process.
“Dr. Jessica and Dr. Joshua were great to work with and were so dedicated to being able to genuinely help with my problem. I was checked on every week for the first 90 days, if not by them personally, from someone in their office. I kept logs, reporting everything related to my improvement and they had only one thing in mind – to see me be free from pain and off the medicine!” she shares.
Missing out on what had previously been a very fulfilling life with family and volunteer work, Brenda had been experiencing pain that meant she couldn’t even sit down to rest. Sitting simply made the pain worse.
“Trying to lie down and sleep at night was impossible. I had been retired for eight years, and I needed to be able to rest and go again the next day!” she adds. “I have a very supportive husband and four grandchildren who I love spending time with, and that had become a struggle.”
Brenda had also loved working outside and volunteering with Samaritan’s Purse Operation Christmas Child year round – which she will now be able to finally enjoy pain free!
“I had my last check-up this past week, and after 16 months, I am no longer on any medication. There is no pain – and all that went with it – and I am able to rest, relax and enjoy a new day both physically and mentally! I thank the Lord for His healing power and the abilities he gave Drs. Jessica and Joshua for the healing I have been able to experience!”
Learn more about the Aligned Health & Wellness devotion to peripheral neuropathy patients, or request an initial appointment at piedmonttriadneuropathy.com. The practice is located at 663 Gralin Street in Kernersville, 336.390.9400, at 765 Highland Oaks Drive, Suite 200 in Winston-Salem, 336.600.2477, and their newest addition is at 2929 Crouse Lane, Suite C in Burlington, NC, 336.565.1028.
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by TARYN JEREZ
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This month’s featured artist, Abigail Wilson, is a masterful artist known for her ability to capture stunning works in real time, creating paintings that showcase the talents she has meticulously honed over years.
How would you describe your work?
I create paintings with an impressionistic style and a touch of realism, really bringing to life the romance and grandeur of a wedding day while capturing the bride and groom beautifully! My work is done quickly and completed at each wedding in four to six hours.
What is your favorite aspect of capturing weddings?
My favorite part about being a live wedding painter is the honor of being a part of the most important and special moment of the bride and groom’s life. I have the honor of capturing the moment they have dreamed about so they can remember it in the most unique and beautiful way for the rest of their lives. I love talking to their guests and seeing how much love and support each couple has from their loved ones!
How have you grown, personally, as an artist?
I have been a professional artist for about a decade now, and I’m in my third year of live wedding painting. I had the privilege of growing up with a father who is an artist, and he taught me most of what I know today. I also went to the University of North Carolina at Greensboro to get my BFA in painting. I always loved painting people, and I am fascinated with capturing beautiful colors and lighting to create the feeling of peace and love.
How do you carve out time to be creative?
I am so blessed to be a full time artist and to be able to sustain my living through art. I have many different areas of creativity that I do from live wedding paintings to my personal work of illustrations and murals. Recently, I prioritized time to create The Wedding Painter’s Masterclass for artists who want to step into this form of work. My week is filled with dreaming and creating, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Do you have a favorite story behind one of your projects and why?
My best friend was getting married, and due to some circumstances, she wasn’t able to get bridal portraits, so I decided to paint it for her. She came over with her dress, and we took reference pictures. There wasn’t a location nearby that matched her vision for a romantic and fairytale-like scene. Think Cinderella! I improvised and painted her in a meadow filled with roses, with some ancient ruins with vines and foliage growing around it and a beautiful willow tree with the light shining behind it. I surprised her with it after her ceremony, and they thought it was perfect!
What are you working on that excites you right now?
I’m working on getting all of my paintings digitized and put on Etsy so that people can buy prints of my work! This excites me so much because my work has been sitting in closets for years, and I want the world to be able to appreciate the beautiful message behind my work and decorate their walls with the painting that speaks most of them!
What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with fellow artists, especially those at the start of their careers?
I want to encourage any artist who is starting a career that it’s possible to create a sustainable living through what you’re passionate about! It takes time; it takes dedication and consistently showing up even when it feels like nothing’s happening. Share with people what you do, make posts and talk to the people who are going to be your best customers – I did it, and you can, too!
If you are interested in learning more about this month’s artist, Abigail Wilson, you can find her work online at abbysheartwork.com as well as follow her on Instagram @abbys.heartwork.weddings. Other places to find her work are on Instagram at @theweddingpaintersmasterclass, @abbysheartwork and her Etsy at AbbysHeartwork.
If you’re thinking about remodeling your kitchen or bathroom, or simply looking for new furnishings to liven up your space, look no further. Taking on a renovation of your kitchen or bath has become a trend of sorts – fixing up the rooms of the home that make or break the whole aesthetic. With the real estate market in its current state, the task of updating an area in your house is an easier pill to swallow than hunting for a dream house on the market. You get to infuse your style into your home and make it into that dream house to enjoy for years to come.
Hiring a professional takes away the stress of having to make all the decisions that come with a remodel, from choosing paint colors to picking the right cabinets to sourcing the perfect materials. At June DeLugas Interiors, we offer turnkey design and remodeling services. To us, turnkey design doesn’t only pertain to remodeling, it also includes everything from light fixtures to window treatments and even custom furnishings. Our team of designers provides a variety of luxury services that promise to make the remodeling process an easy and enjoyable experience.
The first step of our design process is to meet with you at your home to discuss your needs, style preferences and any existing furnishing pieces with which you can’t part. We take pictures and measurements of the rooms involved in the project. After we return to our design center, we take those measurements to create CAD drawings to have a 2D representation of your space. Next, we pull samples and swatches of paint, fabrics and finishes that match your desired design. For a visual representation of our designs, renderings are made to bring them to life, transforming your ideas for your home into reality.
When all these moving parts have been selected by our designers, we will sit down with you at our design center to review our proposed designs. Sometimes clients have requests for changes to be made, whether that be an alternate material or an adjustment to the overall design. We work with you to ensure that the revised design exceeds your expectations, meeting with you to ensure you’re happy with the revisions. The next step in our design process is to communicate with our subcontractors about the project and get the ball rolling, ensuring a smooth transition from start to finish. Our goal is to make your decision to take on a remodel with us at June DeLugas Interiors one that you will never regret.
Our portfolio of projects is listed on our website, junedelugasinteriors. com, under the “projects” tab at the top. You can see some of our projects from the past 10 years and how the styles and design trends have changed over the years. The first step is picking up your phone and making an appointment. We look forward to discussing your dream remodel with you.
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BY JON MARZANO, AIF®, MANAGING PRINCIPAL
When I first started in the financial services business years ago, I was in a training meeting and one of the instructors told us a story within personal finance that resonated with me. It resonated so much that I made a small change in my life at that time that was consistent with the message being taught, and I think it is time to tell that story again in the hopes that a few others have the “aha” moment that I did many years ago.
The story centered around a young professional, not too far out of college, who had landed a good job and was on a path to success. Like every young adult who strikes out on his or her own, there is a learning curve and a host of experiences that start to mold who we are, what we become and where we place value. Every day on the way into work, he stopped by the local coffee house and ordered a large cup of something highly caffeinated to get his day going. After long hours at the office, sometimes late into the evening, he would grab takeout and eat in the quiet of his own apartment on his couch, an easy and filling way to top off a hard day at the office. The weeks turn into months, months into years and the working life seems to be a breeze. About three years into his job, he decided he would really start to focus on saving for the future. The monthly budget always seemed to work out okay, but he knew that there was very little money left at the end of the month even with a steady paycheck.
After looking through his bank statements, he realized that he had no extra money left at the end of each month and that, some months, he was running in the red for a few days before his next deposit. Frustrated that he had not paid enough attention to what had been going on, he feverishly broke down his monthly budget to see what he needed to work on to help right his financial ship each month.
It should not have been a surprise for him to learn that the morning coffee and the evening take-out was starting to cost him upwards of $25 to $30 a day and, as he added that expense up over the course of a month, it equaled the cost of his rent. What started out as a morning treat for a young professional, over time, became the norm. By brewing his own cup of coffee and drinking it on the way to work, he was able to free up investable money every month. Additionally, by cooking a couple of nights a week and having leftovers one night a week, he was able to cut the take-out portion of his budget by more than half.
The realization is that by making small tweaks to your lifestyle in favor of investing for the future, you can truly move financial mountains for yourself, and the earlier that these changes are made, the more you accomplish. Period. There is a great book that is called The Latte Factor written by David Bach, and it tells a similar story and is a great read for anyone who is trying to figure out how to get started with investing and where to find the money to do it.
by MARTIE EMORY, photos by JEJ PHOTOS
What began exclusively as a cozy dessert spot 37 years ago has become one of Winston-Salem’s most recommended dining destinations. Those sweet treats at Midtown Cafe & Dessertery – now in more than 30 varieties – still have quite a loyal following and tempt guests from behind an impressive glass showcase, ready to complement all your holiday gatherings!
Whether you’re dining in this holiday season or ordering take-out to be enjoyed with family and friends at home, Midtown Cafe is a comfort food gem, and the ultimate season of comfort and celebration has prompted the addition of some tasty new menu items this month.
“On the dessert side, we’re bringing back our seasonal pumpkin pie and red velvet cake, along with a new seasonal cobbler bar sundae and a new salted caramel cookie blast,” explains Director of Operations Shara Rubino. “Our other delicious new menu items are going to include crab cake benedict, citrus berry pound cake french toast, salted caramel banana bread french toast, kickin cajun mac & cheese bowl, the oh my burger (that’s house-made pimento cheese, fried green tomatoes and bacon), the pub burger (house-made cheese sauce, caramelized onions, lettuce, tomato
and Dijon mustard on pretzel bun) and revamped shrimp tacos.”
To go with everything there is to love about that dessert lineup, there are also new seasonal drinks at the Midtown Coffee Bar including pumpkin cold brew, Jack Frost lemonade, red velvet hot chocolate and butterscotch latte to name a few. Coffee enthusiasts can also choose from delicious signature coffees, espressos or teas – paired with one of those delicious desserts or ready to grab on the go as you head out for more holiday shopping!
If you’ve got your heart set on one of those irresistible year round scratch made desserts, Shara suggests you experience the ease of ordering online and advises placing a cake or pie order at least three days in advance. Besides those seasonal options, Midtown fan favorites that are perfect to add to your holiday meal at home include apple pie, pecan pie, iced fiveflavor pound cake, Italian cream cake and macadamia carrot cake.
“We also released a new chocolate raspberry cake on our previous menu update that’s still a big hit!” Shara adds.
As you’re making plans for holiday gettogethers at the restaurant, Midtown recommends securing reservations for
larger parties at least a week in advance. Guests can also add their names to the convenient online walk-in waitlist on the website (see the reservations and waitlist tab) –especially on Saturdays and Sundays. Claim your place in line, get live updates on your expected wait time and then check in with a staff member when you arrive. Lots of goodness and incredible customer service continue to make this Stratford Road classic a popular holiday spot for breakfast, lunch, dinner or a stop for coffee and dessert.
Midtown Cafe & Dessertery is also a longtime favorite of brunch enthusiasts – and breakfast is served all day which makes for a fun holiday outing with the kids! But, lovers of all their timeless comfort specialties including Carolina shrimp ‘n grits, buttermilk fried chicken and Midtown meatloaf say a dinner at Midtown simply can’t be topped!
Treat yourself all year long – and impress your out-of-town guests over the holidays – with a visit to Midtown Cafe & Dessertery, so easy to find at 151 South Stratford Road in WinstonSalem. Call to place a food or dessert order at 336.724.9800, visit midtowncafews.com to place an online order and browse the menu and follow them on Instagram @midtowncafe_ws for menu updates and specials!
by Jodie Brim
First-Ever Holiday Give Back Event
Date: Thursday, December 19th
Time: 6-9pm
Location: UR Coliseum, Walkertown, NC
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Jodie Brim is the owner of Jodie Brim Creative, a branding agency specializing in photography and videography for entrepreneurs. With over 12 years of experience, she and her team deliver high-quality, strategic digital assets that elevate brands and help business leaders connect with their audiences through impactful visual storytelling.
This black-tie affair will bring our community together for an unforgettable evening filled with festive music, dancing, and delicious hors d’oeuvres – all while supporting a cause that’s close to my heart. - Jodie Brim
Our theme for the evening is “We Made It” – celebrating another year in the books! No matter what changes, challenges, or unexpected turns we faced, we made it – and that’s something worth celebrating!
Joy is the founder and executive director of LEAD Girls of North Carolina, a nonprofit dedicated to empowering the next generation of women leaders. She holds a bachelor’s degree from Salem College and is a certified life coach. Joy serves on several community boards, including The Women’s Fund of Winston-Salem and Carolina Core FC Academy. She’s also the recipient of the 2022 Black Business Ink 40 Under 40 Award.
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100% of ticket sales from this event will go directly to LEAD Girls of NC (Learning Everyday Accomplishing Dreams). This organization believes that every girl deserves a chance to be seen, heard, valued, and equipped. Knowing that their resources do not match their limitless potential, LEAD’s mission is to provide preteen girls with tools and resources to become change makers and leaders in their communities.
Allonda is a top-performing real estate broker, helping clients confidently buy and sell their homes. With over 200 properties sold, she ranks in the top 1.5% of agents in the U.S. Beyond her professional success, Allonda is passionate about inspiring fellow agents to thrive in the industry. She balances her thriving career with being a devoted mom to four kids.
Amy is the founder of Sugar Mama’s Movement, empowering women to grow personally and professionally, and the owner of American Moving & Hauling, a woman-led moving company known for its excellent service and community focus. Her leadership embodies a commitment to female empowerment and success in male-dominated industries.
by MARTIE EMORY, photo by MEGAN SMITH PHOTOGRAPHY
Through every stage of life, generations of women in Winston-Salem and surrounding areas have come to love and trust the ultimate care that Hawthorne Obstetrics & Gynecology provides.
A lifetime of wellness is always their top priority, nurturing families in a variety of capacities. Hawthorne OB-GYN providers also deliver newborns and perform surgery at either Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist or Novant Health Forsyth Medical Center – convenient to everywhere in the Triad.
Their newest addition, Dr. Ariana Patras, DO, joined the practice at the end of August and brings a down-to-Earth passion in caring for women, and therefore, their entire family. She is already devoting herself to the “entire lifetime” of her female patients, from adolescents to teens, to childbearing years and on to menopause where, yes, you do still need the care of a gynecologist!
“Women really are the center of the family,” shares Ariana. “I feel like I’m treating the entire dynamic of her family, throughout the entire journey!”
Ariana graduated with honors from Hofstra University in 2014 with a degree in biology and a minor in biochemistry on a presidential academic scholarship. She earned her medical degree from Rowan University School of Medicine in 2020, then completed her OB-GYN residency at Monmouth Medical Center in Long Branch, NJ in 2024.
As she grew up on the New Jersey shore and is brand new to the Winston-Salem area, Ariana and her fiancé, Scott (a gastroenterology fellow at Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center) are happy to establish roots here while planning for a spring wedding.
“Community is important to us, and I love that Hawthorne is so family oriented. Along the way, someone had suggested I ‘find my people’ – and I have found that here, not just in colleagues, but also in my patients,” she adds. “People make all the difference, and I have felt so supported, especially being new to the area.”
As a third year medical student, Ariana knew immediately that she liked hands-on surgery – and she delivered a baby on the second day of her rotation – sealing the deal! She is certified in the Da Vinci robotic surgical system which provides minimally invasive surgery in a hospital setting, potentially for hysterectomies or fibroid tumors. The process is similar to
laparoscopic surgery but with a quicker recovery. The practice is invested in state-of-the-art technology and regularly adds new services to that end.
Hawthorne OB-GYN is dedicated to providing the highest level of care possible by listening to your questions, understanding your needs and guiding you to establish and achieve individual wellness goals. Services the practice provides include preventive care, well woman exams, complete family planning, preconception, infertility services, ultrasounds, mammography and expert diagnosis and treatment of complex issues like pelvic organ prolapse and maintaining optimal wellness during and after menopause.
New patients of any age are always welcome to join the Hawthorne family! Hawthorne Obstetrics & Gynecology is conveniently located at 4605 Country Club Road in Winston-Salem. Call them at 336.768.3632 for an appointment, or schedule online at Hawthorneobgyn. com. Office hours are Monday through Thursday 8:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m. and Friday 8:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.
Cooper Scurry, M.D.
A facial plastic surgeon is a surgical specialist who has demonstrated a commitment to treating conditions of the face, head, and neck. He or she is trained in both the functional and cosmetic aspects of surgery of the face, head, and neck. The facial plastic surgeon has spent at least 5-6 years in surgical training after graduation from medical school. Training includes one year in general surgery and at least four additional years of specialty training in head and neck surgery and facial plastic surgery. Many facial plastic surgeons have completed one further year of fellowship training dedicated exclusively to facial plastic surgery.
Facial plastic surgery grew out of a need to improve patient care in the field of head and neck surgery. Concentrating on pathology, anatomy, physiology, and pathology of all the organs and structures of the head and neck enables the facial plastic surgeon to focus on one area of the body and therefore provide an increased level of specialized care to their patients. Some patients suffer from birth disfigurements such as birthmarks, cleft palates, and congenital facial deformities. Others are victims of accidents, burns, diseases, and the treatment required for such diseases. Many choose to change some of the signs of premature aging or the shape or size of a facial feature that has bothered them for years. Facial plastic surgeons are typically trained in otolaryngology-head and neck surgery, and are board certified in their fields. Facial plastic surgeons may become members of the American Academy of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery (AAFPRS), a National Medical Specialty Society of the American Medical Association (AMA) for the field of facial plastic surgery. The AAFPRS was founded in 1964 and represents more than 2,200 facial plastic surgeons throughout the world.
A facial plastic surgeon may perform the following procedures:
Rhinoplasty: Surgery of the nose where cartilage and bone are reshaped and reconstructed; excess bone or cartilage may be removed; rhinoplasty changes the form and/or function of the outside of the nose, while septoplasty changes the shape of the nasal septum inside of the nose.
Blepharoplasty: Surgery of the eyelids where fat and excess skin, bags, pouches, wrinkles in the eye area are removed.
Rhytidectomy: In facelift surgery, excess skin of the face, cheeks, and neck is removed or reshaped and muscles are tightened.
Forehead Lift: Surgery to minimize forehead lines and wrinkles, and elevate the brows to reduce lid drooping.
Submental lipectomy: Surgery beneath the chin to eliminate “double” chin; excess fat is removed.
Mentoplasty: Surgery of the chin where a receding chin is augmented, or a prominent chin is reduced.
Otoplasty: Surgery of the ear where prominent or protruding ears are set back to a more naturally appearing position.
Skin Resurfacing: Removal of the upper layer of skin (by laser, chemical peel, or dermabrasion), resulting in smoother and less wrinkled skin.
Facial Reconstruction: Surgery to repair or reconstruct facial features in victims of cancer, facial trauma, and birth defects.
Facial Injectable procedures: Procedures in which different products are used to restore or refresh certain facial features or reduce facial wrinkles.
Much of the material for this article has been prepared by the AAFPRS for the purpose of patient education.
by SHERIDAN C. WATKINS
Life constantly changes, and there will be eras where loved ones transition further away than you’d choose. Whether it’s a child leaving for college, a partner relocating for work or a bestie moving to a new city, long-distance relationships can be tough. But, with creativity and intention, you can keep those connections strong, no matter the miles between you. Let’s dive into the most common relationships and how to manage them with some fun and practical ways to stay close.
Long-distance romance can feel challenging, especially if you’re used to being close. During this time, it’s vital to strengthen your bond in new ways.
Schedule Quality Time: Set regular dates, and virtual dates count, too! Watching the same movie while video chatting, cooking “together” from different kitchens or setting up a virtual coffee date during lunch can make you feel more connected. And, when the time allows, plan visits to spend time together in person.
Surprise Each Other: Some people don’t enjoy surprises, so popping up unannounced might not be the best idea, but everyone wants to feel thought about. You can send a handwritten letter, a gift card to their favorite place, a care package or even a heartfelt video message to remind your partner how much you care.
Set Goals Together: Don’t let important things you did together in person stop when you’re apart. It’s common for couples to plan for their future, and this should still be a priority.
Usually, long-distance relationships have an expiration date, so it’s nice to have something to look forward to in order to keep the relationship exciting and hopeful.
Whether you’re an empty nester with a kid in college or a parent with children living in different states, maintaining close family ties is important, even when life takes everyone in different directions.
Embrace Technology: Video calls have been lifesavers for the modern times we live in. Schedule weekly or bi-weekly video chats to catch up on life, or use the morning times to get ready for the day together. It’s also a great idea to create group chats to send quick messages and funny thoughts.
Send a Little Love: Care packages and postcards are not just for romantic relationships. Send family members little reminders of home, whether it’s pictures, homemade goods or even something they forgot at home you think they would appreciate having with them.
Celebrate Milestones: Even if you can’t be together for birthdays, anniversaries or holidays, you can still make it special. Mail them a “party in a box” to help them celebrate wherever they are and spend time with each other virtually.
We all know life gets busy, and sometimes friends move away or enter new phases of life, like starting families or advancing careers. But, that doesn’t mean your friendship has to fade.
Stay Intentional: With busy schedules, it’s easy to lose touch. Make time to check in, even if it’s just sending a quick text to see how they’re doing. A little effort goes a long way. And since you’re busy too, there’s nothing wrong with scheduling reminders so you don’t forget.
Create Virtual Hangouts: Again, virtual dates aren’t just for romantic relationships! If there is a show you enjoyed watching together in person, get on FaceTime and do the same thing. You can start a book club and talk virtually about each chapter. With friends, the creativity to talk doesn’t end.
Stay Adaptable: Life changes can affect how often you see your friends, whether they are far away or not. If your friend is navigating a big life change, like becoming a parent, understand that his or her availability might shift. Instead of feeling distant, support them by checking in when they have time and offering flexibility in your plans.
Connection and communication is the key to maintaining the important relationships in your life. With a little effort, technology and creativity, you can stay connected and keep your bonds strong, and when you come back together, it’ll be like they never left!
by MICHAEL JOHNSON
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”
~ Joseph Campbell
This month, we feature an individual who epitomizes what it means to have an extraordinary story that captivates but merely serves as a component to his entire canvas. This man is a pastiche of faith, resilience, victory and influence. The story that many would count as his most important is not anywhere near the totality of who he is. Let us meet Leroy Smith.
The year was 1978. Two young men were 8th grade friends. They both loved basketball and all the trappings of being active adolescents competing for the thrill of victory while despising the agony of defeat. The city where they met and then formed a friendship was Wilmington, North Carolina. One of these two youngsters was our Leroy Smith, and the other was Michael Jordan. Yes, THAT Michael Jordan.
The story takes a dramatic and life-evolving turn when, in 10th grade at Laney High School, both boys decided to try out for the varsity basketball team. The twist? Leroy made the team; Michael did not.
Michael Jordan, to this day and notably in his Hall of Fame Induction speech in 2009, contends that Leroy was then a motivating driver to his ultimate success. It drove him immeasurably to work, to improve and to prove the coach and naysayers wrong.
Today, Michael is considered by many as the GOAT (greatest of all time) in professional athletics, and the residual effects of this story for Leroy are that he orbits today as an entrepreneur, coach, family man, podcast host and humble friend to countless individuals.
What role did athletics play in your life as a kid and leading into high school?
As a kid, most everyone I knew played baseball. I grew up in Philadelphia and had zero exposure to organized sports for the first 10 years of my life. We moved to North Carolina when I was in 5th grade, and everyone played sports. I started in Little League. I distinctly remember a coach who was a student teacher and once told me
I threw “like a girl.” I was tall, lanky and maybe not suited for baseball.
In 8th grade, I got introduced to basketball. Why? Because I was tall. Once I started to learn everything I could about the game, I took to it. It gave me a sense of confidence and a built-in network of friends. I was a mess though. I had so much to learn about the game. We had an actual bike rim nailed to a post at my house, and that became my basketball hoop. I absorbed all I could and learned how to compete.
Sure enough, in 1979, Leroy was seen as a tall, intimidating presence at almost 6’7” while Michael Jordan, at 5’11”, hadn’t yet burgeoned into who he would become. And so, the lore was stamped – Leroy was on the varsity team; Michael was cut. They would then go on to join each other for 11th and 12th grade on the varsity team.
Michael became Michael; Leroy went on, after a career at UNC Charlotte, into a professional basketball career overseas in England, Germany, France and Japan. That stint as a thriving player was then followed up with a potent career in sales and marketing with Asics Shoes, BET, USA Networks and NBC Universal.
Talk about your opinions on the state of youth athletics today.
With the advent of technology, sports has taken a turn. You can track and emulate top performers as an athlete. What’s missing are key fundamentals because it seems that winning at all costs hampers player development. It is now harder to ignore the fact that kids just want the accolades and have less interest in being complete, total athletes. In Europe, they have a whole system and pathway for developing young players, both physically and mentally.
Take Michael Jordan for example. Someone would focus on a weakness in his game, and he would come back stronger and better. He was someone who always took on the holistic approach to blossoming as a truly complete, well rounded player.
What three characteristics would be attributed to you during challenging times – in life or sports?
• Acceptance that there is an issue or problem to resolve.
• Determination to right a wrong to make amends.
• Self-forgiveness. Without that, you get consumed by internal angst and hiding pain. Knowing yourself and being gentle with yourself is so important.
As you are a parent, what is the ultimate lesson of parenthood?
Actively listen to your children. My kids are now grown adults. I cannot go instantly into “fix-it” mode. I try to ask probing questions in a loving way. I have come to understand that it is all right not to have all the answers, but I know I can find solutions alongside my family.
Given your story and the connection you have to professional sports and the entertainment industry, were you ever envious of others’ stories or journeys?
I was gonna write a book called “Almost Famous.” Sure, I have had occasions to wonder “why not me?.” But, what I have readily realized is that everyone is famous in their own right with all kinds of stories. I see true success as having magic moments with friends and my family. Oftentimes, the super-famous are “stuck” and forever defined as their character or role they played in life. There is no evolution. I am blessed to have my story but also my beautiful evolution.
Leroy hosts his podcast “Lessons from Leroy” where he shares insights and holistic approaches to basketball, business and life. Check it out wherever you download podcasts!
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Accent Prone Owners Cheri and Justin Lingafelt have a clever back story – leading to how inherited expertise from both sides of the family has evolved into two retail locations and the ever-growing interior design side of their business
At the tender age of 18, the two sold market sample lamps from Justin’s mom’s showroom to finance a trip to Disney World.
by MARTIE EMORY photos by JODIE BRIM CREATIVE
“It was our first time trying something entrepreneurial together, and we were hooked!” says Cheri. Both were 23 years old when they opened the first Accent Prone location in 2012 –comfortably situated in their hometown of Kernersville and attracting shoppers from all over the Triad.
“We were babies, but honestly, I love that we were able to start so young before we were too scared of trying and failing! We didn’t have children yet and were able to put all our energy into the store. We lived in a tiny old cabin, so we were able to pour all of our earnings back into the business. The early years weren’t glamorous, but they taught us so much! Being from here, we wanted to add to Kernersville’s growing economy, and we knew the small town support would be important in opening a first-time business. It was so fun having old teachers and classmates come through the door!”
Their parents’ influence and daily lessons in entrepreneurship were invaluable early on.
“From the time I was five years old, I helped my dad at his jewelry business and was a ‘retail shop kid’ from an early age,” shares Cheri. “Fast forward 30 years, and my kids – oldest son, Brooks, who is seven, and newest son, eight-monthold Beckett – now have the same childhood, hanging out at Mom and Dad’s store. My dad had an extremely strong work ethic, and not only taught me the basics of greeting customers, ordering inventory and keeping the books, but also what it meant to wake up and go to work even when you don’t feel like it – and push forward in both the good and bad times. When we first opened the store, he was there every day, helping us figure it all out. We owe so much of our early success to him, and we are eternally grateful.”
Justin’s mom was an equally strong asset on the design side, teaching them the finer points of setting up a showroom and sharing her furniture industry connections.
“Justin and I worked the Furniture Market in High Point at his mom’s showroom, greeting customers and passing out bags, when we were just 13!” Cheri adds.
Both know being surrounded by the industry from such an early age certainly influenced their love for design and home décor. In April of 2024, they opened a second fabulous retail location in Huntersville, NC and have become fast friends with new customers in the Lake Norman area. At both locations, Cheri’s passion for interior design is taking on an even bigger role! You’ll see three packages on the website – space planning, e-design and in-home design – but, if you’ve spent much time at Accent Prone, you know their team does it all! From styling a few bookshelves to furnishing your entire home, no task is too small, and you can always count on the AP team to offer free design advice right onsite at the store. If their more tailored design services don’t fit your situation, bring pictures and measurements of your space, and they’ll help you find something amazing to take home that day.
“For larger projects, we send an initial questionnaire to get to know the client better, including likes, dislikes, allergies, family size and how the space functions,” Cheri adds.
If a client has a vision board or Pinterest board, even better! For example, she’s currently working on a bedroom for a client’s three-year-old daughter – so picture bright pink with modern wallpaper and pink tile in the bathroom!
But Cheri is the first to say her personal design style – rustic modern – hasn’t changed through the years. She loves raw woods and antique elements, mixed with clean lines, modern prints and details.
Of course, Accent Prone is also a full-scale furniture store with endless options right at your fingertips. That means “install day” will find them on your doorstep with tons of accessories and artwork choices for you to love and keep or choose to
send back. Think of it as a “mini” Accent Prone shop inside your home for an entire day! Accent Prone also offers custom upholstery through their retail partner, Rowe Furniture. Nearly all of the sofas, sectionals and accent chairs you’ll see here are crafted by Rowe’s talented artisans in Virginia, featuring Cheri and Justin’s handpicked fabric selections.
Never a dull moment, Cheri is currently busy with a fun, unique barn project.
“We’re doing a feed room, tack room and laundry/bathroom inside the barn that will feel both modern and equestrian at the same time,” she explains. “I’ve never designed a barn before, so this is out of my norm –and such a fun stretch!”
The magic of Accent Prone will always be two-fold – as Cheri and Justin focus on growing both the retail and design sides of the business. As Cheri shares, “Another AP location down the road is something we would like to work towards, too!”
Accent Prone is located at 1022-F South Main Street in Kernersville, NC, 336.310.4753. Hours are Monday through Saturday 10:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m., and the warehouse is open on select Saturdays or by appointment. Visit Accent Prone at 15435 NC-73 in Huntersville, NC, 980.987.9394, Tuesday through Saturday 10:00 a.m. – 4:00 p.m. For information on their interior design services, visit Accentprone.com, email info@accentprone. com and don’t miss following them on Instagram @accentprone.
The holiday season is just around the corner, and there’s no better time to start planning those perfect gifts. Supporting local businesses ensures that your purchases contribute to our community’s growth while offering unique, high-quality presents for your loved ones. Check out this year’s top picks from some of our favorite local spots!
526 S. Stratford Road
Winston-Salem, NC 27103
windsor-jewelers.com
Crafted in satin 18K yellow gold, this petite flower pendant from renowned Italian designer, Roberto Coin, features a floral cutout design and four tiny sparkling diamond details. Part of the Venetian Princess collection, this irresistible pendant is suspended from an 18-inch slim gold chain that drapes elegantly across the neckline.
250 Executive Park Blvd #105 Winston-Salem, NC 27103 restorationmedspa.com
Give the gift of pampering and beauty with a Restoration MedSpa Gift Card. During December, purchase a gift card and receive a gift for yourself! Enjoy a relaxing salt room experience or let your loved ones choose their own treatment. Call 336-999-8295 or visit restorationmedspa.com to reserve your gift!
1000 Childress Vineyards Road Lexington, NC 27295 childressvineyards.com
Give the gift of an unforgettable experience with The Vineyard Experience, which includes a one-hour Barrel Cave Tasting and Harvest Tour on Saturdays and Sundays at 11:00 AM and 2:00 PM (by reservation only). Enjoy a guided tasting of four elite wines, a souvenir Riedel glass, and a gourmet chocolate, along with a walking tour of the vineyard.
2250 Reynolda Road Winston-Salem, NC 27106 reynolda.org
HAND-PAINTED ORNAMENT
Give a piece of history with the HandPainted Reynolda Church Ornament, inspired by the design of Reynolda Presbyterian Church. Available at the Reynolda House Museum Store and Welcome Center for $36. Learn more at reynolda.org.
110 Oakwood Drive
Winston-Salem, NC 27103
lovewellboutique.com
Find the perfect outfit or gift at LoveWell Boutique this holiday season! Too busy to shop in person? Download their free app and shop 24/7. Use code FWHOLIDAY24 for 15% off your app purchase.
855 Bethesda Rd. SW
Winston-Salem, NC 27103 cooperscurrymd.com
Revitalize your skin with Radiofrequency Microneedling, which combines skin penetration and heat to stimulate collagen, firm, and smooth your face. Ideal for aging or acne-scarred skin, it’s beneficial for all ages starting in your mid-20s. Fall is the perfect time to start your 4-session treatment. Call 336-747-3737 or email cooperscurrymd@ cooperscurrymd.com to schedule!
111 Reynolda Road Winston-Salem, NC 27106 portraitartist.com/weaver
HAND-PAINTED PORTRAIT
Give the gift of art with a hand-painted portrait by nationally acclaimed artist Linda Weaver. Specializing in children’s portraits, Linda creates heirloom-quality pieces that will be treasured for generations. For more information, contact Linda at 336-462-5016.
2901 Maplewood Avenue Winston-Salem, NC 27103 forsythplasticsurgery.com/thevista
GIFT CARDS
Winston-Salem’s #1 Med Spa is the perfect place for a pampering gift! Purchase a gift card for a DiamondGlow or Skintrinsiq Facial - both treatments leave skin glowing with no downtime. To buy a gift card or book an appointment, call Danielle or Trish at 336-765-8620 or text 336-443-6313.
6265 Towncenter Drive Clemmons, NC 27103 aeracurasalon.com
GIFT SETS
101A Reynolda Village Winston Salem, NC 27106
Find the perfect gift at Aeracura Salon! Choose from two indulgent Aveda sets: the Stress-Fix™ Relieving Essentials ($79, an $88 value) for ultimate relaxation, or the Rosemary Mint Invigorating Hair & Body Essentials ($59, a $75 value) for everyday pampering. Visit Aeracura Salon or shop online at aeracurasalon.com. Gift certificates are always available!
6209 Ramada Drive Clemmons, NC 27012 hondaws.com
Give a gift of performance and freedom with a bike from Honda! Honda of Winston-Salem offers performance and freedom for both experienced and beginner enthusiasts. A beginner bike should be fun to ride, and the CRF50F is a blast. Powered by a smooth, easy to control 49cc four-stroke engine, it’s built tough, too! 336.765.033 Facebook @hondaofws
114-J Reynolda Village Winston-Salem, NC 27106 halfpastthreeclothing.com
Find trendy fashion at Half Past Three in Reynolda Village, your go-to boutique for holiday shopping. With brands like Free People, Kendra Scott, Varley, and LoveShackFancy, you’ll find something for every woman on your list. Open MondaySaturday, 10:00 AM - 6:00 PM. Visit halfpastthreeclothing.com or call 336-999-7333. Follow @halfpastthreeclothing.
photos by TAYLOR JONES
A much-beloved holiday tradition returns to the Piedmont Triad this December when the University of North Carolina School of the Arts (UNCSA) presents its annual production of “The Nutcracker.” For a second year in a row, “The Nutcracker” will take place at the Steven Tanger Center for the Performing Arts in Greensboro while the Stevens Center in Winston-Salem, the traditional home of “The Nutcracker,” is being renovated.
UNCSA will offer five performances of “The Nutcracker” December 6 through 8. Opening night will be Friday, December 6, with a performance at 7:30 p.m. On Saturday, December 7, there will be a matinee at noon and an evening performance at 7:30 p.m. Sunday, December 8, will include a 1 p.m. and a 6:30 p.m. show.
UNCSA Chancellor Brian Cole will conduct the UNCSA Symphony Orchestra for all five performances of “The Nutcracker” at the Tanger Center. Cole joined UNCSA as dean of the School of Music in 2016. An accomplished conductor, he has led orchestras and operas throughout the United States, Europe, South America and the Caribbean.
The UNCSA schools of Dance, Design & Production and Music collaborate annually to produce “The Nutcracker,” a Winston-Salem tradition since 1966. This year’s production will again feature choreography by UNCSA faculty member Ilya Kozadayev, as well as lighting by guest artist Penny Jacobus. The temporary move to the Tanger Center provides students with the unique experience of mounting and performing a production in a 3,000-seat, state-of-the-art venue a short distance from UNCSA.
“Last year’s performances at the Tanger Center were a great success, and we are delighted to be able to bring the special UNCSA tradition of ‘The Nutcracker’ back to the Tanger Center this year,” said Chancellor Cole. “It is our immense privilege to be able to provide our students with the experience of creating and performing in this fantastic venue, and to reach new audiences in Greensboro and beyond. Personally, I’m excited to be conducting our UNCSA Symphony Orchestra again. I really enjoy working
with our students to bring live music to the gorgeous ballet.”
“We are thrilled UNCSA’s production of the ‘The Nutcracker’ will be returning to the Tanger Center this holiday season,” said Scott Johnson, Oak View Group General Manager for the Tanger Center. “Last year’s record-setting run was one of highlights of our schedule and provided not only a tremendous learning experience for UNCSA students, but also gave the Greensboro community the opportunity to enjoy a very entertaining and high-quality production that is traditionally hosted in Winston-Salem.”
Tickets for 2024 performances of “The Nutcracker” begin at $39 and can be purchased at TangerCenter.com/ nutcracker. Optional upgrades include on-site VIP parking, Lee & Wrangler Lounge access and the Tanger Center’s pre-event Prelude Dining experience for select performances. More information about “The Nutcracker” can be found at uncsa.edu/nutcracker.
Winston-Salem based nonprofit, LEAD Girls of NC, works in our community and through partnerships with Winston-Salem/ Forsyth County middle schools to provide preteen girls, whose resources do not match their limitless potential, with tools to become change makers and leaders in their communities.
“These girls are our leaders of tomorrow, and we want to instill in them the belief and confidence that they can achieve anything they set their minds to,” says LEAD Founder and Executive Director Joy Nelson Thomas. “At LEAD, our focus is on those middle school years where our trained facilitators provide evidence-based programming to equip the girls for success, unlock their resiliency and build their confidence.”
LEAD serves nearly 400 girls in Forsyth County through its school-based programs, weekend curriculum, summer camps and Girls Rising Expo. Fundraising is a huge priority for Thomas and her staff as demand for LEAD programming is outstripping its current resources.
“As our success story has spread in the community, more schools are asking for LEAD programming,” says Thomas. “Our goal is to increase philanthropic support so we can add more trained facilitators to serve them.”
Dominique participated in LEAD through her middle school years and now serves as a LEAD Ambassador in high school, helping with community events such as the LEAD Girls Rising Expo. She also speaks in the community about the impact that LEAD Girls has had in her life.
“It’s important for our community to know just how powerful this program is in changing a girl’s life,” she says. “LEAD is building our confidence, building our community, building our ability to set and reach goals, and encouraging us to consider our future careers and business aspirations.”
Dominique’s own career aspirations came from participating in LEAD’s year-long STEAM program which exposes the girls to a wide variety of science- and arts-based fields and careers in the community. She was inspired by the work they did exploring the field of biomedicine and is now considering a future career in nursing. Being part of the LEAD program has also helped Dominique become a stronger, more confident person.
“When I came to the program, I was very shy, and I did not know how to express myself,” she says. “At school, I had experienced bullying and body shaming. Once I joined LEAD, I was able to talk about those feelings, and I found that many girls shared similar experiences. Talking about those difficult things helped me realize I was not alone. As we expressed our feelings, I think we all became more confident. We have built a wonderful community by having a safe space at LEAD where we can be our true selves.”
“Being part of LEAD has definitely made me a more confident person. I saw that especially this year as I returned to school. It pumps up your self esteem.”
When Emily, now an 8th grader, joined LEAD Girls last year, she had no idea how much the program would change her. One special experience was LEAD’s Fashion Entrepreneurship Camp this past summer. The camp touches on all aspects of becoming an entrepreneur – in fashion and other industries. One of the camp’s popular activities is an afternoon spent with Jennifer Brannon, co-owner of Green Bee Floral Designs in Winston-Salem.
Emily loved her time at Green Bee where the LEAD girls made their own floral arrangements. “I really enjoyed putting together the different flowers and creating something so beautiful. I learned about the Green Bee business as a fun and creative career path for me.”
Emily put this inspiration into practice by starting her own business, SweetPea Floral Design, and crafting a unique company logo. Along with her mom, she purchased a variety of fresh flowers to arrange and sell on the weekend. One customer was so taken by Emily’s talent that he posted a photo of his arrangement which went viral on social media.
“Being part of LEAD has definitely made me a more confident person,” says Emily. “I saw that especially this year as I returned to school. It pumps up your self esteem. And, I’ve made some really good friends. Plus, I’ve got an idea of what I might like to be when I grow up which is very exciting.”
Jennifer Brannon, Green Bee’s owner and a longtime supporter and volunteer for LEAD, enjoys having the girls come to her studio to learn about starting a business.
“I always hope that the girls leave their camp experience with us with the basic knowledge and skills to open any business,” says Brannon. “When we started Green Bee, everything seemed overwhelming and insurmountable. With the tools and knowledge of what
I know now, it seems so simple. If I can take what I know, and make the process less intimidating and more streamlined, not only can it seem fun, but more attainable, as well.”
As a gesture of good faith in the girls’ future businesses, Green Bee gives each girl their first dollar. “It’s a way to show them that we believe in them and that we are always here for them, now, and in the future,” says Brannon. “That’s the first step really – believing you can do it and having someone else who believes in you.”
Over the years of being involved with LEAD Girls, Jennifer and her team at Green Bee are delighted to know the impact they are having on our community’s future business owners.
“I couldn’t be more thrilled to hear that the camp and Emily’s experience with us at Green Bee has inspired her to open up her own floral stand this summer and pursue floral design and selling flowers,” says Brannon. “It’s one thing to see an actual business emerge, but it’s great that it’s a floral business. I am just so proud of her. I cannot wait to have her back in the studio and hopefully nurture that seedling of entrepreneurism that she is starting!”
Jennifer knows that there are many girls like Dominique and Emily just waiting to engage with LEAD and whose lives will be transformed through its mission and programs. She encourages other businesses to consider how they can support LEAD, financially and as mentors, so that LEAD can continue to expand its footprint in Forsyth County.
“Our business first got involved as a way for us to financially give back to our community, but LEAD girls quickly gave back to us,” says Brannon. “There is no way you can spend any amount of time with these girls and the people who volunteer their time for the organization and not want to do more. We give back as much as we can during the year through our business to help these LEAD girls grow into our next leaders, entrepreneurs and community rockstars!”
We are beyond grateful to everyone who helped make our 2024 Boutique Crawl an incredible success! With nearly 150 shoppers, the day was filled with local shopping, small business support, and community spirit. Our pregame party was a hit, and we were proud to collect donations for Western NC hurricane relief.
THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS!
A SPECIAL SHOUTOUT TO OUR PRESENTING SPONSOR AND PREGAME PARTY HOST, HAWTHORNE OBGYN!
THANK YOU TO OUR GOLD SPONSORS:
Outpatient Imaging
SILVER SPONSORS:
LKN Magazine, Washington Park CrossFit, Gilded Swan Boutique, Farm Bureau-Dalton McGuire, and Flhy Marketing.
And a big thank you to the fantastic vendors that made our pregame party unforgettable: Dainty Welds, Hip Hip Hooray Balloons, Photo Ramit Productions, and My Butterfly Rose!
by RENEE SKUDRA
He was, in my opinion, the best food guru in the world – an American celebrity chef, author and television host who traveled the globe 250 days a year to discover and showcase the world’s most interesting and delectable food. As I was driving down Short Street in Kernersville, I looked right and saw that someone had painted a mural of him on a wall of the Short Street Kitchen (a shareduse commercial culinary site). I suddenly had tears in my eyes because I loved the guy, pure and simple, as well as how he celebrated all kinds of food front and center. One of the most beloved modern food and travel writers, he circumnavigated the planet on his shows “A Cook’s Tour,” “No Reservations” and “Parts Unknown” to sample dishes that much of his American audience had never encountered or even imagined in the farthest reaches of their imaginations. Widely respected in the culinary industry, he spoke openly about the often unappealing realities of the restaurant industry, wowing us with his raw honesty, exuberance but always overarching love for food – whether it was spit-roasted pig (babi guling) in Bali, blood sausage in Cologne, Germany or his one-and-only fast food favorite – hamburgers with everything on them – at In-N-Out Burger in Los Angeles.
Bourdain’s cooking skills gave him a legendary reputation, in no small part garnered from 28 years in the culinary industry.
Known for his humility, he said he was only “a journeyman chief of middling abilities” although perhaps the owner of Brasserie Les Halles, an esteemed French fine dining bistro in New York City where he was the executive chef thought differently. Watching him on TV made you inveterately excited about food, too. He famously said “Food is everything we are. It’s an extension of nationalist feeling, ethnic feeling, your personal history, your province, your region, your tribe, your grandma. It’s inseparable from those from the get go.” His exhortation to “find out how other people live and eat and cook. Learn from them – wherever you go” personally inspired me to enlarge my rather pedestrian palate, newly leaning into Indian, Thai, Ethiopian, Greek, Vietnamese and other cuisines. Still, I didn’t know anyone who could match his extreme
adventurous palate –sampling cobra hearts, goose intestines, durian and seal eyeballs, pig brains and (unbelievably) fried rice with maggots.
Bourdain had strong opinions, memorialized in his two most famous books, Medium Raw and Kitchen Confidential which often reflected the habits of his earlier years. A former heroin addict who continued to drink until his death in June of 2018 by suicide, he criticized the fast food industry and various prominent chefs like Paula Deen. But, he also freely revealed his humanity – that he was a real person with normal problems including depression, agoraphobia, anxiety and bipolar episodes. In his 40s, he successfully shifted from chef to food travel host, moving away from his early angry years when he was the profanity-spewing, cigarette-smoking epitome of the bad boy chef, emphatically delivering controversial opinions. His cookbook, Anthony Bourdain’s Les Halles Cookbook (2004) and later work, Appetites, gained him legions of fans and also revealed his love of ordinary French brasserie cooking. As a person with French ancestry myself, I marvel at his spirit and artistic genius and am deeply impressed by his compassion and ability to empathize with people, wherever he found them, whether in the most luxurious neighborhoods of Paris or at the hovels which lined street markets in Hanoi.
Although he was not shy about expressing his distaste for fast food, he also wasn’t beneath enjoying it. He lived in New Jersey but eagerly loved going to California where he went to Popeye’s and had his favorite mac n’ cheese (intentionally hiding away from the intrusive eyes of the camera people who followed him (paparazzi) everywhere. When asked about some of his very favorite dishes, he mentioned ceviche (an iconic raw fish from Peru) and French fries (blanched first, then fried twice
immediately and always served with steak). His most famous dish was Boeuf Bourguignon, and his favorite sandwich was five-ingredient fried Mortadella sandwiches. In New York City, there was a place that he was addicted to which served hot dogs with sauerkraut, and he was always grateful when, at friends’ homes, he was served hard boiled eggs. Like folks in North Carolina, he loved barbecue and said that it “may not be the road to world peace, but it’s a start.”
Anthony Bourdain helped audiences think differently about food, travel and themselves. He advocated for marginalized populations and campaigned for safer working conditions in the food industry. He inspired me to cook. As for me, he’s one of my heroes, and I’m glad to see his spirit living in downtown Kernersville.
by CAROLYN SHORE-PETERSON
Many of us have interesting paths in life as we find our way and ultimately our purpose. For Teresa Ramey-Martin, native of Kernersville, and recently recognized as Outstanding Combat Female Veteran of North Carolina 2024, the journey into the military was full of turns and, strangely, a $1,000 bet with a co-worker.
Growing up in Kernersville, Teresa had a childhood that wouldn’t necessarily lead her where she would eventually go, but her sense of adventure seemed to be in her DNA.
“I think everyone in Kernersville knew my parents, Don and Barbara Ramey. My mother owned and operated Barbara’s Style Salon for many years. Her shop was attached to our house. Along with everyone knowing my parents, they also knew my brother and me, so when we got in trouble and Mama had to come out of that beauty shop, we’d have some explaining to do,” recalled Teresa.
“Starting at the age of 14, I worked within a healthcare facility as a nursing assistant. For me, caring for people was a ‘heart thing.’ During a lunch break, on January 21, 1986, I was chatting with a young man whom I didn’t always see eye to eye with on most things, and he shared with me ‘where my place in life’ was supposed to be which brought out the aggressive side of me. This man had recently ‘washed out’ of boot camp, and since I thought I was ‘so much,’ he wagered a $1,000 bet that I couldn’t make it either! Game on! We put the bet in writing, and I was off on my next adventure,” recalled Teresa. The evening of that same day, Teresa talked to a Navy recruiter and, long story short, was offered training as an Ocean Systems Technician Analyst.
On the morning of January 28, 1986, Teresa boarded a Greyhound bus, headed for Orlando, FL, waving goodbye to her dad who was wiping away tears. Teresa found that boot camp was not for the faint of heart and that those in rank and position do not necessarily care about your opinion.
country, there were losses and memories that she doesn’t like reliving.
“I entered boot camp at 100 pounds, due to eating quite a few bananas the night before to make sure I weighed at least the minimum. It is an eight-week program, however, 10 weeks later, I graduated at a muscle-bound 132 pounds with more attitude and a gun! In about the sixth week, I decided I’d had enough of one of my company commanders and shared my opinion, adding two weeks onto my training. I learned a lot about respecting those who outrank you and that not everyone wants or needs to hear my opinion. I’m still working on that trait,” Teresa commented.
Her military service satisfied that need for adrenaline, and Teresa went to some of the harshest, yet most beautiful places in the world. Teresa collected on that bet and made her way through training, finally getting her first set of duty orders.
“I was set to go to Guam, however, another gentleman in class received Adak, Alaska, and he would have to leave his family behind to go to Alaska, but he could take them with him if he went to Guam. For me, it was automatic. We traded orders, and I was on my way to Alaska,” stated Teresa.
Adak is 4,561 miles from Kernersville as the crow flies. Teresa asked her dad to talk to Jesus to make sure He knew about Adak and to watch over her. Adak was where Teresa spent 18 months, soaking up the beauty of the area.
In 1994, Teresa was honorably discharged, but in her time serving her
“In the midst of all good things, there are moments of collateral damage. I lost comrades during the Gulf War and Desert Storm. There are memories that only come to me in nightmares,” said Teresa.
With her service years behind her and the honor of receiving the Outstanding Combat Female Veteran recognition, Teresa continues to serve those who have served our country, working with organizations and, today, is the Adjutant for VFW #5352 in Kernersville. In 2021, Teresa released her first book in a four book series, Sitting with a Soldier, sharing stories from her comrades.
Teresa’s books are available on Amazon, and she is available for speaking arrangements by emailing teresamartin451@gmail.com.
by SUZY FIELDERS
The holiday season is almost upon us, which often means more time with family and starting fun traditions. One great thing about Forsyth County is there is no shortage of ways to make holiday memories with the family.
You wouldn’t be living in or near WinstonSalem in the holidays if you didn’t incorporate some fun Moravian traditions of the season. Here are a few ideas:
• Check out Mrs. Hanes Moravian Cookies factory to see them make these delicious cookies by hand.
• Take a family photo on the covered bridge with all the Moravian stars by the Old Salem Visitor Center.
• Attend one of the Candle Tea events at Old Salem.
• Go to a Christmas Eve lovefeast at one of the many Moravian churches in the area.
Even if you go every year, this light show does not disappoint. It’s a great way to get out of the house without even getting out of the car if you don’t want to. However, if you want to add onto the family fun, you can stop at their
S’moresville to roast marshmallows or to find a festive souvenir at the gift shop. You can also rent a horse-drawn carriage or tractorpulled hayride to see the lights from a whole different perspective.
This year, it runs from November 15th through January 1st every night from 6:00 p.m. to 11:00 p.m. Tanglewood Park is located at 4061 Clemmons Road in Clemmons.
This year, the Winston-Salem Holiday Parade takes place on December 7th at 5:00 p.m. One amazing thing about this parade is that it is inclusive for all and meant for all holiday practices from Christmas to Hanukkah. For more details and updates on the WinstonSalem Holiday Parade, visit wsparade.com.
There are so many other holiday and Christmas parades to choose from in and around Forsyth County, too. They seem to happen virtually every weekend in December! So, if you are busy during one, there’s a good chance you could find another to go to.
Like the fall festivals in this area, there is no shortage of “Santa sighting” events in and around Forsyth County. Triad Moms on Main
even has a Santa directory of all the events he will be at throughout the Piedmont Triad. Simply head over to triadmomsonmain.com, click “directories” and find the one labeled “Santa in the Triad.”
Some of these fun Santa events even give back to local charities. No matter which local Santa event you pick, the kiddos are sure to have fun.
It might be easy to overlook dinner out during the busy holiday season, but it’s important to still support our amazing local restaurants and coffee shops. Pick either your favorite or one that is posting a festive treat you are dying to try this year and bring the entire family.
It’ll give you a break from making a meal or get you out of the house for a little while. Family meals out around town are always so special, too. It might feel a little chaotic with younger children, but each year, it gets easier if you make it an annual tradition!
No matter which local holiday tradition you choose, it’s likely going to be a memory you and your family will cherish and look forward to doing every holiday season!
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The holiday season brings joy, but it can also trigger emotional eating. Emotional eating happens when food is used to cope with negative emotions like stress, loneliness or boredom. Identifying your emotional eating type is the first step toward managing your relationship with food, especially when temptations are everywhere.
We will explore four types of emotional eaters, self-reflective questions to ask and strategies to help manage emotional eating this holiday season.
1. The Appeaser
The appeaser prioritizes others over themselves, often neglecting self care. These individuals may turn to food for comfort, whether it’s snacking on leftovers or unwinding with food after a long day of caregiving.
Key Traits:
• Caregivers or people pleasers who feel guilty when prioritizing themselves.
• Workaholics who neglect personal needs.
Self-Reflective Questions:
• Do I eat when overwhelmed by others’ needs?
• Am I snacking because I’m stressed and need a break?
Strategies:
• Set boundaries and practice saying “no.”
• Incorporate non-food self care activities like taking a bath or meditating.
2. The Perfectionist
Perfectionists set high standards and turn to food when they feel they’ve failed to meet them. They often stress over diet or fitness goals and use food as a coping tool when they perceive failure.
Key Traits:
• High-achievers who focus on perfection at work or in fitness.
• Individuals who feel guilt when deviating from strict routines.
Self-Reflective Questions:
• Do I eat when I feel like I haven’t accomplished enough?
• Am I using food because I didn’t follow my plan perfectly?
Strategies:
• Practice self compassion and aim for progress over perfection.
• Allow yourself flexibility, especially around holiday meals.
3. The Imposter
The imposter feels undeserving of their success and turns to food to soothe feelings of inadequacy or fraudulence.
Key Traits:
• High achievers who doubt their skills and believe their success is due to luck.
• Individuals who feel like they don’t belong or haven’t earned their place.
Self-Reflective Questions:
• Do I eat because I feel like I’m not good enough?
• Am I using food to hide from self doubt?
Strategies:
• Keep track of accomplishments to remind yourself of your worth.
• Challenge negative thoughts and embrace your abilities.
4. The Suppressor
Suppressors bottle up their emotions, turning to food to manage internal pressure. These individuals often appear calm but may struggle with expressing true emotions.
Key Traits:
• Stoic professionals or reserved individuals who avoid confrontation.
• People who mask emotional turmoil with food.
Self-Reflective Questions:
• Am I suppressing emotions and using food as an outlet?
• Do I avoid conflict and turn to food instead?
Strategies:
• Acknowledge and validate your emotions.
• Use healthy outlets like journaling, breathing exercises or talking to someone you trust.
Managing Emotional Eating During the Holidays
• Mindful Eating: Slow down, savor your food and ask yourself, “Am I really hungry or eating due to stress?”
• Plan Ahead: Expect emotional triggers and have non-food coping strategies ready, such as a relaxing walk or reaching out to a supportive friend.
• Non-Food Traditions: Enjoy non-food holiday activities like decorating, playing games or watching movies.
• Set Realistic Expectations: The “perfect” holiday is a myth. Allow yourself some flexibility with food, family and traditions.
• Healthy Coping Mechanisms: Replace emotional eating with deep breathing, journaling or gentle physical activity. Building a support system can help you stay on track during the holidays.
Emotional eating is common, especially during the holidays. Recognizing your emotional eating type – Appeaser, Perfectionist, Imposter or Suppressor – allows you to implement healthier habits and navigate the season with mindfulness. Focus on emotional well being, and enjoy the holidays guilt free.
by AMY HILL
Shopping local consignment, thrift and vintage stores helps reduce waste, support small business owners and sparks new hobbies among those who get a thrill out of rummaging through pre-owned goods on a Saturday afternoon. With mass consumerism running rampant with the ease of online shopping and next-day delivery options at major retailers, it’s easy to settle for convenience over quality. However, the Triad hosts a handful of locations that provide high-quality, pre-owned goods at an affordable price that benefits the environment and local economy. Before checking Amazon or “fast fashion” websites for the media, art or clothing items you need, shop secondhand in the Winston-Salem area to keep the environment healthy and local businesses happy. Below are just a few of the fabulous thrift and consignment joints in the area that offer unique, pre-owned products with storefronts just as charming.
Specializing in top tier, pre-owned furniture, women’s clothing and accessories, and home goods, Smith & Co. Consignment is an upscale stop on your list of local thrift stores. Owner Lisa Smith opened Smith & Co. in 2015 after years of entrepreneurial dreaming alongside her husband, Tim. Lisa educated herself on how to be a business owner and learned the ins and outs of consignment, bringing Smith & Co. about. With a 90-day consignment period, consignors are able to receive 40% of the selling price for clothing, accessories and home décor. If a consignor delivers an approved piece of furniture, he or she can earn up to 60% of the selling price (with the possibility of extending to a 120-day consignment period).
Browse what Smith & Co. Consignment has in store online at smithandcompanyconsignment.com and follow @smithadncoconsignment on Instagram for a sneak peak of what’s in store. Located at 1515 Union Cross Road in Kernersville, shoppers can stop by Wednesdays through Saturdays from 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. and on Sundays from 1:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m.
Jamestown’s Southern Junk is another local hotspot for restored home décor, household essentials, clothing, accessories and more with an emphasis on southern style. Having recently celebrated its fifth anniversary in October, Southern Junk hosts vendor markets that allow for visitors and customers to get a taste of creative crafts and collectibles, as well as help support small businesses and entrepreneurs. In fact, the 2024 Fall Vendor Market hosted more than 60 vendors, food and even live music. Open Wednesdays through Saturdays from 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m., visitors rave about the affordable prices, beautiful interior and welcoming owners and staff. Seasonal items excite shoppers, so don’t hesitate to deck your halls with Southern Junk this holiday season.
If you’re hoping to stop by to see what Southern Junk has on the store floor, head to 110 Wade Street, Jamestown, NC 27282. Follow @southern_junk on Instagram to browse photos of inventory online, or call the store at 910.237.7709 to speak with a team member.
Named the Triad’s best consignment store in 2010, The Red Collection in Greensboro boasts a colorful and baffling 18,000-square foot showroom on Holden Road, with another 30,000-square foot showroom located on Mill Street. The Red Collection offers antique furniture, artwork, outdoor living items and more as a family owned business. There is no appointment necessary to consign at The Red Collection; stop by Mondays through Saturdays from 10:00 a.m. until 5:30 p.m. to re-home your gently used accessories, furniture pieces and more. The Red Collection also collects China, glassware and sterling silver. Staff members work with those looking to consign in order to find a reasonable price based on the value of the item(s). Consignors receive 60% of the selling price per item within 30 days of consignment.
Visit The Red Collection’s website at theredcollectiononline.com. Visit showrooms at 1411 Mill Street, Greensboro, NC 27408 and at 1201 S. Holden Road, Greensboro, NC 27407. Visit Monday through Saturday from 10:00 a.m. to 5:30 p.m. Follow the team’s Facebook page for updates.
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I am proposing something unorthodox. Some businesses may be subconsciously practicing this already, but let’s make it official today! We spend so much time strategizing, analyzing numbers and focusing on the day-to-day operations of our businesses that we often forget to lean into the divine guidance that we, as believers, have access to.
In September, I talked about falling in love with your vision, and we dove into the importance of creating a vision statement and how to do it. As believers, you and I have the greatest benefit of having God as our CEO, but when we’re in the thick of the chaos that business brings, it becomes easier to rely on our own strength. We fall into the trap of trying to control every detail instead of allowing God to direct our steps. When I feel overwhelmed, Proverbs 3:5-6 helps me to continue abiding in God and trusting His timing.
When I need clarity, I refer to my vision statement to stay aligned with business decisions. A short sentence or two encompassing why you’re in business is beneficial, and you can strengthen it by adding a scripture. Having a scripture attached to your vision statement aligns you with God’s Word as you serve customers, make tough decisions and guide your team.
Here are a few ways incorporating scripture can transform your business:
At Perennial Peaces, my foundational scripture is Matthew 5:9, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” This verse is vital because I want to bring peace to the world through unique and handcrafted jewelry. My business aims to show how diversity and uniqueness, when brought together, create something beautiful – just like God’s vision for His people. Using this scripture as a cornerstone will remind everyone who joins the team that our work is about spreading a message of peace and love to everyone who interacts with the brand.
This is not about finding a popular scripture to recite because it sounds good. You should intentionally choose a scripture to be used as a spiritual compass that will represent your goals and your heart’s desire to serve others.
Sheridan C. Watkins is a journalist and the owner of Perennial Peaces, a jewelry and gifts brand focused on transcending self-worth to all women. Her true work began after climbing out of a dark place with the help of God and therapy and her life mission is to provide tangible peace through her Divine gifts to help women heal and transform their life. Follow the mission on Instagram and Facebook: @perennialpeaces
by SHERIDAN C. WATKINS
Your business scripture doesn’t have to be private. I encourage you to share it with your customers and helpers because one job we have as children of God is to introduce others to Him. Sharing one scripture may be all He needs to transform the hearts of those who support your business.
Your scripture can serve as a source of encouragement internally for your helpers because they will see the business is anchored in something more than just financial success. Externally, it will help your customers understand the heart behind your business. This gives your brand a sense of integrity that can resonate deeply. You’ll have customers who have similar values and some who don’t ,and you don’t have to recite your scripture every time; remember God is gentle (1 Kings 19:12). A subtle way I share my scripture externally is by putting it on the back of all the earring cards.
I will be the first to admit surrendering control is difficult, however, I’ve also experienced the relief of trusting God with my business. No matter how things may look at any moment, God’s promises are unwavering. By anchoring your vision statement in scripture, you remind yourself regularly that your business is part of God’s plan. Your business scripture becomes a practical tool for keeping your focus on His guidance, and you’ll see how God keeps you sustained through every tribulation in your entrepreneurial journey.
As you move forward in business and serving others, consider what scripture speaks to the heart of your vision. Let it be the foundation for your business in all seasons, allowing you to walk in faith and trust that God will provide everything you need for success. You are a mighty child of God, and I have faith in you.
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“Comparison is the thief of joy.” ~ Theodore Roosevelt
This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.
It may come as somewhat of a surprise to hear me say that mindset isn’t your strongest defense mechanism against comparison in your business. It’s absolutely one of the most important tools in your arsenal, but without a strategy to create a healthier business environment? Well, you’re leaving yourself open to one of the deadliest diseases for small business owners – comparisonitis!
Here are three proven action steps to include in your business strategy to help you eliminate comparison and thrive authentically as a brand!
Without even knowing who you’re following on social media or what newsletters you’re subscribed to each week, I’m confident in saying it’s time for a clean up! The constant contact and one-sided views of other businesses and business owners can have us triggered with feelings of inadequacy and comparison. Take inventory of who you follow and assess how they make you feel. Give yourself permission to unfollow, mute or block accounts that bring up negative feelings or have you doubting yourself. And do it guilt free! At the same time, really hone in on what accounts genuinely spark inspiration, positivity and help you build community online.
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When we are bombarded by the marketing, sales, visuals and voices of so many other people and brands, it’s easy to lose sight of your own authentic self. As a society, we’ve become easily influenced by external comparison. Regularly checking in with yourself to see if your actions and decisions feel aligned vs. what you think you “should” be doing is a gamechanger.
Create leading questions to ask yourself, and be honest!
• Am I doing this because it’s best for my business or because I feel like I should?
• Am I leaning into my unique strengths and zone of genius?
• Does this align with my values and vision?
Have you ever been hard on yourself after seeing someone else share a win in business? That voice takes over asking “why isn’t my business as successful?” when the reality is, their goals may not even be your goals. You need to define what success in your business looks like. Create personal and business goals that complement one another and reflect what truly matters to you. Get specific about what metrics equal success for each goal, and set milestones to reach them so you can stay focused on what you’re working towards.
This month, put a strategy in place to kick comparison to the curb as a business owner! Challenge yourself to pay close attention when you are scrolling social media, and take notice of how you feel. Identify which specific content and profiles are the ones that spark insecurity or feel triggering and hit that unfollow, mute or block button accordingly! Free up some of that mental space to scroll through what feels good going forward.
by AMY HILL
If you’ve been following my intermittent series on my experience with trusting God throughout heartbreak, the good news is that I have finally moved on. This summer, something suddenly changed. The skies were bluer. The weather was warmer. God threw me a few metaphorical bones (I’ll cover those shortly).
The bad news? I got a bit carried away with my fresh-out-of-depression “hot girl summer” and made a misstep. Because I underestimated how vulnerable to counterfeits I can still be after a season of isolation and healing, I am now dealing with a much milder turmoil that is fortunately only an emotional nuisance for the time being. Frustratingly, I have no one to blame but my unwise self. My faith in God has still never been stronger.
In early June, I was driving around town and saw an attractive man in his mid-20s jogging. Immediately, I had a sad, self-deprecating thought at my ripe age of 32. The days of finding a hot man like that are behind me. He wouldn’t find me attractive anymore – I’m too old for him.
One thing I have learned over the last year is that God has a way of making me laugh and tossing me nuggets of self esteem when I need them. Only a few minutes after I accepted my fate as an old maid, I was picking up takeout at a local restaurant and saw a young man I knew in his early 20s (24, to be exact), who had met me while I was on a first date with one of his acquaintances. This man was always polite and interested in me as a person. He had reached out a few times over the last couple of years, but due to his age and my unfortunate hangup over his bad-boy acquaintance I was seeing at the time (that brutally crashed and burned), I brushed him off. This time around, I looked at him differently and as more of a mature prospect. He asked me out, and we had a few great dates, but due to our age difference, we broke things off relatively amicably.
As for that acquaintance? The acquaintance inspired me to meet the therapist I have now been seeing for more than two years, if that’s any indication of how that failed attempt at a relationship played out. It took me a year to “recover,” which was truly just a trauma trade off with my most recent heartbreak that trumped anything I had experienced prior. I thought I had moved on and harbored no romantic feelings for this infamous acquaintance any longer. I finally saw him for who he was and understood he lacked integrity, emotional maturity and a moral compass. He never deserved the time of day from me in the first place. I was healed.
Around late June, I ran into this acquaintance during a night out. I hadn’t spoken to him since I blocked him on all social media platforms and deleted his phone number more than two years before.
Once he approached me and locked eyes with me, feelings that I had unknowingly repressed came rushing back and took me by surprise. He claimed that he had changed, understood that he needed therapy, had been working on his communication and was apologetic for how he handled things. He wanted a second chance, and it was music to my ears. I thought God was throwing me another bone. I was finally worth someone wanting to change and make things right with me. This was going to work out and all the pain would be worth it. What a beautiful full circle love story.
It didn’t take many dates before major inconsistencies and lies by omission began to reveal themselves one by one. His therapy was nonexistent, and red flags were glaring at me left and right. He was trying desperately to be a more honest person but was still failing. Although he is more emotionally available, responsible and communicative two years later, his integrity and moral compass are still greatly in question. To pour salt in the wound, he’s also more handsome with age with an even greater head of hair.
Unfortunately for him, he realized the person I am now is too strong in her faith to fall back into the sinful patterns he wanted me to without significant conviction.
Thanks to years of therapy (inspired by his toxicity), I am also much better at setting boundaries. Unfortunately for me, however, it means another failed attempt at love. After my boundaries were pushed one too many times and my religious beliefs were belittled, I had to choose God over whatever romantic connection I had reestablished with such a handsome man who claimed to care. I have a soft spot in my heart for him and pray that he gets the help he needs to fight his battles and heal his significant traumas that are causing him to behave in dysfunctional ways. I will always feel a spark for him, but I believe only God can change people. I’m now grappling with the challenge of not internalizing his inability to value my virtues and instead view them as inconveniences to his lustful desires.
The biblically wise thing I should have done was never become romantically entangled with someone who wasn’t equally yoked with me regarding values and beliefs. The silver lining, however, is that I took a hard stance and ultimately put my desire to please God above my intense desire for a romantic relationship. I gained perspective about discernment, the capacity of others, managing expectations and found that men do find me desirable. Most of the time, I am just my own worst enemy.
It’s nice to have the fog of the last 18 months behind me. I am grateful to God for finally answering my prayer of lifting the heartbreak in whatever way He felt necessary. Although I’m still less than thrilled about being single, it’s at least nice to smile again.
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by MEGAN TAYLOR
ith each passing day and year, the world keeps changing. Our values and beliefs as a society fluctuate over time. Something that is important one decade may not be as important the next. Also, ideas, concepts, and traditions vary from generation to generation. Yet, there are common threads that still connect people within our communities. These threads are the spoken and unspoken rules of society that, no matter your age, you follow. One of these threads is manners.
Manners can be defined as “a person’s outward behavior towards others.” They are etiquette rules that show polite and respectful behavior. Manners are dictated by acceptable social norms. Like other values and beliefs, they can, and do, alternate based on cultures, social groups, and expectations.
Within our society, there are certain manners that people still find respectable to show and teach the younger generations to abide by, as well. At the root of having manners is a general care and consideration for others. You are thinking outside of yourself for a moment and adding that “personal touch” to different aspects of life. With manners, you build empathy and relationships with others. They are social skills. For example, saying “please and thank you” shows regard for others with appreciation and gratitude. Apologizing is an example of taking responsibility for your actions. Asking questions about others indicates your interest in other people’s lives. These manners are mainly spoken ones that we learn growing up, but there are also unspoken ones that are implied throughout society.
These unspoken manners may seem “old-fashioned” to some, but they are the etiquette norms that never go out of style. Again, they all relate back to having that general care and consideration for
others. Some of these manners include not doing loud yard work in the early morning hours during the weekend, taking the time to send handwritten thank-you cards, putting away the electronics at dinner, and reaching out to those in need.
To help complete this list of spoken and unspoken manners, I gathered some feedback from our writers. Here’s what they think are the manners that should never go out of style:
• “Bringing a small hostess gift when invited to a party, holiday event, etc. Also, RSVPing. I think it’s common courtesy to let someone know if you will or will not be attending. If they were kind enough to extend an invitation, take the time to acknowledge the invite and help them get a proper headcount.” - Taryn Jerez
• “Returning things you borrowed in a timely manner.” - Martie Emory
• “Holding the door open for people.” - Megan Black
• “Not overstaying my welcome as a party guest or house guest. Also, helping my host with chores or whatever I can. Lastly, saying ‘yes and no, ma’am’ and ‘yes and no, sir’ to my elders.” - Karen Cooper
• “Being on time. If you are late, it sends a vibe that your time is more valuable than the person you are meeting.”
- Keela Johnson
Sometimes it can be hard to remember your manners, especially when life gets tough. But they can take you far in life. What manners do you think should never go out of style?
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• Do you sometimes feel that you have too much on your plate, and you have no idea how you will get it all done?
• Do you feel more driven by what’s urgent than by what’s really important to you?
• When you saw the title above, did you identify with the word overwhelmed?
If there was even one “yes” among your answers, you’re hardly alone in that feeling. Many psychologists, counselors and other thoughtful observers of 21st century society think people today are more overwhelmed than those who lived in past generations. I agree, and I think one reason we’re more chronically overwhelmed can be explained in just two words – too much For example, many of us are all but drowning in:
• Too much information. Every day, we are exposed to hundreds, sometimes thousands, of bits of information from emails, texts, phone calls, junk mail, voice mail, meetings at work and advertising on billboards, TV, the internet and radio. This relentless flow of information distracts us, interrupts our train of thought and forces us to decide, often dozens of times a day: Should I respond now, save it for later or ignore it? Each piece of information eats away a tiny chunk of our time and depletes a bit of our finite daily reserves of emotional and mental bandwidth.
• Too much stuff. Not everyone has too much stuff, of course. Some don’t have enough; others have enough to be comfortable; and some have way more than they need. It’s fair to say though that no matter which category people are in, many – perhaps most – want more stuff. That’s because, in our culture, we place a high value on material things. There is nothing inherently wrong with owning stuff. It’s just that many possessions come with invisible strings attached. When we have too much stuff that we must insure, keep clean, update, polish, paint, maintain, organize and/or store, stuff can be more of a burden than a blessing. The time-draining responsibilities that go with owning so much stuff often contribute heavily to our sense of being overwhelmed.
• Too much bad news. Most of us are mentally and emotionally “wired” to process tragic news perhaps a few times a year. Thanks to high speed worldwide newsgathering, we now hear about some kind of tragedy just about every day. The relentless flow of heartbreaking news from all over the world also contributes to our sense of being overwhelmed.
All of this is in addition to the normal things we all have to manage – grocery shopping, getting gas, laundry, bills, cleaning up the kitchen, answering emails, doctor appointments, relationships with family and friends, and so much more.
Clearly, the pace and intensity of daily life has dramatically increased in our generation. We can get so over-busy and overwhelmed that we look like the poster child for what some have called “full plate, empty life.” Needless to say, “full plate, empty life” is not the life God had planned for any of us!
Once we recognize this, the question becomes, how can we stop living so stressed out and overwhelmed? The final chapters of this faith-based mini-book are devoted to answering that question, helping readers find balance, sanity and a more meaningful life. The focus is first on discovering what we’ve each been uniquely created and gifted to do, and then making changes and choices to align our lives accordingly.
Overwhelmed urges readers to set priorities consistent with their purpose, set boundaries to protect them and use their time and talents to do meaningful, enjoyable work that also brings honor to God. When we live in ways that are in sync with how we’re made and gifted, we are more insulated from many of the things that might otherwise overwhelm us.
When I am overwhelmed, you alone know the way I should turn. Psalm 142:3 (NLT)
As a seasoned solo traveler, I am well accustomed to being on guard against potential harm while in a new country or location. However, on occasion, I have been guilty of being a bit too naïve and trusting of seemingly kind strangers and am lucky that I have never been caught up in a hairy situation that I couldn’t escape.
Once in an undisclosed city, I visited a rooftop bar solo at a hotel where I had previously stayed. The bartender saw me standing at the end of the bar and immediately asked if he had met me before. I remembered him and assumed his question was genuine. I began gushing about how much I loved the city and was surprised he remembered me months after my first visit. He quickly asked me how much money I made and began trying to convince me to move to the city to work in the service industry for a much higher salary. He also asked if I wanted to hang out after work with him and his coworkers at another bar since I was alone. When I agreed, he began sliding me so many free drinks throughout the evening that I began passing them to other patrons. At the second location, his female coworkers were making conversation with me, asking me where I was staying for the week and acting seemingly friendly. When he sat down and asked me if I lived alone (I had a roommate at the time) and how long ago I had previously visited his bar, he essentially lost interest in the conversation and walked away to talk to his friends. I overheard him relaying to his friends what I said about my job and living situation, but I internalized the situation as him finding me boring and tried to shrug it off. At the end of the night, I began requesting an Uber on my phone, but one of the women stopped me and insisted I let one of the males drive me to my Airbnb. When I declined an invitation to go to a third bar with one of the men because it was already 2:00 in the morning and I wasn’t a complete fool, they became rude and abruptly told me to find a ride home. So I did.
My feelings were somewhat hurt, and I thought I had annoyed them or done something to make them lose interest in me as a person due to my nature. I assumed they were just jerks looking for a good time and I was not what they had in mind. When I
spoke to others about the incident when I got home, however, they were taken aback by the situation and told me that they suspected there could have been more factors at play like that they were potentially sizing me up as a potential trafficking victim. Since I wasn’t as pliable as they would have liked, I may have saved myself from becoming a victim. I became curious after this incident and began researching more on the topic of human trafficking to educate myself.
Unlike what you see in movies like Taken, human trafficking is usually not as sudden or initially violent as being abducted on the street by complete strangers dressed in all black and wearing ski masks.
In fact, a large percentage of human trafficking victims knew their traffickers beforehand, with traffickers being family, friends, local business owners, romantic partners and even government officials and business executives.
Building a bond with potential victims is a common tactic traffickers use to groom and gain trust in order to make exploiting them for commercial sex or labor easier. Manipulation is what blindsides and traps victims, as well as makes it harder for them to escape. Surprisingly to most, human trafficking is often taking place in plain sight and can occur in restaurants, construction companies, factories and in victims’ homes –not just across borders or in industries flying under the radar.
According to the National Human Trafficking Hotline, human trafficking is defined as “the force, fraud or coercion to compel a person into commercial sex acts or labor services against his or her will.” A few red flags of relationships or job opportunities that may be trafficking wolves in sheep’s clothing are as follows:
• Promises that sound too good to be true very early on (high pay, promotions, gifts, flattery, luxury vacations, etc.)
• Feeling pressured to quickly make a decision on the opportunity/ relationship in question
• Attempts at isolating you from family, friends or support systems
• Monitoring your finances and whereabouts
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• Boundary pushing, including sexual acts
• Possessive, domineering or aggressive behavior to instill fear or intimidation in a victim
How do you protect yourself against trafficking while traveling domestically or abroad? Below are some tips from the National Human Trafficking Hotline website (humantraffickinghotline.org) to help you keep traffickers at bay.
• Listen to your intuition for any signs of discomfort. Although your intuition could be wrong, the alternative is much worse.
• Share your itinerary and/or location with loved ones while on the road.
• Carry identification documents with you at all times.
• Have emergency contact information on hand and learn how to contact emergency services in the country to which you’re traveling.
• Have a back-up map of your destination in case cell phone service is spotty.
• Do not provide any sensitive information to suspicious individuals or employers.
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The ability to travel through time is by far my favorite movie storyline. Who hasn’t, at least once, wished they could turn back the hands of time to buy a winning lottery ticket or to set something right that once went wrong? Maybe there is a place in the past you would love to visit? Whatever your desire, time travel is a fascinating topic.
The movies listed below have a variety of inventive ways to move the characters across time. See which ones appeal to you, and enjoy a movie night with time travel as the theme!
Stars: Christopher Reeve, Jane Seymour, Christopher Plummer
This one must be recognized as a cult classic! A Chicago playwright uses self-hypnosis to travel back in time and meet the actress whose vintage portrait hangs in the grand hotel where he is staying in Mackinac Island, Michigan. The two seem destined to be together until a cruel twist of fate and a jealous manager intervene.
Stars: Arnold Schwarzenegger, Linda Hamilton, Michael Biehn
Disguised as a human, the Terminator, a cyborg assassin from the future, travels from 2029 to 1984 in an attempt to find and kill Sarah Connor, a waitress who is destined to give birth to a man who will save humankind from extinction.
Stars: Michael J. Fox, Christopher Lloyd, Lea Thompson
In this 1980s sci-fi classic, small-town California teen Marty McFly, a 17-year-old high school student, is accidentally sent 30 years into the past in a time-traveling DeLorean invented by his close friend, the eccentric scientist Doc Brown, when an experiment goes awry. Marty encounters young versions of his parents and must make sure that they fall in love, or he’ll cease to exist.
Stars: Bruce Willis, Madeleine Stowe, Brad Pitt
Imprisoned in the 2030s, James is recruited for a mission that will send him back to the 1990s to gather information about the man-made virus that wiped out most of the human population on the planet. Traveling back in time isn’t simple, as he learns the hard way.
Stars: Keanu Reeves, Sandra Bullock, Christopher Plummer
A lonely doctor who once lived in a beautiful lakeside home, falls in love by exchanging letters with its latest resident, a frustrated architect. When they discover that they are living two years apart, the pair must unravel the mystery behind their incredible romance before it’s too late.
Stars: Owen Wilson, Rachel McAdams, Kathy Bates
While on a trip to Paris with his fiancée’s family, a nostalgic screenwriter and aspiring novelist sets out each night to tour the city alone and finds himself mysteriously going back to the 1920s at the stroke of midnight where he encounters some of the Jazz Age’s most famous icons of art and literature.
Stars: Domhnall Gleeson, Rachel McAdams, Bill Nighy
When Tim Lake is 21, his father tells him a secret: The men in their family can travel through time and change what happens in their own lives. His decision to make his world a better place by getting a girlfriend turns out to be not as easy as you might think. Tim finds that his special ability can’t shield him and those he loves from the problems of ordinary life.
Stars: Matthew McConaughey, Anne Hathaway, Jessica Chastain
When Earth becomes uninhabitable due to a global crop blight and second Dust Bowl, a farmer and ex-NASA pilot, Joseph Cooper, is tasked with piloting a spacecraft along with a team of researchers through a wormhole to find a new planet where the human race can survive.
The Variable is proud to announce that it has named Jodi Heelan as President and Partner. Jodi, who joined the agency in 2014 and took on the CFO role in 2022, will work to continue to grow the agency’s offerings, talent, client base and strategic partnerships. Her mission includes further innovating The Variable’s model creatively and financially to drive value for modern brands; redefining the company’s corporate strategic positioning and go-to-market strategy; and ensuring agency operations evolve to support both. Jodi actively participates in several civic and philanthropic activities. She’s channeled her love of golf into being a girls’ coach in the Triad’s First Tee program for more than five years. First Tee enables kids and teens to build confidence and strength of character to empower them through life by integrating the game of golf with life skills curriculum. Jodi is an active board member of Kathleen’s Mission, a nonprofit organization that gives people affected by cancer opportunities to experience the joys of their local community through unique experiences. Additionally, Jodi is a member of Chief, the only international private membership network for senior executive women. Chief is designed for women in the C-Suite to strengthen their leadership, magnify their influence and pave the way to bring others with them into leadership positions through networking, mentorship and advocacy. In her spare time, Jodi enjoys getting outdoors with her husband, daughter and son.
Ellie McIntosh spent a decade in the corporate marketing world with well-respected, multimillion-dollar, global brands. Seeking more fulfillment, time freedom and alignment with her faith and core values, she left the corporate world behind in late 2023 to follow her entrepreneurial calling. Providence Creative Co. was born out of her passion for building genuine connections with business owners, inspiring change and making a positive impact using her branding, graphic design, and marketing skills and expertise. She works with businesses of all sizes to craft strategic brand identities, build results-driven marketing plans and design engaging content. Ellie has a master’s degree in Business Administration with a concentration in Entrepreneurship from Western Carolina University, and a bachelor’s degree in Economics and Finance from UNC Asheville. Her approach with every client and project is deeply intentional. It’s not just about “marketing” – it’s about uncovering the heart and soul of a brand and bringing that authenticity to life visually and verbally through purposeful creative strategy. Ellie and her husband met in Asheville and eventually moved back to the Triad to grow their family. Ellie is a mom of two miracle babies, aged two and four. She loves frequenting local coffee shops, taking weekend trips to the mountains, hiking, running and strength training, all things creative and the thrill of thrifting her entire wardrobe. She lives a life rooted in faith and sees her business as a ministry first and foremost, with an emphasis on serving others and building community.
One look at Cindy Resendes, and you can tell she has an eye for fashion. She always looks flawless whether she is sporting the lastest trends or wearing workout clothes. Cindy radiates confidence with an effortless glow. What is her secret you might ask? Well, she knows her seasonal color palette. Cindy heard about color analysis in 2019. She searched around but could not find anyone in Winston-Salem who color draped. Determined to find her best colors, Cindy booked a consultant two hours away. “It changed my life,” Resendes says. “I never felt beautiful until my color analysis. I now know the perfect colors to harmonize with my natural features. I immediately felt comfortable with my color choices in outfits. After learning that she was a “Winter,” Cindy embraced her new color scheme and knew she didn’t want to stop with just herself. After starting training classes in 2021, Cindy then took in-person training with an image consultant in 2024. Cindy offers 40-minute color analysis, but your services do not end after your consultation. Her Instagram account @colorgirlcindy posts tips and outfits of the four seasons, and she welcomes queries from her clients. “I am always here to answer questions and help with my customer’s color journey.”
Jessica Zombek Ferris is a REALTOR with more than 16 years of experience who loves real estate, assisting her clients and is dedicated to helping build generational wealth whether you are buying or selling a home or investing in real estate. She believes that real estate is a door to connecting communities and fulfilling dreams, for first-time home buyers, experienced homebuyers or relocation clients. Jessica has been providing her clients with exceptional guidance in building wealth through property acquisition and is passionate about education that informs decisions; she empowers her clients with insights and creates strategies and solutions that lead to smooth, successful closings. Consistently a top agent in listings and closed volume in the Winston-Salem and surrounding Triad community, Jessica’s proven success has drawn clients to lean on her expertise and represent them as a trustworthy agent. Exceptional communication, responsiveness and collaboration lead to shared success. In her spare time, Jessica is an art collector and values connecting communities through art and beauty. She also loves traveling and spending time with the people she loves. Her husband, Mark, is the wind beneath her wings always supporting her real estate adventures. She is also a mom to three children and two dogs.
Kendall Sharpe, native of Winston-Salem, discovered her love of the arts at an early age! From various art classes to craft entries in the Dixie Classic Fair, art was her first love. Her first venture into entrepreneurship started while attended Salem College. While in college, she repurposed and sold furniture out of her two-bay garage. She concluded her education with a BA in design with concentrations in interior design and architectural studies and a certificate in historic preservation. After losing her job in March of 2020 due to COVID 19, with the encouragement of her husband, Kaylan, Kendall decided to start her own interior design company, Kendall Sharpe Designs, LLC. Making lemons into lemonade! The growth of her business enabled Kaylan to join in 2022, becoming a team that facilitates homeowners with custom designs and one-ofa-kind features that add character, charm and uniqueness to their homes. The spectrum of their design ranges from interior painting, wallpaper installation, custom furniture and bathroom remodels with an emphasis on tile, all while providing design consultations and 3D renderings. Kendall is also the proud mom to Kennedy (7) and Kanon (6). She is an avid animal lover and, when not working, you can find her at her local Goodwill store!
Karah Jean-Gilles, a passionate REALTOR® with the Lindsay-Watson Real Estate Group, is dedicated to turning homeownership dreams into reality through exceptional service and building lasting relationships. Everything she touches turns to SOLD! With a strong commitment to her community, Karah actively volunteers with after-school programs, tutors children, and engages in various local initiatives. She serves as Vice Chair of the Community Service Committee and is a proud member of both the Education Committee and the Young Professionals Network within the Winston-Salem Regional Association of REALTORS®. Beyond her professional life, Karah enjoys staying active, exploring new hobbies, and spending meaningful time with family and friends. Her dedication to both her clients and community drives her to continuously grow and make a positive impact. Karah believes that the key to success is not just in the work you do, but in the lives you touch along the way, and she looks forward to continuing her journey with Purpose and Passion.
Each November, we seize the opportunity to raise awareness about hospice and palliative care. It’s essential that people know where to turn for compassionate, specialized care as they approach the end of life. While raising awareness is a year-round effort, November has been designated as National Hospice and Palliative Care Month. This is an ideal time for Trellis Supportive Care to join hospice organizations across the country in reminding people that we are here, with the sincere hope of being of help when you need us most.
Hospice is a special type of care that allows patients with serious illnesses, and their families, to focus on living as fully and comfortably as possible—whether at home or, when needed, in our beautiful Hospice Home. Most people who have experienced hospice care speak of the relief that comes with having an in-home care team, and the peace of mind it brings. Everyone deserves to have a trusted team by their side every step of the way, and it is our greatest privilege to be that framework of support.
This year’s Hospice Month theme is #CareHeroes. While we may not be able to leap tall buildings in a single bound, our compassionate team members approach care with sincerity and heart, always striving to deliver the highest quality care. For many, it could even be described as a calling. The faces scattered throughout this article represent just a few of the nearly 300 team members who have found their mission at Trellis.
We know there are Care Heroes throughout healthcare, and we are proud to share the ‘hero’ title with them. Additionally, we recognize that many true heroes are the caregivers who provide care for their loved ones day in and day out. It’s heroic to care for a loved one, and it’s even more heroic to reach out for hospice care and support on behalf of someone you love. It can be one of the hardest calls to make, but once that call is made, our care and support can make a world of difference.
As the first nonprofit hospice in the state, established in 1977, we began as a grassroots organization founded by community leaders who envisioned a more holistic approach to end-of-life care.
Since then, we have expanded our services beyond traditional hospice care, offering extended grief counseling, palliative care, advance care planning workshops, caregiver support, and more. Our beautiful Hospice Home and offices throughout the service area allow us to provide timely, community-based care.
We remain a free-standing, nonprofit organization, deeply appreciative of our roots and community relationships. Thank you for your decades of faith in our mission.
*Event details are subject to change. Please check event websites & social media pages for updates as the dates draw near.*
NOVEMBER 1
SUGAR MAMAS PRESENTS: THE SOCIALITES LUNCH AND LEARN CONTENT CREATION SEMINAR
9am-4pm, Historic Broyhill, 3540 Clemmons Road, Suite 11 in Clemmons. Ready to show off your brand, but just need some help in accomplishing it? Learn to effectively promote your brand, increase your social media presence and connect with a community of supportive women. Don’t miss out on this opportunity to gain valuable knowledge and tools to help you succeed. What’s Included: Comprehensive workshops covering content planning, creation and technical skills; insights and tips from top industry professionals; networking opportunities with like-minded individuals; a delicious lunch; and time for shopping and exploring unique vendors.
NOVEMBER 1-2
41ST ANNUAL COZY COTTAGE CRAFT SHOW
9am-8pm (1st); 9am-3pm (2nd), Kernersville Community House, 405 Salisbury Street in Kernersville. Unique hand-crafted gifts, home décor, jewelry, yard art, holiday decorations, baked goods and more. Proceeds from raffle benefit Trellis Supportive Care.
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WALK TO END ALZHEIMER’S –WINSTON-SALEM
10am-12pm, Truist Stadium. There’s more to the Alzheimer’s Association Walk to End Alzheimer’s – Winston-Salem than just walking. And even more reasons to join us. For a different future. For families. For more time. For treatments. We’re closer than ever to stopping Alzheimer’s. But, to get there, we need you. For more information or to register, visit act.alz. org/WinstonSalem.
NOVEMBER 2, 3, 9, 10
DYNAMIS FALL WINE CLUB PARTY
November 2: 11am - 1pm or 3-5pm November 3, 9, 10: 1-3pm Dynamis Estate Wines
We are excited to announce that our fall release pick-up event will be held again at the beautiful Crosby Estate. The celebration will include Dynamis wine, a Charcuterie table, and music. The event is complimentary for each club member and a plus one. Each additional guest will be $50 extra, charged to the members’ account. Join the club and RSVP at https://highlandvineyards.obtainwine.com/club
KIDS’ MORNING OUT
10-11am, Salem Gymnastics & Swim, 4870 Country Club Road in W-S. Grab a friend and bring the kids for a morning of fun at Kids’ Morning Out! Come see all that Salem Gymnastics & Swim has to offer with a variety of individual activity stations and two warm water pools with amazing instructors! If you’d like to give the pool a try, don’t forget your bathing suit and towel! Children under 3 must be accompanied by a parent in the pool. Each adult also receives four tickets for the fabulous prize board drawings. We strongly encourage you to sign up for swimming ahead of time at salemgym.com/kids-morning-out/.
NC HUB CERTIFICATION FOR SMALL BUSINESS OWNERS - NOVEMBER COHORT
2-3:30pm, Winston-Salem Women’s Business Center. Training Topics: Government Contracting Description: Complete your NC Historically Underutilized Business certification in only three sessions! In this three part series, expert business counselors help you complete each HUB certification process step (including SWUC certification and NC eVP registration). Little or no experience with technology? That’s okay; we’re here to help! Additional certifications are available upon request.
NOVEMBER 8-9
DAVIE CRAFT ASSOCIATION 54TH
ANNUAL CRAFT VILLAGE
10am-7pm (8th); 10am-4pm (9th), Davie Parks & Recreation, 151 Southwood Drive in Mocksville. Food trucks available onsite during show hours. Live music and entertainment during the show. The DC Cruisers will be there on Saturday with classic cars. Admission: $1/person. A portion of the proceeds will benefit local charities. There will be 50+ local artisans showcasing jewelry, handbags, paintings, soaps, holiday items, home décor and more!
NOVEMBER 9
FREE SEMINAR “SECRETS TO REMODELING YOUR KITCHEN & BATH”
10:30am-12pm, 425 West End Boulevard in W-S. Anderson Moore Kitchen & Bath is hosting a free seminar in our design center. Come get valuable tips from Co-founder Erik Anderson. The more you know, the better your remodeling experience will be! Limited seating, so please RSVP: julie@ andersonmoore.com. Questions? Call us: 336.722.4818.
NOVEMBER 11
GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT
5pm-until…Davie Tavern, 5279 US Highway 158 in Advance. Grab your mom, your sister, your girlfriends and/or your coworkers and join Forsyth Woman magazine for a much-needed Girls’ Night Out! Enjoy $2 off domestic wine by the glass and appetizer specials! As always, we’ll have our prize board with tons of awesome prizes!
NOVEMBER 15-17
STINKY CHEESE MAN AND OTHER FAIRLY STUPID TALES
Times vary, Mountcastle Forum, The Little Theatre of Winston Salem. Though the characters may be familiar, each of your favorite storybook fables is uproariously derailed in this adaptation of Jon Scieszka and Lane Smith’s quintessential children’s book of fractured fairy tales. Everything from “Chicken Little” to “The Gingerbread Man” gets a complete makeover.
DECEMBER 7
CHRISTMAS AT BETHABARA
1:30-4:30pm, Historic Bethabara Park. Celebrate the season by touring the decorated 1788 Gemeinhaus and listening to a performance by Duo Licht; tasting Christmas treats made by Moravians in the 1800s; enjoying the sounds of a Moravian Brass Band; making Christmas crafts; dipping a candle; observing a potter, blacksmith and woodworker; and meeting Sister Anna Catharina (a first-person dramatization). Admission is free!
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William G. White, Jr. Family YMCA in downtown W-S. A run in the cold can warm the heart! Half marathon, 5K, fun run, free childcare and an after party. All proceeds benefit children’s programs at the YMCA. Learn more and register at ymcamistletoe.org.
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COMMUNITY CHRISTMAS FESTIVAL
5-7pm, WinMock at Kinderton, Church of the Good Shepherd. Come join the whole community at the beautiful, historic WinMock barn to start off the advent season with a fun night of fellowship! We will have plenty of vendors selling community crafts and goods, some Christmas singers and musical performances, and a short kids’ program. In addition, we will have a food truck selling meals, a bounce house for children, a family photo area and some carnival games. All ages are welcome, and there is no cost for admission.
DECEMBER 12-15 & 19-22
Times vary, Reynolds Place Theatre, Little Theatre of Winston Salem. Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol is one of the most beloved stories in history, and Charlie Lovett’s play adaptation is truly a holiday treat for the whole family. Join us for this imaginative production that engenders dreams of wintry wonderlands and spectacular spirits that seem all too real!
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Food trucks available on-site during show hours. Live music and entertainment during the show. The DC Cruisers will be there on Saturday with classic cars.
$1.00 A portion of proceeds bene t local charities.
Local Ar ti san s Jewelry, H andbags, Paintings, Florals, Crocheted, Felted and Knitted Wearables, Soaps, Holiday Ornaments and Home Decor, & much, much, more!
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There is nothing easy about setting boundaries in any relationship, especially if you are nonconfrontational and a people pleaser. Having boundaries with family members can seem almost impossible. So, is it possible to set boundaries with family and not hurt feelings? I am so glad you asked!
When you are faced with a decision, no doubt everyone thinks they know what is best, especially family members. They have known you forever, so of course you want their opinion, right? The best way to answer those who would “assist” you in making life choices, is to say, “I know you have a strong opinion about this, but I need to make my own decisions; although I value your input, I’m going to do what is right for me.”
We’ve all had those run-ins with family members who tend to hurt others and leave them in the wake of their destruction. They seem to have no problem saying hateful things and moving on with life, while you are left to process what anyone would act like they did. Been there, done that! If this behavior is tolerated, it will continue to be repeated. You might want to say, “I need to acknowledge what happened between us for my peace of mind and get a clear understanding of why you acted like you did.”
Ever been to a family gathering when you were the recipient of the dreaded “silent treatment?” I have been on the end of that one, and it was miserable. To address this uncomfortable situation, you might say, “I’m not sure what has happened between us, but talking and working things out seems to be a better way to a resolution than complete avoidance.”
On a personal note, I chose to be the “bigger person” for many years with a family member. All I got from that was severe anxiety and alienation
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when forced to be around the person. In short, it was miserable because even though I felt like I was doing the right thing by letting things slide, I was not. What my behavior did was show the person that I wasn’t going to stand up for myself, and no one else in the family wanted to stand up to the person either because she is a bully.
Many people confuse criticism with being constructive, however, they are not the same thing. Criticism usually comes from a place of wanting to hurt you, but being constructive is usually from the perspective of improving oneself. When you feel like you are being criticized, you may want to say, “I appreciate your feedback when it is constructive, but I need it to be delivered in a way that is supportive and not hurtful.”
We all have those family members who everyone tiptoes around because they have a short fuse or are easily agitated. Who wants to live like that? Well, I did for a couple
of decades, and it was miserable. Every family gathering was dreaded, and I felt like I had to filter every word before I spoke in this person’s presence. If I could do things over, I would face this head on and not sacrifice my well being to appease this person, but luckily, I am out of that situation.
When you sit down and have a heart to heart with a family member, and they seem like they are hearing and understanding your perspective but then completely dismiss everything that you said, there’s a pretty good chance they will never “hear” you or care how you feel. If you want to give it one last shot, you might want to say, “It’s really important to me that you acknowledge my feelings. When they’re completely dismissed, it makes me feel unheard and unvalued. I would appreciate you taking my emotions seriously, as I do yours.” It’s hard to argue with that statement. Remember, you deserve to be treated as a valued member of a family and loved for who you are. Don’t forget that fact!