Old Salem and Museum of Early Southern Decorative Arts (MESDA) are open Wednesday through Saturday, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Visit oldsalem.org for information about tickets and special autumn events.
Old Salem Museums & Gardens brings history to life through costumed interpreters, old-world craftspeople, and authentic, restored buildings.
Experience timeless Southern craftsmanship at MESDA, home of the nation’s most comprehensive collection of early Southern antiques and material culture.
Through September 30
Thrown Together: Pots and People of Early Alabama on exhibit at the Museum of Early Southern Decorative Arts. Objects drawn from public and private collections highlight Alabama’s 19th century potters.
Come visit our relocated pottery studio in the lower level of Single Brothers House!
Ahh September! I think it’s safe to say most of us have had enough of the blistering August heat and are thrilled to see the calendar switch over to September. As I’m writing this, it’s still August, but I’m in Maine! It’s a cool 63 degrees, and I can’t say I miss the 90+ degree weather happening back home. The views are unbelievable, and I’m incredibly grateful for the opportunity to be here with family. The slower pace here is just what I needed to close out
We’re thrilled to feature Salem Academy on the cover this month! Did you know they were voted the #1 best private high school in the Triad? Salem Academy has been empowering girls to lead and succeed for more than 250 years (you read that right, they celebrated their 250th anniversary last year)! You can read more about this incredible school on page 30.
Speaking of amazing young women, we had the pleasure of having Halleigh intern with us this summer! She attended cover shoots, foodie reviews, podcast recordings and even helped unload
magazines on delivery day. You can read all about her experience on page 38.
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Thebeginning of a new school year can be an exciting, yet busy time. There are the back-to-school shopping trips, events and getting back into a routine. A key event during this time is Open House, the day or night when children and parents meet their teachers for the new year. This interaction can vary in length of time and content, but it is the moment when parents and teachers receive first impressions of each other. When it comes to helping a child grow and having a successful school year, there are many components, one being a strong parent/teacher relationship.
This relationship is two-fold and takes commitment and support from both parties. It is one that should be handled with grace and understanding. A parent/ teacher relationship can get tricky at times and can take some time navigating. However, there is always one common goal in mind – what is best for the student. Here are the keys you need to know in order to build a strong parent/teacher relationship this new school year.
• First, COMMUNICATION is huge. Parents want to know what is going on in the classroom. They want to know what topics their students are learning, what things are good and where we need to grow. On the flip side, teachers want to know what is going on at home that could impact their students and any questions and/or concerns the parents have. A quick email or call can
by MEGAN TAYLOR by MEGAN TAYLORdo wonders to build this relationship. Communication doesn’t just have to come through an email or phone call. Connect with each other in the car-rider line, when you are volunteering in school, or while dropping something off or picking something up. Sometimes a different environment can produce various tones and productive discussions. In addition, these brief exchanges can be quick updates that can prevent the tough discussions from happening and puts everyone on a neutral territory.
• GIVE grace and understanding. Oftentimes, parents and teachers interact when a bad behavior or negative situation has occurred. This is one example of a situation when emotions could be high. Approach all conversations with grace and understanding in a calmly manner. If you type out an email to the other party and need to wait before sending it, do so. Give yourself time to clear your mind and better prepare your thoughts and words. With all conversations, thinking through your words and what you are going to say is an extremely useful action to take. Always have a plan and next steps to better the situations or continue the good work. In the tough times, assume the best intentions, and provide them with the benefit of the doubt and vice versa for teachers. Lastly, parents, please remember that teachers will respond as quickly as they can. Elementary school teachers work with classes of 20 to 30 (or more) students, while middle and
high school teachers can have 50 to 100 plus students.
• Unfortunately, many parents only receive a call or email from the teacher when something negative happens. However, that can be changed. CONTACT home with the positives and celebrations. Parents want to know what positive things their child is doing in school. Give them pictures of their work, include a quote they said in a recent class discussion or send home their completed activities. Also, don’t forget to let parents know about their learner’s manners, kind and positive actions. A key tip for both parents and teachers – always start the discussion with something positive to build the rapport. As for teachers, set a daily or weekly goal to reach out to a certain number of families with positives. By the end of the first quarter or so, you should have contacted all of your students’ families with good news. Parents – let the teachers know what influential impacts they are making in your child’s life by sending a quick compliment or note.
The parent/teacher relationship is one of the most overlooked actions for success. Both sides should humanize themselves and remember that we are all people with feelings. It also creates trust. This partnership goes further when both sides are on common ground and authentic. It may take a little while to build a strong parent/teacher relationship within the first few months of school, but it will be well worth it.
by DEBBIE LINVILLE
Arebirthing and postpartum classes beneficial for the motherto-be? The answer from Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates is a resounding YES! Whether it’s a first birth or a subsequent birth, most women report some sense of anxiety surrounding labor and delivery. Almost 100% of the time these worries are rooted in the unknown. Gaining hands-on knowledge, tools and practice is an effective way to eliminate this sense of the unknown. Is it possible to give birth without taking a class? Of course, but why would you want to when childbirth classes are the most helpful way to prepare for birth? In fact, this article came about as a result of several requests Brooke Eagle (Publisher of Forsyth Woman) received asking her to let others know about the incredible classes offered through Lyndhurst PT/OT therapy department. Eagle remarked, “It’s very rare that we get multiple article requests for the same people!” While a specific shout out was given to Mary Sadler (DPT) and Lauren Bost (OTR/L) and the exceptional pelvic floor work, Lyndhurst patients routinely rave about each of the following classes.
Preparing for the later stages of pregnancy, as well as learning comfort techniques that are helpful at the end of pregnancy and during birth enhance the confidence level of the mother-to-be. As Jamie Petty (LPN, LCCE, Lactation Educator) shared, “The education provided is evidencebased and up-to-date, so the patient can have confidence in knowing we are providing the most relevant information to them.” Lamaze is so much more than breathing. The instructors use a combination of PowerPoint, videos, hands on activities, demonstration and active participant interaction in every class. Throughout each class, participants ask questions that allow for discussions catered to the specific questions/needs of attendees to help them reach their birth story goals. Because there are differences in every pregnancy, labor and delivery, it is beneficial for every pregnant woman to take the class whether it is her first or fourth pregnancy. Having partners
attend class can be very beneficial and, for Lamaze, a part of the class is dedicated to partners. Although having a partner for class certainly isn’t a requirement, the instructors assure birth coaches they will not be bored in class. Register between the 3rd – 5th month of pregnancy to ensure a space in class. The cost is $100. Instructors Jamie Petty, Treka Conley and Hannah McGlamery.
“Support and education are so important during this special milestone, and I get very excited to work with our couples.”
-Treka Conley, RN, LCCE• Understand physiological aspects of childbirth postpartum
• Evidence-based information on childbirth
• Safe place for learning and asking questions
• Learn and practice comfort techniques
• Go into delivery with confidence
“ Our main goal is for participants to gain confidence in themselves and their ability to give birth. We hope everyone leaves class with information they will carry with them throughout the remainder of their pregnancy, delivery and postpartum period.”
- Hannah McGlamery, RN, BSN, LCCEThis class examines the benefits of breastfeeding and provides pregnant women the knowledge and support they need for breastfeeding success. Topics include how to get started, positioning techniques, community resources and more. The class utilizes videos, lectures and demo-combination-group virtual sessions. Lauri Cox, with 18 years of experience as a breastfeeding class instructor enjoys when participants ask questions and shares, “I have a passion for families on their parenting journeys!” Although this class is particularly helpful for the first-time mom, it is also beneficial for second-time mothers to get a refresher, especially if they had a poor experience the first time. Spouse/significant other is encouraged to attend to learn how to be a source of support across the three primary tasks: #1 feed the baby, #2 take care of the milk supply and #3 effective attachment. While there is never a bad time for additional education regarding breastfeeding, the recommended time for this class is during the third trimester. The cost is $30. To promote patient safety during this time, instructor Lauri Cox is holding the class virtually.
• Preparation – How to get started
• Proactive support – Concerns and when to call for assistance
• Empower mothers – Strategies to support breastfeeding
• Information on babies, breastmilk and breastfeeding
• Improve health and safety of babies
“Education for growing families is absolutely crucial. Our country is in the midst of the worst maternity crisis we have seen, education is a piece of the puzzle.”
- Lauri Cox, FNP, IBCLCEmpowering pregnant women to take an active role in physically preparing their body for labor and delivery, as well as what they can do to jump-start recovery before six weeks postpartum, sets them up for success entering motherhood. The class consists of visuals, demonstrations, videos, hands on practice and discussion. Partners are invited but not required. Second-time parents are encouraged to attend since each pregnancy, perspective and birth goals can differ – there are always new things to learn! Recommended time to take this class is any time after 28 weeks. The cost of the in-person, three-hour class is $120 (there is no charge for the support person). Lyndhurst will soon launch a new postpartum course (a two-part series). The first part, beginning birth to 12 weeks postpartum, centers on general
postpartum wellness toward 1) helping the pelvic floor reconnect with the diaphragm and core, 2) prevent or heal from pelvic floor dysfunction and 3) return to daily activities safely. The second part, typically 3-4 months postpartum and beyond, focuses on a return to exercise (like lifting weights, CrossFit, etc.) and running. Instructors for these classes are Dr. Mary Sadler and Lauren Bost.
“ Our goal is to educate and empower women during the perinatal period to optimize birth outcomes and prevent postpartum pelvic floor dysfunction.”
- Lauren Bost, OTR/LTop 5 Benefits:
• How pregnancy affects body to better manage expectations
• Optimize pelvic mobility, diaphragm and core muscles in delivery
• Learn how to ideally push out the baby to minimize injury
• Reduce impact of pelvic floor dysfunction immediately after birth
• Sex – During pregnancy and returning to it after delivery
“I am motivated to change how society views pregnancy and labor. Pregnancy doesn’t ‘ruin’ your body. It’s hard, and it changes things for sure, but you are not ‘ruined.’”
- Mary Sadler, DPTThese classes are offered for Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates patients. For more information, please visit the website at lyndhurstgyn.com.
by QUINN BARKER
Day, observed on the first Sunday after Labor Day, is a special occasion to honor and celebrate the significant role that grandparents play in our lives. In the Winston-Salem area and throughout Forsyth county, this day provides a wonderful opportunity to show appreciation, create lasting memories, and strengthen the intergenerational bonds that enrich our community. Discover below a few of the various opportunities available in our area to celebrate Grandparents’ Day, highlighting events, activities, and places where families can come together and make the most of this special day.
Old Salem, a living history museum in Winston-Salem, offers a captivating glimpse into the past. Grandparents and grandchildren can embark on a journey through time, exploring the well-preserved historic buildings, cobblestone streets, and lush gardens. Interacting with costumed interpreters, families can learn about early Moravian settlers and experience what life was like in the 18th and 19th centuries. Grandparents, with their wealth of life experiences, can share personal stories that resonate with the history being portrayed, making the visit even more meaningful.
Nestled in the heart of Forsyth County, Tanglewood Park offers a perfect setting for a family picnic on Grandparents’ Day. With lush green spaces, playgrounds for the kids, and serene lakeside views, it’s an ideal location to gather and celebrate grandparents. Families can pack their favorite treats and enjoy a day of fun, laughter, and bonding amidst nature’s beauty.
Quarry Park, situated in Winston-Salem, is a beautiful natural space that provides a perfect setting for families to enjoy the outdoors on Grandparents’ Day. The park features a serene lake surrounded by walking trails and lush greenery and an amazing playground with something for all ages. Families can take leisurely strolls, have a lakeside picnic, or engage in birdwatching. Grandparents and grandchildren can bond over nature’s wonders, fostering a deeper appreciation for the environment and each other.
Kaleideum, the renowned science museum in Winston-Salem, offers exciting interactive exhibits that appeal to all ages. On Grandparents’ Day, the museum often hosts special programs that cater to grandparents and grandchildren. From learning about the wonders of science to exploring the arts, a day spent at Kaleideum will undoubtedly be a memorable and educational experience for the whole family.
Hanging Rock State Park offers picturesque hiking trails and stunning vistas. Families can organize a Grandparents’ Day hike
to enjoy the natural beauty and spend quality time together in the great outdoors. The hike can be tailored to suit various fitness levels, ensuring that everyone can participate and create lasting memories on this special day.
For families interested in art and culture, Reynolda House offers a delightful Grandparents’ Day celebration. The museum houses an impressive collection of American art and decorative arts, providing an enriching experience for all generations. On this special day, guided tours and interactive activities are organized to engage grandparents and grandchildren in meaningful conversations about art and history.
For families who appreciate history and nature, the Bethania Historic District is a must-visit destination on Grandparents’ Day. This well-preserved Moravian settlement features charming buildings, gardens, and walking trails. A leisurely stroll through this serene setting provides a unique opportunity for grandparents to share their knowledge of the past with their curious grandchildren.
On Grandparents’ Day, instill the value of community service by participating in a family volunteer day. Forsyth County offers numerous organizations and initiatives that welcome volunteers of all ages. Working together for a common cause strengthens family bonds and imparts important life lessons to the younger generation.
Grandparents’ Day is an occasion to celebrate the enduring love and wisdom of grandparents. By exploring the historical charm of Old Salem, immersing in nature’s beauty at Quarry Park, and engaging in other activities listed above, families can make this day truly memorable and meaningful. Grandparents have a unique role in shaping the lives of their grandchildren, and this day provides an excellent opportunity to come together and strengthen these intergenerational bonds. Let us embrace this special day with gratitude, love, and appreciation for the cherished grandparents in our community.
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Ahomeless outreach ministry of Habit Missions, Watchmen of the Streets was formed in 2009 to support Heath Burchett and his wife, Amanda, as missionaries to the Central American country of Belize. The ministry literally found its roots on the streets of Belize City, where the homeless population was immense. Heath and Amanda were immediately drawn to serve them.
In the fall of 2011, when Heath left Belize and returned home to the Charlotte area, he noticed large numbers of homeless people on the streets of Charlotte and began serving them – officially naming his group of volunteers Watchmen of the Streets.
Then, on a visit to Winston-Salem, where he grew up, Heath and his dad, Al Burchett, began to search Forsyth County to see if homelessness was an issue here. On the first day, they found several fairly large encampments and a few smaller ones. They returned to service those camps occasionally, and in March of 2017, Al decided to take ownership of the Winston-Salem area Watchmen of the Streets. The ministry has grown rapidly, and currently, more than 20 volunteers serve the area, including Al’s wife, Bonnie.
“Our goal is to show our homeless friends there are people who care about them,” Al explains. “Building relationships is very important to us, and even though the living conditions are mostly horrible, the result of our visits is uplifting. Everyone who volunteers with us finds the experience rewarding, and so much of that is because our clients are so appreciative and genuinely excited to see us.”
Forsyth County is too large an area for one-day outings, so the group split into two teams to cover the area in a single day, with Al covering half of the county, and Bonnie leading a team in the other half. The total number of neighbors served is somewhere between 100 and 120.
“One team serves the southside, and the other covers the northside, with some overlap in the downtown area,” explains Al. “Planned outings occur every other Saturday beginning at 9:00 am and usually finish between 1:00 and 2:00 pm. Our teams make 11 to 12 stops each, serving camps in the woods, under bridges, in abandoned buildings and sometimes serving folks who are living in their cars. We’ve also been blessed with dedicated volunteers who can fill in as team leaders when Bonnie and I are traveling.”
The ministry is also able to respond to individual emergency requests, and rarely does a week go by without an emergency visit or two. Watchmen of the Streets does not serve those who sleep in overnight shelters – they concentrate on those who sleep outside.
“Our focus is to provide supplies to make living outside a bit more bearable,” says Al. “We provide camping supplies such as tents, sleeping bags, tarps, rope, blankets and pillows, along with some food and clothing. One of our dedicated volunteers, Mary, shops for clothing for our clients and maintains a stock of clothing at our storage facility.”
Some clients have special needs, and volunteers try their best to accommodate them. That might include special clothing or shoes for a job requirement, or health issues or dietary restrictions.
Watchmen of the Streets started with a small, enclosed trailer, moved to a 10 x 10 storage unit and then to two 10 x 20 units. But, storage rent increased, and they were already outgrowing the units. The mission recently moved into two large rooms at Centenary United Methodist Church on Hampton Road in Clemmons, making a monthly donation to the church for use of the space.
Al says it has allowed the mission to quadruple its storage footprint!
“Clemmons United Methodist Church is our largest donor, along with a few smaller churches who also donate,” he
adds. “We have a partnership with the Clemmons Food Pantry, which donates food and helps us lower our food costs, and we also have several individuals who are regular donors.”
Watchmen of the Streets has also had opportunities to help clients get off the streets and into housing, and a partnership with the Clemmons UMC Furniture Ministry aids clients in furnishing apartments when the opportunity arises. The group is also a Partner Agency with GreeNest of WinstonSalem, a local furniture ministry. While they fall under the umbrella of Habit Missions
Ministry, Watchmen of the Streets operates its Winston-Salem outreach independently. Other than a few minor costs of being part of the parent charity, all donations from the local area are used for local clients.
If you would like to get involved with the mission’s outings, prepare food bags, shop or collect supplies, please call or text Watchmen of the Streets at 336.918.3214, email alburchett@live.com or visit Watchmenofthestreets.com.
It’sso much more than just a beautiful tropical bloom! Hibiscus boasts many health and beauty benefits and can help you celebrate and stay cool this summer.
Summertime is the perfect time to feature the vibrant and beautiful hibiscus flower. Here are some of the health advantages of including hibiscus in your summertime activities:
• Hibiscus contains antioxidants and vitamin C that can help boost the immune system and help fight inflammation.
• Hibiscus is well known to help lower blood pressure and cholesterol levels.
• Hibiscus can reduce the risk of cancer and aid in digestion.
• Hibiscus can help reduce signs of aging, keep skin looking youthful and protect against environmental damage.
Cool off this summer with healthy recipes that include hibiscus. Try adding hibiscus to iced tea, popsicles and sweet treats for a refreshing and tasty summertime snack brimming with color and nutritious benefits.
Get artsy and crafty with hibiscus in its many forms, including using hibiscus flowers as fresh, dried, pressed, powdered or steeping the flowers to make a delicious tisane tea. Fresh hibiscus flowers can be used to make flower crowns and bouquets. Dried hibiscus can be used for a wide variety of DIY projects such as the ones found below. You can add dried hibiscus flowers to potpourri and homemade soap. If you’re feeling really ambitious, you can even create unique hand-crafted paper that is sure to make a statement using hibiscus petals.
MATERIALS:
2-cup spray bottle
1 cup distilled water
1 cup unscented witch hazel
20 to 30 drops of your favorite essential oils (such as lavender, rose, orange, lemon or rosemary)
Dried hibiscus flowers
INSTRUCTIONS:
1. Add 20 to 30 drops of your favorite essential oils to a 2-cup spray bottle.
2. Fill the bottle half-way with unscented witch hazel (available in the grocery store).
3. Fill the bottle the rest of the way with distilled water.
4. Shake ingredients well, and add sprigs of dried hibiscus.
TO USE: Spray lightly to freshen-up linens and towels – and spray rooms liberally to soothe the senses and make your home smell like summertime.
Recipe adapted from marthastewart.com/1526211/natural-room-spraywith-essential-oils.
MATERIALS:
2 cups Epsom salts
1/2 cup Himalayan pink salt
1/4 cup baking soda
2 teaspoons organic almond oil
10 drops lavender essential oil
10 drops rose essential oil
4 dried hibiscus flowers
1. Place the Epsom salts, Himalayan pink salt and baking soda in a medium-sized bowl and mix together.
2. Add the almond oil and the essential oils, and mix until everything is evenly incorporated.
3. Carefully place the hibiscus flowers into the mixture, and stir with a spoon lightly until all of the ingredients are evenly distributed.
4. Pour the mixture into a glass jar with a lid and store in a cool, dry place.
TO USE: Add 2 tablespoons of the bath salts to a warm bath and enjoy!
MATERIALS:
2 tablespoons coconut oil
1/4 cup hibiscus powder
1 tablespoon honey
1/4 cup yogurt
INSTRUCTIONS:
1. In a small bowl, mix together the coconut oil, hibiscus powder, honey and yogurt.
2. Massage the mixture into your scalp and hair, concentrating on the ends.
3. Leave the mixture in your hair for 30 minutes or longer.
4. Rinse the mixture out of your hair with warm water.
5. Shampoo and condition your hair as usual.
Optional: For added shine and nourishment, mix a few drops of essential oil into the mixture before applying it to your hair. If your scalp is dry, you can add a few drops of olive oil to the mixture. If your hair is especially damaged, mix a few tablespoons of coconut oil into the mixture before applying.
Have fun with creative crafting and gifting, and enjoy the creative process working with this beautiful bloom. Crafting and gifting DIY hibiscus projects is a great way to celebrate summer, so get creative and have fun!
Happy summer, happy gifting and happy DIY arts and craft-ing!
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Itseems to be an old-fashioned idea to spend a slow Saturday morning sitting on the kitchen counter learning how to make pancakes with your mother or grandmother for breakfast; or learning the steps to a secret family recipe during a holiday season. But, I did just that, and these moments became etched in my mind forever. I also created skills that will last a lifetime. Now, as a mother with a family involved in many night-time activities and with a set evening routine, spending time in the kitchen with my children is not at the forefront of my mind. In fact, it sometimes feels like it’s going to slow down our family, and who has time for that when there is laundry to do, baths to take and lunchboxes to prep for the next day? But, to teach my children the basics of prepping meals for themselves and creating core memories that will last a lifetime, it is important for me to pause and make sure I incorporate my children in pieces of our kitchen routines.
You may be wondering how you can involve them. There are so many ways, depending on their age! It’s never too early or too late to start. Do you have teenagers? Great! There are ways for them to actively participate in meal planning and cooking. Or, maybe you have a toddler at home just now learning how to effectively get food in their mouths without getting most of it on their face. There is a role for them, too! Find the age category that fits your children, and start brainstorming how they might be able to help. And, don’t forget to think long-term. What do you hope your child remembers when they look back at the time they spent at home with you? What basic kitchen skills do you hope your child is able to take with them as they leave your home and prepare for their next season of life? Let’s hope they can grocery shop, put together a meal with different food groups, slice some vegetables or fruit, and maybe even know how to turn on the stove!
Birth to two years old:
• At this age, it’s important to have your children in the kitchen as you are prepping, cooking, putting away groceries and doing the dishes. Maybe it’s in a swing or a play chair near the kitchen counter. No matter what they are in or doing around you, being able to see you in the kitchen as a daily routine is learning that it’s an important part of the day.
• As they are exposed, your child may become interested in a food item you have on the counter. If it’s safe, allow them to touch it, hold it or put it on their tray so they can be near it. And, if it’s safe, allow them to taste it!
Two to four years old:
• Allow your child to help with the basics of cooking and eating, such as wiping down the kitchen counter before cooking and wiping down the table before eating.
• They can also get their hands in the food, but safely. No utensils are needed for this age. They can use their hands to tear lettuce leaves in half, pull apart broccoli or cauliflower pieces, get bread out of a package and put their hands in dough to help you knead it if you’re making bread from scratch.
• You can also begin to show them the kitchen equipment that is hot and that they should not touch. Begin to teach kitchen safety!
Four to six years old:
• Bring on the utensils and supplies! Your children at this age can help you measure, stir, cut with scissors and maybe even slice vegetables and fruits with a kid-friendly knife. This is all very new to them, so make sure to teach them the basics that now come naturally to you.
• Begin to set routines around mealtimes at this age. They can set the table each night and help to clean it up as well.
• As they are older, it’s important to begin discussing kitchen safety in more detail. Show them how the stove top and oven get hot and how knives can be dangerous, so we need to use them carefully.
Six to eight years old:
• Your children should continue to learn and improve specific cooking skills like measuring, stirring and cutting but doing it more accurately at this age. Do you often use a hand mixer or blender? Teach them how to use it. The more they continue practicing the basic cooking skills, the more it will be ingrained in their brains, and they will take these skills with them as they continue to grow.
• This is also the perfect age to have them help with the meal plan! Involve your children in the grocery shopping and plan for what you all will have for dinner throughout the week. It may not be your favorite dinner meal, but if your child is involved and has asked for that meal, why not plan it? It will empower them to continue to help you brainstorm and be involved in the meal and cooking process.
Eight+ years:
• Recipe comprehension is a great next step for your children as they get to this age. Before now, you’ve probably verbally instructed them on how to cook or meal prep. But, at this age, they may be able to read a basic recipe or read the instructions on a box. Allow them to try to read it and cook it, with your supervision. Don’t underestimate their abilities; give them the platform to show you what they can do as they get older!
• Lean on them as they get older. If you’ve exposed them, taught them the basics, allowed them to get their hands dirty and helped them meal plan, they can certainly begin helping you routinely in the kitchen!
September offers a variety of interesting and exciting events for families to experience in and around the Triad. Here are some of the top offerings:
An Evening with the Steep Canyon Rangers
Blue Ridge Music Center, Galax, Va.
Sept. 2, 7 p.m.
Tickets $20-$40
The Steep Canyon Rangers are Grammy winners and perennial Billboard chart-toppers. The band started at UNC Chapel Hill. They consistently headline top bluegrass festivals such as MerleFest and Grey Fox Bluegrass.
The Doobie Brothers: 50th Anniversary Tour
White Oak Amphitheatre, Greensboro Coliseum
Sept. 7, 7:30 p.m.
Tickets start at $32
The Doobie Brothers, an iconic American rock band have been captivating audiences since the 1970s.
Smith & Libby
Reynolda House Museum of American Art
Sept. 9-Dec. 31, Various hours
Tickets $18
On July 6, 1932, Zachary Smith Reynolds, the youngest child of R.J. and Katharine Smith Reynolds, was shot soon after midnight on a sleeping porch at the family’s country estate. Smith died later that morning. It’s not known whether Smith died by suicide, accident or murder. There is more than one way for a house to be haunted, and this story has hung over Reynolda for 90 years.
Hot Wheels Monster Trucks Live Glow Party
Greensboro Coliseum
Sept. 9-10
Various times, tickets start at $25
Steven Tanger Center, Greensboro
Sept. 19-24, Various times
Tickets start at $29
After 25 years, the musical “CHICAGO” still has everything that makes a Broadway show wonderful: a tale of fame, fortune, show-stopping songs and astonishing dancing. “CHICAGO” won six Tony Awards, two Olivier Awards and a Grammy Award.
Jurassic Quest
Greensboro Coliseum
Sept. 22-24, Various times
Tickets $22-$38
This is an opportunity to play with an adorable baby Dinos, excavate fossils or train a raptor while being surrounded by a Spinosaurus and a Tyrannosaurus rex.
Apple Festival
Historic Bethabara Park
Sept. 23, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m.
Free
This yearly festival features local artisans, craftsmen, food vendors, live music, racing pigs and, of course, apples.
Bookmarks Festival of Books and Authors
Downtown Winston-Salem
Sept. 23
Fans of all ages will experience their favorite Hot Wheels Monster Trucks in the dark.
Bird Songs: A Concert with Michael & Hazel Kuehn
Paul J. Ciener Botanical Garden
Sept. 14, 6:30-8:30 p.m.
Tickets $15
“Bird Songs” is a multifaceted artistic celebration of music, bird photography and poetry.
Fall Vintage Market
Körner’s Folly
Sept. 16, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m.
Free
The Fall Vintage Market features local, handmade, vintage items for sale from 35 vendors. Shoppers can meet and talk with artisans and craftspeople.
Free
Celebrating its 18th festival, the Bookmarks Festival of Books and Authors has hosted more than 750 authors from around the world. It is the largest annual book festival in the Carolinas.
Fall Dance
UNC School of the Arts, Agnes de Mille Theatre
Sept. 26-30, Various times
Tickets $20-$25
This contemporary showcase features students at all levels of work with distinguished faculty and guest choreographers, including UNCSA alumni Robert Gosnell, Amiya Burrell and Pear Ann Conway.
Federally insured by NCUA.
Iwasn’t born Southern but after nearly seven years of living in the Piedmont, I’ve accumulated a small but keenly felt sense of what that means. Heritage, legacy, provenance are clearly part of the imagination. The great writer William Faulkner said that the life of the South is an epic life and its inhabitants feel a great compulsion to explain it. Thinking about this conceit, I’m looking out the window at the dogwood tree in my front yard, now bare of its luminous white petals but holding within its interlocking branches a lively community of squirrels, cardinals and Eastern blue jays, all navigating a somewhat uneasy truce between themselves in its welcoming arboreal arms. A neighbor down the street has had several fir trees taken down for reasons unknown to me but I swear I could hear the trees screaming as they loudly fell.
I have the need to explain something here, too, which Faulkner recognized and it concerns why it is high time that each of us must be concerned about the supreme importance of trees. After watching a new documentary, ‘’Intelligent Trees’’ by German forester, author and all-around tree aficionado Peter Wohlleben, I take his point that to anyone who observes trees, it is transcendently clear that they have the ability to sense and react to their environment. Wohlleben takes it a step further arguing that they can feel pain and have emotions such as fear, and that they “like to stand close together and cuddle. They love company and like to take things slow.” In his book “The Hidden Life of Trees,” its biggest reveal is that trees communicate. The idea sounds mystical but it is one that increasingly finds validation in the field of environmental science.
In fact, the positive impact of trees is well-documented in a growing body of scientific studies in the U.S. and around the world. Delving into the abundant literature of trees on the internet and environmental books reveals that trees help us breathe. They clean the air so that we can inhale and exhale more easily, removing the kind of air pollution that is most dangerous to our lungs: particulate matter. They consume the greenhouse gasses that cause climate change by absorbing carbon dioxide from the air and subsequently storing it in their wood. They contribute to the beauty and character of the landscape, provide shade which acts as a natural form of air conditioning, and give a home to wildlife, offering habitats for countless species. Trees also filter our water, making our drinking supply cleaner and more reliable. Forests remove pollutants and sediments from rainfall and then slowly release the water back into waterways and underground aquifers.
It is often remarked that trees boost our mental health. Numerous scientific studies affirm that a simple walk among trees in a city park correlates with a large drop in anxiety and depression. In fact, through social media many people have learned about a Japanese practice shown as Shinrin yoku, translated as “forest bathing.” This is a process of relaxation and a method of being calm and quiet among trees. By taking in the forest atmosphere, we confirm a fact that scientists have known for eons— that time spent immersed in nature is good for us. If we allow ourselves to look closer we can see that trees are in fact megacities, teaming with life.
Their elaborate ecosystems reveal how they are inter-connected through root systems. An effective underground communication network reveals how roots intermingle and exchange various elements and molecules such as carbons and sugars resulting in shared nutrients. Wohlleben, a forest manager of over twenty years’ experience, would have it that trees are social beings, communicating, helping each other, even chucking around chemicals to assist with the deterrence of pests. He argues that trees utilize a “wood wide web” of roots and fungal chords that allows the transportation of nutrients from one tree to another.
Admittedly, there are those who might question the notion that trees compete, cooperate and communicate, forming alliances, warning each other of pests. But virtually no one would dispute the fact that trees are multi-factorial life forms. They give us emotional, physical and spiritual nourishment. They have complicated relationships with birds, small rodents, and insects who often participate in the dissemination of seeds and, equally importantly, provide shelter to these creatures. I would argue that we don’t in fact know how far the sentience of trees reaches. I do know that a walk in a grove of crepe myrtles with their bright pink blossoms infuses me with a joy it is difficult to describe. I read a quote attributed to someone named Garth Stein which touched me deeply. He said, “I hear hundreds of years of life. I hear wind and rain and fire and beetles. I hear the seasons changing and birds and squirrels. I hear the life of the trees this wood came from.” As I walk down my street, with its oldgrowth oak trees, high-flung firs, dogwoods and maples, I notice their beauty as well as the wrinkles in their bark, the wounds made by woodpeckers which painstakingly skimmed insects from them. With my camera in hand I take photos of trees in various stages of light and shadow. I think of Mary Chapin Carpenter’s song about living “on a street where the tall elm shade was as green as the grass and as cool as a blade.” I am grateful that there are so many trees in Forsyth County. I am certain that they are up to a great deal of good and that if a tree falls in the forest, there are other trees listening.
– your body’s largest organ system – is as individual as you are. Most of us have at least one feature we would like to improve, whether it is sun damage, those pesky “11s” between the brows or age spots on the face or hands. Science tells us that UV exposure on unprotected skin is a major factor in skin aging, and it’s true that a good quality sunscreen and other skincare products can be helpful. But, the bottom line is this...skin changes will happen as we age. Until the early 30s, cells turn over every month, revealing a fresh layer of pristine skin. As we age, however, our skin’s ability to repair itself slows down and collagen production decreases, leading to dullness, reduced volume and a loss of firmness. Dr. Leigh Summer, owner and medical director of Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics, is refreshingly candid about this. “Aging will catch up to you,” she says. “The good news is you have some input into how quickly this happens.”
by DEBBIE LINVILLE photos by JASPER & FERNDr. Summer believes that prevention is a key component in slowing the more prominent signs of aging skin. “In addition to a quality sunscreen, we all can benefit from products like retinol (a form of Vitamin A) and peptides (proteins that naturally occur in the skin) to help boost the production of collagen for firmer, youngerlooking skin,” Dr. Summer says. And, while these products do indeed help, when the signs of premature aging have gotten to the point where they are bothersome, it is time to make an appointment with the certified professionals at Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics.
The LLA team offers a plethora of anti-aging skincare treatments to improve your cosmetic appearance. From Botox and dermal fillers to microneedling and fractional CO2 laser skin resurfacing, Dr. Summer and her highly skilled staff will help you achieve your desired outcome with minimal downtime and maximum results. Their services are designed to help improve the skin’s appearance, health and function without looking “fake” or “overdone.” With a range of treatment options, they can create a tailor-made plan that is effective for your unique needs and budget.
Education is an important aspect of Dr. Summer’s patient care philosophy. “I think it’s so helpful to know what’s happening in our bodies as we age and the ways those changes affect our appearance.” The goal of good facial aesthetic care is to subtly address these changes, which Dr. Summer puts into four categories: volume loss, the effect of facial muscles repetitively pulling on skin, loss of elasticity, and pigmentation and texture issues. Below
is her summary of these factors and recommendations for treatment:
Four Areas of Aging and Treatment Options
1. VOLUME LOSS
· bone mass shrinks around mouth, chin and cheek bones
· gravity pulls down fat pads – sunken cheeks, nasolabial lines
· disconnection of soft tissues
– marionette lines, jowls
· thinner and less elastic skin – wrinkles and uneven texture
TREATMENT
· dermal fillers (e.g. Juvederm and Restylane) –restores volume to cheeks, lips and around the mouth, smooths away “smile lines” or “parentheses”
· Sculptra – turns collagen back on to preserve skin, improve volume loss in the cheeks, improve hollowness in the temples, improve lines and wrinkles
2. MUSCLES PULLING ON THE SKIN
· repetitive contraction of muscles – horizontal lines on forehead, deeper aspects of crow’s feet
· lines form between bulk of muscle – deeper curved lines on the temples, upper cheeks and around the mouth
TREATMENT
· Botox – blocks neurotransmitters from engaging with facial muscles to smooth fine to moderate lines (e.g. glabellar lines – the “11s”, corners of the mouth)
· Dysport – relaxes the muscles in the face to reduce moderate to severe lines and wrinkles (e.g. crow’s feet, forehead lines, horizontal forehead creases)
3. LOSS OF SKIN ELASTICITY
· decline in estrogen in women – skin becomes slack; “frosting melting off the face”
· ability to produce collagen and elastin decreases with age – skin wrinkles in the dermis layer
· decrease in production of natural oils – drier skin and more pronounced lines and crevices
TREATMENT
· regular microneedling – creates new tissue and stimulates collagen production to tackle acne scarring, sun damage, fine lines and wrinkles
· RF microneedling –radio frequency energy delivered to deeper layers of skin to tighten loose skin and address deeper sun damage, scarring and wrinkles
· PicoWay Resolve – bursts of laser energy deep within the skin stimulates production of collagen and elastin for smoother, firmer, more radiant skin
· fractional CO2 – energy stimulates healing deep within the skin and creates new collagen to treat crepiness and diminish deeper lines (e.g. pillow face)
· Ultherapy – ultrasoundbased treatment helps produce new collagen growth and tightens the skin; perfect for lifting skin on the neck, chin and face
· degradation of elastin and collagen – pores become larger, skin texture is coarse, dry and dull
· pigment-containing cells (melanocytes) decrease – skin discolorations and age spots
· buildup of dead skin cells –dull skin and clogged pores
· Hydrafacial – a unique combination of powerful treatment modalities to remove dead cells at the skin’s surface and downy hairs on the face
· IPL (intense pulsed light) – targets melanin without damaging top skin layer to address “leather skin,” sunspots, freckles, age spots and blotchy skin
· PicoWay Resolve – bursts of laser energy deep within skin stimulates production of collagen and elastin
– helps with dark spots, melasma and acne scarring
· fractional CO2 – resurfacing
laser treatment precisely removes thin layers of skin to improve skin’s tone and texture, and reduce signs of aging
“The same treatments, with a few exceptions, are recommended for women of all ages with one caveat: If you haven’t done prevention across the years, you will require more products and procedures across more time to get the results you want.”
~ Dr. Leigh SummerTo learn more about how you can benefit from the products and treatments offered by Dr. Leigh Summer and her highly respected staff at Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics, visit the website at lewisvillelaser. com or call 336.945.2076 to schedule a free consultation. They are conveniently located at 6580 Shallowford Road, Suite 130 in Lewisville, only 10 minutes away from WinstonSalem. Shop for products at shoplewisvillelaser.com, and be sure to follow them on Facebook and Instagram for updates and events.
Natalie Natusch, 8th Grade Clemmons Middle School Katherine Howard, Art Teacher
Luke Sidden, 11th Grade
Mount Tabor High School Barbara Trinh, Art Teacher
Abigail Hill, 1st Grade Lewisville Elementary Amy Swift, Art Teacher
Kamryn White, 4th Grade
Old Richmond Elementary Wendy Vance, Art Teacher
“No amount of skillful invention can replace the essential elementof
imagination.”
~Edward Hopper
Voted the number one best private high school in the Triad, Salem Academy is also the only boarding and day school exclusively for high school girls, located on a college campus – and with a STEAM focus. In 2022, the school celebrated its 250th Anniversary, and the future is brighter than ever as students here learn through the relevant processes of Science, Technology, Engineering, the Arts and Mathematics, conversations truly relevant in today’s world!
While their college preparatory curriculum is a strong one, the magic formula behind the school’s success is providing a safe, supportive, nurturing and empowering community for girls in grades nine through 12.
“Students – especially girls – need time to talk about what’s going on in the world today,” explains Director of Enrollment Management Jessica Rogers. “We offer them a real sense of belonging, while guiding them towards finding their niche and cultivating their passion.”
Self-confidence and strong leadership skills are always goals at Salem Academy, with an added emphasis on wellness and emotions that help form well-rounded adults, with lifelong skills.
“ Through listening, learning and pouring ourselves into the Winston-Salem community, we meet our students right where they are – which is ready to learn and grow,” explains Jessica.
From the moment arriving students are sorted – Harry Potter style – into either the Purple or the Gold team (a designation they keep throughout their time in school), they know their lives are changed forever.
With the boarding and day school numbers nearly equally divided (47% boarding, 53% day), this year’s student population at Salem Academy hails from Bulgaria, China, Dominica, Germany, South Africa and Ukraine. Within the United States, students are from California, Florida, Georgia, Minnesota, New Jersey, Pennsylvania, Texas, Utah, Virginia, Wisconsin and, of course, North Carolina.
“We’re incredibly proud that 100% of our students matriculate to college after graduation,” Jessica adds. “Last year’s graduating class earned more than $3,000,000 in merit scholarships to colleges and universities around the world. They were our “Covid class” – small, but extremely successful.”
Jessica has served as Director of Enrollment Management for seven years, with three years as Assistant Dean of Admissions at Salem College before that. Head of School, Kris Porazzi Sorrells, is an alumna of Salem College, and a well-respected faculty member at Salem Academy for more than 20 years before taking over the Head of School role. The two schools share a campus, which allows students to earn credits from an actual four-year college during their time at Salem Academy, as well.
“Our community is purposefully small,” says Jessica. “Girls truly feel known here and are blessed with several layers of support around them at any given time. One hundred percent of the leadership positions at the school are held by females.”
Approximately 40% of students currently identify as people of color, and their socio-economic diversity is of particular importance.
“ With our history rooted in serving the underserved, our goal is to provide education access to as many girls as possible,” says Jessica. “Our faculty and staff of 20 is specifically dedicated to teaching girls – that’s why we’re all here! We know how important it is to hire the right people.”
With its carefully curated interdisciplinary curriculum, Salem Academy students also learn a great deal outside of the classroom through independent studies and often through interactions within the 20-plus campus clubs and organizations. From the STEM Club and service-oriented Key Club and Girl Up mentoring program to student government, literary pursuits, drama, debate and more, students are blessed with chances to interact with local organizations such as the Second Harvest Food Bank and the SECU Family House, as well as SECCA and generous opportunities within the Innovation Quarter.
An average class size at Salem Academy is 10, with some upper-level classes having only five or six students, and many AP and honors courses are available.
“In some cases, we are preparing girls for jobs that don’t even exist yet,” notes Jessica. “The world is changing quickly! We have two of the three allgirls robotics teams in the state – The Sisters of the Motherboard and the Code Sisters – all because, 10 years ago, a few students asked to learn coding. That’s how it started.”
Members of the Salem Academy teams enroll in year-long robotics courses which can be taken over multiple years. The courses include hands-on learning and instruction in the following areas: Engineering Design, Computer-aided design, 3-D Printing, JAVA Programming, STEM outreach, Robot creations and honors courses in computer science principles. In 2017, the team competed in the First Tech Challenge World Championships and ranked in the top 3%!
“Yes, women are still underrepresented in STEM-related careers, but we’re changing that,” Jessica points out. “Salem gives girls real access to science, technology, engineering and math. We do so through courses and activities like robotics and STEM camps.”
You’ll also find an emphasis on leadership starting early – as older students are regularly called on to mentor younger students. Tenth graders, for example, are required to design a “compassion service project” and pitch their ideas to ninth graders – then work together around the community in their chosen service area. The arts are also core to Salem’s programming, featured in both curriculum and student activities including theater (introductory and advanced courses
all four years), visual arts (art design, advanced art and AP art) and music – through the school’s Acapella Club.
Established in 1772, Salem Academy’s Moravian founders believed strongly that girls were entitled to the same education as their male counterparts.
“Basically, we were educating girls when no one else would,” shares Jessica.
In the early years, Salem was schooled by the unmarried women of the Moravian community –known as the Single Sisters – a forward-thinking group, despite the times. In 1793, Anna Maria Samuel was the first enslaved person known to take classes and, in 1823, the first Native American students, Martha and Mary McNair. College-level courses were added in 1880.
The school’s rich history has also prompted many beloved traditions through the years, including Senior Vespers, a cherished holiday event, which consists of a candlelight choral service with seniors serving coffee and buns to attendees in the Moravian Lovefeast tradition. The Founders Day Convocation, held in the May Dell, celebrates the founding of Salem Academy and College and the convening of
its first class of students by Elisabeth Oesterlein, Salem’s first teacher, and seniors wear their caps and gowns for the first time at this event.
And now, with more than 3,000 alumnae worldwide, the camaraderie between current and former students is stronger than ever, evidenced by ongoing support from alumnae in fostering community connections and internships. One especially favorite tradition that keeps the Salem spirit alive: Alumnae write letters of encouragement for students to read at Opening Chapel in the fall – the official start of the school year – and the beginning of a life-changing four years!
For more information on Salem Academy or to arrange a tour, email academy@ salem.edu, or call 336.721.2643. Salem Academy is located at 601 S. Church Street, Winston-Salem, salemacademy. com and on Instagram @salemacademy.
Growing up in upstate New York, my grandfather drove a simple car – something like a Ford Escort. As an infant/toddler, I sat on my grandmother’s lap whenever we went somewhere (car seats just weren’t popular yet). I don’t know if it even had seat belts to be honest.
With trash on each side
But I was Mario Andretti
They say driving is an art form. If that’s the case, there are a lot of Jackson Pollocks behind the wheel these days. Just yesterday morning on my daily run past Baptist hospital, I saw a crosswalk signal that had been absolutely obliterated laying in the street. “How does that even happen?” I asked myself as I shook my head and continued on my run. Honestly, there could only be three possible explanations: Someone was driving while impaired, looking at the phone or had a medical emergency. I’m sure I’ll never know.
As someone who travels almost half the year for work, I Uber a great deal. The past few times, the driver was in a Tesla. Now, don’t get me wrong, they’re super cool cars (but I’ll never own one). What amazes me the most about them is the fact that literally everything in that vehicle is controlled by a touch screen computer right there on the dashboard. Other than the brake, accelerator pedal and steering wheel, the driver controls every aspect of that car with that screen. It got me thinking just how much things have changed in the 50 years I’ve been around. To think these cars will soon be driving themselves (some already are) is not only a bit frightening but is also somewhat sad. In the same way that I’ve never known what it’s like to have to go to the front of a car to turn a crank to start it, there are people today who don’t know what it’s like to turn a key or to push in the clutch while you shift gears with your right hand and drive with your left. Are we purposefully being made lazier? I’ll let you be the judge of that.
When I was adopted, the night I met my new father, I climbed up into a green International Scout. If you aren’t familiar, it’s basically like someone took a Jeep and bred it with a Bronco. Over the next few years, I sat on my father’s lap and steered that vehicle with no power steering (another thing many people of today will never know about) down the gravel road we lived off of until we hit the pavement. Whenever we drove to our property on the other side of the county, I drove the last couple of miles or so, while on his lap. Not many years later, I was in the high school parking lot with my father beside me patiently teaching me how to let off the clutch while, at the same time, giving it some gas. I made a lot of grinding sounds in that old Scout, but I eventually became quite proficient in driving a standard vehicle (another dying art form).
Out at our farm, we bought our first tractor – an old Oliver. As with the Scout, I started out on my old man’s lap as we drove through the fields. The beautiful sound of that Diesel engine was music to our ears as the sun shone down on a boy and his father on their tractor. It wasn’t long before I was in the seat of that tractor by myself – left foot on the clutch, right foot on the brake. Shift into first gear, slowly let off the clutch and off I went. I spent hours on that tractor bush hogging in those fields feeling like a million bucks. To be an eight- or nine-year-old boy driving a tractor – now that was living!
We had another vehicle that stayed out on that farm. We only used it as a work vehicle for carrying firewood and such. This old Gray Chevy pickup had something I’d never seen (or heard)
with which I loved to play. The vehicle had once been used on a farm with cattle. It had a device that looked kind of like a lever. When one pushed the lever, a horn that sounded like the mooing of a cow blew. It was the greatest thing as a young boy to drive that truck around the farm, mooing. (We were entertained in much simpler ways back then).
When I turned 18, using money I had saved over the years and with a little help from my grandmother, I purchased my very first vehicle. It was anything but glamorous, but it was mine and I loved it – an old diesel burgundy station wagon with wooden sides. Let’s just say I wasn’t picking up many chicks with it, but I didn’t care. I had wheels, and more importantly, a little more freedom. I know that not many people had a first car that had to be plugged in during the winter so that it would start the next morning. That car was something special.
Over the past 32 years, I’ve owned a standard Celica, a standard Camry (the last standard vehicle I ever owned), a Jeep Cherokee, a minivan (ugh), a Highlander (which my oldest son still drives), several more Camrys and a Lexus. Knock on wood, I’ve only been in one accident. A jerk passed a school bus on a double line and hit me head on. Fortunately, I hadn’t been going fast but I’ve never wanted to hurt another human being in my life more than I wanted to hurt that guy.
Today, driving is so different. Everywhere I go, all I see are people with their heads down looking at their phones instead of paying attention to the road. It’s extremely nerve wracking and infuriating. The sheer number of accidents and road signs that I see destroyed by distracted drivers is unnerving to say the least. Sometimes, I wish I had that DeLorean, so I could go back in time, sit on my dad’s lap again and just steer that old green Scout off into the sunset.
When daddy let me drive
-Alan Jackson
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AAP recommends keeping the baby’s crib, bassinet or pack-n-play in the parent’s bedroom for the first six months.
Many new parents share that they are most concerned with their baby’s health and safety when it comes to sleep. This fear isn’t necessarily unwarranted considering that, statistically speaking, newborns sleep for an average of 16 to 17 hours daily, or approximately 70% of their day. That’s a lot of time for unnecessary worry to take over, so let’s make sure you know exactly how to create a safe sleep environment.
This month, we’re sharing helpful tips from trusted pediatric authorities and safety organizations to help give you the education and assurance you need to avoid any unsafe sleep practices with the littlest ones in your life.
Thanks to the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), safe sleep recommendations and initiation of the Safe to Sleep® campaign in 1994, there has been a decline in both SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome) and sleep-related injuries and deaths for newborns and infants. Even with these resources updating their data and safety recommendations each year, there are still unfortunate accidents that occur. In 2020, there were 905 infant deaths reported due to accidental suffocation and strangulation in bed. The most difficult part of these tragedies to stomach is that a large number could have been avoided following safe sleep recommendations.
Based on evidence, the AAP doesn’t recommend bed sharing with your baby under any circumstances –including for twins and multiples. Important to note that the risk of sleep-related infant death is 67 times higher when infants sleep with someone on a couch, soft armchair or cushion. All sleeping arrangements should be made away from windows to avoid cords or strings that could lead to strangulation. Avoid low hanging mobiles that may be too close and pose a risk. Utilizing safe sleep products, such as swaddles and sleep sacks, up until their appropriate recommended milestones help keep babies warm and comfortable. Finally, the
When picking out sleep options for your baby, always opt for cribs, bassinets or play yards that meet the current safety standards as these do in fact get updated over time. Second hand options can be so helpful when you’re on a budget, but always look to see if there have been any product recalls or safety updates. Baby needs a firm mattress to keep him or her supported, and the baby should always be placed on his or her back to sleep. Ensure the crib mattress fits snugly with no gaps to prevent suffocation or entrapment hazards, as well as being sturdy without falling over easily or sloping. Avoid using overly soft bedding, pillows, blankets or stuffed animals in the sleep area as these can wait for the toddler years.
Taking your little one on trips to the pediatrician or a nice stroller walk? Always have a federally approved car seat installed, preferably one you can confirm has never been in an accident previously or had any recalls. If you are unsure, have a certified car seat specialist check that you have correctly installed your car seat in your vehicle. (Some local firehouses provide this service.) Infants should be rear-facing in the backseat until two years old or they reach weight and height requirements provided by the manufacturer. Never use aftermarket add ons that were not originally made for your car seat as these can impede safety in the event of an accident. The AAP reminds parents, “If your baby falls asleep in a car seat, stroller, swing, infant carrier or sling, you should move them to a firm sleep surface on their back as soon as possible.”
Keeping all caregivers accountable to stick to safe sleep guidelines for your infant may feel uncomfortable at times, but it is critical. Remember that not all adults view “safe sleep” the same. You want to be clear and consistent about the guidelines you’ve set for safe sleep and regularly check in to ensure they follow what you’ve asked. Don’t be intimidated to address any concerns or misconceptions they may have. At the end of the day, you are your baby’s biggest advocate. Even from one parent to another, keep each other accountable and gently remind a sleep deprived parent to follow your safe sleep guidelines when it seems like they may forget something.
Speak with your pediatrician if you have questions or concerns about the safety of your baby’s sleep environment. When possible, have all immediate caregivers get infant CPR certified in case of an emergency. Always have a first aid kit nearby as well as any important documents or phone numbers for contact information for pediatricians and emergency contacts. If you are unsure about the severity or care of an injury but have concern, don’t wait to head to your nearest emergency room or call 911.
• American Academy of Pediatrics – aap.org
Each month, this series will provide important facts and tips surrounding child safety in an effort to support parents and caregivers as they navigate reducing risks and creating the safest environment possible for the children in their lives.
Wednesday, October 4
Supporting Crisis Control Ministry and attending the Carolina Classic Fair are two great traditions in Forsyth County. Again this year, Carolina Classic Fair is supporting Crisis Control Ministry with Food Day at the Fair. Admission is free on October 4, with a donation of 5 non-perishable food items. Each year, donations from this event help stock our pantries for months.
Crisis Control Ministry helps neighbors facing crises with basic needs such as utilities, rent, mortgage, medications and food. In 2022, Crisis Control Ministry provided food assistance to more than 12,000 people at a value of nearly
For information about how you can help, visit www.crisiscontrol.org
I had the pleasure of interning with Forsyth Magazines this past summer. Currently, I am a senior at High Point University where I am majoring in English. I knew I wanted to intern with Forsyth Magazines because of my desire to learn more about publishing. After meeting with Brooke Eagle for the first time, I immediately felt welcomed into the Forsyth Magazines family. I began shadowing Brooke and getting to experience the behind-the-scenes of the magazine. Now, reflecting on my experiences, I have three takeaways from my time as an intern that I have shared below.
I never realized how many moving pieces go into creating a new magazine issue every month. By shadowing Brooke in her home office, I was able to see the editing process of the magazine. All of the writers’ and photographers’ names need to be listed, there has to be a decision regarding where the photographs go, how many photographs to use, decisions made about what to highlight at the beginning of the magazine, etc. Brooke also sent emails out to the designers and writers with the documents they needed to work on their assigned part of the magazine.
Creating a magazine outside of the office involves having cover photoshoots, doing foodie reviews and handling distribution day. I was able to attend three cover photoshoots which were so enjoyable. I watched as photos were taken and decisions were made about the best poses and outfits to be used for the upcoming cover of the magazine. I was also able to attend a foodie review at Hakka Chow which was an awesome experience. Pictures of the food and notes about the food were taken to prepare an upcoming article. I also helped load the new issues of the magazines into cars on distribution day which gave me a good arm workout.
Forsyth Magazines is MORE than just a magazine!
My favorite part about interning was seeing how community-based Forsyth Magazines is. I loved being able to attend Brooke’s podcast recordings. Brooke interviewed multiple people including doctors, small business owners and people from charities. The podcasts have helpful advice and allow people to learn more about services, businesses and volunteer opportunities in Forsyth County. I was also able to attend one of the Girls’ Night Out events in downtown Winston-Salem. Women from all over the area attended, and there were quality conversations, delicious food and exciting prizes given out.
Additionally, I valued the networking experience I received. Specifically, I was able to have profitable conversations with Amy Hill and Debbie Linville who are writers for Forsyth Magazines. Also, being able to talk to photographers Jodie Brim and Natalie Sahloff was a delight. As a college student, having this networking experience with people in the Forsyth Magazines family was incredibly beneficial. Seeing how Forsyth Magazines has created a supportive, uplifting community was incredible. When you see the magazines on the stands just know that the pages are meaningful as well as what happens beyond the pages.
Brooke Eagle is an AMAZING publisher!
Being able to shadow Brooke this past summer was such a pleasure. As the publisher of Forsyth Magazines, she truly displays the leadership, encouragement and support that it takes to run a magazine. At every event that I attended with Brooke, I saw how much she cares and how hard she works to make sure each issue of the magazine is the best version that it can be. I am so grateful to Brooke for allowing me to have this opportunity.
If you are a college student who wants to learn about publishing while also getting to be a part of a wonderful community, then interning with Forsyth Magazines is definitely for you!
“Reading can take you places you have never been before.”
~ Dr. Seuss
Ican still recall the day I moved to North Carolina seven years ago when a woman at the elementary school where I was working remarked to me “honey, y’all got a lot of hair, but you need to build it up and expand it sideways, too. Southern women love their big hair!” In California, I’d worn my hair flat and closely tucked about my shoulders. When I heard the sentiment several times in the community that “the higher the hair, the closer to God,” I knew a sea change was coming for me now that I was firmly ensconced on southern ground. I was going to have to reprogram my look, it would seem, if I were to fit in with the local culture. With some coaching, I was game to try.
The topic of big hair deserved some research, and I dug right into the annals of cyberspace lore. It turns out that big hair has its very own definition – hair which occupies a large amount of space above and around the head. Images of Priscilla Presley immediately came to mind as well as that of my own mother with a can of Aqua Net in hand, raising her hair to the roof with a bevy of hair pins and hairspray all held together in an intricate teased-up tower of style. As early as the 1960s, southern trendsetters started flouting voluminous “dos.”
Memphis-native and singer Aretha Franklin wowed us with her song “Respect” and mile-high beehive. The sky-scraping style was developed by Margret Vinci Heldt, an Elmhurst, Illinoisbased stylist and attracted admirers galore. The look involved piling one’s hair on top of the head in a conical shape and, with a copious amount of hairspray, arranging it in place. A musical group named the Ronettes adopted the look as their own. The result? Big hair stepped up to the plate and never looked back.
Through the 70s, 80s and 90s, we saw larger-than-life hair everywhere from homespun pageant queens to teen girls in any run-of-the-mill shopping malls. Wearing big hair was nothing less than a rite of passage for females who wanted to be in the societal know. Dolly Parton, famous country western singer and queen of big hair, unapologetically nailed it for big hair aficionados with her grandiloquent wigs that seemingly stood a foot out of her head on all sides and hung in waves of choreographed elegance. For Dolly, big hair was apparently a permanent state which was possibly connected to her vitality and success. I watched her concerts on-line (and those of others with big hair) just waiting for the carefully cared for and coaxed artistic achievement to fall off or down or flat or whatever hair can do under extremes of weather or other duress. But, the hair magically stayed intact, reaching for the
sky, keeping its balance, a visual beacon that drew the eye to its fashioning and the mind to an appreciation for the cosmetic feat that it undeniably was.
Women were not the only ones who had a love affair with big hair. It spelled glamor, and in the 1980s, it became popular with both genders. Men got on the bandwagon with their own versions: pompadours which involved a lot of hairspray, wax and indeterminate amounts of exaggerated attention. If you think of Elvis Presley, Johnny Cash or Gene Vincent, you get the picture – each tricked out with large overshot dos which rocked in time to the beat of their music although nary a hair seemed to break from the do-fold. Who can forget James Brown wearing his hair in a conk pompadour until the day he died or his comment that “Hair is the first thing. And teeth the second. A man got those two things, he’s got it all”? He even remarked airily to a reporter fan at one of his concerts that he wore his hair in a big bouffant “so people don’t say WHERE he is, but THERE he is.”
Big hair has history – beginning with the giant Victorian wigs of the 18th and 19th centuries, worn by men and women alike. Even back then, big hair was expensive and took a lot of work for its production. Big hair doesn’t come cheap today either – consider the cost of styling or treatment techniques, hot rollers, hair mousse or gel, perms, crimping irons and finishing it all with bountiful amounts of hairspray to keep everything superbly in its place. Big hair is a fashion statement but also an expression of how one’s personal drama conveys values of pride in appearance and place, the talented hand of human agency in displaying a veritable art form. I’ve heard it said that “when it comes to hair, southerners will always go big or go home.” I’m working on that very sentiment as I sit here with a group of large Velcro rollers on my head, set to give my locks a sizable boost, fancy comb at the ready to tease it all up and volumizing products to help everything stay the distance. I’m hoping that I can replicate that cherished big southern hair if the humidity keeps itself at bay and the local creeks don’t rise.
back to the Fancy Fork! Your seasonal produce insight and farm-style recipes that are made to satisfy.
The month of September is an exciting time because summer produce is still going strong but beginning to taper off towards more hearty vegetables that can stand the upcoming frost. Some vegetables in season this month include bell peppers, carrots, corn, collard greens, garlic, green beans, kale, onions, swiss chard, potatoes, spinach, beets and Brussels sprouts. A few seasonal fruits include melon, pomegranates, raspberries, tomatoes, avocado, apples, pears, dates and bananas.
This month’s recipe will be highlighting those sweet peaches we will soon be missing. While July is the peak of peach season, you may still be able to find the last round at your local farmers market or grocery shelves. And, you’ll be shocked at just how nutritious fresh peaches are! Studies have shown that peaches may help prevent stress and anxiety, boost immunity and digestive systems, as well as help maintain healthy skin and eyes. Studies also show a proper diet including peaches may help combat obesity-related disorders, reduce risk of cardiovascular and bone diseases, and help prevent hypokalemia. It’s healthy and a delicious sweet treat!
PREP. TIME: 10 MINUTES | COOK TIME: 12 MINUTES
TOTAL TIME: 22 MINUTES | SERVES: 4
1 - 1 1/2 lbs. Chicken Thighs, boneless and skinless
2 T Olive Oil
2-3 Peaches, pitted and sliced
2 Jalapeños, sliced or chopped
2 Shallots, sliced
2 Garlic Cloves, minced
1/4 cup Maple Syrup
1/2 tsp. EACH: Salt, Black Pepper, Ground Cinnamon
1/3 cup Fresh Basil
1 Lemon
Cooked Basmati Rice, for serving
1. Add the olive oil to a large skillet over medium high heat. Heat up the olive oil until it simmers, about 1-2 minutes.
2. Add the chicken thighs and sear until browned on both sides.
3. Add the peaches, jalapeños, shallots and garlic. Stir together.
4. Add the salt, black pepper, cinnamon and maple syrup. Stir together then saute until the peaches are tender, about 5-6 minutes.
5. Add 1/3 cup water to de-glaze the skillet, then stir in the lemon juice and chopped basil. Cover with a lid or reduce heat to medium to continue cooking until chicken is fully cooked, about 5-6 minutes.
6. Enjoy warm over cooked basmati rice!
I truly believe that joy in life is found when we stop making life about us and start making it about other people. Life is so much better when we are loving and serving others!
I was blessed to have the opportunity to mentor a young woman, Ashley, from a local nonprofit high school that focuses on giving high-risk youth a second chance. I visited the school as a potential recruiting source for my employer at the time and fell in love with their Christian-based approach to helping youth. From there, I joined their board and got connected with mentoring a student.
Ashley is an amazing young woman who hasn’t had the advantages in life that many of us have. She has a young son and recently married her son’s dad. I was very involved in planning her wedding – which is a little scary because those who know me are aware that this type of thing is not in my wheelhouse. Something I read said that the Lord doesn’t call the equipped, he equips the called. That is definitely the case here!
The wedding was held at my church. The event was small and had no budget. However, I think it turned out very nice. Some of my friends and neighbors pitched in to provide food, flowers and decorations. I was amazed by the people that were willing to donate their time, talents and resources. I am blessed with such kind and caring people in my life who would reach out to help someone that they don’t know.
Mentoring and helping this young woman has truly been one of the most meaningful things that I have done in a long time. This experience has helped me to see that “the best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service to others” (Mahatma Gandhi).
In 1 Peter 5:5, we are instructed to “put on the apron of humility” to serve one another.
Jesus measured greatness in terms of service, not by the world’s standards of wealth, power and position. He shaped us for service, not self-centeredness. I know that I’ve been guilty in the past of having excuses for not helping others with some examples below:
I don’t have time.
I don’t know what to do.
I don’t have any special skills to contribute.
There have also been times when I have wanted to help others and be more involved in the community but wasn’t sure what to do or what organizations would be a fit for me. I prayed about it, and I truly believe that God brought me to the school and to Ashley.
I feel that I have found my calling to serve where I can use my strengths and maybe leverage other’s strengths as I did with Ashley’s wedding. I hope that I can continue to keep my eyes off myself and focus on loving and helping others.
“Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.”
Philippians 2:4
What are you doing to serve others?
If you are looking for additional opportunities to serve, look around you at your workplace/ community/church. Pray about it if you aren’t sure what to do, and let God lead you to opportunities to serve.
Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms.
1 Peter 4:10 says,
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Winston-Salem based LEAD Girls of NC is a local non-profit organization dedicated to supporting and empowering at-risk, middleschool girls in Forsyth County. In July, it held its annual LEAD-A-THON community field day event with girls and families coming together for fitness, fun and fundraising.
“Active movement is vitally important for our young people and our community to connect with one another in a positive way,” said LEAD Founder and Executive Director Joy Thomas.
With a focus on fitness and teamwork, the LEAD-A-THON featured local instructors leading group sessions in yoga, Mixxed Fit and Xtreme Hip-Hop Step, along with team competitions for Kick Ball, Tug-of-War and Giant Jenga. A DJ kept the music and energy flowing.
“It was an awesome sight to see so many of our LEAD Girls participants, families, volunteers and donors moving together and having fun,” said Thomas. “We want to keep the girls engaged with LEAD even when school is out of session which is why our summer programs and events like the LEADA-THON are so important.”
Both current and former LEAD Girls participants joined in the activities including Myla who now serves as a LEAD Ambassador. “I enjoyed connecting with the participants of all ages at the tattoo zone! It was hot, but the music was upbeat and fun.
Plus, the best part was that, as a LEAD team member and former LEAD Girls participant, we won the Tug-of-War contest against the LEAD Girls Board of Directors!”
Another popular LEAD summer program is its annual Fashion Entrepreneurship Camp where girls learn the business of fashion from conceptualization and sewing to financials and marketing. Local female leaders in business and fashion spend time with the campers sharing their expertise and experience.
“As part of our mission to advocate for girls in our community, LEAD is providing them with the tools and resources to encourage leadership, communication and selfsufficiency,” said Thomas.
The Fashion Entrepreneurship Camp along with LEAD’s weekend programs and other events are made possible by individual and business donations, grants and fundraisers like the LEAD-A-THON.
“When we started LEAD Girls in 2016, we served 66 girls across our community. Now, that number has grown to more than 300 girls with still more applicants than we can currently serve,” said Thomas. “Our annual LEAD-A-THON along with other fundraisers throughout the year are key to raising the monies we need so we can say ‘yes’ to every girl who raises her hand to be part of the LEAD program.”
To donate and learn more about LEAD Girls, visit leadgirls.org. LEAD is always looking for community volunteers to assist with weekend programs and its Girls Rising Expo held every fall.
by BRIAN JARED Instagram handle @Winstonsalem_nc_bbq
Spicy and delicious! You are going to love these sandwiches!
Here’s what you’ll need:
5-6 boneless, skinless chicken thighs
1 can of La Costena Pickled jalapeños and carrots
3T of Spanish rub
1 stick of salted butter
1 cup hot sauce
5-6 slices American cheese
Prep Time: 20 minutes | Cook Time: 1 hour
Yields: 4-5 Sandwiches
This is a recipe that has gone viral online. I was shocked at how much flavor they had. I changed up the recipe a bit for some extra flavor. First, trim as much of the excess fat from the chicken thighs as you can. Use a can of La Costena pickled jalapeño and carrots as your marinade, and pour the can into a gallon Ziploc bag. Marinate your chicken for 24 hours. Pull your chicken out the next day and season in your favorite Spanish rub. I used Lanes BBQ Fiesta seasoning on these. You can smoke these or do them hot and fast on the grill. Cook your chicken until an internal temperature of 165 degrees. While your chicken is cooking, get a cast iron pan and melt a stick of butter and a cup of your favorite hot sauce together. Let that melt and baste your chicken. Melt a slice of American cheese on each piece of chicken. Use a brioche bun and add Duke’s mayo to toast it up on the grill. Assemble your sandwich and enjoy!
PIT MASTER TIP:
You can substitute chicken breasts in this recipe if you want, the reason I use thighs is because they are harder to dry out and they have much more flavor. Also, if you choose, you can roast the jalapeños that were in the marinade to use on your sandwich as well.
by A. KEITH TILLEY
Iwas talking to my son once when he was very stressed. It’s hard to tell with him because he’s quite adept at hiding his emotions. But, he does have subtle cues he’s not aware of, and I’m not telling him, so I can continue to pick up on those times when I think he can benefit from some fatherly advice. This was one of those moments.
He was taking an “unexpectedly intensive” six-week course in college during the summer, and after three weeks, he’d gotten significantly behind. Now, that’s stressful enough except that he added to his stress by offering to participate in outside activities the next week, which limited his time to further complete his coursework on schedule. I had one of those classic quotes come to mind, and this was the perfect scenario to use it. I said, “Son, when you’ve dug yourself into a hole that’s over your head, the first thing you do is STOP DIGGING.” I asked about his next week’s activities and if there were any issues with him missing them altogether. Of course, he would rather attend them, but it wasn’t specifically necessary. So, I advised him to let the parties know he wouldn’t be participating due to unforeseen circumstances. As a result, he now had time to catch up on his work and get back on schedule. Initially, he wasn’t happy with my advice, but within minutes of hearing it, I could see he was beginning to feel a sense of relief. Though, he’d never admit it. As a parent, it’s not easy to be the bearer of bad news. But, sometimes, our children (young and older alike) need us to step in and pull them out of their self-created holes in order for them to get back on track in life. In the end, they appreciate it, even if they can’t tell us so. He became motivated to work all weekend and was caught up by the first part of the next week. Problem solved.
In the Hulu presentation of The Quiet Girl, there’s a line that says, “You don’t have to say anything. Many’s the person that missed the opportunity to say nothing, and lost much because of it.” The minute I heard this line, I paused the tape, because this was classic “me.” Saying nothing is like you asking me to hold my breath and then you walk away. But, this line speaks the truth, at least in some instances. Perhaps, in reality, more instances than we’d like to
admit to ourselves. Very few wake up the next morning regretting listening too much to the other person the night before. Yet, many of us, I’d say, have been on the other side regretting how much we said. This quote reminds us, we have permission to be quiet, listen intently and, if it’s appropriate, just move on with our lives without contributing. Sometimes, that’s all that’s needed or wanted in that instant from the other party. Consider this a lesson learned (sometimes the hard way).
Based on personal experience, I’ve come to acknowledge that sadness and anger are most often temporary emotions. It’s even been reported that anger, in particular, is just a transitory state of consciousness. It’s important to resist the urge to make permanent decisions or impulsive reactions based on either of these fleeting emotions. We all tend to naturally react in these temporary emotional states, but my advice is to avoid making lasting choices during these times. Unfortunately, the consequences are often regrettable.
In a line from Netflix’s The Lincoln Lawyer, a female character gives advice to her father who was struggling with multiple dilemmas, “Focus on what’s right in front of you. You’ll figure the rest out.” Science has proven, despite our insistence to the contrary, none of us are truly good at multi-tasking (apologies to the mothers out there who would strongly disagree). Our minds are simply not structured to perform efficiently in that manner. We’re better when we focus on one thing, even if for a limited duration before moving to another. This process is more efficient and effective in accomplishing your objectives. Here, the daughter is simply reminding her dad of this, and redirecting his focus to be present, now, with her.
Finally, there’s this quote from J. M. Barrie, Scottish novelist and playwright, best remembered as the creator of Peter Pan. “Not in doing what you like, but in liking what you do is the secret of happiness.”
As we recognize September as Suicide Prevention and Awareness Month, I hope you find this “general advice” helpful. And, for those experiencing a situation or emotions beyond their control, remember to seek out help, whether it’s family, friends, counselors or therapists, or another appropriate resource. You were never meant to carry this burden alone. #988
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Doyou ever judge other people? If we are being honest, most of us do. We are often experts at seeing what is wrong with others. We judge others by their shortcomings or even the way they dress and talk. We even judge others for things that we ourselves are guilty of doing.
Why do we judge? We may judge others because we aren’t secure in ourselves, and it makes us feel a little better to tear others down. Or, we may judge others because we think we know better, or maybe it’s our pride or a lack of wisdom. I have seen judgment occur frequently – and have been guilty of it, too. When I see people standing on the corner with a sign saying, “will work for food,” I tend to make the judgment that they don’t want to work and will spend any money they get on alcohol or drugs. This may be true in some instances, but I don’t know this to be the case.
There may be times in life when we are called to judge, like being on a jury or working in an area of the law. There are also times God calls on us to discern others’ actions because of their potential impact on us. We may sometimes need to
make judgments, so we don’t follow the wrong people.
The kind of judgment that is most damaging is self-righteous judging. This type of judging causes us to wrongly interpret what’s going on with someone. We may think that a coworker is stuck up or conceited because she is quiet and withdrawn. She could have myriad things going on that cause her to appear or come across a certain way. The reality is that we all have something difficult going on in our lives and we all are broken. Self-righteous judgment can also cause us to wrongly estimate ourselves and others based on blind spots or self-deception. John 7:24 in the Bible says, “Stop judging by mere appearances, and make a right judgment.”
Gossip is a form of judgment that probably most of us have engaged in at one time or another. Who doesn’t enjoy a little gossip occasionally? It can be interesting to share or hear a little dirt about someone, and it makes us feel just a little bit better about ourselves, right? The reality is that by judging others in a hypocritical way, we damage our own lives by stealing our joy and peace as we know it’s not the right thing to do.
Here are a few things you can do when you find yourself judging.
• Stop yourself
Notice your thoughts and stop yourself when you find yourself being judgmental.
• Seek to understand the person
Put yourself in the “judgee’s” shoes, find out their story if you can, or imagine the circumstances that may have led them to act or look as they do.
• Accept the person
Accept the person for whom he/she is without trying to change him/her.
• Love him or her
Love the other person as a brother or sister, a fellow child of God, regardless of their age, the color of their skin, their sex or their social status.
Try using these tips when you find yourself judging other people. We are all works in progress, but they can certainly help us to be more accepting and manage the tendency to be judgmental.
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Whatif the mood boost you get from starting the day off with a warm cup of coffee has more to do with your overall coffee experience than the coffee itself? If you stop by Be Kind Coffee Co. on your way into the office, your morning slump will disappear as soon as you set foot through the front doors. You will be greeted by a bright, friendly staff and smell the aroma of lattes, tea and house-baked pastries in a charming Clemmons coffee shop. To top it all off (extra whip, please!), giving back is just as much a part of Be Kind Coffee’s culture as creating highquality coffee and tea beverages for customers. Staying true to its name, Be Kind Coffee Co. specializes in serving kindness in a cup.
What makes Be Kind Coffee Co. stand apart from other coffee shops and cafes in the Triad is its emphasis on philanthropy and helping those in need. In fact, even the shop’s coffee beans are rooted in a good cause. Mother-daughter duo and co-owners Amanda and Natalie Gogolak ensure that customers’ cups runneth over with coffee beans from Charlotte-based roaster Haerfest Coffee Roasting Co. Founded by Toby Foreman in 1998, Haerfest Coffee is dedicated to
employing individuals with all types of intellectual and developmental disabilities, as it allows employees to gain new skills, capabilities and confidence.
Year-round in Be Kind Coffee Co., customers are able to donate to the shop’s Giving Tree, which showcases nonprofit organizations in need of donations and volunteers. On Saturdays, nonprofit organizations regularly set up shop inside Be Kind Coffee Co. in order to provide curious customers with information about their causes. Be Kind Coffee Co. has worked with nonprofit organizations such as Big Brothers Big Sisters and the Interfaith Alliance of Clemmons and Lewisville to find mentors for local elementary school students in need of companionship and role modeling. This month, the Giving Tree will help support those struggling with multiple sclerosis as Amanda and her husband participate in the Bike MS: Tour to Tanglewood 2023 event on September 23rd and September 24th. Riding will commence on Saturday the 23rd at Tanglewood Park and will resume on Sunday, the 24th. The community is invited to come out and support the riders and stay for the community comradery. The Bike MS team, The Village People, will be set up outside on the Be Kind patio on Saturday, September 9th to help raise funds and awareness for the upcoming ride.
Sweet-toothed customers can benefit from Amanda and Natalie’s Italian and Czech family influences as the coffee shop is often notorious for its decadent and unique selection of house-made baked goods. With Be Kind’s fall menu debuting September 1st, keep an eye out for your favorite seasonal beverage menu items such as the pumpkin spice macchiato, homemade praline whipped cream, jack-o-lantern dirty pumpkin chai latte,
pumpkin apple cider and the salted caramel mocha. Customers wait year-round for autumn appropriate baked goods such as pumpkin loaf, apple cake and Be Kind’s beloved Mexican family recipe-inspired sweet empanada with flavors including apple pecan and pumpkin. In true fall fashion, Be Kind will also be hosting a Halloween Bash in October to kick off pumpkin spice season.
In November, Be Kind Coffee Co. will have been a Clemmons staple for coffee and community for three years – an impressive feat for a small family business that started mid-pandemic. Be Kind Coffee Co. would like to show appreciation and gratitude for their extraordinary support over the last three years. Stay tuned for news on how Be Kind plans on celebrating its three-year anniversary party, in addition to upcoming information on opportunities to have photos taken with Santa in December.
Visit Be Kind Coffee Co. in Clemmons on Tuesdays through Saturdays at 3560 Clemmons Road. Keep up with community events and Giving Tree opportunities on Facebook, and follow @bekindcoffeeco on Instagram to stay up-to-date on the latest news from Be Kind Coffee Co.
Back in 2017, I wrote this TMoM blog about an extremely hard time in my life and the first time I truly felt all-encompassing despair. Well, 2023 was the first time I truly felt all-encompassing grief. I wanted to share my story in hopes that it helps others work through their grief and maybe even inspires them to share their own stories.
Like with despair, it is not that I never felt the emotion before but not so deeply that it rocked me to my core. What caused this soul wrenching grief? In May, my mother passed away. It happened a mere couple of months after she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.
She left us while I was nine months pregnant. In fact, my daughter, Scarlett, was born the day after she passed away. So, my grief was enhanced by my pregnancy hormones yet lightened by the arrival of the new addition to my family. I never realized how true the “circle of life” was until those 48 hours.
Today, more than a month later, I find myself still working my way through my grief.
When you hear about grief, you likely often think of what you’ve heard on TV or from friends and family about there being either five or seven stages. It varies depending on who you ask or where you see it mentioned.
Personally, after living through this level of grief, I don’t buy into going through the stages – at least not in some linear order as many suggest. For me, it’s like constant cycling through some of the emotions, or stages. Envision it as more of a pingpong of those emotions versus going from stage one to stage two and so on.
There are moments where I feel extreme sadness, like when I’m reminded that she never met my daughter, Scarlett. There are moments where I am in some denial about it even happening, like when I almost texted her that we made it safely to the beach as I always let her know I got somewhere when traveling.
The same goes for all other emotions in the stages of grief. They come and go –sometimes with a particular trigger and sometimes for what seems like no reason at all. I suppose if there is an end, it would be acceptance, but the reality is, do you ever truly accept a loved one is gone? If, like me, you feel they are still watching over you or moved on to a better place, then they aren’t completely gone.
As a writer, I always appreciate a good line, whether in a movie, book or something someone says to me. Back in January 2021, Marvel released its first Disney+ TV series, WandaVision. There was a line in it that pertains to grief that at the time I thought was a beautiful statement and appreciated as a writer. But, now that I’ve felt such strong grief, it rings even truer. The line was, “What is grief if not love persevering.”
Therefore, today as I work to navigate through my own grief, I think of this line and remember that grief is just another expression of love. It feels much easier to navigate it when I think of it in that manner. It especially helps when I think of things I miss most about my mom or wishing I had more time with her. I know that neither of those things can be changed now. Therefore, viewing it in the lens of love vs. grief allows me to instead think of all the times I had with her and what she meant to me.
For instance, when I think about missing out on something as simple as her being the first to like and/or comment on my social posts, I think about all the ones I had and how she filled each one with love.
If you are also navigating through the throes of grief, I recommend trying this “filter” of love, too. I hope it helps you as it has helped me.
September is here which means summer is over. I realize it’s not officially over until the 23rd, but once school starts, schedules are re-established, sports practices, games and out-of-town tournaments replace the lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer. It also reminds me of how very lucky I am to live next and near to four of my grandchildren and only a little more than three hours away from my other grands. I get to be a part of their lives all year long, something I missed living so far away from my grandparents. With their ages ranging from five to 15, the years seem to be flying by, and I want be there with and for them as much as I can.
Both sets of my grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins all lived in Texas. So, almost every summer, my parents packed up our car for a two-and-a-half-day trip from northern Virginia to my maternal grandparents’ home in east Texas.
The two weeks went by way too fast, and there was never a dull moment. My grandparents never traveled away from home, so all my memories of them came from our visits. My grandfather owned some property with a large pond he
kept stocked with fish. My granddad fixed bamboo poles, filled a cooler with drinks and sandwiches, and spent hours with us fishing at the pond. Truthfully, we fished and he baited our hooks and took the fish off that we caught. The poor man barely got his line in the water for having to deal with us. My grandmother and aunt got the job of cleaning the fish for the fish fry we always had at this amazing park that was next to a beautiful lake with a carousel and a miniature golf course that was more like a par three course. I often regaled my daughters with tales of my visits.
From there, we drove for a day to west Texas to spend two weeks with my paternal grandparents. The time there was much different from being with my other grandparents but equally as enjoyable. They owned a wonderful restaurant where they took great pride in introducing my sister and I to all their patrons. I also loved waking up in what had been my father’s room, the amazing aromas coming from the kitchen, my grandmother’s homemade preserves made from the different fruit trees they grew, visiting with their neighbors, playing games and just being with them.
Looking back on vacations with them not only brought back wonderful memories, but also made me realize how much of my life they missed. It is impossible to only be with someone two weeks a year and manage to learn everything their life held during the other 50 weeks. It is certainly understandable, but it made me aware of how blessed my husband and I are that we can be with four of our fabulous grandchildren almost every day.
People say that life slows down as you age. While it’s true I won’t be running in any marathons – not that I ever did – I am still on the go when I am with them. I hope never to let a chance go by to be with my precious grandchildren. The memories I made with my grandparents I will always cherish. I know the ones I make with my grandchildren will always make me smile and warm my heart. I hope it will do the same for them.
Zach & Lydia
were married on July 27th in Acadia National Park, Maine. We gained an amazing daughter-in-law and can’t wait to see what God has planned for Zach and Lydia. We Love You! Mom & Dad
and bring the kids for a morning of fun at
FREE EVENT! Come see all that Salem Gymnastics & Swim has to offer with a variety of individual activity stations and two warm water pools with amazing instructors!
If you’d like to give the pool a try, don’t forget your bathing suit and towel! Children under 3 must be accompanied with a parent in the pool.
Each adult also receives 4 tickets for the fabulous prize board drawings!
Monday, September 11th 10am-11:30am
SALEM GYMNASTICS & SWIM 4870 Country Club Road Winston-Salem
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Thereis a very memorable phrase and concept pulled from an episode in the hit television show, “Parks and Recreation.” In the season 4 episode titled “Pawnee Rangers,” “Treat Yo’ Self Day” is a day-long excursion the characters, Tom and Donna, (created by the show’s writers) take each year, specifically on October 13th. Through the show’s dialogue, Tom describes the events as “Treat. Yo. Self. Once a year, Donna and I spend a day treating ourselves. What do we treat ourselves to? Clothes. Treat yourself. Fragrances. Massages. Treat Yourself. Mimosas. Fine leather goods… it’s the best day of the year.”
Since this episode premiered, the concept of treating yourself has taken off. Not only is it a fun catchy phrase to say and remember, it has morphed into a form of self care. In fact, while doing research for this article, I discovered that the event has been added to several calendar and holiday websites. While your day doesn’t have to be held on October 13th, everyone should schedule a “treat yo’ self” day at least once a year, because, let’s face it, we deserve it. We work hard. We are stressed and busy. So, why not set aside one day a year to do something for you and put everything else aside? The concept doesn’t have to be a day-long event; maybe you decide to spend an hour here or there or half a day every
month. Work with your schedule and what fits best for you. Once you have the time decided on, think about how you will spend it.
Now, in “Parks and Recreation,” “treat yo’ self” requires you to spend money. But, you don’t have to. It can be as simple as reading a book or watching a full season on Netflix. Sounds like a good idea, but don’t know how to start? Take a look at these ideas to plan your “treat yo’ self” day:
• A trip to the spa.
• Buy something for yourself or your home. Think of an item that you have been wanting but couldn’t justify buying. Now is the time.
• Have a meal at your favorite restaurant.
• Take a long bath and relax with a bath bomb or salts.
• Spend time with your loved ones or friends in a fun way – who says the time has to be spent alone? After all, Tom and Donna celebrated the day with their friendship.
• Take a nap. If you are like me, you sometimes feel guilty about taking a nap in the middle of the day. This is the perfect time to catch up on your sleep without judgment.
• Take a walk, bike ride or jog in a beloved spot.
• Learn a new hobby or craft.
• Finish something creative on your list that you have always wanted to do.
Redecorate or reorganize a space, shelf, drawer, etc. in
Go see a movie, show or watch your favorite ones
• Go through old photographs and mementos of your childhood.
• Catch up with a long lost friend or family member.
• Plan a road trip and travel.
• Journal and reflect.
• Retail therapy at your cherished shops.
• Bake a sweet treat.
• Put on a face mask and just relax.
• Give yourself a manicure and pedicure. Throw a dance party for yourself or invite others to join.
Grab flowers for no reason and place them in a visible area in your home.
Treating yourself is an important and valuable practice for all to experience. It is a day to be creative, joyful and celebrate yourself. Now that you have finished reading, pull out your calendar and schedule a “treat yo’ self” day. You can thank me and “Parks and Recreation” later.
Event details are subject to change. Please check event wesite and social media pages for updates as the dates draw near.
YOUNG PROFESSIONALS
5:30-7:30pm
Foothills Brewing
3800 Kimwell Drive in Winston-Salem
It’s part social, part networking! There will be deals and discounts on beverages, and the event is open to anyone 21-35 or the young at heart. We hope to see you there! https://bit.ly/3DdR03L
COBBLESTONE FARMERS MARKET
8:30am-12pm
1007 Marshall Street in W-S
Welcome to your weekly outdoor grocer. Shop local, sustainable farmers and producers onsite with live music.
SEPT 7 & OCT 5
SUNSET SALUTATIONS: FREE YOGA AT BAILEY PARK
10am-12pm, 238 Mingleood Road in Westfield
Our free, all-levels community yoga series is back, and we’re ready to unwind and relax together. Each event will be hosted by either Lotus Yoga Academy or 2BYoga – so get ready to breathe in, breathe out and get it “om!”
Bring your water, mat and towel, and join us on the first Thursday of every month from April through October to clear your mind and practice flexibility through the healing power of outdoor yoga.
SEPTEMBER 14
FREE VEIN CONSULTATION
12-4pm | Novant Health Vein Specialists, 2827 Lyndhurst Avenue, Suite 206 in W-S Attention Winston-Salem residents! Novant Health
Vein Specialists is holding a FREE vein consultation event. If you’re experiencing any of the following symptoms – leg pain, swelling, varicose veins, heaviness, itching, burning sensations, restless leg syndrome, leg cramping, muscle spasms, skin discoloration or ulcerations, our expert providers are ready to help you diagnose the level of your vein health. Our Winston-Salem clinic utilizes the latest technology, is in a comfortable setting and conveniently located, making it easy for you to take the first step towards healthier, more comfortable legs. Don’t let vein problems hold you back any longer. Get out and enjoy life again. RSVP today to secure your spot and take advantage of this incredible opportunity. salemveins.com/schedule-screening
DIRTY DOZEN OBSTACLE MUD RUN AND FUN RUN 5K + CLEMMONS OKTOBERFEST
7:30am | Jerry Long Family YMCA in Clemmons
Whether navigating the 5K course as an individual or team or the Fun Run course, participants will be challenged as they run through obstacles and test their strength, agility and stamina. Proceeds will benefit people in the community, Y innovative health programs benefiting cancer survivors and other chronic disease programs. Contact dirtydozen5k@ ymcanwnc.org for more information.
FORSYTH COUNTY EXTENSION MASTER GARDENERS VOLUNTEERS’ FALL PLANT SALE
8am-2pm | N.C. Cooperative Extension, Forsyth County Center, 1450 Fairchild Road in W-S
This sale will be held rain or shine, and you will find a great selection of native plants, pollinator plants, flowering shrubs and trees. This event is the major fundraiser for the Extension Master Gardener Volunteer Program, a part of the horticulture program at N.C. Cooperative Extension, Forsyth County Center. Proceeds support educational programming provided by Extension staff and Master Gardener Volunteers. Shop early for best selection. Sales are cash or check only. For additional information, call 336.703.2850.
If you have an event you’d like to submit, please go to forsythmags.com/calendar-of-events or scan our QR code.
LOVE+WELL BOUTIQUE ANNIVERSARY EVENT
10am-5pm | Love+Well Boutique in W-S
Please join us as we celebrate 11 years in our location! You are invited for a very special two-day celebration! Mark your calendars! There will be Sweets by Lei Lei’s Cuisine along with a Champagne Toast throughout the day. Also, on Thursday (the 21st), we will have Permanent Jewelry by Brittany and more! Please call the store for appointments and times! Walk-Ins welcome! Elaine the Bra Lady will be with us on Friday the 22nd and Saturday the 23rd. Call the store for appointments. Walk-Ins are Welcome. Free LWB tote with $100 purchase! ($29 value) lovewellboutique.com
MEET THE MIDWIVES OF NOVANT HEALTH WOMANCARE
5:30-7:30pm | Novant Health Forsyth Medical Center Women’s Services Lobby, 3333 Silas Creek Parkway in W-S Works by Bach, Beethoven and Schumann Presented by Music Carolina SummerFest.
OCTOBER 7
2023 TOUR DE BOUTIQUE This is a one-day, self-guided tour. There will be as many as 10 participating stores (follow us on Facebook and Instagram for hints/mentions of participating stores). Shoppers will drive themselves, so they can set their own pace with their group! Pre-routed maps provided. Registration: $40 includes 2023 TDB ball cap, store specials and discounts, entry for door prizes and a day full of fun! tinyurl.com/2023TdB
OCTOBER 14
SHREDDING EVENT SPONSORED BY BERMUDA RUN
GARDEN CLUB 9am-12pm or until truck fills, Bermuda Run Town Hall, 120 Kinderton Boulevard in Bermuda Run. $5 per grocery bag or equivalent size box. Cash only. Rain or shine. Proceeds go to various Davie County community organizations supported by the Garden Club. Contact Marie at 336.650.5518 with questions.
OCTOBER 22
FIZZ & BEATS ZERO PROOF FEST 1-6pm, Paul J. Ciener Botanical Gardens. Live music from gifted artists and DJs, local food trucks, masterfully crafted zero-proof mocktails and vendors from across the Triad! Each ticket sold helps uplift and empower individuals struggling with substance use, provide hope and essential resources! Enjoy some lawn games, grab some food and drinks, shop a little and just enjoy amazing music, some audience interaction, a brief “yoga-mission” and lots of fun! Kids 14 and under free with adult ticket! Follow on Facebook at “Fizz & Beats Zero Proof Fest” for more information..
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