Forsyth Family - January 2019 by Forsyth Mags

January 2019

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34 COVER STORY

48 New Campus, New Building, New Program

The Montesso School of Winston-Salem’s Adolescent Program Now Open

FEATURES 8 Prom 2019 20 Saying “No” When You’re Expected to say “Yes”

22 Celebrating Martin Luther King, Jr. Day 32 Teacher-Student Conflicts 40 Birthday Party Art Projects 56 Best Kept Secret in the Sky

64 BMX Racer Justin Posey B ngs His Message Home

IN EVERY ISSUE 28 Out & About in Winston-Salem with Twin City Santa

60 A Father’s Perspective A Year’s Reflection on a New Perspective

62 It’s a Grand Life – Here’s to the New Year!

74 My Grace-Full Life My Word of the Year

76 Keep on the Sunny Side – Be Mindful - Be Prayerful

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90 Dining Guide Family Dining at Mac & Nelli’s

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New Year and welcome, 2019! It’s surreal to think this is the last year of this decade. I ended the year with a pre-Christmas girls’ trip to New York City with my daughters and our dear friends, Angela and Spencer Leonard. We had done a similar trip some 10+ years ago in the spring, but there’s nothing quite like NYC at Christmas time! Might have gone a little overboard on Broadway shows, as we went to not one, not two, but three shows! We all agreed Frozen was our fav, followed by an amazing dinner afterwards. We had a blast marveling at the Christmas window displays, the Rockefeller tree and beautiful lights at every corner. We haggled with street vendors on Canal Street and enjoyed appetizers and drinks at a rooftop igloo bar. How blessed am I to have had this experience with them all! Thanks, ladies, for the memories and special way to end the year! Our cover story this month is The Montessori School of Winston-Salem and their new Adolescent Program Campus. It is an amazing facility nestled away in Clemmons. I was privileged enough to get a tour of this

PUBLISHER Robin Bralley • Robin@ForsythMags.com SENIOR ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE Tamara Bodford ACCOUNT EXECUTIVES Morgan Bralley Brooke Eagle Heather Spivey ADVERTISING Advertising@ForsythMags.com COVER PHOTOGRAPHY Jon Eric Johnson Photography

new campus during their cover photoshoot and wow! It was created with such attention to detail and care that it almost made me want to be back in school. Almost! January features our annual Birthday Bonanza issue, with our pull-out Celebrate Life calendar. It features a place for you to list all your special occasions and has a handy reference on back with vendors to help you create magical celebrations all year long. Be sure to tear it out and keep it in a handy place. For those with high school students, yes, prom season is upon us. Take a peek at our prom section for information to help make spectacular prom memories! Here’s to an amazing New Year! Blessings!

CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS Lauren Carroll Jasper & Fern Jon Eric Johnson Photography Sally Meehan Photo Artistry by Melinda

OTHER CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Robin Bralley • Lisa S. T. Doss • Martie Emory • Tabi Falcone • Family Services Michelle D. Formica • Julie Fritz • Jennifer Hampton Stephanie Helsabeck Vonda Henderson • Taryn Jerez • Cindy Keiger • Logan Kelly • Jamie Lober Kristi J. Marion • Brittany Orie • Tabatha Renegar • Tami Rumfelt • Laura Simon • Heather Spivey • J. Warren Steen • Megan Taylor • Keith Tilley Sara Wiles • Susan Woodall

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Prom Oh

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to promenade… “The formal, introductory parading of

guests at a party.” Today’s high school Juniors and Seniors are following a century-old custom designed to promote social etiquette. And as the ritual of prom is celebrated

throughout the country this spring, students are beginning to plan now. From the dresses to the ﬂowers to the limos to the dinner – preparing for prom is a huge event. To that end, Forsyth Family is happy to introduce the three-month prom guide to our readers! The January, February, and March issues include fun content about planning and preparing for prom, as well as local resources which can be used to make the most of this time-honored tradition.

Happy planning!

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Counting Down to Prom: The Ultimate Checklist BY TARYN JEREZ

There’s

a reason we see film after film recreate the iconic prom scene in teen movies; there are few rites of passage as memorable. Counting down for your own iconic prom night? With so much to do before the big event, the process can sometimes feel a little overwhelming! Planning things out ahead of time can make your prom stress-free and effortless, allowing you to focus on the most important part—having a good time. Here’s your all-inclusive list of everything you’ll need and when to follow through to help you have your best prom night ever! 3 MONTHS BEFORE Start pulling inspiration for your prom style of choice. Going Old Hollywood? Glitz and Glam? Staying Classic or going trendy? Note any dress-code rules for your school that need following before you start shopping for attire. Confirm if you’ll be attending with a group of friends, a date or rocking it solo. Start saving a little money for prom expenses by picking up odd jobs, like tutoring, dog walking or mowing lawns. 2 MONTHS BEFORE

Order your date’s corsage or boutonniere from your local ﬂorist, like eorge . Walker lorist in Winston- alem. Make dinner reservations, if you’re planning on a pre-prom bite out. 1 WEEK BEFORE Start pampering yourself a little early! Get lots of sleep, take care of your skin, and drink plenty of water! Coordinate your plans with friends; who’s meeting, at what time and where? Schedule pre-prom photos with your parents, friends’ group and anyone else you want to include. 1 DAY BEFORE Pack your bag for any after-prom overnight or weekend plans with friends. Create an emergency kit of anything you may need and will want with you (e.g., garment tape, bobby pins, Tylenol, cash, etc.) Print out or save to your phone any inspirational images for your hair and beauty appointments.

Purchase your Prom Tickets or make sure your date has got them covered.

Attend a nail appointment or do them yourself at home or with friends.

Shop for your Prom Dress, Suit or Tuxedo. Don’t forget to check out local formalwear shops like Hip Chics in Clemmons and Nitsa’s in Winston-Salem!

Get a good night’s sleep—you have some partying to do the next night!

If your formalwear needs a little help in fitting, schedule an alterations appointment. tart finding inspiration for in magazines.

air and Makeup online or

Book plans for transportation and any after-prom activities with friends (limousine, party bus, hotel reservation, beach rental, etc.). 1 MONTH BEFORE Book your hair, nail and/or makeup appointments, if needed. Purchase or borrow any accessories or jewelry for the big night. Finalize all alterations for your attire. 2 WEEKS BEFORE Start breaking in new dress shoes you’ll be wearing, to make sure you’re ready for the dance ﬂoor

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THE BIG DAY Make time to eat and drink. You need food for energy and you want to stay hydrated! Be sure to charge your phone and camera. Attend hair and makeup appointments earlier in the day. Get ready an hour or so before you are supposed to be ready, to make sure you have everything you need and can avoid rushing. Photos A selfie or two are great, but have someone get some shots of you and your fellow prom goers that will last a lifetime. PROM NIGHT Remember safety first your friends.

ook out for yourself and

Have a blast! Don’t stress and have fun. Remember, this is your special night!

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card debt is a common dilemma many of us find ourselves in. The average U.S. household with credit card debt had an estimated $6,929 in balances carried from one month to the next, according to Nerdwallet’s 2018 American Household Credit Card Debt Study. The worst credit card problems stem from two factors: they’re easy to use and credit cards often have high interest rates. Nerdwallet reported that as of August 2018, credit card accounts on which interest was assessed charged an average annual percentage rate (APR) of 16.46%.

Is Debt Consolidation Right For You?

Debt consolidation is one way to tackle fast-growing, highinterest rate debt from multiple credit cards growing faster than they can be paid off. This allows you to bring all of your debt together under one loan - with one rate and one payment. However, if you do choose to consolidate, it is important to consider canceling one or more of the high interest rate cards to avoid falling into the same trap in the future.

Trying to get out of debt? If so, you’re not alone. Each year, millions of Americans struggle with managing their debts. Average personal debt – exclusive of home mortgages – climbed to more than $38,000 in 2018, from $37,000 the previous year, according to Northwestern Mutual’s 2018 Planning & Progress Study. Additionally, the study reported that fewer people said they would carry no debt in 2018, and two in ten said they would allocate 50-to-100 percent of their income toward debt repayment. The most common household debts include mortgages, auto loans, credit cards and student loans. In fact, in the third quarter of 2018, total U.S. household debt rose for the 17th consecutive quarter to a record $13.5 trillion.

Understand Your Options While a debt consolidation loan can help you pay off debt, several other lending tools can also be used. If you have an auto that is worth more than you owe, you have equity in your vehicle, and you can use this equity to pay down debt. Funds from home equity lines are another option that offer fixed- and variable-rates. Many financial institutions offer preferred lines of credit with lines starting at a few hundred dollars so you don’t rack up a lot more debt as you work to pay existing debt down.

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Find the Right Partner When looking to consolidate debt, it’s important to work with a partner that you trust to have your best interest in mind. Find a financial institution to help you develop a plan with an eye to your long-term financial future. For example, Truliant offers a range of debt consolidation options, along with our No-Cost Credit Review and our TruFinancial Checkup, which reviews your entire financial picture to find ways to help you save money. And remember, as you plan, make sure you understand upfront how long it will take to pay off your consolidation loan, and how much you can afford in payments. With proper planning and the right guidance, you can bring yourself out from under the stress of rising debt. For more information, call 800-822-0382, or find a location nearest you at Truliant.org/locations.

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BY VONDA HENDERSON Gary and Rebecca Howorka, operator/owners of three Express Oil Change locations, understand the needs of family. Having recently added a third location, their goal is to provide quality, timely service at locations convenient to current and new customers. The Express Oil Change & Tire Engineers team takes pride in their 15-second response time to customers arriving on their lot; you’re greeted before you even exit your car. Every time, at every location. And, if you’re lucky, George (Gary and Rebecca’s fur-baby, who has his own space in the office may offer his own personal greeting. Their visitor areas are well maintained and family-friendly if you plan to wait for your vehicle. Although, with their hallmark of quick service, you can actually remain in your car for an oil change. For families with young children, this is such a time-saver and creates such a stress-free environment. No getting out strollers, detaching car seats, or hauling toys and children into a waiting area. Don’t forget their new name. No longer known as “Express Oil Change & Service Center,” their new name represents the scope of full-service automotive repairs offered at each of their locations. Need tires? Visit one of their locations. Need

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engine work, tire balancing, tune-up and, of course, an oil change? This is your one-stop place for all automotive repairs. Gary and Rebecca have ten years in the business. By their estimate, they’ve serviced approximately 30,000 vehicles on an annual basis. North Carolina inspections are part of their standard services offered; on average, each shop completes approximately 4,300 annually. And now, with the third location up and running, their ability to provide quality service from bumper to fender at a location convenient to you has increased substantially. With cold weather, be sure that your vehicles have a checkup, readying them for lower temperatures. You can even schedule your appointment online via their website (expressoil.com), then select “Schedule an Appointment” on the main page. However, no appointments are needed for NC inspections or routine oil changes. The technicians at Express Oil Change & Tire Engineers are all

A -certified and adhere to the company standards of quality, timely service with no-pressure and no addons. You receive the service your vehicle needs and no additional pressure. The motto of “Trust/Honesty/ Respect” is the hallmark of who they are and what they deliver. They are also environmentally conscious; all used oil is recycled. Recognizing that some customers prefer to do their own oil changes, you can drop off used oil in properly sealed containers to be added to the recycled-oil on site. eeping vehicles in good working order is important. No one wants a breakdown on the highway. Express Oil Change & Tire Engineer has a tool to help stay current on your service history. It’s not only a good idea, but also helps prolong the life of your vehicle. Join the “EOC VIP” program, using the Express Oil Change & Tire Engineer application and earn discounts, coupons, get reminders of needed services, make your appointments, and search for the tires you need for your vehicle. Call or go online to schedule your appointment or get additional info on their services. Their phone numbers are: • 336.283.9552 for the Clemmons location at 2750 Lewisville-Clemmons Road, • 336.377.2690 for the Winston-Salem location, 123 Hanes Mill Road, and • 336.727.3681 for the new Winston-Salem location, 3499 Robinhood Road.

Check their website (expressoil. com) for additional information. Gary, Rebecca, and the rest of the team at Express Oil Change & Tire Engineers look forward to meeting you and your family and keeping your vehicles in prime condition, so you can keep to your busy schedules. Bring the family by for a visit and oil change. Happy motoring!

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Saying “No” When You’re Expected to Say “Yes” BY DENISE HEIDEL

demands on our time continue to increase, the pressure to say “Yes” continues to build. Every “Yes” adds up, depleting us of any time for rest and relaxation. So the question is—how can we learn how to say “No,” when we’re expected to say, “Yes”? After all, we want to be liked; we want to be considered amiable and helpful. So saying “No” feels wrong. We worry about making someone mad. Or disappointing someone. Or, if we try to delegate, someone else will mess things up. Or let’s face it— sometimes, we just want to do it all ourselves, so we get the credit. And sometimes, we want to say “No,” are afraid to, so we make up excuses to get out a request. Of course, then worry we’ll accidentally tell on ourselves later. The simple truth is this—we can’t do it all. No matter how much we want to believe we can, it’s impossible to please everyone 100% of the time. To try to do so only sets you up for failure (and an ulcer). Learning to how to say “No” isn’t going to mean you lose friends. It means you care enough about yourself to establish some boundaries. Make 2019 your year to say no. It’s a healthy way to start balancing your time in a productive way. And if you want to embrace the “No”-word, here’s a mantra you’ll have to embrace: “Being busy does not equal being productive.” Productivity has to include some downtime. There’s a reason why humans were made with a need to sleep at night. Our bodies have to rest in order to work.

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With all that said, here are some tips for employing the word “No” in your 2019 vocabulary: • Just say ‘No” without excuses. You honestly don’t have to offer explanations. And doing so only adds to the self-imposed guilt you have to learn to get over, so keep it simple. • Avoid saying, “I can’t.” That opens up the door for possible negotiations and establishes a framework of regret in the words. • Present an alternative solution to doing the work/project yourself. • Make appointments with yourself to do nothing. Or to take a bubble bath. Or to read a magazine. Whatever it is, block off some time on your calendar for nothing-time. Even if all you do is stare at a wall, that’s fine. It’s downtime, and it counts. • Understand that refusing to do something isn’t an outright rejection. For instance, if you’re expected to lead up the annual bake sale, but you just can’t do it—say “No,” but still attend. And you can give lavish kudos to the person who did take on the project! They may be thrilled you stepped aside and gave them the opportunity! Saying “No” gives you the warm fuzzies. You’ll feel great about yourself. Not that you need to gloat about it or be a jerk when you say “No,” but you’ll likely feel a little inner smugness that you didn’t cave to “Yes.” Learning how to say “No” is an opportunity to give you some breathing room in life, and to begin to enjoy little moments more often. Say it; say it as often as you need to in order to get your time management and life/balance under control.

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Celebrating

Martin Luther King, Jr. Day BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

The

iconic Martin Luther King, Jr. became a powerful, symbolic leader of African-Americans through his passion for civil rights, his fight against racial discrimination, and his radical strategy for non-violent protesting. We should honor his birthday—January 15th—by remembering his greatest achievements, absorbing some of his famous quotes, and by creative ways of celebrating his birthday. HISTORICAL FACTS AND ACHIEVEMENTS He Amplified the Civil Rights Movement. The powerful “I Have A Dream” speech is the most famous speech in America. King stayed up hours writing it and got only two hours of sleep prior to the event. When he reached the top steps of the Lincoln Memorial, he started off by reading the speech from his manuscript, but only got a few words out. He soon began speaking from his spirit, and that’s when the crowd really tuned in. That’s when King became more passionate and raised the volume of his voice. That’s when freedom rang from Colorado, New Hampshire, New York, Georgia, across America! King Founded The Southern Christian Leadership Conference. Inspired by the Montgomery Bus Boycott, King and other civil rights activists formed together and founded The Southern Christian Leadership Conference (SCLC). The grand aim of this organization was to promote the cause of the Civil Rights Movement while exemplifying non-violent behavior against racial injustice. King was president of the organization up until his assassination in 1968. He Led the Great March on Washington. Determined more than ever for racial equality in jobs and freedom, King and other close civil rights’ leaders organized the March on Washington where he delivered the famous “I Have A Dream” speech. This speech established King as one of the most powerful orators of our time. This monumental event

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was so successful (with over 250,000 participants) that it was marked as one of the biggest political rallies for human rights in U.S. history. It also led to more subsequent marches in the years to come. One of the greatest advancements that stemmed from the March on Washington was the passing of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. He was the Youngest Recipient of the Nobel Peace Prize. In October 1964, King, only 35 years old, won the Nobel Peace Prize for leading non-violent protesting to racial injustice in America. King Utilized Creative Non-Violence as Protest. King had a unique way of combining non-violent civil disobedience with his Christian beliefs. He was hugely inspired by Mahatma Gandhi’s non-violent style of activism. HOW TO CELEBRATE? Watch some biopics. Are you a movie buff? There are plenty of movies about the life of MLK with vivid portrayals that can make you feel involved with the movement. Movies such as Selma, King: A Filmed Record… Montgomery to Memphis and even The Butler are ways of honoring MLK. Take a historical trip. The Martin Luther King, Jr. Monument in Washington D.C. is an honorable choice. Consider the Martin Luther King, Jr. Center for Nonviolent and Social Change, located in Atlanta, Georgia. This center is replete with historical treasures such as the birth home of MLK, gift shops, the crypts of Martin and Coretta Scott King, and the church where he preached, Historic Ebenezer Baptist Church. Guess what? Admissions and parking are free! Create! Are you an artist, musician, photographer, filmmaker, or writer? Whatever your craft is, create in honor of MLK’s holiday! Paint an aspirational photo, write a blog post and find rare photos tracing MLK’s life, compose a song or a spoken-word poem and perform it locally (or on YouTube, maybe?). Whatever you choose to do, there is a way of making it honorary. Educate! Educate those who are in the dark about racial injustice. Educate small children, or perhaps your own children, about MLK. Educate those who deny that racial injustice still exists in today’s world. Educate those who discriminate and seem to perpetuate everything King fought against. Knowledge is power and a catalyst to positive change. Support a local organization that fights for civil rights. The NAACP Winston-Salem Chapter focuses on civil rights and aims to maintain political, social, economic, and educational equality among people of color, and to diminish prejudice. Not only should Martin Luther King, Jr. be celebrated on his birthday, but he should be celebrated for a lifetime. Happy MLK Day!

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Selling Your Home in a Seller’s Market BY MICHELLE D. FORMICA, Manager, Marketing Services, The Long & Foster Companies.

seller’s market with low inventory and a plethora of buyers is a great time to sell your home. But keep in mind—while homes tend to sell quicker during a seller’s market, it’s still just as important to get your home market-ready and price it right. Here is some insight from a few Long & Foster real estate agents about selling your home in a seller’s market. Q. In a seller’s market, is it still important to prepare my home to sell? A. Absolutely. Don’t assume your home will sell as is, but instead, get it market-ready by decluttering, cleaning and making any necessary repairs. You want to make a great first impression, rather than having to make an adjustment later because your home isn’t selling. No matter what the market is, buyers want to make sure they are getting a good home, and everything is well taken care of, before committing to such a large investment. Q. What are some of the things you should NOT do when preparing your home to sell? A. It always pays to look at your home through the eyes of a buyer who’s seeing it for the first time. Don’t think you can offer buyers a credit instead of performing needed work. Most want a move-in ready home, so keep in mind the importance of curb appeal, fresh neutral paint, and replacing ﬂooring when necessary. Also, don’t overprice your home. Rely on your agent—not automated valuations you find on the Internet to determine fair market value, and position your home competitively for the quickest sale at the best price.

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Q. You mention overpricing—should I not ask for more than market value in a seller’s market? A. Don’t make the mistake of pricing too aggressively. In a seller’s market, many homeowners want to increase the price of their home, but it is very important to price your home based on its actual value. Trust the market. If your home is overpriced, it will sit. Consider working with a professional real estate agent to evaluate your local market and help determine your home value. Buyers are much more knowledgeable about the real estate market today, so they might not be willing to pay more than your home is worth. Q. How is our market in Forsyth County looking today? A. Over the last few months in Forsyth County, we have averaged around 2.5 months of supply. This is calculated

by dividing our current inventory by current real estate sales. A balanced market ranges between 5 and 7 months of supply, so as you can see, we are still experiencing a low inventory of available homes. We’ve also seen a decrease in average days on market, meaning homes are selling quicker. This month, the average number of days on market was 36 days, lower than the average last year, which was 52, a decrease of 31%.

Homes sell based on their condition, price, and location. While it may be a seller’s market with low inventory and plenty of buyers in some areas, the market varies per state, city and even neighborhood. If you’re interested in selling your home, consider reaching out to your local real estate agent for assistance! Long & Foster Real Estate is located in Winston-Salem, NC, at 253 S. Stratford Road. For more information on their services, call 336-999-8598.

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THE WINSTON-SALEM SYMPHONY’S DISCOVERY Concerts for Kids

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for something fun and beneficial for your kids? Look no further than the Winston-Salem ymphony’s “Discovery Concerts for ids Designed to entertain and delight young people, these concerts are affordable, accessible and fun and are a wonderful way to introduce classical music to kids of all ages. As a mom and/or dad, you’ve probably heard about all the studies that show that music is important for the development of young children. It helps with language acquisition, math skills, listening skills, self-esteem, creativity—the list goes on and on. The Winston- alem ymphony’s Discovery Concerts are a terrific way to integrate music into your child’s life. The Symphony works hard to keep the Discovery Concerts entertaining, and they include plenty of chances for wiggly kids to move in their seats in time to the music. The concerts are about one hour long, perfect for short attention spans, and incorporate guest artists that fit the theme of each concert, such as dancers, magicians, musicians with a comedic bent, and more, who help entertain the kids. An hour before each show there are a variety of pre-concert activities. There is always an “Instrument Petting Zoo,” which is a chance for kids to touch and even play instruments, and other activities that are geared to entertain and provide an educational element. The activities are tied into the theme of each concert.

The first Discovery Concert for ids of the season, “Music Explorers! Discovering Music Around the World” is on Sunday, January 13th at 3 p.m. (but be sure to come at 2 p.m. for preconcert fun) at Reynolds Auditorium in Winston-Salem, and will be conducted by Assistant Conductor Jessica Morel. It will feature a variety of music from around the world and popular guest artists, “Paperhand Puppet Intervention,” which is a puppet theater company known for creating original largescale puppets, masks, shadow puppets, as well as performing stilt dancing. In the spring, you won’t want to miss Prokofiev’s delightful “Peter and the Wolf,” which will have two shows, one at 2 and one at 4 p.m. on Sunday, April 7th at Brendle Recital Hall on the campus of Wake Forest University. Assistant Conductor Jessica Morel and the Symphony will be joined by the WinstonSalem Festival Ballet and Estelle Bajou, who will narrate. In addition, you will hear Viet Cuong’s “The Wild Woods,” which was written specifically for the Winston- alem ymphony ince there are two shows, the activities will take place between the performances from 3 to 4 p.m. in the lobby. Tickets for the Discovery Concerts for Kids Series are $7 for children, ages three to 12 (ages two and under, free) and $18 for adults. Tickets can be purchased by calling the Symphony Box Office at . . 5 or online at W symphony org.

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BRENDLE RECITAL HALL, WFU Jessica Morel, Conductor Winston-Salem Festival Ballet & Estelle Bajou, Narrator Enjoy an afternoon of musical delights with Viet Cuong’s “The Wild Woods” followed by Prokofiev’s beloved Peter and the Wolf. Perfect for the whole family!

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Out & Aboutin Winston-Salem with Twin City Santa BY HEATHER SPIVEY | PHOTOS BY JASPER & FERN

Friday, December 7th, the 16th-annual Twin City “Santa’s Miracle on Fifth Street” event was held in downtown Winston-Salem at the Millennium Center. Twin City Santa is a charitable organization, volunteer- based, that collects toys and raises money for children during the holiday season. Over 1500 guests attended the event, which means there were essentially over 1500 toys collected, as guests are asked to bring an unwrapped toy. This is a wonderful way to kick off the season and get into the spirit of giving. The music was provided by “Lucky Pocket” and DJ Hek Yeh; food served by more than 15 local restaurants. All toys collected from the event were donated to the Salvation Army of Greater Winston-Salem to support their holiday assistance programs. Twin City would like to give a big thank-you to their many volunteers and sponsors that helped make the evening possible and such a memorable success. For more information about the event or to purchase tickets in the future, please visit http://www.twincitysanta.org

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New Year Hopes and Dreams BY LISA S.T. DOSS

new calendar stirs an inner excitement just through reading the emboldened print labeling four numbers, namely, 2019. The conscious mind may deem it as the arrival of a new decade inching closer. We often consider the New Year’s arrival as another wiped canvas, pristine from mistakes and formulated, yet never tackled, ideas. This New Year can be jammed full of realistic hopes and dreams. It begins with real plans and concrete steps to follow through to the letter. Financial Limitations Lofty plans such as traveling or improving the home first require sitting down and analyzing your financial bottom line. Stretching beyond the limit of income is an easy concept which often amounts to massive credit card debt. Arriving at the point of eliminating “whole debt” is liberating. Yes, it is possible. Begin by answering the following questions: • Is the expense of cable necessary or could I survive on programs, which cost $10 a month, or connected to Internet service? • What purpose does my landline serve? • How much do I spend weekly on lunches, snacks, and dinners? • How do I manage food and needed purchases? Specific questions can save individuals and families hundreds of dollars a month. Secondly, begin reading monthly credit card statements. Ask yourself, “How much am I paying in

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interest and at what percentage?” Understanding the cost of maintaining a credit card will inspire you to pursue a debt-free lifestyle. TIP: Consider establishing a financial spreadsheet not only to balance your budget, but to understand spending habits and the length of time before the bill is to be paid in full. TIP: Start listening to podcasts to gain tips and strategies for purposeful financial planning and spending. Personal Goals Each December, we sit down and reflect upon our unfulfilled hopes and dreams under the banner of “resolutions.” Unfortunately, expectations are too high during a season of cold and dreams of hibernation. A change of perspective is needed. Beyond the idea of exercise and consuming less sugar, why not plan for a tangible goal, such as continuing education classes to pursue a hobby? A timeline is essential, especially establishing a start date. Ask yourself, “What does my goal require? Is there a financial investment, and how can I achieve it?” Remember, personal goals take time. Having a friend who shares your interest can inspire and motivate you to reach the goal. Attitude English theatre critic and writer, Kenneth Tynan, believes, “A critic is a man who knows the way, but cannot drive the car.” Thousands of expressions present the adage that personal criticism is linked to a defense mechanism often protecting our self-esteem. In the desire to flourish

and grow, doubt can arise that keeps those ambitions from taking shape. A negative approach to ideas and goals has proven to impact performance and motivation. Self-evaluation can be ideal in these circumstances. It is time to eliminate the pressure of feeling miserable and define happiness and success. Perhaps your direction needs a more purposeful focus. By stepping back, you may discover complete contentment in working fewer hours, investing time in a hobby, or pursuing a dream. This winter, take time to consider how to make your dreams a tangible reality and prevent doubt from squashing your ideas. Celebrate Friendships Reflecting upon levels of happiness leads to the blessings of family and friends who provide an unconditional return of support and inspiration, help, and who display acts of love. From the moment a recognizable face is seen, the emotion is a “tell.” There is a keen understanding accompanying the realization that people must be accepted as they are. A cynical person cannot change. When an effort to maintain a relationship becomes exhausting, it is time to determine who should be within your inner circle. Just remember, every connection is instructive in helping us learn and grow. Reflection on the year gone by is essential in our decision to grasp hold of the calendar, flip to a month and identify the intended goals. Keep a journal. Join forces with a friend, and, most importantly, celebrate the day each month of the year! Happy New Year!

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TEACHER-STUDENT CONFLICTS BY LISA S.T. DOSS

“How was Mrs. James today?” “I swear she picks on me. She always comes over to see what I am doing and calls on me, hoping I don’t know the answer. I wish she would focus on the other kids in the room.” The greatest critic of a teacher is a student. Opinions are stated in polar opposites, such as “mean” or “too friendly,” “hands-off” or “overly helpful.” Listening to a child discuss his or her day may not expose the problem, only feelings. Before a student arrives at the point of giving up, consider an intervention. Every day a student maintains a negative attitude toward either a class or a teacher, the effect is a regression. WHAT IS GOING ON? While parents are listening to the problems potentially labeled by the student as “unfairness,” “a harsh tone,” “information too hard to understand,” or “yelling,” it is essential to learn the other side of the story. A child who says, “My teacher doesn’t like me.” may feel defiant for being caught while talking or writing notes, doodling or daydreaming. Another cause for blaming the teacher may be due to the student’s struggling through a difficult subject. OPEN COMMUNICATION It is easier to broach difficult questions when a parent has established communication. By e-mailing questions periodically or updates on the progression of nightly homework sessions, teachers can glean an understanding of what is valuable

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to parents, as well as of homework difficulties. While teachers are busy, they want to establish a triangle of communication with students and parents; therefore, start with an e-mail. Approach the conversation without personal criticism. The goal is to understand the situation. Begin by sharing your child’s story. It is important not to show a side until a response arrives. Tip: since a parent should never go by themselves to a face-to-face meeting, consider adding a spouse or family member to ongoing teacher communications and meetings. School staff may need to be included, such as the principal, a guidance counselor, or student advocate. Tip: Every year, parents should create a file for all e-mailed communication to and from each of your child’s teachers. In fact, after each appointment, e-mail, and phone call, it is vital to keep a record of your contacts and correspondence. In case of a problematic situation, parents then already possess documentation identifying specific dates and the nature of the transaction from communication. PERSONALITY DIFFERENCES Not all children can learn from a strict or sweetly nice teacher. Learning how to connect with difficult people is part of the challenge in relationships. While it may be a classroom teacher today, tomorrow it could be a professor, manager, or new boss. Before requesting a change of classroom, consider alternative solutions. Supporting school and classroom rules is every student’s primary function. Despite personal feelings about a teacher, communication is a solution. Encourage

your child to have a meeting with the teacher, perhaps with at least one parent or student advocate present. All students are accountable for their actions. Teachers and students can work together by making a viable plan. The solution may involve after-school tutoring or addressing the rules of being respectful. Every opportunity to experience a challenging individual is also a learning opportunity. There will be numerous teachers, coaches, colleagues, and managers who have different personalities and temperaments, as well as communication styles. It is a question of learning how to maintain respect while completing a task or job. Just remember, everyone has a weakness. Anger or strictness may be a defense mechanism for grief or personal difficulty. Students are not the only ones who can have a bad day or year. STUDENT ADVOCATE A guidance counselor or a former teacher may be the perfect advocate for your child. A connection could occur based on need, perhaps for a few minutes every morning, or twice weekly. When parents do not want to be instrumental in solving school difficulties, a trusted advocate could boost morale, offer guidance, or participate in a teacher-student meeting if the need arises. A difficult teacher-student relationship is never hopeless. The goal is to address the issues to ensure your child can learn, participate, and grow in a subject area. While the year may have its high and low peaks, continue to communicate with your child’s teachers and advocates.

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Birthday to you… Happy Birthday to yo u… Happy Oh, wait?! Your birthday isn’t in January? That’s okay. The Forsyth Family annual Birthday Bonanza is designed to be a year-long resource for planning all birthdays from January to December! After all, as the saying goes, “It’s five o’clock somewhere…” The same rule applies to birthdays; it just doesn’t have the same ring to it. So whether you’re planning a party now, or want to save this for later in the year, we hope this Birthday Bonanza guide will help you plan celebrations that are both wonderful and memorable.

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Bring on the

Freebees! It’s Your Birthday BY VONDA HENDERSON

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the best gift on your birthday? That answer changes with your age. Think about it. No one remembers their first birthday, but it’s likely recorded in photos or videos—that memorable moment when you either smashed the cake with your hand or dived right in for a big bite. As a kid, birthdays were all about the presents. PreTeens—a good excuse for a slumber party. Teens—have a party, the louder, the better! Young adults—have a spa day. Older adults— hey, we still like spa days; however, getting together with friends and family becomes more important than gifts. But, let’s face it. Free stuff is great! Who knew there were so many options to get something just for aging another year! In most cases, all you need to do is sign up for the business rewards program at least seven days before your birthday. Check out these “free” opportunities to celebrate your birthday! FREE FOOD: • Join Applebee’s e-mail club and get a free surprise for your birthday. • Sign up for Arby’s e-mail and get a free milkshake. As a bonus, you may get a free roast beef classic sandwich with a drink purchase just for joining. • Chili’s offers free dessert when you join My Chili’s Rewards Club. You also get free chips and salsa or a free non-alcoholic drink with each visit. • Who doesn’t love Krispy Kreme? Fill out their app for a free donut. Make sure that “hot now” sign is on!

• Get your free birthday burger by joining Red Robin’s Royalty Program. • No Action Required Freebees: • Visit Cracker Barrel on your birthday and enjoy a free dessert. • Denny’s offers a free build-your-own Grand Slam on your birthday, just by showing your ID. FOR THE KIDS: • The Chuck E Club at Chuck E Cheese offers a special treat for the birthday boy or girl. • Join Disney’s D23 (their official fan club) for special birthday offers. • Stop by Barnes & Nobles for a free cupcake for the birthday kids. FOR THE FUR-BABIES: • Create your pet’s profile on Petco’s Pals Reward site and get your fur-baby a free birthday surprise. NON-FOOD FREEBEES: • Join bareMinerals Friends & Benefits Program and get a gift. • Sign up on the Designer Shoe Warehouse for DSW Rewards and check out their special birthday offers. • Kohl’s Yes2You Rewards is worth signing up for as well. • Aveda offers a free birthday gift. • Ofﬁce Depot and Ofﬁce Max offer free birthday rewards points.

• Get your free birthday reward of chocolate-dipped fruit by joining Edible Arrangements’ Edible Rewards program. You get a 12-count box sometime during your birthday month.

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• Speaking of chocolate, join the Godiva Reward Club for a special birthday treat.

• Visit Dave & Buster’s for a free $10 game play.

• Love pancakes? Join IHOP’s Pancake Revolution for a free birthday meal, plus a free meal just for joining. • Maybe you prefer waffles. Join the Wafﬂe House Regulars Club for a free birthday waffle. • Now you need coffee. Check out Starbucks’ Rewards for their free birthday gift. • Join Olive Garden’s e-Club and enjoy a complimentary appetizer or dessert.

• Watch a movie at an AMC theater and enjoy a free bag of birthday popcorn. • Enjoy a free game of bowling on AMF.

DISCLAIMER—These are only a small sampling of free options that you can enjoy on your birthday. Key in “free on your birthday” on your computer and a wide variety of options will open up on a large number of websites. Pick something you haven’t tried before or a favorite place that you didn’t know had birthday specials, and sign yourself up so you can enjoy your big day. Have a special breakfast, lunch, dinner, and throw in a snack or some shopping just for fun. Happy Birthday to You! SOURCES: financebuzz.com; ThePennyHoarder.com

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should also be contrasting; that way they are eyepopping to the attendees. 2. Include all the basic information. Every layout needs to include the party’s purpose, such as “Emily’s 30th birthday,” the date, time, location, and RSVP details. Some other things to consider: are any special instructions, attire, whether it is a surprise or not, number of guests to bring, etc. List who is hosting the celebration, if it is not the guest of honor. Special instructions can include whether it is a children’s party, should an adult stay, or something guests need to bring that is specific to the event. For example, if the festivity includes painting, let guests know whether they should bring an apron or smock. Think about if you were the attendee coming to your event, what information would you want to know. If you are planning a child’s birthday, make sure to let the parents of the children coming know what to expect. If swimming is a part of the party, it is important to inform others about that.

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are many times in a person’s life that call for a celebration—one being their birthday. The day when a person is born is very special and important. It is the one day out of a 365day year where someone should be honored. One way to make this person feel special is by having a birthday party, and the first thing to do when you are hosting a bash is to send out invitations. There are many ways to design birthday invitations. Depending on the type of soirée, there are a few etiquette rules to follow. To help ease some of the stress, there are stores and online sites that complete the invitations for you. However, birthday invitations are something you can do yourself, as long as you feel comfortable doing so. Don’t worry, because below I have an insider’s guide on what to include when creating your own birthday invitations. No matter what, though, birthday invitations should be unique and special. 1. Use the same theme or color scheme for your invitations as you are using for your celebration. An invitation should be the first thing to clue guests into what to expect. Are they coming to a fiesta or a luau? If you are going with a color scheme, err on the side of bright, vibrant colors. These shades

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3. Make the birthday honoree the star of the invitation. People want to know who they are celebrating and what for. Let the purpose stand out with a bigger font, different color, or an image. Be careful not to overload with images—only use one or two. While you want the information and person to stand out, you don’t want to overstimulate guests to the point where the invitation is confusing. 4. Be playful, if the invitation allows. Get creative with your wording and have fun. The design sets the tone for the event. Catchy phrases or taglines to common characters or pictures are always great to have, if they fit your theme. 5. Send the birthday party invitation out at least three weeks in advance, but no more than five weeks prior. The key is to let guests have enough time to RSVP without letting it sit in their hands for too long. Requesting a deadline to RSVP? Always remember to include that date on the invitation. This deadline should be about a week beforehand. Decide on whether the final number of guests is needed by any vendors, caterers, or if this deadline is set in stone. For more casual events, the RSVP date can be flexible. Birthdays are meant to be a fun time, and hosting a bash can make it all the more memorable. Whether you are planning it for yourself or a loved one, use these tips above to make sure that your invitation creates the right feeling and sets your party on the right track.

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Birthday Party Art Projects BY TABI FALCONE

your child has an upcoming birthday and you are struggling with a theme that all of the kids (and you) will enjoy, consider an Art Party! Growing in popularity in conjunction with the growing theme of DIY parties for adults, these are a great way to encourage creativity at your child’s birthday party, while still impressing the other parents. Most importantly, these ideas for art party projects will ensure that everybody involved will have a great time. Ice Cream Collage Art Before the party, go through old magazines and cut/tear up a bunch of pieces of differently colored pictures and place them in bowls around the table. Cut out a few brown triangles from construction paper and place them on the table as well. Each child will get his or her own large piece of construction paper and glue stick and can pick the cones and pieces of torn paper to collage together scoops of ice-cream to be on top of the ice cream cone. You can leave the tearing of the pieces of paper to the children, depending on their age and abilities, but with the attention span of children at birthday parties, it is often best to prep beforehand. Collage Pencil Holders Using the same prep technique as the Ice Cream Collage Art, prep all the necessary pieces of paper and lay out on the table, ensuring a good mix of colors and sizes. Give each child one or two plastic cups, which can be purchased at any dollar store or thrift shop. Arrange a spattering of small bowls containing decoupage glue and foam brushes for the paper to be attached to the cups with. If the children are old enough to know how to read, encourage them to find words in the piles of scrap paper that describe themselves, to give the project a positive and inspiring twist. Canvas Letters This craft is the only one discussed today for which it is very important to have a correct RSVP list, unless you

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happen to keep a full alphabet of canvasses around your house. Most craft stores and some online retailers sell stretched canvasses that are formed in the shape of letters of the alphabet. Pick the first initial of each child’s name, and let them paint and otherwise decorate it—this can be a multimedia project with glitter, sequins, beads, or even collage paper. Painted Cardboard Animal Hangings If your child is an animal buff, print out a silhouette of their favorite animal and cut out a bunch of them in cardboard. You can also choose to have a whole menagerie of animals available for the children to choose from. Let each child paint his or hers however they wish, adding glitter or sequins if wanted. When the animals have dried, thread a piece of yarn through two holes in them, so they can be hung flat on the wall when the children bring them home. Decorated Cupcakes All craft stores have packs of cheap white plastic circular paint palettes. These are coincidentally the perfect size in the middle to fit a cupcake! At the dessert round, place one frosted cupcake in the center of a paint palette for each child. In the paint wells, place decorations for the cupcakes, such as edible glitter, sprinkles, and other candies. Each child will get to create and then devour their own masterpiece. While you are planning the main craft, don’t forget to think about the many other things that make parties great, such as invitations, decorations, and food! You can hand write or print your invitations on paint color chip cards, picked up at your local hardware store, or find a free template online with a paint palette on it. You can put little candies in mini-tins, decorated as paint tins, as the favor. If you make Rice Krispy Treats, you can decorate the top in colored frosting and stick a popsicle stick into the bottom to create the illusion of a paintbrush. Rainbow colors are definitely the best when it comes to décors, such as streamers and balloons, for an art-themed party. And don’t forget that this rainbow paint theme can extend to the cake, too!

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Stepping into Adulthood BY LISA S.T. DOSS

the days when potty training and tying shoes were the first few milestones, parents imagined a burst of confetti to celebrate the triumphant occasion. In the blink of an eye, the routine of daily life prepared for yet a new event, a child stepping into adulthood. “Letting go” started long before teens left home with luggage, love, and promises. The freedom to fly independently resulted in many crashes and squawking conversations. Beyond rules of governance and law, household basics, shopping practices, and the values of a balanced budget, there are other valuable lessons teens need to consider. COMMUNICATION SKILLS: Every face-to-face meeting offers an instructive lesson in communication, whether the individual is a friend, acquaintance, colleague, or boss. Beyond the need to understand and recognize nonverbal cues and verbal implications, leadership requires the ability to listen, think, and use direct eye-contact when engaging in conversation. Take the opportunity to talk to people who are older or younger than you. Reflecting upon those practice sessions, you will feel better prepared for face-to-face meetings, especially job interviews. RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS: Recognizing vicious cycles is helpful for teens to understand their actions, and most importantly, to free themselves from unhealthy people. As social creatures, we admit friends into our circle, and it’s perfectly natural; however, we should set conditions. Teens must ask themselves, “What qualities define friendship? And, if a situation crosses the boundary, will I accept the natural consequences, or confront the issue?” Friends must know your expectations and be allowed a chance to prove themselves worthy of your friendship. The integrity of self should never be degraded. But if you are surrounded by positive relationships, these can offer great happiness and support in the worst of times. SELF-RESPONSIBILITY: Actions and behaviors result in consequences that belong to no one other than one individual— you! Self-responsibility involves a wide range of areas, such as employment, finances, social media practices, consideration of others, and especially returning calls, reading the fine print, and taking the time to ask essential questions. Never leave a meeting wondering what, exactly, was decided, or remaining uninformed, and always investigate the conditions of a signed document.

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When an action or behavior is linked to money and livelihood, actions can result in serious consequences, whether positive or negative. The best part of selfresponsibility is accepting a mistake and learning from its outcome. SOCIAL MEDIA AND SAFETY: If we don’t use proper precautions, technology is a dangerous tool. Settings, for instance, should not include contact information such as your place of business and residence, phone numbers and e-mail addresses. Even with a “friends only” setting, hundreds of people are watching and witnessing every byplay of life. By not showing off possessions or explaining routines or locations, you can protect yourself as well as others in your living arrangement. Safety expands beyond what to do in cases of emergency. Proactive measures and practices are essential and need to be openly discussed. Most importantly, establish safety connections with friends and roommates. When it is possible, travel in a group. And, always let trusted individuals know an approximate time to expect you. GOAL SETTING: Day-to-day activities can be exhausting and overwhelming. To feel in control, consider establishing daily or weekly short- and long-term goals, such as determining how to balance work, friends, family, and time for self, or saving money to eliminate using a credit card. Through goals and set promises, young adults can feel good about accomplishments or gain selfconfidence from overcoming unexpected obstacles. CONTINUE TO ASK QUESTIONS While the need to be independent is a goal, remember, dear Teen, those who raised you are but a phone call away. Don’t forget to ask important questions about health and first aid, car maintenance, best practices, and tips about grocery shopping, removing stains, balancing budgets, and saving money. Older siblings and cousins can help as you think through ideas. Enjoy the days of home-cooked meals and the feeling of comfort when home. One day you will be appreciative of the effort your family made while you lived at home. The transition to adulthood will arrive soon enough!

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Horses & Veterans: Turning Tragedy into Triumph BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

May 11, 2017, the peace and tranquility of the Muddy Creek Greenway was tragically disturbed when three horses were allegedly shot by teenagers accused of stealing cars, then driving down a stretch of the 3-mile greenway. Russell Robinson, an Army veteran, is the owner of Cisco, who was injured along with another horse, Dixie; but sadly, the third horse, Jelly, was killed. For Russ, little did he know, but this was a defining moment, when in the midst of dealing with tragedy, he found his “way” in life and how to give back to two things he is very passionate about…horses and helping veterans. The road which led him to where he is today has been a long one, to say the least. Russ grew up in many places over his life, with his high school years spent in Durham, NC, and eventually joined the Army on October 17, 2000, with his first deployment to Iraq in September 2003. To say conditions were primitive is an understatement for Russ and his unit in the Ramadi/Fallujah area. “The war was early at the time I was there, so I slept on top of my Humvee, and baby wipes were our only source of hygiene for ten months, until we got a shower trailer with water. Canvas tents with wood-pallet floors arrived for our housing. It’s funny how this became my ‘normal,’ and everyone back home thought it was terrible,” recalled Russ. With his second deployment to Iraq in 2009-2010, Russ had the honor of accompanying the bodies of three soldiers from his unit to Baghdad as they made their way back to the States. Russell’s return home brought a disconnect with others, depression, PTSD, and a divorce from his wife of 10 years. War takes its toll on everyone in some way. Continuing on a path he thought was to be his calling, Russ finished his Masters in Theology. He believed he would become a military chaplain or a pastor, but with his personal life in shambles, he drifted from his faith. It was a brush with death that brought Russ back to his beliefs.

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After becoming a police officer in Statesville, NC, one night after his shift, Russ was nearly killed in a car wreck. The investigating officer who arrived at the crash “knew” there had to be a fatality, yet Russ lived, and his trauma physicians felt the only thing that saved him was is body armor, which he always wore in the car on his hour-long commute home. Knowing that there was no reason that he wasn’t killed, Russ had a different perspective and believed God had a specific purpose for him to fulfill. “After my accident, I would sit in my wheelchair in the pasture with the horses; and just being around them was therapeutic. My wife, Kristin, and I board our horses at a farm that backs up to the Muddy Creek Greenway. When the shootings of the horses happened, we lost our feeling of safety and security. The people who frequented the greenway were seen as a threat, since we had no understanding of who would do this or why. Kristin and I shed countless tears over the whole thing, especially the loss of Jelly,” Russ said. With his military service and what he had experienced ever present in his mind, coming home and not fitting in, and the incident at the greenway, a lot was weighing heavy on Russ. Little did Russ know, his “calling” was just around the corner. While at a BLM (Bureau of Land Management) mustang adoption event, Russ learned about the Mustang Heritage Foundation’s veteran program. The more Russ heard, the more he wanted to be involved with this organization. “After researching the group and talking with the program director, my heart was soaring and my mind at peace, knowing how unbelievably perfect God’s timing is, and my life’s mission is crystal clear: working with mustangs and veterans. With the help of the Mustang Heritage Foundation, military veterans choose a BLM mustang, wild and untouched by humans, and transform the horse in approximately six weeks from ‘wild to mild’ by working

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directly with the mustangs, while learning marketable vocational skills and gaining on-the-job training for a future occupation in the equine industry, if they choose. The mustangs are available for adoption for the veteran participant, or placed into private care,” commented Russ. The Mustang Heritage Foundation is passionate about getting the horses in government holding facilities adopted and pairing them with veterans, which helps both learn to trust and is great therapy for the veterans. This past October, Russ attended training in Texas, hopefully to bring the program, or a form of it, to our area. “I am anticipating getting to work on the details at the first of this year. It will be on a first-come, first-serve basis to veterans based on the availability. I won’t turn anyone away who is physically able to participate. Training with mustangs can be physically demanding, but I am confident, if their heart is in it, they can do it. The horses and veterans share a lot of similarities…horses were ripped from their herds and the soldiers taken out of war zones, both expected to fit into regular society after trauma. The horses we’ve been dealing with are 100 percent wild and just like soldiers: both have to be hyper-vigilant all the time. Put those two together—veterans and horses—and they understand each other immediately,” said Russ. For information on The Mustang Heritage Foundation, visit mustangheritagefoundation.org/.

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NEW CAMPUS, NEW BUILDING, NEW PROGRAM:

The Montessori School of Winston-Salem’s Adolescent Program Now Open

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fall The Montessori School of Winston-Salem, TMS, launched their new adolescent program, which includes the opening of their new North Campus and an expansion into grades seven through nine. This is an exciting milestone and a special time for TMS, as they realize a dream and vision that has been in place for several years. For 45 years, The Montessori School has been providing students in WinstonSalem with a unique educational experience. Though it has grown to include new programs and has had several different homes over the years, TMS has been on Holder Road since 2006. What has not changed is the commitment to provide an excellent Montessori education in a secure, nurturing environment. The Montessori Method

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The Montessori Method of learning was developed by Dr. Maria Montessori and began in 1897. Based on her scientific observations of children, Dr. Montessori developed a responsive approach to education centered on the specific and changing developmental needs of children as they grow. Each age-program is intentionally designed so that children and adolescents are able to be active participants in their own learning in an environment that is set up to be supportive and prepared for learning, and with responsive guidance from highly skilled teachers. The aim is to foster each child’s growth physically, socially, emotionally and cognitively. Some of the key elements that make this method unique include: • Multi-age classrooms (typically 3-yr. age spans); • Self-initiated and adult guided play and learning; • Sensory-focused education with the use of manipulatives; • A profound connection to nature; • Purposely designed materials, organized thoughtfully on the level of the child; • Extension of classroom environments into outdoor space, and using nature to educate; • Trained teachers observing and guiding students through the process of learning. JANUARY 2019

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The Montessori School of Winston-Salem at a Glance: THE TODDLER PROGRAM • For children eighteen months to three years old. • Developmental focuses include gross and fine motor skills, concentration, self-care (toileting), language acquisition, early socialization. • This program is offered five days a week, halfday or full-day. CHILDREN’S HOUSE PROGRAM • For children ages three to six years old. • Developmental focuses include fine and gross motor skills, physical independence/care of self, sensory enhancement, mathematics, language arts, geography, and culture. • This program is offered five days a week, halfday or full-day; but starting in kindergarten, all students are full-day. LOWER ELEMENTARY PROGRAM • For ages six to nine, or first to third grade. • Academic skills are strengthened through hands-on experiences, exploration, and research. It offers a fully integrated curriculum that includes language arts, math, art, geometry, biology, physical education, history, music, geography, Spanish and physical sciences. UPPER ELEMENTARY • For ages nine to 12, or fourth to sixth grade. • Builds upon the curriculum of the Lower Elementary with a deeper understanding of critical thinking, academic knowledge and skills, communication and personal expression, responsible independence, and social responsibility. • Both Elementary programs have a focus on community service. Understanding the need to contribute to the larger community becomes an important part of their education that is woven in throughout the year. THE ADOLESCENT PROGRAM The newest program is the Adolescent Program that began this fall by introducing a seventh-grade class. It is a natural progression from the program already being provided. This program will expand each year, adding a grade until they reach the full range of the program in the fall of 2020, with seventh- to ninth-grade students. Understanding Adolescents The Adolescent Program at The Montessori School of WinstonSalem was designed to help young adolescents grow socially, emotionally and academically during a transformative time in their lives. Head of School Jonathan Churn discussed the development of the program. “We designed this program, as we do all our programs, around the developmental needs of the students we’re serving. Adolescence is a time of tremendous change in life of young people, and one in which they are looking toward what their role will be in the adult world. While this is a time of great intellectual ability, in order to foster that, academic studies need to be tied to meaningful, substantial work that has value.” This understanding of adolescents led them to the program and space they developed.

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New North Campus It was imperative that this new program would allow adolescents to have authentic opportunities for meaningful work and studies. That was a key factor in the space that would serve as its home. Within walking distance to the main campus, the new North Campus of nearly 7 acres is a unique learning environment that provides these students with the space they need to feel independent from their childhood. Churn continued, “The goal was to create a safe, cocoon-like environment that is a safe place, set up to provide meaningful connections to the outside world.” The land on the North Campus is key to the program, as it provides opportunities for elements of a working farm that will support the application of the biological and earth science studies and avenues for micro-economy ventures— another distinguishing aspect of a Montessori Adolescent program. The original farmhouse and barn remain on the property and connect it to its history and serve other key aspects of the program. The house serves as a home-like environment to create for students a sense of security and belonging, while providing authentic opportunities for community living. The new building on the North Campus will house several multiuse spaces, including a community room, language arts lab, mathematics lab, science lab, and outdoor classroom. The use of large, moveable doors and windows allows you to get a sense of the amazing connection to nature that this space evokes. An Integrated Approach to Education through Micro economies Education is key when it comes to the Adolescent program. The academic curriculum is comprehensive, responsive and integrated through project work, individual studies and realworld experiences. The scope and sequence of curriculum prepare students not only for rigorous high school studies, but nurture characteristics such as love of learning, critical thinking, and collaboration and communication skills that are critical for success in the 21st century. One of the ways this is done is through small-business ventures, known as micro-economies. Often stemming from work on the land, the real small-business ventures that the students create are guided by the teachers and connected to the local community. The current seventh-grade class has chosen to start planting and tending an organic garden and to raise chickens. Guided by highly trained teachers, they have used a variety of social skills and have applied all areas of the fully integrated curriculum to begin this process. They have

made connections with two local farms, are researching and designing the processes and equipment needed, gaining an understanding of the science related to the plants and animals, and working within a budget to reach their goals. One student named Davis maintained, “It’s really fun! I am really excited about the chickens, and I hope one day we could even have pigs.” It is this enthusiasm that is generated by working with microeconomies that keeps the adolescents interested in learning. Cheryl Raymond, Director of Elementary and Adolescent Programs, talked about this integrated approach. “This age group needs relevance to stay connected to learning. The staff and teachers are able to help the student pull in the science, math, and language skills they need to learn and connect them to the hands-on projects they are excited about. In the process, they meet and exceed standards for education and learn so much more about what it means to be part of a community.” This exemplifies what Dr. Montessori meant when she said the method was meant to give children an education for life.

students to help serve the development of the school’s youngest population while helping them learn a little about themselves As time goes on, they would also like to participate in new project with Second Harvest Food Bank, with which the school has had a long-standing relationship. They hope this will help them serve the community once the gardens and chickens are producing food. The Montessori School of Winston-Salem is located at 6050 Holder Road in Clemmons. If you would like more information about their school and programs, visit their website at wsmontessori. org. You can also visit their school during their open house, scheduled for February 10th from 2-4PM.

Connecting to the Community and Its History Another important element of the Adolescent Program is connecting, in a substantive way, to the community. This is done in a variety of ways, including the micro-economies, working and learning alongside local experts and getting to know the people who owned the land before them. These connections provide the students a real sense of the history of the land they now call home, and they allow them to see how they fit into the bigger picture of community and society as a whole. They are also learning to connect to the community through service. One community service project will be working with the toddlers on the school’s main campus under the guidance of the toddler teachers. This experience is tied directly to their health studies on human development and allows the

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Birth Defects Prevention BY JAMIE LOBER

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Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has proclaimed that January is “Birth Defects Prevention Month.” Their take-home message is that not all birth defects can be prevented, but there are steps you can take, such as managing health conditions and adopting healthy behavior, that can increase your chance of a healthy baby. No woman should go through the pregnancy journey alone. “Have a medical home that is a regular doctor that you see to stay on top of chronic illnesses, or even things you may not be aware of, such as [that] an acne medication you are taking could cause a birth defect,” said Michaela Penix, Director of Maternal Child Health and Government Affairs with the March of Dimes in Winston-Salem. The doctor can help you plan your pregnancy, or prevent one if you do not want to have a baby in the future. One easy thing you can do is take a multivitamin that contains at least 400 micrograms of folic acid daily. “The March of Dimes was one of the champions to make sure products are fortified with folic acid, and their research shows that it can prevent neural tube defects by up to 70 percent,” declared Penix. Being educated about medications you are taking can make a difference. “There are some medicines people may not know could harm a developing fetus, which is especially important if you are not necessarily planning your pregnancy— and we know that over half of pregnancies in North Carolina are unplanned,” Penix revealed. Of course, you want to be open with your doctor about your health history and medications you are taking. If you have a family history of a certain health condition, it is a good idea to screen for it. “You can be your own advocate and ask for tests to be done for you and your baby,” advised Penix. There are many great tools out there to manage health burdens. “You want to look out for things like high blood pressure and preeclampsia. Low-dose aspirin therapy can help reduce the risk of having a baby born preterm and you going into full eclampsia,” Penix said. Pay attention to your body and continue to report anything that feels unusual. “If mom has had a previous preterm birth, there is a

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therapy called 17P, or progesterone shots, that you can talk to your doctor about to see if it is a good fit for you to prevent preterm birth when you are pregnant again,” assured Penix. Lifestyle choices can always be taken into account, such as not smoking, eating well and staying active. Our state report card just came out, and while the C we earned is not quite worthy of celebrating, we have improved. “What is great, is that in Forsyth in previous years we had an F and this year we moved into a D,” said Penix. One of the biggest misconceptions women have is that preterm birth just happens and nothing can be done about it. That is not the reality, as there is so much women can do before and after pregnancy to improve their health and avoid preterm birth. “Preterm birth is the leading cause of infant mortality and a huge contributing factor to special needs and developmental delays in children,” emphasized Penix. Preterm birth is officially defined as any birth before 37 weeks of pregnancy. If you are thinking about conceiving, try to think ahead. “When you plan it out, you can really work towards being your healthiest and in a healthy place in life in general,” observed Penix. Finding yourself pregnant unexpectedly can bring on undue stress, which is never good for moms or babies. The medical community is hopeful that we can continue to make strides. The March of Dimes has invested in prematurity research centers across the country to try to identify more potential causes and ways of determining a woman’s risk. “We have been able to do some research around the human genome and genes that might be associated, and we are also doing some around the vaginal microbiome which are the natural bacteria and other microorganisms that live inside the vagina and the differences between a woman at risk for preterm birth and a woman who is not,” said Penix. There is hope that there may be a screening tool out there in years to come. “Hopefully one day it will be something as simple as a vaginal swab similar to a pap smear that could help determine a woman’s risk for preterm birth,” he declared.

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in the digital world gratifies the user with any possible want in a single click. Preteens and teens may be limited to exploring the Internet through parental controls and settings yet, technology has a new and problematic loophole. A staggering 5 billion comprises the cost of online ads geared toward the audience of “Digital Natives and “ eneration , ranging from young adults and children born between 5 and . Why? They are comfortable and well-networked on the ease of accessing all forms of technology. They also have inﬂuence and purchasing power to spend not ust Dad and Mom’s money, but their own. ’Tweens and teens are at a stage of development when parents are providing them the opportunity to make decisions conse uently, technology also has opened the door to secrets. very decade has its list of “controversial books that divulge current-day problems. In 5 , there was D alinger’s novel, Catcher in the Rye, which may be one of the best books written for today’s adolescents, aged and older. Twenty years later, Go Ask Alice was released and still maintains the educational value and positive message for teens. A controversial book not only pushes the reader to reﬂection and thinking, but engenders, if openly discussed, healthy and informative conversation. In the st Century, where once labels such as “P - , “young adult, or “teen literature had defined expectations of ageappropriateness, the boundaries have indeed changed. While most parents would never deny their child the opportunity to read a book of intrigue or mystery, teen literature’s premise has now transformed everyday fictional situations into scenes of abuse, depression, and death, or the hope of survival through extraordinary circumstances. The difficulty lies in the fact that most novels written for -yearolds are no less sexy than those for adults, and include dark topics such as kidnapping, rape, incest, and brutal beatings. Despite recommended age levels, children who are capable readers, perhaps as young as eight, may choose a book out of interest, yet find the graphic nature of the story well beyond their comfort level. These books may be found not merely as e-books, but in school or public libraries therefore, there is empowerment in knowing your child’s selections. ust as children have celebrated fictitious book characters at all ages during their youth, preteens and teens have gravitated toward the need to find answers. At a time of bodily changes, openly discussing personal feelings can be awkward. The alternative solution for teens in the midst of puberty is to devour information. ecretly, a one-click purchase has simplified the need.

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But the stark reality of teen literature should not be prohibited. While educating ourselves about their dark selections, parents can learn why teens are interested in particular authors and titles by reading summaries and reviews, many of which are criti ued by students. One website, commonsensemedia.org, provides detailed information about “Media and verything in Between. nder the headline of “Books, ratings are available to measure the minimum-age content of positive messages and role-model presence, as well as violence, sex, language, drugs and alcohol as developmentally appropriate. This is a vital tool to reference books, apps, video games, and websites, and is designed to inform parents, educators, and interested readers. The realism expressed in teen literature may not favor a parent’s feelings regarding a healthy relationship or what defines moral decisions. imilar to your teen’s complicated life, everyday technology opens a door for them to make choices following a protagonist is only one avenue to resolve situational conﬂicts. Despite the difficulty of talking openly about drug abuse, rape, and a relationship that re uires sexual acts, an adult’s answers can help readers think, define their expectations and feelings on how to confront challenging problems. The maturity your teen shows by answering uestions may be surprising. ntering the world of teen literature will open the door for parents, and allow a peek inside at a variety of challenging and alarmingly mature circumstances. tart today uggest a title that carries an important message and recommend discussing it together As a timesaver, parents can consider listening to the audiobook during their morning commute. As udy Blume once wrote, “ aving the freedom to read and the freedom to choose is one of the best gifts my parents ever gave me. Today, the need to be well-informed provides instructive empowerment

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Best Kept Secret in the Sky BY TABATHA RENEGAR

Civil Air Patrol. Chances are that those three words are not familiar to you. And that’s okay Not many people know what the Civil Air Patrol is or have had experience with it, but once you do, it’s hard not to be impressed. The Beginning Dating back to World War II, the Civil Air Patrol CAP was established ust six days before Pearl arbor, on Dec. st, . Civilian pilots ﬂew their private aircraft from the Atlantic coast, patrolling America’s shores for erman -boats and enemy subs. The need arose from the fact that most of Army Air Corps aircraft were deployed to urope, Africa, and the Pacific. These efforts of the CAP’s civilian pilots were recogni ed and, after the close of the war, CAP Patrol transitioned from being part of the nited tates Army to the newly formed Air orce. It was incorporated as a non-profit organi ation of volunteers and declared to be of a benevolent nature, never again to be involved in direct combat activities. ince that time, Civil Air Patrol has carried out three congressionally mandated ob ectives emergency services including search and rescue operations , aerospace education for youth and the general public, and cadet programs for teenage youth. Your Local Squadron Right here in the Triad, you will find the North Carolina Wing, Winstonalem Composite uadron, located

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at North tate Aviation Building at the Winston- alem Airport. The W uadron is one of uadrons of the NC Wing, which is part of the nited tates Civil Air Patrol, a volunteer organi ation with over , youth and adult members. Open to both boys and girls as young as , the W uadron is comprised of over members, ranging in age from to 5. The uadron meets every Thursday night. Activities at the meetings include emergency services and search and rescue training, physical training, aerospace education, teambuilding and ethics studies. Prospective new cadets are re uired to attend three meetings before committing to oin. Along with the meetings, Cadets are re uired to complete online course work and to participate in scheduled activities, such as those which foster character development. During the summer, there are ncampment opportunities for cadets wishing to achieve the rank of Cadet econd ieutenant. or a look inside Winston- alem’s Composite uadron, I had a conversation with Cadet econd ieutenant Alexandra Mallison about her experience as a member of Civil Air Patrol. Alexandra is a th grader at Atkins igh chool. How long have you been a member of the CAP, and how did you ﬁrst learn about it? I oined in August of . I had been to an Air how with my family in and, although I don’t really remember it, the CAP was there. After I attended pace Camp in Alabama and reali ed I had an interest in Aviation, my parents reminded me about the CAP, and I started going to meetings and oined. What was most appealing to you about the CAP? In the beginning, it was aviation, and that’s why I continued to

attend, but I stayed for the leadership opportunities and because of the people. It is nice to be with like-minded individuals who have similar interests. What has been your most rewarding experience so far? It is hard to choose between light Academy and the ncampment at t. Pickett, irginia, but I will say ncampment. I was selected as Cadet irst ergeant out of over applicants and given four months to complete a lot of prep work for my 5-Cadet uadron. I had to learn to balance yelling with motivating Cadets while also being immersed in team building and education. At the start of the week, one Cadet was having a hard time ad usting and was very homesick. I took the time to talk to her about her feelings and to ensure her that she could push through. The next day, she was much better and was really beginning to shine. he told me at the end of the week that she never could have done it if I hadn’t been there. What advice would you give to a young person who is considering joining the CAP?

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A Year’s Reflection on a New Perspective

I look ahead to , I can’t help reflecting on this same time last year. I was looking forward to the New Year then, as well. owever, hit my family hard, right off the bat, and it all centered on my oldest son. irst, he contracted the menacing flu virus that engulfed of the 5 states. News agencies each week reported historic records of children dying of the virus. My son had gotten the flu shot, as we always do, but he was still very sick for two long, agoni ing weeks. In addition to trying to nurse him back to health, my family had to be extra careful not to catch the virus ourselves. ots of hand washing and saniti er was being applied during that time. The worry over him, especially when he carried a fever for the ma ority of the time, was tremendous. ortunately, he recovered fully, and our family, especially my wife and I, were exhausted, but happy nonetheless. Then, two weeks later, my same son was involved in a car accident, where he ran off the side of the road, down an embankment and into a patch of woods. is car finally stopped when he collided head-on with a large Poplar tree. It was a rainy, wet morning and he had reached over to retrieve a acket out of the back seat. A brief second, a momentary distraction, and that’s all it took to run off the shoulder of the road and get caught up in the mud, sliding downward before crashing into the woods below. When he called me on his cell phone ust after six in the morning and spoke the words, “Dad, I hit a tree, my heart stopped in my chest. I immediately asked him if he was okay, and miraculously he had only sustained a busted lip, even though his airbag hadn’t deployed. When I arrived at the site, I saw the front of the car wrapped around the tree. My stomach went up into my throat as I paused there in the pouring rain. I reflected back momentarily on the time when my best friend in high school had had a similar accident however, he came out of it with

severe in uries that sidelined him in the hospital and at home for six months to fully recover. I looked over at my son standing in the woods, rain-soaked, muddy, in shock at the mangled mess that was his first car. The police officer later told me, after arriving on the scene, that since the airbag didn’t deploy, had he not had his seatbelt on, we’d be looking at a much grimmer scene. e was right. Back in the day my friend wrecked, seatbelts weren’t the law, and subse uently, he wasn’t wearing one, which contributed greatly to his in uries. As that week came to an end and my family and I were individually getting ready for church, I prayed privately, “ ord, what a terrible way to start the New Year. Almost immediately, I had this warm feeling come over me, and I felt an epiphany that, on the contrary, this had been a great way to start the New Year I reali ed what this meant. In a country where perfectly healthy people were dying of the ﬂu virus, my son had recovered completely. And unlike my best friend decades earlier, when my son hit that tree, he lived to walk away from it practically unscathed. I’d say that’s clearly a glass-halffull, indeed Although these events were difficult and extremely stressful, in the end, I garnered a different perspective after my prayer. I’m so thankful that I could see this perspective through the eyes of someone who was fortunate. I have a boundless love for my son, as I always did yet that day, I got a taste of what could have been. I’m happy to say the rest of my year was, by comparison, less dramatic. owever, the memory of the start of and what I learned from it will stay with me for a long time. Parents will understand what I mean here. I hope in the New Year all your events are good ones, but if they aren’t, may you also be blessed to see the world through the same “fortunate lens as a result of a positive outcome.

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is hard for me to believe it is the beginning of a new year. I mean, where did go? I know I am old and, as such, it is what older people say, but I really feel that, as months go, I should be basking in the summer sun instead of wondering if it’s going to snow. I decided to look back at my calendar to see if I could determine what made the days and months pass by so uickly. It was no surprise once I started ﬂipping through it to find my family was front and center. As I looked at my different notations, so many wonderful memories came to mind. Moving to be in the same town as two of our three daughters was a wonderful choice and having the beach so close doesn’t hurt. The downside is that not all three of them live here, but it isn’t a bad drive to see our eldest and, based on my calendar, we did it fairly often. I think an added bonus is that when we lived minutes away, we’d go and come home the same day. Now, whenever we go, we get a longer visit in. I learn so much about my grandchildren by being with them in their day-to-day lives, and not ust for special events. Those are the times when my talkative grands really engage in conversations, and I learn about what they are doing in school, what their new likes and dislikes are, what activities they are involved in and their feelings about any and all things that come up in conversation. Communication in whatever form you choose is so important. I want my grandchildren to know I am always there for them, even when I may be thousands of miles away. Our two-year-old granddaughter, even though I see her almost every day, reminds me to keep in touch by getting her mom’s phone and texting me. I will hear the text message tone on my phone and look to see “ .s y s, or something similar, and know exactly who it’s from. It prompts me to call my daughter’s phone and talk to my sweet granddaughter. ince there is my

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picture next to my name, she knows exactly who she’s texting or calling she also does this to other family members. Yes, all my grandkids are brilliant, and no, I am not in the least bit biased. o, staying busy obviously keeps the days moving uickly, but the wonderful memories they invoke are worth it. Now, as it is the first of the year, resolutions come to mind. I will put the usual ones on my list lose weight exercise more eat healthier the same ones that I have written and ignored for years, but who knows, maybe this year... sure, right? Anyway, this year I will resolve to get more sleep I am a terrible night owl get more involved in my community and church do more writing, and open myself up to new experiences. ow many I will achieve is up for debate, as I tend to be a master procrastinator. One thing I didn’t list, because it really isn’t a resolution, but a wish, or hope, or desire. I want to fill my calendar with even more time spent with family. I am never happier than when I am surrounded by them the what and where don’t matter. Whether you make resolutions or not, I wish everyone health and happiness, time to spend with family and friends, time to pursue something that brings you a feeling of oy and contentment, and time to ust en oy life and living. appy New Year to One and All

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BMX Racer Justin Posey Brings his Message Home BY MARTIE EMORY

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personally experienced both the highs and lows of his sport—BMX racing—WinstonSalem native Justin Posey loves sharing his story around the community where he grew up. As a bonus, he’s inspiring kids and teens in the area with some powerful life lessons he’s learned along the way. As the marketing coordinator for USA BMX Foundation—a non-profit that provides educational resources to youthteaching professionals—Justin speaks to local school groups with a message to “Fail Better.” “My message is based on the fact that you are going to get knocked down and fail many times,” says Justin. “It’s about how you bounce back and keep trying to be successful in what you are passionate about.” The foundation offers incredible programs to schools and after-school programs across the country. Even though he currently resides in Phoenix, Arizona, Justin is dedicated to giving back to Winston-Salem every chance he can via youth clinics and school speeches. Honoring his BMX racing and community outreach, he was recently inducted into the Reagan High School Hall of Fame. When he’s interacting with local student groups (he’s spoken at around 25 elementary-, middle-, and afterschool programs), Justin loves seeing familiar faces. “I talk about the hard times and injuries I’ve had to overcome during my BMX career,” he explains. “It was so cool to speak to the elementary and middle schools I attended.” As a BMX scholar-athlete, Justin was fortunate to attend college on a cycling scholarship. He was blessed to compete both for his school and his country at the world level, while still earning his degree. “The flexibility of BMX being a collegiate sport allowed me to flourish as a professional while chipping away at a business degree,” he says.

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While a major biking accident (requiring back, shoulder, and dental surgeries) kept him from participating in the 2016 Olympics in Rio, Justin does plan on making a run for the 2020 games in Tokyo, Japan. “I would love a second chance at the trials,” he says. “I feel I gained experience and knowledge during the 2016 trials that will be beneficial next time around.” Believing his experience with injury and set-back truly opened his eyes to many things, Justin speaks to students about how his adversity made him so very thankful for family and friends. “You see who means the most to you and who cares to help you heal, both physically and emotionally. I believe it truly tested my will to succeed, and my goal is to show these kids that no matter how hard life gets, you have to keep fighting for what you want. You will fail along the way and come up short more times than not, but that is what makes it sweeter in the end,” he explains. One of Justin’s favorite inspirational quotes is from NBA player and motivator Dwyane Wade: “I have

failed more times than I have not, and that is what makes success sweeter.” “That really resonates with me,” says Justin. “For the kids, I try to relate it to not making a team (basketball, football, etc.) or getting a bad grade on a test. I emphasize to keep trying no matter what.” When he’s home in North Carolina, Justin loves revisiting the Tanglewood track, which brings back such good memories of learning how to ride and spending time with his family and friends. Justin enjoys helping with clinics as often as possible, and hopes more and more kids will get to feel the joy he experiences every single day. “In a sport that has taken me all around the world, I love seeing young kids start and have fun. The grin on their faces riding the track for the first time never gets old,” he smiles. Learn more about the group’s outstanding programs at usabmxfoundation.org. JANUARY 2019

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Sacrificing Childhood: s ie it l a e R k r o w e m o BY STEPHANIE HELSABECK, M.ED.

many homes with elementary school-age children, a struggle ensues on many evenings, if not on every one the struggle to complete homework and for what? This practice is so often taken for granted, even by the parents and teachers who are concerned about its impact on young children. Is this practice even supported by data, or is this a tradition entrenched into our assumptions about what schooling should entail?

A look at the evidence from research on this sub ect re uires that wellconducted and poorly conducted research be identified in order to come to appropriate conclusions. arris Cooper is regarded as the country’s leading expert on this sub ect, and he has found no evidence that any amount of homework improves the academic performance of elementary students. The fact that it doesn’t improve academic performance is only one aspect to consider. There are many costs that are worth accounting for when evaluating this ineffective tradition in our schools. omework places a burden on parents. Many mothers and fathers work outside the home and return each evening from their obs to serve as homework monitors and or tutors. Often parents, even those collegeeducated, cannot help their child with their homework because of the different methods used in schools today to teach sub ects such as math. This leads to confusion and frustration for the parent and child. A parent-child relationship is fraught with enough difficulty without giving the parent the role of teacher as well omework is stressful for children. Many parents can testify that their children

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are often frustrated by homework and become weepy, stressed out, and fed up with the whole thing. It is as if children have to pull a double shift. They are sitting still in school all day, only to return home and keep going with the drudgery It is exhausting for many The impact on children is real, and it is a negative impact, with no real evidence that the endeavor is worthwhile.

omework often has an adverse impact on intellectual curiosity. Most children hate homework and put off doing it as long as possible. omework is the most reliable way to extinguish the passion for learning. When children are truly intrigued by a good lesson and given freedom, they naturally seek out more knowledge, but when learning is forced, the motivation evaporates.

Not only does homework have a negative impact on parents and children, but on the family as a whole. amily time should consist of relaxed, constructive interactions, but often homework consumes this important time together with parents and other family members. In one study of fifth graders, more than one third stated they get tense when working with their parents on homework. npleasant interactions, such as yelling and crying, happen when the assignment is challenging or unclear, or the child is a struggling student. In many families, the invasion of homework into family time has disrupted relationships and denied parents and children many of the pleasures of family togetherness.

An hour spent doing homework is an hour that could be used in a more positive way. There is one less hour to be with ust family, learn in nontraditional ways, read for pleasure, sociali e, get some exercise, get some rest, and take time to be a child It is interesting that in the mids the American ducational Research Association released an official policy statement that said, in part “Whenever homework crowds out social experience, outdoor recreation, and creative activities, and whenever it usurps time that should be devoted to sleep, it is not meeting the basic needs of children and adolescents. Because many schools no longer respect the role of the family and activities families do together, it is up to the parents to take back that family time and protect it as the sacred time it is. In next month’s issue of Forsyth Family, ideas for taking back family time will be suggested. Parents must protect their children’s childhood, because with all the focus on testing in North Carolina, many sacrifices to children’s academic, social, physical and emotional development are being made. Your children are depending on you to make informed decisions to help them develop into well-rounded individuals, prepared to be a positive part of our society. Childhood is an important time in the life of your child. Don’t allow your child to miss out

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Guardian ad Litem (GAL)

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“We do what we do because we believe that some things are important enough for us to take Author nknown a stand!” That statement exemplifies the calling of the volunteers who act as the voices for the children within the court system. The orsyth County uardian ad item Program becomes involved whenever children are brought into the court system. Their team of volunteers, court advocates, and designated attorney partner to help children when, through no fault of their own, their world turns upside down due to family domestic violence, neglect, substance abuse, or mental-health issues. By definition, a guardian ad litem is “a guardian appointed to protect the interests of a minor or incompetent in a particular matter. The guardian at litem represents the interests of a child during court proceedings. e or she stands for the children. The importance of these dedicated volunteers reaches far beyond ust a day in court in many cases. “These are not only advocates for the children many of these volunteers have long-term impact and inﬂuence on the children’s’ lives, shared herita Cain, uardian ad item District Administrator. “They represent the most consistent adult presence in the lives of many of these children. They are the anchors that a child can rely on to be there for them when others who support them come and go. Currently, the orsyth County uardian ad item Program A has approximately active cases representing children from birth through years of age. ach county in North Carolina has its own agency with a team of trained uardian ad item volunteers. Currently, orsyth County has active volunteers with training more an on-going initiative. The

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years. In addition to the administrative staff and team of volunteers, redrick vans serves as the A attorney advocate. The A volunteer serves solely “in the best interest of the child. e or she attends court in place of the child. Ready to volunteer? olunteering training is offered three times a year. olunteers come from all walks of life no special background is needed, ust a non- udgmental, non-biased, and open-minded attitude coupled with a desire to help children in varied situations. olunteers attend an orientation session. Orientation for the next uardian ad item training is Thursday, anuary rd, , at 5 p.m. Class sessions will begin on aturday, anuary th, , at am. or more information on the uardian ad item Program or the training, contact herita Cain or Melissa Bell at . Training classes are typically held on aturdays to avoid work conﬂicts. olunteers complete an application, go through a background check and screening process, attend 5 hours of in-class training, and do 5 hours of on-line training. Once complete, the new uardian ad item volunteers are then sworn in by a udge. or additional information or to find out more about volunteering, contact the orsyth County uardian ad item Program at . . 5 , via fax . . , or visit their website olunteerfor A .org . Their office is located in the orsyth County all of ustice N. Main treet, third ﬂoor Room . olunteers are needed the children are waiting.

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17 Observations from Traveling Across NC BY J. WARREN STEEN

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I am asked this thought-provoking uestion “What are you learning in your travels across North Carolina? ince our philanthropy at the Rye oundation is currently involved in pro ects which span 5 towns and cities, maybe I am ualified to offer an answer. In meetings from endersonville to ertford and from Cashiers to Caswell Beach, here are some things I have heard and observed. Partnerships are thriving, and many involve local churches cooperating with civic clubs and nonprofits to provide backpacks for children and hot meals for adults. Church signs are still in vogue. My favorite message appeared at a utheran church in ickory and stated, “Today’s test is tomorrow’s testimony. Another sign, spotted in Wayne County, offered four words “ eavenly orecast Reign orever. Two of my favorite streets are Blessing Way in egacy Drive in Advance.

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The statewide transformation from tobacco to technology is slow and painful, especially in rural counties. Perhaps our greatest resource is the state’s 5 community colleges, which offer ob training and career development to over , students. In hundreds of conversations with business leaders and philanthropists, the most often-used word is “transparency. There is much criticism of the so-called North Carolina ducation ottery. It reminds me of the Broadway musical, “Promises, Promises. To escape all the negative news, citi ens seem to be doing two things watching allmark movies and meeting friends at their local YMCA or coffee shop.

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“But you have been washed and made holy, and you have received God’s approval...” ~ I Corinthians 6:11 Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough? Maybe you think the next door neighbor plays football better than you and the girl who sits in front of you in school is smarter than you. If you have brothers and or sisters, you might even think that Mom and Dad love them more than they love you. od made you to be YO . e knew all about you before you were born. e knows how many hairs you have on your head. e knows you better than you know yourself. e doesn’t want you to be ust like your brother or sister or neighbor or favorite superhero. e wants you to be YO . And this is true, too od wants you to be the B T that you can be. Being who od made you to be starts when you ask esus to come live in your heart. You ask him to wash away all the bad stuff inside you and make you clean and new. ven with esus loving you and

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living in you, you will still make mistakes. ust like your mom hugs you if you come in all bloody and dirty after crashing your bike, od keeps on loving you after you mess up. The Bible says that od forgives and forgets. It’s like he throws your sin the bad things you do into the deepest ocean. lug glug glug. Down they go. When something is well-made or does the ob it’s supposed to do it might get a “seal of approval. Maybe Mom or Dad can show you something in the house that has a seal or stamp of approval on it. The verse above says that od has put his stamp of approval on you. That’s pretty awesome It’s his way of reminding you, “You’re doing fine ang in there I’m with you A new year has ust begun. This would be a good time to say “Yes to od. Thank him for his love and ask him to walk with you all year long.

Devotion: 365 BY TAMI RUMFELT

always get a little sad each year when we take down the Christmas tree and pack up the ornaments and decorations. Christmas is my favorite time of the year and saying goodbye to the oliday season is bittersweet. It’s nice to reclaim my living room and to see an end to the chaos of Christmas, but it’s usually with a bit of melancholy that we return the seasonal trimmings to the attic. ere’s the cool thing, though as Christians, Christmas is really not a once-a-year thing. It’s not something that we spend a month celebrating and then put away for another year. ven though the world may have turned it into something else, the whole point of Christmas is to celebrate the birth of esus Christ. Well, isn’t that something worth celebrating every day? Christmas gifts are given to represent the gifts given to esus by the “wise men, and as a reminder that Christ is od’s gift to our dying world. But, shouldn’t we exchange gifts of our love and time all year long as a reﬂection of is love?

An Important Resolution

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the time of year that many of us are thinking about making changes, taking on new challenges, and

improving our lives. As you are thinking about which new things you’d like to take on this year, would you consider adding caring for your pastor and his family to your list? It’s easy to agree that our pastors and ministry leaders need our care and support, but it’s also easy to forget to make them a priority amid the busyness of life. o, as you are making your plans for the New Year, spend some time brainstorming ways you can regularly and intentionally show your pastor appreciation. If you need some ideas, visit our website, www.energi eministries.com.

Then there are all of those festive Christmas carols, anthems re oicing the coming of the newborn ing. When you think about it, though, aren’t Christmas carols another version of praise and worship songs, not unlike those we sing along with at church and on the radio? In December we appoint our homes with decorations, nativity scenes, lights, and trees. But, our homes should be dedicated to the ord and a beacon of is light throughout the year, shouldn’t they? When the angel announced esus’ birth to the shepherds, he didn’t say. “I bring you good news of great oy that will be celebrated once a year on December 5th. No, the ood News of his birth, life, death, and resurrection should give us great oy all of the time.

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My Grace-Full Life

My Word of the Year For

the last two years, I’ve made it a practice to adopt a word of the year a word that is a focal point for growing closer to od and learning more about the love of esus. In , my word was “ elah, a word found in the Psalms that means “pause, praise, and pray. And in , my word was “timing, a word chosen to focus on od’s timing, not mine. Both words have had a tremendous impact on me in their respective years, as I spent time studying and applying them to my life. I began praying about my Word of the Year back in October. The word I’ve chosen is going to be a challenging one. It’s a word most people struggle over an easy word to give, but even easier one to take back. In

, my word is “forgive.

The decision to embrace “forgive and take up what I’m calling “The orgiveness Pro ect is one I’m both excited for and challenged by. But I feel the oly pirit prompting me to dive deep into the word, and I strongly suspect that I’m going to come out at the other end of with a brand new understanding of it. As of now, my understanding of forgiveness includes the basics. I know I’m a sinner who is forgiven because of grace, not because of anything I’ve done to earn it phesians - . I know we are to forgive as our ather has forgiven us phesians . I know esus told us to forgive seventy times seven Matthew - 5 . And I understand the forgiveness of the Prodigal on uke 5 - . I understand what forgiveness is supposed to look like, but like many, I struggle to forgive when I feel I am wronged. When people hurt us and disappoint us, the temptation to throw up a wall and be guarded is so great. We can give lipservice to the concept of forgiveness, but

it’s the aftertaste of bitterness that gives evidence that the forgiveness we claim hasn’t uite processed. And when I think of bitter hearts, I can’t help but think of The Phantom in The Phantom of the Opera. I know, not exactly a Bible story. But the Phantom is a perfect illustration of a bitter heart and how it can destroy us. The character is a man of great talent Madame iry “ e’s a genius. e’s an architect and designer, he’s a composer and magician...a genius, monsieur owever, because of his past and a life spent in darkness, he is full of bitter anger. is hardened heart overshadows his greatness, and in the words of Christine, “It’s in your soul that the true distortion lies. ow many of us live that way? Chained to memories that hold us captive and prevent us from living to our true potential? ow many hearts are full of anger and bitterness at od for allowing pain? Bitterness is an ugly emotion that infects everything, if we let it. ebrews 5 says, “See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no ‘root of bitterness’ springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become deﬁled.” I know the danger of living in bitterness. And while there are past situations I’ve learned to let go of, I can’t say in all honesty that it’s based on the Biblical point of view of forgiveness. My prayer for is to develop the kind of Christ-like forgiveness that offers restoration to relationships, rather than leaving them in shattered ruins. I’ve made myself a note to return to this topic in December . I have no doubt it’s going to be a challenging and rewarding year. And I look forward to sharing with you what I know I will learn. ntil then, I’m praying that you have a blessed . Pray often, riends, and let

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BY DENISE HEIDEL

od guide and direct you to is great plan and purpose for your life.

If you choose to adopt a word of the year for yourself, I encourage you to pray about it. od will undoubtedly put a word in front of you that is exactly what you need for your own spiritual growth and development. ome suggestions for keeping your word in mind throughout the year include Match your passwords to your word of the year. ave your word imprinted on a charm for a bracelet or necklace. Create a new wallpaper for your phone, iPad, and or computer that reminds you of your word. Choose a Bible verse that reﬂects your word of the year and memori e it. Choose a Bible verse for every month of the year that refers to your word and put them in your calendar. elect a couple of books based on your word and study throughout the year.

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Be Mindful – Be Prayerful

have a friend who refuses to go to the gym in anuary. e doesn’t have any particular aversion to gyms, except in this first month of each year. “It’s far too crowded with all the New Year Resolutions vying for e uipment, he retorts. “It’s one thing to battle people it’s another to challenge their resolutions. They are not so determined in ebruary. I never admitted to him that I was one of those resolute “ anuary gym-goers crowding his space. Welcome, Tis the season for making and perhaps breaking New Year Resolutions. We are eager to see transformations of various kinds in the coming months. I was in middle school at a summer camp when someone asked me how often I ate. “None of your business is what I wanted to reply, but believing it to be a rhetorical uestion, I maintained my composure and simply said, “Three times a day. Most of us in first-world countries have the privilege to eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner. is second uestion was striking “You feed your body three times a day, but how often do you feed your soul? ow many times a day do you sit with od in prayer and study the criptures? The uestion has stayed with me for years. ow often do I feed my soul? ow often do I tend to the oly pirit residing in me? Why do I so easily prioriti e my physical needs above my spiritual well-being?

I found a uote on Pinterest that reads “Your diet is not only what you eat. It is what you watch, what you listen to, what you read, and the people you hang around with. Be mindful of the things you put into your body emotionally, physically and spiritually. I love this advice. We live in a cra y, chaotic world that displaces any natural inclinations we may have toward mindfulness. If we are to be of good health physically, emotionally and spiritually, then we must be mindful and prayerful. We must be attentive to the needs within us and around us. Mother rances Dominica writes, “There is no limit to the ways in which od may make himself known. At every turn in our lives, there can be a meeting place with od. . . . We have only to want him, now at this moment and at any moment in our lives, and he is there, wanting us, longing to welcome us, to forgive us all that has gone before that has separated us from him. This anuary, I challenge you all to a season of mindfulness and of prayer. et aside time each day to devote to the light of od shining within you. ust as you feed your body, feed the fire of Christ’s love within, that it may burn bright through your daily life and shine for the world. Cultivate a practice of prayer and be transformed by the od who comes, faithfully.

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Mommy

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“Mommy, why don’t you ever come to eat lunch with me at the school?” “Mommy, why can’t you volunteer for all my field trips?” These are all questions

working mothers have heard at least once, often many times. According to the US Department of Labor, 70% of mothers with children under the age of 18 work in some capacity, and 75% of those women are working full-time. Despite the overwhelming statistics that working mothers are a normal and necessary part of our society, we still feel a massive dose of guilt over missing all the little things.

But why is it that we have all of this guilt? And how can we work to reduce it? A huge factor in causing the guilt is that we live in a society that still pays women 79 cents to every dollar a man makes, and creates an unrealistic expectation that women are still in charge of the home. In reality, many mothers not only need to work in order to keep their households above water,

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they want to work. A generation raised celebrating “Girl Power” is now in the workforce, and not only are they getting jobs, they are building successful careers. Being a mother is one of the most important things many women choose to do in their lives, but they are coming into their own as people as well, and aren’t willing to martyr themselves on the altar of motherhood. Even those who have chosen the immensely challenging and rewarding world of being a stay-at-home parent are building themselves as people by finding hobbies and volunteer work that takes them away from the home. If everybody seems to be making time for themselves, then why do we keep feeling guilty about it? Part of it is Internet trolls who like to cut down people with the slashes of their keyboards for fun, regardless of the consequences. In case you have forgotten this: do NOT believe everything you read on the Internet. If you are finding yourself drawn to a particular messaging board, mom-group or Facebook personality that is consistently making you feel down on yourself as a mother, don’t think twice before hitting that “block” button. Would you let somebody talk to you like that in person? No! Shut the negative opinions down for your own peace of mind. Another part of it is our own insecurities. Whether we want to admit it or not, women absolutely want to do all of the things. We want to rip it in the boardroom, and still be able to make it to all of our kids’ school events, and bake a killer pie for the bake sale. The reality is that nobody is able to do everything. If you are following somebody who seems to be doing everything on social media, get it out of your head that they are being truthful to their followers. You can’t do it all; be kind to yourself. Turn this into your mantra. When your kids ask you those questions about why you can’t have lunch with them, explain that Mommy has an important job to do, but that you cherish the quality time at home you are able to spend with them. When they ask why you can’t volunteer for all their field trips, explain that you can’t do everything, and you would rather save those vacation days for going on a trip as a family to the beach, or for visiting Grandma and Grandpa during the summer. At the end of the day, know that you are teaching them that you are a real person with your own life and interests, and that you don’t exist just to take care of them. How you live your life will set the stage for the type of adult your children will turn into and, above all, what we all want is the absolute best for our children.

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Helping Your Child Cope with the Death of a Pet BY TABI FALCONE

LOSING

a pet is never an easy thing to go through for anybody. Pets are part of our everyday lives and truly become part of our families. As hard as it is it for adults to lose a pet, it can be even harder to explain this loss to our children and help them through this tumultuous time. There is no easy fix for this heartbreak, but there are some things that you can do to ease the pain and help them process their grief in a healthy way. Let them say goodbye if at all possible. This can’t always be helped, as pets are sometimes taken from us suddenly. However, if you have an old cat you are taking to the vet because she has been steeply declining, talk to your kids about how she is sick and allow them some time to give lots of cuddles and love, and say goodbye just in case. Make Memorial Stones Growing up, many of us have buried a pet or two in our backyard, but in today’s age of moving around this opens up the new complication of gravesites being left behind. A great way to bypass the awkward conversation of telling your six-year-old that you are not digging up their dog to move to the new house is to create memorial stones. There is the option to purchase a memorial stone, but making one can be a great way to do a family project to help everybody heal. Memorial stones can be easily made by pouring quick-set concrete mix (follow the instructions on the package) into a tin pie pan and decorating it with glass stones or rocks.

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Hold a funeral Just as when a human relative passes away, holding a funeral can offer much-needed closure to grieving families. If the kids are old enough, have them write letters or draw pictures for their pet to put in the grave. Go around the circle and have every member of the family say a small eulogy if they are able, and a prayer if appropriate for your family. If this was a long-time family pet and you have close family/friends nearby who also knew the pet, include them as well. It can be comforting for children to be able to share this experience with people they love and trust. Read a book There are many books that touch on this subject aimed towards children. Some tried and true options include The Rainbow Bridge…A Dog’s Story by Judith Kristen, I’ll Always Love You by Hans Wilhelm, and The Tenth Good Thing About Barney by Judith Viorst and Erik Blegvad, among many others. Another good book that helps explain death as a concept for children is When Dinosaurs Die by Laurie Krasny Brown. Not only can most of these be found in bookstores (brick and mortar, as well as online), many can also be found in your local library. (Pro-Tip: practice reading these alone before reading them to your kids if you are prone to crying during sad books.) Look at photos and talk about their lives The most important part of helping kids process this big life change is to allow them a safe space to talk about their very big and very valid feelings. Go through your photos of your pet and talk about happy memories you have with them. Encourage them to tell you how they are feeling, and share with them how you feel. It’s important that they see that you are also sad, and how you process your sadness, so they can model their own behavior based on that. Tell them it’s okay to be sad, and it’s not only okay to cry, it’s healthy and normal. If all else fails, enjoy lots of hugs and pop in Marley and Me for a good family cry.

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Campaign Inches Closer To $3.75-Million Goal BY FAMILY SERVICES

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the public launch of the Raising Every Child capital campaign just four months ago, contributions from businesses foundations, and private donors have propelled campaign support past $3.4 million. Family Services is working with a campaign leadership team of community volunteers to raise $3.75 million to expand programs that will annually help 1,500 of our most vulnerable population, children from birth to age 5. At the time of the public launch, the campaign had raised 75% of its goal thanks to support from foundations, including the Kate B. Reynolds Charitable Trust, the Winston-Salem Foundation, the Cannon Foundation, the James G. Hanes Memorial Fund, and the R. J. Reynolds II and Marie M. Reynolds Foundation; local businesses, including BB&T, Wells Fargo, Truliant, Novant Health, Davie Construction, Quality Oil, and Hanesbrands; the City of Winston-Salem, and Forsyth County; and almost $1 million from private donors, including several family foundations. Recent gifts from private donors, Reynolds American International, and Forsyth County have moved the needle to 93% of the goal – closer to addressing the opportunity gap and helping more children have the start they need to succeed in school and life. “The need is great in our community. Too many of our children who enter kindergarten in Winston-Salem/Forsyth County schools are at risk of falling behind, particularly in reading, from the first day they start school. In addition, a 2017 Harvard University study ranked Forsyth County one of the worst counties in the United States in helping poor children up the income ladder,” says

William B. Reingold, retired Chief District Court Judge and cochair of the Raising Every Child campaign with Peggy Reingold, Community Relations Consultant at Wells Fargo. “When you are born into poverty, it doesn’t make you less gifted; it only gives you fewer options – and more obstacles.“ We want to remove those obstacles so that every child in this community has the opportunity to use their gifts and grow in their own way to support themselves and their futures,” adds Peggy Reingold. “These children are no less precious, and we don’t see them as victims. They are just under-resourced,” she says. Studies show that young children – especially children who are disadvantaged due to living in persistent poverty – can benefit from high quality early childhood development programs. “However, too many children remain stranded on the far side of opportunities that can help them,” says Bill Reingold. Current Family Services programs are working and improving those numbers, yet limited public funding is not meeting the needs of all preschoolers who are eligible. “That’s why we are honored to lead the Raising Every Child capital campaign and work with volunteers and the community to expand, collaborate and impact more children and their families than ever before,” the Reingolds add. Family Services is now asking the community to provide the remaining support, ensuring that more children have access to resources during the first five years – that onceonly window of opportunity when a child’s mind becomes wired for success (or hardship) that will last into adulthood. To discuss your meaning gift to the Raising Every Child capital campaign, please contact Michelle Speas, CFRE, Chief Development and Public Relations Officer at mspeas@FamilyServicesForsyth.org or 336.722.8173.

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New Year’s Resolutions for the Mother with Young Children BY LAURA SIMON, A REGULAR BLOGGER WITH TRIAD MOMS ON MAIN

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years of mothering are hard. They’re amazing. They’re full of growth—for us, too—and not just the kids. Why do we go around setting impossible standards for ourselves, when getting through the day is enough to considerably strengthen and deepen our character? Listen, we can all embrace guilt. Or, we can embrace the stage of life that we’re in. This year, my New Year’s resolutions reﬂect my decision to do the latter. I call them “New Year’s Resolutions for the Mother with Young Children.” Maybe you can relate: 1. At least once a week, I’ll wake up in a bed that isn’t mine. Or at least, I’ll be in that bed when the sun comes up, because waking up implies that sleep happened at some point. I know this sounds scandalous, but it isn’t. I’ll totally confess that I love watching my kids sleep. I love their snuggles and their sighs…and even their sleepy toots. I sleep very poorly with their various appendages sprawled all over me, but I’m embracing the stage. So be it. 2. I will eat more chocolate than I should. Or drink more coffee. Or consume more wine. Or all three. Whatever your guilty pleasure is, resolve to enjoy it. I mean, don’t go crazy here. We all feel better when we make good food choices, but I woke up one day and pretty much all of my pre-children life was gone. Curling up with a good book, enjoying a clean house for more than thirty seconds, having a conversation with a friend, sleeping, actually going out somewhere and relaxing…these little things that recharge me are impossible luxuries. 3. Whenever possible, I will stay in the shower longer than I should. Yes, hot water costs money. Yes, it’s hard on

the skin this time of year. Yes, I’ve heard of the so-called benefits of taking cold showers. No, I don’t care. There are plenty of days where I don’t get to shower at all, so I don’t feel the slightest bit guilty enjoying it when I get one. And, it usually buys me just a little alone time. I mean, there’s always at least one visitor at some point, but no one actually insists on touching me while I’m in the shower. 4. I will get borderline obsessed with something that seems absolutely ridiculous to the rest of the world. For me, right now, it’s teeth. Actually, it’s been teeth for a long time. First, it was cutting teeth, and now I have one child simultaneously losing teeth and cutting new molars. Teeth impact so much: the way a child eats, the way a child behaves, the texture and consistency of the things that come out of said child’s body. Teeth are worthy of obsession. 5. And finally, I will continue doing things that would make my 22-year-old self weep. Things like saying, “You should totally trade your SUV for a minivan. I LOVE mine. It’s lifechanging.” And venturing out into very public situations without a stitch of make-up. And texting my sister-in-law from the dressing room at TJ Maxx, because I have no idea what’s in style any more. You see the benefit of a resolution list like this, right? It’s kind of like making a “to do” list and putting a few things at the top that I’ve already completed. The joy of checking off a box doesn’t hinge on when it was completed. The joy is in actually finishing something. I can keep these resolutions. These are things that I’m going to be doing anyway. Want to see more articles like this? Log on to www.TriadMomsOnMain.com daily!

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St. Patrick’s Day Treats BY KRISTI JOHNSON MARION & EMILY DODSON

BY KRISTI JOHNSON MARION

These fun recipes are great for your next snow day with the kids! Avalanche Treats, hot chocolate and Maple Snow Candy are perfect for those cozy days inside when it’s snowy and school is out. Just be sure an adult helps with the Maple Snow Candy!

AVALANCHE TREATS INGREDIENTS: 2 cups Crispy Rice cereal 1 cup mini-marshmallows ½ cup creamy peanut butter 1 lb. white chocolate chips ¼ mini-chocolate chips to sprinkle on top (optional) DIRECTIONS: 1. Line 2 baking sheets with parchment or wax paper 2. Mix cereal and marshmallows in a large bowl and set aside. 3. Melt white chocolate and peanut butter together in a double boiler (or melt in the microwave 1 minute at a time, stirring inbetween until melted smoothly). 4. Pour melted white chocolate over the cereal and stir until completely coated. 5. Drop onto the lined pans using a tablespoon. 6. Sprinkle with mini-chocolate chips, if desired. 7. Refrigerate until chocolate is set.

SLOW COOKER HOT CHOCOLATE INGREDIENTS: 1½ cup semi-sweet chocolate chips ¼ cup cocoa powder ½ cup sugar 1 tsp. vanilla extract 1 cup heavy cream 6 cups whole milk Mini-marshmallows DIRECTIONS: 1. Combine all ingredients except marshmallows in a slow cooker, stirring to combine. 2. Cook on low heat, covered, until everything is melted and smooth, stirring occasionally, about 2 hours. 3. Ten minutes before serving, add marshmallows and let them get a little melty. 4. Garnish with more marshmallows if desired. NOTE: You can skip the heavy cream and just replace with additional whole milk, but the heavy cream gives a wonderful, rich taste.

MAPLE SYRUP SNOW CANDY INGREDIENTS: Pure maple syrup Clean, fresh snow Wooden popsicle sticks DIRECTIONS: 1. Pour syrup into a small pot and heat until boiling. (The syrup will bubble.) Using a candy thermometer, continue to boil the syrup until it reaches the “soft ball” stage (235-240 degrees). If you pass the soft ball stage, your candy will just be more crunchy than chewy. 2. Fill a baking sheet with packed, fresh, clean snow. 3. An adult should remove the pot from the heat and pour the syrup in lines onto the snow. Be careful. The syrup will be very hot. 4. Press a craft/popsicle stick into the syrup and as it is cooling, roll the syrup around one end of the stick, forming a Maple Syrup Snow Candy Taffy Pop!

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VIDEO GAME THERAPY BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

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adults (especially parents) may view playing video games as a waste of time. They are afraid that loved ones may become addicted to these random acts of playing, but are video games not also beneficial to our minds? And how do we go about avoiding the dreaded gamers’ addiction? ADVANTAGES TO PLAYING VIDEO GAMES Playing video games links to memory improvement. Once the bright-eyed player powers on the video game, simple playing instructions light up on the screen. The player is required to remember these instructions for successful gameplay and to advance to higher levels. Video games require both visual and audial memory to remember sounds, character appearances, their favorite venue settings, and special controls with their game controller. Another aspect that sharpens the player’s memory is mastering the controller or computer keyboard, which is also mind-stimulating in itself. Playing video games may help dyslexic kids improve their reading. What a fascinating thought! A study in 2013 concluded that action video games and other games such as Rayman Raving Rabbids could help young children up to 13 years old read faster. Unlike traditional reading treatments which are not as enjoyable, playing certain video games relaxes the young mind so it can be more receptive to quicker reading. The gamer increases his or her brain power while playing video games. Attention span improves greatly, especially when one is playing an action game. Action games come with an inherent objective to accomplish for each level in order to advance to the next. This enthuses the player and makes them pay close attention to what needs to be done to fulfill their virtual goals. They are led to maintain this attention until they are victors, thus strengthening their concentration. The brain’s speed is also improved while gaming, because it receives both visual and audial stimulations during playing. Receiving these stimulations puts the brain to work and it begins processing those stimulations. The more the player practices gaming, the faster the brain can process those stimulations. People’s problem-solving skills become stronger when they are playing video games. This is because the gamer is reminded

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of the rules of the game and must keep him-or herself from deviating from those rules in order to get to the next level. This requires them to think quickly and make quick decisions, all while destroying the obstacles that try to attack on every side. GAMERS DON’T MEET STRANGERS While encountering strangers can be stressful for some people, online gaming creates an interface that connects multiple strangers with shared commonalities and similar purposes: to form relationships over their favorite game and become victors. Playing online games allow gamers to connect and constantly communicate with players all around the globe, as well as maintain old friendships. Playing games alleviates the stress of interacting with strangers, because gaming puts our minds in a relaxed state. This is especially helpful if the player is intimately familiar with the video game. CONNECTING WITH FAMILY Don’t underestimate the value of playing video games as a family! It’s a mentally productive mode of bonding, relaxing, and cooperating. It’s a way to spend quality time with your loved ones and will help elevate moods after, say, a trying day at work or school. AVOIDING ADDICTION Video game addiction is a real thing. The warning signs of a video game addiction include neglecting interpersonal relationships and responsibilities, irritability when playing time is interrupted, and neglecting hygiene, eating, and sleeping. Effective ways of preventing addiction are to pull the gamer out of their zone by getting them to pursue other activities, such as outdoor activities, sports, reading, housework, and spending needed time with family and friends (not by playing video games, of course!). It is important for parents to supervise their children’s video game playing time and know when enough is enough, drawing limits as to when and how long they can play their video games. Although playing video games is certainly not a waste of time (and can be quite stimulating!), it is important to play them in moderation to prevent negative changes in behavior. Yet, if anyone really loves video gaming, it can simply be used to add quality to their lifestyle.

“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” - Maya Angelou

Lillian Kampwerth 4th Grade Kernersville Elementary Susan Metts, Art Teacher

Michele Viola

12th Grade Reagan High Jennifer Willard, Art Teacher

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8th Grade Southeast Middle Denise Kanir, Art Teacher

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WHAT TAEKWONDO IS REALLY ABOUT Most

people think Taekwondo is about punching, kicking, and fighting, but it isn’t. I thought so, too, when I started at six years old. It was fun thinking that I would learn to fight. But now that I have practiced for four years, I know the real meaning of Taekwondo is something else. It’s about being a leader, becoming confident, and not being a victim. Being a leader is not something I started out to do. I first started as a student. My best teacher is Master Terranova. He pushes me hard, but he always makes it fun. Even on days when I’m not feeling the spirit, I go anyway and feel better afterward. It also felt good when I was asked to be on the Leadership Team. Now I get to help teach what I have learned to students of lower rank. Teaching is good for me, too. It makes my skills better when I always have to put forth my best effort, since lowerranking students are viewing me as a role model. I also have learned to be a role model in regular life. In school, I try to respect other students who are learning by being quiet, and saying, “Yes, sir,” and “Yes, ma’am,” to both my teachers and instructors. Encouraging other people to “do the right thing” is also an important part of leadership. Once I saw kids damaging equipment on the playground, just for fun. Because of Taekwondo, I felt comfortable asking them to stop. They did, and I think it was because they knew I was asking them to do the right thing. What about becoming confident? It takes confidence to yell like we do in class, or to kick your partner in sparring, or to break a board. Board-breaking used to make me feel nervous about failing and being embarrassed. Now, because of practicing it in Taekwondo, it’s really fun. The secret to board breaking is not about being super strong, it’s focusing on just the right spot, and aiming your foot past the target. You have to believe you can do it! Breaking a board just right makes me feel proud.

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BY LOGAN KELLY

In regular life, feeling confident has helped me do some things that are hard, like learning to ride a bike, snorkeling in the ocean, and doing a 40-foot-high ropes course. Taekwondo exercises are tough. Sparring can be a little nerve-wracking. Doing these things for years has also taught me how to be tough sometimes. It has even helped me handle some difficult situations. Once on the bus, some kids were picking on my friend. Everyone, including me, got mad. One kid started pushing my friend. My friend pushed back. I felt mad. I also knew I could hurt somebody using my Taekwondo moves. But instead, I controlled myself and used my energy to tell everyone to STOP. I put my hands out to separate my friend and the other kid. It worked. It resolved the almost-fight. I think it worked because of something we learn in Taekwondo called “indomitable spirit,” which means a never-giveup attitude. The kids around me could tell I was ready to handle whatever happened next; no one wanted to start throwing blows. Without the life skills I got from Taekwondo, I probably would have started fighting, which wouldn’t have been wise. In Taekwondo we practice some incredible-looking moves. I’ve seen my master break a board held up nine feet in the air! We can learn to swing nun chucks around our body at high speed. My favorite move to do is called a “ﬂying tornado kick.” But we don’t actually need to do these things in regular life. Life is more complicated. Taekwondo is really about learning leadership, confidence, self-control and indomitable spirit. It’s about how not to be a victim. It’s not even about learning to fight. I’ve learned that nothing can really beat me down, because just as in class if I fail, I will get up and try harder. It’s about learning life skills that everybody can use at every age.

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it comes to dining out as a family, restaurant choice is always a big deal to parents. The choice of where to go boils down to factors such as convenience, menu diversity strong enough to cater to an adult palate as well as the picky eater in the family (and we all have one), and price. That’s why a restaurant like Mac & Nelli’s is the perfect option for family dining! Location Matters Conveniently located at 4926 Country Club Road, Mac & Nelli’s is easy to get to, and it’s centrally located. It’s an easy place to meet up for dinner after work or visit during the weekend. And with Harris Teeter in the same shopping center, it’s also easy to get the grocery shopping done after your family meal…after all, we know two things… one, you should never go grocery shopping when you’re hungry; and two, after you shop, you’re going to be too tired to cook anything, anyway. Mac & Nelli’s makes it simple. It’s right there. It’s a no-brainer. Diverse Menu Let’s face it. Kids (and some adults) are notoriously picky eaters. But for parents, chicken nuggets and French fries get old after a while. And it doesn’t hurt to think of your own culinary wants every once in a while. The menu at Mac & Nelli’s has a great appetizer selection, as well as salads, entrees, sandwiches, burgers, and more. From appetizers like Loaded TOT-chos (tater tots covered in cheese and bacon!) to Shark Bites (yep, exactly what you think it is)—there’s something for the pickiest to the more adventurous eaters in your group! Seriously, the menu is a great blend of traditional options mixed with more sophisticated choices. Price The menu at Mac & Nelli’s is affordable! No worries about breaking the bank to go out to enjoy a nice family meal; the costs are fair and reasonable. Plus, with generous portion sizes, you’ll likely have leftovers, and you’ve doubled your bang for your buck with a yummy lunch for Day 2!

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Weekly Specials Mac & Nelli’s offers weekly dining specials, including 35-cent Wing nights on Mondays. Other options include: • Tuesday – All You Can Eat Pasta for $9.99 • Wednesday – 35 cent Wing night (Wings this good need an encore night!) • Thursday – Classic Burger Night for $5 • Friday & Saturday – Prime Rib Dinner • Sunday – Chef’s Special for $15 Plus, dining at Mac & Nelli’s isn’t just about the food –it’s about the experience. The restaurant often features live music, Tuesday Trivia night, and Karaoke on Wednesdays! Make a night of it! Take the family out for dinner, and trust that Mac & Nelli’s has something for everyone! Mac & Nelli’s is located in Harper Hill Commons Shopping Center at 4926 Country Club Road in Winston-Salem. Call them at 336.529.6230 or visit them online at MacAndNellisWS.com. Be sure to like them on Facebook and follow them on Instagram!

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Celebrations

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Congratulations to former students of Reagan High School, and the newest inductees into the Reagan High Hall of Fame! Grant Dawson joined the WFU football team as a walk on, and eventually earned a full scholarship during his last two years of college. Grant is now working in the medical supply sales industry, after graduating from Wake Forest. Justin Posey is in training for the 2020 Olympics as a BMX racer! He lives in Phoenix, AZ where he also works as a marketing coordinator for the USA BMX Foundation. From winning numerous swimming completions, a swimming scholarship to Queens University, and a victory over Hodgkinâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s lymph, Alexandra Marshall is a winner! She is currently enrolled at WFU and earning a masters degree in exercise and sports science. 92 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM

Gail Pritchard, Congratulations Gail on your retirement after more than 12 years in the department of Communications, Marketing & Media at Wake Forest Baptist Health. Her team wishes her the best and is going to miss her terribly.

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SECOND WEDNESDAYS PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTONSALEM MEETING 11:30am-1pm, Flow Club at the BB&T Ballpark. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting. Learn more at PWWS org

NOW THROUGH JANUARY 1 “TOY TIME” EXHIBIT Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Travel back in time to when there were no cell phones or video games and batteries were never included! Engage and delight in tumbling, sliding, rocking, spinning, dancing and flying folk toys that demonstrate the effects of gravity, inertia, rhythm, harmonic motion and mechanics. Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. www.kaleideum.org

NOW THROUGH JANUARY 26 RED DOG GALLERY PRESENTS “ART THE WALLS & DECK THE HALLS” 7-10pm, Red Dog Gallery, 630 North Liberty Street in W-S. This is a curated exhibition showcasing AFAS artists with a variety of artworks in a range of prices. This is the gift-giving season when many are looking for just the right gift. We hope to see you there! DECEMBER 31-JANUARY 1 NEW YEAR’S EVE CELEBRATION 8pm, The Hawthorne Inn & Conference Center. Featuring the O.S.P. Band and DJ K.C! Hors d’oeuvres served from 8:30-10:30pm. Party favors for each guest, one complimentary beverage per guest, fully stocked cash bars, etc. Ages 21 and up only. Cost: $40/person; $154/couple includes one night accommodations. BREW YEAR’S EVE SPECTACULAR 9pm, Foothills Brewing Tasting Room, 3800 Kimwell Drive in W-S. Winston’s most spectacular New Year’s Eve event! Join us in our spacious brewery in your finest attire to ring in 2019. Dinner buffet, DJ & dancing, aerial artist, fortune teller, champagne toast and aerial “Belle Drop” performance at midnight. Cost: $25 person.

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NO SCHOOL SKATE DAYS (see ad page39) 11am – 5pm; Fairgrounds Annex Ice Rink JANUARY 2-20 PEPPERCORN THEATRE PRESENTS MÚSICA, MÚSICA, MAXIMO, MÚSICA Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Join Máximo, inspired by gatito Mandito y las hermanas del alma, as he discovers the rhythms of life and spreads the sound. Visit www.peppercorntheatre. org for specific showtimes and to purchase tickets. Members: $5 (+tax)/person; non-members: $7 (+tax) person.

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FRIDAY NIGHT OPEN MIC STAND UP 11pm, Foothills Brewing, 638 West 4th Street in W-S. Start

your weekend with a pint and some laughs as we present the Triad’s funniest open mic comedians! Two hours of free standup comedy, every Friday night at the pub.

JANUARY 5 FIVE FREE YOGA CLASSES Sunrise Yoga Studio, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court, Suite 1 in Clemmons. Class size is limited. Reserve your space early by signing up on our classes tab! Special one-day-only discounts. Bring a friend and enjoy free yoga, tea and snacks, and a trunk show with Twisted Friends Tie Dyes! www.sunriseyoga.net/yogaclasses/yoga-class-schedule JANUARY 7 YOUTH DBT SKILLS GROUP Full Life Counseling, 983 Mar-Don Drive in W-S. DBT is an evidence-based treatment effective in helping people learn to become mindful of triggers, emotional upsets and unhealthy thinking patterns and learn the skills necessary to create a life worth living. Call today to set up an appointment. Ages 14+. Cost is $50/ person. www.full-life-counseling.com

JANUARY 8 HOMESCHOOL/SMALL GROUP DAY: “POP, BUBBLE, FIZZ” 1pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Home-educated students in grades K-5 will measure and mix as they sharpen observation skills and learn about solids, liquids and gases. Experiment with color change, measure ingredients and test chemical reactions while making fizzy brews and rubbery gloop! Pre-registration is required, and group admission rates apply. Register at www.kaleideum.org.

JANUARY 9 KIDS’ MORNING OUT! 9am-12pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Admission during KMO is just $3/ person and free for members. See Música, Música, Maximo, Música (additional ticket price for Musica is $7 for nonmembers and $5 for members.). Explore the museum, catch a Planetarium show and meet an animal resident up close during “Animal Encounters.” Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board! GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT 5pm-until…, Providence Kitchen, 200 West Second Street in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy loaded tater bowls, panini sandwiches, wraps, salad bowls and house made soups with four-cheese grilled cheese. Features $3.50 beer, $5 wine by the glass and $3.25 salted caramel brownie sundaes. Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways!

JANUARY 10

OUR LADY OF MERCY OPEN HOUSE (see ad page 69) 9am-noon; OurLadyofMercySchool.org JANUARY 10 & 24 MINDSET MANAGEMENT AND MANIFESTING WITH MERCEDES 6:30-7:30pm, Beside Zael’s Florist, 4500 Indiana

Avenue, Suite 20 in W-S. Join Mercedes L. Miller’s live event to discover how she’s helping women create the lives they have always wanted. Manifest More: Peace, Power, Productivity, Prosperity, Profit, Prominence, Prosperity…Whatsoever You Desire. Register for Manifesting with Mercedes now!

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all day at the Pub and Footnote. www.facebook.com/ events/1951637944873326

JANUARY 19

REDEEMER SCHOOL OPEN HOUSE (see ad page 15) 9:30-11am; Reception, program and tour. RSVP at RedeemerSchool.org/admissions/inquiryform

COUNTDOWN TO KINDERGARTEN 10am-2pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Staff from the WS/FCS system will help families of rising kindergarteners navigate the process of registering for school. Meet representatives from all elementary schools, say “hi” to Ready Freddy and discover fun activities and community resources offered by partner organizations. Presented as a “pay what you can” program. www.kaleideum.org

FROZEN COCOA PARTY 10:30am-12pm, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Create instant snow and design snowy crafts, enjoy hot (not frozen) cocoa with yummy treats and meet two special princesses and their snowman friend! Don’t forget your camera! Preregistration required at www.kaleideum.org. $10(+ tax)/person for Kaleideum members, $12(+ tax) for non-members. Additional individuals in the same family receive 50% off each ticket.

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WS SYMPHONY DISCOVERY CONCERTS FOR KIDS 3pm; Reynolds Auditorium. Enjoy pre-concert activities beginning at 2pm. Tickets; WSsymphony.org – 336 464-0145 VISION SUNDAY 11am, Gate City Church of Christ, 302 East Vandalia Road in Greensboro. Join us for our inaugural service as we prepare to launch in 2019! www.wearegatecity org NATIONAL PIE DAY Foothills Brewing, Downtown Brewpub, 638 West 4th Street in W-S. We know you don’t need an excuse to eat pie, but here’s an excuse to eat pie. Our bartenders will be whipping up pie-flavored martinis for $8 each. www. facebook.com/events/318677642191991

JANUARY 15 PIPP SQUEAKS PRESCHOOL SCIENCE: “SHH…IT’S A SECRET!” 10-11:30am, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. For children ages 2-4 and their adult caregivers. It’s about to get mysterious around the museum as we learn the basics of forensics. Make your own fingerprint art and collect your DNA to keep in a necklace. We will have to be careful and clever as we solve an actual mystery of who took the beloved stuffed animal, Mr. Bear! Members: $8 per adult/child pair; non-members: $10 per adult/child pair (includes museum admission). Register at www.kaleideum.org. WINTER OPEN HOUSE 6-7:30pm, Calvary Day School, 134 South Peace Haven Road in W-S. Want to learn more about what makes Calvary’s school experience unique and rewarding? Join us for our Winter Open House that will show you a more in-depth look at CDS. You will have the opportunity to connect with current parents, meet the administration team & department heads, learn more about athletics & our extracurricular offerings, plus take a tour!

CHILI COOK-OFF BENEFIT 2-5pm, Foothills Brewing, Tasting Room, 3800 Kimwell Drive in W-S. The cost to enter the chili competition will be $10/entry, which includes tasting. There will be four categories: Vegetarian, Spicy, Unique and Best Overall! Guests will gather to taste and judge the chili for competition. We will also have a 50/50 raffle. Chili competitors must follow all Rules and Regulations as determined by the Winston-Salem Jaycees. Any questions about these can be sent to acobb@wsjaycees. org or mturner@wsjaycees. www.facebook.com/ events/2348575308734382

JANUARY 21 ANIMAL ENCOUNTER 11am & 2pm, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Meet a very special live animal guest! Discover the animal’s place in the ecosystem and learn about fascinating behaviors and more. Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. www.kaleideum.org

JANUARY 22

MIDDLE SCHOOL EXPLORATION DAY (see ad page 21) Forsyth Country Day School; sign up at FCDS.org

JANUARY 25 IRISH COFFEE DAY Foothills Brewing, Downtown Brewpub, 638 West 4th Street in W-S. The Irish have accomplished what the whole world longed for: an alcoholic beverage appropriate for all hours of the day. And so, we celebrate the Irish Coffee. All $8, all day long. www.facebook.com/ events/310551226454232

Happy 2019! Thank you to all of our loyal customers and friends who have supported us this last year! We appreciate you! Trivia Tuesdays - 7:30pm Cash Prizes Wednesday - Karaoke - 7:30pm Live Music Every Thursday Friday & Saturday Nights (no cover charge) Saturday 2-4pm Mac & Nellis Music Bingo - Free

Sunday Funday Brunch - NFL Sunday Ticket - 10 TV’s Looking for a night out? Come see us for great local live music! We provide a place for local musicians to showcase their talent! We do not charge a cover and you won’t be disappointed as we have a lot of great talented people in the area! You can see our line up through our Facebook page or website!

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OUR LADY OF MERCY OPEN HOUSE (see ad page 69) 9am-noon; OurLadyofMercySchool.org

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HOT BUTTERED RUM DAY Foothills Brewing, Downtown Brewpub, 638 West 4th Street in W-S. Come to the pub and warm up with a steaming mug of Hot Buttered Rum – a creamy, boozy, spicy version of the classic Hot Toddy, made with spiced rum, cinnamon and (you guessed it) butter. The perfect mid-winter pick-me-up. Cost: $7

MAC AND CHEESE TASTING 6:30-8:30pm, Foothills Brewing, Downtown Brewpub, 638 West 4th Street in W-S. Mac & cheese the way we like it! Specialty cheese pairings with paired with select Macallan single malt scotches. Please RSVP to Nicole@foothillsbrewing.com. www.facebook.com/ events/2022235954562638

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Oreo Cheesecake Bites BY SARA WILES FULL DISCLAIMER: these are addicting! I work with many wonderful people and as someone who loves to bake, I often find myself bringing in weekend leftovers, recipe trials or random sweet treats to simply get them out of my kitchen.

Original recipe by Kraft: INGREDIENTS: 36 Oreo cookies, divided 4 packages of cream cheese, 8 ounces each 1 cup sour cream 4 eggs ½ cup butter 1 cup sugar 1 teaspoon vanilla DIRECTIONS:

Because I am now deemed “The Sweet Treat

1. Preheat oven to 325 degrees.

Queen,” I am even given requests for desserts

2. Line a large pan with foil, extending it over the sides. Finely crush 24 cookies. Melt ¼ cup butter and mix with cookie crumbs. Press into the bottom of prepared pan.

to share with my fellow co-workers. These Oreo Cheesecake Bites were just that—a request! They are much simpler than a traditional cheesecake and the individual portions make them even easier to eat. Oreos, of course, can be swapped out for something you enjoy more or can be discarded completely for a traditional cheesecake bite.

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3. In a mixing bowl, beat cream cheese and sugar with mixer until blended. Add sour cream and vanilla; mix well. Add eggs, 1 at a time, beating on low until just blended. Chop remaining cookies. Gently stir into batter; pour over crust. 4. Bake for 45 minutes until just set. Let cool completely and then refrigerate for at least four hours. 5. To serve, use excess foil to lift out of pan and cut into individual bars, or use a round cookie cutter to make rounds.

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ACTIVITIES

GRIT ............................................................69 Hoots & Hollers...........................................41 Ice Skating at WS Annex .............................39 Kaleideum ..................................................35 Legacy Saddlebreds ................................2, 37 Ninja Warrior Birthday Party .......................37 Rockin Jump...............................................37 Salem Gymnastics & Swim .........................33 The Winston Cup Museum .........................37 Triple Threat Dancenter ...............................37 United TKD..................................................37 WS Symphony Discovery Concerts for Kids ......................................27 YMCA ....................................................37, 55

ADOPTION & FOSTER CARE

Crossnore School & Children’s Home .........31

BAKERY/CONFECTIONS

Christina’s Dessertery ...........................41, 93

BEAUTY / STYLING

Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics .......................79 Lyndhurst Medical Spa ...............................55

BIRTHDAY BONANZA

Chick-fil-A....................................................37 Christina’s Dessertery .................................41 Clemmons Bicycle ......................................41 Hoots & Hollers...........................................41 Ice Skating at WS Annex .............................39 Kaleideum ..................................................35 Legacy Saddlebreds ................................2, 37 Ninja Warrior Birthday Party .......................37 Rockin Jump...............................................37 The Winston Cup Museum .........................37 Triple Threat Dancenter ...............................37 United TKD..................................................37

WinMock ....................................................43 WS Dash .....................................................37 YMCA ..........................................................37 Imprints Cares ............................................53 YMCA ..........................................................55

Long & Foster Real Estate............................25 Piedmont Sheet Metal................................81 S & K Cleaning ............................................67 Stitches .......................................................63 Susan Maier-Colon, Broker .........................67 Two Maids ...................................................79 Wrights Landscaping ..................................61

Honky Tonk Smokehouse ...........................91 Jeffrey Adams .............................................13 Little Richard’s Smokehouse BBQ.........31, 91 Mac & Nelli’s .........................................91, 95 Midtown Café & Dessertery ........................91 Pie Guys Pizza .............................................91 Wine Merchants .........................................91

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Sunrise United Methodist Church ..............76 Ardmore Dentistry ......................................23 Chermak & Hanson ....................................99 Salem Smiles ..............................................33 Tina S. Merhoff and Associates Pediatric Dentistry ......................................5

EDUCATION

Calvary Baptist Day School .........................23 Forsyth Country Day School ........................21 Imprints Cares ............................................53 Our Lady of Mercy.......................................71 Redeemer School .......................................15 The Piedmont School..................................67

FINANCIAL

Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp ........29 Modern Woodmen Fraternal Financial .......29 Truliant Federal Credit Union ........Back Cover

HEALTH & FITNESS

YMCA ..........................................................55

HOME

Busy as a Bee Concierge .............................69 Dero’s..........................................................17 Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp ........29

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Home Instead Senior Care............................3 Wrights Landscaping ..................................61

MEDICAL

Hillcrest Vision ............................................71 Home Instead Senior Care............................3 Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics .......................79 Lyndhurst....................................................55 WomanCare ................................................53

PHOTOGRAPHY

Photo Artistry by Melinda ...........................63

RADIO STATIONS

Clemmons Bicycle ......................................41 Dero’s..........................................................17 Hip Chics Boutique & Gift .............................9 Miracle Grounds Farm Store .......................31

SERVICE

Busy as a Bee Concierge .............................69 Crossnore School & Children’s Home .........31 Family Services ...........................................83 Goin Postal .................................................71 Homestyle Draperies & Alterations.............13 Nu expression.............................................89 S&K Cleaning..............................................67 Second Harvest Food Bank ...........................5 Triad Mac ....................................................81 Two Maids ...................................................79

WBFJ ...........................................................77 KissFM ........................................................59 WMAG ........................................................97

TECHNOLOGY

REAL ESTATE & HOUSING

UPCOMING EVENTS

Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp ........29 Long & Foster Real Estate............................25 Realty One ..................................................47 Susan Maier-Colon Berkshire Hathaway .................................67

RESTAURANTS

Hakkachow Asian Eats ................................91

Nu expression.............................................89 Triad Mac ....................................................81 Ice Skating at WS Annex .............................39 Wake Forest Basketball ...............................61 WS Symphony Discovery Concerts for Kids ......................................27

VENUES

The Winston Cup Museum .........................37 WinMock ....................................................43

Hip Chics or Chermak

Experience • Quality • Customer Service Dr. David S. Chermak • Dr. John C. Hanson Orthodontics for Children & Adults

Never Underestimate the Power of a Smile! WINSTON-SALEM 336-760-1491 • CLEMMONS 336-766-8244 • KING 336-983-4551 JANUARY 2019

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