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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Features 14 Words of Wisdom from the Great Men in our Lives 18 Play & Splash Destinations Part 2 STORY Forsyth Medical Supply: 22 COVER Dedicated to Your Peace of Mind

28 Hidden Gems in Forsyth County Part 2

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Awaits: Planning a Budget Friendly 32 Adventure Experience

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Every Issue For the Love of BBQ: Smoked Cheeseburgers Making Dollars Making $ense Fancy Fork: Sourdough Grilled Flatbread Child Safety Series: PTSD Dining Guide Triad Moms on Main: Games to Keep the Whole Family Moving Outside It’s a Grand Life The Artist’s Corner

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PUBLISHER Brooke Eagle • Brooke@ForsythMags.com SENIOR ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE Tamara Bodford ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE Robin Bralley

Happy June!

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This month marks the official beginning of summer, and this issue of Forsyth Family is packed with fun summertime ideas for you and your kiddos. From Play and Splash Pad Destinations (page 18) to planning a budget-friendly experience (page 44) and beautiful beach getaways in NC (page 46), we’ve got your summer covered!

COVER PHOTOGRAPHY Jodie Brim Creative CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS Jodie Brim Creative • JEJ Photos Photo Artistry by Melinda Sail Off Photography *others credited throughout accordingly

I’d like to wish my dad (aka Teej) a very happy Father’s Day! As you can see from these photos, we look just alike! This man is hard working, knows anything and everything about cars and, while he doesn’t have a dog of his own, he adores his three granddogs. He’s simply the best, and I love him so much!

Father’s Day is coming up on Sunday, June 16th – mark your calendars! It’s the perfect time to celebrate all the amazing dads out there.

One of the BEST parts of my job is that we get to support various local nonprofits. Recently, we had the pleasure of sponsoring and attending the Pretty in Pink Foundation’s annual casino night.

Breast cancer is a cause close to my heart as my mom is a two-time survivor. This nonprofit is special because they provide underinsured and uninsured breast cancer patients with financial assistance for lifesaving medical treatment. The evening was a HUGE success, raising more than $160,000 – WOW! Check out a recap of the event on page 52.

Wishing you a June filled with sunshine, outdoor adventures and quality time with loved ones!

Brooke

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CONTENT EDITOR Meghan Corbett SENIOR STAFF WRITERS Martie Emory • Carolyn Peterson OTHER CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Karen Cooper • Elisa Coppede Damian Desmond • Suzy Fielders Steven Gallo • Amy Hill Brian Jared • Taryn Jerez Katharine Rosenthal • Lauren Sephton Renee Skudra • Megan Taylor Keith Tilley • Sheridan Watkins Susan Woodall *others credited throughout accordingly GRAPHIC DESIGN & PRODUCTION Stefanie Lyons WEB DESIGN/MAINTENANCE Next Wave Services CONTACT forsythfamilymagazine.com 888-892-3204 FORSYTH FAMILY DISCLAIMER Please note that the inclusion of stories and articles in Forsyth Family magazine does not imply endorsement of products or people. The views of the authors are presented for information and entertainment only, and may not necessarily reflect the views of Forsyth Family.

Specifically, Forsyth Family in no way endorses any claim associated with health and/or well being with respect to any particular person. We disclaim all warranties, express or implied,including, but not limited to, implied warranties of merchantability and fitness for a particular purpose. We will not be held responsible or liable, directly or indirectly, for any loss or damage that is caused or alleged to have been caused in connection with the use of, or reliance on, any content in this magazine.

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Daddy-Daughter

Date Nights

by ANGELIA CORNATZER

Growing up, I was able to experience a truly special relationship with my dad. I have such amazing memories from what we called our “daddy-daughter dates.” These dates would sometimes consist of special outings and experiences, or just having dinner together. I always treasured these moments and now I treasure those memories. I remember my father, John, would even dress up and ring the doorbell to pick me up with flowers for these dates when I was young. The activities we did were so much fun, but it was my dad’s intentionality that made the deep and special impression on my heart and still brings tears of joy to my eyes. One of my favorite memories of a daddy-daughter date night was when we went to dance, got ice cream, and had a snowball fight afterwards. Another memory I love was when we went to the mall and petted stingrays; I was splashed by the water, and we shopped for a new outfit!

Whatever we would do on the daddy-daughter date nights, I felt special and thankful for each moment in that time together.

Fathers have such a purpose and a special calling when it comes to their daughters’ lives and hearts. No matter how old or young a daughter is, her father’s love and kindness mean the world to her. Making a daughter feel loved doesn’t have to be an extravagant or materialistic effort, but just a daily choice to make her feel seen, known, and loved. It is the little things in everyday life that add up to a full heart.

Young girls experience so much pressure and judgment these days. Having a father who can speak encouragement, truth, and love into a daughter’s life is priceless. There are so many things that girls feel like they need to be in order to be “good enough,” or liked. When a father intentionally loves his daughter as she is, it greatly increases her self-confidence and ability to love herself, no matter what she hears from others throughout life.

There are many different things to do for dad-daughter date nights. For younger daughters, consider going to the zoo, a park, doing sidewalk chalk, walking around Tanglewood, or baking cupcakes at home! For older daughters, maybe go to a concert, a movie, take a painting class, or get ice cream.

Try out rotating who picks the activity; maybe dad will pick this week and daughter will pick the next.

Philip Morgan, father of 14-year-old Leah Morgan, prioritizes uninterrupted time with his daughter each week. When describing their time together, he said, “We talk candidly about her life and her passions. We talk about school and relationships. Sometimes conversations are deep and meaningful. I always want her to be encouraged, to grow in her confidence in herself and who she is in Christ. I want her to learn about healthy relationships and hopefully to share some wisdom about how to navigate growing up in this broken world.”

As Father’s Day approaches, take advantage of this holiday! If you are a mother or wife, try to plan a day when your child and their father can create special memories together. If you are a father, it is never too late or early to begin this daddy-daughter date tradition! Maybe the two of you will go on a walk and color, go to a movie and dinner, or just put on some music in the living room and dance! Don’t worry about what the activity is, just focus on the intention and attention. Daughters crave time and love from their fathers, and setting aside a daddy-daughter date night every once in a while is a special way to fill up a daughter’s heart.

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Summer at Old Salem Visit the new Horticulture Center at the Single Brothers Workshop and learn more about what’s growing in our gardens!

Old Salem and Museum of Early Southern Decorative Arts (MESDA) are open Wednesday through Saturday, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m.

For more information, visit oldsalem.org

SPECIAL EVENTS DURING JUNE: June 14th, 6:30-8:00 PM Join us at The Single Brother’s Workshop to create colorful marbled paper and keepsake boxes. $35 per person, ages 10+ (under 18 with ticketed adult).

Capacity: 20. Book in advance at oldsalem.org!

June 28th Join us at the Gray Auditorium in Old Salem’s Visitor’s Center for the Summer Institute Final Presentations, showcasing a month of graduate-level study through MESDA. Admission is $25, including a boxed lunch. Don’t miss it!

Words of Wisdom from the Great Men in our Lives

by KAREN COOPER

If we are really lucky, we get to live our lives being loved and supported by a father or other cherished male role model. The best of these men give us confidence, support and good advice. While some fatherly guidance might slip your mind, some of it is so powerful, so on-point, that it can stick with you for years, maybe even for your whole life. I took a poll of some of the greatest women I know to find out what great life lessons they had learned from their fathers or other important male role models.

Here’s what they said: “I was going through a very sad and difficult time. I remember my dad telling me that I didn’t owe everyone I know an explanation for what was going on in my life. It was like the weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders.”

- Susan Gourdin “I learned a million great life lessons from my dad, but one of the most practical ones was how to drive. He sat patiently in the passenger’s seat while I learned to navigate a stick shift and hold it on a hill. He taught me how to stay calm in traffic and how to merge onto the highway. Patience is what I learned from my dad and perseverance. Driving a stick is challenging and sometimes merging into traffic is harrowing. He taught me how to stay calm.

He only spoke when it was absolutely necessary, and that helped me build confidence in myself. This is a lesson that’s stayed with me all my life.”

- Anonymous Who cares? “Being a female, and an overly dramatic one at that, I found everything in my teenage years to be absolutely theatrical.

My dad’s very simple advice was always ‘who cares?’ Not in a mean, flippant way of ‘stop talking to me,’ but in a ‘live your life, they’ll have something else to talk about next week’ kind of way, and boy was he right. Who cares if you mixed up your words when you were placing your coffee order? Who cares if your pants have a weird stain?

Who cares if you had an extra roll at dinner? Live your life.”

- Niki Flowers “My dad taught me to invest in myself whether through education, learning new skills, finding ways to excel in my career or even investing in my well-being by taking care of my physical and mental health. He has always pushed me to pursue the things that make me feel good about myself and bring me joy.”

- Regina Parra “My dad once told me if my car ever gets stuck on the train tracks and a train is coming…get out of the car! Another time when I didn’t do well at an ice skating competition, he took me outside because I was having a complete meltdown which was embarrassing because (at around 12 years old) I was too old to act like that. We walked around the parking lot, and he told me to yell the F word at the top of my lungs and then we threw something at the dumpster. He said that is how to handle the frustration and disappointment, and now we are done with it and can move on. He said that’s how he handled a bad golf game, and it worked every time. LOL.” - Kellie Elliott “My father told me to always tip well, to always be kind to others and to never assume good times in my life were forever. He said the good you put out into the world will find its way back to you.”

- Allison Edwards

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“My dad was a big proponent of embracing your true self and honoring your uniqueness. He emphasized to me that I didn’t need to conform to be acceptable and that I was not meant to fit into society’s mold. This has helped me feel special and walk to the beat of my own drummer even when there has been pressure to do things like everyone else is doing them.”

- Laura Beth Calhoun “My father often told me that ‘sunk costs are sunk.’ He meant it in the financial sense, but as I thought about it more, I think he meant it in a larger sense, too. There are so many meanings to this phrase. What I take from it is don’t sweat the small stuff, don’t dwell on the past, what’s done is done, don’t spend your time worrying about what you can’t do anything about. ‘Sunk costs are sunk.’ You can use it for almost anything.”

- Anonymous “My dad always drilled into me that my health is my wealth.

Taking care of yourself physically and mentally should always be a priority. Without taking care of my health first, I wouldn’t be able to pursue the life that I love.”

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Smoked Cheeseburgers

For the LOVE of

Once you smoke a cheeseburger, you will not go back to regular burgers!

Prep Time: 10 minutes | Cook Time: 1.5 hours Yields: 1 pound equals 2 patties Ingredients: 1 Pound Ground Beef 2T Beef Rub Onions Rings

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With summer around the corner, there is no better way to start grilling season than with smoked cheeseburgers!

Set your smoker to 250-275 degrees. While the smoker is heating up, grab a pound of ground beef and season the meat with your favorite beef rub.

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Place the patties on the smoker, and let them cook for about an hour and a half. I usually smoke them until an internal temperature of 150 to 155 degrees.

The patties will have a reddish color to them. Don’t worry, they are done, but the color is from the smoke penetrating the meat.

I topped these with Kinder’s BBQ sauce, colby jack cheese, onion rings, lettuce and a brioche bun to finish it off.

I smoked these on my Big Green Egg from Casual Furniture World. They have locations in Winston-Salem, Greensboro and Myrtle Beach. They carry every accessory for the Big Green Egg amongst other brands, all of the finest names in outdoor patio sets, fire pits and everything you need to make sure your backyard is set up for all of your summer get-togethers.

Make sure to stop by and pick up your next grill at any of their locations!

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Pit Master Tip: You can cook these on any type of smoker, but I feel like lump charcoal has a much better flavor for burgers. Make sure to watch the temperature and use a thermometer so the burger does not dry out.

You can use whichever your favorite toppings are but, in my opinion, a BBQ burger is hard to beat.

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Play & Splash Destinations Part 2

Wonderful Water – Make a Big Splash at These Pools and Splash Pads!

by SUZY FIELDERS

Summer is almost here, and that means it is time for water play! Thankfully, there are so many water play options in Forsyth County. In addition to our many splash pads, there are also many pool options available. In part two of the Play & Splash Destinations series, I’ll be covering the parks and splash pads that are connected to pools.

ULTIMATE WATER FUN AHEAD AT THESE PARKS

Get ready to dive into not just water but fun at these parks with splash pads and pools. Be sure to check out each unique destination. The family will love all the water fun this summer! Most of these pools are open Memorial to Labor Day, but some vary, so be sure to check their websites, social media or call to confirm they are open before visiting.

Peter S. Brunstetter Aquatic Center at Tanglewood Park This is the ultimate water playground! There is a lazy river, slides, huge pool, zero-entry water play area and a splash pad.

Location: 4061 Clemmons Road, Clemmons Hours: Varies 4:00 - 8:00 p.m., 11:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m., or 11:00 a.m. - 8:00 p.m. (see website for full schedule)

Admission Rates: $8 per person, $7 for children 3-5 & seniors 55+, and free for children 2 & under and $2 entrance fee for parking at front gate Winston Waterworks Water Park Winston-Salem actually has its very own water park!

This relatively new site includes a pool, water slide, zero-entry water play area, and lazy river.

Location: 3584 Winston Lake Rd, Winston-Salem Hours: Mondays - Saturday 12:00 - 6:00 p.m. and Sunday 1:00 - 6:00 p.m.

Admission Rates: $3 for 18 & up, $2 for ages 3-17, and free for 2 and under & 60 and older

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Bolton Park Pool This park has it all! There is a brand-new playground, walking trail, outdoor fitness course, volleyball court, grills, tennis courts and a large pool with varying levels of diving boards and a zero-entry water play area.

Location: 1590 Bolton Street SW, Winston-Salem Hours: Mondays - Saturday 12:00 - 6:00 p.m. and Sunday 1:00 6:00 p.m.

Admission Rates: $3 for 18 & up, $2 for ages 3-17, and free for 2 and under & 60 and older

Polo Park Pool This park features a playground, walking trails, tennis court, pool with a diving board and splash pad. The splash pad is fenced in and can only be entered through the pool area.

Location: 1850 Polo Road, Winston-Salem Hours: Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, & Saturday 12:00 - 6:00 p.m., Wednesday & Friday 12:00 - 7:30 p.m., and Sunday: 1:00 - 6:00 p.m.

Admission Rates: $3 for 18 & up, $2 for ages 3-17, and free for 2 and under & 60 and older

Mineral Springs Pool at Jerry King Park The Mineral Springs Pool features two diving boards and an enclosed splash pad. It is located at Jerry King Park which has walking trails and a playground.

Location: 4700 Ogburn Avenue, Winston-Salem Hours: Mondays - Saturday 12:00 - 6:00 p.m. and Sunday 1:00 6:00 p.m.

Admission Rates: $3 for 18 & up, $2 for ages 3-17, and free for 2 and under & 60 and older

Reynolds Park Pool The splash pad at Reynolds Park is one of the few in WinstonSalem that is located beside a pool but doesn’t require entry through the pool. The park also has a new playground and golf course.

Location: 2450 Reynolds Park Road, Winston-Salem Hours: Mondays - Saturday 12:00 - 6:00 p.m. and Sunday 1:00 6:00 p.m.

Admission Rates: $3 for 18 & up, $2 for ages 3-17, and free for 2 and under & 60 and older

Parkland Park Pool The pool has two diving boards and a splash pad area. Plus, the park features a playground, tennis courts and a baseball/softball diamond.

Location: 1714 Brewer Road, Winston-Salem Hours: Monday & Friday 12:00 - 7:30 p.m., Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, & Saturday: 12:00 - 6:00 p.m., and Sunday 1:00 6:00 p.m.

Admission Rates: $3 for 18 & up, $2 for ages 3-17, and free for 2 and under & 60 and older

Kimberley Park Pool This pool includes a splash pad area. The park features a ton of sports and workout opportunities, including a baseball/softball diamond, basketball court, outdoor fitness course, tennis courts and walking trails.

Location: 2001 Pittsburg Avenue, Winston-Salem Hours: Mondays - Saturday 12:00 - 6:00 p.m. and Sunday 1:00 6:00 p.m.

Admission Rates: $3 for 18 & up, $2 for ages 3-17, and free for 2 and under & 60 and older

Be on the lookout for Part 3 of Play & Splash Destinations in next month’s issue. It’ll feature some quaint neighborhood parks and splash pads. Plus, if you missed last month’s issue, I showcased parks and splash pads that have some terrific themes.

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Making Dollars, Making $ense

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Nurturing Generational Wealth: Passing on More Than Money

BY STEVEN GALLO, CFP®, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

In the realm of affluent families, securing a financial legacy is a common objective. It’s not merely about transferring wealth; it’s about imparting values, an endeavor that comes with its own set of complexities. Drawing from my experience as a financial advisor, let’s explore this vital issue.

One concern commonly voiced by affluent parents and grandparents is ensuring that their wealth doesn’t erode the values they hold dear. There’s a delicate balance between presenting opportunities and sowing entitlement. Those who successfully navigate this balance invest time in educating their heirs about financial matters – money management, investments and the responsibilities that accompany wealth. Engaging them in family financial decisions and nurturing financial literacy can be an invaluable gift.

Unfortunately, money remains a taboo subject in many families.

The absence of open dialogue about wealth, financial values and intentions can lead to misunderstandings and disputes. Starting early and having transparent conversations within the family regarding wealth, values and expectations is crucial. Encourage questions and active participation in these financial discussions.

Generational wealth brings about intricate tax and legal considerations. Without proper planning, a significant portion of your assets could find its way to the government instead of your intended heirs. An adept team of advisors can devise a comprehensive plan that minimizes tax implications and ensures the assets are distributed in alignment with your wishes. Regular reviews and updates to this plan as circumstances evolve are equally important. Given the complexity of generational wealth planning, seeking guidance from financial advisors and legal professionals specialized in this domain is prudent. They can design and implement a strategy tailored to your unique circumstances.

Generational wealth planning encompasses more than monetary assets – it’s about preserving your values, securing your family’s financial future and leaving a meaningful legacy. By navigating the complexities and adopting these strategies, you can create a lasting impact that transcends your lifetime. Your generational wealth plan can serve as a pillar of strength and unity for your family, empowering them to flourish for generations to come.

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Dedicated to Your

Peace of Mind

BY MARTIE EMORY PHOTOS BY JODIE BRIM CREATIVE

There’s no substitute

for peace of mind when it comes to arranging for an aging family member to remain in his or her home alone. While you may begin that journey with more questions than answers, the experts at Forsyth Medical Supply in Winston-Salem should be your newest and most trusted friends.

While serving our community from the same location for more than five decades, Forsyth Medical Supply is the first choice for medical supplies, furniture and assistance equipment. Ask local medical professionals and other grateful families in the area, and you’ll hear their recommendations come straight from the heart!

The Forsyth Medical Supply showroom displays more than 8,000 products for customers to examine, touch and envision using in their home. Store Manager Brenna Chandler – and everyone on their personable staff – answer those tough questions when dealing with an aging parent or grandparent, and share their knowledge of “at-home safety” on a daily basis. Set aside time to browse their options, and see what’s available for loved ones who would prefer to live in their own homes as long as possible.

AT-HOME SAFETY ESSENTIALS

If you’re a novice caregiver and unfamiliar with equipment technology, Brenna shares the most commonly needed items including scooters, wheelchairs, lift chairs, compression garments and incontinence products. Most can be locally delivered within one or two business days and set up in your home, ready to use.

“Mobility scooters and power wheelchairs are some of the most popular items in the store,” she explains. “These are great options for people with limited mobility and can give back freedom and independence. Most customers need JUNE 2024 / 23

guidance to select the model that best fits their lifestyle with battery life, weight limits and wheel size a few elements that come into play when choosing.”

Some models can break down for a caregiver to easily transfer to a car, or there are non-folding options that can accommodate more weight and harsher terrain. Forsyth Medical Supply strives to stock 10 different models that are available to demonstrate in person.

A lift chair should also be on your list of home safety essentials.

“This is a big purchase for most people, and sometimes the only way a loved one can maintain independence at home,” adds Brenna. “We work with customers before purchasing to make sure a chair is the best size, style and functionality for

them. Some need different, easy-clean fabric types when they are incontinent while others prefer a leather option.”

While incontinence may be a difficult topic to approach, the staff is happy to talk one-on-one to suggest what’s best for your situation. The store offers low-profile adult disposable pull-ups and briefs with the highest absorbency levels on the market, with size samples available before you purchase.

Washable and disposable bed pads, rinse-free bathing wipes and other bath-safety products are available.

Forsyth Medical Supply also stocks a large inventory of compression garments and can custom measure patients to assure the correct size and fit – knee high, thigh high and even compression wraps for folks who no longer have the hand strength to pull on the traditional style. Not just for

“We take pride in knowing our staff is trained on each item that we sell.”

“Our products are too important to the people in our community to rely on misinformation, and we are constantly learning and further educating our staff on new equipment.”

- Brenna Chandler

seniors confined to home, compression stockings are popular with workers who stand on their feet all day or anyone with swelling issues.

Custom fittings for compression garments are typically held Monday through Friday 9:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m. with no appointment needed.

As a vital part of that 50-year, well-respected reputation, Forsyth Medical Supply will handle your manufacturer’s warranty if repairs are needed, another reason to shop for medical supplies locally and not online. Another advantage to relying on a local source, some equipment is available to rent weekly or monthly for a short-term need. Mobility scooters are often rented for grandparents attending graduations, lift chairs are common for patients of all ages recovering from surgery, and knee scooters are often used by students at school after ankle or other minor injuries. Pediatric wheelchairs and other pediatric medical supplies can also be rented for short-term injuries.

“We take pride in knowing our staff is trained on each item that we sell,” says Brenna. “If we don’t truthfully and confidently know the answer to a question, we can research or refer you to another expert. Our products are too important to the people in our community to rely on misinformation, and we are constantly learning and further educating our staff on new equipment.”

Trust Forsyth Medical Supply when it matters most, and visit them at 3033 Trenwest Drive, Winston-Salem, NC, 336.768.5512. The showroom is open Monday through Friday from 9:00 a.m. – 5:30 p.m. to browse available products, or visit forsythmedicalsupply.com. Financing is offered with a CareCredit card – ask a staff member to assist you with an onsite application.

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Successfully Transitioning from the School Year to

Summer!

by ELISA WALLACE COPPEDE

While it may seem that a transition from a busy school year to a relaxed summer may be an easy one, it can be detrimental to younger children if no set schedule is in place. There are numerous reasons why keeping consistent with a schedule of some form will help children enjoy their summer vacation. Firstly, allowing children, especially younger ones to sleep too late, and consequently stay up much later in the day, will confuse the child’s set sleep cycle. Late nights and lazy mornings often lead to cranky and irritable kids during the day. While it may seem at the time like a fun idea to let children not have a set schedule, this is truly setting them up for a harder transition down the road, when they must be up early again for school. In the end, not properly transitioning into a summer schedule can involve changes in routine, sleep patterns and social interactions which can be tough for younger children. Read on for five tips from parents and educators on how to effectively transition from a busy school year to a busy summer!

TIP #1: ROUTINE, ROUTINE, ROUTINE

As already mentioned, it is powerful and necessary to keep a child in a routine over the summer. According to the article, “Surviving the Transition from School Year to Summer,” this tip is still the most important for parents by far. Although children will not be going to school each day, we should still try and keep most of the routine the same. “This means that you should still wake up at the same time each day, bathe and eat breakfast at the same time, and keep the same bedtime,” the article states. By keeping this normal routine in place, children now have a sense of stability which helps them know what to expect. Children thrive in knowing expectations, and this can help kids build confidence and limit anxiety as they go throughout their day.

TIP #2: TURN SUMMER BREAK ACTIVITIES INTO LEARNING ACTIVITIES

The warmer weather provides countless opportunities for all to enjoy some time outdoors. Utilize that time to also incorporate learning. These activities do not require spending a lot of money or effort. There are plenty of simple and exciting activities you can do indoors or outdoors. From trivia games to scavenger hunts to outdoor experiments, summer is perfect for encouraging children to explore topics that naturally interest them, or arts and crafts activities. Take time out of each week to plan a trip to local museums or nature centers. While on these trips, the learning will not only be firsthand, but will also provide more clues as to what your child is naturally interested in. Have a young boy who gets excited while viewing insects at the nature museum? Afterwards, take him to the local library and check out a few new books on insects. The learning continues easily and effortlessly!

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TIP #3: INCLUDE YOUR CHILDREN IN PLANNING SUMMER ACTIVITIES

To keep your children motivated and invested in their learning activities, it is vital to involve them in the planning process. Ask them what interests them, and then plan accordingly. Have a young girl who loves to dance? Consider taking advantage of local dance centers which often offer summer camps for a low fee. If trying to save money, consider using videos geared towards teaching dance moves to allow them to learn a dance, and then have them teach this to the other child. By allowing children to help plan the day’s activity, this will give your child a sense of control and independence, as well as improve their critical thinking. If you have multiple children, consider having one child pick the first activity, then the second pick the next one. This way, both can enjoy planning their learning trip.

TIP #4: LIMIT SCREEN TIME; NOT JUST DURING THE SCHOOL YEAR, BUT SUMMERTIME, TOO

While it is tempting to relax and allow children more access to screen time, this is not a great idea for younger minds.

However, like anything, there is a fine balance between too much and too little. There are plenty of excellent learning apps and games that children can use during their “down time.”

Encourage your child to engage in educational activities such as watching documentaries, or use interactive learning tools such as educational apps, eBooks and learning games that can also be a great way to keep your child’s mind stimulated during the summer break. Define the amount of screen time allowed each day (which should be like what it is during the school year), and then stick to it. Encourage your children to take breaks when using electronic devices, and after screen time, make sure they get outside to enjoy the weather!

TIP #5: RESIST OVERSCHEDULING AND OVERBOOKING THE FAMILY

While summer may seem like the perfect opportunity to do it all, remember that this is also a time for children to relax and regroup before another school year. Overbooking can lead to fatigue, unnecessary stress and burnout for both child and parent.

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The Birth That Taught Me Strength My Birth Story: Part 1

by SUZY FIELDERS

Just as each child is unique, each pregnancy and birth story is, too. I found that out through the birth of my three daughters. Each was so different, and with each, I learned something special. I’m excited to share all three of those stories and lessons in this three-part series!

When my first daughter was born in 2006, I was 23 years old and a single mom. For 12 years, it was just me and her against the world. I never could have imagined on the day she was born we’d be where we are today which is a family of five!

My pregnancy with her was relatively uncomplicated and easy. I basically had no morning sickness. After the breeze of a pregnancy, I thought maybe the labor and delivery part wouldn’t be bad after all. I’ve never been so wrong in my life!

A very miserable eight days past my due date on a Sunday evening just after dinner, I began having regular contractions. So, I went to the hospital. I still was not far along but, given the time past my due date, they felt it was time to be admitted.

I have a very high pain tolerance.

Seriously, when the doctor asks your pain level, my answer of say three or four is more like a six or seven to others. I’ve had doctors even be surprised by my pain thresholds. So, I felt sure I could have my daughter without pain medications or an epidural.

After about 13 or 14 hours of painful contractions, often lasting a minute or more, and so much walking around the hospital, the doctors told me late Monday morning that my labor was still not really progressing much. They recommended an epidural and to break my water.

I made it through the epidural and water breaking, even with my fear of needles, and remained hopeful my baby girl would arrive soon. She had other plans and apparently didn’t get the eviction notice.

It took forever, okay clearly not forever, but it felt that way to finally get dilated to 10 centimeters and 100% effaced.

I finally got moved to the delivery room in the late afternoon on Monday.

After feeling like I couldn’t push more and the pain was getting the better of me, I told my mom I didn’t think I could do it anymore. Did she offer words of wisdom in that moment

While 24-hour or more labors are pretty normal for first-time deliveries, what came next was not.

I had to push for more than six hours. Yes. I said MORE THAN SIX HOURS. To this day, those hours probably remain the hardest physical pain I’ve endured.

Around hour four or so, they actually had to put me to sleep. You know when you’ve heard in movies or TV medical dramas that the body can only handle so much pain? It’s so true.

Therefore, they put me down for a mini nap. I’m not even sure that could be called sleep but unconsciousness.

I woke up in excruciating pain and still had a couple hours of pushing ahead of me it turned out. At this point, the epidural was doing nothing. Actually, before then, it had worn off.

I remember at one point being in so much pain that I told my sister to push the pain

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medicine release button for me. She so sweetly told me no one else should push it for me. To which I’m pretty sure she got an explicit word or two. She pushed that button though!

of distress? You bet, but not quite the ones I thought she would. Her response, “Well you need to keep pushing because you can’t exactly walk around with a baby between your legs!”

When my sweet baby finally arrived a little before midnight that Monday, it was all worth it. In that moment, she taught me that I’m much stronger physically, emotionally and mentally than I ever gave myself credit for!

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As we celebrate the beginning of summer and all the fun that is to come, it also is an exciting time to enjoy a whole new variety of seasonal produce! Whether you have your own garden, shop at the local farmer’s markets or keep life simple at the grocery store, check out the seasonal produce list below for what ingredients are at their peak.

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Through the month of June, you’ll find all those iconic heirloom tomatoes, as well as arugula, asparagus, avocado, beets, bok choy, corn, collard greens, mushrooms,

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rhubarb, radicchio, spinach, zucchini, green beans, cucumbers and celery. The fruit list is ever growing with cherries, figs, lemons, honeydew melon, watermelon, raspberries, strawberries, apricots, blueberries, blackberries, plums and peaches.

This month’s recipe features a variety of seasonal ingredients from heirloom tomatoes to arugula pesto and peaches. Heirloom tomatoes provide an incredible number of nutrients that include potassium, niacin, vitamin B6, folate and the cancer-fighting antioxidant lycopene. Arugula is a small but mighty leafy green that may help maintain bone health, prevent early aging, promote weight loss and regulate blood sugar levels. And, then you have peaches that are a great source of vitamins C and K, which your body uses to heal wounds and so much more!

SOURDOUGH GRILLED FLATBREAD WITH BURRATA, HOT HONEY & PESTO PREP. TIME: 15 MINUTES | COOK TIME: 5 MINUTES TOTAL TIME: 20 MINUTES | SERVES: 8

INGREDIENTS

For the Sourdough Flatbread: ½ cup Active Sourdough Starter, or Sourdough Discard 2 ½ cups All Purpose Flour ¾ cup Warm Water 2 T Olive Oil 2 ¼ tsp. Instant Yeast 1 tsp. Granulated Cane Sugar 1 tsp. Fine Sea Salt

INSTRUCTIONS

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½ tsp. Garlic Powder For the Toppings: Burrata Baby Arugula Heirloom Tomatoes, thinly sliced Peaches, sliced and pitted Pesto Hot Honey

1. In a large bowl, combine the warm water, yeast and sugar. Let sit for five minutes.

2. Add the salt, garlic powder, olive oil and sourdough. Mix just until combined, then add the flour. Mix until a shaggy dough, then turn out on a clean surface to knead one to two minutes, until a smooth and pliable dough.

3. Place back into the bowl and cover. Place in a warm environment to rise until doubled in size, about 45 minutes to one hour.

4. Roll out the flatbread to ¼” thick oval with a rolling pin.

5. Heat up your grill to 500F – 550F. 6. Toss the peaches in olive oil to grill directly on the racks two to three minutes on each side.

7. Brush the dough with olive oil on both sides, then place on the hot grill racks.

Close the grill lid to cook for two minutes, until slightly charred on the bottom, then flip to cook two to three more minutes. The dough should have the grill lines and be puffed up.

8. While warm, add a layer of pesto followed by the arugula, thinly sliced tomatoes, burrata, grilled peaches and hot honey.

9. Season with flaky salt and crushed black pepper to taste. Enjoy!

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HIDDEN GEMS

IN FORSYTH COUNTY PART 2

The Cricket’s Nest is as Unique as the Crafts Sold There

by SUZY FIELDERS

I’m excited to share another amazing hidden gem in this three-part series. Located right off Country Club Road beside South Fork Park is a very unique craft shop, The Cricket’s Nest.

I first discovered Cricket’s Nest when we had a monthly Recreation and Parks Commission meeting at South Fork Park Recreation Center and immediately fell in love with the shop. Not only does this retail consignment boutique offer some cool crafts, but it’s a wonderful membership program for seniors in the community, as well. Every single craft and member is equally special.

THE CRICKET’S NEST – HONORING CRAFTSMEN SINCE 1976

friends. She wanted to let her mom create for others in the community and felt sure there were other seniors that would like to be a part of this special group.

What began as an outreach program for seniors in Forsyth County back in 1976 and had 25 members has grown to a robust membership program with hundreds of members signed up every year.

She was right as The Cricket’s Nest has not only survived but flourished for almost 50 years!

The Cricket’s Nest originally opened in May of 1976 under the name of The Jones Cash Store on Peacehaven Road. In July of 1976, it was renamed to The Country Store and relocated to its current location off Country Club Road. Then, in October of 1976, its name was changed to The Cricket’s Nest. The name means “fair treatment by honorable craftsmen.”

Unlike standard shops where inventory is in bulk and repetitive, The Cricket’s Nest inventory changes every week. Every visit can lead to all new treasures! From seasonal decor to yard decorations, there are one-of-akind crafts here for every taste, need and desire. There is even a Moravian decor section.

D. Sue Drummond, at the time assistant to the director of the Recreation and Parks Department of the city of Winston-Salem, envisioned The Cricket’s Nest with her mother in mind. She constantly saw her mother spend her time creating crochet items for family and

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BRINGING THE ENTIRE COMMUNITY TOGETHER

In addition to providing a place for seniors to share their talents with the community, the Cricket’s Nest also provides a way to bring the community together through their regular festivals.

This year, they are hosting three fun-filled festivals! The Firecracker Festival takes place July 13th from 9:00 a.m. - 3:00 p.m., the Fall Festival takes place September 27th from 9:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m. & September 28th from 9:00 a.m. - 3:00 p.m., and the Holly Jolly takes place November 1st from 9:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m. and November 2nd from 9:00 a.m. - 3:00 p.m. The Firecracker and Fall Festivals feature food trucks. People love finding unique holiday gifts for loved ones at the Holly Jolly.

DETAILS TO VISIT THE CRICKET’S NEST

Location: 4401 Country Club Road, Winston-Salem Hours: Tuesday, Wednesday & Saturday 10:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m., Thursday & Friday 9:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m., and closed on Monday & Sunday Website: cricketsnest.com

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Beautiful in Every Season

by RENEE SKUDRA

The Dogwood Tree

In March of 2016, after an arduous three-day drive from northern California, I landed at my new house in front of which sat a tree that I had never seen in my life. A friendly neighbor stopped by and advised that the tree, with its canopy of dense white blossoms, was in full bloom albeit briefly; however, it could still give any form of nature a beautiful run for its money for that evanescent period of time. My love affair with the dogwood tree began on that day; I can earmark it precisely in time. I began gathering stories and information about it immediately, learning that it is the state tree of North Carolina (as well as that of Virginia, Missouri and New Jersey). Growing mostly in the southeast, they reach a height between 15-40 feet and, depending upon the species (there are eleven), can be shrubs or small trees. Allegedly, the largest one in North Carolina stands in a cemetery in Clinton with branches that reach out to 48 feet. Folk wisdom has it that people here know it is not really spring until the dogwoods bloom, showy and gorgeous, pink or white blossoms shooting their incalculable beauty into the world in a pure moment of pomp and splendor.

Beauty is as beauty does, and this tree never disappoints.

Dogwoods are commonly used in landscape and street plantings and, as a garden tree, are used for shade around patios, shrub borders or backdrop species; although many lawns proudly showcase them as single specimens on the green. This valuable ornamental species’ flowers offer pollen for pollinators, and the spring sprouts are a food source for numerous insects, birds and mammals. The trees’ canopies serve as a habitat for living creatures, and the red berries from the trees are a rich food source which is high in calcium and fat content. Sundry living animals like beavers, gray foxes, black bears and deer can be seen happily partaking in it if they happen to be part of your neighborhood. Wood from the trees also has a commercial value – it is utilized in the manufacture of tool handles, spools, spindles, roller skates and golf club heads.

Historically, the dogwood tree occupied an important role.

Native Americans, for example, have long recognized the many medicinal attributes of the tree and used the roots, berries and leaves in many ingenious ways including the making of dye.

According to a commentator on the website Patch.com, in his article “Dogwoods – Medicinal Monday” (3/12/2018), tea was made from the inner bark and used to treat malaria and fever.

During the American Civil War especially, the bark of the tree

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became a much-needed replacement for often-absent quinine, to treat the mosquito-transmitted disease of malaria which often afflicted soldiers in their camps. It proved useful in helping them cope with the debilitating and, unfortunately, sometimes fatal symptoms of malaria.

Early Native Americans held dogwoods highly in their estimation. They considered them symbols of safety and protection. In Northwestern tribes such as the Makah, the dogwood symbolized good luck, and numerous native peoples used their bark for treating headaches, fatigue, diarrhea and as a poultice to place upon boils and wounds. In American culture, dogwoods had their own particular symbolism. According to Jose Lopez in his article “Dogwood: Myths and Medicine” (5/28/2019), he mentions that, according to Christian tradition, especially in the south, blossoms on dogwood trees are considered to bear the scars of Jesus’ crucifixion when they bloom in spring. He notes in a wry tongue-in-cheek manner that dogwoods definitely did not grow in Jerusalem at the time of Jesus, but the story nevertheless perseveres and gives to the dogwood a grand spiritual significance.

The beauty of the dogwoods captivated many people including Presidents George Washington and Thomas Jefferson whose respective estates (Mr. Vernon and Monticello) included the trees in their landscaping plans.

The trees even enjoyed an association with romance – during the Victorian era, men would give an unmarried woman they wished to court a dogwood blossom to determine whether she favored him. Acceptance of the flower was a signal that the lady was interested while a flower that was returned was a sign of unrequited love.

Although the tree’s blossoms last only three or four weeks, its pristine beauty is not diminished, as bright red berries appear in the fall, and its life cycle moves through different pretty leafy patterns in consequent seasons. As the creamcolored leaves edged with purple depart, there is still the handsome dark mottled pattern of the bark to appreciate.

As Anne Morrow Lindbergh once remarked “… I don’t know why I am always asking for private individual selfish miracles when, every year, there are miracles like white dogwood.”

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Raising a healthy and intuitive eater does not have to be difficult. Let’s go over some information that may be helpful.

IMPORTANT NUTRIENTS When starting solids, it is important to be aware of what nutrients should be encouraged and limited. Babies over the age of six months should have a diet rich in iron and vitamin D and limit added sugar and sodium.

Infants are born with iron stores but typically these are depleted by six months. It is recommended to have a diet high in iron to support immune function, neurological development and the building of red blood cells. Vitamin D is a micronutrient that is essential for building strong bones. Infants are generally provided supplemental vitamin D after birth. Once starting solids, you can incorporate vitamin D-rich foods in addition to the supplement.

It is recommended by the Dietary Guidelines for Americans (DGA) that children under the age of two avoid added sugars. The DGA also suggests limiting sodium intake which can be found in processed foods, meats and some spice blends.

DIVISION OF RESPONSIBILITY The Division of Responsibility, an evidencebased approach coined by Dietitian Ellyn Satter, establishes the clear roles for the parent and child, so you can create a supportive and positive mealtime experience. Simply put, the parent provides and the child decides. The parent

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is responsible for what food is provided, when the meal is served and where meals are held. The child is responsible for how much they eat and whether or not they eat.

The goal of the Division of Responsibility is that you will raise a competent and intuitive eater and that mealtimes are less stressful.

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2. In a small bowl, add 2 tablespoons of olive oil, garlic powder, chili powder, cumin and black beans.

Mash with a fork and mix until well blended. If needed, add a few tablespoons of water and continue to mash until you get a bean puree.

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the parenting PATH Pinwheel Gala

The Parenting PATH recently celebrated its annual Pinwheel Gala on April 20th at the Annunciation Greek Orthodox Church in Winston-Salem. It was a night to remember with record crowds of 400+ all coming together to celebrate and support The Parenting PATH and it’s mission to prevent child abuse and neglect. The event raised an astounding $128,000+ to help fund the programs and services that support local families.

Board Chair Beth Winters and Parent Support Director Karen Flynt presenting this year’s Community Hero Awards to Daughters of Penelope & Greek Orthodox Ladies Philoptochos Society for their service to the community

Special guests and former participant Jayla and mom Jessica sharing their experience with The Parenting PATH

Working to prevent and treat child abuse and neglect by strengthening families, enhancing parent/child relationships and creating safer, more stable communities.

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Board member Caitlin Dorsch and friends enjoying the event

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We All Need a day off - Even Our Children

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by GENEVIEVE CONDON

e live in a society where we are told we have to hustle and work ourselves into the ground in order to be successful. Days off are for the weak. And work-life balance? It’s more about survival. Balance doesn’t exist.

We live for the weekend, rushing through our workdays, burning ourselves out to prove that we can work harder than the next person. I am guilty of this mentality. I spent the greater part of my 20s working long hours, multiple jobs, and virtually getting nowhere.

I wouldn’t sleep. I’d forget to eat, rushing from one job to another. Late nights focusing on projects that could have waited until the next morning in order to get it done ahead of time to prove I was worthy.

stop. breathe. reset.

Do I get looks when I am walking Target with my daughter on a random Tuesday? Yup! People often ask if she’s home sick and I quickly reply with a “Nope! Mental Health Day!” All I know is that after a day of rejuvenation, my daughter wakes up happier, livelier, and continues to rock at this thing called life. She gets good grades. Makes good choices and is happy.

That’s all I ever wanted when working long hours. Hustling. Was to make sure my daughter was happy. But things don’t truly matter. It’s time. Time together. Playing that game. Walking Target. That’s what matters.

I stopped doing it.

Just as we struggle with finding balance as adults, children face the same. We often think they have it so easy, but navigating expectations, school, friends—it’s a lot for a child. They deserve a day off just as much as we do.

It broke my heart, and I knew I had to change.

For me, thankfully I work for a company that offers unlimited PTO, two mental health days quarterly, no meeting Wednesdays and a plethora of other initiatives to ensure we don’t overwork ourselves. I hope that by the time my daughter finds her career, that focusing on mental health for employees is embedded in all workplace cultures, and not an anomaly.

My daughter would look up at me with her big blue eyes asking if I had time to play a game with her as she watched me click away on the computer, focused on something other than her.

I now teach my daughter that mental health days are important.

Even as a child. That family is invaluable, and time—you won’t ever get it back.

I work hard. Don’t get me wrong. I get my tasks done, go above and beyond, but learned over the years that risking my own health, both mentally and physically, missing my children’s school functions, forgoing date nights— none of that was worth fitting into this hustle culture.

I let my daughter take a day off. We go shopping, get our nails done, sometimes just cuddle up on the couch eating junk food and watching movies. We recharge. Spend time together, and, more importantly,

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But for now, I’ll continue to give her days off and enjoy the time we get to spend together.

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Triad Area Events in June June offers a variety of interesting and exciting events for families to experience in and around the Triad. Here are some of the top offerings: Caleb Caudle and the Wild Ponies Blue Ridge Music Center, Galax, Va. June 1, 7 p.m.

Tickets $20, Under 12 Free Caleb Caudle, who has been creating albums and touring since 2007, is joined by Wild Ponies, a country and roots duo from Nashville.

Family First Workshop: Miniature Food Reynolda House Museum of American Art, Winston-Salem June 2, 2-4 p.m.

Tickets $15 (Members $12) Participants will learn techniques for making miniature food models with polymer clay. Workshop for children grades 1 through 6.

The World Up Close: Digital Macro Photography Paul J. Diener Botanical Garden, Kernersville June 4, 11 or 18, 5:30-8:30 p.m.

Registration $149 Learn to take compelling macro photos with Elizabeth Larson, a professional photographer with 34 years of experience.

Peso Pluma Greensboro Coliseum June 12, 8 p.m.

Tickets start at $39.50 Peso Pluma, a Mexican singer, sold out 54 shows in 2023 and won a Grammy for his album “Genesis, Peso Pluma.”

Michael Jackson: This Is It Carolina Theatre, Greensboro June 13, 7 p.m.

Free Prior to his death, Michael Jackson was preparing for a series of concerts in the summer of 2009. This documentary was filmed between March and June of 2009.

The Ritz Winston-Salem Theatre Alliance June 7-15, Various Times Tickets $19 and $21 An over-the-top comedy that takes place in the 1970s in a Manhattan bathhouse.

Hardwired: A Tribute to Metallica The Ramkat, Winston-Salem June 13, 8 p.m.

Tickets $16-$30 Hardwired is a premier Metallica tribute band. Hardwired makes you feel like you are at a Metallica show, performing classics with precision.

Green Queen Bingo Greensboro Coliseum Complex Piedmont Hall at Greensboro Coliseum Complex June 7, 7 p.m.

Tickets $20 Green Queen Bingo, hosted by Brenda the Drag Queen, is North Carolina’s longest running Drag event. Since 2004, the event has raised over $700,000 to support LGBTQ+ in the Triad.

Creek Crawl with Forsyth County Reynolda House Museum of American Art June 14 and 28, 10 a.m. to Noon Free Explore the creek that flows through Wildflower Island on Reynolda’s Woodland Trail. The class will be led by Andy Szabat, a senior community educator for Forsyth County Stormwater Division.

Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban in Concert with Greensboro Symphony Steven Tanger Center, Greensboro June 8-9, Various Times Tickets $35-$80 First a bestseller, then a major movie and now a magical concert event. Experience the adventures of Harry Potter set to live music from the Greensboro Symphony.

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Planning A Budget-Friendly Experience

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Sometimes we enter a period where it’s better to conserve than to splurge. Don’t get discouraged if that period happens during the summer because there are ways to embark on unforgettable experiences without breaking the bank! Summer can be a perfect time to plan a budget-friendly getaway or staycation that doesn’t shortchange you on excitement and relaxation. Let’s dive into some fun ideas that will have you counting down the days until your next adventure.

THE CLASSIC STAYCATION

This should always be on the docket because it allows you to transform your space into a cozy retreat at no extra cost. After all, you already paid the rent/mortgage! My partner and I love to queue up a movie or a show we haven’t had time to watch, grab our favorite drinks and snacks, and snuggle up. We make a whole day out of it. After watching TV, we may sit on our porch that overlooks a gorgeous pool and imagine we are somewhere else, or take a walk on a nearby trail with our dog. The conversations that flow from a simple staycation are some of the best ones to cherish.

THE STAYCATION REMIX

If a staycation in your home won’t satisfy your desires, consider booking an Airbnb room. Booking just a room is not as expensive as booking an entire house, and there are great options that will give you the feeling of being in a luxurious suite. Bring some board games, and you can include the same activities mentioned previously. One of the best perks is now you don’t have to worry too much about resetting the entire space because that part is done for you when you leave.

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Day trips are always fun, and most people plan a trip to a nearby beach or lake. If you want to switch things up, consider traveling to another city for a specific event like a craft market or music festival. You can also choose to stroll the downtown streets which are likely filled with cute boutiques, cafes and galleries.

You will find yourself having a great time and appreciating the uniqueness of a different town. All you need is the gas money to get there, and it’s up to you if you take some extra spending cash to support the local shops and artists.

You can pack your own lunches to save on the costs of eating out and truly make the trip your own experience.

We yearn for vacations to create lasting memories, so with a little creativity and resourcefulness, you can plan the perfect budget-friendly vacation or staycation that will leave you feeling rejuvenated and fulfilled. So, make an intentional itinerary, grab your loved one’s hand and prepare for an amazing summer!

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Beautiful Beach Getaways in NC

by KAREN COOPER

It’s just that time of year to be thinking about getting away for summer vacation. Like many North Carolinians, you may be dreaming of hot, sandy beaches and sand dunes…oceanfront rental houses, rocking chairs, porches, breezes and sunsets. You can find all these things and a laid back atmosphere at any of the following must-visit North Carolina oceanside vacation spots. With so many appealing options, the tough part is deciding which one to choose.

CAPE HATTERAS

Known for its iconic black-and-white-striped lighthouse, one of the tallest in the United States, Cape Hatteras is also renowned for its nearly 70 miles of unspoiled beaches. Off-road vehicles are allowed on the sand with a permit, and there are four campgrounds available. You may be able to catch a glimpse of sea turtles during their nesting season.

Where to eat: Hatteras Sol Waterside Grill – for unfussy waterside local seafood.

The Wreck Tiki Bar – for hot dogs, paninis and beer with live music and sunsets.

EMERALD ISLE

Many families return to Emerald Isle year after year for its relaxed atmosphere, 12 miles of clean beaches and a well loved fishing pier.

Emerald Isle offers a beautiful setting and great amenities, including ample parking and delicious restaurants. Emerald Isle is part of the Crystal Coast section of North Carolina with Indian Beach nearby.

Where to eat: Fish Hut Grill – for fresh local seafood.

TOPSAIL ISLAND

Located about 40 miles from Wilmington, this barrier island is rumored to have gotten its name from the local legend that pirate ships hid behind the inlet with their topsails showing. Today, this 26-mile-long island is better known for its three main beach areas – Topsail Beach, North Topsail Beach and Surf City. If you visit, make sure to check out the southernmost point of the island (known as Serenity Point) for amazing sunset views.

Where to eat: Daddy Mac’s Beach Grille – for some of the island’s best beachside views and seafood.

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KILL DEVIL HILLS

Kill Devil Hills offers some of the best East Coast beaches as well as ample amenities and activities that will appeal to all types of beachgoers. Families in particular love this town for its wide coastline and array of accommodations. Kill Devil Hills is less remote than some of the other Outer Banks beaches, and visitors can enjoy a variety of restaurants, boutiques and coffee shops. Make sure to plan a visit to the Wright Brothers National Memorial where the world’s first successful airplane flight took place in 1903.

Where to eat: The Kill Devil Grill – for casual American fare and wine in a former diner on the National Register of Historic Places!

Goombays Grille & Raw Bar – for a kid friendly atmosphere with Caribbean-accented dishes and tropical drinks.

HOLDEN BEACH

Holden Beach is a small seaside community located about 25 miles from the North Carolina-South Carolina border. A favorite among families, there are so many ways to enjoy your time here, whether you love watersports or prefer laid-back pastimes like beach combing and birdwatching.

Others may enjoy a round of golf, fishing or trying one of the island’s delicious restaurants.

Where to eat: Provision Co. – for no frills seafood and sandwiches with views of the Intracoastal Waterway.

COROLLA

Bordered by the Atlantic Ocean and the Currituck Sound, Corolla is known for its seclusion along the northern coast of the Outer Banks. While there are activities like exploring the Currituck Beach Lighthouse and strolling through Historic Corolla Village, the main appeal here is relaxing on the wide, sandy beaches. Four-wheel-drive vehicles are common on the beaches in Corolla; as are the wild Spanish horses that roam the island.

Where to eat: Uncle Ike’s Sandbar and Grill – for a down-to-earth tavern atmosphere serving seafood, steaks and cocktails.

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Understanding A Child’s

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by MEGAN TAYLOR

as a Form of Communication

ommunication comes in many forms. We create meaning and conversations through talking, hand gestures and body language. But, there is also a type of communication that isn’t as obvious, but is still as valid, especially in children – a person’s behavior.

People of all ages communicate through their behaviors. Think about it – when a baby cries, they are letting the adults in their life know they are hungry, tired, wet, etc. When a child smiles, they are telling you they are happy. Our actions, reactions and emotions are all layers of meaning and tell us important details about a person, just like the other methods, especially for children. It is easier to identify the positive behaviors and what they are communicating. However, the negative behaviors can be trickier to understand because you have to look deeper into why the child is exhibiting this behavior.

Negative and problem behaviors in children almost always have a reason. No one wants to scream and destroy things, but when a person doesn’t have the necessary communication skills to accurately explain his or her needs, this is what occurs in place of those skills. Instead of a child saying they are upset, tired or need attention, they will show it through an outburst or a scream.

Destructive and inappropriate behaviors are often done when a child feels unsafe or out of control. As adults, our job is to help the children identify the need not being met, regulate their emotions and verbally describe what is happening through the messages a child is sending us.

Every child needs a “safe person” in their lives. This is one or two adults that provide consistent and reliable support of the child, regardless of the situation and their behaviors. Research has shown that in order to reduce a young child’s challenging behavior, it’s best to use support, not punishment. Once adults determine the type of behavior and what the child is trying to communicate, they are better able to respond. Obviously, there will be times when discipline is needed, but it is best to determine the motive of the child first. It is important to note that you are responding to the child, not their specific behaviors, and the way an adult responds can set the tone for how the conversation goes.

Challenging behavior can represent specific unmet wants and needs. The acronym EATS is a useful tool to understand the various actions.

EATS stands for Escape, Attention, Tangible Gains and Sensory Needs. Escapism behaviors are used when a child wants to avoid a task, situation or even a person, such as asking for water instead of going to bed or avoiding schoolwork. Attention-seeking behaviors are when children want attention in a certain way, and they aren’t sure when or whether they’ll receive it. However, it is important to remember that attention-seeking behaviors

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aren’t all negative; they can be positive behaviors, as well.

Looking at tangible gains, children often want certain things on their own schedule. They want something when they want it. There is an impulsivity and inflexibility for the child, and more social and communication skills are needed to be learned in order to respond appropriately to having their needs met. Lastly, sensory needs occur when a child’s brain is taking in information from all of their senses.

Their brain works overtime to process all of the new information which leads to sensory seekers or sensory avoiders. Sensory seekers underreact to the input, while sensory avoiders overreact.

Typical behaviors are becoming overwhelmed, hyperactive and disruptive.

After the safe adult determines the source of the child’s behavior and their response, a child feels more respected and will more than likely have their needs met. The challenging behaviors will then stop and they will feel supported. It is imperative to find positive ways for a child and an adult to communicate their behaviors. Model and teach children lifelong social and problem-solving skills to communicate their needs. After all, communication is key in an ever-evolving world.

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Winston-Salem Open Serves Up Fresh Fan Amenities and Family Friendly Pricing

by ROBIN LINDNER

The 2024 Winston-Salem Open at the Wake Forest University Tennis Complex is gearing up to deliver more than just world-class serves and volleys.

Fans will find other new reasons to cheer. The tournament will host a variety of food trucks offering local favorites and supporting local businesses.

Slated for August 17-24, the 13th installment of this awardwinning men’s professional tennis event promises an array of new amenities aimed at enhancing the fan experience while keeping family affordability at the forefront.

“We wanted to bring a slice of Winston-Salem’s rich culinary scene right to the tennis grounds, and this addition is another representation of our commitment to support our home town,” Ryan commented.

“Each year, we look to raise the bar, ensuring that our event is not only a highlight of the tennis calendar but also a highlight for the local community,” said Jeff Ryan, tournament director.

Perhaps the most significant enhancement this year is the addition of more shaded areas around the grounds.

Recognizing the North Carolina sun can be as formidable as the competition on the court, tournament leaders have strategically increased shaded seating and relaxation spots.

These areas will allow fans to enjoy the atmosphere of a world-class event while getting respite from the heat.

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For those who like to pair their forehands with a cold one, the newly installed bar areas promise refreshment without missing a match point. Situated under the welcome cover of shade, these spots are perfect for a mid-match break or a relaxing recap of the day’s play.

Keeping the event accessible to families has always been a priority, and this year is no exception. The tournament held all 2024 sessions, except for the semifinals and final matches, at 2023 pricing.

Ryan says he knows family budgets can be tight. “We felt like holding most of our ticket prices steady was a way to help keep this event a little more accessible.”

For fans seeking a more exclusive experience, the tournament introduces “Rally Row,” a new premium seating option. Located directly behind the sideline banners on the east side of the stadium, Rally Row seats offer an unparalleled closeness to the action.

“It’s about feeling the intensity of every point,” Ryan explained.

These premium spots also come with a single-session pass to the VIP hospitality center, adding a touch of luxury to the thrilling proximity to the court.

As the summer heats up, so does the anticipation for this standout event in Winston-Salem. Whether you’re a die-hard tennis fan or looking for a unique family outing, the tournament is shaping up to be an unmissable part of Forsyth County’s summer offerings.

Mark your calendars, grab your hats and prepare for a week of thrilling tennis and top-tier amenities, all designed to create lasting memories for the whole family.

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he community really went ALL IN for Pretty In Pink Foundation at their 3rd annual Triple Crown Casino Night! A fun, energetic crowd attended the event at Legacy Stables & Events in Winston-Salem on Friday, April 19th. Guests enjoyed a silent and live auction, diamond giveaway, delicious food and cocktails and of course- casino gaming! The evening was a huge success, raising more than $160,000 for the organization’s lifesaving mission—a record-breaking amount! Pretty In Pink Foundation provides under-

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insured and uninsured breast cancer patients in North Carolina with financial assistance for qualify, lifesaving medical treatment. This year was extra special as the organization celebrates 20 years!

Missed the event? Mark your calendars for Friday, April 4th 2025…we hope to see you next year!

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Child Safety Series Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

by TARYN JEREZ

Each month, this series will provide important facts and tips surrounding child safety in an effort to support parents and caregivers as they navigate reducing risks and creating the safest environment possible for the children in their lives.

While we often focus on physical safety, the mental and emotional health of our children is an equal priority. The month of June is Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Awareness Month, and many adults may find themselves surprised to learn how many children suffer from PTSD. Typically, when we hear this disorder mentioned, mental images of soldiers back from war zones or parents who have gone through child loss come to mind, but the condition affects about 7% of girls and 2% of boys in the United States. (These numbers may underestimate the prevalence among children as many cases go undiagnosed.)

Understanding the unique experience children have with PTSD, recognizing its signs and knowing how to support them is essential for their recovery and well being.

UNDERSTANDING AND IDENTIFYING PTSD IN CHILDREN

The ever quoted “kids are resilient” sentiment may actually be causing harm in the way adults see and support trauma in children. Generally, PTSD is a condition that can affect children who have experienced or witnessed a traumatic event, regardless of age. This could be anything from abuse of any kind, neglect, violence, accidents, natural disasters or death. Recognizing the signs of PTSD in children can be challenging as symptoms often manifest differently from those in adults which is why it’s crucial to be aware of what to look for.

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According to mental health experts at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, common symptoms of PTSD in children may look like: • • • •

Re-Experiencing: Children may have intrusive memories, nightmares or flashbacks of the traumatic event. They might also exhibit distress when reminded of the event.

Avoidance: Children with PTSD may avoid places, people or activities that remind them of the traumatic event. They may also avoid talking about it.

Hyperarousal: This can manifest as irritability, difficulty concentrating, being easily startled or having trouble sleeping.

Negative Changes in Thinking and Mood: Children may experience negative thoughts about themselves or the world, lose interest in activities they once enjoyed or have difficulty experiencing positive emotions.

SUPPORTING CHILDREN THROUGH THEIR DIAGNOSIS

As parents and caregivers, we not only want to protect our children but help them to feel seen and heard in their experiences, as well. Creating a safe environment that provides support and a comfortable place for your child to share his or her feelings is one of the best things you can do. Additionally, seeking professional help around childhood trauma not only helps them now but also gives them the help they need to avoid long term symptoms into adolescence and adulthood. Encourage healthy coping mechanisms such as taking deep breaths, counting, and creative and mindfulness exercises.

IMPLEMENTING TOOLS TO HELP THE WHOLE FAMILY

Regardless of the specifics, a PTSD diagnosis for a child can affect everyone involved and is often best treated when the whole family is on the same page. Establishing a routine that helps provide structure and stability can make a big difference for the child while bringing everyone together. This can be as simple as having a meal schedule, family outings like neighborhood bike rides and sticking to a bedtime schedule.

Intentionally have caregivers, older siblings and extended family participate in PTSD education, so there is an understanding surrounding diagnosis and helpful (and unhelpful) ways to help the child.

FINDING SUPPORT IN THE MIDST OF CHILDHOOD TRAUMA

If your child or a child in your life may be experiencing PTSD or is at high risk after experiencing trauma, you can reach out to his or her pediatrician for recommendations for mental health professionals and programs. Additionally, if you are looking for support as a caregiver for a child with PTSD or wanting support for your own trauma journey, please ask your physician for help finding a support group and resources.

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Nestled within the vibrant Clemmons Town Center, Healthy Made Simple is about to join the community.

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A JOURNEY ROOTED IN WELLNESS

Pam Baker started Healthy Made Simple in 2016, leveraging her background as a personal trainer and event planner. With her expertise in health and nutrition, she offered clients convenient, delicious meals to support their wellness goals. From humble beginnings in her kitchen, the business grew into a full-fledged enterprise, culminating in a commercial kitchen in Advance, North Carolina, with her husband Inkem’s support. Their vision: to offer delicious, healthconscious meals that fit seamlessly into busy lifestyles.

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Healthy Made Simple has seen a surge in catering requests, offering tailored menus for corporate gatherings and family celebrations. The team collaborates with each client, ensuring every event is a culinary triumph.

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Games to Keep the Whole Family MovingofOutside a Southern Yankee

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Spring is here in full force, and our family has been spending so much time outside as a result. If you’re like me, it can help to have some ideas for fun outdoor activities as a way to keep things fresh on that front. Yes, playground time, unstructured time in the yard and family walks are a blast, but sometimes it’s fun to mix things up a bit!

With that in mind, I’ve put together a list of some things families can do together to enjoy the spring weather – and to keep moving (which we know helps everyone feel their best)!

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Have a dance party in the backyard! Bring music (you can just use your phone or computer for it, or set up a speaker if you have one on hand) and see where it takes you.

Introduce playground games from your childhood. Think hopscotch, red light/green light, kick the can and four square.

Have fun with water! On especially warm days, set up a sprinkler. The whole family can have fun jumping through it to keep moving without breaking a sweat. Step it up a notch if you have a tarp to make a slip n’ slide, too!

Plant and tend to a garden. This is something that will need ongoing maintenance, so the family can work on it together every few days. Pulling weeds is an especially great way to get some movement in while also keeping your garden healthy!

Fly a kite. Take your kite to an open area (the field in front of Reynolda House works great for this) on a breezy day and watch it soar.

Go on a scavenger hunt. Whether this is at home or a park, put together a list of things for your kiddo to look for, and then have a blast finding them together.

Hang up a homemade bird feeder. You can go old school and use the pinecone + peanut butter + birdseed approach and then find the perfect branch to tie it to. You’ll all enjoy watching birds come to dine afterward.

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Kick a soccer ball around. You can step it up a notch by setting up equipment (either actual soccer equipment or getting creative with other elements you have on hand) to practice drills in a fun way. For example, put down some shoes in a row, spaced apart a bit, and dribble around them, weaving in and out.

Go on a hike. While a walk around the neighborhood is great, it can also get old. Get out into nature a bit more and enjoy the experience together! Use our directory to find trails and parks all over the Triad.

Create an obstacle course around your yard. You can adjust the level of difficulty based on your kids’ ages, but have fun with creatively using objects or just elements from nature to build a course everyone will love.

Set up a lemonade stand. We have one each year with my daughter, and she loves interacting with neighbors and then using her profits as a donation to a local non-profit of her choice.

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Have a water balloon fight. Stay cool on especially warm days and keep everyone on their toes as you try to escape each other’s throws!

Set up a corn hole tournament. Use boards if you have them, or borrow a friend’s or neighbor’s for a weekend if you don’t!

Enjoy a family bike ride. This can happen in your neighborhood, or maybe you drive or (safely) bike to another area with a little more space or for a change of scenery. Use our directory to find bike trails all over the Triad.

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Play a round of disc golf. Read our blog post about disc golf.

Pull out the jump ropes and hula hoops. Get some contests going.

Pitch a tent in your yard. Have an outdoor sleepover!

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It’s a Grand Grand Life Keeping Children Safe in Summer

by SUSAN WOODALL It’s June, and soon, most children will be out of school. If you ask them which season is their favorite, I would bet they would overwhelmingly say summer. No more pencils, no more books… as the little ditty starts will be their theme song on the last day.

Once home, backpacks will land in a corner not to be looked at, except by an adult cleaning it out, until the new school year begins.

Depending on the age and situation, they will either rise early or sleep late, sit in front of a screen for hours or complain they’re bored (although no suggestions of something to do will appease them). If you manage to get your grandchildren outdoors, there are some things to remember to make sure their summer vacation is a safe one.

SUNSCREEN

It is very important to put sunscreen on any exposed skin when outdoors. Even on cloudy days, skin can get burned. Obviously, the more intense the sun is, the more often sunscreen needs to be applied. If you are at the beach or the pool, don’t think the water keeps the sun from doing skin damage. Sunscreen needs to have a SPF of at least 30. There are rash and sun guards for children to wear over or in place of their swimsuits that also offer some protection. Hats and sunglasses are also good ideas.

HYDRATION

Make sure you take plenty of water with you if you leave home, and drink it even if you don’t feel thirsty. Pack a cooler with water, ice, washcloths and ice packs.

STAY COOL

Avoid strenuous activities and, on days of extreme heat, plan to be indoors with air conditioning or, at the very least, fans. The hours between 10:00 a.m. and 4:00 p.m. are when the sun is the most damaging. Infants younger than six months old should completely

avoid sun exposure. Overheating can result in dizziness, headache, nausea and fatigue. Heat exhaustion signs include heavy sweating and a rapid pulse caused by the body overheating. If not addressed, these could progress to a heat stroke – a very dangerous, life-threatening condition.

WATER SAFETY

This one is very important. Never let a child out of your sight when there is water around. Children can disappear in a flash. Make sure someone has their eyes on them if you’re called away. Until they are proficient at swimming, children need to wear a life jacket. Most people think someone would notice if a child was in trouble in a pool.

Unfortunately, it is a misnomer to think that people splash and cause commotion when in trouble. Drowning has been called a silent death.

If you go out boating, all children should have life vests on. The boat should have life vests on board for everyone, but it’s crucial for kids. Do not let children sit at the back of the boat if idling frequently. The gasoline powered engine produces carbon monoxide – a very dangerous colorless and odorless gas.

INSECT BITES

Stings & Rashes – Protect children from bugs that bite or sting by spraying any exposed body parts with insect repellent. If a sting happens, check to see if the stinger is still in the skin. If so, pull it out and wash the affected area, apply hydrocortisone cream or make a paste with baking soda.

Get help immediately if a reaction is severe. If you plan on taking a nature hike, wear a long-sleeved shirt, long pants and crew socks. Immediately upon leaving the woods, check for ticks.

Be prepared by keeping a tote filled with items that could be used in case of a sting, cut, burn or any other small accident. Check the bag before heading out to make sure items with expiration dates are still current and things that have been used have been replaced. Most importantly, enjoy your grandchildren and make the times you spend together happy ones.

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LOCAL EVENTS *Event details are subject to change. Please check event websites & social media pages for updates as the dates draw near.*

JUNE 1 CLEMMONS SUMMER SHINDIG 5-8pm, Jerry Long YMCA. Groove to the tunes of Charlotte’s favorite, UNKNOWN ARTIST! This tribute to Classic & Modern Rock will have you dancing all night long. Named Charlotte’s “Favorite Local Band About to Hit it Big” by Elevate Lifestyle Magazine, they promise a high-energy performance you won’t want to miss. Kid Zone: Keep the little ones entertained with their very own kid zone featuring yard games, Mobile Arcade USA and Rockstar Bubbles – don’t forget to bring a towel! Food trucks will be on site. This free event, presented by the Village of Clemmons and sponsored by AM Erectors, promises to be a highlight of the summer! For more information, contact the Village at events@clemmons.org.

JUNE 1 CHASE THE DREAM 5K AND FUN RUN 8-10pm, Bailey Park. The Dream Center of Forsyth County is excited to share that it will host its 2nd annual 5K and Fun Run to provide much-needed support for The Dream Center. Our Chase the Dream 5K and Fun Run is a family friendly GLOW IN THE DARK event that is open to the entire community. All funds raised will support the Dream Center of Forsyth County.

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JUNE 7

JUNE 10-14

BEACH PARTY: SHAG DANCIN’ & SHRIMP BOILIN’

INTO THE WILD TOTALLY KIDS CAMP

6-10pm, Join the Robert Hall Secret Supper Society for a night of Shag Dancin’ & Shrimp Boilin’. Society members will get to enjoy a low country boil by Chef Charley Smith.

Then, The Holiday Band will be performing Carolina Beach music for guests to enjoy and shag dance to. Tickets for this event will be available for purchase for all Secret Supper Society members. Not a member, but interested in learning more? Visit our website at RobertHallSecretSupperSociety.com.

Salem Gymnastics & Swim. Join the fun this summer as we jump into the wild. We will explore the depth of the oceans, the peak of the mountains, famous caves and our most popular National Parks. Campers will learn some basic survival skills and even get to create their own shelters. Totally Kids Camp is from 9am-2pm with an optional add-on until 5pm. Camp Imagination is offered for 3-5-year-olds every week from 9am-12pm with the option to stay for lunch bunch.

JUNE 8 THE BIG RUN 5K 8-10am, Fleet Feet Clemmons, 6339 Jessie Lane in Clemmons. A new race is coming to Clemmons! Timed 5K and one-mile fun run. runsignup.com/Race/Info/NC/Clemmons/ thebigrunclemmons

JUNE 8 KALEIDEUM AFTER DARK: RAISE THE ROOF We’re Raising the Roof with drinks, live music, laser tag, and the most spectacular rooftop view in the city! “Hold Tone,” a Raleigh band with Winston-Salem natives will play an eclectic mix of party music on our brand-new Rooftop Adventure.

6:30-9:30pm. $20 for members; $25 for non-members. Ticket price includes two drink vouchers for beer or wine. Cash bar available for more drinks, and you can buy your dinner at a food truck out front! Purchase your ticket(s) at kaleideum.org.

JUNE 15 JUNETEENTH FESTIVALS Hosted at Bailey Park in downtown Winston-Salem, this celebration of African American traditions and freedom features music, dance, food, panel discussions, as well as arts and crafts, from 1 to 8 p.m.

JUNE 17-21 & JULY 15-19 NINJA TOTALLY KIDS CAMP Salem Gymnastics & Swim. Salem Ninjas will train and race through several different obstacle courses and stages throughout the week. They will be climbing, leaping, jumping, and crawling their way to the big event to be held the last day of camp where everyone walks away a winner with a medal of their very own. Totally Kids Camp is from 9am-2pm with an optional add-on until 5pm. Camp Imagination is offered for 3-5-year-olds every week from 9am-12pm with the option to stay for lunch bunch.

JUNE 22

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GOAT YOGA

BEAUTIFUL BEADS WORKSHOP

8:30-10am, The Farm at Henley Hill, 6890 Henley Hill Drive in Pfafftown. What is goat yoga? Well, you will get an amazing hour of yoga led by our certified instructor, Fontaine Gervasi, while the goats enjoy grazing and hanging out with you. Yoga is for all levels and most ages. The goats are very gentle and completely adorable. All you need to bring is a water bottle, a yoga mat or towel and an open mind.

2-4pm, Lam Museum of Anthropology.

Beads are worn by people around the world as personal adornment and are also used as decoration on clothing, masks and many other objects. In this workshop, participants will see many types of beads from the museum’s collections and learn about how they were made and used by a variety of cultures. Participants will make their own beads out of polymer clay, paper and tin. This workshop is designed for ages 8 to 99. The fee is $20 per participant ($15 for Lam Museum members). Space is limited, and advanced registration is required.

JUNE 23 SUNDAY SUPPER SERIES Dynamis Estate Wines. A monthly culinary experience to foster community while gathering around the table with a chef-cooked meal and a glass of wine.

Chef Peter’s culinary style is rooted in comfort and nostalgia; his dishes evoke memories of cherished family meals, each bite a reminder of the simple pleasures in life. After enjoying supper, guests are offered to indulge in a Bobby Boy Bakeshop dessert! For more information, visit dynamisestatewines.com, or call 336.468.6702

JULY 21 NATIONAL THEATRE LIVE: DEAR ENGLAND

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2-5pm, a/perture cinema. The country that gave the world football has since delivered a painful pattern of loss. Why can’t England’s men win at their own game? With the worst track record for penalties in the world, Gareth Southgate knows he needs to open his mind and face up to the years of hurt to take team and country back to the promised land.

SECRET AGENT TOTALLY KIDS CAMP

JULY 22-26

Salem Gymnastics & Swim. Calling all future secret agents! Join us as we learn how to evaluate a crime scene, collect and compare fingerprints and decode secret messages.

The hit of the week is sure to be our secret agent field training obstacle course and our end of week escape room. Totally Kids Camp is from 9am-2pm with an optional add-on until 5pm. Camp Imagination is offered for 3-5-year-olds every week from 9am-12pm with the option to stay for lunch bunch.

FUTURE JULY 8-12 AROUND THE WORLD TOTALLY KIDS CAMP Salem Gymnastics & Swim. Receive a passport and spend the week traveling to different countries around the world like France, Italy, England and many more.

Participate in theme related obstacle courses, games, crafts and activities as we bring each one of our “visited” countries to life. Totally Kids Camp is from 9am-2pm with an optional add-on until 5pm. Camp Imagination is offered for 3-5-year-olds every week from 9am-12pm with the option to stay for lunch bunch.

WIZARDS & MAGICAL CREATURES TOTALLY KIDS CAMP Salem Gymnastics & Swim. Calling all witches and wizards to a fun-filled week at Salem Gymnastics & Swim! Campers will be sorted into their houses, play magical games, make their own wands and participate in our very own Tri-Wizard Tournament. It is sure to be a magical experience! Totally Kids Camp is from 9am2pm with an optional add-on until 5pm.

Camp Imagination is offered for 3-5-yearolds every week from 9am-12pm with the option to stay for lunch bunch.

JULY 29-AUGUST 2 & AUGUST 5-9 OLYMPICS TOTALLY KIDS CAMP Salem Gymnastics & Swim. Go for Olympic gold at Salem Gymnastics! Join us as we follow (Salem Style) Team USA this summer in Paris. Participate in individual and team sports, play theme related games, make crafts and learn about Paris: the “City of Lights.” Totally Kids Camp is from 9am2pm with an optional add-on until 5pm.

Camp Imagination is offered for 3-5-yearolds every week from 9am-12pm with the option to stay for lunch bunch.

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The View from My Section – A Father’s Perspective

A Father’s Commitment

by A. KEITH TILLEY

As I attended the wedding of my niece not long ago, I took special notice of how her dad was doing.

Being the father of two sons myself, the wedding experience is a unique one, notwithstanding which side you’re initially on. I watched as his emotions appeared to run the gamut from nervous to happy, sad, excited and, eventually, exhausted at the end of the evening. His daughter was older and had gone away to college, so he had already experienced the empty nest cycle.

One could tell this was different for him. This was a sense of letting go of the little girl he had and essentially gaining another family into the fold. But, there was another part of him that was – at least – partially going away, and that’s his role.

From the birth of your children, you’re their ultimate safety net. The variations in the role are numerous and somewhat customized to individual families. Yet, the cumulative effect is the same – to be the key source of everything that child needs to grow up healthy, safe, educated and with the skills necessary to succeed, ultimately, on their own.

How these roles organically divide up is impacted by societal influences, family traditions, upbringing and more.

For decades, the mother had been the caretaker and the father had been the provider. That process had its faults and weaknesses (mainly for the women), to go along with its unique benefits for the children. Historically, women haven’t always received the respect to which they were entitled.

The men’s role is undeniably different. He’s expected to take on the physically demanding jobs, regardless of their nature. He’s the problem solver or is supposed to be, and the gatekeeper to ward off enemies and any harm that can come to the family. Sigmund Freud said, “I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.”

Often, he’s also saddled with the unfortunate task of being the key disciplinarian, a role with many diminishing returns. Yet, Confucius advised, “The father who does not teach his son his duties is equally guilty with the son who neglects them.”

Today, more often a woman’s role is represented respectfully and positively in books, entertainment, media and handmade signs and shout-outs (“Thanks Mom!”) at college sporting events. Yet, frequently, the man’s role is underappreciated.

There’s almost an unwritten rule whereby the father is not recognized to the same extent, often treated as acceptable behavior in our society. This, by no means, implies everyone today is like this.

However, it does seem to be a prevalent human response, as in the words of Charles Wadsworth, “By the time a man realizes maybe his father was right, he usually has a son who thinks he’s wrong.”

Obviously, that undermines the truth, yet, many fathers still feel “less than” about themselves. You can insert the particulars about why, but the defining result is the same. It doesn’t mean those around fathers truly feel apathetic towards them, nevertheless, we do tend to hold back on the praise for dads more often than not. One unknown quote says, “A father is neither an anchor to hold us back, nor a sail to take us there; but, a guiding light whose love shows us the way.”

Today, and going forward, families are reshaping, adapting and growing into lots of different versions that challenge traditional roles. This is a good thing, as it provides more opportunities for the individuals in those families, regardless of gender. For example, “More than 40% of all households with children under the age of 18 include mothers who are either the sole or primary source of income for the family,” and 49% contribute at least half. “Almost one in five stay-at-home parents in the U.S. are dads.” (Pewresearch. org) Roles, rules and longstanding cultural traditions are evolving as we become more educated, compassionate and empathetic to what it takes to make a family whole. Each family has its own version, as it should be. The point is, though traditional family structures are adapting differently, the burden the father carries is the same, regardless of where he lands.

I wrote the following poem after witnessing my brother-in-law’s “full circle” emotional, hourglass moment in time, on his daughter’s wedding day.

“The Arc of Existence” I crawl, I stand, I walk, I run.

I walk, I stand, I fall, I’m done.

In between, I live, I love, I lose, I won.

We all do each of these things over a lifetime, but on this day, my brother-in-law, the father of the bride, did the last four simultaneously.

Happy Father’s Day to all the dads out there, and a special Happy Father’s Day to my dad. I’m one of the guilty ones, thinking dads don’t need to hear it as much. That’s simply not true. Appreciation and love are universal gifts; the giver and the receiver equally benefit.

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