of the situation” and discussed the idea of knowing first where we are in order to know where we want to go. Numerous times this way of thinking seemed to bring an immediate sense of relief because, instead of being caught up in where someone “should” be, it provided a compassionate space for clients to acknowledge where exactly they are, identify how they got there or what’s preventing them from moving forward, and what smalls steps can be made to reach their goal. Walt Disney said "I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter".
I am thankful to my program at Palm Beach Atlantic University and all the amazing professors for preparing me beyond the classroom into real life circumstances. Though I could never have imagined facing so much in my last year of graduate school, I learned a lot about uncertainty, myself, and others. I realized the true value of sitting with someone when you do not have the answers and are struggling on a personal level yourself. Second, the gift of processing grief and, by doing so, the ability to then be able to walk alongside others in their pain. And lastly, the importance and power in identifying where you are
realistically in this moment in order to process and plan for what’s next. For me, having all the necessary techniques or right answers is not what the essence of therapy is about anymore. It is about being authentic and creating a safe space where clients can be seen, accepted, and heard. Author Rachel Naomi Remen writes “listening creates a holy silence. When you listen generously to people, they can hear the truth in themselves, often for the first time. And in the silence of listening, you can know yourself in everyone.”
Written By: Melissa Buchanan, MS, Registered Mental Health Counseling Intern Melissa Buchanan, MS, is a Registered Mental Health Counseling Intern in the state of Florida and received her Master of Science in Mental Health Counseling from Palm Beach Atlantic University. She works with individuals, couples, and families and has been a part of a variety of settings from nonprofits to crisis centers to private practices. Outside of counseling, she enjoys kayaking, reading, and running around with her Shih Tzu Charlie.
Shop The FMHCA Store Rock fun designs while also supporting your favorite causes. Multiple colors, designs, and styles available in sizes XS-4XL Please note: Each design is made to order and has a campaign deadline. Once the campaign ends, shirts will ship. Do not miss out on your favorite design by waiting!
