Working Mama Jan/Feb 2023

KENNETHEA JACKSON WILLIAMS

OUR VISION

To help working moms live a more fulfilling, successful, and balanced life.

OUR MISSION

To inspire working moms to feel empowered in their careers and motherhood. To create more time in their days and build a sustainable life and business/career.

OUR VALUES

Embracing Diversity & Inclusion. Fostering an environment of collaboration across teams. Building meaningful connections. Building a culture of diverse perspectives and talents to support individual growth. www.workingmamaza.com

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EDITORIAL TEAM

Editor-in-Chief

Candace Feinberg

Staff Writers

Caryn Clegg

Elize Fisher

Johanne Kabiwa

Nabila Mayet-Cassim

Nyan Rath

ART & DESIGN

Raeesa Webster

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Cover Star: Kennethea Jackson Williams

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“This struggle is real. The juggle is real. That’s why everyone should hire working mothers. They are put in crazy situations all the time and are forced to problem-solve. They are some of my most resourceful employees.”

Kick 2023 off intentionally, without

the bank:

By Nabila Mayet-Cassim

2023 is here and traditionally this time of year is made up of resolutions, becoming a “new you” and putting your best foot forward. So, the year begins, you jot down some resolutions and promise to stick to them, and off you go!

It’s not always as easy as it seems. According to a recent study, over 92% of New Years’ Resolutions fail within six weeks.

Why is this?

Mom to two girls and Operations Director at the South African Anxiety and Depression Group (SADAG); explains that we tend to set unrealistic goals that are hard to achieve. Yes, it is easy to promise to live off celery and water – but is this a realistic way to live?

Sounds pretty drab to me. The new year and all its glorious resolutions can be a stressful, anxiety-ridden time, especially for moms. The pressure to stick to a goal, or two, can be overwhelming. Chambers advises a change of language – perhaps referring to it as New Year’s Intentions.

breaking

shop well, cook well, eat well and be well!

What next?

Start with yourself first: You can’t pour from an empty cup, “If you’re not okay, you can’t look after those around you,” Chambers says.

Create a vision board: You can easily find a template online you can use, to create your vision for the new year. “You can even create a virtual vision board on Pinterest, for example.”

Ask yourself the right questions: What do you want to achieve individually or as a family? What word describes whom you want to be? What are your health expectations?

Once you have looked at your personal intentions, it may also be helpful to create intentions as a family: For example, what your health and nutrition goals are and what changes you can implement to help achieve this.

Create a go-to place to write things down - this will re-enforce your intentions – A board in the kitchen where you can write your family’s New Years’ Intentions may be helpful.

“Get into the habit of writing things down as it is a way to help us remember our tasks and you may even want to take out a day in the week, like a Sunday, to plan for the week ahead,” Chambers advises.

Prioritise your mental health: Find things that will fill your cup, that you can do for yourself to keep a healthy mental state. “And of course, the ripple effect of this is, if you’re looking after your mental health, it is a good example to your children to look after their mental health too,” she explains.

When your pennies are eating into your New Year’s intentions: The cost of living has increased, and many people are looking towards a more costefficient way of being healthier.

Corporate Nutritionist and Eat

Well Live Well (EWLW) brand ambassador Arthur Ramoroka, says that “Eating a healthy, balanced diet can be difficult with more of us living on tight budgets. Here are some shopping tips to help you stretch your rand further, as well as some low-cost nutritious foods, Planning meals and creating a shopping list before going grocery shopping is critical. You can also go through your pantry, cupboards, fridge, or freezer and list the foods on hand, to use in your meal planning. Planning can help us avoid the temptation to buy unnecessary items, reduce waste and save money.

Look for special deals on long-shelflife products such as dry, canned, or frozen foods.

Not everyone has access to a vegetable garden or has a chance to buy fresh produce daily. We often need to make do with what is available and within our means when we do our shopping.

After all, food should bring joy and help us to live our best lives. The goal is to be healthy and happy, and that’s what we hope 2023 will bring.

Take care of yourself. Set your intentions. Plan. Prioritise your mental health. Stick to a budget.

With that said, Here’s to health and happiness in 2023!

Photo by Karolina Grabowska: https://www.pexels.com/photo/sliced-fruits-and-knife-on-white-table-4397762/

WE ARE GOING MAGNETIC!

By Johanne Kabiwa

Adding false lashes to your make up routine is a game changer and the introduction of magnetic lashes makes it even easier to apply yourself!

False eyelashes are a sure way to enhance your eye makeup look while giving your overall makeup look a boost too and with magnetic lashes you can flutter your new longer lashes in a matter of a minutes.

Magnetic false eyelashes are not as new as everyone think it is. In fact it was invented in 2014 by Katy Stoka, gaining so much popularity that the most googled beauty question in 2018 was “how to apply magnetic lashes?” (Women’s Health Magazine).

SO WHY IS EVERYONE TALKING ABOUT MAGNETIC LASHES NOW?

One thing about the beauty industry is that when you ask, the Beauty Gurus listen. Stoka’s invention came to the rescues following years of consumer complaints regarding the struggle associated with gluing false eyelashes to the lash line, as it tends to be very tedious and requires a certain level of expertise.

Strip Lashes and glue, thing of the past?

The traditional glue-on eyelashes are still very popular in the beauty industry and requires you to apply the eyelash glue on the false eyelash weft and wait till the glue is tacky then apply directly to your eye line. Now with this you need to be really familiar with applying false eyelashes as the glue has to be semi dried and if you miss the window of opportunity you might end up with dried out lashes that don’t stick or applying the false eyelashes too early. Glue on lashes are usually not recommended for beginners as it takes lots of practice to perfect it.

How do magnetic lashes work?

The South African market has two types of magnetic lashes; Magnetic lashes where 2 strips of lashes are placed between your natural eyelash - one above and one below - which automatically snaps because of the magnet on each strip lash.

In 2018, Laura Hunter took the trend even further with her wildly popular magnetic eyeliner. Here all you need to do is apply a coat or 2 of magnetic eyeliner to the lash line, let it dry and the lashes will snap on the eyeliner Voila! You have yourself perfect eyelashes.

This is your cue to up your eye makeup look and add magnetic lashes to your make up regimen. Still unsure of how easy it is to apply? Watch our tutorial on how to apply magnetic lashes on the Working Mama website or follow along on Instagram.

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RECIPES IN A RUSH

These days we seem to be rushed off our feet. And to be honest, cooking can sometimes feel like a chore. That eats into quality time with the ones we love. But no matter what I’m juggling, I still want to feed my family delicious food. To make more room for what matters most, I no longer feel guilty about using shortcuts. We can all find time to eat, regardless of how busy we are.

Here are some recipes for those days when you’re in a rush:

Cream Cheese & Veggie Roll- Up

Ingredients

3 tablespoons cream cheese

½ teaspoon dried chives

¼ teaspoon dried dill

1/8 teaspoon garlic powder

Whole-wheat flour tortilla (at room temperature)

¼ cup of baby spinach

½ cup of shredded or sliced vegetables, such as carrots, bell pepper, and/ or cucumber

Directions

Combine cream cheese, chives, dill, and garlic powder in a small bowl. Spread evenly on the tortilla. Layer spinach, then shredded (or sliced). Spread evenly on the tortilla. Layer spinach, then shredded (or sliced) vegetables across the bottom third of the tortilla. Roll closed and cut in half. Or, cut into slices, if desired.

Photo by August de Richelieu: https://www.pexels.com/photo/family-having-dinner-together-4262174/

RECIPES IN A RUSH

Toast & Toppings Recipes

Ingredients

Low Carb Bread (sliced)

1 egg

50 ml cream

2½ teaspoon of butter/margarine

1 small avocado

100g mushrooms

1 tablespoon chopped spring onion

¼ chopped garlic

Salt & Pepper for seasoning

Directions

Scrambled egg toast:

Toast bread slice and butter. Mix 1 egg with 2 tablespoons of cream. Place 1/2 teaspoon of butter/margarine in a nonstick pan. Add eggs and cook to taste. Season with salt and pepper.

Avo Toast:

Toast bread slice and butter. Slice up half a small avo and place on toast. Drizzle with olive oil. Season with salt Add one of these optional toppingsbiltong, smoked salmon

Mushrooms on Toast:

Fry 100g mushrooms in a tablespoon of butter until soft. Add a tablespoon of chopped spring onion and ¼ of chopped garlic. Add 50ml cream and cook until most liquid evaporated. Spoon on toast.

Photo by Tima Miroshnichenko: https://www.pexels.com/photo/sliced-tomato-and-mushroom-on-sandwiches-6327136/

RECIPES IN A RUSH

Microwave Chocolate Cake

Ingredients

100 ml sunflower oil, plus extra for pan

175g castor sugar

140 g plain flour

3 tablespoons cocoa

3 teaspoons baking powder

2 large eggs

1 teaspoon vanilla essence

Chocolate sprinkles, to serve

For the chocolate ganache

100g dark chocolate, broken into pieces

5 tablespoons double cream

Directions

Step 1: Grease a 22cm silicone microwaveable cake pan with a little oil and place a circle of baking parchment in the bottom.

Step 2: Mix the sugar, flour, cocoa, and baking powder in a bowl. In a jug, whisk the oil, eggs, vanilla, and 100ml hot water until combined.

Step 3: Add the liquid ingredients to the dry ingredients and mix thoroughly until you have a lump-free batter. Pour the mixture into the cake pan and gently tap to pop any air bubbles. Cover with cling film.

Step 4: Microwave for 7 mins. Remove and check if the cake is cooked by poking a skewer into the middle: if it comes out clean, the cake is ready. Allow the cake to stand for 5 mins, then remove the cling film and turn it out onto a cooling rack.

Step 5: For the ganache, melt the chocolate for approximately 2 mins, stirring every 30 secs until melted. Add the cream and mix thoroughly until smooth and glossy.

Step 6: Once the cake is cool, spread it over the ganache and scatter with the sprinkles. The cake will keep for up to 3 days in an airtight container.

Photo by Karolina Grabowska

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AN INSPIRING WOMAN IN BUSINESS

It isn’t easy to run your own business while raising a family, but it can provide flexibility for working moms and give them the freedom they deserve. We had the opportunity to interview Kennethea Jackson Williams about her business journey so far, and the challenges she encountered as a mom and businesswoman, and any advice she has to offer.

Can you tell us a little bit about yourself?

I am Kennethea Jackson Williams, better known as Kenny. I am a successful business owner, network coach, wife, and mother to two vibrant boys. I am also the founder of Business Breakfast Club, the best and fastestgrowing networking club in Cape Town. Breakfast Club, aka BBC, is a community of entrepreneurs who thrive on the monthly meet-and-greet events we host. Our goal is to facilitate collaboration among entrepreneurs and provides upcoming and existing small business owners, non-profits, and corporate businesses with the opportunity to network and introduce their brands organically.

I have a lecturing background of twenty-six years, am a successful business owner of Gentle Care Laundry, and am a co-host or a guest speaker on various platforms and radio stations.

Besides being a writer for Women Up Magazine, I’m also known among small and large businesses as a content creator.

In June 2022, Biz Discussions Magazine featured the Business Breakfast Club. In 2022, I received an award at the Women’s Economic Initiative Awards for excellent work and service in the economy. BBC also launched its first Junior Boss Babe project in 2022. As part of BBC’s Junior Boss Babe program, it offers workshops on leadership and confidence to young

people with traumatized backgrounds.

I also ended the year 2022 by hosting the first-ever BBC MasterClass. In my quiet time away from my busy schedule, I am known to be an avid reader, spend quality time with my boys, catch up with my closest friends, and love inspirational quotes.

One of my favorite personal quotes “Remember the lesson, not the disappointment.”

Goals for 2023:

Break comfort zones, impact the lives of striving entrepreneurs and use our platform to change the mindsets of young and upcoming individuals.

What is your business, and why you chose it?

I started my career as a schoolteacher and then became a business lecturer, which allowed me to travel the whole of South Africa. I have owned many businesses, but ultimately for the last three years, I became the founder of the Business Breakfast Club. My vision for this community was born out of a dark place in my life at the time. I wanted to create a platform where I could say, as an entrepreneur, a woman, and a role model, that I am not okay. In addition, I wanted to create a space where people in similar situations could open up about not being okay, whether in a personal or professional capacity. Why did I do this?

In some networking organizations, I never fit the criteria. I was either too quirky or funny and always felt out of place. It was imperative to create a community for social outcasts, misfits, and those who don’t always qualify for everything. A safe haven was needed for aspiring and established entrepreneurs and I wanted Business Breakfast Club to be a platform and safe community for those that do not always fit in and to offer a level of support to people that want to make a difference.

What is your biggest strength when it comes to running your business?

My biggest strength personally has been endurance, going that extra mile despite an international epidemic, despite criminal encounters, and despite the slow months. I have survived all the difficulties of being an entrepreneur because of my resilience and determination. In addition, it has taken consistency to keep doing what works and eliminate what does not. These three factors, in my opinion, have been the most important characteristics of a successful entrepreneur.

As a business owner and mom, what are the challenges you face?

The challenges are constant and vary daily. There are days when your business requires one hundred percent commitment mentally, emotionally, and physically, and most days the same is expected of a mom. The challenge comes in when those two aspects of your life clashes. It can leave a mom entrepreneur feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, almost to the point where she feels like giving up or where she needs to choose between the two. But I think we are the greatest role models to our children when we teach them- just because something is hard does not mean you have to give up.

Going back to the element of being perseverant is the greatest asset that we can teach our kids. Despite the many challenges we face, giving up is not an option. In my opinion- when you decide to become a mom entrepreneur, you should consider these challenges, as this will require you to manage your time even better than having a full-time job and working for a boss.we face, giving up is not an option. In my opinion- when you decide to become a mom entrepreneur, you should consider these challenges, as this will require you to manage your time even better than having a full-time job and working for a boss.

How do you balance motherhood and business?

I think the easiest way to balance motherhood and entrepreneurship is to prepare to plan and plan to prepare.

Many of us are responsible for all the elements of business, whether it be marketing, social media, or the accounting side. And this requires quite a lot from an individual, especially a mom. You must be aware of the periods of the month when your children’s activities and demands take precedence. You have to find a balance between this and the needs of a small business. Sometimes when we are with our kids, our minds are on the business, and when we are busy with the business, our minds are on the kids. I think the trick here is that when we allocate a task, we should commit fully to that job, and when we’re with our kids, we need to switch off and give them our full attention. Therefore, if you plan and prepare carefully, you can successfully give one hundred percent to all your roles.

What message would you like the world to hear?

I love this question! What I want the world to hear is that it doesn’t matter where you’re from; you can still make it in life. I was a little girl- born and reared in Mitchells Plain, had broken school shoes, was socially awkward, and came from a poor household. I lacked a mentor or someone to encourage me when I tried to dream. We were unable to dream because of how poor we were. I want to motivate everyone by saying that you must discover something unique about yourself that you can showcase to the outside world.

I knew I did not have the looks, the resources, or the money to make it out there. But I knew I had wit and needed to strengthen my intelligence. Today with BBC, everything that we do is because of that intelligence. You need that one ingredient to make it out there in the world. My second encouragement would be that community is better than the competition. I always encourage people to not only think out of the box- they need to create their own. I firmly believe that you can accomplish practically anything if you put your mind to it. The fact that you are a mother and have so many obligations does not mean that your dreams must come to an end. You can have both, so it’s not necessary to choose between the two. Women can have it all, and nothing should prevent us from fulfilling our deepest desires.

FINDING BALANCE AS A “MOMPRENEUR”

By Caryn Clegg - Business Coach & Mentor ; Sisterhood Success Club

If you are a mom with either a business or a side hustle this article is for you. As a working mom, I bet you often find yourself juggling the demands of running a business (or side hustle) along with the responsibilities of taking care of your family. It can be challenging, but with the right strategies in place, it is possible to achieve a healthy balance.

Your to-do list will also help you to identify where you are overextending yourself and possibly what you need to do less or even stop doing altogether. Also, consider when you feel the most energized during the day.

It will help you to be more present and focused when you are with your family and more productive when working.I realize that life happens, and this is not always possible, so please give yourself grace and allow yourself to be human.

Prioritizing tasks is another crucial aspect of balancing work and family life. As a working mother, you likely have a long list of responsibilities, and it can be easy to get overwhelmed.To help manage your workload, try making a list of your tasks and prioritizing them based on importance; this will allow you to focus on the most critical tasks first and help you to avoid feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list.

For me, it’s the morning. I have the highest energy level in the morning, after I have my coffee of course, lol... So this is when I tackle tasks that tend to take the most time, concentration and focus.

The “easier” tasks, such as; responding to emails or posting on social media, I tend to a bit later in the day when my energy levels usually dip.

These tasks don’t require much effort and brain power from me, I can do them on autopilot, and I can do them while sitting on the sofa, with my favorite series on in the background.

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One of the key elements ofbalancing family life and entrepreneurship is setting clear boundaries. It’s essential to set aside dedicated time for work and family and stick to those boundaries as far as possible.

Delegating tasks is also essential for maintaining a healthy balance between work and family. As a business owner, it can be tempting to do everything yourself, but it is crucial to recognize that you cannot do everything alone. By delegating tasks to others, you can free up time for your family and allow yourself to focus on the most important tasks for your business.

When I started my business (If you’re the same)- I had difficulty handing over tasks to others. I want to remind you that the person taking over the task will not do it in the same way as you would, and the truth is that the work will probably not be done to your exact standards, and that’s okay - “done is better than perfect,” and freeing up your time is worthwhile.

Learning how to delegate, trust our support system, and hand over control is all part of the entrepreneurial process.

Finally, taking care of yourself is crucial for maintaining a healthy balance between work and family. Make sure to take breaks, get enough sleep, and prioritize self-care activities like exercise and relaxation.

Taking care of yourself will help you be more energized and focused. You’ll be better able to handle the demands of both work and family life. By setting clear boundaries, prioritizing tasks, delegating when necessary, seeking support, and taking care of yourself, you can successfully balance family life and entrepreneurship as a working mother.

Seeking support from others is also vital for balancing family life and entrepreneurship.Building a strong network of friends, family, and colleagues who can offer support and encouragement can be incredibly helpful when times get tough.

Don’t be afraid to reach out for help when you need it, whether it’s asking a friend to watch your kids for a few hours or seeking the advice of fellow business owners.

It won’t always be easy, but with determination and the right strategies in place, you can achieve the balance you need to thrive in both your personal and professional life.

Instagram: www.instagram.com/ sisterhood.success.club

Website: www.the-sisterhood.co

Email: hello@the-sisterhood.co

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HER WORKING MAMA STORY

By Elize Fisher

CHANIQUE ZWARTZ, INTERNAL AUDIT MANAGER AND MOM TO THREE KIDS, 9-, 6-, AND 1-YEAR OLD

Who cares for your kids while you are at work, if at all?

My baby is currently taken care of by my Mom, who fortunately lives only a few minutes away. My boys are both at primary school and have extra mural activities that keep them busy after school, after which they come home. Both my husband and I currently have hybrid work-from-home arrangements. On the days we are not home, the boys join their sister at their grandparents’ home.

What keeps your plate full these days? What’s your job?

I have a very demanding day job which keeps me busy from at least 8 am - 4 pm daily. My work is very people-focused, so while it is hectic, it keeps me energised. My children’s school and sports activities keep me busy after hours and sometimes during the day.

My oldest is very active, so we always attend sports matches, transport him to practices, etc. The boys also have hectic social lives, which we play chauffeur. Our one-year-old keeps us on our toes as she enters that mobile stage. So our plates are overflowing with ensuring that we try and give each child what they need, as they are all very different.

What does your day-to-day look like, and how do you juggle it with kids?

Could you walk us through your typical day?

Shoo! Where do I begin? Despite the many balls I juggle, the household runs smoothly as I always plan, adapt, and multitask. My day starts with an early morning feed with the baby (if I am lucky, she sleeps in a bit). Followed by getting the kids ready for school (dressed, fed, and daily lunchboxes).

Once the kids are off to school, I prepare green juice and pack our lunches (usually prepped the night before). Quick tidying up before getting showered and ready for work.

After work (home or office), I fetch my daughter, followed by some playtime with her while the boys do their thing.

Twice a week, my Hubby and I would go for a run, which means the kids stay for a bit longer at granny.

Preparation of supper and the next day’s lunch is up next. Family dinner time! School time prep for me (putting out the next day’s clothes, checking bags, etc.) while kids play and Hubby clears the kitchen. Bath time follows. As the boys go to bed, the baby is fed and put to bed.

If I don’t fall asleep while putting her down, I will have some downtime (if the laundry is up to date, if not, we do a load of washing and hang it out. Bedtimes follow with one or two night feeds after that.

Do you work because you want to, need to, or combine both?

What’s your honest answer to the question, “Why do you work?”

I work (my current career) because I need to, but I do want to work, although I am hoping for a career change. I love spending time with my family, and I would like the flexibility to enjoy milestones with them but I could never be a full-time stay-athome mom.

How does being a working mom impact your kids positively or negatively?

We can’t have one without the other; negative is when they need me, and I can’t be there, which does not happen often, but I have had to leave a sick child at home in the past. But it’s primarily positive. I always explain to my kids why I have to work and why other parents work, which teaches accountability. Still, it helps them to understand that as a Mom, I have many roles, and while motherhood is an essential job for me, there are times that I may have to see to my other functions. It helps my kids set realistic expectations of us as parents. In addition, this helps my kids realize that as you are in someone’s life, they can’t always be present or see to your needs immediately.

Once the kids are off to school, I prepare green juice and pack our lunches (usually prepped the night before). Quick tidying up before getting showered and ready for work. After work (home or office), I fetch my daughter, followed by some playtime with her while the boys do their thing. Twice a week, my Hubby and I would go for a run, which means the kids stay for a bit longer at granny.

Preparation of supper and the next day’s lunch is up next. Family dinner time! School time prep for me (putting out the next day’s clothes, checking bags, etc.) while kids play and Hubby clears the kitchen. Bath time follows. As the boys go to bed, the baby is fed and put to bed.

If I don’t fall asleep while putting her down, I will have some downtime (if the laundry is up to date, if not, we do a load of washing and hang it out. Bedtimes follow with one or two night feeds after that.

What’s one thing or resource that, if you had, would make your working Mom’s life easier?

Daily cooked meals and healthy prepped snacks, even though I spend a little time in the kitchen, it is still too much and a consistently empty laundry basket!

How would you encourage other working moms who are overwhelmed? What would you say to someone who’s in your shoes?

Stop, take a step back, and reflect. Ask yourself what is causing you to feel overwhelmed. Often as moms, we put enormous pressure on ourselves to run things perfectly or to be expected. If something is causing you stress and you are by the means to outsource the “problem,” do it (there is no shame in getting help!!)

By the same token, if someone offers you support that you know you need, accept the help; it does take a village. And lastly, if tasks that overwhelm you don’t add to your happiness and quality of life, stop focusing on them. So what if your child is happy to sleep in an unmade bed or enjoys wearing mismatched shoes (mine does)? Let them be!

Any last words about your experience as a working mompositive or negative? Anything we didn’t ask?

Our children are growing up in a world that is so different from ours. While our children are exposed to many things, we unknowingly shield and box them in. We often make our kids rigid without realising it, just giving them what they prefer and making them highly comfortable (which is lovely). But we need to actively try to teach our kids adaptability, especially now while they are so resilient. Let them try new things, change their favourite brands, and give them something they didn’t expect. Show them that there are many ways to get one desired outcome. Also, let’s teach our kids that kindness is king, everyone is different, and everyone’s right.

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JOY BORAINE IS A SENIOR VALUER AND MOM OF FOUR: 19-,13-,11- AND 9-YEAR-OLDS.

Who cares for your kids while you are at work, if at all?

My eldest daughter is at college and is living with her father. My son is at boarding school in another town, and my two younger children live with me. They have to stay home alone when I am at work and when they are not at school. Fortunately, I can check in on them regularly if they are alone and ask my neighbours to keep an eye on them while I’m away.

What keeps your plate full these days? What’s your job? I am a Senior Valuer at the Local Authority, a Career Mentor, Mother, Cell Group Leader, Guitarist, and Karateka.

What does your day-to-day look like, and how do you juggle it with kids? Could you walk us through your typical day? I wake up at 4 am, open the doors and windows, feed the cats, and settle down for 30min spiritual devotion. Then I start getting ready for work, wake the kids, feed the dogs, and by 6:30 am, we are out of the house. I drop my kids at school and go to the gym for a 20 to 30 min run. I get to work, get a cuppa and start my day. I use a personal planner, so I juggle my daily tasks between my work and personal responsibilities.

I am goal driven, so my planner has habit trackers and schedules that I need to complete daily to reach my weekly, monthly, and annual goals. I pick the kids up after school and extra murals and drop them at home. Luckily they are of the age where they can prepare a light meal for themselves if I didn’t cook the night before. Before I finish work for the day, I go through my planner and prepare for the next day - work and personal. I get home at 5 pm. Mondays and Wednesdays are karate practice with my son until 7 pm while the other two finish homework and make sandwiches for us to eat for supper. The rest of the evening is for homework, projects, reading, playing with the pets, cleaning, doing laundry, packing lunch for the next day, and making dinner for the next day. It is all on the pre-scheduled plan so that we can keep on top of the housework. When the kids are asleep, I catch up on unfinished work then I take 30 min to complete whatever I am busy studying. I’m an eternal student. Currently, it’s music theory through Udemy.

Hopefully, next year I can complete my Degree in Public Administration if my bursary gets approved at work. By 10 pm, I pack my things for the next day, work outfit, gym clothes, work bag, and lunch. I find little time for reading a book because of my schedule, but I use school holidays for reading my fiction favourites. And that’s my day. Weekends are for resting, planning, and cooking for the week ahead, church, and spending quality time with each child.

What holds immense tension for you in managing everything (e.g., childcare, meals, mom guilt, friendship, being a single mom, your marriage, etc.)?

Finances and not always being able to say yes to things immediately

Do you work because you want to, need to, or combine both?

What’s your honest answer to the question, “Why do you work?”

I work because I have to, but I also love what I do and my current profession.

How does being a working mom impact your kids positively or negatively?

I believe it influences them positively as I set an example for them as adults.

What’s one thing or resource that, if you had, would make your working Mom’s life easier?

I am working towards securing passive income to free up more time to pursue my interest and the interests of my children. I don’t need more money; I need to work effectively with the money I get.

Any last words about your experience as a working mom - positive or negative? Anything we didn’t ask?

Don’t try to multitask! Do one task at a time, or break down a big task into smaller segments and focus on that one small task. Multitasking can quickly become overwhelming and leave us feeling like we haven’t accomplished anything.

Transform Your Career by Developing Emotional Intelligence for the Workplace.

By Elize Fisher

As more studies show Emotional Intelligence improves employee productivity and job performance, it becomes a more coveted skill in the office. Emotional Intelligence is when you can understand your emotions and that of others and manage your feelings well. It shows a balance between intelligence and self-awareness. Emotionally intelligent people make better decisions, have excellent problem-solving skills, and are great communicators.

Emotional Intelligence: Rated into four categories:

· Self-Management – indicates being able to separate yourself and how you should act from your emotions. In other words, you can think clearly, when you feel stressed, anxious, or angry. Being productive is about preparation and good habits.

· Self-awareness - helps you to change negative habits, thoughts, or behaviour. When you have a high level of self-awareness, you can recognise how your beliefs and emotions affect your thoughts and behaviours.

· Social awareness – You can “read the room”understand what others need to feel comfortable and see social dynamics at play. Social awareness indicates how well you pick up on social cues or needs.

· Relational management – You manage conflict well, work well with others and develop positive relationships. Relational management indicates good interpersonal skills.

Follow these tips to build Emotional Intelligence:

1. Practice self-awareness. Practice self-reflection daily in a journal, notice when you’re reacting to something on autopilot, think about the feedback you receive, and practice seeing things from other people’s points of view and not just your own.

2. Receive criticism with grace. Use criticism as an opportunity to learn and grow.

3. See conflict as an opportunity to learn and understand more about others.

4. Listen to others. Individuals with high emotional intelligence are great listeners. Are you doing all the talking, or are you making space to listen?

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5. Speak up and express yourself. In addition to great listening skills, emotionally intelligent people are great at speaking up when it matters. Don’t be afraid to pitch your out-of-the-box ideas or ensure your opinions are heard.

6. Work according to people’s strengths. People work differently and have different strengths. Be flexible and create an environment for each person to thrive, engage, and innovate.

Developing emotional intelligence will benefit you at work and outside of work. Wouldn’t life be great with effortless stress management, better relationships, and being able to “read the room”?

Enjoy More Productive Workdays With These Strategies

By Elize Fisher

Some of us get a lot more done at work than others. If you’re one of those people, who never accomplish as much as you should, you need new strategies.

Be the most productive person in your company with these strategies:

· A productive workday starts the day before. Take 10 minutes before you leave work to create a preliminary plan for the following day. Do this while the day is still fresh in your mind. Consider the tasks you failed to complete and what is most important to address tomorrow.

- You can think about it some more on your drive home. When you get home, alter your plan accordingly.

Before you go to bed, finalise your plan for tomorrow and make a concrete list of tasks to follow.

· Avoid multitasking. Studies show that you can accomplish more by focusing on a single task, rather than switching back and forth between two or more. Use this information to your advantage. You’ll get more done with less stress.

· Have a morning routine that gets you primed for work. This includes your wake-up time, morning grooming routine and breakfast. You might want to glance at your to-do list too. Exercise is also a good idea.

- Create your routine with an emphasis on preparing yourself physically and mentally for work.

· Hit the ground running. Rather than easing into your day, get started on get started on the items on your list ASAP. If you’re ahead of schedule, you can relax later in the day. A good morning start ensures that you will have a productive day.

· Eliminate distractions. You already know how you distract yourself at work. Make the necessary adjustments. If people interrupt you politely ask them what they need and inform that you have a lot of work to do.

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· Get help. If you have anyone available to lighten your load, ask them for assistance. One thing that will allow you to accomplish more is making the most of your resources. That includes the people around you.

· Keep meeting to a minimum. Schedule as few meetings as possible and keep them short. Most meeting are too long and ineffective. No one likes them and they ruin everyone’s momentum.

· Take regular breaks. No one accomplishes more by never taking a break. Regular breaks are necessary for your mind and body. At least once each hour, get up and walk around for 5 to 10 minutes. Say “hi’ to a colleague and and then get back to work. These short breaks will allow you to get more done over day. You’ll still feel fresh in the afternoon too.

Being productive is about preparation and good habits.

BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS

How Women Rise - Sally Helgesen & Marshall Goldsmith

Recommended by: Elize Fisher

Do you hesitate about putting forward ideas? Are you reluctant to claim credit for your achievements? Do you find it difficult to get the support you need from your boss or the recognition you deserve from your colleagues?

If your answer to any of these is ‘Yes’, How Women Rise will help get you back on track. Inspiring and practical by turns, it identifies 12 common habits that can prove an obstacle to future success and tells you how to overcome them. In the process, it points the way to a career that will satisfy your ambitions and help you make the difference you want to make in the world.

MINDSET - Dr. Carol. S. Dweck

Recommended by: Elize Fisher

Dweck explains why it’s not just our abilities and talent that bring us success but whether we approach them with a fixed or growth mindset. She makes clear why praising intelligence and ability doesn’t foster self-esteem and lead to accomplishment but may jeopardize success. With the right mindset, we can motivate our kids and help them to raise their grades, as well as reach our own goals-personal and professional. Dweck reveals what all great parents, teachers, CEOs, and athletes already know: how a simple idea about the brain can create a love of learning and resilience that is the basis of great accomplishment in every area.

Mom Who Works - Jenna Worthen

Recommended by Elize Fisher

Face it. Being a mom is a full-time job. Yet over and over, women feel the need to separate motherhood and career hood. Where fathers who put family first are celebrated in the workplace, women choosing a family and a career often comes with increased mom guilt, slower professional success, and unfair workplace discrimination.

Mom, balancing both doesn’t have to leave you overwhelmed while fighting the impossible expectation to “do it all”—whatever that is. Take control and define what it means for you to have it all. In Mom Who Works, Jenna Worthen sounds an anthem to redefine what it means to be a working mom in a world without “working dads.” Full of valuable wisdom and personal-growth tools from moms like you, this guide will empower you to lose the label, ditch expectations, and confidently navigate pregnancy, baby, and beyond as a working woman.

Working

How We Do ‘It’ will help you better understand how successful working mothers are doing the best they can for themselves and their families. Ultimately, it’s about never quitting; always moving forward. Women who stay on the path and have a desire to succeed will discover that they can find a way to make ‘it’ happen.

It is possible to do both. It is worth it. You can do it.

Moms How We Do ‘It’ - Rojan RobothamRecommended by Elize Fisher

A RESOLUTION FOR SELF-HEALING

By Nayan Rath

“As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” -Maya Angelou.

Savita lost her only child to Pneumonia and went into silence for days together without tears. When heartbreaks and death knock us down, we get immobilized in painful feelings. Each feeling is different; every hurt is personal, and no advice can heal the deep wound. Sometimes we overlook the cut inside and start moving with broken emotions and making life worse. Pain seeks attention it needs acknowledgment and embraces before we finally move on.

She was alive but forgot to live, being away from everything. The mishap made her feel undeserving of happiness. Reluctantly she joined group healing sessions. She broke down on the very first day, saying, ‘My daughter….my baby!’. Struggling hard to keep her composure, she burst out loudly. Suddenly another intuitive lady came closer, held her tight, and said, “I lost a child too. I was saddened.

My purposeless living hurt my well-wishers who still care for me. Once my emotions murmured in my ears. Hey! You have some processing to do to identify yourself. I made a new beginning here.”

Savita fell back into her seat and let her tears flow. While devastated by her vulnerability, the group makes room for her pain. Sharing her emotions compassionately, she became a regular attendee. Slowly, she realized that the best way to honour her daughter’s absence was to find a new way to embrace life with cruel eventualities.

Start the self-healing process.

Honour Your Pain. Hurt is inevitable, and pain is unavoidable. Acknowledge your pain and permit yourself

to grieve. Emotional scars are beyond sadness. Don’t try to “Get over it, but through them.” Surround yourself with friends who understand and fill you up. Allow negative emotions to flow, and it will help you stop ruminating.

Proper Sleep Schedule. Getting sound sleep helps you to heal emotional hurt. Get your sleep strategy. Stay away from electronic gadgets one hour before bedtime and meditate. You may live with the pain, but healing is still possible with rational acceptance. Don’t fret: Your pain will be waiting for you to engulf, but this time you’ll be better sorted and brave enough to face it.

Move On

Some overwhelmed people allow suffering to define them, which steals life’s ultimate meaning. It becomes your lifestyle when you focus on small changes within your reach to better care for yourself over the long term.

Give yourself time to get up after mourning. Reach out to others for support and make space for your recovery.

Think and repair broken emotions.

It’s important to seek relief through compassion for yourself. No guilt! No self-attack. Everybody’s process of reconciliation and selflove is different. It helps us explore where exactly our power lies. Creative activities like journaling and expressing pain through art or play; provide a safe space to step into reality and face life with resilience.

Reach out to others

Being alone may be the beginning of healing, but continuous isolation hinders healthy moves to grow stronger. Deep pain always brings out personal insecurities, self-blame, and bitterness of victimhood. Such choices breed entrapment, not freedom. Allow the negative emotions to flow. Reach out to friends, practice mindfulness, find support groups, and seek comfort from whatever brings you peace of mind.

Don’t wait for the miracle to happen; create one.

Stop replaying the situation over and over

Admitting the situation and talking about it is good. But if you keep on doing it without direction, it will go from helpful to harmful mode. So while assessing, ask yourself honestly, ‘what am I getting by talking about it? Do I deny the reality hoping to get a different answer?’ This is not closing your wounds; it’s reopening and undoing all the hard work to distract yourself.

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