WorkingMama Magazine April/June 2024

STYLE VISIONARIES:

Tales from the Fashion World MOMS, MAKE-UP, & MAGIC: GlamGoddess

Helping a child with LEARNING DISABILITIES

THE DUAL DELIGHT OF BALANCE & FINDING HAPPINESS IN

TWO CAREERS

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Apr/Jun 2024

Digital Issue 019 | Print Issue 04

Publisher

WorkingMamaZa (Pty) Ltd

Elize Fisher Editor-in-Chief

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Contributors

Elize Fisher

Candace Feinberg

Candice Warner

Johanne Kabiwa

Nabila Cassim

Nayan Rath

Nadia Horn

Sally Wade

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Credits (Cover Story)

Photographer:

Justin Barends - The Impossible Dream Productions

Makeup Artists:

Kaylin Blight & Anika Vallejo DMR Institute of Beauty

Location:

Southpoint Studios - Pinelands

A Editor’s LETTER

s we stride into a new season, we’re excited to introduce our new segment, Coach's Corner: Your Burning Health Questions Answered. In this section, we'll feature Coach Canz, a certified Health Coach and founder of The Wellness Doers Club. Whether you have questions about gut health, skincare, or general wellness, Coach Canz provides expert advice and guidance. In this issue, we celebrate the dual delight of balancing and finding happiness in two careers. From stories of style visionaries in the fashion world to insightful articles on leadership and family juggling, we've curated a collection of content designed to empower and uplift working mothers everywhere. Our cover story highlights extraordinary women who are more than just moms – they're dynamic professionals making their mark in their respective fields. From Candace Feinberg to Leatitia Gradwell, these inspiring individuals exemplify the resilience and determination of career/business moms. And in the Parenting and Childcare section, we offer practical advice on co-parenting and supporting children with learning disabilities. We also cover the importance of taking care of yourself, including articles on self-care, personal growth, and dealing with health conditions like hypothyroidism. Plus, we tantalise your taste buds with a recipe for Hot Chocolate Cookies and offer tips for budgeting and cost-cutting during trips. And don't miss out on the achievements of remarkable individuals making waves in their communities. We hope this issue inspires and empowers you. Remember, as a working mama, you can achieveincrediblethings.Here'stofindingjoyandfulfillment in your career and family life!

ContributorsCONTRIBUTORS

Sally Wade

Founder - Sally Wade Coaching | Leadership & Executive Coach

Meet Sally Wade, who has a mission to empower working mothers. Drawing from her own experience asaworkingmomoftwin4-year-oldgirls,Sallybrings a unique perspective. Her goal is clear: help you discover your brilliance and achieve intentional success in both career and motherhood. With over two decades in the corporate world, Sally has risen from the frontlines to executive leadership, making her a guide who understands professional intricacies and the joys of motherhood. Sally's coaching focuses onnurturingself-awareness,aligningcorevalueswith ambitions, and harmonising roles for working moms. In a fast-paced world, she offers unwavering support, insights, and advocacy. Sally ensures you reach professional heights while finding fulfilment in all aspects of life. Together, unlock your potential, define triumph,andflourishwithintentionandauthenticity.

Candice Lynn Warner

Author, Connection Therapist & Speaker

Shecarriesthefirmbelief,thateverypersondeserves to experience the transformative power of genuine connection. By weaving together her years of experience, compassionate approach, and profound understanding of human relationships, she creates a safe space for individuals to explore their inner selves, heal past wounds, and establish strong, resilient connections that enrich the lives of teenagers and adults. As a Connection-Focused Therapist, she emphasises the importance of understanding the impact we all have on each other and the importance of disconfirming beliefs and assumptions we have each made about our ability to feel safe, secure, and resilient in an ever-changing world.

Johanne Kabiwa

Founder & CEO - Elite Beauty

She has achieved a master's degree and owns a successful beauty business that specialises in magnetic lashes and hair growth products. Johanne's biggest accomplishment is having her products featured in a well-known retail store that supports South African beauty brands. Johanne is also passionate about mental health and self-care. She believes that taking care of oneself is essential for overall well-being. Through her business platform, she actively promotes and advocates for mental healthawarenessandencouragesself-carepractices. Johanne understands that true beauty is more than just physical appearance; it also involves mental and emotional wellness. Aside from her entrepreneurial endeavoursanddedicationtomentalhealth,Johanne finds joy in reading books to expand her knowledge and perspective. She also enjoys expressing her creativity through cooking and baking. With her diverse interests, achievements, and commitment to mental health and self-care, Johanne strives to make a positive impact on others' lives, fostering a culture ofself-loveandwell-being.

Nabila Mayet Cassim

Published Writer

Effective communication has become an important part of her journey as her passion lies in merging people and ideas with well-crafted words. Nabila dabbles in life coaching which plays into her propensity for helping people achieve theirgoalsandmentalhealthawareness.

Elize Fisher

Founder WorkingMamaZA | Editor-in-Chief WorkingMama Magazine

She is a published Author and Certified Life Coach specialising in women's empowerment. Having started her career in Human Resources with a local government in Gauteng, Elize faced challenges in balancing career progression with the responsibilities of a growing family. Recognising the lack of resources for working moms, she took the initiative and launched Working Mama Magazine after relocating to Cape Town. This platform aims to provide advice and inspiration for both professional and personal aspects of working moms' lives. Elize has cultivated a community of like-minded women through the magazine, offering insights on career growth, parenting, health, and wellness. Her dedication has created a supportive space with valuable content, events, and networking opportunities, empowering working moms to achievetheirgoals.

Nadia Horn

Travel advisor

BornandraisedinthebeautifulBolandregionofthe Western Cape, I was inspired to travel by travel documentaries since childhood I am celebrating 20 yearsinthetravelindustryinDecember2021.Aleap of faith led me to open Selena Travel in 2012. Honestly speaking, Covid is hard on all of us, but amid this epidemic, I realised my writing skills. As a travelcontentwriterforonlinemagazines,Ihighlight various attractions and businesses across the country.DidyouknowIknowhowtoworkagrocery till? (Before the introduction of scanning) I worked weekends, public holidays, and holidays while I studied travel and tourism. Volunteered and then workedpart-timeatPaarlTourism,part-timeatPaarl Museum, and finally in various travel agencies. Avid reader, swimmer, and snorkelling enthusiast. At heart, I am a humanitarian. It brings me great joy to uplift and assists those in need. I am involved in various social enhancement organisations. My motto:PeopleFirstandthenTravel.

Nayan Rath

Certified Associate - IIB | Counsellor | Content Writer | POSH Consultant | Educator | Parental & Relationship Coach.

Author of a few parenting guides— a dynamic Mom, ex-Faculty cum Banker, who seamlessly weave her diverse journey into a tapestry of emotional wisdom. She is a passionate writer! coauthored 20+ Books & published 3 Solo Books which have hit no.1 Best SellerRankinAmazonKindle.Shehasbeenhonoured with the Most Popular Author by TUS Writer Award 2022. Writing keeps her preoccupied emotionally after a long operational career. She seamlessly stitched delicate threads of parenting & relationship with classroom insights, financial acumen, and emotional understanding. Her analytical pen offers unique perspectives to raising Alpha kids with a message ‘Every emotional investment is a valuable assetinthebankoffamilybonds’.

Candace Feinberg

Certified Health Coach | Founder, The Wellness Doers Club.

Specialising in gut & skin health, she is on a mission to help busy Working Mamas reclaim their health to feel confident,inspiredandempowered.

How to Budget, Plan for your Trip and During Trip's Cost Cutting.

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Five things that may surprise you about your bond

The Dual Delight of Balancing & Finding Happiness in Two Careers

By Marilize Jacobs

Being a single mom of twins and running my own business is a full-time job - I've been doing this for a living. For the last couple of years, I have been on a journey to feel at peace with my daily actions, wanting to be genuinely happy at work. Initially, starting in Marketing/PR, I transitioned to interior decorating, founding 'Pigs Can Fly Interiors' in 2008 after leaving my corporate job.

Flashback to 2021, unexpectedly rebuilding my interior decorating business after the pandemic, I realised combining my PR background with my current business could be advantageous. It led to the resurrection of my PR consultancy, VocalCord, allowing me to blend my creative and strategic skills.

According to a Harvard Business Review study, pursuing two careers can be more fulfilling, offering opportunities for skill acquisition and network expansion. It resonated with my experience of merging interior decorating and PR, creating synergies between diverse fields.

Transitioning into discussing the importance of a happy work environment; research highlights the significant role our homes play in overall happiness. The World Happiness Report emphasises the correlation between home satisfaction and life contentment. Moreover, the GoodHome Report underscores the impact of home improvements on happiness levels, challenging the notion that larger homes equate to greater happiness.

Renovating kitchens and bathrooms emerged as a key factor influencing happiness, suggesting that optimising living spaces can significantly enhance well-being. Despite common misconceptions, the size of the home is less critical than the organisation and perception of space.

Incorporating insights from my experiences, such as noticing increased snacking when working from home, adds a personal touch to the discussion. By sharing statistics from the GoodHome study, I highlight the tangible benefits of home renovations in fostering happiness.

Closing with a call to action, I encourage readers to pursue happiness by embracing multiple careers and creating environments they can take pride in. Quoting the late Iris Apfel, "More is more and less is a... bore," I urge individuals to seek fulfillment through diverse career paths and enriching living spaces.

In summary, my journey as a single mom entrepreneur navigating multiple careers underscores the importance of finding happiness at work and home. By integrating diverse skill sets and prioritising home satisfaction, I've discovered a formula for personal and professional fulfillment. It's not just about chasing success; it's about creating a life filled with joy and contentment.

Imagine being a first-time writer and submitting an article to the Working Mama Magazine

Wondered if your article would be accepted. Well, it is, and it's headed for our print magazine! Imagine the pride of featuring in a globally recognised media outlet - a real confidence boost. At Working Mama Magazine, we're all about spotlighting accomplished women in various fields. Your expertise, regardless of its scale or your journey's stage, is valued here. You can hold your work in print; just submit your article to Working Mama Magazine and get your own print copy. Join other remarkable women in sharing insights and stories. Your story deserves the spotlight!

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Blossoming Roots: Varity Oliphant's Afro Street Fashion Revolution

By Elize Fisher

In the diverse city of Johannesburg, a visionary in fashion, Varity Oliphant, challenges norms and creates a unique Afro Street style. As a single woman from Soweto, she has left a mark on the fashion industry. We explore Varity's story, her background, her design philosophy, and the challenges and successes that define her brand.

Varity draws inspiration from her grandmother (whose gift of fashion she inherited), and fashion icon, Olivier Rousteing, the head designer at the House of Balmain. Designing Afro Street fashion, she infuses her creations with African prints and unconventional shapes. Setting her apart from the rest is her careful use of fabric and how each silhouette accentuates individual body types, creating an exceptional blend that reflects her familial roots.

“I love nature, so I would always use those elements in my designs” expresses Varity passionately. Her love for flowers and their colours becomes a muse. From choosing fabrics that match the hues of petals to structuring the shape of the flower into a garment, she brings the vibrancy of nature into her designs, creating a style that feels alive and authentic.

OnememorablemomentinVarity’sjourney occurred when a hand-sewn garment, she made seven years ago, launched her business. A friend, also a model, loved the piece and wore it in an African-themed pageant category, winning Model of the Year.Thismomentbecameapivotalpointin her life.

In today's fashion industry, Varity faces the challenge of South Africans leaning toward Western expectations, pressurising local designers to meet those standards. Unfortunately, local designers, including Varity, often don’t receive enough appreciation for their hard work and creativity. Instead, customers expect local designers to lower their prices, not realising the effort put into crafting distinctive and high-quality designs.

Despite these challenges, Varity has a portfolio filled with achievements. She’s won awards, collaborated with modelling agencies and achieved success at major events. Winning the Best Designer at Mzanzi Fashion Week Spring Collection, earned her a spot on prestigious stages, such as the Walk of Elegance fashion show. Regardless of all the obstacles, this remains one of her proudest moments to date.

Staying motivated in the demanding and fast-paced fashion industry is no challenge for Varity. She keenly embraces the saying, "When you love what you do, you never work a day in your life." With a genuine love for her craft, she considers researching, reading, and constantly seeking ways to improve herself and her business.

Varity'sfutureobjectivesforherfashion brand are ambitious. Her goal is to establish a design manufacturing hub that will outlast her, paving the way to supply products to major retail outlets nationally and internationally.

To aspiring fashion designers, Varity shares valuable advice: "Be consistent with your designs; it might not come when you want, but only the consistent wins." These insights reflect Varity's unwavering dedication to her craft, portraying a fusion of genuine passion, continuous improvement, and ambitious goals for the future.

The Nehanda Nyakasikana Collection

Written By Elize Fisher

Fashion designer Beatrice Negonde created the latest collection, Nehanda Nyakasikana, in honour of African Warrior Princess Nehanda Charwe Nyakasikana. While Nehanda Charwe Nyakasikana may not have held the title of Princess through royal lineage, her legacy remains one of Zimbabwe's most powerful and influential historical figures.

Her remarkable courage and resilience in confronting adversaries armed with guns and cannons while armed with only a spear served as the primary inspiration behind the creation of this collection in her honour. Beatrice researched the era's clothing, colours, and fabrics to blend history with modern designs.

The hallmark of the Nehanda Nyakasikana collection lies in its asymmetrical designs, a deliberate embrace of women's uniqueness. Negonde's choice of unconventional colours and patterns adds a refreshing twist to each piece, drawing inspiration from historical events, medieval fashion, and even contemporary artists like Shania Twain. This eclectic mix of influences results in garments that defy conventional norms and celebrate individuality.

Crafting each piece in the collection involves a carefulselectionoffabricsandcoloursthatreflect empowerment.Everyelement,fromboldprintsto vibrant hues, is chosen to remind women of their inherent strength and beauty, irrespective of societal standards or expectations.

Throughout the development process, Negonde encountered various challenges, such as researching the stories of African warrior women. However, these hurdles only enriched the collection's narrative, adding depth and authenticity to each garment. Despite the challenges, Negonde remains committed to stayingtruetoherstylewhileexploringnewideas, ensuring that the collection remains innovative and rooted in her artistic vision.

At its core, the Nehanda Nyakasikana collection embodies a message of resilience and selfacceptance. By highlighting the struggles and imperfections faced by women, Negonde aims to inspire others to overcome obstacles and embrace their uniqueness. Collaborating closely with her team, Negonde brings this vision to life, infusing each piece with meaning and purpose.

Looking towards the future, Negonde hopes to see fashion continue evolving, celebrating diversity, and empowering women from all walks oflife.Throughherdesigns,sheseekstochallenge societal norms and inspire self-love for generations, leaving a lasting impact on the fashion industry and beyond.

Clear skin = clear mind: Tackling teenage skin

By Ruan Winter

Adolescence is a time of tremendous growth, selfdiscovery, and, often, some skin-related challenges. “Teenage skin is unique and dynamic, withdistinctcharacteristicsthatrequirespecialisedcare. Plus, the pressure of academics, particularly exam stress, can significantly impact the health and appearance of teenage skin,” explains Ruan Winter, marketing manager for local skincare brand Vitaderm. Here are the ins and outs of teenage skin, the best solutions, and products as well as the effect of stress on the skin.

Teenage skin is different from adult skin in several ways: Hormonal changes – Adolescence triggers a surge in hormones, which can lead to increased sebum (oil) production. This often results in acne, blackheads, and whiteheads.

Sensitivity and changing – Teenage skin can be both sensitive and ever-changing. It may be prone to redness, dryness, or even flakiness.

Healing and resilience –While teenage skin is more susceptible to damage and inflammation, it also has the remarkable ability to heal and regenerate quickly.

The stress associated with exams can take a toll on both the physical and emotional well-being of teenagers, including their skin. Here's how exam stress can affect the skin:

Hormonal fluctuations – Stress triggers the release of cortisol, a hormone that can stimulate oil glands, leading to increased oil production. This can result in breakouts and acne.

Reduced skincare routine – In times of stress, teenagers may neglect their skincare routine, which can exacerbate existing skin issues or lead to new ones.

Unhealthy lifestyle choices – Stress can lead to unhealthy habits, including poor dietary choices and inadequate sleep. These factors can further contribute to skin problems.

Best solutions & products for skin:teenage

Gentle cleansing

Use a mild, sulphate-free cleanser to remove excess oil and impurities like Vitaderm’s Mild Gel Cleanser. It contains sandalwood, lavender and petitgrain extracts and effectively cleanses even the most sensitive skin without stripping the epidermis. Avoid over-cleansing, as this can strip the skin of its natural oils.

Moisturise

Contrary to popular belief, even oily skin needs moisture. Opt for a lightweight, non-greasy moisturiser to maintain a healthy skin barrier. Vitaderm’s Ultra-Light Moisture Cream contains phyto extracts of sandalwood and orange leaf that provide effective sebum normalising benefits, and chamomile and lavender extracts offer soothing and healing properties.

Sunscreen

Always wear sunscreen with at least SPF 30 to protect the skin from UV damage, which can exacerbate acne and lead to premature ageing.

Breakout targeted products

Salicylicacidiswell-knownforitsremarkableabilitytoclearcongestionand reduce inflammation. Vitaderm’s Salicylic Spot Treatment also contains Vitamins B3 and E content that help boost micro-circulation and skin healing.

It’s as easy as Vitamin C Research shows that Vitamin C can help protect the skin from many issues, including sunburn, photo ageing, hyperpigmentation, wrinkles, sagging, dryness,andanunevenskintone.It’salsoidealforacne-pronecomplexions. Vitaderm’s oil-free Radian-C Serum boosts skin vitality and brightens the complexion. The addition of hyaluronic acid increases skin hydration.

Balanced diet

Encourage a diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins. Limit the consumption of sugary and processed foods.

Hydration

Drinking plenty of water helps maintain the skin's elasticity and hydration.

Stress management

Help teenagers develop stress management techniques, such as exercise, meditation, yoga, or deep breathing exercises.

Adequate sleep

Ensure teenagers get enough sleep. A well-rested body is better equipped to handle stress and maintain healthy skin.

Consult a dermatologist

If skin issues persist, consult a dermatologist for professional advice and tailored treatment options.

For more information visit Vitaderm’s website www.vitaderm.co.za

Gentle Cleansing

Vitaderm’s Mild

Gel Cleanser. R354.00

Moisturiser

Vitaderm’s Ultralight Moisture Cream R520.00

Vitamin C

Breakouts

Vitaderm’s Salicylic Spot Treatment R348.00

Vitaderm’s Radian-C Cream R815.00

UNLEASHING YOUR INNER MOMS, MAKEUP & MAGIC

Glam Goddess

By Johanne Kabiwa

“As moms, we may be busy, but we deserve to feel beautiful and confident every day."

- Michelle Phan.

While makeup isn't the sole source of self-confidence, it undeniably contributes. Juggling work, family, and personal time can make it easy for busy moms to forget about self-care. Despite your juggling mommy responsibilities, who says you can't look glam? - A few makeup tricks, you can rock a glamorous look that shines as brightly as your multitasking skills.

Let's dive right into it.

PRIMER: Lay the Foundation for Flawlessness

A primer is your secret weapon for creating a smooth canvas for your makeup masterpiece. It blurs imperfections, fills in fine lines, and ensures your foundation stays put through boardroom meetings and soccer practice sidelines alike.

Foundation: Build Your Base

Foundation is the key to achieving flawless skin. Find the perfect match for your skin tone and blend it evenly for a natural-looking finish that lasts all day.

Concealer: Wave Goodbye to Dark Circles

Late nights and early mornings are par for the course for working moms. But fear not! A highquality concealer is all you need to banish those pesky dark circles and tired eyes.

Powder: Set and Mattify

Atranslucentsettingpowder locks your makeup in place, controls shine, and ensure a long-lasting, matte finish. Say goodbye to midday touch-ups!

Bold Lips: Power Play in a Tube

Sandra, a mom of two beautiful princesses and a dedicated oncologist, knows firsthand the power of bold lip color. "Being a mom of two and managing a demanding job means I rarely have a momenttomyself.Butamidstthechaos,I'vefound solace in a simple tube of lipstick. Whether I'm running errands or attending a parent-teacher meeting, a bold lip color instantly boosts my confidence and makes me feel put together, even when everything else feels like it's falling apart. It's amazing how something as small as a swipe of lipstick can make such a big difference in how I carry myself throughout the day."

Eyebrows: Shape and Define

Well-groomed eyebrows frame the face and can make a world of difference in your overall appearance. Use a brow pencil or powder to fill in

any sparse areas and define the shape of your brows. Brush them into place with a spoolie for a polished finish that lasts all day.

Mascara: Lashes that Wow

Long,flutterylashesframeyoureyesandaddinstantallure to your look. Reach for a volumizing mascara to create drama without the hassle of false lashes.

Incorporate these beauty hacks into your makeup routine and watch as they elevate your glam game to new heights, leaving you looking and feeling like the unstoppable supermom you are!

Finally, seal the deal with a spritz of setting spray. Not only does it ensure your makeup stays flawless from dawn till dusk, but it also gives your skin a refreshing boost of hydration—a must-have for busy moms on the go!

What's the one makeup hack that has instantly elevated your makeup, just like Sandra, who uses bold lipstick?

Being a working mom doesn't mean sacrificing style or glamour. With these makeup hacks, you can effortlessly slay the day while still conquering the world of deadlines and diaper changes. So go ahead, unleash your inner glam goddess, and show the world that being fabulous is just another item on your to-do list.

WorkingMama

More Than just a Mom!

By Elize Fisher

Credits

Photographer:

Justin Barends - The Impossible Dream Productions

Makeup Artists:

Kaylin Blight & Anika Vallejo DMR Institute of Beauty

Location: Southpoint Studios - Pinelands

Ibelieve these moms perfectly capture the essence of our mission and vision. The women we feature are not defined solely by motherhood but are also successful professionals and role models in their respective fields. The phrase "more than just a mom" emphasises the depth and complexity of their identities beyond motherhood, showcasing their talents, ambitions, and achievements. Overall, it resonates with our mamas and highlights the empowerment and inspiration that WorkingMama Magazine aims to provide to its readers.

How I effectively balance my work and family responsibilities.

Planning, planning, planning! Getting a new business off the ground requires almost singular focus, so things can get tricky when I must balance that with family demands. I'm lucky our boys are past the stage where they need my constant attention, and my husband is very supportive of my work. That said, it does take planning and open communication to ensure we spend enough quality time together as a couple and a family. Being my own boss means I can structure my work around my lifestyle and family commitments.

Like many families, mealtimes are key moments for connecting and catching up, so we prioritise that on weeknights by cooking and eating together. As a Health Coach servicing busy working professionals, I often have to meet with clients in the evening but only keep three evenings a week open, so I'm not missing family dinner time too often.

I've also had to learn how to prioritise my work tasks. I differentiate between essential items that move the business forward and "nice-todo" items. It allows me to structure my day efficiently, focusing on what truly matters within my current capacity. I've learned that accomplishing three crucial tasks is far more beneficial for my business and overall wellbeing than getting overwhelmed by a neverending to-do list.

Setting and maintaining clear boundaries with clients and professional colleagues is also a game changer. Do not email or answer phone calls during family time. Our boys have busy lives, so we try to be very intentional about scheduling family time—whether it's Sunday roast and a competitive game of backgammon or a live game of Rugby. A family selfie is the only time I pull out my cellphone!

Of course, none of this is possible if I don't take care of myself first, so scheduling 'me-time' is essential.Ihaveavarietyofhobbieswhichhelp me unplug and recharge. There's nothing fun about a tired, overworked, and undernourished Mommy, so start by taking care of yourself, and the rest is sure to follow

Candace Feinberg,

Founder, The Wellness Doers Club

www.thewellnessdoersclub.co.za

I’m a certified Health Coach and founder of The Wellness Doers Club. Specialising in gut & skin health, she is on a mission to help busy Working Mamas reclaim their health to feel confident, inspired and empowered. Get your health, get your life!

Tactics I use to help me manage household chores while maintaining a healthy work-life balance.

Planning

I have certain days that I do certain chores, and I jot this down on a calendar placed in an area in my home where it is visible to myself and my son. I do most of the chores, like laundry,duringtheweek (early morning before leaving for work) so that I don't have much to do on the weekends. I plan to do things like washing windows, maybe once a month, or budget to get a helper to help me with those 'big' chores.

Delegate

I delegate certain chores to my son. Besides teaching him to keep his space tidy, it teaches him responsibility and how we all have a role in a household. He has certain household chores to complete when he gets home from school before he does his homework, socialises, etc. Things like making his bed and packing his laundry are non-negotiable chores he has to complete daily. We have a 'clean as you go' rule in our home.

Time block

I block time out for work and household duties, especially when working from home.

Carla Lawrence

Dietician, Business Owner

Carla Lawrence Dietitian Inc

A single mom, devoted Christian, daughter, sister, aunt, and cherished friend. Passionate foodie, constantly exploring culinary delights. Forever a student of life, finding joy in every lesson. She treasures moments with her son, family, and friends, indulging in walks/ runs, occasional cooking escapades, and diving into captivating reads.

How I carve out more personal time & prioritise selfcare amidst my busy schedule.

We are an extremely busy family of five. Aside from work, our kids' school and sports schedules profoundly impact our lives. It is one of the reasons why I have always made a point of prioritising my selfcare. The old saying rings true: You cannot pour from an empty cup.

Running energises me - an energised mom is a happy mom, a concept I have explained to my sons from a very young age. Being avid sportsmen themselves, they resonate with how good they feel after performing an activity they enjoy.

My children are as familiar with my running schedule as I am with their school and sports routines – which is honoured as Mom's running time. The understanding and acceptance of this means thatmy entire family encourages and reminds me on the days I set out for running; at times, the boys will even remind me that I need it.

Furthermore, when clashes in our schedules arise, and I choose to run instead of doing a drop-off or watching a match, my boys get it, and I don't feel like a bad mom!!

My daughter is learning from her brother very quickly; she runs and joins in when I do prerun yoga and waves goodbye when I leave for my run.

I run because I want to be happy and healthy for my family, and knowing they want that for me, too, makes prioritising me so much easier!

Internal Audit Manager (retail) Founder of Strawberry Tribe

A daughter, wife, mother, sister, friend, and runner. A mother to three children, two boys aged 11 and 8 and a 2-year-old daughter. An internal audit manager in the retail industry and the founder of Strawberry Tribe who provides monthly sanitary towels for girls.

Chanique Zwartz.

How I Managed the Pressure of Excelling in Both Career & Parenting.

Balancing work, parenting, and marathon running is tough, but I have found some strategies that help me keep things balanced. I workasaSalesAdministratorandhavea13-year-old daughter and a marathon runner.

Here is how I manage the pressure:

Knowing Why I Work

I work to support my family, setting an example by balancing work, family, and sports. I set a positive example for my daughter, demonstrating the importance of hard work, dedication, and responsibility.

Sticking to a Routine

I rise early to go for a run, get back, prepare my daughter for school, and begin my workday. While routine is important, it's also essential to be flexible and adaptable to unexpected changes or disruptions. I learned to adjust my schedule as needed while still maintaining a sense of structure.

Taking Care of Myself and making time for God

I schedule time for myself, like running, ice dips, and relaxing in the sauna. It helps me with my mental healthandhelpsmefocusbetter.Ilovespendingtime in God’s presence, my source of energy.

Getting Help When Needed

I am not afraid to ask for help when things get overwhelming. Using services like meal delivery makes life easier and gives me more time with my family and friends. Hubby is also a master chef and is a great help.

Encouraging Others

Parents feeling overwhelmed should remember to take breaks and ask for help. Your love, dedication, and sacrifices do not go unnoticed. Keep showing up, loving fiercely, and know you are making a difference in your child's life.

Final Thoughts

Remember, finding balance is a journey, not a destination. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, and keep moving forward with determination and resilience. You have what it takes to excel in your career, parenting, and goals.

Pharmaceutical Sales administrator & Founder of Faith Forever Apparel

I am a mother, wife, founder of Faith Forever Apparel and a Pharmaceutical Sales administrator. Adidas marathon runner, running in my purpose. I run to uplift my community. A Versus Athlete I believe we rise by lifting others. #tishrunningwithpurpose

Leatitia Gradwell

Strategies I used to help me alleviate guilt and overcome the fear of missing out on my kid's important milestones.

Making peace with the fact that there will inevitably be compromises along the road of motherhood and career success is the first step to finding a balance you can live with. Some missed opportunities will result in sorrow and a sense of remorse about both professional and personal life milestones.Itiseasiertodealwiththosewhenyouhave pre-decided where you're willing to compromise.

As my daughter has grown, I've tried to tune into what activities she enjoys and takes pride in. I let that become the area where I made an effort to support her. That has meant scheduling annual leave and requesting flexible time arrangements at times that I knew mattered to her and would potentially be her treasured memories. I wanted her to have the memory that "Mommy was there."

My career had to take a backseat during the early years of parenthood, while in retrospect, I can remember a fewyearsduringwhichIsawlittletonoadvancementin my career. However, I recall telling myself that this is the "Mommy season" in my life.

When my kid entered school, I pursued my education, which led to certain missed mommy moments. It was worth missing those dinners because it opened up new job opportunities for me.

I want to believe that I did my best and gave all that I could at the time.

Sam Du Plooy HR Manager

I'm Samantha Du Plooy, an experienced HR Manager with a 25-year journey in the field. Originally from South Africa, I began my career in the UK before returning home. Currently, I manage HR at Bounty Brands - Food and Care, while also raising my 11-year-old child as a single parent.

CO-PARENTING:

Parenting Partnerships

By Melissa Smith Parenting & Childcare

Co-parenting is an essential part of raising a child. It's a process that involves both parents working together to ensure that their child receives the best possible care and support. When it comes to healthy co-parenting, this involves both parents being actively involved in their child's healthcare, including making medical decisions and ensuring that their child receives regular check-ups and necessary treatments. Healthy co-parenting is crucial. Here are some reasons why parents must work together in their child's healthcare:

Better health outcomes:

When both parents are involved in their child's healthcare, there is a higher likelihood that their child will receive proper medical care and attention. It can lead to better health outcomes for the child, including fewer illnesses and better overall health.

Improved communication:

Healthy co-parenting requires good communication between both parents. By working together on their child's healthcare, parents can learn to communicate more effectively, which can help improve their relationship overall.

Increased trust:

When both parents are actively involved in their child's healthcare, it can help build trust between them. Trust is an essential component of co-parenting, and it can help parentsworktogethermoreeffectivelyinotherareasof their child's life.

Shared responsibility:

Healthy co-parenting allows both parents to share the responsibility of their child's healthcare. It can help reduce stress and ensure both parents contribute to their child's well-being.

Melissa Smith is a registered Counsellor who recently relocated to East London in the Eastern Cape after spending her formative years in Cape Town. She manages her private practice while serving as a student wellness advisor at SACAP College. With a passion for enhancing accessibility to mental health resources, Melissa's dedication is evident in all her endeavours. She wants to help improve the mental well-being of people in her community through her work.

Furthermore, unhealthy parenting can have a significant and lasting impact on a child's development and wellbeing. Parents play a crucial role in shaping their children's future, and providing them with love, support, and guidance is essential. If you are a parent struggling with unhealthy parenting patterns, seek help and support to improve your parenting skills and provide your child with the care they deserve.

One of the biggest challenges of co-parenting is effective communication and cooperation between the parents. Even if you trust and respect someone, you might still face conflicts when raising a child together. Successful co-parenting demands strong communication, cooperation, and willingness to compromise. Working together is crucial to ensure we meet the child's needs despite the challenges of dealing withdifferentparentingstyles,priorities,andschedules. Healthy co-parenting is a critical component of raising a healthy and happy child. Working together, parents can ensure their child receives the best possible care and support.Itcanleadtobetterhealthoutcomes,improved communication and trust, shared responsibility, and consistent care.

KHelping a child with Learning Disabilities

By Candice Burgess

idstodayfacesomuchpressureacademically,andit can be hard for them to articulate what they are feeling or struggling with – which can leave parents feeling powerless.

The most common learning disabilities and how parents can help their children cope:

Learningdisabilitiesaredisordersthataffecttheabilityto understand,speak,orreadlanguage,domathematics,and coordinate movements and functions. These setbacks are more common in children than most people realise, with research citing that 1 in 5 children in the USA have a learning disability.

According to Jonathan Hoffenberg, social worker and PACES Manager at The Parent Centre, learning disabilities are genetic, however, other factors play a role such as premature birth, exposure to alcohol, drugs, toxins, or infections during pregnancy. While these disorders are present at birth, most of the time they are only picked up in school.

“There is still a lot we don’t know about learning disorders and their exact causes. Psychology is a relatively new science so as we learn more about the brain, we can increase our understanding of these disabilities,” says Hoffenberg.

He says what’s important to understand is that learning disabilities are not linked to intelligence or motivation. “People who have a learning disability are not “stupid” or “lazy.” Ironically high intelligence can often mask a learning disability.”

Below, Hoffenberg outlines four different learning disorders and their symptoms;

2. Dyscalculia

This affects maths skills. For children with this disorder, it’s difficult for them to understand mathematical concepts and do basic maths problems (addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division).

4. Auditory and visual processing disorders

Auditory processing disorders affect the processing of sounds. A child's ears may be fine, but the brain struggles to filter and differentiate sounds. A child may confuse the order or source of sounds and may struggle to hear a teacher's voice against background noise. This can present as a language processing disorder where the child struggles to attach meaning to sound groups that make up words and sentences. Individuals with visual processing struggle to interpret letters into language.

1. Dyslexia

This is the most common learning disability: Dyslexia affects reading and language processing skills. Common symptoms include reversing letters, and not being able to break words down. It can affect how we hear, orprocessspokenlanguage.Itaffectsspelling,copying,and reading. Because reading and comprehension are such a vital early part of education Dyslexia can delay speech and reading. This can make children self-conscious and affect self-esteem.

3. Dysgraphia

This is a learning disability that affects a person’s ability to write, whereas Dyslexia is about reading and language processing. Dysgraphia impacts letter spacing, the ability to organise thoughts and ideas into writing, and presents as children with messy and slow handwriting. This difficulty in translating thoughts into writing affects spelling, grammar, and vocabulary, as well as critical thinking and memory.

How Parents can support

ADHD and ADD are not learning disabilities

Hoffenberg notes that whilst bothAttention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder(ADHD) and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have an impact on learning, just like Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) can have an impact on learning, these are not strictly classed as learning disabilities. ADD and ADHD are neurological conditions with symptoms of inattention, distractibility, and poor working memory (executive functions).

What makes ADHD/ADD different from learning disabilities is how they are treated. ADHD/ADD can need medication, but it can also be positively impacted by diet, exercise, and mindfulness such as learning meditation, as well as coaching and counselling.

Hoffenberg points out that parents can acknowledge the learning issues their children face while appreciating their differences. “Yes, your child is different, but some differences have benefits. ADHD people can transition through emotions quickly which can mean they are not as affected by negative feelings. Children with a learning disability in one area may have strengths in others, for example, children who struggle to read can be excellent auditory learners.”

TIPS

Address any possible teasing and “othering.” Try to make your child feel unique and valuable for who they are.

Become an advocate for your child. Research how you can practically help them with their disability.

Join a support group, find parents with similar challenges, and seek counselling. Having a child with a learning disability can feel like a burden and cause stress. It can trigger feelings of anger and failure, therefore support and self-care are important.

For more information visit: www.theparentcentre.org.za

About the Parent Centre:

The Parent Centre was established 40 years ago as a project of the Cape Town Child Welfare Society. The Centre was started as a primary prevention project to reduce the incidence of child abuse through the promotion of positive parenting and effective child management practices thatwouldenhancethewell-beingandself-esteemofparentsandchildren. The project grew into a branch of the Cape Town Child Welfare Society. In 1997, it became an independent, registered non-profit organisation (NPO). For the last 40 years, The Parent Centre has been promoting positive parenting through different programmes and workshops. We collaborate with like-minded individuals and organisations to help parents raise resilient and well-balanced children.

From Brain Fog to Finding Balance: My Journey with Hypothyroidism

By Candace Feinberg

In conversation with working mama Delica Krause, Client Service & Operations Director at 2Stories content agency and hypothyroidism warrior.

Hypothyroidism, simply put, is when your thyroid gland isn't producing enough thyroid hormone. The thyroid gland is a butterfly-shaped gland in your neck that makes this hormone, kind of like a tiny factory.

This hormone acts like a master switch, controlling how your body uses energy.When you don't have enough of this hormone, your body slows down, leading to tiredness, weight gain, and even feeling forgetful or foggy in the head. Diagnosed with this condition over 11 years ago, Delicia shares her experience.

Can you tell us about when and how you were diagnosed with hypothyroidism?

What initial symptoms led you to seek medical help?

It's been a long journey! I initially went to see my General Practitioner (GP) because I thought I was experiencing early-onset Dementia. I was having the worst brain fog, not being able to remember simple things, conversations or shared memories, which is totally out of character for me, and it was freaking me out.

During my examination, my GP noticed heavy hair growth on the side of my face and suggested I go for blood tests, which showed I had hypothyroidism.

What were the biggest challenges in getting diagnosed and finding the proper medication dosage?

It was a very subtle conversation, and she provided me with a pill and the usual encouragement, saying it 'should' alleviate the symptoms I was experiencing. Mind you, this is a doctor I've been going to for years, a trusted family advisorandIfeltthatwhatshewasprescribingwouldhelp. Now, you don't think about it and go into further detail - I stumbled on how complex my condition was by accident.

And did the pill help?

For the first while, yes. I was taking these meds for about two years, for all intents and purposes. It was fine for the most part, but I still didn't feel well after a while. I had joined this strength training bootcamp and was feeling toned and fabulous. Suddenly, I began experiencing sharp muscular pains in my shoulder region, and I went back to my doctor, assuming I had strained my shoulder.

After receiving topical treatment, I noticed a temporary improvement, but it returned with a vengeance soon after. Eventually, I went for an MRI - it revealed two (2) slipped

discs in my neck, which required more treatment and wearing a neck brace for two months.

I was forced to give up my bootcamp exercises and felt lost and frustrated. At this point, I decided to take matters into my own hands, researching my condition in more detail. It's through this research that I discovered all the other symptoms associated with hypothyroidism and discovered that one of them was stiff joints. I was training under a false assumption that I was doing what was best for my body, but in fact I performed exercises that were not appropriate for my needs.

That sounds excruciating! What was your next move?

Because of my slipped disc, I was forced to give up training and gained weight rapidly. I can't remember the exact date, but I came across this Integrative Doctor on Instagram who I initially consulted, specifically to help with weight loss. She immediately started digging into what was causing my weight gain to address that underlying cause.

She put me on a weight protocol, essentially an elimination diet with specific treatments to help speed upmymetabolism.Wedidanotherroundofbloodtests, which showed that the meds provided by my GP were having no positive effect on treating my hypothyroidism symptoms to an extent, but not the actual condition. I stopped using that medication completely.

So what was the alternative?

A natural thyroid treatment is currently exclusively available through the integrative network, with natural supplements like curcumin to combat inflammation and VitaminBtohelpwithmetabolism.Iwassogladtobeon natural treatment solutions because if I needed to be on meds long-term, I didn't want to be pumping my body of chemicals, especially chemicals that weren’t working.

And the root cause?

I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism when my youngest was about 2-years old. I’ve had a difficult pregnancy, and while no doctor has confirmed this, I suspect that's what triggered everything to begin with.

Did you find any specific dietary or lifestyle changes that helped manage your condition, and how did that impact your symptoms?

I had to get my gut health checked! That meant working through my emotional trauma as well as cutting out certainfoods.Luckily,myhusbandandIenjoyedhealthy lifestyles. I had to cut out gluten completely, which at the time was challenging as gluten-free products weren't that widely available, and I also had to deal with

feeling 'othered' in my community.

What gluten-free food was available was terrible, so it was quite an adjustment, but I love cooking, so it was great to experiment. I can still have dairy in small doses, but gluten makes me very sick. And that meant educating myself and consistently checking food labels for hidden gluten sources. As an example, I was eating sushi and getting sick. I thought it might be the rice itself - but it was the soy sauce - typically made with crushed wheat. Who knew?

At first, I was also shy about asking for gluten-free meals when eating out. I didn't want to be the odd one out or feel like I was being a hassle. Even with lactose, people would say: "Agh, what's gonna happen? A bit of bloating, so what's the big deal?" But this was my health, and I had to start standing up for myself more. Now I don't think twice about it.

Are there specific aspects like energy levels, mood, or sleep that have been affected?

It was at the tail end of the COVID pandemic. My dad surprised us while we were on a family holiday and subsequently found out he had COVID. Myself and a few other family members contracted it. Unfortunately, he passed away due to comorbidities, and the emotional distress of losing my father, combined with a severe case of COVID -19, drove me to the brink of despair. I couldn't sleep at all and was experiencing panic attacks aggravated by the condition.

How are you now?

I didn't feel well at all last year - I was dealing with the loss of my dad and had started a new job, and you know how we are - we want to prove ourselves and push ourselves to the limit. My self-care took a back seat, which was a big mistake. I was still taking my meds, but holistically, I wasn't doing what I needed to do to support the meds. I eventually landed up in hospital with the worst case of tonsilitis - my body's way of saying I needed to refocus and get back on track with my health. I'm happy to say I'm in a much better space now.

Your children were very young when you got diagnosed? Were you open with them? How did the family have to adapt?

We’re a very tight-knit family, and I've always been transparent with the children. I decided not to let my dietary needs impact them, so I cooked them their usual favourites with little tweaks for myself. I also learnt to delegate! Usually, after cooking and supper time, I'd also clean up and do the dishes. That's changed - new year, new rules! Apart from that, we’re all very active and take each day as it comes.

What surprised you most about hypothyroidism?

The realisation that one pill wouldn’t solve the problem. You HAVE to make lifestyle changes. You have to eat right. You have to bemindful of how you move your body. People don’t realise that until they are in the same situation. No one can relate until they’re there.

A big challenge for many working moms is how to manage a chronic condition in the workplace. What was your employer's response?

Luckily, I work with very understanding people. I was upfront with them and told them what I needed based on past experiences. I make sure I check in with how I'm feeling. I take a conscious step back. I know when to back off and not be overly occupied. We also have a hybrid working structure, which gives me more flexibility. Little things like taking 10 minutes to sit outside in the sun alone with a cup of tea before the day gets hectic make such a difference!

I actively try to find time to exercise because I know whatwillhappentomeifIdon't,evenifit'sin-between shuttlingkidstotheirvariousactivities.AlthoughImay notworkouteveryday,evenifIworkouttwiceaweek - I'm still moving my body. Mentally, I can handle a lot, but my body can't, so I've learnt to listen to my body and act accordingly.

It takes a mindset shift. You don't always get it right, and some days are easier than others, but you have to keep trying. Of course, I miss eating a pie or samosa and looking at it, I know it isn't worth it.

Only you can make that shift. Always choose your health.

Have you found any support groups or resources particularly helpful in managing your hypothyroidism and its impact on your daily life?

Not so much physical support groups, but online. I follow people who are of interest to my health. I'm constantlylearning,anditstrialanderror.There’salot of information out there, especially on supplements, andyouhavetosiftthroughtofindoutwhat’srealand what's marketing.

I also happily tell my story to whoever wants to hear it. Initially, I kept my condition secret, but then I realised thattherearesomanypeopleouttherewiththesame problems. Society makes you feel like you are losing the plot, so we don't discuss it. I've discovered that talkingaboutitandsharingwhatI'velearnedhelpsme cope.

While I’m learning, I become a support to the next person.

What message would you like to convey to other working mothers who may be experiencing similar symptoms but haven't yet sought medical advice?

The longer you wait, the costlier it becomes financially, physically,andmentally.Gethelpfromadoctorwhouses a holistic approach. It doesn't mean the end of your world. I understand everyone can't afford to go to an Integrative doctor, but you’ll end up spending more money on living an unhealthy lifestyle. Managing your chronic health can be expensive. Do your homework on supplements to avoid wasting money on gimmicky things that don't work. Start where you are, like going for a free walk around your neighborhood - it doesn't have to be a gym.

What are some tips you would offer to women who are struggling with an invisible illness like hypothyroidism?

Don't downplay how you feel, especially to your immediate family, who is often your main support structure. The more you talk about it, the easier it can be.

Also, make small changes based on your family structure and find ways to incorporate your needs without adding extra stress to your day.

You will get better, but it will take time. There are no quick fixes. Concentrate on the primary issue areas and proceed as gradually as possible. Make notes of what makes you feel bad, and start cutting it out bit by bit. People will mean well and give you advice, but take the time to research, find what works for you and give yourself the time to make the changes. Eventually, it will become a lifestyle.

Try and see the small wins instead of focusing on the problem.

If you're experiencing symptoms like fatigue, weight gain, or brain fog, don't wait to seek medical advice. Early diagnosis and treatment can make a world of difference.

This article is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult with your doctor about your individual health needs.

Common causes of hypothyroidism

● Autoimmune disease

● Treatment for other thyroid problems

● Iodine deficiency

● Inflammation of the thyroid gland

● Pregnancy

Candace Feinberg

A certified Health Coach and founder of The Wellness Doers Club. Specialising in gut & skin health, she is on a mission to help busy Working Mamas reclaim their health to feel confident, inspired and empowered. Get your health, get your life! www.thewellnessdoersclub.co.za

“The biggest thing is wanting to get healthy for yourself. If you're not prepared to make a change, you're not going to make a change.”

Relax. Reflect. Recharge.

The Art of Self-Care

By Bene Lu

Marco Pierre White (British Chef) once said: “Perfection is simple, small things done perfectly." Self-care should also fall under this ambit, where intentional, constant, incremental improvement is encouraged, leading to better care of self. Another interesting Japanese term noted in The Art of Learning Anew by Bene Lu (2022) is the term - Kaizen - a philosophy of continuous improvement, where one aims to improve and better oneself by just 1% every day.

As women, we constantly and frequently give until we run out. Only then do we realise that we gave more than we should have! There are indicators of such, for instance, lethargy, fatigue, listlessness, moodiness, easily irritated, easily angered, easily frustrated, and easily triggered, etc. Women are nurturers and givers of life (literally and figuratively), and it has proven to be a curse and a blessing.

Curse in the sense that we forget to set boundaries on how far and how much we can give of ourselves. It then leads to burnout, depression, self-deprecation, apology, and so on. We should be setting our boundaries to maintain our emotional and mental-spiritual equilibrium. We often hear that one cannot pour from an empty cup, meaning one cannot give what is no longer there. You cannot give love if you are empty of love. You cannot show kindness, care, sympathy, servitude, and other nurturing traits if you have "used them" all up without replenishing the cup.

The cup, in essence, is your heart, your Being, and your soul! For most women, giving is our “default mode." It's time to reset this default mode and intentionally shift the paradigm to benefit our wellness and Being. 1% of “turning the dial up” a day is more than enough. There is still and always will be so much joy and gratification in giving, and this is where the aspect of Blessings comes in - when we give without expectations, fully and wholeheartedly, when we give with lovewhenweteachwithlove,andwhenweholdoneanother up with love. We open ourselves up to being someone’s blessing. It is nothing out of the ordinary because we are made with love, by love, for love, and from love - that's why it is so natural for women to give.

The trick is to know when giving of ourselves moves from blessing to curse. This shift becomes easily detectable when we understand ourselves holistically.

How do we begin to do that? I hear you ask.

We begin by intentionally taking time to understand ourselves, our boundaries, what makes us tick, who we are behind the mask, and what we are about when all is said and done. Understanding ourselves begins when we practice the principles that govern EQ (Emotional Quotient, also known as Emotional Intelligence). These principles are selfawareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management, as stated in Emotional Intelligence by D. Goleman (2006)

To understand and develop these critical attributes, one should explore, beforehand, the 3C’s (Consciousness, Compassion, Connections) Boost your Emotional Intelligence by I. Valks (2022) retrieved from www.poweroftimeoff.com.

Consciousness –when we are fully living in the presence and being aware of the NOW. Constantly reminding ourselves to be calm in the storm and trusting that all will be as it should be. It is achieved through constant re-centering and practicing the Art of Mindfulness, described in The Art of Learning Anew by Bene Lu (2022)

Compassion – being kind to those around us but essentially, being kind to ourselves by taking extra care of our wellbeing and wellness of mind, body, spirit, and soul. By being a little more loving towards ourselves every day, and learning to forgive ourselves from past mistakes and mishaps. By letting go of what was to allow for what is and what is to come.

Connections – We are social beings and we thrive in our interconnectedness with others around us and with ourselves. It is just as critical to connect with your body, mind, spirit, and soul. It is imperative and so crucial to understand the rhythm and vibration frequency of your Being. Self-care is self-love in its purest form and should never, ever be negated.

Renewal: Nurturing Self-Care & Personal Growth in South Africa

By Candice Lynn Warner

As we journey through the maze of balancing career aspirations with the joys of motherhood, the call to renewal resonates more deeply than ever. As a fellow mother of a five-year-old juggling various work commitments, I understand the challenges we face in prioritising self-care and personal growth amidst the hustle and bustle of daily life.

But in the chaos lies an opportunity for transformation. Imagine carving out moments of tranquility and reflection where you can recharge your spirit and nourish your soul. Picture yourself immersed in the breathtaking beauty of South Africa, surrounded by the soothing sounds of nature, with the freedom to explore new avenues of self-discovery and expression. As a mother, I know how crucial it is to find balance and renewal in our busy lives.

From the majestic Drakensberg Mountains to the idyllic beaches of the Western Cape, South Africa offers countless settings conducive to self-reflection and growth. Awe-inspiring landscapes and rhythmic cycles in nature promote introspection and renewal. Whether it's a solitary hike through the indigenous forests of Tsitsikamma or a sunrise yoga session overlooking the rolling hills of Mpumalanga, these moments of communion with the natural world awaken a sense of interconnectedness and inner peace.

Nurturing self-care is not merely a trend; it's a transformative journey that we embark upon to reconnect with ourselves and our surroundings. In a society marked by hustle and bustle, it's easy to lose sight of our own needs amidst the clamor of daily life. However, by prioritizing self-care practices such as mindfulness, meditation, and holistic wellness, we cultivate resilience and nourish the roots of our being. In the labyrinth of life, renewal often reveals itself in

unexpected ways, beckoning us to explore new avenues of self-discovery and expression. South Africa's diverse cultural landscape provides a wide range of inspiration and creativity, whether it's through the arts, music, or literature. Engaging in creative pursuits nourishes the soul and also fosters a sense of innovation and exploration. Whether capturing the vibrant colors of a sunset over the Karoo plains through painting or blending the complex rhythms of African beats into a musical composition, these instances of artistic expression act as pathways to personal growth and rejuvenation.

Moreover, as we navigate the complexities of modern existence, it's essential to cultivate resilience and adaptability in the face of adversity. In South Africa, a land steeped in a history of triumphs and challenges, the spirit of resilience runs deep within the collective consciousness. Drawing upon the wisdom of our ancestors and the resilience of the natural world, we find the strength to weather life's storms and emerge stronger than before. Through resilience, we embrace change as an opportunity for growth and renewal, harnessing the power of our inner fortitude to navigate life's ever-shifting terrain.

In the heart of South Africa and the beauty and diversity surrounding us, let us embrace renewal as a sacred journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and resilience. Through self-care, personal growth, artistic expression, and collective solidarity, we illuminate the path toward a brighter, more resilient future for all. Join me in answering the call to renewal as we reclaim our power as working mothers and embrace a life of purpose, vitality, and joy. Together, let us illuminate the path toward a brighter, more fulfilling future for ourselves and our loved ones.

Crafted with authentic vanilla extract, semi-sweet chocolate chips, cocoa powder, and a concealed surprise –generous portions of dark chocolate, these homemade chocolate cookies mimic the comforting essence of a cherished cup of creamy hot chocolate. Following their time in the oven, a delicate dusting of sea salt adds an exquisite finishing note. When savoured warm, the rich chocolate within the cookies melds seamlessly throughout, resulting in a delectable melt-in-your-mouth experience. Offering a delightful balance of sweetness, they serve as an ideal treat for gifting, perfect for baking, and sharing.

Ingredients Method

6tbspsalted butter

1 1/2cupssemi-sweet chocolate chips

3large eggs, at room temperature

1/2cupgranulated sugar

2tbsppure vanilla extract

1/2cup all-purpose flour

2tbspunsweetened cocoa powder

1/2tspbaking soda

1/2tspkosher salt

170 gdark or semi-sweet chocolate

flaky sea salt

Preheat the oven to 180° C. Line 2 baking sheets with baking paper.

In a microwave, melt the butter and chocolate chips together.

In a mixing bowl, whisk together the eggs and sugar until bubbles form on top, about 1 minute. Add in vanilla and melted chocolate, whisking until the mix looks glossy. Mix in the flour, cocoa powder, baking soda, and salt until just combined.Fold in the chocolate chunks. Let the dough sit for 5 minutes.

Line a small baking sheet or plate with baking paper (anything that fits in your freezer). Using a 1/4 cup measure cookie scoop, scoop the dough into balls and place on the prepared baking sheet. Freeze for 15-30 minutes, until firm.

Pull the dough balls out of the freezer. Place on the prepared baking sheet. Space the cookies 2 inches apart. Bake for 8-12 minutes or until the cookies start to set around the edges, the centres should be a little doughy. Let cool on the pan.

Sprinkle with sea salt. Eat warm or let cool and store in an airtight container for up to 4 days.Hot chocolate with whipped cream is wonderful for dipping.

NOTE: Cookie dough ballscan be frozen for up to 3 months.

By Elize Fisher

IPowerhouse Mamas: Making Waves Lilly

t can sometimes be hard to balance business and personal obligations as an entrepreneur. Lilly Kabeya, a passionate mother of four and the creative mind behind Lilly Cosmetics, faces this challenge daily. Despite facing numerous challenges, Lilly successfully balanced her entrepreneurship with motherhood.

From a young age, Lilly harboured a deep passion for cosmetics. She was drawn to the transformative power of makeup and skincare, recognising it as more than just a means of enhancing beauty but a form of self-expression and confidence-building. Driven by her entrepreneurial spirit, Lilly decided to turn her passion into a successful business venture. With the support of her family, she established Lilly Cosmetics as a brand synonymous with quality and empowerment.

As a working mother, Lilly faced numerous challenges balancing her growing business needs with raising a family. "Being a working mom isn't easy," she says, "but it's worth it." Juggling deadlines, meetings, and product launches alongside school runs and bedtime stories required meticulous planning and steadfast commitment. At the heart of Lilly's balance is

Superwoman Balancing Act

her ability to manage time and set boundaries. While making her family a top priority, she navigated the complexities of entrepreneurship.

She has accomplished many significant goals throughout her journey,eachoneprovingherpersistence.Fromlaunchingher signature perfume to empowering women through her business ventures, she has continually pushed the boundaries of success. Besides the financial gain, she takes great pride in the positive impact that her business has on the lives of womeninhercommunity."It'snotjustaboutsellingproducts," she explains, "it's about helping women embrace their beauty and potential." She aims to create a legacy beyond cosmetics by providing economic empowerment and self-realisation.

Lilly offers invaluable advice based on her experiences to aspiring entrepreneurs and working mothers. "Believe in yourself," she encourages, "and let your passion guide you." Lilly's remarkable achievements act as a powerful source of inspiration for women everywhere, demonstrating that you can achieve any goal with focus and persistence.

IEmpowerment through Motherhood Ziphozomusa

n the busy realm of urban motherhood and executive administration, a remarkable individual stands as a light of empowerment, community, and perseverance. As a versatile professional, her journey isn't just about navigating the corporate world butforgingmeaningfulconnectionsand support networks for fellow mothers through her brainchild, the City Moms Club.

She begins with her own experiences as a mother grappling with the complexities of city life. Recognising the need for connection and support among urban mothers, Ziphozomusa founded the City Moms Club—a platform offering solace, guidance, and community to mothers striving to balance career, parenthood, and personal fulfillment. It demonstrates her belief in the healing power of shared experiences and group support.

Navigating the delicate balance between personal and professional responsibilities presents its challenges. Despite the challenges of managing time and juggling various roles, Ziphozomusa tackles obstacles directly. With structured scheduling, prioritisation, and teamwork with her partner in parenting, she finds a

balanced approach. For her, self-care isn't a luxury—it's a necessity woven into the fabric of her daily life, ensuring she can fully engage personally and professionally.

Reflecting on her journey, she finds pride in several milestones. From effectively managing teams in executive administration to advancing her MBA while nurturing the growth of the City Moms Club, each achievement symbolises a fusion of leadership, education, and community impact. Being featured in Working Mama Magazine isn't just about personal recognition—it's a validation of the club's broader impact and evidence of the power of community-building.

For those embarking on a similar journey, Ziphozomusa's advice is clear: prioritise self-care, embrace resilience, and seek strategic balance. From efficient time management to fostering a robust support system, she advocates for a holistic approach to success that values personal and professional fulfillment. Above all, she encourages aspiring entrepreneurs and working mothers to stay true to their values, celebrate victories, and view challenges as opportunities for growth.

Maintaining motivation in the face of setbacks requires a multifaceted approach. For Ziphozomusa, it's about maintaining a clear long-term vision, embracing adaptability, and seeking inspiration from others. By celebrating achievements, practising mindfulness, and staying focused on her goals, she navigates obstacles with unwavering determination and a steadfast commitment to her journey.

In the future, she aspires to achieve personal success while making a meaningful difference in her community. Whether climbing the ladder to leadership positions in executive administration or expanding the influence of the City Moms Club, Ziphozomusa follows a path defined by a commitment to continual learning, community involvement, and selfimprovement. By forming strategic partnerships, launching innovative projects, and staying steadfastly focused on the needs of urban mothers, she is ready to create a lasting impact on the lives of many.

Finding Strength in Tough Times with Blending & Mending

Chantelle Blandin de Chalain is more than just a name; she is an inspiration, a ray of hope, and an advocate for those attempting to work through the challenges of blended families and divorce. As a mother, stepmother, partner, divorcee, podcast host, blogger, and professional, having gone through personal hardships, she has transformed into a person who empowers herself and those around her.

Chantelle's story is one of profound self-discovery and purpose. After realising that her corporate career no longer aligned with her newfound role as a mother, she embarked on a journey of reinvention. "Leaving my marriage didn't make sense to my family or friends," she recalls. "But I walked away for selffulfillment, wanting more out of life."

Blending & Mending was born out of pain, hurt, and self-reflection. "I walked this journey alone and didn't want anyone else to do the same," Chantelle shares. "There is a tribe of support out there, and I created a platform to bring that tribe together for those who need it most."

Blending & Mending isn't just a business venture for Chantelle; it's a lifeline—a space to celebrate vulnerability, share stories, and heal. "It's a space of relatedness, hope, and storytelling," she explains. "A sanctuary where people can find comfort and solace in shared experiences."

Central to Blending & Mending's mission is its podcast, a digital platform where voices once silenced by pain resonate now with strength and solidarity. With over 20 episodes and thousands of downloads, the podcast has become a beacon of hope for individuals across the globe.

As a full-time employee in a corporate consultancy, balancing her professional responsibilities with running Blending & Mending posed its own challenges. "The mind shift when it comes to TIME & QUALITY TIME with my family has been the hardest struggle for me," Chantelle reflects.

Yet, through trial and error, she found a rhythm that worked for her—a delicate balance between career, family, and passion. "I constantly jot down my

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thoughts and carve out time for social media," she shares. "But I also consciously put my phone down when needed."

Reflecting on her journey, Chantelle takes pride in the impact Blending & Mending has had in such a short period. "I'm incredibly proud of the podcast component," she says. "It's humbling to see how many lives it's touched and the messages of gratitude we receive."

Looking ahead, Chantelle envisions Blending & Mending soaring as a global support platform—a ray of light for those navigating the darkest times. "I wantthisspacetobeasanctuarywhere people can find content, resources, laughter, joy, and light," she shares. "A place where healing begins, and new beginnings take shape."

Chantelle Blandin de Chalain exemplifies resilience, compassion, and drive in difficult times. Her powerful message of Blending & Mending ignites bravery and connection in the face of challenges, showing us that we can overcome any obstacle.

Among countless untold stories, Cordious Nompumelelo Shelembe, or Cordi for short, stands out as a shining example of spirit and resolve. In addition to conquering challenges, her journey is about embracing her passions and pursuing her goals with relentless commitment.

"Life is about overcoming whatever stormsitthrowsatyou,goingthroughit joyfully, and filling the world with love," Cordi reflects, embracing the values that drive her forward.

Cordi's story begins humbly with a background in Accounting and Business. But she's always had a vision that stretched beyond the ordinary. Rather than following a conventional path, she chose to follow her love for fashion and entrepreneurship. Her creation, the Walk In Elegance Fashion Show, isn't just about showcasing clothes—it's about inspiring change in her native South Africa.

Likeanyjourney,Cordifacedchallenges

in her career as an entertainer and entrepreneur. "It's not personal, and it shouldn't stop you by any means," she affirms, reflecting on the rejections and doubt she's faced. But she hasn't let that dim her enthusiasm. Instead, she's taken each setback as an opportunity to grow and push forward. Her story is proof that with persistence, anything is possible.

Recognition has come in the form of a nomination for a prestigious award—an acknowledgement of her influence. But for Cordi, success isn't just about accolades; it's about staying true to herself and her vision. Her resilience is a reminder that true greatness comes from the strength of character and not external validation. "I'm always in awe of what God is doing in my life," she humbly acknowledges, attributing her success to divine grace and unwavering faith.

Balancing work and personal life hasn't been easy for Cordi, but she's found her rhythm. By prioritising self-care and personal growth, she's managed to

maintain a sense of calm in the chaos. Her story is an inspiration to others, showing that with perseverance, anything is achievable.

Considering the future, Cordi's vision extends beyond her success. "Always find a reason to try again and again and again and never quit," she encourages others, displaying a spirit of strength thatpropelsherforward.Shedreamsof a South Africa that exemplifies grace and creativity on the global stage. And she's determined to make that dream a reality through collaboration and firm belief in her goals.

In Cordious Nompumelelo Shelembe's journey, we find a story of hope. Her path may be unique, but her message is universal: with passion and endurance, we can all shine bright. As we experience our own journeys, let's draw inspiration from Cordi's story and remember that the key to success lies within ourselves.

Prescribing Hope: How Dr. Chanell Marthinussen Transforms Healthcare

ChanellMarthinussen,adedicatedmedicaldoctorandhead of virtual care at Innohealth Technologies, embodies the spirit of making a difference. Managing the WorkCare portfolio through the web-based app - MyPocketHealth, she is committed to bridging the gap between public and private healthcare, ensuring accessibility and affordability for all.

Driven by the belief that everybody deserves quality healthcare, Chanell's journey is rooted in a passion for impactful change. "I want to be part of something that is making an impactful change," she shares. Her drive led her to her current position, where she tackles challenges head-on, driven by the desire to create a positive impact.

Chanell, a working mother and business owner, is facing challenges in maintaining a balance between her personal and professional responsibilities. One significant challenge she grapples with is mom guilt, especially when working from home. "BalancingthetimethatIdon'tseemydaughter,especiallywhen I work from home, is tough," she admits. To overcome this, she dedicates her evenings solely to her daughter, ensuring quality time together after 5 pm.

Despite the challenges, Dr. Chanell's MyPocketHealth app remains her proudest accomplishment. "Developing and launching our web-based app this year has been a significant milestone,"shebeams.Thisachievementsignifiesastepforward inhermissiontomakehealthcaremoreaccessibletoall,marking a tangible impact in her journey.

Balancing personal and professional commitments requires strategy and discipline. For Chanell, maintaining a clear boundary between work and personal life is essential. "I try as much as possible to work during the day and only after my daughter goes to bed," she explains. Working only on her MacBook and not on her cellphone and setting aside dedicated time for her family helps her maintain this balance effectively.

Collaborating with her husband (co-founder of the company) adds another layer of complexity to Chanell's journey. However, she emphasises the importance of keeping personal and professional responsibilities separate. They successfully maintain family dynamics while skillfully handling the challenges of working together through effective communication.

To aspiring working mothers and entrepreneurs, Chanell offers sage advice: Take it step by step. Embrace the hurdles. "Core memories are important, but it is also crucial for your child to see that you are a hard worker," she advises. By prioritising quality time with her daughter and demonstrating dedication to her work, Chanell sets an inspiring example for others.

Staying motivated in setbacks requires ten and a clear sense of purpose. Chanell draws strength from her background, having experienced hardship firsthand. "I come from a previously disadvantaged background, so I know what it means to work hard and struggle," she reflects. This perspective fuels her determination, pushing her to overcome obstacles and stay focused on her goals.

Dr. Chanell hopes to positively influence even more lives byexpandingthereachofMyPocketHealth."Iwouldlove to offer our offerings to at least 50 SMMEs and corporates and have at least 500,000 users on our platform," she shares ambitiously. With a strategic plan in place, she is determined to realise this vision, empoweringcommunitieswithaccessibleandaffordable healthcare solutions.

ThelifeofDr.ChanellMarthinussenisatestamenttoher strength, tenacity, and unwavering commitment to revolutionising healthcare and inspiring others to follow their dreams, regardless of the challenges they encounter.

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Golden Horizons: Hawabibi Karodia's Entrepreneurial Tale

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In the heart of Johannesburg's vibrant East Rand beats the entrepreneurial spirit of Hawabibi Karodia, a dynamic woman driven by her love for fashion and culinary delights. At 40 years young, Hawabibi isn't just a devoted mother to three lovely daughters: she's also the brains behind Hawa B Boutique, a tribute to her passion and creativity.

Her journey into entrepreneurship didn't start with a lightning bolt moment but rather with a gradual realisation of her talents, nurtured by her upbringing. As a teen, she was immersed in her parents' entrepreneurial ventures, learning the ropes of business and tenacity. However, it wasn't until her second pregnancy that she truly embraced her entrepreneurial calling. Advised to take it easy, she channelled her energy into exploring her creative side, leading to the birth of Hawa B Boutique.

Yet, the road to success wasn't without its bumps, especially as a working mother. Time management emerged as her biggest challenge, threatening to upset the delicate balance between

family and work. With determination and strategic planning, she forged ahead, turning setbacks into opportunities for growth.

When reflecting on her journey, Hawabibi considers the creation of her brand, Hawa B Boutique, her proudest accomplishment. Over the past six years, despite storms, including the COVID-19 pandemic, she has consistently demonstrated her strength and dedication. The perseverance reflects the independence she has acquired. The delight she experiences when she sees her name displayed on her creations.

When asked about her secret to balancing personal and professional responsibilities, Hawabibi likens her journey to a relay race. Knowing when to hand over the baton allows her to recharge and approach challenges with renewed vigour.

Hawabibi offers simple advice for entrepreneurs and working mothers: stay true to your dreams, celebrate every victory, and build a supportive

community. She emphasises the importance of self-belief and courage, urging others to find their path to success.

In the face of adversity, Hawabibi finds strength in prayer and knowing she is paving the way for future generations. Looking ahead, she envisions expanding Hawa B Boutique online, making it accessible nationwide while maintaining her commitment to quality and creativity.

As the sun sets over Johannesburg, painting the sky with hues of amber and gold, Hawabibi Karodia stands tall in the city's vibrant energy. Her transition from a devoted mother to a successful entrepreneur is a striking example of her persistent drive and boundless creativity. With each passing day, she keeps inspiring those around her, igniting the spark of possibility in others. As the stars emerge in the night sky, Hawabibi's narrative is a gentle reminder that anyone can be successful, with passion, persistence, and ingenuity.

How to Budget, Plan for your Trip, & During Trip's Cost Cutting.

It is never too early to start planning and budgeting for your Bucket list trip.

Plan

Moms, get out your map, pen, and notepad and start planning! Choosing between adventure, the beach, food, and shopping is challenging.

Off-peak or during peak periods-holiday seasons?

Once you have chosen when to travel, the next item on your list of priorities is to select the location. Take into consideration - weather. Yes, the weather! It has a significant impact because some places are only accessible via ferries.

Budget

1. I call it a "Kitty." Place money in an envelope for tips, taxis, rail, public bus, lunch and dinner and keep it separate from your shopping money.

2. Cost-cutting: shop at local shops, kiosks, and supermarkets and buy bulk water and cold drinks.

3. Including breakfast at the hotel ensures convenience, saves time, and offers a cost-saving option when prepaid.

4. Explore hotels that offer added value with complimentary meals such as lunch, afternoon tea, or dinner.

5. If money is tight, you may consider visiting low-cost locations like Egypt and Turkey, which both allow free or discounted visas. Then, you can save up for trips to other destinations that require visas.

6. Consider travelling during the shoulder season in Europe, either at the end of May, early June, or September.

7. Explore special deals; sometimes, a 5-star hotel offers discounts that bring the cost down to that of a 4-star hotel.

8. Opt for seat-in-coach transfers instead of private transfers. While shared transfers may take longer to reach your hotel, they are cost-effective.

9. Choose all-inclusive packages that include meals and beverages when visiting places like Mauritius, Zanzibar, the Maldives, and Mexico. These packages typically include breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks, cocktails, selected house wines, beers, soft beers, cold drinks, juices, and mineral water.

10. Select day tours with lunch and dinner and ensure that all entrance fees are included at the touristic site when pre-booking a day tour.

11. Shop where the Locals shop so you can find great bargains and can negotiate prices.

12. Make a clear distinction between needs and wants when making purchases. It's easy to replace Wants items. Necessities are made use of until they wear out or become unusable.

13. Consider purchasing souvenirs that have practical everyday uses.

14. Walk as much as possible. The best way to explore is to pack in those comfy walking shoes!

15. Streamline your visit. Pre-purchase entry passes for tourist sites such as London and Paris. Opt for city sightseeing buses with a minimum of 2 days, preferably including a complimentary walking tour or boat ride.

16. Some transit airports are destinations in themselves, like Changi in Singapore, Hong Kong, and Atatürk Airport in Istanbul, Turkey. Take the opportunity to explore these airports during your layover.

17. Pack as lightly as possible when you depart, bringing only essential items and toiletries.

18. Pre-purchasing flights with baggage included in the airfare may not be beneficial if the initial flight prices are low, only to incur additional fees for extra bags at the airport upon arrival.

19. Consider buying clothes and shoes during your trip to Turkey, Morocco, Bali, Thailand, Vietnam, or Egypt. Stock up those bags, Mama!

20. Overnight trains offer transportation and accommodation, allowing travellers to immerse themselves in the local culture and engage with locals. An example is the overnight train journey from Chiang Mai to Bangkok or Cairo to Luxor.

21. Book with a travel advisor-we know all the deals-hotels-day tours, we provide advice, add value, and are available in the event of an emergency.

22. Place any available savings in an interest-bearing Savings Account for travel purposes.

23. Last but not least-Book early-at least 11 Months in advance.

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Darlings of Durban follows the stories of four friends and how their lives intersect and influence each other. Natasha owns a successful beauty company and is in a serious long-term relationship with the charming Sizwe. Natasha worries that his family will never truly accept her because of her mixed heritage.

Does she even believe in marriage? Natasha often seeks the advice of her friend Sofia who’s happily married with children. Sofia is the glue that holds the darlings together. The cousins, Farhana and Razia, both have their own complicated marriages. Farhana tries her best to support her husband in his harebrained schemes – even when it’s to the detriment of her friendships. While Razia, the only darling in Johannesburg, feels stuck in her role as subservient wife to a husband whose attention is elsewhere.

All four women are navigating the complexities of love and life. But whatever life throws their way, the darlings always have each other.

About the author

Shafinaaz Hassim is an independent sociologist and author based in Johannesburg. Her works have been commended in various local awards, including the K Sello Duiker Award and the UJ Prize for Creative Writing. In 2014, she was listed by UNESCO and the London Book Fair as one of the Top 39 authors in Africa under the age of 40.

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Five things that may surprise you about your bond.

By Aithne Molotsane SeniorAccountManager,IrvinePartners

Buying a home is a significant purchase and one that will most likely require some form of financial assistance in the form of a bond, also known as a home loan. While this process is standard practice for most buyers who are unable to pay cash for their homes, there are some things about having a bond that may come as a surprise, says Bradd Bendall, interim CEO of BetterBond.

Here are five things that may surprise you about your bond:

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The earlier in the month you pay your bond, the less interest you will accumulate. This can help you shave years off your bond repayment over the loan repayment period. “Another trick to save interest is to split your monthly bond instalment,” says Bendall. So, if your bond repayment is R8 000, arrange with the bank to deduct R4 000 on the last day of the month and the balance on the 15th. The full amount will be paid within 30 days, but the interest – which is calculated daily – will be reduced.

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If you can pay more than the required monthly instalment on your bond, you take years off your bond repayment period. Also, by paying off the balance sooner, you will reduce your interest over the loan repayment period. On a R2 million bond, at a prime lending rate of 11.75%, a payment of R1 000 extra each month will save R564 586 in interest over the loan period, which will also be shortened by three years from 20 years to 205 months.

3.Don’t cancel your bond once you have paid the full amount. If you keep the bond open, it will still be possible to access funds if needed. Any amount you pay over and above your instalment lies in an access facility and this can be accessed at a later stage, says Bendall. “Many homeowners use their primary residence to access funds so that

they can buy their second property. There is no real benefit in cancelling your bond, unless you are selling the property, or you are absolutely sure that you will not be needing to access funds again. The bank will keep your account open unless instructed otherwise.”

4.

Applying for a joint bond with a partner, family member or friend can make home ownership more accessible. Up to 12 people can apply for a joint bond, says Bendall. “Irrespective of how many people share joint bond ownership on a property, make sure that there is a clear contract in place. This agreement should include information about the sharing of the bond and access to the bond, each person’s financial contribution and who is responsible for managing the property.”

5.Working with a bond originator can mean a more favourable interest which will save you money on your monthly bond payments. “By approaching multiple banks, BetterBond can negotiate an interest rate concession because the banks compete to offer the best deal based on your buyer risk profile.” Currently, BetterBond’s average interest rate concession when applying to four banks is 0.61%. This means that you could pay up to 0.61% less than the interest rate offered by the bank. On a R2 million bond, if the bank offers a prime lending rate of 11.75%, you will pay an interest rate of 10.91%, a saving of R1 153 a month.

It may seem daunting at first, but with expert advice and some insider knowledge, you can navigate the homebuying journey knowing that you are making an informed decision, concludes Bendall.

How to achieve a healthy corporate balance

"For many of us this year has started at an extreme pace and any intentions of introducing new habits have most likely fallen by the wayside", says Nomvula Mnguni, Talent Acquisition Manager atBIZMOD Consulting

“The first step to creating a healthy corporate balance is understanding the difference between operational tasks and strategic objectives in your organisation,” says Mnguni.

Operational tasks are critical daily activities whereas strategic objectives are the overall mission of the organisation that enables it to reach desired objectives.

Working in a deadline-driven environment can be extremely stressful. Having effective tools in place to help plan your day, and manage your workload can help to achieve an allusive work-life balance. “It may take some time to become

consistent in using the tools but power through as the benefits are worth it,” says Mnguni.

She provides the below tips while explaining that by putting in place small changes, we can move towards achieving a healthy corporate balance:

1. Starteachday with a plan. Create a system that prioritisesyour day according to the urgency and importance of tasks. Go through the activities from the previous day and carry over anything you may not have completed.

2. Establish your daily SMART Goals. Specific,Measurable,Achievable,Reali stic, andTimelygoals. By limiting multitasking and dividing your tasks into subtasks you will achieve more throughout the day.

3. Teamwork.

Thisis vital in helping to achieve

operational tasksandhaving the right people to support you is imperative.Putting the correct processesin place that individuals are aware of and required to adhere to, assists in the achievement of operational tasks.

4. Divide tasks into strategic objectives and operational tasks. The guidance of senior management and mentors will help in achieving strategic objectives and implementing and managing performance.

5. Operational tasks are required to achieve strategic objectives andKPIswill create the link by setting daily, weekly, and monthly targets.

6. Utilisetechnology to keep track of your pipeline and quantifiable data so that you can measure achievements and monitor performance.

“These tips will assist in a healthy corporate lifestyle while improving your delivery,” Mnguni concludes.

Ask Coach Canz

Your burning health questions answered.

I keep hearing about self-love and how we need to practice self-care, but what does self-love mean?

- Nick, Wynberg

Self-love is a matter of deep personal perspective and how it is expressed (self-care) will vary greatly from person to person. That said, self-love isn't about arrogance or vanity. It's about recognising your worth, outside of external achievements or opinions. It's about treating yourself with kindness and respect. It means:

Embracing self-love empowers us to challenge the negative thought patterns that hold us back from making positive changes in our lives. Limiting beliefs or negative self-talkcanstartinchildhoodandfollowusintoadulthood so seek professional help if you feel stuck.

Can hormone imbalance cause depression?

- Linda, Fish Hoek

The short answer is yes. Hormones are chemical messengers in your body that hold the power to change how you look, and how you feel and affect your long-term health. Here’s an example…Imagine oestrogen and progesterone (2 major female hormones) are like the conductors in an orchestra, guiding the production of other brain chemicals like serotonin, which helps regulate mood. During menopause, when oestrogen and progesterone levels naturally decline, it can be like the conductors having trouble keeping things in sync. This disruption can affect serotonin production, potentially leading to feelings of sadness, fatigue, and a lack of motivation.

Hormone balance is a key factor for maintaining both emotional and physical health. However, it is very important to remember that many factors influence feelings of depression. If you’re concerned, please speak to a professional who can help you identify the root cause of your feelings and provide appropriate treatment options.

Candace Feinberg

Certified Health Coach and founder of The Wellness Doers Club. Specialising in gut & skin health, she is on a mission to help busy Working Mamas reclaim their health to feel confident, inspired and empowered.

Get your health, get your life!

www.thewellnessdoersclub.co.za

Accepting yourself, flaws, and all! Treat anything you’re unhappy with as an opportunity for growth.

Taking care of yourself by doing the things that bring you joy and making healthy choices for your body and mind.

Silencing your inner critic! Are your thoughts based on reality or fear?

"Love yourself first and everything else falls into line." - Lucille Ball

How can I strengthen the gut health of my children?

- Amina, Douglasdale

Start by listening to your fussy eater. Yes, you want your babytogrowuphealthyandstrongbutfightingaboutwhat and how much can create a negative relationship with eatingandfoodingeneralthatmakesithardtobreakdown the line.

Children respond to the environment you create and if you create an environment at the outset that encourages eating a nutritious well-balanced diet devoid of processed foods and excess sugar, physical playtime (preferably outdoors), getting enough sleep and healthy coping mechanisms like self-expression to deal with emotions, your child will have a strong foundation for long term gut health.

EnjoyingaMcDonald'sHappyMealnowandthenisnotthe end of the world but here are some tips for day-to-day living:

Lead by example showing your kids you enjoy a variety of healthy foods.

Offer new foods repeatedly but avoid pressure. Create a relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere at mealtimes. Involve children in meal prep by letting them wash vegetables or choose a new fruit to try.

Have a health-related question you’d like answered?

Email candace@thewellnessdoersclub.co.za

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She Minds Her Own Business: The guide to designing a life and business you love.

By Krystel Stacey

In She Minds Her Own Business, successful business owner and life vision strategist Krystel Stacey offers successdriven women proven, real-world advice for how to conceptualize your ideal business plan and employ empowering and realistic methods for getting where you want to be – in charge of a profitable and growing small business… and on the path to real financial freedom and independence.

Female entrepreneurs, businesswomen, and working moms will love Krystel’s upbeat, positive mindset, and resultsoriented approaches to building a business and a life that is rewarding and profitable. You will learn how to set achievable goals and celebrate your victories while overcoming adversity and minor setbacks along the way.Youwill decide your own priorities and direction, and determine how you will get there, instead of listening to what other people think you should do.

Whether you’re tired of the 9-to-5 grind, or you’ve tried starting businesses and failed before,nowis the time to empower yourself and get your new life started, with Krystel’s ground-breaking business and positivity tactics, provided for you in She Minds Her Own Business!

“Krystel Stacey brings experience, expertise, encouragement, and examples in this extremely practical book. Her writing feels personal like you’re chatting over a latte, which makes it an easy and enjoyable read. If you’re ready to make changes and move forward in your business or life goals, she’s ready to take you by the hand and show you how!” – Amazon Review

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