Peoria Times
24 RELIGION
September 2, 2021
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Please be sure to mind the expectations gap Last week, we started a two-part series on what happens when we live our lives or base our success on the following equation: expectations minus reality equals happiness. So, when the reality of someone’s life is more than they had expected, they’re happy. But when their reality turns out to be less than their expectations, they’re unhappy. We discovered most people have a sizable gap between where they expected to be in life compared to the reality of where they are currently. They’ve applied themselves and worked hard but somehow didn’t quite achieve what they believed they would. When this happens, many people either give up or give in to “unmagnificent” obsessions to medicate the hurt, discouragement and frustra-
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be content with life. First, leave the definition of real success to God. Don’t allow our shamebased, performance-driven society to determine the meaning of success that you are basing your happiness on. God’s definition of success is to be a person of peace with yourself, your family and others, whether in business, community or church. Here’s some ancient wisdom about peace and contentment. “But godliness actually is a means of great gain when accompanied by contentment. For we have brought nothing into the world, so we cannot take anything out of it either.” You see, peace brings release. We aren’t running a race against others, competing for trivial pursuits and unrealistic dreams. We are running an endurance race against ourselves. At the finish line is the trophy of contentment. Peace with yourself and with God leads to peace with others. Finish strong, not wrong. Third, find a shared vision with God and yourself. Don’t be afraid to be-
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tion. Let me give you an example of what I am addressing. I have been a pastor since 1980 in the Phoenix area. For the last 20 years, I have been pastoring pastors all over the world. The most common issue I address in pastors is their expectations. When pastors start their ministry, they expected to have a church of thousands of people, a large building and speaking worldwide. But 25 years later, they are pastoring a church with 100 people, with no hope of ever achieving their expectations, and they are exhausted. So, where do you go from there? Hopefully, this two-part series will give a realistic perspective to those who never quite reach fulfilling their dreams, goals and desires. So, let’s discover a new and much more accurate view about success and life. Let’s learn to, as they say in England, “mind the gap.” If this concept applies to you, please consider the following truths that have the power to unhandcuff you, freeing you up to enjoy and
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lieve or dream again. It’s OK to have big, hairy audacious goals, but don’t let those goals define you. Give it your all but remember, “Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it.” Don’t confuse who you are with what you do or have done. Goals give direction, dreams give motivation, but if you don’t reach where you expected to be, that’s OK. Some fulfill their expectations. Some don’t. It’s OK not to be OK if you tried. Learn to integrate success with failure. If you back up and take a second look, there are other areas in which you could be successful. Don’t let the world (shame, name, fame or blame) squeeze you into its mold. You are God’s workmanship, and God “don’t” make no junk. Don’t put a question mark where God put a period. Our perspective about happiness and success needs upgrading. Think of life this way. “I was wrong in my definition of happiness; I’ve tried my hardest, I’ve lived my life faithfully, and it didn’t turn out. I’m not going to spend the rest of my life using precious energy asking why or beating myself up or others up because I didn’t reach my expectations. I’m not going to listen to the never-ending audio loop of “woulda,” “shoulda,” “coulda.” Maybe expectations should come from God’s voice, not ours or our culture’s voice. Fourth, get back into the game of life. It’s one thing to be wounded or lost on the battlefield. It’s another to be captured by the enemy or surrendered to the enemy. Realize God’s hall of fame was built by faithfulness rather than high attendance, sales figures or stereotypes. David was a man of small stature. SEE EXPECTATIONS PAGE 26
