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Annie’s Mailbox By KATHY MITCHELL and MARCY SUGAR

Should I let her go?

Dear Annie: I’ve been dating my girlfriend for four years, and she’s almost perfect. She has only one flaw: She rarely drinks, but when she does, she becomes verbally abusive and physically destructive. The following morning, I always get blamed for her being so drunk and not stopping her, but every time I try to stop her, she just drinks more. This happens roughly every other month. The rest of the time she’s awesome, fun and supportive, and I love being around her. But when she drinks, she becomes another person. I don’t think she’s an alcoholic, but I don’t know what she is. Is there anything I can do? I love her. I just don’t know if I can stand any more heartache. Should I let her go? -- Bewildered Boyfriend Dear Bewildered: Probably. Part of the problem is that she’s a nasty binge drinker. But the rest is that she refuses to take responsibility for her behavior and blames you for her lack of control. She may be awesome when she’s sober, but this type of drinking rarely gets better without effort. Would she seek help (and do the work) if you told her it was make-or-break for the relationship? If she isn’t willing to talk to her doctor, attend AA meetings or find other support and/or therapy groups for problem drinkers, she isn’t as wonderful as you think. Dear Annie: Like “Brokenhearted Mom,” I, too, kicked my son out of the house, although he was 17, not 21. I basically raised him alone since he was 3. We had a tumultuous relationship, he was into drugs and alcohol like his father, and I just couldn’t take it anymore. He stumbled through life, eventually moving to a city 90 miles away. We maintained contact for a while, and then he dropped out of my life for a year. He would not answer any of my texts or calls. The only thing that kept me sane was the thought that if something terrible happened, the police would notify me. My son finally contacted me when he hit bottom from a gambling addiction (on top of everything else). He asked to come home for a bit to get back on track, and I let him. That was five years ago. He is now 26 and still not where I would like him to be, but he is working and self-sufficient, and happier and more satisfied with his life. The best part is, we have a relationship again and often tell each other “I love you” -- something I had wondered whether he felt for me. I just want to tell “Brokenhearted” to keep the contact via text, voicemails, whatever. Don’t ever give up on your son. Someday he will need you and want you back in his life. -Blessed Mom Dear Blessed: We are so glad things worked out between you and your son, and we appreciate your words of hope. Some addictions are too difficult to overcome, however, and parents must learn to accept that which they cannot change. We hope you know how fortunate you are. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@creators.com, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.

HINTS FROM HELOISE DOGHOUSE DESIGN Editor’s Note: The accompanying photo for this and future Saturday Heloise pet columns will be available to newspapers that receive the column through the website. If you receive the column by APwire or U.S. mail and would like to receive the photo at no extra charge, you can download it. Call Reed Brennan Media Associates Customer Service at (800) 708-7311, ext. 236. Dear Readers: When a new dog comes into the family, depending on where you live, a DOGHOUSE might be a priority. This is especially important if your dog will be outside most of the time. You can buy one or make one. Here are some hints to know: The dog needs enough room to stand, sit and turn around. Not too big, though! Do put the doghouse on cement blocks or another sturdy base to help keep the floor dry and cool or warm, depending on where you live. If it’s cold outside, the base of the doghouse will transfer that coldness inside the doghouse. Or, if boiling hot, like in Arizona or West Texas, the elevation will allow airflow between the soil and the doghouse. On a personal note, when Sheba, a Keeshond, adopted us years ago (and is now in doggie Valhalla), my husband, David, made her a doghouse. It was just the right size for her to curl up in and stay warm and safe. However, she decided that sleeping ON TOP of the doghouse was the way to go. Or she would crawl under a deck we have to get out of our Texas summer heat and hunker down in the cool sand. -- Heloise PET PAL Dear Readers: Janet in Lubbock, Texas, sent a picture of her adorable Chihuahua, Briggs, staying warm on a blanket on her lap. If you’d like to see Briggs, visit www.Heloise.com and click on “Pets.” Do you have a funny or cute Pet Pal picture that you’d like to share? If so, scan the picture and email it to Heloise(at)Heloise. com, or mail to: Heloise/Pet Pal, P.O. Box 795000, San Antonio, TX 78279. All pets welcome, including snakes and spiders. But just their photos -- no live animals! -- Heloise

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