WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO SOMEONE WHO MIGHT BE STRUGGLING? [JAM] One thing I'd say is to be patient with yourself. I think we talk so much about being kind and patient to others in our society but be kind to yourself and give yourself that grace. I remember periods when I was super self-critical in the midst of everything we just talked about. I think that it starts there and then slowly you have to try and find relationships, because I think we're meant to help each other. Whether it's your born family, or your chosen family, find those people that you feel like you can lean on that are going to pull you out of this dark place. I really think that community and relationships ultimately act as an antidote to a lot of these struggles. [Philly] I completely agree, especially with that latter point. Finding your circle, finding your people. I think it's just so important. It's easy to shut off, especially when you go through loneliness, depression, or whatever. It's easy to think, like, I don't want to put this burden on anyone else. I just want to stick to myself. But like you said, we're social people by nature, by evolution. We're meant to talk to others and share our feelings. I think I was the type that, even in that friend group growing up, where I was never too vulnerable. I still wouldn't say they knew me like that as a person. So, it took some figuring out. Don't be afraid to be open and put yourself out there to people.
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