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Getting To Know Us Mission Statement: Restoring souls, not just through God but also through God’s soldiers, gifted and anointed. Hello, my name is Tashara Gilyard. I am the CEO and Founder of Love’s Compassion Magazine. As a young person growing in Christ I came to learn it’s not always easy to dedicate yourself to this walk of life. There are a number of reasons for this: the fear of the unknown, having to let go of things we believe we enjoy, trust issues caused by past hurt, observing hypocrisy amongst those in the church, feeling like you’re too young… let’s face it, the list could go on forever. I came to learn it is very difficult to be busy for God and the enemy at the same time. “No one can serve two masters, either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other,” sound familiar? Matthew 6:24. I have made up my mind to be busy for God.
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We all have gifts and talents of some sort. There are some things we learn and things the Lord just blesses us with for His purpose. My gift from God is words. He has given me the ability to take someone’s life’s journey and bring it to life on paper. I am able to listen to someone’s cries of pain and joy and pour those feelings into a poem or spoken word piece for another to hear and relate to. This ability combined with the compassion God placed in me has given me a vision to start a ministry where souls can be restored and hearts can be mended. What better way to do this then by sharing ourselves for the kingdom of God. There are many that refuse to step foot into a church today for a number of reasons and it’s not always because they don’t believe in God. There has been so much hurt caused in and by the “Church.” People decide they would rather take their chances in the street getting hurt than going into the church where we are supposed to receive healing, but instead receive spiritual homicide. They are often judged, ostracized and made to feel as though they are counted out. I don’t know about you, but if I walk into a hospital blind, lost and wounded; I would expect assistance, guidance and a great effort in meeting my needs. Anything less would most likely discourage me from ever returning to this hospital or even seeking any assistance from anyone affiliated with it. The vision God has given me is an open line of communication between God’s children, both lost and “found.” It is time to take back all that the enemy has tried
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to destroy. It is time to get the beam out our own eye, time to remember we did not come out of our mother’s womb carrying a bible, speaking in tongues and walking upright with Jesus. We too were once dirty, broken, battered, abused or abusing others. Had it not been for an obedient vessel being used for the glory of God and the building of His kingdom, we would still be the mess we were before we began ministering the message to others. This magazine is creating an opportunity to see where the “Church” has gone wrong and rectify the situation. What have we done to discourage God’s children from coming to visit Him in His house? We are creating an opportunity to hear the broken hearts cry out, allowing them to release their pain instead of living a selfdestructing life. Be an example and share our testimonies. Allow them to see they aren’t in this alone and that our God is still in the business of healing. Provide them with spiritual food so that they no longer have to starve. Provide them with help and prayer to come out of their situation. Reach out to them with non-judgmental arms and embrace them with a warm and open heart. Love them the way God loves us, unconditionally. Remember how you felt the first time God embraced you, wiped your tears, and showed you were loved. Do everything in your power to help them feel that same way. Most importantly this is the opportunity to assist those who don’t have a relationship with their heavenly father and encourage and teach them how to. God
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loves us with compassion and now it’s time for us to love our neighbors the same way.
Founder/CEO: Tashara Gilyard
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The Blame Game The word blame means to find fault or place responsibility on someone else. As human beings, we are good at blaming others for our mistakes. This is nothing new; we have been blaming others since the beginning of time. Let us take a look at Adam, the first man that God created. Adam was made in the image of God, he had a close relationship with God, but like us he was disobedient to God. When Eve ate the forbidden fruit and gave it to Adam to eat, instead of Adam refusing the fruit and reprimanding Eve, he ate it. And when God scolded Adam for his disobedience, he blamed God for the woman He gave him. Here we see a sinful man blaming a perfect God for his faults. Unfortunately this bad habit still runs in our blood. We love to blame God for every mishap in our lives. We seem to forget that God gave us free will and we tend to take our free will for granted. All too often, God is blamed for our actions. We cry out to God about the father of our children, how he is a bum, who doesn’t take care of his children, and how we are stuck raising the children by ourselves. But we forget that this was not the man God intended for us to have. We forgot to spend time in prayer, asking God to reveal the right man for us. We chose to lay with this man because we allowed our flesh to take control. As the Apostle Paul states in Romans 7:18, “For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not.” This tells us that our flesh is bad; we fight against our flesh daily. All because he
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looked so fine, we just had to have him, now we are left bitter and blaming God for our struggle. “God, why won’t you bless me? I am struggling with my bills, I am drowning and you won’t help me.” It’s funny how we as Christians blame God for the outcome of our wrong doings and then, to top it off, we have the nerve to quote scriptures to Him, like He doesn’t know what He said. “But my God shall supply all your needs according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:19). Yes, God will supply our need, but we have to be obedient to His word. For example, we don’t pay our tithes and offerings. We buy Jordans, Coach Bags, and continue to live beyond our means using the money God has blessed us wiith. Now we know God did not tell us to go blow all your money on foolishness. We did not need that BMW 7 series; the Honda was good enough to serve the same purpose. Now we can’t pay our car note, our car will be repossessed and now we are embarrassed. Instead of saying, “Jesus I am sorry for being foolish,” we blame Him for our downfall. It is time for us to make a change in our lives, get on our knees and repent. To be truly sorry for the decisions we have made in our lives and confess that we made those bad decisions, not God. Tell God that it was our flesh that was weak and we refused to ask God for His help. Our Heavenly Father is so merciful and forgiving He is just waiting for us to make the right choice. Jesus has His arms out waiting for us.
Roslyn Simmons
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Blame Game First, let's ask, what is meant by the phrase "the blame game?" No, it's not an actual game but most, if not all, of us have done it. The blame game is enacted when you blame someone else for circumstances that have happened to you, for your actions, or a situation you got yourself into by your sole decision. You don't want to realize it was your mistake so you blame someone else for it. You blame others for the way your future turned out. You blame others for your personality. You blame any and everyone else but yourself. Blaming someone for the mistakes you made is an everyday practice. It is a game easily played by many. Does this sound familiar? "My father wasn't around, so I didn't have anyone to teach me about being a man." "My Momma stayed drunk all the time, that's why I don't know how to love." "My best friend talked me into stealing that car, that's why I got a record." "The Government keeps me down, that's why I'm on welfare." How about, "My Dad used to hit on my Mom, that's why I sometimes flip out on you." We have all at one time experienced something dramatic or even tragic growing up. Yes, those situations do affect us mentally and sometimes physically. As a victim of circumstance, I can say “with the will to keep going, you can overcome.” We were all given the gift of choice. The choices you make in your life determines
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your outcome. You can decide not to strike when you get angry. You can choose your battles. You can choose to overcome poverty. You can accept love without being scared. Once you realize where to place your blame, you can start to realize the decisions you made, where you went wrong and what is needed to correct the mistake(s) you made. I know a young lady who has chosen to never have sex with another man, in her life. Why? “Because my stepfather would sneak into my room for many years and have sex with me since I was a young girl, she said.” She felt so dirty when thinking about being with a man, it made her sick. So I asked her, "Do you like sex?" "Yes, but I like it with a woman." I asked her, “Do you believe in God?” "No. Where was God when this man who is in his image, He allowed to do those things to me?" I responded, “He saw.” She asked if He saw, why didn't He do anything to stop him? I asked, “Well what did you do? Did you report it to any one?” "No. I was ashamed. I didn't think anyone would believe me. He also threatened the family if I said anything." I told her he has his judgment to face. He will have to answer for what he did. Put your trust in God. Your stepfather may believe he got away with what he did to you, but he will pay. You are blaming your stepfather for what he did to you, thus hindering yourself from experiencing the love of a true God-fearing man, the way God intended you to. Another instance is with a young 26 year old, who
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recently got out of jail and was having trouble finding a job. He did not lie on the job application about being incarcerated. Time after time, he was denied. Eventually, he went back to the easiest way for him to make money. His mother asked him why he keeps going back to the same situation he just left. He responded, "If it wasn't for society, I would not have to live a life of crime. I grew up without a father to teach me about life. The streets are my daddy!" He decided to give up on his search for a respectful job. He did not have the faith he needed to keep going, to keep knocking on doors knowing one of them will open up and let him in. He blamed society. He blamed his father for not being there to help him. He blamed his mother for having a baby she could not afford to take care of. He blamed his teachers for not giving him the knowledge he needed to start a career. He blamed the top drug dealers for providing him with the ability to sell drugs and poison his own neighborhood. One night, he sat near a church. He stared at the church but never went in. He could hear the Preacher giving the sermon. He could hear the choir singing out to the Lord. He said to himself, “Why me?” Suddenly, thoughts took him back to where he first made the decision to take the drugs from the dealer in the black Hummer. He just wanted a pair of Nike shoes. His mother told him to get a job and pay for them himself. She's not paying over $100 for a pair of shoes. As he was offered the package that night, he thought maybe just enough to pay for the shoes and quit. He made that decision. No one put a gun to his head. No one ever threatened his life. Because of that
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decision, he now has to make it through his life with a felony record next to his name. It wasn't his Mother's fault. It wasn't the drug dealer's fault. He can't even blame the police officer that arrested him. No matter what the situation is, think about what the consequences are before you make a drastic decision. You were given the gift of choice. Make the right decisions before taking action. You can't blame anyone but yourself.
By: Angela Taylor
www.lovescompassion.org
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