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Issue 1: Features Promiscuity
Getting To Know Us Mission Statement: Restoring souls, not just through God but also through God’s soldiers, gifted and anointed. Hello, my name is Tashara Gilyard. I am the CEO and Founder of Love’s Compassion Magazine. As a young person growing in Christ I came to learn it’s not always easy to dedicate yourself to this walk of life. There are a number of reasons for this: the fear of the unknown, having to let go of things we believe we enjoy, trust issues caused by past hurt, observing hypocrisy amongst those in the church, feeling like you’re too young… let’s face it the list could go on forever. I came to learn it is very difficult to be busy for God and the enemy at the same time, (“No one can serve two masters, either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise
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the other”) sounds familiar? Matthew 6:24. I have made up my mind to be busy for God. We all have gifts and talents of some sort. There are some things we learn and things the Lord just blesses us with for His purpose. My gift from God is words. He has given me the ability to take someone’s life’s journey and bring it to life on paper. I am able to listen to someone’s cries of pain and or joy and pour those feelings into a poem/spoken word piece for another to hear and relate to. With this ability combined with the compassion God has placed in me, He has given me a vision to start a ministry where souls can be restored and hearts can be mended. What better way to do this then by sharing of ourselves for the kingdom of God. There are many that refuse to step foot into a church today for a number of reasons and it’s not always because they don’t believe in God. There has been so much hurt caused in and by the “Church.” People decide they would much rather take their chances in the street getting hurt, rather than going into the church where we are supposed to be able to receive a healing, and instead receive a spiritual homicide. They are often judged, ostracized and made to feel as though they are counted out. I don’t know about you, but if I walk into a hospital, blind, lost and wounded; I would 3
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expect assistance, guidance and a great effort of aiding my needs. Anything less would most likely discourage me from ever returning to this hospital or even seeking any assistance from anyone affiliated with it. The vision God has given me is an open line of communication between God’s children, both lost and “found.” It is time to take back all that the enemy has tried to destroy. It is time to get the beam out our own eye, time to remember we did not come out of our mother’s womb carrying a bible, speaking in tongues and walking upright with Jesus. We too were once dirty, broken, battered, abused and or abusing others. Had it not been for an obedient vessel of God allowing themselves to be used for the glory of God and the building of His kingdom we would still be the mess we were before we began ministering the message to another. This magazine is creating an opportunity to see where the “Church” has gone wrong and rectify the situation. What have we done to discourage God’s children from coming to visit Him in His house? We are creating an opportunity to hear the broken hearts cry out, allowing them to release their pain instead of living a self destructing life. Be an example and share our testimonies. Allow them to see they aren’t in this alone and that our God is still in the business of healing. Provide them with 4
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spiritual food so that they no longer have to starve. Provide them with help and prayer to come out of their situation. Reach out to them with non judgmental arms and embrace them with a warm and open heart. Love them the way God loves us, unconditionally. Remember how you felt the first time God embraced you, wiped your tears, and showed you were loved. Do everything in your power to help them feel that same way. Most importantly this is the opportunity to assist those who don’t have a relationship with their heavenly father and encourage and teach them how to. God loves us with compassion and now it’s time for us to love our neighbors the same.
Founder/CEO: Tashara Gilyard
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Promiscuity What is promiscuity? Promiscuity is the state of being promiscuous. When someone is considered
promiscuous it usually means that he/she is characterized by or involved in indiscriminate association; especially having sexual relations with a number of partners on a casual basis (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/promiscuity ?s=t); (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/promiscuou s). Although being promiscuous is commonly viewed in a negative manner, there are usually multiple reasons why people are promiscuous. From the female perspective, I believe one of the chief reasons is a desire to be noticed due to a lack of attention from a positive male figure (particularly a father). I believe it is fair to say that the level of promiscuity in a female is directly correlated to the relationship she has or does not have with her father. Many times if a female does not have a positive male figure in her life, it can lead to promiscuity. Being in the presence of a positive male figure helps females gain a better understanding of how men should be. A lot of the time when a female does not have the positive male figure in her life that she needs to have, she cannot easily decipher when she is receiving the wrong type of 6
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male attention. The promiscuous female usually attempts to gain attention and be noticed to fulfill the underlying desire for a loving and secure relationship which can be found in a positive male figure. There is also a significant amount of peer pressure that females encounter in teenage years. Once teens hit the puberty stage and start to have an understanding of the pleasures sex can bring, there is a curiosity and desire to explore not only their bodies, but the bodies of others (http://wiki.answers.com/Q/what_psychologically_c auses_teenagers_to_be_promiscuous/). In a book I once read entitled, “Her Hand in Marriage”, by Douglas Wilson, the author expresses the difference in the temptation to lust between males and females; males like to notice and females like to be noticed. I think most would agree that it is part of human nature to want to be attractive to members of the opposite sex. But when one goes to the extreme to get the attention of another, it can potentially lead to inappropriate behavior. Females can feel even more pressure when they see the way males react to flirtatious women. When women dress more provocatively, it seems that men instantly give these women attention. The problem is these women do not always receive the right kind of attention. 7
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In addition to peer pressure, there can also be a considerable amount of pressure from social media. In many of our movies and television shows, women are depicted as sex objects. Celebrities introducing new fragrances via television commercials do so in a sexy manner. When you look at many magazine covers, you see images of sexy men and women. From a Christian standpoint, sexual morality should be encouraged and practiced. As Christians, it should be our ultimate desire to please God and obey Him. One of the ways we please Him is by exercising sexual self-control. I Corinthians 6, verses 18 & 20 state, “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” It is not easy to exercise sexual self-control on our own, which is why we must depend on God to help us. This scripture reminds us of the important fact that our body belongs to God and therefore, we must strive to honor God in our bodies.
Author Anonymous
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Single Ladies With the hype of Beyonce’s song
“Single Ladies,” I never really paid attention to the song until recently. If you like it then you should put a ring on it”. Remember back in our mother’s and grandmother’s day when women demanded marriage and a man could not even think about getting the cookie from you until your wedding day. Boy has times change. Now I am listening to Steve Harvey tell women to wait at least ninety days before sleeping with a man. Hmmm! Have I ever waited ninety days? In this day in time Marriage is not even an option anymore. As I get older, I wished I would have waited, maybe not until marriage, but at least with a man who really cared and truly loved me. I decided to make a list of all the men I had sex with and highlighted the names of men who really truly cared about me and not my body. Sadly I felt like I was playing a spade game and telling my spade partner that I had none and a strong possible. Just to 9
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think I allowed all those ungodly spirits to enter my body for a few moments of pleasure. Was it really worth it? Blaming men for heartache and disappointment, but in reality it wasn’t their entire fault. I needed to take some of the blame for my own actions. I was the one who allowed this to happen. I knew better. Single ladies get your pens and paper out and write down all the partners you have had, (I mean all, ladies you know how we do) and look over your list real careful. Did these men honestly care and love me or was I just a booty call? I know it’s hard when the realizations hits, it’s okay to grab the Kleenex, we all make mistakes and we will continue to make mistakes, but let us try our best to learn from them, forgive ourselves, love ourselves and move on with our lives. The next time you decide to jump in bed with someone, get to truly know the person and ask yourselves these questions. Was this person husband material? Will they love 10
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me unconditionally, honor, respect and cherish me and not take me for granted? Single ladies let’s support each other to regain our respect and dignity back again. Let’s go back to demanding marriage and start telling men to put a ring on it. Trust me your lives will be much easier.
Roslyn Simmons
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