Tallahassee Woman_October-November 2012

COMPLIMENTARY

Easy Steps to a

Healthier & Happier

October/November 2012

Kathy Brooks

Living Life Well

Giving Back 10 Ways you

You!

can Help Others

Fashion

a Girl Can’t Resist

TREND ALERT

Polka Dot

Nail Art

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Contents Ta l l a h a s s e e W o m a n M a g a z i n e | O c t o b e r / N o v e m b e r 2 0 12

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On the Cover

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Our Thoughts

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Girl Talk

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Faves & Raves

28

Style and Grace

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Healthy Living

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Real Life

36

The Dish

40

Community

52

Women We Admire

54

Kathy Brooks—Living Well is Loving Well After defeating breast cancer, Kathy Brooks has a newfound strength and contentment that comes from an inner transformation.

A Life Well Lived

Left Is Right | Ten Ways You Can Make a Difference | To Buy Organic or Not to Buy Organic? That is the Question | Beauty Trend: Polka Dot Nails | How to Pick a Stronger Password

Fabulous autumn finds from local shops and boutiques.

Fifty Shades of Fall— A Fashion Story

Live Well and Love Life

Enough is Enough! Seven Sane Solutions to Stop a Workplace Bully

A Festive Fall Gathering

Joanna Francis and Jennifer Ervin Taylor | Your Vote is Your Voice | Fall Farm Fun | Cropwalk

Kathy Anderson: The Woman Inside the House That Love Built

Funny Girl

Communicate Only in Catchphrases? Word.

I N E V E R Y I SS U E Capital City Gems 20 | Around Town 44 | Women to Watch 50 On the Cover: Photography by Adam Cohen | Styling by Nancy Cohen | Makeup by Randi Buchanan & Co. | Fuchsia top: BCBG | Earrings: Spriggs

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OURTHOUGHTS

A Life Well Lived T

he concept of “living well” is explored in this issue and we have learned that it has myriad facets, depending upon each individual woman and her personal interpretation. Being the editor, writer and former English teacher that I am, I can’t help but literally draw symbolism from the word “well.” Besides using its meaning that is implied in this issue, there is the physical connotation of a source of water, or life-sustaining nourishment. Many years ago, women would gather at a local well to draw water, but to also use the time to connect and gain strength and support from one another.

Our cover woman, Kathy Brooks, has a wellspring of hope to share. Breast cancer, at first a foe, became a catalyst for a deeper understanding and appreciation for her body, her friends and family and for the opportunities it gave her to help change the lives of others. Now cancer-free, Kathy is learning that to live well, no matter your physical circumstances, means to also love others well.

Fall is many things, but for us at TW, it further evokes the feelings of love. What is there not to love about the changes autumn brings? With our Fall Fashion Story, a touch of romance helps to reflect the many shades and styles of the season, while Faves & Raves showcases must-have finds from local stores to fall in love with. The flavors and accents from a backyard fall fest will have you feeling contentedly full with delicious dishes and blessings in abundance. Also provided are healthy living tips that will help you to have an improved, more connected life.

Overall, we hope this issue will encourage you to think about two questions: How do you define living well and where do you draw strength and inspiration from?

For me, and hopefully for you too, Tallahassee Woman magazine is one of the local wells for women. In every issue we illustrate the numerous ways women are making a difference and we endeavor to be a resource for our readers to connect with one another and to help them live life to the fullest. If life, especially adversity, teaches me anything it’s that we need each other. The challenge then is to not only live well for our own sake but for others as well, so that we can also be a source of encouragement and hope for them.

Through my own life and the stories of the women I am are honored to share a life with, I’m learning that the more I give of my time, talents and love, the more I receive in return. My cup just seems to run over and every moment, every drop, is precious.

Living Well and Loving Life!

October/November 2012 Volume 7 | Issue 5

Publisher Kim Rosier Editor Heather Thomas Advertising sales Director Lynn Solomon GRAPHIC DESIGN Christy Jennings Miqueli INTERNS Mary Katherine Aaronson Chay D. Baxley • Katie McCarty Contributing EditorS Nancy Cohen • Randi Shiver • Kim Williams Contributing photographers Adam Cohen • Christie Meresse Whitney Fletcher • Blake Greene Tallahassee Woman Magazine LLC Post Office Box 13401 Tallahassee, FL 32317-3401 Phone (850) 893-9624 Fax (850) 254­-7038 info@TalWoman.com Tallahassee Woman is published six times per year and is distributed on a complimentary basis throughout Tallahassee and the surrounding communities.

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G i r lta l k FA SHION | K NOWLED GE | WELLNESS | BE AU T Y

Left Is Right Have you ever wished there was some magic photo editor that could make you look naturally better than usual? Recent studies have found that technology may not always be necessary to do the enhancements. In a recent study participants were asked to look at photographs of 20 male and female faces and see which side had greater appeal to them. The participants consistently preferred the photos where the left side of the person’s face was featured—but why?

A person’s left cheek tends to exhibit a greater amount of emotion, which is what hooks someone’s attention. To confirm the participants’ opinions, the researchers assessed the sizes of the volunteers’ eye pupils while they looked at each picture.

Research has shown that gazing at enjoyable or comforting pictures enlarges your pupil size, which is exactly what happened to the participants. So the next time you decide to strike a pose, go ahead and flaunt your left side with confidence!

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G i r l T ALK | C O M M U N I T Y

10 Ways to Make a Difference in Tallahassee The 22nd annual Make A Difference Day is on October 27. Better known as The National Day to Help Others, the goal is to improve people’s lives through neighbors helping neighbors. Join millions of others on the largest day of volunteering. Here are a few ways to get involved around Tallahassee:

4. Help the Refuge House. Put your skills and talents to use. Get a group together and make autumn table arrangements or bake holiday-themed cookies for the women in the shelter.

(850) 922-6062 or refugehouse.com

1. Help a neighbor in need.

Start small! Prepare a meal for a family or friend who might be sick or help an elderly neighbor repaint their porch. Even something as little as a homemade card for a stranger to brighten up their day.

2. Volunteer at local churches or schools. During this time of year, there are fall festivals, pumpkin patches and Thanksgiving feasts happening all around. These organizations are always looking for fresh faces to help out and have a great time.

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Garden at Goodwood Museum and Gardens. Calling all green thumbs.

Become a volunteer to help keep the landscaping looking extra sharp.

(850) 877-4202 extension 226 or goodwoodmuseum.org

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Donate clothing. Dress for Success is always in need of professional business attire. This is a perfect way to clean out your closet and help another woman succeed in life.

(850) 570-5499 or online at dressforsuccess.org/tallahassee

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Help out Big Bend Habitat for Humanity. More hands on?

Join the construction crew to work directly at the building site. More of a behind the scenes worker? There is always need for administrative assistants or help at the ReStore.

(850) 574-2288 or habitally.org

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7. Help out at animal shelters and rescue organizations. Foster an animal in need or help out locally at the Leon County Humane Society.

(850) 224-9193 or lchs.info

Volunteer at Big Bend Homeless Coalition.

Assist with food preparation, leading activities with children or helping with clerical tasks.

(850) 205-6017 or bigbendhc.org

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Join The Salvation Army.

Like clothes and have a knack for organizing? The Family Thrift Store is for you!

(850) 222-0304 or uss.salvationarmy.org

Assist the hungry with a food drive. Second Harvest Food Bank of the Big Bend can always use volunteers to sort donated food, fill grocery bags and pick up produce from farmers around town.

(850) 562-3033 or online at homelessshelterdirectory.org/florida

— Katie McCarty

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a fundraising event We will be selling raffle tickets at the Salon now through October 31st.

Tickets are $2 or 6 for $10. All clients that have an appointment Oct 1st - Oct 31st, will receive 1 complimentary raffle ticket on us!

100% of proceeds from raffle ticket sales will be given to the Sharon Ewing Walker Breast Health Center.

We already have some fantastic items including Designer Purses, Local Restaurant Gift Certificates, Botox, Rounds of Golf, Baked Goods, Autographed Memorabilia, Dancing, Electronics, Hair Products, Facials, Massages and Jewelry!!!

It takes a team to fight breast cancer….and Our fight…… for so many women in Our town…… would not have been possible without these WONDERFUL and KIND local businesses and individuals: Kate Bellflower Photography Tallahassee Woman Magazine Diva’s & Devils Masa Lucy & Leo’s Red Elephant Miccosukee Root Cellar Krewe de Gras Shula’s Hotel Duval Le Roc Café Ming Tree Café Brazil’s Waxing Studio Heavenly Facials Tallahassee Plastic Surgery The Grey Fox The Cottage Collection Super Lube Coosh’s Bayou Rouge Maryanne Shaw, LMT

Janet Methvin, R.N., P.A. FSU Men’s Basketball Sugar Lips Baking Company First Choice Wellness Care Bella Bella Hopkins Eatery Blue Abaco Blossom’s Florist Angela Miller Carol Hardy Seminole Golf Course Howard Shapiro Rotica Nail Bar Quarter Moon Imports El Jalisco’s Gordo’s Sistine Skin Bruegger’s Bagels Bella Blu Way Out West

Fred Astaire Dance Studio 4th Quarter Bar & Grill Coach Jimbo Fisher G Willie’s Tiffany Hamilton, Realtor Rambana & Ricci Monk’s Bar & Grill Design Essentials Stan Johnson Photography Nomads Art Gallery Ad/Max Mike Tuten, Artist Claudia Howat, Artist Samantha’s Gift Grand – Me’re’s The Event Center Failu’s Enterprises Mama Goldberg’s Kbash Landscaping

We currently have over 60 donated items!

Raffle will be held 11/4/12.

Winners will be notified and need not be present to win.

If you would like to provide a raffle item, please contact Laura or Lindsey at the Salon (850) 224-3917 or via e-mail (ardanssalon@yahoo.com).

We will be accepting and adding items for the Raffle now through 10/31.

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To Buy Organic or Not to Buy Organic? That Is the Question.

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fter years of obesity campaigns with overwhelming statistics, American’s are finally coming to grips with the importance of a well-rounded diet.

Unfortunately, that realization has come with a price tag attached. The truth is, sometimes healthy food shopping just isn’t in the budget, or so it is typically thought. Buying exclusively expensive organic alternatives to mainstream dietary staples is, at times, an unnecessary economic sacrifice. Instead of jumping on the organic bandwagon full throttle, ease your way into this rewarding and refreshing way of life by opting to shop smart and buying organic foods when it’s most feasible and healthier to do so.

Got beef?

When you think of the term “organic,” images of freshly picked vegetables, glistening sun-ripened berries and burlap bed linen may come to mind. As it turns out, buying organic beef should be at the

top of your list. Evidence supports the call for buying organic beef because of the excessive use of hormones and antibiotics often found in large-scale cattle operations.

Yes, there are regulations designed to prevent these sorts of things from happening; but, ultimately, it is better to be sure your food is the healthiest possible.

Does milk really do a body good?

Picking up a gallon of organic milk could be the best decision you’ve made in a while. Unlike fruits and vegetables, you can’t wash or scrub the pesticides out of milk. That makes it even more crucial to buy organic. As a major staple in growing bellies everywhere, a sippy cup full of organic milk is a wise choice because it reduces your family’s exposure to harmful pesticides and added hormones.

Eat your veggies. We mean it.

no secret—they’re chalk full of vitamins, minerals and just plain goodness. And, without pesticides, growth hormones and synthetic fertilizers, that goodness is magnified. In short, without chemical enhancement, fruits and vegetables produce more phytochemicals (vitamins and antioxidants) as a natural protectant against insects and weeds.

So, which organic fruits and vegetables should you always try to buy? Any with digestible skins, such as apples, lettuce, potatoes, and the like. Especially important are the ones with pits or ridges, such as strawberries, cherries, peaches and carrots. A simple rinse off may not be enough to get chemicals out of the many crevasses found in these digestible skins.

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G i r lta l k | B E AU T Y

Beauty Trend–Polka Dot Nails Polka Dots are Not Just for the Itsy Bitsy Teeny Weeny Bikini Anymore.

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s summer comes to an end, tans may fade, the weather will begin to cool, but the ever popular polka dot pattern is here to stay. Statement nail designs with funky prints and vivid colors were a huge trend this summer, including polka dots. This fun, girly print can easily be transitioned from summer to fall by swapping out bright summery colors, with more sophisticated and bold autumn colors.

Popular colors for autumn include burnt orange, blue (including both teal and navy), emerald green, berry, subtle pink and, of course the ever popular neutrals, such as beige and caramel.

Pair contrasting colors together—pink and berry or green and beige will make the polka dot print pop.

Creating your own polka dot print is easy. Take a sewing pin and poke it into an eraser of a pencil and, voilà, you have your very own polka dot stamp.

So, grab your favorite nail polish colors for fall and try this fun trend for yourself —you will be spotted everywhere you go!

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G i r l t a l k | Know l e d ge

How to Pick a Stronger Password Question: Which is a stronger computer password, H7%doss! or MyLazyDogRex? Answer: MyLazyDogRex. Surprised? Actually, a modern password cracker—a software program that cycles through the countless combination of characters, could crack the eight character strand of gibberish in less than four hours. The twelve character English phrase would take 317 years to crack.

This is why security pros urge people to focus on the length of their password, not the complexity.

Most online systems protect against fraudulent logins by locking up after several failed attempts. So hackers try to break in and capture a site’s entire password database. After this happens, thieves can potentially decipher every password there is. A single high end desktop computer running a cracker can process 17 billion combinations an hour.

So the longer your password is, the more difficult it is to crack your code.

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Five Helpful Hints to Build a Better Password: • Stick with a password with at least 8 characters in it.

• Be sure to use at least one lowercase

and one upper case letter, a number, and a special character. (Tip: An easy special character to remember is an exclamation point or a question mark at the end of your password).

• Create different passwords for different sites.

• Change your passwords every few months.

• Avoid common words that are important to you (i.e. names, birthdates, cities, dictionary words).

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G i r lta l k | S H O P P I N G

faves & Raves Fall in Love with These Accessories for You and Your Home

What better way to get into the fall spirit than by adding some chic new accessories to your wardrobe and your home? This season, it’s key to stick to a neutral palette base, but don’t be afraid to add a pop of color along the way.

Free People Tube Socks for Boots

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B Line Cuff

$89 Spriggs 1433 Market Street (850) 765-0630 and Spriggs Laid Back Luxe 6800 Thomasville Road (850) 894-2630 spriggslaidbackluxe.com

OTBT Taupe Boots with Dark Rubbings

$198 Cotton Etc. 1355 Market Street (850) 668-1334

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Large Woven Herringbone Tote

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Purple & Red Mercurial Allure Scarf

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Neutral Happy Everything Mini Platter,

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Pumpkin Mini Attachment,

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White Porcelain Foo Dog Lamp

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Wooden Pig Tray

$135 Vignettes 2066 Thomasville Road (850) 386-8525

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Noteworthy events that you don’t want to miss.

14th Annual Oktoberfest by Join Elder Care Services October 5, 2012 Goodwood Museum & Gardens

This year’s Annual Oktoberfest, hosted

by Elder Care Services, Inc. will feature a German buffet and beer and wine tasting and a silent auction. For ticket information call (850) 921-5554.

7th Annual Cards for A CUre

October 6, 2012 Tallahassee Automobile Museum Come out to this fundraiser for a night of cards and live music, as well as a silent and live auction that will benefit the Tallahassee Memorial Cancer Center and breast cancer awareness in honor of Darcy Cavell. There will be an open bar and heavy hors d’oeuvres served. Must be at least 21 years old to attend, and pink ties are encouraged, but optional. Event will be held from 7:00 p.m. until midnight To buy tickets or for more information, call (850) 321-7533 or visit online at CardsforaCureTallahassee.com.

Run For Lawson

October 6, 2012 Holy Comforter Episcopal School & Welaunee Plantation grounds The Lawson Mayfield Memorial Foundation is hosting its second annual Run For Lawson benefit. The foundation was started in memory of late Tallahassee teen Lawson Mayfield, whose life was unexpectedly cut-short after she contracted bacterial meningitis.

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The run will begin with the One Mile Fun Run at 8 a.m., with the 5k and 10k races following at 8:30 a.m. For more information visit runforlawson.org.

Leon County Cooperative Extension Demonstration Garden Fall Open House October 20, 2012 615 Paul Russell Road

Leon County Cooperative Extension Demonstration Garden is celebrating its 10th birthday with a free, public event.

With two musical groups to enhance your garden visit, sustainable living ideas, guided tours, six demo gardens and instructional booths filled with Master Gardeners. For more information Call (850) 606-5202.

Merry Market 2012

October 20, 2012 Bradfordville First Baptist Church Boosting some 93 vendors last year, Merry Market is the perfect opportunity to get your holiday shopping out of the way early. With a variety of vendors offering an assortment of products, from silk flowers to purses and holiday décor, it’s a great way to find unique gifts. No admission fee.

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Barktoberfest

October 20, 2012 Jefferson County Humane Society property in Monticello, FL The second annual Barktoberfest, a fundraiser for the Jefferson County Humane Society will feature a duathlon,

live music, craft and food vendors, a kids area, a car show, pet parade and hay rides through the woods. For more information, e-mail jchs@jchs.us or contact Teresa Kessler at (850) 997-4540.

14th Annual Stone Crab Fest Tallahassee’s Annual Stone Crab Fest was created to help raise funds for the Ronald McDonald House (RMH), a charitable organization that strives to provide “comfort and care” for children in medical crisis and their families by offering shelter, food and compassion. The night’s activities include cocktails, dancing, a silent auction and all you can eat snow crab legs. For more information contact (850) 222-0056.

Moon Over Maclay

October 28, 2012 Alfred B. Maclay Gardens State Park Alfred B. Maclay Gardens State Park and The Friends of Maclay Gardens, Inc. invite the public to enjoy an evening filled with jazz in the gardens. Bring your friends, blankets, and picnic baskets and enjoy the music under the full moon on the front lawn of the historic Maclay House.

Tickets can be purchased by phone at (850) 487-4556 or at the Ranger Station. $25.00 for adults and $10.00 for students.

For more information call (850) 487-4115.

Belt Buckle Ball November 2, 2012 The Space at Feather Oaks

More than 800 children from Tallahassee and surrounding areas were treated at Shands Hospital for Children in 2010 alone. The Belt Buckle Ball is a fun way to show support for Shands with cocktails, dinner, a mechanical bull, games, prizes and an auction. Tickets are $75 and sponsorship opportunities are available. For more information contact Stephanie Nicholas at (850) 386-6417 or by e-mail at andrse@shands.ufl.edu.

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Living Well..In Your Boots

A Country Chic Gala November 2, 2012 Goodwood Museum and Gardens This event benefits the Joanna Francis Living Well Foundation. Boots and jacket required. Music with Ty Herndon and King Cotton. There will be cowboy cuisine, a cash bar and enough dancing to really wear out your boots. The Living Well Foundation benefit will help to raise money for the organization that assists women and their families that are stricken with health issues. For tickets and more information, visit the foundation online at joannafrancislivingwell.org.

Greek Food Festival November 2-3, 2012 Holy Mother of God Church

With deliciously inspired Greek cuisine, live music and wine tasting all wrapped up into one, the annual Greek Food Festival is

a can’t miss. A true family event, the twoday, two-night festivities showcase Greek culture at its finest and invites Tallahassee to join in on the fun. For more information and ticket sales contact the Holy Mother of God Church at (850) 878-0747.

JINGLE JUBILEE

November 2-3, 2012 Tallahassee Leon County Civic Center The 5th Annual Jingle Jubilee will feature everything from jewelry, adult and children’s clothing and art, to furniture, skin care products and custom-designed household items. This year’s special events includes a Girls Night Out event, complete with a signature martini, hors d’oeuvres, photo booth and prizes. Bring the kids to one of three Saturday morning sittings of Breakfast with Santa, a holiday storytelling event for children, complete with a pancake breakfast and performances from local groups. Ticket prices vary, so visit jltallahassee.org, keyword “Jingle Jubilee Tickets” for more information.

Oxygen Ball-Dancing with the Local Stars November 10, 2012 University Center Club-Ballroom

Capital Regional Cancer Center is hosting its 5th Annual Oxygen Ball-Dancing Local Stars. The event will feature local celebrities paired with professional dancers to perform in a ballroom competition.

Guests will be treated to a seated dinner, silent/live auction, ballroom dance competition and dancing after the show. Tickets and tables can be purchased by calling (850) 241-1003 or online at TallahasseeOxygenBall.org.

Tallahassee Crop Hunger Walk 2012 November 11, 2012 Lake Ella Park

Tallahassee’s annual Crop Hunger Walk will be held at Lake Ella Park, with proceeds going to direct food assistance for some of Tallahassee’s most needy families and individuals. With an ambitious goal of raising $20,022 and 4,000 lbs. of food, Crop Walk officials are hoping to recruit some 300 walkers and 3,000 sponsors for the 2012 event. To get involved contact Phyllis McCranie at pamccranie@ embarqmail.com or call (850) 671-4815.

Veterans Day Parade November 12, 2012 Downtown Tallahassee

The 2nd Annual Veterans Day Festival in the Park will be held in downtown Tallahassee to honor those men and women who have served our country.

The event will feature a parade, a 5K run, arts and crafts vendors and gourmet and down-home foods. No tickets needed but volunteers and donations are always welcomed. For more information visit veteventstally.org.

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One of the most celebrated regional events of the year, the 42nd Annual Old Fashioned Fun Day is sure to impress. Featuring cane grinding, syrup making, live music, clogging, wagon and buggy rides, and over 150 arts and crafts vendors.Admission is free. For more information call (850) 893-1647.

Singing Christmas Tree December 7-9, 2012 Bradfordville First Baptist Church

Bradfordville First Baptist Church invites Tallahassee to enjoy over 70 singers performing alongside a full orchestra, children’s ensemble and cast members telling the Christmas story.

The event is free of charge. For information on the event e-mail bfbcevents@gmail. com or visit b-fbc.org/Upcoming Events.

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living well is loving well

By Heather Thomas Photography by Adam Cohen

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The concept of healthy living looks differently for each woman and her stage in life.

Kathy Brooks knows that living well after a tumultuous journey of defeating breast cancer isn’t just about physical health.

Her newfound strength, peace and contentment comes from an inner awareness, a gift from her cancer, in which she is learning that living well means to also love well.

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deadly, bodily foe like breast cancer is daunting enough, but getting a diagnosis while being just 18 weeks pregnant is something only a few women like Kathy Brooks could ever comprehend. For Kathy and for most women who are diagnosed with cancer, there is life before diagnosis and then after.

At the time, she was only into her third month at her new job as Administrator for Tallahassee Outpatient Surgery Center (TOSC). A registered nurse and happily married to her husband Jay, and a mother to Bailey and Landon, Kathy was feeling on top of things. At 32 years old, she had settled into a dream position and was looking forward to welcoming another child.

However, her carefully ordered world was turned upside down in January of 2006.

Kathy says, “I had done a monthly selfbreast exam and felt a lump in my left breast. As a nurse, and now pregnant with my third child, I really wasn’t all that concerned.” After a mammogram and biopsy, it was determined that she had invasive ductal carcinoma.

home after meeting with the doctors and there were friends and family there to offer their support, but they were visibly upset.

I told them, ‘Don’t be afraid. We are going to beat this.’”

Working with a team of doctors here in Tallahassee and in Tampa, Florida, Kathy began chemotherapy. She was fearful about what chemotherapy could do to her unborn child, but the stakes were too high—there was no other

had to begin what felt like endless rounds of radiation treatments while continuing with her chemotherapy. It was when that steel door closed to the radiation treatment room and she was seemingly all alone that she says she felt the closest to life—and to God. “I can’t explain it, but I knew that I was never alone in there and I felt such tremendous love, vitality and strength that I was overflowing with it.”

This outpouring and her newfound discoveries about the cancer process propelled her to give back to others on the same journey. The first Cards for a Cure breast cancer fundraising event took place in October of 2006, spearheaded by Kathy, her family, and her supporters.

Now in its seventh year, Cards for a Cure continues to make significant strides in raising funds and promoting local awareness to help support women who are affected by breast cancer and Tallahassee Memorial Hospital’s Cancer Center.

“For me, living well means to find joy in life, no matter your circumstances, and passing the message on.”

Resilient from childhood adversity, Kathy was not a stranger to seemingly insurmountable challenges. The youngest of three children, she was raised by a hardworking, but single mother. “‘We learned to make do and appreciate what we had.

I attribute my work ethic to my mother. I don’t ever remember not working at one job or another.” Along the way Kathy also experienced the mentorship of others who encouraged her throughout her early years and on her career path. “I am where I am today because of the people God placed in my life. I continue to be incredibly grateful for their influence.” The dark road of fighting cancer while pregnant was not to be faced alone. Kathy’s faith, already strong, and her circle of family, mentors, coworkers, and friends were to be her constant companions on her journey. True to form, Kathy led the charge, since her positive, upbeat nature wouldn’t allow her to do anything else. “I remember coming 26 t a l l a h a s s e e

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course for her but to fight for her own life so that the life of her child would ultimately be saved. Kathy continued to work at TOSC since she is not one to, “sit around and do nothing. I have to be busy and active and everyone at TOSC was incredibly supportive. I lost my hair and in some ways, a part of myself, but I gained so much more in return.” At the time, Kathy struggled most greatly with the loss of control, something she valued highly. “I thrived on being in control, but I had to give that over to my doctors, to the process, and ultimately to God. I had to learn to trust Him.” Because of the love and support she was receiving, she was able to see, and to love others better and even find new insights about life in the cancer process itself.

Even though her body was weak, she grew stronger in other ways, in a short amount of time. However, this strength helped her to face a mastectomy in April and later, to give birth to her son in May by cesarean section. It is still not clear if the chemotherapy is to blame, but Parker was born unable to communicate well verbally, but is able to take in and comprehend information normally. There was little time to adjust to this new scenario before Kathy

Successfully passing the five-year mark of being cancer-free, Kathy is living well again, but more than that, she has undergone an internal transformation.

“I’ve always thought I was a closeted ‘free spirit’ before, but now I literally am one.

Emotions like anger, bitterness, and regret are a waste of valuable time and aren’t the burdens they used to be. I am ‘free’ from them since I know that appreciating every moment is much more important.” She continues to keep a healthy and active lifestyle, but she is more focused on the bigger picture and is incredibly grateful for her family, especially the health of her children. The biggest gift from her cancer though, is hope. “For me, living well means to find joy in life, no matter your circumstances, and passing the message on. I not only love my body and my life, but I can love people in a way that I never truly could unless I had gone through this.

Women need to have hope. Hope is God’s gift to me, so that I can share it with others.”

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A Fall Fashion Story

by Nancy Cohen

“There is no model, there is only colour.” —Paul Cézanne This quote could not have been more correct if Paul Cézanne was speaking of the Fall 2012 fashion trend. What we see are saturated jewel tones set in bold patterns and ingenious color blocking.

Also, these colors are found this fall in various textures, such as lace, brocades and leather. Oh, in case you haven’t noticed, this fall—black is the new black.

Psst… Tell the man in your life that pant cuffs with little or no break at all could be making a comeback.

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Live Well & Love Life

By Adrianne Miller

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s women, we all want to look and feel our best. Unfortunately, the pressure to perform at peak levels in the workplace, be superwomen at home and be rock stars in our social circles can be exhausting.

However, making small changes in your life can produce positive outcomes. By no means is this an exhaustive list, but let these tips be the beginning to helping you to live your life to the fullest, and become the best you can be physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

Live well, physically.

If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you. —Frank Devito Sleep more. Did you know that not getting enough sleep can cause weight gain and increased appetite? Fortunately, sleep is a free quick-fix for a wellness pick-me-up.

Aim for at least 7 to 9 hours of sleep and wake up refreshed, recharged and ready to conquer the day.

Stay hydrated. You’ve heard it a billion times, but it’s only because it’s true (infomercial voice: “IT REALLY WORKS!”). Drinking water reduces hunger, increases productivity, relieves fatigue and promotes a good mood and a better workout.

your metabolism, clear your head and feel great. Focus on getting strong and healthy, not squeezing into a size 0. Your mind and body will thank you in the long-run.

Live well, emotionally.

I believe happy girls are the prettiest girls. —Audrey Hepburn Embrace mistakes. Don’t let criticism paralyze your progress. Accepting your errors and learning from your mistakes shapes your talents and allows you to grow and do great things.

Allow your play time to be just that.

Work will be right where you left it tomorrow.

Choose Kindness. When you’re being good to others, you’ll find that your problems elude your focus. Live by the Golden Rule.

Drink green tea. This super-drink burns fat, enables you to exercise longer, reduces high blood pressure, prevents tooth decay and boosts immunity.

Get Organized. Don’t become a hoarder; creating order in your life can alleviate unnecessary stress. Restore neatness to your spaces. Contrary to Shakespeare’s opinion, there is NO method to the madness. Messy IS madness.

Eat smart. Tune out the siren-songs of fad diets and focus on eating healthier versions of your favorite foods. Eat for energy, not for comfort.

Manage expectations. Set realistic goals instead of setting yourself up to fail. You’ve heard it before—strive for progress, not for perfection.

Stay positive. Focus on the big and small positives from your day such as: how you made the best of a tough situation, or making a successful trip from the dryer to the bedroom without dropping a single article of clothing on the floor en route.

Work out. Endorphins are the happy fitness drug that won’t land you in jail or send you to rehab. Break a sweat, rev-up

Find balance. Make time for work and play. Leave work at the workplace (“hard limit” for all you Christian Grey fans).

Manage stress. Don’t succumb to chronic headaches, teeth grinding, anxiety and a shrunken libido. Take

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Live well, mentally.

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the time to tackle your stress buttons. Alter your situation if it’s perpetuating the problem and if you can’t adjust it, learn to adapt and amend your attitude. You may not be able to choose your circumstances, but you can choose how you respond to them.

Remember to recharge. Take breaks. A “break” involves a separation either physically or mentally from your to-do list. You can’t run on “empty” any more than your car can.

Enjoy “you-time.” Take a bath, light a candle, read your Tallahassee Woman magazine and get in bed on time. Family, friends and coworkers can be demanding of your time, but you have to remember to take time for yourself to refuel and relax, for sanity’s sake.

Then, you can get back to being superwoman.

Be thankful. Be grateful for the simple pleasures like sweatpants, sweet friends, pets, a comfortable bra, short check-out lines, college football, great sales, and the crisp autumn air of Thanksgiving gathering time.

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Live well, spiritually.

“Often when people seem unconscious, a word of prayer reaches them.” —Florence Nightingale You’ll be hard pressed to find a religious community that doesn’t promote an active dialogue between the individual and a higher power when it comes to living well.

Numerous and extensive studies have shown the healthy benefits to adding prayer and a spiritual life to your daily routine to promote overall, connected wellness and longevity.

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Enough is Enough!

Seven Sane Solutions to Stop a Workplace Bully

By Summer Brooke Gómez, MSW

Is it Me?

Most of us, especially women, have become accustomed to a certain level of civility, particularly in the workplace. When other people ignore the rules, you may expect yourself to automatically rally and regain control in order to meet your responsibilities. However, unless you’re experienced with defending yourself, encountering a bully at work can leave you feeling stunned.

Abuse at work can range from the obviously tyrannical boss who thinks nothing of regularly broadcasting harsh assessments to that harder-to-convict coworker down the hall who couldn’t be more polite in person but seems bent on sabotaging your reputation when it’s time for her to click “reply all.”

Into the Light.

If you’re feeling targeted, isolated, or hopeless, it might be time to take action. Bad behavior at the office affects everybody’s morale, and creates a toxic atmosphere. You and your colleagues deserve better than that—always.

Turning it around can start with you!

Documentation. Keep records that allow you to confidently stand by your work, but not to the extent of engaging in draining imaginary battles.

Don’t take the bait. People aren’t always focused on conflicts beyond their purview.

Don’t help unflattering tales about you stay on their minds by discussing them unnecessarily, even to tell your side of the story.

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into a public space. Invite allies to meetings, review your accomplishments in writing, and, without editorializing, share what’s been asked of you when appropriate. Trust your newfound supporters to assess the situation for themselves.

Put a lid on it. Resist the urge to speak disparagingly and nonconstructively about any colleague or supervisor, with no exceptions. If you can project a forgiving, hopeful energy, people will naturally be drawn toward you, and they may become your greatest defenders.

Give it away. When you feel attacked and exhausted, it can be difficult to maintain a defiantly can-do attitude. However, kindness and optimism can be surprisingly powerful in changing group dynamics.

Spruce up your office, dress for confidence, walk with purpose, smile often, help others as if you have time to spare, and check in with people warmly at the start and end of every day. Send the message that you won’t be kept down.

You and what army? Refuse to allow yourself to become isolated. As you change aspects of your reactions to frustrating encounters, you may find allies or even friends in unexpected places. Build these relationships with aplomb. This creates momentum and an advantageous buzz of support around you.

The truth will set you free. Having new friends or allies double as witnesses can effectively frustrate a bully’s purpose. If somebody is clearly attempting to oppress you, do your best to force their bullying

Patience. If you’re confident that things may self-resolve with somebody’s upcoming retirement, or when you are transferred or employed elsewhere, it can be reasonable to temporarily put up with a miserable situation to protect your longer-term prospects. Put yourself in control. It can make all the difference knowing that you’ve assessed the situation and responded in the best way possible as opposed to just feeling trapped.

There’s More to It If the situation takes a serious turn, gather your documentation, contact your organization’s human resources department, file a formal complaint, get the support of a lawyer, or propose mediation. Do not hesitate to contact the authorities if you believe somebody is in physical danger. If the danger is to your emotional health, consider contacting a mental health professional. No matter the situation, you always have options.

Imagine yourself far beyond this moment and realize that you just might come out of this a stronger woman. It can be a challenging decision to call workplace bullying what it is and take action, but remember—a bully’s greatest strength is her ability to make you forget your own.

To your strength!

Summer Brooke Gómez, MSW, provides counseling and marriage and family therapy in and around the Tallahassee area. She can be reached at (850) 421-1260.

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A Fest ive Fall Gathering

By Randi Shiver and Kim Williams Photography by Whitney Fletcher

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Carmelized Onion and Apple Brie en Croute Roasted Pumpkin Seed Salad Creamy Corn Chowder Pumpkin Pie Crunch

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et the season be your inspiration by stepping outside and celebrating with a festive fall gathering. With the beauty that nature provides during this time of year, you can create a rustic backdrop for your backyard party in no time. Locally grown squash and pumpkins provide happy hues of warmth, while hay bales and burlap create a simple style that is casual and comfortable.

Welcome fall with your loved ones with a simple celebration, savoring the start of this new season and all it has to offer.

Caramelized Onion and Apple Brie en Croute

Impress your guests by adding puff pastry leaves for a fancy feel to this easy appetizer. Caramelize your onions the day before to simplify the steps to this savory before-dinner snack.

Serve with your favorite crackers or toasted baguette.

1 puff pastry, thawed at room temperature for 30 minutes 1 wheel of brie cheese, sliced in half, horizontally 2 medium onions, thinly sliced 3 tablespoons butter, divided 1 teaspoon sugar 1 Golden Delicious apple, peeled and diced 1 teaspoon brown sugar Pinch of cinnamon 1 egg, beaten flour

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often until onions are golden brown and caramelized. Set aside.

(If making ahead, bring to room temperature before adding to brie.).

Cook apples by melting 1 tablespoon of butter in a small sauté pan.

Add diced apples and cook for 5 minutes. Add brown sugar and cinnamon. Stir and cook 3 more minutes, until golden. Unroll thawed puff pastry dough onto a lightly floured surface. Using a rolling pin coated in flour, roll out the dough, pressing the seams while making a slightly larger square of dough to work with. Cut off two 1- inch wide strips of the dough and set aside to use for leaves (optional).Take the top part of the brie off and set aside. Spread the apple mixture over the brie. Add a layer of caramelized onions. Place the top of the brie on the onions. Flip the brie over on to the puff pastry. Gently wrap the brie with the puff pastry, bringing all edges and corners to the middle of the brie and pinch dough to seal. Flip the brie over again so the seams will be on the bottom. Brush with egg.

If making puff pastry leaves, use small cookie cutters or fondant cutters to cut leaves from the strips of reserved dough in two sizes. Make markings with a sharp paring knife to resemble the veins on a leaf.

Place leaves on top of brie in a circular pattern. Brush with more egg wash. Bake at 400 degrees for 18 to 20 minutes, until golden brown.

Let cool 5 minutes before transferring or eating.

Roasted Pumpkin Seed Salad with Shaved Parmesan This recipe makes enough seeds for sprinkling on your salad and some to snack on. A great alternative to fresh pumpkin seeds are Pepitas. You can find these near the nuts and seeds at the grocery store. The word Pepita is a Spanish culinary term for the hulled kernel of pumpkin seeds.

Garlic Roasted Pumpkin Seeds: 1 cup fresh pumpkin seeds or Pepitas 1 tablespoon olive oil ½ teaspoon salt ½ teaspoon pepper ½ teaspoon garlic powder

Mix all ingredients together and spread pumpkin seeds on a foil-lined baking sheet. Bake at 300 degrees for 20 minutes, stirring after 10 minutes.

Dressing: Mix the following ingredients: 1/3 cup olive oil 2 tablespoons white balsamic vinegar (or regular balsamic) 1 tablespoon apple cider vinegar 1 teaspoon honey 1 teaspoon Dijon mustard 1 garlic clove, minced Generous pinch of salt and pepper

Salad: 6 cups salad greens (I prefer a blend of spinach and red leaf lettuce) ½ cup thinly sliced red onions ½ cup shaved parmesan cheese (use a vegetable peeler to shave cheese into long strips) ½ cup garlic roasted pumpkin seeds Toss the salad with ½ cup to 3/4 cup of salad dressing.

Creamy Corn Chowder

This soup is easy, hearty and flavorful. I always have a batch brewing in my crock pot for our fall festivities.

1 roll ground sausage (I use the brand with added sage) 1 onion, diced 3 large white potatoes, peeled and cubed 4 cups of chicken broth 1 can corn 1 can cream corn ¾ package of cream cheese, softened Salt and pepper to taste

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To add to the fall theme, impress your guests with this unique way to keep your drinks cool. Scoop out a large pumpkin, add ice and your favorite beverage.

In a large pot, cook and crumble sausage until brown. Remove sausage from pan using a slotted spoon. Cook onions in sausage drippings for 5 minutes over medium heat. Add potatoes and chicken broth and bring to a boil. Reduce heat to medium and cook for 7 to 10 minutes,

until potatoes are tender. Add corn, cream corn, and sausage to pot and simmer 5 minutes. Add cream cheese and cook, stirring often, until cheese is melted, about 10 minutes. Add salt and pepper to taste.

Pumpkin Pie Crunch

This recipe puts regular pumpkin pie to shame with a crunchy topping and fantastic flavor. It is best served warm with whipped cream or a scoop of vanilla ice cream.

1 can solid pack pumpkin 1½ cups sugar 1 can evaporated milk (12 oz) 3 eggs 4 teaspoons pumpkin pie spice ½ teaspoon salt 1 box butter flavored cake mix 1 cup chopped pecans 1 cup butter, melted Preheat oven to 350 degrees and spray a 13x9 pan with cooking spray. Combine pumpkin, eggs, evaporated milk, sugar, pumpkin pie spice, and salt with a whisk. Pour into the greased pan. Sprinkle the dry cake mix evenly over the pumpkin mixture. Top with chopped pecans. Drizzle melted butter over pecans.

Bake for 50 to 60 minutes, until golden brown.

Refrigerate leftovers.

Randi Shiver and Kim Williams are the creators of Polka Dot Parties, an event planning service in Tallahassee. Randi is a Kindergarten teacher at Gilchrist Elementary School and Kim is the owner of The Polka Dot Press on Market Street and online at thepolkadotpress.com.

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Joanna Francis and Jennifer Ervin Taylor: Two Women with a Passion for Living Well and Giving Back

By Michelle R. Nickens

How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.

—Anne Frank

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hat does living well mean to you? Is it waking up eager for the journey ahead? Does helping others inspire or complete you? Do you transform challenges into opportunities?

Two Tallahassee women are dedicated to all of this and more—Joanna Francis and Jennifer Ervin Taylor—great friends with a common goal to live well and give back. The moment you meet them, you immediately feel their connection, spirit, and their passion for helping others, especially those struggling due to an unforeseen medical crisis.

Joanna, a single mother of three boys, is no stranger to struggle. In 2005, she was diagnosed with stage III breast cancer.

After a bilateral mastectomy, chemotherapy and radiation, she believed her battle was behind her. However, in 2008, she was re-diagnosed with breast cancer as well as metastasis to her skeletal system.

“Running a household and being a mother, going to treatments and appointments was hard,” Joanna explained. During her experience, Joanna noticed the numerous patients and families were also pressured with life’s responsibilities. “Families across the community were struggling with these same issues,” Joanna said.

At their sons’ baseball game a couple of years ago, Joanna and Jennifer met and began talking. Instantly bonding, they shared ideas about health care, nutrition and women’s wellness. The concept of living well emerged: to provide resources to help families, not just with the medical issues, but with home needs and finances as well.

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Jennifer, a nursing instructor at Tallahassee Community College, saw the challenges from a practitioner’s point of view while observing the patient’s family and friends. “I would go with Joanna for her treatments,” Jennifer explained. “In the waiting room, Joanna would watch the patients. I watched the families, the sisters and husbands, the friends. Joanna thinks about the patient while I think about the family.” These different points of view provide a global picture of patient and family needs.

After many conversations, they agreed their ideas had to “move beyond the couch.” In 2011, Joanna and Jennifer cofounded the Joanna Francis Living Well Foundation. Jennifer solicited startup funds from the baseball and local medical communities and continues to work to secure support while overseeing daily operations. The foundation provides assistance to women in any stage of the disease with priority given to those with children living in the same home. “The purpose of the foundation,” Joanna explained, “is to provide support and financial assistance for expenses such as rent or mortgage, utilities, house cleaning, veterinary care, massage, counseling, the list goes on.” The foundation directly helps patients in our community. “The funds we provide offset unexpected expenses,” Jennifer said. “When a family member has an illness, it takes a toll on the caregiver and the children. Our goal is for everyone to feel supported.”

On Friday, November 2, the foundation will be hosting its first annual fundraiser, Living Well…In Your Boots. Women who

have experienced breast cancer will be recognized, as well as thirteen health care practitioners they have nominated. “These are individuals that have made a difference in their recovery process,” Jennifer said.

Applications come in every day. Events like this help generate support and awareness.

Joanna and Jennifer—strong, passionate, courageous, and inspirational women— place the needs of others first, reminding us of what we can do today to improve our community. Author Susan Patton Thoele said, “An essential part of a happy, healthy life is being of service to others.” So many patients and families have been impacted

by Joanna and Jennifer’s story and their work to help patients and families live well.

“This is hard. It’s hard for anyone. It’s okay to say I am struggling today,” Joanna said.

“I’m living with it. And, it’s been a gift to give back.”

For more information about the Joanna Francis Living Well Foundation visit online at joannafrancislivingwell.org.

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Friday, November 2, 2012 6 p.m. to 11 p.m.

Goodwood Museum Carriage House Tallahassee, FL Tickets are $100. To purchase tickets visit joannafrancislivingwell.ticketleap.com or for more information visit JoannaFrancisLivingWell.org.

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ou don’t count.” “Your voice doesn't matter.” “You are not smart enough to vote.” “Stay home, where you belong.”

Can you imagine hearing those words spoken? Yet it wasn’t that many years ago that those words expressed the belief of the majority: that a woman’s mind could not handle the complexity of voting, and certainly couldn’t hold public office. The Women’s Suffrage movement, also known as the Women’s Right to Vote Movement, began in the 1800s and ended in 1920, with the ratification of the 19th Amendment.

Known as Suffragists, the women who fought for the right to vote were often criticized, taunted, and even jailed for their actions.

Women like Susan B. Anthony, Carrie Chapman Catt, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Esther Morris and Alice Paul, just to name a few, of the many who worked tirelessly and sacrificed for decades in order to ensure a woman’s right to vote in the United States.

With election day just around the corner, it’s important to honor the tenacious women who worked tirelessly to give American women a voice and a reminder to not take the right to vote for granted.

Exercise your right to vote. Vote early, vote absentee or vote on Election Day this November 6th. When you do, you will be honoring the legacy of the women who have helped to give us all a chance to make a difference.

Susie Caplowe is a Voter Registration Outreach Assistant for the Supervisor of Elections of Leon County.

Marilynn Wills is a member of the League of Women Voters.

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Ten Thousand Villages will be hosting an International Day honoring Pakistan on Saturday October 6, 11 a.m. – 4 p.m.

JOIN US FOR A DAY OF FOOD AND CELEBRATION. All fair trade items from Pakistan will be 15% off.

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Fall Farm Fun!

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nce a year, people come from all areas of the region to enjoy a taste of culture and learn where their food is grown. The Fifth Annual North Florida and South Georgia Farm Tour will be held October 20–21, 2012, to come and experience local farm life. Thirty-one farms in the area can be explored to see what goes on before food is sent to the grocery store. Tours include meeting barnyard animals, enjoying fresh baked goods and refreshments, wine tasting and more. This event is a great opportunity to learn about the production of local foods, where it comes from, and even meet the farmers who produce it.

If you plan on joining in, it is recommended that you bring sunscreen, a GPS or map, and plenty of water. This is a fun family activity that consists of a lot of outside time, so be prepared. Also, you may want to bring a cooler in case you purchase some of the farms’ fresh produce such as eggs, dairy, and meats and would like to store it safely. Please take note that pets are not allowed on the premises.

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United Way of the Big Bend’s th 70 Annual Community Campaign Kickoff With some 500 attendees all chanting “Elect United,” the atmosphere was positively electric at the United Way of the Big Bend’s 70th Annual Community Campaign Kickoff. Guests were treated to a gourmet buffet, entertaining speakers and a theatrical skit.

The afternoon’s events proved to be well received by an amused and enlightened audience.

Heather Mitchell & Ron Sachs

Elizabeth Sturman, Megan Picht, Susan Dunlap, Sherri Edmonston

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Capital Regional Medical Center’s Women’s Wellness Day was hosted by celebrity guest and keynote speaker Hannah Curlee, former contestant on the television show The Biggest Loser. Promoting healthy habits, the day offered Tallahassee women an opportunity to truly treat themselves. With a mini wellness center, free health screenings, refreshments and even a spa area set up, it was hard not to indulge in all the healthiness.

Sarah Brown, Lindsey Scott

Kim Austin, Sandy Nichols

Jennifer Stuart, Louise Truitt, Portia Houston

Kimberly Franklin

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TALLAHASSEE LITTLE THEATRE Tallahassee Little Theatre (TLT) held its annual awards and appreciation ceremony with more than 150 artists and patrons in attendance. The evening was dedicated to honoring TLT’s Mainstage and Coffeehouse Productions as well as its special events. More than 20 awards were presented for directing, production design, acting and volunteerism. (Photos courtesy of Melina Vastola)

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Walk to Help End World Hunger

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he Tallahassee 2012 Crop Walk is Sunday, November 11, 2012, beginning at 2 p.m. at Lake Ella. Almost 2,000 nationwide communities participate in crop hunger walks throughout the year to raise donations for those less fortunate.

300 of the finest artisans from around the country feature everything from fine arts to charming stocking stuffers.

Crop Walk is a national annual event coordinated by the Church World Services to help alleviate hunger locally and in undeveloped countries.Each year hundreds of members from local churches and other organizations participate by walking, collecting donations of non-perishable food or by contributing financially to the walkers.

The estimated distance millions of people in undeveloped countries have to walk to get water is three miles which is about five times around Lake Ella. Walkers can make this their goal or adjust it as needed.

Twenty-five per cent of the monetary contributions and the food collected during the event go to local not-forprofit organizations. These agencies are Catholic Charities, Echo, and Good News Outreach’s Shelter Noonday Meal Program. The remaining contributions

go to state, national, and international emergencies as well as long-term food and clean water development in 80 developing nations around the world.

boxed macaroni and cheese, peanut butter, canned vegetables and fruit are suggested.

The Tallahassee goal this year is to raise $20,000 and 4,000 pounds of food.

Registration, monetary and food donations, and a symbolic beans and rice lunch begin at 12:30 p.m. in the parking lot of St. Paul’s Methodist Church on Meridian Road. Non-perishable food donations such as canned meat/fish,

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Women to Watch

is a listing of women with new jobs or promotions, business openings and changes and awards and appointments or women who are reaching out and making a difference in our community.

E-mail information for Women to Watch to listings@TalWoman.com.

Maria Henderson, Director of Insurance Services, has been appointed to President of the Florida Bar Foundation.

Catrina Seymour, a graduate specializing in the field of gemology, is now an associate at The Gem Collection. Catrina is highly active throughout the community as a member of the Business and Professional Women (BPW) of Tallahassee, an Executive Board Chair for the FSU Scholarship House sponsored by the BPW, and a charter member for E-Kiwanis.

Maria Henderson

Catrina Seymour

The Pilot Club of Tallahassee

The Pilot Club of Tallahassee elected a new Board of Directors: Yvonne Salfinger, President Elect; Belinda Mizell, Vice President; Claire Mikko, Secretary; Charlotte Edenfield, Treasurer; Carol Wolfe, One-year Director; Carol Heiman, Two-year Director; Pam Schilling, Immediate Past President/Director and Karol Schneider as the club’s Elected President. The Pilot Club of Tallahassee focuses on the development of brain disorder education projects in which provide funding, research and prevention of diseases such as Alzheimer’s.

Denise Vickers-Leon has been appointed as the Media Coordinator for the Griffin Heights Revitalization Project.

Cathy Adkison, President and Chief Executive Officer of Big Bend Hospice, has recently been appointed to the Big Bend Health Council, Inc. by the Leon County Board of Commissioners.

Cathy Adkison

Denise Vickers-Leon

Nanette Schimpf recently received her Certified Public Relations Counselor credential from the Florida Public Relations Association. The designation is reserved for practitioners with at least ten years of experience who demonstrate the highest level of expertise within the public relations industry.

Lisa McKnight Tipton has partnered in the launch of Sparkia Creative, a communications and graphic design firm that coaches lawyers, law firms and businesses on social media and online reputation management. The firm specializes in the integration of innovative marketing strategies, public relations and website design/mobile-access conversion.

Nanette Schimpf

Lisa McKnight Tipton

Ann Marie Bryan recently launched Victorious By Design, LLC, which provides professional writing services, personal and professional development programs and performing arts services (dance). Ann also recently published Unforgettable, My Love Has Come Along, an inspirational novel based on real-life events.

Amy W. Schrader, a shareholder in the Tallahassee office of Gray Robinson, P.A., has recently been appointed as the 2012-2013 Chair-Elect of The Florida Bar Administrative Law Section for its upcoming term.

Ann Marie Bryan

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Susan Droessler is the new manager of the Big Bend Hospice (BBH) Music Therapy Department. She began at BBH in the fall of 2007 as an intern for the Leon County West Hospice Team and at the Margaret Z. Dozier Hospice House.

The North Gulf Coast Community Association Institute Board of Directors recently appointed Joanie Trotman as Chair of the Tallahassee Chapter. Joanie serves as the Secretary for the Killearn Lakes Homeowners Association Board of Directors. As CEO of Florida Association & Property Management, she serves communities in Leon, Franklin and Wakulla County.

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KATHY ANDERSON The Woman Inside “The House That Love Built”

By Angela Howard

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RMHC of Tallahassee opened its doors back in 1989. It’s a ‘home away from home’ for families who have a young one undergoing treatment at an area hospital. “I spend a great deal of my time educating the public about the RMHC grants awarded to other non-profits serving children, and college scholarships which are awarded to high school seniors, and speaking to civic groups about our mission,” she said. “Fortunately, I have never been one that is able to sit still! RMHC is debt free and it is my goal to keep that status through donations, fundraising and corporate partners.”

Kathy is a wife, a mother and a native Floridian. She spent many years volunteering in the community while caring for her family and watching her children grow. But once her two children went off to school, Kathy began working in development at WFSU–FM, and then focused her efforts on Springtime Tallahassee as the Festival Director.

When the Tallahassee chapter of RMHC was just five years old, Kathy came aboard in the role she currently holds. “I was capable of adding development plans, special events, and regional fundraising strategies. The challenge appealed to me since the RMHC mission is to improve the lives of children in medical crisis and was so needed in North Florida and South Georgia,” she said.

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n Seventh Avenue in Tallahassee sits a white twostory house with green shutters. It’s a home with a rich history of helping families in their time of greatest need and is named after the red-haired clown sitting on the old wooden bench out front. At the helm of this house is Kathy Anderson. She’s served as the President and Executive Director of Ronald McDonald House Charities® of Tallahassee, Inc. (RMHC) since 1994.

However, the position can be a tough one, as the families who utilize the services of RMHC struggle with illness and sometimes death.

“There are days, when I wish I could just wave a magic wand and make it all better. But that isn’t possible. I can do my best to offer hope to heartbroken parents and strive to provide for their immediate needs while they are staying at the Ronald McDonald House or the Ronald McDonald Family Rooms® and lounges in the hospitals.”

Through it all, Kathy leans on her faith (and a stash of dark chocolate she keeps in her desk drawer) when times are tough and the fact that miracles happen helps too. “I see the best in people, even at the worst

times of their lives. I see the caring support of people within our community as they provide for strangers in need of comforting,” she said. “I see the smile of a child as they turn around and wave goodbye, headed for home. And in turn, I know each of us at RMHC find strength and inspiration from those families we help.”

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There are nine rooms available at the RMHC with most families coming from ten or more miles away to seek treatment for their children at Tallahassee Memorial Healthcare, Capital Regional Medical Center or another area facility. Each family is asked for a donation of ten dollars per night to offset the cost, but no family is turned away. Kathy and her staff do as much as they can to make the families feel at home—providing everything from a smile and a hug to a cup of coffee and a hot meal.

In the meantime, Kathy is pushing forward, with a vibrant spirit and a can-do attitude to make “The House That Love Built” more than just bricks and mortar. “RMHC is one of the most respected charities around the world. I hope my personal footprint will continue to increase the positive impact the charity makes when it becomes time for me to leave.”

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By Cheryl O’Donovan

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magine a game show where contestants are only allowed to converse using annoying catchphrases: “You rock!” Contestant 1 barks out.

“You had me at ‘hello,’ ” Contestant 2 snaps back, determined to win.

Thus starts the fierce competition: “You’re not the boss of me.”

“That’s what she said.”

“Oh no she didn’t!”

“Whatever.”

“Don’t go there.”

“Takes one to know one.”

“No offense.”

“Point taken.”

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“Let’s touch base.”

“Chill out.”

Meanwhile, glued to their seats, trembling with adrenaline, the show’s audience is tense, most barely able to suppress horrible dark urges to storm the stage with cream pies and hurl any extra lemon meringues at these Jersey Shore-ians.

Gripping his seat, an audience member gnashes his teeth, listening to the cornucopia of clichés. “Please, God. I can handle anything but ‘Have a nice day.’ ” Sweaty, nerves taut, his wife closes her eyes.

“And I thought a rerun of a Match Game with Charles Nelson Reilly was bad.”

A woman contends: “For me, the rage trigger is ‘Invalid User Name.’ ” As the show moves into its final round, the audience restrains its primitive impulses.

Seated in the last row, my sons remain

mum. Their generation has their share of catchphrases such as “epic fail,” or “word,” which in today’s vernacular means “to speak the truth,” usually accompanied by the hand gesture where the forefinger and pinky point downward; it’s what Keith Richards might say to Johnny Depp in a Parisian night club — not by me, waving a two-for-one Burger King coupon.

“My bad,” my son says.

Then, on stage, a contestant utters a fatal catchphrase.

This is the straw that breaks the audience’s backs. They pillage everything with iceberg lettuce, tomatoes and garlic bulbs from a Rachael Ray taping. While TMZ records the unfolding horror, contestants dodge a flying vegetable platter. Paratroopers are called in. Choppers evacuate cameramen and producers. Later, we find out what the beleaguered contestant said.

“It is what it is.”

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