Tallahassee Woman Magazine December 2024 - January 2025

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SHOPPING GUIDE

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OF WOMEN & GIRLS Oasis Center for Women and Girls’ 13th Annual Celebration of Women & Girls on Oct. 18 was an extraordinary success! With music, dance, comedy, performing arts, and more, our community’s talented female artists came together for a captivating performance at Tallahassee State College’s beautiful Turner Auditorium.

Guests were treated to an array of local color: Social Catering’s spread of flavorful food and beverages, and amazing chance-drawing baskets curated by Community Thrift Market.

Oasis is grateful to all the people and businesses that supported the celebration, and a special thanks to the evening’s performers: Vashai Avionce, Patrice Floyd, Jessica Catherine Fraser, Rachel S. Hunter, Rekonstruktion Dance Troupe Inc., Sarah Matlow, Mahogany Dance Theatre, Elizabeth Milan, Tada Irish Dancers, Sarah Van Amburg, as well as our outstanding emcee Dana Brooks and director Liane Giroux.

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by Steven Saccio

CONTENTS 10. LETTER FROM PUBLISHER 12. LETTER FROM GUEST EDITOR

CULTURE & CUISINE

14. THE ULTIMATE SHOPPING GUIDE 16. SIP INTO THE SEASON: THE STORY AND SPIRIT OF SANGRÍA 18. CHIC & COMFY 20. IRRESISTIBLE SWEET POTATO BUTTER MOCHI PIE

LIVING LOCAL 22. AROUND TOWN: TWM PRESENT TALLAHASSEE FASHION WEEK

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ON THE COVER

36. BRANDI THOMAS: THE GIFTS OF GRATITUDE

BUSINESS & LEADERSHIP

42. LEGAL WRITES WITH DANA BROOKS

MIND, BODY & SPIRIT

44. EAT WELL, LIVE WELL: THE ART OF HEALTHY CHOICES AT THE GROCERY STORE 46. HOLIDAY SELF CARE 48. PERSONAL GROWTH

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LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS

50. CHOOSING QUALITY RELATIONSHIPS

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36. ABOUT THE COVER: | PHOTOGRAPHY: KIRA DERRYBERRY | MAKEUP: LISA DAVIS MAKEUP - GRACE MILLER | HAIR: EIGHT FIVE ZERO SALON | WARDROBE: NARCISSUS

tallahassee woman | 6 | december 2024 • january 2025

Confident, adaptable and strategic – these are just a few of the words used to describe Michelle Hill, the Administrative Supervisor of the City of Tallahassee’s Underground Utilities and Public Infrastructure Department.

Born and raised in England, Hill immigrated to the United States at the age of 18.

After gaining over 15 years of private-sector construction experience, she joined the City in 2010. She subsequently earned her Certified Public Manager designation from Florida State University and became a Florida Notary.

As a key member of department’s leadership team, Hill’s role and impact expand far beyond her primary responsibilities. In addition to serving as the assistant to the General Manager, she oversees human resources and building maintenance within the department with efficiency and foresight.

MICHELLE HILL

Hill plays a key role in coordinating with assistant managers, overseeing daily department operations, preparing commission agenda items and managing special projects and strategic plan initiatives. This department, comprised of approximately 500 skilled professionals, manages all of the City’s water, wastewater, stormwater, streets, sidewalks, traffic management and real estate services.

A passionate advocate for the organization and community, Hill has coordinated Habitat for Humanity builds, the annual Relay for Life golf tournament fundraiser, spearheaded a winter coat drive for local elementary students and led hurricane relief drives.

Hill is also a champion of exceptional customer service, reflecting the City’s commitment to excellence. Her ability to maintain operational continuity while leading community-focused initiatives underscores her dedication and impact on both the department and Tallahassee.

Managing payroll, fixed assets and accounts receivable for an entire organization takes focus, precision and solid leadership.

With a sharp mind and humble approach, Taiishina Olds-McQueen, the City of Tallahassee’s Financial Services Manager, does just that.

McQueen began her career with the City in 2002 as a Utility Analyst, influenced by friends who spoke highly of the organization. More than 22 years later, she now leads a team of 11, contributing to the financial health and wellbeing of the organization.

In her role, McQueen understands that her work to ensure the financial stability of the City’s 4,000 employees through prompt, accurate payroll allows them to focus on delivering higher-quality service to the public. Her team also manages accounts receivable, ensuring timely revenue collection for services provided by the City, such as rentals of the Parkview at Cascades facility. Additionally, McQueen’s team oversees valuable assets, including land, vehicles, equipment, leases and subscription services.

Before joining the City, McQueen worked for the State of Florida. She holds a bachelor’s degree in accounting and a master’s in business administration from Troy University, credentials that helped shape her leadership and expertise.

As a forward-thinking leader, McQueen has introduced innovative financial management software to streamline processes and enhance efficiency.

She is deeply committed to the professional development of her team, encouraging participation in programs like the Certified Public Manager and New Public Servant Initiative.

TAIISHINA OLDS-MCQUEEN

McQueen takes pride in helping others, both within the organization and in the community. “It always gives me great pleasure to be of service,” she said.

tallahassee woman | 7 | december 2024 • january 2025

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PUBLISHER LETTER Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more.

-Oprah Winfrey

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he end of the year brings a chance to reflect on the incredible achievements made by the women of Tallahassee. With great excitement, this December/ January issue of Tallahassee Woman Magazine showcases the inspiring journey of Brandi Thomas, a dynamic lawyer, mother, and wife. Her interview with guest editor Heather Thomas is a must-read, filled with insights that will inspire and empower every reader.

Last month, the annual RED Fall Forum & Fashion Show was a remarkable success, thanks to the collaboration of so many dedicated women in our community. The partnership with Vino Beano for the kickoff party and the Young Actors Theatre as the main event venue brought together women of all ages, including enthusiastic high school and college students from FAMU. The fabulous RED Fall Forum featured 15 incredible women leaders from the community that shared their journey to being resilient, empowered, and determined. This spirit of unity and support highlights the strength of women lifting each other up.

In this issue, readers will find heartfelt articles focused on gratitude, self-care, and the importance of cherishing the small moments in life. As the year comes to a close, it is essential to pause and reflect on what brings joy. As Oprah Winfrey wisely said, “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more.” This quote encourages everyone to appreciate the blessings, both big and small.

So, as 2025 approaches, let the vibrant community of women in Tallahassee continue to inspire one another. Let’s all celebrate each other, nurture relationships, and embrace the future with optimism. There is so much to look forward to, and together, amazing things will happen!

Dr. Michelle Mitcham CEO & Publisher Tallahassee Woman Magazine Photo by Kira Derryberry Photography

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A HEART FOR PETS With nearly three decades dedicated to animal welfare, Erika Leckington’s passion for helping animals reflects the heart of the shelter’s pending upgrades. “The new adoption wing and sunshine yard will drastically improve the animals’ quality of life and create a welcoming space for families to find their new best friend. These changes represent a huge step forward for us.”

Grayson Walters has long been driven by her deep love for animals, and she’s proud to help lead transformational changes at the shelter. “The investment in modernized kennels, sound-reducing upgrades and more speaks volumes about Tallahassee’s commitment to animal welfare. We need the community’s help more than ever as we navigate these exciting changes.”

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GUEST EDITOR LETTER

If we want to heal the divides in our relationships, community, and nation, then we must bridge the divides within ourselves.

-Heather Thomas What I’ve experienced is that this is quite possibly how we inspire change in our increasingly divided world—by taking off the inner masks we are all doing our part by creating an intricate web of healing and connection. If we want to help transform the outer world then we must unveil what we are hiding from in our inner world. If we want to heal the divides in our relationships, community, and nation, then we must bridge the divides within ourselves.

Essentially, writing the Cover Woman story is having a “taking off the masks” conversation with another woman.

As much as being a cover woman seems glamorous, it’s also daunting as Brandi Thomas can attest. We peeled back layers of our lives that are a mixture of joy, pain and everything in-between. One of the greatest gifts of the storysharing experience is seeing yourself in another’s journey, and having compassion and gratitude for the women we find there. It’s an “I see you sister” moment because even though we are so different, we have all traveled the roads of love, fear, joy and pain.

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f I could title my 2024 year-in-review it would be, “The Year I Started to Get Really Naked with Myself.” Even writing that as the first sentence makes me feel a little naked! And we’ve all had those dreams where we somehow forget to put on clothes while suddenly being spawned in to our former high school or some other horrifying, public place.

With the end of every year and the birth of a new one, I look deeper into the mirror of what the past year has shown me, about me, and resist the urge to put the clothes or the masks back on.

I’m realizing that the more I get naked with myself and see where I’m hiding fear-based patterns on repeat, the more authentic and real I’m becoming. Mask removal is an essential aspect of selfhealing. However, it requires peeling back the layers of armor I’ve placed over my heart so I don’t have to feel pain.

One ‘woman’, who has no problem getting naked, especially at this time of year, is Mother Nature. She shows us that in order to birth new life and opportunities, we must release what we’ve been holding on to. She encourages us to trust and have faith that when we let go of our masks we will receive what’s been waiting to bloom in our lives all along.

As a soul sister and I always say, “there’s never an end to getting naked.” This is because there’s always going to be another layer to discover about yourself, the people in your life, and the world around you. The closer you get to unconditionally loving the woman behind the masks, the closer you get to the naked truth of it all—to live in your own authenticity is the greatest gift you can give to yourself and others.

Let’s make 2025 a year that we get a little more naked and a lot less afraid to love all that we are and embrace all that we are becoming.

Yours in authenticity,

Heather T homas

tallahassee woman | 12 | december 2024 • january 2025

NO DRAINAGE, NO POLLINATORS, NO APPEAL

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MERRY CHRISTMAS

tallahassee woman | 13 | december 2024 • january 2025

CULTURE & CUISINE

The Ultimate Shopping Guide G

et ready to shop the season with style and flair! Our ultimate shopping guide highlights the best local finds to elevate your holiday gifting and winter wardrobe. From timeless handbags and versatile totes to sparkling party dresses and cozy knits, these curated picks from Tallahassee’s favorite boutiques are sure to make your season shine. Discover why each piece is a must-have, and find something special for everyone on your list—or maybe a little something for yourself!

By Kaitlyn Walsh

S HELTO N CRO PPED TURTLENECK SWEATER

This cropped turtleneck sweater is a stylish way to stay warm throughout the holiday season.

The sweater comes in two colors: black and mocha. The sweater is a ribbed knit with a boxy, relaxed fit on the body.

FAB'RIK - 1817 Thomasville Rd Suite 520, Tallahassee, FL 32303 PO RTE R TOTE MI N I

The Porter Tote Minis by Vee Collective combines modern elegance and functionality and is designed for the dynamic, multitasking lifestyle. Crafted from 100% recycled, water-repellent Ripstop Nylon, this lightweight, durable tote offers versatile storage, vegan leather accents, and minimalist style for work, travel, and everyday needs.

These bags come in a variety of colors and sizes.

R I LEY S EQ UI N CHEETA H D R ES S

The Riley Sequin Cheetah Dress is a perfect mini-length dress for a casual dinner or outing with friends.

With a collared neck and gold buttons, who wouldn’t want to wear such a fabulous dress!

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HEARTH & SOUL - 1410 Market St D1, Tallahassee, FL 32312

tallahassee woman | 14 | december 2024 • january 2025

H O BO HA ND BAG

Hobo Handbags have been one of our favorite new additions to the store!

Every Hobo Handbag is crafted only with hand-selected full-grain leather pieces. Leather makers can technically use any part of the hide and still call it leather, but only full-grain leather will give you the quality, beauty, and long-lasting life that Hobo

Handbags have! You can genuinely feel the love put into these bags when you hold and wear them, so we chose them as our favorite handbags & wallets this year! Did you know that we also have Hobo leather cleaner, conditioner, and protector to keep your new favorite bag looking brand new for years to come?

THE PINK PINEAPPLE - 3122 Mahan Dr #401, Tallahassee, FL 32308

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Here is Tallahassee_ commemorates the city’s 200th anniversary with 200 captivating photos by Erich Martin, capturing Tallahassee’s charm, history, and vibrant community. This visual tribute, curated by Serena Moyle and Jay Revell, offers a fresh look at landmarks, hidden gems, and the people that define Florida’s capital city, exclusively available through Hearth & Soul.

HEARTH & SOUL - 1410 Market St D1, Tallahassee, FL 32312

Proudly one of the few select specialty boutiques in the country to offer Tory Burch, the customer and employee favorite at Narcissus, goes to this versatile bag. In a year-round neutral, you can wear this bag day to night, shoulder to crossbody, and keep all your must-haves beautifully at your side.

NARCISSUS - 1408 Timberlane Rd, Tallahassee, FL 32312

tallahassee woman | 15 | december 2024 • january 2025

Sip Into the Season: The Story and Spirit of Sangría

By Thais Gonzalez

Sangría is perhaps the most popular Spanish drink. Its name comes from the word “sangre”which means blood in Spanish referring to the red wine used in the first versions of the famous drink. It is now enjoyed all over the world and to my delightful surprise I have found out that many restaurants in Tallahassee offer different variations of this delicious drink. During ancient times people used to mix red wine with spices, fruits and water, sometimes adding honey

to make it more delectable. The Romans imported different kinds of grapes to Spain and making wine and sangría became a popular tradition. At my house my husband is the one that puts together the most tasty sangría I have ever tried. He even has a special pitcher to serve it! When our family gets together his sangría always has a special presence at our table. Here is the recipe for you to enjoy and celebrate!

INGREDIENTS • 1 bottle red wine. (750 ml.)

• 1/2 cup of brandy.

• 1 cup sparkling water.

• 1 can (8 ounces) drained fruit cocktail or any other fresh fruits you would like to use like grapes and cut pieces of apples and pears.

• 1 cup turbinado sugar.

• Slices of lemons or oranges to use as a garnish.

PREPARATION Mix all the ingredients in a large pitcher. Keep it in the fridge for a few hours. Serve on pretty glasses over ice cubes stirring often to mix the flavors and decorate with thin slices of orange or lemon. Have fun enjoying this well liked drink!

NOTE: You can also make pink sangria using rosé wine or white sangría using white wine. I personally prefer the red sangria. It is my favorite!

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tallahassee woman | 17 | december 2024 • january 2025

CHIC & COMFY

ATHLEISURE

By TWM Staff

COMFORT HAS BECOME A TOP PRIORITY FOR MANY WOMEN.

WAY TOO COZY Don’t sacrifice comfort for cute! Imagine stepping out in style, feeling as if every day is a fashion show, while enjoying the comfort of your favorite sweatpants. Athleisure couture is here to make that dream a reality, allowing women to combine chicness with coziness this winter. The beauty of athleisure lies in its versatility, making it possible to look fabulous while remaining comfortable in any situation.

First, comfort has become a top priority for many women.

Elevated joggers are perfect for those who want to stay cozy without compromising on style. These joggers, which can feature unique patterns or elegant pleats, are a great choice for running errands or meeting friends. Pairing them with oversized cardigans or stylish sweatshirts creates a relaxed yet chic look. The right combination of textures can elevate any outfit, making it easy to feel confident and fashionable in everyday life. tallahassee woman | 18 | december 2024 • january 2025

ACCESSORIES PLAY A KEY ROLE IN TRANSFORMING ATHLEISURE FROM BASIC TO FABULOUS.

Accessories play a key role in transforming athleisure from basic to fabulous. Fun earrings, layered necklaces, and mixed metals can enhance any outfit. Thrift shop finds, like interesting patterned earrings or unique hoops, allow for creativity without breaking the bank. The addition of a trendy hat, whether a trucker cap or a stylish beanie, can add a playful touch to the overall look. And let’s not forget a cute tote bag, perfect for carrying essentials while looking effortlessly chic.

Athleisure couture empowers women to embrace their comfort while still being stylish. By mixing comfortable joggers with fashionable sweatshirts and playful accessories, it is possible to create a look that is both chic and cozy. This winter, stepping out in athleisure wear can be a fun way to express individuality while feeling great. Embracing this trend means celebrating style without sacrificing comfort—an empowering choice for every woman.

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IRRESISTIBLE SWEET POTATO BUTTER MOCHI PIE!

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re you prepared to indulge in one of the most enchanting desserts you'll ever encounter? This delectable treat is a personal favorite of mine, drawing inspiration from traditional Hawaiian recipes.

If you adore the rich flavors of vanilla, rice, and butter, this dessert is calling your name! Feel free to tweak the ingredients to suit your preferences and taste buds.

Picture the delightful aroma of sweet potato or pumpkin pie wafting through your kitchen as it bakes, filling your home with the warm essence of butter and spices—it's like a cozy hug from the holiday season! Fresh from the oven, this Sweet Potato Butter Mochi Pie is nothing short of a culinary masterpiece. Each bite offers an explosion of gooey decadence, with a perfectly crisp edge that pairs beautifully with a scoop of Bryers vanilla oatmilk ice cream, making it an irresistible à la mode treat.

And the best part? You can whip this delightful pie up in just 10 minutes, then let it bake to perfection for an hour.

Soon enough, you'll be savoring one of the most amazing desserts of the season! Did I mentioned that this was a gluten-free free?

Here’s what you’ll need to create this heavenly dessert: • • • • • • • • • • • •

1 cup sweet white rice flour 1 cup sugar 1 teaspoon baking powder 13-ounce can full-fat coconut milk 2-3 large eggs 1/4 cup melted butter (you can use natural butter or Miyokos) 1 teaspoon organic pure vanilla extract 1 cup sweet potato purée (or pumpkin purée for a twist) 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon 1/4 teaspoon nutmeg 1/4 teaspoon allspice or ginger (optional) 1/4 cup sweetened condensed oat milk (optional)

Directions: 1. Preheat your oven to 325°F and grease an 8 x 8 glass baking dish.

2. In a small bowl, combine the dry ingredients - rice flour, sugar, and baking powder.

3. In a larger bowl, whisk together the wet ingredients- eggs, coconut milk, vanilla extract, sweet potato, or pumpkin purée, and melted butter until smooth.

4. Gradually fold the dry ingredients into the wet mixture, stirring until well combined.

5. Pour the luscious batter into the prepared pan and bake for approximately one hour, or until golden and set.

6. Allow the pie to cool completely, but don’t resist the urge to dive in while it’s still warm.

7. Serve it up with a generous scoop of your favorite ice cream— my top choice is creamy vanilla oat milk ice cream!

This Sweet Potato Butter Mochi Pie is not just a dessert; it’s an experience that will leave your guests raving long after the last bite.

Bring it to your next gathering, and watch as it becomes the star of the show! **It is wonderful with coffee in the morning after you toast it in the oven for about five minutes!

Bon appétit!

tallahassee woman | 20 | december 2024 • january 2025

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tallahassee woman | 21 | december 2024 • january 2025

LIVING LOCAL

TOWN

AROUND power of shared experiences. The first night featured the inspiring Wine & Wisdom SisterSpeak, where women shared their most empowering stories and invaluable advice to uplift one another.

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et ready to relive the excitement of the 2024 Ta l l a h a s s e e Fashion Week, brought to life by the Tallahassee Woman Magazine!

This year’s event was nothing short of spectacular, showcasing the spirit of empowerment and resilience over three unforgettable days.

Kicking off the festivities was the fabulous R.E.D. par ty at Vino Beano, a perfect venue for celebrating Resilient, Empowered, and Determined women. The atmosphere buzzed with excitement as women from diverse backgrounds and professions came together for an evening filled with courageous conversations, networking, and the

Day two brought even more excitement at the Young Actors Theatre in Midtown, where the fashion show dazzled attendees with stunning collections from six talented boutiques, including swimwear!

The show was a vibrant celebration of creativity and style, complemented by mesmerizing performances from the talented students of the Young Actors Theatre.

The grand finale on day three featured the RED Fall Forum and Fashion Show, where 14 remarkable thought leaders took the stage to share their inspiring journeys of resilience and perseverance. The wisdom shared was truly enlightening, leaving the audience empowered and motivated.

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Determined RESILIENT IN SPIRIT, EMPOWERED IN PURPOSE, AND DETERMINED TO RISE—WOMEN WHO REWRITE THE RULES.

tallahassee woman | 22 | december 2024 • january 2025

ON THE RUNWAY A heartfelt thank you goes out to all the extraordinary collaborators, participants venues, team members, college students, and the energetic teenagers who volunteered to make this empowerment extravaganza a success!

We’re also grateful to the amazing stores and boutiques like Dillards, J.Lynn’s, Monkees, Fabrik, Journey XX, and Nidia & Co. A special shoutout to the students of Florida Agricultural & Mechanical University (FAMU) for their enthusiastic participation. Together, we celebrated style, strength, and sisterhood like never before! tallahassee woman | 23 | december 2024 • january 2025

Photo by Gerald Tookes Photography

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The Red Party at Vino Beano was an unforgettable celebration of fashion, connection, and empowerment. Guests dazzled in stunning red attire, from bold dresses to striking accessories, creating an elegant and vibrant atmosphere.

With lively conversations, creative energy, curated music, appetizers, and exquisite cocktails, the evening perfectly blended individuality and community.

RESILIENT IN THE FACE OF CHALLENGES, EMPOWERED TO EMBRACE THEIR STRENGTH, AND DETERMINED TO CREATE THEIR OWN PATH— WOMEN WHO INSPIRE CHANGE AND IGNITE HOPE.

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Fashion shows are more than just a showcase of style—they’re a celebration of creativity, self-expression, and the art of making a statement without saying a word.

02 DAY

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A Special Thanks to Our Title Sponsor: Dillard’s We extend our heartfelt gratitude to our Fashion Week title sponsor, Dillard’s at Governor’s Square Mall, for their incredible support and collaboration. Their fabulous finds didn’t just light up the runway; they set the tone for elegance, style, and sophistication throughout the entire week.

A special highlight was their role in styling both Dr. Michelle Mitcham, Publisher of Tallahassee Woman Magazine, and Olivia Heyward, Creative Director, for every event. From the Red Party to the Fall Forum, their looks showcased Dillard’s impeccable taste and eye for fashion, ensuring they shined at every occasion.

Thank you, Dillard’s, for not only elevating the runway but for playing such a pivotal role in making Fashion Week a success.

Your partnership and dedication to style truly made this event unforgettable!

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A Special Thanks to the Young Actors Theatre Students Thank you to the talented students of Young Actors Theatre for your incredible performances during the Fashion Show and Forum.

Your energy and creativity added magic to the events, leaving the audience inspired and captivated!

There’s something profoundly beautiful about a panel of women being vulnerable, sharing wisdom, and dropping gems. In those moments, we’re reminded of the power of connection, the strength in our stories, and the endless opportunities to learn from one another.

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hen it comes to taking time for gratitude, a devil’s workshop’ and I didn’t want to be perceived as there is a pause as if you’ve been holding someone who was slacking or wasn’t giving it their all in your breath and then exhale it, consciously everything.” realizing the gifts all around you, at every moment or stage in your journey. Looking at life this way, In our interview, Brandi and I discussed the impact the abundance is unquantifiable. Brandi Thomas has had parents, and mothers in particular play in the development personal and sometimes painful experiences of honing of the individual and feminine self, and what we value this perspective but considers it one of the core ways we and consider important as a woman. Both of her parents can live a fuller and more grateful worked hard in everything they life. did, which deeply shaped Brandi’s “I DIDN’T WANT TO BE outlook on life. It’s no surprise PERCEIVED AS SOMEONE WHO Growing up in Miami, Florida, that she became a self-described, Brandi describes her formative years WAS SLACKING OR WASN’T GIVING “over achiever,” always striving as being in a role and gender specific to excel and seeking new IT THEIR ALL IN EVERYTHING” household and was held to ‘strict’ challenges to conquer. This drive standards by her mother. Her father worked long hours was mirrored in her structured upbringing—she wasn’t while her mother mostly stayed home to devote herself allowed to participate in sleepovers or have boyfriends, to raising two daughters, with Brandi being the oldest. and from sunup to sundown she was ‘on the go.’

She says she, “fell into a very responsible, nurturing role” early on, and applied this perception to herself, to her Often, we base our sense of identity and self-worth on younger sister and even in her friendships and school life. parental or societal expectations, focusing on outward “My mother’s mindset was truly that of, ‘an idle child is appearances and achievements. It’s only as we grow older,

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COVER with shifting perspectives that we begin to understand that our true value lies in our authenticity, resilience, and the connections we build with others. Many women can relate to the relentless ‘hustle’ culture that permeats the roles of career, motherhood, and womanhood. In America, the pressure often feels doubled—not just do it all, but do it flawlessly, and maybe even with a little extra sparkle to outshine the rest.

Looking back, Brandi realizes that often her mother’s method of showing love was to push her in ways that perhaps she wouldn’t have had the incentive to do on her own. However, it influenced her to become like her mother, or how her mother wanted her to be.

“It does keep you confined to a narrow view of yourself and the world and who you feel you are allowed to become. As a child and teenager, I felt like I didn’t have permission to express myself and didn’t have outlets or know how to communicate that self-expression. It was hard to find my own identity.”

in ourselves. This was an essential seed that was planted, grew, and produced fruit throughout her life. It was Brandi’s mother who took her to see a life-changing event—a FAMU Marching 100 performance—when she was a high school senior. Brandi played the clarinet in both the symphonic and marching bands at Miami Springs High

During that first year at FAMU, Brandi says, “It was an amazing culture shock and a release of my emotions, but it was very hard learning a new style of marching, and all the music is memorized, with a different show every game. That is one of the beautiful things about being in the band that I’m grateful for—it pushed me to my limits and showed me what I was capable of.” Along with that came friendships and shared experiences that connected her to a deeper understanding of herself and confirming what she wanted to do with her life.

“OUR TRUE VALUE LIES IN OUR AUTHENTICITY, RESILIENCE, AND THE CONNECTIONS WE BUILD WITH OTHERS”

Now, her perception of her mother has matured into an aspect of gratitude. Being a mother herself, she understands some of the motivation behind the strict upbringing and how mothers can sometimes project their own fears on to their children. “It wasn’t because I wasn’t good enough or worthy of her love unless I performed or adhered to her standards. I think there was fear and anxiety as she wanted to prepare me for a hard world and to prevent me from making mistakes that would derail my future. I love her for that.”

Despite any confusion or pains from childhood, Brandi knew on a deep level that her mother always loved and believed in her.

On our journey, we need the way-showers in our lives that believe in us, creating ladder rungs that help us to eventually believe

School (a predominately white school) but it was the more classic modalities.

What Brandi experienced during that Marching 100 performance was soulful— “It’s hard to put into words what it was like the first time seeing and hearing an all-black band play music and to play it loud! And, to see everyone dance together. It was that freedom of self-expression I was longing for, and it lit a fire within me.” After intense, focused work and her mother (a Morris Brown College band alumni) connecting Brandi with the FAMU band director, she become a student and member of the FAMU Marching 100 nine months later.

Among those friendships was one with a fellow bandmate who, unbeknownst to her, would become her soulmate years later. They met her first year and his senior year, neither of them knowing they would blossom into a lifelong partnership. Eleven years later, they reconnected, this time as partners in life, and eventually married.

Along with her band and academic aspirations, becoming an attorney was something Brandi wanted to do since her teenage years. “I know it’s not profound, but watching the TV show, Ally McBeal, was what inspired me to seek the path of an attorney. I liked how she would enthusiastically research an issue and find a solution to the problem.

It nurtured that desire to help people in a way that would be fun—I enjoy problem solving.”

After graduating FAMU with a bachelor’s degree in Agriculture Education with a minor in Journalism, Brandi took the Law School Admissions Test (LSAT) to apply at the FAMU Law School in Orlando. Taking the LSAT was one of the few times in Brandi’s life that she was faced with a problem that was exceptionally hard to solve—doing well on or passing high stakes tests. “I really

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This would come back to challenge her later when she would take the Florida Bar Exam.

While attending law school, Brandi interned at the Orange County Public Defender’s office. “I really enjoyed being in the court setting, talking to people and connecting to their stories. I explored why things happened and tried my best to get to the heart of the matter and help navigate the best outcomes.” After graduating law school in 2007, Brandi went home to Miami in August of that year to begin a job at the Broward County Public Defender’s Office.

“They allowed me to jump in on the spot. I felt like I had a ‘real’ job and thought, ‘Here I am…I’ve finally made it.’” However, she still needed to pass the Florida Bar Exam to become an official, licensed attorney and had taken the test in July.

In September, she received her Florida Bar Exam scores. “I’m riding high, and September comes along and rocks my world. I’m generally a happy, optimistic person, but when I saw that I didn’t pass, I felt overwhelmingly depressed, like never before. I didn’t go to work that day and avoided my supervisor’s phone call.

I wanted to tell everyone I was moving to Australia.” To add insult to injury, out of her study group, she was the only one that didn’t pass. However, one of the study group friends was determined to double check the scores to make sure what Brandi was seeing was correct. “She told me I passed the written part and just needed to retake the multi-state portion of the exam. I only saw the information that I didn’t pass and turned it all off because I was so upset.”

Later in the day, Brandi’s supervisor texted her to say, “’It’s OK to give me a call. You still have a job, and you’ll just take the test again.’” The ensuing conversation gave Brandi the encouragement she needed to not despair or give up, and there was no need to move to Australia. Also, there was another woman in the office that didn’t pass, and they became study partners and lifelong friends. “The time between September

and January of the next year was a healing process for me. It wasn’t just about the exam but awakening to how I built up my own personal hype since childhood and lived in fear that I would not measure up to it. It was on brand for how I grew up.” Brandi passed the exam on her second attempt and became a licensed Florida Bar attorney in April of 2008.

Being grateful for the experience was also a part of her awakening as she learned new facets about herself, both emotionally and mentally. “I realized how my mind works and how to retrain it, both for the test, but also for the way I perceive life. I can be grateful for not passing the test, or other ‘failures,’ because I’ve seen how it gives me so much more in the process. I also learned the importance of the support of other women.”

In 2011, Brandi began dating her nowhusband, Nicholas, a fellow FAMU Marching 100 alumnus who had earned his Doctorate in Education. Alongside her growing relationship, Brandi started her own Family Law practice, sharing an office space with a fellow woman attorney and friend. By 2013, Brandi and Nicholas were engaged, and shortly after, he received an incredible job offer to work at FAMU. “At first, I thought, ‘How’s he going to handle that commute?’ Moving wasn’t even on my radar,” she recalls. But after much heartfelt discussion and soul-searching, they made the leap and relocated to Tallahassee later that year, marrying in January of 2014.

Reflecting on the move, Brandi admits, “It was a mixed bag for me—there was excitement in building a new life with my husband, but also a real sadness about stepping away from my family, friends, and a law practice I’d poured myself into.” Ultimately, though, she realized it was the best decision they could have made. Moving allowed them to build a life where they could truly focus on each other and create a foundation as their own family unit. In hindsight, Brandi sees that Tallahassee not only strengthened their bond but also set them on a path for even greater opportunities and fulfillment, both personally and professionally.

In the early months of her move to Tallahassee, Brandi met Mutaqee Akbar, a respected Tallahassee native and awardwinning personal injury and criminal defense attorney with his own practice.

"Looking back, I couldn’t have known how pivotal meeting Mutaqee would be," she reflects. "He offered me office space so I could keep my Miami practice going remotely and introduced me to valuable opportunities here in Tallahassee. It was another culture shock, and the first few years were tough, but Mutaqee’s support and encouragement made a real difference in helping me adjust and persevere."

In addition to Family Law, Brandi began to take on personal injury cases, which eventually became her primary focus. It was only recently, in 2022, that they formalized their partnership and rebranded the firm as Akbar Thomas, Personal Injury Attorneys.

“It was a natural progression. Many people already assumed we were a part of the same firm. We work well together, building not only a thriving business but also a strong friendship. My gratitude, respect and loyalty to Mutaqee run deep.”

As Brandi was building her local law practice, she was also trying to build a family. But her infertility journey became one of the hardest challenges she’d ever faced—a new setback in an already demanding path. She found herself slipping back into old patterns, “trying too hard to do all the ‘right’ things the ‘right’ way, but still feeling like I ‘failed’ at getting pregnant.

The never ending emotional rollercoaster that comes with infertility is heartbreaking and exhausting. I got so lost in the process and had to find my way back to a new perspective, to remember why we were doing this. It wasn’t about me being perfect or failing; it was about being patient with the process.”

After 3 years, multiple miscarriages and almost giving up, her son, Lennox Saxe came into the world in 2017, and in 2019 they welcomed a daughter, Hendrix Joyce. “I have immense gratitude for my children, but also for this journey and the people who traveled with us on it. From

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family, friends, doctors and other women who were also on this difficult path—each one is part of this circle of gratefulness.”

It was from this experience that Brandi created an event that she is particularly proud of amongst the many community events, groups, and leadership roles she contributes to. Even though her numerous accolades and quotes from people all over the state could fill this entire article, Brandi shied away from having that included.

However, I thought it especially poignant to her story to share this one: When she was pregnant with Lennox, she had more baby showers and baby things, “than any woman would have any idea what to do with. I was so thankful but felt that my cup was running

over. I wanted to pour that cup into others.”

Every year, Brandi’s nonprofit organization, The Joyce Elina Foundation, sponsors a baby shower for pregnant women who would otherwise not get one or not have basic necessities. No expense is spared in her desire to make all the women feel special and supported. “One of the most powerful ways to give back is to encourage others to believe in themselves. Yes, it may be physical things we are giving them, but it’s this show of community that we surround women with that says, ‘I am hopeful for you. I believe in you, and you can do this.’”

From her early days of struggling to find her own identity, to raising two children to whom she is giving freedom to find self-

expressions of their own, in this season of her life, her sense of self and accomplishment is not based on the hustle, or how she might be perceived by others, but on how she makes people feel. “When I’m with people I want them to feel joy and that they are loved and they matter. Or to be able to make them laugh! People say that they feel all of that when they are with me, they have a way of opening up to me. They say that I’m someone they know they can trust. This is the greatest compliment, reward, or gift I could ever receive. I’ve become that kind of person because of my experiences and the people who have poured into me along the way. I have such immense gratitude for all of it in the journey of becoming the woman I am today.”

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BUSINESS & LEADERSHIP

Girl, when do I need an attorney?

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dulting is exciting. You’ve been dreaming about your big girl life since you were a little girl, and you look forward to having the autonomy to make your own decisions. But one legal or financial misstep could set you back years. In a perfect world, you’d have input from professional advisors on everything from what school to attend to what career to pursue to how to start a business. In reality, almost no one has access to that guidance. Mentors, apprenticeships, and internships are excellent ways to gain practical experience, subject matter knowledge, and valuable contacts. But for some things, you really do need an attorney.

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BUSINESS Whether you work for yourself or someone else, you have legal rights to protect. Florida is an “at will” employment state, meaning you can be terminated for pretty much any reason except your membership in a legally protected class. Many private employers have their employees sign employment agreements which determine how the parties will be treated at the termination of the employment relationship.

It’s a contract which is essentially an agreement of the law between the parties rather than having the courts determine the parties’ rights through protracted, expensive litigation. As an employer or employee, your livelihood is important so know and protect your rights.

MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIPS You may be the spouse with greater assets or the partner supporting the significant other who is building their career. Either way, you need to understand how the law will treat you in the event your relationship doesn’t last. Consult an attorney about pre and post nuptial agreements designed to establish the rights between the two of you in advance so you can avoid pricey, adversarial litigation at the end. Have an attorney explain your property rights as a spouse, joint tenants, tenants in common, a co-business owner, and co-tenants in residential and commercial leases. Don’t rely on your friends’ and family’s advice and experience. Do not assume the law will be as you think it should be, that it will make sense, or that the legal process will be easy or fast. Spend the money for a few hours of a lawyer’s time to advise and guide you. It costs exponentially more time and money to fix problems later than to prevent them in the beginning.

DIVORCE/BREAKUPS/CUSTODY

You always need to consult with an attorney at the end of a marriage or any relationship that produces children, property ownership, or legal/ financial entanglements. Even if you have a pre or post nuptial agreement, you need an attorney to ensure compliance with the letter and the spirit of the contract. Do not assume that what you see on television, what you hear from others, or what seems fair will be the law. Common misconceptions are that someone can be blocked from seeing their children because of non-payment of child support alone or that one parent has greater rights to a child than the other. Titles and deeds are not determinative of rights in a marriage. The list goes on and on, but an experienced family law attorney can explain to you the law and your rights under it.

WILLS/TRUST/PROBATE Regardless of the television and internet ads trying to convince you that for an affordable price, you can download forms that walk you through a DIY process of setting up a will or trust, attempting that yourself is pure folly. Almost no one, including most lawyers, has any business setting up their own will or trust. Even sophisticated businesspeople may believe they have thought of everything, yet typically they only consider what is important to them. An experienced wills, trust, and probate lawyer can ensure that all foreseeable legal, financial, and property issues are addressed prior to your death so your wishes can be executed.

DEATH Few people are prepared for the death of a loved one, especially when it’s the breadwinner. Shock, fear and grief overwhelm your emotions while your brain tries to figure out how to bury the dead and replace their income before the electricity gets cut off. Even when there is a will, you need an experienced attorney to navigate the probate process, because to have legal effect, it must be done right. Probate may not be necessary, depending on the value of the estate and the number and type of legal heirs. Still, you need an attorney to know that. Often people die intestate, meaning without a will, leaving behind a host of tangled, complicated legal problems that their heirs cannot afford to pay a lawyer to sort through. Unfortunately, that often pits surviving loved ones against each other. Don’t do this to the people you care about. Take care of your affairs now, prepare for contingencies, and plan for the inevitable.

Listen, nothing matters more than your family and your assets. Find the money to get advice from qualified attorneys before you take actions that are against your and your children’s interests and so very hard to undo.

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MIND, BODY & SPIRIT

EAT WELL, LIVE WELL: THE ART OF HEALTHY CHOICES AT THE GROCERY STORE

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his powerful quote reminds everyone that the choices made at the grocery store can shape not only health but also happiness. Healthy choices at the grocery store lead to better habits at home and contribute to a vibrant lifestyle.

harmful pesticides and chemicals, ensuring that the body receives the best nourishment. When shopping, it is essential to look for items that are fresh and organic whenever possible. This small choice can lead to major health improvements.

First, selecting products with simple ingredients makes a significant difference. Foods with few, recognizable ingredients are often the best choices. If a label contains difficult-to-pronounce words, it is wise to think twice before putting that item in the cart. For example, fresh fruits and vegetables shine brightly in the grocery aisles, offering nutrients without any mystery. Choosing these wholesome options encourages a healthy mindset.

Additionally, avoiding unhealthy condiments and packaged foods is crucial. Pure maple syrup, for instance, is a delightful and nutritious sweetener. Pure maple syrup has one ingredient. There are some syrups on the shelves that don’t even contain any syrup so then you have to wonder what are you eating?

In contrast, products with partially hydrogenated fats should be strictly avoided as they pose health risks.

Every time a shopping cart is filled with healthy options, the benefits can be felt at home.

Next, the type of oils purchased can impact overall health. Olive oil, avocado oil, and coconut oil are excellent choices that provide healthy fats. In contrast, many common seed oils undergo heavy processing, stripping them of their nutritional value. By opting for pure oils, a person not only enhances meals but also nurtures body and mind.

Moreover, the importance of organic produce cannot be overstated. Organic fruits and vegetables are free from

Overall, healthy choices at the grocery store open the door to a healthier lifestyle. By focusing on simple ingredients, good oils, organic produce, and natural condiments, it is possible to create a foundation for lasting health. Embracing these choices not only nourishes the body but also enriches the soul, paving the way for a vibrant life filled with energy and joy.

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HOLIDAY SELF CARE

As December rolls in, so do the holiday demands. It’s that time of year when our to-do lists grow longer than Santa‘s “Naughty or Nice List.”

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his is the time of year when we are prone to mistletoe mishaps, ornament overkill, and even tinsel tantrums. During the holiday season, self-preservation comes in the form of taking important time for yourself. If you have spent this year investing in all those around you, be weary of contracting “Festive Frenzy”—the uncontrollable urge to get everything done in record time, and control most outcomes. So, let’s focus on the importance of taking some “Me Time” during this season.

JANE MARKS WRITER Jane Marks is a licensed psychotherapist "life coach" with 50+ years of experience specializing in child and adolescent behavior. She is a motivational speaker/lecturer focusing on mental health and adolescents.

CONSIDER THESE TIPS: 1. Set yourself up for sleep success. Keep your bedroom cool, calm, and quiet and a place for sleeping. Unplug and try and stick to a sleep schedule.

2. Stay hydrated. Your body relies on water to perform a laundry list of vital tasks, including brain function, body temperature regulation, and blood circulation.

3. Keep your diet rich in fruits, vegetables, and protein. This is often the perfect antidote for “holiday overwhelm.”

4. When your body says “pause,” tune in and listen. This is crucial for maintaining overall well-being. Ignoring these signals can lead to increased stress and burnout.

5. Stay active, move more, and sit less. Remember: the bonuses of improved mental and physical health go hand-in-hand with consistent movement.

6. Call a friend and simply enjoy that quiet connection time. Also, be a friend to the most important person in your world: you. Each day, give yourself that pep talk, as you would your friend.

7. Take time to recharge. Sit with your emotions, and make time to meditate, sing, play, and pray—or any other activity that soothes your soul.

As the holiday demands mount—and they will—sneak away for a little breather. A little peace and quiet will go a long way in your precious holiday health.

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PERSONAL GROWTH JOURNEY

By Jane Marks

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his past weekend, I had a chance to see so many people I had not seen in a long time.

What struck me about all of these individuals was that each of these people had made significant changes in their lives and were thrilled with the results. In some cases, health or family challenges prompted the change. In other cases, it was an intentional choice to upgrade their personal growth. And who doesn’t want to be a better version of themselves?

Think of it as upgrading your life software. Just like our phones and computers need updates, we all need to keep evolving to stay happy and healthy. Personal growth is the secret weapon to fostering a richer and more fulfilling life. So, let’s focus on strategies that can make a big difference in our personal growth journey.

1. Clarify your goals this week. What do you really

want to achieve in various areas of your life? Maybe it’s running a marathon, learning a new language, making a new friend connection, or even righting a wrong. Each of these goals provides an opportunity to stretch your growth muscles. Visualizing these goals helps create a growth mindset.

2. Practice a little self-reflection. Take time to reflect on your experiences, thoughts, and feelings.

Journaling can be a useful tool to kickstart this process.

3. Embrace lifelong learning. Stay curious and seek knowledge through books, online courses, workshops, and engaging with new people. And don’t forget about the importance of having mentors in your life.

They can help you chart new, creative life paths that you never dreamed possible.

4. Step out of your comfort zone. Challenge yourself to try new things, meet new people, face your fears, and seek support. Embrace discomfort this week, and accept the notion that feeling a little uncomfortable is a natural part of growth. You might reframe this mindset

to view this as a sign of progress.

5. If you’re going to compete, compete against yourself. Competing against yourself, helps you to understand your strengths and weaknesses, allowing you to make informed decisions about your development and progress. It also reduces comparison to others which makes you feel fully adequate. Acknowledge and celebrate your progress no matter how small. This helps build resilience and adaptability 6. Practice gratitude. When you achieve personal goals or milestones, that sense of accomplishment almost always enhances life satisfaction.

Your steps toward personal growth paid off and you feel gratitude for not only the journey but also for your continuing progress.

Remember, personal growth is the secret key to your health journey.

Embrace the journey, laugh at the stumbles, and keep it moving. Because a healthier you is simply a growth spurt away.

Keep growing and glowing.

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LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS

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hen I first started sharing mental health articles, I thought surely I would run out of ideas. However, each week presents me with an experience, an event or sometimes just a thought that always inspires a new perspective on taking care of our health. This week was no exception. While talking with a fellow board member, we shared how exhausted we are because we overcommit. So many of us take on more than we could ever handle, but somehow, we always deliver.

As we were talking, she casually dropped this bit of wisdom: “We need to spend time with people who feed us as opposed to people who need us.”

This got me to thinking that surrounding yourself with people who feed you—those family members, colleagues, and friends who nourish you emotionally, physically, and spiritually—can be a major boost to our health. When we spend time with people who uplift us, inspire us, and support us, we are more likely to thrive and grow in positive ways.

stress to your life. Consider distancing yourself from toxic individuals.

3. Set boundaries in your relationships to protect your own well-being. Learn to say no when necessary and communicate your needs openly and honestly.

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4. Join communities. Engage in activities and communities where you can meet like-minded individuals who share your passions and values. These are the people who will feed you.

5. Put language on your needs. Be open and honest about your needs, feelings, and boundaries. Healthy relationships are not only built on mutual respect and understanding, but also on collaboration and connection.

6. Focus on quality vs. quantity. A small circle of trusted confidants is better than a large network of surface-level friends. Remember: quality relationships that feed you are more valuable than relationships that drain you.

So, consider these tips to foster a sense of belonging, resilience, happiness, and overall wellness:

7. Trust your intuition. If your connections with the people in your life don’t feel genuine, it may be time to reevaluate your circle.

1. Be selective about who you spend your time with. Surround yourself with people who uplift, inspire you, and share your values and interests.

We all deserve to be surrounded by people who feed our soul. Choose wisely and you will find that—like your favorite comfort food—these connections will leave you feeling warm, satisfied, and ready to take on the world.

2. Limit negative influences. Identify relationships that drain your energy, bring you down, or add

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