Tallahassee Woman Magazine December 2019/January 2020

Tallahassee Advocacy for Women

JOURNEY OF FAITH

Co-Parenting After Divorce

YOUR DESTINATION FOR EXCEPTIONAL HEART CARE.

At Tallahassee Memorial HealthCare, our Heart & Vascular Center is a leader in the Southeast for advanced care and research. In fact, patients travel from across the region to receive heart and vascular care from our expert team of physicians and surgeons. To learn more about how you can access our exceptional treatment options right here at home visit TMH.ORG/Heart.

12. Letter from the Guest Editor 14. Trends

Fall Makeup: Merry & Bright

She Say Social: The Season of Giving Home: Holiday Decorating Tips

Shopping: Faves and Raves

24. Living Local

WE Elevate: Reflection

Around Town: TWM R.E.D. Gala Sweet Home Tallahassee: "Collegiate Spotlight: TCC"

Community: "Here's to Unsung SHEroes" Haute Happenings: Highlights of Local Events

32. On the Cover

Katrina Rolle: "Faith in the Journey"

36. Business

Community: Human Trafficking: STAC Helps to Mobilize the Healthcare Community

Money Talk: "Savings Greetings"

Women to Watch: Promotions, awards and other notable achievements of local women. By Life’s Ups and Downs

44. Style

Holiday Fashion: Winter Wardrobe

46. Feature Travel

Madame Xhales at Chateau Elan Winery & Resort

50. Wellness

Healthy Living: Maintaining A Healthy Lifestyle

Mental Health Matters: Women and Mental Health Leading the Field

54. Family

Family: Co-Parenting After Divorce

56. Food

The Dish: Zing's Sweet Treats

32. about the cover woman: Katrina Rolle: Faith in the Journey By Rebbecah Lutz photography: The Lonely Fox | makeup: Lisa Davis | clothing and accessories: Narcissus and Katrina Rolle's private collection

WOMAN

PUBLISHER

Dr. Michelle Mitcham

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Contributors

CONTRIBUTORS

NZINGA DENNARD WRITER

MEREDITH BOWEN HUNTER WRITER

Meredith Bowen Hunter is a communications consultant specializing in strategy, messaging and branding. She's a wife, mother and Gen Xer admittedly enamored with the efficiency of texting and intrigued by the power of social media.

Nzinga’s interest in baking was ignited in a culinary arts class at Leon High and soared after graduating from FSU. She uses whole food ingredients to create original masterpieces. Zing bakery offers regular, vegan, and glutenfree options. “Baking is therapeutic. I love making people smile.”

MELISSA WRIGHT WRITER

Melissa Wright is a Accredited Wealth Management Advisor at Capital City Bank. With nearly 20 years' experience offering custom financial services, Melissa strives to educate, empower and guide women in their personal financial management. Meliss is a graduate of Florida State University.

ROBIN HASSLER THOMPSON WRITER

Robin Hassler Thompson, M.A., J.D., is the Executive Director of the Survive and Thrive Advocacy Center (STAC), a non-profit agency she helped to found in the Big Bend area of Florida to assist survivors of human trafficking. ... From 2002 to the present, she has directed numerous statewide antitrafficking projects.

SIDNEY WIER WRITER

Sidney Wier born and raised in Tallahassee and is a student studying communications.She has been working in fashion boutiques since she was a young teen. She truly enjoys helping women of all ages with fashion advice and styling them with clothes that fit their lifestyle.

LAURA BRYANT WRITER

Laura Bryant is a licensed interior designer living in Tallahassee, FL with her two kids, two labs and her Tallahasseenative husband. Laura is originally from Miami, FL and has been practicing interior design since 2005.

JAMEE WRIGHT WRITER

Jamee Wright is a licensed Esthetician, Professional Makeup Artist, Certified Image Consultant and Personal Stylist. Dedicated to encouraging women "to let their light shine" for over 23 years. See and feel her passion for encouraging and uplifting others when she is creating a custom makeup look. jameewright.com

LISA DAVIS MAKEUP ARTIST

Lisa Davis is a wife, mommy of four, beauty blogger, freelance makeup artist, and owner of Image by Lisa. God made her girly and she loves sharing her tips and tricks with other woman so that they can look and feel their absolute best. imagebylisa.com

REGINA LYNCHHUDSON WRITER

Veteran publicist and luxury lifestyle experience-aholic, Regina Lynch-Hudson, pens MadameXhales, slated towards the vintage of woman that according to studies: enjoys more time to travel, indulges in longer trips, and selects more extravagant travel accommodations. The exacting taste of MadameXhales finds her exploring destinations, cruises, resorts, spas, and extracurricular activities.

Letter from SEASON’S GREETINGS

Dr. Michelle Mitcham from

Thank you for supporting Tallahassee Woman Magazine. It is our mission to continue bringing you quality articles, features, resources, entertainment, as well as highlighting the diverse stories and great women of this beloved community. We are so grateful for the dedicated and loyal advertisers that believe in empowering women and continue to highlight their businesses in TWM, the premiere magazine for women.

We also honor the women leaders and volunteers of non-profits, such as our phenomenal cover woman, Katrina Rolle who wears many hats. We are so excited to welcome our amazing Guest Editor, Rebeccah Lutz, veteran writer who conducted a close-up and candid interview with Katrina. In this issue of TWM we take a closer look at how Women Empowered care about each other, our families, friends, the community and the future of our city. This issue features the unique people, diverse organizations, causes and the moments that keep us caring, celebrating, and embracing life’s greatest gifts.

This holiday season, a time of love, joy and peace, consider new ways to reach out and demonstrate compassion and giving. I know you will be inspired by the amazing efforts of the Unsung Heroes featured who are making a difference in the lives of so many children and families in Tallahassee. These extraordinary and empowered women care so much and give of their hearts, time and talent.

Congratulations to the 2019 Tallahassee Woman of the Year, Beth Harding Corum and all of the R.E.D. (Resilient, Empowered, Determined) winners; Michelle Brantley, Dr. Elaine Bryant, Kyndra Light and Finalists; Patricia McCray, Heather Cox Rosenberg, Kelly Otte, Dr. Rachel Pienta, Dr. Sharon AmesDennard and Rose-May Frazier. The RED Gala not only honored R.E.D. women, but also highlighted the critical community issue of mental health. We partnered with Apalachee Center to bring more awareness. We are grateful for the overwhelming support from the community for a spectacular and unforgettable red carpet event. We will be releasing the date of the RED Gala soon!

Love, Peace and Blessings,

red gala finalists & woman of the year

WOMAN OF THE YEAR

Beth H. Corum

RESILIENT

Michelle Brantley

Patricia McCray

Heather Cox Rosenberg EMPOWERED

Dr. Elaine W. Bryant

Kelly Otte

Dr. Rachel Pienta DETERMINED

Dr. Sharon Ames Dennard

Rose-May Frazier

Kyndra Light

EDITOR

Guest Editor guest Rebeccah lutz

“No matter which path we choose, moms are busy, and we work hard to provide for and support our families.”

Rebeccah is a content strategist and storyteller who helps nonprofits tell their story of impact. Before starting her own business, she worked as a reporter, editor and manager in Gannett newsrooms for 15 years. She enjoys spending time with her husband and son and singing in the voice studio of Alice Blackhall and with Tallahassee Community Chorus.

I had the pleasure of interviewing Katrina Rolle for this month’s TWM cover story. I first met Katrina years ago when I was managing editor of the Tallahassee Democrat and she was starting her position as CEO of the United Way of the Big Bend. Katrina’s story resonates with me, and I think it will resonate with you, too.

Like many women, Katrina has balanced roles as a wife, mother and caregiver with her career and community service. I say “balanced,” but I dislike that term because we know that things are rarely in balance. As women, we keep lots of plates spinning. Only some of them receive our full attention at any given time, but as Katrina says in her interview, we make it all work.

Katrina’s done a lot: She worked in the corporate sector right out of college. She was a stay-at-homemom. She managed her own law practice. She’s now held two leadership positions in the local nonprofit sector. She floated in and out of her career, based on what she felt was right at the time. One of my favorite quotes from her: “No matter

which path we choose, moms are busy, and we work hard to provide for and support our families.”

Katrina has defined success on her own terms, and I like that. We tend to think of success as the fulfillment of a plan. In reality, success is usually a mixture of intention and taking advantage of opportunities as they come. “You have to have faith in the journey,” she says.

I hope Katrina’s story encourages you to have faith in your own journey. You don’t have to know exactly where you’re headed. It’s OK to put the pieces together as you go along, having faith that all things work together to lead you where you’re meant to be.

Rebeccah Lutz is a storyteller, content strategist and CEO of Rebeccah Lutz Content Strategy, LLC. You can contact her at rebeccah@rlcontentstrategy.com.

Photo by Kylene Gay

TRENDS Trends

Merry&Bright TRE

BY JAMEE WRIGHT

HOLIDAY MAKEUP TIPS

1WStart with skincare. Your facial selection is the base for defending against dryness in your look for these winter months. Select moisturizing products to keep your skin plumped up: Using a moisturizing gel, gel masks, Vitamin C serums, nourishing oils, and regular exfoliation products for fabulous and moisture-rich skin prepping!

ant to look simply radiant this season? With winter dryness dulling out dewy looks, we have simple tips to refresh and brighten your look this holiday season! Most of us want to add a bit of shimmer to our look for holiday parties, family photo sessions, or just because!

If you’re feeling hesitant to try a new look, we can make it easy for you with these festive steps.

My favorite tips are sure to give your seasonal skin-care and make that close up confidence and gleeful glow you’re looking for!

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When it comes to makeup, keep it fresh by choosing makeup hues that are different from your outfit. If you're wearing a shimmery top or dress, choose a matte, smoky eye and soft lip. If you're wearing bold color or prints, then keep your makeup neutral.

Add shimmer! It's fun to brush and blend on your décolletage, tops of shoulders, top of the cheekbone, and even mix with your lotion for your legs. Don't go overboard though, select no more than two places.

Choose to play up either your mouth or the eyes. If you emphasize both, you'll risk looking overdone.

Try varying eyeshadow colors to create your "smoky eye look!" Beautiful mauves and plums, navy and greys, and emerald and golds all give you that little "extra" and can often be way easier and less intimidating to apply and blend.

Rock a gorgeous smile. Because no matter what you're wearing, you have the confidence and power to spread the love and joy throughout the season. Now that is true beauty!

Brehon House because I admire the service of this organization.

@janssensana

We asked our Tallahassee Woman Magazine followers on Instagram & Facebook. What organization(s) do you donate to and why?

Q She Says Social

I support independencelandingfl.com because people with disabilities do not have a place to live when the last parent dies other than a nursing home. I also support keysbigbend.org because lifelong learning for individuals with disabilities is vital to their success!

Allison Richard

Sponsor a child, or multiple children with Compassion International.

@candiantonetti

Thirst Project because it is the world's largest youth driven clean water movement! Their website is thirstproject.org.

Great question! The Sharing Tree has my whole heart for supporting creative children, and Hang Tough Foundation for their work of the heart!

Carly Sinnadurai

Joanna Gore

Children's Home Society. Their services assist children in finding forever homes, or foster care programs that provide a stable temporary home. Also, I support Hartsfield Elementary to ensure kids have school supplies, lunch money, or the ability to attend musical events and act.

@dmriordanart

Hang Tough, Suwannee River Area Council, Boy Scouts, Autism Speaks, and Independence Landing. All of these organizations serve youth or at-risk populations and this is what speaks to me.

Heather Rosenberg

The Boys and Girls Clubs of the Big Bend, Rotary Youth Camp, and Legal Services of North Florida. I also donate through Rotary and Zonta.

Tonya Chavis

Good Samaritan and City Walk. I believe in second chances and new beginnings; Both of these organizations provide the foundations for people to rewrite their story.

@tallybeautygirl

KAREN VOGTER

D. Mark Vogter, M.D., Memorial Endowment Vogter Neuro Intensive Care Unit

Karen carries on her husband Mark’s legacy through the Tallahassee Tennis Challenger, which has raised more than $850,000 for an endowment supporting the Vogter Neuro Intensive Care Unit (VNICU). Karen has been tournament director since 2004.

What does it take to plan and direct the Tallahassee Tennis Challenger?

There are about 300 people from all over our community who volunteer in some capacity every year. No one is paid, and that’s unique for a professional tennis tournament. The tournament wouldn’t be the same without all of these people who are willing to give their time.

What motivates your work as a volunteer?

You don’t want your loved one’s death to be meaningless if there’s something you can do about it. Mark, unfortunately, was a neurosurgeon here for only 10 years, but even in that short time, he provided so much for his patients and the community. I want Mark to be remembered.

How do you personally benefit from directing the tournament?

It’s nice to be able to give something to a bigger purpose. We do a Special Olympics event at the tournament every year, and we bring about 250 kids from all over Leon County. To see them enjoying themselves playing tennis, it’s just wonderful. It benefits me way more than it benefits them.

How has the endowment supported the Vogter Neuro Intensive Care Unit?

Mark was really interested in his colleagues. He truly admired the people who dedicated their lives to working in this unit. One of the things we’ve supported is ongoing education and professional development for his colleagues so they can benefit from the latest knowledge in their field, which in turn benefits patients and families.

What are your goals for the tournament?

My children and I will be so happy when we reach $1 million in support for the endowment. We have worked toward this for so long, and we are within striking distance.

“ Giving is good for the soul . ”

D. Mark Vogter, M.D.

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DECORATING IDEAS

The holiday season will soon be upon us. While most interior designers are busy working hand in hand with contractors and furniture vendors, when December approaches we are inevitably asked: “can you decorate my home for the holidays?” Here are some easy “do-it-yourself” holiday decorating tips I’d like to suggest for 2019.

Grab some yard clippers from your tool shed and head into your own backyard! I’m a big proponent of using natural greenery in the home. In years past I’ve clipped large Magnolia tree branches to make arrangements for Christmas, using a tall glass vase (which you can get from places like Home Goods or Hobby Lobby). For 2019, however, I’d suggest going more on-

BY LAURA BRYANT DESIGNS

trend with a total Florida themed plant like the Saw Palmetto. Consider displaying the Palmetto fronds in medium-sized vases on your fireplace mantel or your foyer table. Then surround the rest with your existing Christmas and holiday decorations, like stockings or bowls of peppermints. You can use old fashioned water goblets to display candy canes too. If you don’t have a set sitting in the back of your china cabinet consider a trip to one of our local antique stores to get a good deal on some. Last, but not least, remember to plant some winter greenery in your front door planters for an inviting holiday welcome. Pussy Willow makes a lovely winter-time statement in outdoor planters because it adds height and texture. They look great indoors too!

Faves Raves&

Check out these holiday decorating, entertaining and gift ideas and shop local! Need a special outfit, jewelry or diamonds for the holiday season...these shops have something for you!

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Chrysalis Fine Fabrics

Large embroidered throw pillows - $123

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M&M Monogramming

Toss Pillow $30, Trinket Tray $20 & Trinket Cup $20 (All items include Monogram) (850) 514-3148

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CV Design Gold Earrings - $49 (850) 219-5210

Bannerman Crossings –6668 Thomasville Road Tallahassee, Florida 32312

Roberts Jewelry

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LIVING LOCAL Living Local

BY DR. MICHELLE MITCHAM

Some women inspire; some empower, but when I was listening to the dynamic and down to earth, Dr. Andrea Friall speak at the Professional Women’s Forum last August, I was beyond uplifted. The ballroom was nearly filled to capacity with women leaning in to inhale the inspiring and authentic words of wisdom from Dr. Andrea Friall. The energy in the room was charged with positive vibes as this Powerhouse of a leader, shared her positive philosophy of life, success, love and family. Her decisive remarks and confident disposition defined a natural leader, but she shared that there were challenges along the way. Dr. Friall embraced life and turned any challenges into opportunities. It was an honor to spend that afternoon in the presence of her brilliance and inner and outer beauty. Dr. Friall is a women empowered who elevates other women, as witnessed at the forum. Dr. Andrea Friall exemplifies the concept of WE Elevate. It is my honor to highlight such a phenomenal woman.

Dr. Friall's Reflection...

“Early in the month of August, I was given the opportunity by the Tallahassee Chamber to address the women leaders at the monthly Professional Womens Forum. I am not a public speaker, however, for a living I thrive with one-on-one and small group conversations. But standing in front of a room full of people addressing anything, quite frankly, terrifies me. My topic to speak on encouraged women to be ready for opportunities when they come our way, especially the unplanned ones. I decided to make myself vulnerable

WE Elevate

DR. ANDREA FRIALL

because the message that I wanted to share was far more important than my fear. Recently, learning about vulnerability and leadership encouraged me to share the idea of why it is important for women and for leaders to put ourselves out there and embrace our dream. We have the courage to be the person we see when we look in the mirror! Be the girl who is cheering for the success of the other girl too! (that’s the old cheerleader in me). Know that you have to be able to push through the self-doubt and through the negative thoughts in order to believe that you are not the imposter… You

belong! So, think of vulnerability as a strength. Have courage. Many may say “How can a good leader be vulnerable?” and I ask you: How can they not?”

Dr. Andrea K. Friall is a native Floridian. She received her B.S. degree in biology from Florida State University and her M.D. from Howard University College of Medicine. She completed her Obstetrics and Gynecology training at Tulane University.

As a student, intern and resident, Dr. Friall distinguished herself as

a leader, teacher and community servant, receiving several awards honoring her stellar performance. Since 2001, she has been a trusted physician and partner at North Florida Women's Care. In 2016, she became the Chief Medical Officer for Tallahassee Memorial Healthcare (TMH) while continuing to practice medicine. An advocate for women and girls through the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology, Dr. Friall is dedicated to the community activities that improve healthcare outcomes.

She achieves balance by enjoying her dog, outdoor activities, traveling, live music, and Broadway plays with her husband and daughter.

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AROUND TOWN

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Tallahassee Woman Magazine Staff 2. Michelle Brantley, Nina Ashenafi Richardson

3. Chris Corum, Beth Corum, daughter Stella

The 2019 Tallahassee Woman Magazine’s RED Gala recognized extraordinary R.E.D. women that exemplify characteristics of being Resilient, Empowered and Determined. TWM celebrated the outstanding contributions and achievements of these outstanding women with several awards; Tallahassee Woman of the Year; Resilient; Empowered and Determined. A special Ruby Award recognized a R.E.D. finalist who is a gem to all around her, as well as her community. The RED Gala will be an annual Fall celebration of R.E.D. women. This year, TWM partnered with Apalachee Center to raise awareness of mental health. Nominate a R.E.D. woman in 2020!

4. Dr. Michelle Mitcham, Adonis Smith, Briana Michelle Smith

5. Heather Cox Rosenberg, Molly Lord, Dr. Rachel Pienta

6. Jenny Dailey, Allison Tant Richard, Gary Yordon

7. Melesa Dickey, Patricia McCray, Alicia Colvalt

8. Dr. Elaine Bryant, Husband

9. Kyndra Light, Finalist Dr. Rachel Pienta, Beth H. Corum

10. Quia Z. Atkinson, Kollet Nichole Probst

11. Shannikia Bethea, Patricia Griffin, Dr. Michelle Mitcham, Bill Moore, Chattie Winton

12. Kelly Otte, Samantha Otte

13. Finalist Dr. Sharon Ames Dennard, Malek Dennard

14. Dr. Tamara Bertrand Jones, Robin Haggins, Renee Jean- Charles, Rose-May Frazier

15. Mickey Moore, Audrey Hendrick Moore

16. Angela Dempsey, Mary Mayhew, Nina Ashenafi Richardson, Dr. Jay Reeve 2 3 4

Living Local | sweet home tallahassee

The Women of Appleyard- Collegiate Spotlight: TCC

Sweet

Home Tallahassee highlights “All things Tallahassee” including outstanding women at our universities and colleges. In this issue, we highlight some phenomenal women students and leaders at Tallahassee Community College.

Nydia McSwain Tallahassee Community College Student

“Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day—or even a year. But eventually, it will subside. And something else will take its place. If I quit, however, the pain will last forever”.—Dr. Eric Thomas

I can victoriously say that I’ve overcome many painful obstacles in my young life. Not only is pain temporary, but it is inevitable. Physical and emotional pain are experiences that everyone must face at some point in their lives. The quote above is my philosophy. Whenever I say it, I am immediately reminded to never stop working towards my goal—whatever that may be.

I am Nydia Ta’Nee McSwain, a secondyear student at the eminent Tallahassee Community College. I am 23 years old and a proud native of Quincy, Florida. I enjoy listening to hip-hop and R&B in my downtime and I have a passion for everything hospitality and education. Initially, I chose TCC because I wanted to continue my education after a failed attempt at Nursing school. I was already familiar with TCC, so finishing my AA here seemed to be my best choice. After enrolling in my last semester, I knew without a doubt that this was, in fact, my best choice. I have made connections with

faculty and had access to resources that I don’t believe would have been possible without the loving and supportive nature of TCC as well as my amazing family, friends, and other supporters; my ‘village.’ All this is credited to divine intervention. My ultimate goal is to become the Vice President of Student Affairs at a community college or university.

Sharisse Turner Dean of Transitional Studies, Tallahassee Community College

Sharisse, a native North Floridian, began her career in postsecondary education at her alma mater, Chipola College, as a learning specialist and English instructor before transferring to Tallahassee Community College. Here she has dedicated herself for over 31 years to working with at-risk and underserved student populations to facilitate their academic success, retention, and completion. She began her TCC career as a college preparatory English instructor. She enjoyed the challenges of the classroom and engaging with her students, many of whom have remained in contact with her years later. Sharisse currently serves as the dean of

Transitional Studies, which houses the summer bridge program, mentoring programs as well as foundational courses in reading, writing, math, and specialized courses for non-native speakers of English. She finds her work at TCC to be rewarding and admires the democratizing quality of the open-access community college system. At TCC, Sharisse has found her professional calling of helping the most vulnerable students to be aligned with her spiritual calling as an ordained minister. A passionate servant-leader and advocate for academically underprepared students and developmental education for many years, Sharisse is past-president of the Florida Developmental Education Association and an active member of the National Organization for Student Success and the College Reading and Learning Association. Additionally, she serves on the ministerial staff at Celebrate New Life Tabernacle Church.

Sagan May

I decided to go to TCC instead of going straight to a university because I felt like I needed a smooth transition from high school class sizes to university class sizes. I had already chosen my career path of becoming a Forensic Chemist and Pathologist and I felt that doing my prerequisites in a smaller class structure would give me the best chance of success. I love that the teachers and staff at TCC seem to really want the best for all of

their students and they each put forth the effort to make themselves available for any students that need a little extra help to understand the material being taught or how best to go about being successful in college. If it were not for a few of these people I would not be where I am today, and after 5 years I am only a couple semesters away from getting my AA in Biochemistry. This is all thanks to a staff member in the financial aid office that helped me to understand how to sign up for financial aid and helped me fill out the proper paperwork that allowed me to become a full-time student. In addition, if it were not for the director of the STEM Program, I would still be struggling with my time management. With her help and with the resources and scholarships offered by the STEM Program, I have come so much farther in my college career. I believe that it is important that everyone is given the chance to better themselves and having people such as teachers or employees that want the best for every student and strive to help to the best of their abilities makes a huge difference to those of us that feel like

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Unsung

here are angels among us. Many of them take the form of determined and dedicated women whose good work make a positive impact. Meet a few of these angels making a mark by making a difference.

SHANNON CARROLL REDEMPTIVE LOVE FARM

To say Shannon Carroll has a big heart, fearless spirit, and strong faith would be a colossal understatement. When she and her husband, Brian, decided to adopt, little did she know the magnitude of blessings it would bring to so many.

Along with a commitment to adoption, the Carrolls wanted to live debt-free. Their love of faith, family, animals and the outdoors led them to sell their home and eventually move to Miccosukee. There the Carrolls formed Redemptive Love Farm where they live with their seven children and menagerie of animals including llamas, ponies, sheep, rabbits, and cows.

The animals help bring joy and healing to the children who all have unique challenges. “Before they were adopted, each of our children experienced significant hurt or trauma,” explained Shannon. “Animals create trust, give comfort and teach responsibility.”

To help maintain the farm, it’s available for special events, private visits, photoshoots, riding lessons, and farm yoga. Also provided are adoption/re-homing services for a variety of animals.

Learn more: redemptivelovefarm.com.

BY MEREDITH HUNTER

MICHELLE HART & JANELLE IRWIN HANG TOUGH FOUNDATION

When a child receives a serious diagnosis, it impacts the entire family. Often the journey involves travel for medical treatment, extended hospital stays, and numerous doctor

appointments. Many experience feelings of isolation due to health concerns that accompany exposure to public places. Loneliness also accompanies their experience by the feeling of a lack of a community who can relate.

Michelle Hart understood and lived this reality after her daughter, Haley, was diagnosed with leukemia at age four. Haley’s family and friends rallied to support her. They coined the slogan “Hang Tough Haley Hart” and inspired a cycling team that ultimately brought the Irwin family to Tallahassee.

Just shy of his first birthday, the Irwins’ son, Grayson, was diagnosed with leukemia. “The first person I called was Michelle,” remembered Janelle Irwin. Haley and Grayson, both healthy today, inspired the Hang Tough Foundation.

Irwin is now the foundation’s Executive Director. Hang Tough has 16 programs and services and has served over 2,000 “heroes and sidekicks” (patients and siblings) and their families.

“At Hang Tough, we encourage and enable our clientele to thrive by offering curated services and programming free of charge. We want the whole family to be supported and enjoy time together,” said Janelle.

Learn more: hangtoughfoundation.org.

CECKA ROSE GREEN

CHILDREN’S HOME SOCIETY

Cecka Rose Green is not one to rest on her laurels. Ever since her days as a leader at Florida Agriculture and Mechanical University, Cecka has been a force for good.

Her professional life has garnered Cecka a wealth of experience from leadership management and strategic planning to a gubernatorial campaign. Family life is just as busy with a husband, three children and her continued support of her alma mater. She created the FAMU 10 for 10 Challenge to encourage support of the university. Recently, Green was honored with two awards from ACHI Magazine: Woman of the Year and Editor’s Choice.

Last February, Cecka was named the Children’s Home Society (CHS) Regional Executive Director serving Tallahassee and the surrounding communities. CHS is the state’s largest provider of services to children and families with the goal of building strong families.

“CHS is diversifying our programming to assist children with their growth and development, early learning and education, preparation for work and, lastly, becoming ready to parent their own children,” said Cecka “If we can positively impact our children and families in meaningful ways, our community will see significant changes for the better in our youth and young adults.”

Learn more: chsfl.org

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The Winter Festival

December 7, 2019

Downtown Tallahassee

Celebrating its 33rd year, the Winter Festival is an event for all ages! An all-day affair, participants can look forward to the annual Jingle Bell run, the lighting ceremony, evening holiday parade, and plenty of crafts, vendors, and activities to get into the holiday spirit. For more information, visit talgov.com.

market days

December 7 - 8, 2019

North Florida Fair Grounds

Market Days is the Southeast’s largest and best arts and crafts show around! Explore unique and handmade crafts from over 300 artisans. The market runs from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Saturday and is open until 4 p.m. on Sunday. For more information and tickets call (850) 575-8684.

The harlem globetrotters

December 9, 2019

Donald L. Tucker Civic Center

Enjoy an exciting night filled perfectly for the family with the Harlem Globetrotters! They will be performing high-flying dunks from 7-9 p.m. at the Donald L. Tucker Civic Center. Visit ev11.evenue.net for ticket information.

a Christmas carol

December 12 -22, 2019

Theatre Tallahassee

Experience Charles Dickens’ Christmas classic come to life!

Watch Scrooge and Tiny Tim in this wonderful holiday production. Showtimes will be at 8 p.m. Monday through Saturday and 2 p.m. on Sundays. For more information call (850) 224-8474 or visit tallahasseearts.org.

Holiday Magic

December 14, 2019

Ruby Diamond Concert Hall

Start the holidays off with this jazzy Christmas performance!

The Leon Anderson Trio will join the Tallahassee Symphony Orchestra at 3 p.m. and 8 p.m. Be sure to pick up your tickets as the night’s program includes Sinatra, Fitzgerald, and Marsalis. Visit tallahasseesymphonyorchestra. secure.force.com for more information.

Winter Solstice Celebration:

SE Native American Festival

December 14 - 15, 2019

Mission San Luis

From 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. join Florida’s Apalachee-Spanish Living

History Museum for family fun! Support artisans and learn about Native American dancing, music, and storytelling! Admission is $5 for adults and $2 for children. Meals will be served at the festival so bring your children, family, and friends for a great time.

The Nutcracker

December 21 - 22, 2019

Ruby Diamond Concert Hall

Celebrate this annual holiday tradition and let your imagination soar! This Tallahassee Ballet’s performance includes professional dances and a live orchestra as they take you and the family around the Kingdom of Sweets! Showtimes vary. For more information call (850) 224-6917 or visit tallahasseeballet.org.

Saving Wakula Springs

December 21, 2019

Wakulla Springs State Park

Tour nature with Jim Stevensons, a Florida springs expert, on this fascinating tour. Join this car caravan, departing from Cascades Park, towards the scenic basin of Wakula Springs and spend time learning about Florida’s underground aquifer that supplies drinking water through pristine sinkholes. Tickets are $10 for

students and $18 for adults. The proceeds benefit Friends of Wakulla Springs State Park. For more information call (850) 926-3376 or visit palmettoexpeditions.com

Free Planetarium Show:

January Skies Over Tallahassee

January 4, 2020

Challenger Learning Center of Tallahassee

Discover the night sky! From 10 a.m. to 11 a.m. to view constellations, stars, and planet positions in the “January Skies Over Tallahassee.” This event is hosted by the Tallahassee Astronomical Society. For more information visit the Challenger Learning Center of Tallahassee website challengertlh. com.

Take Me Home North Florida Pet Adoption Event

January 11, 2020

North Florida Fair Grounds

Support local pet adoption at the 8th annual Take Me Home Pet Adoption Event! The event will not just have pets for adoption, but a variety of local pet vendors, food trucks, and a dog sport event: The Barn Hunt! Over 50 percent of the animals at this event go to new and loving homes.

30A Songwriters Festival

January 17- 20, 2020 Highway 30A, 32459

From 9 a.m to 5 p.m., hang out with over 200 songwriters and musicians, performing pieces from various genres from country and Americana to folk and blues in over 25 dedicated listening rooms. This event is held in the historic 30A in South Walton. The festival is produced by the Cultural Arts Alliance (CAA) as a portion of the proceeds will benefit. For more information and tickets visit 30ASongwritersFestival.com.

Tallahassee Beer Festival

January 25, 2020

The Pavilion at The Centre of Tallahassee

From 2-5 p.m. the Tallahassee Beer Festival will be serving cider, beer, and seltzer from over 70 breweries. For unlimited sampling and a night of beer, tasting fun check out tlhbeerfest.com for tickets and more information!

Kristin Chenoweth in Concert

January 28, 2020

Ruby Diamond Concert Hall

This evening performance offers a mix of songs from The Art of Elegance, a collection of American Songbook classics, Broadway, and well-known standards. Kristin’s long-time career in film (The Sopranos), Television, and stage. She has received Emmys, Tony’s and starred in Broadway. Her charitable contributions foes to support the Arts & Education Fund and use the opportunity to lobby the legislature about the importance of the National Endowment of the Arts. For more information call (850) 644-7670.

or grief - one family at a time.

FAITH IN THE JOURNEY

KATRINA

ROLLE CHARTING HER COURSE AT COMMUNITY FOUNDATION OF NORTH FLORIDA

BY REBECCAH LUTZ PHOTOGRAPHY BY THE LONELY FOX

“No matter which path we choose, moms are busy, and we work hard to provide for and support our families.”

When Katrina Rolle reflects on her life, she says each step led her to the job she has today as president and CEO of the Community Foundation of North Florida. This is Katrina’s second leadership position in the local nonprofit sector. Before joining the Community Foundation, she was CEO of the United Way of the Big Bend, where she led a major shift in the organization’s funding model. Now she’s helping individuals fulfill their philanthropic goals and helping nonprofits plan for long-term sustainability.

For 22 years, Katrina has been deeply engrained in the community. She has served with many organizations as a board member and volunteer and managed her own law practice. She’s also a dedicated mom, leading her daughter’s Girl Scouts troop and breathing a sigh of relief that her three youngest children, finally, all participate in the same sport – track and field.

Through it all, Katrina has defined success on her own terms, at times leaning into her career, and at other times focusing on her role as a wife and mother and helping as a caregiver to her mother.

“All of these things become part of who you are,” she said. “They prepare you for where you’re supposed to be, and I do believe this is where I’m supposed to be.”

On the job for two weeks, Katrina sat down with TWM in October to talk about the path that led her to the Community Foundation and her plans for the future:

You’re from Miami; how did you land in Tallahassee?

“My husband, Gary (an orthopedic surgeon) received a call from Tallahassee Orthopedic Clinic, asking him to come take a look. That’s how we ended up here, but I have family here in the Panhandle. My dad was born in Blountstown, and as a kid, I spent some of my summers in Blountstown. We’ve lived here since 1997, and for many of those years, I was a stay-at-home-mom, which was one of the greatest joys of my life.”

You said that you don’t embrace the working mom vs. nonworking mom debate. Why is that?

“No matter which path we choose, moms are busy, and we work hard to provide for and support our families. It’s akin to seeing a duck on top of the water. Nobody knows what we’re doing underneath the water to make it work, but we make it work.”

It was while you were a stay-at-home mom that you became involved in nonprofits.

“Yes, I served on the local Children’s Home Society Board for nine years, two as chair. While on that board, I formed the Teen Leadership Council, which I’m proud to say is still in existence. My oldest son was one of the first members, and my thirdborn just got selected to be a part of that, so it’s full circle. From there, I was asked to be on the state board for Children’s Home Society, and I did that for three years.”

What was the transition back to work like after 11 years as a stay-athome-mom?

“I opened my own law practice. I wanted to work for myself to have the flexibility to be there for my children. Estate planning is

another attorney helped me through that process. I thought, wow, this is a great way to help people that I just hadn’t thought about.”

You closed your practice after your mother and father moved to Tallahassee.

“Yes, my parents were living in South Florida, and my mother was diagnosed with Parkinson’s and Shy-Drager syndrome (also called MSA). I closed my practice until I could figure out how to help them. I did that for about three years until I got things under control, and during that time, I was on the board for United Way.”

You were CEO at United Way for four and a half years. What are you most proud of during your tenure?

“Being part of creating the new strategic direction focused on the five funding areas: housing, early learning, safety net, the aging workforce and skills development. Being a part of something that was clearly bigger than any of us for the good of our community was exciting, but when the result is change, you deal with the resulting challenges, too.”

KatrinaRolle

Family: Husband of 25 years Gary; four children ages 22, 18, 16 and 15

Education: Undergraduate degree in business administration from Tuskegee University; Levin College of Law - University of Florida

Community: President of the University of Florida Alumni Association Board of Directors, chair of the Maclay School Board, board member for the Economic Club of Florida and Tallahassee Chamber of Commerce. Active in Leadership Florida, serves as her daughter’s Girl Scouts Troop leader and serves on the Vestry for her church.

conducive to controlling your schedule, so that worked out well for about six years.”

Why did you choose estate planning?

“I stumbled into it because of my father-inlaw. He was diagnosed with brain cancer and given a short time to live. He didn’t have any estate planning documents. We needed to get that done quickly, and

That process was challenging, I’m sure, and not everyone was pleased with the changes. How did you navigate that?

“You have to start with doing the right thing for the right reason, and when you’re doing that, everything falls into place. These are the words that Skip (Skip Foster, president and publisher of the Tallahassee

ON THE COVER

Democrat and a United Way Board member) used and now everybody says this: “If your funding is a mile wide and an inch deep, are you truly having an impact that can move the needle in our community?” No. Everyone was not happy. Change is difficult, but the hope is that when United Way collectively begins to have an impact in these five areas, more resources will become available to support other areas of need in our community. The goal of every United Way is to continue to evolve to meet the needs of your community. I feel very good about the work we accomplished in establishing a new strategic direction for United Way.”

What motivated you to move on from United Way?

“I wasn’t looking. I had two different people say, the Community Foundation job has your name all over it. You’ve got the skill set, what you’ve done with the United Way, your involvement in the community, you should consider it. I thought, maybe I’ll take a look. And now, I’m in a great position to tell the story of need to help people make long-term charitable decisions about how they want to support this community.”

When you say that you’ve always had a passion for the community, what do you mean?

“For me, success means helping other people be successful. We are all put on this earth for a purpose, and we all have spiritual gifts. I believe my gifts are organization, planning and leadership, so how do you use your gifts to make a difference in your life, in your family’s life and in your community? I feel very fortunate to have been given great opportunities to do that. A lot of times, we think success is the result of a stated plan or a direct path. For me, it’s been a journey. It’s funny how you don’t know where you’re going to end up, but when you look back, you see how everything played a part in getting you to where you are and helping you to have what you need to have an impact. You have to have faith in the journey.”

As a leader, do you think women leaders in Tallahassee face challenges?

“Yes, if they try to do it on their own. Women need a support network. If you have that, that’s a great tool to help you succeed. Look at some of the organizations here, nonprofit and otherwise, that are led by women. There are opportunities, but again, we should never forget to have our support system.”

How did you build your network?

“When you start working with other leaders and you’re producing results, you tend to gravitate toward one another, so it was through community engagement. Some people will say, if you see someone and you want them to be your mentor, ask. I’ve never done that. My friends and colleagues have ended up being peer mentors more than anything else.”

“You have to start with doing the right thing for the right reason, and when you’re doing that, everything falls into place.”

How are you approaching your new role at the Foundation?

“I’m reading as much as I can, understanding the operations, getting to know the staff, tapping into the knowledge that Joy (Joy Watkins, former CEO) is sharing, and then I will start meeting with stakeholders. You listen to people’s thoughts about the organization, what they perceive to be the strengths, weaknesses and opportunities, and then you chart the course.”

What are your goals for the Foundation?

“For me, the goal is to inspire and facilitate people’s charitable giving and to help nonprofits grow their endowments and determining the best way to do that. What will be my stamp on the Community Foundation to continue to help it evolve and grow? I’ll know that over time, and I’m looking forward to the journey.

For more information about the Community Foundation of North Florida, visit cfnf.org

BUSINESS Business

Human Trafficking: STAC Helps to Mobilize the Healthcare Community

BY ROBIN HASSLER THOMPSON

Healthcare professionals are on the front lines of identifying and assisting trafficking survivors. A survivor could be male or female, an adult or a child. They may have recently escaped a trafficking situation or could even be brought into an emergency department or clinic by the trafficker. Nurses and physicians may be the first and only people a survivor can see in private who could help. The need for healthcare professionals to understand how to identify and respond is great: in one study, almost 90 percent of trafficking survivors sought healthcare while being trafficked, almost 70 percent in emergency departments.

Every human trafficking survivor is different and has unique needs. These survivors, like all of us, need access to healthcare. Human trafficking survivors also may suffer injuries directly related to their trafficking situation. Consider this example based on what we know about how traffickers operate: “Josie,” a young woman from Guatemala, is enslaved on a North Florida farm, picking tomatoes. Like other agricultural workers, she lives in unsafe and dilapidated housing provided by the grower. Unlike her male co-workers, Josie often is sexually assaulted by the crew boss: he tells her that these visits to “the green motel” are mandatory if she wants to keep her job, which she does: even though the meager wages she receives (far less

than what she was promised) helps feed her family back home.

Josie has many potential healthcare needs:

• She comes from a very poor area and has never seen a doctor or a dentist. She’s never received vaccinations or any form of preventative medicine.

• Josie is routinely exposed to harmful chemicals and pesticides; she never gets protective gear like masks or gloves.

• She may have STIs associated with repeated rapes and she’s often threatened with harm if she tries to leave.

• Her abusive working conditions and life are highly traumatizing; she experiences nightmares and often is anxious and depressed.

• Josie suffers from poor nutrition, lacks regular access to clean water, is rarely allowed to wash her clothes, or bathe.

It is not unusual for female labor trafficking victims to also be sexually

assaulted, whether in farms and fields, like Josie, or in homes and hotels where they may be housekeepers. In this example alone, Josie has multiple actual and potential injuries and conditions that require coordinated attention from the healthcare sector.

There is good news that can help trafficking survivors like Josie, both statewide and locally. Florida laws require nurses to receive two hours of human trafficking training every two years, as a condition of licensure and a new law mandates one hour of human trafficking education for physicians and a broad array of providers from acupuncturists to physical therapists. These professionals also must post information including the National Human Trafficking Hotline 1-888-3737-888 in their offices. The Florida Medical Association and the Department of Health have online training and information about the topic, too.

Here in Tallahassee, The Survive and Thrive Advocacy Center (STAC) works with Tallahassee Primary Care Associates, Tallahassee Memorial Healthcare, the Leon County Health

Department, the Florida Department of Health and seven area County Health Departments. STAC has prioritized area healthcare training to help all members of the healthcare team to recognize human trafficking and safely respond to patients in the healthcare setting, especially since healthcare is a primary way to reach many who may be isolated, in our rural areas.

In the above example, STAC could help Josie if her nurse or physician contacts us. Josie may need legal help, she may want to report her trafficker to law enforcement, and she may need help with housing, clothing, food, and counseling. STAC coordinates with providers throughout our area to wrap-around services for trafficking survivors like Josie so she can begin to recover and heal.

Everyone – from businesses to the faith community, from law enforcement to the schools – should understand how to recognize possible and respond to human trafficking. Healthcare

providers, especially, can do much to assist survivors and help end trafficking in our community.

For more information:

• The National Human Trafficking Resource Center: humantraffickinghotline.org

• The Florida Department of Health’s human trafficking webpage: flhealthsource.gov/ humantrafficking including signage: flhealthsource.gov/ humantrafficking/docs/ HumanTraffickingPoster-All.pdf

• The Survive and Thrive Advocacy Center: surviveandthriveadvocacy.org

Robin Hassler Thompson, JD, MA, is the Executive Director of the Survive and Thrive Advocacy Center (STAC); STAC’s mission is to build awareness of all forms of sex and labor trafficking and to assist trafficking survivors.

robin@suriviveandthriveadvocacy.org and 850-597-2080.

Julio A. Sixto, DMD and Richard J-P Bastien, DMD

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Dr. Taylor was given the 2019 Florida Woman of Agriculture award by the Florida Commissioner of Agriculture. She was also recently awarded the 2019 Organic Pioneer award by The Rodale Institute (alongside the governor of Pennsylvania) for her life’s work helping to further the organic movement.

Gigi Rollini Gigi Rollini is a current Board Member of the National Association for Women Lawyers, past President of the Florida Association of Women Lawyers (2010-2011), past President of Tallahassee Women Lawyers (2009-2010) and currently serves on the board as the WE Network Chair. She is also a member of Club 25 Class of 2014 and serves as the Class of 2014 Liaison.

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Danielle Price is a graduate of the University of Central Florida. She earned her Master's in educational policy and evaluation at Florida State University, and her Education Specialist degree in educational leadership from the University of Arkansas, all before the age of 25. Danielle is a busy woman, devoting herself tirelessly to her full-time job as Director of Diversity and Inclusion at the Florida Department of Agriculture and Consumer Services, a successful parttime job as a realtor with Keller Williams Realty, and as an adjunct professor with Ashford University. She was recently promoted to Director of Diversity and Inclusion for the Florida Department of Agriculture and Consumer Services.

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Savings Greetings

BY MELISSA WRIGHT

‘Twas the night before Black Friday, and all through the house, after too much turkey consumption, the family could not function—not even their dog, Duncan. Momma was looking over her budget with care, while Daddy was watching football with great fanfare. Now, Narcissus! Now, Nicks! On, Kanvas and Kevin’s! To the mall, we go. Now shop away, shop away, shop away all!

As we enter the holiday season, people begin asking about financial tips for saving for the

holidays. When should you start to save? The easy answer is the sooner the better.

Consider these five tips I pulled from my personal playbook that may make your holiday season less financially stressful…I hope!

1. MAKE A LIST AND CHECK IT TWICE

In our digital world, we have access to great apps on our phones to help keep us organized. In January, I use the Note app on my iPhone to organize all my upcoming gift buying (birthday, anniversaries, etc…). I type in all the family members, friends and coworkers for whom I may buy a gift during the year, and when someone mentions something specific they would like, I document the idea under their name. So as the year progresses, I have ideas and can look for sales along the way.

Make good ol’ St. Nicholas proud—make a list and check it twice. Don’t go shopping without a list of who you are buying for and how much you want to spend.

2. SET A BUDGET

Yes, I said it: the dreaded B-word. Consider this: when you decided to buy your home, did you drive down the most expensive street or did you carefully consider the cost of the home and what you

could afford? Your gift buying throughout the year deserves that same consideration. Not only do I list who I want to buy for and for what occasion, but I also add the amounts I want to spend. That way, in January, I know how much I should save for my gift-giving desires.

Just like when I diet—which is all the time— writing down what I eat every day is the best way for me to lose weight. I’m held accountable— besides stepping on the dreaded scale, of course. It’s the same for the dreaded B-word. WRITE IT DOWN. Know what you want to spend and document that amount.

"Make good ol’ St. Nicholas proud make a list and check it twice"

START A SEPARATE SAVINGS ACCOUNT

The best way to save is by payroll deduction. Most of our employers allow us to direct deposit our paycheck, and most employers allow you to direct deposit to more than one account. Set up a Holiday savings account and payroll deduct the amount you budget for holiday gift buying. This is one of the easiest ways to save.

Just like with a payroll deduction for your 401k or health insurance, it’s out of sight, out of mind. Think of having a different account for a different expense, and once you set up the account for holiday saving, block it from online view. You do not want to see the money accumulating because we all know what happens when cash is available to spend.

4. USE GOOD OLD FASHION CASH

Yes, I said it: cash. Unfortunately, debit cards and credit cards are not your friends. They provide ease to spend and entice us with rewards points so it’s harder to know and control what we’re spending. Your budget for your

sister is $50, for example, but when you visit the store sweaters are two for $90. With a credit card or debit card, 90 percent of us would buy two and end up spending the extra $40.

When you’re using cash however, you have $50 to spend, so unless you really know who you would buy the other sweater for— and you budgeted $40 for them— you shouldn’t buy it. Some of us will find a reason to keep the sweater as a gift to ourselves but remember our main goal is to avoid having credit card debt we have to pay in January.

5. COUNT YOUR CHANGE!

One year my parents told me they were saving every five-dollar

bill they received as change from eating out, getting gas or shopping. With lots of discipline, they saved every five-dollar bill in a safe place at home, and by the end of the year, they had accumulated $2200. This is a great family challenge everyone can take part in for one year. Set your goals with your family and ask everyone to save their change, be it $5 or $10.

We cannot avoid the holiday season. Instead of hiding or stressing over the gift-giving season, remember it’s not what you spend; it’s truly the thought that counts. Mother Teresa said, “It’s not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving.”

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4TH GENERATION OF FLOWER ARTISANS

MISSY GUNNELS KANE

ELLIE GUNNELS

POLLY BROCK CARLSON

The team at Missy Gunnels Flowers is a professional group that comes from a long line of floral designers in Tallahassee. It all began around 1952 on Washington Street over by Lafayette Park.

Martha Carlson. the grandmother of Missy and Polly and great grandmother of Ellie, designed and produced wedding flowers for many of the citizens of Tallahassee and lots of Leon High prom and dance flowers. In 1960, one notable wedding comes to mind-Jane Collins, the daughter of then Govenor Leroy Collins, married John Aurell. The wedding was published in the October 1960 issue of Life Magazine. Missy’s mother, the uber talented Patty Carlson Roesch followed suit, working along side her mother, Martha, creating more beautiful party flowers and weddings for Tallahassee brides.

ago after a long career of visual merchandising and store design for Gayfers/ Mercantile Stores.

Her daughter, Ellie, the fourth generation also attended the school of Visual Arts at FSU, and after a retail management career with Ann Taylor, decided to join the family business of wedding and event flowers.

“Creating with flowers is definitely in their DNA!”

Missy, a visual arts graduate of Florida State, began creating event and wedding flowers about 25 years

Polly Carlson joined the team 8 years ago, proving that the family lineage of making beautiful flowers was a natural for her. Polly has three daughters, that most assuredly, one or more will provide the fifth generation of floral designers!

For the love of all things flowers, this dynamic team are full of fresh ideas and stylish dreams. They bring their passion to every flower arrangement and every event they design. They are inspired by sourcing flowers from all over the world and also from new regional small flower farms around the southeast.

Winter Wardrobe

STYLE Style

Cool weather fashion can be difficult to pull off for the Tallahassee Woman, especially when it comes to styling. It is always a hit or miss when it comes to the weather in the deep south—a cool morning can become a warm afternoon, back to a cool evening all in one day.

Ladies, you can own the season with a simple yet trendy piece of apparel that will rock this year's look with a comfortable and transitional outfit that’s timeless.

This season it's all about an ideal classic faux fur or faux suede jacket to create that one of a kind statement piece. Rich vibrant colors, snakeskin and cheetah prints are trending this season. This attractive piece can be worn over a blouse paired with distressed denim and heels for an elegant fit. It is a powerful piece of apparel and investment that won't break your bank account since it's very affordable, versatile and never goes out of style. These jackets paired with camies, dresses, and rompers for a casual dinner date to fabulous Christmas and New Year's parties. With all of these options, you can be sure your jacket will be worn more than once during the cooler months for years to come. The key is to find one that fits your style. By wearing an outfit with such taste and pairing it with simple jewelry you can be office-to-evening ready in your trendy jacket for a fashionable holiday look.

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“ Rich vibrant colors, snakeskin and cheetah prints are trending this season".

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AT CHÂTEAU ÉLAN WINERY & RESORT

by regina lynch-hudson photography by courtland bivens iii

Christmas celebrations don’t have to mean hanging your stocking at home. For a change of pace, pack a few special gifts along with holiday attire, and check into a resort that’s right under your nose.

That’s what we did! And, trust me, Old St. Nick still found us—snuggled up, at Château Élan Winery & Resort, (40 miles north of Atlanta), the most-awarded winery on the East Coast. Though the resort is situated roughly a 5 hour dash from Tallahassee, the environs are reminiscent of fairy-tale castles and chateaus in France’s wine country. The 3,500 acre panorama made for a magical and mythical spot to hang our hats for Christmas. Santa hats, that is!

Empty nesters, deserving twosomes, and frolicsome families, relish in the chance to forgo decking the halls and washing dishes—for an indulgent holiday where someone else does the cooking!

Christmas at Château Élan unfolds endless food options, delightful spa treatments, celebratory wines, golf outings — and gift cards tailored to suit your fancy! When the jolly guy in red made his list and checked

it twice, he must’ve assumed that I’d been good, because he rolled out the red carpet at Château Élan.

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As you drive through the gates of the 4.5 star Château Élan, you enter an idyllic that blends an expanse of bountiful woodlands and lush grapevines, along with splendorous interiors, waiting to be explored. The entry lobby flows with crackling fireplaces— to welcome guests to linger, and stay awhile. During the Christmas season, an ingeniously decorated wine tree, featuring bottles of Château Élan-brand spirits and corks, adorn the estate’s adjoining winery. The inn offers 275 deluxe guest rooms, 22 suites, a 1,832 square foot Presidential suite, and 1,333 square foot Governor’s suite — all festooned in grand French Estate style. A lavish bathroom with oversized tub and shower, a 32” flat screen television, and a mini-fridge, create a comfy Yuletide haven.

From the moment I slung open the doors to my opulent suite and leaped into the massive sleigh of a bed, I knew that visions of sugarplums would dance in my head. The only item we needed to bring was mistletoe!

With 7 restaurants on-site, you’ll feel like a kid in a candy palace. Versailles’ menu offers American cuisine with modern flair, featuring both a gourmet buffet and a fixed menu. ( The legendary ‘Christmas Day Feast’ at Versailles elevates the term ‘buffet.’) Marc Bar & Restaurant is a Southern-inspired bar and chophouse, showcasing premium aged steaks and a carefully curated array of handcrafted libations. Paddy’s Irish Pub serves up traditional Irish dinners along with live music. Fleur-de-Lis at Château Élan Spa will tempt your taste buds with wholesome, healthy spa fare. If you’re in the mood for grilled meats, sandwiches, and salads in a relaxed setting with big screens TVs, Sarazen's Bar & Grille will suit your fancy. Le Soleil Pool Bar, the

chic poolside watering hole, provides more salads, sandwiches, and cocktails. Located on the main level of the Chateau Elan Inn, Louis’ House of Bourbon is a cosmopolitan sports bar, pouring the finest of cocktails in a stunningly sophisticated setting. You’ll leave feeling merry when you pair the inn’s cuisine with Chateau Elan’s finest estate bottled wines.

I arrived at the Spa at Chateau Élan with bells on, eager to partake in an Antioxidant Soak & Château Essential Massage! The pampering commenced with an intoxicating neck-deep wine bath in a massive hydro-tub. A soothing body massage followed, making the perfect ending to an unforgettable holiday hiatus.

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Wine Tree - Chateau Elan

Spa Day

TRAVEL

Whether you’re a guest at the inn or not, the ideal stocking stuffer (or gift-toself) is an overnight Spa Rejuvenation Package, consisting of dinner, breakfast and two signature services. Or, if you’ve been really good, the Ultimate Indulgence Package includes five nights in a sumptuous Spa suite with daily breakfast, lunch, and dinner included. chateauelan.com/menu-spa/

Note: The resort has undergone a $25 million design renovation since some photos were captured.

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Château Élan

Fleur-de-Lis at Château Élan Spa

Fleur-de-Lis at Château Élan Spa Food

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WELLNESS Wellness

TMAINTAINING A HEALTHY

Life Style

BY LISA DAVIS

he holidays can be a challenging time to maintain a healthy lifestyle. We don’t want to gain the dreaded extra pounds, but we also want to enjoy parties and family gatherings.

Through mindfulness, planning ahead and making wise choices, we can look and feel our best while indulging occasionally.

Plan for your inevitable “off” moments with responsible choices leading up to it. Get up early and

workout in whatever form that looks likes for you, be it the gym, a run or a walk. Have a protein smoothie or a lighter breakfast and lunch, saving the extra calories for the party, but without the guilt.

A hungry stomach tends to cause poor decisions, so eat a snack before attending any gathering. Make well-balanced choices upon arrival, filling up your plate with the raw veggies and other healthier options first. Not sure if there will be healthy options available? Bring them as your contribution to the event. Our

empty calories often come in the form of what we drink, as opposed to what we eat. Try bringing your own low-calorie, low-sugar mixers for your cocktails.

Lastly, failed to plan ahead? Jump right back on the wagon. Went a little overboard? Avoid allowing a bad meal to turn into a bad day, then a bad week, then a bad season. Healthy people are mindful of (what can be a) destructive pattern. Don’t over (think) it—just recognize the misstep and correct it on the next meal!

WOMEN AND MENTAL HEALTH

Leading the Field

Something extraordinary is happening in the field of mental health treatment in Florida: After years of stigma and misunderstanding, the public discussion of mental health issues is suddenly blossoming. In the press, on TV, in the legislature, and around dinner tables, what was once a taboo subject has become a topic of fascination. For those of us who have worked in the field for decades, this sea change is an amazing and welcome shift – one that is leading to new awareness, reduced barriers, and ultimately to a much better mental health for the community. Why here? Why now? Many point to the tragedy of the Parkland shootings and other killings – while those working in this field know that individuals with mental illness are much more likely to be victims of violence than its perpetrators.

I have another explanation – the

growing presence of women in leadership roles. In the state of Florida, First Lady Casey DeSantis and AHCA Secretary Mary Mayhew have become the champions for expanded access to quality mental health treatment. This has led to unprecedented cooperation across all branches of State government and a sense of urgency and mission for those of us in the field to make our delivery better and make it count. These two extraordinarily articulate and committed women are leading the way, but their example is echoed in our own community: In the championship of Representative Loranne Ausley for improved early childhood mental healthcare; in Courtney Atkins and Whole Child Leon’s pioneering Pediatric Navigator program; in the extraordinary leadership of Nancy O’Farrell, the Chair of the Tallahassee Chapter of the National

BY DR. JAY REEVE

Alliance for Mental Illness and Cindy Foster, President of NAMI Florida; in the pioneering work of Professor Heather Flynn at the FSU College of Medicine; in the effective and gracious leadership of Sue Conger, the Chief of Operations at Apalachee Center; and of course, in Dr. Michelle Mitcham’s leadership of Tallahassee Woman magazine and their new emphasis on mental health. It’s no accident that the directors of the three acute inpatient psychiatric units in this region (Jackie Beck at Apalachee Center; Heather Lincicome at Tallahassee Memorial Behavioral Health Center; and Fiona Hall at Capital Regional Medical Center) are all accomplished women doing very, very tough jobs. When I look at the renaissance of mental health discussion and sophistication in Florida, and in this region particularly, it's clear to me that one of the major drivers is a group of women in leadership roles who are changing the world of mental health for the better.

Dr. Reeve is President and Chief Executive Officer of Apalachee Center, a not-forprofit behavioral health center serving Florida’s Big Bend region. Dr. Reeve is the chair of the Florida Council for Behavioral Health and the ABC Campaign.

Jennifer Powell

CO-PARENTING AFTER DIVORCE

How to be a United Front: Co-parenting Strategies

DR. MICHELLE A. MITCHAM, LMHC, NCC, CCMHC, CFM

FAMILY Family

Divorce is real. All too often, the negative effects go beyond the husband and wife. Do you know any children "caught in the middle" of a bitter divorce or separation? Maybe you know someone that is going through an intense, hostile, angry divorce that has children and you worry about how the divorce is affecting them. When we take a closer look, divorce and separation are becoming a normative event in American society and elsewhere. Nearly half of all marriages end in divorce. The probability of the demise of a first marriage within 5 years is 20%, increasing to nearly 33% after 10 years. Additionally, the length of a first marriage is short lived, averaging approximately 8 years. What about the children? How does this affect them?

Children Caught in the Middle

The breakdown of a marriage, and ultimately the process of separation and divorce, has damaging effects on the parents as well as the children involved. Often, individuals who were once committed to stable, loving relationships find themselves in the middle of divorce engaging in highly-conflicted behaviors of fighting, hostility and blame. The impact of high conflict divorce on children can be devastating, traumatic, and extremely stressful.

Characteristics that typically define highconflict divorce involve a lack of trust between parents, elevated anger levels, seeing things in black or white—all or none thinking, and a willingness to perpetuate a cycle of litigation. We see examples of this played out on television, in movies, bestselling books, the internet, talk shows and even on the news. Perhaps you recall a very well known actor that once left a scathing message on the answering machine for his daughter that was clearly a case of high conflict divorce. The child was “caught in

the middle” of all the parental drama. We all know someone who is or has experienced a high-conflict divorce that put their children in the middle of the conflict, whether they knew it or not. What I mean by that is, the parents, while embroiled in their anger, oftentimes, inappropriately confide in their children regarding the break up, details of child support, unnecessary stories of the other parent’s character flaws, infidelities, court documents, financial information about assets and so much more.

Furthermore, parents experiencing this extreme hostility toward one another, oftentimes, engage in behaviors that negatively affect the children and diminish the relationship between them. In my work as a family mediator and specifically, as a Parenting Coordinator, I observed numerous high-conflict cases that needed an immediate intervention to help parents with conflict resolution skills, effective communication, learning “a new dance” and transitioning into being co-parents. As a former Parenting Coordinator, I was assigned to work with court-ordered high-conflict separation and divorce cases involving children. What amazed me was how many parents had limited awareness and minimal understanding regarding the effects of their high-conflict behavior on the children. Perhaps you’ve heard of the parent that instructed their child to “ask your daddy when he will pay the child support”, or “tell your mother I don’t have any more money to give”, or “you would have what you needed if your other parent didn’t spend it on that new car”, or “you can’t see your other parent on that day according to the court order and the judge; if you don’t believe me, read it yourself”. Sadly, this type of behavior is all too common in high-conflict separation and divorce.

Children can survive divorce. However, they cannot survive unaffected by the extreme, chronic conflict and toxic fighting that occurs between parents in an emotionallycharged divorce. The level and intensity of conflict between parents during marriage is a very good indicator of the level and type of conflict that will ensue after the divorce, unless the parents learn how to be co-parents and NOT put the children in the middle.

Ten tips to becoming effective CoParents and taking children “out of the middle”.

1. Do not discuss the adult and court issues such as child support and the contact schedule and other issues about the divorce with the children.

2. If you need someone to lean on, call a friend, pastor, relative, or seek professional help during this difficult time from a mental health professional; not confiding in children.

3. Promote the relevance of the other parent to the child; both parents are the center of the child’s life and the child needs a relationship with each. Do not discuss the flaws or shortcomings of the other parent with the child.

4. Do not send messages to other parent through the children.

5. Do not ask your child to keep secrets about their activities at your home; children naturally want to discuss their world with both parents.

6. Allow your children to take their personal belongings with them when they visit the other parent.

7. Allow your children access to other parent (telephone, cell, email) and don’t monitor their conversations with the other parent.

8. Communicate through a parent notebook or weekly email to other parent with latest news, school updates, and vacations. (This reduces conflicts and misunderstandings).

9. Attend school functions, celebrations, sports events, etc…and be cordial to other parent- this teaches your children how to get along despite your differences. It shows them how important they are and lastly, shows them that even though the love between their parents has changed, the love for them is constant and unwavering.

10. BE A UNITED FRONT. Show your children that you both care enough about them to be co-parents; to discuss their welfare, school, events, holidays and through your behaviors support them, encourage them and be on the same page. Children’s best interests must come FIRST.

FOOD Food

Zing’s Sweet Treats

‘Tis the season for creating decadent cakes, pies and cookies. Treat your family and friends to these divine desserts by following these celebrated recipes that will not disappoint.

HOLIDAY RED VELVET CRINKLE COOKIES

INGREDIENTS

2¼ cups all-purpose flour

3 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder, sifted

3 teaspoons baking powder

1 (8 oz) package cream cheese, softened

½ cup (1 stick) unsalted butter, softened

¾ granulated sugar

¾ cup light brown sugar

1½ tablespoon pure vanilla extract

1 teaspoon strong red food coloring

1 teaspoon kosher salt

1 large egg plus 1 large egg yolk

1 cup confectioners’/icing sugar, sifted for rolling & dusting cookies

DIRECTIONS

1. In a medium bowl, whisk together sifted flour, cocoa, salt and baking powder until well blended. Set aside.

2. Using an electric stand mixer fitted with paddle attachment, or a hand-held electric mixer, cream together cream cheese and butter until well blended, creamy and smooth.

3. Beat in sugars, vanilla, red food coloring; mix until well combined, light and fluffy, scraping the bowl with a rubber spatula when necessary.

4. Add egg and egg yolk and beat in well until creamy and light, about 2 to 3 minutes on medium speed.

5. On low speed, gradually add flour mixture; mix until just fully incorporated. Dough will be very sticky. Cover work bowl and refrigerate at least 2 hours or overnight

6. When ready, preheat oven to 325ºF (165ºC). Line two baking sheets with parchment paper and place confectioners’ sugar in a small bowl; set both aside.

7. Measure enough dough to roll into generous 1-inch (2.5 cm) balls, making sure each scoopful is in equal amounts. This is important for evenly baked cookies.

8. Bake in preheated oven until cookies have spread into round cookie shapes and are puffed and crackly, about 12 minutes. Do not over bake. The cookies will still be soft in the centers. If they start to brown around the edges, they have baked too long. The underside of the cookies should be only very lightly browned.

9. Allow cookies to cool until you’re able to move carefully with a spatula without breaking. Once completely cooled, transfer cookies to an airtight container. Repeat with remaining dough on prepared cookie sheets.

Yield: Makes about 2½ dozen cookies.

MOIST FALL PUMPKIN SPICE CAKE

INGREDIENTS

1 1/3 cups all-purpose flour, sifted

¾ teaspoon baking soda

2 teaspoons pumpkin spice

1 teaspoon baking powder

1 teaspoon kosher salt

¾ cup light brown sugar

3 large eggs

1 1/4 cup raw or canned 100% pumpkin

½ cup (1 stick) unsalted butter, melted

2 tablespoons vegetable oil, any light tasting oil

2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract

DIRECTIONS

1. Preheat oven to 325ºF (165ºC). Coat two 6 inch round pans with oil/butter and flour. Line the bottom of pans with parchment paper; set pans aside.

2. Melt your butter and combine it with your oil; set aside to cool to room temperature.

3. Combine sifted flour, baking soda, pumpkin spice, baking powder, salt, and brown sugar in a medium mixing bowl and whisk to combine.

4. With your hand mixer, combine eggs one at a time, blending until loosely combined after each egg.

5. Add your remaining ingredients and beat on low with your hand mixer until slightly incorporated; finish mixing until fully incorporated with a rubber spatula by hand.

6. Pour into prepared pans, careful to make sure each pan is filled with equal amounts of batter.

7. Bake for 25 minutes, or until an inserted toothpick comes out covered in crumbs. You do not want to over bake.

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BELIEVE

“No matter what in life you strive to achieve, You must have faith in yourself and believe.

Believe that the limit is as high as the sky, Believe that your goals are obtainable. All you have to do is try.

Believe you can do whatever you choose, Believe that with some things you will win, And there will be times you will lose.

Believe that you have a unique gift. Believe that when you go through trials, All that you will need is a helpful lift.

Believe you can be a success, Believe that your accomplishments, May sometimes be slow in progress.

Believe that sometimes you will make mistakes, Believe that if you learn from them, They will reflect future decisions you make.

Believe it’s okay to be weak or fail, Believe that if the going gets tough. There will be time for you to exhale.

Believe that you are truly one of a kind, Believe that you are special, With an open heart and broad mind.

Believe that GOD hears you when you pray, Believe that he will love and assist you. With obstacles or when others turn you away.

Believe that at times you will feel down, Believe that faith, trust, and courage, Will give you strength to turn things around.

Believe that sometimes there will be doubt, Believe that as long as there is hope, That there’s always a way out.

BY REGINA SHAW

Believe that you are different and wonderful too, And there is nothing as precious as your BELIEF IN YOU!!!”

Written by Regina Shaloris Shaw