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My entire life, I have loved books. Not just fiction, but non-fiction, history, picture books, children’s books—I love them all. I’ve been drawn to the printed word for as long as I can remember. As a child, my mother would take me to all the area libraries—Ponca City, Blackwell, Tonkawa. We didn’t have a library in my small hometown, so visiting one out of town was always a treat. I would check out funny books like Amelia Bedelia, which I found so entertaining and silly. Just as an example—Amelia Bedelia once planted lightbulbs instead of flower bulbs into clay flowerpots. I mean, to a kid, that was hilarious! As I got older, I would dive deeper into the library, searching through old books to what sort of forgotten history I could find.

As I grew, my love for books only deepened. They allowed me to peek into other worlds, into other people’s lives, and introduced me to ideas that stretched my understanding of what was possible. Fiction made me laugh and cry, while non-fiction transported me into the past, introduced me to bold leaders, and taught me fascinating new concepts.

Books have always felt like a sort of friend to me. Someone who is always there if I need an escape from the craziness of life. I can still picture myself curled up in a quiet corner of the library, surrounded by the smell of old paper, feeling like I had stumbled upon a secret treasure trove just waiting to be discovered.

Even now, I’m drawn to that same magic. I’ve mainly switched to audio books, but I listen to audio books whenever I can, and it’s one of my favorite hobbies. One of my sons, just in the last few months, has been bitten by the reading bug. He stays up late reading and takes his books with him wherever he goes, just in case he finds a spare moment to read

another chapter. Watching him fall in love with reading—just as I did at his age—has been pure joy.

When I visit our local Ponca City library today, I’m reminded of that little girl who could hardly wait for her next library trip, who would spend hours browsing the library shelves that towered over me to find just the right book to take home. Books shaped who I am, and they continue to guide me, inspire me, and remind me of the power of stories. I am so grateful to my mother for taking me to the library and for reading to me, which instilled a love of reading in me.

At the end of the day, my love for books is so much more than just a love of the printed word. A love of reading is a love for stories, for people, for connection. It’s the same reason this magazine is more than just a printed publication. It represents a community of people who care about each other and who are in this thing together, and that – my friends – is why my team here at Ponca City Monthly magazine, loves what we do. Because it brings our community together.

P.S. October is National Book Month, and I encourage you to support your local libraries and shop at locally owned bookstores (Brace Books in Ponca City is one of my favorites!). Happy Reading!

editor@poncacitymonthly.com

Local Soroptimist Ponca City Group Celebrates 75th Anniversary

A global volunteer organization that provides women and girls with access to the education and training they need to achieve economic empowerment.

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Mayor Kelsey Wagner presented a proclamation to the Soroptimist International of Ponca City in celebration of their 75th anniversary during the Sept. 8 Ponca City Board of Commissioners meeting.

The proclamation recognizes the many contributions to the community by the group to economically empower women and girls through access to education by disbursing over 160 Soroptimist Live Your Dream cash awards to local women. The awards are to help them get the education and training they need to improve their employment prospects and economic standing. Also they have conducted 10 Soroptimist Dream It, Be It events that have put 400 local eighth-grade girls on the path toward achieving their career goals; inspiring seventh-grade girls over the past three years with program presentations by professional women; donating numerous items

to West Middle School as a PIE Partner; and providing service to New Emergency Resource Agency, Living Hope Pregnancy Center, Survivor Resource Network and local Scouting America troops.

In 1921, one year after women won the right to vote, the first Soroptimist club was founded in Oakland, California. At the time, women were not permitted to join the all-

Contributed by Kathy Tippin

These girls completed the SIPC Dream, It Be It Program during the luncheon with professional women. Each girl attending received a certificate and Dream It, Be It Bracelet.

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male civic groups, but their desire was to work toward strengthening their community.

Their first Oakland Soroptimist Club project was to “Save the Redwoods,” the great ancient trees which were being felled. The club lobbied the legislature, taking on powerful lumber companies and winning public support, resulting in a major portion of the forest being set aside as protected land that still exists today.

Their vision was “to ensure that women and girls have an equal voice in creating strong and peaceful communities, now and in the future.” The

Soroptimist name was coined from the Latin words “soror” meaning sister and “optima” meaning best, so Soroptimist is perhaps best interpreted as “the best for women.”

On Jan. 21, 1950, 25 Ponca City women were charter members for the Soroptimist Club of Ponca City (SIPC) in support of the vision. Times were different coming out of World War II, but these women saw a need in the local community to support women and girls.

As the local club celebrates its 75th anniversary, SIPC members continue to play an active role in Ponca City. Using their respective talents and energy, members make time in their busy lives to give back to our local and surrounding communities making a difference for women and girls in our part of Oklahoma.

SIA programs that have evolved over the 75 years and continue to be major focuses of SIPC include Live Your Dream Awards (usually given to a single head of household to help her further her education to support her family), Senior Girls Scholarship (a cash award presented to her organization of choice and to the young woman) and the Ruby Award (recognition of a woman who has given volunteer hours to make a difference and a cash

donation to the organization of the recipient’s choice).

For 25 years, a major local project was to raise awareness of Breast Cancer through an annual banquet spreading information about breast cancer, supporting programs for women to get mammograms, celebrating survivors through annual banquets and more.

Ten years ago, SIPC started the Dream It, Be It (DIBI) program for Ponca City eighth-grade girls as a goal to help girls grow up to be strong, successful, happy adults. DIBI targets girls in secondary school who face obstacles to their future success by providing girls with access to professional role models, career education and the resources to live their dreams. Selected by their teachers, 40 eighth-grade girls participate in four sessions covering manners, appearance, job interviewing and personal behavior, and conclude with a luncheon focusing on careers for women with local professional women role models. At the final luncheon, the girls are each given an opportunity to meet with professional women in three different fields, told a little about what is involved in the career and encouraged to ask questions.

For information on the local Soroptimist club and how you can make a difference locally and throughout the world, contact President Kathy Tippin at 580-716-9015.PCM

New officers for 2025-2026 from left are Cindy Wigley, treasurer; Lilly Freeman, secretary; Lisa Eisele, director; Wendy Burg, vice-president, and Kathy Tippin, president. Not pictured is Jennifer Wehrenberg. director.

SIPC member Cindy Wigley, right, delivered backpacks and small bags to the Po-Hi counselors. Pictured from left are counselors Steve Glazier, Devin Backhaus, Bridget Kreisel, and Kathy Orr.

SIPC President Lilly Freeman, right, presents our club’s Live Your Dream Award to Brandy Gober.

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A Partnership Sealed With Worship: First United Methodist and First Presbyterian Churches

Story by Marlys Cervantes | Staff Writer

Congregations from First United Methodist and First Presbyterian churches have been in partnership for over a year now, meeting at the FUMC building at 200 S. 6th Street in Ponca City, and they renewed their Memorandum of Understanding to continue with the combining of people into one faith family. It’s a first in the desire to continue to worship and serve together while maintaining their separate identities. However, recently, some new members have indicated they would rather not choose between one or the other, already feeling that “one faith, one family” concept Pastor Leon Veazey discusses.

Pastor Veazey mentions that it is primarily due to required denominational statistics that the boundaries and restrictions exist and maintain “separate polity systems and denominational alignments.” He continues, “After more than a year, the partnership seems to be a natural fit. It is difficult to remember how we were before we were together. The worship services and fellowship events are more like one big, happy family than two separate churches coexisting.

Our nonadministrative committees are merged with members of both congregations serving together in mission.”

Frankly, missions seem to be an area where most are extremely pleased. Kerry Ebbert, a member of the Presbyterian Session and coordinator of the Coryell Cupboard ministry says, “The biggest blessing from our partnership is obviously our ability to do more together than we could ever do apart.” He, like many others, believes the partnership rejuvenated both congregations as they became one. Coryell Cupboard is open on Tuesdays from 8-10 a.m. and 4-6 p.m., and community members can receive a wide variety of necessities like hygiene and sanitation products. Pastor Veazey notes that this ministry increased from serving 77 households before moving to the new location to most recently

310. The combined efforts of resources and volunteers from both congregations, as well as community donations, have made the growth possible. Ebbert’s data shows that 2024 had a 100% increase in number of shoppers served, and the first 6 months of 2025 show an increase of 124% over 2024. The need is real, and this is an area where donations and volunteers will continue to be required to meet the vast needs of the community.

“May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had.” ~ Romans 15:5

Pastor Leon Veazey

Other ministries have been important as well. This past summer the church hosted Project Transformation, an eight-week reading camp for elementary students. The camp—one of six locations in the state—was a success, and data from the state show 260 children were served, with 98% at least retaining their current level of reading (which is shown to go down over the summer if students do not continue to read), and 84% achieving an increased reading level.

A few other ongoing ministries are United Women of Faith, Friendship Feast and the Mission Baskets ministry, where items are donated for Child Development Center, Living Hope, the Mission, NERA, Survivor Resource Network and items are collected for Ponca City nursing home at Christmas time. Mary Ann Holt, coordinator of this ministry, says, “Together, our blessings make a difference!”

Outreach in areas of Sunday School and Wednesday evening activities have grown as well. Due to growth in younger members and visitors, children, youth and adults have Sunday school classes at 9 a.m. prior to the Worship Service at 10 a.m. In addition, there is Children’s Church that younger children are dismissed to after worship service begins. A church nursery is now open regularly as well for infants and toddlers.

Dawn Spaulding, where they learn, sing and do crafts until time for the evening meal at 5:15 p.m. All ages are invited to eat, and then groups split out at 6 p.m. for different studies, with one for children, for youth and a few for adults.

Both the children’s programs and the youth program have grown significantly over the last year. Alana White is the new Youth Director, and the youth meet on Wednesday evenings after the meal and Sundays from 4-6 p.m., with other activities scheduled as well. White and other youth volunteers like Ebbert look forward to creating a safe place for the group to meet and enjoy fellowship.

Each area of the church, with different ages and interests, has grown in ways the leaders at each church could only hope for. Gay Norris, Clerk of the Presbyterian Session, says, “I never imagined that our journey of combining our congregations would be so seamless and so joyful. What we found was a family. Some old acquaintances. Lots of new friends. But all family.” Council Chair for FUMC, Teri Harris, agrees: “After all the unknowns, I think the actual gathering together was easier than expected. The belief structure of the two churches is so similar that the transition was smooth.”

Coryell Cupboard is open on Tuesdays from 8-10 a.m. and 4-6 p.m., and community members can receive a wide variety of necessities like hygiene and sanitation products. Pastor Veazey notes that this ministry increased from serving 77 households before moving to the new location to most recently 310.

“The term partnership, which is defined by multiple stand-alone entities, is slowly fading as we begin to feel like one regardless of any legal documents.”

On Wednesday evenings during the school year, the church hosts Wednesday Night Live. Elementary children come straight from school for JAM (Jesus and Me), coordinated by the Children’s Director,

All agree that some of the ministries could never have grown as they have if the two had remained separate. After a year of partnership, Harris said the only change made in the MOU was some clarification of managing finances of shared ministries. Continuing is overwhelmingly supported by both congregations. Norris goes further, saying,

The new energy found in this faith family continues to grow as the community has started to see the expanded offerings for all ages, and the congregation continues to look for meaningful ways to serve the community. Both the FPC Session and FUMC Council have approved hosting the Bridges Out of Poverty initiative beginning in the community in January 2026. Numerous individuals and agencies have already begun the work organizing the project. Pastor Veazey says, “They have given us the privilege of opening our doors to host the 20-week small group sessions in empowering underserved people in our community to end cycles that continue economic oppression.” Much like the Project Transformation camp that required numerous people and resources, this will as well, but the people in this church and community are giving individuals.

The truth remains, “many denominational churches are struggling to survive in our state and beyond,” Pastor Veazey explains. Some have begun to ask how they can accomplish a partnership like the one between First United Methodist and First Presbyterian churches in Ponca City, Oklahoma. Veazey says, “The partnership serves as a model that can be duplicated many times over to give churches new life and empower communities to grow spiritually and otherwise because of revitalized churches.”

If you are interested in finding out how you can become part of this faith family, or volunteer or donate to any of the ministries and programs, please contact the church office at 580-762-1681 or visit with Pastor Leon Veazey. The journey is that of worship and service to the community. One faith, one family.PCM

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On a warm August evening, former Senator Don Nickles returned to Ponca City for a Po-Hi Alumni Hall of Fame event. Nickles says, “It’s always good to be here.”

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Don Nickles: More Than a Nickles’ Worth of Altruism and Service

Story by Marlys Cervantes | Staff Writer

A member of the first Alumni Hall of Fame class in 2017, Nickles expresses how much Ponca City and the people here affected his life overall. From a family that has been ingrained in the local society and economy since his grandfather first opened Nickles Machine Shop in 1918—which grew into Nickles Machine Corporation and then Nickles Industrial Manufacturing Corporation— Don has always felt those in the community as a powerful presence determining who he is today.

After Nickles’s father died when he was in 7th grade, local educator Paul Ingersol became a mentor and then friend to Nickles. He served as his 10th grade Social Studies teacher, developing in him an interest in government, and later even served as the best man at his wedding. Nickles feels blessed to have had Ingersol’s guidance and friendship in his younger years and returned to deliver the eulogy at Ingersol’s funeral in 2020.

Others who also served as mentors during his high school years were coaches. They taught him commitment and perseverance; while also putting forward standards that led to his not cussing (he was benched by coach Bill Currens during a football game against Guymon—yes, he remembers exactly when this happened) and not smoking (he has lost several family members from smoking-related cancers).

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Nickles with Marlys and Jose Cervantes

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Bynum goes on to explain that Nickles showed him people can be “kind and still be strong.”

Strength wrapped in kindness and compassion seems to be a solid trait of the former senator, who explained his hardest challenge dealt with a vote on a Farm Bill that he knew would be positive in many ways for farmers but had other elements he could not support. It still weighs on his mind as he thinks back on his career.

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years of service in the U.S. Senate, when he was the youngest Oklahoman elected. He was also the first Oklahoman elected to a fourth term. His career led him to serve as the first Oklahoman to chair the budget committee, and he served as the only Oklahoman elected as Republican majority whip, which is the second-ranking party member in the Senate.

Others like Oklahoma senator Norman Lamb from the 19th district helped mold Nickles’ faith when he invited him to be part of a Bible study he held weekly. The study, which included a group of legislators, allowed Don’s faith to grow in a way that included his approach to his work in politics. Nickles has even developed “Senator Nickles’ Seven Steps to a More Productive Life,” which he now shares with others when he has speaking engagements. He emphasizes that people should exercise both their bodies and their faith.

His impact on others is one of compassion. He’s been supported and wants to do the same for others. When asked by emcee and high school friend Larry Murphy what his easiest and most difficult challenges have been, he immediately said the easiest was marrying Linda (they were married for 53 years before he lost her in 2022). High school sweethearts who married when sophomores in college, the two shared four children and 12 grandchildren. It was a loving partnership that served him and his children well during his busy life in politics. Family always came first, and Linda helped make that possible.

Just as like-minded politicians who became friends helped Nickles early in his career, he has always done so for others. In a letter written by former Tulsa mayor G.T. Bynum, he expresses eternal gratitude to his “first boss out of college.” Bynum says, “He taught me the importance of being able to disagree without being disagreeable—that if you resort to attacking someone’s

“Principles and Perseverance: The Life of Don Nickles” is a biography about Nickles written by Bob Burke and Ryan Leonard and published in 2020. It includes a forward by The Honorable Robert J. “Bob” Dole. Dole closes his thoughts with, “Don’s character, integrity, and loyalty defined his

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The Bob Nickles family in 1957. Front row, left to right, Bob, Coeweene, Carol, and Doug. Back row, Clark, Jim and Don.

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Senate tenure and continue to define him today.” He calls him “a trusted colleague and good friend” (Burke and Leonard).

When Nickles retired from public service, he founded The Nickles Group to use his and his partner’s vast knowledge of policy and successful strategies in order to assist clients to meet their challenges. Nickles says, “In establishing a political consulting firm, I wanted to be not only successful, but also significant” (Burke and Leonard page 298). Clientele include both businesses and nonprofits as the team works to meet their individual needs.

Burke and Leonard’s biography ends with the transcript of several speeches given by Nickles during his tenure in the U.S. Senate, such as ones providing comfort to the people of Oklahoma after the Oklahoma City bombing in 1995 and the OSU plane crash in 2001. The final speech is his farewell to those in the Senate in 2004 as he prepared to retire. This speech recounted thanks to many of those who had worked alongside him during his tenure and reflected on many bills that were passed that brought him satisfaction in the

job he had done representing those he served: “I have always been proud to be called a Senator and I have always been proud to represent my State and my country. To me, it represents a shining city on a hill, and a true beacon of democracy for the free world which has stood for more than 200 years” (Nickles quote in biography page 359). Don always wanted others to know someone was fighting for them.

Ponca City mayor Kelsey Wagner declared Aug. 8 “Thank You Don Nickles Day” at the fundraising event that evening, reading a proclamation that highlighted many of his achievements and what he has meant to this community. Nickles says, “Ponca City was such a special place to grow up.” The large, enthusiastic crowd at the fundraising event indicated just how much he continues to mean to those in this community.

With a strong work ethic and solid family values, Nickles has always felt like-minded with his constituents in this area. His service has been draped in compassion—solid altruism— and shows that the kindness of one individual can make a difference in the lives of those around them. Former U.S. Senator Don Nickles continues to be beloved by the community which supported him through times of growth and loss, a community filled with citizens who have felt the very same from him. PCM

“I have always been proud to be called a Senator and I have always been proud to represent my State and my country. To me, it represents a shining city on a hill, and a true beacon of democracy for the free world which has stood for more than 200 years”

(Nickles quote in biography page 359).

Don and Linda in the Nation’s capital in 2002.

Amazingly Local, Amazingly Good Amazing Graze Serves Love in Every Bite

Story by Chelsea McConnell | Staff Writer

Walking into Amazing Graze is like walking into a bright, delicious hug. Customers are instantly greeted with the delightful smell of freshly-baked goods. The space is adorably decorated with creative touches added by owner Shelly Olsen. It features a whimsical mural by local artist Red Dirt Rosie that can’t help but make one smile.

Amazing Graze specializes in homemade cookies and charcuterie boxes. They also cater these items for special events like weddings and other celebrations. The storefront is located at 1904 Jane Street in Ponca City. It’s tucked into the east side of the Hartford Shopping Center. Shelly owns and runs the business alongside her husband Greg. Their son Trystan is the lead baker, and his wife Emma runs the retail side of things. Also on staff are Cheryl Suiter, Rylee Littrell, Chayce Hendrix, Gaby Welch, Buffy Friend and Maddie Frost.

Olsen started baking out of her home in 2022 as a side job. At the time, she was also working as a teacher. After a short period of time, she was encouraged to attend our local Farmer’s

Market and sell her baked goods there. When her son got married in 2023, Olsen created a huge charcuterie grazing table for that event and knew she had happened upon an idea that would be a good fit in our community. She has always enjoyed helping people with their big days and has planned many weddings, so bringing her cooking skills into the catering world felt like a natural progression.

For the last few years, Olsen has been baking out of her home with her Cottage License and working out of the professional

kitchen at the Renfro Center for the grazing side of the business. As the business grew, it became clear that Amazing Graze needed their own space where the two arms of the company could come together. When the space in the Hartford Shopping Center opened up, Olsen was excited to make it her own.

Amazing Graze offers up a unique variety of items with the menu changing each week in order to keep things new and exciting. On the sweet side, they offer six different kinds of cookies. They are massive! They also have a variety of other baked goods each week like cupcakes, brownies, mini bundt cakes and more. A super fun addition to the menu is their soft-serve ice cream. They keep two flavors available and these change weekly as well. Shelly says the ice cream offerings are really going to ramp up over the holidays when they will have some really overthe-top treats available.

The other popular offering is the graze boxes. These are made to order when a customer calls or comes in. There are a few sizes to choose from and the customer gets to decide what goes in their box. The sandwich and dip offer change weekly. Additional items available include a variety of fruits, vegetables, nuts, crackers, honey sticks and more. These boxes are totally customizable and are great for corporate meetings or other events when lunches need to be brought on-site. Olsen adds that they can also accommodate special requests if given advanced notice.

When asked where her love of baking comes from, Olsen credits hours spent in the kitchen with her “Mema” baking. Her grandmother always welcomed her grandkids into the kitchen and encouraged them to help her bake. Amazing Graze has incorporated several family recipes into their repertoire today, including recipes from Olsen’s Mema, Greg’s mom and Emma’s mom.

In addition to the baked goods and the graze boxes, the shop also features a small selection of locally made items and gift items for sale. When picking up sweet treats for a celebration, customers can also find cute candles, plates, napkins and greeting cards to go along with their order. Amazing Graze is also carrying Swig Life cups and coolies.

“I read something that says, ‘what a blessing to be so exhausted from something that you prayed for’ and that’s how I feel. We’re exhausted, but we’re also very, very blessed.”

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Making Ends Meet

In addition to all the offerings available when you walk into the store, Amazing Graze caters events and takes special orders as well. As far as charcuterie, they offer grazing boxes, boards and tables depending on the size of the event. As far as sweets, they have 14 different cookie flavors that can be ordered in standard size or the larger size they sell in the shop. They also offer cookie cakes, stackable wedding cakes and cupcakes. By year-end, they will have catered around 40 weddings and events.

Olsen has also partnered with Pioneer Technology Center to offer some cookie and charcuterie making classes. She first taught classes in the spring of 2025 and will be back at PTC in the spring of 2026. These classes can fit around 25 students, last around two hours and fill up fast. In cookie classes, attendees learn things like basic cookie recipes and how to make buttercream frosting. Charcuterie classes include topics like shopping, pairings and techniques all needed to help build beautiful boards that will wow friends and family.

As Olsen talks about her business, she shares about how our community has truly rallied around Amazing Graze and helped her and her family be successful. Being invited to be a part of our local Farmer’s Market gained Olsen her initial following. Ben Evans, Entrepreneurial Services Coordinator at Pioneer Technology Center, helped her set up the business and get her LLC and has been there to answer any business-related questions she’s had along the way. Partnering with Derion Schieber, owner of Harvest Hall, as a Preferred Vendor has also

helped grow the business. The community support since opening their doors has been overwhelming in the best possible way. Olsen shares, “I read something that says, ‘what a blessing to be so exhausted from something that you prayed for’ and that’s how I feel. We’re exhausted, but we’re also very, very blessed.”

As for the future, the team at Amazing Graze is planning to build on the foundation they’ve created. They will continue to feature new and delectable items on their weekly menus. They will continue to cater events and think of unique and creative ways to wow their clients. And they are considering some sort of loyalty program for their most consistent cookie connoisseurs. If you haven’t been in to see them yet, this is your proverbial sign.

For more information about current offerings, visit the Amazing Graze Facebook page or better yet, go see them in person. They are open Monday through Friday, from 11 a.m. to 6 p.m. They close on the weekend to cater events. PCM

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Standing United to Build Safe Communities in Ponca City

Contributed

by A community PSA from Ponca City Monthly

Why October Matters

Every October, purple ribbons appear across the country as symbols of hope, resilience, and remembrance. Since 1987, Domestic Violence Awareness Month has served as both a call to action and a time of reflection. We honor the lives cut short by violence, celebrate survivors’ courage, and recommit ourselves to breaking the cycle of abuse.

For Ponca City, this observance is not abstract or distant. It touches our neighbors, coworkers, classmates, and family members. When one person experiences abuse, the ripple effects are felt throughout the community — in our schools, workplaces, healthcare system, and local economy. Domestic violence is not a “private problem.” It is a community crisis, and it demands a community response.

The Reality in Native and Rural Communities

While domestic violence crosses every race, income level, and neighborhood, it disproportionately impacts Native communities. A study from the National Institute of Justice found that more than 84% of American Indian and Alaska Native women experience violence in their lifetime. That includes physical assault, sexual violence, stalking, and psychological abuse. Tragically, Native women are among the most likely in the U.S. to die from homicide — and more than half of those cases are tied to intimate partner violence.

These are not just national numbers. They are realities here in Kay County and in Ponca City. The violence we don’t talk about is the violence that persists.

Reclaiming Safety in 2025

This year’s message — reclaiming safety — is both simple and profound. Safety means more than physical protection. It means being able to walk into your home without fear, to raise your children in a stable environment, and to trust that your community will stand behind you when you ask for help.

Domestic violence thrives in silence. Too often, it is left unspoken, hidden behind closed doors, or dismissed as “not my business.” But reclaiming safety requires breaking that silence. Every time someone speaks up, every time a survivor is believed, every time a community chooses accountability over complacency — we chip away at the cycle of violence.

Taking Awareness into Action

Awareness matters, but awareness alone does not change lives. Action does. Here in Ponca City, every citizen has the power to make our community safer. Whether it’s donating to Survivor Resource Network, attending a candlelight vigil in October, checking in on a friend, or teaching your children what respect looks like, small actions add up to cultural change.

Domestic violence is not inevitable. It is preventable. Together, we can create a community where survivors are supported, offenders are held accountable, and future generations inherit a city built on respect and dignity.

What We Can Do as a Community

Ending domestic violence in Ponca City is not only possible — it’s already happening through the tireless work of local organizations. But they cannot do it alone. Awareness must lead to action, and every resident has a role to play.

Here are meaningful ways you can help right now:

• Advocate for strong protections. Encourage our city and county leaders to support policies that put survivors first and hold abusers accountable.

• Challenge harmful attitudes. Reject victimblaming and call out jokes, comments, or attitudes that minimize abuse.

• Teach the next generation. Start conversations with children and teens about healthy relationships, respect, and boundaries. Early prevention is powerful.

• Use your voice online. Social media can spread awareness far beyond Ponca City. Share resources, hotline numbers, and survivor stories to reach people who may need to see them.

• Volunteer and donate. Local shelters and advocacy organizations depend on community support. Even small acts — donating toiletries, attending an awareness event, or offering professional skills — can make a difference.

• Hold each other accountable. Whether in families, friend groups, or workplaces, we must set the expectation that violence is never acceptable.

Local Resources in Ponca City

Ponca City is fortunate to have dedicated organizations working daily to support survivors, educate the public, and reduce barriers to safety. Here are the resources available right here in our community:

Survivor Resource Network (SRN)

Formerly known as Domestic Violence of North Central Oklahoma, SRN provides emergency shelter, counseling, legal advocacy, and a 24-hour crisis hotline for victims of domestic violence,

How to Get Help in Ponca City

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, please reach out:

• Survivor Resource Network Crisis Line: (580) 762-2873

• Ponca Tribal Victim Services: (580) 763-0120

• Ponca City Police Department (non-emergency): (580) 767-0370

| Call 911 in an emergency

• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

All calls are confidential, and help is available 24/7.

sexual assault, and stalking. Their staff and volunteers are a lifeline for many families in crisis.

Ponca Tribal Victim Services

Serving the Ponca Tribe of Indians of Oklahoma and the broader Native community, this program provides culturally grounded advocacy, court accompaniment, safety planning, and emergency services. They address the unique challenges Native survivors face and are deeply rooted in the mission of protecting Native women and families.

Kay County District Attorney’s Victim/Witness Program

Ponca City Police Department (PCPD)

The PCPD partners closely with SRN and other agencies to respond swiftly to calls, provide protection, and connect survivors with resources. They have specialized officers trained in domestic violence cases to ensure victims are treated with compassion and seriousness.

A Call to Ponca City

This October, let’s recommit ourselves as neighbors, leaders, parents, teachers, and friends to building a safer Ponca City. Domestic violence should never be tolerated — not in our homes, not in our schools, not in our community. By standing united, speaking openly, and supporting local resources, we can ensure that every person in Ponca City has the right to live free from violence. Together, we can reclaim safety.

Warning Signs of Abuse

• Constant criticism, belittling, or humiliation

• Controlling finances, friends, or activities

• Isolation from family and community

• Threats of harm to you, children, or pets

• Physical violence or intimidation

Need Help Right Now?

This office helps survivors navigate the criminal justice process, from filing charges to preparing for court appearances. Advocates walk with victims every step of the way, ensuring they understand their rights and options.

Ponca City Medical Providers

Local hospitals and clinics are often the first point of contact for survivors. Nurses and doctors in Ponca City are trained to recognize signs of abuse and can connect patients with advocacy programs.

Faith-Based and Community Partners

Many local churches and civic groups offer support — from meals and clothing drives for SRN to prayer groups and mentoring for children impacted by violence. Community involvement makes the safety net stronger.

How You Can Take Action in Ponca City

• Wear a purple ribbon in October.

• Share resources on social media.

• Donate household items or funds to Survivor Resource Network.

• Volunteer your time at awareness events or trainings.

• Talk to your children about healthy relationships.

Remember

Domestic violence is never the survivor’s fault.

When our community stands together, safety grows stronger.PCM

Survivor Resource Network Crisis Line: (580) 762-2873

Ponca Tribal Victim Services: (580) 763-0120

National Hotline (24/7): 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

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FOOD CRUSH FOOD CRUSH

by Amy Dewitt Geurin | Contributing Writer

October has become a very poignant time in my life. For decades, this month has been filled with football, warm colors, Halloween and the beginning of soup season (which I ADORE). Now, it has become the beginning of a new year for me, like my internal calendar has flipped.

In October 2022, my late husband, Rodger, was diagnosed with glioblastoma. It is the most aggressive primary brain tumor known, and it requires immediate action to extend life. It is treatable; it is also terminal. There is currently no way to completely remove 100% of the tumor because its cells are highly infiltrative, stretching deep into the brain like octopus tentacles. The tumor always comes back, because it is never fully eradicated.

After diagnosis in 2022, the next 12 months were a blur of doctor visits, radiation, surprise birthday parties, chemotherapy, clinical trials, a

vacation, bloodwork, lots of family time and traveling to Oklahoma City three to four times per week on average. When October 2023 arrived, it felt as though we had a good year, all things considered. He was recovering from a second brain tumor resection and was doing well, until he was not. The following 12 months were much different, more brutal and more beautiful than the previous year. In October of 2024, Rodger peacefully passed in our home, surrounded by those he loved and who loved him unconditionally.

As I think about where life has taken me over the past year, grateful is the word that continually sticks out. Food and travel have been therapeutic for me, comforting and providing space to breathe. Traveling with friends and traveling solo this year have both been educative. A reminder of how big the world is puts stress and worries into perspective. The year has unexpectedly introduced me to new people, some who will be part of my life and some who were just meant for a moment in time.

To no surprise, food has and continues to be a massive force in life for me.

I traveled to Costa Rica in April with some incredible friends, and the food

was fabulous. Grilled octopus on the sunset beach at El Hicaco, fresh Mahi tacos by private chef Nestor Vega, ceviche at Isla Chiquita—all of which were shared with some of the best people in my life.

In June, I traveled to Iceland for a solo trip, and I strongly encourage anyone on the fence about solo travel to take the leap. The food, landscapes, the vibe and the people were remarkable. Ox, a Michelin-starred restaurant in Reykjavik, provided one of the best meals I have eaten, along with an immersive, fun atmosphere. Beef cap with black garlic and bone marrow, the monkfish with vin jaune and koji, and the shrimp with tomato and habanero were bites I will not forget. I met a lovely couple from Copenhagen and a fun family from Detroit who made the dinner experience even more enjoyable.

In July, I celebrated an exceptionally good friend’s birthday in Las Vegas and the food did not disappoint. The Mayfair Supper Club, Amalfi by Bobby Flay, and Cheri Rooftop were not the

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only standouts this trip. Zip lining over Fremont, VIP pool day at Caesars, dancing to Yacht Rock (who would have thought?) and almost front row seats at Absinthe with a couple of girlfriends (PHR) were the real gems.

On Rodger’s birthday, my closest friends and family threw a party in celebration of him. These people came together and cooked food Rodger loved and cooked some of his recipes. Homemade sourdough, Rodger’s pasta bolognese, Rodger’s Caesar salad, his favorite meatloaf with garlic gravy, his favorite red potatoes, Rodger’s key lime pie, his favorite strawberry jam cake and his go-to chocolate chip cookies were served to a crowd of 25+, with a very

good friend using Rodger’s recipe to make his favorite drink, an Old Fashioned.

Somehow along the way, life has rewritten the calendar, with my years now running from October to September. October 1 is a win; it is when the real-life chapters start and close. And this October feels like a huge win, thanks to the people, food and experiences the year has provided me. I am thankful for where I am, who I am with and everywhere I’ve yet to go. Find your people, make memories and indulge in all the good things.

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Four New Paintings Added To The NOC Tonkawa Pickens Learning Commons

Story by Scott Cloud | Director of Public Information, NOC | Contributing Writer

Hugh Pickens recently added four paintings to the Northern Oklahoma College Pickens Learning Commons collection on the Tonkawa campus.

The artwork is part of the Pickens Learning Commons in the Vineyard Library/Administration Building.

The new additions are the work of Yatika Starr Fields.

“I am grateful to Yatika Starr Fields for continuing to inspire young minds,” Pickens said. “I am pleased to have contributed to that goal.”

NOC President Diana Morris added, “I am so excited about the addition of Yatika’s paintings in the Pickens Learning Commons. Our Vision Statement at Northern says we will be a model institution and leader in academic quality and cultural enrichment. We remain grateful to Hugh Pickens for partnering with us to offer our students cultural enrichment opportunities.”

Yatika Starr Fields is an Osage Painter and Muralist.

According to Yatikafields.com and the Book, “Fluent Generations, The Art of Anita, Tom, and Yatika Fields” while

attending the Art Institute of Boston from 2000 to 2004, Fields became interested in graffiti aesthetics, which has been integral to his knowledge and process along with landscape painting and continues to influence his large-scale and studio works. His compositions are often spontaneous and left open for interpretation so that multiple stories can be drawn from them. His kaleidoscopic imagery, with its dynamic pop, symbolism and culture aesthetic, reference both historical and contemporary themes tied together with traditional affinity but provoked by general concerns of world differences. His canvasses and murals are alive with movement and filled with images that rely on vibrant colors and swirling patterns to build narratives that carry the eye.

Fields is from Oklahoma and currently living and working in Tulsa in conjunction with the Tulsa Artist Fellowship. Fields has spent the last decade on the East Coast, New York City and most recently Seattle, where the energy of urban life inspires and feeds the creative force in his artwork. He seeks to influence his viewers to rethink and reshape their relationships to the world around them.

Three sets of murals, created by Fields, were dedicated at Northern Oklahoma College Tonkawa’s Cultural Engagement Center in December of 2024, making a total of six murals in the Cultural Engagement Center and Pickens Learning Common at NOC Tonkawa.

The murals encompass over 5,000 square feet.

Fields was commissioned by Hugh Pickens to create the murals as part of the existing art collection in the Pickens Learning Commons in the Vineyard Library Administration Building.

Pickens also has art on display at the Pickens Museum in Ponca City and Woolaroc Museum in Bartlesville.

For more information about Northern Oklahoma College, please call (580) 6286208 or visit the NOC website at www.noc.edu.

Four new pieces of art created by Yatika Starr Fields have been added to the NOC Pickens Learning Commons at NOC Tonkawa. The pieces were commissioned by Hugh Pickens. Pictured (L-R): Sheri Snyder, NOC Vice President for Development and Community Relations; Hugh Pickens; and NOC President Diana Morris.

The Sunny Side

by Liz Threlkeld / Owner of Sunny Creek Trading Post /Contributing Writer

BALANCE ON THE HOMESTEAD FACT OR FICTION?

Welcome Friends,

I often hear some form of the phrase, “Everything in balance.” It’s meant to “steer the ship,” if you will, and keep the line of the horizon horizontal in our sights. This effort to keep homeostasis in our everyday lives is a good thing in many ways. If someone is in a toxic environment whether relationally, physically, emotionally, etc., I would encourage an “everything in balance” approach to seeking that peaceful horizon. However, in other aspects of life, is that approach always the right one? Let’s explore …

I take many life conclusions from nature. It operates in the most natural and innocent ways. Now—tabling for later any theories—when I take a step back and study it, I can see nature striving for homeostasis. Water seeks to be level. Animals want shade in the hot sun. Plants do various things to mitigate too much or too little water or sun. “Everything in balance.”

However, if you live in Oklahoma, and I’m assuming that most of you reading this do, you know oh-so-well that there are things about nature here that few would describe as “balanced.” Let me explain for the newbies:

In Oklahoma in the last year: April rain broke our April record held since 1895; 23 tornadoes in NOVEMBER alone made our total number of tornadoes in 2024 come to 137—the third highest on record. And how about that freakish 515-milelong lightning strike in July that broke the world record and blasted through Oklahoma? What about death? You’re alive your whole life and the next second you’re permanently unalive. That’s not very balanced. Speaking of death, if you are a gardener, you know there’s nothing balanced about those hungry little squash vine borers who suck the insides out of your cucurbit plants and leave you with a lifeless surprise in the morning! Oooooh, one more good—less grim—example, raising kids! You might as well just toss the word “balance” in the compost because if there was

Welcome to “The Sunny Side” where we’ll chat about all things homesteading! My name is Liz Threlkeld and I have been homesteading with my family in small forms or large fashions for most of my life. From growing gardens to DIY projects, to cooking and preserving, to raising and processing our own meat animals, we’ve learned a thing or two along the way. I’m excited to get to share some of this life with you. Ready? Let’s grow!

ever a beautifully wild, unbalanced ride, that’s one!

What does all of this have to do with homesteading? Well, the way I see it is that Mother Nature is giving you “permission” on your homestead, and even in your life, to be a little unbalanced at times. Push yourself down into some deep work for a while to hone your skills, build something outlandish for the heck of it, get that wacky creature you just can’t quit thinking about and proudly be that ‘weirdo with a zebra,’ get into a completely unfamiliar hobby and force your brain to ‘figure it out,’ start a business because you can, stock a year’s supply of food or just do something for the fun of it!

The point is, nature loves homeostasis but she isn’t tamed, and I don’t think we should always be either. Sometimes, it’s that out-of-balance experience that levels you up! Some terrific reallife homesteading examples are:

• Pansies and Prawns has locally grown shrimp and prawns from Guthrie making fresh seafood in our land-locked state possible!

• Tiffany, owner of Backyard Butchery, made a name for herself by taking a typically male-dominated profession mobile, offering animal processing for beef, pork, lamb, goat and bison, servicing the state of Oklahoma.

• Oklahoma Donkey Dairy in Luther, Oklahoma, is making waves by promoting health using their fresh donkey milk sold off the farm.

So, think about the season you are in. Is it one that calls for equilibrium or is it one to embrace the growth from the extremes? In the end, all seasons change and balance arrives again.

Here’s to leveling up!

Liz Threlkeld

Nature showing off her “unbalanced” side with a wild hail storm and possible tornado in the Ranch Drive area earlier this spring. This poor garden, along with many cars and houses, suffered through this episode.

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Students Bring New Life to the UC

Story by Tim Williams CEO, University Center at Ponca City / Contributing Writer

With the beginning of the fall semester, the University Center is hopping with activity. I want to highlight some of the great things that are going on.

Enrollment is increasing. Compared to last fall’s enrollment data, enrollment at the UC has almost 27% more students taking almost 21% more credit hours. That equates to 229 students taking 1310 credit hours. There are 83 concurrent students enrolled through NOC, 88 traditional students enrolled through NOC and 58 students enrolled through NWOSU.

helped them get logged onto the online platforms students need for their classes, including MyNOC and Blackboard. UC staff provided an overview of taking classes at the UC, gave tours, took ID badge pictures, passed out UC T-shirts and helped students apply for the UC Concurrent Scholarship. This orientation time helped the first few days of school go more smoothly for students and staff alike.

New student orientation. The week before school started, the UC hosted new student orientation focused on concurrent students. Across three sessions, over 50 students attended. Po-Hi counselors Bridget Kreisel and Kathy Orr helped students confirm their schedules and classes needed for high school graduation. Dr. Rick Edginton, Vice President for Enrollment Management, assisted students with last-minute enrollment and schedule changes. In addition, he

Nursing is full. This year the Bachelor of Science in Nursing degree (NWOSU) welcomed five juniors, as well as three returning seniors. Led by onsite nursing instructor Sarah Martin, five students are the maximum given the required number of instructors for clinicals and labs. The goal for next year is for there to be more than five admitted to the program, which would result in NWOSU sending additional instructors on clinical and lab days. Applications for admission to the B.S.N. program in fall 2026 opened Oct. 1. Contact Sarah Martin at the UC for more information.

Giveaways. Every UC student received a free T-shirt at the beginning of the semester. Hopefully, you have seen students wearing them around town. In addition, in September students

who follow the UC’s social media pages on Facebook or Instagram received a spirit towel as a thank you. The public is encouraged to follow our social media, too. On Facebook, follow University Center at Ponca City, and on Instagram, follow ucatponcacity.

Scholarships. The UC Foundation killed it this semester with scholarships. More about that next month!

Drop by the University Center for a visit, take a look around and see for yourself some of the wonderful things going on at the UC! We are located at 2800 N. 14th Street, give us a call at 580-718-5600 or hit our website at UCPoncaCity.com.

CHAMBER BUZZ

Story by Shelley Arrott, Ponca City Chamber of Commerce CEO | Contributing Writer

BEYOND STOREFRONTS:

Why People Are the Heart of the Chamber

When most people think of a Chamber of Commerce, they picture local businesses working together to strengthen the community’s economy. While that is true, the Chamber is also about something much deeper … people. Your neighbors, friends and fellow citizens play just as big a role in shaping the future of Ponca City through their investment in the Chamber.

You don’t have to own a business to make a difference. Individual investors are citizens who want to see Ponca City thrive as a better place to live, work, play, shop and worship. Their investment is a reflection of pride in community and a commitment to creating a thriving hometown economy that future generations will be proud to call their own.

The year 2012 was a turning point for individual investments, or household investments. That year, Chamber Chair Lee Evans Sr. championed the idea of welcoming not only businesses but also individuals as investors in the Chamber because he understood that together we can do more. Thanks to his leadership, 18 new families and individuals joined in just one year, a record at the time.

Here are the individual investors who partnered with the Chamber in 2012. Barry & Lois Bickle, Don Bohon & Kristin Smith, John & Linda Brown, Rich & Pam Cantillon, Jeff & Felicia Cowan, Bruce DeMuth, Lee & Laura Evans, Marshall & Natalie Fraser, Clayton Johnson, Marc & Holly Labossiere, Jerry & Marsha Orr, Hugh Pickens, Kim & Arlene Stauffer, Craig & Beckie Stephensen, Marta Sullivan, Joe & Hollye Theobald, Judy Throop and Cynthia Winterrowd.

(It’s even rumored that a few cows tried to sign up too, though they never made it into the Chamber’s official database!)

Today, the Chamber proudly celebrates 95 active individual investors. To put that into perspective:

• 2011 and Before: The Chamber had only 13 individual investors

• During 2012: 18 new investors partnered with the Chamber.

• 2013 to Present: Another 77 individuals and families became part of the Chamber family.

These individual investors include singles, couples and even families, like Scott, Katie and little Zane Larssen, our youngest Chamber investor to date!

Most have shown remarkable loyalty. Our longest-standing individual investors, according to our chamber software system, are Sue Boettcher, who joined in 1991, and John Young, who joined in 1994. Their commitment shows that the Chamber isn’t just for businesses, it’s for anyone who cares about Ponca City.

Of course, we’ve also said goodbye to some members over the years. Sixteen individual investors have dropped, with at least 13 of those dropping due to retirement, moving away or sadly passing away. Each left a mark on the Chamber’s history, and their contributions are remembered with gratitude.

An individual Chamber investment is $100 per year, which is a modest contribution with a powerful impact. It helps fuel meaningful services, advocacy and programs that benefit the entire community. Being an individual investor is about more than writing a check; it’s about being engaged in becoming part of the change you want to see.

There are many ways to engage in supporting Ponca City’s future, and the Chamber is your guide to this engagement:

• Network and connect with others who share a passion for our community through our networking events, particularly Business After Hours.

• Support and cheer on local businesses, market local businesses and Shop Ponca First, like ribbon-cuttings, milestone presentations, purchasing Chamber Bucks to keep dollars local, participating in Santa Buck Giveaway and Jumpstart June.

• Educate yourself about our community’s strengths and opportunities for growth through one of our committees.

• Support our local schools through the PIE Partner Program.

• Know our community and state’s local candidates and their platforms by attending our forums.

The growth of individual investments since 2012 proves that when businesses and individuals unite behind the Chamber, our collective voice is stronger. Every investment, whether from a storefront downtown or a family across town, strengthens the community through engagement.

Thanks to leaders like Lee Evans Sr., individuals saw themselves as part of the Chamber story. That story continues with every new person who chooses to step up and say, “I want to be part of building a better Ponca City.”

Cocktail

Cocktail of the month

The Recipe

• 1½-Ounce Gold Rum

• 1½-Ounce Dark Rum

• 1-Ounce Demerara Rum

• ½-Ounce Falernum

• 6 Drops of Absinthe

• 1-Ounce Pineapple Juice

• 1-Ounce Grapefruit Juice

• ¾-Ounce Fresh Lime Juice

• ½-Ounce CinnamonInfused Syrup

• 2 Teaspoon Grenadine

• 1 Dash Angostura Bitters

• 1 Mint Sprig for Garnish

Mix all ingredients in a cocktail shaker with ice. Shake well, then strain into your favorite tiki mug (or pint glass) filled with crushed ice. Garnish with a fresh sprig of mint.

The Zombie

Mixed by Jill Rowe/Staff Writer

What’s scarier than a bartender who doesn’t know what they’re doing? A bartender who thinks they know what they’re doing. One heavy pour and you’re flirting with a migraine that could raise the dead. “They’re coming to get you, Barbara.” But this time, it’s not the undead at your door, it’s a wicked hangover sneaking up on you.

One cocktail that could easily do just that? The Zombie—conjured up in 1934 by Donn Beach (a founding father of tiki culture) at his Hollywood Don the Beachcomber restaurant. The story goes that he originally created the cocktail to help a hung-over customer get through a business meeting. The guest returned several days later to complain that he had been turned into a “zombie” for his meeting. It’s a sweet and fruity cocktail, but one sip and you’ll feel the rum sneaking up on you. So strong, in fact, that Donn would only let customers order two Zombies each.

During the tiki craze heyday, the bartenders and creators of their drinks were notoriously secretive with their recipes. Donn was so serious about keeping his Zombie recipe a secret, even his own bartenders had to follow coded instructions. To keep rival bartenders guessing, he’d change the recipe up every few months. The original Zombie recipe is still a bit of a mystery today. Over the years, bartenders have experimented with everything from falernum and absinthe to almond liqueur, while others play with different combinations of rum to tweak the flavor and potency.

The Zombie has quite a list of ingredients, each addition offering fresh layers of complexity to the drink. The mixture includes gold, dark and overproof rums, in addition to Demerara rum, which is rich, a little smoky and brings that deep caramel flavor. Also included is falernum, a Caribbean liqueur or syrup made with lime, ginger, almond and clove. It gives the drink that spiced, slightly sweet kick that ties everything together. Mix in citrus, tropical juices and a few secret touches (depending on who’s making it), and you’ve got a drink that’s as complex as it is dangerous.

The thing about the Zombie is, it lulls you into a false sense of security. It starts out smooth, then sneaks up on you when you least expect it. So, order one if you dare. Just don’t say I didn’t warn ya!

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Stew On That

by Rachel Stewart / Contributing Writer

OCT.4ISNATIONAL 66-ACROSSDAY

by Patrick Jordan

ACROSS

1. Spouses of dads

5. ___ browns (IHOP breakfast item)

9. Minty Kentucky Derby drink 14. Cookie with a Selena Gomez variety

15. Pentathlon sword

16. Japan's third-largest city 17. Tower of London guard 19. Country neighboring Saudi Arabia

20. Former Beatle Ringo

21. Worry consistently (over)

22. Occupies a bench

24. Leave speechless with wonder 25. Finale

28. Green Bay Packers fans 34. Witty comment 36. Pretzel coating

37. Disney's Little Mermaid

38. Suggests strongly

40. Org. for the OKC Thunder (Abbr.)

41. Medium for KLOR and KPNC

42. Resident of Earth's largest continent

43. Slinky's shape

45. Religious offshoot group

46. Low-carb sandwich (2 wds.)

49. ___ Moines, Iowa

50. Car tank filler

51. Blindfolds cover them

53. Hand out, as homework

57. Ushers lead the way to them

60. Dark area under a leafy tree

61. "Find the pea" street scam (2 wds.)

65. Puts asphalt over

66. Word before Stop or Bell

67. Oodles (2 wds.)

Well friends, here we are—my last article. (Go ahead to take a moment to grab a tissue … or if you’ve been hate-reading me all these years, grab a bottle of champagne), but either way, we’ve reached the end of my reign of questionable opinions and sarcastic thoughts. First—to those who actually enjoyed my ramblings, bless you. You deserve a medal. Also thank you to those who just skimmed it in your doctor’s waiting room furiously waiting two hours for you to be called back. Lastly, thank you to those who didn’t like my article, who read it and thought “Wow, she’s still writing these?” Honestly, I respect the commitment it takes to repeatedly read something you hate. That’s a dedication you don’t see very often these days. But seriously, whether you’ve laughed out loud, cracked a smile or rolled your eyes so hard you lost a contact, you still gave me your time, and that’s no small thing. Writing for you has been one of the most unexpectedly fun and mildly therapeutic things I’ve ever done, and I’m grateful.

68. Perspiration

69. Furrow-making farm tool

70. Sonic the Hedgehog's company

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1. Riotous crowd

2. They're refined into metals

3. Swimming or track competition

4. Couches

5. Fireplace floors

6. Suited for the job

7. View, as a movie

8. "How Stilla Got ___ Groove Back"

9. "The View" cohost (2 wds.)

10. Finds a function for

11. Poor, as some excuses

12. ___ out a living (barely survives)

13. Skillets

18. Norse explorer ___ the Red

21. Carry a balance of

23. Spirit-contacting gatherings

24. Classic film dancer Fred 25. Artificial sweetener brand

26. Hospital staffer

27. Any number from 0 to 9

29. Arm joint

30. Britney's most recent tour

31. Lent a hand to 32. Clear a wintry windshield

33. Coin-taking jukebox features

35. Kind of moss for gardening

39. Most tight-fitting

44. Keeps out of sight (2 wds.)

47. Popeye's spinach container 48. Orange's covering

Epic-length stories 53. Venomous Egyptian snakes

Playwright George Bernard ___

Stash money

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not riding off into the sunset in a blaze of glory; the truth is, I’m taking a step back from this because I’m getting on my own nerves. Every time I sit down to write, I think to myself “Really? Another Golden Corral Community Watch Page joke?” So, if I’m sick of me, you probably are too. Still, I’ll miss this, the chance to rant about nonsense and to poke fun at myself (and others). It’s been a strange little connection, but one I’ve genuinely enjoyed.

I won’t say I’ll never be back (that’s not my call actually, the Ponca City Monthly staff might be busting out the champagne), maybe I’ll be like that friend who says goodbye at the party multiple times then ends up still standing in the driveway an hour later because we can’t quit talking. But for now, I’m bowing out so you can give your eyeballs a break from me.

So truly—thank you, for the laughs, the kind words, the groans. I’ll see you all out in the Community Watch pages!

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Carl Renfro Chairman

Brenda Renfro President

Randy Renfro Treasurer, CPA

Rick Renfro Secretary, Restaurateur

We hope you will support and enjoy the October events in Ponca City!

Oktoberfest at the Marland Mansion Oct. 4-5

Goblins on Grand, downtown Ponca City Oct. 16

Motocross Races at Ambuc Motocross Track Oct. 16-19

This is a short list of all the exciting things happening in October in our town!

Directors

Shelly Arrot President/CEO

Ponca City Chamber

Jerod Helling RCB Bank, Market President

Carl Perkins

Refinery Manager at Phillips 66, Ponca City

Kelsey Wagner

Ponca City Mayor

T.L Walker

Executive Director

Standing Bear Foundation

George Ferguson: Managing Principal

Pat Mulligan: Senior Financial Advisor

Craig Poet: Senior

Advisor

Bryant Ferguson: Financial Advisor

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Weapons

Story by Kelsey Wagner/Editor-in-Chief

Weapons is not exactly a horror film—it’s slightly less intense. But it is a moody, unsettling and somewhat confusing two-hour experience. It has a strong storyline, a daring twist right at the beginning of the movie that draws you in and the narrative storytelling is interesting, as the same story is told from multiple characters’ perspectives.

The opening of this movie is haunting and memorable. At exactly 2:17 a.m., 17 elementary school children wake up in their own beds, and then—without explanation— vanish. The children wake up and run out of their homes in the middle of night, arms outstretched to their sides. This horrific event is caught on some doorbell cameras, and as the mystery unfolds, we simultaneously relive the horror as the footage is watched and rewatched, as the townspeople try to make sense of the event. It feels like a surreal dream each time it’s played, but it sets the tone for the rest of the film: a peculiar mystery that unravels to what seems like an endless circle of more unfolding mysteries.

At the center of the story is Julia Garner, playing a schoolteacher suddenly caught at the very center of a mystery. Garner is young, kind and somewhat problematic. She drinks too much, lives somewhat recklessly and seems to create more problems than she solves by delving too deeply into the lives of her students. Every student that has disappeared was in her class, and only one student remains, which adds even more to the mystery. Why her students? Why

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was one spared? Where did the others go? The structure of the film is fractured and dreamlike, shifting perspectives and timelines, forcing the audience to piece the story together one unsettling shard at a time.

The film feels like a monster flick with some very unsettling imagery, but it isn’t a slasher flick, going for cheap, bloody effects. Instead, Weapons tells a gruesome story, with a sprinkle of magic, a sprinkle of evil and another sprinkle of horror, and yes—there is some gore. It leans into the fear of not knowing where these children went, but also a gut instinct that they can’t have gone far.

The pacing of this movie is slow, sometimes frustratingly so, and the narrative threads don’t always tie together neatly. It feels at time disjointed, leaving fans wondering if everything on screen means something, or if it’s just there to confuse or distract the viewer. For example, in one dream sequence, a floating “weapon” can be seen with a glowing time stamp of 2:17 on the gun. The importance of that symbol never manifests and leaves the viewer somewhat perplexed as to where to draw conclusions.

Still, Weapons is exactly the kind of film that keeps the horror genre interesting. It’s odd, bold and thought-provoking—and is the sort of movie that sparks enough debate long after the credits roll.

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The Little Ghost Who Was a Quilt

by Riel Nason

Once upon a time there was a little ghost who was a quilt. He had no idea why he was a quilt. His parents and friends were all sheets who were as light as air. They could twirl and whirl and float and soar. They could even whoosh like they were on some huge, invisible slide.

Since he was a quilt, he was heavy and slow. Lift-offs were difficult. He got all sweaty when he tried to go faster. The one time he tried to twirl and whirl, he ended up looking like a quilt burrito. He felt sad and left out when his friends would zoom around and he couldn’t keep up with them.

The little ghost didn’t like being different. He wished he was just one fabric instead of lots of squares sewn together. The other ghosts had started calling him “Scrappy.” He didn’t like that either.

Then it was Halloween! That was his favorite holiday of all time! Some children would dress up as ghosts to trick or treat. The real ghosts would hang out in trees to watch the children trick-or-treating in their costumes. The ghosts would remain very still in the trees and pretend to be Halloween decorations.

The little ghost who was a quilt somehow managed to get captured on Halloween. He feared he would never be free again. He had to be very, very brave. When he finally managed to escape, the other little ghosts rushed over to him. They were awestruck by his courage and wanted to hear all about his adventure. They flew slowly with him, all the way home.

All of us know how it feels to be different. This lovely little picture book helps children realize that being unique should be celebrated.

Reviewed by Lorrie Layton

The Boyfriend by

Freida McFadden

My friend has been telling me how much she enjoys Freida McFadden’s novels, so I decided I should see for myself. I am so glad I did. I really enjoyed The Boyfriend! This thriller switches between two storylines. One focuses on a teen named Tom; Sydney is an accountant in the other storyline.

Sydney, like most of the single women in New York City, uses Cynch, a dating app that’s local to New York City. She’s 34 and has been on many horrible dates … There’s the guy who wouldn’t stop talking about his mother and who actually insisted that she speak with his mom during their date. There’s the guy who left her with the dinner bill. And to top it off, there’s the guy who used a fake photo on the app and who became Sydney’s stalker after proving he didn’t understand the word “no.” It doesn’t help that her mother desperately wants Sydney to get married and provide her with grandbabies.

Tom’s a teen in high school. He’s intelligent and very good-looking but struggles socially. His dad is an abusive alcoholic. He’s been in love with Daisy since they met in kindergarten. He recently began walking Daisy home after school. He’s hoping that she’ll allow him to kiss her before long.

Sydney finally finds a guy who seems perfect. Then her friend, who lives in the same apartment building as Sydney, is tortured and then murdered. The police believe she’s the victim of a serial killer who dates his targets before killing them. Sydney is dating the perfect man, but she’s beginning to question just how perfect he is because it seems like she’s caught him in a few lies.

Great psychological thriller!

Reviewed

Lorrie Layton

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Story by Shannon Somers / Owner, Aesthetic State of Mind, Contributing Writer

Gut Health and Glowing Skin:

What’s Really Going on Inside

People often sit in my clinic and tell me all about what skincare they are using, what collagen supplement they are applying and the latest skincare trend they saw on TikTok. Something most people don’t think to tell me is what their diet looks like. Many don’t realize there is a direct correlation in what you consume and your skin. Your skin often tells the story of your gut, and the skingut axis is a very real thing.

Your gut is home to trillions of bacteria—some good, some bad and some ugly. The reality is, these bacteria keep things running smoothly. When the good bacteria outnumber the bad bacteria, your body absorbs nutrients better, inflammation stays low and your skin gets the payoff … things are clearer and calmer.

What does that mean? Well, that means when the exact opposite is going on, your skin is going to show it. When bad bacteria

are in overgrowth, you might notice bloating, constipation or food sensitivities—and sometimes, those gut issues show up as breakouts, redness or dull, tired-looking skin.

If your gut lining isn’t happy, it can let things slip into your bloodstream that don’t belong there. That sparks inflammation, and inflammation tends to manifest visibly on the skin. Acne flareups, rosacea and irritation are just a few common ways your gut says, “Hey, I need help!”

The good news is, it is often a fairly simple fix, which feels easier said than done. One small change that can have a total impact on your digestive health is hydration. Drink more water … it is really that simple. Set timers on your phone, get a jug that has a timeline clock on it, download an app, but do what you can to hydrate. Another small change is making sure you’re getting good-quality sleep, as both your gut and your skin repair at night while you sleep. If you don’t give your cells time to rest and repair, you will not be able to look and feel your best. Another key factor that can have a vital impact on your gut and skin is stress. Managing stress is hard. What we don’t want is having you stress about your stress and putting you into the vicious tailspin of “what ifs.” That being said, a little stress here and there is totally normal and to be expected in our lives. The real issue is when it becomes chronic stress. Stress impacts our gut, our brain, our hormones, our blood pressure, our immune system … and well, you get the point. Letting stress go unmanaged can reign chaos through your entire ecosystem.

So, the bottom line here is if you’ve been piling on products and still not seeing the results you want, look inward. Your skin is often a reflection of your gut health. Taking care of your digestion will help you set yourself up for clear, bright and more youthfullooking skin.

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Happy October, Ponca City family!

The spooky season has arrived, and to the delight of every educator (and parent), Halloween falls on a Friday this year! Personally, if I could make one small change to the holiday calendar, I’d love for Halloween to “float” like Thanksgiving always landing on the last Friday or Saturday in October. Imagine the fun (and fewer sleepy kids in school the next day). While I can’t spend all of this month’s message lobbying to move Halloween, it’s a fun thought to kick off what is always a big month in education.

For schools across Oklahoma, October is much more than pumpkin patches, football and fall festivals. This is when state and federal reports are due, when new laws take effect and when accountability measures come into focus. It’s when districts prove they’re not only teaching students well but also operating responsibly and legally.

For Ponca City, every principal and district administrator plays a part in this work. Together, we review everything from how we serve meals to how we track student learning. All of this rolls into a process called school accreditation. Each year, the Oklahoma State Department of Education evaluates our district’s finances, policies and procedures to ensure we are safe, effective and following the law.

Last year, Ponca City Public Schools earned zero deficiencies on our accreditation review. That’s no small accomplishment. Even a minor clerical oversight can result in a deficiency on your accreditation report. Achieving no deficiencies reflects the dedication and precision of our administrators, teachers and support staff.

This year brings new challenges. Recent laws now shape how we handle cell phone use, student reading benchmarks, background checks and student transfers, to name just a few. Each new law comes

with accountability requirements, and our team is working diligently to implement them without missing a beat.

While our children are planning their Halloween costumes and strategizing how to fill their candy bags, our district leaders are working quietly in the background to make sure Ponca City schools remain strong and trustworthy. These efforts aren’t flashy, but they are vital. They ensure that our students learn in safe, supportive and legally sound environments.

As we move through a busy month of activities, including Homecoming, concerts, athletic events and more, I want to pause and recognize the behind-thescenes work of our principals, administrators and staff. Their commitment allows us, as a community, to be proud that Ponca City Public Schools is doing things the right way.

So, whether or not we ever succeed in moving Halloween to the weekend, I can rest easy knowing one thing: in Ponca City, we are crossing every “t” and dotting every “i” to give our children the very best education possible.

Have a Happy “Friday night” Halloween, and thank you for supporting our schools!

Story by Adam Leaming, Superintendent, Ponca City Public Schools / Contributing Writer

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by Relo Adams, MS, MCP, LPC-C / Contributing Writer

World Mental Health Day—

October

10, 2025: A Time for Awareness,

World Mental Health Day was initiated in 1992 by the World Federation for Mental Health, founded in 1948, and has grown to be an important opportunity for communities, governments, organizations and individuals to come together and reflect on the importance of mental health in every aspect of life. This day is meaningful to many people in our community and the world and is observed every year on October 10. The goal of this global day of observance is to raise mental health awareness and to initiate efforts and initiatives that support mental well-being. In 2025, World Mental Health Day carries a lot of weight, considering the many things that have occurred over the last year that have had lasting effects on many people. 2020 to the present day has had many life-changing events that the world population has collectively experienced. The human race continues to grapple with the lasting effects of societal change, trauma, global crises, economic pressures, societal change and the ongoing evolution of the digital world, all impacting how we feel, think and connect.

This all highlights the universal relevance and significance of mental health wellness on a global level because mental health is not a concern limited to a specific group or region. Mental health is something that touches everyone no matter how old you are and regardless of someone’s circumstances or background. Mental health influences relatability between people, how stress is addressed and handled, decision making and how one may see themselves and the world. The challenges that come along with mental health are common, whether mild or severe; however, people suffer in silence due to the stigma attached to mental health issues, often leading to people suffering in

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silence. Besides this, many barely have access to quality health care or health care at all, let alone health care coverage that prioritizes mental health. World Mental Health Day uses its name and platform to shed light on these issues, as well as many other issues related to mental health to not only bring awareness, but to address misinformation associated with mental illness, which essentially reminds many of us that mental health is health and should be treated with the same care and concern as physical health.

On a symbolic level, October 10, World Mental Health Day allows for people around the globe to stand in solidarity in acknowledging the importance of mental health and the importance of no one facing those struggles alone and unsupported. Some communities have public events and campaigns, and educational activities on this day that help normalize the conversation surrounding mental health. This can assist in the reduction of shame, which often contributes to many people not seeking help. On a practical level, in some areas of the world, governments and institutions have used the day of observance to release reports and start new initiatives that justify funding preventative programs that strengthen services that impact mental health. From schools implementing emotional learning programs to companies offering mental health support in the workplace, the influence of World Mental Health Day reaches into the systems that shape our lives.

Education is key and is one of the most impactful aspects of World Mental Health Day. Mental health is not the absence of illness; however, it is the complete state of well-being, allowing people the opportunity to identify effective and safe methods of coping with

the stressors of life, how they can contribute to their communities and realizing the potential they possess to thrive—and that is a huge factor in recovery. Anxiety, depression, burnout, trauma and other mental health issues are not personal failures, but common and treatable conditions, and this is taught through the initiatives and efforts. By understanding this, resilience and empathy and an overall more well-informed society is produced, which allows people to identify the common signs that someone may display when their counterparts are in mental distress and when they are personally struggling with their mental health. The day also challenges long-held misconceptions. It pushes back against the idea that mental health struggles are signs of weakness or that they can be overcome by sheer willpower. Instead, it emphasizes the need for compassion, professional support and community care. It brings attention to the gaps in mental health services, especially in under-resourced areas, and calls on leaders to prioritize mental health in public health agendas. At the same time, it encourages individuals to take their own mental health and wellbeing more seriously, highlighting the importance of rest, self-care, social connection and emotional expression.

Self-awareness and applying the teachings of World Mental Health Day not only change our lives, but the lives of those around us. Sounds generic, but “it is okay not to be okay” and taking mental health seriously means being honest with oneself and recognizing and accepting this. There is strength in acknowledging the heavy feelings and uncomfortable or traumatic experiences and seeking support from a friend, a family member or a professional is not weakness,

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ever know, and it creates a ripple effect. Creating open, nonjudgmental spaces where people feel safe to share what they are going through can foster stronger relationships and healthier communities.

Collective advocacy is important. This day of observance can serve as a reminder to advocate for systemic change that supports policies that increase access to care, encouraging mental health education in schools, providing training for all school employees to be trauma informed and encouraging conversations regarding the expansion of mental health coverage in health care plans. Change happens when individuals come together with shared purpose, and we can all play a role in making it happen! In the end, World Mental Health Day is more than just a date on the calendar.

It is a movement that started over 30 years ago. It is a conversation. It is a commitment. And it is a time to reflect, pause and act. As the world continues to change and new challenges are realized, one thing remains unchanged, the message that mental health matters. And not only does mental health matter, but it is something that must be nurtured not only in and for ourselves, but in and for those that we are surrounded by, and by and in the systems that assist in shaping our lives. On October 10, and every day for that matter, take the opportunity not only to realize the awareness of the layers surrounding mental health, but also to remember to live with greater empathy, openness and care, Every. Single. Day.

If you or someone you know needs mental health assistance of any kind, please feel free to reach out to your local community mental health agency or call or text 988, the suicide and crisis lifeline or call 911 for immediate emergencies.

Take care of yourselves, and each other.

~ Relo Adams, Mr. Ponca City