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I love to learn, and so, it’s always fun to me when I learn an entirely new concept that I can apply to my life. It’s impossible for one person to know everything, so we all go through life doing the very best we can to gather knowledge and apply it in a logical way to better the world around us.

The concept I learned wasn’t entirely new to me, as I’ve unknowingly used this concept before in logic and reasoning. However, what I learned was the name of the concept and that it is a well-defined method of argumentation. Let me explain.

“Reductio ad absurdum, which translates to ‘reduction to absurdity,’ is a method of argument where an argument is disproven by showing that its logical conclusion leads to a ridiculous or absurd outcome. This approach proves a proposition by demonstrating that its opposite leads to an illogical or absurd result. Essentially, it argues that if a statement is true, it leads to an absurd or contradictory conclusion, therefore, the statement must be false.”

Here are a few examples:

1. On Skipping Practice Because You Already “Know the Basics”

Claim: “I don’t need to practice—I already know how to play.”

Reductio: By that logic, a baseball team should cancel all their practices once they learn the rules. No more batting drills, no more fielding grounders—just show up and hope muscle memory handles it. Before long, your shortstop forgets where second base is, and your outfield is using mitts to swat mosquitoes.

Conclusion: Knowing how something works isn’t the same as doing it well—practice keeps us sharp.

2. On Taking Too Many “Free” Items

Claim: “It’s okay for one person to take the entirety of complimentary items since they are marked as free.”

Reductio: If that were true, then it would be acceptable to take every complimentary mint

at a restaurant, every pen at a bank, or empty the candy bowl on Halloween—because they’re “free.” If this were the case, nothing would be free anymore because people would stop offering them.

Conclusion: The idea breaks down when taken to its extreme—just because something is free doesn’t mean it’s okay to take all of it.

It’s a fascinating way to take something - a behavior, an idea, a concept that someone is arguing is okay - but because they are viewing it as an isolated practice - they don’t see how that behavior, if done by everyone, could actually lead to disaster.

So, the next time someone says, “I think I should be allowed to do this,” or “I don’t think I should have to do this,” use this logical argument with that person, and maybe, just maybe, it will help them understand the absurdity of their argument.

editor@poncacitymonthly.com

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A PATH FORWARD: Hope for Those in Need

Story by Marlys Cervantes | Staff Writer

There will always be people in need in any community, and the key to a community’s identity is how they respond to those needs. According to A Path Forward’s founder and director Amanda Scott, the program is hope-based. They are an organization that serves people in the community who are in need, and they hope their service to people continues to grow, giving those in the community true reasons for hope.

Efforts to build this type of program began with the need for warming stations for the homeless during the winter season of 2023-24. A group of people saw a clear need to cover major gaps in the service for the homeless and low income in the community. Initially a group called Kay County Community Helpers began working together through a Facebook page that still exists today with well over 900 members. Scott says 2/3 of that group are those interested in

helping, while the other 1/3 are people in need.

The interest people had to help others continued and indicated the need for a more formal program, and A Path Forward officially formed in 2024. The cited mission on their website says, “Our mission is to empower the unhoused and impoverished individuals by addressing their needs. We focus on providing them with the necessary tools, resources and support that give them the opportunity to develop skills that will enable them to become selfsufficient members of the community. Through compassion, education and

“Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us. “

~ Samuel Smiles, British Author

opportunity we will pave the path forward creating lasting change and restoring hope in the lives of those we serve.” This past February, the organization received their 501(c) (3) designation, which is especially important since their funding comes from individuals and area businesses and other organizations they partner with for a variety of needs.

Amanda Scott giving supplies to a PCPS teacher

While their work has been vast in many areas of need in the community, Scott says, “Our main goal is to empower unhoused and impoverished individuals by providing them with the necessary tools, resources and support to become self-sufficient members of the community. A key part of this mission is meeting people where they are, without judgment, and offering them a hand up when they are ready to make a change.” Recognizing the needs in this community were easy for Scott, who spent years working with the homeless community in Oklahoma City before she moved to Ponca City.

The support the organization has provided is immense, with warming stations in the winter, cooling stations and hydration stations in the summer, a Christmas giveaway to help a single parent (this last Christmas they chose one single mom and one single dad as recipients), and Kicks for Kids that provided new shoes and other clothing essentials and school supplies in full for 90 children with 115 students receiving a good portion of those supplies. They have helped individuals gain needed rent, furniture and much more. Scott says that furniture is one of the most common needs, especially couches, beds and

dressers. In addition, monetary funds are also helpful since they assist with delinquent rent and clothing vouchers. Their assistance is as immense as the needs. When there are specific needs from one of their clients, they post the need in hopes of someone from the community being able to help. Scott says that 90-95% of their verified posts about needs have been met by the community.

In addition to Scott, the organization has a leadership team that includes board members, volunteers and community members who provide help. The current board members are Kevin Emmons, board president; Samantha Long, board secretary and treasurer; Jessica Johnstone, trustee; and Rebecca Littlehale and Dean Hulbert as

fundraising ambassadors. They also have a college intern who handles their social media. The needs are many, and there is another Facebook group specifically for those willing to volunteer, Ponca City Volunteer and Community Service Opportunities. If you are interested in volunteering, you should join this and the Helpers group. Besides the numerous activities they are responsible for already, they could use others interested in serving on their board, as ongoing volunteers and in grant writing now that they are an official nonprofit organization and qualify for available grants. If you don’t know Scott or her leadership team, you can message them through these FB groups for information and/or to volunteer.

As the weather is getting warmer, Scott looks forward to another one of their events. They will be sponsoring Starlit Exchange, a charity night market for Kay County, again this year. They plan to host at a different location than in the past so vendors can have access to electricity and bathrooms on-site. Anyone interested in donating to this event will receive recognition in their advertising and online. Last season they raised over $3,000. To be included as a vendor or to donate to the event, contact Scott for more information.

Chances are if you are involved with other organizations that work in our community,

Supplies giveaway for students

Amanda Scott and Chrissy Gann at Starlit Exchange event

you may have partnered with A Path Forward in the past. Scott expressed great appreciation for the organizations, businesses and individuals who have helped them meet their needs. Their team realizes they would never be able to meet these needs without others helping with the resources and work involved.

The long-term goal of the organization is to secure a larger building where they can centralize their activities, which are spread out right now. They will be able to be more efficient if this can happen, and they are in the process now of securing a place that could meet those needs. Scott expresses how much more they could accomplish if they had room for their supplies and, especially, to meet with individuals in need. They already have plans to expand their services when this happens by adding work-in-exchange programs, guidance on navigating state benefits and local resources, basic living skills classes to empower people with everyday knowledge and partnerships with organizations like Work Ready Oklahoma and NERA to

connect individuals with valuable resources. Scott says, “Looking ahead, our long-term goal is to establish a community outreach center and eventually transitional housing to provide a stable environment for working toward self-sufficiency.”

When looking forward, Scott explains, “Every donation, no matter the size, directly helps us support individuals in need and work toward our long-term goals.” When working with individuals, Scott recognizes that trauma causes so many issues, and A Path Forward meets individuals in need with understanding and no judgment. She hopes that people will spread word of their mission to help individuals needing help and those who can offer it the opportunity to come together. We can all be part of the solution to help improve the lives of those around us, to ease the shadow of their burden. A Path Forward can always use the assistance of others who are interested in spreading hope throughout our community.

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Real Self-Care for Real Life

Story By Tara Fredrick | Contributing Writer

Boundaries: The Ultimate Self-Care Tool

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Boundaries are the secret sauce of self-care. They’re the invisible lines we draw to protect our energy, mental health, and emotional well-being. I learned the hard way that if I didn’t respect my own boundaries, nobody else would. Especially after JoJo’s passing, I had to redefine what I could handle emotionally and physically. Grief taught me that boundaries aren’t about pushing people away. They’re about protecting what’s precious. And sometimes, that’s me just choosing solitude to recharge, or saying ‘no’ to commitments that drain me. Setting boundaries has allowed me to build the life I need, piece by piece. It’s about making space for the healing I deserve. I’ve noticed that as I become more protective of my own peace, my circle has gotten smaller but so much sweeter. Quality over quantity, always. It’s empowering to know I’m allowed

I lost my daughter, Jolene Rose. JoJo, as we called her, was my everything. Born with physical disabilities, she taught me unconditional love, strength and resilience. Her passing left me shattered, but self-care became my lifeline. It helped me rebuild, heal and honor her memory. Now, through this column, I’m sharing my journey and tools to help others care for themselves, no matter what life throws their way. Self-care isn’t selfish – it’s survival, and it’s how we thrive.

Work Ready Ponca City Removing Roadblocks to Employment

Story by Chelsea McConnell | Staff Writer

Work Ready Ponca City, a division of Work Ready Oklahoma, is a free career readiness program. In Ponca City, Work Ready is facilitated through Pioneer Technology as their host agency. There are currently 22 Work Ready sites across the state. The program began in 2017, with Ponca City’s location opening in 2024. Work Ready Director Dondi Rowe is a wealth of knowledge about the good she and her staff are doing in our community.

Work Ready is geared toward helping individuals 18 and older who are looking for work and ready to invest in themselves. The Work Ready curriculum has been broken down into a free, weeklong workshop to teach participants a variety of soft skills. The help Work Ready offers could be for the student who is looking for first-time employment, the stay-at-home parent looking to get back into the workforce or the employee who’s been somewhere for a long time and is looking to make a career change but doesn’t know where to start. If participants need or want further help after the initial workshop, the staff is prepared to continue working with them. Curriculum is available for a second week-long workshop to help further skills and offer more individual attention. Week two is a bonus week that builds on week one skills for those who really want to take themselves to the next level.

Rowe says in broad terms, they can help anyone who is in between jobs. They want to help participants find jobs with sustainable wages, which is defined as “$15 an hour or more with a pathway to benefits.” However, Work Ready is not a job placement agency. The classes they offer teach their participants the skills needed to place themselves in the right job. Based on what they learn about each participant during the workshop, they will give them leads that match their desires. About the workshops she adds, “We’re just happy that someone’s here to invest in themselves. We’re kind of like personal development for the job seeker.” They are here to help remove roadblocks to employment for those they serve.

Work Ready workshops are held once a month. They are Monday through Friday from 9:00 a.m.-3:30 p.m. each day. No participant is turned away. If someone has an appointment that can’t be missed, Rowe and her staff are willing to work around that to keep the participant caught up on content. If potential participants are worried about transportation to class, the Work Ready staff can help with those roadblocks as well.

The staff at Work Ready would really like to see anyone looking for a job commit to their weeklong workshop. Week one of the program is all about teaching participants soft skills. Job Coaches can help participants create resumes that stand out in 2025. They will coach participants in interview skills that lead to job offers.

L to R: Katie Holman, Employment Job Coach; Fae Rabb, Employment Job Coach; Cena O’Driscoll, Program Manager; and Dondi Rowe, Program Director.

Participants will do exercises to help them learn what their superpowers are and teach them how to talk about said skills with confidence during job interviews. Work Ready staff knows that finding a job can be intimidating for any number of reasons and they are here to help.

Work Ready hosts two job fairs each year, one in the spring and one in the fall. The spring Worklahoma Job Fair was held on Tuesday, May 6, from 10 a.m.-2 p.m. at Pioneer Technology Center. This event was an opportunity for workshop participants to meet North Central Oklahoma’s top employers and apply for jobs. Work Ready planned to have over 30 employers and vendors at their spring event. Door prizes were be given away as well.

individuals with children under the age of 17. This can include basic issues that have become roadblocks to employment like job supplies or uniforms. It can also extend to short-term certification trainings in areas like welding, nursing and commercial driving. They are able to partner with Pioneer Technology Center and other educational institutions to make these trainings an option.

in themselves so they can get the job of their dreams and live the life they want. Job Coach and Class Facilitator, Fae Rabb makes everyone feel comfortable and keeps classes fun and entertaining. Rowe says Administrative Assistant Hannah Patrick is the queen of resumes and can polish any resume up in no time at all. Job Coach, Katie Holman is great at helping people make employment connections and has years of experience in public service. Rowe and Manager, Cena O’Driscoll work behind the scenes to make sure the whole program runs smoothly.

The Work Ready program is funded through TANF, Temporary Assistance for Needy Families, which is a federally funded block grant. Their funding allows them to offer extra assistance to

Work Ready can also prepare participants who want to work remotely. They partner with businesses across the state that utilize a remote workforce. They have a solid list of reliable remote work employees who provide good pay with a pathway to benefits. The remote positions they recommend are all full-time. If a participant gets a remote job but doesn’t have sufficient office space in their home, they can office out of Ponca City’s Work Ready location for up to 90 days for free.

Rowe and the group at Work Ready Ponca City are passionate about helping individuals invest

If someone you know is in between jobs or struggling to find work, encourage them to visit the Work Ready office. Staff there are ready to welcome and help those who are ready to help themselves. Rowe shares that 88% of people who participate in their class find better employment within 90 days of completing the class. That’s 90 days away from a better life.

For more information, call the staff at Work Ready Ponca City today at (580) 718-4237 or visit them in Suite 307 of City Central, located at 400 E. Central Avenue in downtown Ponca City. You can find them online at , workreadyoklahoma.com or through social media as Work Ready, Ponca City. PCM

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AMERICAN LEGION AUXILIARY: Continued Service Since 1922

Story by Marlys Cervantes | Staff Writer

American Legion Auxiliary Unit 14 is dedicated to serving veterans. As president of the organization, Diane Beekman says, “Veterans are last to ask for help, and yet they will always help others.” The mission of the Auxiliary is a large one:

“In the spirit of Service Not Self, the mission of the American Legion Auxiliary is to support The American Legion and honor the sacrifice of those who serve by enhancing the lives of our veterans, military and their families, both at home and abroad. For God and Country, we advocate for veterans, educate our citizens, mentor youth and promote patriotism, good citizenship, peace and security.”

Although the organization is a national one, our local unit has been active since inception and continues to provide a variety of services and resources. The local office had to change some of their activities when they moved from their previous location to the one at 426 W. Grand Avenue since they went from having a large building to a smaller location. Previously, they could host breakfasts for fundraising and even used

Beekman and Selia Cooper Cooper delivering gift cards to staff at one of the schools

to host a popular mother-son dance from 201419, as well as stock numerous supplies that veterans and others might need. With less space, they’ve had to become more creative with how they raise funds and provide the support needed, but if you watch all they do, you will notice they are busy doing just that.

They are busy. Some of the recent support has been providing gift cards to each of the 11 elementary schools to use for their clothing banks at the schools. They also sponsor a scholarship

at Pioneer Technology Center for students with a one-time need, which might be for tools needed for a class or something similar. For veterans and/or military families, they provided food baskets at Thanksgiving and toys and gifts at Christmas. In addition, they try to keep signs on the doors of veterans in nursing homes, so people visiting the facility know they are veterans and of what branch of service.

The Auxiliary has also collaborated with other organizations such as the American Legion, VFW, Veteran’s Landing, Peachtree Landing, Survivor Resource Network and Bridgeway with various community projects, as well as adopted teachers at various times. Their mission is to serve others, and they take that seriously.

While the dance fund-raiser was one of their most fun to sponsor, both Beekman and board secretary Marilyn Lechtenberg said the most fulfilling activity they sponsor is Girls State, where girls from all 50 states are chosen and hosted for a week in June in Washington, D.C., where they learn more about responsible citizenship and leadership. The girls are chosen through a recommendation of grades, attendance, discipline and sponsors. They will learn more about how the government works and the process of writing and passing bills. There are usually about 300 girls total. Generally, Ponca City sponsors about six girls, but this year Beekman said there were 13 girls for whom they would like to find sponsors to send to the program. “It’s a good problem to have, but not one I was expecting,” says Beekman, as she talks about securing sponsors for the number of girls they hope to send this year.

They also assist if needed with Boys State, with the local effort coordinated by American Legion member Tom Sipe. Last year the group Ponca City sent to Boys State was their largest ever.

The two organizations have also adopted a National Guard unit together, providing lunches and a family fun night for the members of the

Diane Beekman looking at signed Wall of Fame

unit, as well as other items and activities. It is just one of the ways to provide for these service members and their families.

The American Legion in Ponca City has a rich history. The grounds for the original building were donated by oilman E.W. Marland, who didn’t stop there with his support. A copy of the Marland News on the wall at the current office tells that the charter of the organization was secured for the Ponca City Branch and that Marland would pay for all veterans who were employed by Marland Refining Company and Kay County Gas Company to enroll in the Legion.

In addition, many will remember the American Legion Children’s Home and its original purpose, providing a safe environment and support to the children of deceased veterans. The grounds for this facility were also donated by E.W. Marland, with other businessmen providing support to the project. Members of the Auxiliary were often sponsors for the children who lived there. Until 1995, all children there were those of veterans who were in need. At that time, the mission of

the facility in Ponca City was expanded to include other children as well, and now it is known as Marland’s Place, an organization to bring children together with nurturing families, both

foster and adoptive. The goal remains to improve the lives of children.

There are two former residents of the Children’s Home who have their photographs on the wall at the Auxiliary’s office to honor their sacrifice in service to the country. The first is Wm. Nile Huff with the 96th Company 6th Regiment, 1st Division U.S. Marines, who died June 15, 1918, in Belleau Woods, France. Also, Alvia Lee Minor who was missing in action (and considered deceased) on May 8, 1943, on the USS Neosho Navy Coral Sea. If you look further, you can find other former residents who serve in positions in business, politics and more. The Legion and Legion Auxiliary’s work to help others began early and has continued to benefit our community.

Their office on Grand hosts a service officer to meet with veterans and assist with needs and resources. Veterans can set up an appointment with the officer, and the usual day is Wednesday. There are seven VA Centers with nursing care, as well as other facilities to assist veterans. It is oftentimes difficult to navigate needs, and veterans are encouraged to meet with the officer to find out the resources available.

Many of the Auxiliary’s activities vary from year to year. They have a current membership of 25-30, although not all are necessarily active. You simply need a military connection to qualify to become a member, and you can do so to support the group even if you are unsure if you have time to be active. You can find out more about the Auxiliary on the Facebook page, American Legion Auxiliary Unit 14 Ponca City OK. The site will give an idea of some of the activities they’ve been involved in, but I assure you there are more than they indicate there. It’s a good time to be involved and help with the wonderful work they do. PCM

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The Help Is Right Here: Oklahoma Treatment Services

Story by Marlys Cervantes | Staff Writer

The problem is real, and many in our surrounding community suffer from opioid addiction without realizing there is a treatment center right here in Ponca City. Even though there are not enough Opioid Treatment Programs (OTPs) in Oklahoma to help the numerous rural areas, Ponca City has a gem of a center that serves many patients with a lean staff, and that center has been at work in our community since 2016.

Oklahoma Treatment Services LLC is a widely known program found throughout Oklahoma. There are locations in Bartlesville, McAlester, Oklahoma City, Roland and Tulsa, as well as Ponca City. The same company owns treatment centers in Colorado, Texas, Florida, New Mexico, North Carolina and Georgia, too. The clinic is found in the Rightway Medical Building on Hubbard Road.

With the need for this type of treatment rising in our state, it is no wonder they find themselves filling a need for many individuals. According to the Oklahoma. Gov website, the rate of unintentional drug overdoses in Oklahoma decreased 20% from 2016 to 2019, but turned around and increased 129% from 2019 to 2023. In addition, “methamphetamine overdose

deaths increased nearly 21-fold from 2007 to 2023 from 39 to 813 deaths.” Many of us have heard about the issues with the drug fentanyl, and it was “involved in 90% of opioid-related overdose deaths in 2023, compared to approximately 1020% annually prior to 2020.” The issue is real, and it’s a life-and-death one for many families in this state.

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Program Director Jessica Driggers has been with Ponca City’s center for three years and says, “Our primary mission is to strive to provide hope for our patients so they can live full, productive and stable lives.” She is passionate about patient care, and the staff at the center help individuals in a variety of ways. They not only look at the medication dosing needed to help individuals overcome their addiction, but they also may assist them with resumes for job interviews, securing a primary care physician and doctors to meet their medical, dental and mental health needs, and even organizing a budget. Being part of more than just medical

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Kay County residents had the highest rate of death.

needs helps the case managers assist patients to determine their triggers and barriers to healthy living, which is an important step in overcoming addiction.

Males were twice as likely to die as females.

Drug overdose death rates decreased 18% from 15.1 per 100,000 (2013-2017) to 12.4 per 100,000 (2018-2022).

The staff at the local center consists of six individuals: two case managers (one of which is Driggers, who has double duty), an administrative assistant, a dosing nurse who distributes the medications, a physician assistant and the medical director. Six members are on the staff, and they serve a current census of 172 patients, who are all seen at least once a month, while many are more frequent. The number of times they come each month depends on their success in keeping off the drugs. To obtain their meds, either methadone or suboxone used to treat narcotic dependence, patients take UA (urine analysis) tests to determine if they can receive more than one dose at a time. Their success leads to more trust with their treatment, because case managers and the others working at the center want to be available for the help patients require, and each person is different as they try to beat addiction.

78% of people who died had a history of substance use. 22% of people who died had a history of mental health problems.

going through withdrawal assists those working at the clinic to better determine the meds needed to help individuals and what other help may be needed. The nurse will do the intake, and the doctor will diagnose medication needs. Intakes occur on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays at 5 a.m. The program is completely voluntary, and most individuals come on their own after having heard about the program from their peers. Driggers says they are open, however, to work with willing referrals from physicians or clinics in town to collaborate for patients. Currently, they even receive patients from Arkansas City, Stillwater, Enid and surrounding areas. She says there are no OTP clinics on the west side of Oklahoma.

Driggers believes the outpatient nature of their treatment is beneficial to their patients. “Patients are able to tend to their everyday lives, while also being in treatment. This also allows patients and their case managers to really address any triggers and barriers in real time and ultimately utilize their coping skills daily.” She explains that those with supportive people in their lives continue to have that nurturing as they make progress, while at the same time having real-life difficulties to address with their case manager.

While it may seem odd, the best scenario for beginning is for new patients to come in after 12-24 hours not using. This time span off the drugs and beginning or

To keep up with patient progress and procedures at the clinic, Driggers meets weekly with the team to discuss any policy or protocol changes and assess any issues that may have occurred with patients. The group considers the best approach to helping patients in recovery and what resources they can utilize to help. The local clinic is much more than only a location to receive medication.

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You generally have four options for your QRP distribution:

1. Roll over your assets into an Individual Retirement Account (IRA)

2. Leave your assets in your former employer’s QRP, if allowed by the plan

3. Move your assets directly to your new employer’s QRP, if allowed by the plan

4. Take your money out and pay the associated taxes

Each of these options has advantages and disadvantages and the one that is best depends on your individual circumstances. You should consider features such as investment choices, fees and expenses, and services offered. Your Financial Advisor can help educate you regarding your choices so you can decide. Be sure to speak with your current retirement plan administrator and tax professional before taking any action.

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Although there are many challenges in the positions of these staff members, there are also many elements they find rewarding. Their patients often feel judged by others in town and even by their families at times. Driggers and the staff listen without judgment. They know beating addiction is extremely difficult. They build relationships so that patients realize they can be truthful about where they are in their addiction. They know sometimes the move from addiction is slow. Driggers says, “Progress is progress, no matter how small.” She mentions that sometimes it is a negative UA, and other times it is when a patient is finally truthful about their addiction, which is not always easy for them after the feelings of judgment. “The best treatment comes when everyone is honest,” she explains.

As relationships build, patients are more and more apt to take advice given. The staff celebrates these successes, and the success boosts patients’ self-esteem as they have them. It is always good to hear about a new job or even a good interview that occurred. Each successful step leads to the confidence to strive for more of them. Driggers even says, “When they discuss struggling to stay clean and make good choices, I tell them to

imagine a little Jessica on their shoulder.” It’s a solid way to help them slow down and consider the right choice for their lives.

Oklahoma Treatment Services works to eliminate the barrier people have when needing treatment. Driggers says, “We have a very caring team that is passionate about patient care.” The team knows it is a tough road, but as patients become more stable in their treatment, they can become more confident in themselves, and that is where the hope this staff desires to provide them comes to fruition.

While intake is Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 5 a.m., this team is available to see patients Monday through Friday until 11 a.m. They are located at 827 East Hubbard Road. The phone number is 580-762-3217, and their website is oktreatment.com. You can also find them on Facebook under Rightway Medical Ponca City. If you or someone you care about is currently fighting opioid addiction or wants to fight their addiction, this is a place for them to begin life anew. This staff is most certainly in the business of providing hope.PCM

Front Row: (L to R) Kristianna Fuentes, LPN/Admin Asst; Jessica Driggers, Program Director.

Back Row: (L to R) Tracey Biddle, LPN Program Nurse; Christopher Greenhagen, Physician Assistant; and Julia Hays Case, Case Manager II. Not pictured: Mark Oatman, Medical Director

Peachtree Landing & My Favorite Things

See the good. Be the light. Make the difference.

Story by Chelsea McConnell | Staff Writer

Peachtree Landing is providing “hope for the homeless” in Ponca City as Kay County’s only homeless shelter. The mission at Peachtree is people-focused. They assist individuals and families through their temporary emergency shelter. They have been welcoming women, single parents and families into the shelter for 36 years. The goal at Peachtree is for their clients to live independently. They help each client set goals based on their specific needs. Services facilitated through Peachtree include help finding employment and housing, help securing needed paperwork and documentation needed for next steps and help with basic life skills.

Terrie Hill has served as Executive Director for 16 years, following only one other ED, Carmaleta Wesbrook, who served for 20 years. When asked why she does it, Hill says, “For the successful ones that do make it and don’t ever come back, or the ones I see out in the community, and they tell me

I changed their life. I have a whiteboard on my door I wrote on, and I’ve never taken it down. It says, ‘See the good. Be the light. Make the difference.’ I think that sums up what we need to try to do here at Peachtree.”

Clients are brought in on a first-come, first-served basis. Folks can always call ahead to see if there is space available. Peachtree does require all clients have a valid picture ID and a Warrant Clearance from the Ponca City Police Department. Intake happens after 4 p.m., 7 days a week. The shelter provides their clients with the comforts of home at no cost; things like a warm bed, access to a kitchen and laundry room, along with food and toiletries. Stays at the shelter are limited to 30 days and clients must be working toward a goal for the

duration of their stay. Peachtree does not help clients financially. However, Hill does work closely with several other local, area and state agencies. Based on a client’s needs, she can put them in touch with a sister agency that can help them with issues like finding a job, a more permanent home or any other things that may be hindering a client from making positive progress.

Clients are expected to leave each day and work on fulfilling their goals during their time away from the shelter. They are invited back for dinner, unless they are working. They cannot be absent overnight. Peachtree maintains 10 House Rules clients must be willing to follow. The shelter has four full-time employees so there is someone on-site 24 hours a day.

My Favorite Things is a thrift store that supports Peachtree Landing. The store opened nearly 25 years ago. All profits from the store go back into the shelter and as they say, “At My Favorite Things, every find fuels hope.” After being located on Grand Avenue for many years, the store recently moved next door to the shelter.

Balancing a budget in the nonprofit world is always a challenge, particularly during tough economic times. Peachtree Board and Staff knew a change

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LAKE ROAD PONCA CITY

Congratulations Leadership Ponca City!

LPC Class 38 Leadership Chairs Brook Lindsay, Sean Grigsba and Molly Kyler

LPC Class 38 State Government Day at the Capitol

Brook Lindsay passes the Ponca City Leadership Chair “boots” to the new Class 39 Chair Erica Fetters. This tradition symbolizes filling “the big boots” of long-time LPC Chair, Chuck Rager.

Congratulations to Don Nuzum, the 2025 Larry Hughes Leadership Award recipient! Presenting to Don is the 2024 recipient, Carey Head.

Applications are available for the 39th Ponca City Leadership Class! Pick up an application at the Chamber Office or contact Shelley Arrott, shelley@poncacitychamber.com, for an electronic copy. THIS APPLICATION FORM MUST BE RETURNED to the Chamber office BY Monday, June 23, 2025, at 5:00 P.M. INTERVIEWS ARE SCHEDULED FOR June 30, July 1, and, if needed, July 2, 2025. The new class will be announced in early August.

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Story by Shannon Somers / Contributing Writer, Owner Aesthetic State of Mind

As we welcome the warmth and sunshine of June, it’s the perfect time to talk about one of the most effective ways to refresh and rejuvenate your skin—laser resurfacing. Whether you’re prepping for vacation photos or simply want to reveal your natural glow, laser peels offer powerful benefits for anyone looking to improve skin texture, tone, and health. Two standout treatments in this category are the NanoLaser Peel and the MicroLaser Peel, both of which deliver impressive results with almost no or minimal downtime.

What Is a Laser Peel?

Laser resurfacing works by removing the outermost layers of damaged or dull skin to stimulate collagen production and reveal smoother, younger-looking skin. The NanoLaser Peel is often referred to as the “weekend peel” because it offers noticeable results with just almost no downtime. It gently removes only the very top layer of skin, making it ideal for refreshing dull complexions, reducing mild discoloration, and smoothing fine lines.

On the other hand, the MicroLaser Peel goes a bit deeper. It targets more significant signs of aging such

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as wrinkles, acne scars, and uneven texture. Because it penetrates deeper into the epidermis, it may require a few more days of recovery, but the results are longerlasting and more dramatic.

Both treatments are highly customizable and are great options for clients looking to improve overall skin quality without the risks and recovery of more invasive procedures.

Laser Peels vs. Chemical Peels: Which Is Right for You?

Laser and chemical peels both aim to exfoliate damaged skin and accelerate the body’s natural healing process. Chemical peels use acids like glycolic or salicylic to dissolve dead skin cells, while laser peels use light energy to precisely vaporize skin layers. While both approaches are effective, laser peels offer greater precision, especially for treating targeted areas like fine lines around the eyes or mouth.

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exfoliation encourages healthy skin cell turnover and removes abnormal cells before they have a chance to progress.

Don’t Forget Your SPF!

As you invest in your skin’s health and appearance, one of the most important steps you can take year-round—but especially in June—is wearing sunscreen. Post-treatment skin is more sensitive to the sun, and even everyday exposure can undo the benefits of your laser or chemical peel. Apply a broad-spectrum SPF 30 or higher every morning, reapply during the day if you’re outdoors, and consider wearing a wide-brimmed hat for added protection. Think of SPF as your insurance policy for keeping your skin looking radiant and youthful after your treatments.

Laser peels like the NanoLaser and MicroLaser offer a safe, effective, and customizable way to rejuvenate your skin with minimal downtime. Combined with consistent SPF use and a tailored skincare routine, these treatments can help you maintain a healthy, youthful glow all summer long—and beyond.

needed to be made as they watched rent and utilities at their downtown location continue to rise. They made the decision to invest a small amount in rehabbing a space they already owned and have moved the store to that location as of March 1. Board member Scott Flanery spearheaded the remodel project, doing much of the work himself. While the new space is much smaller, it will mean more of what the store brings in will go to the shelter, as opposed to rent and utilities.

With the move to the smaller space, the store has revamped their tagging system to ensure inventory turns over more quickly, with items remaining in stock for 60 days or less. The store has two parttime employees and five others that volunteer on a regular basis to keep things running smoothly. My Favorite Things is open Monday through Friday, from 9:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. They accept donations on Mondays, Wednesdays and Saturdays. They do not accept broken items or obsolete electrical machinery.

The Cowboy Ball returned to MLZ Ranch on Friday, May 2, for another unforgettable night of boots, barbecue, and generosity—all in support of Peachtree Landing. For over 20 years, this allyou-can-eat-and-drink fundraiser has been one of Ponca City’s most anticipated events, and this year was no exception. Guests enjoyed live music from the Dirt Road Daredevils, delicious eats from Stagecoach Catering & BBQ, a lively silent auction, and good old-fashioned fun. With only 200 tickets sold each year, the event sold out quickly once again. Sponsors were treated to private tables near the dance floor, personal servers, champagne, and plenty of cowboy-worthy perks.

Fundraising events like the Cowboy Ball are driven by the hardworking members of the Peachtree Landing Board of Directors. Current Board members are President Paul Brown, Vice President Deb Altman, Treasurer Kacey Flanery, Secretary Jane Padgett, Maci Graves, Scott Flanery, Sadie Hainzinger-Fry, Clint Barney, Courtney Hughes,

Rachel Stewart and Paige Dunkel. Board terms are three years long with the option to come back on after sitting off for one year. This year, both Paul Brown and Deb Altman will be ending their terms on the Board. If you are interested in giving back to our community, Peachtree would be an excellent place to get started.

For more information about Peachtree Landing, contact the shelter at (580) 762-3208. If you’d like to shop or donate to support the shelter, stop by My Favorite Things at 500 N. 1st Street. For tickets to the Cowboy Ball, contact a Board Member or the Shelter today. Peachtree Landing is funded by an annual allocation from United Way of North Central Oklahoma, individual donations, proceeds from My Favorite Things and fundraisers like the Cowboy Ball. Community support in any form is greatly needed and appreciated to keep the doors open to Kay County’s only homeless shelter. PCM

Nicholson Auction & the Life of Homer

“It is only an auctioneer who can equally and impartially admire all schools of art.”

~Oscar Wilde, Irish Writer and Playwright, The Critic as Artist, 1891

Story by Marlys Cervantes | Staff Writer

Although there is so much to the life led by Homer Nicholson, his business Nicholson Auction & Real Estate is one area of his life that has been handled by the partnership of him and his wife, Barbara. The two have been true partners in this endeavor since 1993, a decade before Nicholson retired from Geophysics with Conoco. Just recently, they and their business received the Ponca City Chamber’s Business Partner of the Year for 2024.

Chamber CEO/President Shelly Arrott says, “Decisions are based on the impact the business has made on the Chamber and the community.” The award is given annually after a process that involves numerous individuals in the selection. Brooke Jones, chair of the Business Council Committee, presented this year’s award, saying, “This dynamic duo has consistently supported local organizations, schools and charitable events. From sponsoring initiatives to volunteering resources and time, their contributions have left a lasting legacy of generosity and service.”

In looking at all he has done for the community over the years, incoming mayor, Kelsey Wagner expresses the vast nature of his influence and work: “Homer Nicholson is a once-in-a-generation wonder. Homer had a successful

Brooke Jones, chair of the Business Council Committee, presented this year’s award, saying, “This dynamic duo has consistently supported local organizations, schools and charitable events. From sponsoring initiatives to volunteering resources and time, their contributions have left a lasting legacy of generosity and service.”

Nicholson says he may be most satisfied with his bringing the various important aspects of Ponca City— such as City operations, the Chamber, Economic Development and major businesses—together to work as a team when so many communities find these entities to be at odds with one another.

Current mayor and former City Commissioner Wagner sums it up like this, “Homer sets such a great example for us all, to live life to the absolute fullest. Homer has lived a true, ‘American Dream’ kind of life, and even though he has stepped down as mayor, I know he isn’t slowing down a bit. He’s just off on another grand new adventure.”

All these different experiences led to his being a mayor who has had many accomplishments. He believes his success as mayor was in part due to the discipline of being in the military, organizational skills developing training curriculum for Conoco and all that it takes to begin a new business. Nicholson states he feels blessed to have had the careers he had. His life has been diverse and interesting. While the weirdest items he has auctioned have been a NASCAR with truck and trailer and a casket that the purchaser made into a car, when asked about what he’s most proud about as mayor, his answers are the RecPlex, Public Safety Center and the fact that Ponca City was the first to offer free broadband Wi-Fi. As a matter of fact, he’s had a visitor come all the way from Australia to Ponca City to explore the idea of the free Wi-Fi.

He has spent decades carrying the message of Ponca City to other mayors across the state. Ponca City has many firsts: we were the first to have auto-meter reading, the first to use yellow flashing signals for left turns and first in the state to require no train whistles at some cross sections to keep more peace in neighborhoods. He and Barbara also traveled to China as part of our Sister City relationship with Lan Zhou, and they later hosted two young women from that city when they traveled to Ponca City. In addition to those accomplishments, Nicholson says he may be most satisfied with his bringing the various important aspects of Ponca City—such as City operations, the Chamber, Economic Development and major businesses—together to work as a team when so many communities find these entities to be at odds with one another. People have visited the city to see

how all these work together so well. Building that relationship was one of the first things on his agenda when he became mayor in 2006. He stresses, “Ponca City sets the bar.”

It seems Nicholson is good at setting the bar. His auction business is a full-service company providing services for farms, ranches, commercial, residential, business property liquidations, bankruptcies, estates, heavy machinery, airplanes, boats, guns, coins, household and most anything you can imagine. When he talks about it, he says, “The auction business is big business across the U.S. Many multimillion-dollar auctions of golf courses, farms, ranches, condominiums, apartment buildings, business liquidations, bankruptcies

and more are sold at auctions in big cities. This is because the final price at an auction is fair market value. One of my goals was to do my first million-dollar auction, and I did reach that goal at 1.4 million.”

The successes in Nicholson’s life have been many, and he has been honored with other awards along with this one from the Chamber.

A few others are the 2012 Mayor of the Year award for cities over 5,000 from the Mayors Council of Oklahoma (which means he was awarded this over larger cities like Tulsa and Oklahoma City), recognition for Outstanding Service as President of The Oklahoma Municipal League for 2011-13 and the 2024 Jeff Shockley Award for Outstanding Contributions on Behalf of Municipal Government, presented by the Oklahoma Municipal League. Nicholson was also inducted into the Oklahoma State Auctioneers Association Hall of Fame in 2014 for years of dedicated service to the profession and the organization. He has a passion for all he does.

Now, after retiring from yet another brilliant career as mayor, after both the U.S. Army and Conoco retirements, there is no telling what Nicholson will do. Current mayor and former city commissioner Wagner sums it up like this, “Homer sets such a great example for us all, to live life to the absolute

fullest. Homer has lived a true, ‘American Dream’ kind of life, and even though he has stepped down as mayor, I know he isn’t slowing down a bit. He’s just off on another grand new adventure.”

Retirement doesn’t seem to mean the same thing to Nicholson that it does to the rest of us. He is a true supporter of all things Ponca City, whether that be the workings of city operations, nonprofit organizations or just the people he meets. With all he has done, and with the partnership and continued assistance of Barbara at his side, we can all expect the presence of this business, their volunteering and Nicholson’s guidance to others to keep working for the continued betterment of Ponca City. PCM

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LAUGH ALL THE WAY TO THE BANK

State-of-the-Art: PCR Training Center

Story by Marlys Cervantes | Staff Writer

Nestled just south of Ponca City is the new, state-of-the-art training center for the Ponca City Refinery, which came together more quickly than expected once the project team was identified to design and develop the project in early 2024. The team represents various parts of the refinery and includes a diverse group of employees with different skill sets. They received funding in May and went full force ahead with the plans. What started as a 3-year project was almost entirely completed in one year. The floorto-ceiling remodel of the building now highlights the 10 Life-Saving Rules adhered to at the refinery and provides hands-on training prior to individuals being on the actual job.

“This is the only setup like this at any Phillips 66 site in the United States, so we are very excited that it is in Ponca City.“

~Erin Liberton

The goal of this type of training is explained by Erin Liberton, Sr. Advisor, Public Affairs & Communications: “This is a true statement to what Phillips 66 believes about the safety of not only their people but anyone that interacts and works with us every day.”

The Center will be utilized to ensure that those working in the refinery are trained even before they hit the refinery floor. P66 has a long-term relationship with Pioneer Technology Center where the refinery team develops

training programs and the staff at PTC handles the initial safety training and clearances for contractors. One project team lead says of the partnership, “We design, they execute.”

After discussions about how to improve training occurred following the last turnaround, P66 realized the opportunity for more hands-on training through simulated experiences would be valuable to contractors and employees. Now, they will have a tremendous facility for that training to even better ensure that the onboarding of contractors and

training of employees is as robust as possible, with the simulations and equipment mirroring that which is in this location. Since safety is their top concern, this was critical.

What began as a plan for contractors for the refinery has grown to a regional center for all those who work in the refinery. The P66 team has expanded this for their own employees in maintenance, operations and engineering. While they can accommodate a capacity of 115 in their face-to-face classroom and have a 20-computer lab, the most exciting expansions to training are the hands-on and virtual elements. These developments move training from an almost completely computer-based training into field training. Their training will be better suited to visual and kinesthetic learners, rather than focusing solely or primarily on auditory learning.

One of the most exciting and

interesting components is the HoloCAVE, which was engineered to provide a live feeling to the training. It was developed by UK Holosphere and is the first of its kind in the U.S. and only the second in the world (the other also belonging to P66). The HoloCAVE includes a digital twin of the refinery to do hazard awareness training and more. Liberton says, “We wanted everyone to have the feeling that the first time they stepped foot into a live unit it didn’t feel like their ‘first time’.” Trainees learn critical information and skills while feeling as if they are in the midst of a virtual reality game, with their own handheld controller while immersed in the refinery and their jobs. The mixed reality method should be perfect for attracting the next generation to these jobs.

With this in mind, they will continue to invest into the HoloCAVE with new tools utilized throughout the refinery and additional discipline-specific fields. They can

“This is a true statement to what Phillips 66 believes about the safety of not only their people but anyone that interacts and works with us every day.”

convert drone footage into a virtual walk-through of the refinery, allowing a 360-degree view. A team member explains, “A huge part of this Training Center is to make their training mimic as exactly as possible what they’re doing out in the field.” Current training programs using this technology include identifying safety issues and determining what the next step is with each issue. It is not only a way to develop skills but a way to help employees be more confident in their knowledge and what to do in situations. They are working with their Instrumentation and Electrical vendor to create a duplicate training simulator to better teach operations personnel about proper actions in emergency situations without putting them or others in potential danger. Just more evidence of this evolving project.

The ways the HoloCAVE can be used for continued growth are impressive. The opportunities for additional training and even greater safety for all working in the refinery is obviously at the heart of this project. Even though all elements of this project will be completed soon, Liberton explains the Center can “constantly evolve and enhance” the training provided, and she expects that to continue to keep it “relevant and effective.”

Depending on what training is happening at the time, the Center may be staffed with a combination of Pioneer

Technology Center staff for onboarding contractors and PCR’s Training and Learning team, Health & Safety, and others as they continue to build training solutions and opportunities.

The project has great support from all levels of P66, and there was a recent visit from the Executive Leadership Team that included President & CEO Mark Lashier for an in-depth tour. Not surprisingly, they were impressed with the facility and the work thus far that makes safety an even stronger reality for PCR. They earlier hosted their Community Advisory Council as well, to see how work was going on the Center.

Numerous local companies were and are being used for this tremendous project, so many in the community have been involved in a variety of ways. You do not want to miss seeing this Center, which is both innovative and beautiful. PCM

CEO & President Mark Lashier on Tour

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Story by Adam Leaming, Ponca City Public Schools, Superintendent / Contributing Writer

SUMMER IN PONCA CITY SCHOOLS:

Preparing for the Future While Honoring Our Progress

When students head home for the summer, our school buildings take a much-needed breather. From August to May, our facilities support nearly 4,500 students and 800 dedicated staff members, and over time, the wear and tear begins to show with scuffed floors, chipped paint, weeds in the flowerbeds and the occasional flickering light bulb.

But summer is our season to refresh, repair and reinvest in our spaces. Across Ponca City Public Schools, our maintenance and operations teams are hard at work. Mowers are buzzing across school lawns, and paint crews are rolling fresh color onto walls to brighten our classrooms and hallways. Every corner of our district is getting the attention it deserves, so we can start the new year strong in August.

We’re also proud to launch a series of exciting summer programs that continue our mission even when school is out. This year marks the beginning of our Summer STEM Experiences at the P66 STEM Center on the Po-Hi campus. These week-long camps are open to elementary and middle school students and focus on fun, hands-on projects that inspire creativity and innovation. These experiences made possible by a generous $1 million donation from Phillips 66 are further proof of what strong partnerships between public schools and corporate leaders can do for our children’s future.

Another exciting return this summer is our Driver’s Education program at Ponca City High School. Last year, we helped more than 40 students take steps

toward earning their licenses, and we’re thrilled to offer this opportunity again. When you see our student drivers on the road, be sure to give them a little extra space and encouragement as they drive. They’re learning life skills that will stay with them long after high school!

Summer is also a time for athletics and extracurriculars. Our high school campus is buzzing with team camps, athletic clinics and student activities. Thanks to the community’s support of the October 2021 bond issue, our facilities have been transformed, and we’re using them to their fullest potential to help kids grow as leaders, both in the classroom and on the field.

At Ponca City Public Schools, we believe learning doesn’t stop in the summer. It just shifts gears. Whether through summer camps, maintenance projects or driver’s ed, we are always preparing for the future, while celebrating the progress we’ve made.

Thank you for your continued support, and I hope you find something this summer that connects you with the Wildcat Way. It’s an honor to serve the families of Ponca City.

Adam Leaming, Superintendent Ponca City Public Schools

CHAMBER BUZZ

Story by Shelley Arrott, Ponca City Chamber of Commerce CEO | Contributing Writer

THIS ISN’T JUST ANOTHER

EVENT

It’s Your Business Booster

Something is energizing about walking into a Ponca City Chamber event and seeing a room full of familiar faces—business owners, community leaders and professionals all showing up, not just for themselves, but for each other. Lately, we’ve been thrilled to see just how many of our Chamber investors are turning out for ribbon cuttings, Business After Hours and special presentations and events.

And let’s be honest—it’s making a big impact. It’s more than just a great turnout. It’s a visual reminder that our business community is alive and connected. When investors show up in numbers, the room gets a little brighter, the conversations get a little livelier and the message gets a whole lot louder: Ponca City shows up for its own.

We get it—your schedule is jam-packed. But when the Chamber e-Blast appears in your inbox every Tuesday and Friday at 7 a.m., don’t scroll past it—that’s your cue to make a move.

Every event is an opportunity to:

• Make meaningful connections

• Network with potential customers or partners

• Increase your visibility in the community

• Build goodwill and brand recognition

• Position yourself as an engaged, supportive local leader

It also tells future customers:

“I’m involved, I’m reliable and I’m not just a name on a sign.”

It’s visibility without the price tag of a billboard. It’s networking without the awkwardness of a cold call. And it’s a chance to get your business tagged, your photo snapped and your brand remembered—all while developing real relationships within the business community. Your presence tells the public that Ponca City’s business community is strong, united and thriving—and that you’re a vital part of it. Together, we build a network where success is shared and celebrated.

When you attend Chamber events, people remember you. They see your face, hear your story and are far more likely to refer your business, support your services or reach out for collaboration. We have business leaders right here in Ponca City who will tell you their business has expanded and prospered because of their engagement and support of the community. Call me for names, they would love to give you a testimonial! However, you likely know who they are!

So don’t just invest in the Chamber—be part of the Chamber. When you show up and stay engaged, your Chamber investment pays you back many times over.

Because showing up isn’t just polite—it’s smart business.

And let’s not forget—the Chamber has amazing committees that impact multiple areas; incredible speakers; the best leadership and alumni programs; updates and forums from local, state and national elected officials; local sales campaigns that add serious value to your investment; advocacy programs for our schools and anything that makes a positive impact on Ponca City; and incredible marketing for our investors.

Whether you want to lead, learn or just connect, there’s a place (and a program) for you with the Ponca City Area Chamber of Commerce.

Having the Conversation:

The Bright Side to a Chronic Condition

Story by Stephanie Krenn | Contributing Writer

I appreciate people that see the best of life and situations first, and lead with encouragement, optimism and excitement. However, my default is realism, bordering on pessimism, and controlling my environment as much as possible. Throwback to the show Friends, I am more Monica than Phoebe. Through hundreds of personal interactions and listening to others’ struggles and successes in their medical journeys, I am learning to lean into the rays of hope more than the dark clouds, especially when the unexpected happens.

Developing a secondary chronic condition due to treatment is not something I wished for myself, but it has forced me to shift my thinking from the unknown negatives into a goal of helping others through their circumstances. During my first surgery following chemotherapy, it was determined cancer cells had spread to my lymph nodes. The surgeon removed all of the nodes under my arm followed by extensive radiation therapy for the upper right quadrant of my body. This combination of complete node dissection and radiation damaged my lymphatic system, resulting in a condition called lymphedema. This is where the fluid, normally moved throughout the body carrying proteins and filtering waste, has no path to move and it builds up in the tissue of the affected area. I explain it like a bridge (all the lymph nodes) being demolished from the road of my lymphatic system, and the cars (lymph fluids) are now backed up like a traffic jam with no alternative routes to follow. This causes severe swelling from my fingers to my shoulder and across my back and chest. It affects my ability to use my dominant arm and hand for the simplest of tasks like holding a pen or typing. Lymphedema affects 1 in 1,000 people in the U.S. and can be caused by genetics and malformations of the vessels, or by trauma to the lymphatic system with

the most common cause being cancer related.

The extreme swelling had an effect on my self-esteem, the clothing I could wear and my job performance. I began to pull back from social events with friends and family and quit volunteering. I did find hope that treatment was available and the condition could be managed, yet I have continued to struggle with maintaining consistent care. The nearest specialized lymphedema therapists are 90 miles away in several directions from my home. The standard of care for my stage of the disease is multiple appointments per week for physical therapy (a four-hour round-trip including the appointment), combined with bulky, layered bandaging or custom-made compression garments to be worn every day and night. The individual responsibility of wrapping (compressing) my arm combined with manual lymphatic drainage takes 60-90 minutes every single day. I understand why the research shows lower compliance rates with rural patients in managing their condition resulting in higher infection rates, hospital stays and advanced stages of the condition. It will be a lifelong battle, as is the nature of chronic conditions. I have talked to many of you as patients or caregivers dealing with ongoing health issues, and I understand how taxing it can be, but do not give up.

On my hardest days, usually in the heat of summer when the swelling is the most severe, I find hope in sharing my knowledge of how to advocate for better health outcomes across the board. I talk to other patients about their experiences. I seek out medical providers about additional resources for rural patients, including those

who travel to smaller clinics, and offer telehealth options. I encourage medical professionals to cross-reference with other specialties and share with their patients the information acquired. I learn to navigate insurance coverage and appeals processes. I make lists of programs that help with travel costs and living expenses. I engage organizations who are committed to closing the gap in rural healthcare. Then I tell anyone who will listen. I give that information away to other patients and caregivers personally, in online forums or at conferences.

It has been encouraging over the last decade to see how the conversation regarding lymphedema has gained traction. Patients are speaking to their providers early on about the possible effects of lymphedema. More emphasis is now placed on evaluations before and after surgery and radiation in order to prevent lymphedema from developing. The Lymphedema Treatment Act took effect on January 1, 2024, and is a huge leap toward insurance coverage of medically necessary, and often expensive, compression garments since they can only be worn for six months before needing to be replaced. These things are worth celebrating often and loudly, as they are allowing people with this chronic condition to have a better quality of life. I am controlling what I can and empowering others to advocate for themselves. That is the bright side to my chronic condition, and I have the optimists in my life to help me remember it as I continue the work for myself and those who will follow. All my best, until next time.

Book Reviews

The Haunted Studio

by Hayley LeBlanc

Hayley is a 13-year-old actress who plays the main character, Sadie, in the TV show called Sadie Solves It. Her best friends, Aubrey and Cody, play Sadie’s best friends on the show. The show has been renewed for its second season, and everyone is pumped to begin filming the new season. There’s one big change: Since their first season was so successful, the network has moved the show to Stage Five at Silver Screen Studios in the heart of Hollywood. It’s a big change from where the show was shot last year.

On the first day of filming the second season, Hayley and friends are introduced to the ghost of Stage Five. They can’t decide what they think about that. Hayley is certain that ghosts don’t exist. Aubrey thinks that maybe they are real. Cody is undecided. Later that day, the ghost is sighted, disrupting the scene they are shooting.

The next day, the lights begin flickering while Hayley is in “Hair and Makeup.” They keep flickering, then go out completely. It’s super-

(The Hayley Mysteries, book 1)

scary. The kids decide that three instances of ghostly behavior are just too coincidental. They decide to investigate.

Paul, the show’s creator, is frustrated with all the delays that are being caused by the ghostly behavior. He shares with the kids that if they continue to experience delays in filming, the network could decide to cancel the show. The kids start to wonder … Who could be trying to convince them that Stage Five is haunted? Why would someone want to do that?

The following day, a giant lamp falls from the ceiling, almost landing right on Hayley. Then there’s an electrical fire on Stage Five that shuts down filming for several days. Can Hayley and her friends solve this mystery? This is a great new series for young readers!

Reviewed by Lorrie Layton

THE PERFECT DIVORCE BY JENEVA ROSE

The Perfect Divorce is a sequel to (can you guess it?) The Perfect Marriage. So, if you haven’t read Marriage yet, be sure to grab it first. If you have never read Jeneva Rose before, this is the duology to start with. While her other books are just as good, these two solidify that Jeneva is an absolute queen when it comes to thrillers and twists and “I didn’t see that coming!”

This is going to be a hard review to write without giving too much away from the first book, just in case you haven’t read it yet! We join the remaining characters, 11 years after Sarah Morgan had to defend her then-husband, Adam, against the murder of his mistress. Sarah has since moved on from Adam to bigger and better things, including a new husband, children and even a new career. When she finds out her second husband might not be so much better after all, and events from the past seem to be repeating themselves, she also discovers new evidence in the case against her ex-

husband that might change everyone’s lives!

Does Sarah know the truth about what really happened so many years ago? Does she know what happened to her new husband’s onenight fling? Will the truth ever surface and those wronged be exonerated?

I’m a critical thinker and can normally figure out the ending to a story pretty early on, but Jeneva Rose keeps me guessing until the very last page and then hits me with a few more surprises before stabbing me with a runaway ending! If you are looking for a keep you up all night, can’t put it down until you know how it ends story, these books are for you!

Reviewed by Tara Anson

The Sunny Side

by Liz Threlkeld / Contributing Writer

THE HARD TRUTH—PART TWO

Asking Ethical Questions of Our Homesteading Practices

Hey, Friends!

If you’ve ever spent any time with me, you know I love to ask questions. I’m sure if you asked any classmate in my history, one thing that would likely stand out in their memory would be that I asked a lot of questions in school! I cannot tell you how many times I was thanked by my peers for asking so many questions because they were too nervous, shy or afraid to ask the question themselves. So, I continue to ask, for myself and for the benefit of all…

Now, as a reminder and in case you didn’t read last month’s article, these questions are a tool to provoke thought and are not here to cast judgment, shame or shade. Because our actions come from our beliefs and ethics, it’s good to evaluate them regularly. They shape the way we interact with the land, animals, resources and community.

These are personal questions—only you can determine where you stand. Some may require reflection or deeper exploration, and not all will have quick or easy answers.

Before diving in, here’s a simple guide to help you navigate uncertainty when you’re unsure how to respond:

• Who benefits from this?

• Who might be negatively affected?

• What are the long-term consequences?

If you're still unclear, try asking “why?” around six times. It’s a powerful way to dig deeper and get closer to the root of the issue.

Ponder again with me…

Questions

Animal Welfare

• If I have to dispatch an animal, do I do it in a timely and humane manner?

Welcome to “The Sunny Side” where we’ll chat about all things homesteading! My name is Liz Threlkeld and I have been homesteading with my family in small forms or large fashions for most of my life. From growing gardens to DIY projects, to cooking and preserving, to raising and processing our own meat animals, we’ve learned a thing or two along the way. I’m excited to get to share some of this life with you. Ready? Let’s grow!

• Do I respect the animals that provide for me?

• Are my livestock raised humanely, with ample access to sunlight, fresh air and pasture?

• Am I more concerned with making my animals comfortable than I am with making them healthy?

• If “I am what I eat,” then perhaps I’m also what my food eats. Do I prioritize speed over nature; am I encouraging growth, or just rushing it? What are the long-term effects of feeding animals a diet designed for rapid results, rather than allowing them to forage, graze and grow at their natural pace?

Food Choices & Impact (and voting with my dollar)

Being regularly rotated to fresh grazing, this flock of laying hens enjoys the immune-boosting benefits of grass, as well as proper nutrients and exercise to produce nutrientdense farm-fresh eggs for RLC Farm in Ponca City. Easily moveable, step-in fence posts hold up an electric fence for daytime protection and a repurposed train car on wheels provides shelter for the birds at night. RLC Farm has had no issue with the Avian Influenza (Bird Flu).

Photo Credit: Tammy Ross

• Is it important to me to know how to grow/ procure food?

Environmental Responsibility

• Am I improving soil health or only extracting from it?

• What happens to the baby rooster chicks and bull calves in the egg and dairy industries, especially the ones I support?

• Do my food choices support local, seasonal eating, or am I contributing to a larger carbon footprint by demanding out-of-season imports? Do I know if my food was grown or harvested ethically using fair trade?

• What is the impact of food miles on our environment and local economy? (A food mile refers to the distance food travels from its source—such as a farm or factory—to your plate.)

• Am I eating/feeding my family real, whole food or food-like items?

• How do my farming and food choices reflect my values about sustainability and ethical consumption?

• Would we have less hunger crisis if more people knew how to forage/grow food?

• Am I taking more than my fair share of wild and natural resources?

• Am I using water, chemicals and natural resources responsibly, considering their long-term effects on the environment, pollinators, customers and future generations?

• Do I make it a point to recycle and repurpose materials where possible?

• Am I rushing the growth of our plants with synthetic fertilizers instead of crafting the best environment possible and letting nature take its own course?

We are our future history. How will we create our legacy?

One question at a time…

Liz Threlkeld

Stew On That

by Rachel Stewart / Contributing Writer

I am speaking to one person, and one person only, and that’s the driver of a black/navy/dark-colored Honda. I don’t know if it’s a Civic or Accord (I don’t know the model. Are you kidding me, I barely know my kids’ names), and it wasn’t new or even new-ish, an older car, and you’re a man, who was driving it. On April 21, 2025, at approximately 9:58 a.m., you pulled out of the Perkins parking lot, like a bat out of h-e-double hockey sticks, cut me off, made me slam on my brakes; I nearly spilled my venti Chai latte on myself, ONLY FOR YOU TO GO 23 MILES PER HOUR. I just have one question for you—who do you think you are? Actually, I just thought of a second question, how dare you? I had my phone in my hand trying to put on some jams, was talking to my bestie on my car speakers, had a delicious chocolate muffin

on my lap and my latte in my other hand, driving with my knee, then you come out of NOWHERE. Do you know how dangerous it is to pull out in front of someone like you did? Especially while I’m driving with my knee. That’s really hard to do, you know, it takes a lot of multitasking. You could kill someone driving so irresponsibly! In fact, I had to slam on my brakes so hard that all of the sunglasses, papers, trash, kids toys and other junk on my dashboard flew all over my car. I know you’re probably thinking to yourself, “Wasn’t all that crap obstructing your view?” and the answer is yes, but that’s neither here nor there. The bottom line is that you need to be safer and more careful while driving, sir. Please start paying attention to what you’re doing and focus on DRIVING. God forbid a girl enjoy her favorite morning drink and treat from The Perk with a maniac like you on the road!

Insights on Higher Learning:

Robotics Camps Deliver STEM Exploration

Story by Tim Williams CEO, University Center at Ponca City / Contributing Writer

Summer is here, and the University Center is bustling with the activity of Lego Robotics Camps. The camps provide students 2nd-7th grade with opportunities to explore the exciting world of robotics.

Every year Oklahoma Works compiles a listing of our state’s “Top 100 Critical Occupations.” Many of these careers require education beyond high school. Highneed careers in STEM-related fields include those related to cybersecurity, AI, STEM education, chemical engineering, all areas of medicine, environmental management and aerospace technology, just to name a few.

and build robots to complete complex tasks, including those related to renewable energy. The Space Challenge camp requires students to use problem-solving skills to conquer challenges related to space exploration. These challenges include initiating a shuttle launch to Mars and setting up a satellite for communication.

Enter the University Center (UC) Lego Robotics Summer Camps. In the Lego WeDo camps for grades 2-4, students build motorized LEGO models and use simple programming in problem-solving scenarios. The other camps are for grades 5-7. The Level 1 camp is Introductory Robotics and Programming. Students collaborate to learn the basics of computer coding and build a robot that can interpret the code. Students enjoy programming robots to navigate a maze and create a class synchronized dance. The Level 2 camp is Machines and Mechanisms. Students create code

The LEGO camps originated at the UC in 2018 under the leadership of then-CEO, now PCPS Superintendent Adam Leaming. They continue to be a favorite of area students, and only a few spots remain available. Phillips 66 has provided generous grants to provide the resources required for the camps to be successful. This year the Next 1 Up Foundation is partnering with the UC to provide generous scholarships to help offset tuition costs. High school counselor Britany Lawrence and Deb Jones help lead the camps. The UC takes seriously its role in helping students experience the joys and challenges of STEM. Many will continue their journey through high school, college and beyond, becoming leaders in STEM-related fields. It is exciting to watch their journeys. Perhaps you and I can even embark on STEM journeys of our own.

Keep learning!

Story by Jeff MacKinnon / Contributing Writer

All right, let’s dive into a more sensitive topic, workplace parking. In every office parking lot, there’s more going on than meets the eye. That “first come, first served” idea? Only true if you’re not high enough on the org chart. Let’s be honest, parking isn’t just about convenience, it’s a status symbol. Everyone else? They circle. They wait. They scheme. In the grand hierarchy of the modern workplace, nothing says status like a prime parking spot. Forget promotions. Forget raises. The real win? Parking five feet from the door like royalty while your coworkers trek in from a distant spot like caffeinated vagabonds.

In metro areas, parking wars are a matter of survival. In Ponca City, America, it’s more about territory, tradition and gossip. Drama is reduced, but still very real. So, let’s take a journey into, “Parking Wars: Metro vs. Rural Edition.”

Entertain yourself with some popular categories and cultural differences.

Parking availability in the metro accounts for none, ever, you circle like a vulture while you weep in despair. Rural spots are unlimited but dare you park in Sharon’s spot as everyone knows she has parked there since 1999? The spot is unmarked, but woe to the intern who dares park there. She won’t say anything, but your stapler might mysteriously disappear.

Winter parking for metro drivers— driver sits in a cozy, heated vehicle, latte in hand, glaring laser beams at the maintenance worker with the snow shovel. Rural parkers take the sunny spot like it’s a solar investment, just to earn that snowless patch in December. It’s a long game as they spectate their co-workers’ scraping windshields amidst an ice age.

Key takeaways, metro parking is a daily test of survival and diplomacy. Small town parking is a social contract enforced by gossip and tradition. In both cases, you’re not just parking a car, you’re navigating a delicate ecosystem of status, spite and asphalt etiquette.

Story by Relo Adams, MS, MCP, LPC-C / Ashley Adams, M.Ed, MCP, LPC-C /Contributing Writer

“The Journey Part 1” : A Prayer in the Sand

June 17 is Ashley’s and my 14th wedding anniversary. As I thought about what I’d write about for June, I knew I wanted to incorporate my marriage somehow. Being married 14 years means we have lots of ups and downs, especially considering that for the majority of our marriage we were, or are, healing from chronic illnesses. That alone, is a story in, and of, itself. The mental health struggles that chronic illness brings, the uncertainty, the strain it brings to a marriage. I mean, I can go on and on. If our marriage was not centered in Christ, I am not sure where we would be as a couple. Our love story is simple. We were both performers in the Northern Oklahoma College performance group, The Roustabouts! My first year there, summer 2007, was Ashley’s first year at Belmont University in Nashville. Her reputation at NOC was impressive, but I couldn’t care less. I was fresh out of Lawton, Okla. Everything was new to me, and I thought it was so strange how genuinely nice everyone seemed to be. Ashley came to visit one day during a break from school and a mutual friend, Tatia Cordes (Collins), introduced us. She said, “This is THEE Ashley “LeeLee” Hopkins. She’s a signed country singer in Tennessee.” I said “Hi” and scurried away to practice. I wasn’t the most confident person back then, and again, I didn’t care. I too was signed to a recording contract at one time and thought I was hot stuff. How embarrassing ... Honestly, the arrogance should have been enough for Ashley to go the other way. Instead, she came to watch our performance that night and the rest is literal history!

At that time, we were 19 or 20 years old and didn’t know much about life or really what we wanted. One thing was certain, though! We knew we wanted each other, no matter what. Ashley often says she dreamed about me when she was a little girl, stating “You were blurring in my dreams. I knew you’d have a bigger nose, I knew you were extremely tan and have wavy hair. When I met you after that concert, after saying hi in your dorm building (Busch DuVall, NOC Campus), I knew you were the one from my dreams.” How corny, right!? Well, let me tell you something, I knew she was the one too! I know the concert she talks about, and I remember what she was wearing.

I remember the awkward hug we shared afterward and her telling me how amazing I was. The embrace was as if we had known each other for years. I knew I’d marry someone sweet. I knew she’d have round bright eyes like my mom, have long hair like my mom did, she would be a go-getter, and be strong and outspoken, even if that meant being a loner or black sheep at times. That is Ashley. She has never cared to fit in, and has always stood firm in her beliefs and faith.

We talked on the phone for days at a time, and Ashley eventually moved back to Oklahoma. She became ill, homesick and extremely depressed. Home seemed safe at that time. I, of course, always say she moved back for me, because it annoys her, AND my father in-law (just kidding), Hi, Pat. We got married. Our wedding was amazing, and we were so proud to be so young and blessed to have found one another so early in life. Ashley and I were married June 17, 2011, and it was a record hot day that summer, just 21—young, hopeful and brimming with dreams. The world felt wide open, and our future seemed destined to unfold like a fairy tale. Children were always part of the plan—laughing toddlers, first steps, messy hands and bedtime stories. We had big dreams, for sure!

negative tests and failed fertility treatments weighed heavily on us both. Infertility became a quiet grief that lived in the spaces between our words and the dreams we couldn’t let go of. Ashley had been diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) when she was a teen and was instructed to embrace the reality of never being able to bear children. The words of that doctor rang in the back of her head for years. The lie, the unhelpful thoughts, everything that came along with it. It was a lot to say the least.

Then came my diagnosis in 2016—a benign brain tumor. It wasn’t life-threatening, but it disrupted everything. My body was thrown off balance. Hormones shifted. And after several tests and heart-wrenching discussions, I was diagnosed with male infertility, how embarrassing. The irony, or maybe the cruelty, was unbearable. Just when Ashley had begun to experience signs of healing, MY body closed the door to one we thought was opening—the possibility of making a baby! PCOS isn’t something that miraculously goes away, but Ashley’s did. How good is our God!? We continue to claim healing over our bodies and continue to receive good reports! Pray bold prayer, people!

Roughly five years into our marriage, Ashley was still not pregnant. Month after month, year after year, the

Still, at that time, we clung to each other. We kept living, loving and dreaming. Our favorite escape was

the beach—salt in the air, waves rolling in and miles of sand to write and walk on. We would walk hand-in-hand, barefoot and full of hope, scribbling baby names in the soft shorelines that the tide would eventually wash away. One name always remained our favorite—Peyton. Inspired by the fierce and soulful Peyton Sawyer from One Tree Hill, we both agreed the name was perfect for a boy or a girl. Peyton represented something strong, enduring and smart.

Then, at the seven-year mark in our marriage, something changed. Not in the way we had imagined— but in a way we’d later understand was divine. We adopted a 7-year-old boy. His name? Peyton.

It felt surreal, as if all those years of dreaming had summoned this child into our lives. Peyton was quiet at first, cautious yet inquisitive and rambunctious and we were nervous too. Would he feel like ours? Would we feel like parents? Peyton was a client of mine when I worked for the department of Human Services. I had known him since he was 5 and saw failed placement after failed placement. I never thought he would be my child, ever. At that time, I worked in Enid, Okla., and for 9 months, Ashley was home alone with Peyton. Those months were long and challenging, filled with tantrums and trust-building, with laughter and late-night bonding on the way to get ice cream. Ashley poured everything into him, her time, her heart, her entire being. We realized, in those 9 months, she had carried Peyton. Not in her womb, but in her spirit. She nurtured him through

fear, insecurity and the transition into our family.

One evening, after I had returned home from work, we were going through old beach vacation photos. There, in the corner of a picture, faint, almost washed away was a name written in the sand: Peyton.

We looked at each other and knew. God had been listening all along. Ashley cried and I stood there expressionless (if you know you know). For the years of longing. For the miracle that didn’t come wrapped in a swaddle but in a 7-year-old boy who needed us as much as we needed him. It wasn’t the way we thought our prayers would be answered, but it was an answer just the same. A better one, in many ways. This was a lesson to us that God answers bold prayers and hears our deepest cries and also that he doesn’t always answer prayers the way we imagine or desire our prayers to be answered. This was a lesson and a reminder that there is no problem too big, or concern too small, that God is not concerned about. He truly cares and is a good father. He knows what we need before we know we need it. How humbling. The creator of the universe cares for little us.

While we found fulfillment in having the perfect son, our longing remained. Ashley, now miraculously healed, continued to dream of carrying a child. We both ached to experience pregnancy. But now, I bore the weight of infertility due to a dumb benign brain tumor. Together, we wrestled with the unfairness of it all. We tried not to ask why, but sometimes the questions came anyway.

The anger came anyway, and the comparison and resentment flared at times. We followed every moral rule laid out from the time we started dating—EVERY rule was respected, OK? So, it was easy to slip into the trap of comparison and “fair.” Still, we did the only thing we knew: turned to God. We leaned on our faith, our community and each other. Prayers continued, some whispered in the dark, others cried into a pillow and many lifted up by friends and loved ones who never stopped believing for us. Peyton, now thriving and full of joy, became the reminder of what bold prayers could become. A prophecy written first in sand, then in tears and finally in the heart of a little boy who calls us Mom and Dad. Our fertility journey is far from over, and one thing is certain: hope had a name and its name is Peyton who often asks for siblings …

Stay tuned for July’s mental health minute as we take a deeper dive into the ups and downs and the mental health struggles that chronic illness and fertility issues and treatments can have on a marriage.

If you or someone you know needs mental health assistance of any kind, please feel free to reach out to your local community mental health agency, call or text 988 the suicide and crisis lifeline or call 911 for immediate emergencies.

Take care of yourselves,

Ashley and Relo Adams (Mr. Ponca City)