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My eldest son Pierce will be graduating from high school this month. The transition from child to adult is a slow process, and there really is no definitive line that they cross, signaling to their parents that they are suddenly “adults,” not even graduation. The process comes in stages, with leaps of progress and some regression along the way.
I can remember that feeling of overwhelm, but also excitement of being an 18-year-old, where my life was largely unwritten. I had no idea what I was going to do, who I was going to become, or what was in store for me as an adult. As children and teenagers, we create an outward persona of “who we are” based on childhood likes and preferences. More often than not, those childhood personality traits follow us into adulthood. For example, I was an adventurous and overtly curious child. I grew up to be an entrepreneur and public servant, and I think my adventurous spirit and curiosity have aided me in both. My son is exceptionally bright, loves people, and also loves structure and rules to follow. I have witnessed his growth, and I am so excited to continue to watch him as he begins his post-high school adventure, wherever that takes him.
Being a parent is such a gift in that way. Yes, it’s hard. Yes, there are times when children are little, and we are running on no sleep - and we don’t even know if we are coming or going. But as I arrive at the end of the childhood parenting runway with my eldest, I am so grateful to watch him launch into the unknown. I know he will face adversity, he will struggle, but ultimately, it will be his choices that define what his life will ultimately become.
To all the parents who are watching their seniors graduate — we made it. Our job is not over yet, but we have reached a huge milestone, and our children are better off because we helped guide them to arrive at this point. All the struggle and sleepless nights were not for naught.
To our graduating seniors — some parting advice: High school is a gift, but don’t let it define you. Upon graduation, the world is now a blank canvas, and you are its artist. Though it may take you years to fully see and understand what kind of picture you are painting, know that with each color you add to your canvas, you are creating a richer, more vibrant work of art. Don’t paint with your head, paint with your heart. Let your intuition guide you. Be brave, be bold and know that only YOU can decide what your painting will become.
Congratulations, Class of 2025! Good luck, and Godspeed!
editor@poncacitymonthly.com
Frocks& Fashions
Your One-Stop Shop for Bridal & Prom Wear
Story by Chelsea McConnell | Staff Writer
Formal wear boutique Frocks & Fashions has been a staple in our area for over 40 years. The boutique is owned by Roxane Denton and located at 213 E. Grand Avenue in downtown Ponca City. The boutique was originally opened in Blackwell by Roxane’s mother, Edie Denton.
Roxane remembers going shopping with her mom for her first formal dress when she was in the ninth grade. Because there wasn’t a local dress boutique at the time, they traveled to Oklahoma City to shop. She remembers the day fondly. They went to several stores, but ended up buying the first dress she had tried on. Roxane and Edie had so much fun that day, and the trip remains a core memory for Roxane. It was clearly a memorable day for Edie as well, because it was after that trip that Edie opened Frocks & Fashions in downtown Blackwell. Roxane said Edie wanted to give people the opportunity to find and fall in love with a dress the way her daughter did on that fated trip.
When you listen to Roxane talk about the years her mother ran the boutique, you can tell Frocks & Fashions is a well of fond memories for them both. Roxane says, “My mom has great taste. She’s very dynamic.
She has a youthful spirit.” Roxane had the best time going to market with her mom and her mom’s friends when she was in high school. She often got a say in which dresses would come back to the shop. She recalls they would stay at nice hotels and eat at fancy restaurants. Her mom had a way of making even these trips, designed for work, so much fun. Roxane tries to carry on this tradition when she goes to market, and sometimes her mom even joins her and her employees on their trips.
Edie Denton ran Frocks & Fashions in Blackwell for 25 years before deciding it was time to retire. Edie knew she wanted to sell the building the boutique was in, so when Roxane took over 16 years ago, she moved Frocks to downtown Ponca City. Roxane admits that she was uncertain in the beginning if taking over the boutique was really the right fit for her. It was when she became a mother that Roxane realized that while running
her own business is challenging, it gives her the flexibility she needs to be available for her children. She can bring them with her when the busy season commands it and has the flexibility to be away from the store if needed. Roxane has three employees who help her run the store. From time to time her mom even stops in and gets put to work. Roxane says Edie just sold a wedding dress last week!
Frocks was located in the 400 block of Grand for 11 years before relocating to their current location five years ago. Roxane says they moved over 2,000 dresses and even had to rent a specially outfitted rental truck to get the dresses from one location to the other. During the move they relied on other local businesses to have fittings for customers whose orders were already in the works. Other downtown business owners kindly let them take over their dressing rooms for these fittings. They did a lot of work to the building they moved into but managed to only be down for about five weeks before opening up in their new location.
The boutique stocks a huge variety of prom dresses, as well, with over 600 in stock. Roxane says prom customers usually have more of an idea of what they want. For those who can’t find exactly what they are looking for, Frocks has 1520 different catalogs customers can go through to find the perfect dress. Most ordered items will arrive in as little as five days, so ordering is a great option if your perfect dress isn’t in the store.
and men, measurements are taken and tuxedos can be ordered for rental, along with any items needed to go with the tuxedo like shirts, ties and shoes. Tuxedos only take about three days to arrive after being ordered.
Frocks & Fashions stocks hundreds of dresses. They carry dresses for younger girls for Father/ Daughter events held in our area, with around 600+ dresses in stock for such occasions. Roxane says helping little ones find the perfect dress is one of her favorite parts of her job. They love everything they try on and always have to practice their twirl in each dress.
Frocks stocks over 200 bridal dresses and carries gowns by Allure Bridal, Morilee, Dave & Johnny and Nox Anabel. Roxane enjoys helping brides find the perfect dress and learning their story over the course of the bridal appointments. Customers can call to book an appointment, which usually lasts about two hours. While drop-ins are an option, booking a bridal appointment ensures Frocks will have sufficient staff on hand to meet all the bride’s needs. Frocks also carries bridesmaid and motherof-the-bride dresses, as well as options for flower girls and ring bearers. Frocks carries accessories including jewelry, tiaras, small handbags and veils. Roxane has partnered with two local alterations specialists for years now that customers can work with to make sure whatever they are purchasing fits to their exact specifications.
Just last summer Roxane and her crew created an extensive sale section located along the wall in the back left corner of the boutique. With her years of experience, Roxane has learned to be mindful of local budgets and tries to stock her boutique according to what our market can support. For those on a tighter budget, the sale section is sure to offer something that will work as it’s made up of hundreds of dresses and Roxane adds to it every season.
Roxane and her staff take great pride in their storefront. They added a new sign in the last six months, and they change the window display out every Friday. They are working on getting a website set up, as well, to give them more of an online presence. Because stock changes so quickly, the website will not handle online sales. It will help give a face to the store and show customers what they can expect when they visit.
Roxane carries two tuxedo lines. For younger boys, she has lines in store that can be purchased. Purchasing for the little ones is actually cheaper than renting. For older boys
For more information, call Frocks and Fashions at (580) 762-2444. You can also check out their Facebook page, where they are always sharing beautiful new dresses that come into the boutique! Customers can visit them in store Tuesday through Friday from 12-6 p.m. and Saturday from 10 a.m.-4 p.m. PCM
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that I have joined Skyway CDJR . At Skyway we love to go above and beyond to get you rolling in style. I moved to Oklahoma in about 2018. God has blessed me with three wonderful kids, Jaezley 9, Keigan 5 and Kailor 3. I always knew that I wanted to dress up nice, come to work and make people happy. I grew up in eastern Texas where you eat, work and sleep. I was raised the southern country-style way. GOD, FAMILY, FRIENDS AND GOOD EATING. I love to hunt and fish. I am also the worship leader at Tonkawa Assembly. Needless to say, whether you’re in need of a vehicle or just want a good conversation, I’m here for it. Come see me at Skyway… the country cowboy north of high prices and ride home in style!
CARING FOR KAY COUNTY:
The Sheriff’s Office
“It is the Mission of the Kay County Sheriff’s Office to provide quality law enforcement, court security, transport services, juvenile services and civil services to the citizens and visitors of Kay County. We are dedicated to conducting ourselves in a manner respectful of the trust that has been placed upon us and transparency is of upmost importance. We are dedicated to this mission and to the people we serve to ensure that Kay County is a safe place to live, work and visit.” Kay County Sheriff’s Office Mission Statement
Story by Marlys Cervantes | Staff Writer
Kay County Sheriff Steve Kelley is in his 26th year in law enforcement and when asked what started his interest in the profession, he credits riding with his “good buddy Ian Ewing,” who served the department in Osage County and then Kay County. Helping people in this manner appealed to him. His friend Deputy Ewing was killed in the line of duty in Kay County in May 1999, but his memory lives on through those he affected, and one of those individuals is Sheriff Kelley.
Now in his third term of four years as Kay County Sheriff, Kelley began his work in law enforcement at the Blackwell Police Department in 1998. In 2003 he was hired at the Sheriff’s office and promoted to Undersheriff in 2007. The Sheriff’s position is an elected one, and it was in 2016 that Kelley ran against two opponents to first win the position. He was unopposed in the next two elections.
When Kelley began at the Sheriff’s office in 2003 there were eight employees in the department, but that has grown to 30 total, with 20 of those being law enforcement officers on the street. The command structure is the sheriff,
undersheriff, two lieutenants, two sergeants and several deputies to serve the area. One of these is a K9 officer who has a German Shepherd partner Knox. There are also office positions necessary to meet all the requirements of the office, such as an administrator and administrative assistant, as well as six dispatch positions.
In what feels like a very full circle move, Sheriff Kelley recently hired Angel Ewing Kennedy, daughter of the late deputy Ian Ewing, as one of his dispatchers. Angel was born a few months after her father’s death, and she has kept his memory alive ever since she was old enough to do so. Those who know her, know about her father’s service to this community. For Angel, the chance to serve at the Sheriff’s office is special: “I believe it is an honor to work for the agency.” Those who knew her father feel the same about having her there.
There is always a challenge in finding the right individuals to fill the positions needed for the office, and the requirements they meet are diverse. They serve a county that is 900 square miles, and they are bound by state statute and county constitution. Besides patrol and investigation, part of their many duties include serving civil papers and transporting prisoners to court. According to Sheriff Kelley, deputies serve 1300-1400 civil process papers each year, such as those for lawsuits or evictions. They also travel 60,000-70,000 miles every year to transport juveniles and 45,000-50,000 miles for adult transport. Sheriff Kelley says the miles per
year for the department for transport and patrol combined run 450,000-580,000.
As for the most challenging part of his job, Sheriff Kelley says it is staffing and funding, especially with call volume and transports needed. Protection of the county is a large task even when working together with other agencies. Area law enforcement agencies often work together for their common goals, and the Sheriff’s office has three deputies on the DA’s Drug Task Force. The drug problem is one that agencies generally work together on for the best outcomes.
Although drug enforcement isn’t a major part of Undersheriff Sean Grigsba’s job now, it has been in the past. He started working for the Sheriff’s office 17 years ago when the current Sheriff was Undersheriff, and he was promoted to Undersheriff eight years ago when Sheriff Kelley won the election. Grigsba emphasizes
how decriminalization of meth possession has increased its use. Officers still must work to keep it off the streets, but without a stronger deterrent there is often a great deal of time and work for little outcome. However, Grigsba mentions that the worst drug on the streets is fentanyl, due to higher death rates. The problems aren’t only the drug offenses, stresses Grigsba, but also the adjacent and residual crimes that take place. We see crime rates often rise along with drug use.
According to Undersheriff Grigsba, “Agencies have come together better now than in the past.” He believes recent years have seen this change due to better and faster communication, primarily with texting and messaging capabilities. All technology at the department is better now, says Grigsba, because Sheriff Kelley “moved us out of 1975.” Updated and more computers were a big change because they used to have four (one for the sheriff, one for the undersheriff, and two for all the deputies to share — with none being synced with each other). There have been great strides in the progress for the department.
With the new facility, a Jail Trust Authority was put into effect 2008-9, and the Sheriff serves as its chair. There is also a county commissioner and three others from the community. There is a 2/3 cent tax that was passed for the building. The building hosts the Sheriff’s office on one side and the jail on the other. Since they’ve grown, the jail has its own director to run day-to-day operations, and the director reports to the Trust Authority, which approves the budget and purchases. The jail can hold up to 366 inmates. The average for county inmates is 280 individuals, so the facility contracts with agencies to make the best use of the facility since this is triple the population of the previous jail. There are 76 employees on the jail side of the facility with a structure much like the Sheriff’s office: the director, an assistant director/captain, lieutenants, sergeants and detention officers. The cost of housing an individual is $52 a day, with food costing
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Ponca City, OK
PRCA Slack at 8:00am
JUNE
2025
NIGHTLY 8PM NIGHTLY 8PM
Family Night-Free BBQ with purchase of a rodeo ticket starting at 6pm.
PRCA Rodeo Pref #1 pre-show starts at 7:45 pm Rodeo at 8pm brought to you by:
HRI Roofing and Post Frame, Century Products, and Phillips 66
Concert at 10pm featuring Dax Perrier. brought to you by:
7 Clans Casino on the Stuteville Auto Group Stage
WPRA Slack at 10pm in the 101 Wild West Rodeo Arena
·101 Wild West Rodeo Golf Tournament at the Lew Wentz Golf Courseregistration at 8 am, tee off at 9 am.
PRCA Rodeo Pref #2 pre-show starts at 7:45 pm Rodeo at 8pm brought to you by:
HRI Roofing and Post Frame, Century Products, and Phillips 66
Concert at 10pm featuring Thompson Square. brought to you by:
7 Clans Casino on the Stuteville Auto Group Stage
PRCA Steer Roping at 8:00 am at the 101 Wild West Rodeo arena.
101 Wild West Rodeo Parade on Grand Ave at 10 am
Ponca City Library Kid’s Rodeo following the parade on the front lawn at the library.
PRCA Rodeo Pref #3 pre-show starts at 7:45 pm Rodeo at 8pm brought to you by:
HRI Roofing and Post Frame, Century Products, and Phillips 66
Concert at 10pm featuring Pat Green. brought to you by:
7 Clans Casino on the Stuteville Auto Group Stage
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$25,000-30,000 a month and medical costing about a million a year. Even though they are in the same building, the jail and sheriff’s office have separate budgets.
One of the concerns Sheriff Kelley has is that in 2029 the debt will be paid for and, at that time, part of the tax is scheduled to drop off with part kept in place to pay for expenses. However, he realizes they need the full tax to continue meeting the costs. If this comes to a vote, it is important that people in the county realize how frugal they have been with tax dollars.
Sheriff Kelley says, “Most all equipment purchased in the last 8-10 years has been through grants and donations rather than taxpayer’s money.” He goes on to explain that many other items have been funded this way as well, such as the three drones and the department’s K9 Knox and the equipment needed to provide the K9 service. Knox, handled by deputy Dakota Jarvis, is a dual purpose K9, serving on searches, manhunts and with drugs. Knox has just recently apprehended a fleeing suspect in a drug raid, so he is certainly proving his worth to the department. All this and more, with no grant writer on staff.
In addition, their gun range, which Sheriff Kelley says “is the best shooting range in the state of Oklahoma,” was purchased with federal funding and not our citizen’s tax dollars. The officers stay trained and focused on their many jobs, and it is critical to have the resources they need
When asked about the most fulfilling part of his job, Sheriff Kelley says, “Helping the victims. We are ready when someone calls us.”
at hand. There are numerous items, even a boat to help with lake searches, that keep our county deputies ready to assist the citizens or those visiting the county when crisis occurs.
When asked about the most fulfilling part of his job, Sheriff Kelley says, “Helping the victims. We are ready when someone calls us.” Kelley even mentioned the pleasure of returning items after a search warrant has been executed and stolen items discovered, such as a recent return of some stolen rare coins to an individual. Sometimes items have great monetary worth and other times high sentiment, but either way there is satisfaction in their return.
For Sheriff Steve Kelley, whose heart is in helping the people of Kay County, much of his time is spent at the capital during legislative sessions to ensure those who represent us there understand how the bills before them impact our communities and law enforcement. He strives to keep all safe in the best ways possible, and this includes his officers when there are bills that would infringe on their safety.
Those in the department often serve in other ways in the community and state. Sheriff Kelley is an instructor for new sheriffs with the Oklahoma
Sheriff Associations (there are 27 new sheriffs in class this year) and serves as Vice President of their board. He is the first to represent Kay County at the state level. In addition, he is the president of the local United Way board, having served as its campaign chair last year. Undersheriff Grigsba is co-chair of the current Ponca City Leadership program. There are two deputies who work with the DARE program, which was started again last year in a couple of the more rural areas of the county. It is expected to spread to other areas. These individuals have a stake in the community they serve.
Another service is the Sheriff’s Citizens Academy, which hosts up to 20 each year for nine weeks. It has been changed to October to keep it from conflicting with the Academy put on by the Ponca City Police Department. You can look for further information about this as it gets closer to that time on their Facebook page or website at www. courthouse.kay.ok.us/176/Kay-County-SheriffsOffice. However, in the meantime, consider following their FB page for good information about your county, and you can find further information about their mission and more on the above website. The department members are like family, and they’ve kept a full staff at a time when that is nearly impossible for most places of business. They are a diverse group of individuals with leaders who value them and all they do. There is much more to this department and its officers than you may have realized, and this is a good time to thank them for their service to our county. PCM
PONCA CITY PASSPORT 2025: Leadership Ponca City Class 38’s Community Adventure
Story Contributed by the Ponca City Leadership Class 38 / Photos by Kaylie Anderson
Leadership Ponca City Class 38 has embarked on an exciting journey to strengthen community engagement, promote local businesses and celebrate the rich culture of Ponca City with their ambitious project – Ponca City Passport 2025
As a program of the Ponca City Chamber of Commerce, Leadership Ponca City cultivates informed, committed leaders who actively contribute to civic, charitable and governmental organizations. The program runs annually from August through May, guiding participants through a series of immersive sessions that explore the inner workings of local government, industry, education and nonprofit services. Each year, participants are challenged to develop and complete a class project that benefits the community – an opportunity to apply their leadership skills in a meaningful and lasting way. With 23 diverse participants selected from an elite pool of applicants, Class 38 was determined to create something impactful that would bring the community together in a fun and interactive way.
“Leadership Ponca City has been a great opportunity for me to branch out of my comfort zone, learn more in-depth about our city and state, and make new connections with my classmates, who I now consider my friends,” said Laina Smith. “I have loved getting to learn about our history, industries, state government and so much more. I am excited for people to get to learn about what we have learned through our passport. It is, in my opinion, the best opportunity for people to get involved and show interest in our city!”
What Is Ponca City Passport 2025?
Ponca City Passport 2025 is designed to encourage residents and visitors to explore the incredible businesses, landmarks and nonprofits that make Ponca City thrive. This initiative fosters local pride while driving foot traffic and economic support to a variety of community touchpoints.
The program kicked off on April 1 and will run through July 15, 2025, providing a structured, yet flexible, opportunity for participants to engage with, and explore, the city. The concept is simple: passport holders visit locations across different categories, complete specific tasks and collect stamps, receipts or photos as proof of their visits. Once completed, they submit their passport to the Ponca City Chamber of Commerce to be entered into exciting prize drawings.
“The Ponca Passport project means so much to me. It encompasses the positive vision that I have of Ponca City, and I am so excited to share that with others,” said Victoria Devinney. “Seeing others in our leadership class have the same love and vision for Ponca City is so encouraging. I feel like our town is on to some amazing things!”
Participants must complete visits in six distinct
The Categories
categories, each representing a crucial part of Ponca City’s identity:
History & Arts: From museums and historic landmarks to rare art, Ponca City’s rich history and thriving arts scene give residents and visitors a deeper appreciation of our cultural roots.
Entertainment & Culture: Whether it’s live performances, familyfriendly attractions or cultural festivals, these destinations bring people together and make our community more vibrant.
Health & Wellness: Prioritizing well-being is key to a thriving community. This category features local fitness centers, wellness activities and businesses offering fresh, homegrown produce, nutritious homemade meals and handmade personal care products.
Community Services: Nonprofits, charities and service organizations are the backbone of Ponca City, offering vital resources and opportunities to give back. This category encourages participants to volunteer and donate to support these essential services.
Adventures & Excursions: Whether you love outdoor recreation, sports or unique local experiences, this category encourages people to step outside their routine and try something new.
Chamber Investors: The Ponca City Chamber of Commerce is home to a wide range of businesses that keep our local economy strong. Supporting these businesses means investing in the future of our city.
How It Works
• Pick up a free passport at the Ponca City Chamber or Ponca City Library.
• Visit two locations per category and complete the required task.
• Submit your completed passport by July 15, 2025, at the Ponca City Chamber of Commerce, 420 E. Grand Ave. (Monday thru Friday, 8 a.m.-5 p.m.)
The first 100 finishers receive a limitededition Ponca City magnet.
All completed submissions are entered into a July 17 prize drawing for Ponca City gift baskets and Chamber Bucks.
Every veteran deserves to be identified and recognized for their bravery and defense of the United States, My name is Ted Fusselman with Troop 556 in Ponca City, OK.
“I am currently working on my BSA Eagle Project. The goal of the project is to create a map of veterans located in the Odd Fellows (IOOF) and St. Mary’s Catholic Cemeteries. This map will be used by volunteers to put flags out on Memorial Day weekend and other holidays. The first step is to identify all veterans who are located in either of these cemeteries. If anyone has family or friends in Odd Fellows (IOOF), St. Mary’s and Oak Grove Cemeteries that are veterans, please contact Lisa Eisele at 580-716-0646 or troop555.556@gmail.com.”
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Intensive Care Unit provides critical support for our smallest patients – in partnership with Oklahoma Children's Hospital. Together with a dedicated neonatologist and 24/7 neonatal nurse practitioners, we're advancing care for generations to come.
Why This Matters
Throughout their journey in Leadership Ponca City, Class 38 has had the privilege of exploring the people, places and opportunities that make our city extraordinary. With the Ponca City Passport 2025 project, they aim to share that experience – inviting the entire community to see Ponca City through fresh eyes.
This initiative showcases the diverse experiences our city has to offer while highlighting the vital role each category plays in shaping our community. By participating, residents and visitors alike aren’t just discovering new places –they’re creating new memories, building relationships and taking pride in their community.
“Leadership Ponca City has given me a fresh perspective and a deeper appreciation for our community,” said Paige Johns. “I have truly enjoyed learning about Ponca City’s rich history and all that makes it exceptional. The Passport project serves as a meaningful way for Leadership Class 38 to give
back by providing the community with opportunities to learn and grow, just as we all have during our class sessions.”
Leadership Ponca City Class 38 wants to help everyone see that through shared experiences, active participation and embracing opportunities to connect, we can bridge the gap between generations, backgrounds and perspectives. This strengthens the bonds that make Ponca City not just a place to live, but a thriving community where everyone feels empowered to contribute.
By engaging with local organizations and supporting initiatives like Ponca City Passport 2025, we help shape the direction of our neighborhoods, ensuring they reflect the values and needs of those who call Ponca City home. Supporting local not only boosts the economy but also gives each of us a voice in decisions that impact our daily lives. It’s about creating connections, building relationships and having a stake in the future of our city.
Class 38’s journey has been shaped and supported by the guidance of this year’s program chairs: Natalie Fraser of Lindsay
Made Possible by Our Supporters
Ponca City Passport 2025 was made possible thanks to the generous support of several local businesses and organizations whose belief in the mission helped turn the project into a reality. Their contributions ensured that the experience could be offered completely free of charge for all participants.
A special thank you goes to the Ponca City Tourism Bureau for their generous donation. Additional gratitude goes to the following supporters:
* Combat Syndicate
* Dirty and Driven
* Evans & Associates
* First National Bank of Oklahoma
* Harvest Hall & Farm House Kids Co.
* RCB Bank
* The Lost Gent Barbershop
These contributions covered the costs of printing, stamps and magnets, which were all purchased locally from A+ Printing and Redlands Office Solutions.
Manufacturing, Sean Grigsba of the Kay County Sheriff’s Office and Molly Kyler of Pioneer Technology Center. Their leadership provided structure, insight and encouragement as the class worked through months of learning and collaboration. The group also benefited from the support of Shelley Arrott, President and CEO of the Ponca City Chamber of Commerce, and Don Nuzum, Ponca City Regional Airport Manager, who volunteers his time to transport the class to each session – ensuring every experience runs smoothly and on schedule.
Join the Adventure!
Ponca City Passport 2025 is more than just a fun activity – it’s a celebration of everything that makes Ponca City great. Whether you’re a lifelong resident or new to town, this program offers a unique way to engage with the community, support local businesses and uncover hidden gems.
So, grab your passport, start exploring and share your journey on social media using #PoncaPassport2025. Follow @PoncaPassport on Facebook for updates, inspiration and participant highlights.
Your adventure starts now, because there’s always something happening in Ponca City!PCM
Meet Leadership Ponca City Class 38
The vision behind Ponca City Passport 2025 was brought to life by the 23 dedicated members of Leadership Ponca City Class 38:
Kailye Anderson – First National Bank of Oklahoma
Mark Bean – Dearing House Child Advocacy Center
Trey Cassity – Alliant Insurance Services
Carson Combest – Ponca City Fire Department
Rebecca Crosby – Custom Mechanical Equipment
Andrew Coufal – Chenoweth Eye Centers
Rob Davis – 8th District Attorney of Oklahoma
Victoria Devinney – Phillips 66
Morgan Didlake – Spencer and Lindsay Grace
Jerod Helling – RCB Bank
Paige Johns – Boomer Tire & Alignment
Jordan Jackson-Gross – Individual Investor
Bailey Kelly – City of Ponca City
Jake Kriech – Winterrowd Talley Architects
Sam Lionelli – Combat Syndicate
Kayla Murphy – Evans & Associates
Alex Penny – Equity Bank
Angela Rickman – The Lost Gent Barbershop
Derion Schieber – Farm House Kids Co. & Harvest Hall
Heather Smith – Pioneer Technology Center
Laina Smith – Speak Now Productions
Bien Wells – The Myers Agency
Steven Yinger – Ponca City Police Department
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The Six Triple Eight
Netflix’s The Six Triple Eight is a moving historical drama that brings long-overdue attention to an overlooked chapter of World War II. Directed by Tyler Perry and starring Kerry Washington as Captain Charity Adams, the film tells the powerful true story of the 6888th Central Postal Directory Battalion, the first all-Black, all-female unit to serve overseas during the war.
During WWII, warehouses overflowed with undelivered mail, leaving soldiers cut off from letters that could boost morale. The military, bogged down by logistics, was at a loss. Enter the 6888th, led by the determined Captain Adams. Tasked with an “impossible” six-month deadline to sort the mail, the battalion overcame grueling training and rampant discrimination to complete the job in just 90 days.
Story by Andy Hicks | Staff Writer
The film balances historical fact with dramatized personal stories, showing not only the battalion’s external battles with racism and sexism but also their internal struggles as women serving in a segregated military. Their success didn’t just restore mail, it restored hope.
Though the women of the 6888th weren’t widely recognized in their time, this film helps correct that oversight. Decades later, their service was finally honored, including a ceremony led by Michelle Obama. The Six Triple Eight ensures their legacy isn’t forgotten.
With strong performances, emotional storytelling, and historical significance, this film is a mustwatch for fans of war dramas and untold history. Now streaming on Netflix, it’s a powerful tribute to resilience, service, and the strength of Black women who made history.
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Pioneer Tech Business and Industry Services Host BBQ With BIS
Story by Terri Busch Pioneer Technology Center | Contributing Writer
In today’s competitive marketplace, a highly trained workforce is essential for growth, efficiency and profitability. That’s why Pioneer Technology Center (PTC) continues to be a trusted and preferred resource for business and workforce development throughout Kay County and beyond. Through its Business and Industry Services (BIS) team, Pioneer Tech offers a robust lineup of client-based training and consulting programs that directly support local businesses and industries.
To celebrate the partnerships that make these services possible – and in recognition of both Small Business Month and National Barbecue Month –Pioneer Tech’s BIS team will host its annual BBQ with BIS event on May 16 from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. in the Business and Industry Services building on the PTC campus. Clients and industry partners are invited to enjoy barbecue, chips, a drink and dessert, while supplies last.
“May is the perfect time to recognize the vital role small businesses play in our local economy while enjoying a favorite American tradition – barbecue,” said Molly Kyler, Executive Director of Business and Industry Services. “We’re combining two great things to say thank you to the incredible companies and clients we serve.”
Each year, more than 9,000 individuals take advantage of BIS offerings, which include Small Business Management, Ag Business Management, Government Bid Assistance, Leadership Development, Safety Training, Customized Industry Training, Marketing Solutions and access to PTC’s Business Incubator Program. These services not only foster growth and innovation, but also support workforce readiness and economic development throughout the region.
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Local Industry
Pioneer Tech remains committed to meeting the safety and certification needs of local businesses. PTC’s Emergency Services Training Center provides hands-on, scenario-based safety training for industry. The center features burn rooms, movable partitions and rappelling capabilities, making it an essential resource for high-risk job training.
Additionally, PTC partners with Central Tech’s Truck Driver Training program to provide Class A and Class B Commercial
Driver’s License (CDL) training to help meet the growing demand for professional drivers. A Class A CDL qualifies individuals to operate large combination vehicles – such as tractor trailers or 18-wheelers – while a Class B CDL allows operation of single vehicles – such as buses, dump trucks and delivery trucks. These programs open doors to well-paying careers in the transportation and logistics industry.
Pioneer Tech celebrates CTE Month by spotlighting business success stories like Kristan Lawson, who expanded her daycare with help from its Business & Industry Services team. Pictured here with Benji Evans, Entrepreneurial Services Coordinator at PTC.
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by Patrick Jordan
1. Freshwater food fish
5. Hearty meat-and-potatoes dish
9. Shadow under a leafy tree
14. Bend ___ backwards
15. Corn Belt state
16. Baseball's "Hammerin' Hank"
17. The ___ Ranger (Tonto's pal)
18. Kind of muffin or flakes
19. Avenue in downtown Ponca City
20. What makes Yoda a great gardener? (2 wds.)
23. Belonging to us
24. Caribbean or Dead
25. Big ___ (McDonald's burger)
28. Lean a little
31. Come up, as a problem
35. "Let's call ___ day" (2 wds.)
36. What did Han Solo call Chewbacca when he began making ceramic containers? (2 wds.)
39. "Star Wars" princess
41. Early film comedienne West
42. iPhone digital assistant
43. What "Star Wars" villain works in a diner? (2 wds.)
48. Dressmaker's concern
49. Aquaman portrayer Jason
50. Highest number in a sudoku
51. Shriner's hat
52. Direction opposite NNE
54. Golf ball supporter
56. When Skywalker had trouble with chopsticks at a Chinese restaurant, what did Obi-Wan say? (4 wds.)
64. Did a chauffeur's job
65. Leap into a pool
“Whether your business is large or small, our BIS team can help solve problems that are unique to your operation,” remarked Kyler. “Our team has the expertise, flexibility and resources to deliver high-quality training – so your business can begin its own success story.”
The BIS staff includes experienced business coordinators and industry experts who
66. China's continent
67. Fairy tale monsters
68. Paste
69. Bills with Hamilton's portrait
70. High schoolers, agewise
71. They have split-resistant wood
72. Nervously irritable
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1. Baltimore football player
2. Declare firmly
3. Gamblng city near Lake Tahoe
4. Pasta sauce brand
5. Famously cold Russian region
6. Ripped
7. McGregor of "The Phantom Menace"
8. Desires
9. Tall Southwestern cactus
10. Cause injury to
11. Many a Saudi citizen
12. Puts on, as clothing
13. Reach the conclusion
21. Baby ___ (candy bar since 1920)
22. Rounded pile
25. Least peppery salsa option
26. Best sports squad (Hyph.)
27. Egypt's capital
29. Kind of bean in succotash
30. The Polar Express, for one
32. "For what ___ worth..."
33. Not at all flexible
34. Adjective for a haunted house
37. Abominable Snowman 38. Buttery cracker brand
Do the laundry
Main courses at restaurants
Stink to high heaven
Thick chunk of cheese
offer ongoing consulting services, custom training plans and tailored leadership development for business professionals. With flexible delivery options – on-site, online or custom formats – PTC ensures training meets the demands of modern workplaces.
In addition to BIS offerings, the Adult Training and Development (AT&D) department provides more than 500 on-site and online courses. These range from a few hours to full career training in fields like Emergency Medical Technician (EMT), Welding, Certified Nurse Aide and Culinary classes, with schedules available yearround.
As Pioneer Tech continues to serve as a hub for innovation and workforce readiness, the Business and Industry Services team expresses sincere gratitude to the many companies and individuals who trust PTC as their partner in training and development.
For more information about the event or services offered, contact Pioneer Tech at (580) 718-4222 or visit pioneertech.edu. PCM
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Dandelane Boutique Life Is Short, Dress Happy
Story by Chelsea McConnell | Staff Writer
Dandelane Boutique is a locally owned women’s boutique located in downtown Ponca City at 200 E. Grand Avenue. Owner Cally Tull wants to help her customers find the perfect item that suits their unique sense of style and empowers them to feel their best. The boutique opened on Feb. 27, 2024, recently celebrating their one-year anniversary.
Tull worked for Hospice of North Central Oklahoma for 17 years caring for the physical needs of hospice clients. For health reasons, she needed to retire from her position with Hospice. However, she knew she still wanted to help people. She had dreamed over the years of opening
her own boutique, so one move led to the next. Tull says, “I spent all that time trying to make people feel better, and I still want to make people feel good. Now it’s a little bit more on the outside, but it works on the inside as well.”
When Tull began the journey to open her boutique, she knew she had to decide on a name. She wanted it to be something with a special meaning. She lost her father, Dan, five years ago, but says she still talks to him frequently.
During one of those talks with her dad it just came to her. “I heard it. It’s half of his name, ‘Dan,’ and then the ‘delane’ is from my mom’s maiden name, Delaney. I just heard ‘Dandelane,’ and I went with it. Then he can be here in spirit as well.”
Her dream of opening this boutique has been lovingly supported by her mother, husband and children as well.
Tull credits her friend Merrick Hall for pointing out the location to her. Hall knew Tull was looking for a spot
downtown. As soon as Tull looked in the window at 200 E. Grand, she called the building owner to set up a time to see the space. Within just a few days she had signed the contract. She and her husband then began renovations to bring her vision to life. Inside Dandelane Boutique, Tull has created a clean, laid-back and welcoming atmosphere. She and her husband incorporated vintage doors and other natural elements when fitting out the space.
Tull says location was never a question, she knew she wanted to be downtown. She has fond memories of visiting our downtown as a child and knows it’s the heart of our community. She remembers it feeling colorful and charming in the best way and loves how it still brings people together today. She has enjoyed being a part of downtown events and making friends with other business owners in the district. She opened a few days before Main Street’s Ladies Night in March 2024. Tull is not afraid to jump into new adventures!
Tull has curated a collection of clothing that hits on a wide range of styles. She has everything from date night to casual and tries to carry enough to allow any customer to find something they love. Along with clothing, she has sprinkled the store with items that add a touch of sass.
Above all, Tull wants customers to feel welcome and seen when they are in her boutique. She wants to empower them to find something that makes them feel good. She knows life is short and she wants her customers to be happy. She says, “That’s a strict rule. You have to feel good and enjoy yourself. I don’t want anyone to be ashamed of their size. Don’t put a number on who you are. Whether it’s weight, jean size, whatever it is. We’re all beautiful and unique in our own way. And numbers are just numbers.”
Tull did have some previous experience working in a boutique, so she wasn’t entirely new to this world. In that job, she had worked in a managerial position and overseen things like reviewing budgets and ordering stock. She also learned to listen to customer feedback and use that feedback to make improvements to her stock. Though opening Dandelane wasn’t entirely without its challenges, drawing on her experience has certainly been helpful.
She currently carries two denim lines, Vervet and Risen. The Vervet brand is all about infusing fashion with joy and is named after the vervet monkey, which is celebrated for spreading joy in the monkey kingdom. The Risen brand focuses
on quality, aesthetics and comfort. Both brands are incredibly well made and offer an excellent variety of styles at affordable prices.
A favorite clothing brand of Tull’s is Grace and Emma. This brand was created by two sisters with the goal of uplifting women. She carries clothing and jewelry from the Grace and Emma line and says she loves the message of empowerment behind their clothing. Tull also loves to carry Oklahoma-centric items, including Oklahoma tees and bracelets. She stocks fun graphic tees, and you’ll always find a nod to Willie Nelson and Dolly Parton, two of her dad’s favorites.
Tull is a fan of natural and vegan products. One brand she stocks is called Urban Farmer Girls. This brand, also owned by two sisters, creates beauty products like lip balms, scrubs and tints. All items are created without nut oil, which is frequently used in lip products and can be dangerous for anyone with a nut allergy.
Dandelane carries lots of fun accessories, including jewelry, trucker hats, hair accessories and more. The boutique features Dixie Bliss earrings, which are made for sensitive ears. Tull also carries jewelry from the Anju line. These pieces are handcrafted by artisans in India using skills that have been passed down through generations.
Dandelane Boutique is open on Tuesday from 10:30 a.m.-5 p.m., Wednesday through Friday from 10:30 a.m.-5:30 p.m. and Saturday from 11 a.m.-3 p.m. You can also find Dandelane Boutique on Facebook or call the store at (580) 491-4231. Tull can be found in the boutique most days and gets help from her mom, Sue Hesket. PCM
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Story by Adam Leaming, Ponca City Public Schools, Superintendent / Contributing Writer
Another Year Ends
Good day, PC Monthly readers! As I sit down to write this month’s column, I’m reminded of how quickly a school year passes. Each month brings its own joys, challenges, and moments worth celebrating. As superintendent, I have the unique privilege of seeing Ponca City through the lens of education, witnessing firsthand the growth and achievements of our Wildcats, the dedication of our teachers and staff, and the unwavering support from our parents and residents.
One critical element of our educational approach is the careful analysis and use of state testing and assessments. While test scores never tell the entire story, they are valuable tools that help inform our decisions and strategies for improving teaching and learning. We began state testing in April and will continue through early May to ensure all 4,500 students are carefully assessed, providing us with comprehensive data to support student learning. Through thoughtful examination of assessment data, we identify strengths and areas needing support, allowing us to provide targeted resources and professional development for our educators.
This year, our district has returned our focus extensively on collaborative efforts, using Professional Learning Communities (PLCs) to discuss assessment outcomes and implement best practices. Teachers actively engage in data-driven discussions, sharing insights to
enhance classroom instruction and student outcomes. Our collective goal remains not only improving test scores but, more importantly, fostering deeper understanding and mastery of critical skills that will serve our students well beyond their school years. Test data is one piece of a massive jigsaw puzzle to improving educational outcomes for our students. We want to ensure that as a community, we can trust our teachers and administrators to be continually seeking improvement for our children we serve.
As we move forward, your continued input and partnership remain essential. As we begin assessing our students and wrapping up the school year, I hope you can join us as we use this data to shape conversations about the future direction of our school district. By working together, we ensure our educational strategies remain aligned with the needs of Ponca City and the success of our Wildcats.
Thank you for your ongoing support and commitment to education in Ponca City and education as a profession. This month we will celebrate our graduating Wildcats and also celebrate the new families who are coming to join us for their educational journey as 4-year-olds. This is an exciting time for our community, and together, we know that we’re building a strong foundation for a successful future.
CHAMBER BUZZ
Story by Shelley Arrott, Ponca City Chamber of Commerce CEO | Contributing Writer
Cash Mobs
Ready to shop, support local and make a difference? Ponca City Area Chamber of Commerce Cash Mobs are for you!
On the first Tuesday of every month, the Ponca City Business Council Committee meets, and one of our tasks is to draw the next lucky Chamber Investor from our fishbowl – setting the stage for our exciting local shopping experiences called Cash Mobs. Then, on the first Thursday of the following month at 11:30 a.m., we “mob” the chosen business with eager shoppers ready to show their support!
Since 2014, this tradition has brought the community together to invest in local businesses. Whether it’s a boutique, specialty shop or a restaurant (always a big hit!), Cash Mob events generate energy, enthusiasm and a direct boost to our local economy.
Recognizing that not all businesses have a physical storefront, we are introducing popup shops to be held at the Chamber office!
This exciting addition allows chamber homebased and online entrepreneurs to take part, giving them a space to connect with customers and showcase their products.
We’ve had a fantastic response from our chamber community, and the best part? Cash Mobs are open for everyone to attend! You never know which business will be drawn next, but here are just a few that have been “mobbed” in the past year or so: Kentucky Fried Chicken, Toni’s Westside Health Mart, Old West Liquors, Brandt’s Ace Hardware, Homeland North, Jiffy Trip, Jumpy Monkey, Spray’s Jewelry & Gifts, The Perk, Cast Iron Co., and our most recent Cash Mob was at Enrique’s Mexican Restaurant. With such a variety of local merchants getting mobbed each month, it’s a great chance for shoppers to mix things up, explore new spots and find something they might not have expected!
Why does this matter? Because shopping local strengthens our community in every way. When businesses support each other, they create lasting connections, build trust and cultivate a loyal customer base. Every dollar spent locally circulates within our economy, supporting jobs, funding local initiatives and helping Ponca City grow. It’s not just about making a purchase –it’s about investing in our neighbors, fostering community pride and ensuring our hometown remains strong and thrives for generations to come.
To add to the fun, each Cash Mob features a drawing for $25 in Chamber Bucks – a new way to reward those who shop local. So, grab your friends, bring your enthusiasm and join us for the next Cash Mob. You never know which fantastic business we’ll be mobbing next, but one thing is certain: when we shop local, we all win! Watch our Facebook page for details about the next opportunity to support Ponca City!
SHOP, SUPPORT LOCAL
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Cash Mob at Kentucky Fried Chicken
Real Self-Care for Real Life
Story By Tara Fredrick | Contributing Writer
Bloom Where You’re Planted
“Growth is messy. Flowers don’t bloom overnight, and neither do we. And if we’re being honest, sometimes we feel more like weeds than roses. But guess what? We’re still growing, and that’s what matters.”
After everything I’ve been through, I’ve learned that self-care and growth don’t always look pretty. Sometimes, it’s doing the hard thing, like setting boundaries or admitting you need help. Other times, it’s celebrating the little wins, like drinking enough water or folding the laundry.
This May, I want you to focus on planting seeds of growth. Maybe it’s starting a new hobby, saying “no” to something that’s draining you or just giving yourself permission to rest.
I lost my daughter, Jolene Rose. JoJo, as we called her, was my everything. Born with physical disabilities, she taught me unconditional love, strength and resilience. Her passing left me shattered, but self-care became my lifeline. It helped me rebuild, heal and honor her memory. Now, through this column, I’m sharing my journey and tools to help others care for themselves, no matter what life throws their way. Self-care isn’t selfish – it’s survival, and it’s how we thrive.
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Story by Relo Adams, MS, MCP, LPC-C / Contributing Writer
May is a very special month! This month honors mothers, and I’d like to take the opportunity to say Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers out there and a special Happy Mother’s Day to my momma and mother-in-law and a huge Happy Mother’s Day to my beautiful wife, Ashley. Besides honoring all the mothers and mother figures, May also has a week dedicated to appreciating teachers (May 5-9) and a week recognizing law enforcement, National Police Week (May 11-17). I want to encourage everyone to take time out of your day to thank a teacher when you can! I and many others wouldn’t be the adults we are today without the impact and influence of a teacher. I was one of three teachers of the year for Ponca City High School 2025 as a school counselor, and I can only pray my influence in the lives of my students is as impactful as the influence my school counselor had on me! Also, don’t forget to thank a cop when you get a chance! Shout out to our law enforcement and my favorite cop, K9 Max, and his human, Cpl. Hopkins with Ponca City Police Department.
Teacher is a huge title, and when I hear that word, I think of the traditional role and the assumed education required to walk in that role. As I began thinking about my favorite teachers in preparation for this month’s issue of Mental Health Minute, I pondered what direction this article would go. I have said many times that I am a student and will always be a student because I love to learn! I learn from my son, my students at church youth group, the elderly, peers; anyone holding any role or position, I can usually learn something new! We are all teachers and can all be students if we allowed ourselves to be! Riley Calhoun (Vice President of Creative Cabinets) and James Devinney (Project Manager, Estimator and Engineer at Evans and Associates) insist on educating me on various things regularly, even against my will. Among the many things we have in common are our passion to impact the next generation and the importance of mental wellness. I recently had the opportunity to speak with them about many things, including personal mental health struggles and essential factors needed to establish and maintain resilience!
Both being leaders at their respective companies and in the community, in addition to owning their own businesses, a lot of pressure goes along with maintaining the standard of excellence in doing a good job all while maintaining the duty to be a good spouse, parent, child and friend! I asked them flat out – “How do you guys juggle it all?” They both sarcastically exchanged a glance, one saying, “We don’t!” and the other stating, “How do YOU juggle it all!?”
Quickly, I dodged the attention and addressed Devinney. I wanted to know how he maintains good mental health with so many responsibilities, so I asked him. Devinney educated us on statistics of blue-collar workers and mental health stating, “I work in
the heavy civil construction industry. I mean it is tough, dude; these men and women are tough, hard workers. In my industry, we know that there are six times more people that die by suicide in the construction business than they do from job-site injuries, and I’ve seen some job-site injuries. I’ve seen some very serious things, but the one thing that is more likely to take one of my guys out is not the hazard related to their job, it is them taking their own life.’
This statement stuck out to me because Devinney started by expressing how tough his workers are and ended his statement by explaining they’re six times more likely to complete suicide than dying while completing a hazardous job. This highlights the importance of perception! Perception has been said to be reality, and in reality, perception is simply an assumption. It is easy to overlook the mental health of a construction worker and assume they’re OK because they have a tough job. Devinney goes on to assert the importance of checking in on not only your loved ones, but also your friends, employees and neighbors because someone can present themselves as being OK and smile and laugh and even do tough jobs but can be suffering on the inside. He states, “Many people in my line of work haven’t learned to cope with their mental
Riley Calhoun
health struggles; it oftentimes goes unchecked, unnoticed and untreated, which has led to tragedy for so many. I choose to talk about mental health in our safety meetings four to five times a year just to make sure that people know that they’re seen and heard and to normalize these conversations among manly men and women!”
Calhoun waited patiently before stating, “Mental health is very real, and so many struggle with it. Sometimes it appears to be exaggerated.” She explained that at times it seems to be trendy to talk about mental health and identify as someone with a specific mental health struggle or condition. Unfortunately, she’s seen people align themselves with a condition they don’t actually have in order to fulfill a need (acceptance, identity, community and support). Calhoun shared this frustration with us and shared that mental health in recent years seems to have been sensationalized and as a result it has minimized the importance of taking actual care of mental health struggles! “Someone can have anxiety and have a depressed moment or low mood because of an experience or moment; does that mean they have a diagnosis of anxiety or depression? No! I think it is important to separate experiencing uncomfortable feelings due to an isolated or a few isolated events from having an actual diagnosis because they are not the same. People who have certain conditions don’t actually want to suffer from those things, so sometimes it kind of feels like a slap in the face when you see someone flippantly say they have PTSD or OCD; those conditions are real and should not be taken lightly.” Calhoun went on to share that it has been easy to neglect
herself as of late due to having a newborn and ensuring her deadlines are met for work. She shares the importance of avoiding what her family calls “work insanity,” a term used when one works so hard they forget to eat and you don’t feel hunger or thirst or anything and you’re in the zone, working. “I feel like I’ve even gotten into that this week. Everything starts going downhill: your mental health because you feel burnt out.”
Calhoun and Devinney both acknowledged the reality of mental health struggles in the construction industry, in addition to ways of combatting those struggles. Both shared the importance of self-care and normalizing the conversation surrounding mental health! Both shared the importance of having boundaries with work and personal life and what a huge factor that plays in maintaining their various responsibilities. “Talking and being honest helps build resilience; having a support system and people in your life you can trust and seeking help, whatever that may look like for each individual will help maintain it (resilience). In short, leave work at work, talk about your feelings and check on those in your life.”
Remember if you or someone you know needs mental health assistance of any kind, please feel free to reach out to your local community mental health agency, call or text 988 – the suicide and crisis lifeline or call 911 for immediate emergencies.
Take care of yourselves and each other!
– Relo Adams, Mr. Ponca City
James Devinney
CARY’S SEPTIC
Story by Jeff MacKinnon / Contributing Writer
True workplace unity goes way beyond just having diverse people at the table; it’s about making sure everyone feels valued, respected, empowered and able to fully participate. It’s often the small daily things that shape someone’s sense of unity, which airs this month’s encounter and enters workplace flatulence.
Let’s be real: everyone does it –CEOs, interns, new hires, custodians, even that coworker who always has their camera off on Zoom. It’s a bodily function, a human inevitability. And yet, in professional settings, we treat it like a career-ending scandal. But why? Because flatus exposes our humanity, our imperfection, our vulnerability. And in workplaces where unity thrives, humanity isn’t hidden. It’s embraced. Now, prior to reaching for Febreze like it’s holy water and glaring at your colleague like they just committed treason, did we just unlock pure unity?
You may be asking yourself, how does this encourage unity? First and foremost, humor! Laughter is the best medicine, especially during a stressful workday. That sneaky SBD derived from the affordable combo box, which isn’t just budgetfriendly, has the potential to provide comedic relief while assisting with open communication. When they’re relaxed, they’re more likely to speak up, share ideas and connect with others. In that way, it quietly fosters inclusion, not through rules or mandates, but through human connection.
Warning! This isn’t a cue to load the turrets or stalk the night like a rogue vigilante. Timing is everything. Use your human powers, not for war, but to break barriers and spark new connections. Does workplace bonding now have a new meaning?
The Sunny Side
by Liz Threlkeld / Contributing Writer
Welcome to “The Sunny Side” where we’ll chat about all things homesteading! My name is Liz Threlkeld and I have been homesteading with my family in small forms or large fashions for most of my life. From growing gardens to DIY projects, to cooking and preserving, to raising and processing our own meat animals, we’ve learned a thing or two along the way. I’m excited to get to share some of this life with you. Ready? Let’s grow!
The Hard Truth – Part ONE Asking Ethical Questions of Our Homesteading Practices
Hey, Friends!
I am driven by the deeper “why” behind things. So, why write an article posing these tough, ethical questions? I’m glad you asked – because I believe our ethics shape the foundation of our “why.” Why do we choose to homestead – or not? And if we do, why this method over another? Our thoughts can become our beliefs and our beliefs become our behavior so it is important to ask ourselves these ethical questions. They shape the way we interact with the land, animals, resources and community.
Did you know? Hearing a question hijacks our brain and makes it focus on nothing else at that moment. This natural response can be leveraged as a powerful tool for self-reflection and deeper thinking. By intentionally asking ourselves thoughtprovoking questions, we train our minds to push us to explore new perspectives and uncover deeper truths.
So, before we begin, this article is a tool to provoke thought and is not here to cast judgment, shame or shade. These are questions that only you can decide for yourself where you stand with the answers. Some may take some digging or reflection. Some questions may not have a quick answer.
Before we get started, here’s a guide to help you navigate uncertainty when faced with a question you don’t have an answer for:
• Who benefits?
• Who is impacted negatively?
• What are the long-term effects?
• If the answer still isn’t clear, ask “why” about six times to dig a little closer to uncover the root cause.
Ponder with me…
Questions
Honesty & Fairness in Trade
• Am I honest about how my food is grown when selling or trading it?
• Am I giving credit to those who have taught or inspired me?
• Am I pricing my goods fairly for both me (are they underpriced?) and my customers (are they overpriced?)?
• Am I hoarding a resource that could be shared or traded locally?
Working together as a family on a large project creates shared experiences, fosters teamwork, trust and a sense of accomplishment. On our homestead, harvesting, soaking, sorting and rinsing Oklahoma mulberries is a yearly tradition that has brought four generations together, strengthening our bonds and creating lasting memories.
• Do I compensate those who help me fairly, including children?
Tradition, Innovation & Sustainability
• How do I feel about leveraging technology to help me on the homestead?
• How do I feel about GMO or exotic seeds, plants and animals vs. heirloom or native?
• Am I respecting the heritage of the land and those who worked it before me? Am I leaving a legacy for those who come after me?
• Any economic sector where the average person is over approximately 35 years old is a sector in decline. The average FARMER is approximately 65 years old. What does that tell me about the food security of our nation?
• Am I homesteading out of fear or am I living a proactive life?
Health & Lifestyle
• Do I shield children from the realities of animal life, reproduction and death on the homestead? Why or why not?
• Do I include my family and friends in my homestead adventures to foster closer relationships?
• Could small lifestyle changes, like air-drying clothes, wearing natural fibers or spending more time in the sun and soil, have unexpected benefits for my health?
• Do I recognize the impact that my homestead has on my mental health and that of those around me? Is it a positive one?
Sometimes it’s OK to sit in the ‘gray’ while you figure your answer out. Making a decision isn’t always an instant act; it can be a process. Just remember, indecision is a decision.
Next month, join me again on the “Sunny Side” to explore ‘The Hard Truth – Part TWO.’
Thinking deeply …
,Liz Threlkeld
Insights on Higher Learning:
The Value of Local Higher Education
Story by Tim Williams CEO, University Center at Ponca City / Contributing Writer
Some family members were excited to tell us about their visit to a new restaurant. “It was so good! However, the menu was overwhelming. So many choices!”
Selecting a university can be the same way. Just in Oklahoma there are over 40 institutions of higher education. Many factors must be considered. I want to highlight a few reasons the University Center is the perfect choice for students seeking a college degree.
Location. Over 10 years ago when I decided to pursue a master’s degree, location was the number one reason I chose the UC. Online degrees were just beginning to make their debut, and the nearest programs were at least 45 minutes away. Because of the UC/NWOSU partnership, I took all of my classes right here in Ponca City. NOC is a UC partner school and nearby, but for many students, the time and cost of a frequent commute can be a hindrance. Whether a student stays in the Ponca City area by necessity or by choice, the UC’s location is perfect.
Structure. Online education has exploded in the last few years, and it is a great option for some students. However, many others really struggle with online formats especially for online classes with “work at your own pace” components. Classes at the UC are on set schedules, with realtime instruction and interaction with professors, and in a classroom setting with peers. These factors provide a remarkably similar learning environment to in-person instruction.
Support. UC staff members are skilled liaisons connecting our students to their partner schools. On-site academic advisement, support for the application and enrollment process, technology expertise, assistance solving specialized challenges and encouragement are just a few of the ways the UC provides support to students.
Scholarships. Like most worthwhile endeavors, college education is expensive, and any type of financial assistance is appreciated. UC students have the advantage of applying for scholarships not only from NOC or NWOSU, but
also from the University Center Foundation. This additional source of scholarship opportunities is an additional piece of the financial puzzle not available to non-UC students.
Whether you are a concurrent student or pursuing your associate, bachelor’s or master’s degree, the UC can help. You may call us at (580) 718-5600, visit UCPoncaCity.com, follow our social media pages or drop by for a visit. Hope to see you soon!
Keep learning!
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The LET THEM Theory
by Mel Robbins
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed or frustrated with your life, there’s a very good chance it’s because you’re focusing your energy on the wrong things. We are wired so that we want to be able to control our lives. Sadly, we attempt to manage things that are not within our control, and in doing so, we give away our power, according to motivational speaker, podcaster, and bestselling author Mel Robbins.
No matter how hard we try, we cannot control other people’s actions, moods, or opinions. The only thing I can control is me – and when we stop attempting to manage everyone else, we stop wasting our energy. It’s amazing to realize that my happiness is tied to my actions, not someone else’s mood, behavior, or opinions. The Let Them Theory is about you, your time, and your energy.
In The LET THEM Theory, Mel Robbins shows us how to stop wasting energy on things we cannot control, how to stop comparing ourselves to others, to break free from fear and self-doubt, and to escape the grasp of others’ expectations.
I found the section on adult friendship truly enlightening and helpful, along with the concept that I’m responsible for my friendships.
Perhaps the most impactful section of The LET THEM Theory for me had to do with relationships. We are not responsible for other adults. We need to LET THEM make their own choices and then deal with the consequences (good or bad) of those decisions. People won’t change until they want to – and as long as I rescue (enable) my loved ones, they have no need to change.
Most importantly, after I have LET THEM make their choice, I have the freedom to choose how I respond. I control how I show up for that relationship or situation. What I have control over is fundamental to my self-worth and happiness.
Reviewed by Lorrie Layton
WILL’S RACE FOR HOME
BY JEWELL PARKER RHODES
Will and his family – Pa, Ma, and Grandpa Samuels – are Black sharecroppers in 1889. It’s just twentysix years since the Emancipation Proclamation declared that all enslaved people were freed. The Samuels family plants and harvests cotton on land owned by a rich white man. After selling their crops and settling debts, they barely have enough money remaining to survive for the next year. They are so very tired of working land they don’t own.
Will is the first of their family to be born free. When Will’s father hears about the upcoming Oklahoma Land Rush, he’s excited about the opportunity to claim their own land. Will and his father set out on a long, arduous, 400-mile trek from Texas to Oklahoma. Their journey is difficult and dangerous. The closer they get to Oklahoma, the more people they encounter who are also racing toward the opportunity to claim free land. Will learns that you can’t tell if a stranger is going to be a friend or an enemy, sometimes until it’s too late.
When ex-Confederate soldiers attempt to rob
Will and his father, a stranger steps in to help them. This stranger is a Black man who served as an officer in the Union Army during the Civil War. This stranger becomes a good friend to them. The three bond as they travel towards the land rush. They all dream of freedom, land ownership, and a home of their own, something that has been long denied Black families.
When Will and his father set out, Will is just a boy. By the end of the journey, Will has defended his mule from a rattlesnake, fought thieves who would steal all their money, and faced down gunslingers and swindlers. He has become a young man.
Excellent story.
Reviewed by Lorrie Layton
Having the Conversation:
Navigating Finances
Story by Stephanie Krenn | Contributing Writer
As much as I write and speak about the individual pieces of my cancer journey, I recognize my experiences do apply to other medical conditions and I attempt to include that as much as possible. One topic remains consistent throughout conversations with those experiencing cancer or chronic adverse medical conditions: finances. Medical debt is the largest cause of bankruptcy in the United States, and it is easy for me to understand why.
When I opened the first envelope containing a bill for my chemotherapy, I scanned to the bottom to reveal a total balance involving six digits (not counting the change)! I nearly fainted. This article cannot contain my thoughts on the high cost of medical care, but I was astounded at the $100,000 charge for a single round of my life-saving drug regimen and its administration into my body. That bill did not include the individual physicians, scans, diagnostics and labs – all of which come with their own separate billing practices. I had prior employment in the medical field and knew enough to comprehend the language of insurance and out-of-pocket costs, but I was still dumbstruck at the number of bills and the expenses associated with my diagnosis and treatment. It felt as if the billing offices had a quota of how many mailings to send within a period of time, and each department was meeting its goal with me alone. It did not matter that I knew most bills are automatically
generated every 30 or so days, meaning my first bill did not account for insurance payments or write-offs. It was still gut-wrenching and scary.
In addition to the medical bills, I incurred costs associated with travel from my rural home to the city for appointments and surgeries, as well as the loss of income when I used all of my employerprovided leave time in the first few months. I was quickly overwhelmed with treating my health condition and the monetary loss in our family budget.
“Financial toxicity” and “financial distress” are terms that have come to describe the financial problem that patients have in relation to their medical care. Multiple factors contribute to this situation, including household income and size of your family, insurance coverage (or lack thereof), personal time off at your job and the type and severity of your medical condition. All factors combine to determine the level of financial struggle you may experience.
As I have researched for myself, and advocated for others, the most comprehensive place for information and help I have located is Triage Cancer (Triage Health). I have personally interacted with several staff members and staff attorneys of this national nonprofit and am continuously impressed and inspired by their desire to guide people through healthcare and finances.
As described on the website: Triage Health is a program of Triage Cancer®. Through TriageHealth. org, individuals and their caregivers can gain access to essential legal and practical education on topics such as choosing a health insurance plan, disability insurance options, managing medical bills and finances, estate planning, employment rights and much more. Materials and resources are also available in audio and video format and for specific populations, such as seniors, young adults, veterans, and others. Triage Health ensures that individuals diagnosed with any chronic or serious medical conditions have a place to turn for help.
Their materials and videos are helpful and easy to understand, but their one-on-one Legal and Financial Navigation Program is unprecedented, and I urge everyone to check it out.
There are also a few points I mention to others when I am asked how I managed this situation over the years:
• Understand your medical coverage and use a bill tracker. Providers can make billing mistakes.
• If you have difficulty paying a bill, make contact with that provider before it is sent to a collection agency. Most providers are willing to work with you on a payment plan if you communicate with them before it is sent to a third party. Have a payment amount in mind that you can afford when you call them.
• Meet with the hospital social worker or financial counselor to uncover funding resources to help with your medical bills; medically related travel expenses like fuel, food and hotel costs; and living expenses such as rent and utilities.
You do not have to navigate this alone. Reach out to friends, family or resource organizations to help advocate for you and manage your health and finances more successfully.
All my best. Until next time.
Cocktail OF THE MONTH
Mixed by Jill Rowe/Staff Writer
The Monkey Gland
If you were a man in 1928 and you needed a little extra help in the bedroom, you might have visited Dr. Serge Voronoff, a French surgeon famous for his monkey gland transplant procedure. He claimed that by implanting the glands of a monkey into his patients, he could restore vitality, particularly in the bedroom.
Although the surgical technique didn't exactly prove to be a groundbreaking success or scientifically solid (shocking, I know), it did manage to spark public interest, turning into both a topic of conversation and a bit of a punchline. The cocktail’s name is believed to be a playful reference to this strange chapter in medical history.
This drink was created by Harry MacElhone, the guy behind Harry’s New York Bar in Paris. It’s a mix of gin, fresh orange juice, a little grenadine and just a touch of absinthe. The combo might sound a little strange, but it really comes together
in the glass. It’s bright and citrusy with just enough of that herbal kick to keep it interesting.
Now here’s the thing. The ingredients matter. Use fresh orange juice. Don’t go grabbing that bottled stuff unless you have no other choice. And get a decent grenadine. The store-bought neon red one tastes like candy. Try making your own with pomegranate juice and sugar.
The Monkey Gland might not give you eternal youth, but it’s a fun nod to one of history’s weirder medical moments. And the drink itself? Surprisingly refreshing with a story that’s guaranteed to get a laugh. If you’re looking for something off the beaten path that still tastes great, give it a try. No scalpels required.
2 Ounces Gin
1 Ounce Fresh Orange Juice
1/2 Ounce Grenadine
Absinthe Rinse
Orange Twist
Shake the gin, juice and grenadine over ice, then strain into an absinthe-rinsed glass (pour a small amount of absinthe into a glass, swirl it around to coat the inside, then discard the excess) and garnish with an orange twist.
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