Ponca City High School’s DECA Program
Spreads Kindness to the Community and Beyond
HOLISTIC APPROACHES
BY KAYLA MAXWELL
In recent years I unfortunately have struggled with reproductive health. In the beginning I was terrified with the choices I had to make as women’s heath isn’t something casually brought up in conversation and well, I knew nothing. What I did know was I wanted to avoid surgery and taking medication daily at all costs. As we grow older, we begin to look for heathier options, ways to avoid complications down the road and I began to look for holistic remedies, as going under the knife was a last resort. Please keep in mind I am by no means a medical expert, just someone who dabbles in research. Always do your own digging and consult with your primary care physician before wandering off into the forest to be a barefoot hippy gathering nature’s holistic medicines or experimenting with home remedies.
All jokes aside, I began to deep dive into my options and to be honest, learning about holistic medicine was fascinating. Did you know bark from a willow tree is basically nature’s aspirin? It also has antibacterial properties that have worked wonders for eczema, dandruff, menstrual discomfort and many people make facial toner with it. It’s harvested by scraping the ends of willow branches and steeping into tea. Although it’s just a tree branch, nature’s aspirin is actual aspirin. Yes, over the counter aspirin is made partially from tree bark, well the synthetic version and you need to make sure you are taking the proper dose. Another that has proven helpful is raspberry leaf, also steeped into a tea, the leaves of raspberry plants are packed with calcium, potassium, iron, antioxidants, ketones, along with vitamins B, C and E. So, what does all that mean? Well it has many benefits to reproductive health, primarily for women. Easing menstrual discomfort, and many women drink raspberry tea during the third trimester as it naturally strengthens the uterine wall and stimulates milk production. Mullen comes from a large flowering plant and is commonly found growing wild in the United States. With the height of cold season upon us, Mullen is used for treating respiratory problems, digestive issues, skin conditions, loosening mucus, calming inflammation, fighting germs and having anti-parasitic properties.
My studies lead us to begin carrying dried herbs and botanicals in our store, Sharps Indian Store and Pawn. I wanted to find botanicals I would trust taking myself which led to an organic source where everything is grown within the United States. In our growing selection we currently have peppermint, elderberry, elder flowers, hibiscus, bearberry, marshmallow root, rose hips, St, Johns wort, dandelion leaf, lavender, ginko, lemon grass, spearmint, Mullen, chamomile, juniper, white willow bark, sage, sweet grass, raspberry leaf along with a few botanical soaps as well.
Stop in and see us at 118 South Second Street in downtown Ponca City and check out our extensive selection. Our knowledgeable staff is here to help!
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Dried White Willow Bark
Raspberry Leaf
Ponca City High School’s DECA Program Spreads Kindness to the Community and Beyond Page 6
2025 at Ponca Playhouse Page 10
BUSINESS SPOTLIGHT Smith Home Furnishings Page 17
WELL BEE SHANNON NP Celebrating Progress, Not Perfection: Staying Motivated in Your Weight Loss Journey Page 20
Tom Mix: “Straight Shooters Always Win” Page 23
Sleep Tight With Savvy Slumber Parties! Page 28
DECA Program learns kindness while reading to dogs and cats at Northern Oklahoma Humane Society read more on page 6.
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A very long time ago, way back in the year 2003, I was just a poor kid in high school who was working at a fast-food restaurant to make some extra money. I lived in Lamont, so in order to get a job, I had to drive 20 miles east to Tonkawa. I worked there for several years in high school. It was a great job. First of all, healthy sandwiches for dinner every day? Yes, please. Coming home smelling like fresh baked bread? Absolutely. The job involved making sandwiches, cutting veggies, and cleaning, primarily. It was one of my favorite jobs as a teenager. The only part of the job I didn’t like was driving home at 10 pm. After a full day of school (from 8 am -3:30 pm) and then working the evening shift (5 pm -10 pm), I was exhausted on my drive home. However, the road between Tonkawa and Lamont is generally sparse with traffic, and it was a straight shot home. I never had any issues, that is, until I did.
It was a cold, clear night in January. I was tired, as usual, and ready to get home. I had just pulled off the interstate and was heading into the darkness on Highway 60 driving west from the Tonkawa exit, when I came upon a long trailer full of huge, round hay bales. The trailer was pulled by a big one ton farm truck with a flatbed and a massive grille guard. The trailer was moving at a glacial pace, so I figured they were just heading home after a long day of work like me, but going slowly and carefully. I was raised around farm equipment, and I know when you are loaded down on the highway going slow, you sometimes pull over to let cars go around you so you don’t impede traffic. So, as I came upon this truck and trailer, I followed them for a bit, going slow, and then decided to go around them. Just as I was pulling up and around the truck, I heard the most god-awful CRUNCH, and before I knew it, my car was being pulled to the left and back. Crap, I thought. I got out to look, and sure enough, this old farmer was turning and turned right into me, and his grille guard had taken a nice little chunk out of my car.
I was exhausted, but my car was drivable. In fact, the grille guard missed the tire and the door, so my car was mechanically fine, besides the unsightly gash. Exacerbated, I stepped out and talked to the nice farmer, who also had a farm hand with him. They offered for me to sit in the farm truck while the police officer came to fill out a report. I said, “So, I guess your blinkers on your trailer don’t work?” This accident was obviously his fault, I thought. He said no, they didn’t work, and that he felt terrible about my car. We swapped pleasantries while we waited for the cop to come make a report. The police arrived, asked us a bunch of questions, took pictures, and to my absolute surprise, the police informed me that I was at fault in the accident. “Ma’am, you passed in a no-passing zone, so it doesn’t matter that his blinkers were not functional; you shouldn’t have passed.” They issued me a nice big ticket for passing in a no-passing zone. Seriously? You could have picked my jaw up off the floor. So there I was, a poor kid, with a poor car with a nice big gash and a nice big ticket. Sitting out on that road at 11pm, I couldn’t help but laugh at the absurdity of the situation. Oh well, I thought. I could have been angry, but I just wasn’t. I’m alive, I thought; my car is still drivable, and this could have been so much worse. The farmer truly felt terrible. I didn’t get his name at the time, but I remember he had a very sweet smile. I truly enjoyed his company. We shook hands, wished each other well, and
then headed our separate ways.
A few weeks later, I got a package in the mail with signed and personalized books by this old farmer. He had sent me some of his cowboy poetry, signed and dated, with a nice message. It was the sweetest gift. Joe Kreger. Huh, I thought, who is that? Little did I know the State Poet Laureate Joe Kreger was the nice old farmer who ran into me that night in 2003.
I keep those books on my bookshelf as a reminder that even when bad things happen, good things can also happen at the very same time without us even knowing it. Life has a very mysterious way of working out for our greater good. I’m also grateful that Joe took the time to send that poor 17-year-old kid his books. He didn’t have to do that. At 17 years old, I didn’t fully comprehend the situation, but at 39 years old, I very much cherish them and that chance encounter on a cold January night so long ago.
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Ponca City High School’s DECA Program Spreads Kindness to the Community and Beyond
Story by Alexia Puetz & Kelsey Wagner | Staff Writers
At Ponca City High School, teacher Heather Monks leads a remarkable class under the DECA program, an organization aimed at preparing high school students for careers in marketing, management, hospitality, entrepreneurship and finance. Beyond its career-focused goals, this group of students dedicates time each year to making a difference in the lives of children with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD).
For six weeks, Monks and her DECA students worked on a special project centered around the theme of kindness. Typically, the program takes five weeks – four weeks of activities and one week to prepare goodie bags – but this year, an extra week was added for a unique reward: the first-ever field trip for completing the program.
The four-week kindness curriculum encouraged the IDD students to practice daily acts of goodwill. Each student began their day by writing their name
and describing how they would spread kindness, whether it was offering a smile, holding doors open or sharing kind words. These seemingly small actions carried profound lessons about empathy and community.
The culmination of the program was a heartwarming trip to the Northern Oklahoma Humane Society. Monks, alongside DECA students and their dedicated colleague Sandy, accompanied the children on this outing. The Humane Society visit was a thoughtful choice
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that aligned perfectly with the program’s message: everyone, regardless of their circumstances, deserves kindness and love.
At the Humane Society, the children participated in activities designed to foster both compassion and confidence. They were encouraged to read aloud to dogs and cats, an experience that not only helped the children improve their reading skills in a judgment-free environment but also soothed the animals awaiting adoption. Some children, initially hesitant or fearful around animals, found their courage as cats curled up in their laps or dogs listened attentively.
The students also created special treats and biscuits for the animals, carefully packaging them in jars they had decorated. To add a personal touch, each child selected a favorite animal and crafted a drawing and note for them, making their kennel spaces feel a little more like home. These thoughtful gestures
didn’t just brighten the animals’ day, they reinforced the children’s understanding that small acts of kindness can have a significant impact.
For the teachers and volunteers, the trip was a deeply emotional experience. Sandy was moved to tears, watching the children interact with the animals and embrace the program’s lessons with open hearts. “Seeing the kids read without fear of judgment and truly connect with the animals was incredibly touching,” she shared.
Heather Monks and Sandy have been running this four-week kindness program for six years, but their dedication to supporting children with IDD goes back much further. Monks is always eager to help high school students get involved in community service and is a valuable resource for anyone interested in making a difference.
The partnership with the Northern Oklahoma Humane Society proved to be a perfect fit. Karlissa Archibeque, the Humane
“Interacting with kids helps prepare the dogs and cats for adoption by making them more comfortable around people of all ages."
Society’s director, was thrilled to host the group. “Events like this are beneficial not only for the children but also for the animals,” Archibeque said. “Interacting with kids helps prepare the dogs and cats for adoption by making them more comfortable around people of all ages.”
The Humane Society welcomes volunteers of all kinds. For those who may be allergic to animals or prefer not to work directly with them, there are plenty of other ways to contribute, such as administrative tasks or facility maintenance. Donations of blankets and supplies are always appreciated, and anything the Humane Society can’t use is passed along to other nonprofit organizations, ensuring that no contribution goes to waste.
If you’d like to support future projects or get involved, reach out to Heather Monks at Ponca City High School or the Ponca City Humane Society. Whether you’re volunteering your time, donating supplies or simply spreading the word, your contribution will help sustain the spirit of kindness that this program so beautifully embodies.
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Karlissa Archibeque
2025 at The Ponca Playhouse
Story by Marlys Cervantes | Staff Writer
Ponca Playhouse is currently halfway through its 66th season, while actively planning its 67th consecutive one. Board president Jennie Hinterreiter says, “Thank you, Phillips 66, for being our season 66 sponsor! We love bringing Ponca City quality and diverse live theatre and look forward to seeing you!” It is only through partnerships and donors like this that live theatre can continue in Ponca City. One of the Playhouse’s claims to fame is that the live theatrical seasons have been continuous even through war and pandemics. Those who volunteer and work for the community theatre know that the community needs art even, maybe especially, when the times are tough. A look to 2025 is exciting and the work going into the new year is challenging.
As we enter February, the Playhouse is finishing up the production of The Little Prince, which closes with a matinee on Sunday, Feb.2. Prior to the next regular season production of Aaron Posner’s Life Sucks, directed by the extremely talented and popular Emily Rose Parman, which opens March 28 and runs for two weekends, the Playhouse
“The word theatre comes from the Greeks. It means the seeing place. It is the place people come to see the truth about life and the social station.“
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Stella Adler, Actress and Acting Coach
will have a special Valentine’s fundraiser on Friday, Feb. 14. It is the ever-popular Stardust Melodies, which is a concert event that has been held in the past with jazz melodies and yacht rock songs. This February, the musicians will perform a 1950s theme (think about the Under the Sea dance in Back to the Future). There will be desserts, table seating, an available bar and a live band.
The regular season will finish out with Paul Rudnick’s I Hate Hamlet directed by Nathan Oesterle, running May 23 to June 1. You can watch the Ponca Playhouse Facebook page to find out about auditions for
this or other productions, and to keep up with how work on productions and other activities is going. It is a great way to keep up with the work occurring at the organization.
Summers tend to vary at the Playhouse, but each year there is an annual membership meeting with an awards event called the Riga-TONYs, with awards for many who worked on various productions throughout the previous season. It is a special and fun event, as well as one providing information for the next year from the board of directors. This summer, plans are just beginning to also have a special production, so that’s just one more reason to keep your eye on the Playhouse Facebook page, so you don’t miss out on any great shows or workshops that come up as the year progresses.
All this fun happening doesn’t come without work. Volunteers are the heart of Ponca Playhouse, and the current board of directors includes president Jennie Hinterreiter, vice president Thomas Rowell, treasurer Todd Stuart, Marlys Cervantes, Brian Hermanson, Kelly Riddle and Dolley Rolland from Ponca City; secretary Meghann Borum from Arkansas City; Tamara Campbell from Marland; and Jake Arington from Blackwell. With that board, you can see why individuals from all around Ponca City area who are active on and behind the stage at the Playhouse. The board is a working board which is active with the business of the theatre.
However, the board members cannot do all the work required. There is ample opportunity for those in the community who want to be part of live theatre — onstage, behind the scenes, or working in other ways such as in the office, writing grants, helping with publicity, social media or fundraising — to join in and become part of the team working to bring live theatre to the community. If you are interested, reach out and let board members know. They are always looking for new people who are interested in becoming involved in the vast jobs required to keep the show going.
Even though the Playhouse building is busy much of the year, the facility is available for rental at times when it isn’t being utilized for productions and other activities. It has been used for birthday parties, small dance or karaoke events, and even the upcoming Purple Affair fundraiser for the Survivor Resource Network. If you are interested in finding out more information about this as a possibility for an event you have coming up, contact board officers through FB Messenger or email at poncaplayhouse@gmail.com.
In addition, collaborations are something the Playhouse board hopes to continue. This season they are teaming up with City Arts to have visual art that exemplifies the feel of the current production in the lobby during the run of each show. This has allowed various local artists to exhibit works for theatre patrons to see when they come to see a production. It is a nice way for the Playhouse to promote another type of art and the artists who create the works. “The
art and artists’ collaboration has been a fun way to merge and support the arts,” says board member Marlys Cervantes. “We’ve enjoyed working with the artists who’ve been involved so far this season, and I look forward to seeing who we bring in the rest of the shows. Who knows? Maybe we’ll collaborate with music next season.”
Next season will be exciting. It’s in the works now and almost finalized. While it can’t be officially announced yet, it won’t be long. The 67th season will include a classic laugh-out-loud comedy from one of the most well-known comic playwrights of our time, as well as the chance to do two musicals, including a cozy feel-good family show and a blockbuster jukebox musical with numerous hits. The Playhouse believes audiences of all ages will have productions they will enjoy in the upcoming season, and they look forward to being able to announce it as soon as royalties are paid and rights are confirmed.
For me, Ponca Playhouse is the place where I’ve met many of my dearest friends over the last few decades, it’s a place that grounded and gave confidence to our kids and a place where community has come together for a common goal. I love the diversity of people my family now knows, all working together over the years to create good theatre and build strong relationships while doing so. If you find yourself drawn to the community of theatre, join the group at Ponca Playhouse — whether you do so as a volunteer or in the audience. It’s a great place to be! PCM
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Smith Home Furnishings
Story by Chelsea McConnell | Staff Writer
Smith Home Furnishings can trace its roots back to 1921, when Jim and Clara Tribble (Robert Smith’s aunt and uncle) opened the Ponca City Mattress Company. The Tribble family made cotton mattresses by hand, upholstered furniture and eventually sold furniture out of a storefront on Union Avenue. In 1974, Robert and Mildred Smith purchased the company from their aunt and uncle and renamed it Smith Home Furnishings. The Smith’s children, Larry, Roger and Karen, joined them in the business endeavor.
As the business grew, it became necessary to expand. The Smiths purchased a building on Grand Avenue in 1989 and a second building on Grand in 1994. The business continued to grow and evolve over the years, and when a location on 14th Street became available in 2004, the company moved to their current home at 2500 N. 14th Street. Smith Home Furnishings boasts a 40,000 square-foot-showroom and a 10,000 square-foot-warehouse. The company is owned by Larry and Charlotte Smith and has a team of 19 employees that work incredibly hard to serve Ponca City, northern Oklahoma and southern Kansas.
One of the ways Smith stays competitive is through being part of Furniture 1st, a nationwide buying group. They work with partners in the group to purchase furniture items at bulk rates. They do this so they can bring furniture to our
market at prices that are comparable to stores in bigger metropolitan areas. They also carry the same big names as those stores, like Ashley and La-Z-Boy. The team at Smith Home Furnishings is dedicated to bringing the best deals to consumers in our community.
Smith has a handful of different departments. The Sales Department are the folks that work the floor and are responsible for working with customers to get a sale finalized. Sales staff go through special training on how to connect with people so they can provide good quality service to their customers. Smith has a state-of-the-art warehouse next to their showroom location where inventory is stored. All items are scanned in with a barcode that communicates with their inventory system, so they know exactly what they have on hand at
any given time. The warehouse team handles deliveries as well, so all deliveries are done by Smith Home Furnishings staff members, not farmed out to third-party companies like the big box stores.
Smith also has a full-time service repair technician on staff. All items purchased from Smith come with a one-year warranty. If customers have a problem with their furniture while it’s under warranty, Smith will fix the issue. Their technician will come to your home to
Top 10 Things to Know About Smith Home Furnishings
1. They offer financing. You could have new furniture for as little as $25/month and you can apply online!
2. They sell commercial office furniture with a 10-year warranty! They’ll even come measure your space so you know what to order.
inspect the piece, file the claim for you, order the parts, pick it up if needed, fix the issue and bring it back to you. Good luck getting that kind of service outside of Ponca City! Smith also offers their own Protection Plan on top of furniture warranties. The Smith Protection Plan gives customers five years of coverage for issues and accidents, which includes stains, tears and even dog bites. Anyone who purchases a Protection Plan gets half off on delivery. If a customer doesn’t use the plan for the entire five years, they get store credit for half the cost of the plan once that time period is up.
Smith also has part-time and full-time office team members who work tirelessly on all the behindthe-scenes tasks necessary to keep the business running. General Manager Sean Love oversees all the departments and handles marketing, IT and human resources. Just like with any small business, team members often wear multiple hats.
The team at Smith is dedicated to their customers. The company has recently launched a text shopping feature. You can text Smith at the store number (580) 765-3539 with any questions or inquiries and a real human will text back. Need to know if they have a queen size box springs in stock? Shoot them a text. Looking for a piece of furniture but don’t see what you want on their site? Send them a text. Need to take advantage of your Protection Plan because of a stain on your new couch? I think you get my point. :) The team wants customers to stay local when shopping for furniture and they’re going above and beyond to make the experience a good one.
Smith Home Furnishings also holds several special sales throughout the year. Many of these are only shared with their VIP customers, but good news, you can get on the VIP list! Just text VIP to the number above and be added. Recently they ran a BOGO promotion where customers could buy a piece of furniture and get the second piece half off. They also hold giveaways and shopping sprees, so you definitely want to be on that list. Because they value their customers, they only send one text per month, so no need to worry about being inundated with spam-style texts.
Smith Home Furnishings values being a part of our community and loves to give back. They support local events, groups and clubs as much as possible. They also do special sales that help groups like the Po-Hi Band and Orchestra. The company also values their employees and feels strongly about treating them well. Most employees have been with the company for 10 years or more and they experience very little turnover.
Another customer-pleasing feature offered by Smith is their financing option. Customers can apply online to see if they qualify for financing. Smith offers multiple options like no interest for up to 72 months. They are willing to work with customers to get them approved so it’s worth reaching out if you’re unsure whether you would qualify. They also offer free in-home design advice. If requested, a Smith employee can visit your home and help you plan out what type of furniture you’d like for your space. They will take measurements and create a digital room plan so you can see how your space will look with various pieces of furniture.
There are so many reasons why shopping locally matters, but most importantly might be the people. Smith Home Furnishings supports 19 local families through employment at their business. What they do matters so much to them. Manager Sean Love shares, “We work very hard every day in every aspect of our business, trying to make sure we can bring the best service to our customers and the right products for the most competitive price we possibly can so that this business can survive. We want your business, so what do we have to do to get it? And most importantly, let’s have fun. My goal is always to make a friend and a customer. We are not afraid to have conversations with people about what we can do differently, what we can do better. That’s really important to us.”
Next time you’re considering furniture or mattress upgrades, look locally. The team at Smith Home Furnishings is willing and eager to work with customers to make the sale. Reach out to them via call or text at (580) 765-3539, online at www.shfok.com or visit their showroom in person at 2500 N. 14th Street. PCM
3. They carry all the brands you know and love like Ashley, La-Z-Boy, Mattress 1st, Serta, Tempur-Pedic, Sealy, Stearns & Foster, Ultra Comfort and more!
4. They can work with customers because they are locally owned – there is no corporate office to answer to with Smith.
5. They have a Clearance Center that features incredible deals all the time.
6. Free in-home design services make redoing your space easy if you don’t know where to start.
7. They offer price matching and will either match the competitor’s price or counter with a fair offer!
8. Text them regarding inventory or with any random questions and an actual human will respond.
9. Mattresses are their specialty! A better night’s sleep is just one text away.
10. They give away $1,000 and $2,000 shopping sprees throughout the year, but you’ve got to be on the VIP list to hear about that.
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Celebrating Progress, Not Perfection: Staying Motivated in Your Weight Loss Journey
Story by Shannon Somers / Contributing Writer, Owner Aesthetic State of Mind
January always starts off with a bang. We’re excited about the new year, resolutions are set and we propelling her forward. Then a few weeks of our routine and we step on the scale…. instantly feel defeated because that number isn’t where we want it to be. Weight loss is not about perfection—it’s about progress. Many people get caught up in the pursuit of an ideal outcome or they hyperfixate on a number on the scale. The number on that scale does not define you. Seems easy for someone else to say but trust me, I have lived it. Focusing on small victories helps build sustainable habits and long-term success. These small wins, like choosing a protein over a bagel or doing a couple of air squats during the day, boost confidence and reinforce positive behaviors.
Shift Your Mindset to Focusing on Progress
Set Realistic Goals: Aim for small, achievable changes, such as drinking more water or walking 10 minutes extra each day.
Acknowledge Every Win: Celebrate choices like resisting a sugary snack or trying a healthy recipe.
Practice Self-Compassion: Mistakes happen. Focus on your next healthy decision instead of dwelling on setbacks.
Celebrate Small Victories
Reward yourself in ways that support your goals, like buying workout gear, tracking milestones, or sharing progress with friends. Recognize nonscale achievements, such as improved energy, better sleep, or looser clothing. Reflect on these positive changes to stay motivated.
Go At Your Own Pace
Avoid comparing yourself to others. Focus on your unique progress and value each step forward. Weight loss is not just about numbers on a scale; it’s about overall well-being and confidence. Every small effort contributes to a healthier, happier you. I tell my patients every day that everyone’s body is different and what that means is every BODY is going to react differently, that does not mean something is wrong with you. Like Teddy Roosevelt said,. “Comparison is the thief of joy”
Conclusion
Celebrate progress, not perfection. By shifting your mindset, recognizing victories, and embracing your journey, you’ll create a positive and sustainable path to your goals. Trust the process—every step counts!
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February is the sweetest month. It inspires kindness and fills us with renewed hope for Spring. Make some new memories with those you love, and those who need love.
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Tom Mix:
“Straight Shooters Always Win”
Thomas Hezekiah Mix was not a cowboy by birth, but in a dazzling rise to fame he became the most flamboyant and popular of all early movie cowboys. Mix was born Jan. 6, 1880, in the northeastern Pennsylvania hamlet of Mix Run. His father, a stable master for a lumber merchant, taught his son to love horses, a quality that paid dividends for the boy who one day would set the standard for cowboys of the silver screen. Not liking the name Hezekiah, Mix took his father’s name Edwin, and though he dreamed of becoming a circus performer, his parents discouraged it when they caught him practicing knife-throwing tricks using his sister as an assistant.
With the outbreak of the Spanish-American War in 1898, Mix aspired to soldiering and enlisted, but his army unit remained stateside guarding an artillery base in Delaware. He reenlisted in 1901, hoping to see combat action in the Boer War, but that all changed when he fell in love with Virginia schoolteacher Grace Allin, marrying her in July 1902. Mix then took leave from the Army, but never returned. He was listed as AWOL, yet not court-martialed or formally discharged.
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Following their marriage, the couple moved to Guthrie, Oklahoma, where the multitalented Mix worked varied jobs, including physical fitness teacher, pugilist instructor and bartender. His dashing good looks and flamboyant manner won him many friends, including Oklahoma Territory Governor Thompson Ferguson who helped
Mix & 4th wife
him be named as drum major of the Oklahoma Cavalry Band despite the fact he was not a musician.
His band travels contributed to an eventual divorce, but Mix gained valuable contacts, most notably Zack Mulhall, the Miller brothers and Will Rogers. In 1905, he rode in Theodore Roosevelt’s inaugural parade with several Rough Riders who had served with the President in Cuba. Years later, Hollywood publicists would muddle this event to imply Mix had been a Rough Rider himself.
Later that year, Mix was invited to work at the 101 Ranch. He knew horses and riding from his boyhood, but his “reviews” as a working cowboy were mixed. Some veteran Miller cowpunchers claimed they had to teach him to properly saddle a cow pony. One even observed that “He could get lost in an 800-acre pasture.” The Millers paid no attention to the criticisms because Mix was hired as a showman.
When the Millers prepared for their first public rodeo in the summer of 1905, they sent Mix and other performers to appear with the Zach Mulhall show in New York. Oddly enough, he was billed as “Tom Mixco, the Mexican horse runner,” an unlikely description that may have taught him how easily he could reinvent his life story, something done many times over his career to the consternation of biographers who still have trouble separating fact from fiction. In truth, Mix was never a Texas Ranger, had not fought in the Boxer Rebellion in China, or the Boer War or the Spanish-American War. Neither had he been a U.S. Marshal, nor did he ride with Pancho Villa in Mexico.
His second marriage to Kitty Jewel Perrine at the end of 1905 barely lasted a year. In 1908 he met 22-year-old Olive Stokes, whose family owned a ranch near Dewey, Oklahoma. They toured the Wild West Show circuit together; Mix performing as a trick rider and expert
shot. In January 1909, while in Billings, Montana, he totally surprised Stokes, not by proposing, but inexplicably organizing the necessities for a wedding, evidently not thinking he needed to consult the bride-tobe. At first, Olive thought it was a joke, but then accepted, and the couple tied the knot.
Over the next two years, Mix won the National Rodeo Championship for riding and roping. He and Olive spent the winter months at her family’s ranch near Dewey, where the town appointed him “night marshal.” The connection ultimately led to the creation of Dewey’s Tom Mix Museum.
Mix’s growing reputation in Wild West performances soon gained the attention of Hollywood, and the jaunty cowboy in the big white hat landed his first role in silent films. The Selig Polyscope Company cast him in a documentary-style short film titled, Ranch Life in the Great Southwest. The movie was shot in Dewey and included Oklahoma’s Henry Grammer in which the duo displayed their roping talents. The film launched Mix’s
Victoria Forde in 1926
movie career, and for the next 25 years he appeared in nearly 300 films, only nine of which were “talkies.”
Olive gave birth to their daughter Ruth in 1912, and they moved to the “Bar Circle A Ranch” near Prescott, Arizona. Olive appeared in several of Mix’s silent films during that period, and over the years, 65 Mix movies were filmed at Prescott and other Arizona locations.
The family lived on the “Bar Circle A” (now a suburban Prescott housing development) until 1917, but between his travels with the 101 Wild West show and his blossoming movie career, he was not often home. Mix frequently performed opposite 20-yearold actress Victoria Forde, and in 1917 the duo signed with the Fox Film Corporation. It was the final straw for
Mix & Tony, who became the most widely-recognized horse in the world.
Olive who claimed abandonment, leading to a nasty public divorce suit. Mix and Forde were married in 1918, and four years later she gave birth to Thomasina “Tommie” Mix.
During the 1920s Mix made more than 160 escapist matinee cowboy films in which he performed his own stunts and was frequently injured. Most of his movies were simply a means of displaying action-packed stunts, trick riding and attention-grabbing costumes. Even his intelligent, handsome horse “Tony” enjoyed celebrity status as a result of his films, especially among young moviegoers.
As it happened, Mix’s remarkable steed also came from humble beginnings. One day in 1913, a fellow actor spotted a fine-looking colt pulling a produce wagon on a Los Angeles street. He paid cash for the horse and began training it for his own, later selling it to Mix.
For the next 34 years, “Tony” costarred with Mix in dozens of movies
and parades. Tony was so well-known to moviegoers that he became the most widely recognized horse in the world, receiving thousands of fan letters from children each week.
With or without Tony, Mix was one of the most sought-after performers of his day, yet he clearly knew his limits as an actor. He made fun of his own shortcomings by asking the directors, “Which expression do you want, number one, two or three?” Although he sometimes left Hollywood to travel with a Wild West show or a circus, he invariably returned to the movie business. In 1929, his last year in silent pictures, Mix worked for a small studio run by Joseph P. Kennedy Sr., which later became film giant RKO Pictures. By then Mix was 49 and by most accounts ready to retire. Although his voice was considered adequate for sound movies when they became the standard in 1927, he thought sound would ruin his action films and had no interest in them. Over the next two years, Mix appeared with the Sells-Floto Circus at a hefty weekly salary of $20,000, but by 1932, when he and Victoria Forde were divorced, the Great Depression, coupled with reckless spending and many ex-wives had wiped out his savings.
Shortly after divorcing Forde, Mix married his fifth wife, Mabel Hubbard Ward. Universal
Mix & 3rd wife Olive Stokes in 1909
Mix joined the Sam B. Dill Circus in 1935 and became full owner in 1937.
Pictures approached him that year with an offer to do “talking” pictures, which included script and cast approval. Mix was broke, so he did nine pictures for Universal, but because of previous injuries while filming, he was reluctant to do more.
In 1933, he gave Ralston-Purina permission to produce a radio series called Tom Mix Ralston Straight Shooters, a popular show from the 1930s through the early 1950s. He gave them his name but never appeared on those broadcasts, letting others do his sound work. In the meantime, Mix concentrated on the circus business. He joined the Sam B. Dill Circus in 1935, a company he later purchased. His last film, The Miracle Rider, was released in 1935, but by then Mix wanted to stay with the circus performing with Ruth, his eldest daughter. In 1938 he went to Europe on a promotional tour, leaving Ruth behind to manage his circus. The circus failed, and Mix blamed his daughter, excluding her from his will.
On the afternoon of Oct. 12, 1940, Mix was driving back to Southern California from New York in his 1937 Cord 812
“Phaeton.” On a lonely unpaved road near Florence, Arizona, he encountered construction barriers where a bridge had been washed away. A work crew watched as his car skidded into the gully. The impact sent an aluminum suitcase careening off the luggage rack into the back of Mix’s head, breaking his neck and killing him instantly.
An investigation gave speeding as the cause, and while some say alcohol did not play a part, several acquaintances stated he had been drinking heavily the night before. Four days later, thousands of people attended the funeral of the man hailed as “King of the Cowboys” at Forest Lawn Memorial Park in Glendale, California.
For all his shortcomings, Tom Mix insisted on demonstrating strong values to his many young admirers. He didn’t smoke, drink or curse on screen, and asked that his youthful followers abide by the motto: “Straight shooters always win; lawbreakers always lose.”
His contributions to motion pictures earned him a star on “Hollywood’s Walk of Fame,” along with boot prints, palm prints and the hoof prints of his horse “Tony” at the famed Grauman’s Chinese Theatre. In 1958 Tom Mix was inducted into the Western Performers Hall of Fame at the National Cowboy and Western Heritage
Museum in Oklahoma City.
Today, on State Route 79, 17 miles south of Florence, Arizona, there’s a monument where Tom Mix died. It includes a bronze plaque that states: “In memory of Tom Mix whose spirit left his body on this spot and whose characterization and portrayals in life served to better fix memories of the Old West in the minds of living men.”
Tom Mix was one of several famous film stars and show people to have started their careers at the 101 Ranch. They, along with the unique history of the ranch and its people, will be the focus of the “101 Ranch Western and Antique Trade Show” in Blackwell, Oklahoma on April 11 and 12. The two-day event at the Kay County Fairgrounds Livestock Center features 101 Ranch and Wild West Show artifacts, as well as antiques and other Western memorabilia for viewing or sale. The show, presented by the 101 Ranch Collectors’ Association, is open to the public Friday 12-5 p.m. and Saturday 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. PCM
The Tom Mix memorial near Florence, Arizona.
Sleep Tight With Savvy Slumber Parties!
“If you’re not invited to the party, throw your own.“ ~Diahann Carroll
Story by Marlys Cervantes | Staff Writer
If you are looking for a fun way to make a birthday or other sleepover event more exciting for your children, you need to talk to Nichole Kirk with Savvy Slumber Parties and More. Kirk began the party entertainment service in September 2022 after a cousin in Dallas sent her pictures after she had hired a similar service there, knowing it would be a perfect fit for her. Having grown up in Ponca City, Kirk knew the unique idea could be a hit in Ponca
City and the surrounding area.
Savvy Slumber Parties is a wonderfully unique way to celebrate a child’s (or adult’s, actually) special interests. The decorations of the tents can be tailored to the individual in many ways. They can be simply color-specific or specially themed. Themes are limitless, such as holidays, movies, butterflies, unicorns, rainbows, sports and anything else you can imagine. Half of the fun can be deciding on the theme!
While the business’ typical slumber parties so far have been for 9-12-year-old girls, that doesn’t have to be the case. Themes could be for boys, too, and the themes and parties can expand to include bachelorette parties and such for more fun. Right now, Nichole has 10 available beds and frames with twin-size beds, so it makes for comfortable sleeping. The tents make it nice for individuals who are ready
to sleep or get alone time reading or something so that others at the party can have more time together. She said her customers have mentioned their satisfaction because individuals were happy being able to do what they choose during the evening and night.
Depending on what the party-planner might want, Kirk mentions she can also provide a fun dining table, snack table, picnic or other items for the party as well. She will set up the day of the party and come back
the next day to break everything down at the customer’s convenience. Generally, parties are set up in homes or basements, but they could be in other buildings, nice barns or other locations that work for this type of event. Again, there are many choices that work.
Nichole loves providing a creative service in the community that has been the home for her family for years. Her parents both graduated from Po-Hi, she and her husband Robbie did, and now they are raising their two kids, Kamper and Kamdyn, here. Both of her kids are very active, and Kamdyn is crafty like she is and enjoys helping her. Of this entertainment venture, Nichole says,
“I love giving our community another option for something new and fun. Plus, I get to meet new people which I’ve really enjoyed.”
Reserving your date for this fun way to celebrate only takes $50! Message Nichole Kirk today for more information about Savvy Slumber Parties and to find out all she can offer while discussing your thematic ideas. She can be reached by messaging her on her Facebook page Savvy Slumber Parties and More. PCM
Nichole and Kamdyn, her daughter, with one of the tent setups.
Story by Relo Adams, MS, MCP, LPC-C / Contributing Writer
Random Acts of Kindness
February is an extremely important month! Not only do we celebrate Valentine’s Day, we also have the opportunity to participate, observe and celebrate something everyone is capable of … KINDNESS! Random Acts of Kindness Week is Feb. 9-15, 2025 and Random Acts of Kindness Day is observed on Feb. 17, 2025. Many people consider niceness and kindness to be the same thing, however there are some important differences that should be addressed when considering how kindness and niceness can impact mental health. While both “kindness” and “niceness” are positive attributes for anyone to have and demonstrate, the major difference in my opinion would be the depth of each quality. Niceness can easily be associated with being agreeable, well-mannered and pleasant, whereas kindness suggests that someone has a deeper concern toward others with evidence of compassion and action, rather than simply exchanging pleasantries and being easygoing. One is surface level and the other is deeper, having and showing genuine care and action toward oneself or others.
While being nice can positively impact the short-term mental health of oneself and others, kindness most likely has a longer-term impact because there is not only an exchange of pleasantries, but there is empathy and action as well! For instance, instead of being nice by telling someone directions to the toilet paper aisle, kindness would tell them where that aisle is in addition to leading them to that aisle. Nice is complementing someone’s shoes, whereas kindness is helping someone carry their groceries to their car. Both are positive; however, one requires personal
involvement of self for someone else’s benefit. Relating this to mental health, instead of telling someone where to seek help, or everyone’s favorite “If you need anything let me know”; calling mental health providers with that person, taking them to schedule an appointment or simply being with them in the moment will go so much further than nice words or suggestions. Don’t JUST say … DO! A lot of times, most of the time, actually, simply not being alone during rough times can make all the difference to someone’s mental state. That’s kindness! Sitting with someone who is suffering or struggling. Being congruent with them in their tough times. Showing them empathy and unconditional positive regard. Blasting resources all over social media and promoting things and services is positive; however, personal involvement and action goes so much further and is far more impactful and longer lasting. That is also a difference between nice and kind. Kindness not only impacts the receiver, but also positively impacts the giver of kindness. When we receive or give kindness to others, happy and satisfying chemicals are released!
During this new year, choose kindness! Here are a few ideas of how we can demonstrate kindness:
1. Visit the elderly and ask them to hear their stories.
2. Be a friend to a lonely neighbor or peer.
3. Volunteer at the local food bank or free meal center.
4. Practice active listening (listen to understand rather than to respond).
5. Write a handwritten letter and send it rather than typing a short text.
6. Cook a meal for someone who may be facing food insecurities.
7. Give positive google reviews to your favorite local business!
8. Spend time with yourself doing your favorite things.
9. Take time to pray and verbalize gratitude.
10. Enjoy nature and include someone to enjoy it with you!
11. Volunteer in your community.
12. Become active with your local foster care system for children and/or animals. This doesn’t mean you have to be a foster parent, but your involvement and advocacy would be priceless!
The possibilities are endless! In 2025, choose kindness and remember if you or someone you know needs mental health assistance of any kind, please feel free to reach out to your local community mental health agency or call or text 988, the suicide and crisis lifeline, or call 911 for immediate emergencies.
Take care of yourselves, – Relo Adams, Mr. Ponca City
Thought on Higher Ed Browser Beware!
Story by Tim
Williams/ University Center at Ponca City / Contributing Writer
Ninth grade. Pampa, Texas, World History. Mrs. Hopkins. Biased and unbiased sources. Mrs. Hopkins said it was important for us to develop the skill of determining whether the things we read were biased or unbiased. In multiple lessons, she provided us with two articles related to the same aspect of world history we were studying. One was biased and the other was unbiased. It sounds easy enough, but sometimes it was tricky. I don’t remember the topic of the articles, but I certainly remember the lesson itself.
The purpose of bias is to interpret an idea in such a way as to convince you to think, feel or believe a particular way about something. The purpose of objectivity (unbiased) is to present facts so you have a good understanding of a particular subject. One thing I have learned since Mrs. Hopkins’ World History class is that authentic objectivity is virtually impossible.
Bias is not necessarily a negative thing as long as we know it is there. I recently purchased a new vehicle. (Yes, Shelley, I shopped locally.) The information I received from salespeople was different from the automotive review research that I did. A good car salesperson highlights the many ways his vehicle
will best suit your needs. Bias. In fact, I asked one salesperson to tell me why I should purchase his vehicle instead of a similar one at a neighboring dealership. (I didn’t buy either.) My independent research was more objective, but it was evident that some reviewers favored some vehicles over others and hoped I would too.
The goal of some sources is to be as objective as possible, while others are unabashedly devoted to a particular view. Let’s say a close family member recently received a serious medical diagnosis, and you need to learn more about prognosis, treatment and the path forward. For most medical conditions, a wealth of research is available.
Like most people, you do a web search and a lot of websites and articles pop up. Keep in mind that web browsers themselves have biases, so the hits have already been filtered. You glance through your options. Will you receive the most accurate and objective information from a medical journal, a research hospital or a drug manufacturer? The medical journal is probably written at an academic level that is difficult for a layperson to understand. The research hospital wants me to choose its network of
doctors and facilities, and the drug manufacturer wants me to purchase its drugs. You must consider these biases, understanding that the information may be skewed to favor their organization. Will all have reliable information? Quite possibly. Just be aware that biases are present.
Speaking of bias, remember to take your own bias into consideration. For example, when choosing a news source, are you looking for a source that presents the news like you want it to be (confirmation bias), are you looking for a source that challenges your belief system or are you looking for a source that lays out the facts and encourages you to decide the implications of current events for yourself? Your own bias affects your choice.
We are always learning and seeking information. Whether purchasing that new SUV, learning about a new not-so-fun medical diagnosis or choosing a college (see me to discuss why the University Center is your best choice), bias is usually present. Is that a negative reality? Not necessarily. Just be aware. You can thank Mrs. Hopkins.
Keep learning!
CHAMBER BUZZ
Story by Shelley Arrott, Ponca City Chamber of Commerce CEO | Contributing Writer
130th Annual Chamber Celebration
What better way to celebrate 2024 than by honoring 130 years of progress and promise with the Ponca City Area Chamber of Commerce? Our Annual Chamber Celebration sparkled with glamour and excitement, capturing the elegance of the Sapphires and Champagne theme as we embraced the future and reflected on our remarkable journey. From our beginnings in 1894 as the Commercial Club to the completion of the 2024 year at the Chamber, this milestone represents our enduring commitment to championing local businesses and strengthening our community. Here’s to a bright year ahead!
The Celebration was an unforgettable evening that brought together community leaders, business professionals, and local supporters to honor a year of achievements and look ahead to the future. Here’s a closer look at the evening’s most memorable highlights.
Outgoing Chamber Chair Kelsey Wagner celebrated the success of the 2024 Investment Year in which we exceeded our goal of 80 new investors by welcoming 81—a testament to the growing trust in the Chamber’s mission! Kelsey’s leadership was instrumental in shaping a year of progress and establishing a strong foundation for the future.
History was in the making as Ashley Miller took the reins as the 2025 Chair, following in the footsteps of her brother, Erik Peitz, who led the Chamber as Chair in 2019. Erik, who also served as the evening’s Emcee, beautifully connected the Chamber’s past leadership to its future. The Peitz family’s legacy of service reflects their deep commitment to Ponca City’s growth and success.
With the baton passed to Ashley Miller, she shared her inspiring vision for 2025 to “Unlock Our Potential”. Ashley has both business acumen and a passion for community engagement, emphasizing the importance of collaboration and innovation as key drivers of the Chamber’s continued growth. With enthusiasm for the year ahead, she expressed her commitment to leading the Chamber into 2025 by creating new opportunities and fostering continued business growth.
The Chamber’s State of the Chamber address highlighted several key initiatives from 2024: the remodel of the Visitor Center, the revitalization of the Leadership Alumni Program, the launch of ChamberCare Healthcare coverage for investors, and an updated format for the Santa Buck Giveaway Drawing Night—all contributing to the Chamber’s ongoing growth and relevance.
In addition to the annual awards, a touching moment of the evening was the presentation of the Lifetime Achievement Award to long-time Mayor Homer Nicholson, who is retiring this year after decades of dedicated service to Ponca City. City Manager Craig Stephenson presented the award, honoring Homer’s legacy of visionary leadership and unwavering dedication to making Ponca City a better place for all.
The anticipation of the annual award winners was a cherished highlight of the event, celebrating individuals and organizations who go above and beyond to help our community thrive. In 2024, the Ponca City Area Chamber of Commerce Community Development Committee introduced the “Nonprofit of the Quarter” recognition to honor the incredible nonprofits and their volunteers who tirelessly work to make a meaningful difference in our community. This recognition qualifies nonprofits to be recognized as the Nonprofit of the Year each year.
• Robyn Ryan was named the 2024 Outstanding Citizen for her lifelong dedication to Ponca City and its residents. Robyn’s work has touched many lives, and her passion for giving back is an inspiration to all who know her. Her unwavering commitment to serving the community with generosity lives through her father, Fred Boettcher. This continued family legacy of giving back leaves a transformative impact on our community! Both Robyn’s parents, Fred and Sue Boettcher received the Outstanding Citizen Award in 2004 and 2009 respectively.
• Marsha Sanders was recognized as the 2024 Volunteer of the Year for her selfless contributions to numerous causes. She leads from behind the scenes, ensuring tasks are completed and goals are achieved without seeking recognition. Her tireless efforts touch nearly every corner of Ponca City, leaving a lasting legacy of community enrichment.
• Nicholson Auction & Real Estate was honored as the 2024 Business Partner of the Year. Established in 1993, Nicholson Auction & Real Estate has built a reputation for professionalism and expertise, successfully conducting numerous auctions and real estate transactions in Ponca City and the surrounding areas. Homer Nicholson, owner and operator is known for his steadfast support of the Chamber and dedication to community service.
• Century Products LLC was awarded Industry of the Year for its innovative advancements in manufacturing agriculture equipment. Under the leadership of owner and manager Jay Paul Fagan, Century Products
emphasizes quality and craftsmanship and manufactures the toughest poly hay feeders, water tanks, and other equipment aligning with the hardworking values of American agriculture. Upon relocating from Shidler to Ponca City in 2019, the company’s amazing strides have led to vast expansion and production serving clients worldwide.
• New Emergency Resource Agency, named Nonprofit of the Year for its vital work in providing emergency food resources to those in need. The New Emergency Resource Agency (NERA) is a Food and Resource Center affiliated with the Regional Food Bank of Oklahoma and a United Way Partner Agency that assists with groceries. This affiliation enables NERA to purchase food at significantly reduced costs, allowing every $1 donation to provide five meals to those in need. Its enduring presence and continued efforts make it a pivotal resource for those facing hunger in North Central Oklahoma.
These remarkable recipients exemplify the spirit of service and excellence that make Ponca City extraordinary! Congratulations to all!
The Sapphires and Champagne theme set the tone for an elegant evening, with a stunning pre-reception hosted by RCB Bank at the Marland Mansion. Guests enjoyed a delicious dinner prepared by Pioneer Technology Center’s Culinary Team, and throughout the evening, PTC Student Ambassadors and staff members provided exceptional service.
To correlate with our theme, the night also featured a drawing for a beautiful sapphire and diamond ring, generously donated by McGee’s Jewelers. While the drawing for the stunning ring was a crowd favorite, the true highlight of the evening was the overwhelming sense of community and shared commitment to building a stronger future for Ponca City.
As the Chamber celebrates its 130-year history, the focus is squarely on the future. With Ashley Miller’s leadership and the continued dedication of local businesses and residents, Ponca City’s potential is limitless. The 130th Annual Chamber Celebration was a night to remember, filled with elegance, inspiration, and an unwavering commitment to building a prosperous future for Ponca City.
The Sunny Side
by Liz Threlkeld / Contributing Writer
Welcome to “The Sunny Side” where we’ll chat about all things homesteading! My name is Liz Threlkeld and I have been homesteading with my family in small forms or large fashions for most of my life. From growing gardens to DIY projects, to cooking and preserving, to raising and processing our own meat animals, we’ve learned a thing or two along the way. I’m excited to get to share some of this life with you. Ready? Let’s grow!
Homesteading as a Mindset
Hey, Friends!
Until a few years ago, I never considered myself a “homesteader,” even though I had been practicing aspects of homesteading most of my life. I encountered a perspective shift. I used to think that to be a homesteader, you had to live like Ma and Pa Ingalls, but in this modern world, homesteading can look so different. But what IS homesteading?
Let’s start with what homesteading is NOT (always):
• It’s usually not wearing prairie dresses or overalls out in the fields or garden.
• It’s NOT stress-free nor instantly sustainable.
• It doesn’t (always) mean owning land.
• It doesn’t mean you have to raise farm animals or a garden.
• It’s not necessarily being a stereotypical “prepper.”
• Modern homesteading is not tied to The Homestead Act of 1862, a law signed by President Abraham Lincoln that provided land to eligible citizens. That era has long passed.
So, what IS homesteading? Now, modern homesteading is a BROAD topic so we’ll hit the highlights that I believe are the defining qualities of a homesteader, no matter which route(s) they choose to homestead:
• It’s about becoming a producer rather than a consumer.
• It’s learning how to understand and work with nature and the land — no matter how little land you own — to coax it to provide for you.
• It’s learning how to steward resources and plan for the unpredictables that life and Mother Nature throw your way.
• It’s about preserving old ways of living that served humanity for millennia but that modern society is now exchanging for convenience and, by consequence, forgetting.
• It’s about doing hard things and overcoming failure and challenges to grow your mind, resolve, determination and grit.
Do you know if you are a homesteader? If you answer “yes” to any of the following questions, there might be a homesteader inside of you:
Are your roots and the traditions we’ve left behind as a society important to you? Do you save old recipes and excess food? Have you been called old-fashioned, a hippie or an “old soul” by others? Have you ever had the thought that you were born in the wrong century? Do you wish Great, Great Grandma or Grandpa was still around so you could pick her/his brain? Do you feel like you “don’t quite fit in” with modern society? Do you CRAVE the real, authentic and pure? Are you uninspired by the dullness of mass conformity? Do you have dirt under your nails more often than you have nail polish on your nails? Do you prefer to take charge of your health and use natural methods to support your body’s healing? Does homemade food light you up? Are you reading this article?
Whether you’re plunging your feet into the dirt or your hands into the dough, remember that YOU are the only person who can determine what or who you are. No stereotype, influencer or article — including this one — defines you as a homesteader. Homesteading is rooted in history. It’s a spark of passion that begins in the heart and is forged
Recipe books made and collected through the years preserve
food legacy.
through hard work and determination. As winter wraps us in its chill, there’s no better time to embrace the warmth of that flame. Let it grow, let it inspire and let it remind us that homesteading is where the past meets the present to grow a future. So, whether you’re tending to your roots, your sourdough starter or your dreams, remember — homesteading is what you make it, and it starts with you.
Happy Homesteading ,Liz Threlkeld
Get your tickets now for The Okie Homesteading Expo in Pryor, OK! It will take place on March 21-22, 2025, bringing together homesteading enthusiasts and experts for two days of education and inspiration. World-renowned farmer, speaker and author, Joel Salatin, will headline the event, sharing his wisdom on sustainable farming and regenerative agriculture. Attendees can expect hands-on workshops, demonstrations, and a vibrant marketplace showcasing tools, crafts, and resources to enhance self-sufficiency and rural living. Great event for the beginner AND the experienced homesteader!
the story of our family’s
Story by Adam Leaming, Ponca City Public Schools, Superintendent / Contributing Writer
The Importance Of Local Elections And Quality Leadership
It’s an odd feeling to write a February article on Jan. 3, but here I am! I find myself wondering what type of environment we will find ourselves in when you pick this up and read this article? Will it be cold? What will be the news cycle at the time? The one thing I know will happen is that we will have an election in February for the Mayor of Ponca City, and one more in April for a new School Board member for our district. This is certainly an important race for our school district, but also for our entire community. I love politics and the way we as citizens have an opportunity to cast a vote in each election for a candidate we deem most closely aligning to our value system to sit in a position of oversight in two of the biggest organizations in our community.
Election season is an important time for reflection, as we consider the future of our community and school district. Whether voting for a new mayor to lead our City Commission, or a school board member to help shape the direction of our schools, the choices we make will have long-lasting implications.
Personally, I look for the candidate’s values as guiding factors in selecting the person who I want to represent and serve our community well. While I cannot ethically take a public stance on a candidate in our races, I do feel compelled to share how I rate individuals in an election. Here are five values I feel help me narrow my choice down come election day. I hope they help you.
1) Commitment to Ponca City
Leaders must put the needs of the community first. Ponca City has a rich history of strong leadership and political participation. Did you know Ponca City has hosted sitting and former Presidents? Growing up in Kay County, I would be told these wonderful stories of powerful political leaders seeking to keep Ponca City relevant in the political sphere. It’s Ponca City’s influence that was the result of State Highway 77 running through the heart of it, or why we have Kaw Lake, etc. Whether running for either office, candidates should show a genuine dedication to serving others, prioritizing Ponca City citizens or Ponca City Wildcats.
2)
Vision for the Future
A strong leader articulates a clear actionable vision. Candidates should outline plans to grow and improve their organization. How are candidates going to support their administrative teams in bringing about a vision for the future of Ponca City? How can we improve our education outcomes and create opportunities for our children in our community? Ponca City has historically had organizations that reach out and support one another, and our community is stronger for it. How does either candidate propose
working with other entities in the community as part of this vision?
A candidate who can articulate a vision gets big points in this category.
3) Fiscal Responsibility
Elected officials need to remember we are stewards of public funds. Resources are finite, and at the end of the day if you want to do something new, it typically involves letting go of something old. Candidates need to demonstrate an understanding of budgets and a commitment to using taxpayer funds prudently. A candidate who is willing to help make hard decisions in order to create a healthy sustainable budget must be in place. Ponca City does not want to be in a position where services are cut or people are laid off due to poor fiscal management. We have been fortunate to have strong fiscal oversight in our community. This must continue!
4) Proven Collaborator
Elected officials are unable to get anything done by themselves. Candidates must be collaborators and have the proven ability to work well with a diverse group of individuals inside and outside of an organization. In the public schools, that means working with fellow board members, administrators, teachers and support staff to achieve shared goals. It involves listening and communicating to achieve shared goals. Which candidates have the best track record for collaboration?
5) A Focus on Values and Integrity
At the core of any elected position, I hold dearest the candidate’s ability to be fair, respectful and honest while making decisions that impact Ponca City. I may not agree with the decision or support the decision, but if the elected official is honest, respectful and fair, I will respect their position as elected by the community. As a Superintendent, neighbor and father, I actively seek to instill those values in my daily interactions. I look at each candidate and I measure if they fall short or excel in those values.
Your Role as a Voter
Your role as a voter is to educate yourself – get out and vote! Our community thrives when we elect leaders who reflect our values and share a vision for a brighter and stronger future. Personally, I have worked with each candidate running. I know no matter what comes after our local elections, I can ensure that after our voters make their choices, our schools and city will continue to grow as places of pride, opportunity and excellence. Good luck to all candidates and take care, Ponca City!
cocktail OF THE MONTH
Mixed by Jill Rowe/Staff Writer
Be My Galentine
Every year, my husband and I tend to overlook Valentine’s Day. It comes right after Christmas, followed by our anniversary at the end of January, and then, before we know it, it’s Valentine's Day! What I’m most excited about every year is Galentine’s Day. It’s the perfect excuse to get together with my gals, enjoy great conversation, share tons of laughs, snap a few silly selfies and, of course, indulge in an amazing drink.
I typically make this delightful treat around Christmas, using my go-to recipe with regular Bailey’s Liqueur. But, as luck would have it, I ran out. Being the frugal miser that I am, I decided to improvise and used Bailey’s Strawberries & Cream Liqueur instead, since it was what I had on hand. Why not, right? Well, the “spirits” were on my side, because this tasted like strawberry tres leches cake –basically, a slice of strawberry heaven, like a big, sweet hug in cake form.
It’s (slightly) pink, chocolatey, an absolute treat and perfect for sharing with a few friends. My recipe combines the creamy,
cinnamon-kissed flavor of RumChata, the sweetness of Strawberries & Cream Bailey’s and a splash of Kahlúa for a subtle chocolatey kick. Your friends will thank you!
This Valentine’s Day let’s just go ahead and skip the flowers and jewelry (just kidding, definitely not the jewelry) and grab your best gal pals for a get-together instead. Whip up this cocktail and prepare for your friends to love you even more than they already do (if that’s even possible). So, here’s to you ladies and drinks that taste like dessert but come with no baking required!
1 1/2 ounces RumChata
1 1/2 ounces Strawberries & Cream Bailey’s 1 ounce Kahlúa
Combine ingredients into a cocktail shaker filled with ice, shake and strain into a chilled coupe or martini glass.
Stew On That
by Rachel Stewart / Contributing Writer
Idon’t know about you guys, but I get way too excited when someone says, “This is probably TMI, but …” Let me just say, with every fiber of my being, nothing is TMI. Please tell me everything. Every single minute detail, even if you think it isn’t relevant, I still want to know it. The more details the better; paint me a picture. No, literally, I have crayons; I’d love a visual. TMI in my life doesn’t even mean “too much information,” it means “tell me instantly.” Or “TEA-m-i” Spill the tea, sis. When someone says, “Can I tell you something?” then I immediately am sitting crisscross applesauce directly in front of them, I’ve silenced my phone, I’ve turned down the volume on the TV, I’ve already sent a text to my boss that I’m calling in the rest of the day (I own my own business, so I just text myself to clear my own schedule for the afternoon.) If someone says, “You don’t have to answer if it’s too personal
FEB.11ISELECTIONDAY
by Patrick Jordan ACROSS
1. Weighing device
6. "Antiques Roadshow" network
9. Umpire's "Out!" alternative
13. Reference section at the back of a book
14. Congeal, as blood
15. Furry creature in "Star Wars" films
16. Rapper ___ Dogg
17. Highway division
18. Give a darn
19. Southern food for a political candidate? (2 wds.)
22. Org. for physicians (abbr.)
25. Looney Tunes pirate Yosemite ___
26. Rhyming verse writers
27. List of political candidates made from a precious metal? (2 wds.)
31. Rescued
32. Spoke dishonestly
33. "For ___ a jolly good fellow..."
36. Give off, as radiation
37. Misbehaving kids
39. Layer of paint or shellac
40. "Cat on a Hot ___ Roof"
41. Shellfish cooked in chowder
42. Like the taste of barbecue sauce
43. Political survey done in Alaska? (3 wds.)
46. Rabbits' cousins
48. First word of the Lord's Prayer
49. "Pioneer Woman" ___ Drummond
50. Election participant's two-wheeled vehicle? (2 wds.)
54. Qatar citizen, usually
55. New ___ City ("The Big Apple")
56. Theater walkway
60. Last word of Gilligan's theme song
61. Raw minerals
62. Disney dwarf with no beard
63. Onionlike vegetable
64. Game with Skip cards
65. Where a Broadway play takes place
DOWN
1. Brother's sibling, briefly
2. Wolf Blitzer's channel
3. "Much ___ About Nothing"
4. Musician Redbone or Russell
5. Laid bare
6. Scheme
7. Jaw or kneecap
8. Church spires
9. Deodorant brand
10. Be patient for, as an arrival
11. Cavalry centers, in Western films
12. ___ out a living (barely survives)
14. Go up a tree or a mountain
20. Put a scratch or dent in
21. Word before Friday or grief
22. Any valuable possession
23. Home of Florida's Dolphins
24. Chipmunk with an A on his shirt
28. Hamster healer, for short
29. Car rental company
30. Made glow, as a candle
33. Give a medal to, for example
34. "Bald" bird
35. Fashionista's expertise
37. Response to a sneeze (2 wds.)
38. Competed in a marathon
39. Baseball player's topper
"If
They're
Alex of "Jeopardy!"
…” I’ve never not answered the question. Nothing is ever personal in my life; I will literally tell anyone anything at any given moment. I am one awkward silence away from telling you my deepest, darkest, most embarrassing secrets. Someone says, “Wanna hear something?” ALWAYS. I always want to hear something and I never don’t want to hear something, tell me please immediately. I could literally be in the middle of something incredibly important, like, I don’t know, getting married, and I’d ask the groom and the wedding guests to hold on a second if I got a text that said, “Hey, can I call, I have news.” If I was in the middle of giving birth and got a call and they said, “I’ve got some tea” I’d cross my legs and snuggle in for story time. I’m such a great, active listener too, and I promise I won’t tell anyone other than my best friends, my mom, my sister, my husband, my dog, the mailman and my baby nephew what you tell me!
Kentucky
47. Dickens's "___ of Two Cities" (2 wds.)
Colorado ski resort
Call
Having the Conversation:
answers from providers
Story by Stephanie Krenn | Contributing Writer
Disclaimer: This article contains information from a medical professional provided solely for the content of this article. Consult with your own medical professional or healthcare provider for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
I remember that phone call often when I drive or walk down Ponca City’s ever-growing main street. I had been in a local boutique checkout line on a Friday when Dr. Julie Strebel Hager’s office number came through my phone. My heart sank knowing that unless something was wrong, biopsy results on a Thursday afternoon should not be back until Monday. I can still hear the hesitation in her voice and feel the sense of importance when she agreed to wait on the phone as I walked to my car to speak privately. She knew my drive was too far away to ask me to drop by the office to discuss results. She had also known me since my pregnancy and the birth of my son, whom she delivered eight years prior, and that my personality needed answers the moment they were available. As difficult as that conversation must have been, she provided the answers I needed with careful consideration and compassion. Dr. Hager describes her role in a cancer diagnosis as “a voice of calm in a frenetic time where a patient’s mind and heart are all over the place. [She] explains the diagnosis and tries to decrease fear by outlining a step-by-step plan to allow for further investigation and referral for surgery and oncology.” When I got off that phone call, my world felt unstable and uncertain, but I also took comfort in her words of confidence that there were options, she had a plan to help me get started and that I was not alone.
As an OBGYN, Dr. Hager was not directly related to my oncology care, but she was involved in my initial diagnosis and continues to be an instrumental part of my long-term recovery. Her focus is “on the quality of life during treatment and afterwards dealing with side effects of treatments in other aspects of general and sexual health” and says “a part of each workday is spent in the improvement of my understanding how to impact these areas.” Her knowledge has helped me process immediate and long-term side effects of treatment that were not specialties of my other providers. Life changes that are designed to happen naturally at a much later age were now
rapidly approaching deadlines for decision. We discussed the likely fertility loss and if preservation of my eggs was possible, surgical options versus medically induced menopause, sexual and reproductive health long-term and the intricacies of what it meant to throw my body into all of these scenarios virtually overnight in my early 30s. None of it was easy, nor is it fair, but writing out my questions and her answers, doing research and taking the time to decide what was best for me is what allowed me to make the choices required. We have even discussed that I may have made different decisions with all of the knowledge I have now, but I am grateful for the additional time I have been given, so I try not to dwell on the what-ifs.
Over the years we have continued to discuss the barriers of patients in rural communities. That there is a lack of access to specialty care and resources, and also to support structures like physical therapy, prosthetic availability and patient support groups. Though there will always be a need for improvement, it has been encouraging to watch the medical community and support networks continue to find new ways to serve in the rural areas. The OU Breast Health Network partners with the Kaw Nation to bring the mammogram bus throughout the year. There is also a new partnership launching in Oklahoma to deliver mobile lung cancer screenings. I am excited each time I get to share with her that additional Project31 support groups have been launched in addition to survivorship expos and
retreats, as well as new medical providers bringing their expertise to our community in north central Oklahoma.
I asked Dr. Hager how her work of over 20 years affects her and what she wants others to know about their own health and she had this to say, “This work is gratifying. It is encouraging to see women overcome their initial shock and fear and be victorious in the end. I try to be a cheerleader along the way. Although not breast cancer, I’m a cancer survivor of 23 years and I use my understanding of the emotions to help patients feel heard and understood. Cancer has been the most fearful diagnosis in the past due to fear of death, but we are starting to treat it like a chronic disease that a patient can successfully overcome day by day. Like anything else, all of our response to disease processes depends on our overall physical, emotional and spiritual health. That means each person’s journey will be influenced by their overall physical health coming into treatment and the way they take care of their bodies during the process. It also means they need to gather their resources to remain emotionally and spiritually fit for the journey.”
Dr. Julie Strebel Hager attended medical school at the University of Oklahoma Health and Sciences Center and has an obstetrics and gynecology medical practice in Oklahoma City that was started by her father, Dr. Gary Strebel, and is shared with her sister, Dr. Jennifer Strebel.
Book Reviews
Fourth Wing (The Empyrean Series, Book 1)
by Rebecca Yarros
Have you heard of the genre “Romantasy”?
A romantasy occurs when a novel is a solid romance and a solid fantasy, both at the same time. Fourth Wing is such a novel. Fourth Wing is set in the brutal world of Basgiath War College, a military college for dragon riders, healers, scribes and infantry.
Violet is the 20-year-old daughter of General Sorrengail, the commanding general of Basgiath. All her life, until six months ago, Violet has trained to become a scribe, like her father. That all changed when her mother decreed that all of her children will be riders. In the Riders’ Quadrant, there any many ways to die — death by other cadets or by incineration (by dragon) being the top two possible causes of death.
Dain is Violet’s best friend and a year older than she. They’ve grown up together at Basgiath, as their parents have served together. Dain is a second-year rider and manages to get Violet placed in the squad he commands.
Xaden Riorson is the 22-year-old son of the
separatist who led the failed rebellion against Navarre. All the separatists were executed. All the separatists’ children were forced to serve Navarre as Dragon Riders, where they could most easily die. Xaden is bonded with Sgaeyl, the second largest and second most powerful dragon on the continent. Each rider has a unique signet power they channel through their dragon. Often, riders of more powerful dragons have much more valuable and impressive powers.
Only Violet’s sister, Mira, expects her to survive the Riders’ Quadrant. Violet, however, is smarter and more courageous than anyone expects.
Fourth Wing is amazing. Iron Flame is the second novel in this series. Onyx Storm, the third book
Reviewed by Lorrie Layton
KEEPER CHANCE AND THE CONUNDRUM OF CHAOS
by Alex Evanovich
Keeper Chance is a 16-year-old high school student with a solid 75% average in all his classes — but he could easily finish his tests early, without bothering to check his work, and earn an A+ every time if he so chose. Hmmm … He also loves to take things apart and improve them or turn the components into new things.
Keeper lives with his grandmother, who Keeper describes as having the personality of a hobgoblin — no offense to any actual or wannabe hobgoblins. She constantly nags him. He is not allowed to play video games (they rot the brain) or have friends.
On the day before spring break Keeper receives an invitation to a question-and-answer session for possible membership in the Evil Villains International League (E.V.I.L.).
Okay, I don’t know about you, but when I think of a villain, I think of someone who is cruel, ruthless, lacking compassion and a moral code.
Surprisingly, E.V.I.L. evil villains don’t hurt people or animals — it’s against their code.
At the Q&A session, Keeper meets Toby. Both boys want to join E.V.I.L, but they must first pass a small test, confirming that they possess the correct disposition for a career of villainy. The test doesn’t go according to plan and disasters begin to snowball as villains are abducted, one by one. Keeper and Toby race to save their new friends before E.V.I.L. Chapter 626 is no more.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. Keeper is the nicest wannabe villain you can imagine. My absolute favorite thing about this book is the variety of exclamations used by E.V.I.L. villains and recruits, alike. Exclamations such as “Holy snot rockets,” “Thank the Doofenshmirtz” and “Holy Jar Jar Binks” were my favorites!
Reviewed by Lorrie Layton
