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s parents we are trying to do what is best for our children. We analyze our own childhood needs; we discuss strategies of parenting with neighbors and friends, some of us read parenting magazines and books. Each of us takes a different view as to the role and purpose of a parent. All of us believe that we are doing the right thing, that we’re good parents. We have cultural and psychological studies to back up our actions. But what is the role of a parent from Mother Nature’s point of view?

On a recent trip to Florida we stopped at Sea World in Orlando. My wife and I wanted to give our children an appreciation of nature by observing the marvels of sea life. While strolling through the park I relayed to my wife what a great mother she was for taking her children to such an enjoyable, educational experience.

She reciprocated by saying that I was a great father for taking the time off from work to accompany our family on this wonder filled vacation. We smiled at each other in awe of what great parents we thought we had become by meeting our children’s every need. A

detour to the gift shop for the stuffed animals that our two daughters “had to have.” The smell of popcorn prompted me to reach for my wallet just as my children began to ask.

My kids would not be deprived of the Sea World Popcorn Experience. And what did the popcorn do to my precious child? Why it made them thirsty. Seven dollars for a tall cup packed with ice and two mouthfuls of soda? Of course!

Especially when you get to keep the souvenir mug. After all, good parents give to their children, they meet their child’s needs - and we want to be good parents. My wife and I were sure we knew the proper way to raise children.

That was until we stopped at the Pacific Point Preserve.

The Pacific Point Preserve is a magnificent display of seals. The splashing waves become a cooling mist on a hot face. The realistic rocky shoals, opalescent blue water and live seals combine to augment the authenticity of the exhibit. You stand above the glass and feed the seals with slippery sardines you purchase for a paltry three dollars. My kids would not be denied their seal feeding experience!

We watched the seals swimming, playing and “barking” in the sparking clear water. I noticed a few mother seals nurse their pups on the rocks while seagulls floated

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overhead. All was serene. That is, until I heard my daughter shout, “MEAN MOMMY SEAL!” From time to time we all have an epiphany. A moment in time when the reality of what is happening in our lives aligns with the soul of our being. It is with slimyheadless fish in my hand, the bright Florida sun h kids overhead, standing at the Pacific Point Preserve in Orlando that I had such an epiphany. I discovered my true role as a parent. weeks I was recalled from my Nirvanic dream on a rocky beach in Northest kids ern California by the accusatory tone of my daughter’s voice. I floated my eyes to her pointing finger. It was aimed at an adult seal in the rained, water. As she looked at me, finger still pointing, she repeated her ensuring words, “Mean mommy seal”, a little softer, and more of a declaration now than an exclamation. Thinking she was wrong for voicing such e, a strong opinion, “Mean Mommy seal”, slipped once again from her lips – this time in a whisper. I knelt down and asked why she thought you that particular seal was mean. “She won’t let her baby eat. Look!” summer I gazed as she pointed to another seal that was basking in the sun, her pup feeding under her flipper. “That’s a good mommy seal.” My daughter informed me. Then she swung that little accusatory finger to a seal that was swimming away from its pup; she furrowed her enjoy brow and spoke loudly, “MEAN MOMMY SEAL!” I understood her ns and dilemma.

In the water below us was a mother and pup. The pup was baying ot state- at the mother as the mother swam away from it. The pup could not pervised keep up. My daughter, having had all of her “needs” (and wants) met since she was a child, had interpreted this behavior into her perspecd. We havetive on life. A mother swimming away from its baby was “mean”. y tailoredLike the times my daughter had called my wife and I “mean” when we did not do exactly as she wanted. At this junction in time, I was rovide a still half immersed in my fantasy of being out in “real nature” with a n snack pack of seals. And then my epiphany confronted me.

The mother seal that was swimming away from its pup was condirom tioning the muscles of the pup for the rigorous swimming that was refor survival in the oceans of the Pacific Northwest. She wasn’t day”— quired mean; she was instinctually providing her pup with the skills necessary to survive. I sensed a parental compassion in the mother as she swam away from her pup. It was almost as if her heart ached for the cute little pup as it tried to keep up- even though she kept swimming. oose I shifted my glance from the pair of seals in the water to the pair of week and seals lying on the rocks. Maybe this senescent mother was just taking a break from swimming and decided to nurse her pup. I could not judge from the short time I was standing there. Nor am I an expert in seal behavior. But my epiphany nagged on. Was I looking at two different parenting techniques? Was the mother on the rocks complacent to the child’s cries of hunger and just giving the pup what he wanted?

Was the mother in the water sympathetic to her child’s needs but swimming away because that is what her child needed? I pondered these seemingly contradictory methods of parenting. I contemplated what a “good” seal parent would do. I drifted back to my fantasy of sitting on a rocky beach in the Pacific Northwest andimagined what it would be like to be the parent of a seal pup.

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In order for the seal pup to survive as an adult it must be able to hunt for food on its own. A seal must be able to evade predators.

The slowest of the seals gets eaten. The slowest seal would be the pup of the seal parent that did not teach its offspring to swim for its life-whether it was hungry, tired or both.

A good mother seal understands that her pup needs to be able to feed itself and swim a w a y from danger.

Most of us will agree that it is our job as parents to feed, clothe and nurture our children.

We feel the need to keep our child happy.

Our child’s happiness is used as a gauge to measure our success as parents. If our child is happy and gets along well with others we look like good parents to the community. It is our responsibility to educate our child, to prepare him or her for school. How many of us are truly preparing our children for the real world that lies in their path? Our society changes so fast it is hard to keep up. Our parents

did not teach us to Twitter, how to start a Blog, maintain a website or how to text without the teacher catching you. But if you ask today’s youth, these are skills necessary to survival.

Really? So what should we teach our children?

The basics.

Hard work will always pay off. Getting to work before everyone else, staying until everyone has left and giving one hundred and ten percent while you are on the jobwill gain you a reputation as a hard worker.

This holds true whether it is your first job as a dishwasher- or the job you retire from as CEO of a Fortune 500 company. Good employers will take a conscientious hard worker over a temperamental genius any day of the week. Never hesitate to teach your child that working hard will always put a meal on their table regardless of the economy, their position or any of a million other excuses.

Pursue their dreams. We should model how to persist- that no matter how many times we get knocked on our duff we get up and keep going. Like Rocky Balboa says, “The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.” He continued, “But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.” Sooner or later, the person that sticks to

their goal will achieve that goal. Perseverance always pays off- especially in the most extreme of circumstances.

Disappointment is a part of life. Dealing with disappointment is a life skill. Many of us know people that are unstoppable; individuals that keep going despite being dealt some harsh blows. Is this because they have been taught how to deal with disappointment? We also know others that fall apart at the first setback. Everything is a major crisis to this person. These types seek disappointment so they can give up. As parents our first instinct is to shield our children from life’s disappointment.

We rationalize that our children will realize what disappointment is all about when they get older. Stop that right now. Teach your child to regroup and learn from their mistakes when disappointment comes into their life.

So let’s take a lesson in parenting from the natural world. A lesson that teaches the offspring to fend for themselves, to work hard, expect nothing that you do not earn and realize that there are no guarantees in this world.

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Story by CHantel Green Legend has it an Irishman nicknamed “Stingy Jack” was banished into the dark night with only a burning coal, which he placed in a carved turnip to light his way. The Irish started referring to the ghostly legend as “Jack of the Lantern,” later shortened to “Jack O’Lantern.”

After the legend surface, Irish and Scottish people started carving out their own lanterns with out of turnips or potatoes and placing them in windows of homes. The vegetables bore scary faces, thought to scare away the frightening Stingy Jack. When immigrants traveled across the Atlantic to America, the land of the pumpkin, they adapted their tradition to their new country’s native fruit.

Pick a pumpkin patch Sure, grocery stores put up large pumpkin displays in October but if your family is in search of a real pumpkin

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If you’re not sure a hayride is right for your family, but you want to have an authentic, outdoor experience, head to The Friendly Market in Morehead City, N.C. The market has a variety of goods throughout the fall, but October brings the large pumpkin display. With the immense variety to choose from, your children will feel as though they’re in a real pumpkin patch. To learn more about this friendly place, visit www.thefriendlymarket.com.

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Do you have a drill in the garage? This simple, yet beautiful pumpkin carving craft will put it to good use. Simply turn on your power tool and get to drilling, but be sure to proceed with caution.

One of the simplest designs to let your pumpkin shine is small holes in your choice of pattern.

After you’ve created your drilled pumpkin, cut the top off and illuminate with candles or LED lights and set it on the porch to light the way.

If you have young children at home, they may not understand the pumpkin carving season but chances are they’re masters at using a sharpie marker. Instead of using those markers to redecorate every surface in your home, let them express themselves on a pumpkin. The doodle pumpkin will make for a great memory, so be sure to snap a picture.

For the family in need of an authentic carving experience, try out some unique carving patterns for each child. Patterns are available in wide variety on the internet, and you can choose to carve a mysterious black cat, a ghostly graveyard or a traditional Jack O’ Lantern.

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One whiff of those syrupy-sweet kernels and most people feel sick. Me? I eat them until I get sick. My friends know this about me, so over the years they’ve given me assorted paraphernalia: candy corn stickers, candy corn earrings, candy corn socks. They think it’s funny.

And I guess it is. Kind of.

As anyone with this kind of food trigger knows, it’s a drag to feel so helpless. How many times do I have to suffer through the Harvest Mix high-blood-sugar-sweats before I learn?

Thankfully, the good stuff—Brach’s “Made With Real Honey” corn, not the chalky generic brand—is only available about two months out of the year. It’s mid-October and I’ve only gone through two bags. This is an achievement.

If you’re looking for ways to control the candy chaos for you and your little hobgoblins, here’s my five-step, no-fail

Halloween plan. It worked remarkably well last year, so I plan to follow it again.

Step 1 With the exception of my recent purchase of candy corn (which I had to buy for research purposes), I don’t pick up our trick-or-treat candy until a day or two before the big night. And I try very, very hard to buy something I don’t really enjoy (like Snickers, which I could take or leave).

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Step 4 When the feeding frenzy has ended, I ask them to choose 3-5 of their favorites–then leave the rest on the dining room table for the Switch Witch (who a neighbor

introduced me to a few years ago). While they’re sleeping, the Witch takes their candy and replaces it with…an amazing toy! Which they love far more than a bucket of sugar.

Step 5 I pull out a few of my own faves and send the rest with my husband to his workplace.

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Farmer’s Day harvests community spirit story and photos by amy binkley

What do service members and farmers have in common?

America can’t survive without them, and they all deserve more thanks.

The Onslow County, Marine Corps Base Camp Lejeune and Marine Corps Air Station New River communities gathered to kick off the fall season, celebrate the local culture and foster neighborly kindness during the 48th annual Farmer’s Day in Richlands, N.C., Sept. 7.

“The small community feel gives everyone a sense of home,” said Amy Rhodes, event chair. “We love people coming together.”

Hosted by the non-profit group Friends of Farmers, the free, outdoor event drew thousands of visitors from the area who were ready to take a tour through the tractors, jump on the historic hay ride and learn about the community they live in.

The Richlands High School Band performed the national anthem during the opening ceremony and played a few tunes from their repertoire as family members and friends looked on.

Mayor McKinley Smith took the stage to welcome everyone who came out for the celebration.

“We appreciate everyone coming out. We’re working hard to make sure this is the greatest place for you to live,” he assured. “(To the service members here), you have done great work. Thank you for what you do and for protecting us while putting your lives on the line every day.”

Money raised from the festival provides scholarships to students pursuing careers in agriculture, horticulture and environmental sciences, like floristry and forestry management.

“Groceries don’t grow in the back of the Piggly Wiggly,” Rhodes explained. “If we don’t continue to educate our children in agriculture, what are we going to eat?”

Gunnery Sgt. Matt Berry, 2nd Law Enforcement, Motor T maintenance chief, is no stranger to the farming industry.

“When I was younger, I farmed back home,” he said. “It’s all about the heritage and keeping it alive. This generation doesn’t really see the importance of farming.”

Berry stayed at his post near his tractors and was happy to oblige the young visitors who asked if they could sit in the driver’s seat.

Although he will officially retire next month, Berry plans on staying in the area and going back to his agricultural roots.

“I’ve met a lot of good, friendly people around here,” he commented.

The cloudless sky and cool breeze kept the crowd in a comfortable state of contentment as they visited the local organizations and businesses who used their southern charm while offering their wares, including seasonal crafts, raffle tickets and face painting.

A line up of local musicians kept the festivities lively. However, it was the announcement of the sack races, watermelon eating contests and frying pan toss that had people of all ages running to the stage.

Food was in abundance, and besides the typical burgers and hot dogs, visitors were also tempted by deep-fried treats, including s’mores, cookies and funnel cakes.

“People will come out just to have one of our funnel cakes,” noted John Hurst, whose family was one of the original landowners of Camp Lejeune,.

Hurst happily made the delectable desserts while chatting with the people who waited patiently in line and explained why he attends Farmer’s Day each year.

“This is a fabulous family festival,” he said.

Whether guests were born and raised in the small community, transplanted by the military or stumbled upon it by chance, the citizens were ready with open arms to welcome everyone to the celebration.

“It’s fun for the families and to hang out with friends,” said Darius McCall, a member of the RHS band.

Rhodes, who has headed the event for a decade, hopes everyone who came to Farmer’s Day not only had a good time but also gained an appreciation for the hard work farmers put forth day in and day out.

“If we don’t keep the tradition going and raise up future farmers, how will we get our groceries?” she asked.

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hat do singing chickens, steer roping and a corn maze have in common? Each can be found just over an hour from Marine Corps Base Camp Lejeune at Hubb’s Corn Maze in Clinton, N.C. Hubb’s corn maze opens every year in midSeptember and offers fall fun for everyone. The activities and events are never-ending and the attraction has something for everyone.

If your children are looking for something to keep them busy and active, try to help them find their way through one of the four corn mazes offered where prizes are awarded for finding all checkpoints throughout the maze.

To promote friendly competition, have your child participate in a game of laser tag or corn hole. For the rodeo enthusiasts, Hubb’s Corn Maze has steer roping to fit the bill.

If your little one is still a toddler, venture over to the wooden play set or relax in ‘Toddler Town.’ Sink your tired feet into the sand at the giant sandbox while your kids build castles or play on ‘Tire Mountain.’

Help your family members test their balance at Hubb’s brand new slack line balance challenge and see who can walk the line. After walking the line, climb the rope at Hubb’s rope mountain before taking a relaxing hayride.

Hubb’s Corn Maze also has attractions for the animal lovers including the Dixie Chicks, a singing chicken show, pony ride and the express train to Animal Acres for a hands-on animal experience.

If your family wants to roast your own s’mores, look no further than the fire pits, available to rent and kept aflame by the staff if needed.

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The maze boasts a plethora of concessions for the family including tacos, funnel cakes, hamburgers, barbecue sandwiches, hot dogs, donuts and locally made ice cream. This year, a new lemonade stand will help keep visitors refreshed.

If you’re looking for a day filled with fun, head to Hubb’s for an amazingly good time. The maze is open Friday through Sunday until Nov. 9. For hours and ticket pricing, visit www.hubbscornmaze.com or call 910564-6709.

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Visitors can take a wagon ride through the 100-acres and watch livestock graze in the pasture or get even closer in the petting zoo. The wide variety of animals on the farm includes cows, chickens, ducks, goats, sheep, potbellied pigs, horses and fish.

While enjoying the experience, your children will also be learning important lessons about the roots of America and agriculture. The Davis family strives to offer a fun, yet educational experience and host a assortment of events to achieve their goal.

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Glenwood Farms offers lighted Christmas hayrides starting late November. aquaculture display where your children can learn more about underwater creatures.

In addition, the farm found a fun way to bring the history of agricultural tools to its visitors through a toy display.

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You have just returned from a conference with your child’s teachers.

The words play over and over in your mind, “Your child has low selfesteem”. You feel as if somehow you may have short-changed your child. You question every decision you have made for the last decade.

You’re not sure you know what to do to help your child. But first you must ask - what is self-esteem, and how can you make sure your child has a healthy dose?

Self-esteem depends upon the “successes” that the child will accumulate throughout their life. Most research supports this definition.

Self-esteem does not depend on someone continuously telling a child that he is a good person, regardless of the extent of his failures. Let me explain. When a child is successful in a subject, he feels good about that subject and himself. The child feels that he or she can succeed at the given day’s tasks. A child with good self-esteem does not usually have discipline problems in school (factoring out hormonal surges!).

He or she will also feel they can accomplish more.

Upon graduating high school, most of us felt like we could conquer the world. It was more than youthful optimism. We had just completed a very challenging journey. At times we had doubt, but we stuck it out.

We moved our frame of reference up a notch, and decided that we could do whatever we set our minds to. We had “self-esteem” due to our accomplishment. The same is true for completing military boot camp, getting a book published, running a 5k race or any other worthwhile endeavor. This self-esteem is based upon our sense of achievement.

Why then, with all the opportunities for success, do children experience low self-esteem? No single answer will satisfy that question, but looking at each individual child may. Think of yourself. You may feel very confident in certain aspects of your life. You are probably very good at your profession. You feel good about what you do and have self-esteem regarding your job. People tend to move away from areas in which they do not feel good about themselves.

If a child is not being successful in school, self-esteem suffers. School becomes a negative place. Since your child is not being successful in their “unchosen” profession we say that the child suffers from low selfesteem. We have all been in places where we do not feel welcome. This could be the workplace, a public gathering or a party. As adults, we can choose to leave if we see fit. As you know, the student cannot just leave school. He or she is in that place, five days a week, for approximately eight hours a day. When an education system meets the child’s need for respect, justice, order and accomplishment, the child rarely misbehaves. Children that have success in school rarely disrupt the class. When a child knows what they is doing, and has accumulated a few “successes” under his belt, misbehavior rarely follows. Children with accomplishments in school rarely become bullies. It is the child who is not flourishing that is consistently being sent out of class for disrupting.

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The problem begins when the child begins to experience only failure, or menial success in school. Not being confident, the child may hesitate to try the next, more difficult problem. The teacher may inadvertently reinforce the child’s feeling of inadequacy. Trying to force a poor reader to read in front of the class may intensify feelings of low self-esteem in the reader. This child will quickly learn to avoid this situation, sometimes to the point of outright defiance. This defiance allows him to avoid having to show what a poor reader he is in front of the class. When given the choice between the office and humiliation in front of their peers, a lot of kids choose the office. The problem escalates and the child’s education suffers.

So how can we help as parents? The first step towards solving any problem is acknowledging that there is one. Blaming the school, the principal or the teachers is not helpful. Besides switching schools or teachers, there is little a parent can do in this area. If your child suffers from low self-esteem, realize that he or she may only be affected in certain areas. If he or she is behind in reading, writing or math, then that is the subject they may want to avoid. It is the job of the school to educate the child, but it is the responsibility of the parent to make sure the job gets done. If your child is having a hard time reading, read aloud with your child. Fifteen minutes of reading a night, three times a week will work wonders. Have your child read to you, they should feel safe reading to you. This will give him or her practice, improving his self-esteem in reading. Do the same with any other subject that your child is having difficulty with. Your child will go to school “armed” with improved self-esteem, ready to attack the days’ lessons.

This philosophy can also extend into sports. Playing basketball with your son will improve his self-esteem just by seeing how awkward and clumsy you are!

Meeting with your child’s teacher also helps. As a teacher, I always remembered the parents that met with me during the year. It was especially impressive if a parent called a meeting at the beginning of the year before any problems arose. Children in this scenario usually do well. Meeting the teacher also gives you a chance to understand the teacher’s approach and expectations. As a school administrator, I have found that a lot of discipline problems arise from lack of communication between parent and teacher. Whether it is the responsibility of the parent to establish and maintain the communication throughout the year does not matter. It’s your child. Take the initiative. It is the teacher’s job to answer your questions.

Now that you have defined the problem and met with the teacher, get to work! Your child will have their own strengths and weaknesses. Do not use your personal problems as an excuse or allow your children to use a ‘less-than-ideal’ family situation as an excuse. We all need to teach our kids to overcome life’s obstacles. As the child overcomes each problem, their self-esteem will strengthen. Understand that self-esteem is not set in stone; it will have its highs and lows. If your child scores three goals at a soccer game, they will have high self-esteem. The longer the success continues, the greater the foundation for good self-esteem throughout life. By the same token, if the child comes home after having three goals scored against him or her as goalie, thier short-term self-esteem may suffer. If the trend continues, then self-esteem may suffer over the long term.

Helping to build a child’s self-esteem is the parent’s job. Keep in close contact with your child’s teachers. Go to all of yoru child’s performances, sporting events and extracurricular activities. Monitor interactions with friends. Be there to support your child when he or she falls, so they do not develop poor self-esteem. Remember, self-esteem depends on the success your child is experiencing in life. Know your child’s strengths and weaknesses. Guide your child toward activities that allow him or her to experience success that he or she can build on the rest of thier life.

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“From school work to play time, a mastery of motor skills will make a child’s experiences more productive and enjoyable,” says Dr. Helen Boehm, psychologist and consultant for VTech, a maker of age-appropriate and developmental stage-based electronic learning products for children.

“Parents can play a role in helping their children learn these skills.”

And while it may sound like work, motor skill development can be fun, says Boehm. Here are some helpful hints for parents on how play and motor skill development can go hand in hand: Play Music: Whether it’s the piano, flute or violin, playing a musical instrument requires the use of fine motor skills.

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his past year was full of exciting work projects and volunteer work at my son’s school and in my community that meant a great deal to me. But I also burned the candle at both ends. Then I invented a newfangled candle that had 8 ends and burned all of those too.

Then one day, in a particularly stressful moment, I put my hand on my chest and felt my heart racing. It scared me. And over the course of the next several weeks, it happened again and again and again. The only way to stop the fluttering was to slow down and take some deep breaths.

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I promise to say “yes” if it means bringing joy into my life, not stress or conflict.

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I promise to look at Facebook less and my kids’ faces more.

I promise to stop being prompt (or even early) at the expense of being patient and kind with my children. The world will keep turning if we are two minutes late to soccer practice.

I promise to do things that make me happy without feeling guilt–like going to yoga or eating the rest of the fresh raspberries.

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Families, service members Unite through Reading Story and photo by Amy Binkley No matter what time zone they find themselves in, service members and their families don’t have to be far apart – at least during story time.

United through Reading, a program which unites military families facing physical separation by facilitating the bonding experience of reading aloud together, is now available at the Harriotte B. Smith Library aboard Marine Corps Base Camp Lejeune.

“United through Reading is a program that helps keep families stay connected to their service members who are away from home by allowing them to record a video of themselves reading a book or giving a message to their loved ones,” said Sean Pittman, supervisory library technician.

Although it’s a normal way of life for military families to be separated for months at a time, deployments are always difficult, especially for younger children who may not understand where mom and dad are.

“Kids who have contact in some way with their deployed parent are significantly happier than those who don’t or can’t,” Pittman pointed out.

However, it’s not just children who will benefit from the program.

“It will help (service members) keep in touch and give them peace of mind to know their kids will feel they’re still a part of their lives even though they’re away,” said Matt Wellman, library technician. “They won’t have to worry about becoming detached from their families.”

Those who choose to participate in UTR will have their choice of books to read, including a wide selection donated through the program, which service members can take home and give to their kids so they can read along. Of course, they can also choose any book in the library to read as well.

“They’ll be given 15 to 20 minutes to record whatever they want,” Pittman noted. “We know it can be emotional, but we want them to have fun too. They can record for special occasions or just because. Once they’re finished, we give it to them so they can decide when to deliver their message.”

The program may be new to Camp Lejeune, but other military installations and organizations, like the USO, are already participating and hearing success stories.

Since it’s founding in 1989, UTR has produced an impressive track record of success. According to survey research of its participants, more than 75 percent said the recordings reduced the anxiety about the deployment, 85 responded they helped the deployed service member say connected and more than 67 percent reported that their child’s interest in reading and books increased.

“Reading encompasses every problem and facet of life and offers solutions,” explained Wellman. “Through reading books, parents can help their children overcome hurdles in their lives. Kids who read are better adjusted all around.”

Wellman noted how a majority of the participants will more than likely be sending their videos to a younger audience and that they don’t have to spend all their time reading.

“Since many of the service members who use this have younger children, we’re also suggesting they send words of encouragement to their kids while they’re learning every day activities, like brushing their teeth or potty training,” he said. “Having both parents on board for those situations is important, and the spouses won’t feel like they’re alone in raising the children.”

While the program is designed to assist in keeping deployed service members connected with their families, the library isn’t putting limitations on who can participate.

“We’re not just opening this to the service members but also to the families who want to record messages to send (to those who are deployed) as well,” said Pittman. “Anyone who is separated from a loved one can

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Wellman added that those who are stationed at Camp Lejeune, away from home, can also record a message to send out.

Camp Johnson’s library is also available for those who cannot make it on base.

Participants can come as many times to make as many recordings as they want as long as they call ahead and reserve a time.

“They can come back as many times as they want to record new messages, read another book or continue reading the book they started,” Pittman explained.

“We’ll be setting aside certain days for recording, but it will always be after 4 p.m. so everyone will have a chance to do it. For now, it’s only once a month until the demand increases.”

He also encouraged units who are preparing for future deployments to take part in the program and reserve days to record their messages.

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ncouraging healthy eating is usually a headache for most parents, but Midway Park Community Center’s weekly Silly Snacks event uses fruits, veggies and other treats to create colorful and creative goodies to nibble and munch on.

Every Wednesday at 10 a.m., parents and their children gather to make eating fun. Participants make snacks such as homemade ice cream or arrange treats to look like animals or seasonal items like back to school pencils and school buses.

However, kids do more than play with their food during the program, said Victoria Braggiotti-Brown, the recreation specialist with Midway Park Community Center. Making the treats themselves helps the children learn independence and staff members help reinforce skills such as counting and colors to the children.

“The kids get to be creative,” said Braggiotti-Brown. “They love it.”

Presenting nutritious food in a fun way also strengthens healthy eating habits, Braggiotti-Brown added. Parents occasionally share stories of how Silly Snacks helped their children make positive food choices.

For instance, a child who refused to eat bell peppers ate them with enthusiasm after being reminded by his parents he had once made a sailboat from the vegetable at the event, she said.

The snacks are appealing to children and adults. Treats are sometimes sweet, but healthy food is used regularly and seasonal vegetables are a frequent focus.

“It’s a little treat for (my daughter,)” said Robin Camia, a parent at the program.

Camia limits her child’s sweets intake and uses Silly Snacks as a way to offer her daughter a weekly treat.

While Camia and program staff make some substitutions to the treats offered, the program provides a small weekly indulgence for her daughter.

By offering her habitual snacks, Camia feels her daughter will not feel deprived of sweets as she grows older and, as a result, won’t binge on junk food.

Staff members can accommodate dietary restrictions with prior notice for participating children.

“We want kids (with special dietary needs) to be able to do everything with the other kids,” said Braggiotti-Brown.

“This is a great program for adults with kids who aren’t in school yet,” said Camia.

Kristina White took her son, an only child, to the program so he could spend time with other children.

“The first week he stayed back, now he’s mingling with the other children,” said White.

It also provides an opportunity for parents to socialize and to spend time with other members of the military community.

“It’s a great program in general,” said Camia. “(Programs like this) help people deal with being away from home or your spouse.

Parents worry about what they will do once a spouse deploys.

Programs like this help you realize there are a lot of things to do.”

She continued, “Camp Lejeune offers a lot of programs to make families feel at home. I’m grateful for the sense of community.”

For more information, visit mccslejeune.com/mpcc or call 451-1807.

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Story by Patrick O’Cahir he education of our children has a long and controversial history. Why some students succeed, while others do not, has been the topic of many research articles, political platforms and informed editorial opinions. After twenty six years in public education, I would like to discuss one simple, yet ancient reason why some students succeed in school.

I was the guy that you were sent to when the teacher had her fill of your shenanigans.

I didn’t have the luxury of theory in that job. Not like when I was a science teacher.

Theory was everything. The scientist will tell you that cavemen and cavewomen lived together, hunted together and ate together. Something about this combination allowed us to build great cities and somewhat orderly civilizations. It was the coming together at the end of the day that gave us the security to wake up and face the saber toothed tiger (or gap-toothed boss) the next day. So it is not a twist of the imagination to see that we might have inherited dinner as a social gathering. But as a school disciplinarian I saw students at their worst.

Bored, listless and angry. Discussing our ancestral roots did not go very far in this arena. Consequences did.

For twenty six years, I have tried to unite these two contradictory voices. I listened to these students, first as a teacher, and then as an administrator. I also listened to their parent, and on occasion - their grandparents, step-parents, foster parents, aunts, uncles and neighbors. The multitude of reasons given for students’ lack of success include inadequate funding, huge class sizes, low teacher pay and a variety of other contributing factors; but one human behavior appears to prime students for success. It is as simple as it is ancient. Students that eat meals with their family are more successful in school.

Could the solution to the complex problem of education in America be so simple?

Kids today are on the move-constantly shuffled, transported and car pooled from activity to activity. We drop them off at soccer practice, stop off at the local fast food establishment on the way home, guzzle a diet drink before we herd them in their room to start their homework. Our ingteractions fall short. “Here’s ten dollars for dinner.” Our spouse takes on the role of co-conspirator. ”I’ll take care of this, while you go do that.”

And we wonder mainly about one thing as we pursue our own self-improvement goals.

“Who’s going to feed the kids?” Society promotes this fast-paced tail chasing. Has managing replaced parenting? Is this an evolutionary step up for our families? We get everyone where they need to go, when they need to get there; pick them up when they are done. They work on homework,then go to bed - and we call that a good day! The problem is clear. We are not spending as much time with our children as we should.

Like my grandfather used to say: Kids spell love “T-I-M-E.”

So, let’s talk about dinner.

When you sit down to a meal with your kids, there are many parenting moments laced into the event. One is the preparation of the meal; your children may even help.

My fourteen-year-old is great at cracking eggs open on Sunday morning. My wife is even better at cleaning up the eggs! Preparation of the meal provides a great opportunity to talk with your children in a relaxed manner. Or even better – listen. This may be a good time to reinforce the stuff they are learning in school. For example, you can teach measurement as you bake the muffins… “How many ounces are in a cup?” It’s a great time to teach them how to work with others. “Between the three of you, someone sets the table, someone else gets the drinks and someone makes the salad.” You can even reinforce their reading skill. “What is the list of ingredients that we need for this recipe?”

When the meal is ready, everyone sits down together. No one eats until everyone is seated. If it is your faith this would be the time to give thanks. Family members can relate to one another, for it is at the dinner table that we learn how to behave properly. Manners are taught. We reinforce the difference between right and wrong. The days’ events play out. The kids get to hear a variety of opinions on what they could do differently in a given situation. The simple process of participating in discussions is learned-and not the way television talk shows, musicals or mean girls portray them! These activities bond the family, kind of like caveman days, except with a refrigerator. It lets kids know that there is a set time during the day when they can discuss their problems and someone will listen. This gives kids a sense of security, and that sense of belonging they need to create themselves.

So, does simply sitting down for a family meal make the difference between a

failing student and a successful one? The breakdown of the family in our society has been well documented. Families that have survived have generally maintained traditional values. One of these is eating meals at home, with the children. Years ago, it was unheard of for a child to have something more important to do than eat with the family. It makes sense that the student being taught values and principles at home will succeed in school. The values and principles taught in the home have enabled America to survive a Civil War, two World Wars, countless conflicts, economic depressions, natural disasters, the resignation of a President, political scandals, etc.

These values are not taught at the local fast food restaurant; nor are they taught at school. These values need to be taught at home. And what better place than at the dinner table where most of us learned the lessons of life.

The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse agrees with me. According to their studies, children and teenagers who routinely eat dinner with their families are less likely to use illegal drugs, cigarettes or alcohol. By contrast, teenagers that rarely eat dinner with their families are 72 percent more likely to use drugs, smoke cigarettes and/or drink alcohol. These studies show that parental influence is one of the crucial factors in determining the likelihood of substance abuse by teenagers. They corroborate the family dinner as a pillar of family life in America.

I do not want to mislead anyone into thinking that we can solve all the problems of education at the dinner table. From my perspective, successful students I’ve seen all seem to share the tradition of eating meals with their families. It seems the children that have difficulties in school eat meals in front of the television, at fast food playgrounds, in the car and at other nontraditional dining places. There’s no doubt in my mind that families that eat together form a stronger bond with each other.

This connection gives children confidence to overcome the problems that today’s schools present. When these problems are conquered, the child is successful. Although something this simple is not a cureall, it’s certainly worth a try. Plan meals with your family and see if you notice an increase in positive behavior and academic achievement in your child. It worked for the caveman.

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large meal is customary come Thanksgiving. Planning an impressive Thanksgiving menu can be enjoyable for many people, while others get a little nervous when tasked with such an undertaking. But, getting a head start and staying organized can make planning a Thanksgiving meal much easier than it looks.

Begin by jotting down ideas of which dishes you want to make this year. Traditional foods like turkey and candied yams may be expected, but it’s perfectly acceptable to think outside the box as well. If you won’t be hosting a large crowd, you may want to serve more manageable Cornish hens in place of a larger turkey.

Root vegetables and squash are seasonal foods that can add some autumn flavor to your Thanksgiving dinner table. Potatoes, corn, turnips and parsnips can be served baked or turned into soups and casseroles.

Thanksgiving is a great time to celebrate local foods as well.

If certain items are native to your area, such as grains or game, incorporate these foods into the planning.

Once you have established the menu, you can make a list of what can be prepared in advance and what will need to be made shortly before the holiday or the day of. Separate your shopping accordingly. Any frozen or canned products can be purchased in advance of the holiday rush and stored until use. Frozen turkeys also can be bought weeks before and then thawed out when they need to be cooked. Any dairy products or fresh produce should be purchased a few days before Thanksgiving and freshly prepared for optimal flavor.

Rather than spending all of your time cooking the night before the dinner, mashed potatoes and casseroles can be prepared and frozen, then reheated on Thanksgiving. Some foods actually taste better when flavors have had an opportunity to meld. Even some baked goods can be made in advance and refrigerated or frozen until use. Think about preparing batters for cookies or cakes and then storing them in the refrigerator before finishing them on Thanksgiving. Any work you can handle in advance will save you time in the kitchen come the big day.

Timing can be challenging on Thanksgiving. Whenever possible, free up your oven for side dishes and desserts so that you will have ample space inside. A turkey can take up valuable real estate in the oven, so you may want to consider investing in a rotisserie or a deep-fryer so the turkey can be cooked more efficiently elsewhere. Then you will have plenty of oven space for heating side dishes and desserts.

Dense foods should be placed in the oven first to enable them to heat thoroughly. Finger foods and appetizers may only need brief heating. Do not underestimate the power of the outdoor barbecue for quickly heating up foods if you are short on space in the kitchen.

Delegate some of the work to others on Thanksgiving so you and your family can better enjoy the holiday. Encourage guests

to bring their favorite items to serve buffet- or pot-luck style for Thanksgiving. This not only cuts down on the amount of work for the host and hostess, but gives guests an opportunity to showcase their culinary skills as well.

Desserts are often labor-intensive elements of entertaining.

Precision in measuring and preparing helps guarantee success. If you do not have the time to bake this Thanksgiving, serve storebought cakes and save yourself the hassle, or ask guests to bring desserts so you can focus your attention on the main meal.

While prepping for the Thanksgiving dinner, keep the dishwasher empty so you can easily load items as they are used and keep kitchen clutter to a minimum. Increasing the number of finger foods can help reduce the number of dishes used while cutting down on post-holiday clean-up.

When preparing for the meal, keep storage containers at the ready. Have guests fill up take-away containers with leftovers before the table is cleared so that no food goes to waste.

Promptly refrigerate all leftovers so that they are safe to enjoy later on.

Thanksgiving is a time when big meals are customary and a good deal of work is required. Breaking down the work into manageable tasks helps the holiday go off without a hitch.

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5. Once your circle is cut out, fold it over a little bit and cut that section off. We are making a pirate patch so you can choose how much you want cut off.

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7. Glue on the wiggly eye and the black eye patch.

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he Nutria is called by many names - River Rat, Marsh Dog, and Coypu. It is often confused with other aquatic animals such as the Muskrat and Beaver, since they also are brown animals that swim about in the marshes and rivers using their webbed feet. But you can tell the difference if you look behind him as he swims and see what his tail looks like.

The beaver has the flat paddle tail, and the nutria is about as big as a beaver but has a round, rat tail. The muskrat will look just like a small nutria.

As cute as they are as babies, many people do not like the nutria and try and get rid of them. This is because they are considered to be an invasive species. This means they were brought to the United States from South America so that people could hunt them for their thick fur. The nutria is a good example of trying to do something good and having it cause bad problems instead. Nobody knew this was going to happen when they released them in the south.

Unfortunately the nutria can have many babies each year and their numbers keep growing and growing.

The nutria baby is fully furred when it is born and its eyes are open at birth, too. They can even start eating almost immediately after they are born and begin chewing up plants along with their parents.

The problem is that the nutria uses its large orange teeth to eat a lot of plants growing in the marshes and rivers. They only eat the stems and let the rest of the plant die. Without the plants, the marshes and wetlands become very damaged or even destroyed completely. The wetlands play a very important part in the ecosystem and natural environment and without them many other animals suffer.

Some people like to see a single nutria swimming in the water, but they quickly become upset when a colony of nutria start to burrow through their lawns. This burrowing can cause docks and piers to collapse into the water when the shore edges are destroyed by the nutrias’ tunnels. Many nutria prefer to live together because they are social animals and that means a lot of tunnels, and a lot of damage. It can cost people a lot of money to fix up the damages to the docks and piers.

Hunters and trappers try and catch the nutria to remove them from areas where there is a lot of damage. Places that don’t have a lot of nutria want to learn more about them and will even keep them in zoos for people to come and look at.

You will have to decide for yourself if you think the nutria is a good animal to have around or one that needs to be removed. I like to see them sitting in the sun on the river bank or swimming through the marshes. But I do not live on the shore or have to worry about my dock being damaged.

Possumwood Acres Wildlife Sanctuary will take in injured and orphaned nutria babies if you should find them. Our phone number is 910-326-6432. We will make sure they are not released where they could cause any damage.

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October 3 Harvest Time

Each October, The Beaufort Historic Site sets the stage for fourth grade students to be treated to a unique and rewarding learning experience. Students will rotate through four engaging and informative hands-on stations as volunteers and docents, dressed in colonial attire, discuss, demonstrate and participate with students in a wide variety of educational activities. Harvest Time is offered to fourth grade classes from public and private schools from Carteret and surrounding counties, as well as home schooled children.

Carobell Childrens’ Home Reverse Raffle 7-10p.m. at Jacksonville Country Club. $10,000 grand prize. $100 consolation prize every 50 tickets drawn. Only 400 tickets sold. Ticket cost is $100 each. Proceeds go to capital improvements for Carobell’s six homes. Contact Jessica at 910-436-4003 or buy on line at www.carobell.org.

October 4

Free Family Film Fridays 4-6:30 p.m. at Onslow County Library.

Bring the entire family. Join us at the Main

Library in Jacksonville every month for free, family-friendly movie the whole family will enjoy. We serve free popcorn! Shows monthly. Jacksonville: 1st Fri, 4 pm

New Bern Storytelling & Folk Music Festival 7p.m.-8p.m. at Trent River Coffee Company. New Bern Storytelling & Folk Music Festival is an immersive festival experience coming to downtown New Bern from Oct. 4-6 that combines engaging free form storytelling with contemporary folk music for a three-day binge of all the art you can handle! Enjoy “Moon and You” at Trent River Coffee at 7pm. $5 at door.

October 5

Buddy Walk for Down Syndrome 10 a.m.-11a.m. at Jacksonville Commons Recreational Center. The Down Syndrome Network of Onslow & Carteret Counties (DSNOCC), Inc. is proud to bring the Buddy Walk to Jacksonville for the second year! This one-mile, fun walk will raise awareness and promote inclusion of individuals in our community with Down syndrome.

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DSNOCC.org We look forward to crossing the finish line with you!

October 6

Princess Picnic in the Park 11 a.m.-2 p.m. at Fragrance Garden.

Join Cinderella, Princess Mermaid, Frog Princess, and Princess Beauty for a picnic in the park. Princesses will be rotating between painting finger nails, teaching royal dance lessons, posing for pictures in an enchanted garden and mingling with the children. All tickets include your choice of boxed lunch from

Atlanta Bread Company. $34.99 contact wilmingtonpartycrew@gmail.com for ticketing information.

October 9

ECU Presents: Octubafest 7:30 p.m.-9 p.m. at A.J. Fletcher Recital Hall. Featuring the tuba and euphonium students of East Carolina University.

The students will perform solos and in ensembles. East Carolina University School of Music. A.J. Fletcher Recital Hall, 7:30PM Free. Open to the public.

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October 10

Andy’s 18th Special Olympics Spaghetti Dinner: 4:30 p.m.-7 p.m. at Knights of Columbus Hall. Eat in or carry out$6 Adults $3 ChildrenIncludes: Spaghetti, Salad, Bread, Dessert, DrinkCall Craven County Recreation and Parks 252 636 6606. KofC, Pizza Hut, Wal-Mart, Target, Smithfield, Armstrong, Pepsi, Coke and others help to make this the 18th year we may celebrate with the Special Olympics Athletes community support for the program.

October 11

City Mouse, Country Mouse

10 a.m.-12p.m. at Carolina Civic Center Historic Theater. A mouse named Maudie Mae thinks country life is mighty fine while her cousin, Montague, wouldn’t live anywhere except the big city.

Their musical adventures begin when they decide to pay each other a visit.

Birmingham Children’s Theatre is one of the country’s oldest and largest professional theatre companies for young audiences. For tickets, contact ccc@ nc.rr.com

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Get Your Rear in Gear 5K 7a.m.-8:30a.m. at Fairfield Recreation Center. Get Your Rear in Gear is a series of 5K events held across the country in coordination with the Colon Cancer Coalition to raise money for colon cancer education and screenings. Registration $20, contact commongroundenc@ yahoo.com.

10 a.m.-11 a.m. at Onslow County Library. Grades K-12. Kids in grades K-12 are invited to express their creativity and show their Lego building techniques from simple to advanced.

Meets monthly.Jacksonville: 2nd Sat, 10 am. Richlands: 3rd Sat, 10am.

Sneads Ferry: 3rd Sat, 10am. Swansboro: 3rd Sat, 10am

October 15

American Girl Book Club 4:30 p.m.-5:30p.m. Onslow County Library. Grades 2-5. We’ll read and discuss a different American Girl book each month, enjoy & have fun with crafts & other activities. Meets monthly.

Jacksonville: 3rd Tues, 4:30 pm

October 18

Moors & McCumber in Concert 8 p.m.-10 p.m. at Trent River Coffee Company. Enjoy a fusion of blues and bluegrass, Celtic and folk with these two talented artists! $15 general, $12 members, $8 student.

October 19

Horse Sense & Survival Tour 8 a.m.-12 p.m. at Cape Lookout National Seashore. The tours are led by Dr. Sue Stuska, Wildlife Biologist specializing in horses with the National Park Service at Cape Lookout National Seashore. Dr. Stuska’s intimate knowledge of the horses makes for an exciting and enlightening glimpse into the relationships, family bonds, behavior, and daily lives of these wild animals. Join Dr. Stuska for a half-day (3-4 hour) walking trip to find horses and watch their behavior.

October 24

Ghostwalk 23: “The Haunted Housewives of New Bern” 5:30 p.m.-9:30 p.m. at New Bern Historical Society. Visit 18 ghost sites in homes and businesses in New Bern’s Historic District and meet spirits of New Bern’s past who will share their stories with you. Don’t miss Agony Alley for kid-friendly games and activities at the historic Attmore-Oliver House. $15 in advance, $20 day of event, $10 active duty military and their family, students, $5 children.

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November 4

ECU School of Music Presents: Collegiate Choir & St. Cecilia Singers Concert

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7:30 p.m.-9 p.m. at AJ Fletcher Recital Hall.

Collegiate Choir and St. Cecilia Singers Concert. East Carolina University School of Music. Free. Open to the public. For more information call 252-328-6851

October 26

New Bern Walk To End Alzheimer’s

2:00p.m.-11:30p.m. at Hewett Farms Campsite. Proceeds of this event will be donated to Duke Cancer Research Hospital!! Come on out and have a fabulous time with fabulous people!!

Entry Fees: Blue Package $85: Includes two night camping, 5 meals and music.

(Does not include Oyster Roast. Roast is $15 extra) You can purchase tickets through eventbrite.com or at the gate.

November 5

8:00a.m.-12:00p.m. at Union Point Park.

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November 1

Free Family Film Fridays 4:00p.m.-6:30p.m. at Bring the entire family. Join us at the Main Library in Jacksonville every month for free, familyfriendly movie the whole family will enjoy.

We serve free popcorn! Shows monthly.

Jacksonville: 1st Fri, 4 pm.

7p.m.-9p.m. at Ziggy’s By The Sea. All Ages $15 Special guests: Shwayze, Kimie http://ziggysbythesea.com 910-769-4096 http://thegreen808.com. Formed in 2009 on Oahu, Hawaii, The Green “fuses late 1970s-era dub-heavy roots reggae with strands of contemporary rock/pop/R&B and sporadic indigenous Hawaiian musical and lyrical references”

November 8

New Bern Arts & Crafts Holiday Gift Show: 10a.m.-4p.m. at New Bern Riverfront

Convention Center. A whole new show this year with a bigger focus on gifts and decorations! Many booths contain items you simply cannot find in stores.

Add complimentary refreshments, door prizes, make-a-gift workshops and a visit with Santa and you have the perfect start to the holiday season. Admission is $3

Friday Flicks - “Quartet 7:30p.m.-9:30p.m. at Old Theater. The Old Theater in Oriental presents Friday Flicks with “Quartet,” from 2012. All proceeds go to the support of The Old Theater, a nonprofit organization. $5 admission includes free popcorn!

November 9 Legos in the Library

10:00a.m.-11:00a.m. at Onslow County Library. Kids in grades K-12 are invited to express their creativity and show their Lego building techniques from simple to advanced. Meets monthly. Jacksonville: 2nd Sat, 10 am. Richlands: 3rd Sat, 10am.

Sneads Ferry: 3rd Sat, 10am. Swansboro: 3rd Sat, 10am.

Cheer Classes and Teams

No experience necessary!

We specialize in competitive cheerleading for ages 3-18 We also offer non-competitive, year round cheer and tumbling classes Coaches are certified by UCA, NCA, USASF, NCCCA and AACCA

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November 9 The 1920’s Salon

7:00 p.m.-9:00p.m. at Wright Auditorium.

The S. Rudolph Performing Arts Series invites you to enjoy and evening of works that recreates a music salon of the 1920’s. The performance will include the Brahms f minor sonata, as well as works by” living” composers Sergei Vasilenko and Luise Le Beau. Performed by Hillary Herndon, viola, and Jennifer Muniz, piano.

Suggested donations: $20 per concert, Seniors $15, Students $5.

November 19

American Girl Book Club

November 16

Gray’s Creek PTA 2nd Annual Turkey Trot & Kids Fun Run

9:00a.m.-12:00p.m. at Gray’s Creek Middle School. Gray’s Creek PTA will be hosting their second annual run to raise funds for Gray’s Creek Elementary School and the surrounding community. Each participant in the 5K will receive a t-shirt and finishers medal. Winners in each category for the 5K will also win a prize. Each participant in the Fun Run will receive a t-shirt and a finishers medal.

November 17

Wilmington Symphony Youth Orchestra Fall Matinee 4:00 p.m.-6:00p.m. at UNCW Kenan Auditorium. Introduce the kids to the joy and excitement of the Wilmington Symphony Youth Orchestra and Junior Strings, conducted by Steven Errante and Jane Tierney. $5 adults, Kids 17 & Under Free.

4:30p.m.-5:30p.m. at Onslow County Library. Grades 2-5. We’ll read and discuss a different American Girl book each month, enjoy & have fun with crafts & other activities. Meets monthly. Jacksonville: 3rd Tues, 4:30 pm

November 28

Wrightsville Beach Habitat Turkey Trot Race 7:30a.m.-9:30a.m. at Wrightsville Beach Municipal Park. Cape Fear Habitat for Humanity’s annual Turkey Trot Race is Thanksgiving Morning at Wrightsville Beach Park. Registration information can be found at www.precisiontimingsystems. com. Just view their upcoming race information and click on the Turkey Trot link; or email Claudia at claudia@capefearhabitat.org. Registration begins at 7:30 am, followed by the Run/Walk at 8:30 am, and a Prize Ceremony to follow. Come out and support Cape Fear Habitat with this awesome fundraising event!! $15-$35.3rd Sat, 10am

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CHILDCARE Childcare Network Eastern North Carolina childcarenetwork.net Nancy’s Nannies 252.726.6575 nancysnannies.com

Top Ice Cream 1950 Hwy 172 Suite J, Sneads Ferry 910.327.1165 Family Fun 30 Acres & A Mule Farm 125 Mcgowan Rd, Jacksonville 910.219.1881 30acremule.com

Children’s Activities Cedar Point Gymnastics 135 Sherwood Ave. Cedar Point (252) 393-7778 cedarpointgymnastics.com

East Carolina Fun 2964 Hwy 24, Newport 252.727.9096 eastcarolinafun.com

Crystal Coast All Stars 2900 Arendell St #14, Morehead City 252.247.0066 crystalcoastallstars.com

NC Aquarium 1 Roosevelt Blvd, Pine Knoll Shores 252.247.4003 ncaquariums.com

Crystal Coast Gymnastics 300 Greenfield Dr, Morehead City 252.222.4691 crystalcoastgymnastics.com

Spitied Art 461 Western Blvd Suite 118, Jacksonville myspiritedart.com

Dance Theatre of Jacksonville 14 Doris Ave E, Jacksonville 910.347.3226 DentAL & OrthodontICS Coastal Carolina Orthodontics smilemakersnc.com Futrell & Reese Family Dentistry 32 Office Park Dr, Jacksonville 910.353.8200 futrellandreesefamilydentistry.com Halley White Pediatric Dentistry 8115 Market St, Ste 204, Wilmington 910.686.1869 306 Dolphin Dr, Jacksonville 910.333.0343 Ortho Wilmington 910.346.5771 orthowilmington.com Sanborn Orthodontics East Coast Square S, Morehead City 252.727.0020 sanbornorthodontics.com Teresa G. Conley, DDS, PA 1306 West Corbett Ave, Swansboro 910.326.2030 conleydentistry.com Todd H. Rankin DDS, PA 252.636.1900 thranikinortho.com FOOD & BEVERAGE Mai Tai 109 Henderson Dr, Jacksonville 910.346.5382 910.346.6675 maitaijacksonville.com

EDUCATION Montessori Children’s School 714 Bates Street, Jacksonville 910.938.3826 JacksonvilleMontessori.com Health Services Carolina Pediatrics 15444 US HWY 17N Bldg 16, Hampstead 715 Medical Center Dr, Wilmington 910.763.2476 carolinapedswilm.com Glen Meade Center For Women’s Health 1809 Glen Meade Rd, Wilmington 910.763.9833 myglenmeade.com Onslow Memorial Hospital 317 Western Blvd, Jacksonville 910.577.2345 onslow.org OrthoWilmington 910.346.5771 orthowilmington.com Wilmington Health 1899 North Marine Blvd, Jacksonville 910.509.7474 wilmingtonhealth.com Shopping Fabric Solutions 7021 Market Street, Wilmington 910.686.6886 799fabrics.com Jacksonville Mall 375 Jacksonville Mall, Jacksonville 910.353.2477 shopjacksonvillemall.com

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Kidz Connection

15489 Hwy 17, Hampstead 910.270.1995 facebook.com/kidzconnectionhampstead

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142 Broadhurst Rd, Jacksonville kxiconsignment.com Teacher’s Aid 831 South Kerr Ave, Wilmington 910.799.0101 teachersaidnc.com The Tickle Me Pink Boutique 4225 Western Blvd, Ste 300, Jacksonville 910.353.PINK Thurston Art Gallery 328 Peru Rd, Sneads Ferry 910.526.9988 thurstonartgallery.com Transportation National Automotive nationaldodge.com Stevenson Auto Group stevensonauto.com Other Atlantic Bay Mortgage 825 Gum Branch Rd, Ste 124 Jacksonville 910.346.4315 atlanticbay.com Christina Pitz 910.467.4000 MimosaBayHomevue.com ChristinaPitz.com North Shore Mulch 780 HWY 210, Sneads Ferry 910.327.5000 ONWASA onwasa.org Pioneer Military Loans 105-1/2 Western Blvd, Jacksonville 910.577.3036 pioneermilitaryloans.com Thurston Art Gallery 328 Peru Road, Sneads Ferry 910.526.9988 Lesslie Laurrin Photography www.lesslielaurrinphotography.com

Expecting Twins Requires Being Twice As Vigilant women expecting twins should expect

twice the joy, but unfortunately also should expect to face higher risks. Specialized care can help better identify problems early, help give moms time to prepare, and improve outcomes.

Very early in a twin pregnancy, it is critical to determine if the fetuses are “monochorionic.” These twins are identical and share parts of the placenta, which exposes them to the risk for twin-twin transfusion syndrome. This potentially deadly syndrome only occurs in a few percent of

Total care for when you’re expecting,

even for the unexpected.

Glen Meade offers complete obstetrics care, including the expertise of a boardcertified Maternal Fetal Medicine (MFM) specialist with more than 20 years of experience. While not every expecting woman needs to see a MFM, 100% are relieved to know one is readily available. So whether your pregnancy goes as expected, or you have unexpected factors that need to be monitored, Glen Meade delivers.

©2013 Glen Meade Center For Women’s Health

We’re pleased to welcome Brooke Chalk, MD, and Lauren A. Marshall, WHNP, to our practice.

Dr. Chalk’s expertise includes da Vinci Robotic surgery, high-risk obstetrics and general GYN surgery. A women’s health nurse practitioner, Ms. Marshall’s clinical interests include well check-ups and infertility, as well as contraceptive and prenatal counseling. Both are accepting new patients.

myglenmeade.com 763.9833 Wilmington Andrew R. Cracker, MD David P. Mason, MD Clarence L. Wilson, ll, MD H. Kyle Rhodes, MD Timothy L. Chase, MD G. Daniel Robison, lV, MD Jeffrey W. Wright, MD, MFM Specialist

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cases, but must be found early to allow the best chances for successful therapy.

Some common problems, such as one of the babies being in an unfavorable position, can be resolved by cesarean delivery.

Gestational diabetes is more common with twins and is managed primarily by diet and monitoring, just as one would with a single baby. Due to the possibility that the uterus cannot adequately supply the growth of twins, fetal growth is closely tracked to assure the uterus continues to supply the necessary fetal nutrients and oxygen.

By far, the most common major complication in twin pregnancies is preterm birth. Half of twins are delivered preterm, primarily because the uterus simply cannot hold the babies to term. Severely preterm babies may not survive or may experience respiratory distress or other major organ system problems and may ultimately have blindness, deafness or cerebral palsy. Mildly preterm babies may not have such severe physical issues, but may later develop learning disorders or attention deficit disorder. Sonographic monitoring of the cervix can provide an early warning in many cases and allow the mother and her physicians to take steps to delay the onset of labor. One common “therapy” is bed rest. A range of medications is used depending on individual circumstances, but none are highly successful in delaying delivery in the long term.

As with all pregnancies, the single most important thing remains the mother’s own attention to her health prior to and during the pregnancy.

So while multiple births can bring multiple blessings, it’s vital that medical and maternal vigilance multiply as well.

by Jeffrey W. Wright, M.D., F.A.C.O.G. Dr. Wright was the first board-certified Maternal Fetal Medicine (MFM) specialist to practice in southeastern North Carolina. He joined Glen Meade Center for Women’s Health in 2010.

Because injuries happen,

we’re always on our toes.

When your child gets injured, you can count on the regional leader in comprehensive orthopaedic care. OrthoWilmington offers an unparalleled team led by 18 physicians, including fellowship-trained and board-certified experts in seven subspecialties.

Call the regional center for comprehensive orthopaedic care at 800.800.3305. In Jacksonville call 910.346.5771 ORTHOWILMINGTON.COM

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And with five convenient locations and same-day appointments available, we’re always well-positioned to care for your family.