Regrets From An Older Woman K. STOKES
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made up my mind to submit this article after doing a little reflection on my own life. I hope that younger women will read this and allow it to take root in their spirit. The Other Woman magazine is great at reminding us to live our one life unapologetically without regrets. Unfortunately, I have many regrets.
What you allow is what will continue is a phrase we've all heard and from experience, it's true. In my younger years, I allowed so much mess in
At 72 years young, I still have a lot of life bubbling in me. I feel good and if I have to say so myself, I look good. I've had my share of health hiccups and thank God I've got a portion of my health to still live a vibrant life. I've allowed some things to happen in my marriage, on my job, with my children, and within myself due to my inability to use my voice, believe in myself, or because I allowed someone else to push their opinions on decisions I had to make for my life. If you're reading this, please make your own choices in life. Do what you think is best for you. Yes, it's always good to have someone in your corner to bounce things off of and hear something other than what's in your head, but be careful who you choose. If that person has your best interest at heart and will tell you what you need to hear instead of what you want to hear, you probably chose the right person. THE OTHER WOMAN
I didn't enforce my boundaries and I was a people pleaser. People are okay with you as long as they have their way with you. Put yourself first and watch what happens. I was called selfish, inconsiderate, and lacking compassion only because I made myself a priority. For most of my adult life, I put the needs of others before my own. Of course, as a wife and mother that's what we do, Once I had an empty nest, I should have realized it was time for me. When I turned 70, I realized that over half of my life was over. I wasn't happy. so I made some radical changes. I felt like I missed out on so much, but I had no one to blame except myself. Rebirth was the only word that came to mind. It's never too late for newness, for enlightenment, for another rebirth. I've had several rebirth experiences and for as long as I live, I'll welcome them. I will continue to evolve until the day I take my last breath.
every area of my life. I spent too many years upset with my husband, adult children, co-workers, supervisors, and even friends and family. The only person I should have been upset with is myself.
I didn't unleash the other woman in me until I was well into my sixties. I felt like I had a new lease on life! My husband thought I had lost my mind, but I assured him I was simply a better version of myself. I'm so happy I didn't choose to remain stagnant and unhappy. I walk more which has definitely helped my mental well-being and helps me to focus on what I can do instead of what I didn't do. I've already wasted too much time living frustrated. NO MORE! When I feel better, I think better. Younger ladies, LIVE YOUR LIFE without regrets.
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