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The theme of this month’s issue is “Plugged In”; and though I’m fairly certain that I’m the least technologically savvy person on the planet, when this theme has rolled around in past years, I’ve focused on the benefits (and challenges, in my case) of living in a digital world. However, this year, I’m taking a different approach. Even though it’s common knowledge that one should never discuss religion and politics, I can’t help myself— the media blitz covering the presidential primaries has lured me in. Let’s start with the Constitution. Its fundamental principle is that all power is entrusted to, and consequently derived from, the people. Abraham Lincoln perhaps summed it up better than anyone: America’s government is supposed to be “of the people, by the people, for the people.” How did we get so far off track? Somehow, it has evolved into government of the elites, by the bureaucrats, over the people. A nation that began as one in which its founding fathers were plugged in to the power of the people has turned into one in which its leaders are plugged in to power grabs, corruption, and special interest groups. Americans feel this disconnect, and they are angry. They believe politicians have failed to deliver on promises, that the system is rigged against them, and that they are being ignored—betrayed, even— by the very representatives they have elected to stand up for them. I remember an America that was just, democratic, powerful, and proud. I love that America—so much so that I can’t sing the national anthem or pledge allegiance to our flag without tearing up. It is that America that I long for, not the one in which students at public universities ban the display of Old Glory because it represents American exceptionalism or the one in which a college professor at yet another public university teaches his students

that our nation “is the greediest and most selfish country in the world.” The United States of America is in trouble. We’re the most divided we’ve been since the Civil War. We’re broke ($14.34 trillion in debt). Third-world countries secure their borders better than we do. America is heading off track, and, sadly, most presidential candidates seem to be strapping in and bracing for the train to derail. They certainly aren’t plugged in to what most Americans want: the right attitude to get America back on course. Americans want this country to be tough, bold, aggressive, and confident, and they want a president who is the same. Even though he led a nation even more divided and more in jeopardy than ours today, Abraham Lincoln described America as “the last, best hope of Earth.” We need a president like that—one who believes that America, for all her problems, is still worth fighting for. We need a president who will stand firm as hard decisions are made. We need a president who, like Lincoln, is plugged in to the greatness of this nation and who is an unapologetic champion of American ideals. I don’t know whether or not any of our presidential candidates are, or even could be, our next Abraham Lincoln. But I do know that Lincoln’s last, best hope is fading fast. It is my hope that whomever we elect next November will get plugged in to an attitude that will allow us to reverse course. It is my hope that our new president will believe in America and will believe in the principle of “We the people.” It is my last, best hope that whomever we elect in November, will get plugged in to our unique American spirit and dedicate himself, like Lincoln, to ensuring that government of the people, by the people, for the people, shall not perish from the Earth.

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LEADING THE WAY: Donna Ballas

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COVER STORY: Insuring What Matters Most

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SHE’S MY HERO: Mary Lou Bussolini

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SUCCESS STORY: The Chance To Dance

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Self

Navigating Divorce With The Best Resources

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Help A Child As A Guardian ad Litem

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MIND BODY SPIRIT: What Is Your Power Source?

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HERE SHE IS: Kathy McLeod

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Beauty

When To Toss Beauty Products

Family

Stay Plugged In By Unplugging Make Every Day Earth Day

Health

Technology Meets Fitness

THIS MONTH WE ASKED OUR CONTRIBUTORS:

What is your favorite gadget?

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tell us we spend a lot of time hooked up to our computers, our cellphones, our tablets, and TVs. The concern for many is that our social skills are deteriorating, especially for our youth who are getting “plugged in” during their early, formative years.

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However, according to the American Psychological Association (APA), most research has not supported this theory. “While time spent online does displace time spent with friends and family,” the APA reports, “frequent virtual communication has been shown to strengthen the quality of existing relationships.” Technology may be our friend, but as humans we need personal contact and interaction, too.

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So, next time you want to “plug in” to your family, try unplugging these: • Have dinner as a family without electronic

devices of any type (including television). Whether it’s around the kitchen table, at a local restaurant, or even at a picnic in the park, take the time to engage with phones off.

• While technically you are still “plugged in” when using the phone, try calling instead of texting your family and friends. Isn’t it much nicer to hear, “Mom, I love you,” rather than to read, “Later…xxo”?

• Have the entire family take a month-long break from Facebook and other social media. It gives you a chance to step back and live life, instead of just posting about it. You might be surprised how much more time in the day you have.

• Exercise without electronics. If you exercise with someone, engage with conversation. Or if you go it alone, simply be with your thoughts and the sounds of nature.

• Schedule game—board games, not videos— night with the family.

• Be more tangible and hands on. Read a physical book (with actual pages), for example, or do some crafting or home improvement projects.

• Get back to nature by taking the family camping or hiking. Experiencing the great outdoors is a must for our human brains; and uninterrupted time with family is priceless!

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AN LKN WOMAN WHO PERSONIFIES WHAT MAKES LAKE NORMAN WOMEN SO GREAT

How did you get plugged in to interior design? As a banking senior

vice president in charge of executive and leadership development and training, I felt there wasn’t enough time left for my family. Two years after an early retirement, I started RES Interiors in 2010. Ken and I had built six houses together—we’re working on number seven! I loved both the design and building processes, so I gravitated toward that. After a couple projects for friends, I took some color and design courses to supplement my practical experience.

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L K N TO W N : M O O R E S V I L L E HOUSEHOLD: HUSBAND KEN; DA U G H T E R S R I L E Y ( 1 8 ) A N D E M I LY ( 1 5 ) ; S O N S A M ( 1 3 ) ; A N D L A B R A D O O D L E M AG G I E

From where does the name RES come? My middle daughter, Emily, actually came up with it. She was 10, and said she had just the name: ‘RES Interiors…get it?’ She clarified: ‘Riley, Emily, Sam…R-E-S.’ How could I say no to that! It may not win any branding awards, but it sure does bring a smile to my face!

How has this career change been for the best? My previous

career required that I be away a lot. When I’d make it home, it took me a while to unwind and reconnect with my family. Now, I’ve had more time to actually plug back in to myself, my family, and my community. My home office allows me to stay in the Lake Norman area. I can be there when the kids come home from school and attend their after-school activities. The best part, though, is that I’m doing what I love every day!

What recharges you? In my free time, I love to run, be on the lake, and snow ski. We look forward to an annual trip to Colorado and Utah. I also love to read. The down time might not happen often, but it’s a great way to relax. In the fall, one of my favorite things to do is watch college football—especially my alma mater, the Clemson Tigers!

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I love the serenity the water provides, the true sense of community that exists, the commitment to family, and the relaxed nature of the people who call Lake Norman home.

Kathy McLeod, member of the Interior Design Society, owns RES Interiors in Mooresville, which focuses on renovations and new construction interior design needs. For more information, visit www.resinteriors.com.

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THE RISE IN POPULARITY

of High Intensity Interval Training, or H.I.I.T., is happening because it helps individuals reach their fitness goals faster than ever by maximizing calorie burn and building muscle in a shorter period of time, according to many recent studies. H.I.I.T. workouts involve a combination of short bursts of intense exercise, followed by a resting period. But what is even considered an “intense exercise”? How do individuals working out, whether first-time exercisers or seasoned athletes, know whether they are maximizing their workouts and hitting their maximum intensity level? Thanks to breakthroughs in exercise technology, tracking one’s workout intensity level is easier than ever, no matter the level of fitness. Heart rate monitors, worn around the chest or on the wrist, combined with Bluetooth technology, have become increasingly popular as an accurate workout tracking device. Today’s heart rate monitors track workouts in real time and display progress during the workout. Heart rate monitors can either be worn alone, depending on the device, or they can be synced with various exercise apps.    

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For example, when talking about a H.I.I.T. workout, to reach an “intense level,” the heart rate will peak above 84 percent of one’s maximum heart rate, which indicates that the wearer has entered his or her “anaerobic zone.” Since every person’s maximum heart rate is individually determined, reaching 84 percent of the maximum heart rate will be different for every single person. Thus, heart rate monitors allow the individual to ensure she is getting her own personal best workout— and not just following what other people (and other fitness levels) are doing. Then, during an active recovery interval, the heart rate should decrease as the individual returns to their “aerobic (fat burning) zone.” The heart rate monitor allows the individual to track all of these intervals throughout the entire workout. When the body has worked in this anaerobic zone for short bursts of time throughout the workout, it takes the body more energy to recover after the workout, resulting in even greater calorie burn.

Exercisers, as well as their coaches or instructors, now can truly understand whether they are actually pushing themselves hard enough—or too hard. Also, heart rate monitors allow you to track your progress as your fitness level

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improves. For example, a sign of improvement is how quickly one’s heart rate can recover from anaerobic to aerobic. Conversely, as people improve their workouts, they may find themselves needing to push harder to get back into that intense anaerobic zone. Today’s heart rate monitors are a way to ensure one’s workout is as efficient as possible, while also taking out much of the guesswork. No more, “Do I need to run faster?” or “Should I do more jump squats?” If you are going to work out, why not make it the best effort possible? OrangeTheory Fitness uses this heart rate-based training technology during its 1-hour workout that mixes endurance, strength, and power to help people reach their individual goals in a fun, upbeat class setting, ensuring that you are not overtraining or undertraining during any workout—but rather, making the most of that one session! OrangeTheory Fitness—Lake Norman is located at 20619 Torrence Chapel Rd., in Cornelius. For workout sessions and information, visit http://cornelius.orangetheoryfitness.com, or call 704.964.2557.

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beauty

The PAO, or Period After Opening, (a number followed by an M and an open jar symbol)

should appear on the product and will tell you when to discard.

Be especially careful with eye makeup. Bacteria and

fungi can grow in these and be transmitted to the eye. Also, according to the FDA, “a number of color additives approved for general cosmetic use are not approved for use in the area of the eye.”

Products with water as one of the first ingredients tend

to have a shorter shelf life because water fosters the growth of bacteria. Powders, on the other hand, lack moisture and last longer.

When to Toss Beauty Products While the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) does not require cosmetic manufacturers to put expiration dates on their product labels, it is important for consumers to be aware of shelf life. Product inefficacy and dangerous bacteria growth are two valid reasons to toss opened cosmetics when it’s time.

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2 to 3 months: Mascara Nail Files Loofahs Masks Peels

lotions in airtight, pump-like containers will stay fresher

longer because they are not exposed to air or the bacteria from your fingers.

Preservative-free or organic cosmetics have a shorter shelf

life so be more vigilant about replacing those on a regular basis.

If a product seems too oily, is discolored, or has a strange odor, go ahead and throw it out.

6 to 12 months: Concealer Liquid Liner Foundation Face Wash Serums

12 to 24 months: Lip Gloss Lip Stick Face Cream Body Soaps Sunscreen

24+ months: Eye and Lip Pencils Powders Lotions Nail Polish Hair Products

For more information on cosmetics and beauty products, visit the U.S. Food and Drug Administration at www.fda.org.

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Community starts with neighbors who care. That’s what our town is made of. State Farm® has a long heritage of helping out in the community. That’s why I’m proud to support Shirley's Angels.

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LKNW FEA T U RE

Leading The Way

“This mini boom box wo rks with your cellular Wi-Fi; it can go to th e beach and even underw ater!”

As we rise into leadership roles, it’s not always easy to navigate the leadership path. After all, there are as many leadership traits as there are leaders. LKN Woman talks to area leaders in the hope that we can learn from each other’s successes and failures in confronting leadership challenges. DONNA ASKEW BALLAS, Ballas Chiropractic

“I believe that leaders are there to serve and add value to their employees,” Donna says. “My leadership role is actually to help the office be successful by helping our employees and doctors to be successful.” That success begins early in one’s career, according to Donna. She asserts that as early as the job interview, one’s level of enthusiasm can make or break chances of even getting the job. “And if they talk disparagingly about a past employer,” she warns, “that’s never good.” After graduating from N.C. State University with a business degree, Donna was still considering a career in the medical field. An injury at 21 years old sent her to a chiropractor and she loved the natural approach to health and wellness. “I actually thought I might pursue becoming a chiropractor and had even gathered information on it,” she says. “Then, I married John, and now I help manage our chiropractic practice.”

DEFINE LEADERSHIP:

“Leadership is influence, nothing more and nothing less. Everything rises and falls on leadership.” BY: AMY HALLMAN | PHOTOGRAPHY BY: CHELSEA BREN

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BEST CAREER ADVICE: Get

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the end in mind.

Donna advises that leadership requires a strong sense of energy and enthusiasm. “Whatever you are doing, do it to the best of your ability,” she says. “Even if it is not what you want to do forever, remember you are doing it now.” So far, Donna’s career highlight has been becoming a John Maxwell-certified speaker, trainer, and coach. One example of the Maxwell philosophy is that one’s short-term goals can determine success. He writes: “to make wise decisions in key areas each day, you experience significant growth over time. That growth is what fuels your success.”1 Donna puts this philosophy into practice by teaching others about health and wellness. Also, she conducts leadership training for other businesses. She says: “When you help others get what they want, you will get what you want.” 1

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LIFE MANTRA: Your behind follows your mind; choose your thoughts wisely. WORK SNACK: Not

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I WISH I HAD MORE TIME:

with family and friends, to read, to sit by the water, to travel, and to pursue more business opportunities.

LAST THING YOU RESEARCHED ON THE INTERNET: The 7 levels

of organizational consciousness

IF YOU COULD MAKE OVER ANYTHING, WHAT WOULD IT BE? The medical paradigm

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Y A D Y R E V E MAKE

Let’s face it; our big blue planet is changing— and some of the most endangered spots on Earth could be disappearing altogether.

THE UNITED NATIONS EDUC ATIONAL, SCIENTIFIC , AND CULTURAL ORGANIZATION (UNESCO) WORKS TO IDENTIFY AND PROTECT THE PLACES THAT ARE VALUABLE TO HUMANKIND, BOTH CULTURALLY AND ENVIRONMENTALLY. EARTH DAY IS APRIL 22.

Everglades National Park

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Glacier National Park Located in northwest Montana, Glacier National Park encompasses more than one million acres and provides a pristine environment for a wide array of wildlife, including the grizzly bear, moose, and wolverine. Because of global warming, only 25 active glaciers remain in the park. Experts predict that if warming trends continue, all the glaciers will be gone by 2030.

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THE GOOD NEWS: Unfortunately, there is not

much good news for glaciers. Without a major climate change, the glaciers will continue to recede. However, restrictions on mining, logging, gas, and oil explorations are stringently enforced within park boundaries, and much is in place to protect and preserve this national treasure.

The Dead Sea

Referred to as the “river of grass,” Everglades National Park is an impressive expanse of wetlands and mangroves in South Florida, and is home to thousands of species of birds, reptiles, flora, and fauna. Once covering 11,000 square miles, this delicate ecosystem now makes up just 2,400 square miles, and makes UNESCO’s endangered list “because of serious and continuing degradation of its aquatic ecosystem.”

THE GOOD NEWS: In 2000, Congress enacted the Comprehensive Everglades Restoration Plan, a 30-year plan to restore, protect, and preserve this and the surrounding area.

The Dead Sea is 10 times saltier than the Atlantic Ocean, and its shores are more than 1,300 feet below sea level. For thousands of years, people have © Danuer | Dreamstime.com flocked to the water for its biblical significance as well as its healing minerals. Sadly, however, the Dead Sea is dying. The Jordan River, its tributary, is being taxed—people and industry are simply using it up. THE GOOD NEWS: In 2013, Israel, Jordan, and Palestine recently signed an agreement to build a pipeline to link the Red Sea to the Dead Sea to slow the shrinking water levels.

Antarctica

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While this frozen tundra may seem inhospitable, it is home to a varied ecosystem. With penguins, seals, whales, and more, Antarctica teems with life. Climate change and overfishing are changing this balance, threatening to disrupt its fragile ecosystem. THE GOOD NEWS: A treaty designates Antarctica as a “natural reserve, devoted to peace and science.” As the world’s natural laboratory, Antarctica is strictly protected because of the science it offers researchers—from anticipating climate change to how mankind is impacting the planet.

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Navigating Divorce With The Best Resources BY: JUDITH M. DALY

O V E R W H E L M I N G M AY B E T H E W O R D that comes to mind when you consider everything you will have to go through in the process of getting a divorce. Fortunately, you don’t need to do that alone. By starting with a “plugged-in” divorce attorney, he or she will refer you to known and trusted resources to help you manage your life before, during, and after divorce. Here are the types of resources to which a good attorney can lead you:

When you see a divorce attorney for the first time, perhaps you are only considering your options and what the impact of a divorce will be. If you are not ready for divorce and want to maintain the marriage, or if you are ready but having trouble taking the next step, a divorce attorney will happily refer you to a local counselor who can either provide marriage counseling or separation counseling.

Private Investigator

If you haven’t yet separated, your attorney may suggest that you need the help of a licensed private investigator to gather evidence as to infidelity. A referral to a private

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investigator and the succeeding interview will result in information that will enable you and your attorney to determine whether or not to proceed with litigation for alimony and/or alienation of affection.

Children’s Counselor

To promote the children’s well being in the face of the sometimes dramatic changes divorce introduces, counseling may be necessary. If you have children and the separation and divorce process seems to be taking an emotional toll on them, there are a number of good counselors that can impart practical advice and unbiased guidance to children as they have to deal with the changes in their lives.

Financial Counselor

Whether you are considering entering into a separation agreement and wonder how different decisions will affect your single financial picture, or the judge has divided the assets and you need to know how to manage your financial future, you could use the help of a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA). Should you choose to hire a CDFA, they will work closely with you and your attorney with issues in valuing and dividing property, retirement assets and pensions, spousal and child support, splitting the house, tax problems and solutions, and tax law and financial issues affected by the divorce. If necessary, they can provide expert witness testimony at a trial.

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Marriage Counselor

Mortgage Broker

If you are awarded the house in the settlement and are required or desire to refinance the home, a referral to a mortgage broker can be the best solution to find a lender. A mortgage broker represents many lenders that will consider your application, and in instances of possible difficulty in qualifying, a mortgage broker is more likely able to find you the financing.

Bankruptcy Attorney

Whether the breakup was caused by financial issues or the divorce caused financial issues, bankruptcy may need consideration. A recommendation to a bankruptcy attorney could help to gather needed information to determine how to proceed with the divorce, eliminating some of the anxiety and stress.

Judith M. Daly is a North Carolina State Bar Certified Family Law Specialist. For more information, contact her at Daly Family Law Firm at 704.878.2365.


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David Traugott State Farm Insurance and

Financial Services in Mooresville, at which her husband, David, is the business’s independent contractor agent. The couple built this company in the Lake Norman area after moving here two years ago. Kelly and David also have four children: daughters Alyssa (12), Meredith (11), and Brooklyn (9); and son Isaac (5).

when she was 15 years old. Her father was a pastor, and David’s family started attending their church in Florida. They became great friends. Before long, these high school sweethearts were part of a group of close friends that remain so to present day. The group also included three other couples—all married today. Two couples still live in Florida, and two live in North Carolina. They vacation together regularly, and their friendships are still very important to one another.

K E L LY M E T DAV I D

Kelly makes time to plug in with each of the children. “I’ll take the kids individually on dates like to get ice cream, go shopping, or get coffee. I volunteer in our elementaryaged classes once a month. I love to plan vacations—and make memories—with them,” she says. “We love to hike and paddleboard. We have a book of all the North Carolina Hikes to Waterfalls, and we’re working our way through all those hikes. We do movie nights; and we serve at our church as a family.” Time together—away from work and home—is important also for the couple to stay bonded. Kelly and David take evening walks around the block, enjoy regular date nights, and occasionally do an overnight get away. After 11 years in the ministry, David made a career change. He felt called to continue work in finance, a field in which he had earned a degree from the University of Central Florida years before. They decided it was time to make the big change for their family of six. The couple who once lived down the street from Kelly’s parents found their way to the Lake Norman area when David left the ministry. With friends in the area, they were drawn to the water. “David still ministers to people all the time, even within his work,” Kelly says. “And to see how happy he is being able to help others work toward financial freedom makes me happy, too.”

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“As a beginner woodworker, this Kreg helps me join joints and drill hidden pocket joints.”

Recently, Kelly found a note that David had input into the potential client database. The note read to follow up with a potential client, whose mother was having brain surgery. Kelly says she was moved, but not surprised, to see that David wanted to follow up with someone who is not even a client. “That’s the kind of guy he is,” she smiles. “Many times, he’s written me a note to buy and send someone a copy of the Bible.” Managing such details is what Kelly likes doing. She is a self-professed “list person.” This also explains how the couple’s business relationship works well. She claims David is a natural people person, which plays well with her penchant for business, data, systems, and marketing. As many women can relate, Kelly jokes that her cellphone is her brain. Her favorite app is Wunderlist. She explains how she can make lists for categories such as different stores, movies to watch, and appointments to make. The bonus is she can share certain lists with David so they can co-create the grocery list—or shop it! Who doesn’t love the ability to create

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a Christmas wish list for the children as she learns their wishes and then to be able to share that list with Grandma with a single click when she is finished? These time savers allow Kelly to do something else that is important in maintaining a business and a family: she can take moments for herself to recharge. “Because I am an introvert,” she says, “I’ve learned that I need time alone to rejuvenate so that I can be intentionally plugged in to the other areas.” Kelly refreshes her own system by reading— lately, books by Jen Hatmaker—and with woodworking. Most recently, she

read an inspirational book about the value of spending time with family and friends around the dinner table. This causes Kelly to naturally talk about her longest passion: woodworking. Her father had a workshop in the backyard, in which Kelly fondly remembers spending a lot of time. He’d tinker with different projects; and what Kelly originally thought might be a boy’s hobby became

much more than that to her. “For Christmas, I made my sister an arrow for wall décor, and I fixed a frame of a mirror we have at the office,” Kelly says. “I really want to build a rustic farm table. The message in Bread & Wine about the importance of feeding ourselves and one another—and that reciprocal nature—has encouraged me to start that project sooner than later.”

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Doctors KARA LEMBO and

LINDSAY MONTGOMERY

of Lembo & Montgomery Family & Cosmetic Dentistry, have received the inaugural North Carolina Women Leadership in Action Award for their outstanding leadership, iconic global presence, and inspiring business know-how. They were honored in March at the Career Mastered: Women’s History Month Leadership in Action Awards dinner and program at the Charlotte City Club. The Lake Norman Chamber awarded TRICIA SISSON , with her husband, Brian, the Robert T. Cashion Business Persons of the Year Award at its annual meeting. The Range at Lake Norman, which opened in 2011, with 18 employees, is the only femaleowned gun range in North Carolina.  KERI WASS has opened Caring Transitions of Lake Norman in Huntersville. Keri is a certified relocation and transition specialist (CRTS®), helping seniors and their families in senior-move management, downsizing, and estate-sale services.

NICOLE GREER, PPCC ,

recently earned a bachelor’s degree in professional organizational development from Lenoir Rhyne University. Nicole is a Lake Norman life, leadership, and business coach.

Realtor and Broker JULIE CASH , and The Cash Group, affiliated with Keller Williams Realty, have moved. Their new office is at The Hatler House on The Point, at the corner of Brawley School Road and Chuckwood Road.

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Owner BARBRA BRYAN and The Goddard School in Mooresville donated more than $5,200 to the Pinky Swear Foundation, which financially supports families whose children are fighting cancer.

TIFFANY BROWN-BUSH

has created the F4L Diva Protein Bar, a sugar- gluten- soy- and dairy-free, Paleo-Vegan protein bar. Tiffany is a North Carolina licensed professional counselor, and is the creator and founder of Fit 4 Life Studio in Charlotte. She is an integrative and holistic mental health therapist. Love You Back Boutique owner AMBER FADIO has opened her second location, in Cornelius. The boutique offers a variety of options in fashionable clothing and charming accessories at affordable prices.

Centerpiece Home Staging designer LISA MCCOY won the Over the Top award for extreme design excellence for her “Christmas at the Lake” design. This design competition and fundraising event was sponsored by the North Mecklenburg Woman’s Club.

LAURA BORAK is now partner

and co-owner of Big Hat Larry’s Guitars, Music, & More in Mooresville with Chris Montgomery. A graduate of CPCC and previously contracted as a graphic artist for large-scale corporate brand packaging, Laura also designed the store’s 16-foot guitar and winding keyboard mural. She brings new marketing initiatives, a restructured consignment program, increased inventory, piano lessons, and art classes.

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SAT., APRIL 16:

9TH ANNUAL LADIES TEA & TOUR Billy Graham Library, 4330 Westmont Dr., Charlotte Two seatings: 11 a.m. & 2:30 p.m.

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Best-selling author, speaker, and singer, Sheila Walsh will give an inspiring word at this event that includes music and fellowship with friends. Each ticket includes a guided tour after the tea. Preferred seating is $40, regular seating is $30.

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ART ON THE GREEN Davidson Village Green, 216 South Main St., Davidson April 15: 6-9 p.m.; April 16: 10 a.m.5 p.m.; & April 17: Noon-4 p.m.

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4TH ANNUAL IREDELL GARDEN FAIR: LEARN TO GROW, GROW TO LEARN 444 Bristol Dr., Statesville 9 a.m. – 2 p.m.

This free, rain-or-shine event, sponsored by the Iredell Extension Master Gardener Volunteer Association, will host 50 local vendors with a plant sale, yard and garden accessories, hands-on activities, demonstrations, and speaker workshops. For more information, visit iredellgardenfair.weebly.com.

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This popular annual art festival brings many to enjoy art, live music, and food. Artists throughout the region will have art displayed and for sale. A local-art gallery crawl will include live performances of jazz, blues, and rock music.

AN EVENING FOR DOVE HOUSE The Charles Mack Citizen Center, 215 N. Main St., Mooresville 5-10 p.m.

SATURDAY, APRIL 23:

EARTH DAY CELEBRATION Robbins Park, 17738 W. Catawba Ave., Cornelius 10 a.m.-Noon This Cornelius PARC event includes demonstrations and information from Davidson College Herpetology Lab and Lake Norman Wildlife Conservationists. You can learn how to install a butterfly garden, improve wildlife habitats, and go on nature walks or do arts and crafts. © Charlieaja | Dreamstime.com

This 15th annual event will have live music, cuisine from at least a dozen local restaurants, and a live auction— emceed by Larry Sprinkle. Individual tickets are $125 each, and corporate tables for 8 are $1,200. This event is the major annual fundraiser for Dove House Children’s Advocacy Center, which provides services and support for child victims of sexual abuse and their nonoffending family members. 


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BE SCENE LAKE NORMAN WOMAN is getting out and about each month, looking for great events and the fabulous and exciting Lake Norman people who are making them happen! So next time you’re at a chamber event, a new business in the area, or just out having fun, look for Lake Norman Woman and our camera. Who knows, you just might find yourself in next month’s

Jack and Robin Salzman recognized for their support at Davidson College men’s basketball game

LKNW’s Amy at Hillary Clinton’s campaign rally in Charlotte Hillary Clinton at her campaign rally in Charlotte

“SCENE WITH LAKE NORMAN WOMAN!”

LKNW’s Chelsea, Dana, Stephanie, & Amy at monthly staff lunch

LKNW’s Amy and son at “field trip” to Donald J. Trump presidential rally in Concord

LKNW’s Amy with Karen Patterson at the Happy Galentine’s Day homeless women’s fundraiser

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LKNW’s Amy at Donald J. Trump presidential rally in Concord

LKNW’s Amy with event coordinator Stacy Phillips and event creator and Mecklenburg County Commissioner Pat Cotham at Happy Galentine’s Day homeless women’s fundraiser

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Mary Lou Bussolini SHE’S MY HERO:

LKN TOWN:

Mooresville NOMINATED BY:

Jake Bussolini, her husband

REASON FOR NOMINATION:

“Mary Lou has been my hero ever since she came into my life 22 years ago as a helping hand after I lost my wife to cancer. Our friendship eventually turned into a loving relationship, and we married three years later.”

She is my biggest fan.

She has encouraged me to pursue my hobby of outdoor writing and has been my supporter and most serious critic, helping me to publish seven books.

She is goal-driven.

She constantly strives to improve as a person and as a wife.

She is my rock.

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While tending to her business nearly 24/7, she continues to place primary emphasis on the family with the belief that family is the cement for a successful future.

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She knows what’s important in life.

Not only was she instrumental in helping me get through the aftermath of my first wife’s death, she showed strength and loving concern when I, too, battled cancer.

She never stops!

Mary Lou inspires me with her seemingly unending energy and constant motivation to improve. She makes sure that we both keep our minds and our bodies active, even in retirement!

WHO’S YOUR HERO?

If you have an LKNWoman hero in your life, tell us all about her. Email Dana at dana@lakenormanwoman.com with My Hero in the subject line.


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the volunteer Guardian ad Litem (GAL) will do is to get to know the child. The GAL will want to know the child’s needs and wishes. Communication will begin with the school, the Department of Social Services caseworker, the detective, and various other people involved with the child. All this information will go into a report for the judge, along with the recommendations of the Guardian ad Litem.

THE FIRST THING

Help a CHILD as a

GUARDIAN AD LITEM Have you ever read a newspaper story about a child who was abused or neglected and wondered what will happen to this child? Who looks out for this child’s best interest? If a child is lucky, her case is assigned to a volunteer Guardian ad Litem. BY: KATHY WILKES

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I currently work with five children who are in DSS custody. They range in ages from elementary school to high school. Some of them live at the Iredell Home for Children, some with relatives, and some with a church family. Each child has different circumstances and wishes. Two of my children asked to finish out the school year in their own high school instead of being transferred. The judge agreed. One teenager asked to be allowed to visit his father who was incarcerated. The judge agreed. One asked to live with an aunt and uncle; again the judge agreed. I’ve discussed career options with all my teenagers and hopefully helped them to make good decisions. I’ve also listened to their hopes and dreams for their future. Surprisingly, even though they have gone through severe neglect and abuse, they still want what most kids want: to have a good job, to earn lots of money, to have a home, to get married, and to have children of their own. I find it sad that the perpetrators—the parents—have representation in court. They each either hire an attorney or are assigned one. The victim, the child, would not have any representation in court if not for the Guardian ad Litem program. Volunteers are the voice of the child in court. The Guardian ad Litem program was established in 1983 by the North Carolina General Assembly. Each county in North Carolina has a Guardian ad Litem program. The Statesville office is located next to the Court House and serves both Iredell and Alexander Counties. There are three paid employees and 90 GAL volunteers working from this office. They serve approximately 260 children. Presently there are 41 children in Iredell waiting for a Guardian ad Litem. The Iredell GAL program needs more volunteers. The requirement to be a GAL is to be an adult who desires to help a child in need. This is one program that doesn’t ask for your money, only your time. To volunteer, please call 704.832.6621. You will find it to be a most rewarding experience because you will be making a difference in the life of a child. Kathy Wilkes, a retired Charlotte Mecklenburg Schools assistant principal, is an Iredell County Guardian ad Litem volunteer. To volunteer in Iredell County, call 704.832.6621. To find a GAL office near you visit www.volunteerforgal.org, or call 1.800.982.4041. 


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AUNTIE DENNY’S

Chicken Chili Verde CONTRIBUTED BY: DR. JODIE SILVER

“I was introduced to this chili recipe a few years ago at a family reunion in Hawaii. The best part about this recipe, other than its tangy taste and ease to make it, was that all the kids loved it! It is a favorite in our house, and we make it all year long. I made 8 gallons for a recent chili contest and every drop was gone. We won the award for Most Original Chili. Thanks, Aunt Denny!”

SERVES 4 2 FULL

(4 halves) organic chicken breasts

1 LARGE onion, chopped GREEK

olive oil

SEVERAL cloves of garlic, finely chopped or pressed CHICKEN broth, reserved from cooking breasts 1-2

gluten-free vegetable bouillon cubes

1-2 CANS of green chiles (no MSG or wheat), seeded and chopped

1-2 PACKS of green enchilada sauce (no MSG or wheat) 2 CANS

of garbanzo beans, drained and rinsed well  

1 LARGE bunch of cilantro; reserve some sprigs for garnish LIMES GREEK

yogurt or sour cream

GREEN

taco sauce

Place chicken breasts in cold water, cover, bring to boil, turn off heat, steep for 15 minutes, drain, shred, and chop finely while still warm. Sauté onions in Greek olive oil. Add garlic when the onions are becoming golden brown. Add green chiles and green enchilada sauce, and simmer for 2 minutes. Add 1-2 cups reserved chicken broth and vegetable bouillon cube(s). Amount and proportion of liquid are to your desired taste and consistency. Simmer and add more liquid, if desired. Add the chicken, beans, and cilantro. Add lime juice, to taste.

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Serve with rice or corn chips. Garnish with yogurt or sour cream, green taco sauce, lime wedges, cilantro sprigs, and a green hot sauce. Note: My aunt cooks brown rice with a clove, a cinnamon stick, and a cardamom seed. It gives the rice a nice flavor and goes well with this dish.

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Jodie Silver, DC, owns and practices at Southeast Chiropractic in Denver. She also holds cooking demonstrations to promote healthy eating habits. Visit her website at www.southeastchiro.com/denver.


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IN THE

kitchen

Cracking The Code of

Olive Oils

Virgin olive oil

Pure olive oil

Light olive oil

This is the highest quality oil and is extracted from olives through a process called “cold pressing,” which means the oil is removed using only pressure, not heat. This is the purest form of olive oil and has the most health benefits. It also has the lowest acidity (under 1 percent). This is what you would want to drizzle over fresh mozzarella!

Also a purer form of oil, virgin varieties are made from the first pressing. Slightly riper olives are used, and there is typically a lighter flavor with 2 percent (or less) acidity. Like extra-virgin, it will start to smoke at low temperatures, so instead, it is often used in salad dressings and other dishes where you want to actually taste the fruit. 

Labeled simply “olive oil,” this is a mix of refined olive oil and virgin olive oil. If the original oil is not good enough to be virgin or extra-virgin, it is processed to remove the bad odors and flavors. Because heat is used during the extraction stage, this oil contains fewer antioxidants.

This variety is lighter in flavor and is great for baking since you usually don’t want to taste olives in baked goods. It has a high smoke point, so it is also good for sautéing, grilling, and frying.

For more information on olive oils, check out The Olive Oil Times at www.oliveoiltimes.com or The International Olive Oil Council at www.internationaloliveoil.org.

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Extra-virgin olive oil

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M A N Y FA C TO R S G O I N TO making olive oils: the variety of the olive, the location and soil, harvest time and method, ripeness, and pressing technique. The International Olive Oil Council (IOOC) sets quality standards that most countries use to grade oils. Like with fine wines, there are many varietals, each with its own unique characteristics. Olive oils also have certain health benefits, containing monounsaturated fats, antioxidants, and Omega-3 fatty acids. While the wonderful world of olive oils can be complex, here is a taste so you can plug in to the basics:


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Michele Edwards STUDIO 73 DANCE HUNTERSVILLE, NC

The Chance to Dance

“I always have a toothpick because I’m obsessed with getting food out of my teeth after a meal.”

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W H I L E DA N C E H A S

always been a part of her life, Michele Edwards, owner of Studio 73 in Huntersville, once believed she would become an FBI agent or undercover police officer. However, despite having a degree in criminal justice, dance was her true calling. “Dance has always been my outlet,” Michele explains. “It allows me to put everything from daily life aside and focus on movement, music, skill, determination, self-esteem, and exercise.” During college, Michele met her future husband and the reality of being a wife and mother set in. “I quickly realized,” she continues, “that, for me, being part of the law enforcement

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community probably was not the best path. Shortly after I married, I decided to open a dance studio and share my passion with others.” Michele bought the property off Parr Drive and Highway 73 in May 1999 with an expected move-in date of April 2000. Meanwhile, she rented space at a local golf club where her students tap danced on pieces of plywood and performed ballet and jazz skills on small, carpeted areas. “Although we were eager to have our own building,” Michele says, “the temporary studio worked well at the time. Parents could enjoy the golf club and snack bar while waiting on their

young dancers, and students were enthusiastic just to be enrolled in dance, regardless of location! When we moved into the new building, I had no idea that 17 years later the business would be as successful as it is. I’m proud knowing the impact the studio has made on thousands of dancers.” Michele’s mother had enrolled her in dance classes when she was only 3 years old. Little did she know that dance would become such an integral part of Michele’s life. In college, she was chosen as a member of the Appalachian State Dance Team. While attending a national dance competition with the ASU dancers, she was selected by the National Dance Association

as an instructor with their summer dance programs. This allowed Michele to teach and choreograph dance throughout the Southeast. When she moved back home to attend UNC Charlotte, she was a Charlotte Hornets Honey Bee for the 1996-97 season. “My daily motivation comes from the excitement and joy of each dancer who walks through our doors,” Michele shares. “I remember being that 3-year-old little dancer and walking into the studio for the first time—being in awe of the older dancers and teachers. It made me feel magical. I thrive on seeing that same wonderment and excitement in our students’ smiles.” With her love for dance firmly entrenched in her heart and soul, Michele is grateful that her passion is her career. She is also content to leave her pirouettes at the studio and enjoy downtime with the family: husband Jaren, daughter Finley Claire (13), and son Easton Eli (10). “We all have such busy schedules throughout the week,” she says, “so that time at home, gathered around the table for a meal is harmony for me.”


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better me

better you

better world

Mind Body Spirit “My Pigeon River Pottery bacon cooker makes the bacon seemingly healthier, as it collects drippings vs. cooking it in them.”

What Is Your Power Source? BY: RACHELE CAPUTO

A S M Y P H O N E B AT T E R Y dropped below 10 percent, I had that uneasy feeling in my stomach—the one you get when you have forgotten your charger. I momentarily halted my panic and reflected back to when that would not have mattered to me. Now, we live in a time where we are not lacking for things to be plugged into 24/7. I would guess most of us struggle more with being “unplugged.” We are so seemingly connected to one another, yet I encounter people every day that are feeling empty, anxious, and depressed because they are deprived of meaningful connections. Recently experiencing the lack of cellphone coverage during a trip to the mountains was a gentle reminder of why I needed to be unplugged from the things that held me captive, and more plugged into the things that really matter—my true power sources. When we start feeling weary from the daily grind, it is critical to get plugged back into ourselves. Try this to power up:

• Practice positive self-talk. When you find yourself thinking negatively, tell yourself to stop! Replace the negative with positive thoughts that are gentle and encouraging.

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• Try humor. Humor helps release endorphins in the brain that produce feelings of well-being. Even after the laughter stops, breathing slows, blood pressure drops, and muscular tension decreases. • Get moving. Regular physical exercise can contribute significantly to a positive mindset. Aerobic activity increases blood flow to the brain, decreases stress, and sharpens your thinking. • Cue up some music. Music can change your mindset; a good beat releases endorphins and picks up your mood while some calm, soothing music relaxes you. The other power source I need is my relationship with God. When I reconnect daily with God, my spirit, mind, and body are renewed. The Apostle Paul tells us in Ephesian 3:20 that we have a “power that works in us.” The power of God is similar to electrical outlets in our house—nothing happens until we plug into it. The best

way to reconnect to God is to find a quiet place and let go of negative thoughts and emotions—release them to Him. Brain activity during meditation and prayer shifts us from the stress-prone, right-frontal cortex to the calmer left-frontal cortex. Take time each day to count your blessings. Make a list, or keep a gratitude journal. Appreciating the good things in this way can make your world better and recharge your spirit. And finally, don’t forget to take time to be plugged into others. Here are some simple ways to do this: • Reach out. When you’re feeling negative or depressed, it’s easy to become isolated. Being connected to encouraging and positive people can recharge your spirit. • Help others. Volunteering or performing random acts of kindness connects you to others and can give you a satisfying feeling of accomplishment. As much as our tech gadgets need power to function, so do we. Be intentional about plugging into the power sources that truly matter.

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