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Camryn Bryant
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Editor's Note How I learned to love my body
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Breaking Beauty Standards
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Change your image of Self Care
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You'll Come out of it Eventually
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Sneakers of the Season
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You don't need a Boyfriend to be an It- Girl
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THANK YOU TO THE AMAZING GIRLS THAT WROTE FOR H.O.B. THIS MONTH
LILLIE
PANNELL
HOW I LEARNED TO LOVE MY BODY PAGE : 8
CARA
BEARDEN
BREAKING BEAUTY STANDARDS PAGE: 12
MADISON
COCHRAN
CHANGE YOUR IMAGE OF SELF CARE PAGE: 18
WRITERS WRITERS WRITERS WRITERS WRITERS WRITERS WRITERS WRITERS GRACE
LOWELL
YOU'LL COME OUT OF IT EVENTUALLY PAGE: 22
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editors letter Welcome to the September Edition of House of Beverly. This edition is super special to me because it's the start of a brand new season. I love the month of September as it represents the end of summer and fall brings new opportunities and growth. Initally I struggled with coming up with a theme for this month's issue until I found out that September is National Self Care Awareness Month. So this month's issue is dedicated to self care and self acceptance. Who doesn't deserve a little bit more #selflove in their life.
xoxo,
Camryn
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trigger
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this issue discusess body image and briefly touches on the subject of eating disorders.
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trigger
warning:
this issue discusess body image and briefly touches on the subject of eating disorders.
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september: B | 4
Self–Care Awareness Month.
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LET'S TALK
BODY POSITIVITY B|6
featuring stories by: lillie pannell &Â cara bearden
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HOW I LEARNED TO LOVE MY BODY LILLIE PANNELL
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I hear the term “self-love”
I celebrated the things I hated most
constantly and
about myself by emphasizing them in
preach the importance of the
the clothes I wear. More crop tops
word to my peers. I expressed
and low-rise jeans were added to my
the need to practice self-love in
closet. I ditched the idea that looking
every way possible. The funny
a certain way will be the only way of
thing was that I didn’t practice
finding eternal happiness. I then
what I preached. There is no step
began following body positivity
to step guide on how to love who
accounts and preaching
you are but there are practices
EVERYWHERE that loving what you
that can help you start treating
got is the most important. People
that body in the mirror as a
began telling me stories of their
person, not an object in which
newfound confidence with wearing
you tear apart. I would look in the
what they please and loving what
mirror and hate what I see.
they got unapologetically.
Society taught me that rolls,
I developed my own sense of style
extra belly fat, and being more
and ideas. With the new love for my
on the muscular side was
body... creativity and complete
wrong. So, I took a step back
confidence in who I am came with it.
and thought about what if we
It was a wonderful surprise package
lived in a world where these
deal. It isn’t an easy road, but it is an
things were celebrated. I thought
important road to take. The best
about how these ideas of the
decision I ever made was looking in
“perfect body” are forever
the mirror that chilly April day and no
changing. 20 years ago, the
longer apologizing for what I
“perfect body” was completely
couldn’t fix but celebrating my
different from what we consider
“quote on quote” imperfections. You
today. I began to look at myself
are a beautiful,
like I was the new change in
healthy, ethereal human being who
society's views of a good body.
deserves to be loved by you.
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breaking beauty standards. CARA
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BEARDEN
The phrase “love yourself” was always
Even some nights I would get home
such a cliche for me throughout my life.
from practice and
I never understood that the message
be starving, but I did not feel like
behind it was so powerful; that is, until I
eating because I thought it would
actually began to love myself. Growing
make me look bloated. Early
up, I always had something about my
sophomore year, there were
body that I could not stand for a point
multiple instances where I had been
of time. When I was younger, I thought I
targeted for my body by some of
was too tall and I would get upset over
my guy friends and I felt so
the fact that I stood out from everyone
defeated. Instead of being
else. Throughout middle school, I was so
motivated by the hate, I just shut
embarrassed of my acne and the way I
down. For months, I felt ashamed
was built. I would say seventh and
and a little lost with myself, but
eighth grade were definitely my worst
luckily I had some of the most
years, between the hateful words and
amazing girl friends and parents to
lack of self confidence. A lot of boys,
pull me out of that. It was not
even my friends would call me a “man”
exactly them addressing my
because I had become so muscular from
insecurities, but more just them
being an athlete. All I wanted was for
being there for me. If I could take
my legs and arms to be scrawny and
anything away from what I have
boney, like my friends. As I went through
been through, it would be to listen
puberty, not only did I thicken out, but
to what you know is true. I had
also I lost some of my motivation to work
always been so caught up in what
out. Up until junior year I was still
others said, that I never realized I
playing basketball year round and
was perfectly healthy and striving
working out seven days a week, but
honestly. For any girl that has ever
there were many times where I felt like it
felt self-conscious about their body
was not paying off. Getting ready for
or the way they look, just know that
school in the morning was a struggle
you are
because I felt horrible whenever I looked
perfect no matter what society
in the mirror. No matter what outfit I put
thinks. Beauty standards are so
on I was worried about if I looked skinny
unrealistic and degrading, please
enough.
never feel as if you are not enough.
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CHANGE YOUR IDEA OF SELF CARE MADISON COCHRAN
Let’s be real: your self-care routine cannot consist solely of doing a face mask. We both know this. Sure, it makes you feel productive for about 15 minutes, and, depending on how much you shelled out for that face mask, it gives you skin ranging from chemically peeled to exactly the same as when you put the mask on. But once you’ve thoroughly annihilated your pores, the relaxation is over. You don’t carry that energy with you throughout the rest of the day. Now there’s nothing inherently wrong withMadison doing a face mask. A little bit more in-depth makeover Cochran can definitely boost your mood. But that boost only lasts a little while. You want whatever you designate as being part of your self-care routine to gradually reduce your stress and improve your mood for the long-term. Of course, finding things that give you long term benefits can be tricky, and there’s really no formula for figuring out what’s going to work best for you. A first word of advice: if you try something and hate it, find something else. I’ve tried enough selfcare activities to know that if it feels like a chore, all the good it’s supposed to do goes away. I switch up my self-care routine pretty frequently (I get bored really easily), but here’s some of the things that were super helpful for me.
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MEDITATION Not just a bit for Disney sitcoms. A fifteen minute visualization exercise before bed is ridiculously effective. This is really good for improving sleep quality and providing an overall sense of calm.
GO FOR A WALK Self-explanatory. Not my personal favorite, but exercising definitely helps improve your mood if done frequently, and getting a bit of fresh air doesn’t hurt.
SEE A FRIEND Even if it means cutting a deadline a little closer, taking a break from my day to see my friends always reduces my stress level. At least for me, that happy feeling I get when I’m with them carries over into the rest of my day.
JOURNAL Ramble endlessly. Write down everything you’re feeling. None of it has to make sense. But by the end, you’ll realize it’s like you’ve let go of a lot of your emotions. Putting them into words this way will help you sort through what you’re feeling. If you do this often enough, you should notice that you’re able to deal with your emotions a lot more easily than you could beforehand. I recommend this especially for when you’re going through a bit of a rough patch.
AFFIRMATIONS Talking to yourself in the mirror is kind of weird, but writing down some positive statements about yourself can really help with your confidence.
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KNOW YOUR HTROW
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you'll come out of it eventually GRACE LOWELL
Here’s a fact, relationships are messy. That’s not even limited to romantic relationships; relationships with friends, family, classmates, etc. They. Are. All. Messy. One of the inevitable things about romantic relationships though, are breakups. They hurt. A lot. Despite this hurt, there’s a lot of really good things that can come out of breakups, and a lot of these things can eventually lead you to feel better about yourself and your view on relationships. Let’s go back to July 2020, It was around 11:00P.M. and I had just gotten off FaceTime with my girlfriend of 10 months. A few minutes later, I get a text.My heart dropped. “Can we talk?” The rest you can guess what happened. I was completely heartbroken, I had dedicated 10 months to her only to be broken up with over text. After a few weeks of crying, binging Criminal Minds, and taking a few too many trips to CVS for ice cream, I finally made the decision that I needed to get myself in check and accept the fact that it was time to move on.Here’s my best advice on how to move on
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and accept yourself after those painful breakups.
ACCEPT THAT IT HAPPENED FOR A REASON
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You’ve heard this before, no doubt. But this time you need to hear it and believe it. It might have seemed like the best
relationship you had ever been in, but the universe thinks otherwise. There are better things coming your way, people, opportunities,
etc. Accepting the fact that you
and your ex broke up for a reason is the number-one way to open yourself up to these new things.
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REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE NOT YOUR MISTAKES Remember that you are not your mistakes. No relationships are perfect. Mistakes and slip-ups are expected and in my opinion, necessary for development. But despite this, you can’t beat yourself up over every little mistake you may or may not have made in the time you were with your ex. These small things do not define who you are as a person. I’m gonna say that again, your mistakes do not define who you are as a person. No matter how bad it was, you are your own person who is stronger than
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU
3 4 5 This one is a given, but surrounding yourself with friends and family is
any mistakes you’ve made.
HAVE A GOOD PICKME-UP PLAYLIST In my opinion, this one is crucial. Making a playlist that has some songs to boost your mood is such a good way to let
key to mending your heart and
out stress. Personally, I have a few pick-me-up playlists for
mind. Go out with your friends and
different moods. When I’m driving or getting ready for the
take a day to get your mind off of
day, I LOVE listening to female rap artists like Megan Thee
everything going on. Do something
Stallion, Doja Cat, SZA, and Nicki Minaj, their music boosts
spontaneous and have a good
my confidence and makes me feel great about myself.
laugh. If you think you’re ready, talk
When I’m getting some work done for school or with
to people you trust about how
friends, I like listening to upbeat alt rock/indie songs. Some
you’re feeling. Having a good
of my current favorites to listen to are Misterwives,
support system is so crucial to
Mxmtoon, and Harry Styles. Having good music to get up
putting you back on your feet after a breakup.
and dance or sing to really helps a lot when you’re stuck in
REMEMBER THAT THINGS WILL GET BETTER
I’m a firm believer in the mantra “time heals all wounds”,
there’s no allotted window of time you’re given to move on. Everyone is different and everyone takes their own time to
process their emotions. Don’t let other people influence the time you take improving yourself. If you only need 3 days, that’s okay. If it takes you a week, a month, a year, that's
okay too. Moving on helps you understand who you are and whether you can see it or not, will help you improve as a
person. Remember that this pain is temporary, and that you have some amazing things in front of you.
a sad mood.
Even with all of these tips, moving on can be hard. But having enough support and perseverance to better yourself from it can completely change your perspective on life and relationships. So the next time you find yourself in this situation, remember that good things are on the way and everything will get better with time.
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SNEAKERS OF THE SEASON
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YOU DON'T NEED A BOYFRIEND TO BE AN IT-GIRL
BY: CAMRYN BRYANT
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I will never forget the time one of my closest friends confided in me about her boy problems. She expressed how terrible she felt when guys would notice all of her friends and not her. She described all of her friends as “it-girls” and told me how much she wanted to be like them. To her, and to many teenage girls around the world, being an “it-girl” means you have everything. They’re the girls with the seemingly perfect life, and of course the perfect guy. And even if they’re single, you can bet your bottom dollar, that their dms are full of guys that want to talk to them. Like my friend, my whole life, I’ve been invisible to guys. I’ve even watched the guys that I’ve liked get with my friends. Ouch. I always had the idea that once I got a boyfriend, I would automatically be elevated to “it-girl” status. I thought that the grass would be a little bit greener, and the sun would shine a little bit brighter. It would be a one way pass to get everything I wanted.
I believed that getting a boyfriend would be the missing piece of the puzzle in my life. I thought that being in a power couple, would transform me into an “itgirl”. Over the past few weeks I’ve done a lot of soul searching. I have realized that the reason why I looked forward to being a part of a power couple, was because I felt as though I couldn't be powerful on my own.When I first started high school, I had aspirations of what my experience would look like. But, I never dreamed of accomplishing them on my own. I always felt as though, I needed to be in a pair, to get what I wanted. Looking back, I am extremely grateful that I never did get into a relationship. If I did, I probably wouldn’t know how to be independent. When I look at my life now, I feel as though I’ve accomplished so much without a boy by my side. And I’m super proud of myself. So if you’re doubting your worth because of the lack of a relationship in your life, know that you are an “it-girl” and you don’t need a boy by your side to validate that. You are strong enough to stand on your own. The boy will come later. :)
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