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Letter from the editor

Dear Friend,   This  magazine  is  a  beautiful  collaboration   between  the  ladies  that  we  currently    have  in   our  group.       As  we  approach  the  Holiday  Season,  our  hope   is  to  share  with  you  some  tips  &  tricks,  and   stories.   Where  we  still  have  a  lot  of  room  for  growth   and  addition  of  diversity,  I  love  the  women   we  have  represented  here,  and  look  forward   to  sharing  them  with  you.    I  hope  you  enjoy  this  issue  as  much  as  I  did.   Have  a  lovely  end  of  the  year!   Myhriah  Young  

We didn’t  get  enough  submissions  for  a  Holiday  Colors  article,  but  

I wanted  to  show  off  PattyLynn’s  pretty  Jamberry  nails!!  


My idea of Christmas,   whether  old-­‐fashioned  or  modern   is very simple:   Loving  others.  

-­‐Bob Hope  


Table of Contents

Winter 2019  


Letter from  the  Editor  

By Myhriah  Young  




Magical Christmas  Pictures  

By Kika’s  Photography  


The Happy  Holiday  Gift-­‐Giving  Guide  &  To  Re-­‐gift  or  Not  Re-­‐Gift  

By PattyLynn  Gossman  

13 Stress-­‐Free  Holiday  Event    

By Cara  Kangas  


18 Beautiful  Surprise    

By Myhriah  Young  

21 A  Gift  for  the  Hidden  You:  The  Gorgeous,  Smiling,  Carefree,  Kick-­‐Butt  You    

By Kathy  Tarbell  

25 Fall-­‐in-­‐Love  Fridays    

By  Kandie  King  


Contributors: PattyLynn  Gossman   The  Happy  Holiday  Gift  Giving  Guide   To  Re-­‐Gift  or  Not  to  Re-­‐Gift   www.everskin.com/with/pattylynn     Kristina  Shroeder   Photos  on  pages:  6,  10,    24   Kika’s  Photography   Instagram:  @kikasphoto     Kandie  King   Model  in  Beautiful  Surprise   Fall-­‐In-­‐Love  Fridays     Cara  Kangas   Stress-­‐Free  Holiday  Event     Kathy  Tarbell   A  Gift  for  the  Hidden  You-­‐Article  &  Photos   www.mthoodphotography.com/intimates   503-­‐810-­‐3633  


One of the greatest lessons we can learn from a child,

is to see the world through their eyes of “Wonder.”


The Happy Holiday Gift Giving  Guide   By  PattyLynn  Gossman   I  am  a  giver.  I  love  to  show  affection  with  a  thoughtful  gift,  which  delights  the   receiver  who  emits  “oohs  and  ahhhs,”  and  “this  is  perfect!”   Oh  the  perfect  gift!  One  they  will  enjoy  and  use.   It  seems  to  make  their  life  more  beautiful,  easy  and  fun!   Yes,  it’s  a  lot  of  pressure,  especially  on  a  budget.   One  can  have  goals,  right?   Here  are  my  three  tips  for  being  a  giver  of  good  gifts:    


Tip #1  NOTICE     Notice  what  is  her  style?  Is  there  some   special  item  which  would  compliment  what  she   already  has?       What  are  her  interests  and  hobbies.  This  is   just  more  than  buying  her  a  sketch  pad  and  art   supplies.       Notice  what  would  make  her  day  better  or   easier…?  Such  as  a  full  spectrum  lamp  or  that   special  set  of  pens.    

Tip #2  LISTEN   Usually people will tell you what they want and need in normal everyday conversation. I keep a note in my phone where I add (year long) every time I hear a friend remark “I’ve always wanted a …” (and they wonder aloud how I knew they wanted it.)  

Tip #3  ASK     Yes,  just  ask  your  person  for  suggestions.       Even  Santa  needs  a  “wish  list,”  so  have   your  kids  write  that  ubiquitous  letter  to  Santa.      


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One Bonus Tip for Staying on budget… Tip #4  PREBUY       Buy  ahead  items  on  sale  and  keep  in  a  “gift  box”  in  the  garage.  The  box  can  hold  those   perfect  finds  safe  and  secret  until  Christmas,  birthdays  or  whenever  your  might  need  a   housewarming,  hostess  or  thank  you  gift.       Since  you  can  buy  items  on  sale,  or  clearance  in  advance,  you  will  save  some  money.       The  “gift  box”  is  not  without  it’s  own  set  of  perils  however!  Here  are  some  perils  with   real-­‐life  instances  from  my  family!:     *You  can’t  wait  that  long!     My  mom  could  never  wait  until  Christmas  or  birthday,  and  although  she  bought  it  early,  she   also  gave  it  early…then  felt  compelled  to  buy  another  gift  for  the  special  day.     *You  forget  it’s  in  there!     My  sister  had  kids  well  into  their  teens  and  a  gift  box  with  birthday  presents  for  kids  ages  7-­‐ 10.  They  had  out  grown  them.       *You  can  forget  who  it’s  for!   This one’s on me! I have a super deluxe gel seat cushion I bought last year on Black   10   Friday but cannot for the life of me remember who it was for!!  

The Holiday  Season  is   a  Perfect  time   to  reflect  on  our  blessings   and  to  seek out  ways  to   make  life  better  

for those  around us.  


TO RE-­‐GIFT   OR NOT  TO  RE-­‐GIFT   By  PattyLynn  Gossman  

That is the question! What about that tricky business of re-gifting? We’ve all received gifts that just aren’t quite right for us. It’s a lovely item (or a weird one). I’ll never use it. I already have it. It’s not my style. You get the picture. So should I re-gift the item? Giving someone a gift you’ve received can hurt the feelings of the original giver. But that doesn’t mean you are obligated to keep a gift just because it was given to you. You may graciously thank the giver. Then pass the gift along to someone else who can use it, or return to the store for the right size, color. Or even donate it to a resale shop.


But making it be a gift to someone else… you have to ask yourself some questions: Q: is it still new? I mean brand spanking new. Q: Is it appropriate (or purposeful) for this person? Not just off loading it. Q: Is it a quality item that I am proud to share? Q: Will the original giver be okay with this if she were to find out? If you answered YES to all of these questions you are probably okay with re-gifting. I say “probably” because it’s a tricky business.


Stress-free Holiday Event Planning By Cara  Kangas  

I’ve never enjoyed having a deadline for writing, however, a deadline for event planning: bring it on. When I first started thinking about what I might include in this article, I also thought of ways to carve out chunks of time at work to jot down ideas and themes. I suppose you could say I enjoy finding ways to flex my creative muscle to break up the day. With event planning, my first thoughts always drift toward the menu and seating. What new recipes can I try? What works well with a large group of picky eaters, or a small, intimate gathering of close friends, willing to tray all the things? How can I arrange the seating in a way that allows flow throughout our home without breaking up the festivities? And as a nod to a comment my Grandpa Ray used to make about my Grandma Violet’s cooking, “Did you wash the bathtub before preparing the macaroni salad inside of it?” With a one-income household of 7, food preparation was always large and inexpensive, and those marks I tend to keep in mind when preparing a meal for many. As for hosting a holiday event? Check! Events my spouse and I have hosted include: Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve dinner, Christmas Day brunch, Memorial Day and 4th of July BBQs. Throw in a few birthday parties, baby showers and family soup nights and we’re pretty well versed in entertaining. But winter season, even as we carry on decades-long traditions with a new twist, there’s usually something that waits until the last minute, gets forgotten, or is skipped all together. I always want to enjoy this magical time to the best of my ability, especially now with young children who are experiencing holidays and family gatherings for the first time. But then again, I have to let go of the fear of missing out and not be the last person standing at the party. It’s okay to get home a bit early and reenergize for the next day. With that, here are a few tips and pieces of wisdom to pull off an event of any size this holiday season or any time of year and take care of yourself along the way.



• Practically perfect in every way… Nope! You’re not, I’m not, and neither is Mary Poppins. Your holiday season is most likely filled with work obligations, family gatherings, out-of-town travel, and one too many trips to the grocery store. Add on the task of hosting an event during the holiday season and you could have a recipe for unnecessary stress. In order to minimize any additional stress of this busy quarter of the calendar, jot d ow n w hich events a re im porta nt to you to atte nd, and with that, you may find events which you can let go.

For example, d o you

ha ve to st ay the le ng th of an en tire w ork pa rty? That may depend on your role and the culture of your workplace. D id you offe r to b rin g a d ish to a holida y p otluck ? Maybe you can share the task with another attendee. Whatever the event, prioritize importance, judge the amount of work it may add to your plate, and be okay with saying “no” now and again.


• Time is on your side… Do you have six weeks or six days? Given the amount of time and whether or not you’re hosting, be realistic about the size of the gathering, the amount of food needed to serve a crowd, and any other logistics concerning space, decorations, invitations, etc. In order to start planning an event, I often use a shared Google spreadsheet with check boxes, due dates, tasks, who’s in charge, what to do and what to buy. I can also rearrange items by priority and insert notes along the way. You can also easily share this with a buddy who can add his or her own feedback, comments, and suggestions. The best tactic is to start planning as soon as you can, don’t be afraid to ask for help, and give yourself some wiggle room for unforeseen matters.


• Are we having fun yet… I sincerely  hope  so!  Like  the  kids  these  days  are  saying  on  the  internet  “If  it’s  not  on  Instagram,  did  it   even  happen?”     This  should  go  without  saying,  but  you  don’t  need  to  document  every  moment  of  every  event  just  to   show  the  world  you  were  there  and  it  really  happened.  You  can  still  have  fun  without  being  tethered  to   your  phone.     However,  if  your  only  camera  is  on  your  phone,  take  some  photos  and  then  set  your  phone  down.     Mingle,  make  small  talk,  and  be  present.     This  is  the  time  to  create  m emories,  enjoy  the  process,  and  not  worry  about  being  too  precious  or   particular  about  the  look  of  your  event.     With  all  honesty,  I  will  say  that  I  do  miss  35mm  film  cameras.  You  usually  only  had  24-­‐36  exposures,  so   your  one  shot  mattered…  and  before  sending  the  film  off  to  b e  developed,  the  last  remaining  photos   were  usually  taken  of  the  family  cats.    

• Take care of yourself… If you’re  familiar  with  Maslow’s  hierarchy  of  needs,  you’ll  know  that  without  a  solid  base  of  addressing   your  physiological  needs  (water,  food  and  sleep),  you  won’t  be  able  to  meet  your  other  needs  as  you   move  up  the  triangle  (safety,  love,  esteem  and  self-­‐actualization).     I  find  this  to  be  true  when  anyone  is  facing  stress  or  trauma;  you  can’t  think  well,  articulate  your   thoughts,  or  listen  as  thoroughly  as  you’d  like  on  an  empty  stomach,  minimal  sleep,  or  the  other   necessities  that  help  you  feel  100%.     As  it  is  always  okay  to  say  “no”  to  attending  an  event,  it  is  also  okay  to  say  “no”  when  you  need  a  little   extra  time  to  decompress.    


Beautiful Surprise A Generational Empowerment Session

With this  photo  shoot,  we  set  out  to  do  a  collaborative  article  on  Holiday  colors.    However,  after  I  got  the  results  from   our  photographer  (my  hubby,  pictured  above),  I  feel  like  we  ended  up  getting  SO  much  more.   What  I  saw  in  these  pictures  was  joy,  love,  care,  compassion  and  so  much  beauty.     It  m ade  me  think  of  that  saying,  “It  takes  a  village  to  raise  a  child.”    I  would  take  this  further  though-­‐it  takes  a  village  to   raise  a  village.   We  need  each  other,  and  not  just  women.    We  need  empower  those  around  us  to  be  the  very  b est  we  can  be.      That   seems  like  such  a  simple  statement,  yet  it’s  so  difficult  to  accomplish  these  days.  


These pictures  spoke  to  me  of   generations  honoring  each  other.   Plus,  REAL  beautiful  women;  not   perfect,  but  beautifully  imperfect,   complex,  and  awe-­‐inspiring!   I  hope  when  you  look  through   these,  you  see  your  neighbor,   your  grandma,  the  little  girl  down   the  street.   There’s  so  much  truth  and   authenticity  here.  


Happy Birthday It was  also  this  sweet   girl’s  birthday!!       What  a  fun  way  to  get  


A Gift  for  the  Hidden  YOU!  

The Gorgeous, Smiling, Carefree, Kick-butt YOU!! It’s Saturday  and  I  am  at  the  elementary  school.  I  have   my  2  &  4-­‐year-­‐old  in  tow  and  am  hoping  that   attending  the  small  bazaar  will  allow  me  to  get  a  few   things  crossed  off  my  long  list.   I  know  they  have  wreaths  for  sale.  A  wreath  is  at  the   top  of  my  list;  I  needed  one  a  week  ago.  Every  house   on  my  street  had  full  holiday  decorations  up;  I  hadn’t   even  started.  At  least  I  made  a  list!  And  here  we  are   wandering  the  aisles.     I  have  15  seconds  to  stop  at  each  booth  and  assess  its   wares.  Then  off  to  the  next  section;  the  distractions,   whines  and  attempts  at  escape  clearly  prove  that  The   Littles  are  in  charge.     A  canvas  of  a  beautiful  young  woman  catches  my  eye.   It’s  on  an  easel  and  there  happens  to  be  another   slightly  different,  and  a  little  more  revealing  one  on   the  table  display  as  well.     Gorgeous,  smiling,  carefree,  confident-­‐looking;  this   girl  takes  names,  kicks  butt  and  has  the  world  at  her   feet.    


So, here’s  the  thing,  I  make  sure  to  have   pictures  of  the  kids.  You  know,  coordinating   outfits  and  beautiful  background  so  if  they   aren’t  quite  smiling  or  into  it  they  look   wonderful  anyway.     I  try  to  use  the  same  photographer.  She   knows  to  get  ahold  of  me  2  to  3  times  a  year.   The  grandparents  anxiously  await  the   marvelous  new  images  to  show  off  to  their   friends  and  neighbors.     My  Social  Media  presence  is  weak  and  some   days  post  likes  &  loves  count.  New,   improved,  updated  and  noteworthy  pictures   are  a  sure  way  to  get  them.  They  validate  I   am  a  good  mom.  Look  at  these  amazing  kids!   What  I  don’t  have  are  any  pictures  of  me.   Well,  there  are  the  obligatory  selfies  from   our  outing  to  the  zoo  last  week,  a  coffee  date   with  a  friend  and  a  rare  date  night  image   snapped  with  the  waiter  in  the  background.   All  on  my  phone.  all  showing  a  hot  mess  of  a   girl  who  really  needs  something.  Cause  she   is  fading,  losing  her  confidence,  her  joy,  her   sexuality,  her  mojo.     So,  I  move  in  closer  scan  the  booth  quickly   to  try  and  get  a  glimpse  of  what  it’s  all   about.  With  one  hand  on  the  wreath  I  use   the  other  to  open  a  snack  bag  and  take  it  all   in.  Beautiful  lingerie,  a  leather-­‐bound  album,   photography  awards  proudly  displayed,   sign  up  sheet  for  more  information  and  a   casual  classy  lady  pitching  Boudoir.    


A Boudoir  shoot?!    I  can  just  imagine  the  absolute  fun  of  shopping  for  something  amazing  to  wear.   Something  different  than  my  mom  outfit  of  jeans  and  a  cami,  layered  with  my  slouchy  sweater   and  cute  booties.  An  outfit  that  has  lace  is  red  and  slinky.  Something  I  would  have  worn  before   kids  or  would  have  dreamed  of  owning  but  never  bought.  Thoughts  of  thongs,  bodysuits,   luxurious  bra  and  panty  sets  invade  my  mind.     Then  this  lady,  this  photographer,  tells  me  really  quick,  “You  come  to  the  studio.  Your  hair  and   makeup  are  professionally  done.  You  are  pampered  and  treated  like  a  queen-­‐  wine,  snacks,   favorite  music,  no  kids  for  hours!  I  capture  you  in  images  that  help  you  to  see  that  you’re  the   definition  of  beauty!    They  last  a  lifetime  and  provide  you  with  everything  you  just  attributed  to   the  images  on  display:    Gorgeous,  smiling,  carefree,  sexy,  daring,  confident  looking.  So,  you  can   have  her,  the  girl  that  takes  names,  kicks  butt  and  has  the  world  at  her  feet  as  artwork  or  an   album  to  display  yourself.”   I  skip  out  of  the  bazaar  with  my  wreath,  some  jelly,  a  huge  juice  stain  down  the  front  of  my   favorite  sweater  and  a  planning  appointment  date  scheduled  to  chat  all  things  Boudoir  before  my   upcoming  shoot.    


“Blow, blow, thou winter wind, thou art not so unkind as man’s ingratitude.” -­‐William Shakespeare    




Fridays By Kandice  King  

With 2019  days  away  from  being  over,  I  can  say  that  this  year  has  completely  changed  my  perspective  on   what  matters  and  what  is  important  in  life.  I  am  a  single  mother  of  two  amazing  children  that  have  a  gigantic   age  gap.  There  are  nine  years  between  the  two,  so  finding  things  that  my  pocketbook  can  afford  and  that  they   are  both  interested  in  can  feel  impossible.  Some  days,  it  is  impossible.     At  the  beginning  of  this  year  we  suffered  an  unexpected  loss.  My  best  friend  of  many  years  died  abruptly,  and   this  was  a  significant  blow  to  me.  The  kids  and  I  had  just  moved  into  our  new  place,  I  had  just  started  a  new   job  and  a  new  quarter  was  starting  in  a  week.  If  you  can  read  between  the  lines,  I  was  working  fulltime,  going   to  school  and  raising  kids-­‐  alone.  Did  I  mention  it  was  basketball  season?  And,  I  was  grieving.  I  laugh  as  I  type   this  because  it  is  amazing  how  God  works.     Over  the  years  my  friend  and  I  had  gone  our  own  ways,  but  there  was  still  that  unspoken  love  and  bond.   Thankfully  for  me,  I  saw  her  a  week  or  so  before  she  died.  Losing  her  reminded  me  of  how  very  precious  life   is.  I  started  to  really  think  about  just  how  busy  I  was.  What  exactly  was  I  trying  to  accomplish?  A  good  waged   job  that  supported  my  kids  and  myself  was  always  the  answer.  Maybe  this  was  just  a  justification  I  had.  Truly,   I  need  a  job  with  good  benefits  and  pay,  but  I  did  not  need  to  be  so  busy.       In April I made the decision to put school on hold and the very next day I lost my job. Immediately I wanted to register for school, but something told me to hold back. My son was at the end of his junior year, was about to enter his last year of high school, and I needed a break. Fear was the first thing that waved over me, but when the school year ended, I found that I had time to hang out with my kids again.   27    

I created  for  us  a  mandatory  Friday  adventures  and  dubbed  them  fall-­‐in-­‐love-­‐and-­‐find-­‐something-­‐new-­‐Fridays.   Our  lives  are  far  from  perfect,  money  is  tight,  both  kids  like  to  pick  on  each  other,  and  neither  of  their  fathers  are   present  in  ways  the  kids  or  even  I  would  like  them  to  be,  but  in  these  Friday  adventures  I  found  the  love  I  was   missing  and  all  of  us  were  able  to  relax  a  little  bit.       One  week  we’d  head  out  east  to  Beacon  Rock,  the  next  week  we  were  in  Seaside  taking  in  the  ocean  surf  and   feeling  the  absolute  abundance  life  has  for  all  of  us.  I’d  pack  snacks  and  drinks;  we’d  fill  up  the  tank  and  usually   decide  where  we  were  going  once  we  piled  in  the  car.  There  were  fights,  arguments  over  the  radio  and  typical   sibling  stuff,  but  there  were  also  moments  of  belly  laughter,  brother  giving  piggyback  rides  down  mountainsides,   and  a  mom  with  a  full  heart  of  gratitude.       My  favorite  fall-­‐in-­‐love-­‐and-­‐find-­‐something-­‐new-­‐Friday  wasn’t  during  the  summer  at  all.  My  favorite  Friday   came  on  the  first  Friday  we  had  no  school.  In  an  attempt  to  hamper  the  back-­‐to-­‐school  blues,  I  challenged  the   kids  to  an  adventure.  Neither  of  them  wanted  to  go  too  far  from  home,  so  we  decided  to  go  a  little  east  and  a  little   north.  Once  we  left  Daybreak  Park,  the  eldest  decided  to  drive.  When  we  got  past  the  Ape  Caves  we  decided  to   keep  going,  and  at  every  rest  we  took,  we  decided  to  keep  going.     We  traveled  through  the  woods,  walked  along  a  little  river,  and  found  snow  on  this  “little”  drive.  Never  quite   knowing  where  we  were  going,  we  ended  up  driving  the  back-­‐way  over  Mount  St.  Helens  into  this  little  town  and   didn’t  get  home  till  after  10  pm.  So  much  for  a  little  trip  only  I  wanted  to  go  on!      


I was  so  proud  watching  my  son  navigate  the  roads  and  seeing  the  excitement  in  my  daughter’s  eyes  when  her   brother  helped  her  over  the  little  river.  It  was  on  that  trip  that  I  realized  that  whatever  life  threw  at  us,  we   could  handle  it.  Nothing  was  bigger  than  our  sense  of  wonder  and  amazement  at  all  the  universe  has  to  give.   Nothing  is  bigger  than  the  love  of  family  and  falling  in  love  with  the  life  that  surrounds  us.  Nothing  is  bigger   than  finding  gratitude  in  the  simplest  of  mini-­‐road  trips.       So  remember,  as  the  holidays  are  approaching,  while  it  is  easy  to  get  wrapped  up  in  the  consumerism  of  this   time  of  year,  the  best  memories  come  from  actively  engaging  and  spending  time  with  your  loved  ones.  Here  are   a  few  pocket-­‐saving  festive  tips  from  our  family:      

Pile the  kids  in  the  car  and  go  Christmas   light  hunting!  Our  family  makes  hot   chocolate  before  we  head  out  and  we   take  off  in  a  direction  to  find  the  BEST   light  display  of  the  evening.      

Bundle up  and  walk  a  trail!  I  have  found   that  when  I  get  out  and  walk  a  trail,  the   nature  that  surrounds  our  city  is   amazing  and  beautiful.  No  matter  what   the  day  has  been,  being  out  with  the   birds  and  the  turtles  helps  me  realize   how  unimportant  my  day  has  been  in   the  grander  scheme  of  life.  Here  is  a   map  from  City  of  Vancouver  to  help  you   on  your  journey;   https://www.cityofvancouver.us/sites/ default/files/fileattachments/parks_an d_recreation/page/1088/trail_final_we b.pdf    


Paint sugar  cookies!  One  of  my  favorite  things  to  do   is  eat  cookies.  I  also  like  challenging  my  kids  and   myself  to  learn  in  “out-­‐of-­‐the-­‐box”  ways.  A  simple   painting  cookie  party  involves  basic  science,   engineering,  production  and  event  planning  &   execution  skills.  And,  ART!  These  are  all  great   things  to  introduce  your  children  to  while  they  are   young.      

Have a  movie  day  at  home.  With  a  million  different   avenues  at  the  tips  of  our  fingers  these  days,   sometimes  what  we  really  need  is  a  pajama  day,  on   the  couch  watching  movies  with  our  loved  ones.    

While the list above may feel short, I challenge you to do one new thing with your family before this year is over. Whether it is from this list or another, challenge yourself to step outside of your comfort zone and try something you normally would not do. You never know, you may just find that you’re really good at something you never dreamed you would be good at. For me, I learned I was really good at eating the completed cookies.


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