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A Different Kind of Dance:
AN INTERVIEW WITH DANIELLE PALM
You may not think of dancing when you think of hair, but if you’re a stylist with a background in dance like Danielle Palm at Alkali, each strand of hair moves to a beautiful rhythm. To her, cutting and coloring are like complex choreographed dances that move in graceful harmony, perfectly tuned to each client’s personality and lifestyle.
YOU WERE A DANCER BEFORE JOINING ALKALI, RIGHT? WHAT LED YOU FROM DANCER TO HAIRSTYLIST?
Yes! I was a dancer for 20 years. I started dancing when I was four and continued through college. I have a Bachelor of Fine Arts in dance. Dance is actually how I fell in love with hair and makeup— I had to learn how to get performance-ready. So really, it was a natural progression for me.
DOES YOUR BACKGROUND IN DANCE INSPIRE YOUR WORK AS A STYLIST? IF SO, HOW DO YOU INCORPORATE IT INTO YOUR WORK?
It sure does! Lighting sets the emotion or mood for a dance performance. Bringing out different tones in hair color has a similar effect, except I’m setting the stage to “light up” a client’s personality through their hair.
WHAT’S YOUR ABSOLUTE FAVORITE SERVICE?
Balayages—they give the hair such “movement!” I also love how a balayage can add a pop of color, yet still give you that “lived-in,” natural look. They’re also low maintenance and grow out beautifully.
HOW DO YOU PERSONALIZE YOUR SERVICES FOR EACH CLIENT?
By listening! I always pay close attention to what my clients tell me. This way, I can truly understand their needs and provide their desired results.
WHAT IS YOUR TOP TIP FOR AT-HOME HAIR CARE?
As someone with hair as dry as the Sahara Desert, I can’t overstate the difference a high-quality deep conditioner makes! I recommend
Oribe’s Moisture & Control Intense Conditioner and Deep Treatment Masque, along with Supershine Moisturizing Cream to help maintain moisture without stripping your hair’s natural oils. And a good round brush. You might not think a brush makes a difference, but it can make or break your blowout!
WHAT TYPE OF CLIENT BEST MATCHES YOUR PERSONALITY?
I tend to read my clients’ energy and match it so they have the best experience. We’ll be a perfect match if you’re laid back and want to look good and put together without being over-the-top “glam.”
OUTSIDE OF BEAUTY, WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO DO FOR FUN? DO YOU STILL DANCE?
Believe it or not, I love to exercise. I guess it’s the dancer in me! I also love listening to pretty much any kind of music, baking, doing crafts, and hanging out with my 10-year-old son, Liam. And yes I still dance…my kitchen makes for an amazing dance floor!
ANYTHING ELSE YOU’D LIKE YOUR CURRENT AND POTENTIAL CLIENTS TO KNOW?
No question is a stupid question. I want my clients to feel comfortable and confident in asking what they need to know to have great hair.
Do you want beautiful hair with lots of movement and a laid-back experience that’s all about you? Then you’ll love Danielle! Book your appointment today!
JEJ PHOTOS
Anthony L. Masciello MD, FACOG
Kerri R. Scherer MD, FACOG
C. Aaron Thompson MD, FACOG
Ray M. Braquet MD, FACOG
Jennifer Santos NP-C
Jill Smith NP-C
Katelyn Simmons MD
the publisher perspective
September is always a special month in the Forsyth Woman magazine world – it’s our anniversary month! Nineteen years ago, my mom, Keela, launched this incredible venture after transitioning from her corporate job of nearly 25 years. It was part of a significant downsizing, and she chose to take an early retirement. She and I joke often about how bad both of our memories are, but one very vivid memory I have is when she made the decision to move forward with Forsyth Woman. I was 15 years old, and she was 46. Her family and friends thought she was crazy (the woman had NO publishing experience), but this only pushed her to want to succeed even more. I’ve always admired this about her. Growing up with not one, but TWO parents who were entrepreneurs made for a unique childhood that taught me tons of lessons about hard work, perseverance and passion.
This month also marks my 50th issue publishing Forsyth Woman! Keela handed over the reins with the August 2020 issue with plans to retire at Lake Norman. If you’ve been a reader for a while, you know that isn’t how the story goes. After trying out the retirement life for a bit, she decided she had her heart set on starting a magazine in the Lake Norman community and LKN Magazine was born in September 2022. (Happy 2nd Anniversary LKN Magazine!)
Over the last 50 months/issues, a LOT has happened! We’ve survived COVID and its extremely scary effects including a worldwide paper shortage, which was possibly even scarier than COVID in the publishing world. I opened a CrossFit gym, Washington Park CrossFit. We launched our annual Women on the Move conference, which has been more powerful and inspirational than I ever thought possible. We also launched the Forsyth Magazines podcast. WHEW! What a whirlwind!
THANK YOU to our readers for picking up Forsyth Woman each month, for tuning into our podcast, for following us on social media, for attending our many events…THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart. It’s a blessing that I get to wake up and do this for a living. I mean, wow.
If you are reading this, you’ve already seen the absolutely phenomenal photo on our cover this month. Amber (owner of Alkali Hair Studio) had quite a vision, and if I do say so myself, I think Jon Eric Johnson (JEJ Photos) did a remarkable job of bringing it to life. I had the honor of attending this photo shoot and witnessing the talent in front of and behind the camera. You can read all about Alkali and their very exciting news on page 52.
PUBLISHER
Brooke Eagle
Brooke@ForsythMags.com
EDITOR
Keela Johnson
Keela@ForsythMags.com
SENIOR ACCOUNT
EXECUTIVE
Tamara Bodford
ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE
Robin Bralley
ADVERTISING
Advertising @ForsythMags.com
COVER PHOTOGRAPHER
JEJ Photos
CONTRIBUTING
PHOTOGRAPHERS
JEJ Photos
Jodie Brim Creative
Photo Artistry by Melinda
*others credited throughout accordingly
CONTENT EDITOR
Meghan Corbett
SENIOR STAFF WRITERS
Martie Emory
Carolyn Peterson
OTHER CONTRIBUTING WRITERS
Debbie Barr
Jane Burnette
Karen Carmody
Karen Cooper
Elisa Coppede
Amy Hill
Taryn Jerez
Jean Marie Johnson
Michael Johnson
Debbie Lanier
Mike McGilvary
Halleigh Milleson
Katharine Rosenthal
We have an incredible team that works so hard each month to bring you, our readers, this magazine. We also have so many amazing advertising partners that trust us with their marketing dollars each month – this magazine certainly wouldn’t be possible (and free to pick up!) without them.
So, THANK YOU!
Scan here to register for our boutique crawl!
Wishing you a wonderful month of September, and I hope to see you at a Girls’ Night Out soon, as well as at our first-ever Boutique Crawl event happening on October 5th. Grab your tickets at tinyurl.com/FWBC2024 or by scanning the QR code below.
LOVEWELL BOUTIQUE Owner Anitra Mitchell and her extraordinary team have accomplished their time-honored tagline – “Love Yourself and Others Well” – by spreading style, friendship and confidence throughout the community, one grateful customer at a time!
This September marks the joyful celebration of 12 years in their current Winston-Salem location and a nod to another year of honoring their real mission – bringing women together. Every day of those 12 years has been about inspiring personal style and sending customers out the door with a renewed sense of taking on the world. Forsyth Woman is proud to have been a close partner with Anitra and her husband and co-owner, Brad, for all of those 12 years, a shining example of how dedicated collaborations within the community keep all small businesses strong!
With great anticipation for many more amazing years to come, the LoveWell girls invite you to join them on Friday, September 20th and Saturday, September 21st for fun and fellowship. For each of their last nine anniversary events, LoveWell has also
partnered with Lei Lei’s Bakery in Clemmons; and this year, Lei Lei’s will bring the same deliciousness to the celebration with a special anniversary cake.
“Much of our success is about longevity,” shares Anitra. “We are always striving to nurture the idea of community and connection, supporting local and watching our partners succeed right along with us!”
To say “Cheers to 12 Years,” LoveWell will be serving sweet treats by Lei Lei’s and celebratory champagne toasts along with several special events. Permanent Jewelry by Brittany will be in the shop from 12:00 p.m. - 4:00 p.m. on Friday, September 20th, and customer favorite, Elaine the Bra Lady, will be back both Friday and Saturday with chances to win a free bra! While walk-ins are welcome, you can also call 336.893.6589 to schedule a bra fitting or permanent jewelry appointment time.
“We’ll also have our putting green set up for a chance to win prizes sponsored by Forsyth
PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA
ONLINE ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATION
Friday, September 20th at 10am
Woman, Liverpool Denim and more,” Anitra adds. “For every $25+ you spend, you’ll receive a putt. The better the putt, the better the prize!”
The LoveWell girls will also be celebrating their anniversary online on Friday, September 20th at 10:00 a.m. during one of their popular live events, so you’ll have lots of opportunities to join in even if you can’t make it to the boutique. Make sure you’ve downloaded the FREE LoveWell Boutique app and have notifications turned on so you don’t miss out!
Those live events – on the LoveWell Boutique app, on the website or on Facebook and Instagram – are crucial to encouraging connections with
customers, not just locally, but all over the country. Many loyal shoppers – who have never even been to the store – participate in live events and private message to staff for easy ordering.
Besides supporting the strength of community and connection, Anitra and the staff love promoting that the boutique is truly a “head-to-toe” shopping experience. They have you covered with accessories, jewelry, tops, bottoms, dresses, outerwear and fabulous shoes, along with makeup and skincare that’s earned their own personal seal of approval.
Empowering women on a daily basis also means sharing in their lives, and that’s why you’ll feel like one of the family at
LoveWell. From putting together a fabulous “first day” look for a new career or casual outfits for the trip of a lifetime, the experience is simply better with the personal touch for which LoveWell is known!
The ladies at the boutique love nothing more than pampering you with a store visit that leaves you feeling beautiful and confident! Visit LoveWell Boutique at 110 Oakwood Drive, Suite D in Winston-Salem, 336-893-6589, online at Lovewellboutique.com and download their free app by searching LoveWell Boutique in your app store, or on Facebook and Instagram @lovewell_boutique. Store hours are Monday through Friday 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m., and Saturday 9:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.
PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA
PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA
PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA
VintageVintageVentures
by AMY HILL
A Series Uncovering Vintage Gems in and around Forsyth County
Shopping local consignment, thrift and vintage stores helps reduce waste, support small business owners and sparks new hobbies among those who get a thrill out of rummaging through pre-owned goods on a Saturday afternoon. With mass consumerism running rampant with the ease of online shopping and next-day delivery options at major retailers, it’s easy to settle for convenience over quality. However, the Triad hosts a handful of locations that provide high-quality pre-owned goods at an affordable price that benefits the environment and local economy. Before checking Amazon or “fast fashion” websites for the media, art or clothing items you need, shop secondhand in the Winston-Salem area to keep the environment healthy and local businesses happy. Below are just a few of the fabulous thrift and consignment joints in the area that offer unique, pre-owned products with storefronts just as charming.
VINTIQUITYS
DESIGN ARCHIVES
Downtown Winston-Salem’s Design Archives Vintage & Handmade Emporium houses vintage and handmade goods from more than 150 vendors and artists in a very suiting, art deco-style building that is a former car showroom and music shop. Owned by Kit Rodenbough, Design Archives has been a longstanding vintage staple in Winston-Salem since 2001 and winner of many local awards for its off-thebeaten-path offerings.
With an additional location in Greensboro owned by Ryan Ray, Triad shoppers have their fair share of finds to choose from. Design Archives is always on the hunt for new vendors. Interested in having your pieces old in the shop? Fill out a vendor application online at shopdesignarchives.com.
Visit the Winston-Salem location at 636 W. Fourth Street, Winston-Salem, NC 27101. Call the store to speak with a team member at 336.602.2452. Visit Design Archives in Greensboro at 342/344 S. Elm Street or call directly at 336.272.1800. For more information, follow @designarchive.ws and @designarchives. gso on Instagram.
Open since 2023, the vibrant signage of Vintiquitys at 834 S. Broad Street in WinstonSalem is hard to miss. Beautifully and creatively painted, bright exterior colors signal just the type of antiques, vintage finds and oddities that happen to be inside. In fact, you can catch a few items for sale outside the storefront as well.
The interior of Vintiquitys is quite unlike most antique or thrift stores. Funky, unique and stylish finds line the store, and popular shoes and fashion pieces are also available for purchase. Interested in stopping by? Vintiquitys is open Wednesday through Friday from 12:00 p.m. to 6:00 p.m. Drop in on Saturdays from 11:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. Check out Vintiquitys on Facebook, and follow the team on Instagram at @broadvintiquitys.
STONE SOUP VINTAGE
A hop and a skip away from Viniquitys is neighboring Stone Soup Vintage, another eclectic and fun-to-browse shop that is a perfect stop for a weekend thrift haul. At 836 S. Broad Street, Stone Soup Vintage is women owned and carries goods and collectibles that shoppers are unlikely to find in many other places around town. With a bright blue exterior, it’s hard to turn away from the temptation of browsing vintage décor, art, jewelry, apparel, accessories and more.
Stone Soup Vintage is open Fridays and Saturdays from 11:00 a.m. until 4:00 p.m. Follow @stonesoupvintage on Instagram to see sneak peeks of what you can find in store.
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YOUR BOATS!
by DR. DEBBIE LANIER
YOU WERE BORN FOR GREATNESS!
I know, I know, you’ve heard that before. Reality is, you’ve likely heard this Truth so often that it doesn’t really compute anymore. Besides, you assume it’s for everyone else, right? (Nope! I’m talking to YOU!)
Every human was born to be great and do great things! In fact, it’s in our very DNA! God engraved HIS image upon us, making us to resemble HIM!
Tragically, most folks drudge through their days merely trying to stay afloat. It feels like “GREAT” has left the building, and you’re too tired to chase after it. (Yes, I’m reading your mail!)
When I think of great warriors and winners throughout history, Alexander the Great comes to mind. This ancient commander found a way to conquer more than half of the known world at such a ridiculously youthful age!
One of the many things that made this icon such a success derived from his bold strategies that rushed into every battle with a do-or-die kind of attitude.
In fact, in the journey to conquer the unconquerable Persian Empire, Alexander did something especially crazy! When he and his soldiers arrived on the shores of Persia with no chance of winning, Alexander instructed his men to burn their boats! (WHAT?!)
Yep! That’s what this fearless commander required – and he went first!
In that moment, burning their boats left them no other option but to fight as if their very lives depended on it – because they did!
Against insurmountable odds, this leader offered no Plan B! This now highly motivated band of brothers committed to victory at all cost, no matter how outnumbered they felt! And get this, THEY WON! They not only survived; they succeeded!
We humans have this tendency to seek middle ground. We don’t want to appear too extreme in any direction. It seems unseemly. After all, what will others say of us if we fail epically?
Listen friend, carrying around a Plan B usually kills Plan A! When you keep “something to fall back on,” you will almost inevitably fall back when the going gets tough. And friends, I promise you, if you’re doing anything worthwhile, the going will get tough!
It’s time to eliminate retreat from your situation! Whatever success you desire comes when you burn your boats!
I’m not suggesting you live recklessly or carelessly, but I AM suggesting you live fearlessly!
Did you know God says, “Do not fear” 365 times throughout Scripture? He knew we’d need one for every single day of the year!
If you can’t do it unafraid, then do it afraid! Just do it!
Decide what matters most to your heart. Then, listen for God’s heart in it all. He cares about all that matters to you! HE DOES!
God made you for greatness! His dreams for you far exceed your ideas of greatness, I promise! Besides that, He’s got what it takes to get you there.
So, strategize with the One who knows your end from your beginning. He has jotted your roadmap even before you ask. He knows the detours and the sharp turns that make you second guess your staying power.
That’s why you’ve got to burn your boats! Throw your whole self into this pursuit like retreat is not an option! From this position, you’ll not only survive; you’ll succeed.
You’ll be living proof that you were made for Greatness! Then, you can show someone else how to find their greatness, too!
For comments or prayer, please contact Dr. Lanier at HopeCommunityChurch.tv.
by TARYN JEREZ
A monthly column that keeps its finger on the pulse of Forsyth’s artists and their inspiring stories!
Lindsey Mae Stimpson | Painter & Muralist
This month’s featured artist, Lindsey Stimpson, transforms spaces big and small by inspiring joy and bringing them to life through her abundant creativity and timeless works of art!
How would you describe your work?
By transforming spaces through murals and window art, I create impactful original works of art that inspire joy and bring new life to every environment. I love tailoring my style to meet my client’s vision, but naturally, my touch is more loose, colorful and driven by emotion.
What influences your art?
I believe the best (and most impactful) work is driven by emotion and connection. My work is ever evolving but I always approach creating with joy, gratitude and vulnerability. I am intrigued by the human condition, as well as communication and connection. The priorities we place on religion, culture, morals, and other people, are revealing as to who we truly are. I start a piece with an idea from these thoughts and observations, and I find myself exploring elements of shape and color. while working in layers.
How have you grown, personally, as an artist?
I’ve been creating since I was a little girl. My academic path led me to Meredith College, where I studied Studio Art and Business Administration. My career has been dedicated to the arts and allowed me to try different things and find new ways to bring my creativity to others. It’s been amazing to see my progression throughout the years.
How do you carve out time to be creative?
Not a day goes by that I don’t create! Currently, I dedicate my time to painting full time at Beechwood Metalworks in Burlington, NC. Balancing my daytime work at Beechwood with additional evening and weekend mural jobs, I am constantly producing art and love taking on commissioned projects.
Do you have a favorite story behind one of your projects and why?
I love painting residential spaces! The first large project I landed was a sage green hand painted dining room. The client could not find a wallpaper that fit her vision, and we worked together to create a one-of-a-kind, elegant, dreamy landscape capturing her farm. It’s still one of my favorite projects.
What are you working on that excites you right now?
I’m really excited about several upcoming commercial mural projects! It’s especially a joy painting for churches and healthcare facilities. It’s my hope the artwork I create in those spaces touches many lives. Also, I’m itching to do more residential work, especially monochromatic landscape murals in homes. It’s a unique way of displaying family heritage and memories, custom to the client’s space, and the impact they make just feels incredibly meaningful.
What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with fellow artists, especially those at the start of their careers?
Honestly, “make” as much as possible! Like anything else, it takes PRACTICE. Make artwork, post it online for others to see and embrace sharing it with people! We need more color in this world.
If you are interested in learning more about this month’s artist, Lindsey Stimpson, you can find her work online at lindseymaeart.com as well as follow her on Instagram and Facebook @LindseyMaeArt.
THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO EYE HEALTH: Everyday Practices for Optimal Vision
by JANE BURNETTE healthcoachjane.com
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Understanding how your eyes convert light energy into signals that your brain uses to create images and control hormone and neurotransmitter release throughout your body is essential. Given that clear, healthy vision is crucial for overall well being, this article provides actionable steps to improve your eye health and reduce age-related vision decline.
DAILY PRACTICES FOR EYE HEALTH
Your eyes constantly adjust to help you maintain a clear view of the world. The lens of your eye is most relaxed when you are looking at distant objects, such as the horizon. However, focusing on nearby objects, like computer screens or phones, requires the eye muscles to work harder, which can eventually alter the shape of your eyeball and lead to myopia (nearsightedness).
TIPS FOR EYE RELAXATION:
Balance Near and Far Viewing:
• Periodically allow your eyes to relax throughout the day by looking at distant objects. This can help balance the strain caused by prolonged close-up work.
• If you spend a lot of time on close-up tasks, aim to view distant objects multiple times a day. Take breaks by looking out a window or taking a walk outside.
Combat Headaches and Fatigue:
• To alleviate tension headaches caused by close-up viewing, relax all your face muscles, including your jaw, for 1-5 minutes every 30-60 minutes.
• Spend more time viewing distant objects in a relaxed manner.
Engage in Optic Flow:
• Activities like walking, running or biking outdoors can reduce anxiety and improve mood through the panoramic vision and optic flow these activities create.
• Avoid reading on your phone during these activities to ensure you benefit from the natural environment.
Sunlight Exposure Reduces Myopia Risk:
• Studies show that children who spend more than two hours a day in sunlight have a lower incidence of myopia (nearsightedness). This benefit is likely due to both far viewing and the activation of specific neurons in the eye by sunlight, which improves blood flow and supports eye health.
• Aim for at least two hours of sunlight exposure daily, preferably without sunglasses. However, never stare directly at the sun.
EYE TRAINING EXERCISES
Incorporate the following exercises to strengthen your eye muscles and enhance your ability to focus on objects at various distances, thus combating age-related vision decline.
Smooth Pursuit Eye Task:
• Follow a small moving object with your eyes, aiming for smooth movements rather than quick, jerky ones. Practice for 2-3 minutes, three times a week.
• Examples: Track a bird in flight or a ball during a sports game.
Near-Far Exercises:
• Hold a small object (like a pen) about 1.5 feet from your eyes, and slowly move it closer while keeping it in focus until it becomes blurry. Then, move it further away.
• Practice for 1-2 minutes every other day to enhance your focus flexibility and strengthen eye muscles.
NUTRITION AND SUPPLEMENTS FOR EYE HEALTH
A nutrient-rich diet can support the health of your photoreceptors and other eye components.
Vitamin A:
• Essential for phototransduction, the process of converting light into electrical signals.
• Foods rich in vitamin A: Dark leafy greens, yellow/orange vegetables and fruits.
Lutein:
• Supports the eye’s phototransduction process and can reduce age-related macular degeneration.
• Sources of lutein: Egg yolk and dark leafy vegetables.
By consuming a diet rich in non-processed fruits and vegetables, you can ensure your eyes receive the necessary antioxidants and vitamins for optimal health.
Incorporating these daily practices, exercises and nutritional tips can significantly improve your eye health and protect against agerelated decline. By prioritizing your vision, you can enhance your overall well being and vitality. Take care of your eyes, and they will take care of you!
A little about me:
My name is Jane Burnette, and I’m passionate about health and wellness. As a holistic health coach with a degree from UNCChapel Hill and numerous certifications, I specialize in lifestyle changes that empower people to achieve their health goals.
My mission is simple – guide clients to optimize their daily habits, so their bodies’ natural healing processes can kick in. Rather than focus on diets or quick fixes, I teach sustainable strategies for nutrition, exercise, stress relief and more.
PEOPLE OF PROMINENCE SERIES
by MICHAEL JOHNSON
Shelley Hundley
Shelley Hundley was nominated in last month’s edition as a stellar person of prominence who gives so much of herself to her community. Here, she speaks about her background, the event she now oversees each year and how we as a community can get involved!
Tell us about your formative years. Where did you grow up, and what were your early experiences that shaped who you are today?
I spent my childhood in Spindale (Rutherford County), NC with both of my parents and an older sister. When I was only 18 months old and my sister was 3.5 years old, our family was faced with an immense, life-changing challenge. That morning, my mother woke up and realized that she could not move or feel anything below her waist. She had not been sick, had not fallen or had any injury prior to this happening. She lost more and more mobility as she got older and spent her last eight to ten years fully wheelchair-bound. My mother taught elementary self-contained special education, and she was no doubt an inspiration to her students and their families because she never let her disability stop her. I was taught that my mom’s students may have a different ability level than other students but that they were no less than anyone else.
My freshman year of college, I ended up taking a part time job working with a little boy with autism. I received a bachelor’s of arts degree in education of students with mental disabilities as well as my masters of education of students with learning disabilities. I have taught high school resource, occupational courses of study and self-contained classes. My last four years working in a school district was as the district-wide Applied Behavior Analysis and Transition Specialist.
Tell us all about the organization you lead.
Joy Prom is an annual, full-scale, communitysponsored prom for guests age 16 and older with different abilities and special needs. Joy Prom has been held at Truist Stadium for the last two years and will be held there again this year. When guests arrive for the evening, they enter the venue down the red carpet with a cheering crowd clapping and waving at them. While they are at prom, there are opportunities to have their photos professionally taken,
play bingo and other fun games. It is definitely an unforgettable evening for our guests, caregivers and volunteers!
Since 2015, Joy Prom has grown from 100 special needs guests and approximately 150 volunteers to 355 guests and approximately 600 volunteers in 2023! Over the past few years, Joy Prom has not only grown in guests and volunteers but also in donors. Because many of our guests, volunteers and donors come from outside the Winston-Salem area, we chose to rebrand ourselves to Joy Prom Piedmont-Triad in order to truly represent the areas that we serve.
I have held multiple leadership positions with Joy Prom since 2015 and took over as the executive director in 2020. I also started and run The Fairy Godmother’s Closet each year that provides our female guests with prom attire.
Give us perspective into what satisfaction you gain from what you do on a daily basis.
I have gotten an incredible amount of joy from being involved with Joy Prom for the past nine years. I have not only met but have created meaningful relationships with many of our guests, caregivers, volunteers and the businesses that have chosen to support Joy Prom financially or through in-kind donations.
Provide an example of a time that moved you deeply when helping others like you do.
I could give so many examples of times that I have been deeply moved by being a part of Joy Prom. Honestly, every time we hold an event, the hugs and the pure joy that I see radiate from our guests, the caregivers, our volunteers and anyone else who is involved that evening is more fulfilling for my soul than one could ever imagine.
Specifically, how can our readers help your organization?
Joy Prom 2024 will be held on Friday, October 11, 2024 at Truist Stadium.
As you can imagine, holding an event this large takes months of planning, hundreds of volunteers and an incredible amount of financial support. We are still in need of financial support! If you wish to donate to Joy Prom, make an online donation at loveoutloud.salsalabs.org/JoyProm/ or you can also mail a check or money order to: “Joy Prom, c/o Love Out Loud, P.O. Box 20912, Winston-Salem, NC 27120.”
We still have some needs on our planning team and need 500-600 volunteers on the day and night of Joy Prom. These volunteers help with everything from setup and break down to serving food and running games, and our largest area of need is for people to volunteer to serve as a host or hostess for our guests throughout the evening. If you are interested in volunteering for Joy Prom in any way, please visit our website at joypromwinstonsalem.org for more information.
Nominate someone as a person of prominence, and give us insight into what makes him or her unique. I would like to nominate Carmen Canales as a person of prominence. To me, Carmen is the epitome of a strong woman. Carmen not only has an incredibly impressive professional resume, she also has learned how to balance a very demanding career, volunteering on many boards and still is able to maintain strong family and friend relationships.
Fizz & Beats™ Returns:
Celebrate the 2nd Annual Zero Proof Fest on September 28!
As we approach our second annual Fizz & Beats™ Zero Proof Fest, we’re thrilled to bring this unique experience back to the Triad. After last year’s overwhelming success, we’re excited to once again offer a day filled with incredible local music, delicious food and an array of unique mocktails and beverages.
Mark your calendars for Saturday, September 28th, from 12:00 p.m. to 6:00 p.m., for six hours of non-stop entertainment and fun at the Paul J. Ciener Botanical Garden in Kernersville. This year’s festival promises to be even bigger and better, building on the connections and memories created during our inaugural event. Grab tickets at favored.events or scan the QR code.
Fizz & Beats™ isn’t your typical festival. It’s a celebration of community, creativity and conscious living. We’re proud to showcase a diverse lineup of local musical talent, ranging from soul to country, folk and bluegrass, highlighting bands like None of the Above, Joy & The Experience from Souljam and School of Rock. The breathtaking garden backdrop provides the perfect setting for our full musical lineup.
Food lovers will delight in the variety of delicious offerings from local food trucks including sushi, empanadas and sweet treats from Lil’ Donuts, ice cream and more; while mocktail enthusiasts can explore an exciting array of zero-proof beverages. Shop local with our amazing set of craft vendors, or stop in for pics at our photobooth! Each ticket holder receives a signature sample card and the chance to vote for their favorite mocktail, contributing to our annual Mix Master competition. Signature mocktails will be created by local vendors – Corks & Boards and Events, Kyle’s Coffee, DarnGood Lemonade and CLS Catering featuring Chef Charley Smith.
We’ve kept ticket prices accessible to ensure everyone can join in the fun. Advance tickets are available for $10, general admission is $15 and,
for those wanting a VIP experience, tickets are $25. Kids 14 and under are free. All tickets include access to the full range of festival activities including lawn games, contests and prizes.
More than that, your ticket helps The Greater Piedmont Adult & Teen Challenge program; the Teen Challenge program costs $5,000, so every dollar helps change lives!
As we enter our second year, we’re more committed than ever to creating a safe, inclusive environment where people can connect, celebrate and have a fantastic time without alcohol. Whether you’re in recovery, practicing mindfulness or simply looking for a fun, family friendly event, Fizz & Beats™ is the place to be.
Join us and our incredible sponsors in making this second annual event even more amazing than the first!
Thanks to our amazing slate of sponsors – American Moving & Hauling, Forsyth Woman Magazine, Kernersville Magazine, Josh Bondy, American Retirement Counselors, JAM&CO Events and Creations, Lenny J Media, Forsyth County Farm Bureau, NDKS Socials, Perry Plumbing, Bailey Wealth Management, Goins Law, Dynamic Promo Solutions, First Horizon, Sutton Brothers, Royal Event Staffing, Kernersville Chamber of Commerce and Triangle Lawn Games.
Be part of the connection, community and impact. Come mix it up with us, and let this fest be the proof you need that you CAN have an incredible time without alcohol.
We can’t wait to see you there! Grab tickets now at favored.events!
The Science of Cozy Living: Enhancing Well Being This Fall for Health
As the leaves turn and we transition into fall, it’s the perfect opportunity to embrace coziness and contentment. Cozy living encourages well being through mindfulness, social connections and appreciation for life’s small pleasures. Let’s explore the science behind these practices and how they can enhance your health and happiness this coming season.
NEUROCHEMISTRY OF COMFORT AND COZINESS
First, let’s dive into the feel good science behind why cozy living makes us so happy. You know the feeling you have when you’re snuggled up with a good book? That’s serotonin at work, our “feel good” neurotransmitter, helping to keep your mood bright and anxiety at bay. And, guess what? Your gut plays a big role in making serotonin – it loves a diet rich in a variety of vegetables. So, next time you are meal planning, think of it as feeding your happiness, too!
Now, onto dopamine, the “reward” neurotransmitter. It’s that rush of pleasure you get when you do something you love, like hosting a cozy dinner party with friends. There’s a good reason why sharing a delicious meal and enjoying each other’s company fills us with joy and satisfaction. And, let’s not forget oxytocin. Oxytocin is all about connection. When you spend quality time with loved ones, give a warm hug or even just engage in a heart-to-heart chat, oxytocin is released. It strengthens our bonds, making us feel loved and connected.
PSYCHOLOGICAL BENEFITS OF COZY LIVING
Cozy activities can improve emotional resilience by providing comfort. Regularly engaging in comforting practices is linked to higher levels of happiness. Savoring small pleasures helps build a positive mindset, making it easier to handle stress. When you embrace a slower pace and practice mindfulness, you reduce your stress and anxiety, lower cortisol levels and promote relaxation.
A study in the Journal of Happiness Studies found that people who engage in activities of self care report higher overall well being, improved social connections and mindfulness. By taking time to enjoy a cup of tea in the morning, for example, you set a positive tone for the day. This small act provides a moment of peace, helps to boost your mood and prepares you to face the day’s challenges with a happier mindset.
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Strong social connections are so important for health. Studies show that people with strong social networks have lower risks of chronic diseases and better mental health overall. That’s why taking time to enjoy meals with others is so important, with the benefits going beyond mental health. Families who eat together have better dietary habits and form stronger bonds. Shared meals help to promote communication, strengthen relationships and provide opportunities to express gratitude for each other.
PRACTICAL APPLICATIONS FOR FALL
Use soft lighting, comfortable furniture and natural elements like wood and plants to enhance the sense of coziness. Integrating natural elements into home can reduce your stress and improve mood. Start adding some small fall touches, like warm throws, plush cushions and natural decorations like pumpkins and dried leaves.
Focus on mindfully enjoying foods that are wholesome and seasonal. Fall is perfect for hearty soups, stews and casseroles made with locally sourced, seasonal produce. Mindful eating – savoring each bite and eating without distractions – is a great way to improve digestion, increase satisfaction and reduce overeating.
Take advantage of the cooler nights (when they finally get here) with nature walks, pumpkin picking or visits to the mountains. You’ll get some fresh air, exercise and a chance to appreciate the natural beauty of the season while creating lasting memories with the ones you love.
Develop an evening wind down routine to promote relaxation and better sleep. Read a book, take a warm bath or practice gentle yoga to transition your mind and body from the busyness of the day to a state of rest. Regular digital detox periods also help reduce stress and improve sleep quality.
Embracing cozy living this fall can transform the way you experience the season, bringing warmth, comfort and happiness into your home, nutrition and relationships. The science behind these practices shows that they have profound implications for well being. By promoting relaxation, enhancing social connections and encouraging mindfulness, these practices help reduce stress, boost mood and improve overall health. So, light a candle, gather your loved ones and savor the cozy moments – your well being will thank you.
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Discovering Your
by LESLIE SPEAS
Discovering your purpose or the “why” that guides your life is important because it helps give your life clarity and direction. It is a deeply personal journey and is about aligning your life with what truly matters to you and creating a life that reflects your deepest values and aspirations. It isn’t a quick process, but the information below can help you get started.
LISTEN TO YOUR LIFE AND ANSWER THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS:
• If money were not an issue, what would I do with my time?
• What do I love to do?
• What gives me energy?
• What drains the life out of me?
• What do I want to change, shape and leave better than I found it?
• What segment of the population am I drawn to help?
• What are my gifts and talents?
• When I retire, what will I have hoped to accomplish?
REFLECT
ON YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCES
Look back on your life, and identify the moments where you felt more fulfilled and alive. These moments can provide important insight into your purpose.
ASK TRUSTED FRIENDS AND COLLEAGUES FOR FEEDBACK
Let them know that you are working on your purpose and would like their candid feedback. Ask questions like:
• What shows up when I do?
• What qualities do I bring to a room?
• What do you think are my gifts and talents?
• What is your advice on where I could improve?
IDENTIFY YOUR CORE VALUES
Core values are those things that are most important to you in guiding your life. So, how do you know what they are? Here is a list of potential core values to consider:
• Personal growth
• Religion/Spirituality
• Achievement of goals/ Recognition/Rewards
• Caring for others
• Integrity
• Good health
• Relationships
• Wealth
• Trust
• Wisdom
• Tradition
• Status
• Sobriety
• Simplicity
• Safety – Freedom from risk or danger
• Resourcefulness
• Dependability
• Success
• Influence over people, places, things
• Perfection
• Peace/Tranquility
• Loyalty
• Knowledge
• Generosity
• Independence
• Honesty
• Harmony
• Fun
• Freedom
• Financial well-being
• Family
• Respect
• Fairness
• Discipline
• Decisiveness
• Creativity
• Courage
• Compassion
• Communication
• Commitment
• Learning
• Personal development
• Humility
• Beauty
• Service to others
• Adventure
Pick the values that most resonate with you, and narrow them down to about five.
PRACTICE MINDFULNESS AND MEDITATION
Engaging in mindfulness and meditation can help you connect with your inner self and provide some clarity and insight into what matters most to you.
As an example, my purpose is “helping others to meet their Godgiven potential,” and I have been using it as a compass in my work and in how I live my life. Finding your purpose is really about how to align how you live your life with your deepest values and passions to make it most meaningful.
Celebrating World’s ALZHEIMER’S Day
Through Being Aware of the Early Signs
by ELISA WALLACE COPPEDE
This September 12th, join many in recognizing the families and loved ones affected by Alzheimer’s Disease.
This celebration is a global effort to raise awareness and challenge the stigma around Alzheimer’s disease and dementia. The Alzheimer’s Association is one of the first resources to go to regarding learning more about the more than 55 million people across the world affected by this terrible disease. As someone who has lost her father to this dreadful disease, I know firsthand how painful it is to see someone you love wither away. Whether you also have a loved one with this disease or would simply like to learn more about Alzheimer’s or dementia, this September is a wonderful time for all to make sure they are aware of the early signs of this dreadful disease. Early detection is crucial in helping those suffering from ALZ.
Before looking into the obvious signs that someone is experiencing Alzheimer’s or dementia, what exactly is the difference between the two? According to the article, “Alzheimer’s versus Dementia: What is the Difference,” by UCLA School of Medicine Writer Diane Siervert, “Alzheimer’s disease is the most common cause or type of dementia, accounting for the majority of cases.” Think of Alzheimer’s Disease as a specific type of dementia characterized by progressive memory loss and cognitive decline. Whereas Alzheimer’s Disease is a specific type of dementia, dementia is the overarching term that refers to a range of memory loss symptoms. “Dementia is a general term used to describe a set of symptoms that affect cognitive abilities, memory, thinking and behavior,” Siervert writes. “It is not a specific disease but rather an umbrella term for a group of symptoms.”
For my father, we noticed a few memory issues and cognitive symptoms, which led us to
take him to a few doctors who specialized in dementia and the initial stages of Alzheimer’s. At first, he was diagnosed as being within the “mild dementia stage;” meaning he was beginning to show the early signs of having dementia. It was not until months later, when he began to quickly decline, he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease.
All this said, what symptoms should one look for if concerned about their own loved one?
According to the Alzheimer’s Association article, there are 10 early signs and symptoms for Alzheimer’s and dementia.
According to their website, the first sign is “memory loss that disrupts daily life.” This sign by far, was what led us to worry about our father. If someone is asking the same question repeatedly, we should give pause.
The second sign is “challenges in planning or solving problems.” If your loved one has trouble planning, or working with simple math/finances, this could be another sign for which to look out.
The third sign is “difficulty completing familiar tasks.” When our father began to get confused with dressing himself, and would put on shirts inside out, we knew that something was clearly wrong.
If you know someone who gets confused about the date and time, and often eats at odd times, or wakes up to start their day at 2:00 a.m., then this is the fourth sign.
The fifth sign is “trouble understanding visual images or spatial relationships.” For example, if someone has trouble judging distance, and is increasingly becoming a troublesome driver, this is a clear sign of one of the two diseases.
“New problems with words in speaking and writing” is the sixth sign. If you know someone who recently calls familiar objects odd words (“hand clock” for a
“watch”), then you may need to investigate.
The seventh sign is “misplacing things.” While this may cause everyone to think they may have the disease, especially busy parents, with ALZ or dementia patients, this sign is more obvious because the person is unable in any way to retrace their steps and may get frustrated at losing the item.
“Decreased or poor judgment” is our eighth sign and occurs when the loved one makes poor choices, like donating to a cause that is clearly a fraud or having suddenly poor grooming habits.
If your loved one is suddenly not wanting to socialize, this is our ninth sign. “Withdrawal from work or social activities” is a clear indicator that something is off.
Finally, the 10th sign is the most difficult one to experience. “Change in mood and personality” is something of which to be wary. For my family, my father’s personality shifted during those final years. He went from being incredibly happy go-lucky to being moody and short tempered. Sadly, this was a clear sign for us that he was sick.
Overall, while September 21st is a momentous day for all to either donate or volunteer at an organization that recognizes ALZ or dementia patients, these loved ones need help all year. As mentioned above, early detection is one of the best methods to begin helping your loved one.
By providing them with the support and love they need, together we all can begin removing the negative stigma around this disease and help them live their final years with the dignity they deserve.
Boutique Wellness Health, Hope & Healing
by MARTIE EMORY
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AA venture truly based on hope and inspiration, Boutique Wellness in downtown Winston-Salem is a labor of love for Founder and Clinical Pharmacist Mary Coffey.
Open since 2018, she hopes every client immediately feels the positive energy of her faith-based business as she partners with patients and prepares to guide them towards their health goals.
“At Boutique Wellness, we believe in getting to the root cause of illness, while empowering patients to actually heal themselves,” Mary shares. While she and her dedicated team of eight treat patients with a wide variety of conditions, the plan is to optimize the use of medication through genetic testing and enhance care through nutrition, supplementation, exercise and mindfulness. Through aesthetics and regenerative medicine, the Boutique Wellness mission is to deliver safe, advanced and tailored care for natural beauty and wellness.
While she loves the notion of bringing hope – especially to new patients – Mary is always quick to stress that she is simply their guide!
“I do learn from every patient – but they do the healing!” she adds. “I am inspired by the people we reach. When I sit down one-onone with them and really talk, that bond is what really matters. I am always inspired by seeing their transformation!”
So much more than a typical medspa, Boutique Wellness rests on the cutting edge of treatments, targeting the process of anti-aging from the inside out. With an eye on increasing longevity, clients generally range from age 35-70 – a mix of women and men!
Their menu of services includes heavily requested Emsculpt, PRP (platelet rich plasma), Botox, 2D facelifts, radio frequency microneedling, hormone balancing and sexual wellness, and hormone replacement therapy for men, as well!
“Hair restoration is also very popular – which entails balancing hormones, scalp preparation, scalp rejuvenation, red light therapy and adding peptides into the scalp,” Mary explains.
She is also proud of their medical weight loss program – a process that goes above and beyond a simple prescription.
“We address hormones, inflammation and any thyroid issues with a goal of keeping the weight off. Then, we add body contouring.”
An integral part of the exceptional care at Boutique Wellness is Medical Director Dr. Joe Cleaver who performs all procedures at the practice. Dr. Cleaver is a fellow of the American Board of Anti-Aging/ Regenerative Medicine and is board certified in internal medicine and in anti-aging and regenerative medicine, achieving certification by the ABAARM in advanced metabolic dndocrinology specializing in bioidentical hormone therapy. He also lectures nationally and internationally in longevity medicine.
Mary is double-board certified in clinical nutrition and from the American Academy of Anti-Aging and Regenerative Medicine. She’s also a board member of the North Carolina Integrative Medical Society, a fellow at the American Academy of Anti-Aging and Regenerative Medicine and, last year, took a personal leap into the world of bodybuilding!
“Truly, anybody can transform their body if they want to, but 80% is definitely diet and 20% is exercise,” she adds.
“I have been working with Mary for the past six months, and she has a great knowledge base and process with which I’m extremely happy. From toxic mold, adrenaline and hormonal imbalances, she has guided me to a much healthier place! I am grateful for her help and wisdom.”
“Mary is very good at getting to the root cause of the issue. By testing and validating the results of her recommendations, you can be assured you are on the path to a more healthy outcome. In my case, I lost 18 pounds and improved my liver function!”
As an expansion of its positive vibes, Boutique Wellness is also pleased to introduce you to Boutique Wines, an elegant wine parlor open Wednesday through Saturday from 5:00 p.m. until 9:00 p.m., serving a selection of wines curated for an incredible experience. Visit boutiquewinesnc.com for details on live music every Friday night and to view their beautiful room settings available to rent for private events.
Both Boutique Wellness and Boutique Wines are located at 848 W. 5th Street (inside the historic Rosenbacher House) in Winston-Salem, NC, 336.448.0510. For more information on their services, visit boutiquewellnessnc.com or email info@bw-nc.com, and follow them on Instagram @boutiquewellnessnc and @boutiquewinesnc.
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June DeLugas Interiors’ designers take pride in creating elegant spaces for all our clients. With school back in session, there is more time that can be devoted to starting a remodel. Fall is in the air, and with that comes change. This comes in the form of freshening up your home – “out with the old, in with the new.” Whether it’s traditional, modern, farmhouse or transitional, our clients know that our specialty is timeless designs.
When clients invest in the services of turnkey design and remodeling, they are wanting the opinion of experienced design professionals who can work their magic and create a space that they will enjoy for years to come. In August and September, we receive many inquiries from homeowners who seek our design expertise because they want to update their spaces for the holidays or the coming year. The most popular of these requests are remodeling kitchens and bathrooms.
Bathroom remodels typically take three to four months to complete, while kitchen remodels take four to five months. In that span of time, we begin the planning process of laying the space out in CAD and configuring a new layout to encompass our client’s goal. The next step is to source all the pieces to bring the design to life – everything from furnishings and lighting, to new fixtures and appliances – and fulfill the dream our clients envisioned. Our design team acts as designer, contractor and project manager, wearing multiple hats, to ensure our projects are perfect from start to finish.
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by LAUREN SEPHTON
Hi! I’m Lauren. I’m a freelance writer and a food blogger with a passion for food that tastes good and is good for you! Stay tuned each month to find everything from achievable dessert ideas to healthy, quick dinners that’ll happily feed the family.
Peach Cobbler Italian Ricotta Cheesecake
This easy, Italian style ricotta cheesecake is layered with juicy roasted peaches and a brown sugar crumble for a showstopper end-of-summer dessert! With just a blender and a sheet pan, this Peach Cobbler Italian Ricotta Cheesecake is a must try recipe for the peach season.
8-10 ripe Peaches, pitted and thinly sliced 1/3 cup Granulated Cane Sugar 2 tsp. Ground Cinnamon
For the Brown Sugar Crumb:
1 cup All Purpose Flour ½ cup Brown Sugar
½ cup Melted Butter
1 tsp. Ground Cinnamon Pinch of Salt
INSTRUCTIONS
For the Italian Ricotta Cheesecake:
15 oz. Whole Milk Ricotta
16 oz. Cream Cheese
16 oz. Sour Cream
1 cup Granulated Cane Sugar
4 large Eggs
½ cup All Purpose Flour
¼ cup Unsalted Butter, melted
2 tsp. Vanilla Extract, or vanilla bean paste
For the Graham Cracker Crust:
2 packages Graham Crackers
½ cup Melted Butter
1. To Make the Peach Cobbler Portion: Preheat the oven to 400F. Line a large baking pan with parchment paper.
2. Either directly on the pan or in a bowl, combine all the brown sugar crumb ingredients. Mix until crumb-like texture, then add to half of the baking pan.
3. Add HALF of the sliced peaches to the other half of the baking pan to toss in the half of the sugar and cinnamon. (You’ll want to roast the remaining half with sugar and cinnamon to top the cheesecake right before serving.)
4. Roast until juicy, about 15-20 minutes. Set aside to cool.
5. To Make the Graham Cracker Crust: Reduce the oven heat to 350F. Grease a 8-9” springform cheesecake pan.
6. In a blender, combine the graham crackers and melted butter. Pulse until crumblike, then press evenly along the bottom and sides of the cheesecake pan.
7. Bake for 10 minutes, then remove from heat to cool for a few minutes.
8. To Make the Cheesecake Filling: In a blender, combine all ingredients. Blend until very smooth.
9. To Assemble the Peach Cobbler Cheesecake: Pour half of the cheesecake filling in the crust, even out with the back of a spoon, then layer with the roasted peaches and half of the crumb. Spoon the remaining cheesecake filling on top.
10. Bake for 45-60 minutes, just until the center is set but still slightly jiggly.
11. Let cool in the oven with the door cracked for 20 minutes, then remove to chill in the fridge for at least 2-4 hours or overnight.
12. When ready to serve, add more roasted peaches and the remaining crumb on top to enjoy!
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Retirement
IS EVERYDAY SATURDAY?
Thinking ahead to retirement,many of us:
Imagined that every day would be Saturday – unencumbered and ours alone to define. Thought that once we crossed the finish line, time would be more malleable – ours alone to fill. Hoped that the constancy of emailing, texting and zooming would be ours alone to determine.
Ours alone looked like a future where every day would indeed be Saturday once the rest was blessedly behind us.
SELF
CARE, CAREGIVER OR BOTH?
Well, here’s a reality check – while illness or chronic limiting conditions aren’t inevitable as we age, they are commonplace. In fact, the National Council on Aging notes that nearly 95% of adults 60 and older have at least one chronic condition, and nearly 80% have two or more. The most common of these include:
• Arthritis
• Heart disease
• Hypertension
• Cancer
• Type 2 diabetes
• Dementia
• Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD)
• Depression
• Hearing loss
• Cataracts and refractive errors
• Back and neck pain
• Osteoarthritis
by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON
And yet, few talk about the practical and emotional aspects of preparing for a stage in life that will likely require:
• a great deal more and different forms of self care
• assuming the role of caregiver for a partner or family member
• doing both, simultaneously.
My tell me the truth girl inquiry – not to mention my own lived experience – tells me that the checklist that framed your everyday for the past, oh, 40 years or so will suddenly or eventually be populated with a whole new set of urgencies and to dos, so get ready!
TRUISM #1: NOT EVERY DAY IS SATURDAY
Not every day is Saturday in retirement when managing chronic limiting conditions is in play. I’m sorry, but there you have it. That’s because most of the work of “managing” takes place on familiar terrain – ye old Monday through Friday 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. That’s something you know well, so, plan to tap into the same skills that made you effective in managing your professional work – project management, time management, being proactive and having the mindset of a team player. Trust me, you will need those front desk people, schedulers, nurses and therapists to help you navigate the healthcare system as you face new and ongoing challenges. Show your appreciation for their role in your journey and always treat them well.
Also, be sure to use a calendar system that works for you, whether that’s your ubiquitous phone or a ginormous desk or wall calendar. Trust me, you will need to refer, coordinate and juggle – especially if you are tending to your own issues as well as those of a loved one.
TRUISM #2: YOUR “TRIBE” MATTERS MORE THAN EVER
You know the mantra: “It takes a village.” Almost always, when you are there for a neighbor, a neighbor will be there for you. Ensuring that you have people to reach out to for emotional support and for practical hands on help will be key to your sanity! Our people all live elsewhere which is why our home is filled with Hallmark greeting cards and small “thinking of you” gifts. These, along with the “call me when you need me” help from those nearby is priceless.
TRUISM #3: TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF IS KEY TO YOUR HEALTH AND PEACE OF MIND
I know, we get really tired of hearing this. But, this wise counsel is both spot on and timeless. While self care is individual, common actions you can engage in include things like:
• Eating healthy foods
• Working out regularly
• Taking time to relax
• Journaling
• Being with friends
• Making time for your special hobby
• Finding peaceful solitude
I “trick” myself into “working out regularly” by doing a 10-minute online video. Because 10 minutes? I can do that! Or take “being with friends.” I have a standing call with a dear friend in Massachusetts every Saturday afternoon. It’s a “date” that only an emergency can interrupt.
While every day may not be Saturday in retirement, you can equip yourself for an awesome journey ahead.
by LESLIE SPEAS
of Great Teams 5 5
Behaviors
Most of us are a part of teams inside and outside of our workplaces. I’m sure we have worked with some teams that are effective and others that are rather dysfunctional. So, what makes some teams function better than others? According to Patrick Lencioni, the author of The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, the characteristics of a cohesive, high-performing team are trust, conflict, commitment, accountability and results. He says that each of these behaviors builds upon and supports the others. Let’s explore these behaviors in more detail.
BUILDING A FOUNDATION OF TRUST
Trust is the foundation of a great team. Without trust, very little progress can be made. Teams with an absence of trust display behaviors such as concealing weaknesses and mistakes; not asking for help or feedback; holding grudges; and not helping outside of the scope of their specific job.
In cohesive teams, members trust each other’s abilities, intentions and integrity. Furthermore, they are comfortable being vulnerable with one another about their weaknesses, mistakes, fears and behaviors.
MASTERING CONFLICT
Members of teams who trust one another are not afraid to engage in conflict around ideas. Conflict is sometimes considered to be a bad thing, and many people avoid it. However, conflict can be constructive and is needed to find the best solutions and make great decisions. If members don’t have an opportunity to share their thoughts and opinions on issues, they won’t buy into decisions.
Teams that don’t engage in healthy conflict may display behaviors like back-channel politics and personal attacks; avoiding controversial subjects that may be important to team success; and wasting time and energy with posturing and interpersonal risk management.
ACHIEVING COMMITMENT
If team members trust one another and have had the opportunity to discuss and engage in constructive conflict, there is a greater likelihood that they will commit to and support decisions even if they initially disagree. If there is a lack of commitment on a team, members will do as little as possible to support ideas and will not promote them on their respective teams.
To achieve commitment, members need to feel that all opinions and ideas have been put on the table and considered. Once that has occurred and there is clarity around the next steps, they will be more likely to buy in and support decisions that are made.
EMBRACING ACCOUNTABILITY
Teams that gain commitment to decisions and standards of performance hold one another accountable for adhering to the decisions and standards. If there is a lack of accountability, teams don’t stick to decisions and accomplish goals.
Teams that embrace accountability don’t rely on the team leader as the primary source of accountability. They will also hold themselves and others accountable.
FOCUSING ON RESULTS
Achieving team goals is the reason why a team exists. If each of the prior behaviors is functioning well, members are likely focused on the team’s goals. They will not give in to temptations to place their departments, career aspirations or egodriven status ahead of the team’s collective results.
By cultivating these five behaviors, teams can create a positive and productive environment that drives success and achieves goals.
NEUROPATHY Get Help Before It Gets Worse
“Years
• Numbness
• Burning or Tingling
• Difficulty Sleeping
• Sensitivity to touch
• Pain when walking
• Sharp electric-like pain
• Diabetic nerve pain
• Loss of balance
EmpoweredBeauty by Restoration MedSpa Launches Podcast
Featuring Marisa Faircloth and hosted by Triad Broadcast Celebrity Lora Songster, listeners receive an in-depth understanding of a variety of self-care topics and aesthetic services.
Marisa Faircloth — author, public speaker, and founder/ owner of Restoration MedSpa—has dedicated more than 40 years of her healthcare career to medical aesthetics, plastic surgery, and weight loss. In 2022, she released her book Empowered by Beauty: A Testament for Unleashing Self-Confidence, available on Amazon.com or BarnesandNoble.com, in which she shares with readers how beauty extends beyond the face and body and that true beauty comes from the compassion and connection we extend to others. This new Empowered By Beauty Podcast works to extend this theme, as well as focus on a variety of treatments and services available at Restoration MedSpa.
Lora Songster — who has hosted numerous popular radio programs throughout the Triad over the past 30 years — hosts the podcast and brings an insightful perspective to each episode as a Restoration MedSpa patient.
This podcast is a must-listen for anyone interested in learning more about Marisa and her team's unique treatments and unparalleled level of care and service for every patient.
Exploring Aesthetic Excellence
Every episode of the podcast delves into various treatments for aesthetics for the face and body, weight loss, sexual health, and more. From popular procedures like injectables to innovative therapies like lasers and light treatments, Marisa delivers expert insights and detailed explanations about the procedures and products available to help women and men look and feel their best.
“The goal of this podcast is to educate people and demystify aesthetic treatments, addressing common questions and concerns while highlighting the benefits and outcomes that people can expect when they visit us at our Winston-Salem or Greensboro offices.”
Listeners can expect a wealth of educational content meticulously crafted to provide a comprehensive understanding of each service. Current and upcoming episodes cover a broad spectrum of topics, including:
• Botox and Dermal Fillers: Learn how these treatments work, what to expect during the procedure, and the incredible results they can achieve in reducing wrinkles and enhancing facial features.
• Laser Skin Resurfacing: Learn about the technology behind laser treatments, how they can improve skin texture and tone, and the recovery process.
• Microneedling: Discover the benefits of this minimally invasive procedure, which stimulates collagen production for smoother, firmer skin.
• Body Contouring: Explore non-surgical options for sculpting and shaping the body, including CoolSculpting® and other advanced techniques.
• Customized Skincare: Gain insights into personalized skincare regimens tailored to individual skin types and concerns, ensuring optimal results.
Tune In
Whether you are a longtime Restoration MedSpa client or curious about aesthetic treatments, this podcast is an excellent source of knowledge and inspiration. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the services offered, the level of care you can expect, and how Restoration MedSpa can help you achieve your beauty and wellness goals with confidence and clarity.
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The Level of Care at Restoration MedSpa
One of the podcast’s primary objectives is to highlight the exceptional care patients receive at Restoration MedSpa. Marisa and Lora discuss the personalized approach taken with each patient, from the initial consultation to post-treatment followups. Emphasis is placed on the spa’s commitment to safety, comfort, and satisfaction, ensuring that every patient feels valued and well-cared for throughout their aesthetic journey.
A Community Resource
Restoration MedSpa’s podcast is more than just an informative series; it is a valuable resource for the community. By offering transparent and accessible information, the Empowered by Beauty podcast aims to inspire individuals to make informed decisions about their aesthetic and wellness needs and goals.
Stay connected with MarisaFaircloth.com for updates and new releases. You can also visit RestorationMedSpa.com for more information about services and treatments available, or schedule a complementary consultation.
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The Neverending Pursuit of Money Making Dollars, Making $ense
BY MIKE MCGILVARY, AIF®, FINANCIAL ADVISOR
What would it be like to be ultra wealthy? Would it mean homes in Hawaii and Paris? Do you envision sailing a luxury yacht across the Mediterranean? What about chartering a trip to space? While it is fun to imagine, this is not the reality for most of us.
You might have heard the term “Ultra High Net Worth” (UHNW) before. It is a term for those who have north of $30 million in net worth. There are currently 142,990 UHNW individuals in North America1 out of 369 million in total2. That is less than one-tenth of 1% (.03% to be exact).
There simply are not that many people flying private, sitting front row at sporting events or buying private islands…contrary to what we see on TV or in social media. So, why do we sometimes feel the desire for more, even though we are doing just fine financially?
The mindset of accumulating wealth is deeply ingrained in most of our psyches. It is important in the sense that we all have goals and want to retire comfortably, but it can be dangerous in its extremes. Let us take a moment to understand some of the psychology behind why this happens.
• Social Conditioning: From a young age, we are bombarded with messages that equate success with material wealth. This fosters a mindset where financial achievement is seen as the ultimate marker of success.
• Comparison Culture: Social media and the digital age have amplified our exposure to the lives of the affluent, often presenting a skewed reality that glamorizes wealth and luxury. This constant comparison feeds into the desire for more.
• Economic Insecurity: For some, the pursuit of wealth stems from a place of economic insecurity during their upbringing. This drive, while initially motivated by a quest for stability, can evolve into an endless chase for more.
• The Illusion of Happiness: There is a widespread misconception that more money directly correlates with more happiness. This can lead people to prioritize wealth accumulation, often at the expense of other aspects of well being.
• Fear of Missing Out (FOMO): Witnessing peers or counterparts achieve financial milestones can trigger a sense of FOMO, propelling the urge to amass wealth in order not to feel left behind.
• Seeking Validation: Accumulating wealth is often viewed as a means of garnering respect, admiration and validation from others. This external affirmation becomes a driving force, overshadowing intrinsic motivations and self worth.
• The Hedonic Treadmill: As people acquire more wealth, their expectations and desires adjust upward. For example, it might have once felt aspirational to sit in first class, but having experienced that many times, you set your sights on flying private.
You have probably heard that additional wealth does not equate to increased happiness. It is so true, but we can all use a reminder from time to time. The same holds true for habits that help us practice contentment. Here are a few to get you started:
• Cultivate Gratitude: Regularly acknowledging what you are thankful for can shift your focus from what is missing to what is present.
• Embrace Simplicity: Simplifying your life can help clarify what truly matters, reducing the noise of material desires and fostering a deeper appreciation for the essentials.
• Invest in Relationships: Strong connections with family and friends are a cornerstone of happiness. Invest time and energy in nurturing these bonds.
• Pursue Passion: Engaging in activities that resonate with your interests and values brings intrinsic joy and satisfaction.
• Give Back: Contributing to the well being of others through acts of kindness, volunteering or philanthropy can provide a sense of purpose and happiness.
As we navigate our financial journeys, it is vital to remember that the true essence of wealth lies in well being, not in the endless accumulation of money. The moments of connection, the pursuit of passions and the acts of generosity are what truly enrich our lives. By finding contentment in what we have and who we are, we can escape the neverending pursuit of money and embrace a life filled with genuine happiness and fulfillment.
2 “Population of North America.” Theworldcounts.Com, www. theworldcounts.com/populations/ continents/north-america. Accessed 1 Feb. 2024.
On the Road Again
FALL GETAWAY IN THE SMOKIES
by AMY HILL
While September is still steaming hot in the south, things cool off more quickly in the mountains. Western North Carolina and eastern Tennessee are home to the best amenities the Great Smoky Mountains have to offer. Here are a few family friendly fall getaway hotspots that will cure your children’s back-to-school blues this autumn.
BRYSON CITY
One of my favorite locations in North Carolina, Bryson City is a charming small town with idyllic shopping streets, tasty eateries and state-of-theart camping facilities. Deep Creek Campground is beloved among more primitive campers who want to ditch full hook-ups for a crackling campfire in the brisk mountain air. Packed with fly fishermen, waterfalls, hiking trails and group camping sites, Deep Creek Campground is a favorite pastime for many campers, including myself. With tent campsite rates starting at $30 per night, visit recreation.gov to reserve your site ahead of time. In the area and want to look around? Scope out the campground in person at 1912 East Deep Creek Road in Bryson City.
Also stationed in Bryson City is the Great Smoky Mountain Railroad offering families scenic rides through the Nantahala Gorge. Close to Christmastime, the Great Smoky Mountain Railroad operates as the Polar Express to bring the magic of the holiday season to passengers on board.
FONTANA DAM
According to blueridgeheritage.com, Fontana Dam is the tallest dam east of the Rocky Mountains at 480 feet in height. Constructed in 1942, Fontana Dam once solved an electricity crisis in east Tennessee and is now one of the best places for boating, fishing and education in the Smokies. Frequented by Appalachian Trail hikers due to its hot shower facilities, the visitor’s center is open May through October. Your family will gawk at the massive structure and mountainous beauty surrounding the Little Tennessee River.
CADES COVE
Located in Great Smoky Mountains National Park in Townsend, TN, Cades Cove is a sight for sore eyes. A scenic valley accessible by an 11-mile one-way loop road, Cades Cove can be a full-day trek during peak season but will certainly not disappoint those looking to take in the beautiful wildflowers, wildlife and history of the Smokies. Bear sightings are frequent, and hiking trails are abundant. Visitors also love taking a quick tour of historic churches, homes and cemeteries throughout the park. Park for a picnic, hike to Abrams Falls and stop by the visitor’s center for souvenir shopping. Find hours of operation and read more about Cades Cove online at nps.gov/grsm/planyourvisit/cadescove.htm.
GATLINBURG AND PIGEON FORGE
Taking a family trip to Pigeon Forge and Gatlinburg is a childhood rite of passage. Ideal for families with small children, Pigeon Forge, TN is the Great Smoky Mountain mecca of adventure, attractions and more. With nearby theme parks such as Dolly Parton’s decades-old Dollywood, in addition to mountain coasters, mini golf and white water rafting, there is never a dull moment in Pigeon Forge. Catch dinner and a show at Pirate’s Voyage, Dolly Parton’s Stampede or Hatfield & McCoy’s Dinner Feud before tucking your family in for the night at one of the numerous cabins, resorts or campgrounds in the area.
Nearby Gatlinburg is perfect for couples, young adults and those looking for breweries, nightlife and shopping with an alpine feel. Still want to go swimming in the fall? Gatlinburg is also home to Wild Bear Falls Water Park which is an astonishing indoor waterpark with an interactive treehouse, lazy river and retractable roof. Ole Smoky Moonshine Distillery draws in the crowds while Crockett’s Breakfast Camp serves top notch breakfast to early risers. Brave the Gatlinburg SkyPark or Anakeesta Adventure Park for panoramic views, and shop for outdoor gear at NOC Gatlinburg.
Caregiving:
Taking Care of Yourself While Caring For Someone Else
by DEBBIE BARR debbiebarr.com
In 2014, I began a new job that would have a profound impact on my life. As the new coordinator of a memory counseling program at a local hospital, I soon developed relationships with many caregivers – usually a husband or wife caring for their spouse or an adult child caring for a parent with some type of dementia. As I interacted with these caregivers one-on-one in the office, on the phone and in support groups, I developed great empathy and a profound respect for those engaged in the labor of love we call caregiving. I’ve come to regard caregiving as one of the most difficult – and most important – jobs in the world. And, that’s true whether the cared for person has dementia, a long-term condition such as Parkinson’s disease or is recovering from an accident or surgery.
Caregiving has been described as a journey. It’s not the “traveling-fromone-place-to-another” kind of journey. It’s a journey of compassion, walking alongside someone coping with illness or disability or the effects of aging. But, caregiving is never just about the person needing care. No matter whom a person is caring for, or why, or for how long, the caregiving journey is always also about the caregiver. And while most caregivers do a spectacular job of taking care of their loved one, far too many don’t do nearly as good a job of taking care of themselves. Well meaning caregivers sometimes sacrifice their own physical, emotional, social and other needs, so they can pour all their energy and time into taking care of their loved one. While that sounds noble and loving, it’s really not. It actually puts the cared-for person at risk.
In my book, I challenge caregivers to rethink the importance of self-care, telling them:
Here’s the truth. If you ignore your own needs for restful sleep, healthy food, exercise, medical care, spiritual nurture and “time off,” sooner or later, you will be unable to go on meeting the needs of the person in your care. Unless you make caring for yourself a top priority, you may burn out or bail out. And, where would that leave the person you’re caring for?
When caregivers make their own well being a priority, they have more endurance to meet the challenges of caregiving. Being well rested and healthy helps keep their emotional and physical reserves from running out. It enables them to be the patient, loving and truly caring caregiver they want to be. But, sometimes caregivers think: “The needs of the person I’m caring for are so much greater than mine! How can I possibly put my needs ahead of theirs?” If that’s how they’re thinking, taking care of themselves feels selfish.
So, one goal of this faith-based mini-book is to convince caregivers that tending to their own health and well being actually helps protect that person they care for. To say that another way, caregivers need to prioritize their own self-care so that they can keep on taking good care of the other person.
Do you know a caregiver who feels that self-care is “selfish?” If so, I hope you will share this message with them – self-care isn’t selfish at all; it’s an investment that will be repaid in a better quality of life for the caregiver and a better quality of care for their loved one. Self-care isn’t just smart – it’s necessary! That’s the key message of Caregiving: Taking Care of Yourself While Caring for Someone Else.
Caregiving is never just about the person needing care. No matter who a person is caring for, or why, or for how long, the caregiving journey is always also about the caregiver.
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Building
Passion on
by MARTIE EMORY
Immersing clients in a culture of positivity, understanding and acceptance, the vivacious team at Alkali Hair Studio in Winston-Salem’s fashionable West End makes it easy to love every minute you spend there!
Owner and CEO Amber Woodall has spent the past 15 years nurturing her love of color and art to cultivate a high-end specialty salon where the artists’ camaraderie and respect for each other overflows into their client relationships. The open, airy, naturally lit space lends itself to pure relaxation, exactly the intimate experience for which this diverse group of professional stylists strives! While their knowledge and techniques are cutting edge, their approach to every consultation is down-to-Earth, and their success is well earned.
Named a Salon Today Top 200 salon for three years in a row, highlighting growth and innovation, and appearing on Triad Business Journal’s list of “best places to work” in 2023, Amber is proud of how much her dream has grown, and she is eyeing an exciting expansion for the salon in March of 2025.
“This coming year, we will simply be taking what we do well and building on it!” she shares. The soon-to-be-designed adjacent space, former home of Fiddle & Fig, will introduce more spa features for their sister company, Alkali Beauty Lab, including nail services and head spa treatments (two of Alkali’s stylists are already certified in Yumi Japanese head spa techniques), plus a definite focus on hydrotherapy – one of Amber’s personal passions. She’s also hoping to add Vichy showers and soaking or float tubs.
photos by JEJ PHOTOS
Asassy new hairstyle or color update may be what brings you to Alkali initially, where stylists only interact with one customer at a time, offering their undivided attention to listen to your wishes and craft a signature style you’ll feel confident in.
But, in addition to their customized color and cut hair services, Alkali currently offers pharmaceutical skin services in the Alkali Beauty Lab.
Options include personal skin care consultations, Botox, Juvederm, chemical peels, brow and lash services, makeup application and a full range of facials, including hydrafacial options. Alkali Beauty Lab has a licensed PA in house, Elizabeth Boles Blankenship, MMS, PA-C, and medical advisor Dr. Will Keates, M.D., M.H.A, with W Keates Cosmetic Associates, for prescriptive/cosmetic injectables and services like VirtureRF Microneedling.
“Beauty Lab offers a unique MedSpa experience,” shares Elizabeth. “Each treatment is highly personalized to the client and thoughtfully scheduled, so patients don’t feel rushed and can enjoy dedicated time with their provider. We also offer complimentary follow-up care to ensure treatments are going well and patients are delighted with their results.”
As the entire spa menu of services expands next year, you’ll still find all Alkali products will continue to be high performing, eco-friendly, cruelty free, 100% vegan or vegetarian, and free of phthalates and parabens. The studio is carbon neutral and proudly participates in the GreenCircle Recycling Program, recycling every element used during your visit including hair, excess color formula and foils. Those efforts were one factor contributing to the studio’s recent accolades, along with the choice to transition to a gender neutral, ageless pricing system.
In the essential conversation about top-of-the-line skincare, Alkali carries Environ products – a respected company known for focusing on the creation of scientifically backed products that deliver incredible results and a healthy, more youthful look. Their product line supports overall health and well being which is also at the core of Alkali’s values!
“Environ is a product line that is inclusive of all skin types which can’t be said about the majority of medical grade skin care lines out there. With such effective doses of Vitamins A and C and antioxidants and peptides, it’s an easy recommendation to all my clients,” explains Esthetician Ashley Willoughby.
Another Alkali Studio mainstay, the SkinMedica line is backed by rigorous scientific research, evidence and global clinical efficacy studies with an in-house lab to ensure the best and safest results. SkinMedica products have won more than 80 beauty awards with the major objective of boosting customers’ confidence and happiness – which also mirrors Alkali’s goals perfectly!
Lead Alkali Esthetician, Ashley King, calls SkinMedica’s Retinol serum the best she’s ever used. “It’s nonirritating and works to enhance skin tone and texture, and diminish fine lines and wrinkles!”
The Alkali Studio experience is one that every member of the team takes seriously – where achieving fabulous hair is second nature, and boosting confidence is the ultimate luxury!
As we’re heading into a new season, take some muchneeded time for yourself and schedule your own amazing experience at Alkali Hair Studio online at studioalkali. com or by calling 336.724.1453. The Salon is located at 407 West End Boulevard, in Winston-Salem, NC, and on Facebook and Instagram @alkalihairstudio where you’ll want to follow exciting details and updates of their upcoming expansion!
Celebrating
Forsyth Woman Magazine of
As we celebrate the 19th anniversary of Forsyth Woman magazine, we reflect on the incredible journey we’ve had since our founder, Keela Johnson, launched this venture. Over the years, we’ve proudly helped countless small businesses tell their stories through our print magazines, podcast, social media, and a variety of events.
A Look Back to 2005
To appreciate how far we’ve come, let’s take a trip down memory lane to 2005:
COST OF LIVING
A gallon of milk: $3.20
A dozen eggs: $1.22
A loaf of bread: $1.05
A gallon of gas: $2.30
MAJOR NEWS IN 2005
Movie ticket: $6.41
Median home price: $240,900
Postage stamp: $0.37
Average new car: $28,450
YouTube was founded, changing the way we consume and share videos.
Hurricane Katrina devastated the Gulf Coast, becoming one of the most catastrophic natural disasters in U.S. history.
The first-ever video was uploaded to YouTube, titled “Me at the zoo.”
The popular sitcom “Friends” aired its final episode, marking the end of an era in television.
OUR JOURNEY
From humble beginnings (our very first issue was a 24-page partially black and white magazine), Forsyth Woman magazine has grown into a trusted platform for women in our community. We’ve expanded our reach through various channels:
• Print Magazines: Our cornerstone, offering in-depth stories, tips, and local features that matter to our readers.
• Forsyth Mags Podcast: Bringing the voices of our community directly to you, discussing everything from business success stories to personal growth on our podcast that launched in 2020. New episodes release every Thursday, and you can tune in on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and now YouTube!
• Social Media: Keeping you connected and informed with the latest updates, stories, and community news as well as fun event recaps and giveaways! Join in on the fun @forsythmags on Instagram and Facebook.
• Events: Creating opportunities for women to connect and celebrate, such as:
- Monthly Girls’ Night Out events—held at local venues and restaurants in and around Winston-Salem.
- Annual Boutique Crawl (formerly Tour de Boutique)— encourages our community to shop local and instills the importance of it!
- Women on the Move Conference—our BIGGEST event, where nearly 300 women gather each March to meet one another and feel empowered and inspired!
OUR TEAM
We bring the meaning of “it takes a village” to life every month with our amazing team. We are incredibly grateful for our dedicated team members, who work tirelessly to bring each issue to life:
Our graphic designers, writers, photographers, account executives, editors, distributors, social media managers, website team, event specialists and ambassadors bring immense hard work, passion and creativity to ensure that every issue of Forsyth Woman is a valuable resource for our community.
OUR COMMUNITY
We don’t take it for granted that so many businesses trust us with their marketing dollars each year. We understand the responsibility that comes with that trust and work hard to make these magazines a valuable resource for our community every month. We love Winston-Salem and are committed to supporting and celebrating the businesses and people that make our community so special.
LOOKING AHEAD
As we celebrate our 19th anniversary, we are filled with gratitude for our readers, advertisers, team members, and the entire Forsyth Woman Magazine community. Your support has been the cornerstone of our success. Stay tuned for a BIG celebration next year as we mark our 20th anniversary – it’s going to be an event you won’t want to miss!
Thank you for being a part of Forsyth Woman’s journey. Here’s to many more years of sharing stories, creating connections, and celebrating the incredible women in our community!
MS. SENIOR FORSYTH COUNTY
A Girl is Never Too Old for a Pageant
by CAROLYN SHORE PETERSON
Many little girls grow up watching the Miss America and Miss USA pageants thinking “maybe one day that could be me.” There’s something about the excitement that surrounds a pageant and, this year, the Ms. Senior Forsyth County pageant was held on August 3rd with six contestants and an audience packed with supporters, bringing a national pageant to our area, showing a “girl” is never too old for a pageant!
Celebrating the “Age of Elegance”
In 1972, the first “Ms. Senior Citizen” pageant was held for senior women. By 1981, the pageant went nationwide, and the name was changed to Ms. Senior America by the founder of the event, Dr. Al Mott. This is the world’s first and foremost pageant to emphasize and give honor to women who have reached the “Age of Elegance.”
The pageant is a search for the gracious lady who best exemplifies the dignity, maturity and inner beauty of all senior Americans.
Linda Anthony, Ms. North Carolina 2013, and a codirector of the Forsyth County pageant said, “The philosophy of the pageant is based upon the belief that seniors are the foundation of America and our most valuable treasure. It is because of their knowledge, experience and resources that the younger generation has the opportunity to build a better society. Today, we have about 25 states that hold pageants and, in North Carolina, we now have seven counties with pageants including Alamance, Davidson, Davie, Guilford, Randolph and Rockingham. This year’s pageant is completely new for Forsyth County. We have three co-directors for Ms. Senior Forsyth County Pageant – Sarah Daffron, Ms. North Carolina Senior
America 2010, Jennifer Tuttle Gentle, Ms. North Carolina Senior America 2023 and me.”
Contestants were judged in four categories – Interview, Evening Gown, “I Believe” Statement and Talent and ranged in age from 65 to 89. The pageant had six contestants – Ronee Walker, Ruby Cain, Joanne Goetz and Karen Patterson, all from Winston-Salem, NC and Barbara Geer and Sandra Smothers from Kernersville, NC.
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A Time of Celebration
The six contestants and 150 guests gathered at Mt. Carmel Church in Winston-Salem, NC for the pageant.
“Mayor Allen Joines greeted our audience, and Sheriff Bobby Kimbrough addressed the guests. We were thrilled with the turnout for this pageant and the contestants we had. Our winner was Sandra Smothers, and our first runner up was Karen Patterson. Sandra is ready to promote Senior America throughout Forsyth County and our state. She will also be entering the Ms. North Carolina Senior America Pageant in Pinehurst, NC on May 10, 2025. Sandra will make public appearances at county events and showcases. She will participate at events of sponsoring agencies upon their request and continue to share the importance that seniors have in our community,” commented Linda.
With the 2024 pageant in the books, the Ms. Senior Forsyth County pageant is now planning for 2025. If you would like information on participating, visit ____________ or call ____________.
For more pictures of the pageant, visit the Ms. Senior Forsyth County pageant Facebook page.
What’s the Difference? Plant Forward Vegetarian Vegan
by KATHARINE ROSENTHAL, RDN
Plant based eating has gained significant popularity, with various diets emphasizing different levels of plant consumption.Among the most popular are plant forward, vegetarian and vegan diets. While these diets share a common focus on plant foods, they differ significantly in their guidelines and restrictions. Understanding these differences can help you make informed choices about your dietary preferences and nutritional needs.
PLANT-FORWARD DIET
Are you curious about consuming a more plant-based diet but do not want to cut out animal foods completely? A plant-forward diet is a diet that emphasizes vegetables, fruits, grains and legumes but does not necessarily eliminate animal based foods. Meat or other animal based foods may be included in a meal but are usually not the main component.
VEGETARIAN DIET
A vegetarian diet is a way of eating that focuses on plant based foods while excluding meat, poultry and fish. This diet includes various fruits, vegetables, legumes, nuts, seeds and grains, providing a rich array of nutrients essential for good health. There are several types of vegetarian diets that have additional allowances and/or restrictions. Some vegetarians may also include dairy products and eggs. A vegetarian diet can be both nutritious and delicious by emphasizing whole, unprocessed foods, supporting overall well being and environmental sustainability.
VEGAN DIET
A vegan diet is a type of plant based diet that excludes all animal products. This means no meat, poultry, fish, dairy, eggs or any other animal derived ingredients. Vegans also steer clear of products that involve the use of animals, such as honey and specific food additives. A well planned vegan diet can provide all the essential nutrients the body needs. However, attention must be given to certain nutrients like vitamin B12, iron, calcium, omega-3 fatty acids and protein which are more commonly found in animal products.
BENEFITS OF THESE DIETS
By following one of these diets, you may benefit from a decrease in the risk of heart disease, stroke, obesity, high blood pressure and cholesterol, type 2 diabetes and many cancers. Some meats are high in saturated fat which can lead to poor heart health. Processed meats like deli meat, bacon and sausage are usually high in sodium and can increase blood pressure. A well balanced vegan, vegetarian or plant forward diet can offer numerous health benefits, including a lower risk of chronic diseases, better weight management and improved digestion. By emphasizing whole, unprocessed foods, these diets can be both nutritious and delicious, supporting overall well being and environmental sustainability.
As interest in plant based eating continues to grow, understanding the differences between plant forward, vegetarian and vegan diets is crucial for making informed dietary choices. Each of these diets offers unique benefits and allows for varying degrees of animal product consumption. Whether you choose to adopt a plant forward approach, embrace vegetarianism or commit to a vegan lifestyle, focusing on plant based foods can lead to numerous health benefits, as mentioned earlier.
Remember, the key to a successful transition to any of these diets is to emphasize whole, unprocessed foods and ensure you are getting a balanced intake of essential nutrients. By making mindful and informed choices, you can enjoy a diet that is not only nutritious and delicious but also supports your health and the environment.
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Discovering Local Gluten-Free Baked Goods
by HALLEIGH MILLESON
Ever since my junior year of high school, I have eaten gluten-free.
After taking a food sensitivity test, I found that gluten ranked high on the foods that I am sensitive to. Since I am sensitive to gluten, I am always excited to find gluten-free baked goods at local coffee shops and bakeries. There are many wonderful, local coffee shops and bakeries that have gluten-free baked goods options in the Clemmons, Winston-Salem and Bermuda Run areas. Below, I am going to share my favorite bakery shops that have gluten-free food options to enjoy. I do want to preface this article by saying that I am sensitive to gluten, not allergic to gluten. If you are allergic to gluten, asking any food places about their cross-contamination risks is important.
BE KIND COFFEE CO. (CLEMMONS)
Be Kind Coffee Co. is a great local coffee shop to go to. I love getting their delicious iced coffee along with a gluten-free muffin. Be Kind usually has a gluten-free blueberry muffin and either a gluten-free pecan bar or lemon bar. My favorite gluten-free treat at Be Kind is their delicious gluten-free blueberry muffin. Additionally, Be Kind has a good room towards the back of the shop where you can sit as well as plenty of outdoor seating in front of the shop.
CAMINO BAKERY (WINSTON-SALEM)
Camino Bakery is a great spot to find delicious coffee and gluten-free baked goods. Camino has two locations in Winston-Salem. There is a Camino Bakery located downtown on 4th Street and a location in the Brookstown area. There are many different gluten-free treats to choose from at Camino. Camino offers gluten-free cookies, brownies, muffins and scones. One of my favorite treats here is their gluten-free chocolate chip cookie. When you go to Camino, you will be able to find a delicious gluten-free treat in their case. Also, Camino has both indoor and outdoor seating where you can enjoy your coffee and baked goods.
LOUIE AND HONEY’S KITCHEN (WINSTON-SALEM)
Louie and Honey’s Kitchen is a newer bakery that is located in the West End area. Louie and Honey is a great spot to find delicious coffee and homemade baked goods. There are a few gluten-free options that are offered at this bakery. You can find a gluten-free flourless chocolate cake and peanut butter energy balls here. Sometimes Louie and Honey’s Kitchen will make gluten-free monster cookies and chocolate cookies that are delicious. There is nice indoor seating here in addition to outdoor seating in front of the bakery and on their back patio.
MADDIE CAKES (BERMUDA RUN)
Maddie Cakes is a great bakery located in the Bermuda Run area within Davie County. This bakery offers many delicious gluten-free options as well as coffee. At Maddie Cakes, you can find gluten-free brownies, cupcakes, energy balls, granola bars and cakes. On their counter, you can find gluten-free brownies, energy bars and granola bars. You have to ask for gluten-free cupcakes as they are kept in the back. Maddie Cakes offers a few flavors of gluten-free cupcakes, and you can choose what icing you would like for them to put on the cupcake for you. I love the gluten-free chocolate cupcake with vanilla icing. If you are having a birthday or special occasion, you can order a gluten-free cake which I have done a few times. There are also a few flavors to choose from for the gluten-free cakes that you can ask about. Maddie Cakes does have plenty of seating inside and a few tables outside, as well.
If you live in the Clemmons, Winston-Salem or Bermuda Run area and are gluten-free, I would highly recommend that you visit these local coffee shops and bakeries. All of these places offer delicious gluten-free baked goods and are also great places to pick up a coffee. I hope that this article will help anyone sensitive to gluten enjoy delicious treats and coffee at these wonderful local bakeries.
Purpose Push:
Fall in Love with Your Vision
Sheridan C. Watkins is a journalist and the owner of Perennial Peaces, a jewelry and gifts brand focused on transcending self-worth to all women. Her true work began after climbing out of a dark place with the help of God and therapy and her life mission is to provide tangible peace through her Divine gifts to help women heal and transform their life. Follow the mission on Instagram and Facebook: @perennialpeaces
by SHERIDAN C. WATKINS
There’s a lot of business advice to dive into that can come with many distractions. From studying analytics to strategizing revenue growth, getting wrapped up in the technical side of growing a business is very easy. However, it’s important to remember that God granted your business ideas and the capacity to keep them running. You aren’t in business solely to make money but also to impact the lives connected to your business.
In most business workshops, you are encouraged to create a vision statement. As you pursue entrepreneurship, you will realize how important the vision is. It’s usually a couple of sentences at most, but your vision statement is something you can refer back to when making pivotal decisions to stay aligned. Have you created your vision statement? When was the last time you looked at it? Do you still believe in it?
Usually, your vision statement involves the people whose lives you want to change
forever. The vision can seem unattainable, however, it’s healthy to strive to move mountains (Matthew 17:20) because it gives you something to believe in and bring God into. Your vision statement is your chance to dream big, so ask yourself, “How would my business create a perfect world?” I started a business of creating jewelry because I love helping others transform a simple outfit into a styled ensemble they feel regal in. As someone who struggled with peers not understanding and making fun of some of my outfit choices, I strive to help women and girls never feel like they cannot express themselves.
Chances are you know a specific group of people who need what you sell. I want you to fall in love with them, just like God fell in love with us and commit to helping them succeed. No matter what, do not stray from your vision of a perfect world. Realistically, perfection is reserved for God
and our heavenly bodies (Philippians 3:21), but how fulfilled would you be if you left this world better than you found it?
To help with crafting a powerful vision statement, think about these steps:
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The end result for your customer: What will make them say, “I’ve accomplished this goal with the help of [your business]?”
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The finish line for your business: If you decided never to make another product or provide your service again because so many customers have accomplished their goals through your business, how would you expect the world to behave going forward?
Set aside focused time to create or revisit your vision statement. Money comes and goes, but the vision permeates the atmosphere forever. Let’s build the world we want to live in. I have faith in you.
GETTING OLDER? Keep A Positive Attitude
by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON
Just the other day, I had a moment when the physical reality of aging lodged in my head and messed with my attitude. I hate when one negative thought takes off, growing into an entire field of weeds in my mind.
It all started with a jar of pickles. After several fruitless attempts to remove the lid with my right hand, then my left, I brought out the heavy artillery – first a spoon, bang, bang. Nothing. Then a knife to pry under the seam – easy does it. Nope, it wasn’t budging. That’s when I woke my dear man up from his nap (yes, I did!) and asked if he could wrangle the top off. He, too, struggled but finally succeeded.
Initially, I believed it was the hardest thing either of us accomplished that day. But, I was wrong. The much harder “thing” was grappling with that field of weeds – the flood of negative thoughts about aging –that this tiny incident managed to incite in my brain.
Come on, Jean Marie, you know full well that people with more positive attitudes about aging tend to live longer and healthier lives than those who harbor negative thoughts about getting old.
Of course, it wasn’t just the neuropathy in my hands, or the hernia I’ve yet to deal with, or the...well, never mind; you get the picture. It was about seeing myself as an ever-expanding compendium of age-related troubles and losses. That’s what was getting to me. To shift my “stinkin’ thinkin’” I brought to mind:
My mom who lived to 88 with full throttle joy despite her many, many challenges.
My same age and quite a bit older friends who continue to run businesses, traveI abroad, write books and participate in senior triathlons – just to name a few of their adventures.
I suspect that every one of us will look in the mirror, take a fall or receive a diagnosis that sparks the fuel of negativity about our process of aging. Just as the dang pickle jar incident did for me, which is precisely why we need to be prepared when it does. Thinking about people who are aging with a positive attitude as their True North is my place to start. Beyond that, what works for me is:
Reviewing the chapters of my life through a handy pair of rose-colored glasses. I am very much a realist, so when those negative thoughts about aging creep in, I pivot to the many joys that have accompanied me at every stage in my life journey.
I also challenge myself to authentically appreciate who I am right now. No, the stomach is no longer ironing board flat, but dang if I can’t kill a Pilates workout three mornings a week! Gratitude for what I have weathered, what I can do and who I am now, helps me to like, even to love the current me.
Based on his extensive research on perceptions of aging and their impact on well-being, Colorado State University Professor Dr. Manfred Diehl offers a variety of ways to adopt a more positive attitude toward your own aging process. I’ve summarized his suggestions here:
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Stay physically active – at least 30 minutes of movement or exercise every day is ideal.
Engage your brain in mentally challenging activities, and never stop learning new things.
Adopt a lifestyle focused on healthy eating, getting enough sleep, managing weight and not drinking in excess or smoking.
Stay connected to other people by nurturing relationships with your partner, family, friends, neighbors and others in the community, including young people
Create positive emotions for yourself and learn to feel good about your age.
Accept what you cannot do and ask for help when needed. Don’t sweat the small stuff, like stuck pickle jars.
Set goals for yourself, and take control of the steps needed to achieve them.
Minimize stress! Practice healthy coping techniques and learn to relax and unwind.
Have regular medical check-ups, take advantage of health screenings and engage in healthy preventive behaviors.
I won’t allow a field of weeds to take over my healthy, positive attitude about aging. I hope that you won’t either.
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Self-Compassion
Mastering Inner Kindness :
by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON
Someone once said to me: “Pure kindness pays off…being kind is a way to make our own lives, and the lives of others, more meaningful.”
Indeed. Kindness makes an impact on the giver and the receiver, reinforcing a quality that is its own reward. You may say “It’s just what I do, and how I am. I’m there for people if they need me.” Yes, it is how most of us think of kindness.
SELF-COMPASSION: KINDNESS TURNED INWARD
The other side to kindness – the one that researchers say may make us more resilient and more happy – is called “self-compassion,” the practice of turning kindness inward by being comforting and supportive of yourself. This practice allows you to hold yourself accountable in positive and productive ways, instead of beating yourself up mercilessly and getting stuck. Dr. Kristin Neff from the University of Texas at Austin explains: “With self-compassion, if you care about yourself, you do what’s healthy for you rather than what’s harmful to you...the biggest reason people aren’t more self-compassionate is that they are afraid they’ll become self-indulgent…they believe selfcriticism is what keeps them in line. Most people have gotten it wrong because our culture says being hard on yourself is the way to be.”
HARMFUL HABITS OF MIND
We know what “harmful” sounds like in our own heads – your significant other says that he needs a time out, and you think “I’m a loser.” You lock yourself out of your car, and you say to yourself “you idiot!” Negative internal feedback tends to be habitual, and it does nothing to enhance your coping abilities or your happiness. It doesn’t contribute anything.
But, turning kindness inward does.
Some researchers consider self-compassion a form of self-coaching: “It’s far more important to be kind to yourself than it is to have high self-esteem,” concludes Duke University’s Dr. Mark Leary.
DEVELOP SELF-COMPASSION
Dr. Neff’s research indicated that people who are really compassionate to others tend to be hard on themselves. Even if you are a person who tends to focus on the clouds passing by instead of the sun peeking through, you can develop your capacity for self-compassion. There are things that you can’t change, such as a genetic predisposition to gloominess or the difficult experiences that may have contributed to your outlook. But, you can always change your interpretation and the perspective that you carry forward.
As Dr. Leary reminds us: “When bad things happen to a friend, you wouldn’t yell at him.”
That made me pause, and so I asked myself: “If I consistently treated myself as my own best friend, particularly when I stumble, how would I demonstrate self-compassion?”
Well, I would:
• Respect who I am – strengths, weaknesses, blind spots and idiosyncrasies alike.
• Encourage myself by focusing on my accomplishments, strengths and gifts.
• Resolve to learn from my mistakes and continue to grow.
• Forgive myself and move on with more joy and less worry.
That’s what self-compassion looks and sounds like for me – which leads me to think that developing the habit of selfcompassion is a wake-up call with a significant, positive payoff.
TEN TIPS FOR NURTURING SELF-COMPASSION
Learning to turn kindness inward may take some practice, so consider how these tips can help you pivot inward with self-compassion:
1. Get serious about your own well-being.
2. Hold yourself to a high standard of self-respect.
3. Help yourself or get help when you need it – you matter.
4. Recognize when you are feeling sad, angry or upset.
5. Listen to yourself with compassion; don’t be so quick to pass a negative judgment.
6. Monitor what you say to yourself – check that tendency to beat yourself up.
7. Be patient with yourself when you make a mistake…so that you can get over it and move on.
8. Give yourself time to be with your thoughts and feelings.
9. Forgive yourself, period.
10. Give yourself a hug, rock or stretch. Crazy, I know, but physical movement helps to alleviate stress and calm emotion.
Self-compassion brings kindness full circle. It is a remarkable tour de force that builds resilience, happiness and a more positive life experience. I’m on my way. I hope that you are, too.
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Engaging Our Older Loved Ones in Personal Storytelling
by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON
My mom lived in a nursing home the last eight years of her life. As Alzheimer’s creeped in, my sister had a brilliant idea: “Let me buy Mom a set of notebooks where she can capture her memories and tell the story of her life.” We were excited about the prospect of her telling her story in her way and looked forward to those inevitable “I didn’t know that” or “Well, who knew?” moments of our own.
In our mom’s case, it wasn’t to be as her condition had already impeded her clarity as well as her ability to focus. The opportunity was forever lost.
How many times have you thought “I wish I had asked Dad that before he passed” or “Aunt Harriet would have known that piece of the puzzle, but it didn’t occur to me to ask her”? It is rarely nosiness that prompts our curiosity. Most of us have a genuine interest in knowing our loved ones more fully and from their perspective. In doing so, we also satisfy an innate desire to better understand ourselves and our history.
It’s not surprising that older people derive a number of benefits from telling their stories. These include:
• Preserving their sense of identity
• Improving their memory and cognition
• Reducing their emotional isolation and loneliness
• Developing a deeper connection with loved ones
The research also points to the priceless sharing of values, life experience and wisdom that these stories offer the listener – you and me.
SPARK A STORY
What are we waiting for? If Uncle Arthur tends to sit quietly by himself at your family gatherings or instead bombards you with questions about your active, busy life, you may want to consider how to draw him out by tapping into his stories. And, here’s the thing, you don’t need to ask about his whole life story. Most people would feel overwhelmed and respond with “Gosh, where do I start?” Or “Oh, you don’t want to hear all of that!” So, be creative, consider what you know about “Uncle Arthur” and spark a story by asking:
• How did you and Aunt Margie meet?
• How did you know that she was the one?
• What’s one lesson your parents taught you?
• Who were your favorite relatives growing up?
• What was your neighborhood like growing up?
• Who was the biggest influence on you as a kid?
• What’s the most mischievous thing you did as a kid?
• How did you decide on a career in...? OR What was it like being a homemaker back then?
• What’s your favorite holiday memory?
• What are your favorite holiday foods?
• What is one thing you wish you knew how to cook?
• What is the kindest thing anyone has done for you?
• If you could have dinner with one person, past or present, who would it be?
• What’s one thing you really admire about young people today?
• What’s one thing you’d like to understand about young people today?
• What is the most amazing piece of technology to you?
• What have you been doing for fun lately?
By now, you get the idea. I promise you’ll be amazed by how much better you will know and understand your loved one –and maybe even yourself. As you pursue conversations like these, be sure to:
• Express genuine interest in them and their stories. Use this moment as an opportunity to slow down, and to be in the moment, fully engaged.
• Ask open questions and follow up “why” questions to keep the conversation going.
Oh, and don’t be surprised if “Uncle Arthur” seeks you out at the next family gathering!
“Activities, seeing
loved ones, telling stories are the best anti-depressants for older adults.”
- Dartmouth Health
Hustle & Heart
How to Create High Value + Shareable Content
by TARYN JEREZ , OF GOFORITCREATIVE.COM
This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.
There are few things more frustrating in marketing than spending time on creating content only for it to fall flat. You create it, you post it and you’re greeted with the figurative sound of crickets chirping. Your brand deserves more, and refreshing your content strategy can be the bridge that gets you there!
This month, I’m sharing tips on how to not only capture your audience’s attention but inspire them to share it with their own followers and friends to help amplify your visibility and impact, as well!
IDENTIFY:
FOCUS ON YOUR UNIQUE VALUE PROPOSITION
The kind of high value content your audience is going to enjoy consuming and sharing provides solutions, educates, entertains and/or inspires them. From your social media posts to your marketing emails and everything in between, your content should offer something unique to your brand and its authority and personality. What actionable tips or expert insights can you provide? Are there entertaining stories that feel aligned with your brand? What exclusive offers and incentives do you have to share?
Consider what sets your brand apart; ask yourself how you can leverage that uniqueness to deliver value. For instance, if you’re a women’s accessory designer, what kind of unique personal styling advice can you share with your audience?
RECOGNIZE: CATER TO YOUR AUDIENCE
The deeper you understand your ideal audience, the stronger your foundation is for creating content. Ignore for a moment who your current followers and subscribers are and think about who you really want and need as customers. Do these two audiences match up? If not, you’ll need to start pivoting your content more towards who you’re actually needing to attract.
Regardless, it’s always helpful to conduct customer research to hone in on buying habits, preferences, pain points, goals, interests, turn offs, etc. Create surveys and polls for your audience to gather insights, and use the data to guide your content strategy. You want to build content pieces that position your brand, truly speaking to their needs and aligning with their values and interests.
ENCOURAGE: FOSTER ENGAGEMENT + INTERACTIVITY
If you’re seeking more views and visibility overall, encourage your audience to actively participate with your content! Utilize your call-toaction (CTA) within your posts and stories on social media by asking
questions, soliciting opinions, inviting them to give feedback or asking them to share or save content. Include intention sharing of user-generated content such as reviews and user-submitted photos and videos which can increase the likelihood of resharing. Lean into trending audios or reels/TikTok content ideas when it feels aligned as these become more digestible for viewers, as well. Remember to keep social media a social place! Prioritize responding to comments and direct messages to strengthen brand relationships and ongoing interactions.
ANALYZE: LEAN INTO WHAT’S WORKING
It’s important not to concentrate on what’s going wrong but lean into what’s going right! Monitor the performance of your content through built-in analytics tools to see what’s receiving the most engagement and who is engaging. When you track metrics, you can understand what resonates best with your audience and if you’re reaching current followers or non followers or subscribers. Give strategies time to work instead of switching things up too often. This will help you identify your content strengths! At the same time, it will allow you to improve and experiment to see what your audience finds the most valuable.
HUSTLE & HEART CHALLENGE
This month, review your current content and see which topics and styles are performing the best. Ask your audience what they want to see through surveys or polls, and decide where there’s an opportunity to educate, entertain or evoke emotion as a brand.
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Making a Difference
at 80
Volunteering at Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist, Ronald McDonald House Charities Piedmont Triad and Novant Health Forsyth Medical Center
by KAREN CARMODY
If you spent your career teaching and serving others, how might you enjoy your time in retirement? Sleep late, relax and bask in the fruits of your labors knowing you have positively impacted many lives? Some might, and it would certainly be a well-deserved right to choose to do so, however, that is not what Barbara Carmody, my amazing mother-in-law, did in her retirement.
When Barbara first retired, she traveled a bit, but she also became involved in volunteering at church and in her grandson’s school. In 2021, at age 78, she moved to Winston-Salem to be near her family who had relocated. She immediately began seeking ways to be involved in the Forsyth community.
One of Barbara’s first volunteering experiences was at Novant Health Forsyth Medical Center where she acquired more than 88 volunteer hours working alongside her friends to comfort mothers on bed rest or with premature babies. Barbara then spearheaded an effort to reestablish a volunteer program between the residents of her retirement community, Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist (AHWFB), and Ronald McDonald House Charities Piedmont Triad
In Memoriam Barbara Carmody
(RMHCPT), activities which the pandemic had halted entirely. Barbara taught the residents of her retirement community how to crochet and knit baby hats, planned craft activities and organized her community’s library.
Along with representatives of the Ronald McDonald House, Barbara coordinated monthly and seasonal crafts and activities to help parents and family members stay busy while waiting in the NICU for their little ones. Barbara contributed more than 225 volunteer hours to the Brenner Family Room. Furthermore, she and her troop of friends made quilts, dolls, teddy bears, door decorations and baskets to bring cheer and comfort to those waiting in the pediatric cancer center at Atrium Health Levine Children’s Brenner Children’s Hospital.
In May of this year, Barbara’s health suddenly declined, and she passed away within just a week or so of volunteering. Her passing and missing presence is not only felt by her family but also by her friends and the hospital communities she so enjoyed helping. Barbara’s family believes her volunteering was deeply important to her longevity because it gave her a new purpose while also keeping her active and focused on others. Reiko Roope, Hospitality Services Coordinator with RMHCPT stated, “Ms. Barbara was the embodiment of dedication and compassion. She genuinely cared for our cause of helping families with sick children. Her contributions have left a lasting impact, and she will be deeply missed by all who had the privilege of knowing her.” Reiko fondly recalled how Barbara’s face would light up with joy as she handed out baby hats and visited with families.
If you have never considered volunteering before, please do. No matter your age, you can make a difference and find personal fulfillment as Barbara did. There are many ways you can get involved at local hospitals and with RMHCPT.
RMHCPT offers the following avenues for volunteering – assisting families with hospitalized children by greeting guests, monitoring check-ins and keeping the kitchen stocked at the Brenner, Cone or Forsyth Ronald McDonald Family Rooms. Back at the House, one can help with sorting donations, assisting families and performing clerical work. If you have more time to commit, Family Support Volunteers play a vital role by facilitating Bingo on Monday nights and hosting crafts, special events and holiday celebrations. Finally, teens can explore the non-profit and medical world by joining the Teens With Heart program every summer. Apply online at rmhcpt. org/make-a-difference/volunteer.
Due to its size, AHWFB needs ambassadors to show patients and guests around the hospital and help them navigate the large facility.
Please apply online at Wakehealth.edu/volunteer. The clearance process requires a background check, orientation and a TB test (and flu shot during flu season). For those who want to help but are unable to commit to the above requirements, the hospital accepts donations of the following:
• Homemade cards for children or adults
• Crocheted or knitted blankets (for infants or lap quilts for adults)
• Small crayon and colored pencil packets
• Fun stickers and coloring books
• Word search books
• Small puzzles with big pieces
• Squeeze/stress balls and small toy
• Small, easy-to-read books
• Individual goldfish cracker bags
• Individual baby wipes
• Clothes for ages 6-18, any gender and all sizes
A Charming Fusion of Antiques and Vintage
Carolina Vintiques, a charming fusion of antiques and vintage, offers a delightful shopping experience for lovers of distinctive home décor. Owner Shelle McCollum’s vision brought this unique concept to life, creating a haven for discerning shoppers in Clemmons.
Located in a spacious setting since relocating from Winston-Salem, Carolina Vintiques boasts a curated selection of farmhouse chic and contemporary pieces, alongside vintage treasures.
With a focus on offering a less overwhelming shopping experience, Carolina Vintiques constantly updates its displays, ensuring a fresh and eclectic mix of home décor and antiques.
Beyond retail, Carolina Vintiques offers custom painting services using Fusion mineral paints, making DIY projects a breeze. Shelle and her staff also provide in-person and virtual consulting to help customers achieve their desired aesthetic effortlessly.
Visit Carolina Vintiques at 2550 Lewisville-Clemmons Road, Clemmons, NC, (across the street from Chick-fil-a) Monday through Saturday from 10 AM to 6 PM. Follow them on Facebook and Instagram @carolinavintiques for updates and inspiration.
for the
Homeless
by CAROLYN SHORE PETERSON
In 1989, the Bethesda Center opened to serve and improve the lives of the homeless in Winston-Salem, Forsyth County and beyond by providing shelter and housing along with stabilization services and case management.
The facility is a 365-days-a-year day shelter, night shelter and emergency night shelter, equipped to house up to 100 men and women each night, expanding when needed to accommodate and turn no one away. The task of serving the homeless is an outreach that only happens when people step up and support the Bethesda Center with financial help and donations. Currently, the Bethesda Center is experiencing a strain in finances, leading to shortened hours and services. In order to encourage donations, the interim executive director of the Bethesda Center and associate pastor of Agape Faith Church, Chris Leab, is addressing the misconceptions of the homeless and how giving someone a hand up can make all the difference for his or her future.
THE MISCONCEPTIONS OF BEING HOMELESS
In his role as the interim executive director, Chris Leab often hears of the misunderstandings people have of homeless individuals.
“There is so much misconception about the homeless community. Many think the homeless are just lazy people with drug problems. Yes, we deal with substance abuse, but many of our residents are very humble, sweet, older people, who have had a number of things happen to them in life that have left them in transition. We have seen a number of people lose their homes because of landlords increasing rents beyond what they can pay, so they are forced to move out without having anywhere else to go. In actuality, these could be our moms and dads, our brothers and sisters. The truth is, these individuals don’t want to be in their situations. Many have given up hope, but let me tell you, we have a staff that absolutely loves our residents. That’s why it’s been so difficult to cut our day shelter hours. We worry about our residents, especially the vulnerable ones. Because of the misconceptions, people don’t always give to support the homeless,” said Chris.
Funding for the Bethesda Center is at a critical need and, in order to maintain quality services, the Bethesda Center needs community support which has been a cornerstone of the facility.
GOING ABOVE AND BEYOND IN OUR COMMUNITY
The Bethesda Center has served for the past 35 years as a life changing lifeline, offering not only shelter, but laundry facilities, computer and internet, permanent housing, family reunification, mental and physical health care, along with case management to assist in those reentering the workforce, as well.
Helping the homeless to have a different perspective on their situation also comes with the services provided by the Bethesda Center. Sometimes, just knowing there is someone cheering you on and helping you to look for a job and believe that better days are ahead makes all the difference.
“Our caseworkers are often instrumental in getting our residents back into the workforce. This is a service that has made an impact on many, and we hope to expand this service in the future. Currently, the case management program at the Bethesda Center meets each individual where he or she is because everyone has different experiences and needs. The caseworkers provide homeless individuals with guidance in understanding the barriers that prevent their ability to live on their own. We are dedicated to not only providing immediate shelter, but also fostering long term health and self sufficiency, both are necessary for our residents,” Chris commented.
MOVING FORWARD WITH A MISSION
In order to continue with the mission of assisting homeless individuals, the Bethesda Center needs funds and accepts donations of supplies.
“We would love for people to become monthly partners with $25, $50 or $100 a month which will go a long way to help our most vulnerable. This is very helpful with our current budget needs. Right now, our budget is a little more than a million dollars a year, but we would need to increase that to keep up with rising costs and needed improvements. People can also donate in other ways with prepared food as we try and provide something for our guests to eat, toiletries and washing powders. There is a list of needs on our website which can be purchased through the Bethesda Amazon wishlist,” stated Chris.
The Importance of Shoes
by RENEE SKUDRA
Back in the day (1940s-1950s), there was a common saying that “shoes make the man.” To expand on that, and at the same time be the good feminist that I am, I would add they “make the woman” as well. Clearly, the adage underscored the fact that shoes were about fashion, and the right pair could make or break one’s outfit but, even more interestingly, that shoes conveyed character. In the past, and in a studiously class-ridden English society, a man was normally judged by his shoes. An excerpt from the “Intellectual Takeout” website from June 2024 notes that “Conservative lace-ups neatly shined indicated that you were from a good home, were sent to a good school. The shining of shoes was the shining of one’s character. Polishing your shoes was a way to polish your manners. Ship-shape shoes meant a ship-shape life – neat and clean with everything done and dusted, decently and in order.” Although we Americans are normally not the sartorial snobs that our brethren across the pond were, the importance of shoes is not lost to us either as a necessary nicety or an expression of personality.
Although shoes are about fashion, perhaps even more importantly, they are about function.
As any podiatrist will tell you (and mine has), your feet are your body’s foundation. Wearing good shoes can help you feel your best and prevent injuries. They serve as a protection from disease, injury and the natural elements. In many areas of the world, where sanitation is poor and disease is widespread, going without shoes makes one especially susceptible to parasitic worms and other foot infections. Those diseases can not only be debilitating but in fact lethal. Wearing the right shoes enables you to move well and offer comfort with proper support and cushioning. Furthermore, appropriate footwear can also obviate conditions such as calluses, bunions and plantar fasciitis.
As an admitted shoe “junkie” (hello, Imelda Marcos!), I can attest to a philosophy that says “the more shoes the better.” I’m all for having fun with them – wearing sandals with rhinestone baubles, fur-lined knee-high leather boots with a nod to the Harley Davidson motorcycle crowd, spongy plastic gummy shoes in bright turquoise or rubber flip-flops in the dead of winter. When I’m feeling playful, I can also tweak the prophet’s words from “How beautiful on the
mountains are the feet of those who bring good news” to “those who wear good shoes” – a pair of Nikes, brogues or Oxfords. (Seems that there can even be sermons in shoes.) But, I particularly delight in how shoes, which are not only a choice of life and a summary of purpose, perform beautifully in so many lines of work. A runner has his or her shoes that clasp the earth with their cleats, a factory worker’s steel-toed shoes (protect your feet from hard impacts), patent leathers are great for a summer ball and the new Skechers tennis shoes allow you to simply step right in without any assistance from one’s hands. There are running shoes to run and dancing shoes to dance. I even learned recently about “elevator shoes” which can make you look taller with their height-increasing lifts and insoles. At 5”2’, I’m giving some thought to those since my neighbor yelled out to me “hello, short-shop!”
Footwear clearly serves as a powerful symbol of identity and status in many cultures, reflecting the unique values and traditions of different societies. Distinctive shoes can tell stories, communicate messages and even provide insight into the wearer’s social standing or regional origins. In ancient Egypt, for example, shoes were so esteemed that they were considered a status symbol. The higher the heel, the more prestigious the wearer. Shoes are quite simply a way of expressing your personality. An English musical, “Kinky Boots” focused on exactly that. The musical tells the story of Charlie Prince who inherits a shoe factory from his father. Although the shoes were good quality men’s shoes, they were not particularly stylish. Inspired by a male friend who is a drag queen, Charlie successfully reinvents his business by producing a line of high-heeled fetish footwear for men. The lyrics in one of the songs say, “You might think beauty comes in spring and sparrow/When the sun rises, it’s the morning dew/But if you walk the straight and narrow/You’ll find the elegance and comfort is…the most beautiful thing in the world… a shoe!” As someone who paid $479.95 for a pair of Tony Lama Searcy 11” full quill ostrich boots, I simply say “here, here!”
Marilyn Monroe once said “give a girl the right shoes, and she can conquer the world.” The importance of shoes – nothing less than a perfect marriage of function and fashion. I will always love my riding boots.
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Taking Care of Older People We Love
by KAREN COOPER
There will come a time for many people when elderly loved ones will need extra care. While the adjustment may be stressful for you, it’s also important to remember that it is not easy for your loved one to become dependent on you or others for his or her care. Most important is to ensure loved ones are treated with respect, love and patience.
As a caregiver, take time to prepare for emergencies. Make a list of doctors and other healthcare team members. Write down medicines, past surgeries, insurance information and other important medical details. Talk with your loved ones about their preferences for housing and long term care. Discuss living wills and other legal documents that outline their wishes if, at some point, they cannot communicate.
Here are some more ways to care for the older people we love:
KEEP THEM ACTIVE AND INVOLVED
Exercise can keep elderly loved ones healthy and can even reduce their risk of falling. It is not unusual for older individuals to become isolated, lonely or even suffer from depression, especially if they have lost their spouse. For this reason, it is important to keep them involved with their family and friends, or even seek out new connections.
VISIT OFTEN
Your loved one needs social interaction with you, and you need reassurance that he or she is doing well. You may want to check the overall cleanliness of the house or to see if anything is broken and needs to be fixed. Check the pantry to make sure there is enough food, and make sure he or she is collecting the mail.
HIRE HELP
There may be a need to hire a helper, aide or another type of older adult caretaker. This could be someone who helps with daily activities such as showering, errands or housekeeping.
ORGANIZE A SCHEDULE
If necessary, try to arrange a schedule among you and other family members to help your older loved one with things like doctor appointments, shopping, cooking, cleaning, etc. A schedule will not only help keep your life structured and organized, it will help your loved one know what’s on the agenda for the day, as well.
REVIEW MEDICATIONS
Be sure that your loved one has an adequate supply of medications. If there are multiple medications, buy a pill box organizer with compartments labeled with the days of the week as well as AM and PM doses. If a new medication is prescribed, ask the doctor or pharmacist about potential side effects or possible interactions with current medications.
TAKE CARE OF PAPERWORK
Make sure everything is up to date and complete when it comes to important paperwork. This may include discussing a will or deciding on power of attorney. These conversations can be challenging, but they are necessary in order for everyone to be prepared.
MAKE HOME MODIFICATIONS
Take a good look around to see what may be a safety hazard when taking care of elderly adults. Things like:
Checking the overall lighting in the house to make sure it is bright enough.
Installing a ramp for wheelchairs or walkers.
Installing handrails and grab bars at the toilet and shower.
Removing small rugs that could potentially cause stumbles or catch on walkers/canes.
Plugging in a few auto-sensor night lights throughout the home so they are able to see if they wake up at night.
Making sure cables, cords and wires are safely tucked away to prevent potential falls.
Removing extra clutter that is lying around or furniture that is in the way.
DISCUSS FINANCES
Your older loved one may be uncomfortable talking about his or her finances, but it’s still important to try to have open discussions about financial needs and expenses, especially if he or she lives on a fixed income or if there is a budget to adhere to.
WATCH FOR DRIVING ISSUES
There may come a time when your loved one is no longer able to drive due to declines in eyesight or reaction times. It is important to assess his or her driving abilities, and when it does become an issue, offer other options that may be helpful. For example, you might consider hiring a driver or using a delivery service for groceries.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
It is important to take care of yourself when taking care of older loved ones. Get away for a while and enjoy your life, as well. Although caregiving can be rewarding, caregivers often face challenges. If you need a break from caregiving or would like assistance, ask family members, other loved ones or resources in your community for help.
DISCOVERING MELINDA LAWTON: FROM EMMY-NOMINATED ART DIRECTOR TO
MASTER JEWELER
Melinda Lawton’s artistic journey is as brilliant and unique as her jewelry. Initially majoring in broadcasting at the University of Florida, Melinda’s passion for art led her to switch majors, eventually earning a BA in graphic design. Her expertise in the revolutionary Quantel Paintbox computer graphics system propelled her to become the art director at WABC-TV in New York City at just 27 years old. Melinda’s career flourished in Los Angeles, where she earned two national Emmy nominations and served on the Board of Governors of the Television Academy.
Despite her success in TV and film, Melinda found a new passion in jewelry design. More than a decade ago, she left the bustling entertainment industry for Hendersonville, NC, where she opened Sweet Magnolia Gallery. Her jewelry, inspired by Victorian, Georgian and Edwardian designs, is crafted from precious and semi-precious stones and metals. Celebrities like Stevie Nicks and Carrie Underwood have worn her pieces, and her work has been featured in local and national magazines.
Melinda’s creations are more than beautiful accessories; they are symbols of strength. A customer once shared that wearing her jewelry gave them a sense of bravery. For Melinda, this is her life’s passion – to inspire women, one exquisite piece at a time.
During the pandemic, Melinda continued to innovate, adding vintage-inspired rings to her collection. Her dedication to her craft shines through each piece, crafted with inspiration from the gemstones she works with daily.
Jacqueline Bassett of Juelerye discovered Melinda and was so impressed that she drove to Hendersonville to see her pieces in person. Captivated by the artistry, Jacqueline knew she had to bring Melinda’s designs back to the Lake Norman area. Now, Juelerye proudly features Melinda Lawton Jewelry, offering exquisite, handmade pieces that blend antique inspiration with modern elegance.
Experience Melinda Lawton’s Artistry in Mooresville
On September 20th from 6:00 - 8:00 p.m., the vibrant town of Mooresville will host a special Gallery Crawl, where art enthusiasts can discover the brilliance of Melinda Lawton Jewelry at Juelerye | Artisan Gallery & Gifts. This event is a collaboration between four amazing downtown businesses, making it a community celebration of artistry and innovation. It is a unique opportunity to meet Melinda in person, learn about her creative process and see firsthand the intricate details of her exquisite jewelry.
Melinda’s journey from TV art director to master jeweler is a testament to her versatile talent and unyielding passion for art. Each piece of jewelry she creates tells a story, much like her own fascinating narrative. The Victorian, Georgian and Edwardian influences in her work bring a touch of historical elegance to contemporary designs, making each item a timeless treasure.
For those who cannot attend the Gallery Crawl on Friday, Melinda will be available again on Saturday, September 21st from 11:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m. This extended opportunity allows more art lovers and jewelry aficionados to engage with Melinda and explore her stunning collection.
A Journey of Inspiration and Creativity
Melinda’s work is not just about creating beautiful jewelry; it’s about inspiring confidence and strength in those who wear her pieces. Her dedication to uplifting women through her art is evident in every piece she designs. The testimonials from her customers highlight the impact her jewelry has on their lives, giving them a sense of bravery and inspiration.
The transition from the fast-paced world of television to the serene craft of jewelry making has allowed Melinda to channel her creativity in new and profound ways. Her ability to adapt and thrive in different artistic mediums is a testament to her exceptional talent and relentless pursuit of her passion.
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MOORESVILLE GALLERY CRAWL
MELINDA LAWTON JEWELRY TRUNK SHOW
JUELERYE ARTISAN GALLERY & GIFTS 112 S MAIN STREET, MOORESVILLE
FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 20 TH 6:00 PM - 8:00 PM
SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 21 TH 11:00 AM - 2:00 PM
JOIN US IN CELEBRATING MELINDA LAWTON’S ARTISTRY
Don’t miss the chance to meet Melinda Lawton and experience her extraordinary jewelry at the Mooresville Gallery Crawl on September 20th from 6:00 - 8:00 p.m. and again on September 21st from 11:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m. at Juelerye | Artisan Gallery & Gifts, located at 112 S. Main Street. This event is not just an exhibition of beautiful jewelry; it’s a celebration of an artist’s journey, creativity and dedication to uplifting others through her work.
If you have more questions about the Gallery Crawl or Trunk Show, please call Jacqueline at
Alternatives to Coffee Other Delicious Drinks to Help You Start Your Day!
by KAREN COOPER
There are still those die-hard coffee lovers who are not looking for a change, but now there are many other morning drink options for those who may be interested in trying something different! More and more people are setting aside their cup of joe for newer healthier coffee alternatives, some with less caffeine. If you’re looking to expand your morning horizons with something new and exciting, then a healthy coffee alternative might be just the thing for you!
HERE ARE SOME OF OUR FAVORITES: TEA HAS ADDED BENEFITS, IN ADDITION TO LESS CAFFEINE
Black tea or green tea can be a great alternative to coffee. Although tea does contain caffeine, it does not have as much as coffee, and will still give you the boost you need to get going! The caffeine in green tea helps to improve mental acuity as well as increase metabolism. There are other health benefits associated with green tea including that it contains Catechins, a natural antioxidant. Chai tea, another delicious alternative is also known as Masala Chai. It is a blend of aromatic spices and herbs combined with black tea and milk. Its flavor combines delicious full bodied spices infused with milk to add to the creamy indulgence.
PROBIOTICS AND VITAMIN B ARE FOUND IN
KOMBUCHA
Kombucha may well be an acquired taste for some, but many find this fermented green tea drink to be delicious and, as a bonus, it is filled with probiotics and vitamins, including Vitamin B which can help to boost energy.
GOLDEN MILK
Golden milk’s popularity has increased recently due to the health benefits hype around Turmeric. The drink gets its name from the way the turmeric turns the milk a golden yellow color, as turmeric tends to do with anything. Caffeine free golden milk serves up a mix of spices that warm you up and comfort you. The ingredients can vary depending on taste, but generally include: a blend of turmeric, black pepper, cinnamon, honey, maple syrup, and milk alternative. You can find recipes online or even pre-made mixes. Because of the turmeric, golden milk has antiinflammatory properties which can benefit you in so many ways.
LEMON WATER
You can squeeze half a lemon into a glass of water for a quick but potent vitamin C boost to start your day. This virtually caloriefree drink provides a refreshing, caffeinefree energy boost you need to get going in the morning.
SMOOTHIES
Who doesn’t love a smoothie in the morning? You add a kick of protein, some fruit, milk alternative, healthy fat, and leafy greens all blended up into one easy meal! The possibilities are endless when it comes to smoothies and there are recipes everywhere, but to be a true coffee swap, I believe a smoothie needs to have kick (like matcha…matcha is a type of green tea that is more nutrient-dense than standard green tea), some protein, and a healthy dose of fruits and/or vegetables. Get ready for a real energy boost!
HEALTHY REASONS TO DECREASE CAFFEINE INTAKE:
Less anxiety – Coffee has caffeine which can sometimes be great but can also come with the side effect of nervousness, anxiety, and even panic attacks. Decreasing the amount of coffee we consume can promote a less “fight or flight” reaction within us, calming our nervous system.
Better gut health – Coffee can irritate the gut, creating IBS-like symptoms. Many people rely on coffee to go to the bathroom but too much of it can create digestive upset.
Balancing hormones (especially in women) – Caffeine can disrupt estrogen levels which can increase the negative effects of menopause, endometriosis, or PMS.
BEST
MILK ALTERNATIVES FOR COFFEE:
If you are still enjoying your coffee but need more ideas for how to make it healthy and delicious, try these out! Dairyfree and enjoyable, see which ones are your favorites.
Almond Milk – If you’re looking for a milk alternative, then you can’t go wrong with almond milk!
Cashew Milk – This one mixes well with coffee. It can, however, be a bit more watery than other milk.
Coconut Milk – This milk is creamy and incorporates well into your coffee. It has the coconut flavor, so it’s great if that appeals to you.
Oat Milk – A barista favorite, this milk froths well and creates a creamier drink.
Rice Milk – This mixes well into coffee but can also be a bit watery. It does provide a neutral base for adding syrups or sugar that nut coffees do not.
Soy Milk – A classic alternative milk, this one can cut the tanginess of coffee but beware…it can curdle once it hits the hot liquid. Warm this one up before adding it to your coffee.
WOMEN ON
KATHARINE ROSENTHAL
Katharine Rosenthal, RDN is a registered dietitian and food blogger for the Be Well Table blog. She created Be Well Table to share healthy recipes as well as nutrition and wellness tips with everyday women, especially moms. Katharine is dedicated to helping you get nourishing meals on the table in a short amount of time, making healthy eating accessible and enjoyable for busy families. Katharine’s journey began at Iowa State University, where she earned a bachelor of science degree in dietetics in 2017. Since becoming a registered dietitian in 2018, she has gained extensive experience in both clinical nutrition and older adult nutrition. Leveraging her expertise, she launched Be Well Table to make nutritious eating accessible and enjoyable for all. Through her blog, she has collaborated with various local businesses and food brands across the United States, creating delicious recipes and spreading nutritional knowledge far and wide.
When she’s not busy crafting new recipes or working on her business, she loves to stay active through walking and strength training. A lover of relaxation as well, she enjoys unwinding with a good show. Katharine is also a dedicated mom, raising her two, almost three, boys to be adventurous and kind-spirited alongside her husband of eight years. The Rosenthal family loves to travel and embraces every opportunity to explore new destinations and create lasting memories.
STEPHANIE CARTWRIGHT
Stephanie Cartwright is a Licensed Clinical Therapist in the community. She currently serves as the Interim Director for the UNCSA Wellness Center and the Clinical Director for Counseling at the University of North Carolina School of the Arts. She has a master’s degree in counseling and was recently invited to present on counseling trends at the Association for University Counseling Center Directors Conference in Phoenix. “I enjoy focusing on health and wellness with a holistic approach ,” said Stephanie. “I spend a lot of my time in the gym, moving outdoors, collaborating with other fitness professionals to promote wellness in our community and empowering all people to be confident in their bodies. I am passionate about focusing on wellness with an emphasis on empowering women at any age in any body type. I enjoy music, especially watching artists around the area and supporting their careers! I am incredibly close with my family and feel blessed to have them as a central source of support in my life.
OLIVIA FONVILLE
Olivia Fonville is the founder of LIVV Social. She has a bachelor’s degree in strategic communications in public relations, marketing and advertising from High Point University. “I began working as a contractor for businesses during my senior year at HPU and, this past February, launched my own company so I could continue to help expand and promote my client’s messaging on digital platforms,” said Olivia. “My grandfather began his radio business in WinstonSalem and created a legacy. So, that’s part of the reason why I wanted to create LIVV Social and stay local to this area to continue his entrepreneurial legacy.” In her spare time, Olivia enjoys working out at 336 CrossFit, weekend walks at different local parks, eating out and finding new sweet treat places!
THE MOVE
LAUREN SHOEMAKER
LEXI HYLTON
Lexi Hylton is the founder and owner of Renewed Strength Physical Therapy, LLC, a growing practice dedicated to providing personalized, hands-on care for patients with orthopedic injuries, dizziness and more. A proud Winston-Salem native, Lexi returned to her hometown after earning her undergraduate degree from UNC Chapel Hill and her doctor of physical therapy degree from East Carolina University. With extensive experience in outpatient orthopedic care at a local private practice and Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist, she has now ventured into entrepreneurship, bringing her expertise directly to patients in the comfort of their homes. A clinic location is also on the horizon, further expanding access to top tier physical therapy in Winston-Salem and the surrounding area. Beyond her professional accomplishments, Lexi is deeply rooted in her community. She enjoys quality time with her five nieces and nephew, is an active member of Two Cities Church and can often be found playing pickleball with friends. Lexi and her husband are eagerly anticipating the arrival of their first child this December, marking another exciting chapter in their lives!
Lauren Shoemaker is the owner of LS Planning & Co. She has a bachelor’s degree in consumer, apparel and retail studies from UNC Greensboro. “I began my business shortly after planning my own wedding (five days to be exact),” said Lauren. “I caught a case of the wedding blues and needed something to fill the void. I perfectly planned every single detail of my wedding, down to the small details that truly only I would know were there, but I did not hire a coordinator to ensure that my vision was played out. I knew I needed to help other brides ensure the execution was there on their wedding day.” Lauren’s mission statement is “perfectly planned, perfectly executed.” “The word ‘perfect’ means ‘as good as it is possible to be,’ and that’s the level of service I strive to always uphold for my clients. I believe relationships are built upon trust, and I want each bride to feel 100% confident that I can execute on her behalf. I can’t wait to plan your happily ever after. I’m a wife, thrifting fanatic, cat mom, pastaenthusiast, Leo and lover of all things planning.”
ALLY CAIN
Ally Cain is a senior loan officer and producing sales leader with Ally Cain Mortgage Team powered by Atlantic Bay Mortgage Group. Ally has a bachelor’s degree in business administration and accounting from Appalachian State University. She has helped more than 480 families achieve homeownership, assisted clients in getting more than $1 million in down payment assistance, is on track to help 250 families achieve homeownership just this year, is licensed in three states, is building a team to further develop top notch customer service, has 99% 5 star reviews and 99% close on time rating, and has closed loans in as few as eight days. When not working, she enjoys traveling, and spending time with her little sisters, Kyleigh and Emory.
Fears, Flights and Landings:
by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON
AA Summer Reflection
s a pair of house finches eagerly set up housekeeping in a new hanging fern, my dear man delivered his customary, gentle reminder: “You know that you have a history of interfering with mother nature.” As his words trailed off, I muttered “guilty as charged.”
It was true, especially since that “harmless” black snake consumed an entire brood in the exact same spot the previous year. No wonder I was on high alert!
This season, when that first tiny egg appeared in that fresh fern, I kicked into gear, peering in each morning while angling precipitously on my tippy toes.
“Now there are three!” I rushed in to announce. Then four, then five. The brood was now complete. I cooed to them, sequestered as they were in their shells and told them “it will be alright.” But, I knew from experience that it could be otherwise. Nature, the order of things. Sometimes it isn’t Snakes get hungry, too, I reasoned. That rational reminder didn’t stop me from standing guard as often as possible over “my” five little eggs. When a few days passed with no sign of the predator, I became keenly aware of my sense of gratitude. As I gently “rocked” the fern, I prayed that these five would safely hatch and have a go at this experience of being alive.
It was a rainy, slightly cool evening when I spotted the first born chick. Soon two, then three, now four and five furry little things as delicate in appearance as the fleeting dandelion. My prayer that they would come forth into this beautiful, uncertain world had been answered! Heedless of my dear man’s words, I leaned in again, now blew my warm breath in their direction and continued my prayerful vigilance. In my mind, we were building trust. Whenever their mom or dad saw me nearby, they would squawk, but seemed to settle down as they became accustomed to my persistent, harmless presence.
ready enough to embrace what they were born to do – take flight. The question of readiness was on me; with mixed emotions, I knew that my empty nest syndrome was about to begin.
As I went inside to attend to the everyday, little did I know that the timeless miracle was unfolding outside. When I returned to peer into the nest, all but one of my little birds had trusted their instinct and taken flight. Their lone remaining sibling fretted about the well worn nest, caught between the known and the unknown, the safety of staying put and the fear of taking flight. I moved in close to this little one and whispered “You can do it. You can. You can do it.” Only God can testify to the truth of this. Trusting that, I will tell you that a few moments thereafter, the lone bird hopped to the nest’s edge, looked out at the great unknown and, like a toddler taking its first steps, flapped its wings and took off. That little bird, the last one, trusted those new wings and made it about five yards to a scraggly old bush – then clumsily landed.
I’ll not forget that few-seconds’ journey anytime soon. Fear, flights and landings. Something we humans can relate to. It’s a familiar story; a miracle that never gets old.
LOCAL EVENTS
*Event details are subject to change. Please check event websites & social media pages for updates as the dates draw near.*
SEPTEMBER 6-8 & 12-15
AND THEN THERE WERE NONE Times vary. Hanesbrands Theatre. Ten strangers with dark secrets arrive on a remote island, trapped by a storm and stalked by a ruthless killer. One by one, the guests are murdered according to the foreboding lines of an eerie nursery rhyme. Feel the rising tension and growing dread as the killer closes in on their next victim. Will justice be served?
SEPTEMBER 7
FALL FESTIVAL – YOUR HOME MARKETPLACE
9am-6pm, Your Home Marketplace, 670 South Stratford Road in W-S. Join us for our annual Fall Festival! All 89 booths in our 11,000-squarefoot vendor mall will be discounted, and we will feature drawings for gift certificates! Don’t need to be present at drawing time to win. You’ll find wonderful treasures, one-of-a-kind home furnishings, furniture, vintage/antiques, jewelry, artwork, repurposed pieces, clothing and more! For more information, call us at 336.659.0099, or email yhmwinston@gmail.com.
SEPTEMBER 7
MEADOWLARK BEACH BLAST
3-9pm, Meadowlark Beach Blast is fortunate to have one of the great beach music bands of all time, the Embers featuring Craig Woolard, this year. Join us for a great time and a great purpose of raising $5,000 for North Carolina Special Olympics. Music will begin around 3pm with the Embers starting around 6:30pm. There will be food trucks and a hot dog stand providing some very tasty variety of food. You can bring a small cooler, chairs and tent. Tents will be set up on the back row. There will be a silent auction of various donations from many sponsors. Did I mention there will be a corn hole tournament? The event is free, but remember the purpose of supporting the kids.
SEPTEMBER 13
UNCHAINED CHARITY DANCE EVENT
6:30-10pm, The Barn at Reynolda Village. Inaugural charity dance event supporting a local non-profit organization -- Substance Abuse Family Education (S.A.F.E). The event will feature a variety of group and solo dance performance styles. Refreshments, raffles items, 50/50 raffle and various vendors will be available. Note: Due to testimonials from charity (addiction), material may be sensitive to underage attendees.
SEPTEMBER 14
2024 YMCA OF NORTHWEST NC DIRTY DOZEN 5K OBSTACLE MUD RUN AND FUN RUN
Jerry Long Family YMCA. Registration is now open. Support our cause to benefit those battling chronic diseases. Free childcare for members and volunteers. Stay afterwards for the Clemmons Oktoberfest including a DJ, food trucks, Touch-ATruck, inflatables, a farmer’s market and so much more! Oktoberfest is free and open to the public!
SEPTEMBER 15
SECOND HARVEST’S FOOD HALL INVASION
4-7pm, Second Harvest Food Bank, 3330 Shorefair Drive in W-S. Second Harvest Food Bank of Northwest NC has a little something different up its sleeves for this year’s Farm to Second Harvest event, and it promises an experience that’s truly out of this world! Winston-Salem’s top restaurants and chefs will come together in a pop-up food hall set against a backdrop of quirky, campy, offbeat fun. It’s a cosmic celebration of the universal language of food, showcasing its power to connect us to our neighbors near and far. Get tickets at FoodHallInvasionNWNC.org.
SEPTEMBER 19
CORKS & CRAYONS
4:30-6:30pm, Mansion on Main Winston-Salem. It will be a special evening dedicated to supporting the future of children and early childhood education in our community. Exclusive wine selection, a selection of delicious cheeses, gourmet desserts and live music. This evening is more than just an event – it’s a chance to make a lasting impact on the future of our children and our community. Spaces are limited, so please ensure your participation by registering today. Google Corks & Crayons, Winston-Salem to purchase tickets!
SEPTEMBER
20
ROTARY OF WESTERN FORSYTH’S MONTE CARLO CASINO NIGHT FUNDRAISER
7-10pm, Forsyth Country Club. Casino games for every skill (and luck) level – including Texas Hold ‘em poker, Black Jack, Roulette, Craps and more! Raffle prizes will be awarded at the end of the night! (Gift certificates to local restaurants, a free tuxedo, golf for four, catered BBQ meal for up to 25 friends, Texas Pete gift basket, plus many additional surprises! The Rotary Club of Western Forsyth helps our community with tutoring, food pantries, scholarships, organizing the annual Lewisville egg hunt and more. Cost: $125 for players and $75 for non-players to attend. You can upgrade for $50 at the event if you later decide to play.
SEPTEMBER 20-22
PBR COWBOY DAYS
Greensboro Coliseum. Fun for the whole family! Use code FF30 for 30% off select tickets.
SEPTEMBER 20-21
LOVEWELL 12 YEAR CELEBRATION
110 Oakwood Drive in W-S. Birthday cake by LeiLei’s Cuisine and a champagne toast to celebrate 12 years! On 9/20, Permanent Jewelry by Brittany from 12-4pm. Call to schedule appointment. Walk-ins also welcome. On both days, Elaine the Bra Lady will be in house from 11:30am-4:30pm on Friday and 9am2:30pm on Saturday. Two ways to be entered to win a free bra: 1) Schedule an appointment AND show up for the bra fitting (two chances to win) and 2) Walk in for a bra fitting (one chance to win). Call the store at 336.893.6589 to schedule appointments.
SEPTEMBER 21
FALL VINTAGE MARKET
9am-2pm, Körner’s Folly. Featuring the best of local, handmade and vintage items for sale from 35 vendors, this outdoor market will feature something for everyone. Market is free and open
to the public. Pair your shopping experience with a tour of Historic Körner’s Folly – tickets available for purchase online or on-site inside the John & Bobbie Wolfe Visitors Center at 401 South Main Street in Kernersville.
SEPTEMBER
21
LEWISVILLE-CLEMMONS CHAMBER OF COMMERCE –PICKLEBALL TOURNAMENT
Forsyth Country Day School. We’re excited to announce that we’re launching an INDOOR pickleball tournament. Meet others in our community through a fun day of pickleball! Indoor play! Option of morning or afternoon bracket (9am or 1pm). Mixed Doubles Round Robin Set Team Pool play to qualify for a single elimination tournament. Games will be played to 11; win by 2. All skill levels. Players 14 years and up.
SEPTEMBER 24
WINSTON-SALEM STREET SCHOOL – SYLVIA SHELTON MEMORIAL FALL LUNCHEON
12-1pm, Millennium Center. Make plans to join us for our most important fundraising event of the year, the Sylvia Shelton Memorial Fall Luncheon! Named after the program’s former development director, this event helps generate muchneeded operating funds for the school year and showcases heartwarming stories of success and resiliency. Table sponsorships and seats go quickly for this special occasion, so contact the WinstonSalem Street School for more details.
SEPTEMBER 25
GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT
5pm, Six Hundred Degrees, 450 North Patterson Avenue, Suite 120 in downtown Winston-Salem. Grab your girlfriends and enjoy a much-needed Girls’ Night Out! Enjoy appetizer and drink specials! Reservations required! Can be made on Open Table or by calling the restaurant at 336.283.6754. As always, we’ll have out fabulous prize board with tons of awesome prizes!
SEPTEMBER 28
FIZZ & BEATS ZERO PROOF FEST
12-6pm, Paul J. Ciener Botanical Gardens. Join us for six hours of live music at the Paul J Ciener Botanical Gardens in Kernersville! Each ticket holder gets a sample card for the signature mocktails and a chance to vote
on the best mocktail vendor! Help us award a trophy! Sip amazing zero-proof drinks, hang with friends and support Teen Challenge and those in recovery! A variety of food trucks, craft vendors, lawn games, photos and more! Follow us at Fizz & Beats Zero Proof Fest on Facebook to see our music lineup, vendors and more! Grab tickets in advance for $10 at Favored Events. Kids 14 and under admitted free with ticket holder!
SEPTEMBER
28
APPLE FESTIVAL
1:30-4:30pm, Historic Bethabara Park. Spend the first Saturday of fall visiting with artists and artisans; tapping your toes to the music of The Burnett Sisters Band and The Blushin’ Roulettes; listening to Ken Bloom play his bowed dulcimer; exploring history with eighteenth-century craftsmen; playing Colonial games; having your face painted; eating apples or a meal from a local food vendor; and more! Admission is FREE; there are charges for food and crafts.
SEPTEMBER
29
SUNDAY SUPPER SERIES
Sunday Supper is a monthly culinary experience at Dynamis Estate Wines. Cost: $60 per person which includes a welcome glass of our new Dynamis 2023 Rosé. For more information, visit dynamisestatewines. com, or call 336.468.6702.
FUTURE
OCTOBER 5
2024 BOUTIQUE CRAWL
Presented by Hawthorne OBGYN. Join us for an adventure through several boutiques in and around Winston-Salem. Your $10 admission supports our event, grants access to giveaways worth more than $2,000, unlocks exclusive discounts and includes refreshments at each stop. Plus, kick off with a pre-game party featuring vendors, mimosas and more! Let’s shop local and strengthen our community together! Registration required: tinyurl.com/ FWBC2024
OCTOBER 18-NOVEMBER 3 (WEEKENDS)
LITTLE SHOP OF HORRORS
Times vary, Hanesbrands Theatre. Little Shop of Horrors is a brilliantly twisted sci-fi musical that serves up side-splitting humor along with chills and thrills. Featuring a Grammynominated score, this cult classic will leave you screaming for more!
OCTOBER 19
SHREDDING EVENT SPONSORED BY BERMUDA RUN GARDEN CLUB
9am-12pm, 120 Kinderton Boulevard in Bermuda Run. $5 per brown grocery bag or equivalent size box. Cash only. Rain or shine. Proceeds go to various Davie County community organizations supported by the Bermuda Run Garden Club. Contact Marie at 336.650.5518 with questions.
OCTOBER 26
BOO! AT BETHABARA
1:30-4:30pm, Historic Bethabara Park. Enjoy listening to some spooky song selections in the 1788 Gemeinhaus; meeting a few “spirits” of Bethabara’s past during a walk to God’s Acre; gathering under a tent to hear ghost stories by acclaimed storyteller Cynthia Moore Brown; making a scarecrow and/or a corn husk doll; playing Colonial games; getting your face painted; taking part in a scavenger hunt; and exploring the Forsyth County Public Library Bookmobile. Admission is free!
OCTOBER 27
GHOUL TIMES
12-5pm, Kaleideum, 200 Town Run Lane in W-S. Put on your favorite costume to trick-or-treat on Liberty Plaza and throughout the museum. Our staff will scare up some weird science, and you can get your face painted, create Halloween crafts and check out a “haunted” hallway and obstacle course. Then take part in the costume party and Monster Mash in the Rooftop Adventure space. There will be food trucks out front and other spooktacular activities to experience! Cost varies. Tickets can be purchased online or in person on the day of the event.
DECEMBER 7
MISTLETOE RUN 2024
William G. White, Jr. Family YMCA in downtown W-S. A run in the cold can warm the heart! Half marathon, 5K, fun run, free childcare and an after party. All proceeds benefit children’s programs at the YMCA. Learn more and register at ymcamistletoe.org.
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Conversation with Your BFF
How many times have you been talking to your bestie and said, “I wish I’d known that before…” followed by whatever information you wish you’d had at the time you started dating, got married, took a job, went through a divorce, etc? It’d be nice to have a second go round with the information and experience you have by the age of 40, but unfortunately, that’s not possible. But “are there some solid facts you can know and build your foundation on by the age of 40?” I am so glad you asked!
ARE THOSE WHO LEFT YOU REALLY THAT IMPORTANT?
I’m not sure why, but we tend to focus on those relationships that fell apart; those people who walked out on us are friends or significant others. We beat ourselves up dissecting why someone left us, was it our fault, could we have changed things? Maybe we should instead focus on those who stuck around; those who saw us at our worst and best and decided that we were worth the time and effort. Give those who gave you their time your time, and stop focusing on those who didn’t recognize your value. Never take those who have been by your side for granted.
by REBECCA COOPER
even though we know we deserve better. I’m not saying to change sides and become a taker, because they are truly usually jerks to everyone; so just accept that your heart will be too big for a lot of people and you will get hurt.
KINDNESS ISN’T ALWAYS THE BEST KILLER
GIVERS ARE USUALLY THE ONES WHO LOSE IN THE END
In my lifetime, I have seen and personally experienced that people with good hearts that are givers to others will almost always end up losing in life and love. Givers and those with good hearts tend to give more than they receive. We tend to forgive those who hurt us
I can’t tell you how many times in my life I have heard, “kill them with kindness.” My friend, it has almost never worked. When I laid on the kindness, I was usually hurt more and had more liberties taken with my good heart. Some people just don’t deserve your kindness; maybe try killing them with silence. Life is too short to spin your wheels with people who have it set in their mind that they are never going to like you, and
that’s on them not you. When you know you have reached the end of your “kindness rope,” move on! You will have peace through knowing you no longer have to spend time on them.
IT ALL COMBINES FOR A LIFE LIVED
For every experience you have in your life, the good and the bad, or not so good, each will combine to get you where you are supposed to be. Every win in life, loss along the way, those mistakes you wish you could change, will bring you full circle. Perfection will never be possible, but you can make changes and see success in life, personally and professionally. Work hard at those things in life that are worth the effort, those people who will never leave your side and learn to enjoy the ride of life and the beautiful journey that it can be when we keep the important things in focus.
