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With This Ring: Tips for Selecting the Perfect Engagement Ring

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The View From This Side NOVEMBER 2016

Hello everyone, and thank you for picking up the November issue of Forsyth Woman! We are so grateful for our readers and advertisers – we can’t do what we love to do without either of you! As I write this, our team has just completed a week chock full of motivation. We were thrilled to hear Shawn Achor speak at Hospice & Palliative CareCenter’s “Live Your Best Life” series. This best-selling author is a world-renowned expert on the science of happiness and if you haven’t read his book, “The Happiness Advantage,” I encourage you to do so! Mr. Achor has an inspirational message that boils down to this: Happiness is a choice. It’s one that I enthusiastically embrace! We were also delighted to attend Live2Lead for the third year in a row. Local leadership experts Chuck Goad and Rick Speas do a remarkable job with this event and this year was no exception. Our team enjoyed hearing John Maxwell, Simon Sinek, Liz Wiseman, and Dan Cathy speak on the subject of leadership. All of us are excited to add new skills to our daily routine. This month continues to be a busy one as we’ll be distributing the November issue of Forsyth Woman Engaged! I’m especially proud of this issue as my daughter, Brooke Eagle, took the lead on it and it is gorgeous! She did an amazing job! If you or someone you know is getting married, please be sure to get a copy! We’re also wrapping up the 2017 issue of Forsyth Community, and it’s not too late to be included (Advertising@ForsythMags.com). This annual magazine serves as both a visitors and relocation guide, and is a great resource for Lewisville and Clemmons residents. Like many, I’ll be celebrating Thanksgiving with family. My husband and I enjoy the holiday at Lake Norman with most of our family under one roof! We share fun, food, and football! It’s a little crowded with so many, and we always threaten to make one unnamed member of the family sleep in the closet due to their snoring (you know who you are!). But it’s a great time that I’m looking forward to. I hope you, too, have a great Thanksgiving holiday planned with your loved ones. Most of all, I hope you will take time to count your blessings, not just on Thanksgiving, but on every day of the year. There are so many things to be grateful for… not just material possessions, but simple things… The sun, the sound of friends laughing, different seasons throughout the year, and so much more. I hope you will think outside the box and look around... What brings you happiness? For what are you thankful? I am thankful to you for reading! As the holiday season begins to take shape, please remember to shop small, and shop local. And be sure to let our advertisers know you saw them in this month’s issue!

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Long Jewelers: Impressive Quality, Craftsmanship, & Prices BY DEBBIE LINVILLE

EXPERIENCE & EXPERTISE

Phillip Long, owner of Long Jewelers in Winston-Salem, has been part of the family business since he was 12 years old. Long Jewelers, established in 1945 in King, North Carolina, was known as the “best place for watch repair in all of Stokes and Surry County.” Working as an apprentice with both his grandfather and father, Phillip learned at an early age the value of “great work for a price that didn’t cost an arm and a leg.” He began his young professional life in his grandfather’s basement; helping to build and repair clocks proved to be the perfect accompaniment to the work Phillip did repairing watches in the family store. Today, Phillip overseas the operation with his wife, Pam. Through the years, people’s reliance on mechanical watches waned, and Long Jewelers’ focus shifted accordingly. Although there is still a need for watch bands and batteries to be replaced (and Long Jewelers routinely provides this service for its customers), with the exception of refurbishing the occasional Rolex, watch repair is no longer part of the repertoire of services provided. However, as evidenced by the many and varied tools in the back corner of the store, jewelry repair is flourishing. Phillip has over 30 years of bench jewelry repairs and restoration experience and strives to provide “quality craftsmanship and the best prices in the area.”

DIAMONDS…TIMELESS

In addition to jewelry repair, Phillip skillfully and artfully designs and creates exquisite rings, pendants, bracelets, necklaces, and earrings from diamonds, precious, semiprecious, and rare stones of every size, shape, and color. A fitting motto would be, “If you can dream it, I can create it.” The glass displays that line both sides of the store are peppered with evidence of his remarkable craftsmanship, and because there is availability at every price point, Long Jewelers is most assuredly the best place to select the perfect piece for any occasion!

Long Jewelers is best known for their high-quality diamonds and affordable prices. Phillip and GIA (Gemological Institute of America) certified diamontologist, Chris Pope, personally grade every diamond they purchase. By matching the diamonds to a master set of stones, an accurate assessment of “the 4 Cs: clarity, color, cut, and carat” can be attained. Phillip only chooses “the very best diamonds for the money” so he can then “pass along the savings to the customers.” Long Jewelers’ display

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cabinets boast diamond earrings, bracelets, necklaces, and pendants, but the inventory of diamond engagement, wedding, special occasion, and everyday rings is huge! Phillip reports that he sells more rings than anything else in the store and as he jokingly explains, there is a very good reason for that. “People have two wrists, two ankles, two ears, and one neck, but… they have ten fingers!”

GOLDEN OPPORTUNITIES

Individuals are invited to bring in their old, broken, or rarely worn jewelry. Long Jewelers commits to “paying the highest prices in town for gold jewelry, coins, and sterling silver.” In fact, during the interview, a young man came into the store with a diamond ring and left with money in his pocket. In addition to turning gold into cash, Long Jewelers offers customers several options to buy beautiful pieces at significant savings. 1. Trade in jewelry toward store merchandise at an extra 10% over cash value. 2. Closeout jewelry ensures plentiful purchasing options at great prices. 3. Estate Jewelry collection “has opened up a world of possibilities for jewelry lovers to own hard to find designs from modern day beauties to antique jewels.” 4. An additional bonus…all fine jewelry purchased at Long Jewelers receives a free appraisal certificate (pieces not purchased there can be appraised for a fee of $75.00). Look no further than Long Jewelers for all of your jewelry wants and needs! In addition to an amazing inventory of fine jewelry, customers will find an extensive collection of stylish men’s and women’s Citizen watches (including the eco drive series), Wind and Fire bracelets, Akoya pearls, rare coin necklaces, cameos, and a host of unique items. Because the website content is updated daily, customers are always just a click away from accessing the online portfolio of fine jewelry to select the perfect piece for themselves or a loved one. Long Jewelers is located at 111 Hanes Square Circle in WinstonSalem, NC (across from Kohl’s and next to Panera Bread). Hours of operation are Monday-Friday 10:00 am-6:00 pm and Saturday 10:00 am – 2:00 pm. For more information call 336.659.0641. You can visit them at long-jewelers.net or on Facebook.

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and corrects astigmatism, and the Multifocal lens which gives vision distance, intermediate, and near. We cannot include everything someone needs to know in this article, but we would like to give you a short overview. First of all, let’s talk about the procedures.

NO STITCH OR “STANDARD” PROCEDURE

WHAT TO DO ABOUT THOSE CLOUDY CATARACTS BY DR VIC KHEMSARA Last month we discussed, “What is a cataract?” Now we need to learn, “What do I (yes, me) do, about cataracts?” Cataract surgery has evolved by “leaps and bounds” as folks like to say. We have gone from a week’s stay in the hospital with sand bags beside our head to in and out of a surgical facility in two hours. The technique for removing the cataract (cloudy, natural lens) has become much simpler for the patient, with the exception that they now have choices to make. The hardest part of having cataract surgery (if you have an otherwise healthy eye) is making the choice of the type of procedure and the type of lens replacement. Below are some of the options. PROCEDURE: There are two main types of procedures utilized in performing cataract surgery. One is the standard “no stitch” surgery, in which the surgeon makes an incision with a scalpel, or blade as it is often referred to. The other procedure utilizes a laser called Femtosecond Laser. TYPE OF INTRAOCULAR LENS: There are many types of artificial lenses used to replace your natural lens. These include Monovision lens which corrects for distance vision, Toric lens which corrects for distance vision

The incision into the eye for the operation is usually less than 1/8th of an inch, not much more than a puncture wound. Therefore, the incision is so small that it is actually self-sealing and usually does not require any stitches to close. Thus the term, “no-needle, no-stitch.” In fact, right after the surgery, the eye is rarely even red, and patients can resume their normal activities and lifestyle the same day as their surgery.

FEMTOSECOND LASER

Laser-assisted cataract surgery has been used to remove cataracts for the past decade. This procedure provides the same outcome as traditional cataract surgery but uses a different method. It utilizes a femtosecond laser to break up cataracts. Your surgeon will use special software to create a surgical plan with a 3-D image of the eye called OCT (optical coherence tomography). The plan includes the location, depth, and length of the cataract in all planes. Using the unique map of your eye and the settings created in the software, the femtosecond laser will create the incisions and assist in the cataract removal. Light energy from the laser causes disruption of tissue borders with minimal damage to nearby tissue. The old lens is removed, and then, the new lens is inserted. Recovery time is very similar to traditional cataract surgery, and most patients experience clearer vision and can resume normal activities fairly rapidly. Replacement lenses are selected to fit each person’s unique needs for their lifestyle and the overall health of their eyes. As there are so many choices for the lens replacement, we will provide you with list of choices next month. We at Summit Eye Care are here to help educuate you make the best choices for your eyes. Please tune in next month.

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Sharing the Love Locally Accent Prone Salutes Small Business Saturday BY MARTIE EMORY

While you already know Accent Prone for their stylish market samples, home decor, jewelry, and gifts, owners Cheri and Justin Lingafelt hope you’ll also remember their steadfast support of Small Business Saturday when the after-Thanksgiving shopping frenzy kicks into high gear. Keeping it local is more than just a catchy phrase, and the idea behind it is life-changing for families, schools, and your neighbors. Husband-and-wife team Cheri and Justin are the portrait of what local business is all about. The two opened Accent Prone four years ago in their hometown of Kernersville, right on Main Street. In an ongoing goal of supporting all the small businesses which mean so much to their community, they plan to celebrate Small Business Saturday – a movement that began in 2010 and this year falls on Saturday, November 26 – and continue the buzz about how vital it is to shop and do business right in your own neighborhood. While the other post-Thanksgiving shopping days tend to favor larger retailers, chains, and e-commerce, Small Business Saturday highlights brick and mortar stores by encouraging shoppers to sample everything their local merchants have to offer. “Everyone loves to shop Black Friday and Cyber Monday – the two days around the event – but Small Business Saturday was created to rally business for our local stores that do so much for the community,” explains Cheri.

Besides its deep-seeded community feeling and sales boost to local stores and restaurants, take a closer look at what Small Business Saturday stands for: every dollar a shopper spends at an independent business returns over three times more money to the local economy than a single dollar spent at a large chain. For every $100 spent, $68 stays within your community. If you make a $100 purchase at a large retail chain, only $43 remains. Then there’s the hard-hitting fact that industrial pollution – think processing, packing, and shipping all those purchases nationwide and even worldwide – is responsible for almost 50% of our country’s entire pollution problem. In fact, 11 billion gallons of fuel are used each year for international transporting of goods. With the holiday season upon us, that’s something to think about! The team at Accent Prone hopes you’ll take advantage of their Small Business Saturday event and also visit other local stores as you wind your way through the biggest gift-giving season of the year. Shop locally for everyone on your holiday list, and if you need a starting point, the pages of Forsyth Woman are filled with local businesses, while Cheri and Justin are excited to share some of their local favorites with you, too!

On November 26, Accent Prone will offer sales and promotions throughout the store, and donate 20% of sales for that day to the local Salvation Army. Giving back is a way of life for Cheri and Justin, and with a new baby due to arrive soon, they relate to all families who depend on a small business to support themselves, and take note of how much communities rely on each other.

They swear by the cupcakes at Cake & All Things Yummy, also in Kernersville, and it’s Cheri’s go-to spot any time she needs a special dessert. The two are also fans of fellow local business The Brewers Kettle, home of amazing craft brews and specialty wines, and Eclection, where you can savor a good wine while shopping their unique collection of gifts and art. Then there’s Rebecca & Co. in Winston-Salem, where Cheri heads for stylish, specialty clothing. These are just a few of the great opportunities available to spread some retail love to other local establishments.

“Our local businesses spend money right here where it matters, with local printers, accountants, banks, and wholesalers, and we also create jobs for people … right here,” says Cheri. “Justin and I were both born and raised in Kernersville and it is so amazing to say we have created a little spot for ourselves in the development of the area.”

Accent Prone is located at 1030-F S. Main Street in Kernersville, NC, 336-310-4753. Follow them online at Accentprone.com or facebook.com/AccentProne/. Hours are Monday through Friday 10:00 a.m. – 7:00 p.m. and Saturday 10:00 a.m. – 6:00 p.m. For more information on Small Business Saturday, visit facebook.com/ SmallBusinessSaturday/

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Celebrating 50 Years of The Nutcracker! There’s a chill in the air and a holiday thrill awaits: UNCSA’s annual production of The Nutcracker!! With a December 9 performance debut only weeks away, the UNCSA faculty, students and staff are hard at work preparing for the 50th year of The Nutcracker!! Presented by First Tennessee Bank, the 2016 production of The Nutcracker remains one of the most anticipated and cherished holiday traditions in the Triad. The UNCSA acclaimed production of The Nutcracker will feature ten performances December 9-18 at the Stevens Center in downtown Winston-Salem. The heralded ballet has received rave reviews from critics and enthusiastic audiences since the 2009 reimagining of the production by former Dean of the UNC School of the Arts’ School of Dance Ethan Stiefel. For the best deal in town, take advantage of the great prices on The Nutcracker “Family Four Pack” for the evening performances on Thursday and Friday, December 15 and 16. Family Four Pack tickets are only $148 for Orchestra Side/Front Balcony and $110 for Center Balcony. The “Family Four Pack” offer is subject to availability. Tickets for the 2016 production of The Nutcracker are now on sale to the public at the Stevens Center box office, online or by phone. For more information, please visit uncsaevents.com. Get the best seats now! Be sure to purchase your tickets today for The Nutcracker! Since its debut in 1966, how many performances of UNCSA’s The Nutcracker have you seen? Please share your Nutcracker memories on Facebook.com/UNCSAnutcracker.

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Knowing Your Market… Can Change ‘How’ You Market BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON AND DENISE HEIDEL

so much is unknown, stress, and anxiety,” said Delana. “To that end, a seller needs an agent who can handle their concerns and questions with empathy. Our team can handle the highs and lows of home buying and home selling. “And we’re growing stronger! While Kim, Marty, and I are the active realtors on our team, Jillian is expanding her talents and will soon be an amazing buyer’s agent. While her focus now is on marketing and branding, as well as keeping us all incredibly organized, Jillian is on the road to being another valuable resource to our clients.”

DELANA REMAX

Real estate is a service-oriented business, and the most successful realtors are those who use marketing as the foundation of their business. After all, the market is more competitive than ever, with buyers turning to a myriad of resources to learn about a potential property. Delana Newsom has years of experience in listing and selling homes. Finding an agent who views marketing as a priority and, moreover, has the team in place to make it a happen, is a must! After all, a realtor is not an island – there are a lot of moving parts to the equation, whether you’re buying or selling or both! “The team approach allows us to serve individuals and families much better!” shares Delana. “It’s not effective to try to do it on your own. My ‘ah-ha!’ moment came when I realized I couldn’t be everything to everyone. I began to assemble a team of trusted professionals who can supplement my weaknesses with their strengths, and likewise, my strengths can complement them! Everybody on the team shines in a particular area.

Delana also brings her background in art and design to her business model. “I cut my teeth on new construction,” said Delana. Therefore, she can provide design input and also evaluate the quality of construction. “I can explain to buyers about the value of what is being put into a new home.” Her knowledge can also empower perspective homeowners when it comes to fixer-uppers. Her clients sing her praises with accolades that include, “Working with Delana was impressive and she was a true professional…she was able to comp out the best price for an aggressive sale. We sold in less than one week and working with her team was amazing and very helpful. I would highly recommend using Delana Newsom.” Another recent client raved, “We absolutely loved working with Delana and her team. Delana was very patient with us as we looked for a home and never gave us the pressure sell. She also has a great eye for remodeling! When it came time to close, her team worked behind the scenes to make sure everything ran smoothly.”

“I am blessed to have a team with diverse talents. Kim, for instance, is a phenomenal buyer’s agent and has a personality that brings peace of mind to this enormous purchase, especially for a first-time homebuyer. Marty, on the other hand, is exceptional at working with investors. Playing to the strengths of our team members, plus the strengths of our marketing coordinator, Jillian, means we bring the best of our talents to our clients.”

Statistics show that most people hire the first realtor they spend significant time with. However, choosing the person who will look out for your best interest in the biggest purchase or sale you’re likely to make is something that should never be taken lightly. Buyers and sellers need to educate themselves on who is qualified to represent them in real estate. Can the realtor afford to properly market the home? What negotiating skills do they have? “I encourage potential buyers and sellers to ask a lot of questions! A great realtor isn’t going to be offended!” said Delana.

Delana is an advocate for investing in her clients. For sellers, that means proper marketing of their homes, but also means making sure the best person is in place to take the lead. “While the team as a whole is invested in each contract (we are there to support one another), the individual needs of the client determine who is the best match to act as liaison for the purchase or sale.”

“I chose to enter this field in order to serve and help others,” shared Delana. “I take this very seriously. I study my market every day, learning what is happening with our listings. I expect every member of my team to be knowledgeable about what is going on, and when we have a challenging listing, we work together to find solutions.”

For instance, a buyer is full of energy and excitement; they are in the market for their dream home. “Let’s face it, shopping for a home is much more fun than selling a home, especially when

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When you work with Delana, you’re not just working with an individual. You’re working with a team. And moreover, they are working for you. Contact Delana Newsom at 336-577-6580 or delana@newsomhomes.com.

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The Meaning of Veterans’ Day BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Every year on November 11th, we commemorate Veterans’ Day and those who have served in the military. There are tributes, thank-you’s, and parades. With all the memories, respect, and honor associated with the day, it is important to remember the history and meaning of Veterans’ Day. At the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month in the year 1918, an armistice was declared between the Allied nations and Germany in World War I, or the Great War. Originally referred to as Armistice Day, Veterans Day was initially created as the anniversary of the end of World War I. In November 1918, President Woodrow Wilson announced that November 11th would be known as Armistice Day. Although the war didn’t officially end until the Treaty of Versailles was signed on June 28th, 1919, November 11th will always be known as the end. The day was filled with parades and tributes, while at 11 a.m. a moment of silence was observed. November 11th was further recognized as Armistice Day in 1921, when an unidentified American soldier, killed in World War I, was buried at Arlington National Cemetery. Also, on the same day, unidentified soldiers were laid to rest at Westminster Abbey in London and the Arc de Triomphe in Paris.

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Five years later, on June 4th, 1926, Congress passed a resolution stating the “recurring anniversary on November 11th, 1918, should be commemorated with thanksgiving and prayer and exercises designed to perpetuate peace through good will and mutual understanding between nations.” Along with the observance, the president would issue an annual address for the day. On May 13th, 1938, an act declared Armistice Day an official legal federal holiday. Up until then, the day was commemorated in observance, but now November 11th was a legal holiday.

Fields” by John McCrae. Poppies are usually worn in the lapel as a tribute and sold to raise money for veterans’ organizations. Also, the poppies are a symbol for Memorial Day.

The name change from Armistice to Veterans’ Day came under President Dwight D. Eisenhower on June 1st, 1954. Due to the efforts of American soldiers in World War II and the Korean War, the 83rd U.S. Congress amended the 1938 act, changing Armistice to Veterans’ Day. Since then, the date has become a day to honor all veterans from all wars.

There are many ways to get your family and friends involved in remembering veterans on November 11th. Some include volunteering with a veterans’ organization, attending a parade, writing letters to veterans at the Veterans’ Hospital or flying an American flag in your yard year-round. Also, take the time to listen to a veteran’s story about his or her military experience. These are pieces of history that often get lost.

Veterans’ Day is celebrated throughout the world. Here in the in the United States, November 11th is observed with tributes and parades. At Arlington National Cemetery, an official wreathlaying ceremony is held at the Tomb of the Unknowns. Many people will wear red poppies on the day, as well. The red poppy is a symbol of World War I and first appeared in the poem “In Flanders’

The meaning of Veterans’ Day and that of Memorial Day are often confused, and this is a common misunderstanding. Veterans’ Day is to honor all the living and nonliving military members, while Memorial Day is dedicated to honoring service members who have died in service to our country or from injuries resulting from battle.

Remember the veterans you know on November 11th and every day of the year. A simple “thank-you” for their service can go a long way. “As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.” ~ President John F. Kennedy.

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Unique Gift Ideas

Right Around the Corner! BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

‘You’ve made that list and checked it twice, after cruising around the internet for buying advice. But what about Hannah, your neighbor next door, and Cousin Becky you haven’t seen since you were four? When holiday madness mounts an attack, there’s only one place to get the shopping monkey off your back. Ivy Arch is the place to go for gifts for those you do and don’t know!’

For the past 20 years, Ivy Arch in Winston-Salem, NC has become the go-to shop for unique gifts. Customers have grown to love the fact that Ivy Arch’s items, from fashions to jewelry, to home accessories, and everything in between are not found anywhere else in town. “No matter the occasion, Ivy Arch has something for everyone. “We have customers every day drop in on their way to a birthday lunch or a get-together, and they need a last minute gift. We can help you find the perfect item, taking all the stress out of shopping,” said Lori Bates, Ivy Arch manager. Customers know that at Ivy Arch they will find exactly ‘what they’re not sure they’re looking for,’ get it gift wrapped, for free, and then be on their way! “We have gifts in all price ranges, from $4.98 on up. We strive to find unique items that work for all ages and budgets, especially during the hustle and bustle of holiday shopping,” Lori commented. This season, the ladies at Ivy Arch are ready to help with your gift list with fashions from Tribal Sportswear & JAG Jeans, jewelry from Susan Shaw, as well as great holiday get-together and hostess gift ideas from Corkcicle, Michel Design Works, Kitras Art Glass and North Country Wind Bells. Definitely not your everyday, run of the mill gifts.

FABULOUS FASHION FINDS

Known as the reliable place to find a perfect gift or a little splurge just for you, the team at Ivy Arch also delights in offering fabulous fashions not found anywhere else in town. Simply not your typical sportswear, the clothing lines they carry speak to what women want most: comfort, style and a really fabulous fit. The quality and distinctive features of these favorite brands speak for themselves! Customers rave about the perfect fit of Jag Jeans – a popular line designed for women, by women. Always a wardrobe staple once you experience their impeccable style and comfort, Jag Jeans are also known for their innovative wash treatments and hand-sanding, which gives each pair its own unique look.

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Spend some “me” time at Ivy Arch, and you’ll be drawn to the bright colors and irresistible styles of industry-leading Tribal Sportswear. A client favorite, this always on-trend line is comprised of essential separates and fabulous pieces to carry women effortlessly from the work day to an evening event … what’s not to love? When it’s time to accessorize these feelgood fashion purchases, treat yourself to a luxurious piece of handmade jewelry from the San Antonio-based Susan Shaw Jewelry, earrings and necklaces from The Artist Jay - crafted locally right in Greensboro or something from one of Ivy Arch’s more popular gift lines, Brighton Collectibles.

THINK OUT OF THE BOX FOR PARTY GIFTS

For those gift exchanges with the girls at the office, Ivy Arch carries Michel Design Works fine soaps, lotions and washes featuring their signature scents. “Each scent is paired with a beautiful design that blends the beauty of nature with the elegance of antique prints. Many women just don’t spend their own money on soaps and lotions to pamper themselves, which make these great gifts,” Lori said. We all have those holiday parties that we usually take a bottle of wine to, but why not take a gift that will be cherished like Corkcicle, Kitras Art Glass and North Country Wind Bells. Corkcicle canteens and tumblers are the talk of the town for their amazing job at keeping your beverages cold or hot. We have so many testimonials from customers about how awesome they are, it would be impossible to list them all. Anyone who takes a beverage with them on the go would love to receive one as a gift. Beautiful and decorative, Kitras hand blown glass enhances any home and brightens the day when looked upon. North Country Wind Bells are handcrafted in Maine and bring the sounds of the sea and wilderness to your backyard. These items are perfect gifts for anyone who loves wonderful sights and sounds! Whether you’re dropping by Ivy Arch to shop or to

visit, owner Judy Angell and her team always have their customers in mind, not only with the products they carry but with the causes they support in the community. “We have partnered in the past with The Breast Clinic and more recently with No to O, offering support through the donation of proceeds from special events to these groups that have such an impact on women in our community. Ivy Arch has been, and continues to be, a success because of our customers, and giving back is one way for us to say ‘thank you,’” Judy stated. Ivy Arch is located at 3382 Robinhood Rd., Winston-Salem, NC. For more information, call 336-774-1486 or visit ivyarch.com. Join them for their Holiday Open House on Saturday, Nov. 12, 2017, 10 am- 6 pm. Follow Ivy Arch on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter for updates on special events and sales.

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A friend and I traveled this summer to Guatemala for mission work. After ministering to orphans in the most primitive conditions and feeding the helpless and homeless, I assumed my eyes had witnessed the country’s most vulnerable victims of poverty. I was wrong. Our coordinator led us to a cemetery. It seemed ordinary enough. We strolled through endless mausoleums until we eventually stepped into another world. We stood on the edge of a cliff looking into an abyss called the Guatemala City dump.

TheDump BY KAYLYN LANIER

As we approach Thanksgiving, recent conversations with my daughter reverberate in my heart. Rather than retell her story, I asked her to share. May the images she cannot forget quicken our own souls to cherish the gifts surrounding us in this season. I am a fall-loving, cold-weather girl, all-in to anything and everything pumpkin spice even before August says “goodbye.” But, as this Thanksgiving approaches, the sights and smells, the tastes and table moments, hit me altogether differently. I gather around the table with family, but a piece of my heart remains in a valley of Guatemala City. I have been blessed to travel to nations since the age of nine. I have seen destitute poverty that looks similar in every country, but it captures my heart in a different way each time.

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The stench, magnified by the heat of the glaring sun, overpowered our senses. (I still can’t get that smell out of my head.) It took several minutes to acclimate. A black sea of massive vultures pecked through waste. Some perched on nearby trees awaiting new deposits of refuse to consume. Symbols of death and decay, their very gaze chilled me to the bone. The valley overflowed with mountains of trash heaped so high that they towered over the cliff’s edge where I stood. Swarms of people clamored through the debris without reprieve. They became territorial, even violent, over the trucks that arrived carrying new loads. For some, starvation created the deplorable need to dig for scraps. Others scavenged through the piles for anything to refurbish or resell, providing their only hope of income. Grave danger lurks for any desperate person reduced to wandering upon that valley’s dump. Aside from the obvious, deadly health concerns, the unstable heaps constantly collapse and bury people alive. Nevertheless, the nation’s government provides monetary incentive to those willing to risk their lives.

We could not find the words to process the despair before us. Just when we thought it couldn’t get any worse, our leader shed even greater light on the unbearable smell. The stench did not simply resonate from the trash. There was more to this already unthinkable story. Remember, we stood upon the ledge of a cemetery. Our guide described the graveyard’s unmercifully strict laws. There, families do not own grave plots. Each plot requires a yearly rent. If the family misses a payment, the staff exhumes their loved one’s body, then tosses it over the cliff…into the dump. Can you imagine? No, you can’t. Neither can I. We cannot fathom scavenging for food in heaps of trash mixed with human remains. We cannot comprehend the thought of our loved ones’ bodies tossed from a cliff to be consumed by vultures. Yet, the rising generations of this area in Guatemala know no world and no hope beyond such despair. I don’t know what your world looks like as you begin your Thanksgiving preparations. Maybe you are planning a loud family dinner or a small gathering with close friends. Perhaps you will spend Thanksgiving Day alone. Wherever you find yourself in this season, please take inventory of your life from a fresh perspective. It is so easy to take blessings for granted. My grandfather used to say, “Never get so close to the miracle that you can’t see it.” Guess what? You are a miracle. Your life is a miracle. You are loved. You matter to God, and you matter to this moment. He says so! So let us step into this Thanksgiving with thanks, LOTS OF THANKS! For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at www.HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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is based in Winston-Salem and has recently announced plans to expand to a second office in Lexington. Let’s support local, friends!

2. IT’S A WOMAN-OWNED BUSINESS.

No offense to the fellas, but owner Amy Cushman is a force to be reckoned with. She has carved a niche for herself in a male-dominated industry.

3. THEY ARE RESPONSIVE AND VERY PROFESSIONAL. Customer Melanie Mitchell shared that getting a quote for a move was a nightmare, with businesses failing to return multiple calls. However, Melanie found American Moving and Hauling to be very responsive. “I was so impressed by Amy’s timely responses every time I had a question!” Plus, these are true professionals whom you can expect to arrive with smiles on their faces and great attitudes.

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PLUS they have glowing reviews on Facebook and Google! American Moving and Hauling has been ranked highly by the Better Business Bureau. Additionally, customers have sung their praises for the quality of service delivered… all over Facebook and Google! Read what others have to say!

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their jobs very seriously. Moreover, they want you to feel comfortable and feel confident in their abilities.

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Okay, that may not be their official job title, but it could be. The American Moving and Hauling team are extraordinary at packing a truck, making sure that loads don’t shift, furniture doesn’t get damaged, fragile items are protected and, in general, just treating your stuff the way they’d want their own belongings handled.

Moving soon? Call American Moving and Hauling! They provide apartment, studio or home moves, as well as commercial, office, and business moves. They offer complete packing and unpacking services, and all equipment and labor are included in the estimate. They offer low-cost hourly rates and are fully licensed and insured. Visit them at 535 E Clemmonsville Rd, Suite E in WinstonSalem, or call 336.765-3499. Visit online at AmericanMovingAndHauling.com. Be sure to like them on Facebook!

“We employed American Moving and Hauling when my mother moved from independent living to assisted living in Winston-Salem. They were incredibly helpful, accommodating and always in good humor. My family has moved many times and lived in various places. I can say that the move with American Moving and Hauling was the easiest and least stressful I have ever experienced. I should also note that I collected two other cost estimates from other movers. American Moving and Hauling was substantially less expensive. So, great service, professional dedication, and a good price. What more could you want?” ~James N.

“Amy and her staff are amazing to work with. Our move was made so much easier by the well-thought-out plan from the moving team. We couldn’t have done it without them! I highly recommend calling American Moving and Hauling if your family is in the process of moving!” ~Holly C.

“I inherited a piece of furniture that was extremely heavy, and I dreaded going to get it, though I really wanted it. American Moving and Hauling had handled a previous move and though I wasn’t sure that moving a dresser was even worth their time, I took a shot. Amy was able to piggyback moving the dresser with an existing move and gave me a great deal. I was so grateful and appreciative! My heirloom arrived safely without a scratch on it!” ~Laura T.

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Dear June… Holiday Magic It is that time of year when we start thinking of friends and family that are coming home for the holidays and what rooms need to be remodeled or redecorated. With the Atlanta Market just behind us, and the Parade of Homes and High Point Market still fresh in our minds, we are swimming in new creative designs and products. We are excited to implement these new designs and styles with our clients for the holidays. We have been blessed with several farmhouse projects during the 2016 year. There is an evident push towards this trending style and the simpler way of living that comes with it. The ease of this popular farmhouse style can be hard to pin down. Each client identifies differently with this style. One resonates with a modern farmhouse aesthetic, while the other is striving for a true period style. By keeping the traditional farmhouse bones in these projects, such as traditional windows and hardwood floors, we have been able to keep that farmhouse feel. We have had a blast researching and selecting finishes and furnishings that accommodate these special projects. We desire to make these homes beautiful and comfortable just in time for the holiday season

CHRISTMAS OPEN HOUSE

Join us Thursday, Nov. 10th June DeLugas Interiors 10:00am-7:00pm Light Refreshments, Christmas Décor & Live Music!

Fall is in the air, but Thanksgiving and Christmas are also on the tips of our tongues and just around the corner. I focused on items for our retail showroom that clients and customers need this time of year to complete a room or start a project. Lamps, mirrors, bedding, artwork, accessories, Christmas decor and rugs were at the top of my list when visiting the Atlanta and High Point Markets. New inventory has been showing up for several months and we have been rearranging the showroom to get ready to decorate for our annual Christmas Open House. Here is to coming home for the Holidays with June DeLugas Interiors!

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Residential & Commercial Strategic Planning North Carolina’s Premier Interior Design Firm 2575 Old Glory Road, Clemmons 336/778-1030 www.junedelugasinteriors.com

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Festive Designs for the Holidays

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ROSEY’S REVIEW

MIDTOWN CAFE

BY ROSEY

151 SOUTH STRATFORD ROAD, WINSTON-SALEM, NC 27104 336.724.9800 SUNDAY-THURSDAY 7AM-8:30PM FRIDAY & SATURDAY 7AM-9:30PM

One thing I love about living in this area is being able to experience all four seasons. There are certain meals I like to have all year through and there are some that only seem right in certain months. Thank goodness Midtown Cafe & Dessertery feels the same! Their all-day breakfast, lunch, and salad menus continue to serve all the items you are accustomed to seeing, while dinner has switched over to its fall/winter menu allowing the chef to put his own twist on classic comfort foods. Each entree on the dinner menu, which is available after 3 pm, is made from fresh and local ingredients and is reasonably priced. Here are a few of the delicious items we recently tried:

Midtown Pot Roast - This tasty dish was perfectly

cooked and seasoned and served with red wine demi glacé and a root vegetable medley. It is comfort food at its finest.

Cornmeal Dusted Trout - Carolina Trout, sherry creamed

corn, roasted honey bourbon sweet potatoes, and homestyle green beans. The preparation and sides took this from a spring/summer delight to a light, and yet hearty, meal.

Pecan Crusted Chicken Breast - The pecan crust added a

nice touch to the usual fried chicken recipe and the maple chipotle sauce for dipping was a wonderful complement. This came served with goat cheese grits and braised collard greens.

Slow Roasted Pulled Pork - Another southern comfort food that warms the soul. Served with an apple barbecue sauce, cinnamon baked apples, and mac ‘n cheese - what’s not to love? Peach Chutney Salmon - The peach chutney was

a nice addition to the salmon and the root vegetable medley and sage fried corn were the perfect accompaniments. Although we found the sides to be just the right choice, there are additional sides to choose from if you prefer to try something different. There is also a beer/wine menu featuring many local craft beers and wines from area vineyards to go along with your meal.

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We also had additional items which included the seasonal salad made with roasted tomatoes, roasted corn, pecans, goat cheese crumbles and served over arugula with a mustard vinaigrette. And, from the Shareables, Pulled Pork Tacos - slow roasted pulled pork, sweet & sour Thai chili sauce, shredded cabbage, and cilantro. Who could forget dessert? With all the wonderful food we tried and the hearty portions served, it was amazing we had any room left, but then came dessert and not a crumb was left. Along with year-round desserts, Autumn brings the return of apple walnut cake with Applejack glaze and pumpkin pie in spiced nut crust. Yes, they were delicious and definitely heralded in all that is fall. Everyone on a different schedule, too busy to cook, company coming or a potluck to attend? Midtown Market offers pick-up catering with one day’s notice or their grab and go menu. With something for everyone at any time of the day, Midtown Cafe is the perfect place to go - and remember to tell them Rosey sent you!

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$25 IVY ARCH BOUTIQUE Pat Craig

$25 REBECCA & CO. Carol Kainz

$25 MAINSTREAM BOUTIQUE Jackie Scheib

$25 PAINTING WITH A TWIST Evelyn Molina

$25 MUDDY CREEK CAFE Teja Noble

$25 SIMPLY STERLING & COMPANY Jessica Petree

$25 LIL’ BRIAR PATCH Kathy Wilson

$25 SOUTHERN TIES BOUTIQUE Sandy Cruise

$25 PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON Benee Williams

1 BARRE CLASS AT INNER STRENGTH PILATES Mikela Anderson

$25 STYLE ENCORE Melisa Levin

$25 PENNY LANE BOUTIQUE Chasm Okoye

$25 NITSA’S APPAREL Dot Robinson

MYSTERY PRIZE Hughes

PHOTOS BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

OCTOBER GNO WINNERS

Muddy Creek

Grab a friend, a neighbor, your sister, your mother, a co-worker, and have a much needed Girls’ Night Out!

Wednesday, November 9th | 5:00pm Until...

Come out for LIVE MUSIC in the Muddy Creek Cafe and Muddy Creek Music Hall! Enjoy $4.00 House wines! “The BEST pimento cheese sandwich you’ll ever eat!” Just $5.99 for GNO only! All Bethania Mill Shops will be OPEN late for GNO!

& MUSIC HALL • AT THE BETHANIA MILL, BETHANIA NC •

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A must-have for any NFL fan, this recliner is sure to be the favorite seat in the house when you can’t make it to a live game! But no fighting please... you may have to resort to a coin-toss at the start of the game to see who gets dibs. See ad on page 23.

Accent Prone Benny & Ezra jewelry is designed and crafted in the beautiful hills of Tennessee, where the days are longer, and the honeysuckle is sweeter. This carefully selected wearable mantra evokes determination, self-worth and grace. Pair your words with authentic Swarovski® crystals and the power of natural gemstones. Choose one necklace, or layer them. The choice is yours, and the words are kept close to your heart. Mix and match charm collection to make necklaces. See ad on page 25.

Accent Prone Kim Taylor Wrap yourself up in the ever-popular plaid blanket scarf by Mudpie. Not only will you be warm, but you will also be right on trend. They are reversible and come in many great color combinations. At only $32, they make great gifts, and for only $12, you can add a monogram. Don’t forget to grab a lightweight vest and sweater to complete the look! Available at Kim Taylor & Company at 153 South Stratford Road in Winston-Salem. Call 336.722.8503, or visit KimTaylorAndCo.com.

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Kendra Scott Jewelry was created in 2002 in Austin, Texas, and, since its launch, has taken the fashion industry by storm! Known for their signature tassel necklace and gemstone earrings, each piece is carefully crafted. Kendra has created collections of timeless pieces that have won over loyal fans, media and celebrities alike. Starting at $50. See ad on page 25.

Schiffman’s Schiffman’s Jewelers’ Weave Monogrammed Hostess Platter with Handwritten Inscription. In addition to your personalized design on the front, with this piece, you can include your hand-written custom message on the back. Now, you have a new way to create a lasting memory for any occasion. Customized for $258 (or $158 without custom message). Allow two weeks for delivery. See ad on page 35.

Long Jewelers Stand out from the crowd with Citizen Ceramic Diamond Chronograph. This oversized stainless steel boyfriend watch features a one-second chrono measuring to 60 minutes and 12/24-hour time. The eight-diamond dial and 24-diamond bezel enhance the stylish, light-weight white ceramic on bezel and bracelet. Also, features a screw-back case and is 100M WR. See ad on page 17.

Tour de Food Discover downtown WinstonSalem on a walking foodie tour. Meet chefs, learn history, and try the specialty dishes. Gift certificates make the perfect gift for that person on your list who has everything. Give them an experience they won’t forget. Tours run every weekend. To purchase, go online to TourDeFood.com or call 336.406.6294.

Hip Chics Sheila Fajl Everybody’s Favorite Hoop Earrings. Stunning color choices in these lightweight, everyday hoops. Perfect for any season. $64.99. See ad on page 15. November 2016 |

Simply Sterling

Mainstream Boutique

It’s your story...tell it like it is with a little license from Waxing Poetic’s charming collection found at Simply Sterling & Company or online at SimplySterling.com, starting at $24. See ad on page 41.

Give the gift of style with a gift certificate to Mainstream Boutique. It’s the perfect gift you know they will love! See ad on page 31.

Southern Ties Boutique Give a gift with deep, personal significance, and timeless appeal! Southern Ties collection of heirloom quality, solid 18K gold, and sterling silver jewelry is handmade just for you by a master craftsman! Monograms, names and dates can all be transformed into a beautiful necklace, bracelet or ring...sure to be enjoyed and treasured for generations! Prices start at just $49, but mention code: “JOY&PEACE” to receive 10% off your order. (Please allow two weeks for your order to be fulfilled. Deadline for guaranteed Christmas delivery is December 10th.) See ad on page 21.

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Windsor Jewelers Made in Italy with love, Dog Fever is about your best friend. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s about earrings, rings, pendants and bracelets that tell a story of affection and unconditional love for our dogs. Dog Fever is available in silver or enamel and can be customized and mounted with diamonds, sapphires, rubies and emeralds. A perfect gift for the holidays or for yourself, find yours today at Windsor Jewelers. See ad on page 1.

Hip Chics

Forsyth Plastic Surgery

House of Harlow classic sunburst necklace is a staff favorite at Hip Chics and makes a great gift for the holidays. See ad on page 15.

A new chapter in hydration! In just eight weeks, skin will have a dramatic improvement in the appearance of skin texture, fine lines and wrinkles. See ad on page 83.

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HOLIDAY SHOPPING AT ITS BEST! BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

In coming to Schiffman’s, Cheryl has returned to the industry that she loves. “In 1992 I began my jewelry career working for a highend company and worked for the next 15 years as a manager selling designer brands like David Yurman, John Hardy and Rolex. During that time I obtained my Diamond and Diamond Grading Certifications, along with earning the honor of Manager of the Year. In 2006, I left the industry and worked in the natural heath food industry, using the skills I had learned in the past of creating great relationships with customers and had success as National Sales Manager, but I decided to return to where my heart has always been. Schiffman’s and I are a perfect fit because of the company’s long-standing reputation for expert customer service and my belief in the importance of creating relationships with customers; it’s not just about making a sale, it really comes down to building trust with your customers and meeting their needs over the years,” Cheryl commented. One way Schiffman’s can help you with your shopping is with your loved one’s ‘wish list.’ “We offer easy shopping with a ‘wish list,’ which appeals to many of the men who come in to shop. Ladies can come in and select everything they like; we will put those items on their ‘wish list’ and email your gift giver when the next special occasion comes around. It takes the guess work out of shopping, and your loved one is pleasantly surprised,” stated Aimee Rowe, Bridal and Giftware Manager at Schiffman’s Winston-Salem.

As you start that holiday shopping list, there are probably quite a few people who fall under the headings ‘Has Everything’ or ‘Wants Something Special.’ You know those people who don’t need another obligatory tie, a pair of pajamas or a gift card to a restaurant, but you don’t know where to shop for them. This year, you should go where Santa goes for those on his ‘nice’ list: Schiffman’s in Winston-Salem! Schiffman’s has a long and rich history of serving the Winston-Salem and surrounding Triad area with exquisite jewelry from top designers such as Roberto Coin, Penny Preville, Lagos, Konstantino, and Marco Bicego, as well as fine, Swiss-made timepieces by Rolex, Omega, Michele, and Ball. Diamonds are hand selected to ensure that the quality and integrity of the heritage is maintained with every gorgeous purchase that walks out the door. “We have brilliant light-performing diamonds you will not see anywhere else from Hearts on Fire, Christopher and our own signature line called Fire & Ice. Having

been a part of so many special occasions over four generations, we want to create lifetime relationships with our clients and be their personal jeweler for generations to come,” said Lane Schiffman. , top performing sales associate. Along with the amazing jewelry, Schiffman’s Winston-Salem boasts a gorgeous bridal registry and giftware boutique filled with formal and casual china from top brands such as Herend, Juliska, Wedgwood, Mottahedeh and Vietri; crystal & hand-blown glass from Waterford, Simon Pearce, William Yeoward and Orrefors; entertaining collections from Beatriz Ball, Mariposa, Michael Aram and Nambe; sterling and stainless flatware, gifts for the bride, newborns, hostesses and anniversaries… there’s something for every milestone in one’s life. With the wonderful selection of jewelry and gift ideas you may have a hard time deciding on the perfect gift for your special someone, but the sales associates, including the most recent addition to Schiffman’s, store manager Cheryl Stanley, are ready to help you.

So, with the holidays right around the corner, the gift boutique at Schiffman’s is bursting at the seams with ideas! “We have gifts that can be treasured for a lifetime. Monogrammed baby china sets that can be personalized with a message on the back, or maybe engraving your grandma’s favorite cookie recipe on the back of a hostess platter. For those on your list that like ornaments, we have traditional and whimsical ornaments from sterling silver to hand-blown German glass. Some of our customers have collected our ornaments for over 40 years, passing them down to the next generation. If you have a new baby in your family, what better way of remembering the years than with an ornament? Toys come and go, but each year when the family tree goes up, the ornaments will bring back memories for years to come. And our selection of barware accessories is outstanding, including Agate stone coaster sets in stunning colors, decanters, ice buckets, cheeseboards… everything that anyone would ever dream of to entertain at home” stated Aimee. As the hustle and bustle of the season begins, there’s no need to add extra stress to your holidays with shopping. Just drop by Schiffman’s Winston-Salem to start and finish your list in one stop. Schiffman’s Winston-Salem is located at 137 S. Stratford Rd., Winston-Salem, NC. Hours of operation: Mon-Fri 10am-5:30pm; Sat 10am5pm. For more information, call 336-725-1911 or visit schiffmans.com.

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Midtown Cafe THE BUSY HOLIDAY SEASON HAS BEGUN

The busy Fall season has begun. Let Midtown Cafe helpâ&#x20AC;Ś everything from our famous Pumpkin Pie in Spiced Nut Crust to our Butternut Squash or Meat Lasagnas ready to pick up and serve at your table. Give us a call or just swing by!

Over 20 scratch made desserts. Now taking orders!

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IT’S WORKING. OUR COMMUNITY IS COMING TOGETHER TO CLOSE THE OPPORTUNITY GAP IN FORSYTH COUNTY.

Family Services has a well-earned reputation for providing high-quality programs and services that help Forsyth County families resolve crises, protect victims of family violence, and prepare preschool children to succeed in school… and in life. In addition to helping more than 8,700 families become stronger and self-sufficient each year, we are pursuing a major goal that is essential to the future health and vitality of our community: Making quality early childhood development programs available to every child in Forsyth County. To do this, we’ve enlisted an unprecedented network of organizations that share our commitment to community-wide change. These partnerships are fostering innovative ways to help every child – and family – in Forsyth County to become truly remarkable and contribute their talents to our community.

A TURNING POINT HAS ARRIVED.

There’s never been a better time to build greater public awareness and meaningful, scalable support for a universal Pre-K system in Forsyth County. Support for expanding early childhood education is growing. It is one of the few educational issues that crosses partisan lines – both national and North Carolina polls show that strong majorities and independents approve of increased support for early childhood programs. Locally, private philanthropic and corporate interests have awakened to the economic and educational opportunities and the urgent needs of our families and employers. The Kate B. Reynolds Charitable Trust’s Great Expectations initiative and the Reynolds American Incorporated Project Impact, in collaboration with corporate support, are investing significant funds to ensure that more children in Forsyth County can reach developmentally appropriate milestones and close critical academic gaps in reading and math. These efforts will result in new Pre-K programs, beginning with the 2016– 17 school year. But only for some.

EVERY CHILD IN FORSYTH COUNTY SHOULD HAVE ACCESS TO OPPORTUNITY.

That’s why Family Services assembled the Universal Pre-K Steering Committee to create a plan that will provide all children access to quality early childhood development. High-quality, affordable child care is not a prerequisite for every family, but it is a necessity for many. Currently, less than a quarter of our 3- and 4-year-old children in Forsyth County have access to quality Pre-K resources. Family Services is working alongside other agencies and early childhood development experts to build civic awareness and a supportive infrastructure that will provide all parents, families, and early childhood professionals the tools they need to help our children thrive, beginning at birth. Forsyth County has a rare opportunity to ensure the well-being of every child in our community. Family Services invites you to become a champion for our youngest children. Donate, volunteer, or connect us with others who can help create more opportunities that will enable every child to lead a fulfilling life.

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BY SAVANNAH NORRIS November. The month we stuff ourselves silly with turkey, mashed potatoes, and pumpkin pie. Locals walk the streets bloated and full of regret, beyond done with the planning it took to prepare a meal worthy of eater’s remorse. However, November is more than just a month of neglected cranberry sauce remains and in-laws. November is the month of facial hair, which hopefully did not wind up in your casserole. The first day of Turkey Month, men are encouraged to take part in “Movember,” an annual event in which men grow mustaches for the duration of November. Though you may have a very understandable aversion to the ‘staches, this facial fundraiser spreads awareness of more than just prostate cancer; it informs the public of other male health issues including suicide, testicular cancer, and poor mental health. Movember is not to be confused with “No-Shave November,” as the two movements differ slightly. No-Shave November encourages the growth of all hair to embrace what many cancer patients have lost (this movement asks the participants to donate all money normally spent on shaving products and services to the American Cancer Society). Movember, on the other hand, asks that only a mustache is sported for the duration of the month. This foundation donates the money they raise to foundations and projects related to their causes of interest: prostate cancer, testicular cancer, and poor male mental health. Male health statistics are alarmingly eye-catching, and with innumerable important men in our lives, our fathers, brothers, grandfathers, and friends, “we can’t afford to stay silent,” as the Movember Foundation states. Men are expected to live an average of six years less than women. They prematurely die of prostate cancer, testicular cancer, and poor mental health, all issues which are only expected to increase in frequency in the upcoming years. Prostate cancer rates are expected to double, testicular cancer rates have already doubled, and men are responsible for three-quarters of the total suicides per year. It’s time we address the crisis and help out where we can.

conversation about male mental illness or cancer spreads the word. Every tangled tale makes an impact. It is important for each male figure to know they are supported by their “Mo’Sistas,” and that we are working hard to reduce the number of premature male deaths. Women can also donate straight to the Movember Foundation, or they can participate in the numerous mo-themed events organized, such as the “Mustache Dashe” and other 5Ks.

Although most women cannot grow mustaches, and those with peach fuzz would probably prefer it go unnoted, that doesn’t necessarily mean women can’t support this movement. The Movember Foundation encourages women to not only try to get the men in their lives to participate, but to spread awareness other ways. Even a simple

November is a month not only to celebrate the first harvest in the New World and mom’s delightfully delicious cooking, but to celebrate men and the importance of reducing their premature deaths. Helping fight cancer and mental illness is heartwarming and rewarding work that the world encourages you to take part in this Movember.

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RETAIL WITH A RELATIONSHIP

BY DENISE HEIDEL

A WORD ABOUT SHOPPING

Shopping is an opportunity to connect. Socialize. Be a part of the community. Even contribute to the local economy (though husbands across Forsyth County may groan over that statement). Shopping is a word of action, despite the fact that, in our modern society, it has become a passive and inactive “activity.” With the click of a button, we go shopping. However, we are missing much when we allow our hard earned dollars to travel through cyberspace rather than investing them in locally owned businesses. It’s the conundrum of our busy lives – when convenience wages war with quality. The outcome of which is that we lose opportunities for human experience and the value of social without the media.

GETTING TO KNOW REBECCA & CO.

Thankfully, we have local business owners such as Lisa Campbell, WinstonSalem native and owner of Rebecca & Co of Winston-Salem. “I believe there is an art to shopping,” said Lisa. “When we spend time with our friends, we have the chance to laugh, commiserate, and even celebrate one another. It brings great joy to my heart when I see women come to our store together, and bond over a shared experience as simple as shopping.”

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Though shopping at Rebecca & Co. is certainly an activity you can do on your own, too, because, without question, this team of fashionistas is eager to get to know you! “We work hard to build relationships with our customers,” said Lisa. “In fact, I have gotten to know some of them so well, they influence the purchasing decisions we make in our store!” The rapport at Rebecca & Co. is evidenced by their longevity. The original Rebecca & Co. opened in Greensboro in 1991. Since 1995, when the store expanded to Winston-Salem, Lisa has managed the shop, and she assumed ownership in 2011. Even though the two Rebecca & Co. locations are independently owned, they consider themselves sister businesses and continue to support each other. However, it can’t be assumed that they have the same products! “While we carry many of the same designers, we offer different styles,” said Lisa.

BUYING FASHION FOR ANY AGE, ANY OCCASION

Lisa travels to New York and Atlanta, on average, four times per year, in search of stylish, quality fashions that aren’t commonplace to most retail boutiques. She is constantly in pursuit of comfortable and modern ensembles that the sophisticated and elegant women of WinstonSalem are looking for. “Since we’ve taken the time to get to know our customers,” said Lisa, “our buying trips are made with them in mind. When our inventory is selected, we will share pieces on our social media channels so that our shoppers can see what is coming! It is an exciting time, knowing that the styles we select may be worn for everyday wear, but they may also be worn for special occasions, birthdays, weddings, and other special events! After all, these aren’t just clothes on our backs; these are

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garments worn to live life! I’m not making selections for faceless people; I’m always thinking of our customers, even specific individuals when I’m choosing our inventory.” The style Lisa buys is called “contemporary” and it’s a look that can be worn by any generation. A quick stroll through the store is proof that Lisa is tremendously talented at choosing inventory that can be enjoyed by all ages. “It comes down to personal styling,” she said. “I have items in the store that can be worn by teenagers or grandmothers, depending on how she accessorizes it. In fact, we have multiple generations shop with us, often leaving with the same pieces, but each woman applies her own signature style.”

THE UNIQUE QUALITIES OF REBECCA & CO.

It’s apropos that a boutique as unique as Rebecca & Co. has found a home in a unique venue. The space at 1200 Reynolda Road was once a mechanic’s garage. The vintage charm of the building is still felt, with the front windows being the garage doors that once welcomed an entirely different type of customer. But the unique building aside, the greatest asset of Rebecca & Co is found in the people. The team that Lisa has assembled demonstrate their passion for fashion within moments of arrival. Moreover, they don’t only care about style, but genuinely care about the people they serve. “I’ve worked in retail for most of my professional career,” shared Lisa. “I know the value of relationship building in this business. We work long, hard hours, and it’s important to me that I have the support of my husband, as well as a team in place that enables me to take an occasional weekend with absolute confidence that the store – my ‘child’ – is left in capable and trustworthy hands.”

SHOP LOCAL, SUPPORT LOCAL

Lisa works hard to give back to her customers and community. She frequently hosts Sip ‘n Shop events, Trunk Shows, and has even collaborated with other local businesses for special events. On November 5th, Rebecca & Co. will be a stop on Forsyth Woman magazine’s Tour de Boutique, and she’s a popular stop for families visiting students at Wake Forest University. Buying from Rebecca & Co. means supporting a local business owner and resident. Lisa has a deep appreciation for that support and therefore, she works hard to give back to the community. She has partnered with the Second Harvest Food Bank, Project Pearl, Say No to O, and other local non-profit groups. “When people shop local and support local business owners like me,” said Lisa, “it enables us to support local non-profits. Shopping small is critically important, and it’s one of the reasons I consider relationship building to be the foundation of my business model.” When in need for a stylish new look, a statement making necklace, or a great pair of shoes, look no further than just down the road at Rebecca & Co. You’ll be greeted with a warm welcome, smiling face, and without question, you’ll find something new you’ll love to wear at Rebecca & Co. Visit Rebecca & Co. of Winston-Salem at 1200 Reynolda Road in Winston-Salem. Call 336-750-0482 or visit RebeccaCoWinston.com. Be sure to like them on Facebook and follow them on Instagram and Twitter!

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Freezing Fat Away Just Got FASTER BY KIM SMITH

CoolSculpting is the leading technology in non-surgical fat reduction, and Forsyth Plastic Surgery is one of the first practices in the area to have the latest generation CoolSculpting device -- CoolADVANTAGE. “What’s nice about CoolAdvantage is that we can now treat more areas of the body in about half the usual amount of time,” said Dr. John Fagg, a surgeon at Forsyth Plastic Surgery. “What used to take an hour, we can now do in just 35 minutes. And, while our patients are being treated, they feel no pain, no discomfort and, afterward, they can go right back to normal activities.”

But How Does CoolSculpting & CoolAdvantage Work? “When you cool fat cells way down, they literally die and melt away,” said Dr. Andy Schneider, another of the plastic surgeons at FPS. “And, those fat cells won’t come back. But, what is interesting is that, during the procedure, it really doesn’t feel that cold. Our patients say that it is not uncomfortable at all.” After a CoolSculpting session, patients can resume normal activities and routines, and, after a few months, most will notice the reduction in fat. According to Dr. Gilson Kingman, it takes anywhere from one to three months to see the final result. “Our patients see terrific results, and many are coming back to treat other areas of the body,” said Dr. Kingman. “And, with the new CoolAdvantage technology, it has become a pretty quick procedure.” In addition to CoolAdvantage, FPS also has the new CoolMini -- this technology allows the doctors to treat the fat under the chin. “Nobody wants a double chin,” said Dr. George Lawson. “We now can literally melt away the stubborn fat under the chin and give people a better jaw line without the need for surgery.” Some patients, however, will still need surgery to achieve an optimum result says Gina Racca, Forsyth Plastic Surgery’s aesthetician, and resident CoolSculpting expert. “When a patient comes in to be evaluated, we look at what he or she wants to achieve. Sometimes they need surgery to get the best results, and sometimes CoolSculpting is the right answer. All patients are evaluated by the doctors and me, and together, we decide what will really give the patient the very best result.” CoolSculpting is safe and effective, and all of the physicians at Forsyth Plastic Surgery are board certified plastic surgeons. In fact, Forsyth Plastic Surgery is the largest CoolSculpting office in the area. “We are a full-service practice, offering both cosmetic and reconstructive procedures,” said Dr. Fagg. “We have a variety of state-of-the-art lasers and specialized equipment, including a full-service accredited surgery center. CoolSculpting, and now CoolAdvantage, has been a great addition to our office and offers our patients something very special.” If you would like to see if CoolSculpting and CoolAdvantage are right for you, contact Forsyth Plastic Surgery at 336.765.8620, and find out more at www.forsythplasticsurgery.com.

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Entertain With Flare

“Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them is the true measure of Thanksgiving.” ~ W. T. Pukiser

You’ve heard me say before that the greatest compliment a client can give me is when, after completing a decorating job or an interior redesign, they say, “I can’t wait to have friends over.” I have done my job if they want to share their home! Like me, many of you will be sharing your home with friends this holiday season. Here are a few ideas to help you entertain with flair: • Vary the height of your serving pieces on a buffet by using footed compotes, trifle bowls, cake stands, etc. This can also be accomplished by placing stacks of books at various heights under a draped tablecloth and using regular bowls and platters. • Rethink your surfaces. Clear a side table or desktop in an adjoining room to create an area for appetizers or desserts. • Place an ice bucket, glassware and beverages on a pretty tray at the end of your buffet. For dessert, you may like to replace and fill the tray with mugs and ingredients for a coffee bar -- cinnamon, flavored creamers, cocoa, sugar and cream, etc. • Mix and match favorite china and glassware for a fun and decorative look. • Fill clear vases with cranberries. Add water, seasonal flowers and greenery. • Have a rectangular-shaped table? Instead of one large centerpiece, use three to five similar or same-shaped vases and fill with “like” flowers to complement your table setting. The same can be done with lanterns and hurricane globes. A runner underneath or a garland intertwined would add a festive look. • To ensure guests can see each other when having conversations, candles and centerpieces should sit no taller than 14”.

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• Don’t forget to pause and give thanks for the blessing of family, friends, home and food. By adding a few creative touches when entertaining, you can add flare without too much effort, and your guests will feel special. As I approach this season of Thanksgiving, I am counting my blessings for God’s goodness in my life -- my family, home, church, friends, good health, food, clients…it’s hard to stop counting! Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your life and your home. Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours! Need help in sprucing up your home for the holidays? Give Redesigns by Ava a call.

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HOLIDAYS WITH HARLEY: A ONE-STOP SHOP FOR EVERYONE! BY LINDSAY CRAVEN Holiday shopping can always be a stressful time of year. It’s hard to find shops where you can do one-stop shopping for everyone on your list, and it’s even harder to find shops that allow you to keep your dollars local. Smokin’ Harley-Davidson is the one-stop shop that can solve both problems for you.

“A lot of people think because it’s a motorcycle shop that that’s all we do,” said Jan Hawkins, the General Merchandise Manager for Smokin’. “Some people still have this image of what a Harley rider is. Once those people come in you can see a wave come across them as they realize that it’s not the case.” Jan said that what sets Smokin’ apart is the top tier customer service they offer their customers. You won’t walk through their doors without receiving a warm greeting and an offer to help find an item for yourself or someone on your list.

You’ll even be supporting a local business as you shop. Although Harley-Davidson is an internationally known product, shops like Smokin’ are individually owned. Smokin’s owner and onsite manager Ray Perry is a 26-year Navy veteran who worked with Harley-Davidson for 13 years before taking over operations at Smokin’ HarleyDavidson. During the holidays Smokin’ likes to remind its customers that, even if not everyone in their life is a rider, they can make one trip and find something that everyone on their shopping list will love.

For Men & Ladies

They carry accessories such as Harley-Davidson headwear, jewelry and sunglasses. There’s also a wide range of general apparel like jeans, tops and footwear. “We truly offer something for everyone, and if we don’t have it here, we can order it and have it in a few days,” said Hawkins.

For Kids

Smokin’ Harley-Davidson stocks children’s sizes in lightweight jackets, infant wear, baby booties and sunglasses. They also offer toys like die cast motorcycles, basketballs and remote control motorcycles.

For Pets

They do mean everyone on your list! For the pets, they offer leads, collars, harnesses, shirts from sizes XS to XL, and stainless steel bowls. There are collars and toys for your feline friends, and if you hate to be separated from your furry pal, they even offer pet-friendly shopping.

Gifts & Collectibles

Smokin’ Harley-Davidson offers a wide range of gift items like Harley branded dart games, checkers and corn hole games. To complete the perfect man cave you can buy items like drink wear, bar supplies, wine glasses and bottle holders. They also offer a great selection of products for your four-wheel vehicles such as license plate tags, seat covers, floor mats, hitch plugs, and steering wheel covers.

Smokin’ Harley-Davidson is located at 3441 Myer Lee Drive, Winston-Salem, NC. More information is available online at SmokinHarley.com or by calling (336) 722-3106.

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Politicians At a Glance

While there are a number of candidates running for office in Forsyth County, the following is a list of candidates who have invested campaign dollars in Forsyth Magazines advertising. Please note that inclusion in this section does not imply an endorsement by Forsyth Magazines. This is informational only with data compiled from each candidates’ website.

CANDIDATE: AARON BERLIN POSITION RUNNING FOR: District Court Judge EDUCATION: Wake Forest Undergrad & Wake Forest School of Law COMMUNITY INVOLVEMENT INCLUDES: • Family Services • Mother’s Against Drunk Drivers • Stop Child Abuse Now • Battered Women’s Shelter • Church involvement • Police Benevolent Association • North Carolina Trooper’s Association

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS & AWARDS: • 2011 Western NC Prosecutor MAAD Hero Award • NC Bar Association rates Aaron Berlin the highest among Forsyth County candidates for District Court Judge. WEBSITE: BerlinForJudge.com

CANDIDATE: CARRIE VICKERY POSITION RUNNING FOR: District Court Judge EDUCATION: Elon University School of Law, graduated in 2009 COMMUNITY INVOLVEMENT INCLUDES: • Junior League of Winston-Salem • Children’s Museum • Winston-Salem Urban League Young Professionals • Triad Golden Retriever Rescue • Liberty Street Community Development Corporation • UNC School of the Arts Board of Trustees • Reynolda Presbyterian

CANDIDATE: MIKE CAUSEY POSITION RUNNING FOR: NC Insurance Commissioner ABOUT MIKE: • Small businessman, insurance agent, insurance agency owner • 25 years in insurance industry • Military veteran – Military police • Family man who still runs a family farm in Guilford County WEBSITE: NC4Causey.com

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Gratitude – noun – “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness”

It sounds simple enough. Living it, well, that’s a different story. I’ve always been a thankful person. I have good manners. I am appreciative when someone does something nice for me, and I’ve taught my kids to do the same. But, just because we’re polite doesn’t necessary mean we live with gratitude. Not at all. It’s the season of thanks. The time of year when we stop and maybe open our eyes to the blessings that surround us. Toss in some gratitude when you sit around the table this year. Don’t just pass the turkey and gravy, maybe pass the thanks as well. Count your blessings and teach your kids to do the same. That doesn’t mean your life is perfect or that you’re happy with all the choices you’ve made. It means regardless of what you’re dealing with in your life; you

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Take the Time to Give Thanks BY DARA KURTZ

recognize the many gifts you’re fortunate enough to have. You appreciate them and don’t take them for granted. How many times have we heard someone say, “I didn’t know what I had until it was gone.” Why is this? Why don’t we take account of what we have when it’s right in front of us? Why do we have to lose someone or something before we fully recognize how lucky we were to actually have it or them in the first place? Is it because we’re too consumed with the details of life? Are we too busy to take the time to really open our eyes to see what’s in front of us? I hope not. But, it’s easy to do. We get caught up in the normal chaos of our lives. We don’t stop to look around us, at all that we have, unless something happens

that forces us to do so. Make the conscious decision to open your eyes and really see what’s in front of you. Be thankful for being alive. You might not like everything about your situation, but I can promise you, there are blessings in your life now, regardless of whatever is going on. Living with gratitude can be the difference between living in black and white versus living in color. It will make your life richer, brighter and more vivid. Take the time to see the true blessings that surround you every day and to fully appreciate each day for what it is. This will add a quality to your life you didn’t know could exist. I don’t know about you, but I choose to live in color, always. Find meaning each day,

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Researching Your Roots BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Spring semester of my first year of college, I took a public history class. During this class, we learned how to preserve historical sites and documents, and learned about different ways to research the past. One of the projects we had to complete was a family tree. This project took a majority of the semester because we had to go back into our family’s past. From this assignment, I learned many things about my family’s history, including that I have members who came from various parts of Europe, members who fought in the Civil War, and members whose livelihood was dependent on their tobacco crop right here in North Carolina.

where the stories and traditions come from. You’ll be surprised at how far you will get just by asking around. A family reunion or get together with cousins is a great way to start a conversation about completing a family tree. Interview your family members with questions about their lives, including their childhood, education, career, and their children. Scrapbooks have important clues for the family tree. Sometimes they hold birth certificates, marriage licenses, letters, old photographs, and more. Also, look to see if there are special artifacts in your relatives’ homes. For example, you might find military mementos or family heirlooms.

What I loved about completing my family tree was that I learned many things about my relatives that I didn’t know before. Also, the tree showed me that I have heritage in many parts of the world and history that dated back to the 17th century. It is important for people to research their roots because they can know where their family comes from, and how different historical events affected their family.

Another option would be to research online through databases and DNA testing. Ancestry.com offers a free trial to research your roots. This website allows you to start with what you know and then provides suggestions, or little leafs, of possible ancestor matches. What I like about ancestry.com is that most of the time, the suggestions match your family and will bring up correct ancestors. A new addition to the site is AncestryDNA, where you can discover your ethnic mix based on your DNA.

When it comes to researching your roots, there are many different ways to fill in your family tree. First, start with the family basics by asking other relatives, especially older relatives about your family history. This is also

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The U.S Census is a great tool to use when looking back over the decades. The census can go back as far as 1790 and can be used to trace dates, birthplaces,

occupations, immigration details, and more. Visit census.gov to begin and the site will then take you to findmypast.com. Local libraries and newspaper offices also offer possible information about family members. These are great places to research, especially if your relatives have lived in one place for a long time or were involved in their community. Also, you can look at the National Archives for historical information. On their website, archives. gov, military records are available. If you are looking for immigration records, Ellis Island is a place to search for passengers and their history, as well as ship history. There are multiple genealogy tools on libertyellisfoundation.org to help chart your family tree and your ancestors that came through Ellis Island on their way to making a new life in America. Lastly, make finding your roots a family road-trip. Go back to the home places where your relatives lived. Visit their homes, offices, and other memorable spots. This is also a chance to see family members you haven’t seen in years. Researching your roots gives you the chance to know who you are and from where your ancestors came. Genealogy is an important tool to use that can create lifetime memories. By completing your family tree, you are completing a little piece of family history that can be passed down to generations for years to come.

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Take the Reins for a Riding Experience! BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

From the moment you arrive at Canterlane Farm in WinstonSalem, NC, you have a feeling of being in the country and of peace. Rolling pastures, horses grazing and a beautiful barn are just the beginning of the great riding and horse experience that awaits you. Owner Jennifer Clauss is living out her love and passion for horses and riding with Canterlane Farm. “My journey here is one that I hoped would happen, but from where I started, growing up in Syracuse, NY, finding my way to WinstonSalem by way of MBA School at Wake Forest University and then working for Hanesbrands for 15 years, owning a riding stable was a dream. Leaving the corporate world and buying this farm was a leap of faith, but one I’m loving, especially with the history this place has,” said Jennifer.

A Little Piece of the Past In the 1960s and ‘70s, Cedar Hollow Farm was located where Canterlane Farm is now. Girls and women in the area would come and take riding lessons. “Sarah and Bill Morgan were the owners of Cedar Hollow, originally larger than the current 22 acres, with a massive barn for 50 horses and hay storage above the barn area. In 1987 there was a terrible and tragic fire and the barn burned, killing several horses. The Morgans’ son rebuilt the barn that is here now, and when I bought the farm, I upgraded the barn floors and the pasture fencing. Since all the work at the farm and barn rests on me, right now, I try to make sure that the barn is as efficient and organized as it can be. I’ve been very fortunate that my father, Karl Clauss, the venture capitalist in this business, has

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supported me; I’m the brawn here, but I am living my dream,” Jennifer laughed. Although Canterlane Farm is what Jennifer has always wanted to do, her time in marketing helped her prepare for this role.

Setting Yourself Apart Begins with Letting People Know You Are Different “I learned in my jobs in marketing the importance of a ‘brand’ and how to be a brand, and that’s what I am doing at Canterlane Farm. When people think of my farm and riding stables, I want them to have a certain picture in their mind of a clean, well-kept facility with horses that are well cared for, surrounded by lush green pastures, riding rings…a place of peace and respite in a hectic world,” stated Jennifer. Less than five minutes from Hanes Mall and Clemmons, NC, location is one thing that sets Canterlane Farm apart. “After 15 years in the corporate world, I know that time away from the office is rare, so if you want to spend that time riding your horse, you need a place that you can call ahead, and they can have your horse ready to go when you arrive. Our head trainer is Anne Morgan, and she teaches traditional hunt seat style riding, which many will know as the style of the fox hunts in England. We don’t hunt fox, but we have the natural jumping obstacles to practice on. Not everyone is interested in jumping though, and that is fine. We try and tailor the experience that someone wants with a horse. We are a small enough stable to individualize the horse experience. I look at my business from the perspective that I had when I was a

boarder or the customer. I know what I wanted and expected, and so I made those needs and expectations my focus. If your horse needs vet attention, I can set that up, or if the farrier needs to come by, I can make those calls, so when you are here with your horse, it’s all about what you want to get out of that time,” Jennifer said. Another aspect of Canterlane Farm is the importance of horsemanship. “Our students are taught the proper way to care for a horse, safety in the barn and riding, and how to tack a horse. Building a relationship with a horse is not all about riding; the time you spend caring for it builds trust, and we think that is very important to impart to our students. Along with our riding lessons, we are offering a ‘horse experience,’ where if you’ve always wanted to be around horses, but maybe either you didn’t have the opportunity or maybe you were scared, you can come here and just spend time with horses, caring for them, and should you want to take the step to riding, we can help you there, too,” commented Jennifer.

boarders and students comfortable where they ride, and we have a friendly, family atmosphere for as far as you want to go in your horse experience,” Jennifer stated.

Canterlane Farms is located at 2946 Canter Lane, Winston-Salem, NC. For more information call Jennifer at 336-509-2954 or visit CanterlaneFarm.com for a list of services.

With her home on the farm, Jennifer and her 13-year-old daughter basically live at work, but Jennifer likes it that way. “I am fortunate to share this passion with my daughter, who is learning that there is more to the horse business than just riding, and since we live on the farm, I keep any eye on the horses and know everything that goes on. I think it is important to make

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When God Closes a Door, He Opens Another BY DENISE HEIDEL Since 2000, The Briar Patch has been known as a unique gift, garden and gourmet shop in Winston-Salem. For the past nine years, Robyn Puffenbarger has worked hard to develop the garden oasis known today as The Lil’ Briar Patch. It’s truly been a family affair with Robyn’s mom and son, Khaled, helping out! The Lil’ Briar Patch has been a hidden gem, offering guests a place to relax, have a glass of wine, enjoy live music, take a class, find a perfect gift or even get married! Hundreds of locals have found comfort in this special niche Robyn so creatively carved into the heart of Winston-Salem’s busiest retail area. However, recent changes have forced a re-evaluation of priorities. Robyn and her new husband, Chip, were married in the wine garden this past May. Her marriage expanded her family by three, though. Not only did she get her husband, but two new sons, Trip and Axel. “We have prayed and prayed for answers over what the next steps for the business should be and the wisest course of action for our family,” shared Robyn. “I’ve invested so much of myself in The Lil’ Briar Patch, but I knew something needed to change. I was torn. Though my family is my priority, I have a genuine love for my shop and customers. God knew it wasn’t an easy decision for me, but when you pray for direction, He lays out the path before us, and we must be willing to walk down it in faith.” The property which The Lil’ Briar Patch sits on has been sold, and at the end of this year, the physical store will be closing. However, this is certainly not the last chapter in this story! The new chapter began when God Saw fit to bring together two people whose life is rooted in love - not only for each other but for the people that they serve. Robyn is known throughout the community for her

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creative genius with florals and interior design and seasonal decorating. She’s been commissioned by many local businesses to create flower beds and seasonal container gardens for spring and fall. On average, she designs and plants over 600 containers a year on site at customers’ homes, as well as estates and local hotels. Chip, on the other hand, has a great deal of experience and expertise in construction and hardscaping, and some in landscaping. So not only did God bring Robyn and Chip together, but He gave them complementary talents so ideal that His direction couldn’t be plainer if He had installed a neon light above the idea! Over the last several months they have been away from the shop quite a bit on large landscaping projects and home redesign & remodeling jobs. The Lil’ Briar Patch is transitioning to Briar Patch Design. Robyn and Chip will be offering home redesigns & remodeling, landscaping, hardscaping, seasonal container planting (for spring and fall), water features and more! They will continue to serve Winston-Salem and surrounding areas, including all of the Lake Norman area where they live! “I know that the next few months will be challenging and emotional,” shared Robyn. I’m grateful, though that God has opened a new door that will enable me to share what I love to do with my husband and continue to serve the customers who have entrusted so much to me over the years!” Lil Briar Patch is located at 2055 Van Buren Street in Winston-Salem and will be open through December 2016. The store’s number will continue to be operational, and you can contact Lil Briar Patch, soon to be Briar Patch Design, at 336.768.6990. Stay up to date on the business by visiting LilBriarPatch.com or “liking” them on Facebook.

November is Adoption Awareness Month

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FOSTER OR FOSTER TO ADOPT A CHILD IN OUR COMMUNITY To Learn More Contact: Forsyth County Department of Social Services 336.703.CHILD (2445) | www.co.forsyth.nc.us/dss

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Advance Family & Sports Medicine Center A Different Approach to Wellness & Weight Loss BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

There’s a universal truth…we all want to be well and healthy. The definition of wellness is: “being in a state of good health, physically, mentally and emotionally, free of and not at risk of disease.” Recognizing that this state of health is not something that happens without effort, Dr. Walter A. Ezeigbo of Advance Family & Sports Medicine Center in Winston-Salem has partnered with The Center for Medical Weight Loss to help his patients become aware of why they are overweight and put a plan in place to make better choices and take responsibility for their health, eventually enhancing their well-being.

A SHIFT FROM TRADITIONAL TO PREVENTATIVE MEDICINE

Since Dr. Ezeigbo began practicing medicine, his thought has moved from the traditional medicine philosophy to a preventative perspective. “The nature of our society is ‘if it isn’t broke, don’t fix it,’ so even in medicine, we wait until a patient presents with a problem to start trying to fix or get them feeling better,” said Dr. Ezeigbo. “Being obese increases one’s risk for diabetes, high cholesterol, different types of cancer, cardiovascular heart disease and joint issues. The number one reason for knee replacement is obesity. After much research, I discovered The Center for Medical Weight Loss which is quite different from most of the commercial weight loss programs because they are delivered by trained medical professionals. The idea is that people are overweight for different reasons, so finding out the reasons they are overweight and then developing an individualized plan to address their weight loss leads to long-term success.” At the core of The Center for Medical Weight Loss (CMWL) is the belief that to achieve lifelong healthy weight, one must engage in behaviors that promote weight loss and maintenance. But, we all know that is easier said than done. To this end, CMWL created a personalized behavioral counseling system. “We customize a behavioral plan just for each patient using 43 behavioral modules across nine categories, and these help in determining the root cause on why most people overeat,” said Dr. Ezeigbo. “At the initial evaluation, a Body Composition Analysis (BCA) is performed, and this determines each patient’s Basic Metabolic Rate (BMR), fat weight, water weight and muscle weight. As patients

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lose weight, this is monitored with BCA to ensure that they are losing weight from the right place which is fat. With the understanding of why you overeat, we can assess where you would have the most success. We have meal replacements, with everything equal, this is the best option for most people; a guaranteed minimum of 21 pounds weight loss in six weeks. At the end of six weeks, the patient is transitioned to regular food and monitored monthly. For those who want a less strict approach, we have the modified plan with meal replacement once or twice a day and a low-calorie meal for dinner. Most patients lose about 6-10 pounds per month. The last option is an appetitesuppressant program. Most patients who are not interested in the meal replacements usually choose this option. Choice of appetite suppressant is equally individualized based on each patient’s comorbid problems. Most of the newer appetite suppressants can be taken for up to a year.”

WHAT MAKES CMWL DIFFERENT THAN OTHER WEIGHT LOSS OPTIONS?

There are two distinct differences between the CMWL program and other options. The CMWL program is physician-supervised with doctors extensively trained in the medical science of weight loss, treating your weight within the context of your overall health profile. “Because I am a physician trained in this program, I have the tools and resources that other programs may not have, like the ability to adjust medications if needed as a patient progresses with weight loss,” said Dr. Ezeigbo. “If you are diabetic, as you lose weight, you may need your insulin adjusted. We do this in concert with each patient’s primary care physician. There is also an online community of others on the program who encourage each other with message boards and recipes.” Secondly, the CMWL program doesn’t focus on just one aspect of weight loss. “I take a comprehensive, holistic approach that includes food, exercise and behavioral modification,” said Dr. Ezeigbo. “Weight loss and weight maintenance is a way of life, and my staff and I will be here to support you throughout your journey and after to make sure you continue to succeed.” Being trained in sports medicine is also an important component in Dr. Ezeigbo’s practice. “As people begin to lose weight, they feel better and start to exercise,” said Dr. Ezeigbo. “Caloric restriction is important in weight loss, but exercise is very important in weight maintenance. Ask most patients who have lost weight and have successfully kept their weight off the secret to their success, and most will tell you that they increased their activity level. While exercise is important, there may be sports-related injuries which can sometimes act as a hindrance to most patient’s desire to continue to be physically active. I can help with those problems too or suggest ways to exercise to avoid possible injuries.” In his years as a physician, Dr. Ezeigbo has seen insurance companies go from not addressing the benefits of preventative medicine to being more open to it. “I believe it is time for medicine and insurance companies to see the patient’s well-being should be centered on the preventative process, not just one of fixing issues after the fact,” said Dr. Ezeigbo. Advance Family Practice & Sports Medicine is located at 1000 Southpark Boulevard, Suite A in Winston-Salem. For more information on CMWL, please call 336.788.4545, or visit www.Centerformedicalweightloss.com.

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P R E PA R I N G F O R G U E S T S AT

Whether intentional or not, during the months of November and December, our homes often feel more like Bed and Breakfast establishments, with a seemingly endless line of relatives and guests stopping by for the holidays. Making sure our homes have enough beds is as important as the awesome recliner Dad will undoubtedly snag for himself after gorging on Thanksgiving turkey! Or maybe you’ll be entertaining guests you haven’t seen in years – and are loathe to have them sit on that stain-ridden sofa that would be considered stylish at the height of ‘80s interior design. Whatever your needs, for a quick home furnishings makeover, look no further than Furniture Mattress Warehouse in Clemmons. With over 17,000 square feet of store space, there are plenty of options to choose from and many items are in stock, plus they offer financing options, including layaway! Furniture Mattress Warehouse is located at 3627 Clemmons Road in Clemmons. They are open Monday – Saturday from 10 am – 6 pm and on Sunday from 12:30 – 4 pm. Call 336.778.1608 with any questions.

NFL RECLINER

A must-have for any NFL fan, this recliner is sure to be the favorite seat in the house when you can’t make it to a live game! But no fighting please… you may have to resort to a coin-toss at the start of the game to see who gets dibs.

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COW CHAIR

“Beef” up your living room decor with this “udderly” charming accent chair. It is sure to be a comfortable statement piece that will “moo-ve” you to pull up a seat and stay a while.

BARN DOOR ENTERTAINMENT CENTER

What we love about entertainment centers: a great place to store a TV and all those electronic devices. What we don’t love about entertainment centers: TVs and electronic devices aren’t noted for being attractive. With all that said… what we love about this barn door entertainment center: unsightly electronics are easily hidden until they are ready to be used without doors that jut out, posing security risks to those who may accidentally run into one!

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Love Friendship & Acceptance BY LISA S.T. DOSS “I am not okay” are four significant words that, when expressed, can feel both truthful and liberating. It is a personal struggle to roll with the tidal waves of depression and anxiety, exhaustion and sleeplessness most days. In recognizing the slightest familiar signs in others in need, we reach out by offering a kind smile, a passing word, or an embrace. These simple acts are essential in our own healing and help those who also struggle with a need to feel normal. Have you ever counted the number of relatives and friends, colleagues and acquaintances whose day-to-day journey is challenging? The number is great; yet, there is a bond that is established based on a mere understanding of someone else’s story. You may know someone who accepts not being okay. The simple truth is that we all want to feel normal, less isolated, and given the chance of unconditional friendship. For 19 months, I have rolled through the days and seasons as a woman who is grieving the loss of my child. I have a greater understanding of the Winnie the Pooh character named Eeyore, who accepts the conditions of his current life, characterized by a little black rain cloud following his every step. His friends do not criticize or seek to change him; yet, he is encouraged by a supportive group of friends. I can imagine Eeyore does

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not seek a different life. The dark cloud is symbolic of his feelings, and perhaps finds it comforting. Why would anyone want to befriend a person who has such a symbolic darkness in constant pursuit? It is easy to feel “marked” by those who know our heartbreaking story, and choose to avoid “us.” Personally, I do not need advice or even an apology for my loss; yet, if the moment presents itself, I relish in the opportunity to talk about my children, especially my son. It is a form of personal healing, and allows a piece of my son’s life to be shared and remembered; sadly, most people are not comfortable with the mere mention of him. No one chooses to be isolated in their pain. Similar to Eeyore, I remain with a circle of friends who offer acceptance, support, and unconditional love. Erin M. concedes to the words, “I am not okay.” She continues to write, “I am the mother of a mentally ill heroin addict. Most people are not comfortable with that concept, while others want to tell me how it happened and especially how to fix it. My daughter, now 23, has suffered from significant depression for as long as I can remember. Several large blocks of time have been spent helping her see why life should be worth living. In addition to the depression, she was diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder at the age of 17 that left her infertile. Coupling that

with a serious head-on car accident one year later and her inability to cope, all led to a need to self-medicate. My family thinks she was spoiled as a child, and that boundaries or tough love would have prevented this. Now, if I could simply close my eyes and rest knowing that she is living peacefully somewhere, without being tormented by depression, hopelessness or how to find the next fix...that would be enough. As the number of family events she misses increases, the inquiries about her have decreased, leaving me feeling that loved ones pretend she never existed. It doesn’t cause me pain when people ask about her; I need to know that she means something to someone other than me. Friends have distanced themselves, or maybe I have. Sometimes, the awkwardness is just too great to bear, or trying to be ‘normal’ feels too difficult. I feel as if I wear a scarlet letter while trying to be okay. Although my plight is different, I wish that people could stand beside me and allow me to be the same.” Each of us has an important story that defines our journey and character. Stories that most would think are unimaginable are, somehow, survived with the help of supportive friends, and the understanding of others.

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The Art of Caregiving:

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Care is a state in which something does matter; it is the source of human tenderness. ~Rolly May, psychologist

Caring for our seniors is perhaps the greatest responsibility we have. Those who walked before us have given so much and made possible the life we all enjoy. ~Senator John Hoeven

No elderly person should be like an “exile” in our families. The elderly are a treasure for our society. ~Pope Francis

“Being a caregiver is a position of great honor,” shared Marthe. “It’s not one we take lightly because we know that those who call us are expecting the type of care to be delivered that they would want to bestow themselves. Our team realizes that the patients we care for are mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, and more. These are important people with a long and rich history. It’s our job to preserve that, and it certainly doesn’t come from canned, scripted services. Everything we do is uniquely tailored.” Marthe continued, “Because of our commitment to the patient, we hold our care to a higher standard. For instance, we have a van that is wheelchair accessible for not only one patient, but two, meaning a husband and wife, who may both be wheelchair bound, can go with each other to doctor appointments.” Additionally, Homewatch Caregivers of the Triad helps transport through senior services organizations, such as Senior Resources of Guilford County.

For Marthe Dizon, elder care isn’t just a job. It’s a calling. It began almost a decade ago when she found herself in the position of caregiver for her parents. The experience left her with a heartfelt empathy for those who are often invisible in the eyes of society. “It breaks my heart how the elderly are overlooked,” shared Marthe. “And when they aren’t overlooked, they are often treated like children. However, they deserve our respect. In some cases, their dignity is all they have left!” It’s with that determined mindset, to preserve the dignity of those who need care, that Marthe opened the doors to Homewatch Caregivers of the Triad eight years ago. With her office headquartered in Kernersville, Marthe has positioned her team to serve families throughout Forsyth and Guilford Counties, as well as the surrounding area. She has leveraged the trusted franchise establishment to hire a team of professionals who have the heart to serve others. With two registered nurses on the team and over 75 certified nursing assistants, Marthe and her team are honored to have an A+ rating by the Home Care Standard Bureau. As a part of this certification, all employees must go through multiple background checks, and each must pass 12 hours of annual caregiver training and ongoing education. “One of the biggest parts of our job,” shared Marthe, “is built on relationships. We don’t start conversations with new clients by telling them what we do, but instead, we ask them what they need.” The staff at Homewatch Caregivers takes the time to learn about the client – who they are, what they like, what they don’t like, what they did for a living, where they are from, who their families are, what their hobbies are, and more! Moreover, Homewatch Caregivers don’t simply match a patient based on the skills of the caregiver, but they also match based on personality – giving the patient and caregiver a foundation from which friendship often blossoms.

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“Our higher standard also includes 100% employment,” said Marthe. “We don’t have contractors, meaning we have known, established, and long-term relationships with our caregivers. Some members of our team have been with me since I began the business!” Marthe encourages families who are in need of home healthcare to consider their needs when choosing a home care program. “I don’t consider other home care facilities to be competitors,” she said. “Everyone has a niche, and I’m proud of ours. I am confident in my team’s ability to meet needs of the families who contact us – whether they are looking for companionship, home care, care for chronic illness, or even end of life care. At the end of the day, it boils down to finding the company – and people – who can create a bond with the loved one that leaves them content, happy, and feeling both heard and seen.” Homewatch Caregivers is located at 110 Helper Street, Suite E in Kernersville. They can be reached at 336.455.9967 or online at HomewatchCaregivers.com. Be sure to like Homewatch Caregivers of the Triad on Facebook.

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BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Located in Lewisville, Sewingly Yours is a family-owned business known for its top of the line products, sewing classes, and customer service. This fall, the shop introduced several new sewing machines from the Baby Lock company. “We are authorized dealers for Husqvarna Viking and Baby Lock machines. Recently, Baby Lock added the Coronet, the Jazz, the Valiant, the Accord, the Presto, and the Destiny II to their product line. All of these machines are unique and great in their own way. Baby Lock is also a family-owned company, like us,” said co-owner Teresa Conrad. The new sewing machines offer a variety of distinctive functions to help people complete their projects. The Coronet is a 16-inch longarm quilting machine with a 5-foot frame. It has a 16-inch throat that allows people to create different sized quilts. In addition, the Coronet has an LCD touch screen and a lighted workspace. As for the Jazz, this is also a quilting and sewing machine, but has a 12inch workspace. There are six LED lights and a built-in needle threader, and it has a tempo of 1,000 stitches per minute. The Destiny II is Baby Lock’s top of the line sewing and embroidery machine. Its features include a larger workspace, a tablet-sized screen, built-in stitches and embroidery designs, and wireless capability. The included embroidery hoop

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is 9.5” x 14” and it has five memory settings for each utility stitch. The new Valiant is a 10 needle embroidery machine and also has wireless capability. All of the machines come with warranties, from both Baby Lock and Sewingly Yours. Baby Lock provides a 25-year limited manufacturer’s warranty and a 10-year warranty on the parts. For Sewingly Yours, there is a 90-day service warranty and customers can bring in their machines for a full “tune-up” at any time. “We also have a trade-in policy where customers can bring in their sewing machines within one year of their purchase and 100% of the sale, before tax, will go towards their next machine. In addition, people can use our 12-month financing options for sewing machine purchases,” said Conrad. The new Baby Lock machines were brought into the public eye at the Baby Lock Tech in St. Louis this past August. Sewingly Yours employee Brenda Rothrock attended the conference and took classes while there. “I have been sewing since I was eight and have used about every type of sewing machine. Baby Lock’s machines hold up and work great. I was impressed at the Tech. It is an awesome company with very user-friendly machines, online training, and stands behind all their products,” said Rothrock.

The shop offers customers many opportunities to get familiar with and practice on different sewing machines. “There is no other Baby Lock dealer like us in the area. Because of that we have lots of free training for people and lots of classes. Our staff is very knowledgeable on the machines and we are available to help customers on all sewing levels, from basic to advanced. Our classes include new owner classes; however, it doesn’t matter when you bought your machine. There are also ongoing free classes for those who bought their machines here. It is important to get to know your machine. We just want people to sew and be successful,” said Conrad. Sewingly Yours also has gift certificates available. According to Conrad, there are price points on sewing machines for everyone’s budget and machines that meet all their specific needs. “We just want people to be aware of the new products and how we are here to help you. Our goal is to make people feel comfortable and welcome in the shop. Everyone is like family, my chosen family,” said Rothrock. Sewingly Yours is located at 1329 LewisvilleClemmons Road in Lewisville. Call (336) 7668271 or visit online at sewinglyyours.net. Be sure to follow them on Facebook and Google+.

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BY OMAR & CHRISTIE

Winterizing Your Relationship The fall season finds gardeners and landscapers feeding their yards and plants in preparation for the upcoming winter months. Busy neighbors fertilize, plug and seed their lawns in hopes that roots will grow deep and strong during the colder months and result in a lush yard and flowering shrubs in the warmer springtime. Just like the care and nurturing we give to our yards in the fall, our relationships can also benefit from attention during the warmer season that can help “winterize” it against difficult times. The “yard of the week” in the spring is the one that was weeded six months earlier. Despite our best efforts, all yards will ultimately grow some weeds. We may not see the weeds in our yard until springtime when grass and weeds pop up, but

they will be there, waiting for a warmer season. Weeds in relationships may also be lurking under the surface. They may be difficult tasks, difficult people or difficult times. They could be one partner’s irritating habit that we avoid talking about, taking each other for granted or not dealing with something as silly as unwanted nose hair. Bigger weeds are easier to recognize and harder to avoid. A bigger, more ugly relationship weed that screams “yank me out of this yard” could be one person’s choice to watch porn rather than engage in the real thing, or frequent verbal or physical abuse. What makes a weed, such as a dandelion, different from a rose? James Lowell said, “A weed is no more than a flower in disguise.” Our individual view of weeds helps us decide what to yank out of the relationship and what to let live. One

person may view cursing as a weed, while another may consider it a normal part of the yard. Some weeds can be changed and cultivated into a rose with honest communication and love. Changing an unwanted behavior (or weed) into a more loving action (or rose) can strengthen the relationship and grow a garden full of roses. In a new relationship, the landscape is more barren. It is waiting for grass to grow, bushes to be planted and soil to be cultivated through time spent together. The partners in a new relationship need to invest in each other in the same way a yard needs the investment of being plugged, seeded and fertilized. Investments such as acts of kindness, good communication and mutual respect can help the roots of a relationship grow deeper and can cover the bare spots. A bare spot might be a lack of self-esteem or self-confidence that can be nurtured with patience, positive feedback and love. Kind words are one of the best types of lime and straw for any bare spot! To fully winterize your relationship in preparation for a beautiful yard in the spring, you still have to be vigilant about your maintenance and care of your yard in the winter. If your yard has lots of trees, they may drop their leaves and make the soil more acidic during colder months. This prevents roots from growing as deep as desired. Regular removal of the leaves is a must for a healthy, green yard in the spring. Regular relationship maintenance during the colder months is also a must. Remove the” leaves” that prevent spending time together or prevent you from showing your love for your “yard.” Here is to hoping that you only need a rake versus a leaf blower this winter and that your relationship wins the yard of the month every month!

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The WOMEN’S FUND of WINSTON-SALEM: Equality by 2030 BY SHAMIKA STARKE

As a woman, I understand the importance of gender equality as it relates to a woman’s individual wellbeing, and to the sustainable development of our world as a whole. Societal norms and skewed gender-based expectations continue to place limits on the potential inherent in the worlds’ population of women, stagnating social progress. Yes, women are nurturers, but women are also strong, smart and resilient. As half of the world’s population, women also make up half of its potential, which should not be overlooked. I am a first born United States citizen. My family is from Belize – a country on the eastern coast of Central America. My mother has told me stories of her youth when, as a girl, she was given the task to grate whole coconuts for hours on end. The shavings would be used to make coconut oil, which she would then sell at the local market to bring home money for our family. In the face of small beginnings, my mother allowed her life experiences to empower her to create a life of opportunity for herself and for her children. She moved to the United States, attending school during the day and working late nights until she became a registered nurse. My mother taught me to see my potential as an individual. She showed me that with hard work and dedication, I am capable of achieving my heart’s desires – even while standing as a woman, and a person of color. In spite of this truth, society has yet to fully embrace the reality of my rights as a human being.

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So, why is gender equality important? So that women and young girls are empowered and able to fulfill their potential, without being subject to unfortunate gender biases that still remain today. We should live in a society where all men and women have access to equal rights and opportunities, in all aspects of life. It is unfortunate that, on average, women in the workforce still earn 24 percent less than men globally. All over the world, women and girls remain subjected to various forms of discrimination, violence and even harmful practices which show complete disregard for their human rights. This is why I joined The Women’s Fund of Winston-Salem – to be a part of an organization that seeks to address the root causes of problems affecting women, by supporting projects that bring about social change. At The Women’s Fund, we have made a commitment to support Equal by 2030. In 2015, the United Nations committed to reaching 17 Sustainable Development Goals by 2030. The goals are purposed to end poverty, contest inequalities and tackle climate change, all while ensuring that no one is left behind. Goal 5 on the list of goals is to: achieve gender equality and empower all women and girls. This may seem like a lofty task, however, it is attainable. Each of us, men and women, has the power and responsibility to take action, together, to achieve a better tomorrow. What can you do?

Well, it starts young. You can empower girls not to limit the possibilities they see for themselves, or their futures. Understand the importance of advocacy and advocate for girls’ health, education, protection and well-being. Mentor a young girl or woman at your organization or in your community. Women, we must not allow unconscious biases or structural barriers to stand in the way of our rights. Be a voice, and work to address injustices that may form barriers to equal opportunity. Serve in public office. Join a board of directors and work to change the culture from within. Men can show their support by working alongside women. They can encourage healthy and respectful relationships. They can host screenings of films, such as The Mask You Live In, that address important issues of gender for women and men in your community. It is time for us to stand as one, rising together against injustices and inequality of all sorts. Together, we have the power to oppose gender inequality and empower women and girls everywhere. In the spirit of Rising Together, I would like to invite you to learn more about the Women’s Fund, and make the pledge to help us reach Equality by 2030. Join us at our 11th Annual Luncheon Celebration on November 15th at the Benton Convention Center from noon to 1:30 p.m.

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Your One Stop Shop for Your Gift & Stationery Needs BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Since its opening more than 16 years ago, Gifts and Paper on Plaza in Winston-Salem has been the Triad’s premiere spot for stationery and invitation needs. Over the years, the shop has expanded into more than printing; they have included gift items for many different occasions. Now, they are growing once again and adding more products to their inventory. “We still are a full-service printing shop for invitations and stationery but decided to take the shop in another direction. New gift items, such as clothing, have been added. Our clothing items include pick up and go pieces, are a good price point, and look good and feel good on. There are also accessory pieces, and customers can easily pull together an outfit,” said owner Robyn Goslen. Dresses, tops, tunics, cardigans, and wraps are just some of the new clothing items. The pieces come from lines such as Mud Pie, Mainstreet Collection, and Rock Flower Paper. All items are available in different sizes and colors. “It’s hard to name one piece I’m most excited about because they are all great. I love the dresses and tunics, as well as the long sweaters and cardigans. We have a kimono scarf from Rock Flower Paper that hangs well when you wear it and comes in an array of colors that match everything in your wardrobe,” said Goslen. Along with the new clothing lines, the number of tabletop and gift items in the shop has also expanded. One addition is the hand-crafted gift line, Mariposa. Some of their products are napkin boxes and weights, frames, and serving trays. There is also a personalization option for the frames and trays, which are perfect for wedding, anniversary, and housewarming gifts. In addition, a new tabletop item is a bigger assortment of accent frames, which can brighten up your room. “For the tabletop and gift items, we wanted things that customers could grab and go. The shop has a great collection of gifts that aren’t mainstream items and things you can’t find anywhere else. Our selection of items has something for everyone,

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whether you need a hostess gift or a birthday gift,” said Goslen. And let’s not forget about the holiday season. Customers can purchase the latest holiday designs from Caspari, Crane, William Arthur, and Vera Wang. These options are good price points with a wide selection of choices that can be bought in store and online. Need a holiday gift for a hostess or friend? The shop carries Vietri tableware and holiday items from Glory Haus. Along with the new products, monogramming, tote bags, and personalized items are still available. Gifts and Paper on Plaza’s product line isn’t the only thing expanding. The shop recently revealed their newly designed website. On the site, customers can view the store’s products and shop online, all in the comfort of their home. Online shopping categories include baby and children, gifts for women, gifts for men, and more. Holiday cards, photo cards, and decorations are available for purchase on the site, as well. The selection of decorations ranges from fall, Thanksgiving, and Christmas, complete with a variety of ornaments to hang on your Christmas tree. “The website is updated daily, with new things being added all the time. There is a wedding shop with links for save-the-dates and invitations. We are thrilled about the new website and everything it has to offer our customers,” said Goslen. Providing excellent products and service is the number one goal for Gifts and Paper on Plaza. The staff is ready to help customers meet their needs, whether it is finding the right invitations, stationery, or gift. “The shop is very customer-service oriented and works to make sure people leave happy. We have a lot of great products in a small space, but our staff is here to help guide you towards what you are looking for,” said Goslen. Gifts and Paper on Plaza is located at 3301 Healy Drive in WinstonSalem. Call (336) 768-9909 or visit online at giftsandpaperonplaza.com. Be sure to follow them on Facebook and Instagram.

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From the Winston-Salem Time Traveler

Tales from the Attic: The Photo Album. BY MOLLY GROGAN RAWLS

The telephone call was a little unusual, but certainly within the realm of one that a photograph archivist might receive. The woman making the call was a genealogist and a historian. She said, “My son found a photo album in the attic of a home that he is renovating. We’d like to find out to whom it belongs, but the pages are stuck together.” Photographs don’t like to be wet. When the emulsion, or the slick side of the photograph, gets wet, it also gets sticky, and when it meets the emulsion side of another photograph, they stick together, just like fast friends. She continued, “I have the album in my house, wrapped in a plastic bag. My son brought it by several weeks ago, and I put it aside, meaning to call you earlier, but it just slipped my mind. May I bring it to your office tomorrow? Oh, and by the way, it also has a little mildew smell.” The warnings were all there. A photo album that had been sitting in a damp attic for an unknown period of time, with stuck and mildewed photo album pages, now residing in a non-breathing plastic bag, and with a mystery locked inside. HAZMAT warning aside, this was a photo archivist’s dream. The genealogist lived in a West End historic home. When she put the album in the plastic bag aside, she placed it on a radiator in her home, with the bag opened at one end, perhaps with the idea that it might help dry the album. By the time it was brought for examination, some of the pages had loosened their grip, and fortunately, not all of the photographs were ruined. Little by little, the album began to give up its secrets in clues that led to the identification of the owner. “Pictures Tell the Story,” is a fitting title for the mysterious photo album. The first album pages are dated September 1925, and the photos show a car with a female driver, with captions such as “Sis,” and “Me.” The verso page is dated December 1925 and features a young, stylish woman, with the caption “Yoder and her friends in Florida.” Who is “Yoder”…who is “Sis”… and who is “Me?” Sepia-toned images attached by black photo corners that are glued to the pages are captioned in white pencil or ink. The writer (presumably a female) has a back slant to her penmanship, making deciphering the names and descriptions challenging. The pages are neat, with

photos grouped by event, usually three or four to a page, and she rates an A for adding many dates to the pages. Grace E. Hettrick was born in 1892 in Pasquotank County, the third of four children born to Ella Amelia Simpson and Isaac Holland Hettrick. Grace was 21 when her mother died and 23 when her father died. Grace moved to Forsyth County and lived with her oldest sister, Daisy, and her family on Sunnyside Avenue about 1921. When the album starts in 1925, Grace is living on Queen Street, boarding with the Charles H. Knight family. Mr. Knight is a clerk at O’Hanlon’s Drug Store, where Grace is employed as a bookkeeper. One of the photos shows Grace at her desk in O’Hanlon’s. She also lives on Miller Street, Lockland Avenue, Gales Avenue, South Stratford Road, and Brent Street. Many of the houses are pictured in the album, as well as her landlords and their families. Beach trips, excursions to pick cherries, visits with family, outings with “the group,” and travels to the Wright Memorial in Kitty Hawk, to the overgrown Fort Macon at Atlantic Beach, and to the Lumina at Wrightsville Beach, are all captured in photographs. Grace is also photographed at Grace Court in Winston-Salem and probably enjoyed sharing her name with the park. This album ends about 1934, but her story does not end there. Grace was never photographed with a “beau” in her album, but in 1954 she married Larry E. Skinner. They lived together at 1013 Nancy Lane until Larry’s death in 1961; Grace died in 1981. This is where the photo album was found, and now we know the “Me” in the photo captions. But one question is unanswered, “Who is Yoder?” Coming in December: “Christmas Memories.” By Molly Grogan Rawls, author of the Winston-Salem Time Traveler website. Contact Molly at mollygroganrawls.com or winstonsalemtimetraveler.com.

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1. WHAT/WHO INSPIRED YOU TO BE A SINGER? This is a strange question for me because I have never NOT wanted to sing. I have been singing since I was a baby and besides books, it has been the one and only constant in my life. People talk about the connection and energy from the audience and what that does, and every bit of it is true, but the thing is, when I sing it’s almost selfish because when I let go of all of the expectations, the gig, and the audience, and the stress of being who I am, and just sing, it’s the closest I can come to that the thing that connects us to the Universe.

2. WHO ARE YOUR MAIN INFLUENCES? Growing up, my dad had a huge (and I mean huge) record collection - everything from The Temptations to Bach and the Beatles – really, everything. I was influenced by ALL of that, but who did I study? Two of my earliest influences were Barbra Streisand and Aretha Franklin - two of the greatest singers of the 20th (and 21st) centuries, in my opinion. Of course, the Beatles totally informed my love for stacked harmony. Later on, Bonnie Raitt and Tori Amos influenced me, not only by what they did vocally, but their sheer talent as musicians and songwriters. Today I find myself awed by singers like Sting, Alicia Keyes, and Melanie Martinez. BY BILL HEATH

3. WHAT WOULD YOU CALL YOUR VOCAL STYLE? I’d call my style a fusion of a whole lot of musical genres. People say I am a blues singer, but I disagree - that is just what I started out doing when I moved to Greensboro. You’d have to ask someone else what “they” hear because I really don’t know!

4. WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE LOCAL MUSIC SCENE? Honestly, I wish the circuit here were better, that musicians, on the whole, were paid better and had more opportunities to play. The scene changed dramatically after 9/11 and music gigs since have become so scarce.

5. WHAT ARE YOUR FUTURE PLANS WITH YOUR MUSIC? My husband and guitar player Bill Jordan and I are writing more original material, and we are also rehearsing some music with our Teen Divas (Zoë and Zadyn) who are just beginning to realize how incredibly talented they are! The Allison King Band performs at the Muddy Creek Music Hall @ 8 pm on Saturday, December 10th.

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THANK YOU, WINSTON-SALEM! Celebrate the TaTas Soccer Tournament of Champions was conceived three years ago when North Carolina Adult Soccer Association joined forces with Hadassah’s Celebrate the TaTas Breast Cancer events. Together these two organizations created a unique venue for female athletes to come together in the spirit of goodwill and competition. The focus has always been two-fold, with competition on the soccer field to win awards and recognition (who doesn’t love a big pink trophy!) and off the field, to raise funds for breast cancer research (we all win with that!). So what made this year’s event so incredibly special? The city of Winston-Salem! Circumstances beyond the tournament’s control meant that a week before the event, only days before eight teams would travel from near and far to participate, the tournament was moved to a new location in order to preserve the nature and essence of the event. We needed a miracle. Enter Winston-Salem! • Hine Park Soccer Complex opened its doors, lined the fields and gave up their own games so we could play. (Thank you, Scott Eisenbraun and Bill Sweeney!) • The Referees and Assignor were amazing and donated their fees to the tournament. (Thank you, Lou Friedman and gang!) • Wolfgang Puck (Greensboro) donated lunch for the athletes on Saturday. Elizabeth’s Pizza (University area of Winston-Salem) helped out with pizza. Brixx Pizza (Greensboro) donated lunch on Sunday. Mozzarella Fellas of Winston-Salem helped out with pizza. Whole Foods of Greensboro and Winston-Salem supported the

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TaTas by supplying fruit trays, water, and granola bars. (Micah and Patrick, thank you!) • Volunteers delivered the donated food to the fields, with baked goods in tow. (Jacobs and Kepner families!) • Volunteers from “Take the Fight” of Wake Forest University helped us set up the fields. (Thank you, Matt Hardey, Jr. for coordinating!) • Novant Health sent us trainers to take care of our athletes. (Thank you, Cress Goodnight, for coordinating!) • And, an incredible professional photographer donated his time to spend two days capturing the event. (Thank you, Andrew Bowen!) Pictures can be viewed and purchased at Galleries.ABowenPhoto.com/ School/Other-Sporting-Events/2016/ Celebrate-the-TaTas-Challenge A big shout out to Bad Daddy’s of Winston-Salem! Accommodating 90 (loud) women in pink is no easy feat! To the husbands, partners, children and multitude of pets that supported the event, we thank you. It truly does take a village (or a city, in the case of Winston-Salem) to put on a tournament in one week! And if you missed it (or, hopefully, plan to join us again), save the date for 2017: October 7-8, 2017! Same fields, same great venue! Want to help raise funds for breast cancer research? Make a donation in honor or memory of a loved one. It’s never too late. Visit GoFundMe.com/ TaTasSoccer. With gratitude,

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Kacie D. Idol’s Debut Novel: The Tulip Factory BY VONDA HENDERSON

ABOUT THE TULIP FACTORY:

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Kacie D. Idol is thrilled to introduce her debut novel, The Tulip Factory. A native of Kernersville, she attended East Forsyth High School and graduated from UNCGreensboro with a B.A. in communications. She and her family love calling Kernersville home.

She wrote The Tulip Factory when her daughter was a baby; while the baby napped, Mommy wrote a book. Her family has always been supportive and encouraging of her writing abilities. “Writing is something I always wanted to do,” she shared.

INSPIRATION:

Kacie values strong women who know what they want and actively seek it out. Her lead character, Corrine, is such a person. Kacie based Corrine on the personalities of several women she has known over the course of her life. Corrine exemplifies the strengths and weaknesses common in all of us, and as such, is quite relatable. Kacie selected the book title from her favorite flower and one of her personal book favorites, Factory Girl. She also wrote a blog named Tulip Factory, which encompassed poetry and relationships.

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The Tulip Factory is, at its heart, the story of first love and the longing for it to be a lasting love. Corrine’s love for James has many ups and downs over their years together, and she has difficulty letting it go. However, to move on with her life, she reaches a painful decision and sticks with it.

WHERE TO FIND THE TULIP FACTORY: Kacie is currently marketing her novel at: • Accent Prone, 1030 South Main Street, Kernersville.

Kacie weaves this story in a series of flashbacks from both Corrine’s and James’ points of view. At certain times, we hear the voice of Corrine; at others, James is the guide with his personal take on the situation. It’s an interesting method that holds the reader’s attention.

• Street Boutique, 110 North Main Street, Kernersville. Kacie will be part of their Christmas Open House on Saturday, November 19. She will be on-site from 10:00 am to 2:00 pm and will be happy to sign/personalize The Tulip Factory for you.

The conclusion is somewhat unexpected and leaves the reader wanting to know what happens next. That will be for Kacie’s next novel . . . More experiences and adventures as Corrine follows her dreams.

You can order Kacie’s novel from Amazon. com and BarnesandNoble.com, and find it in the Winston-Salem and Greensboro Barnes & Noble Bookstores. It is also available in Kindle and Nook formats.

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Tips for Selecting the Perfect Engagement Ring BY VONDA HENDERSON

Before you set the stage for that all-important question to the prospective bride, selecting the perfect engagement ring is probably the most gutwrenching, scary moment to face. Picking out a ring that she will treasure for a lifetime, that reflects your love and all that marriage means, and one that she will wear with joy can be a daunting task. But, never fear, there are lots of helpful hints; so many that your head may end up spinning. What to do? Follow some basic, time-honored tips and make this important selection easy on yourself.

• The Jeweler:

Get recommendations from family and friends about jewelers they use. This is not the time for closing your eyes and pointing at a number from the phonebook. Select a jeweler with professional credentials, such as membership in the Gemological Institute of America. They will be able to guide you to the best ring that fits your budget and educate you on the four C’s: 1. Color – the less color, the higher grade 2. Clarity – the fewest number of imperfections in the stone 3. Cut – the brilliance and sparkle 4. Carat – the measurement

• Your Budget:

The reality is that your budget will help determine the type of ring you can afford. Nobody wants to start off marriage with a heavy debt. In the simplest terms, buy the best that your budget will allow.

• Shape & Setting:

What shape will the center stone have? There are a number of options (for example round, square, pear, marquise). Your jeweler will likely ask you about what style rings your intended wears. Does she favor simple/ minimalist designs, contemporary, vintage, or more ornate, heavy rings? What looks best on her hand? If you’re unsure, ask one of her close friends.

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• Metal:

Platinum is one of the most durable metals and works for those with metal allergies. Yellow gold is very tradition, as is white gold. Rose gold has gained popularity as it goes well with most all skin tones. Palladium has a grayer hue than platinum. A mix of platinum and gold is also an option.

• Timing:

Be aware of how much time may be needed for the ring to be ready. Six weeks is the general standard; however, custom pieces may take much longer. If you want an inscription, be sure to order that at the same time.

• Get it in Writing:

A diamond of one carat or more typically has a diamond grading report included.

• Insurance:

Don’t forget to add a rider to your insurance policy for the wedding rings. It’s a simple process, but overlooked many times.

What are some current trends to consider?

The stone doesn’t have to be a diamond. Some prefer gemstones rather than a diamond (remember Princess Di’s sapphire?). Perhaps a colored diamond is more her style; the selection is amazing. Settings can be simple or incorporate floral accents or scrollwork, or may be designed with the side view in mind for a spectacular look from any direction. While ring shape is typically round, some may be offered in a square shape. Bands may be designed as twisted or stacked. Vintage/heirloom jewelry is special in its own right. Enjoy this special time of picking the ring that speaks to you and will be special to her – just because it came from you! Happy engagement!

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Pancreatic Cancer Survivor & Thriver BY DARA KURTZ

to the Cancer Treatment Centers of America in Georgia and met Dr. Kevin Watkins, one of the first doctors to ever perform a new procedure called the IRE. It is a nano knife procedure that allowed Hughart to have her only shot of the future she dreamed about and a chance at remission. In October of 2015, she was able to have surgery and then followed that with more chemotherapy. A recent scan shows there’s no evidence of disease in her body, something she never thought she would hear.

Pancreatic cancer is known to be one of the deadliest forms of cancer. Usually, by the time it is found, it is in advanced stages. That’s why, in April of 2014 at the age of 35, Alisha Hughart, who had been losing weight and having back pain was shocked to hear a scan revealed a three-centimeter mass on her pancreas. After getting it biopsied and receiving a confirmed diagnosis, an appointment to meet with an oncologist was scheduled for late May. Hughart never made it to the first appointment. On May 17th she started vomiting bile and was deathly ill. A trip to the emergency room and many tests revealed she was in trouble. After putting a stent into her liver and stomach, Hughart was given three choices: do nothing, do radiation or start chemotherapy. None of these choices would do anything but extend her life, and she opted for the chemotherapy, which would extend her life by the longest – fifteen months. At the time, her two boys were sixteen and fourteen.

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“I was in total shock,” Hughart said, “but willing to do whatever I could to live as long as possible.” After starting chemotherapy in the hospital, her body became so weak it took staying in the hospital for 39 days before she was strong enough to go home and continue with the planned chemotherapy. The chemotherapy worked, and she became a candidate for external beam therapy, a form of radiation treatment. Twenty-eight sessions later, she was told her cancer was still inoperable. Kathy Bowman, a GI Oncology Nurse Navigator at Novant Health who met Hughart during this time says, “From the moment of diagnosis, our team is dedicated to providing hope for patients and their families through timely and personalized care. It is a collaborative effort to assure each patient has access to the latest evidence-based care, with a focus on making life larger than cancer.” Hughart really wanted to have surgery and was willing to go anywhere to have it. She went

She says her life has returned to a new normal. She has trouble gaining weight, tires easily and has to take Creon for the rest of her life to help her digest her food. However, she realizes how blessed she truly is to be alive. According to the American Cancer Society, the projected statistics for 2016 indicate about 53,070 people will be diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and about 41,780 people will die from the disease soon after diagnosis. Of these, an estimated 1,700 diagnosed cases will be in North Carolina. It is the only major cancer with a 5-year relative survival rate in the single digits, at just 7%. The average age at the time of diagnosis is 71, significantly older than Hughart. Genetic testing revealed that Hughart does have the gene for pancreatic cancer. Now thirty-eight, Hughart says her faith got her through the challenge, and she took one step at a time. She knows how blessed she is to have her life and doesn’t take it for granted. She holds a weekly morning meditation to provide spiritual inspiration to women and says it’s a blessing to be able to help other people. “If I can make it easier for someone else going through this, it would be worth it and I would gladly do it again,” Hughart said.

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BY MEGHAN E.W. CORBETT Many parents nowadays struggle with how much time is too much time for their children to be in front of screens. From phones to television to tablets, it seems that screens are virtually unavoidable in today’s society. Those of us who grew up before the technological surge have fond memories of our parents reading books to us… real books with pages that have to be physically turned and that amazing smell that only book lovers understand. It is important to pass along the tradition of reading real books and teaching the next generation how valuable a library can be for reading and so much more! The Friends of the Lewisville Library works to do just that. “The Friends of the Lewisville Library was organized October 9, 1984 and is a non-profit organization,” said President Marie Sessoms. “We have a board that consists of up to 15 members. We have by-laws and rules and regulations that govern our organization. These are reviewed periodically for revision. All of our board members and volunteers are involved because we love our library and books. We see a need to ensure that our library is equipped with the latest books for all ages and categories, audio equipment, computers for children, teens and adults, and any other items that our library needs and would not be funded by the state.” Lewisville is among many libraries in the area with groups such as these. Currently, Forsyth County has 10 “Friends” groups. “The purpose of ‘Friends’ is to promote the development and enrichment of the resources, facilities, and service of the Lewisville Library,” said Sessoms. “To provide a means for interested citizens of the surrounding area to contribute to this development and enrichment, to plan events and activities that provide the community with the opportunity for involvement and contributions, and to increase the public awareness of the services offered by Lewisville Library.”

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In addition to financial support for the library, Friends of the Lewisville Library also sponsors two book clubs, the summer reading program for children, a creative writing class, Valentine, Halloween and holiday parties for children with crafts, snacks and, during the holiday party, a visit from Santa. “We sponsor teen activities such as the Anime Club, Lego building, movies, games and puzzles,” said Sessoms. “We strive to provide to the patrons of the library books, programs and activities for all ages. Our fundraising efforts include ongoing book sales on shelves located to the right as you enter the library. We have two major book sales per year in April and October. We have a yard sale in July that is conveniently located in our air-conditioned auditorium. We also make gift ‘book’ baskets to sell in spring and just before the holiday season. There is also an occasional bake sale that will satisfy your sweet or savory palate.” New members and volunteers are always welcome to join! “We have a brochure that tells all about our group and what we hope to accomplish and have accomplished,” said Sessoms. “Our membership prices range from $5 for students and seniors to $10 for individuals, $20 for families, $25 for businesses and a onetime price of $200 for a lifetime membership and your name engraved on a plaque in the library. Our organization meets every month, except December, on the fourth Monday at 6:30pm in the library. Board members chair the following committees: membership, program, fund raising, reception, publicity and nominating. Our annual meeting is held in the fall, and an annual report is presented. We work continually to be conservative in our budget. Greater than 93% of our fundraising is returned directly to the library.” For more information, email friends. lewisvillelibrary@gmail.com, call 336.703.2940, visit the website at friendsofthelewisvillelibrary. org or find them on Facebook.

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You are Limitless BY STACY LEIGHTON

There is freedom waiting for you, on the breezes of the sky, And you ask ‘What if I fall?’ Oh but my darling, what if you fly?” – Erin Hanson

player. I was going to learn the game. It’s funny I know, but I never did, even with four brothers, a husband, and son who are fans. I mustered the courage, grabbed my notes and smartphone, and went to the local bar… alone. I found out the NFL website has a great page called Football for Beginners. I took notes and referred to the site while I watched the game. And that’s what I hope to do every time the Packers or Panthers play. I don’t mind if I look a little nerdy, I am actually beginning to get it! And you know what? It’s really fun.

2. ADVENTURE MORE – At this

stage in our family’s lives we find we need less ‘stuff’ and want ‘more experiences.’ We made a list of must-see places, by air or by car. The house is being purged by way of garage sales, Goodwill, etc.… Now I buy less and save more for traveling. Two weeks ago I discovered flights to Dublin for under $500 roundtrip, then from Dublin, you can get to most major European cities for $100 roundtrip. Next week the kids and I are going to Dublin and Barcelona! And after that the mountains to see the leaves change, and then to Hendersonville to pick apples and then to …

3. POLE DANCING – Seriously,

Recently I had an epiphany that turned my world upside down. I was enjoying lunch with my friend Kylen. We spoke of life’s absurdities and unlimited possibilities, while he cooked. Kylen is a culinary genius. Then, without thinking, I said, “Oh, I don’t eat portobello mushroom burgers.” He just nodded, smiled, and handed me the burger. I didn’t want to be rude, so I took a bite. As I savored the delicious avocado, bean sprouts, hot sauce, onions, and Portobello flavors, it dawned on me, ‘Did I really say that? When did I become so set in my ways?!’ I was stunned by this revelation, even as my taste buds were singing! I wondered, how many times have I limited myself without even knowing it? At fifty-ish we know our comfort zone. And frankly, we are comfortable staying there. It’s safe, steady, and predictable. It can also make us feel stale, stagnant, and complacent. Intellectually, we know

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this new chapter in our lives could bring new possibilities. But really, why bother? Emotionally we reach for the comfort in routine. Like the comfort of those favorite old yoga pants, routine is just as boring. As I took a mental inventory, I realized many of my fifty-ish friends and I made excuses to stay in our comfort zone. We avoided pursuing a new career, fitness regimen, or dream by saying “At my age? I can’t do that.” Naturally, our friends will agree. Validation and support are the very cornerstones in the friendship foundation, right? But is that helpful? Wouldn’t it be more helpful to say “But what if you could?” Then I thought about that burger, and I was hungry all over again. Next, I made a list of three things I never thought I could, or would, do. I decided I was going try them. I was not ready to limit myself.

I’m not kidding. Groupon has a great deal, and well, I’m curious. I’m told it’s an amazing workout, and it’s all the rage here. The owner of our local studio is a mom with grown kids, as are most of the participants. Pole dancing combines music, core and strength training. These classes are designed for fitness, not to learn a new trade. My grown daughter and I begin in two weeks! I can’t wait. Drop me a line, and I’ll keep you posted.

We wouldn’t want others to limit us based on our driver’s license birthdate. So why should we? The next time you find yourself saying you “can’t” “don’t” or “wouldn’t” think about this: what if you could? If portobello mushroom burgers or pole dancing are not your cups of tea, choose your own adventures. Just remember, you, too, are limitless!

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When a Little Distance is Good Medicine BY STACY LEIGHTON

We love our friends, but let’s face it. Some are more exhausting than others. If your nerves are frayed, that’s when we are in danger of saying something we might regret. It is especially then that distance is good medicine.

“He’ll keep calling me, he’ll keep calling me. I’ll go I’ll go, I’ll go.” ~ Cameron, Ferris Bueller’s Day Off Everybody needs a day off sometimes. Have you ever thought, “All I need is a little distance” or “I need a little me time”? Of course, you have. Maybe this distance applies to a specific friend. That’s legitimate, and it’s perfectly normal, right? Then, why do we accept unwanted invitations? Why do we subject ourselves to friendships that deplete us? Why, like Cameron, do we say “yes” when we want to say “no”? It’s simple. We don’t want anyone to feel bad at our expense. Either way, we’re going to feel “bad.” But, there are good ways to do this; we can learn how to ask for distance, we can say “no” and it won’t make us nauseous. Sometimes a little distance is good medicine. A few months ago, I wrote about best friend break-ups. This is not necessarily a “break up”; it is more like “taking a break.” There’s a difference. Maybe it’s for one night. Maybe it’s for a few weeks. Maybe it’s not the event but a friend we need a little distance from. Do any of the following characters sound similar?

Maybe it is not the friend we need distance from, but the event we are invited to. Perhaps you are tired and simply need to recharge your batteries. Everyone does, and if you’re feeling it then you really should! Write yourself a hall pass, swipe left and take a powder. There is no reason you must accept every invitation. Decline the invitation up front. It is better to say you can’t than to say you will when you probably won’t. This makes us “the flake” (see above). Are you an introvert? Do parties make you feel uncomfortable? You’re not alone. Even extroverts need to take a break sometimes, too. When asking for distance, remember most people do not require the lengthy explanation. Even though we feel possessed to give one. It’s perfectly fine to say, “No, thank you,” and nothing else. We are tempted to over-explain -- don’t. This is a slippery slope, and it leads to embellishment. Less is more. A simple, “I’m sorry, I can’t get together in the next few weeks. I have a lot on my plate” will help us to avoid any fib said to spare their feelings. However innocent, little white lies can be very hurtful when found out. Graceful ways to claim your distance:

• The Drama Queen – Always seems to be in the middle of a

• Declining an invitation: “I’m sorry I can’t” or “I’m afraid I am not able to make it.”

• The Narcissist – There is only room for one in this friendship.

• Maybe yes to the individual, but not to the party or “group”: “No, thank you. But maybe you and I can get together for lunch sometime soon”

• The Gossip – Telling others’ secrets makes her perfectly giddy, no

• For flakey friends: Stop initiating the plan.

• The Critic – She constantly criticizes and is happiest when she is

• For the friend whom you want to keep, but that you need a little vacation from: “I have a lot going on right now (don’t explain). I’m going to need a few weeks. I will text you when it lets up. Thank you for understanding.”

catastrophic drama.

matter the harm.

putting others down.

• The One Upper – Whatever you do or feel pales in comparison to her experience.

• Negative Nancy (or Debbie Downer) – She has two moods -- gloomy and miserable.

• Hoover Upright – Commanding center stage at all times, she can suck the air out of the room.

And two more:

• The Victim – Asks for advice, but won’t take it; she prefers to be a victim.

• The Flake – Makes plans only to cancel or no show. Cannot even commit to a phone call.

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Some of our friends might not take it well. Be prepared for this. But, stand up and protect your boundaries. Repeat what you said gently. Don’t worry. Your needy friends will find someone else to take care of them in your absence. Try some of these delivery suggestions. Rehearse if you need to. A little distance is good medicine. If it helps, think of it as “self-care.” With a little practice, I think you’ll enjoy being selective, as well as the space you create!

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Dreams Decoded BY STACY LEIGHTON

Have you ever had a dream that haunts you long after waking? Were you being chased? Or flying? Maybe you were visited by ghosts of Christmas past, present, and future? Since as early as 4,000 BC people have been interested in dreams and their interpretations. Of course many are still skeptical. Like Scrooge, they might explain it away as being ‘just a bit of undigested potato.’ Still, isn’t it curious that while all people dream, many have the same dreams? Whether you believe in dream interpretation or not, let’s face it, it is fun to think about! Dreams are cognitive experiences that occur during our REM (Rapid Eye Movement) state of sleep. They are made up of a combination of images, feelings and reflections that occur 25% of the time we are sleeping. People who get a full night’s sleep will experience three to five REM sleep phases, and have four to six dreams. Unfortunately, most of us will forget about 90% of our dreams within the first minute of waking.

HERE ARE A FEW FUN FACTS ABOUT DREAMING. DID YOU KNOW… • People dream about what they know and see in their life • Everyone dreams • Even visually impaired people dream! • Not everyone dreams in color • Dreams are said to prevent psychosis What are these dreams? Why do we have vivid dreams and nightmares that linger?

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And what about those re-occurring dreams? Many believe dreams are unresolved thoughts of the day. Of course, that could be true. They believe our subconscious is suggesting we missed something, or that we should resolve unresolved issues. Others suggest dreams are a way of warning us when the road ahead might be slippery-when-wet. Whatever the reason, it seems to be a good idea to pay attention. If the puzzle is too difficult to piece together, why not try dream interpretations. The foundations of interpretation are rooted in universal or common dream themes. Think about this: we know at some time, most people have had the same kind of dream, e.g., falling or chasing. Our dreams remind us we are not all that different. Dream analysts believe these universal experiences can have common interpretations. Now, aren’t you just a little bit curious?

THE MOST COMMON DREAM THEMES ARE: • Chase Dreams – If you are being

chased, notice by what or by whom. You may need to face your fears. If you are doing the chasing, are you feeling rushed? Slow down.

• Cheating Dreams – Are not always

about the “doing” but about an insecurity or lack of confidence in a relationship.

• Falling Dreams – Implies a feeling

of losing control. Holding on – indicates attempting to fix something. Losing your balance – something (or someone) is making you feel off balance. Pushed – someone, maybe yourself, is pushing you too hard.

• Flying Dreams – Flying dreams are

very positive dreams that can reflect high points in your waking life.

• Naked Dreams – Four out of five

people will have these once in their lives. If you are naked and embarrassed in front of people, you might be feeling inadequate, exposed, and overly stressed about something in your public or professional life. On the other hand, if you feel good about being naked in front of others, you are feeling proud, confident, and without a care.

• Test Dreams – Are you prepared?

Late? Did you forget about the test? Each scenario has a slightly different interpretation but could indicate that somewhere in your current experience you are feeling stressed, under the gun or afraid of failing. It could mean that you are afraid of advancing i.e., questioning, ‘Am I on the right track?’ It’s worth looking at; these dreams tend to repeat until resolved.

Remember, dreams come to us like metaphors. They are often indirect references to something specific in our lives. We are very busy people; sometimes it takes a subconscious nudge to remind us to pay attention or resolve an issue. Try keeping a dream journal beside the bed. Upon rising, jot a few notes about the dream. Later, see if there is something going on in your life that your subconscious is trying to tell you. This exercise may be helpful, but if nothing else, it will be entertaining! Sweet dreams.

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A City’s Canvas: Marianne DiNapoli-Mylet

P R O FILE S OF A RTISTS O F DO WNT O WN WINS T O N S ALEM BY DAVID WILLARD and heritage, commemorating life and instilling neighborhood pride. I love that public art is accessible to everyone and I have created over 40 murals with schools and communities throughout North Carolina, Pennsylvania, Virginia and New Jersey. I painted my first mural in Winston-Salem in 1995 and created some of the first public art pieces in downtown Winston-Salem,” says DiNapoli-Mylet.

“In today’s climate in our country, which is sickened with the pollution of pollution, threatened with the prominence of AIDS, riddled with burgeoning racism, rife with growing huddles of the homeless, we need art, and we need art in all forms. We need all methods of art to be present, everywhere present, and all the time present.” Maya Angelou’s insight into the importance of art in our communities and lives as a whole is one that still rings true. It inspires, it gives hope, and fortunately it comes in many forms and media. One can walk into a gallery, step into a theater, or even walk down a community street and see dramatic murals on local buildings. These murals can celebrate life or even force us to look closer at ourselves. In a sense, they are conversations within the community. Perhaps no one knows this best in WinstonSalem than Marianne DiNapoli-Mylet. An artist in the downtown scene for over 25 years, she has made her reputation as not only a seasoned painter, but also a talented muralist. In fact, DiNapoli-Mylet has created over 40 murals in her career. “I consider myself a multi-media artist who has been engaged in the study of art, culture, and education for over 35 years. Since 1985, as Assistant Director and a lead artist in the Artistic Design Program (an anti-graffiti mural program) in Camden, New Jersey, I have focused on creating public art with communities as a means of celebrating history

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DiNapoli-Mylet has certainly made the most of her time in downtown Winston as she has succeeded in truly leaving her mark on the area. She has been an active member of the Winston-Salem arts community since moving here in 1989 from Camden, NJ. She also co-founded and managed Studios at 625 (1999- 2016) in the Downtown Art District and was awarded Regional Artist Fellowships in 1995 and 2014 from The Arts Council of WS/FC for her studio work focusing on musicians. She also founded and developed the POWAR! Program, a public art program in Winston-Salem with a focus on mentoring youth and building community bonds through public art projects. In this program, the group created seven murals in Winston-Salem.

When describing her art style, DiNapoli-Mylet makes it clear that it may be a bit “different.” “I guess my art is a little schizophrenic. My murals are fairly tame because they are usually commissioned and have to relate a story or event(s) but my studio work is more expressive, focusing on emotion and rhythm - primarily through music. I am fascinated by a spontaneous, raw moment in the performance. I attempt to capture that moment, allowing the viewer an insight into the soul of performance - hoping to entice the viewer to ‘feel’ the beat and ‘hear’ the music in my paintings. My goal is to capture the passion through rhythm, texture, color and line, to demonstrate the pulsing rhythms and raw emotions of a particular genre of music,” she concludes. Marianne DiNapoli-Mylet has worked hard to not only make her mark, but also to make a difference in the community. Obviously, she has succeeded. Her work is on display in galleries in the area and on many buildings as well. And whether it be through community conversations with her murals, or “feeling” the music and passion in her paintings, she has challenged downtown Winston-Salem and its patrons to experience first-hand the power and passion community and art can bring to life.

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What You Learn About Hospice Care May Surprise You November often feels like the official launch of the holiday season. Autumn has settled in, and our attention turns to holiday plans, time with family and friends, and gifts. What most people don’t know is that November is also National Hospice Month – a good time to spare a few minutes to learn more about the compassionate care provided to those who might not have the gift of time to celebrate another holiday. At Hospice & Palliative CareCenter, we want people to know where to turn for compassionate, in-home care and hope. “I wish we had called sooner.” That’s what most families say once they have embraced the support of hospice. Unless you have had a firsthand experience with hospice care, you might not understand the true essence of hospice.

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1) Hospice is not about giving up hope. It’s about embracing hope and living longer with exceptional care.

Facing the physical and emotional challenges of a life-limiting illness is overwhelming. You owe it to yourself to seek every option. Calling hospice does not mean giving up hope -- it means letting hope in, for help and support, when you need it most. Our care is designed to help patients live more fully and comfortably -- with a team of caregivers that works to ease symptoms and enhance quality of life. It is choosing compassionate care and support so that you can be at home -- wherever you call home.

2) Patients and families who choose hospice care live longer and report feeling better, emotionally and physically, almost immediately.

With improved quality of life, hospice patients actually live longer! A study published in the Journal of Pain and Symptom Management showed that patients who choose hospice care live an average of 29 days longer than patients who do not have hospice care.

3) Remarkably, there is rarely any out-of-pocket expense for hospice care.

You have already paid for hospice care. It is an entitlement your tax dollars earn you. Hospice care is most often paid for by Medicare, Medicaid, private insurance or donations. Therefore, in addition to easing physical and emotional burdens, using hospice at the end of life can ease financial burdens. The Medicare Hospice Benefit is available to all patients with the Medicare part A benefit.

4) Hospice care is designed to support people for months.

Far too many patients and families say -- “We wish we had called sooner.” Hospice care is not simply for patients in the final days or weeks, but rather months. Patients can receive hospice care as soon as a physician predicts that life expectancy is six months or less. Anyone, including family and friends, can make a referral to hospice.

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Our teams of caregivers come to you, making routine visits so that you can remain comfortable in your home with family, friends and familiar surroundings. This includes private homes, assisted living facilities and/or skilled nursing facilities.

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THE HOLIDAYS

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

The holidays are the most wonderful time of the year. Yet, they are quite possibly one of the most expensive times of the year. There are decorations to buy, food to make, and travel expenses for trips to see family. And let’s not get started on the gifts – there are presents for family, friends, teachers, your hairdresser, your mail man, the list goes on and on. However, there are ways to celebrate the holidays without breaking your bank.

Start with a budget for the holidays.

Wrapping papers, bags, & bows

Stop spending on unnecessary items

Give the same gift to everyone.

Break down all the areas where you will be spending money, such as gifts, decorations, clothing, and travel. Then, set a limit for each section and try not to spend over that limit. Also, create a list of exactly who you want to buy gifts for and stick to the list.

for two months leading up to the holidays. Only spend money on bills and other necessities, while cutting back. This will help you set aside money for your holiday expenses because you won’t have to go into your current accounts at the last minute – the money will already be there.

Using cash

is a great way to watch how much you are spending. I try to use this tip throughout the year, especially on trips. Using cash, instead of a debit or credit card, allows you to see exactly how much money you have and you can allot accordingly.

For purchases,

there is no shame in using reward points from stores or coupons. Just like any other time, reward points and coupons help you save money. Also, look for sales on items, but be sure to compare prices. Sometimes just because something is on sale, it doesn’t mean it’s a good deal.

Start your shopping early.

If possible, begin stocking up at the end of the season for the upcoming year. End of December and January have great deals on all things holiday related. If you don’t want to start that early, you can still find deals a few months ahead. As for toys, wait until the last few weeks before the holiday for the best sales, unless the toy is very popular.

Give time & your skills as gifts.

If you love cooking, give a meal, or if you love making DIY projects, gift a handmade pillow or throw to family and friends. Having something made from you makes the gift more special and personal. Also, consider spending time with a person as their gift. Take an hour or two to talk with them, bake with them, etc. With all presents, look for meaning over glitz.

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can add up and be a large portion of a gift. So, why not wrap a gift in a gift? For example, if you are buying a gift for a child, wrap it in a fun kid’s pillowcase, towel or blanket. If you are sending someone a baked good, wrap it in tin foil then a dishtowel with a bow. Get creative on ways to give the present.

I know this may sound like you’re not putting forth a big effort, but there are money-saving bonuses with this one. Buy the same present for several friends, such as mugs and packs of hot chocolate. You can still buy something small to customize each gift. This will help you stay on budget, knowing you are spending the same amount on each person.

Remember the meaning

and reason of the season. Yes, it is fun to decorate or shop till you drop while finding the perfect gifts, but sometimes just being with family and friends is the best way to celebrate the holiday.

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Jobseeker’s Guide to Finding a Job During the Holidays BY ELAINE S. WILDER whether you’re unemployed or if you have a job but are looking to improve your job situation. Working on your job search during the holidays may also mean less competition from other candidates who put their jobs search on hold. Many people wait until January -making it a New Year’s Resolution -- to look for a new job. If you wait until January 2nd to start -- or resume -- your job search, you’ll have more competition. It may even be easier to connect with a hiring manager during December as many key personnel are in the office while lower level staff takes paid holiday time off during the month.

Finding a job is a job! Think of it as a game – if you know the rules, you can play. Having been in the business of résumé writing and interview coaching since 1989, I have observed many changes in hiring practices and career marketing tools (the résumé, curriculum vitae, cover letter, reference page, salary history page and portfolios). Below are some questions asked by my clients. I believe the answers may be helpful to you if you are a job seeker.

Even if you aren’t offered a job in December, you can lay a lot of the groundwork by making connections before the end of the year, making it more likely that you’ll be hired quickly in the New Year. 11 Ideas for Job Searching During the Holidays Here are some specific strategies you can use in your holiday job search.

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• Accept all invitations you receive for holiday parties and get-togethers.

There is a myth out there that says that companies don’t hire during the holidays. But, it’s just that…a myth. Just ask the jobseeker who was offered a job on Black Friday -- or the one who was invited in for a second interview two days before Christmas.

• Re-connect with old friends and colleagues.

Putting your job search on hold between Thanksgiving and New Year’s isn’t just a bad idea -- it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. Like hockey great Wayne Gretzky said, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” If you’re not looking for a job during the holidays, you’re not going to find one. Employers hire all 12 months of the year. In fact, many new positions are funded to start with a new budget year -- which often coincides with a new calendar year. Other hiring managers have hiring budgets that must be spent before the end of the year -- “use it or lose it.” Both of these scenarios offer opportunities for job seekers in December. The holidays also offer some natural opportunities to network and spread the word about your job search -there are company parties, social gatherings, end-of-theyear professional association events and even Christmas cards and letters. Many of these strategies are available

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• Host your own holiday party. • Ask for specific information or help. • Volunteer. • Use holiday cards to connect. • Create a business networking card. • Update your social media presence. • Look for opportunities to get your foot in the door with a seasonal job. • Connect with recruiters. • Set a specific goal for your job search. • Make sure you’re reachable. Challenges To Overcome With a Holiday Job Search

Conducting a job search in December isn’t without its challenges, however. While some hiring managers are hard at work throughout the month, others may be on vacation. Some companies also close during the week from Christmas to New Year’s Day. The holidays can also distract you from your job search. Shopping, vacations, family activities and holiday parties can all take away time from your job search if you’re not careful. Check your attitude, too. The holidays are a season of joy and thankfulness, but that can be tough when you’re out of work. However, it’s important to maintain a positive attitude -- or at least “fake it until you make it.” Even if you’re not feeling it, “act as if” you are because employers want to hire positive, optimistic employees. Watch out for holiday employment scams. In your desire to make extra cash for the holidays, don’t get caught up in job-related scams -- like fake mystery shopping ads, package processing rip-offs or work-at-home cons. Check out job opportunities carefully, and never accept payments for work you haven’t done yet. And never deposit a check into your account and wire or transfer payments out before the payment has fully cleared (wait at least two weeks). Don’t be surprised if you don’t hear anything back right away. Because a lot of people use their accumulated vacation time before the end of the year, you may find yourself waiting a bit longer than usual for a response to your résumé or followup after a job interview. Be patient, but persistent. If it’s your goal to find a new job in the New Year, don’t put off your job search just because it’s the holiday season. A job search that starts in December gives you the opportunity to get hired before the end of the year -- or to have momentum and a head start on other candidates once the calendar turns over on January 1st.

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30 Days of Freedom: My No-Makeup Challenge BY BROOKE EAGLE

As I’m writing this article, it is October 1st; the first day in 30 days that I’m officially “allowed” to wear make-up again. On August 31st, I had the crazy idea to go 30 days without wearing any make-up and write an article about my experience. First thing’s first…am I wearing make-up right now? No, I’m not. Will I ever wear make-up again? Absolutely! If you know me, you know that I’m not one that wears a whole lot of make-up. Prior to this challenge, I would put on a bit of powder foundation and bronzer, mascara and eyeliner most every day. I want to share with you eight things that I learned through this experience. 1. People took this a lot of different ways. Some were supportive, some were judgmental, some thought it was silly (stupid even) and some thought it was the coolest idea ever. A few even decided to participate in the challenge with me! Two of those being my mom and my “Aunt” Paula. I have to give them both kudos…they even went to their 40th high school reunion with NO make-up! 2. It’s a huge bummer when you get a zit and can’t cover it up. Since I was about 12 years old, I’ve had issues with my face breaking out. Of course, now that I’m in my mid20s, it is much better…but still a slight issue. Surprisingly, I didn’t get ONE blemish on my face until around day 20 or 25. It was undoubtedly caused by stress…and then I got another one a couple of days later because I was probably stressed about the first one. Ha! I stuck with the challenge and did not use concealer to cover up anything. I’ll admit; this was hard. 3. Giving yourself a make-up detox makes your face feel great. Other than the previously mentioned two blemishes, my face was clearer than it’s been in years! Throughout this challenge, the only thing I put on my face was coconut oil (and sunscreen if I was going to be outside). I put a very small amount of coconut oil on my face immediately after getting out of the shower. That was my entire regimen for the 30 days. This brings me to my next point… 4. When you give up make-up…getting ready is a breeze! I’ve never worn a ton of make-up (except for a brief time in 7th/8th grade when I went a little crazy with eyeliner), but it takes a lot longer to get ready when you factor putting on make-up. 5. It’s all about the hair. For me anyway. If my hair looked nice, I generally didn’t think twice about not having any make up on. 6. I missed make-up for special events and occasions. Throughout these 30 days, I had a speaking engagement, a four-year-wedding anniversary dinner with my husband, a special birthday party, a baby shower and a few other important work meetings and date nights. It’s not that make-up makes me feel beautiful, but I do feel more professional and put together with make-up. Especially when speaking in front of people, I noticed that I felt more vulnerable without make-up. I don’t think I realized that about myself until this challenge.

8. I will wear make-up for special occasions but will not wear it every single day. I don’t plan to wear it every day for a couple of reasons. One, it’s a huge time saver, and I’m all about saving time. Two, personally, my face feels cleaner without it. I’m really bad about forgetting to take my make-up off before I go to bed (I know, a horrible habit). If I’m not wearing any make-up to begin with…this eliminates the possibility of going to bed with make-up on and clogging up my pores. I am not anti-make-up. If you wear a lot of make-up every single day…that’s great! If you never wear makeup…that’s great, too! I’m not trying to call anyone out or give anyone a hard time. We are all beautiful, and whether or not we are wearing make-up at the time should absolutely not be the determining factor of our beauty. THIS was my main reason for doing this experiment and writing this article. Make-up does not define you and how beautiful you are. Period.

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Meet Pam St. Clair. She moved to Winston-Salem in 1983 to join L’eggs Products. Six years later she founded a promotional products business on a parttime basis. After two years, she left corporate to devote total focus to growing the business and never looked back. Her corporate background in marketing and merchandising prepared her well for the promotional products business that she loves.

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Charity Dobbins has recently joined the Inner Strength Pilates team as an esthetician. A graduate of Davidson County Community College, Charity has been an esthetician for 13 years, and is passionate about her job. “I try to make everyone I meet feel special and beautiful. My facials and waxing services are designed to complement the natural beauty of the individual.” In her spare time, Charity enjoys kayaking with her family, volunteering at her children’s school, and spending time with her children.

Forsyth County resident Ginny Britt was once considered “the conscience of Winston-Salem.” This former Executive Director of Crisis Control Ministry always knew that she was meant to help others. Her passion for serving those in need began after receiving her Bachelor of Arts in Religion from Wake Forest University. Volunteering with various churches and working with the Northwest Economic Development Commission led Britt to her mentor Ron Rice. Eventually, she would partner with this philanthropic minister to give birth to a non-profit agency that would assist people in crisis in the Forsyth County community for more than 40 years. During her tenure, Britt took on what she felt were injustices head-on. This included ensuring that local school children in need received a free breakfast, area homeless had somewhere warm to sleep, medications were made available to those who are unable to afford them, and additional non-profit organizations such as Habitat for Humanity, Samaritan Soup Kitchen and Church Shelters for the Homeless were formed. Before her retirement, Britt also founded and served as the Executive Director for the Advocacy for the Poor. Her selfless acts also led to awards including the Joel Weston Award for Excellence in Non-Profit Management, Women’s Leadership Award from the city of Winston-Salem and a Lifetime Achievement Award from the retirement community where she now resides, Heritage Woods. There is even a plaque, dedicated to its founder Ginny Britt, adorning the lobby of Crisis Control’s location at 200 East 10th St., in Winston-Salem.

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LAURA HOLBY

Laura Holby works for Novant Health as the manager for social responsibility. She has recently been recognized with the Winston<40 Leadership Award. She received this honor, in part, for the outstanding job she’s done evaluating contribution programs and growing the internal giving campaigns at Novant Health. She led the first fully consolidated, internal campaign and grew total participation by 15%! Moreover, she has co-piloted a community grant program with the goal to prioritize community health needs in Forsyth County and determine the measurable impact of the program. “I am fortunate to be a part of a company that can support the continued growth of Winston-Salem,” said Laura. “I am also fortunate to be working in an area where I can help to support programming and organizations that are working daily to improve this city. By building out new contribution models, collaborating with other funders, building new programs I hope to be able to support making Winston-Salem a go-to destination in North Carolina through the work I do with Novant Health.” Laura is also involved in many civic and community groups, including the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce, the Winston-Salem Chamber of Commerce, the United Way of Forsyth County, the Hospice Foundation Leadership Council and Senior Services. Laura has a degree in marketing from UNC Charlotte and, in her spare time, she enjoys spending time with her husband and son, visiting Smith Mountain Lake and exercising. Laura also enjoys shopping and home decorating.

MORGAN HOLT

Morgan Holt works as an attorney at the Holton Law Firm in Winston-Salem. In addition to her professional career, Morgan also serves as the Vice-President of the Professional Women of Winston-Salem and is a member of the Hospice Leadership Council and co-chair for the Derby Party organized by the Council. She further volunteers her time at the Guiding Institute for Developmental Education as a vice-chair for the organization. As if Morgan isn’t busy enough between her law career and civic responsibilities, she also embraces her creative side as the owner of M&G Barnware, a collection of antiques and rustic items, and creates customized decorative signs. Morgan embraces a strong entrepreneurial spirit and a love for serving others. Her energy and enthusiasm have made her a tremendous young leader in the community, with a vitality that drives both perseverance and initiative.

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Rene Reynolds is a licensed massage and bodywork therapist (LMBT#05819) with over 25 years of experience and extensive knowledge in many facets of holistic health and medicalbased bodywork. A recent graduate of Jung Tao School of Classical Chinese Medicine, Renée has worked in the top health spa resorts and with clientele across North Carolina, including a few celebrities. Her clients value her nurturing and highly intuitive approach to assessing their whole health needs and restoring each individual’s balanced state of wellness. Her professional background includes dancing with Dance Theatre of Harlem, Alvin Ailey American Ballet Theatre, Eva Anderson’s Baltimore Dance Theater, and others. Her bodywork approach, professional training, and certifications incorporate much of the philosophy of her Native American heritage and her birth in Frankfurt, Germany.

VALERIE KISER

Valerie Kiser, co-owner of East Coast Yoga Therapy and owner of Sunrise Yoga in Clemmons, received her credentials as a Certified Yoga Therapist from the International Association of Yoga Therapists (IAYT). This adds to a long list of accomplishments for Valerie during her 17 years as a yoga professional. Valerie has long been a believer in the benefits of yoga as a therapeutic option for helping to manage a wide variety of injuries, illnesses and ailments. She regularly works with private students in a therapeutic setting at her studio in Clemmons. Learning how to use yoga as therapy is exacting and requires very special training. Valerie personally completed thousands of hours of training before her certification and is excited to share that knowledge, along with her experience working with students, with other yoga teachers through her role as owner/ instructor at East Coast Yoga Therapy. In addition to her work as a yoga therapist and as co-owner of East Coast Yoga Therapy, Valerie owns and operates Sunrise Yoga in Clemmons (voted “Best Yoga Studio in Winston-Salem” for two years running) and is director of their 200- and 300-hour teacher training programs. Valerie is also a Certified Prenatal Yoga Instructor, a Relax and Renew Advanced Trainer ®, an Ayurvedic Wellness Counselor, a Yoga for Scoliosis Trainer, and an iRest Teacher-in-Training Level II (Yoga Nidra). Valerie believes that yoga is a practice that allows us to take charge of our own lives through growth, balance, and peace.

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Politics – To Discuss or Not to Discuss? BY VONDA HENDERSON

There are few topics with more of a fuse fired up and ready to go off than a political discussion. Especially now in such a volatile election year, when even members of the same party can’t seem to get along. Aristotle said it eons ago, “Man is by nature a political animal.” Well, the animals are out and they’re running amok! So, how do you avoid talking about politics, who’s running for office, who’s right/who’s wrong, and who should be elected? Bury your head in the sand until all the politicking is over and done with? Nice try! Nope, just like the rest of us, you find a way to deal with it. Not that there’s anything wrong with discussing politics; however, it can be such a hotbed of disagreement that many prefer to keep their political opinions to themselves – and would love it if others would as well. How can we achieve that? A few suggestions:

• Learn the art of changing the subject. Yes, it is an art to skillfully shift the topic away from politics to something else. If at work, it’s a good rule to avoid politics entirely. However, in a casual, over-lunch situation the subject may rear its head. Introduce a new topic – plans for the weekend, kids’ activities, or the next meeting/project coming up. If you have family members who just love to stir the pot, be forthright and say that you’d prefer not to get into a political discussion. If you get pushed, well you can always leave. If they’re guests in your home, set some house rules – no political discussions. Find something positive going on to talk about. Goodness knows, there’s enough negativity in the nightly news, but some newscasts have started ending with a feelgood story for the evening.

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• Walk away – tactfully. If you stumble into a political discussion/debate (and don’t want to be there), remember that you need to be somewhere else, get busy on a project, or anything that lets you exit gracefully.

• Headphones/earplugs – use them. Personally, I’m not a fan of listening to music or books while I work. However, typically no one bothers you if they see you have them on, so now might be a perfect time to pull them out. Having them on doesn’t mean you’re actually listening to anything, but it will likely keep you from being interrupted for a discussion of the latest debate.

• Stand your ground. Some folks love a good argument (debate or whatever they like to call it). Or, some like to challenge an opposing viewpoint, just because. If pushed, you may just have to stand your ground and let it be known that you don’t discuss politics – period. That doesn’t mean that you don’t have an opinion or embrace a particular party, you just don’t talk about it. And, that’s your right.

• Agree to disagree. If you find yourself politically incompatible with a friend, co-worker, or spouse, what are you going to do? Sometimes agreeing to disagree is the best thing. Voting is a right that more of our citizens should embrace, certainly. The right to vote is something that many people around the world don’t have; we owe it to ourselves and our families to exercise that right. So, whomever you plan to vote for, go vote. No matter how long the line, rain or shine, please take time to vote. Too many people fought and died for us to have this right as American citizens. As Abraham Lincoln stated, “The ballot is stronger than the bullet.”

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Peanut Butter Pie

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November is National Peanut Butter Lovers month, so it’s fitting to have a slice of peanut butter pie in honor of a staple from most childhoods. A favorite sandwich for most kids is a gooey peanut butter and jelly sandwich with the jelly oozing out from the sides. Frankly, our dog loves his peanut butter quarter sandwich and never realizes there’s medicine in it (I’m sure he still wonders what happened to his 3 am sandwich he got while recovering from surgery!). I must admit I’ve tried some strange combinations over the years: a peanut butter and onion sandwich (once was enough) and a peanut butter hamburger. The peanut butter burger was on the menu as a specialty a few years ago at the beach. It was different, and while I did finish it, I’ll pass on a repeat. However, some tried and true favorites include peanut butter ice cream (it was requested for every ice cream social our church had), rice crispy treats with peanut butter included (very tasty), peanut butter smoothed in celery or on apple slices, and my favorite breakfast (rice cakes with peanut butter and a sliced banana).

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November 10 Happy Birthday USMC! BY VONDA HENDERSON

Join the United States Marine Corps, past and presently serving, in celebrating their birthday on Thursday, November 10, 2016. This annual event is a reminder of the value and sacrifices each US Marine has made to our country. The US Marine Corps was and is intended as ‘responsible for providing power protection from the sea using mobility of the US Navy to rapidly deliver combined-arms task forces.’ The Continental Marines (the original name later changed to United States Marine Corps) was established on November 11, 1775. The original recruiting headquarters, the Tun Tavern on Water Street in Philadelphia, is considered to be the USMC birthplace. Traditionally, the birthday is celebrated with a ball and a cake cutting ceremony. On November 1, 1921, General John A. Lejeune issued an order summarizing the history, mission, and traditions of the Marine Corps and ordered that it be read annually each November 10. That order is fulfilled to this day.

Traditions are important to the USMC. The dress uniform, known as Dress Blues, is steeped in tradition. • Blue is in recognition of USMC ties to the US Navy. • Legend says that the red trim is to honor the Marines aboard the Bonhomme Richard, a Revolutionary warship captained by John Paul Jones. • The hat, called a cover, has an ornate cross-shaped braid. Legend has it that during the War of 1812 ship-to-ship battles, officers wore the cross to distinguish themselves to their sharpshooters. • The standing collar represents the high, leather collar worn during the 19th century. That collar gave the USMC one of their nickname – leathernecks.

• The blood stripe down the pant legs honors the Marines at the Battle of Chapultepec during the Mexican War in 1847. Nowadays, the stripes honor all fallen Marines since 1892. • The gold buttons (an eagle / anchor with an arc of 13 stars) has been part of the uniform since 1804 and is the oldest military insignia in use. • The current emblem, used since 1868, depicts an eagle, globe, and anchor and was adopted as the official emblem in 1955. The eagle represents our nation; the globe represents the USMC worldwide presence and the anchor, their naval heritage and ability to access any coastline in the world. The emblem identifies the USMC commitment to defend our nation in the air, on land, and on the sea. This emblem is part of the dress blues in four places – at the front of the cover, on each side of the collar, and on the belt buckle of the enlisted above the rank of Corporal. • Swords/sabers are the oldest weapon in use by the US Military and are part of the dress uniform. One type of sword, the Mameluke-hilted sword, honors Lieutenant Presley O’Bannon who was instrumental in flying the first US flag on foreign soil and rescuing the kidnapped crew of the USS Philadelphia in 1805. The line ‘to the shores of Tripoli’ in the Marine Hymn also honors that event.

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• Nicknames and sayings attributed to the United States Marine Corps also hold special significance. o Every Marine a Rifleman – symbolic of every Marine’s willingness for direct battle and that every Marine is truly a rifleman o No Marine Left Behind – Marines exemplify their brotherhood in ensuring that wounded and fallen are retrieved at any cost o Improvise, Adapt, Overcome – Through the ranks, all Marines react quickly in any situation o Jarhead – refers to the high and tight Marine haircut o Leatherneck – nickname from the Revolutionary War when the leather collar was intended as protection during sword fights o Semper Fidelis – the USMC motto since 1883, Always Faithful o Ooh-Rah – the motivational call to action If you see a Marine in uniform or have a family member or friend in the Marines, be sure to wish them a Happy Birthday on November 10. Thank you for your service and your sacrifice. We honor you and your dedication to this great nation we call home.

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BY MALLORY HARMON

Twin City Stage is a non-profit community theater that has been a thriving part of Forsyth County for over 82 years. Its colloquial charm and persevering spirit have kept the doors open for countless individuals in our community, whether spectator or participant. Twin City Stage’s timeless qualities have drawn support through the years and, in its time of need, the community rose up to protect it and help it thrive. Each production requires not only a paid director and stage manager, but also the aid of hundreds (yes, hundreds!) of volunteers and of course, actors. Each person I spoke with feels drawn to the theater in a unique way. Some live off of the rush of stepping out in front of an expectant audience. Others recognize the theater’s artistic qualities or the timeless prestige of performance art. Whatever the cause may be, time and time again, hundreds upon hundreds of members of our community gather in anticipation to experience this priceless establishment’s newest masterpiece and are never turned away uninspired.

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Linda Shillito and Sarah Jones will play the roles of Elinor and Marianne Dashwood in Sense and Sensibility

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The latest Twin City Stage production is Sense and Sensibility, by the witty and satirical Jane Austen. This latest choice in material has caused real excitement in the community; excitement I witnessed first-hand when I attended a live audition session. Many actors and staff mentioned the unique characters that are developed by Austen, raving about the beautiful costumes and elegant dialect she employed. Austen’s expertise in developing dialogue and characters drew Twin City’s staff to her piece. The complex and entertaining tale, and the themes of exposing flaws in, and balancing out, personalities through conflict and romance create a script that is simply enthralling. Adapted by Jon Jory from the novel by Jane Austen and directed by Mark Pirolo.

THE PROCESS:

As a community theater, Twin City Stage’s doors are open to any and all members to audition. I came to the auditions to experience the process first-hand and was immediately enveloped in the sense of nervous excitement and enthusiastic anticipation. Each person who participated came to show the director their best work and interact with the emotions of the theater and with other people who shared their interest. Kristina Ebbink, marketing director and volunteer coordinator, described the audition experience. “Some actors come prepped with script in hand and books read,”

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BY ROBIN WHITE ELLIS

I have a dear friend (whose name will remain concealed for her familial accord) who has spent the last fifteen years in agony when she is around her motherin-law. Holidays are the things of nightmares. In fact, her first Christmas as a married woman was ruined, she believes, by her husband’s mother. My friend had a list of all the items she wanted to purchase as gifts for her husband to celebrate their first Christmas as a married couple. Her mother-in-law called one day to ask what she planned to purchase, so they did not buy him the same things. My friend found out two days before the holiday during a gift exchange that her mother-in-law had shopped for and purchased every single item on her list, leaving my friend to return her gifts at the last minute and try to find other things for her husband. Needless to say, she was beside herself in anger and frustration! The relationships involved in these type of situations are delicate indeed! Your spouse’s parents are not people you can just write off. They are now your family and must be respected, in one way or another. More importantly, they are your partner’s family and being at loggerheads with them can put a strain on your

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relationship. Depending upon the familial situation, it can be far easier to weather friction with your own parents than with your in-laws. After all, you’ve been working on your relationship with your parents since you took your first breath! With your in-laws, you are not sure what is allowed and what is not...or how they express emotions and stress. You may find yourself saying something wrong and upsetting them or remaining silent while resentment eats away at your psyche. The fact remains that you may never feel as comfortable with your mate’s family as with your own, yet bear in mind that these people will be in your life for a long time. In fact, they will be a vital part! Working out squabbles and personality conflicts is extremely important for the future of all involved. Right off the top, there are several things that you should not do when it comes to your in-laws! Do not assume that their family dynamic is the same as yours. Whether the differences are religious, cultural, or simply their way of interacting, every family is different. Take the time to dwell on their way of living, to take note of the interpersonal cues. Be your normal polite, friendly, charming self while paying attention to how they communicate with

each other. Take that time to get to know your in-laws. Your mate will appreciate your efforts, and you may develop a loving relationship with his or her family along the way. It is important to remember that there is no need to easily take offense. They cannot read your mind and may not understand the offense they caused. Do not assume that they understand how you feel. Talk to your partner in a calm manner, asking if you were reading the situation correctly. When discussing your in-laws with your spouse, it is vital to steer clear of accusations and insults! The last thing you want to do is hurt your loved one and place him or her in the middle. When you married, you gained not only a spouse, but another family. That family came with its own traditions and expectations. You should both recognize and respect this, within limits. You don’t have to submerge your own feelings or allow disrespect or control. You do, however, have to make a valiant effort to come together as one family instead of two, if for no other reason than the happiness of the person to whom you have devoted your life.

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PUMPKIN FOODS, RANKED

BY MAT BATTS

I’m as big a fan of fall as there is, and of course, fall wouldn’t be the same without the many options that pumpkin (both real and artificially flavored) offer us for consumption. Sure, some things may seem over the top—I don’t really need my hand soap to be pumpkin scented to get in the spirit of fall—but a few pumpkin offerings have become staples in my life and truly guide me through the transition from the carefree warm weather of summer to fall’s crisp and cozy grace. Here are my five favorite pumpkin foods.

5 PUMPKIN SEEDS: As

natural as it gets. Pumpkin seeds, fresh from your Halloween jack-olantern, make the best fall snack and offer a number of variations to fit any taste. For me, a pinch of salt across fresh roasted pumpkin seeds creates the perfect midday meal if you’re on the go and need something quick. Add some cinnamon sugar instead of salt for a sweet treat after dinner or something heartier like parmesan cheese for a unique hors d’oeuvre.

4 PUMPKIN COFFEE: Not

a food, I know, but pumpkin coffee has stolen the show when it comes to pumpkin-flavored fall options. But you don’t need a sweet drink filled with artificial flavoring to enjoy the taste of pumpkin in your coffee. The addition of a mild pumpkin aroma and its associated spices can really boost your morning cup, even if you take it black. Pumpkin coffee isn’t something I would want to be stuck with all year long, but during the three months of fall, it has become a nice change-up for me and even a point of excitement in the morning.

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3 PUMPKIN PIE: The one that started it all, pumpkin pie made it

cool to be pumpkin flavored. The simple, yet decadent, dessert has taken on many variations but at its core, nothing works better than a natural pumpkin puree spread across a thin pie crust, adorned on top with a dollop of whipped cream. As a child, pumpkin pie didn’t quite measure up for me. It just didn’t seem to register as a dish worthy of the dessert table, but I have grown to know and love its nuances well. If you make one meal from scratch this fall, make it a pumpkin pie, dressed up to your liking.

2 PUMPKIN BEER: Like coffee, pumpkin beer has taken on a life

of its own. Any self-respecting brewery cranks out a pumpkin offering, and many have done so in a desirable fashion. The thing I like most about pumpkin as an ingredient in beer is its versatility. It works well in lighter beers where it stands out and shows off. But it can also provide just enough zing to complement a roasty, malt-forward stout. In many cases, pumpkin spices tend to work against the idea that pumpkin and beer can blend harmoniously, but when done correctly, there’s no better companion on a fall night around the bonfire than a cold pumpkin beer.

1 PUMPKIN OREOS: This is personal bias showing through, but I

just can’t get enough of this orange seasonal Oreo cookie. Nabisco works all kinds of flavors into the crème of its Oreos, but none brings me more joy than the pumpkin spice Oreo. Of all the artificially flavored pumpkin offerings out there, the Oreo comes out on top. I’ll take it with a glass of milk or without. It really doesn’t matter. It is not truly fall until I see these small boxes of joy lining the grocery store shelves.

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Life Hacks

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YO U R N EX T M OV E BY LINDSAY CRAVEN

There are countless problems you encounter on a daily basis that can put a little speed bump in your day. Life hacks are those “a-ha!” moments where you find the simplest solution to your daily problems, often using items immediately at your disposal. Each month this column will take you through some creative hacks to use in all different areas of your life to make your dayto-day as simple as possible. For November we’ll explore hacks that will make your next move an easier one.

BY LINDSAY CRAVEN

A handy way to move your utensils, silverware trays, knife blocks and other similar items is to wrap in clinging plastic wrap. This allows you to keep your items in the same bundle or organization that they’re currently in with little effort. Once you get moved, make sure you have a couple of box cutters handy and unpack with a quick slice.

An easy thing to forget about when undertaking a big move is being prepared for the first night in your new home. In the rush of getting everything packed and moved, you don’t want to forget to prepare a few necessities that you’ll need and may not want to unpack right away. Make sure to tuck your toothbrush, some shower and grooming items, a change of sheets for each bed, towels for everyone in the house, chargers for electronics and at least one change of clothes in a backpack or small suitcase for your first night or two.

Transporting closets full of clothes can be tedious. Removing them from hangers and finding enough boxes or bags to transport all of your folded items creates a time and space management problem during your move. To cut both your time and space needs in half, try grabbing a box of trash bags (consider larger bags if you’re moving bulky clothes during the winter months) and sectioning off your closet by bagging the clothes and tying them off at the top of the hangers. If you’re utilizing a moving company for your big moving day, or even if you’re just calling on your friends and family, you need to have a game plan in place. Leading up to your move, and as you’re packing your boxes, make sure you’re marking each one with a colored tape or color-coding dots. If you can print out a floor plan of your new home, you can create a guide for your movers that coordinates with your colored dots. If you can’t print out floor plans, you can always type a key with the colors and their respective locations.

Your large pots, crock-pots, and mixing bowls generally don’t offer a lot of stacking and compacting opportunities during a move. Why not utilize them to carry your awkward and free-floating objects? Fill your bulky pots with utensils, silverware, spices, etc.

Other heavy and awkward packing items are linens, electronics and books. Instead of packing these items into boxes that are going to be heavy and awkward to move, utilize your suitcases (particularly the ones with wheels). This will allow you to move these items easily and safely without added effort or boxes.

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The Modern Day Flapper Women & Their “Adorable-If-They-Want-It-To-Be” Power BY SAVANNAH NORRIS

Women are expected to uphold unattainable standards. They should be pure. Their waists should be tiny; their figures enticing. Women should be kind and considerate, all while being adorably powerful. It’s unbelievably contradictory, and to put it bluntly, it’s 2016. Women are not adorably powerful; they are powerful, and just as the flappers were in the ‘20s, utterly apathetic toward societal constraints. While women display leadership and capability innately now, it wasn’t always this way. Women used to helplessly wait for a husband to marry. They raised children and didn’t dare independently make decisions. However, when WWI ended, and many young men did not make it home, women were deprived a male ego to stroke and rely on. Emerging from the shock and lingering gun smoke was the flapper -- a curious, suitorless woman ready to woo her own way through life. Though the flapper lifestyle may have died with the ‘20s, the impact did not. Long gone are the days of corsets, long hemlines and chauffeurs. Thanks to flappers, self-sufficiency became a familiar scent. Yet still, the suburbanmom lifestyle did return, and women shackled themselves to its role, willingly marrying, having children and surrendering to receptionist-esque jobs. However, it didn’t take a war this time to declare independence. The once shortlived flapper fad is here to stay. Women today are seizing opportunities and upholding power like never before. They are managing businesses, redefining marriage, dying their hair, tattooing and piercing their bodies and ultimately ruling the world. However, this self-expressional throne bears both honor and burden. Instead of praise for progress, many women are receiving discrimination and hate, especially in the workforce. While younger generations seem to have no real issues with tattoos, piercings or hair dye, asserting that the body is just a canvas for expressing who you are and what you like freely, older generations generally seem to view this selfexpression a bit differently. Maybe it’s the experience in this judgmental world, or maybe it’s just the upbringing of an older generation, but it seems this group

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knows and does not desire the hardships associated with tattoos, piercings and hair dye when searching for jobs. Many businesses want employees to adhere to dress code policies, most of which discourage extreme hair dyes and include covering any tattoos and piercings. While many look at this policy as discrimination, it is important to note that choices such as septum piercings are also simply outfit accessories -ones that might not reflect the image or market of the company, so don’t take it personally. Piercings and tattoos can be very tasteful expressions of creativity, but it can be difficult for a company to define tasteful, just as it might be difficult to define what jeans are and aren’t appropriate to wear to school. Emerging from indescribable, complex issues are safe, blanket statement codes, such as “absolutely no holes in jeans above the knee,” and more germane, “no tattoos, no piercings, no hair dye.” This very finely danced line does create issues while searching for a job, though it’s not always discrimination. The market of the company and your market image might not be the perfect match, but the uniform version of you might be. Appearances are a big deciding factor in the hiring process, and companies want you to look the part, just like everybody else they hire, tattooed or not. Marketing is based largely on public opinion. A company targets a buyer and tries to figure out what sales associates and what image will likely catch that target’s interest. Unfortunately, some target buyers don’t like the image of unnatural hair dye and piercings; they like khakis and blazers. However, with more and more expressive and creative people in the world, the modern opinion is evolving and, eventually, so will some of those target markets (in fact, they already have!). Despite the generational gap, both groups came to the same consensus -- individuals need to be kind to and support one another, blonde or green haired. It is important to praise women for societal milestones to encourage them to live powerful, independent lives as the modern day flapper.

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FUN, FOOD, F A M I LY… FAT I G U E ! The upcoming holiday season is one of my favorite times of the year. As with most women my age, it is a mixture of the past and the present. Traditions passed down combined with those created when our children were young swirl together in a mix of holiday activity. So much fun to plan and share! And as our families change, aspects of our celebrations change also. That may include changing the menu a bit to accompany special and recent dietary needs. Or to accommodate a new family member perhaps. Of course, you still have to have the traditional holiday fare; the expected food everyone is looking forward to gorging on! “Mom, I have been looking forward to your _________all year!” But none of the seasonal preparations are important without the family and friends to share it with. I think family holidays can be divided into life stages. Consider these:

1. RETURNING FROM COLLEGE ON HOLIDAY BREAK.

While this may not be as smooth or as hassle-free as anticipated, it is still a time when you are so glad to have home cooking and sleep in your own bed!

2. BRINGING PARTNERS, FIANCÉES, SPOUSES HOME TO BE INCLUDED IN THE FAMILY. There may even be a little one along for a stay at the new grandparent’s house.

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3. RESCHEDULING & SHARING.

Now your family has grown to include other whole families and traditions so you must prepare to share time and maintain a flexible calendar or things can get messy. If you want your share of their time, you MUST control your “Bah! Humbug!” tendencies.

4. TRAVELING (MORE ON THIS STAGE TO FOLLOW).

OK. Full disclosure here. I am a Christmas person. As soon as the dishes are cleaned from Thanksgiving dinner, I have Christmas music wafting through my house. Well at least, blending with the roar of ballgames!

I love all the preparations, the shopping, the planning…yes, even the wrapping. I will deliberately not have some of my packages wrapped at the store because I love to wrap Christmas presents. (Certain friends of mine have suggested that could be a second career for me!) And yes, I still love to go to the store and shop. I realize that some things are much better to purchase online and I do participate in that. But I always plan some of my purchases to be done in person. I love the holiday atmosphere in the stores. Of course, all this FUN leads to fatigue. It will hit most likely after the family leaves. You are exhausted as you pack up leftovers from Thanksgiving dinner, or wash extra laundry from a Christmas visit. Back to #4.

I am entering a new life stage for holidays, I think. Recently my son had a serious look on his face and approached me with… “Mom, you know now that we all have kids of our own and live in different cities, it is going to be very hard for all of us to be at your house for Christmas. I don’t want to upset you, but I think that it may be time to start rotating houses for our holiday celebration. We will be happy to host Christmas this year.” I look into the naive eyes of my little boy who has grown into a family man. My mind is asking, “Do you really know what you are committing to? Are you sure that my busy daughter-in-law is okay with this gargantuan task?” I breathe deeply…. and say, “Sure. I think that is a great idea!” And immediately I feel strangely lighter. My mind races to mark off chores from my mental preparation list. Is this actually a Christmas gift from my son? The next stage has begun. I get to travel at Christmas! (But as with most expensive gifts, better keep the receipt. He may want to take it back!) Let the holiday season begin!

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Eco-Friendly Cleaning Tips BY ELISA D. WALLACE

With the recent reports on how harmful chemicals in household cleaners can actually cause more harm than good, many consumers are seeking alternative methods to help clean their homes. According to a study conducted by the Environmental Working Group (EWG), many household cleaners contain carcinogens, asthma instigators, and poisons. It seems that these sparkly cleaners come at a high price. While it was hard for EWG to get the companies responsible for manufacturing these products to release their ingredients, the agency was able to discover that “53% of cleaning products under review contained lung-harming ingredients,” according to recent article by the Huffington Post. Even more troubling is that well-known lethal carcinogens, like formaldehyde and chloroform, were found in several cleaners. While the EWG does believe that buying certain “green” labeled cleaners can be a helpful way to not bring harmful chemicals into your home, they are not entirely sure that these cleaners do much good. The EWG believes that some of the “green” labels are misleading and may even have just as many dangerous chemicals. With all this misleading information, what can consumers do to keep their homes clean, yet not bring dangerous chemicals into their residence? The EWG actually recommends combining common household items to create your own effective cleaning measures. Interested in what items made the list? Curious as to how you can safely clean your own home? Read on for ten simple, yet effective, ecofriendly cleaning tips!

1. CHECK YOUR CUPBOARD!

Vinegar, salt, lemon juice and baking soda can be used to clean almost anything. Mix in a little warm water with either of these and you’ve got yourself an allpurpose cleaner.

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2. AVOID POOR AIR QUALITY IN YOUR HOME.

Keeping windows open as often as possible allows fresh air in and keeps toxins flowing out while cleaning. This measure is a simple, yet often forgotten, one! Keeping air circulating is especially important when cleaning one’s home.

3. GET RID OF AWFUL FRIDGE SMELLS THE OLD-FASHIONED WAY!

Going back to the cupboard for baking soda is an easy way to help ensure no smells. Simply placing an open box of baking soda into your fridge and freezer will eliminate tough odors.

4. DON’T FALL FOR THE “ANTI-BACTERIAL” PROMISE.

Oftentimes, many people think that antibacterial and antimicrobial “cleaners” clean better than simple soap and water. However, the FDA has found that antibacterial soaps and hand cleansers do not work better than regular soap and water, and should be avoided. Follow the tried and true method of scrubbing hands with soap!

5. SAY NO TO TRADITIONAL AMMONIA-BASED GLASS CLEANERS!

The windows in your home can be effectively cleaned with four tablespoons of lemon juice mixed with a half-gallon of water. Another effective cleaner for glass and mirrors is using rubbing alcohol and witch hazel. Rather than using costly paper towels, try the using an old t-shirt or rag. You will save money, as well as the trees!

6. THROW AWAY TOXIC CLEANERS IN A SAFE METHOD.

It is not a good idea to throw away old cleaning supplies in the trash. If they’re too toxic for your home, they won’t be good for the drain or the landfill either. Most cities have a method to recycle toxics and electronics via “recycling days.” Check your local listings for a list!

7. KEEP TOXINS AT THE DOOR!

People often forget to take off their shoes when they enter their homes. You could be bringing in oil, antifreeze, animal waste, particulate pollution and pollen. These toxins are horrible for all those in your house, especially kids and other critters that spend time on floor level. Keep the sidewalk out of your home, with a good doormat or a shoeless house policy.

8. CLEAN FURNITURE WITH LESS TOXIC METHODS.

Furniture polish remains one of the most toxic supplies, in that it is made up of petroleum distillates and solvents. One very effective wood polish is likely to be in your refrigerator. Mix 2 parts olive oil with 1 part lemon juice and apply it to your furniture using a soft cloth. This combination gives furniture a nice shine as well as smell.

9. GET RID OF FURNITURE STAINS WITH A UNIQUE PASTE.

When glasses or dishes leave rings on the surface of a wood table, you can quickly get rid of the mark through making a simple paste. Mix salad oil or lemon oil and salt. Wipe the paste on, then lightly buff the area. Afterward, wipe off with a soft cloth.

10. CLEAN TARNISHED COPPER OR BRASS ANTIQUES WITH NON-ABRASIVE POLISH.

Our last cleaning tip can also be found in your kitchen cupboard: vinegar, salt and flour. Make a paste using equal parts of the three ingredients; rub the paste onto the brass or copper item with a soft cloth. Then cover the entire surface, and let the whole thing dry out for one hour. Wipe off the dried paste with a clean, soft cloth.

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We all have a vision of how are lives will turn out when we try and make it on our own. Learning personal finance before you leave home will allow you to dodge a lot of the mistakes that keep most from achieving their goals. This is a basic overview of a few of the major money-related responsibilities you will have once you have to support yourself financially. It also will outline some common traps to avoid and some tips that will give you a leg up and help you be in control. You can keep this guide for reference, but it would be wise to take a course on personal finance so you can be as prepared as possible to take on the world of finance.

BUDGETING: The first step in budgeting is to find out what you spend money on and how much you spend in each area. Take a week or a month and record in detail how much you spent and on what. Make sure to include items like gas, food, and clothes. Divide your monthly income or allowance into the different areas; if you have excess money after budgeting, put it in savings. Other topics you should include are: gifts, subscriptions, mad money (money to blow), cosmetics (i.e., shampoo, makeup) and entertainment (like music, movies, etc.). If you have a car, be sure to include maintenance and insurance. Finally, budget for emergencies; this fund should contain $500 now and should grow as your income does. Your emergency budget is for unexpected, necessary expenses like a car wreck, broken phone, squirrel attack, or a broken bone from falling out of the tree after the squirrel attack. DON’T be tempted to spend your emergency fund on nonemergency situations. BUYING A CAR: First, talk to your parents about the plan for a car. What will be your responsibilities regarding gas, maintenance and insurance? It is often unwise to get a car lease. Instead, save up while taking the bus or carpooling so you can pay with cash to own your car. Do your research. New cars lose an enormous amount of value the second you drive them off the lot. Investigate online or talk to a mechanic about the most durable used cars. Also, make sure you can afford the insurance and maintenance, not just the initial cost. You may not be able to get your dream car the first time around, but staying out of car debt will allow you to get nicer items later without the stress of making payments and having no margin for emergencies in your budget. STUDENT LOANS: Depending on your college major, and if you are in charge of your own finances, you may have to go into student debt. This is a necessary shackle for several prosperous careers. Student debt should not be taken lightly. Before taking it on, calculate how long it will take you to pay it off. Consider carefully the major you have chosen and the job you hope to get after college. Colleges have large ranges in tuition costs. Do your research. Make a plan so your debt doesn’t strain your relationships, health, and future prospects. DEBT: No debt is good debt. You may hear that increasing your FICO score so you can borrow more is a great achievement. However, your focus should be not on how much you can borrow, but rather how much you have. Don’t buy something you don’t have the money for; it is as simple as that. Beware of the credit card that comes magically to you in the mail or is offered to you on your first day of college with a free t-shirt; it’s a trap. Be in charge of your own life by being in charge of your own money. Don’t get into a situation where others get more of your hard earned money than you.

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SAVING: A common misconception is that only people with a high income should or can save. This is false. Developing saving habits now will benefit you in later life. Save for something exciting, like a weekend trip getting hunted by bears or a new iPhone. This makes budgeting fun and gives you the incentive to stick to it. As mentioned above; any money that is not budgeted must go in savings. This will help you be in control of ever dollar. An important tip is to keep your savings in a separate bank account, so you don’t see it every time you check how much money you have. Don’t even face the temptation of transferring savings to spend on short-term items instead of your main goals. GENEROSITY: Why is it important to give? Being generous will show where your priorities are. You have the ability to help on a real level with the money you have earned. Unlike simply liking a worthy cause on Facebook, giving to charity can help launch tangible change. Information based on the Dave Ramsey plan, as taught by Kelly Stacks.

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About three months ago, I started keeping a gratitude journal. I want to share my practice for this and the benefits that I’ve seen as a result. I keep it very simple. I write three things that I am grateful for and if I have extra time to write something else, I’ll write about something positive that happened in the last 24 hours. Sometimes I may write a whole page or even a page and a half. Other days I may barely squeak out a paragraph. I choose to write in my gratitude journal first thing in the morning.

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I decided I was going to start a gratitude journal about a year ago. I had done a bit of research on it, and the things that I read recommended writing in your gratitude journal right before you go to sleep. So, I kept my journal and pen on my nightstand and was ready to write! I am embarrassed to admit that this literally only lasted two days. I wrote in my gratitude journal TWICE and then gave up on it. Why did I give up on it so quickly? Mostly because I was too tired or just flat out didn’t feel like taking the time to write by the time I got in the bed at night. How did I turn this around? For starters, I changed the time of day. If you’ve ever read a B.E. Healthy article before, you probably know I am a morning person. I love mornings! So I had an “ah-ha” moment! Of course, I don’t want to write at night… I’m not a night person. Not surprisingly, I’m (almost) always up for writing in the morning. I would recommend planning your writing time during your favorite time of day. If you are a night owl, write at night! If you are an early rising morning lover, write in the morning. If you feel most alert in the early afternoon, take some time during your lunch break to write. Regardless of the time of day you choose, keep it consistent. Writing at the same time each day makes it part of a routine, and you’ll be much more likely to maintain your gratitude journal. Don’t stress if you miss a day or two. Jump back in the next day! The other important change I made was making my gratitude journal easily accessible. I found that if I had to do too much work to get to it, I would be much more likely to put it off. For example, if I had to pull it out of a cabinet AND search for a pen… it probably wasn’t going to happen. But if I left my journal on the coffee table with a pen lying on top of it, I found I was much more likely to consistently write in it. Finally, adjust it to what works for you. There is no formula for the “correct” way to write in a gratitude journal. Write in paragraphs or bullet point style… whatever style works best for you. Keep it as long or short as you’d like. There is no specific length that each entry has to be. Some days you’ll have more to write and some days you’ll have less to write. No big deal!

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Now on to the benefits! What benefits do I see after writing in a gratitude journal (consistently) for three months? Frankly, it’s only one benefit. However, this benefit is powerful and life changing. This exercise has caused me to be a more grateful person. I notice and acknowledge – both in my head and verbally to those around me – when I am grateful for something. We ALL have so much for which to be thankful, regardless of our situation. Keeping a gratitude journal is a fantastic way to practice this. I can assure you, keeping a consistent gratitude journal will cause you to notice all of the things around you (no matter how big or small) that you have to be grateful for. | ForsythWoman.com

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The Penny Campaign Heartwarming & Rewarding Holiday Fun BY SAVANNAH NORRIS Yet again, it seems the holidays have snuck up on everyone. This time of year, Halloween costumes, Thanksgiving turkey recipes and Christmas wish lists preoccupy all corners of the mind and swirl into one big chaotic nightmare. While obligatory in-law visits and 5am Christmas morning wake-up calls aren’t always the most fun festivities, there are plenty of things to look forward to this holiday season that don’t involve nagging and “for-Santa-only cookies.” Providing a brief escape from the hectic holiday home life is one of the most notable and tolerable local annual events to participate in, the Penny Campaign. This campaign funds the Samaritan Soup Kitchen and Samaritan Inn, offering food and housing to individuals in need. Samaritan Ministry invites you and all of your irritable-at-times loved ones to get together and compete to raise money to feed and house those people. To get started, you should pick up a penny jar and either the will to help others or a competitive streak.

The challenge is very simple. Once you have your penny jar and motivation, all you have to do is fill it with cash, coins or even checks. Much like Christmas, Thanksgiving and Halloween, there is a great deal of preparation required for the Penny Campaign. Raising more than $57,000 takes time! The Penny Campaign kicks off in October and runs all the way to Collection Day. All participants will drop off their donations at 110 Oakwood Drive (near Starbucks) in Winston-Salem or Samaritan’s new building at 414 East Northwest Boulevard on the first Saturday in December. Making a difference in the lives of homeless and hungry people isn’t as hard as you think. Cameron Kent, WXII news reporter and Honorary Chairman for the Penny Campaign, stresses that kids, even just by emptying their piggy banks, know that they are making a difference and contributing a few pennies to the cost of a hot meal, which can change a life. However, it takes more than one person or family to raise enough money to buy thousands of meals. Samaritan Ministry encourages, not only you and your tolerable family members to participate, but your church, children’s schools and offices as well. With more people involved, there are more donations and volunteers. That, in turn, enables the community to offer even more funding and support to help the Samaritan Soup Kitchen and Samaritan Inn feed and house those in need. The holidays tend to be an emotionally trying and stressful, yet rewarding and kind time. Although full of irrelevant and annoyingly labor-intensive cranberry sauce recipes and relatives, the holiday season tends to empower the utmost generosity within a community. Neglecting that magic would be unjust and irrational. The Penny Campaign is just one of many ways you can capture the holiday bewitchment. It’s an experience you won’t want to miss, even with the freezing rain, 30-degree wind chills and snow blizzards that accompany the event. Though usually cold, this 20-year-old campaign always “warms the heart,” as Cameron Kent says. “It’s nothing short of miraculous.”

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NOW THROUGH DECEMBER 9

HOMESCHOOL/SMALL GROUP DAY

10am-4:30pm, Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University in W-S. The MOA’s annual exhibit celebrates the unique Mexican observance of the Day of the Dead with a traditional ofrenda, photo essay and skeleton folk art. Text is in English and Spanish. http://moa. wfu.edu

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LIFE AFTER DEATH: THE DAY OF THE DEAD IN MEXICO (TUESDAYS-SATURDAYS)

RESONANCE: MUSICAL INSTRUMENTS IN THE AFRICAN DIASPORA

WEEKLY DINING SPECIALS MONDAY & WEDNESDAY 35 CENT WINGS (DINE IN ONLY) TUESDAY AYCE PASTA $9.95. HALF PRICE WINE (GLASS) THURSDAY $5.00 CLASSIC BURGER FRIDAY & SATURDAY - PRIME RIB SPECIAL SUNDAY - SUNDAY BRUNCH BLOODY MARY AND MIMOSA BAR

WEEKLY MUSIC & EVENTS MONDAY’S - MIKE BUSTIN 6-9 TUESDAY’S - TRIVIA 7:30 WEDNESDAY’S - DJ CHRIS & KARAOKE 7:30 THURSDAY’S - PAINT NITE & LIVE MUSIC

WEEKEND MUSIC 11/4 SOUTHERN EYES (FORMALLY KNUCKLES DEEP) 9:30

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10am-4:30pm, Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University in W-S. This exhibit explores how the meanings of the word resonance fit together in a display of African musical instruments. http://moa. wfu.edu

NOW THROUGH DECEMBER 28 (WEDNESDAYS) REFUGE RECOVERY MEETING

6-7pm, 983 Mar Don Drive in W-S. Refuge Recovery offers hope to those suffering from addiction in a mutually supportive atmosphere of compassion, kindness and acceptance. This is a weekly group for people in sobriety who want to learn more about meditation and mindfulness! http://bit.ly/1Tz17Ft

NOW THROUGH DECEMBER 29 (THURSDAYS) PARENT TO PARENT

6-7:30pm, 983 Mar Don Drive in W-S. A free support group for parents of substance users. The first 45 minutes provides education about addiction from a counselor with 25 years of experience! The remaining time is open discussion to support fellow parents. Every eight weeks, the educational portion of the group restarts so that all attendees have ample opportunity to benefit from the educator. http://bit. ly/1XWufqf

NOW THROUGH JANUARY 2

BRADLEY METHOD NATURAL CHILDBIRTH CLASSES

6:30-8:30pm. Bradley Method natural childbirth classes last 12 weeks and provide thorough preparation for natural childbirth. Topics include nutrition, exercise, relaxation, coaching, 1st and 2nd stages of labor, birth planning, complications and more. Cost: $325. www. bradleybirth.com/lanette.tyler

NOW THROUGH JANUARY 8 ENGINEER IT! EXHIBIT AT SCIWORKS

10am-5pm, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Participate in the Design-Build-Test cycle through hands-on discovery. Try out DaVinci’s interlocking bridge and the Exploration Table. Experiment with racetracks, paper airplanes and helicopters, gravity and more! Included with museum admission. sciworks.org

NOW THROUGH APRIL 22

A CELEBRATION OF GULLAH ART & CULTURE (TUESDAYSSATURDAYS)

10am-4:30pm, Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University in W-S. This exhibit features original works on this theme by Sea Islands artists from the Red Piano Too Gallery, as well as works by Wake Forest University Professor Katharine Ziff, and objects from the Museum of Anthropology’s collection. http://moa.wfu.edu

NOW THROUGH MAY 3 (WEDNESDAYS) HISPANIC TUTORING

5:30-7pm, 2415 Silas Creek Parkway in W-S. Free academic tutoring and assistance for native Spanish speaking students where English is a second language. We will have adults and teachers to assist with homework and studying. Please bring your textbooks with you. http://stjohnsws.com/events/hispanic-tutoring/

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NANODAY

9am-12pm, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Nanoscience, the study of structures and materials on the scale of nanometers (one-billionth of a meter), comes alive for students in this annual hands-on event. Included with museum admission. Groups must pre-register at 714.7105. sciworks.org

READWS/AUGUSTINE LITERACY PROJECT INFORMATION SESSION

9:30-10:30am, 751 West 4th Street (Carter Conference Room) in W-S. The Augustine Literacy Project, a program of READWS, needs volunteers to serve as tutors to public school students. Training classes are scheduled for January 23rd-February 3rd. For more information, email pam@readws.org. readws.org

10am-12pm, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Home-educated children and small groups in grades K-9 will participate in NanoDay activities throughout the museum. Pre-registration is required, and group admission rates apply. Call 714.7105 to register. sciworks.org 11:30am-1:30pm, 425 Nancy Cherry Street in W-S. Social scientist and bestselling author Robert Putnam will present “Our Kids: The American Dream in Crisis” when Family Services launches a community agenda to reverse the “opportunity gap” in Forsyth County. Cost: $60/individual and sponsorships. www. raisingeverychild.org

NOVEMBER 2

NOVANT HEALTH BARIATRIC SURGICAL SEMINAR

6:30-8pm, Novant Health Forsyth Medical Center – Conference Center, 3333 Silas Creek Parkway in W-S. Are you considering bariatric surgery? If so, Novant Health Bariatric Solutions is here for you. Join James Dasher, MD, and Thomas Walsh, MD, for a free seminar to learn about our surgical weight loss options. www.nhbariatricsolutions.org

NOVEMBER 4

LULAROE AND FOOTHILLS

5-8pm, 3800 Kimwell Drive in W-S. Join us at the Foothills Tasting Room for an evening of LuLaRoe clothes shopping, music, food and brews. There will be thousands of pieces of LuLaRoe inventory, our local Foothills Beer on tap, live music at 7pm and a food truck. www. facebook.com/events/226043201143614/?ti=cl

NOVEMBER 4-5 COZY COTTAGE CRAFT SHOW

9am-8pm (Friday); 9am-3pm (Saturday), 405 Salisbury Street in Kernersville. Unique handcrafted gifts, jewelry, pillows, yard art, holiday decorations and baked goods. Proceeds from raffle will be donated to the Hospice.

NOVEMBER 5

GO FAR 5K AND FUN RUN

7:30-11am, 211 East Commerce Street in High Point. GO FAR, a nonprofit running club, teaches kids about healthy living, goal setting and training for a race. Anyone can register at the event from 7:308:30am; families are encouraged to participate. After the race, enjoy vendors, food and fun. Cost: $20-$40/person. www.gofarclub.org

HEARTSTRINGS “SHRED THE LOVE” COMMUNITY SHREDDING EVENT

9am-12pm, 330 Knollwood Street (Knollwood Baptist parking lot) in W-S. Clear clutter securely with on-site shredding of papers by Shamrock Shredding. Suggested donation of $5/box or bag will help fund Heartstrings pregnancy, infant and child loss support programs. Shred the Love & Bring Hope to local parents. www. HeartstringsSupport.org

HOLIDAY SHOPPING EXTRAVAGANZA!

9am-1pm, 4820 Kinnamon Street in W-S. More than 35 different vendors selling jewelry, crafts, greeting cards, wood and glass works, pottery, housewares, ornaments, wreaths, gourmet foods, health and beauty care, and much more!

KERNERSVILLE MORAVIAN CHURCH ANNUAL SHOPPING SPREE 10am-2pm, 504 South Main Street in Kernersville. Enjoy shopping where more than 30 vendors will be displaying their work, including items such as Moravian stars, handmade crafts and home baked goods. Several home party vendors will showcase their wares. Lunch will be available on site. www.kernersvillemoravian.org

THE CRAFTY LLAMA ART & CRAFT BAZAAR

10am-5pm, 5349 Macedonia Road in East Bend. The Crafty Llama is a fundraiser for Financial Pathways of the Piedmont, a local nonprofit in W-S. This event offers a fun-filled Saturday of art, crafts, pottery, raffles, excellent live music, llama, wine and food trucks. Cost: $1/ person. www.financialpaths.org

NOVEMBER 7

NOVANT HEALTH BARIATRIC SURGICAL SEMINAR

6:30-8pm, High Point Chamber of Commerce, 1634 North Main Street in High Point. Are you considering bariatric surgery? If so, Novant Health Bariatric Solutions is here for you. Join James Dasher, MD, and Thomas Walsh, MD, for a free seminar to learn about our surgical weight loss options. www.nhbariatricsolutions.org

NOVEMBER 8

COLIN ALLURED CONCERT

11am-12pm, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Sing and dance along to an uplifting array of favorite children’s songs, from traditional classics to more contemporary songs from your child’s favorite shows and movies. Included with admission. www.childrensmuseumofws.org

NOVEMBER 9

THIRD ANNUAL PAWS IN THE PARK

5pm-until, Muddy Creek Café, 5455 Bethania Road in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Come out for LIVE MUSIC in the Muddy Creek Cafe and Muddy Creek Music Hall! Enjoy $4 house wines and “The BEST pimento cheese sandwich you’ll ever eat!” Just $5.99 for GNO only! All Bethania Mill Shops will be OPEN late for GNO! Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways!

NOVEMBER 16

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT

NOVEMBER 10 ART FOR THE HOLIDAYS

4-8pm, Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts, 251 North Spruce Street in W-S. This third annual celebration will feature holiday gift ideas from associated artists, bookmarks and Sawtooth School of Visual Art including book art and crafts from local vendors and a demonstration by TV personality, Jennifer Brule. www.bookmarksnc.org

SCIENCE CAFÉ -- RIVER RIDGE TAPHOUSE

7-9pm, 1480 River Ridge Drive in Clemmons. Learn about the latest groundbreaking research from a regional scientist in this free, informal program co-sponsored by SciWorks and Reynolda. sciworks. org

NOVEMBER 11

KIDS’ MORNING OUT FOR KIDS OF ALL AGES IN THE AFTERNOON!

3pm-until, Wake Forest Basketball at the Coliseum, 2825 University Parkway in W-S. School’s out, so parents and kids of all ages can enjoy an afternoon of FUN at the home of Wake Forest Basketball! One hour before game time, enjoy fun activities, including a bounce house and photo opportunities with the Deacon. Free admission to the ladies’ basketball game at 4pm. Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board!

NOVEMBER 11-13

WEEKEND YOGA WORKSHOP WITH CINDY DOLLAR

6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court, Suite 1 in Clemmons. Cindy has been helping people with yoga live more flexible and balanced lives since 1985. Cost: $45/workshop; $190 for all workshops. http:// sunriseyoga.net/upcoming-events/

NOVEMBER 12 CHURCH BAZAAR

8-11am, 725 West Dalton Road in King. Trinity UMC will host a bazaar. Breakfast will include sausage and country ham biscuits, fried apple pies and sugar cake. Chicken pies, baked and canned goods and Christmas reruns will be sold. Tickets are available for a quilt raffle.

DAISY DAY: “THREE CHEERS FOR ANIMALS”

10:30am-3:30pm, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Calling all Girl Scout Daisies! Work together to learn all about animals through fun art projects, fascinating stories and live animal programs. Session Options: 10:30am- 12:30pm or 1:30-3:30pm. Visit www.sciworks.org!

NOVEMBER 13

VILLAGE CHRISTMAS – VENDOR & CRAFT SHOW

1-6pm, 6205 Ramada Drive in Clemmons. 50 vendors, 10 LuLaRoe consultants, handmade crafts, jewelry, gifts and more. Perfect place to complete your Christmas list! www.facebook.com/ events/858921507543470/?ti=cl

NOVEMBER 14

NOVANT HEALTH BARIATRIC SURGICAL SEMINAR

5:30-7pm, Novant Health Kernersville Medical Center – Conference Center, 1750 Kernersville Medical Parkway in Kernersville. Are you considering bariatric surgery? If so, Novant Health Bariatric Solutions is here for you. Join James Dasher, MD, and Thomas Walsh, MD, for a free seminar to learn about our surgical weight loss options. www. nhbariatricsolutions.org

NOVEMBER 15

PIEDMONT ENVIRONMENTAL ALLIANCE ANNUAL MEETING

6-8pm, 201 Oakwood Drive in W-S. Mingle with the community over beer, wine and snacks, watch a lively environmental debate with the WFU Debate Team and get a report on PEA’s work to inspire change. Free – registration is encouraged. www.peanc.org

6-9:30pm, 4061 Clemmons Road in Clemmons. Come walk through the magical Tanglewood Festival of Lights with friends or pets, rain or moonshine. Proceeds help rescue homeless pets. Cost: $20/person. https://pawsinthepark.causevox.com/

AUTHOR DISCUSSION BY BETH MACY

12:30-2:30pm, Reynolda Manor Library, 2839 Fairlawn Drive in W-S. Beth Macy will be speaking about her new book, TRUEVINE: Two Brothers, a Kidnapping, and a Mother’s Quest: A True Story of the Jim Crow South. Book signing to follow. This book has been short-listed for a Kirkus Prize in nonfiction. She will also be at Knollwood Baptist Church from 6-7:30pm.

NOVEMBER 17

FREE FAMILY MOVIE: “PADDINGTON”

10am-4pm, 142 North Main Street in Mount Airy. The Historic Earle Theatre presents the movie “Paddington.” There are two showings, the first showing is at 10am, and the second showing is at 4pm. This event is free and fun for the whole family. surryarts.org

NOVEMBER 18

WILL’S CHRISTMAS PRESENTED BY LIFESPAN

7-8:30pm, 218 Rockford Street in Mount Airy. Lifespan presents, Will’s Christmas at the Andy Griffith Museum. For tickets, call Lifespan at 374.4466.

NOVEMBER 19

SALEM WOMEN’S CONFERENCE

8:30am-3:30pm, Elberson Fine Arts Center, 500 East Salem Avenue in W-S. Salem College’s sixth annual business conference will feature Uber’s Salle Yoo, expert advice, panel discussions and a networking forum. Lunch is included in the ticket price. Tickets are available on Eventbrite and the conference site. Cost: $25/person. www. womenscon.com

TELESCOPE CLINIC

1-4pm, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Thinking about purchasing a telescope? Want to make better use of the one you already have? Drop in for this free workshop led by Forsyth Astronomical Society. Admission rates apply if you want to visit the museum. www. childrensmuseumofws.org

STARGAZING AT PILOT MOUNTAIN

5:30-10pm, Pilot Mountain State Park Summit. Join Forsyth Astronomical Society for a free astronomy observation at the Pilot Mountain State Park summit. Telescopes provided. In case of bad weather, call SciWorks after 4pm for an update. (Rain/snow date is December 3rd.) sciworks.org

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AN EVENING WITH O’CONNOR BAND FEATURING MARK O’CONNOR

7:30-9:30pm, 142 North Main Street in Mount Airy. Superstar fiddler Mark O’Connor is an iconic artist from New York. He has crossed over so many genres that this award winning musician has created a style all his own! Enjoy a night of great music and fun at The Historic Earle Theatre. Cost: $35 preferred; $30 orchestra; $25 balcony.

NOVEMBER 21

NOVANT HEALTH BARIATRIC SURGICAL SEMINAR

NOVEMBER 22

DR. ELLIOT ENGEL’S “THE JOURNEY OF MONEY” DINNER & PRESENTATION

6-8pm, 1129 Greenhill Road in Mount Airy. After dinner, Dr. Engel will discuss the invention of money in long-ago Turkey and its astonishing development through ancient and modern civilizations. Cost: $60/ person.

NOVEMBER 28

NOVANT HEALTH BARIATRIC SURGICAL SEMINAR

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Bark of the Town . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135 Bernardins. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Bleu . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Bloomday Granite & Marble . . . . . . . . . . . . 163 B&L Plumbing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 157 Brick Masonry. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 Brookstown Inn . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 65 Budget Blinds. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10 Burklee Printing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 149 Busy as a Bee . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Butler Lighting, Paige Gallman . . . . . . . . . 156

Canterlane Farms . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 73 Carolina Characters . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 157 Carolina Fertility. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117 Carolina Laser . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 67 Carolina Vein. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19 Carrie Vickery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 103 Castle Lights . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 149 C. Distinctive Eyewear . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95 Chermak & Hanson . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121 Children’s Home . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7 Christina’s Dessertery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 154 Chrystal Yates . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95, 157 Clemmons Bike. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 153 Contract Business Solutions . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 Corks Caps & Taps. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 65 Cornerstone Cafe . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 147 Crystal Cleaners . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 156

Dahlias. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 143 Dalton’s Crossing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121 Davie Dermatology . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87 Davie Flooring. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 147 Dawson Tree . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 157 Diet Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 156 Dream Dinners . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 145 Dress for Success . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 139

Elite PhotoPod . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 156 Emerson Designs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 129, 156 Essential Balanced Bodyworks. . . . . . . . . . 101 Etc. Consignment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115

Family Services. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 51 Farrago . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107 Fitness Edge . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 Five Points. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 83 F. L. Y. Health Coaching . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109 Forsyth County Dept of Social Services . . . . 75 Forsyth Plastic Surgery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 83 Forsyth Professional Gas Logs. . . . . . . . . . . 157 Forsyth Woman Engaged!. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 105 Fraleigh’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 160 | ForsythWoman.com

Frank Madden Painting. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109 Fratellis . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 105 Furniture Mattress Warehouse . . . . . . . . . . . 23

Long Jewelers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17 Lyndhurst . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11

Mac & Nelli’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 158 Mainstream. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 Massage Envy. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 Medaloni Cellars. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Midtown Cafe . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 Mike Causey . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79 Miller Landscaping . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71 Mountain Valley Hospice. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131 Muddy Creek. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43

GAP . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 85 Garden Boutique at Reynolda Village . . . . . 99 Gifts and Paper on Plaza . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Goin’ Postal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 Goldman . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6 Gotta Get Thin. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 164 grassroots Aveda . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18 Grit Performance . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 119

Hakka Chow . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61 Hauser Rental . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 137 Hillcrest Vision . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 129 Hip Chics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 Home Watch Caregivers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 63 Hospice . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 153 House Matters . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 129 House Matters LawnCare . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117

iHeart Radio . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 151 Inner Strength Pilates . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 85 Isenhour Homes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 99 Ivy Arch . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33

Jeffrey Adams. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 75 June DeLugas Interiors . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 39

Kilwin’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117 Kingery and Kingery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 81 Kyle Duncan Photography. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 143

Lael Building. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 145 Laster’s. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Lewisville Laser . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Lil’ Briar Patch. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 103

New Balance. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 Nitsas. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 67 Novant Health . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 Novant Pelvic . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12 Novant WomanCare. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 91 Nu Expressions . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89 Nutcracker UNCSA . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2

PACU . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77 Painting with a Twist . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Paparazzi. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Paws In the Park. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135 Penny Lane Boutique. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87 Photo Artistry by Melinda. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 133 Piedmond Federal Savings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4 Precision Decorating . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 59 Prints Charming . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 153 Providence . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 59 PWWS . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111

Rebecca & Co. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 57 ReDesigns by Ava . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 63 Remax Delana . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 29 Restoration Med Spa . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20 Rodan & Fields . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 156

Safe Tub. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 Salem Gymnastics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Salem Smiles . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 153 Schiffman’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35 Sew Fabulous . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 91 Sewingly Yours . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121 Sharon Reid. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 97 Simply Sterling. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41 Singing Bird Salon . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 157 S&K Cleaning . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 157 Smart Protect . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 161 Smokin Harley Davidson . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 Southern Ties . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21 Starboard . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121 Stitches . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 119 Studio Create . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131 Style Encore . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 81 Summer Family Care . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 53 Summit Eye Care . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22

Terri Bias . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 156 Thruway . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61 Triad Mac. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 133 Twin City Stage. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123

Vein Clinic . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 97 Vienna Village. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77 Village Inn. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107 Vow to be Different . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135, 157

Wayne Collins . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 West End Holiday Homes Tour . . . . . . . . . . 159 WFBH Plastic Surgery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101 Wilder Career Services. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135 Wilson Park Athletics. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 139 Windsor Jewelers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3 Women’s Fund . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93

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A Photo Finish Fa n - g i r l s

Jon Voight was recently in town to visit the Historic Broyhill, where the Forsyth Magazines office is located! In honor of his visit (and our giddy, star-struck reactions), we decided to fan-girl it up this month and show pictures of our team with some of the famous celebrities weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve met!

Morgan Bralley & her sister, Briana, with Scotty McCreery

Lindsay Craven & Kevin Smith

Denise Heidel with Paul Stanley

Brooke Eagle with Kyle Petty

Tabatha Renegar & Paul Thorn

Savannah Norris, Denise Heidel, & Mallory Harmon with Jon Voight

Carolyn Peterson with Michael Buble

Heather Spivey & her husband, Ron, with Donny & Marie Osmond

Kristi Johnson Marion & Bill Pullman

Bloomday Granite & Marble

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