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The View From This Side MAY 2019 Happy Mother’s Day! Whether you are a mom, have a mom, or are a mother-figure – this is a great month to celebrate moms in every season of life!

A special shout out to my own mother, Marianne Schuler! I’ve had a lifetime of support and encouragement from her, and I’m so blessed to call her Mom! And to the other special women in my life – I hope you have a wonderful day!

If you’re looking for the perfect gift for Mom, we have our annual Mother’s Day Gift Guide on pages 68 - 71. I love these gift guides! It’s so much fun to see the unique and wonderful pieces that are available in our community. As you know, we have a special place in our hearts for the shop small, shop local movement, so these items represent just that!

Also – the spring | summer issue of FW Engaged is published this month! We are always excited about our biannual wedding magazine. If you or someone you know is planning a wedding, please be sure to pick up a copy! My daughter is responsible for this magazine and she does a beautiful job with it!

On a personal note, things are going well for me! I hope you’ll read the story my daughter wrote on page 72 because…

I RANG THE BELL! I’m officially finished with my cancer treatments and I’m so thankful to have that behind me. The ringing of the bell was drowned out by the cheers of so many I love and who

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Ministry Starts with Family: Debbie & Kaylyn Lanier

BY DENISE HEIDEL, PHOTO BY JAMIE CHRISTINA PHOTOGRAPHY Debbie Lanier is a familiar name in the community and to Forsyth Woman readers, as she has been a featured columnist since 2012.

Debbie and her husband, Bishop Paul Lanier, are the founders of Hope Community Church.

Ministry has been a big part of their journey with Paul ordained as a bishop in 1997, and Debbie ordained as a minister in 1998.

A PASTORAL CALLING

At both Paul and Debbie’s ordination ceremonies, a young girl watched her parents commit their lives to the service of ministry and knew in her heart that she would follow the same path.

Debbie shared, “Our daughter Kaylyn was only seven years old when I was ordained, and she gave me a letter. In the letter (a treasured possession I carry in my Bible), she wrote that one day, she wanted to be in ministry just like me.”

“I actually discouraged it,” continued Debbie.

“Twenty-one years ago, I entered the ministry terrified of the calling. I wanted to obey God but knew no women mentors serving as pastors. I felt like a misfit. My husband and I were concerned for Kaylyn. We didn’t want her feeling obligated to go into ministry. If it’s not your calling, it’s not a load you can carry.”

But the fire in her soul was lit, and Kaylyn Lanier knew at a tender young age her purpose in life. “I have always been certain that this is what I was supposed to do,” Kaylyn shared. “My parents’ respective ordinations were marker moments in my life. They fueled my passion to serve.”

Debbie chimed in, “There’s tremendous beauty in the differences between my experience and Kaylyn’s. While I entered the calling with trepidation, Kaylyn has done so with fearless conviction. I love seeing her embrace ministry with exuberance and boldness – something she’s been passionate about since her first mission trip with Paul.”

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THE MISSION FIELD

Kaylyn was only nine years old when she served in Peru with her father. “It changed my life forever,” she said. “We helped prepare meals, build a home, and dig a well. I saw poverty that was completely foreign to me. The only thing about the trip that frustrated me was the language barrier. When we came home, I was determined to learn Spanish. Today, it thrills me to serve as an interpreter. We go to minister in Guatemala later this month.”

Global Missions has been a passion for the Laniers and Kaylyn. She’s spent two summers in Israel. Her mission work has taken her many times to Peru, Nicaragua, Guatemala, El Salvador, Costa Rica, Ireland, and Scotland.

“Taking God’s Hope to the nations is something I was created to do,” Kaylyn continued. “I love God, and I love His people.

Once you go, it’s difficult to keep any focus on yourself. You quickly shift to the needs of others which is exactly how Jesus lived.”

FAMILY WORSHIP

Debbie said, “Paul and I have been blessed.

We determined early on that our first mission started at home. We wanted our children to own Faith for themselves. Kaylyn has always been a Jesus girl. Our son, Paul, is also extremely active in ministry. It’s one of the greatest privileges of my life to minister alongside my family.”

“My brother and I are thankful that we never felt like we had to compete with the church,” shared Kaylyn. “That’s a big problem for a lot of pastor’s kids, but Mama, and Daddy, as well as the church, were always supportive of us.”

Debbie and Kaylyn Lanier are women with tremendous hearts for Jesus. “We respect that some people still take issue with women’s role in ministry work,” Debbie said. “But we’re here because God called us to these assignments. We aren’t trying to prove a point.

We’re trying to prove His love.”

A NEW GENERATION OF MINISTRY

Kaylyn was ordained on February 10, 2019.

Coming full circle from a young girl’s witness of her parents’ ceremonies, both Paul and Debbie participated in their daughter’s ordination.

“I know my life belongs to God. I’m grateful that I can begin my pastoral ministry with a role model like my mama,” said Kaylyn.

“I will go wherever God calls me to go, and do whatever He asks me to do because I know He goes before me. I get to do that because I have a mama who showed me that it was possible.”

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The Mother & Daughter Relationship

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Close your eyes and think about the woman you called Mama, Mommy, Mother, or Mom. Even with her hair placed in curlers, teased, or ironed and sprayed, she became a Goddess defining beauty, love, and perfection. As daughters, we often forget our first love relationship and the empowerment of being a woman began with a mother’s teachings. We all have a unique story. Several mothers and daughters wanted to share theirs with you.

RELATIONSHIP IN YOUTH

Martha Chambers, age 78, raised four daughters and writes, “With the girls, I feel I have four best friends that I can talk openly about all the emotional things women consider important, while men do not like to broach such topics.” Chambers’ daughters, now spanning late 30s through late 50s, concur. Lola, the youngest daughter, writes, “My mother and I had an unusual relationship. At a time when most of my friends were rebelling, my mother could talk to me. When our father died …that year cemented our relationship. She opened up, talked to us about her feelings, and allowed us to ask any question. She became real. A woman whom we could always approach and relate to.”

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the lives of their children. Erin Brown shares, “My three daughters are an extension of me.

I taught them lessons that I wish I learned. In speaking about the realness of the world, I also allowed my girls to learn from decisions and mistakes. Now, they are in their 20s, and my life with them couldn’t be happier.”

the same about me. I love learning about her difficulties and happiness. Through my unique and valuable relationship, it has ultimately helped me better understand my mother. I am blessed and grateful for the extraordinary strong women in my life.”

MOTHER AS FRIEND

The intergenerational relationship between grandmother and grandchild is a mutual give-and-take. Grandmothers can easily play the role of confidant, receiving secret dreams and fears, and providing in return wisdom and stories of experience. Jenny Patterson writes, “My grandmother, Alice, lived next door to us. She was an extension of my mother. Through Grand-Mommy, I learned about my mother’s childhood, character, and life that perhaps helped me better understand her, and how I am similar and my own person. I am an independent and strong person because of my mother and grandmother. Grand-Mommy Alice is a greatgrandmother, and she has the delicate task of retelling the stories of her daughter and granddaughter.”

Beyond the years of guidance to become an adult, there comes a time when the relationship changes. Bobby-Jean writes, “I left home after college in 1980, never once thinking I would return. As empty nesters, my husband and I decided to come back to the east coast three years ago. Mom was always strong willed, quick-to-comment, and independent. What I needed most, friendship, she had difficulty giving. Now, as she nears her 80s, we have more heartto-heart conversations. She has surrendered to help. We laugh together, and despite the time-period, we are both very content.”

THE MOTHER FIGURE

An extension of your family comes with the connection of mother figures. Jane Daniels, age 32, writes, “As a young social butterfly in youth, I was a charismatic child. I became a helper to our neighbor, a young woman, then, with children. When you love someone, you carry them on your life journey, sharing intimate stories and reaching out when advice was needed. I am an extension of this non-related woman I call Mom, who feels

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A BOUTIQUE FOR EVERY WOMAN

BY ADELE CASANOVA, PHOTOS BY JON ERIC JOHNSON PHOTOGRAPHY There is a new boutique in town!

Camel City Boutique is now open on Country Club Road in Winston-Salem.

This new, fabulous boutique has something for every age and every size, stocked with the latest fashions ranging in sizes S-3X. Owner of this trendy new boutique, Kristin Tolley, opened her business in February of this year after searching for the perfect location since the previous September. She settled on Club Haven Shopping Center on Country Club Road. “I grew up in Pfafftown, and we frequented this shopping center often.

I have great memories of shopping and eating here with my family,” says Kristin. Kristin also liked the location because there is not another boutique in the neighborhood. The shopping center has recently been updated and looks fresh and inviting. She has remodeled the inside of her boutique in a modern style, accented with vintage wrought iron fixtures, and finished off with a touch of farmhouse.

There is a sign in the window that says, “Come in, we’re awesome!” and it’s true! Kristin is a delightful young woman with infectious enthusiasm. After growing up in the area and attending Salem College, she has developed a deep love and appreciation for her community. Thus,

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her choice of name for the boutique!

“I want to grow my business here in Winston-Salem and become a local brand known for quality service and fashion,” states Kristin. Operating a boutique in Winston-Salem is a way for Kristin to pay tribute to her home town by being a part of the local economy. It also allows Kristin to celebrate the love of fashion that she developed as a young girl. She is also lucky enough to get to do it with her sister, Brittany, recently graduated from Appalachian State, who works at the boutique on Saturdays, helping clients with their fashion and gift choices.

So, what will you find at Camel City Boutique? Clothing, shoes, jewelry, handbags, hats, candles, sunglasses, tumblers and lots of fun, hip items.

Kristin sells cute, fashionable clothing for teens and little girls as well. You will also find a large selection of clothes designed especially for curvy women. Kristin carries many trending lines of merchandise including Puppie Love, Sheila Fajl, O Venture, Oak River, Natural Life, Quay, Tipsy and Cast Away. Swimsuits and beach bags have just arrived in time for planning those upcoming beach trips. New merchandise comes in daily and Kristin informs her customers every day of

what is new (via updates and photos on Facebook) so be sure to follow her boutique to stay on top of her latest fashion and gift arrivals and specials.

Kristin wants to serve others through her boutique by regularly offering specials that include donating proceeds to charities. She has already had a special sales event to donate partial proceeds to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital and plans many more charitable donations in the future. Kristin aims to make shopping in her boutique fun and relaxing. She offers her customers a coffee bar to enjoy while browsing and has special events that include fun themes like Mimosas and Doughnuts! Kristin loves to get to know her customers and enjoys not only helping them shop, but also enjoys customers just stopping in to chat and visit.

Camel City Boutique is open Tuesday through Friday 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m., Saturday 10:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. and Sunday 1:00 p.m. to 4:00 p.m. The address is 5009 Country Club Road, Winston-Salem, NC 27104, and you can call the boutique at 336-829-5237. Whether shopping for yourself or for the perfect gift for someone else, you will find quality, modern fashions at Camel City Boutique. Gift cards from the boutique would make much appreciated Mother’s Day gifts! It truly is a “Boutique for Every Woman”!

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High Blood Pressure & Pregnancy:

What You Need to Know if You Are Expecting

BY NOVANT HEALTH

One common misconception is that high blood pressure rarely affects women.

However, nearly half of all adults with high blood pressure are women.

While high blood pressure isn’t directly related to gender, throughout a woman’s life, events like pregnancy, menopause and others can increase the risk of developing high blood pressure.

Dr. Lewis D. Lipscomb, a physician leader with Novant Health Forsyth Medical Center Women’s & Children’s Institute, helped explain the different types of high blood pressure women may experience during pregnancy.

CHRONIC HYPERTENSION

Long-term, uncontrolled high blood pressure, known as chronic hypertension, is a serious condition associated with heart disease, stroke and kidney disease. Hypertension officially begins with a consistent blood pressure reading exceeding 130/80 and can go higher than 180/120 to be a hypertensive crisis.

“We’re seeing a rise nationally in women who have hypertension before becoming pregnant,” Lipscomb said.

“Because obesity is becoming more common and women are having babies at an older age, many women are at risk of developing hypertension.”

The effects of high blood pressure can range from mild to severe.

Hypertension can harm the mother’s kidneys and other organs, as well as cause low birth weight and early delivery for the baby.

“Most cases of hypertension are preventable. When prevention is not possible, early detection is key,” said Lipscomb. “We recommend annual wellness screenings and preconception counseling as ways to detect and manage hypertension before or at the start of a pregnancy.”

Lipscomb stressed that healthy pregnancies are still possible for women with a history of chronic hypertension when the condition is properly managed.

PREECLAMPSIA

Although some women experience hypertension prior to pregnancy, the most common form of hypertension Dr. Lipscomb sees is gestational hypertension, where women with no previous history of hypertension develop high blood pressure after the twentieth week of pregnancy.

The gravest form of hypertension in pregnancy is preeclampsia. Preeclampsia is a condition that typically develops in the third trimester and involves increased blood pressure, fluid retention, and protein in the mother’s urine. Preeclampsia can risk the lives of both the mother and the baby.

According to Lipscomb, risk factors for preeclampsia include having had a first pregnancy during one’s teenage years or after the age of 40, having a history of preeclampsia in earlier pregnancies and having hypertension prior to pregnancy. He added that diabetes and kidney disease can increase your risk as well.

With preeclampsia, blood pressure can increase quickly, leading to a number of life-threatening complications, including seizures, stroke, breathing problems, impaired fetal growth and stillbirth.

The treatment for preeclampsia depends on the stage of the pregnancy and often requires hospitalization.

Unfortunately, preeclampsia does not resolve during pregnancy. For that reason, close monitoring of the mother and the baby is necessary until delivery and should include follow up for six to eight weeks following the birth.

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Pregnancy can be stressful, especially for women facing hypertension or other medical conditions. Consistent prenatal care is important for the health of both mother and child.

“Prenatal care should be a partnership,” said Lipscomb. “Regardless of your age, whether it’s your first pregnancy or your fifth, the most important decision expectant mothers make is choosing a provider they trust to guide them safely through the pregnancy.”

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BY VIC KHEMSARA, MD

We all know cataracts cause blurry vision, glare and halos around lights, poor night vision, loss of the vibrancy of colors and more.

We also know surgery is performed whereby the cataract (natural lens) is removed and an intraocular lens inserted. In the past, the “new” lens would only correct distance vision; glasses were usually needed to enhance distance vision if someone had an astigmatism, and glasses were required for near vision.

In the past, the visit to prepare for surgery was very routine in that you were diagnosed, some measurements were taken, consent was signed, and then the patient went home and waited for the surgery day to come.

Things have really changed! New technology allows patients to determine if they want to be less dependent on glasses, if they wish to have a wider range of vision, if they wish to have the “standard” procedure or would rather have the latest laser procedure. Thanks to innovative medical advances, cataract surgery is one of the safest and most successful procedures performed today and vision can be more “fine-tuned.”

Traditionally, the surgeon would accomplish the surgery by making a tiny incision in the eye using an instrument about the size of a pen tip. Now, patients also have the option of choosing a bladeless, computer-controlled laser to perform several of the most critical steps of cataract surgery. This laser option allows the surgeon to plan and perform surgery to accurate, individualized specifications not attainable with traditional surgical methods.

Along with new methods for surgery, new intraocular lenses have been developed to make the lenses more helpful to patients and more in line with their daily activities.

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• Multifocal lenses potentially help achieve an improved range of vision, not just one.

The above has been available for some years now. However, the latest and most useful cataract surgery technology is called the ORA. This equipment is utilized in the operating room. The ORA allows the physician to take a measurement of the eye after the removal of the cataract. The measurement at this time is unobscured by the natural cloudy lens, thereby providing a confirmation that the most accurate replacement lens has been chosen. At that time, the surgeon can increase, decrease or change the lens option based on the new information provided.

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A Customized Shopping Experience

BY ADELE CASANOVA

For the woman who wants a personal, customized shopping experience, the trip to King to visit Dalton’s Crossing is a must. This wonderful women’s boutique, opened in 2012 by Joyce Mauldin-Ray and her husband Wayne, offers a warm, friendly shopping experience while presenting the latest in women’s fashions. Once you shop at Dalton’s Crossing, you will want to join their exceptionally loyal customer base.

Joyce and their dedicated staff, Stephanie, Miranda, and Tami, strive to learn your sizes, tastes and most flattering styles.

The staff at Dalton’s Crossing provides their clients with a hometown feel that comes with shopping at an independently owned local business. They believe individual face to face consultation results not only in successful fashion choices, but in the building of personal, longlasting relationships with customers. Frequently customers attending a class reunion, outdoor wedding or some other special event want help selecting a unique outfit that is trendy but age appropriate. Joyce and her staff take pride in helping them attain that “special look.”

Dalton’s Crossing offers their customers a bright and airy shopping environment with lots of natural light, as well as a comfortable seating area to relax, contemplate fashion choices and as a resting spot for the spouse.

When attending apparel shows, Joyce keeps her customers’ tastes and needs in mind while selecting styles, colors, and sizes. They are proud to offer many lines made in the USA, such as Cut Loose, Jess & Jane, Prairie Cotton, Chalet, Et’ Lois, Fresh Produce, Sea Breeze, Plume and Thread, and Salaam. Joyce also carries Long Family Farms soaps from Stokes County.

With both Wayne and Joyce growing up in a nearby rural area, they are aware of the importance of keeping their local economy strong and continuing the “home town” experience that so many communities are losing. Not only does a strong local economy benefit the residents, but it draws shoppers and visitors from outside the area. Joyce often refers customers to other local businesses and believes that if everyone works together as a team, they can continue to build and preserve the small town, personal shopping experience.

Wayne and Joyce are enhancing their dream of building on local success by engaging in another business project. They recently purchased The Old Bank Building, which is a familiar landmark in King. The building was built in the early 1900s with beautiful vintage brick walls inside and out, giving this lovely building a nostalgic feel. The best news is that Wayne and Joyce are in the process of turning the upstairs into The Loft at Dalton’s Crossing.

This will be a separate entity from their retail space, and they will continue to offer exceptional service to their boutique shoppers while developing this new venture. It will provide a quaint, unique place for overnight stays featuring a spacious loft apartment with nine-foot ceilings, exposed brick, and barn wood walls, along with a full-size kitchen, large Jacuzzi garden tub, walk-in shower and other amenities. A great view of Hanging Rock State Park from one of the huge front windows completes the space. A great place for a couple’s romantic getaway or a lovely spot to host out of town visitors looking for a unique, comfortable, and convenient place to stay while exploring the area’s many attractions.

Definitely plan to visit Dalton’s Crossing for your spring wardrobe updates. Shop their selection of Brighton handbags, jewelry, clothing, and other accessories, and remember them for Mother’s Day, and other seasonal gift giving holidays. They are located at 102/104 East Dalton Road in (downtown) King, NC (at the corner of Main Street and Dalton Road), 336-985-5464, open Monday – Friday 10 am – 6 pm and Saturday 10 am – 3 pm. Visit their web site daltonscrossing.com and follow them on Facebook for news of sales, trunk shows, and special events. Also, ask about their Customer Loyalty Program.

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$25 FOOTNOTE COFFEE & COCKTAILS Deborah Streeter

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ROSEY’S REVIEW

BY ROSEY

FOOTHILLS BREWING

638 West Fourth Street, Winston-Salem • (336) 777-3348 Sunday – Tuesday: 11 AM – 12 AM • Wednesday – Saturday: 11 AM – 2 AM

Okay, so this month was a first! A TWO-VENUE Rosey’s Review! And it was crazy awesome! We reviewed sister-locations, Foothills Brewing and Footnote Coffee & Cocktails. Sure, they are next door to each other, but they technically have different addresses, so we’re marking this one as a two-for-one experience! Plus – it was one of my favorite kinds of reviews – a preview of a new menu! Y’all, I love it when we’re invited to preview a menu. Besides the prestige of being the first to try great new food, it just makes me feel all warm and special. Foothills may be known for their beer – but the food should never take second stage! Extraordinary cuisine in a great, casual atmosphere!

Before we get started, let me tell you that Foothills Brewing Chef Shane Moore takes the whole “scratch made” attitude very seriously. Everything – and I mean everything – is scratch made. They even make their own ketchup and mustard! That’s a major commitment to excellence!

Let’s get started! First up, let me tell you about the prettiest salad I’ve ever seen. THE FRESH BERRY SALAD was a vibrant bed of gorgeous greens topped with fresh berries – including raspberries (yum!), blueberries (yummy!), strawberries (yummier!), and blackberries (my favs!). The dressing on this salad was the real showstopper, though – Basil Vinaigrette. Friends, I could have stuck a straw in a bottle of this and drunk it straight. It was that good. I told Chef Shane to call me the moment they start bottling it… they are a brewery after all… surely they have some extra bottles lying around somewhere! This is a brand new menu item, and undoubtedly, it’s going to be popular! Add your choice of protein to the salad to make it a bit heartier for lunch – it would be divine with grilled chicken!

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Next up, we tried the new BRUNCH BOWL. Foothills is creating a brunch menu, and this dish is a hearty addition that any brunch enthusiast is going to love! Forget hash browns – Chef Shane knows what we love! He made this bowl of deliciousness with Tater Tots! Yes! Top those off with some spinach, fried eggs, bacon, and beer cheese – you have a hearty meal that is worthy of the name Brunch.

The ELOTE PASTA is going to be a crowd-pleaser, for sure! The pasta’s name translates to Mexican Street Corn Pasta and it’s made with corn, chorizo, Parmesan, and a chipotle cream sauce drizzled on top of grilled chicken. It’s a hybrid that boasts elements from both Italian and Mexican cuisine, and the two cultures go together beautifully on this plate! There was a slightly smoky flavor to this, as well as a fantastic spicy kick!

The other new dish we sampled was called The Best Pork Tenderloin Ever. Actually, its real name is COCONUT LIME MARINATED PORK TENDERLOIN. This hearty entrée has hints of the tropics, and I absolutely loved the creamy blend of coconut and lime flavors. Served with sautéed Napa cabbage and Jasmine rice, it was a meal that was unique and incredible.

We also sampled a few items from the current menu, including HICKORY SMOKED WINGS. We were looking forward to these as we were intrigued by the cooking method… These wings are smoked, and then flash fried. They are coated with an incredible brown sugar rub that gives just a hint of sweetness to the smoky taste of the wings. I confess that, as much as I like wings, I get really weird about eating meat on the bone.

But these wings were so meaty, I didn’t have to worry about that. They were flavorful and delicious!

FOOTNOTE COFFEE & COCKTAILS

634 West 4th Street Ste. #120, Winston-Salem • (336) 602-1087 Monday – Thursday: 8 AM – 10 PM • Friday – Saturday: 8 AM – 11 PM • Sunday: 9 AM – 6 PM

SHRIMP AND GRITS is, without question, a Southern staple. But honestly, the Foothills version is one of the best. The Grit Cakes would make any Southerner proud. They were creamy and delicious. Topped with the freshest shrimp, the whole dish is covered with a rich and flavorful roasted garlic cream sauce. Divine!

This may be a pub, but the food is anything but pub-grub. However, any self-respecting pub is going to offer its share of burger options. We sampled the DIRTY SOUTH BURGER. Every element of what constitutes a good burger is found here. Bacon. Tomatoes. Cheese. But not just any cheese – pimento cheese is melted on the burger. And pickles… but we’re not talking about plain ‘ole dill pickles. These were fried pickles. And as we all know, there are few things as delicious as fried pickles! De. Licious. Our burger came with a hearty portion of ONION RINGS that were light, and not remotely greasy. They were fantastic!

We also tried the WINSTON HOT CHICKEN. And when they say “hot chicken,” they mean “HOT chicken.” “Hot” is a bit of an understatement. I don’t say that to deter you, but simply offer a word of caution. If you love spicy – you’re going to love this. I am married to a man who eats jalapenos right off the bush, so he’s going to go nuts over this when I take him to try it. It’s a deep-fried piece of chicken that is tossed in Winston-Salem Hot Sauce. Served with a house-made ranch on a brioche bun, it’s a huge, hearty (and did I mention hot?) meal! Our side for this dish was the BLACK BEAN AND CORN SALAD, and it was the perfect side. The mild, cool flavors blended beautifully with the chicken.

Desserts rotate at Foothills. For dessert (can you believe we had room?!), we tried the OREO CHEESECAKE. This could almost be referred to as a deconstructed cheesecake. It was served in a parfait glass and had a creamy, mousse-like texture. It was very rich and large enough to be shared.

We also tried the STRAWBERRY WHITE CHOCOLATE OMBRE CAKE. This is the perfect choice for someone who doesn’t want something too sweet. It was a beautiful blend of flavors. Light and not super heavy after a large meal!

After all that – we rolled over, I mean walked over to Footnote for our after-dinner review. As a coffee aficionado, it didn’t matter that I was full up to my gills with food – I was going to try some coffee. Especially when those coffee beans are locally roasted by Footnote! It’s responsibly sourced and roasted.

Technically, we can’t say that a Footnote’s cup of joe is named for the head roaster, but his name really is Joe. That should count for something in my book! I tried a cup of the CAMEROON JAVA. It’s coffee with hints of chocolate, y’all so I was in coffee heaven.

Freshly ground, perfectly roasted, perfectly brewed, and totally fresh. Check off all the boxes of exactly what a great cup of coffee is supposed to be! Plus – it’s right beside of BookMarks.

Coffee. And books. It’s basically my version of Disney World.

Since we were there, we also tried the BIG ‘OLE COOKIE. Or as Marketing Director Ray Goodrich more accurately describes it, the “Cookie the Size of Your Head.” It’s seriously a huge cookie, but the good news for dieters – this is the kind of cookie you want to have in hand when you say, “But I’m only going to have one.” Nom nom nom!

And thus concludes a fabulous Rosey experience! We had a great time at Foothills! The food is exceptional, and the staff is unparalleled! Go! Try their new menu for yourself! And if Chef Shane doesn’t start bottling Basil Vinaigrette by summer, I’ll start the online petition. Until then, be sure to tell them that Rosey sent ya!

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Keeping It Real SECRETS

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER, PHOTO BY JAMIE CHRISTINA PHOTOGRAPHY

WE WILL NEVER CONQUER WHAT WE REFUSE TO CONFRONT!

When the woman stopped burying the secrets that continuously beat up her soul, ONLY THEN could she find the freedom she sought.

ONLY WHEN she got honest about her situation could her hungry heart feel the embrace it craved. ONLY WHEN she came out of hiding did she discover that, while Jesus knew her secrets in detail, He still loved her in ultra-high definition.

I carry secrets, lots of them. “Big deal,” right? Every heart harbors secrets that seem better left unsaid. But I carry other people’s secrets, too. It’s par for the course in this humbling journey called ministry.

I counsel folks who need a safe place to say things they have never told another living soul. It truly is my honor to go to my grave with confidences held close throughout these decades.

Secrets are powerful. They have a way of holding us hostage.

We assume others will view us differently if they discover particular pieces of our past and present. Additionally, bringing the skeletons out of our closets (yes, everyone has them!) forces us to deal with issues we would rather leave tucked securely away in the dark.

We’ve lived long enough to know that pulling the scab off a wound starts the bleeding all over again.

Watching Jesus teaches us about the freedom that comes from bringing our issues into the light. Jesus traveled to an area no one dared to enter (John 4). He waited for this outcast with her secrets to come where He was. Before long, Jesus began reading this lady's mail.

But, with her history of horrible mistakes, she had grown accustomed to defending herself. When His words hit too close to home, she tried to change the subject to theological chitchat. With a stoic façade, the wounded woman threw up a religious smoke screen to ensure that her deepest needs remained buried, never to see the light of day.

Tragically, this mistress couldn’t discern that this encounter was altogether different from the others scarring her story. Jesus wasn’t exposing her mess to embarrass or humiliate her, but to heal her. He knew the thing that we must learn if we are to live in His freedom:

Hell loves to keep you in knots with your secrets, the ones you feel like you can’t tell ANYONE! He holds them over your head to convince you to stay imprisoned in your guilt and shame. But hear me!

There is NOTHING God can’t redeem. There is NOTHING God can’t heal in you.

God safely holds the secrets you hope others never hold, and He’s already conquered what seeks to conquer you!

So, stop deflecting your pain by changing the conversation.

Stop staying so busy that you don’t have time to think about it. I love you enough to tell you that your secret will keep festering until you deal with it.

Haven’t secrets tormented you long enough? Bring them into the Light. Get real with the One who comes where you are and refuses to leave you like He finds you. He carries what you need. He IS what you need!

Friend, it’s Independence Day! Freedom awaits with YOUR NAME on it!

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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Have You Thought About Our Customizing Ability?

One of the astounding benefits of working with a designer is the endless possibilities available to you as a consumer.

Our years of experience have led us to the awesome top manufacturers in the industry who specialize in custom-made furnishings. One of the amazing assets is that most are made in the USA. We spend days at the furniture markets in High Point and Atlanta, searching for the best of the best when it comes to custom furnishings, and we search high and low for American made, mostly NC made.

“I love that sofa, but I wish it were a different color.”

I’m sure most of you can relate to that feeling of finding that near perfect accent piece, but it’s covered in an outdated fabric, or it’s just a tad too big. Custommade furnishings allow you the freedom to choose. Our knowledge and resources, combined with your vision, will ensure a look that is truly one-of-a-kind. We can find a fabric that speaks to you, a color that reflects your personality, and a durable finish that suits the needs of your family.

Hickory White offers a custom dining table program where you can choose a base, tabletop, size, and finish. Hickory Chair offers made-to-measure upholstery sofas and chairs, as well as case goods. Choose your fabric, finish, and specify the dimensions down to the inch. Case goods can be painted in multiple finishes, with the option to choose your style of hardware.

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In addition to our manufacturers who offer customized items, we have established relationships with local craftsmen and artisans who can make virtually anything. Our custom cabinet makers can build a bookcase to fill a large space, or a built-in bench with drawers underneath. Woodworkers

can carve an ornate headboard based on a photo of a family heirloom.

Upholsterers can craft a custom settee destined to be a conversation piece.

A faux-artist can travel back in time to create an antique chest that looks a hundred years old.

Many clients come to us exasperated after searching endlessly to complete their vision. We often hear, “I know what I want, I just can’t find it!” Don’t settle for almost perfect…if we can’t find it, we can customize it or even make it! Remodeling is our specialty. Do you need new light fixtures? No problem. What about new plumbing? No problem. Need a CAD drawing?

No problem. We do it all at June DeLugas Interiors.

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This Is What Support Looks Like

BY ANN GAUTHREAUX

What is more comforting than a trusted friend that you can turn to for support and compassion 24-hours a day, any day of the week? Regardless of what brings us anxiety or is unsettling, it is a treasure to know where to turn for support.

Trellis Supportive Care (formerly Hospice & Palliative CareCenter) has been that trusted companion for support for generations of patients and families facing the fears and challenges of serious illness, and the loss of a loved one.

SUPPORT HAS A FAMILIAR FACE & A 40YEAR HISTORY

Right now, someone close to you could be going through one of life’s most difficult times such as facing a serious illness, coping with caregiving responsibilities, or grieving the loss of a loved one. It can be overwhelming to handle these situations alone - and comforting when you know you don’t have to. Trellis Supportive Care is here with familiar faces and a trusted team to lean on for compassion and support. Even though our name has changed from Hospice & Palliative CareCenter, we’re the same, missiondriven nonprofit you’ve known for 40 years.

SUPPORT IS ALWAYS WITHIN REACH

There are two themes constantly shared by families who know what it is like to have the support of Trellis Supportive Care: ‘It was such a relief….’ and, ‘I only wish we had called sooner.’

No one likes to think about what they would do if they became seriously ill. But, knowing where to turn for guidance and support provides families with peace of mind. With deep roots in this community and a desire to ease the challenges of serious illness – Trellis Supportive Care wants to help.

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SUPPORT LOOKS LIKE A TRELLIS – A FRAMEWORK OF SUPPORT

About eight months ago, our new name – Trellis Supportive Care – was selected because the imagery of a trellis as a framework of support fit beautifully with our mission. The team of caregivers at Trellis Supportive Care become this framework of support for patients and their families. Some days, patients and families may need gentle guidance, while on other days they may lean heavily on the team who is with them every step of the way with medical and emotional expertise.

SUPPORTIVE CARE COMES IN MANY FORMS

At the heart of our mission is a desire to help patients and their families navigate the realities of serious illness, and ultimately ensure a comfortable, meaningful, and peaceful quality of life. It’s about care that focuses on what matters most to patients.

Hospice Care is the cornerstone

of our care. Our whole team is available, 24-hours a day, seven days a week. At times, if needed, our Kate B. Reynolds Hospice Home becomes a home-away-from-home for aroundthe-clock care.

Palliative Care is also available. A palliative care specialist is a valuable resource when someone is facing a serious illness, offering guidance and helping to manage pain and symptoms – even as a person is undergoing aggressive treatment for a cure.

Advance Care Planning can

be the very best first step in making sure that you get the kind of care YOU want. Sharing and documenting your wishes so that healthcare professionals and your family understand what is important to you should you ever need an advocate and a plan for your future care.

Grief Counseling can take many forms, be it individual sessions or support groups with others who have been through similar losses.

Grief is a very personal journey and our counselors help ease the process and provide tools to help you along the way.

If you’re ever facing overwhelming medical decisions, caregiving responsibilities, or simply want to learn more about resources, Trellis Supportive Care would like to help.

The sooner patients and families connect to care, the sooner there is hope for comfort and peace of mind.

Visit TrellisSupport.org or call 336-768-3972.

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Making Dollars, Making $ense Securities offered through LPL Financial. Member FINRA/SIPC. Investment advice offered through Marzano Capital Group, a registered investment advisor and separate entity from LPL Financial.

Tax Tips & Truths

BY JON MARZANO, MANAGING PRINCIPAL

For the vast majority of tax filers, 2018 returns are done. If you filed an extension, you still have some time but the clock is ticking.

There was a lot of anticipation leading into the end of the year about how the Trump tax cuts of late 2017 were going to affect the amount of taxes that we owe. As we meet with our clients and talk through their current situations, we have received a lot of mixed reviews. We have come to the conclusion that it was not as generous of a tax change as many anticipated, and in a number of instances, hard dollar tax bills are actually going up for a great number of our clients.

It’s all about where you fall on the income spectrum and how many deductions you previously had use of that are now lost or reduced. Many taxpayers got hit with extra tax from the state which may have offset any refund that they were due from the federal government. What one hand giveth, the other hand can taketh away.

Now that we are through with this year’s filing, we need to determine if there are things we can do to be more prepared for next year. For example, if you are still working and you received a federal refund, you may want to adjust your withholdings down.

You can change the amount your employer withholds from each check and it may be wise.

Don’t let the government get a free loan on the amount you have overpaid in taxes, which is effectively what you are giving them by overpaying all year. If you owe more in taxes this year than last, consider increasing the amount you put into pretax retirement accounts. Bump up your 401k savings rate at work or make a contribution to a traditional IRA, if you are eligible. If you owed more than you planned, consider putting money into an HSA (Health Savings Account) as part of your overall health insurance strategy.

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You can get the deduction for contributing to an HSA even if you take the standard deduction when you file your taxes. Having access to money for qualified medical expenses after you retire will be important and necessary.

We all want to stay healthy and it could take some extra money in retirement to make that happen.

There are even a couple of strategies that can benefit retirees and make a difference in the amount of your tax bill. If you are required to take RMDs (required minimum distributions) and you don’t count on that income to support yourself, you can donate those RMDs directly to a charity and avoid the taxation on the distribution. This is especially important to those retirees taking RMDs and who also are now using the standard deduction. Although you must consider the tax ramifications, age and income restrictions, since the converted amount is generally subject to income taxation, we find that some early retirees are able to do Roth conversions on their IRAs and 401ks, and avoid taxation on the conversion because of the high standard deduction for married couples.

It may take a combination of several adjustments to try and “dial” into the best tax strategy for you and your family under the new laws. Taxes have always been confusing and we at Marzano Capital Group have always advocated consulting with a professional. If you want some advice on how to incorporate more tax efficient strategies into your financial planning, give us a call. We are here to help!

This information is not intended to be a substitution for specific individualized tax advice. We suggest that you discuss your specific tax issues with a qualified tax advisor. No strategy assures a profit or protects against loss.

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The Original Local Market

BY JULIE FRITZ

Shopping local has become very trendy in the last several years. We all want to find ways to support the local economy and buy things that are as fresh as possible. Here in Forsyth County, there is a local market that has believed in this ideal for 20 years.

Clemmons Country Store is the original local market and the right place to find the best selection of local goods year round.

A HISTORY IN OUR COMMUNITY

Owner Sherrie Billings saw a need for this type of market in 1999. She knew she had a passion for gardening and wanted to be a part of promoting local products and farmers. It was around this time that some of the bigger chain stores were starting to put some of the local vendors out of business. “I was really worried about the little guy. There were so many great local producers of plants and produce, but there just wasn’t a place for people to get them locally,” said Sherrie. She started out small, carrying only local produce and a few plants. But over the years she has found more and more vendors to bring into the store. She is so proud that 80% of the products in the store are local. She went on to say, “I’m always on the lookout for new things. I go to craft shows and stay active in looking throughout the community for businesses to partner with. I am very much in touch with what comes into this store.

I like being extremely hands on.” And it shows. Sherrie and her staff are very knowledgeable about the products they carry and where they come from. They are more than happy to talk to you and answer any questions you might have about any of their products.

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CELEBRATING 20 YEARS IN BUSINESS

Everyone at Clemmons Country Store is extremely proud to be celebrating 20 years in business this year! It says a lot about the commitment they have made to this community. They work hard to maintain a strong customer base by providing a place that customers want to come back to time and time again. Not only are their products local, a lot of them change with the seasons. You can always get the seasonal garden plants you need, holiday decorations, including pumpkins and Christmas trees, and foods and gifts to enjoy year round. All of these things are available at prices that are more than competitive which is one more reason that their customers stay loyal.

LOCAL PRODUCTS

You won’t be disappointed in the selection of local products that are available and you might just be surprised. Some of the local vendors available include Camino Bakery, Mrs. Pumpkin’s, Blue Ridge Soap Shed and more. Whenever you come you can expect to find a variety of these local products: • Fresh In-Season Produce from Local Farms • Locally Made Preserves • Local Honey • Elderberry Syrup • Molasses • Handmade Jewelry from Artists Around the Community • Locally Grown Plants • Sour Cream Pound Cakes

• Seasonal Gifts and Garden Flags • Holiday Decor • Local Free Range Eggs • Fresh Crop Pintos • Moravian Chicken Pies • Pot Roast Pies • Chicken Salad and Pimento Cheese • Quiche • Locally Made Baked Goods

This time of year, right in time for Mother’s Day, there is also a nice variety of hanging baskets, geraniums, ferns, mixed container pots and herb and vegetable plants.

If you haven’t been to Clemmons Country Store, stop by and see what you have been missing. You will instantly discover why they have been the original local market for the past 20 years.

Clemmons Country Store is conveniently located at 2690 Lewisville Clemmons Road in Clemmons. The store is open from 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. Monday through Saturday and 12 p.m. to 5 p.m. on Sundays. If you would like more information, you can call them at (336)766-8988 or visit their website at clemmonscountrystore.com. Be sure to follow Clemmons Country Store on Facebook for updates on new and seasonal products as they become available.

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ANTI-AGING OPTIONS FOR MEN

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON with our excellent Aesthetician, Sherry Harvey.

But if you are looking for body contouring that maybe hours in the gym didn’t take care of, we have that, too. Men seem to like CoolSculpting, because there is no downtime, so time away from work isn’t necessary. Surgically, men tend to choose eyelid rejuvenation, body contouring, male breast reduction or gynecomastia reduction,” said Dr. Scott L. Tucker.

Traditionally, skin care and anti-aging products have been marketed almost exclusively to women. However, men are increasingly becoming more aware and concerned about their appearance as they age. Many times products and treatments geared toward women don’t always provide the same anti-aging benefits for men. Fortunately, there are many effective measures that men can take to reveal a more youthful appearance, and Salem Plastic Surgery with Drs. Scott L. Tucker and Hampton A. Howell can help you with your skin care needs and concerns.

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN INCLUDES THEIR SKIN

You probably don’t need anyone to tell you that men and women are different. But did you know that male skin tends to be about 25% thicker than female skin, and the texture is usually rougher? As a result, creams, serums, as well as topical products designed for women simply aren’t as effective on male skin.

“Because a man’s skin differs in thickness and roughness, you have to make adjustments to treatments, procedures, and products compared to women. With today’s treatment methods, we can help you improve your appearance and have healthier skin. We offer facials and skin care

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Sherry Harvey, Aesthetician at Salem Plastic Surgery, said, “There has been an increase in men concerned about their skin and needing recommendations on how to treat their concerns.

They range from overall better, healthier skin, improved tone and texture, to addressing past acne scarring or sun damage. We can customize skin care regimens for men just like women. Most men aren’t going to do a multiple step process with skin care, so keeping it simple is key. Just a couple of steps, morning and night, can make a big impact on improving overall skin health.”

In addition to facials and body contouring, Salem Plastic Surgery also has injectables like Botox® and Juvederm® to address those fine lines and wrinkles that come with age. For years, Botox® has been the go-to solution for reducing the signs of aging in women, but now men are finding that injectables and non-invasive treatments are good alternatives to surgery.

Langley, RN Nurse Injector said, “Men also want to have a rested and refreshed look in their professional and personal lives. Injectables like Botox® and fillers can help men achieve those goals without interruption of their busy schedules.”

“Men are typically concerned with frown lines, forehead lines, and crow’s feet and Botox® can handle those issues. In fact, for our male patients, Botox® is commonly referred to as ‘Brotox.’ Fillers like Juvederm® can be used to fill in the temple area of men, which over time, can tend to sink in. A filler will add volume to the area, evening it out and producing a more balanced and youthful appearance. For men who have had massive weight loss, body contouring is a great option,” Dr. Hampton A. Howell commented.

Most women have always heard that men age much better than they do, tending to get more distinguished, so why are men interested in anti-aging these days?

“The job market is getting younger and so men are also trying to look their best to be competitive. There is also more of an emphasis these days on health and wellness, so not only are men working out more, they are also more body conscious.

Men work hard to keep their bodies in shape and they like their face to match the work they’ve put into their bodies,” stated Dr. Tucker.

Thanks to today’s treatments and procedures, targeted anti-aging for men is available and it is easier than ever to stay younger-looking beyond your years.

Today’s most popular treatments are highly effective without overdoing it, so you don’t have to worry about looking ‘like you’ve had something done’; you want people to think you look like you just got back from a vacation and are well-rested. “At Salem Plastic Surgery, we offer our male patients, just like our female patients, a full spectrum of options, including surgical ones, to address their anti-aging. Having all options on the table and knowing how best to treat a specific area is important and we have a team in place to do just that for our patients, male and female. It all starts with the patient feeling comfortable with sharing their concerns and then us working together to get the look or the results they want,” Dr. Howell said.

Salem Plastic Surgery is located at 1345-A Westgate Center Drive, Winston-Salem, NC. For more information, call 336-7688483 or visit salemplasticsurgery.com.

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All About Cilantro

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Few (if any) herbs are as hotly debated as cilantro. Basically, you either love it or you hate it.

For those who dislike cilantro, most report that it tastes like soap. It’s baffling to those who enjoy cilantro, but science is on the haters’ side. Those who think cilantro tastes soapy may have a DNA variation in the OR6A2 gene (according to 23andMe.com research). It’s an anomaly that affects up to 14% of the population. While that number seems low in respect to our national population, the intensity with which anti-cilantro advocates shout their disdain is heard loud and clear.

Those who like cilantro, on the other hand, really enjoy it! No fear of their salsa tasting like a bubble bath! And for those who enjoy it – there are a number of health benefits that come from eating cilantro.

1. Cilantro can help detox the body from toxic heavy metals. Puns about ‘80s hair bands aside, metals such as arsenic, lead, mercury, and more are often found in food. Cilantro is a plant that is considered to be a chelator, and chelators can bind themselves to heavy metals and help flush them from the body.

2. Everyone knows that leafy greens are good for the heart! And cilantro is a leafy green. It counts!

Maybe not as much as kale, but it counts.

3. For people with diabetes, cilantro has been studied for its impact on blood sugars. Science has studied how cilantro is effective at balancing blood sugar – something that is good for everyone!

4. If you’re anxious and looking for a way to naturally control your anxiety – cilantro may help. A report in the US National Library of Medicine (Anti-anxiety activity of Coriandrum sativum assessed using different experimental anxiety models) showed that the hydroalcoholic extract from the plant was as effective as a dose of Diazepam (generic name for drugs like Valium). Additional research is being conducted, but it’s an interesting report.

5. Cilantro protects against listeria – a common cause of food poisoning. If you’ve ever experienced food poisoning, you’d likely eat an entire bundle of cilantro whether it tasted like soap or not.

6. Cilantro serves as a digestive aid and has been used worldwide to settle upset stomachs, ease bloating and gas, and relieve heartburn.

7. The coriander seeds of cilantro can also reduce bloating, cramps, and pain during a menstrual cycle.

8. Need to prevent a urinary tract infection?

Those same coriander seeds help relieve UTI symptoms, and cilantro itself has an antibacterial property that fights unhealthy bacteria in the urinary tract.

9. Cilantro has been shown to reduce chronic inflammation.

10. Scientists have evidence that cilantro helps protect the brain from diseases such as Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s disease.

11. Cilantro is a great source of vitamin A which helps promote healthy vision.

12. Fresh cilantro can be blended with coconut oil to create a natural topical salve to treat sunburns, dry skin, poison ivy, and hives.

All these benefits may inspire you to reach for a bowl of salsa! Fortunately, cilantro is an easy-togrow herb, though it does need to be harvested quickly. Extreme heat can also cause it to bolt.

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Fraleigh’s Boutique: Personal style in the heart of Clemmons!

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY JON ERIC JOHNSON PHOTOGRAPHY Living a lifelong dream that affords you the chance to blend family, a love of fashion, and down-to-earth fun on a daily basis might seem too wonderful to be true. For mother-daughter duo Donna Merriman and Mary Bingham, co-owners of Fraleigh’s Boutique in Clemmons, it’s simply their very charmed – and very blessed – life!

If you’re just learning about this much-loved boutique, imagine all the elements you’d want in a favorite retail shop – then triple them – and you’re seeing a profile of what Fraleigh’s Boutique has been about since opening in 1981: Decidedly flattering and easy-to-wear clothing and accessories, and a level of customer service so personal you’ll think you’re basically at home trying on clothes with your best girlfriends. Everything these ladies do is personal – in the very best way. With an enthusiastic team of six incredibly dedicated employees, it’s no surprise their business mantra is this: “We are here for you!”

While we’re cruising in to the month of May – with a colorful and fashionable summer ahead – join us for an inside look at Fraleigh’s Boutique, where Donna shares a peek at the season’s trends!

“Embroidered and embellished jeans – or jeans with fringe or a frayed hem – are definitely going to be a must-have item this spring and summer!” says Donna. Thinking bright color this time of year? “Adding pops of color to your outfit never goes out of style,” she adds. “If you are wearing navy and white (classic summer!), add in a little yellow to your accessories!”

FAMILY ALWAYS

Owning a woman’s boutique was always a dream of Donna’s, and with the unconditional love and guidance from her mom and best friend, Mary, it became a reality. The two have collaborated side-by-side in the family business, which will celebrate 38 years of impeccable service to the women of Clemmons and Forsyth County this coming August.

When their adventure began, Donna was also mothering small children, so she has watched her own family grow, along with the boutique. As Mary has had to lessen her hours in the store due to health reasons, she knows she’s fortunate to have both Donna, and Donna’s daughterin-law, and boutique manager, Ally Merriman, to continue and grow the Fraleigh’s tradition. If you’re curious about the store’s unique name, it comes from a combination of Mary and Donna’s middle names: Mary FRAnces and Donna LEIGH, creating Fraleigh’s.

MAKING IT PERSONAL

Having worked in women’s clothing stores since the age of 15, and having grown up in the area, Donna has loved being in business right in the heart of Clemmons, and she and the Fraleigh’s staff understand the importance of shopping local. It has always been their mission to make sure customers are treated just like family – many have been with them for the entire nearly 38 years – and that their camaraderie carries over into the community.

“We focus on delivering the personal service of a specialty store,” says Donna, noting the daily process is made even more enjoyable with her staff of long-time employees who fall under the category of family themselves.

Fraleigh’s also proudly offers a loyalty program to reward frequent customers for shopping with them. For every $30 a customer spends they receive a stamp. When the stamped card is full – which is a total of $300 – the customer receives a $20 gift certificate to use towards anything in the store, with absolutely no exclusions.

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ENVIABLE STYLE

Fraleigh’s is known for carrying every piece a busy woman’s wardrobe needs, covering sizes two to 20, from trendy blue jeans all the way to cocktail attire and mother-of-the-bride or mother-ofthe-groom dresses, with the perfect shoes and accessories to complement any ensemble.

If you’re all about keeping pace with a “fashion forward” look, or if you’re more traditional (which, thankfully, translates to timeless!), Fraleigh’s has you covered.

Each item of clothing is carefully handpicked by Donna, keeping current trends and color schemes in mind of course, but also keeping the needs and tastes of her current customer base in mind as well. Typically, she only orders three or four pieces of a single item, which means customers know they are buying something special – and best of all – they won’t see countless other women around town in the same outfit!

Even if shopping isn’t your favorite pastime, the ladies at Fraleigh’s are experts at reading your personal style and fashion comfort zone, and putting together an outfit you’ll adore. They are masters at adding a bright spot of color or two, in places that will flatter you most, and promising you’ll feel pretty – and pampered – when you leave the boutique.

A few of the more popular clothing lines include Tribal, Marble, LuLu B., Foxcroft, Luii, Ming Wang, Habitat, Alex Evenings, and Jessica Howard. Also wildly popular – as you’d expect! – are the SlimSation by Multiples, the boutique’s #1 selling pant.

“These pants are all about looking amazing and feeling comfortable at the same time,” says Donna. “SlimSation offers slimming style with a flexible tummy control panel, and can make you feel 10 pounds lighter in mere seconds!”

If fabulous shoes are your shopping obsession, Fraleigh’s carries Onex and Charleston Shoe Company, along with an extensive array of Brighton shoes, jewelry, handbags, and other accessories.

If your basic wardrobe of separates is already in good shape and you simply need inspiration with accessories, these ladies are happy to help tie your look together with polished style.

Welcome spring and summer to your wardrobe with a visit to Fraleigh’s Boutique, located at 2626 Lewisville-Clemmons Road in Clemmons, NC. You can reach them at 336-766-7440, by email at info@fraleighsboutiquenc.com, and follow their updates on current specials and events online at fraleighsboutiquenc. com. Boutique hours are Monday through Friday 10 a.m. – 5 p.m., & Saturday 10 a.m. – 4 p.m.

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Apply the Rule of Thirds

“The ability to decorate well is something I believe inherent. Some individuals can ‘feel’ their way to good decorating while others cannot.

For those that are more left-brained, the rules have order and patterns that will create a well decorated space if followed.” ~ Anita Ericksen

I believe I was born with a ‘decorator gene.’

Even as a young girl when I walked into someone’s home, my mind would rearrange the room and put colors together to make the space more pleasing to the eye.

I never knew any ‘rules of thumb’ or guidelines, but what I did know was whether the space felt or looked good. My training provided me with the knowledge of why it looked or felt good. I learned there are some ‘rules of thumb’ for decorating, but these ‘rules’ are not secrets and I love sharing them. Why? Because my ultimate goal is to help you create a beautiful home.

Most of you know the ‘rule of thumb’ about decorating in odd numbers – usually 1, 3 or 5 – but did you know there is a 2/3’s rule to use as a guideline that will also help in so many decorating decisions?

What size art do you hang over a fireplace mantle? First of all, measure the width of the mantle. The art piece you want to hang should measure 2/3’s the width (example: if your mantle is 60”, then you need to fill up 40”). You can go less, but not much and you can go over a few inches. What you don’t want is for it to look skimpy.

Sometimes a client’s art piece does not quite fill up the 2/3’s space and I fill in with accessories.

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So how high should this piece of art be?

Measure from the top of the mantle to the ceiling and divide into 3rds and fill in 2/3’s of the space. But you may say, “My room has a cathedral ceiling.” So then you have to visualize an 8’ or 9’ ceiling as a visual stopping point.

What about over the bed? Again the 2/3’s guideline works. Consider following the shape of your headboard when placing art above it….. follow the shape with your placement. If you have an ornate headboard, it is not necessary to hang art above it as it may distract from the beautiful headboard.

How high to hang the art above the mantle?

Four to six inches depending on the height of the ceiling or propping directly on the mantle is a good look. Remember, it is about connecting and if you get too far above the mantle, it disconnects.

What about filling shelves on a bookcase?

Fill each shelf approximately 2/3’s with books or accents. The shelf will not look cluttered or too empty.

What size sofa table do I need behind my sofa? Measure the width of your sofa and use the 2/3’s rule as a guideline. Don’t go under more than a few inches, but a few inches over works just fine.

What size coffee table do I need to purchase?

Measure the width of your sofa and use the 2/3’s rule as a guideline. This is one I think going over might be too much but a few inches smaller works also.

What about art over a sofa? Measure the width of the sofa and use the 2/3’s rule if you use a single piece, or a series of pieces together to fill the 2/3’s. If you use more than one piece, hang the pieces no more than hands-width apart and 6” to 8” above the sofa.

Remember that too far apart disconnects.

How high should I hang the drapery rod?

Measure from the top of your molding on your window to the bottom of the ceiling molding; divide into thirds. Hang either in the top 1/3 or the bottom 1/3. If you have a cathedral or high ceiling, use an imaginary 9’ as a visual stopping point.

How far under a bed should you place a rug?

Either 2/3’s under or 1/3 under works just fine.

You need at least 2’ of rug showing on either side of the bed.

Remember – these ‘rules of thumb’ are guidelines and are not written in stone.

Thank you for reading my column each month.

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Hip Chics is the Place for All Your Bridal Party Needs Wedding attire isn’t just about finding the perfect gown, it’s about having a vision for your wedding that will coordinate what everyone is wearing and tying it all together. In case you haven’t heard, Hip Chics Boutique has expanded to help you do just this. With the addition of Hip Chics Prom & Formal Wear and

Village Tuxedo, they now offer a large selection of Mother of the Bride/Groom dresses, Bridesmaids’ and Junior Bridesmaids’ dresses, Flower Girl dresses and tuxedo rentals and purchases. Hip Chics carries an impressive selection of wedding attire to complement all shapes and sizes, spanning a variety of price points.

Creating an Experience

The atmosphere you will experience in this boutique is like no other.

Whether you are shopping for the perfect Mother of the Bride/Groom dress, or planning the wedding attire for your entire party, you will enjoy every step of the process.

The attention to detail and relaxing environment is the ideal combination to allow you a stress-free, one-of-a-kind experience.

Bridesmaids

We have your back for silhouette, style and color. Now all you have to do is choose!

Well Suited

Choose from a number of finely tailored suits or tuxedos to reflect the special mood of your wedding.

Mothers

We want to help you feel calm, confident and comfortable on the big day with our fabulous selection of dresses.

Your Look. Your Way.

You’ve got a special love story to tell, and that means your wedding should be just as unique as your relationship.

Hip Chics Prom & Formal Wear and Village Tuxedo wants to make your vision a reality!

Hip Chics Prom & Formal Wear is located at 2668 Lewisville Clemmons Road.

Find them on Facebook and Instagram @HipChicsBoutique.

Call (336) 766-8122 to schedule your bridal party consult today.

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Forsyth Woman Engaged

Your Portable Wedding Planning Tool

BY TABATHA RENEGAR

Step one: buy some multi-colored sticky notes and have them handy when you sit down with FWE. When you see something you like, whether it’s a full-page ad for wedding jewelry or a chair style in the background that you simply must have at your reception, marking it with a sticky note will ensure that you come back to it later and won’t have to flip through dozens of pages trying to remember where you saw it!

If you’re reading this, you already know that Forsyth Woman magazine is a terrific source for insightful content, along with local event and business information, all with the mission of supporting women and families! Hopefully, you are also a fan of our sister magazines – Forsyth Family, Forsyth Community and Forsyth Woman Engaged.

Oh, what’s that? You just got engaged!? (or are helping someone who is?) Congratulations! Then you are off to a great start because next on your “to do” list is to pick up a copy of the Spring/Summer issue of Forsyth Woman Engaged.

You can’t miss it…. Our latest issue features a gorgeous cover photo that’s sure to catch your eye. As you begin to flip through it, you will catch a glimpse of some beautiful wedding celebrations, helpful articles and happy people. Maybe you will even recognize someone you know on pages 72-79! But we hope that you’ll really use Forsyth Woman Engaged – this issue and past issues – as a sort of portable planner that you carry with you throughout your planning process.

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If you’re really organized, you could even color coordinate your stickies so that you know that the green tabs on Brookstown Inn, Medaloni Cellars, and The Barn at Reynolda Village are the venues you’ve narrowed your choices down to and the pink tabs on Christina’s Dessertery and the cupcakes on page 41 are the cake and dessert options you want to explore!

Of course our Advertisers are a terrific source for the services you will need but there are details in the articles and celebrations that can also be helpful to you. Look for Hannah and Travis’s wedding cake on page 77 – it’s displayed on an amazing floral swing! Perhaps Elizabeth on page 47 has the exact bridal bouquet you are hoping to find?! You might think you’ll remember that you LOVE these ideas in a few months when you start working on your décor plan and meeting floral

designers but by then you will have seen so many ideas, they could get lost. Mark it now so you can come back to it later!

Essentially, you can use FWE the same way you use Pinterest… and we know you do!

Maybe you can even create a twin copy of FWE for your wedding planner with your favorite things highlighted or starred for him/her to research for you!

And feel free to rip us up! That’s right, we won’t mind if you tear some pages out of our newest issue or any past issues! If you are the bride or wedding planner who carries around the fat, 3-ringed binder with sections for the various elements of your event, then we have pocket fillers! Put the article about event furniture in your rentals section, the guide on alcohol quantities fits with your catering information and the ideas for your bridal shower is just plain fun to read with a concept or two that you might want to steal! Tape it to your dressing table mirror so you don’t forget to plan an unforgettable GNO! We don’t mind! Whether it’s a rainbow of sticky notes, folded-in pages, hand written notes in Sharpie ink, we want Forsyth Woman Engaged to be much more than just a pretty magazine on your coffee table. We want it to be your partner in the exciting and busy months spent planning your wedding day!

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Make Way for Summer with Restoration MedSpa Rejuvenate Your Skin & Boost Your Confidence!

BY MARTIE EMORY

When it comes to offering sage, expert advice to their clients, the professionals at Restoration MedSpa have only one priority: YOU! Proud to offer an individualized plan for every client’s unique situation, all in an extremely relaxing spa-like atmosphere, Restoration MedSpa was founded in 2015 by Certified Physician Assistant Marisa Faircloth.

It provides results-oriented procedures for treating the many effects of aging on skin, along with luxury facials, hair removal, weight and fat loss, and the most advanced skincare products in the industry. With two locations – one in Winston-Salem and one in Greensboro – Restoration MedSpa continues to grow (having doubled its size since its inception) and expand its services to fulfill the needs of a very loyal customer base.

A graduate of Wake Forest University School of Medicine, Marisa has more than 35 years of experience in health care, spanning the areas of medical aesthetics, plastic surgery, and weight loss. Along with that impressive resume, she possesses what she calls a God-given gift of relating to others, and a savvy sense of all the elements that contribute to successful client relationships. Along with a staff of seven other professionals, Marisa knows improving one’s confidence can be life changing.

She also knows genetics plays an integral part in aging.

“Becoming aware of familial aging patterns helps a patient to address those concerns early on,” she says. “Most women do follow the aging patterns of their mothers.”

As summer approaches, skincare takes center stage in a woman’s daily routine – or at least, it should!

“Summer is an essential time to take care of your skin,” says Marisa.

“Much of the aging process is caused by damage from sun exposure, so it is very important to protect our skin daily with medical grade sunscreen that includes zinc, titanium, and infrared protection. These elements protect against burning and damage to collagen, as well as offer protection against infrared rays that cause pigment damage.”

(Hint: That means your sunscreen needs to be reapplied every two hours to maintain adequate protection!)

Marisa stresses that most people vastly underestimate the damage sun exposure can cause. “As aesthetic professionals, we are obligated to educate our clients about the importance of sun protection,” she says.

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Every initial skincare consultation at Restoration MedSpa covers the client’s lifestyle, skin type (oily or dry), and any skin disorders or allergic reactions. After reviewing all these factors, a regimen of skin care products and treatments is recommended, with a goal of improving and repairing skin tissue.

For truly putting your “best self” out there, Restoration MedSpa also provides laser hair removal, a process especially popular with clients in their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Although hair removal is definitely on your mind as swimsuits and shorter skirts take center stage, it is actually performed less during the summer, simply because the procedure is best performed on “un-tanned” skin.

Marisa is also credentialed as a Master Level Injector, and has surpassed Diamond Status with Allergan, placing her among the top 500 practices and top one percent of injectors in the entire nation. If you’re considering fillers or Botox in the next few months, these treatments are not affected by the sun, and can easily be performed throughout summertime without any concern.

Dedicated to assisting clients be the very best versions of themselves, Marisa has a personal goal of helping people gain confidence, in order to achieve their goals in life. “When you are more confident and selfassured, all aspects of your life are improved!” she says.

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Restoration MedSpa online at restorationmedspa.com, or call 336-999-8295. Offices are located at 250 Executive Park Blvd., Suite 105 in Winston-Salem, and 1002 N. Church Street, Suite 101 in Greensboro.

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A lifetime love of antiques and vintage treasures – plus a keen sense of style, adventure, and entrepreneurship – has landed Shelle McCollum right where she knows she should be.

Listening to an inner calling to explore new places a few years back, Shelle left behind her hometown of Raleigh to live on the North Carolina coast. But soon her heart – and a relationship – brought her to Winston-Salem. “I had never known much about Winston-Salem prior to moving here, but instantly, it felt comfortable to me,” she explains.

Shelle worked part-time as the receptionist at a car dealership, and rented space in an antique store selling furniture she refinished in her home garage.

A year later, her job ended and the venue space she rented was closing, so Shelle took another leap of faith and made a deal with the landlord to actually rent the building herself. Relying on both the business savvy she had gained from previous endeavors and a strong faith, Shelle immediately was able to rent three of the five rooms in the building to other vendors. “Just getting started was a whirlwind of work, and truly, a wing and a prayer!” she recalls.

Her company name, Carolina Vintiques, is a clever combination of the words antiques and vintage!

“The first year for Carolina Vintiques was awesome,” she says. “Winston-Salem is an entrepreneurial haven! Before long, I had new friends, regular customers, and was learning my way around the city as if I had lived here for 20 years.”

Luckily just as that building was up for development, another location just around the corner became available. “One thing I’ve learned from the businesses I created in Raleigh is that you must always prepare to adapt!” she says.

Today, Shelle welcomes customers to a charming house-turned retail store near Hanestowne Village off Stratford Road.

While the smaller location doesn’t accommodate vendors, Carolina Vintiques does accept consigned items. The shop is ever-changing and overflowing with original condition antiques, painted furniture, and decorative accessories for every room of the home. Be sure to mention what you’re searching for because you never know what she may have hidden or stored away!

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Don’t shy away from a visit if vintage isn’t your thing, because Carolina Vintiques is truly about overall home décor, and Shelle creatively displays her pieces in comfortable vignettes that allow customers to envision each piece right in their own homes.

A cozy haven for home décor!

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

Stocking the store with unique pieces is one side of Shelle’s business, while helping customers learn to decorate their home is the other side, in what she calls Quick Fix with Carolina Vintiques – a venture that invites customers to send photos of their “problem” areas. In turn, Shelle offers suggestions on how to bring balance to that space.

“People want a change, but aren’t sure where to start,” she says.

“If you need a fresh eye to help, take pictures of each room of your house. Stand in the doorway of your room, take three pictures (right, center, left), then stand inside the room and take three more photos.

Create a gallery in your phone for all your current home photos, and another galley for inspiration photos, and you’ll start to see a pattern of what styles you like and specific pieces you need. Also, while visiting another home or location, hone in on what draws you in. For instance, I loved the high bedside tables at a bed & breakfast I stayed at, and couldn’t keep my eyes off them, they were so beautiful!”

Even if you’re renting a house or apartment, you can still make it look like a home. She encourages customers to buy what they love, and everything else will fall into place. It really is about training your eye to things you are drawn to, and creating your environment.

For Shelle, creating a work life that feels like home is important. “I’m growing my business six days a week and come Sunday, I love being home with my dogs and chickens,” she says. “I also love cooking, gardening, and bonfires. For the first time in 57 years, I truly feel at home!”

Make plans to visit the supremely charming Carolina Vintiques, and follow them on Facebook and Instagram to get to know Shelle’s expertise and enthusiasm for home décor! Carolina Vintiques is located at 312 Harvey Street in WinstonSalem, 336-829-1173. Store hours are Monday – Friday 10 a.m. – 6 p.m. and Saturday 10 a.m. – 4 p.m. www.facebook.com/carolinavintiques

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BY KRISTEN ROSSI FASCETT & THE ROSIE GALS, PHOTOS BY ASHLEY BILLINGS PHOTOGRAPHY

After the unimaginable loss of their mother in March of 2014, Rosie Slate’s daughters vowed to keep their beautiful mother’s memory alive somehow. They had lost the love of their lives and their anchor; they struggled with thoughts of moving forward in a world without her. But Ashli, Morgan, and Brooke found strength in moments of remembrance and stories shared of Rosie’s compassion, kindness, and special way of lifting up all those whose lives she touched.

They knew there had to be a way for their mother’s vivacious spirit to live on.

They soon joined forces with close friends to set a plan into motion to keep their mom’s legacy alive by helping others when they needed it most. The inspiration first began with their mother’s favorite quote from another Winston-Salem native, Maya Angelou, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” The conception of a foundation with a mission of uplifting others started out as a simple phrase or hashtag — Make Life Rosie — to help others to continue to see the beauty in life. It grew from a phrase to a call to action to spread kindness, in hopes that, when life feels heavy, even the smallest acts of kindness may brighten someone’s day or give them that bit of support they need to stay strong.

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Being raised by a single mom, they understood the sacrifices a mother endures for her family and often put themselves last. Rosie’s daughters and close friends decided that their nonprofit would focus on brightening lives and uplifting spirits of mothers facing unimaginable challenges. So they went on a mission to Make Life Rosie, one mother at a time.

The first fundraiser began in 2016 for a mother of two who had been battling Lyme disease for 12 years. They were able to help raise funds so she could receive treatment at a facility in Arizona. The love and support that was shown through this made them realize how much more they wanted to do.

Make Life Rosie continued. And now, each year on Mother’s Day, it spreads much-needed joy to mothers with children being treated at Wake Forest Baptist Health/Brenner Children’s Hospital.

Generous donations from our community, family, and friends allow Make Life Rosie to deliver thoughtfully curated gift bags bringing comfort and loving strength to the moms who are spending Mother’s Day with their child in the hospital. Make A Mother’s Day, a Make Life Rosie initiative, is meant to uplift Day moms’ spirits and remind them that taking care of themselves is crucial. As Beth Whicker Smith, Child Life Specialist, noted, “Brenner Children’s Hospital is grateful to have support from the Make Life Rosie Foundation. Their compassion brings smiles to the mothers of critically ill children going through a difficult time. And the care bags they lovingly provide help to uplift the spirits of every recipient.”

Soon after their campaign ended for Mother’s Day last year, the girls began receiving submissions from followers asking if Make Life Rosie could do something special for other mothers in our community who are in major need of a heartwarming surprise. Fundraising would be vital to make these wishes come true.

So when their cause caught the attention of the Kappa Alpha Theta sorority at Wake Forest University, who has chosen Make Life Rosie as their local philanthropy, they were more than honored. The “Rosebuds,” as they are affectionately called, have spread the foundation’s core message and helped raise money for the organization through various events on and off campus.

It is important to understand the power of kindness: that it can shift mindsets and make the world a brighter and happier place. Make Life Rosie is on to something, and this is just the beginning. The girls have high hopes and plans to grow Make Life Rosie. If you would like to make a donation, submit the name of a mother in need, or volunteer your time to help make others’ lives “Rosie,” please visit our website at makeliferosiefoundation.com.

Instagram: @MakeLifeRosie Facebook: @MakeLifeRosie

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Just Feeling Sad? Or Could You Be Depressed?

How to Tell the Difference

BY DEBBIE BARR

Life is full of emotional ups and downs. From time to time everyone feels sad, disappointed, or discouraged. These “blue” feelings usually occur in response to circumstances and it is normal to feel a bit “down” when difficult things happen. So how do you know if you are just feeling normal sadness or whether you are depressed?

One way to tell is by how long the feelings last. Normal sadness doesn’t last long.

Depression is different. It lingers on and on, and eventually keeps you from functioning normally in everyday life at work or school, and in relationships.

WHAT IS DEPRESSION?

Depression is less about our circumstances and more about our biology. That is, depression is actually a medical condition. However, major stressful events such as divorce, caregiving, or abuse can deplete our resources and make us more vulnerable to depression. On most days, for much of the day, a depressed person will experience symptoms such as: • Feeling sad, tearful, and/or hopeless • Feeling tired or fatigued • Difficulty thinking, concentrating, deciding, completing tasks, and remembering • Feeling angry, irritable, restless, and/ or anxious • Losing interest in normal activities or unable to find pleasure in them • Sleeping too much or having trouble sleeping • Little appetite or eating too much • Slower thinking, speaking, and/or moving • Feeling worthless or guilty, focusing on failures or self-blame • Thoughts about death or suicide • Physical problems such as back pain and/ or headaches There are several types and subtypes of depression. Three examples are: • Clinical depression (also called major depression). According to the National Institute of Mental Health, about 6.7% of the adults in the United States have this type

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of depression, and it affects twice as many women as men. That said, it is known that depression among men is underreported.

• Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). SAD is a subtype of clinical depression that follows a seasonal pattern. It occurs in the fall as the hours of daylight diminish. In the spring, as daylight increases, SAD symptoms fade. SAD occurs because the seasonal changes in light disrupt the body’s Circadian rhythms, the internal 24-hour “body clock” that regulates the production of the brain chemicals serotonin and melatonin.

• Dysthymia. Dysthymia is a milder version of clinical depression, but it can be longer lasting. While less severe, dysthymia can keep you from being your best and enjoying your life. It often begins in childhood and is thought to be more common in women.

The National Institute of Mental Health says that about 1.5% of Americans suffer from dysthymia.

WHAT SHOULD I DO IF I AM DEPRESSED?

Because depression is a medical condition, it almost always requires medical treatment.

You can’t just “snap out of it” on your own.

You’ll need your doctor’s help. He or she can determine which type of depression you have and what type of treatment is best for you.

Most people are helped by an antidepressant medicine, “talk therapy” with a mental health professional, or both.

About 2/3 of people with clinical depression do not seek treatment.

According to WebMD, the consequences of not seeking treatment for depression “…can be devastating: personal suffering, missed work, broken marriages, health problems and, in the worst cases, death.”

This is especially regrettable since 70% of those who do seek help will often improve in a matter of weeks.

Failure to seek treatment is also regrettable for a reason many don’t realize: when depression goes untreated, it can become more severe.

Worse, the longer a person delays treatment, the more likely it is that depression will recur when treatment ends.

If the symptom list above describes you, it’s time to take action. Don’t isolate yourself from others; instead, reach out for support and do not delay seeking treatment. Make an appointment with your doctor or a mental health counselor as soon as you can.

Meanwhile, talk to a trusted friend, your pastor or faith leader, or a family member. If you think you might harm yourself, call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800273-TALK (1-800-273-8255). If you are suffering with depression, there is plenty of help and support available to you, so reach out for it.

You can feel better!

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The Perfect Steak

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Ah, steak. For a carnivore, steak is the epitome of good eats. But all steaks are not equal. The following serves as a guide for how to customize and prepare your perfect steak.

FIRST, CHOOSE YOUR CUT. YOUR OPTIONS INCLUDE:

• Pan Seared – A great way to get a perfectly seared steak, the cast iron skillet is heated in the oven at 500 degrees, then as soon as it’s hot, move the pan to a stove top to sear the steak with butter. The secret is not to move the steak as it sears.

• T-Bone – a popular choice since it’s essentially two cuts in one. The tenderloin on one side and the strip steak on the other.

• Broiling – This method can be hit or miss, depending on your oven broiler. While some swear by it, it can be expensive to learn how to broil a steak at home properly.

• Porterhouse – a large cut of steak, the porterhouse gives a bigger portion (up to three inches thick!), but they tend to be less tender than other cuts.

FINALLY, CHOOSE YOUR PERFECTLY COOKED STEAK.

• Rib Eye – A favorite for many, this cut, as the name implies, comes from the rib area of the cow, and the marbling of fat gives it a great flavor and texture combination.

• Filet Mignon – Though pricy, it’s one of the best cuts of beef, and filet mignon is a thicker cut, tender, and full of flavor.

• Top Sirloin – While this cut isn’t quite as tender, it’s a rich and flavorful cut of beef.

• Strip Steak – Strip steaks come from a large area of the cow, and are generally longer, thinner cuts of beef. The cuts that are closer to the ribs are more tender than the cuts that are closer to the loin area.

SECOND, CHOOSE YOUR SEASONING. THE POSSIBILITIES ARE ENDLESS, BUT SOME IDEAS INCLUDE: • A coffee rub – Coffee rubs act as a tenderizer and also enhance the flavor of the beef.

• Herbs and spices – Different spice combinations can enhance a steak’s flavor in different ways. An Herbs de Provence made from thyme, marjoram, rosemary, oregano, sage, or allspice is a good option. Other options include a cumin steak rub or a Montreal rub, which is made from pepper, paprika, salt, garlic, onion, cayenne pepper, coriander, and dill seeds.

Gauge your steak’s doneness without a thermometer with “The Finger Test.” Based on which finger is touching your thumb, the fleshy part of your hand (compared to the firmness of the steak) will help identify the level of doneness.

Your options are: • Well done – If this is your preference, the big question to ask yourself is, “Why?” If this is the doneness you insist on going for, the steak’s final temperature should be at 160 degrees. The Finger Test would be if your pinky and thumb come together – the firmness of your skin under your thumb will feel hard as a rock, just like your steak.

• Medium well – This level of doneness results in a slightly softer rock, at 150 degrees. It still has a small bit of pink, but still, the steak has been massacred. For this Finger Test, pair your thumb and ring finger. It’s a little softer, but not by much.

• Medium – This steak is red throughout and would come in at 140 degrees. This is the thumb / middle finger combination on the Finger Test.

It’s tender, but not quite there.

• Medium rare – Now we’re talking. This steak is 130 degrees, red in the center, and pink on the edges. Super tender as demonstrated by the thumb and first finger in the Finger Test

• Salt and pepper – There’s nothing like a classic – plain ‘ole salt and pepper is arguably one of the best ways to season a steak.

• Rare – At 120 degrees, the rare steak is still a delicious way to eat a steak. A very red center is warm, but it’s not a great option for heavily marbled steaks as the fat does not have time to melt and help flavor the beef. For this Finger Test, it’s really just about holding out your hand and poking the fleshy part under your thumb.

THIRD, CHOOSE YOUR COOKING METHOD. SOME OF YOUR OPTIONS INCLUDE:

• Blue Rare – The rarest steak is served at 115 degrees and is only seared on the outside; the inside is almost completely uncooked and raw. It would be cool on the inside.

• Grilling – Use charcoal for that great smoky flavor. Grilling isn’t just about cooking a great piece of meat (though the results are there), it’s an experience.

A delicious cut of steak is a wonderful meal to enjoy, and various factors go into making the perfect steak! What’s your perfect steak?

Author’s Note: The perfect steak for me would be a filet mignon, seasoned with salt and pepper, pan seared with butter until it’s medium rare. Delicious!

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IT’S TIME WE MAKE PRE-K A PRIORITY

BY FAMILY SERVICES

All children in Forsyth County deserve the opportunity to succeed in school and in life. Brain science has confirmed what most parents already know, namely, that the first five years of life are a time of tremendous physical, social, emotional, and cognitive development. These years are especially critical for the construction of a child’s developing brain.

Unfortunately, too many children in Forsyth County are not reaching their full potential. Nearly half are not proficient in reading by third grade.

From there, it’s hard to catch up. A Harvard University study ranks Forsyth County as the 5th worst out of 2,873 counties in the nation for helping poor children move up the economic ladder.

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Fortunately, there are proven ways to help children enter kindergarten ready to achieve socially, emotionally, and academically.

Extensive research over the past forty years shows that high-quality Pre-K programs are a wise investment that close educational achievement gaps and improve health and well-being far into adulthood.

Forsyth County is poised to provide all families with the opportunity to enroll their four-year-old children in affordable, highquality Pre-K programs. We can build on the solid standards and best practices of current programs funded by the North Carolina Pre-K Program (NC Pre-K) and provided in classrooms in the Winston-Salem Forsyth County Schools, at Family Services Head Start program, and in private community childcare centers.

There’s still much work to do. Any expansion of the current system will require improvements in quality, additional facilities, more qualified and better compensated teachers, and the establishment of an administrative structure to ensure uniform practices and positive outcomes.

We know what needs to be done and how to do it. But to make this vision a reality, support is needed from elected officials, business and civic leaders, and everyday people committed to the well-being of our community.

The time has come for Forsyth County to take this step on behalf of its youngest children – our future workers, parents, citizens, and leaders.

If not now, when?

For information, visit RaisingEveryChild.org or PreKPriority.org.

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Beauty • Wellness • Culture

BY ADELE CASANOVA, PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

When we feel our best, we look our best. Taking care of ourselves in this everchanging world is key to our health and happiness. What better way to do that than visit a salon spa where experienced professionals deliver personal care services in a relaxing, enriching atmosphere? You will find that very place at Halo Salon Spa in Winston-Salem. Halo Salon Spa has been serving their loyal clients for over seven years. They value their client’s health and happiness and proudly use and recommend Aveda products.

Halo Salon Spa’s team is trained on a continuing basis in the use and techniques of Aveda products and protocols. They are dedicated to delivering the latest, innovative products and services to their clientele. They embrace the environmentally conscious philosophy of Aveda, including cruelty-free, nonanimal tested products, natural plant-based formulas, 100% post-consumer PET packaging, and most importantly, Aveda’s community services and charitable giving, especially to protect water quality throughout the world.

At Halo Salon Spa, you will enjoy hair design services, skin care, and massage therapies, as well as nail services. Hair design services include everything from cut and style for men, women, and children, to color work, hair extensions and botanical treatments for hair and scalp health. Color work available includes full color, color refresh, color correction, and clear gloss, as well as dimensional color such as hi/lo lights and Ombre/Balayage. And don’t forget the creative and experienced updo services for special occasions, proms, and weddings.

The estheticians at Halo Salon Spa are dedicated to offering the best skin care therapies available. They understand that stress, diet, and daily environmental pollutants trigger skin conditions such as acne, sensitivity, dryness, and premature aging. The holistic Aveda approach to skin care at Halo uses pure botanicals that produce results. Treatments include customized product formulas and, relaxing massage techniques. The many specialized facial therapies available at Halo Salon Spa can renew, repair and rejuvenate your skin using Aveda’s high-tech plant technologies. Halo offers a botanical skin resurfacing treatment that uses the power of tourmaline, a crystalline mineral with natural detoxifying properties, to smooth skin texture, reduce the appearance of fine lines and diminish pore size, while significantly increasing radiance, all with less irritation than salon microdermabrasion.

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Halo’s talented team of estheticians also offer waxing services, makeup application, and lash and brow tinting. And the popular Halo Body Bronzing sunless tanning service is very popular for those who wish to sport a tan without exposing their skin to the harsh aging effects of the sun.

The experienced massage therapists at Halo Salon Spa offer a variety of rejuvenating, relaxing massage techniques. Massage is not only a wonderful experience, it is also a healthful treatment to increase circulation, improve flexibility and reduce stress. At Halo you can experience massage therapies that include hot towels, aromatherapy, hot stones, relaxing Swedish massage, and rejuvenating deep tissue massage. Consider Halo’s Stress Fix Exfoliating Body Treatment to renew your body and mind. This stimulating and nurturing dry body wrap smooths and softens the skin. Essences of lavender and clary sage will awaken your senses, while a scalp and foot massage balances the body.

Last but not least, enjoy the benefits of nail services at Halo Salon Spa. Experience incredibly rich moisture therapy that soothes dry hands and tired feet using hydrating plant emollients, humectants, exfoliating fruit acids, and antioxidants, including vitamin E, to provide relief to the skin and help seal in moisture. Halo nail therapists offer a variety of services including Essential and Spa manicures and pedicures, Stress Fix manicures and pedicures, and Aveda Fusion Hot Stone Pedicure.

You can enjoy all these services and more in a beautifully appointed facility designed and decorated for your privacy and enjoyment. Halo Salon Spa is the largest Aveda salon in the area and is the perfect place to celebrate bridal parties, girls’ night out parties, or any special group event you may be planning. Halo also offers couples massage for a relaxing, rejuvenating and romantic experience.

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To read about all the wonderful Aveda based therapies and services available at Halo, visit their website at haloaveda.com, or call them at 336-893-9604. They are open Tuesday through Thursday 10:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m., Friday 10:00 a.m. to 7:00 p.m. and Saturday 9:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. Follow Halo Salon Spa on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter to learn about upcoming specials and exciting new therapy options. Halo Salon Spa is conveniently located at 690 Jonestown Road, Winston-Salem 27103.

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Small Talk 101 What’s Your Story?

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Telling stories is powerful. You’re creating a connection between people and ideas – and the best stories often create trust among the teller and listener, especially if the story is authentic. They are incredibly memorable – so much so that psychologist Jerome Brunner conducted research as part of his learning theory, based on the theme that learning is an active process – and concluded that when facts are part of a story, they are 20 times more likely to be remembered.

Wouldn’t you love to have your elevator pitch – or your story – be remembered, versus just part of the sea of people that might be at a networking event?

Using story as part of your elevator pitch is not only a powerful and confident choice, it’s effective. Stories tap into multiple modalities of learning: according to Paul Smith, author of ‘Leader as Storyteller: 10 Reasons it Makes a Better Business Connection,’ in any group you’re going to have 40% visual learners, 40% auditory learners and 20% kinesthetic learners. Stories encompass all of those learning styles: visual folks can imagine, auditory folks can listen and kinesthetic can emotionally connect.

How do we incorporate storytelling smoothly into our elevator pitch? Here are three simple ways to make the transition. Before diving into this next level – tap into your basic introduction. Mine is: ‘Hi, I’m Jen and I’m a small business owner.’ Simple, sweet and specific

THINK ABOUT YOUR BIG MOMENTS

I think people call these ‘war stories.’ What has happened in your career that people might be interested in? Before you talk about everything that has ever happened to you, remember the advice from Part One – think about your audience. Consider what they want before you decide what stories matter.

When you’ve isolated an audience – maybe it’s the next audience you’re going to be around in your networking journey – think about what stories would resonate with them. Think of your successes and challenges, while you’re thinking about the reason we tell stories.

Will someone have an ‘Oh, me, too!’ moment? Will they connect because of your story? Think of all of your experiences as a toolbox: you don’t want to pull everything out when all you need is a wrench.

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FLESH OUT YOUR DAY

If you’re stuck or dealing with imposter syndrome when you’re thinking about your successes and challenges, think about your day. A story, simply put, is an account of past events or an evolution of things – your day was a thing, right?

With this kind of story, think about what you do in the youiest day of your week.

Some of my days are boring – I go to my space, I work and seek to slay the email hydra (send one, archive it, and get three more), I go home and eat something a few times a day. Some days, though, are very indicative of me – they aren’t out of the ordinary, but they might involve teaching improv, going to a meeting about women’s entrepreneurship, cleaning and mopping my space, making granola for the week and tending to my DIY kombucha.

List out the events that would happen in a day that makes you YOU, and see if you can make it applicable to a networking question of ‘What do you do?’

Mine might be: ‘Today I taught a group of people how to communicate across departments, then talked about helping women entrepreneurs level up their businesses. It was plant day in my space, so I got to water some of my children, then panicked a bit about my kombucha SCOBY.’ Evocative? Yes. The best elevator pitch?

Not yet…

MOVE IT TO AUDIENCE FOCUS

Self-centered stories aren’t often the best ones. You can see if you can make it audience focused, but this one takes some time. Think about your ‘me’ and ‘I’ sentences, and see if you can translate them into something that takes the audience in account a bit more. What might ‘we’ have in common? You could toss the whole elevator pitch idea, and ask an open-ended question that leads into your story.

Using my example from earlier, you might ask, ‘Have you ever been to a professional development session on communication?’ Depending on their answer, you can either say, ‘So I take the presentation you sat through, and make it interactive, where you are practicing those communication skills.’ You’ve tapped into their experience, and from there, you can move forward with your story.

Stories are a great way to engage someone’s listening skills in networking. Join us soon for part three: entrances and exits.

10th Annual

A fun-filled family day! Rain or shine!

JOHN GOLDEN FRAMES & FOTOS

Presented by Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce

Saturday, May 4, 2019 • 10 am to 2 pm

Jerry Long Family YMCA, 1150 S. Peace Haven Road, Clemmons

FREE ADMISSION Please bring non-perishable or canned food donations for the Clemmons Food Pantry.

PLATINUM SPONSORS Clemmons Community Day CORPORATE SPONSORS

Event Emcee: WXII’s Kimberly Van Scoy

COMMUNITY SPONSOR

Abbott’s Frozen Custard • Ava’s Cupcakes • Carlos Ramirez Peruvian BBQ • Chick-fil-A • Food Freaks Good Times Bar-B-Cue • Honky Tonk Smokehouse • Kona Ice of Kernersville • Mediterraneo Pizza & Grill Presto! by Elizabeth’s • Sunset Slush • Taqueria Luciano • Tastes from Scratch •The Ice Queen

ACTIVITIES

Local Business Displays • Face Painting • Ladder Firetruck • Super Slide • Rock Climbing Wall • Gem Mining • Spoken Word Poetry • Music • NASCAR Show Car & Simulator • Fitness Demonstrations • Trackless Train • AND MUCH MORE! Additional Parking and Shuttle: Wake Forest Baptist Health Medical Plaza - Clemmons. No pets, alcohol, or smoking allowed.

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Mother’s Day Gift Guide

Ellie Ray Boutiuque Give the gift of style with something special from Ellie Ray Boutique!

Mom will love the beautiful, stylish options available!

A variety of sizes are available, and gift cards are one-size-fits-all!

Located on 1320 Creekshire Way, Winston-Salem 336.727.3796.

Inner Strength Pilates Give Mom a chance to unwind and detox with the Lymphatic Enhancement Therapy package available at Inner Strength Pilates!

Take $40 off; must be used by June 30th.

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Wood & Thread Bouitque

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Give Mom the gift of style for her home or closet this Mother’s Day. A great selection of gifts ranging from pottery, fragrance, jewelry, and more, we’re sure to have something for the special mom in your life. Wood & Thread is located at 301 Brookstown Ave. Suite 500 in Winston-Salem, NC or give us a call at 336.842.5761.

Tour de Boutique Give Mom the gift of a day together! The Forsyth Woman Tour de Boutique has been a favorite event for mothers and daughters for years! Tell Mom your taking her shopping on October 12th to some of the best locally owned boutiques in the Triad! Enjoy Forsyth Woman-exclusive savings at every stop!

Only $40 per person! Register online at TinyURL.com/2019TDB.

Forsyth Plastic Surgery Allure’s 2017 Best of Beauty Breakthrough is available at Forsyth Plastic Surgery! Give Mom a protective antioxidant serum that will make her skin feel soft and look beautiful!

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Windsor Jewelers Temple St. Clair’s fashions are created with rare colored gems and distinctive gold work. Featured here are her Moonface and Oasis pendants. Tell Mom you love her to the moon and back with these special pieces and see these stunning pieces and many others from Temple St. Clair at Windsor Jewelers today!

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Hip Chics Boutique Unique, versatile, and elegant are few attributes that describe J. Mills Studio jewelry, but they also epitomize MOM! This year, spoil her with a beautiful piece of handcrafted, locally-made jewelry from J. Mills Studio.

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Lewisville Laser & Aeshetics We’re obsessed with SkinMedica products, and your mom will be too!

Treat Mom to skincare that lives up to its promises! She deserves it!

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Hip Chics Boutique

Camel City Boutique

Pink Picasso Paint by Number Kits make the perfect gift and keepsake for a special mom! Allow her to paint and relax, reflect, and renew herself!

Oak River Bags All bags are full grain leather, the highest quality leather in the market! The more you carry it, the better it looks! These bags are built to last and to be handed down for generations! All bags have a two-year manufactures warranty. Every purchase helps Purple Heart Homes, a nonprofit organization that helps Veterans purchase or renovate their homes so they can live independently and with dignity.

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Kim Taylor & Co. Our charcuterie boards are perfect for Mother’s Day entertaining.

They are available in round at $32 and rectangular at $30.

A great gift for all occasions!

153 South Stratford Road in Winston-Salem, next to Midtown Café and Dessertery. Check us out on Instagram @kimtaylorco and Facebook @KimTaylorandCo | 336-722-8503 | kimtaylorco@msn.com See ad on page 81.

Windsor Jewelers Designed with the modern woman in mind, these spectacular pieces are from Charles Krypell’s Mother of Pearl collection. Make it a special gift for Mom or pick these up as the perfect accessories for you!

See all of Charles Krypell’s collections at Windsor Jewelers.

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Wine Merchants Mom will love a bottle of wine or gift card to Wine Merchants! The best wines and best prices in the area, plus unique, boutique, small production, sustainable, bio dynamic, organic wines are all available.

Make reservations for Mom to enjoy a structured wine dinner, offered monthly to showcase wines, wineries, and themes! Or, sign her up for a monthly wine class, wine tasting, or other special event! Gift cards can be used in the store or the Bistro for brunch, dinner, or wine dinner!

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Penny Lane Boutique Penny Lane Boutique has a great selection of stylish gifts that Mom will love -- and some you’ll love for yourself! Treat your Mom and all the mother-figures in your life to something special she’ll enjoy!

Located at 6311 Stadium Drive, Suite B in Clemmons (between Lowes foods and K-Mart) 336.661.8336

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“Trust is the channel through which My peace flows through you.”

BY BROOKE EAGLE, PHOTOS BY PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

As you are reading this, my mom, Forsyth Woman Publisher, Keela Johnson has officially completed her radiation treatments for “Breast Cancer 2.0!” Many of you know that Mom was diagnosed with breast cancer for a second time in October 2018, after being cancer free for over 12 years. We were extra surprised because she had a double mastectomy in 2007 and the chance for recurring cancer after that surgery is so slim. But when she found the lump, she trusted her female intuition and called the doctor. Sure enough, it was cancerous and in December, Mom went through surgery. Surgery went amazingly well—and recovery was fairly quick.

Fast forward to January 21st. In the middle of making plans for radiation, my dad collapsed from a massive stroke. We thank God that he was inside when it happened, and Mom was able to call 911. They caught it quickly enough for him to receive the TPA medication. His recovery is nothing short of a miracle.

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- Sarah Young, Jesus Calling

With my dad’s frequent post-stroke physical therapy appointments, and Mom’s radiation treatments, they have been burning up the roads with multiple doctors’ appointments a week. It was a good thing Mom LOVED her radiation oncologist, Dr. Oh, and looked forward to her weekly meetings with him after radiation.

“As a radiation oncologist,” continued Dr. Oh, “of course we treat cancers, but it is essential that we also think about survivorship or life after cancer. Keela has done great with this, and perhaps all the breath holding she did will translate into a new hobby -- diving for lost jewelry in Lake Norman!”

On April 5th, Keela Johnson became another survivor and rang the bell in honor of completing her radiation treatments! We are so proud of her! It has not been an easy journey.

The good news is that thanks to a new radiation treatment procedure in which she would hold her breath for 30 – 50 seconds at a time, she is now fully prepared to be a professional scuba diver! Dr. Oh shared, “Deep Inspiratory Breath Hold (DIBH) and Intensity Modulated Radiation Therapy (IMRT) are the latest technological advancements in radiation therapy. These methods reduce the radiation dose to normal tissues and decrease the probability of late toxicities in the years following radiation.

One of Mom’s strategies for getting through her DIBH treatments was to focus on saying a prayer for a different person during each of her 14 daily breath holds. It helped keep her focus in a positive direction and, as a bonus, made the time go faster!

Mom’s faith and positivity throughout this process have been nothing short of amazing to witness. Dealing with having cancer is a huge ordeal in itself, but combined with a few other issues that our family has going on, makes it extra impressive. Not to mention publishing a monthly magazine on top of all of this.

Keela rang the bell on April 5th! She was surrounded by family and friends, as well her medical team – all who have held her hand throughout this journey. “I am so thankful to everyone,” shared Keela. “I could easily fill every page of this magazine with names of people who have extended kindness, support, and prayers for us as we’ve traveled this road.” Keela has raved about her medical team and with that in mind – a special shout out to the following: Dr. Phimo Oh was Keela’s radiation oncologist.

“I love this man!” Keela exclaimed. “He has walked with me every step of the way, and I’m so thankful to have had access to his compassionate care, expertise, and patience for my millions of questions.

I have literally trusted this man with my life, and there aren’t enough words to properly thank him!”

Dr. Douglas Miyazai has been Keela’s OBGYN and friend since the early 1990s. “In fact,” Keela shared,” he delivered my son, Tanner!” Dr. Miyazai diagnosed Keela with breast cancer in 2007 and again in 2018. “While you never want to hear the words, ‘You have cancer,’” said Keela, “you couldn’t ask for a better cheerleader and advocate than Dr. Miyazai!”

Dr. David Carr was Keela’s surgeon in 2007 and again in 2019. “Surgery is always scary,” said Keela.

“But Dr. Carr’s care and exceptional attention to detail have been instrumental in this battle. I hope I never need surgery again, but if I do, Dr. Carr is amazing. I would trust him every time.”

Dr. Erin Jepsen is an oncology specialist. “Dr. Epsen has been awesome since Day 1, guiding our family through this process,” said Keela. “She has a way of taking complicated medical words and putting them in laymen’s terms so we could easily understand them. She was not only patient with me, but with my whole family!”

“It has truly been a pleasure caring for Keela and getting to know her and her family during their cancer journey,” said Dr. Oh. “She is a special person to balance her diagnosis and treatment, all while never leaving her husband’s side, and managing her busy career and family.”

1. Reach out. Send a quick text or leave a Facebook comment. Don’t question for one second “if they’ll notice,” or “if it even matters.”

I can assure you, it does. Every thought and prayer meant so much to my family, and I feel that is true with anyone going through a hardship. A side note to that though is don’t be offended if you don’t get a response. It doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate you reaching out!

Yes, my mom really is a superwoman.

2. Family is everything. I think we all know this to some degree, but going through the hard stuff makes us appreciate our family (and our friends that feel like family) at a whole new level.

Keela inspires our whole family, her friends, and me daily. I am so proud to be able to call her my mom and my best friend, but also to have the privilege of working with her every day. She remains faithful, trusting in God’s plan even when she may not fully understand it.

Going through something like this has taught our family a few things that I would like to share with you.

3. Trust the plan. It can be really hard to let go of that control, but you have to! We aren’t in control here, but He is. The sooner we learn that the less anxiety and fear-filled our lives will be.

“I do My greatest works through people with grateful, trusting hearts. Rather than planning or evaluating, practice trusting me and thanking Me continually. This is a paradigm shift that will revolutionize your life.” – Sarah Young, Jesus Calling

“Several nurses were my lifeline in the middle of all this,” shared Keela. “I have to give special shouts out to Tammy (Dr. Oh’s nurse), April (Dr. Carr’s nurse), and Toni (Dr. Epsen’s nurse). These ladies were bombarded with questions every time we talked! Yet, each one of them were kind, patient, and professional – even when we asked the same thing twice! These women have gifts of kindness that they have well-utilized in their respective roles.”

“Many others gave me exceptional treatment,” said Keela. “I wish I could list everyone, but please know that I am forever grateful for you. I am here today because God has allowed it and has blessed all of you with the skills you needed to take care of me during Breast Cancer 2.0. While I hope and pray I never need this kind of care again, I know if I am – I’m in the right hands – His and yours.”

Beyond her medical team, Keela shared, “Our family, friends, church family, and magazine team have been amazing. They’ve stepped in and helped out in so many ways, and Tim and I are forever indebted to them for their support. Our daughter, Brooke, took on the role of Johnsonfamily Communicator and kept everyone in the loop through beautifully written updates on our Caring Bridge page! Plus, she’s taken on additional responsibilities with the magazines when my time was limited due to so many doctors’ appointments.

I am so blessed to have so many incredible people in my life.”

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Gifts & Paper on Plaza

BY VONDA HENDERSON

What have you looked forward to all winter? Warm weather! Well, it’s finally here and summer is just around the corner. So, what plans do you have for these warm days and nights? Staying outdoors as much as possible, no doubt. Hitting the pool, lake, or enjoying the sounds of waves on the coast. What does all this have to do with Gifts and Paper on Plaza you ask? Good question! Robyn and her team have been busy selecting new, fun ways to spruce up your wardrobe, adding new items to make backyard entertaining fun for you and your guests, and stocking up on beach gear that creates fun for the entire family.

So, let’s take a look, shall we?

TO BRIGHTEN YOUR LOOK

The MSC Crossbody bags are just the thing to spice up your spring/summer outfits. They look great with any outfit, from casual to date night. Pick the color or colors you love to wear – hot pink, vibrant green, classic navy, or cream. With crossbody straps and a sassy tassel, you’re ready to go. For a minimalist look, check out the wristlets in those same colors or even a wrist key bracelet.

If you love the oversized bag look, you don’t want to miss the beach bags with bold color block pops of color from the Main Street Collection. Stripes of color, solids, or blocks, these are definitely made for summer, whether you carry them around town or just use them for the beach!

Add some shades by Peepers and new tassel earrings in summery colors, and you’re good to go!

BACKYARD ENTERTAINING

Make entertaining easy with the new selection of paper products from Rifle Paper Company. Their floral patterned tableware is perfect for an afternoon luncheon or outdoor meal with family and friends. Pick up matching plates, placemats, cups, straws, and even toothpicks. Enjoy the event without worrying about cleanup!

Add Goverre’s portable wine cups and a copper ice bucket with tongs to keep drinks cold. Pick up a marble and wood trimmed cheeseboard or Lazy Susan for appetizers.

FUN IN THE SUN! WHERE’S THE BEACH?

Make your trips to your favorite pool, lake, or beach extra special this year.

Gifts and Paper on Plaza now carries Sunnylife beach items. How about a new Ice, Ice Baby cooler bag in hot pink – lightweight and portable.

Buy yourself a new, round beach towel; better yet, have it monogrammed so there’s no mistake it’s yours (allow two weeks for completion).

Bring your tunes with Sunnylife Beach Sounds – battery powered, sand/ water resistant, with storage for your iPhone.

More fun in the sun? Gifts and Paper on Plaza also has oversized games in bright colors, so they don’t get lost in the sand. Giant pick-up sticks or jumbling tower games. Have a card game with waterproof playing cards.

And after a fun-filled day, pack all your wet gear up in a waterproof Dry Sack for the ride home.

Come by Gifts and Paper on Plaza and see what’s new for spring/summer.

Enjoy the warm weather with outdoor entertaining and fun days in the sun.

Gifts and Paper on Plaza has what you need to make that backyard event special and a day at the beach fun for all. As one customer was heard to comment on a recent visit, “I just come here for all my gift shopping.”

The shop is conveniently located off Stratford Road at 3301 Healy Drive with hours from Monday through Friday, 9:00 am to 4:00 pm, and Saturdays by appointment. Questions, call them at 336.768.9909 or via e-mail (shop2@goslenprinting.com). Visit their website (giftsandpaperonplaza.com) anytime and shop with ease from your favorite chair. Don’t forget to follow them on social media as well (Facebook, Pinterest, or Instagram). Summertime living is easy with a visit to Gifts and Paper on Plaza!

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The Not-So-Sweet Truth About

BY DEBBIE BARR

We’ve all heard the buzz about sugar: too much of the sweet stuff is not good for you. But is that really true? What’s so bad about sugar? I decided to find out.

On my fact-finding journey, I learned that the concern is not so much about natural sugars, the kinds that occur in nature and make fruit and milk taste good. Rather, health experts say the villain is added sugar—the large amounts of sugar we consume in the goodies and treats we enjoy: pie, cookies, jam, donuts, syrup, ice cream, pastries. Beyond all that, what many people don’t know is that biggest source of added sugar in the American diet is sugar-sweetened beverages: energy drinks, specialty coffees, regular soda, and the sweet tea we southerners love so much. All of this added sugar in our foods and drinks contributes zero nutrients but lots of calories. Those calories can add up to extra pounds that make us overweight or obese, sabotaging our health.

Here’s what some experts have to say: • The American Heart Association doesn’t sugar-coat its message (pun intended, sorry!) about added sugars: “Consuming too much may make you sick and may even shorten your life.”1 • The Harvard Health blog says that excess sugar is bad for the brain: “…high sugar intake has a negative effect on cognition, and it has also been implicated in hyperactivity and inattention in children and adolescents.”2 • The Mayo Clinic: “…there is some evidence that consuming large amounts of sugar is associated with an increased risk of certain cancers, including esophageal cancer. It can also lead to weight gain and increase the risk of obesity and diabetes, which may increase the risk of cancer.”3

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But how much added sugar is “too much”?

According to the American Heart Association, women should consume no more than 100 calories a day from added sugars (that’s 6 teaspoons), and men should consume no more than 150 calories (9 teaspoons). However, staying within those limits is not so easy. Two examples: one 12-ounce regular soda contains 8 teaspoons of sugar. A cup of low-fat yogurt can contain 12 teaspoons of sugar. In addition, added sugar lurks in so many places you would never expect to find it (like low-fat yogurt). And that’s just the problem— we don’t find it; we’re unintentionally consuming added sugar that is hiding in plain sight.

As a result, most of us consume about 15 teaspoons of sugar every day without even realizing it.

There are two things you can do to sleuth out the added sugars hiding in your food:

1. Read Labels. Sugar has lots of names. Most people know some of them: honey, molasses, and cane sugar, for example. But if a label lists any of the following, it’s a sugar, too: maltose, sucrose, rice syrup, dextrose, lactose, fruit juice concentrate, high fructose corn syrup, refiner’s syrup, barley malt, and maltodextrin. (There are many others.) If you look closely at the labels on the foods in your pantry right now, you will likely find sugar in your barbeque sauce, ketchup, spaghetti sauce, protein bars, granola, sports drinks, vitamin water, soups, and cereals.

2. Do the Math. Every gram of sugar contains four calories. So to find out how many calories are hidden in the sugar in your food, multiply the number of grams of sugar by 4. For example, if the label says the product has 16 grams of sugar per serving, you are consuming 64 empty calories from sugar. Subtract those calories from the 100 or 150 daily calorie limit for added sugar suggested by the American Heart Association and you will quickly realize the problem.

Even the American Heart Association says that, in small amounts, some added sugar is fine. The problem is we’re just over-consuming it. The solution to our national added-sugar overload is, as often as is practical and possible, simply replace sugary drinks and foods with healthier options.

Some suggestions to get you started: • Jazz up your foods with spices like cinnamon, nutmeg, and ginger instead of sugar.

• Add fruit instead of sugar to oatmeal and cereals.

• Opt for unsweet tea, sparkling water, or sugar-free beverages.

Sources: 1. American Heart Association “Cut Out Added Sugars” infographic 2. Harvard Health Blog, May 8, 2016, updated May 23, 2016.

3. The Mayo Clinic: “Cancer: Popular myths about the causes of cancer,” November 3, 2018

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KANGEN WATER ™

Could it Really Be the Fountain of Youth?

As a personal trainer and lifelong fitness guru, Winston-Salem newcomer Cheryl Norton has learned firsthand the importance – and power – of knowledge. Her personal journey as an entrepreneur began after an unexpected job layoff nudged her to start her own business.

“I have always thrived on continuing education, and learning cutting edge science and research on fitness and nutrition,” explains Cheryl.

Originally from Columbus, Georgia, Cheryl moved to the Triad with her new husband just a few months ago, and has been deeply inspired by the new friends and clients she has met along the way.

“I’ve enjoyed sharing the knowledge I’ve found with hundreds of fitness clients over the last 30 years, and I have reaped the benefits personally, while applying them to my own life,” she says.

Three years ago Cheryl was introduced to the healing benefits of Kangen Water® when her beloved Great Dane, Bleu, was literally near death. We’re happy to report Bleu is now almost ten years old and living comfortably with Cheryl and her husband here in Winston-Salem.

Deeply inspired by the almost unbelievable benefits of Kangen Water ®, Cheryl has been a devoted advocate for the last three years, and currently works as an independent representative for The Enagic Corporation.

Based in Japan, Enagic, Inc. has been the leading manufacturer of alkaline ionizers and water filtration machines in the world.

SO WHAT EXACTLY IS KANGEN WATER®?

Kangen® is a Japanese word which translates to “return to origin.” According to its website, the name was chosen to describe a “pure, healthy, alkaline drinking water which is rich in minerals, purged of impurities, and ionized through electrolysis to obtain active hydrogen which is abundant in “extra” electrons. These extra electrons impart strong, antioxidant properties to the drinking water.”

Kangen® is a trademark of Enagic, Inc., and the technology to produce this water has been used in homes and hospitals in Japan for 45 years – making Kangen® a household name. “In America, we spend more money on healthrelated issues and items than any other country in the world, but we are ranked 40th in the world as far as life span is concerned,” says Cheryl. “Japan is ranked number one. That’s because in Japan, they believe in prevention, not reaction. In America, it’s called a pill for every ill,” she adds.

Kangen® is now a household word in Japan where over 500,000 Enagic™ systems are currently in use.

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SO HOW DOES IT WORK?

Thanks to advances in technology and science, Kangen Water® is made through a process that separates water into alkaline and acidic water properties. “The desired pH level of the resulting water can be selected by the operator of the machine,” states the product website. Not only do these devices filter your tap water, but they also produce ionized alkaline and acidic waters through electrolysis.

The range of pH levels run from strong alkaline water (11.5 pH) — which is used mainly for removing pesticides and cleaning, to safe drinking water (8.5 — 9.5 pH), to neutral drinking water which has been purified but not ionized and recommended for use with medication (7.0 pH), to beauty water for skin and hair (5.5 pH), and to strong acidic water which can kill 99.9 percent of all germs and viruses including MRSA (2.5 pH).

THREE BENEFITS OF KANGEN WATER® INCLUDE:

Cheryl also breaks down the three leading benefits of making Kangen® part of your lifestyle: • Antioxidants: The level of antioxidants is the reason why this equipment is rated as a medical device in Japan.

• pH-balancing: This water aids the body in neutralizing acids.

• Micro-clustering: The surface tension of Kangen® water is much lower (wetter) and provides quicker hydration.

Of course, other lifestyle goals to improve quality of life and eliminate toxins are also encouraged (reduce stress, exercise, eat healthy, stop smoking, etc.) when drinking Kangen Water® Kangen Water® is perhaps more powerful than any single food or vitamin supplement because it contains active hydrogen which supplies huge amounts of extra electrons to our body. In fact, the antioxidant potential of a single glass of Kangen Water® would cost several dollars to duplicate with vitamin supplements, and they would never be absorbed by our body the way water would.

An additional bonus, this water can be used for various purposes, including drinking, cooking, beauty, and cleaning!

If you would like to experience Kangen Water® and receive a free 21-day trial, contact Cheryl at 706-575-5502! By appointment only at NY Nutrition at 2257 Cloverdale Avenue in Winston-Salem. Visit them online at watermepleez.com

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Becoming a Turtle Trekker

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

It’s the season of clawed feet and a rounded shell slowly making its way across the road. Turtles. Yes, box turtles, red or yellowbellied slider turtles, and snapping turtles make their appearance from spring through fall. Similar to your path behind the wheel destined to reach one destination before returning home, the turtle moves in the same pattern. Based on the resources it is likely to find, the turtle can travel a distance and find its way home.

TYPES OF TURTLES

The box turtle is a terrestrial animal, which means land-dwelling, in areas such as wetland edges, damp forests or grassy fields. Not adept at swimming as aquatic turtles, they do enjoy sitting in shallow stream beds. Baby box turtles may be cute due to their small size; however, as independent creatures, they can locate food and shelter by themselves.

The domed shell has a specialized feature, a hinge to help the turtle escape predators. Although they can survive for 100 years, the box turtle populations are close to becoming on the endangered species list.

The slider turtles are land and aquatic animals, most notable for their colorful striped markings, usually red or yellow. Similar in size, yellow and red-bellied sliders are typically five to nine inches in length, but the female is much larger, spanning eight to 13-inches. Sliders have a considerable lifespan, living over 30 years in the wild.

The snapping turtle is a fearsome creature and is not safe to approach due to the ease in which it can flex its head muscles and extend to bite.

(Even the baby, recognizable by its long neck, has sharp teeth.) Adults are large in body with a rocky shell and weigh, on average, between nine and 35 pounds. In the wild, enjoying freshwater lakes, streams, and ponds, it can live 30 years.

THE LOCATION OF THE TURTLE

While the turtle may be slowly journeying through terrifying environments such as crossing a road or parking lot, it has a distinct purpose. Egg-laden females seek an appropriate nesting site, while males may be on a journey home. Picking up and carrying it to another destination will subject the turtle to perhaps a foreign disease or parasites. Turtles have one objective: to finish its mission.

As a turtle helper, or trekker, you can provide several wellneeded and kind services:

1. Locating a Turtle: It’s a thrill to find a reptile! The first thought upon coming across a healthy turtle is to look ahead to a grassy location. In the direction it is facing, palm

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the width of the shell with one hand, and carry it slowly and low to the ground. Never turn a reptile upside down, or place your hand underneath. Some turtles have sharp claws.

2. Protect a Turtle from Danger: Reptiles are often difficult

to see. It’s wise to be aware of turtles during unexpected activities such as driving, mowing the lawn, and walking dogs. Free-roaming dogs and cats are responsible for killing wild animals each year; therefore, be proactive and keep your domestic animal either indoors or on a lead.

3. Checking Health: Not all turtles are in perfect health;

sometimes, a turtle may appear sick, showing signs of a discharge emanating from its ears or nose, have an injured foot, or a slightly cracked shell. Only water turtles, namely box turtles, can regenerate and reform granular tissues; although the process is slow and may result in infection and death. While the Piedmont Wildlife Center, PWC, has a Turtle Team to aid in injured reptiles, a closer resource is the Kernersville Reptile Zoo and Medical Center.

Tip: Check out the YouTube channel, Reptile Rangers, to

watch local professionals safely aid in rescuing and removing various reptiles.

HELP IN SAVING THE EASTERN BOX TURTLES

Since 2009, North Carolina’s Piedmont Wildlife Center seeks citizen scientists to aid in finding information about the Eastern box turtle’s movements. By knowing the location of box turtles, you can assist the cause of saving a dying species. Whether you are an adult or child, together, we can unite and assist a reptile population. Check out the PWC’s website, and join the Neighborhood Turtle Watch!

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Art, History, Treasure

If the aesthetic quality of your surroundings is important to you, then head to Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques on Stratford Road in Winston-Salem.

Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques is a treasure trove of art and heirloom collectibles. When browsing Laster’s, customers experience a wonderful sense of history. Each piece of furniture, art or antique collectible has its own story, its unique history.

Each item has been cherished and loved by others, and has stood the test of time, ready to be valued once again by a new, appreciative owner. Laster’s handles all sorts of items including antique silver, rare coins, antique maps and prints, original paintings, antique furniture, leather-bound books, clocks, sculptures and more. Each item is carefully selected for quality and value. Laster’s knows their customer base, understands what the market demands, and offers items at affordable prices.

Owned and operated by the father and son team of Larry and Ryan Laster, this business represents nearly 40 years of experience and knowledge in the field of antiques, fine art, and collectibles. Larry Laster has dealt with interior designers and antique and collectibles dealers from all over the world. He decided to open a shop to the public in 2011. In addition to the extensive offerings in their store on Stratford Road, Laster’s can also assist customers in searching for particular pieces. They acquire items for their shop through estate settlements, estate sales, and commissioned consignment.

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The Lasters consider the comfort and privacy of their estate settlement clients to be of utmost importance and take great care in handling settlements, sales, and auctions for them. They have handled hundreds of highend Southern family estates since 1973. Items may be placed in their store for sale, sold at auction or sold during an on-site estate tag sale, generally over a weekend, where items can be sold quickly and typically at higher prices than at an auction. They handle estates of all sizes and offer market value appraisals.

For those wishing to downsize, Larry can appraise their items and determine if consignment in their store is recommended.

Laster’s can advise clients during the downsizing process, whether into a smaller home or a retirement community. For those who simply want an appraisal of an heirloom piece, Larry can provide a written appraisal, for an hourly fee.

The inventory at Laster’s is ever-changing, so visiting and browsing often ensures customers will find just the pieces they are looking for.

Plus, it is a pleasure to simply visit the store to enjoy the sense of history, quality and craftsmanship displayed there. Larry and Ryan love what they do and enjoy helping people manage their cherished belongings. “We do

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this because we love it. Watching someone’s face light up when they see a piece they love is wonderful. We know they will cherish the items they go home with and tell others about us,” states Larry.

For those wishing to decorate in the latest trends, don’t overlook the value of heirloom, antique pieces. For the minimalist, be sure that of the few pieces you keep, some are of unique, lasting value, sporting their own intriguing histories. For those who wish to follow the trend of blending modern with antique, or modern with vintage, look no further than Laster’s for the perfect pieces.

Decorators can find wonderful pieces to complement their clients’ tastes, as well.

To stay abreast of upcoming estate tag sales, be sure to follow Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques on Facebook.

Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques is located at 664 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem.

Visit them soon, either to shop for pieces you will love, or to discuss the upcoming downsizing of your home or the home of a loved one. Give them a call at 336.765.5919 or visit online at LastersFineArt.com to learn more about the wonderful treasures you can find at their store.

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Creatures

Nature surrounds you daily. The loud honks of a gaggle of geese heard from a distance, the sight of red wings fluttering by, or an animal track discovered relatively close to a door. Creatures are much closer than you think.

THE DRASTIC CHANGES OF THE FOREST

In the region of the Piedmont Triad, 75% of the land was once forest. The canopy comprised of hardwood species such as white, black, and southern red oaks, pignut, shagbark, and mockernut hickorys, red maples, shortleaf and loblolly pines, dogwoods, and hawthorn species contributed to the understory before it became land for farmers. Less than 50% of the forest remains due to the difficulty of converting rocky areas to agricultural fields. As the forest transitioned to new shopping malls, residences, and roads, new animal tracks and birds ventured toward the civilized world.

And continue to do so. Do not be surprised if one day you see a:

BLACK BEAR

While coastal North Carolina is home to the most massive black bear populations weighing in at over 850 pounds, the Piedmont Triad and surrounding areas are either seeing evidence of the animal or seeing the actual animal. Bears, which typically live in large forested areas, will leave in search of food. The ideal place? Human communities. Highly skillful, they are capable of opening screw-top jars and manipulating door latches. Bears can move heavy objects weighing over 325 pounds and run at speeds of 30 mph.

A paw print can assist you in determining its size. For instance, a five-inch-long paw print equates an average weight between 150 to 175 pounds. Seven inches suggests the bear weighs up to 400 pounds. The average weight of a male is 500 pounds.

BOBCAT

The U.S Endangered Species Act changed the threat of the bobcat in North Carolina. Outside of farming locations, sightings of the bobcat increase. Adaptable as a species, it thrives in wooded habitats off our coastal region and mountains; however, it will den in locations where there are hollowed trees, rock or brush piles, or uprooted trees. While excelling in running, climbing, and swimming, it uses its retractable paws and long, sharp teeth to seize prey of birds, snakes, and animals ranging in size from rodents to deer. Bobcats hunt in daylight and at night. Two to four kittens are usually born in May. Although it has a short tail, about five inches in length, the fur is short and often reddish-brown on its back. Adults are twice the size of a domestic cat.

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are Much Closer Than You Think

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

COYOTE

In the night, a high-pitched scream lasting approximately five seconds may be mistaken for a human; instead, it could be a pair of coyotes.

The Piedmont Triad has a healthy coyote population. Adaptable to all environments, they can be seen in the deep woods or walking down a populated street seeking a food source. As omnivores, they enjoy just about everything, from fruits and insects to small animals, turkeys, whitetailed deer, and road kill. And they are not afraid to scrounge through trash cans! Similar in size to a house dog, ranging from 15 to 50 pounds, coyotes have sharply pointed ears, which never drop, a pointed nose, and a bushy tail. Coyotes will breed with domestic dogs.

RIVER OTTER

The desire to see otters may not require a trip to a zoo. Otters, usually found in pairs, love habitats associated with fresh water; therefore, you may discover otters in a shallow creek or stopping by your koi pond before seeking a lake or large pond in search of cold water, fish, and shellfish.

Otters are sleek black, similar to seals; however, they can reach up to four feet in length. One distinguishing characteristic is its long-pointed tail.

RED-COCKADED WOODPECKER

The population of red-cockaded woodpeckers is on the upswing since it became an endangered species. From 30 family groups in the early 1990s to 63, the best time to see it is in May, during the nesting season. They typically create a nest in a mature loblolly pine tree. Male birds remain to aid in raising one to four young.

Roughly the same size as a cardinal, the most distinguishing features are white patches on its cheeks, a black stripe, which runs from the beak and over the top of its head, and white horizontal stripes on its back.

We must learn to share our environment with a wide range of creatures.

Consider their plight and plant wildflowers and any number of our native trees. While some animals are unlikely to diminish in numbers, we can assist the wild range of visitors in search of a comfortable habitat.

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Whether you’re a sushi fanatic, hibachi lover, pho person, curry queen or have a thing for Korean cuisine, Asian Fusion food has you covered. There’s something for everyone, from mild to spicy! (If you’re into spicy, just ask for a spice tray!) Thankfully, you don’t have to fly from Japan to China to Vietnam to Thailand if you’re in the mood for exotic food. With Asian Fusion food, there’s usually a variety of authentically Asian or Asian style dishes, all available at one Asian Fusion restaurant.

So, you can enjoy a medley of Asian Fusion dishes that are healthy and delicious, not to mention fun to share. Or, you can make these three Asian inspired dishes to share and savor!

CARROT GINGER SALAD DRESSING

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4 peeled carrots 2-3 slices of ginger root 1 chopped shallot or 2 tablespoons chopped onions (optional) 1-2 raw garlic cloves EVOO (Extra Virgin Olive Oil) or avocado oil 1 tablespoon soy sauce 1 tablespoon sesame oil (optional) 1 tablespoon rice wine vinegar 2 tablespoons peanut butter (optional for Thai twist) 1-2 tablespoons water Peel carrots and place in high powered blender with other ingredients, puree and check consistency and flavor by stirring and taste testing with a spoon. If the consistency is too thick, add 1-2 tablespoons or more of water, or more oils or vinegars, depending on the taste. Let your taste buds be your guide. If you decide to try the Thai version, you may want to start out by adding 1 tablespoon and blending first, before adding more.

Pour or spoon dressing over salad or Asian Sesame Slaw.

Garnish with sprigs or rough chopped fresh cilantro and crushed peanuts (optional).

DIY STIR FRY

3 pieces or so of chopped meat, seafood, tofu of choice (beef, chicken, lamb, tofu, shrimp, scallops, and octopus) 1 chopped onion (yellow, white or sweet) 2 chopped scallions (green onions) 1-2 chopped bell peppers (red, green or yellow) 2-3 minced raw garlic cloves 1 medium-large floret chopped broccoli 4 chopped bok choy 1-2 handfuls chopped shiitake mushrooms or other mushrooms 1 handful water chestnuts (optional) 1 handful bamboo shoots (optional)

EVOO (Extra Virgin Olive Oil) or sesame oil 3-4 tablespoons soy sauce 2-3 tablespoons hoisin sauce (optional) 1-2 tablespoons oyster sauce (optional) 1 tablespoons grated ginger Chop vegetables and drizzle pan with dollop of EVOO or sesame oil and set to medium heat. Add in your onions, bell peppers, and broccoli and let cook for a few minutes. Then, add in your chopped meat, seafood, or tofu and keep stirring. Add in your garlic, bok choy, mushrooms, water chestnuts and bamboo shoots.

Lastly, add in your scallions/ green onions and ginger. Then, spoon on your soy sauce and/or hoisin sauce. Everything should be cooked, but not overcooked.

Aim for bright green broccoli with a delightful crunch, not soggy or brownish green. Serve over rice, noodles, quinoa or couscous as a carbohydrate complement. Dash with red pepper flakes or top with chili oil or paste for a spicy kick.

ASIAN SESAME SLAW

½ thinly chopped red or green cabbage 1 sliced cucumber 1-2 chopped bell peppers or 3-4 sweet peppers ½ to ¾ cups sesame oil 3-4 tablespoons soy sauce 3 tablespoons rice vinegar 2-3 lime slices (squeeze juice into dressing or garnish with and squeeze on before serving) 1-2 teaspoons grated or minced ginger 1-2 teaspoons sesame seeds 1 pinch sea salt Chop vegetables and mix together in a bowl or arrange them on a plate in layers.

Then combine oil and vinegar.

Whisk in ginger. Pour over slaw and toss together. Sprinkle with sesame seeds and salt (to taste). Garnish with sprigs or rough chopped fresh cilantro or peanuts (optional).

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5 American Women Who Made the World a Better Place

BY TABI FALCONE

HARRIET TUBMAN (1822-1913)

Born into slavery on a plantation in Maryland, Harriet Tubman was abused as a child and as a result of this abuse, suffered emotional trauma throughout her life. When she was only 12, she threw herself in front of another slave to save him from a beating, which in turn caused life long headaches and narcolepsy. She did not let this slow her down, however, escaping to freedom in Philadelphia in 1849. She became a famous conductor in the Underground Railroad, personally helping at least 70 people escape slavery. A less well-known fact is that she served as a nurse during the Civil War, which positioned her to become a Union spy.

DR. VIRGINIA APGAR (1909-1974)

If you have had a baby, you’ve heard of the Apgar Score System. This test is a series of questions answered by medical personnel in the delivery room regarding the well being of the baby just born that must be answered within minutes of birth. The answers to these questions then determine whether the child needs immediate medical intervention or not. The Apgar Score System, created in 1952, has helped countless babies who may not have been attended to as quickly without it. Not only did Dr. Virginia Apgar create this test, she was the first female board-certified anesthesiologist and the first female full professor at the Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons. She later earned a master’s degree in public health, served as an executive for the March of Dimes and raised awareness on medical problems around infants.

SUSAN B ANTHONY (1820-1906)

Raised in Massachusetts within the Religious Society of Friends (also known as Quakers), Susan B. Anthony was brought up with the firm belief that all people are equal in the sight of God. This strong

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conviction led her to be an advocate for the abolition of slavery and, more famously, to become a leader in the women’s suffrage movement, working towards equality between men and women and to give women the right to vote. In 1872 she made the headlines by being arrested for voting. Her hard work and ability to organize put the women’s suffrage movement on the road to success, though she did not live long enough to be able to vote herself as the 19th Amendment was passed in 1920.

MARIA MITCHELL (1818-1889)

Another Quaker, Maria Mitchell was raised in Massachusetts and was encouraged to pursue her academic interests throughout her childhood.

From a young age, she loved stargazing and learning about the stars and comets. Becoming a well-respected astronomer, she became the second woman in history to discover a comet in 1847. Mitchell contributed a lot of important research in her tenure as an astronomer and was inducted into the U.S. National Women’s Hall of Fame posthumously. Becoming a Unitarian Universalist in 1843, she also contributed to the women’s suffrage movement and was morally opposed to slavery.

PEARL S. BUCK (1892-1973)

Though she was born in West Virginia, Buck was raised in China as her parents were Presbyterian missionaries. She moved to the United States for college but then returned to China to teach English Literature. She began to author articles for American publications on life in China, which led to her first novel The Good Earth, which chronicled the life of a lower class Chinese family and their struggles to improve their lives. In 1938 she was the first woman to be awarded the Nobel Prize for Literature.

She moved back to the United States for the final time in 1935 where she adopted six children with her husband and continued her prolific writing career, as well as philanthropy work through adoption agencies she founded.

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Fireflies Glow on a Magical Summer Night

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

A field of fireflies . . . Every late spring and summer, we marvel at the magical, bright flashes of light that streak across the summer night sky, like mini strobe lights or shooting stars that quickly catch your eye, then fade quietly from sight, before lighting up again!

KEEP IT DARK OUTSIDE

Human light pollution can negatively affect fireflies, so make sure to do your part by keeping blinds closed inside your house at night and turning off your outside lights.

LANGUAGE OF LIGHTS

The benefit to you is that you’ll get to experience the true splendor of nature’s light show, catching an exciting glimpse of lights in the natural world. And, when outdoors, don’t forget to look up so you won’t miss the moon, stars and planets that light up the expansive sky.

BRILLIANT BIOLUMINESCENCE

Fireflies typically prefer long grasses and often hang out in the grass, so the less you have to mow the lawn, the better it is for providing a place for them to live. Pine trees and other conifers are an ideal environment for lightning bug larvae to find the prey they feed on, including insects, snails, slugs and earthworms. Once mature, pines can provide a beneficial shelter for fireflies where they can find a mate.

Fireflies put on quite a light show, speaking the language of lights, as they attract their prey and mates, as well as ward off predators with flashes of light emitted from their organs, usually located in the lower abdomens.

HELPFUL HABITATS

This fascinating light production, known as bioluminescence, is a chemical reaction that occurs. When oxygen is available, the light organ lights up and when nitric oxide is present, oxygen can flow into the light organ where it combines with other chemicals.

Let nature do its thing! No need to be too neat and tidy with fallen foliage. Leaving rotting logs and natural litter out can give larvae an ideal place to grow. They also thrive near water. So, find a place to create standing water or marshy areas, including ponds, streams, and rivers, where lightning bugs can congregate.

SETTING THE STAGE IN OTHER CULTURES

KEEP IT ALL NATURAL FOR NATURE’S SAKE

The ancient Chinese believed these lightproducing bugs were the product of burning grasses. They caught them and put them into transparent boxes that lit up, like lanterns.

Catching lightning bugs was a popular summer pastime, as it has become for many American children.

Legend has it that the Japanese, who call fireflies “hotaru,” believed these flashy fliers to be spirits of fallen warriors who died in battle. They are also symbolic subjects of 8th century passionate love poetry, Man’you-shu.

In traditional Native American folklore is the Apache legend that sly Fox attempted to take fire from the firefly village, but his tail caught on fire with a piece of burning bark. He ran away from the firefly village and alerted Hawk, who scattered glowing embers all around the world as he flew. This is how fire was first introduced to the Apaches.

FEWER LIGHTNING BUGS

Unfortunately, the population of these magical bugs, a part of the beetle family, are decreasing and dwindling, mainly due to light pollution and over development.

However, you can make your environment a habitat and haven for these magical bugs that keep living and lighting up each night.

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FIND FALLEN FOLIAGE AND FEATURE WATER

Make sure the fertilizers you use are as natural as possible, so these friendly flying bugs don’t ingest anything poisonous or toxic that could kill them. Also, keep in mind that spraying chemical-laden pesticides could affect more than just lightning bugs, extending on down the food chain, including the birds who eat them as well.

OTHER NAMES FOR FIREFLIES

A Firefly is also known as a Lightning Bug, Firefly Beetle, Glow Worm, Glow Fly, Moon Bug, Golden Sparkler and Fire Devil.

Go for it! Head outside and enjoy the magic of a warm spring or summer night. And, don’t miss out on nature’s beautiful light show. It’s like friendly fireworks this season minus all the noise!

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According to the Woman’s Bureau of the U.S. Department of Labor, “25.1 million working mothers have children under the age of 18.” This would mean that this demographic is a major force within the U.S. economy. While working mothers may be somewhat a norm today, sadly the U.S. does not allow much time or compensation for new mothers to return to life after birth.

Despite being one of the wealthiest countries in the world, American mothers are entitled to zero weeks of paid leave under federal law. The Family and Medical Leave Act provides eligible workers 12 weeks of unpaid leave to care for a new child – major emphasis on “unpaid.”

Today, the U.S. remains the only country in the developed world that does not mandate employers offer paid leave for new mothers. With statistics like this, it can be no surprise why mothers have to head back into work. Those weeks of “unpaid maternity days,” can add up. And the burgeoning family will be the first to feel the financial restrains kick in with weeks of no paychecks coming in.

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It is somewhat a rite of passage for all working mothers. The dreaded end of their maternity leave and return to fulltime work. While many believe that the optimal situation is for a baby to remain at home with his mother for the first several years of life, this is simply not an option for the majority of women today. It’s hard enough to survive on two incomes without the added burden of supporting a new member of the family – a baby. And let’s face it: those cute cherub faces are expensive. All this said, it is very common for new mothers to return to work.

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TIP #1: SELECTION OF APPROPRIATE BREAST PUMP

Most insurance covers the payment of a breast pump for new mothers.

Contact insurance immediately to find out if eligible as these machines are quite expensive. After sorting out whether it will be paid for or not, make sure to pick a pump to meet one’s own needs. Some pumps come in smaller sizes, while others offer stronger strength suction for pulling optimal amounts of milk. It’s vital to research which one that will work best.

TIP #2: KNOW YOUR RIGHTS AS A PUMPING, WORKING MOTHER

It is vital to communicate to your employer that you will need time and an appropriate place to pump while

at work. Employers in the U.S. are required to provide breastfeeding moms with a private place to pump (i.e., not a bathroom). They also must provide a reasonable break time to pump for up to one year after the birth.

TIP #3: SCHEDULING PUMPING SESSIONS

All pumping mothers need to make sure schedule time for 2-3 pumping sessions (ideally 3-4 hours in between).

While back at work can be stressful enough with countless meetings and deadlines, it is vital to look at one’s schedule and set aside time for each session in between said meetings. These sessions need to be at least 15-20 minutes long, and need to be treated with just as much importance as a regular staff meeting.

TIP #4: TAKE TIME TO RELAX WHILE PUMPING

Stress can and will affect milk supply. Make sure each pumping session is quiet, private and relaxing. Choose a room that has curtains for privacy, and hang a “Do Not Disturb” sign on the door to avoid co-workers from accidentally walking in. Bring an item from home that reminds one of the baby to stimulate the “let down” effect for milk supply.

TIP #5: KEEP EXTRA PUMP PARTS AT HOME

There is nothing worse than getting to work, or back home, and realizing a pump part is missing. Make sure to take time to store extra pieces at either location to avoid this disaster.

Items can be bought easily at local retail stores.

By following these easy suggestions, and making pumping a priority, working mothers can ensure their little ones a strong food supply. Yes, it is possible for mothers to head back to work and pump successfully.

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BY DENISE HEIDEL Being an entrepreneur isn’t easy. Neither is being a mom. But Amy Cushman-Jah, owner of American Moving and Hauling, manages to be both successfully.

“When I started the business in 2005,” shared Amy, “I was single and had a seven-year-old daughter. I had a lot of support from my mom, and thankfully, a solid understanding of the moving industry.”

She continued, “My business has filled a niche in the community and has grown. I’ve loved every minute of it because I love to help others through the services we offer. It’s been great doing things on my own. But when I fell in love with a long-time family friend who had joined the American Moving and Hauling team, I also found a great business partner. My husband, Habib, handles many of the operations of the business and is an incredibly hard worker and a problem solver.”

Amy and Habib have her 21-year-old daughter, Habib’s 10 and nine-year-old sons, a two-yearold boy, and another baby on the way. “We have a full house, but thankfully, at this point in our business, we have an excellent team in place. Because we have the right personnel,

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Family always comes first!”

family will always be first for me. I’m grateful that I can do both.

“My daughter actually works in the business now, too,” said Amy. “She’s in charge of our packing and cleaning crew. Plus, she’s great with the younger kids and is a tremendous help both at work and at home.”

“With any business, there’s going to be problems,” Amy continued. “But I truly believe in the importance of follow-through. Doing what you say you’re going to do. It’s how I raised my daughter, and it’s how Habib and I are raising our younger children. It’s how we are running the business. It’s a core value for us, and I believe it’s made a difference for us in more ways than one – both personally and professionally.”

Amy’s mom is still involved with the business, too. “Mom handles a lot of our bank reconciliations which is a great help,” said Amy. “American Moving and Hauling may be a woman-owned business, but between me, my husband, my daughter, and my mom – it’s also a family-run business!

“As a business owner, it can get complicated, especially since it’s so tempting to fall into the comparison game as a mother,” Amy said thoughtfully. “Pinterest and social media can be a dangerous place to spend time. There’s enough pressure to be a perfect mom – whether you’re self-employed, working for someone else, or staying at home. I decided as an entrepreneur that I wasn’t going to play that game. And to choose that is very liberating! I’m doing the best I can for my business while I take care of my family. And

Being a wife and mom is always first for Amy, but the business is a passion, too. “Our team of 22 employees is an extension of our family. We couldn’t do this without them, and we’re grateful.”

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How to Self-Promote Without Feeling Icky This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

Women don’t like to ask for help and they don’t like to toot their own horn. These aren’t just popular opinions – they’re proven facts. If you were to do a Google search right now, you would be met with literally hundreds of studies, books, blogs, TED Talks, and other media speaking to these issues with the statistics to back them up. So, imagine, as business owners, how incredibly weighed down we can often feel by just the mere thought of self-promotion.

Ultimately, it just feels icky, right?

It’s where the two worlds of fear collide – asking for help and tooting your own horn!

You want your business to flourish and that means getting it out in front of the people who need what you have to offer. In reality, it’s your job to help build trust in your brand by showcasing how great it really is. So let’s get comfortable in shouting both of those things from the rooftop!

YOU’RE PROVIDING VALUE, NOT ASKING FOR HELP

It’s not about screaming for sales and asking for the spotlight; it’s about showing the unique value that your product or service brings to the table. One of my favorite quotes to remember here is, “Be a resource, not a sales pitch.” It feels like the whole world is selling at us sometimes, which means your message has to be something your customers care about to begin with, in order to really make an impact on them. When you are promoting your business, really focus on the value of what you do and what problems you are the solution for. This will help alleviate that uncomfortable “salesy” feeling we all dislike so much and instead remind you that you are doing a service by letting others know about you and your brand.

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EMBRACE WHO YOU ARE AND BE HER

There is so much pressure for small businesses to compete with the big box stores, corporations, and even their fellow mom & pop brands today. It can make it easy to forget that there is something special on our side: the power to be ourselves!

One of the largest benefits to having your own business is being in the front seat and allowing yourself to show up authentically under the brand identity you want to put out into the world. What makes your business and product shine is the unique perspective and characteristics that you pour into it every day. People like to buy from other people, so show up as who you are every step of the way. When you market yourself and start to sense that “overwhelmed” feeling sink in, remind yourself that being exactly who you are is your most beneficial tool. Your best customers will connect with you and see the value of what you offer.

MASTER THE BALANCING ACT OF MARKETING

You don’t have to scream about your business from a mountain top to be heard. It can sometimes feel like you do, but I promise there is something to be said about finding a happy balance between promoting and preparing.

Everything you do in your business should be done with purpose and intention. When you have a new service launching or a product sale coming up, promote your brand and dive into your marketing across all of your resources.

Make sure to pause in between those large promotional moments and prepare your existing audience and potential customers alike, by curating connection and trust. That means you can step back from feeling like you’re selfpromoting and share things in-person or on your website, social media, and other platforms that let your audience connect with you. This is where you can share more behindthe-scenes looks at your business, origin stories of your brand, favorite ways to use your product, testimonials from previous clients, and any other piece of your story that will help foster connection. At the end of the day, that’s what promoting your business is all about – connecting with the customers who feel connected to you and what you sell.

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Feta & Artichoke Dip with Homemade Pita Chips

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I love a good dip. Actually, I love appetizers and would gladly have small bites as a meal any day.

This dip is perfect for happy hour, game day even baby or bridal showers. It’s super creamy and delicious. Served with homemade pita chips it’s simple to make in a pinch -- you may even have all of the ingredients in your pantry!

FETA & ARTICHOKE DIP INGREDIENTS

1, 8 ounce cream cheese block at room temperature 1 small jar pimentos (or diced jalapenos), drained 1, 14 ounce can artichoke hearts, chopped ½ cup mayonaise 3 tablespoons sour cream 1 garlic clove, minced 1 teaspoon garlic powder 1 container parmesan cheese Salt and pepper to taste Homemade pita chips (see below)

DIRECTIONS

Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

Mix all ingredients together and pour into small baking dish. Bake 25 to 30 minutes or until the dip is bubbly. Serve with pita chips or crackers.

HOMEMADE PITA CHIPS INGREDIENTS

1 package pita Olive oil Salt and pepper to taste

DIRECTIONS

Preheat oven to 400 degrees.

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Place pita triangles onto baking sheet (be sure to layer in one single layer – do not overcrowd). Drizzle with olive oil and sprinkle with salt and pepper.

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ASHLEY MURRAY

“I am the proud owner of Charming Carolina Events and Weddings, a certified wedding planner through The Bridal Society, and a North Carolina girl, through and through, who believes southern charm goes a long way. After graduating with my master’s in education and starting a career as an elementary teacher, I soon realized I had a true love and passion for the weddings and event industry. As a serious organizer and planner, I know that creating one-of-a-kind moments suits my meticulous and outgoing personality. I love to craft the details that make every celebration a unique experience, and I live for the hug and ‘thank you’ at the end of each event. It makes my planner’s heart skip a beat! In my free time, I enjoy spending time with my husband and two kids.

We love being outside together and having family movie nights!”

TERI MEEKS

“I am a founding member of Charming Carolina Events and Weddings and am lucky enough to have always called the Old North State ‘home.’ I have a background in accounting, design and teaching, and when the three are combined, they give me the opportunity and experience to create something truly magical! I love puzzles and consider myself a problem-solver who tackles potential obstacles before they arise. Must be my keen ‘mom sense!’ I enjoy each opportunity to be able to get to know our couples and their stories. Building relationships with my couples and seeing their events through from beginning to end are the moments I live for! My husband and I enjoy scouting out antique or vintage pieces of furniture and then re-purposing them. We like taking something old and giving it life again.”

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“I am the associate planner extraordinaire for Charming Carolina Events and Weddings! I have an art degree from WCU, and I enjoy design, fashion and fun textures! My adorable dog, Dawson, is pretty cute, too, and I definitely plan on him being in my wedding one day! Since joining the team, my love for style, design and beautifying event spaces has been refined. I love being a part of the process of taking an idea and turning it into an event that reflects the individual or couple. Although I feel most at home on the design side of the planning process, at the end of the day, I enjoy witnessing the bond between two people and being able to have a backstage pass to one of the best moments in peoples’ lives. I enjoy traveling and spending time with my friends on the weekends. As a new homeowner, finding the right pieces of décor to go in my home is also pretty exciting!”

REBECCA BENDER

Rebecca Bender is the newest Vice President of Finance/ Chief Financial Officer of The Arts Council of WinstonSalem and Forsyth County.

She accepts this new position after taking on the task as the interim VP last November. This new opportunity for Rebecca came after leaving a 20year career in corporate finance with the plans to slow down. After quickly realizing the laid-back lifestyle was not for her, she was pleasantly surprised when the position at the Arts Council became available.

“Their finance person was moving on, and they needed someone to come in on an interim basis to pay the bills and keep the lights on until they found someone,” said Rebecca. “I’d kept my CPA license and volunteered with various not-for-profits. The past couple of months have been a joy as I’ve been lucky enough to transition into a job that utilizes my financial and accounting skills in a vibrant and creative environment, and I still have time to spend with our grandkids.” Rebecca is a graduate of Salem College and earned a bachelor of science degree in business administration with a major in accounting. In her free time, Rebecca enjoys running and cycling and is currently training for a half ironman in June.

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Cheryl’s expertise is in strength/resistant training and nutritional needs. After a recent move from Columbus, Georgia to Winston-Salem and getting married, she is launching a new career. She is now a manufacturer’s rep for Enagic, Inc, a 45-year-old Japanese-owned and operated company based in Osaka, Japan. Enagic manufactures a complete line of water ionizers! Cheryl’s mission is to educate people on the importance of living an alkaline lifestyle!

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New Axe Throwing Adventure at Kersey Valley BY JULIE FRITZ

There is a new trend in competitive sports that is taking the country by storm. Axe throwing has been gaining momentum around the world for several years, but is now making its way to the United States and, more specifically, the Triad. The goal of the sport is to throw an axe, yes an actual axe, at a wooden target. Points are acquired for hitting the target and you can keep score to declare the most accurate thrower as the winner. But this is not just a sport; it’s a unique experience that is an exciting and safe way to bring people together for a new way to have some fun.

Kersey Valley owner, Tony Wohlgemuth, has been thinking about adding this experience for a few years, but the timing wasn’t quite right till now. “I follow the latest trends around the world and a few years ago, I noticed that axe throwing was becoming really popular in Canada. At that time, we were not able to get insurance to cover the thrower so we had to put the thought on hold.” Fast forward to this past year, when Tony noticed he was seeing more about bars around the US adding axe throwing experiences. He decided to look into it again and found insurance would no longer be a problem. Tony went on to say, “We got the insurance in place and opened three weeks later. We were so excited to be the first to bring this new experience to the Triad.”

Like everything at Kersey Valley, they have found a way to make this popular experience unique to their venue. Tony said, “Most places that are doing this have the experience set up indoors. While we do have one indoor space for axe throwing, we are most excited about the outdoor tour we have created.” The 11 location tour follows the path of the zip line and takes guests on a hike across their beautiful 60-acre farm. They designed the tour with variety in mind. Every location on the tour has a custom scorecard with a different challenge for participants to meet. And many of the location challenges have been created for their specific location on the farm. Tony continued, “One of the locations is right next to the outdoor classroom where we teach classes about bees.

With this in mind, we created the Zom-bee’s target, where the goal is for the participant to hit the picture of the bee with the axe. It was a lot of fun for us to create this customized game specifically for our farm and the guests are really enjoying it, too!”

The axe throwing experience at Kersey Valley is a great opportunity to spend time with family and friends, or even as a unique team building experience with your co-workers. There is something for everyone and it can be suited to any skill level or desire. No matter who you come with, you will be sure to have a lot of fun. The indoor session is 1.5 hours long. Included in that time frame is 30 minutes of safety instructions and practice, and one hour of competition. They require a minimum of four people and a maximum of 12 people. The outdoor session takes about two hours. Again, you will receive 30 mins of safety instructions and practice, and the competition takes about 1.5 hours. There is a minimum of four and a maximum of 100 people. Each tour includes an “axpert” guide to escort you through the course.

Kersey Valley is well known for their culture of safety. They have continued that standard into this experience. Axpert guides are trained in first aid and carry first aid kits through the course. Participants must wear closed-toe shoes, sign a waiver, and there is no alcohol allowed. The recommended age is 13 and up, but they do leave that to the discretion of parents. They have had a ten-year-old successfully complete the course. They do ask that there be no spectators. You have to have a ticket to be in the room or on the course.

If you are ready to experience the thrill of axe throwing, make plans to visit Kersey Valley Axe Throwing today. They are located at 1615 Kersey Valley road in High Point and are open from 9:00 am to 8:00 pm daily.

For more information about the experience and the rates, or to book your private or group session, you can call them at 336-431-1700 or book online at kerseyvalleyaxethrowing.com.

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Celebrate Cinco de Mayo!

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

Though it’s not an actual national holiday in Mexico, many still celebrate Cinco de Mayo, and it’s become a popular special occasion in America that many people are excited about.

Often mistaken as Mexican Independence Day (September 16th), May 5, 1862 was when Mexico had victory over the French in the Battle of Puebla.

Fiesta flowers, mariachi music, Mexican folk dancing, and spicy foods enliven the parties and celebrations, on the 5th of May to honor and pay homage to Mexico and Mexican history and culture.

FIESTA FOOD!

Let’s taco about fiesta food! Fit for a feisty fiesta that’s puravida this Cinco de Mayo, whip together these delicious and healthy appetizers and be sure to nab some right away, before they all disappear - for they are sure to please, delighting your taste buds and creating fond memories. Keep it on the mild side or amp up the heat for lovers of the spicy. These delicious dishes are especially yummy with a refreshing, icy cold margarita or cerveza.

Share and enjoy!

KIWI-MANGO FIESTA SALSA

2-3 large mangoes, peeled and chopped 2-3 kiwis, peeled and chopped 2 cloves garlic, peeled and minced ½ cup red onion, diced 1-2 jalapenos, cored, seeded and chopped (optional for fans of the spicy) 1 handful of cilantro, chopped 1 lime, juiced 1 pinch sea salt 1-2 tablespoons hot sauce (optional for fans of the spicy) A few dashes red chili flakes (optional for fans of the spicy) Peel, chop and combine all ingredients in a bowl and mix together.

Serve with tortilla chips or blue corn chips.

Recipe adapted from: Mrs. Criddle’s Kitchen for Mango-Kiwi Salsa (mrscriddleskitchen.com/mango-kiwi-salsa/)

CINCO DE MAYO CEVICHE

1 pound shrimp or sashimi grade fresh fish (sea bass, red snapper, corvina, or hamachi, diced into small cubes) ½ red onion 2-3 garlic cloves, finely minced or use garlic press 1 cup diced tomatoes (grape or cherry) 1 cup diced cucumber 1 avocado (optional) 1-2 jalapenos or serrano peppers ½ cup fresh cilantro, chopped ¾ cup fresh lime juice, freshly squeezed

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A pinch of sea salt A few dashes ground black pepper 3-4 tablespoons hot sauce (optional for fans of the spicy) A few dashes of red chili flakes (optional for fans of the spicy)

Prepare ingredients, combine in a bowl and mix together.

Get creative and serve with tortilla chips, blue corn chips, pita chips, mini tostadas, tacos, coconut bowls, or lettuce wraps.

Complement with salsa, pico de gallo, salsa verde, guacamole, and/or sour cream.

Recipe adapted from: Feasting at Home for Easy Ceviche (feastingathome.com/easy-ceviche-recipe/)

CINCO DE MAYO CORN PICO DE GALLO

2 ears of corn, cut off from cobs 1 ½ cups red onion, chopped 1 avocado, chopped 1 ½ pounds ripe tomatoes, chopped 2 jalapenos or serrano peppers, stemmed, seeded and minced 6 tablespoons lime juice, freshly squeezed A pinch of sea salt 3-4 tablespoons hot sauce (optional for fans of the spicy) A few dashes red chili flakes (optional for fans of the spicy) Prepare ingredients, combine in a bowl and mix together. Serve as a dip, side salad, over lettuce, in a tortilla, atop meat or fish however you like it!

Recipe adapted from: Epicurious for Grilled Corn Pico de Gallo epicurious.com/recipes/food/views/grilled-corn-pico-de-gallo-395231)

KICKIN’ QUESO BLANCO

8 oz. pepper jack cheese, cut into cubes 8 oz. Monterey jack cheese, cut into cubes 8 oz. cream cheese, cut into cubes ½ cup whole milk 1 can (4.5 oz) chopped green chiles (optional for fans of the spicy) 2-4 jalapenos stemmed, seeded and minced (optional for fans of the spicy) 2 green onions, thinly sliced ½ tsp garlic powder A few dashes red chili flakes (optional for fans of the spicy) A few sprigs cilantro, chopped (optional for garnishing) Combine all ingredients in a slow cooker set on low for four hours.

Stir to mix together. Keep on low heat until ready to serve. Garnish with cilantro. Serve with tortilla chips, blue corn chips or pita chips.

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Writers Who Read The Best of Nicholas Sparks

Author Nicholas Sparks once said, “Over time, quality work will lead to an audience for your work.” This quote is an accurate representation of the fan base Sparks has created throughout the years with his timeless novels. From The Longest Ride to Dear John, Nicholas Sparks is one of my all-time favorite authors and the books below are ones that I could read over and over again. Plus, most of his stories have a connection to North Carolina, as the author lives in the Tarheel state himself.

THE LONGEST RIDE

Speaking of North Carolina connections, The Longest Ride has the closest setting to Forsyth County. Two stories interconnect in this novel and feature the locations of King, Winston-Salem, and Black Mountain College near Asheville. The first is about widower Ira Levinson, who reminisces about life with his wife, Ruth. The second story is about a college student attending Wake Forest University, Sophia Danko, and young rodeo star Luke Collins. While out with her friends, Danko meets Collins and the two fall in love. On the way home from a date, they notice a car that had drifted off the road and crashed in an embankment. Inside was Ira Levinson. Throughout time, the trio develop a friendship and share stories about life, love, and heartache.

TRUE BELIEVER

Published in 2005, True Believer focuses on the story of New Yorker Jeremy Marsh and smalltown librarian Lexie Darnell. Marsh is known for debunking supernatural claims in his magazine column. After hearing about a phenomenon where ghostly lights appear in a cemetery in Boone Creek, North Carolina, he decided to travel down south and investigate for himself.

There, he meets Darnell and a future for the couple starts to unfold. In the end, Marsh has to make the difficult decision of going back to New York or following his heart. If you are a fan of True Believer, I would definitely recommend reading the book’s sequel, At First Sight.

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SAFE HAVEN

Just like The Longest Ride, Safe Haven was made into a movie in 2013. The movie was good, but in my opinion, the book is better.

Newcomer Erin comes to Southport, North Carolina and takes on a new identity, changes her name to Katie, and puts life with her abusive husband behind her. While there, she meets her new neighbor, Jo, and the town’s store owner, Alex, a widower with two children.

However, upon discovering his wife has left, her husband, Kevin, becomes furious and learns that Erin is now Katie living in a small North Carolina town. Quickly, he takes off to find her. Meanwhile, Jo encourages Katie to develop a romantic relationship with Alex and create a family with his children. Through twists and turns…I’m stopping here, because the book has a big surprise ending that I don’t want to ruin for anyone. However, I can tell you that Safe Haven is a book you can’t put down and one you’ll quickly fall in love with.

Other popular Nicholas Sparks books include The Notebook, A Walk to Remember, Nights in Rodanthe, The Last Song, and Message in a Bottle.

As an avid reader of this author, trust me, once you pick up a Nicholas Sparks book, you’ll want to read all the novels in his collection.

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BY LISA S.T. DOSS

BEAUTIFYING THE EXTERIOR FROM PATHWAYS TO STRUCTURES It’s not just the inside of a house that can transform an attractive abode into a welcoming and practical retreat!

Accenting your home with natural elements such as walkways, small buildings, fencing, and other structures add to the appearance.

CREATIVE WALKWAYS

Come! Let’s talk a walk.

Those words are instantly inviting. In addition to the front walkway, consider other locations that require a designated path. Do you frequently visit a flower garden, barn, or a quiet place with a bench? The type of material, whether practical with wide stones, crushed rock, or designed with a natural element, moss growing in between bricks or stone, may aid in your decision.

• Think about your lines: straight, rectangular, wavy with an enlarged circle in the middle, or including steps. Large stones with crushed rock will add layers of visual texture.

• If seeking a rustic pathway that enhances a cottage, fieldstone and perhaps a layering of squared rocks to serve as stairs works well.

• A curvy walkway of stepping stones represents a journey to a great destination, whereas a straight path leads to a building or vegetable garden, places where work may occur.

SMALL BUILDINGS

Storage is a necessity for every homeowner. Before endeavoring to either buy a modular building or kit, or constructing it yourself, consider the following suggestions.

• Water, rust, and mildew resistant plastic containers strategically placed near

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the garden, driveway, or house can serve your needs without needing a building. Imagine a box that holds your garden supplies, or bicycles and a push lawn mower. The choice of color, mainly a dark brown or green, for instance, serves the purpose of camouflage.

• A unique non-intrusive space also is underground. Begin by researching the Earthbag, which allows you to stack dirt-filled bags in a location where grass will grow on top. Temperature regulated, it could serve as a root cellar among other expansive possibilities.

• If the space for equipment, tools, and a table is a necessity, consider the additional purposes the building could serve. A lean-to is quite simply a roofed open area on three sides extending from a structure. While it has storage potential, it could be used to clean vegetables from the garden or be converted into a greenhouse with the addition of doors, vents, and six-mil plastic sheeting. Please consider whether the lean-to has adequate sunlight or shade to serve your needs.

While ideas are still forming, the placement of a small building is just as important as the structure. Solar power lighting can aid in providing an

adequate light source when needed; however, a building placed outside the reach of southern afternoon exposure may help you to enjoy your building day, evening, and night.

FENCING OPTIONS

Fencing provides a means to separate the boundary and protect your garden from some critters. (Let’s be realistic, deer can jump obstacles 10 feet in height.) In expanding upon the idea of eye-catching structures, think beyond the box of wrought iron or wooden boards. For instance, a living fence planted with willow sips grows rapidly, even in the first year, and when manipulated can intertwine into unique designs.

• Wattle Fencing: The idea of placing durable rods (made from oak, bamboo, U-posts, or rebar) two feet apart to weave thin saplings in between. (Use quickly after cutting, or soak in water to maintain its bendability) This barrier of any designated height and length is often intended for raised beds and gardens, walkways, and boundary fencing.

• A rock wall is an attractive fencing structure; however, even a low two-foot fence will have instant curb-appeal.

In addition to a large number of flat, squared rocks, you will need a foundation of either concrete or rocks, as well as stakes and string to maintain a straight line.

The outdoors is an extension of your home, which can include something exciting for all seasons, such as a greenhouse or firepit in winter, a wildflower and vegetable garden in spring and fall, and a pergola or covered desk in summer. Planning first will help you in fulfilling your outdoor dreams.

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3 Mistakes Women Make with Fitness & Food

BY JESSICA BARBER

If you are frustrated with the way you’ve been working out and eating right lately and getting little to no results, you are not alone.

I personally have had my own journey from over-trained female to hormonal distressed, over-trained female to hormone balanced, simplistic training female. Even after having two babies, my body was just not the same as it was in my youth and what may have worked then, certainly wasn’t going to work now. That’s when I started developing a system that worked for me through properly managing my food and fitness as a whole. After working with hundreds of women in the last couple of years at JBFit, I have noticed a common thread: women continue to approach their fitness and nutrition now with thoughts and ideas that aren’t designed for them.

So, I am going to share with you the top three mistakes women make with conquering the battle to find balance with fitness and ease with nutrition.

Let’s get started....

MISTAKE #1 - EATING TOO FEW CALORIES

Seems logical. You want to move the scale so let’s just eat less. Most women are falling hard into this category.

The problem lies in the fact that calorie reduction causes cravings, energy drop, and decreased metabolism.

Your body loves to conserve when it can. Consider it a super saver and the number one conservation it’s going to hold on to is fat. Fat gives a multitude of purposes to our body, so the first to go is often muscle tissue. This is a big factor in metabolic distress because the less lean muscle tissue we have, the slower our metabolism will work.

Wouldn’t you love to feel free of the urge to snack on cravings, have more energy and start feeling your metabolism increase?

Who wouldn’t want that feeling?!

Remember food is your friend. The more starved you are walking around feeling, the less your body is working for you. Start adding in more protein, fibrous carbs like cruciferous veggies and healthy fats.

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MISTAKE # 2- DEPRIVATION OF NUTRIENTS

I’ve heard this so many times.

“I need to start back on my diet.”

The cycle goes like this: Deprivation of nutrients via diet...

Strong will power to never eat certain foods again....

Obsession about certain foods....

Binge and regret....

I am a complete failure....

All to start back again :( The number one obstacle we face is breaking the binge and deprive cycle. This is the common “diet mentality” that sucks women in and spits them out with vengeance. Exactly what is saturated in the fitness industry now.

Self-care and self-preservation is key to breaking the cycle. You’ve got to understand that the more accepting you are of your mistakes, the more you learn from them. This is what I call intuitive training and intuitive eating. Once you learn these behaviors, you can learn to make a change instead of just bandaging a persisting problem.

MISTAKE #3 - HYPER FOCUSED ON THE SCALE

Scale obsession is a real thing with women. I’ve even talked to women who weigh themselves four and five times a day.

I know I have personally been victimized and had a day or two ruined by stepping on the scale. You may end up becoming so fixated on looking for a certain number that you lose sight of the steps you should be taking to become healthier. This can lead to a spiraling effect of mistake #1 and #2.

Self-care means focusing on how you feel. How you feel depicts the efforts you are putting towards your mind and body work. It’s all cumulative and the more you focus on how you feel, the less obsessed you become with the scale.

The scale is just a tool to measure a particular state. It doesn’t tell you how you feel or what improvements you’ve made with changing your mindset and habits.

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Special Salute to Our Men and Women of the Armed Forces:

THANK OUR MILITARY & GIVE BACK!

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

ABOUT ARMED FORCES DAY

Armed Forces Day will be celebrated on May 18, 2019 this year as a special tribute to the servicemen and women in the Armed Forces, including the Army, Navy, Marine Corps and Air Force.

In 1961, John F. Kennedy declared Armed Forces Day a national holiday as a time for the nation to come together to honor the lives of those who serve in our military. We owe these honorable men and women a huge “thank you” filled with true gratitude and support for helping us stay safe, secure and protected.

In addition to Armed Forces Day, Memorial Day (May 27th) is set aside to remember and appreciate the lives of our military heroes who have passed away, but who live on in spirit and memories, and Veterans Day (November 11th) also honors the brave men and women who have served our country.

APPRECIATE, SUPPORT, AND GIVE BACK

Invite a service member over for a home-cooked meal. Make them feel included, special and appreciated. Or you could deliver food to them for a much-needed break from cooking. Offer to clean and straighten up their abode or run errands. The goal is to make their lives easier and more enjoyable. Help them feel truly loved, appreciated, honored and supported.

If you are a good driver, offer a vet a ride. Take them to a job interview or to get groceries. You could make an excursion and drive to the mountains, lake, or beach, where they can hike, picnic, or camp out for a change of pace and scenery.

Don’t overlook or underestimate the benefits of reaching out by communicating through social networking. Offer to conduct a search to help someone in the military or veteran find a job.

Offer to watch over their house and babysit, even if just for an evening, so they can have a peaceful, quiet night alone or with their spouse.

There are many ways to reach out to servicemen and women and veterans to express your gratitude. Try writing a loving letter filled with gratitude, support, and encouragement.

Recording your words on paper can mean the world to a veteran or someone actively serving in the military.

Provide a temporary foster home for a pet of someone in the military and take good care of their pet while they are away. If you have a friendly pet, bring it over for a visit. If they have a dog, offer to take their dog for a walk or bring it to the park to play.

More of an orator? Prefer speaking? Record an audio clip of your special message and send it electronically or put it on a CD to mail out. You can text, email or post an audio recording and, if you have musical talent, you can dedicate an original song as a special tribute. You can post your song on one of the music playing platforms, such as Reverbnation. com, Bandcamp.com, or Soundcloud.com. You could also distribute your song online to a paid site such as Cdbaby.com or Distrokid.com and order download cards or physical CDs.

More than a third of all Iraq and Afghanistan veterans already have or will experience PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), so help support their lives by sponsoring a companion or service dog. Patriot Rovers (patriotrovers.org) is a local NC organization that honors heroes by training Psychiatric Service Dogs to aid veterans with stress, anxiety, seizures, and PTSD. Puppies Behind Bars is a program where prisoners train companion dogs for assisting veterans. Donors who sponsor a dog can get updates about their training.

If you enjoy baking, homemade treats to share with troops are always welcomed. If you’re a knitter, handmade blankets are appreciated. Or how about sending calling cards and other utilitarian gifts to use and enjoy?

However you choose to thank, appreciate and support the lives of those in the military and those who have served, remember to reach out and go out of your way as much as possible to make a positive difference.

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BY DAVE MCCONNELL

LET’S BOOST OUR METABOLISM Aging is a process that we all seem to have our own way of complaining about, or we’re no longer aging which simply means we’re no longer around to complain about it. Other than the aches and pains that we start to endure over the decades of wear and tear on our body, the most common gripe is the weight we gain even though our lifestyles and habits seem to be the same. The culprit in most cases is our metabolism. In everyday language, metabolism refers to the breakdown and transformation into energy of the foods we consume. It is the sum of all biochemical processes that take place within an organism and includes breathing, fat storage, muscle building, digestion and circulation of the blood. One’s metabolic rate is the rate at which our body burns calories at rest or during exercise. Factors such as age and gender play a pivotal part in our metabolic rate.

Typically, metabolism begins to slow around age 30 and decreases 5% every ten years. One of the biggest factors is that we gain fat and lose muscle mass as we age. Therefore, to make it as simple as possible, one of the best ways to boost our metabolism is to gain or maintain as much lean tissue (muscle) as possible. You burn six calories per day for every pound of muscle as opposed to two calories per day for every pound of fat. For this reason alone some type of resistance training is a must for optimal health.

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Many times when we try to lose weight we drastically reduce our caloric intake.

Initial weight loss can occur from mostly water loss. This can send our body into starvation mode, in which the metabolic rate slows down. Eating small healthy snacks every 2-3 hours can keep our metabolic rate up.

Drinking green tea would be the drink of choice in boosting our metabolism.

Studies have found that supplementing exercise with green tea can actually boost weight loss. The brew contains catechins, a type of antioxidant that triggers the release of fat from fat cells and helps speed the liver’s capacity for turning fat into energy.

Make sure you are getting enough protein in your diet. The body uses more energy to digest and process proteins.

It is said that post-meal calorie burn is increased by 35 percent from protein.

Since many high protein diets are not

healthy because they often contain large amounts of meats that contain saturated fats, one must be cautious in choosing protein and the amount consumed. Typically consuming 0.8 to 1 gram of protein per kilogram of body weight per day should be sufficient to fuel weight loss. For a 130 pound person, that would equal between 46 – 58 grams of protein. Add or subtract about 4 grams of protein for every 10 pounds over or under the 130 pounds for grams needed in your diet.

There are surely other means through our diet, exercise regimen, and lifestyle to boost our metabolism. These are a few that to me are essential and should be easy to incorporate into our lifestyle. The important thing to remember is our metabolic rate slows with age, at what rate and the effect it has on us can be offset by knowing what to do and taking action!

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Life Without a Microwave: When the Unthinkable Becomes Possible

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Could you give up your microwave? For most people the idea is incomprehensible. Originally invented in 1946, the microwave became affordable in 1967, and by 1975, they were seen as a necessity in the American home. Its popularity is such that it’s estimated that 90% of American households have a microwave oven.

1. More counter space. What seems like a kitchen

But for Katie Marsh and her husband, Charles, they kicked their microwave to the curb almost four years ago. “We were in the middle of moving,” Katie said.

“We hardly used our microwave for anything other than warming up coffee. It was kind of old anyway, and I didn’t feel like packing it, so I told my husband, ‘If we miss it in six months, we’ll get a new one.’”

2. Leftovers taste better. Heat them up in a skillet or

They haven’t missed it.

“Our friends and house guests are always shocked when they come to our kitchen and realize we don’t have a microwave,” Katie continued. “But we have a toaster oven, a tea kettle to quickly heat water, and plenty of pots and pans. We really don’t need it.

Besides, I think food tastes better when it’s cooked more traditional ways.”

Living without a microwave may seem impossible, but studies have shown that people are using them less and less. Sales have been on the decline in the last several years. With the sale of toaster ovens on the rise (sales are up 80% since 2000) and the increased popularity of slow cookers and pressure cookers – people are turning to other appliances to make healthy meals at home.

There are several benefits to living without a microwave including:

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essential is taking up a considerable portion of counter space! While many have the over-the-stove kind of microwave, many countertops never see the light of day due to the large appliance that takes up more than its fair share of space.

in a toaster oven. You will have fresher tasting leftovers that don’t get rubbery or dried out, as often happens in a microwave.

3. Popcorn popped on the stove is much better. Save yourself money with a large bag of kernels and learn how to stove-pop your popcorn, or invest in an air popper.

Stove-popped popcorn is free of so many of the chemicals and additives found in packaged microwave popcorn.

4. Healthier meals. With the gaining popularity of Dream

Dinners, HelloFresh, and Blue Apron, the idea of cooking a meal from scratch feels less daunting at the end of a long day. Fresh ingredients are better for you than frozen, prepackaged meals.

5. More environmentally friendly. Living without a

microwave will lend itself to fewer plastic containers since reheating leftovers will need to be reheated in glass or metal pans.

Life without a microwave may seem impossible, but the Marshes are proof that it’s possible. They are also avid coffee drinkers who survive without a Keurig, but that’s another article.

Resources: “The Slow Death of the Microwave,” by Roberto O. Ferdman (QZ.com)

“The History of a Microwave Oven” (TimeToast.com)

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Samaritan Ministries Hosts the 6th Annual Tour de Llama: June 22, 2019 On June 22, 2019, Samaritan Ministries will host their 6th annual Tour de Llama bike ride at Divine Llama Vineyards.

Arbor Investment Advisors is proud to be the presenting sponsor of the event. All proceeds raised through rider registrations and sponsorships help provide food and shelter to our hungry and homeless neighbors in the Winston-Salem area.

The three bike routes go through rural Yadkin County through beautiful scenery and minimal traffic. Riders can choose 21, 38 and 61-mile routes that begin at 8:30 a.m. Registration on the day of the event opens at 7:30 a.m.

“Last year, the number of cyclists nearly doubled. We’re excited to see the growth of the event and are looking forward to another wonderful day at Divine Llama Vineyards” said Sonjia Kurosky, executive director of Samaritan Ministries.

After the ride, attendees are invited to stick around for lunch, tours, llama activities, photo opportunities, wine tastings and more on the farm.

Last year, 57 sponsors and 262 cyclists raised $27,547. Samaritan Ministries’ goal this year is $22,500. The fee is $30 per person and riders must be 18+. Sponsorships are $250 or $1,000. Samaritan would like to thank Arbor Investment Advisors, Ken’s Bike Shop, and all sponsor and vendor partners for helping to plan this special day for cyclists.

Active.com is currently accepting registrations for a four-ride package deal. Riders can pay $100 and participate in four rides that all benefit local non-profits. The rides are Saddles and Spokes (June 8); Tour de Kale (June 15); Tour de Llama (June 22) and Operation Red Sleigh (July 20).

Divine Llama Vineyard is located at 4126 Divine Llama Lane in East Bend. For more information and to register as a rider or sponsor, visit samaritanforsyth.org/tour-de-llama/.

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11:30am-1pm, Footnote on 4th Street in W-S. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting.

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MAY 5

(2pm on Sundays), Southeastern Center for Contemporary Art (SECCA), 750 Marguerite Drive in W-S. Inspired

by Miguel de Cervantes’ 17th-century masterpiece Don Quixote, this winner of five Tony Awards, including Best Musical, has proven to be one of the most enduring works in musical theatre history. Cost: $22-24/person. www.ltofws.org/man-of-la-mancha

12-8pm, Foothills Brewing, Downtown Brewpub and Footnote Coffee and Cocktails, 638 West 4th Street in W-S. We will be offering $10 Woodford Reserve Juleps at both our downtown Brewpub location and our Footnote location and a free glass with purchase while supplies last!

MAN OF LA MANCHA 7:30pm

10-11:30am, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. To promote reading readiness and visual literacy, you and your preschoolers will explore Reynolda through hands-on activities that encourage dramatic play, music, movement and art-making.

Registration required. Contact Julia Hood, manager of school and family learning, at 336.758.5599 or hoodje@reynoldahouse. org with questions. Cost: $45 per family per six-week session.

MAY 4

ENGINEER IT EXHIBIT Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Explore the Design-Build-Test cycle through hands-on experiments. Discover DaVinci’s interlocking bridge, experiment with the Marble Run Station, build with Giant Blue Blocks and more! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. 767.6730. www. kaleideum.org

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ICEVENTURE EXHIBIT Kaleideum

Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Decorate a snowman, collect snowballs, go ice-fishing and slide on the sock-skating rink! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. 723.9111. www.kaleideum.org

MAY 2-4

32ND ANNUAL SHEPHERD’S CENTER USED BOOK SALE

Education Building, Winston-Salem Fairgrounds, Gate 5, Deacon Boulevard in W-S. The book sale is one of the largest in our state! Parking and admission are free! www.shepherdscenter.org

MAY 3

MAY GALLERY HOP AT RED DOG GALLERY PRESENTS “RE: RECYCLED, REUSED, RENEWED”

7-10pm, Red Dog Gallery, 630 North Liberty Street in W-S. A showcase of works of a variety of talented local AFAS artists.

Artivity studios on the second floor will be open with music and activities. Check out the calendar on our website at www. theafasgroup.com.

MAY 3-4

SLEEP OUT WINSTON-SALEM

7pm-7am, Bailey Park in Innovation Quarter, 445 Patterson Avenue in W-S. The Bethesda Center needs you! Join us for this wonderful fundraising evening.

Our goal is to raise $150,000, and this is only possible with your help. Visit www. sleepoutws.com, and get all the details you need for registering. Cost: $35/person.

GO FAR FAMILY 5K & FUN RUN 7-11am, Piedmont Centre,

4050 Piedmont Parkway in W-S. The Fun Run begins at 8:15am, and the 5K starts at 9am. Cost is $15 for the Fun Run and $25 for the 5K. After the race, celebrate with vendors, food and music. GO FAR is a nonprofit running program that teaches children of all abilities about healthy eating, goal setting and training for a mile or 5K. For details, visit runsignup.com/gofar or call 508.4380.

Clemmons West Pool Shelter, 3376 Middlebrook Drive in Clemmons. We will have local vendors, refreshments, awards, a raffle, music and a wonderful morning of community fellowship in honor of Cancer Services. All proceeds raised will go to benefit Cancer Services. Cost: $12$30/person. For more information, please visit www.stride4courage.com.

COMMUNITY SHREDDING EVENT 9am-1pm, Lewisville

Elementary School water tower parking lot. Now that taxes are done, clean out those old documents.

Local Girl Scouts will sponsor secure on-site document destruction for a suggested donation of $5 per box or bag. Proceeds will be used to fund service projects in the community.

Scouts will distribute tips on avoiding identity theft, recovering from a theft or breach and how to stay informed about current scams. For more information, please contact the troop leader at 972.6226.

CONCRETE CANVAS V – ARTS & MUSIC FESTIVAL 11am-9pm,

ARTivity on the Green, 620 North Liberty Street in W-S. New murals, food trucks, music and great artists selling their cool art! Free event. www.theafasgroup.com/events-2

MAY 4 & 18

SATURDAY ART JAM! – UNLEASHED ARTS CENTER

12:30-3pm, Unleashed Arts Center, AFAS Center for the Arts, 630 North Liberty Street in W-S. Create a fun art project and meet new friends. All ages welcome. Parents/guardians must stay with kids while at the event. There is no need to register ahead of time, just show up and bring your imagination! Questions? Contact us at theafasgroup@gmail.com.

DERBY DAY AT FOOTHILLS

KIDS’ AFTERNOON OUT!

1-4pm, Legacy Saddlebreds, 4151 Thomasville Road in W-S. Free event. Enjoy free introductory lessons*, games, photo ops with horses, meet the staff and get some food from the taco truck! Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board! *Lesson spaces are limited during this event; see the Facebook event on Forsyth Magazines’ or Legacy Saddlebreds’ page.

FAMILY FIRST WORKSHOP: MAKE IT ABSTRACT

2-4pm, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. Simplify an idea into a few shapes and colors using acrylic paint to create your own abstract work of art! Grades 1-6; registration required. http://reynolda-house-museum-ofamerican-art.ticketleap.com/familyfirst-make-it-abstract CINCO DE MAYO AT FOOTHILLS Foothills Brewing,

Downtown Brewpub, 638 West 4th Street in W-S. Celebrate Cinco de Mayo with $8 Corralejo Reposado Palomas, $10 Montelobos Mezcal Juleps, $6 Camarena Margaritas and free giveaways! Also enjoy chili relleno with beans and rice, fried house pressed corn tortilla stuffed with pepper jack cheese, saison pulled chicken, topped with lettuce, tomato and lime crème, and flan cheesecake.

MAY 7

BREAST CANCER SUPPORT GROUP 6pm, Breast Cancer

Support Group, South Fork Community Center, 4403 Country Club Road in W-S. A support group that comes together to learn through education. Our speakers are professionals that come from different areas of the health field.

Anyone with any type of cancer can come. Everyone is welcome.

MAY 7 & 14

DEMENTIA WORKSHOP – EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATIONS STRATEGIES 7-8pm,

Salemtowne’s Babcock Health Care Center, 1550 Babcock Drive in W-S. “Effective Communications Strategies” will cover how to decode verbal and behavior messages from people with Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia. Registration is strongly suggested to ensure space for all attendees. To register, visit https://tinyurl.com/ALZMay7 or https://tinyurl.com/ALZMay14.

MAY 8

READING LABELS 12-1pm, Biotech Place, Classroom 153 A&B, 575 North Patterson Avenue in W-S. Learn expert tips on reading food and pricing labels at the grocery store for optimal physical and financial health! yourwellq.com

MAY 9

KID-FRIENDLY VOLUNTEER DAY 10am-12pm, SECU Family House,

1970 Baldwin Lane in W-S. Bake fresh desserts and make trail mix snack bags for families to take as a snack to the hospital. There will also be supplies available to make a special craft. All supplies will be provided. Sign up at www.familyhousews.org/kid-friendlyvolunteer-day-sign-up

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT! 5pm-until…, The Grille at the Glen, 1000 Glen Day Drive in Clemmons. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy $2 Corona Extras and Corona Lights, $5 sangrias, $6 appetizers and peach margaritas and half-price wine by the glass and by the bottle! Reservations are recommended.

Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways!

GREENSBORO SYMPHONY TANGER OUTLETS 2019-2020 MASTERWORKS SEASON 8pm,

Steven Tanger Performing Arts Center, 300 North Elm Street in Greensboro.

Cost: $15-$75/person. www. greensborosymphony.org

MAY 10

TEENS IN THE HOUSE SECU Family House, 1970 Baldwin Lane in W-S. Applications are due for the Teens in the House program. This summer, the Family House is offering four separate weeks for middle and high school students who are ready for an inside peek at what it takes to make a successful non-profit run. Cost of the program is $70/person. Scholarships are available. For more information, check www.familyhousews.org/teens-inthe-house

MAY 11

CHICK-FIL-A FOUR PACK NIGHT WITH THE DASH 6-9pm, BB&T

Ballpark, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. Don’t miss out on the best entertainment deal in the Triad! For as low as $32, fans can receive tickets to the Dash’s game against the Down East Wood Ducks on Saturday, along with four Dash hats and four chicken sandwich vouchers redeemable only at the Chick-fil-A at Thruway Shopping Center. This deal must be purchased in advance by calling 714.2287. www.milb.com/winstonsalem/tickets/chick-fil-a-four-pack

EYE AND LIP COLOR FOR SPRING, SUMMER 2019 FEATURING MARVIETTE USHER MARY KAY Designer Accessories,

2705 Teresa Avenue in W-S. Lisa Kay, the owner of Designer Accessories, will be featuring Marviette Usher with her Mary Kay products. RSVP preferred by calling 336.723.7678.

MAY 12

FAMILY SUNDAY WITH THE DASH 2-5pm, BB&T Ballpark,

951 Ballpark Way in W-S. Bring the kids out for our Lowes Foods Family Sunday! A couple of Dash players will be available for pregame autographs on the concourse, and the Kids Zone will be available for free for all children ages 12 and under.

Cost: $8-$16/person.

MAY 14

“AN EVENING UNDER THE SEA” FUNDRAISING GALA 5pm,

Paul J. Ciener Botanical Garden, 215 South Main Street in Kernersville. The evening will include dinner, drinks and a special guest speaker, along with a silent auction, with all proceeds going to water safety education in our community. Keep up with the latest information at www.bewatersafe.org/ gala. Cost: $75/person.

SALEM BAND “SCHOOL OF MUSIC” CONCERT

7:30-9pm, Salem Square, Academy & Main Streets in Old Salem. Salem Band opens its 2019 summer season, “If Music Be the Food of Love” with a salute to our own Salem College School of Music. Hear music by Mozart, Beethoven, Brahms, as well as selections from “Sound of Music” and Motown. Free event. Bring a blanket or lawn chair. Food vendors on site. www.salemband.org

MAY 15

ST. LEO OPEN HOUSE 11am-

1pm, St. Leo Catholic School, 333 Springdale Avenue in W-S. You are invited to join the St. Leo family at an open house where parents are invited to drop in. www.stleocatholic.com

CREATING A BUDGET AND STICKING TO IT 12-1pm, WellQ,

575 North Patterson Avenue, Suite 148 in W-S. Join us for this interactive session on budgeting to learn smart strategies for managing your cash flow, allocating expenses and sticking to your budget. Limited seating!

Please RSVP. http://yourwellq. eventbrite.com/

MAY 17

REYNOLDA READ-ALOUD: LOST AND FOUND 10am,

Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. In this storytime program for prereaders, we will read children’s books together and participate in activities that relate to the stories. Contact Julia Hood, manager of school and family learning, at 758.5599 or hoodje@ reynoldahouse.org with questions.

MAY 18

SUMMER CONCERT SERIES FEATURING THE WILL JONES BAND 6-9pm, Shelton Vineyards, 286

Cabernet Lane in Dobson. Join us as we kickoff our Summer Concert Series with the Will Jones Band! Cost: $15$25/person. https://sheltonvineyards. com/events/summer-concert-seriesfeaturing-the-will-jones-band

RUNNING THE VINES 10K AND 5K Shelton Vineyards, 286

Cabernet Lane in Dobson. Come join us for our 9th annual Running the Vines 10K, 5K and kids 1/2-mile fun run! Registration required. https:// sheltonvineyards.com/events/runningthe-vines-10k-5k--12-mile-fun-run

MAY 19

VICTORIAN PARLOR SERIES: PICNIC WITH THE PRESCOTT

3-6pm, Körner’s Folly, 413 South Main Street in Kernersville. To celebrate the fine spring weather, we’re taking the Parlor outside for a Victorianstyle picnic, featuring menu by local farm-to-table restaurant The Prescott.

This event is BYOB – Bring Your Own Blanket, providing a great opportunity for visitors to lounge outdoors Victorianstyle. Cost: $25/adults; $15/children.

MAY 20

FREE FOOD MONDAY WITH THE DASH 7-10pm, BB&T Ballpark,

951 Ballpark Way in W-S. It’s the craziest deal in sports! Each ticket comes with all the free hot dogs and French fries until 8:30pm. Also, free corn dogs will be served while supplies last. The best part? Normal ticket prices apply. Cost: $8-$16/person.

MAY 22

THE MANY FACES OF HEALING

12-1pm, Biotech Place, Classroom 155, 575 North Patterson Avenue in W-S. From yoga and acupuncture to reiki and reflexology, there are plenty of options when it comes to integrative therapies.

Limited seating please RSVP! http:// yourwellq.eventbrite.com/

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MAY 25

CORVETTE AUTO SHOW AT SHELTON VINEYARDS Shelton

Vineyards, 286 Cabernet Lane in Dobson. To pre-register, please send your name, car year, type and club affiliation to Frank Sancinato at caravan25th@aol.com. Registration is free! We will be hosting a variety of food trucks to enjoy during car show hours. Be sure to come hungry and visit each of our food vendors. https:// sheltonvineyards.com/events/corvetteauto-show

MAY 26

NC BRASS BAND CARNIVAL CONCERTS 7:30-9pm, Brendle

Recital Hall, Wake Forest University, 2629 Wake Forest Road in W-S. The performance will include a special guest artist, internationally renowned trumpet and cornet player, Vince DiMartino. Cost: $20/adults, $5/children & students. www.ncbrassband.org

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MAY 28

SALEM BAND “FEED THE SOUL” CONCERT 7:30pm, Salem Square,

Academy & Main Streets in Old Salem.

There’s music to feed everyone’s soul on this program: big-band, polka, opera, marches and a salute to the Queen of Soul Aretha Franklin. Free event. Bring a blanket or lawn chair. Food vendors on site. www.salemband.orghttps://www. facebook.com/SalemBandFan/

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Conversations with Your Why Do Some People BFF Pass Through My Life

BY REBECCA COOPER

and Others Stay?

In the course of a lifetime, you will meet people who you think will be part of your life forever, but when those relationships end, you’re left wondering, ‘If I was just going to lose this friend, partner, or spouse, why did they even come into my life?’ I’m so glad you asked…

Let’s begin with a fundamental principle…you don’t meet people by accident. They’re meant to cross your path for a reason.

If a relationship doesn’t last the test of time, it doesn’t mean it still wasn’t meant to be, if just for the time it was. Some people are meant to be blessings and others are meant to be lessons. There’s a purpose for each person you meet.

Through much research and talking to my friends, I’ve narrowed it down to just a few reasons why someone is meant to cross your path.

THE BRIDGES IN LIFE

Those in your life that ‘bridge’ you during a time in your life that may be particularly painful, to another place, are part of your pathway of getting you to where you need to go. These people are needed to arrive exactly at the time and place you met them and they move you along to the next level of your journey.

THE ROADBLOCKS AND RE-DIRECTORS IN LIFE

There are some people who come along and delay you for both little things and big things. For example, that lady you meet in line at Target who is slowing up the self check-out and she turns around and sees ‘I want to hear about your life’ on your forehead. You are in a hurry, but she needs someone to listen to how badly her day is going. You oblige for 20 minutes and think, ‘I’m really late now,’ but you know she needed a friend and you were it for that time. Then as you get onto the highway, you see a terrible accident and think, ‘If I had not stopped to talk, I might be the one waiting on the ambulance.’ That hiccup in time when you are delayed may be the moment that saves you from life taking another direction.

THE TEACHERS IN LIFE

Often your tormentors in life do double duty as your mentors. These are the people who teach you important life lessons, usually by the process of pain, which helps you to grow who you are. I read that ‘their crisis pain creates the crisis fuel’ you needed to bring necessary change you didn’t want to put in the effort to make. Then there are those who are just wonderful teachers who show your lessons in a loving manner.

THE ANGELS IN LIFE

I think these are some of the best people who come into your life. These people are here to protect you and remind you to stay safe and self-loving, always remembering your worth and value. They are ‘guardian angels’ of sorts, making sure you don’t stray too far from the path you are meant to be on. They help you in times of need or desperation when others many be scarce. I am very blessed to have quite a few of these.

THE GUIDEPOSTS IN LIFE

The people who come along and remind you to keep pursuing what you want in life, encouraging you to stay on track are the guideposts in your life. They keep you energized, focused and enthusiastic about the next step in life when you may not even want to take that step.

When you can’t see that tomorrow will be better, they can and do push you to hang on past the worries of today.

THE TRIBE MEMBERS IN LIFE

When these individuals arrive in your life, realize they are few and far between, but they are the ones who are loyally there for you during tough times and happy times. They see you clearly and accept you, flaws and all. Tribe members support you when you are invisible to others and root for you with a pure heart when others might feel competitive or jealous. They have no agenda and want the best for you. When you succeed, they aren’t threatened, they feel your accomplishments and are as excited as they would be for their own.

Hang on tightly to these people.

So don’t ever discount anyone you meet, whether they tarry 15 minutes or a lifetime.

They are meant to be part of the tapestry of your life and you theirs. Embrace those short and long timers and appreciate them for what they bring to your life.

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