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How many times have you told yourself to “not” do something, only to find yourself doing that thing even more? Here’s an example for you: You tell yourself you’re going to STOP looking at your phone right before you go to bed because you know it’s not doing you any favors, but you just can’t seem to break the habit. What if, instead, you added something to your routine? You decide to spend 10 minutes “closing down” the kitchen right before bed or you spend a few minutes reading or enjoying a cup of tea. Ok – time to get out your pen and paper (or your notes app on your phone). Think of three things you want to add to your life this year. Here are mine: More collaborations. Collaborating with other people and other businesses really sets my soul on fire. We’re always better together! More FaceTime calls with family. While texts and phone calls are great, you can’t beat being able to see your out-of-town family on the phone. I love seeing my parents and grandparents light up when I FaceTime them to show them the dogs or give them a chance to show me a new project they’re working on. More saying “no” to things I don’t want to do. As my good friend Taryn says, “if it’s not a ‘hell yes…’ it’s a NO.” A tough pill to swallow sometimes, am I right? I’d love to hear what you plan to add to your life this year! Share it on social media and tag @forsythmags! This month, we’re honored to feature Amy, the owner of Inner Strength Pilates on our cover! Amy has a fabulous team of women behind her, and I love watching her business continue to grow and evolve! You can read all about Amy and her team beginning on page 48.
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appy New Year!! I love the fresh start of a new year – it always feels so exciting! While I was struggling to sleep last night, I had an epiphany. An “ah-ha!” moment, if you will. A nutritionist I’ve been following on Instagram for a while has a neat philosophy about adding versus taking away. For example, instead of telling yourself to “eat fewer sweets” or “drink less alcohol,” replace that mindset with thinking about what you can add to your diet. Focus on adding more vegetables to your meals or getting creative with incorporating more grams of protein into your day. I love this concept, and I think it can be applied to much more than nutrition.
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Unleash Your Power at the 3rd Annual Women on the Move Conference
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The Art Beat of Forsyth Woman: Alison Rose Patterson
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Hunt for Happiness Week 2024
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Achieving Goals and Resolutions by Prioritizing
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Superfoods to Keep You Healthy This Winter
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COVER STORY Inner Strength Pilates: Moving Into Your Best Life
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Why People Don’t Achieve Their Goals and What You Can Do About it
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Keeping It Real UNSHAKABLE by D R . D E B B I E L A N I E R
“Unshakable!” It sounds preposterous in these jarring times, doesn’t it? What would you say if I told you that future events are about to shake the earth in ways that make 2020’s shutdown seem like child’s play? I’m not trying to frighten you, but I am trying to prepare you! If we’re not equipped for what’s coming, we’ll be stacked up with the next round of casualties…BUT THAT’S NOT OUR STORY! Throughout these pages, we dig in our heels to stand, immovable, upon The Ageless Rock that has never given way, NOT ONCE! This Firm Foundation keeps us steady and sure through the coming chaos. While others collapse beneath the
weight of it all, we live courageously and confidently. We not only survive the storm; we carry the capacity to pull others from the brink, as well. I’ve never been more certain of our victory amid the crises of our time. Of all moments to be alive, God made YOU… for NOW! We walk unafraid! We move undeterred! We live UNSHAKABLE! Get your copy today! Signed copies and discounted bundles are available at HopeCommunityChurch.tv. You can also purchase a copy on Amazon!
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Provider Spotlight Nancy Tuohy, WHNP-BC
Nancy Tuohy is a native of Durham, North Carolina. She is board certified as a Women’s Health Nurse Practitioner, receiving her degree from Georgetown University in 2023. Nancy graduated from Wake Forest University with a BA in Psychology and then received her BSN from UNC Chapel Hill. Her prior nursing experience includes prehospital care, pediatrics, mother baby, pediatric ICU, school health and risk management. Nancy is a Menopause Society Certified Practitioner. Her special interests include general gynecology, midlife women’s wellness, pelvic floor health, and perimenopause and menopause management. She is a member of the The Menopause Society, the American Urogynecologic Society and the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health. In her free time, she enjoys travel, hiking, gardening, and spending time with her two sons.
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Not only are you in the most capable hands with the professionals at Salem Plastic Surgery & Renewal Med Spa, but Dr. Scott L. Tucker, Dr. Hampton A. Howell and their team are always eager to embrace the newest, cutting-edge procedures. Despite the aging process we all face, there are several non-surgical cosmetic procedures available to counteract nature’s plans! Fillers, lasers, peels and cosmetic treatments can smooth lines and wrinkles, raise sunken areas, tighten sagging skin, reduce blemishes, correct uneven pigmentation, minimize the appearance of facial veins and leave you with fresher, glowing, youthful skin. Plus, the very fortunate clients of Renewal Med Spa know the treatments they receive will always be customized especially for them – and always with dignity and confidentiality. Plastic Surgeon Dr. Scott Tucker shares the newest innovative treatment in their repertoire. “We just purchased Candela Matrix RF Micro-needling, after much research and trialing of the newest technology,” he explains. “We chose this device because it has the most capabilities and results, in less downtime, and more comfort for the patient than its competitors.” The Candela Matrix is a multi-purpose, energy-based platform device designed to customize a treatment designed for every patient. Powered by Dimensional RF, the Matrix system leverages multiple modalities working at up to three depths of the skin, allowing for greater precision than standard micro-needling devices. This allows for a much more comfortable experience. With a variety of applicators, it works to target different skin needs, including fine lines, wrinkles, scars and volume loss. The Candela Matrix restores skin structure using infrared (IR) and radio frequency
(RF) technology to regenerate and build new collagen, while improving overall skin appearance and texture. The Matrix applicator utilizes the thinnest micro-needles currently on the market, that deliver short pulse (RF) energy to the skin using specialized Depth Technology. This allows for treatment at different skin depths with only one insertion, and is ideal for clients looking for a collagen boost and smoother skin. The Sublative applicator stimulates new collagen growth and resurfaces new skin with bipolar (RF) technology – without the use of needles. Instead, this treatment uses fractional energy pulses sent via multi-electrode pins, effectively smoothing wrinkles for an overall refreshed face. The best news is that absolutely anyone is a good candidate for Candela Matrix. If you’re being proactive and starting the anti-aging process on still-youthful skin, or if you’re at the stage of “pushing back time” a bit on more mature skin, this is for you! Each treatment will be unique, and expertly fitted to your personal skin needs. As always, the personable Renewal Med Spa team first consults with clients about their skin goals – arriving at which plan is their best option. With this new treatment, there are two applicators designed to target a variety of skin concerns. Jade Simmons, Aesthetic RN, shares that one of the true benefits of this treatment is the minimal downtime you will experience. “You may be pink afterwards, but your skin should return to normal by the next day,” she adds. What an advantage for busy clients! For more information on body and skincare treatments at Salem Plastic Surgery & Renewal Med Spa, reach them at 336.768.8483, or visit salemplasticsurgery. com. The practice is located at 1345A Westgate Center Drive in Winston-Salem, a convenient location for busy schedules and even lunchtime appointments! Hours are Monday through Friday 8:30 a.m. until 5:00 p.m. Follow them on Instagram @ salemplasticsurg and @renewalmedspanc.
UNLEASH YOUR POWER AT THE 3RD ANNUAL WOMEN ON THE MOVE CONFERENCE PRESENTED BY SECOND HARVEST FOOD BANK OF NWNC Forsyth Woman Magazine proudly announces the return of the highly anticipated 3rd Annual Women on the Move Leadership Conference on Monday, March 25th, 2024, at the stunning WinMock at Kinderton! This year, we are thrilled to introduce the empowering theme, “Discov-Her,” inviting attendees to embark on a journey of self-discovery and unlock their full potential. Elevating Dreams into Achievements through Women’s Support The Women on the Move Leadership Conference is not just an event; it’s a movement that believes in transforming dreams into opportunities and opportunities into accomplishments. We emphasize the power of women supporting women, creating a positive and uplifting community. A Day Packed with Impactful Presentations, Networking, Shopping, and More! From 9 am to 5 pm, immerse yourself in a day filled with transformative experiences. Our agenda includes: Inspiring Presentations: Hear from local leading ladies, including business leaders, owners, and entrepreneurs, sharing insights to fuel your personal and professional growth. Presentation
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topics this year include overcoming imposter syndrome, elevating your voice and visibility for success and leading with confidence. NEW THIS YEAR! Panel Discussion: We’re introducing an exciting panel discussion featuring four well-known women from our community. They will answer anything and everything you want to know. Attendees can submit questions in advance and pose live questions during the panel, fostering an interactive and informative session. Dynamic Emcee: For the third consecutive year, we’re excited to welcome back the fabulous Kristin Johnson as our emcee. Known for her unmatched energy, Kristin will infuse the day with enthusiasm, keeping the atmosphere electric and engaging. Networking Opportunities: Connect with like-minded women, forge new alliances, and build a network that lasts beyond the event. Shopping Extravaganza: Explore a curated selection of local vendors offering unique products and services – a perfect blend of business and pleasure. Gourmet Food and Refreshments: Enjoy a delicious lunch, snacks, and coffee throughout the day, ensuring you stay energized and engaged.
Limited Tickets: Tickets are priced at $99 each, inclusive of all-day access, meals, and exclusive experiences. Be sure to secure your spot early, as tickets sell out every year. Don’t miss the opportunity to be a part of this empowering day! What Past Attendees Are Saying: “The beauty of the event is a barn full of women ready to lift each other up. The positivity is palpable, and you’ve harnessed something really special that feels like the perfect extension of your brand. Bravo!!” “Loved the presentations from local leaders and enjoyed meeting new people and connecting! A fabulous event!” “It was a spectacular event! I appreciated all the intention and care taken in each and every detail down to the empowering decals on the bathroom mirrors. Thank you for putting this together for us all to share.” Join us for an unforgettable day of empowerment, connection, and inspiration at the 3rd Annual Women on the Move Conference – where your journey to self-discovery begins! Register now at tinyurl.com/womc2024
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Hi! I’m Lauren. I’m a freelance writer and a food blogger with a passion for food that tastes good and is good for you! Stay tuned each month to find everything from achievable dessert ideas to healthy, quick dinners that’ll happily feed the family.
Creamy Italian Sausage & Spinach Tortellini Soup Servings: 6 Prep Time: 10 minutes Cook Time: 20 minutes Total Time: 30 minutes
INGREDIENTS 8 oz. Cheese Tortellini 3-4 Spicy (or Mild) Italian Sausage, pork or chicken, removed from casing 4 T Olive Oil 1 Yellow Onion, chopped 3 large Carrots, peeled and chopped 3 Organic Celery, chopped 3 Garlic Cloves, minced 2 T Fresh Sage, chopped 1 T Flour 5 oz. Organic Baby Spinach, roughly chopped 48 oz. Chicken or Vegetable Broth 1 cup Milk 1/3 cup Heavy Cream (Optional) ¼ cup Fresh Parsley, chopped Grated Parmesan, for garnishing
INSTRUCTIONS 1. In a large soup pot over medium high heat, add the olive oil to heat up for 1 minute. 2. Add the Italian sausage (removed from casing) to brown (~8-10 minutes). Break up the sausage into bite-sized pieces with a spatula. 3. Add the chopped onion, carrots, celery, garlic and sage. Sauté 4-5 minutes. 4. Stir in the flour. 5. Add the spinach and stir until cooked down, about 2 minutes. 6. Add the broth, milk and heavy cream. Bring to a boil. 7. Add the tortellini pasta to cook (~4-5 minutes or until al dente). 8. Stir in the freshly chopped parsley. Season with salt and black pepper to taste. 9. Serve topped with grated parmesan to enjoy warm!
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A monthly column that keeps its finger on the pulse of Forsyth’s artists and their inspiring stories!
Alison Rose Patterson | Colored Pencil Artist This month’s featured artist, Allison Rose Patterson, has crafted a career around teaching art to others and pouring her love of the human experience into one-of-a-kind portraits. Her attention to detail partnered with her ability to pull the most personal elements together make her pieces hold emotions and stories within each stroke of her brush or pencil.
How would you describe your work? The majority of my work is spent creating photorealistic portraits of people and animals, however, I do sometimes experiment with other styles. I love the challenge of capturing every aspect of a portrait, down to the smallest detail, in order to make my work come to life and pop off the page. Artwork can include details that encapsulate emotion not always captured in a photo, which makes it far more intimate than just a photograph. There is so much reward in portraits, especially capturing someone special that someone recently lost.
friends and family would use to describe us. I created a self portrait, overlapping the words and, while ultimately my professor at the time didn’t show the same level of appreciation as expected, it led me to discover one of my favorite art series. Sometimes the subjects are characters from comics or movies (like Iron Man or Groot), and I create their image from the movie script. My favorite version of word portraits are family portraits using words that describe the individual person. For example, they can use nicknames, references to memories or jokes, and even words that describe them at the time of the portrait.
What influences your art?
What are you working on that excites you right now?
The interests and experiences of my loved ones often inspire me when I start projects. I cherish the joy and excitement I see in the faces of my friends and family when I use my skills to create art that they love. One of the greatest feelings in the world is using your talent, no matter what it is, to make someone else smile.
How have you evolved, personally, as an artist? I tend to be an extreme perfectionist so, over the years, I learned to push past my fear of failing. Perfectionism can assist my eye for detail, but if I’m not careful, it can escalate to unhealthy levels, turning my art into a stressor rather than a stress reliever. In college, when my classmates and I found ourselves in that situation, our professor would always give the same response: “Nothing is precious in art. If something doesn’t fit, you can’t be afraid to change it.” These words still resonate with me and transformed my outlook toward my art. When I feel myself starting the “perfectionist spiral” and getting too stressed with my projects, I hear my professor’s voice in the back of my mind, and it reminds me to keep everything in perspective.
I am currently starting to get back into painting which really excites me! I have not painted much over the past few years, due to my hectic schedule, so I am looking forward to playing around with this medium again. In the past, I mostly used acrylics, but I am starting to practice with oil paints. I am an extreme art history nerd, so I am looking forward to immersing myself in this classic medium and perfecting my skills along the way.
What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with fellow artists, especially those at the start of their careers? Do what makes YOU happy. Don’t compare yourself to others; everyone has their own creative process, artistic style and unique perspective. Focus on what you love, and let your art be a cathartic experience rather than a stressful one. Remember that nothing is precious in art…except for you, the artist!
How do you carve out time to be creative, as a teacher? Between my volunteer work and being a full time teacher, it can definitely be a struggle! Thankfully, I’ve found a more balanced routine, and now maintain a schedule with time set aside for art. I also have a wonderful support system at home, so when I am getting too busy, my husband always keeps me grounded and reminds me to stick to the schedule, allowing me to focus on myself and art.
Do you have a favorite story behind one of your paintings and why? Using pen and ink, my “word portraits” are created from words rather than lines. Funny enough, I began making this style of art in college for a non-creative course assignment where we were tasked with generating words to describe ourselves as well as words our If you are interested in learning more about this month’s artist, Allison Rose, you can find her on TikTok and Instagram @artbyallisonrose20.
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Happy New Year, Boss! I hope you’ve arrived at a place where the New Year doesn’t incite overwhelm in your spirit. The New Year can be viewed as a marker to track history and growth – it’s not something to stress about. If you had goals you didn’t attain before 2024, reflect on your effort and be proud of the work you put in! We will no longer discredit our progress. Neglecting to reflect on the progress of our journeys makes it harder to find the endurance to keep striving. Even if last year was rough, analyzing the things that brought you joy, pain, success and failure will help your goalsetting efforts and unveil strategic pivots that will magnetize accomplishments in your life.
CARRY OVER UNACCOMPLISHED GOALS As you carry over unaccomplished goals, take a moment to assess their relevance in your present life. Should this still be a goal for you? If so, think about the obstacles that caused you not to reach it. Was it a lack of time or motivation, an overburdened schedule, distractions or unforeseen life events? Identifying some root causes will allow you to address them on a high level. This is the time to take on a bird’s eye view of your business or goal-setting to reveal things you may have missed while you were occupied doing the work.
cram. Break down bigger goals into smaller, bite-sized goals, and set deadlines for each one. With time, you’ll be knocking goals out of the park!
SET NEW GOALS
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Once you’ve had time to assess the previous year, it’s time to write new goals. Habakkuk 2:2 says, “Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables…” I like to write an outline of yearly goals and then dive deeper when I reach a new quarter. You must do what works for you and experiment with new methods that prove to be more effective. Additionally, it’s important to set deadlines to give you a sense of urgency. Deadlines help your mind prioritize what to work on each day. In my experience, it’s more important to set them than it is to reach them because we can adjust the deadline; but the progress is what we need to accomplish the goal. Avoiding setting a deadline can result in lost time, and you may even forget about it until it’s time to
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Writing goals doesn’t guarantee results. This is why we need God’s help. So often, we get caught up in our ideas and develop an emotional bond with something we did not check in with God about. We end up wasting time and meeting frustration and anger that we weren’t meant to experience had we just asked God about our plans. The enemy will throw in ideas as well to distract you but you must combat those with prayer and patience. Write the vision, pray and wait on the Lord. I can confidently say if the strategy you hear does not involve others, it’s likely not from God. The second half of Habakkuk 2:2 says, “...so that he may run that readeth it.” That means there will be people in your life who
are also excited about your goals and they need direction and clarity to help you reach it. As strong as we are, we cannot do everything alone, and the bigger the goal, the more help you will need. Pray for discernment as you invite people into your business and goals, and watch God supernaturally accelerate your progress.
CELEBRATE ALONG THE WAY What a harsh life we sign up for when we neglect to celebrate our accomplishments. Make sure you celebrate all the victories and praise God for the failures you will experience this year. A small exercise to train your mental muscles is to celebrate every day you wake up because you get another chance to strive further; every day is not guaranteed. As we cheer the New Year, let’s put our best effort into effective goal-setting. I think we will be pretty amazed at all God accomplishes through us. So, let’s begin! I have faith in you.
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U N D E R S TA N D I N G PERIPHERAL NEUROPATHY by M A R T I E E M O R Y
With their second bustling location in Winston-Salem, Aligned Health & Wellness has enthusiastically expanded their heartfelt care for patients suffering with peripheral neuropathy. Utilizing new techniques that allow patients to resume active lives with their families, husband-and-wife team Drs. Jessica and Joshua Katz work tirelessly to empower people to reclaim their lives, while living with the symptoms of neuropathy. If you’re new to the diagnosis, some of the doctors’ most frequently asked questions are featured here to clear up misconceptions and, hopefully, ease your mind!
Q: “What exactly is peripheral neuropathy?” A: It is defined as damage to the nerves of the periphery…or the nerves outside the brain and spinal cord.
Q: “I’ve been told there is nothing that can be done for peripheral neuropathy. Is this true?” A: Many neuropathy patients are told this, and the reality is there isn’t one single medication that cures neuropathy. If patients are looking within the bounds of the western allopathic model, they aren’t going to find anything that addresses the underlying pathology of their neuropathy. That does not mean nothing can be done!
Q: “I’ve already tried everything, and nothing has worked, so how can what you do help me?” A: On a cellular level, the nerve tissues need oxygen and nutrients (just like any other cell) to be able to rebuild and repair themselves effectively. The body is constantly rebuilding and repairing itself, and when there’s enough oxygen and nutrients, that process keeps our cells healthy. In neuropathy cases, the nerve cells are not getting enough oxygen and nutrients to sustain their health, let alone repair damaged tissues. We help the nerves heal by getting them the oxygen and nutrients they have been lacking.
Q: “What actually causes peripheral neuropathy?” A: There are dozens of causes, but the most common are diabetes, chemical exposure or exposure to toxins (chemotherapy, agent orange, some medications), injury and infections.
Q: “What do medications prescribed for neuropathy do?” A: Medications focus on trying to reduce symptoms for patients. The problem is they do nothing to stop the progression of the underlying condition, and as the neuropathy gets worse, the medication becomes less and less effective.
Q: “What are the symptoms of neuropathy?” A: Symptoms vary widely among sufferers because there are different types of peripheral nerves in patients. It depends on which nerves are damaged, as well as how much damage has occurred. The most common symptoms are numbness, tingling, burning, itching, sharp/stabbing pain, throbbing, coldness, heaviness, sensitivity to touch, balance problems and weakness.
Q: “If there’s a cure, why does my doctor not recommend it?” A: Honestly, it’s not because they don’t want to help you! Many physicians are simply unaware of the technologies that exist and the studies illustrating their effectiveness. We love working with a patient’s PCP to let them know our findings, our treatment recommendations and likely outcomes.
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Q: “How new is your procedure?” A: The biggest refinements in these technologies occurred in the 2000s. The technologies themselves were introduced into healthcare in the 1980s – on a very limited basis – but started to gain more momentum in the late 1990s.
Q: “My neuropathy is caused by diabetes, so if I get my A1C under control, will it fix my neuropathy issues?” A: No, while getting your A1C under control is a fantastic accomplishment, it doesn’t fix the nerve damage that has already taken place. In fact, left untreated, neuropathy is a condition that progresses – even in those who have their A1C in check and are able to keep it there.
Q: “I have been dealing with this for years. Will it get worse?” A: Neuropathy is a chronic, progressive condition with four stages. It does one thing over time…it gets worse. For most patients, symptoms begin intermittently in one extremity. As the condition progresses, it will affect both limbs and become more frequent and more intense as damage progresses. In its earlier years, neuropathy can progress quite slowly, many times without any symptoms. However, in its later stages, degradation can occur rapidly. Every patient is different, but if you are experiencing neuropathy, it’s best to set up an appointment to see what stage you are in and what treatment options are available. Dr. Jessica Katz is eager to get started with your personal journey towards a life with less pain and more movement, where you can experience the treatments and programs offered by Aligned Health & Wellness. Convenient to Winston-Salem, Greensboro, High Point, Kernersville and Walkertown, their newest location is open at 765 Highland Oaks Drive, Suite 200 in Winston-Salem. Learn more about their services devoted solely to peripheral neuropathy patients, or request an initial appointment at piedmonttriadneuropathy.com or by calling 336.600.2477.
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Hunt for Happiness Week
2024
by J E A N M A R I E J O H N S O N
Ah, happiness... Beware of the glitter, glam and flash because it’s not the late model cool car, the gorgeous house, the extravagant vacations or the couture wardrobe that will sustain your happiness. Money can buy a great lifestyle, along with tantalizing comfort and luxury, but happiness? No, it can’t do that. So, what does make people – you, me, our relatives and friends – happy? Psychology Today cuts to the chase in these succinct words: “Happy people live with purpose. They find joy in lasting relationships, working toward their goals and living according to their values.” The happy amongst us, they add, also take pleasure and contentment from life’s simple pleasures and conclude that all of this is largely within our control. How cool is that? Which brings me to “Hunt for Happiness Week.” Yes, it is a real thing, started in 2001 by “The Society of Happy People.” I love that these seven days (1/21 – 1/27 this year) commence after the holiday rush and fanfare when most of us have settled back into the routine rhythm of our lives. I also love that this week encourages us to focus on what has proven to foster happiness: living with a sense of purpose, fostering meaningful relationships, pursuing specific goals and, not the least of which, living according to our values. All of which are nurtured by our day-to-day choices and actions.
CAN YOU SPOT A HAPPY PERSON? A happy person: …is typically open to learning new things and is high in humility and patience. …smiles and laughs readily, goes with the flow, expresses gratitude, practices compassion and exercises self-care. …enjoys healthy relationships and is happy for other people. …doesn’t feel entitled, has fewer expectations, isn’t spiteful or insulting, doesn’t play games or hold grudges. …doesn’t fret over yesterday or tomorrow, isn’t a martyr or a victim and, DRUMROLL please: …is generous with his or her happiness. Who doesn’t want to be around a happy person? And, more to the point of what is within our control, why not commit to working on your own personal happiness? The Society of Happy People explains that “Hunt for Happiness week is all about hunting for reasons to be happy. The general theme of everyone’s life is about finding happiness. Hunt for Happiness week is all about celebrating the little joys in life. It is not about being happy all the time; it is about making the best out of little things as much as we can.”
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Happy and Strong Happiness can positively affect overall health by improving the immune system. Happiest Country Finland is the happiest country in the world according to the World Happiness Report. Happy Color Most studies suggest that the color yellow is associated with happiness. Happiest Animal Quokka, a cute and friendly Australian marsupial, is known as the happiest animal in the world. Happiness is Contagious Happiness spreads; we can feel happiness just by being around happy people. As a wise person noted: “It isn’t happiness per se that promotes well-being, it’s the actual pursuit that’s key.” So, what can you do to embrace the Hunt for Happiness Week? Read on! Happiness-Cultivating Activities to Pursue this Week • • • • • • •
Revisit your sense of purpose. I know that my purpose has certainly shifted over time, while its core remains the same. Express yourself: tell others what makes you happy. Cultivate relationships: reach out to someone who has made you happy. Exchange ideas with someone close to you about how to increase the happy in your lives. Intentionally indulge in small pleasures and challenging activities. Set one or two goals and take concrete steps to progress toward achieving them. Consider all of your actions, your way of being in the world and align or realign them with your core values.
Beyond resolutions and commitments, I hope that you embrace this new year by gifting yourself with the attitudes and behaviors that bring you happiness. Isn’t that really what a quality life is all about?
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The eclectic ambiance surrounding Industry Hill – which encompasses the northern edge of downtown Winston-Salem – is a tribute to the past, a glimpse at the exciting future and gathering space for all the current magic that’s happening in between! That makes every event held at Robert Hall – the area’s distinctive multi-purpose event space and Airbnb destination known for its authentic attention to detail – even more unforgettable. The downtown setting also offers a fun mix of breweries, restaurants, galleries and museums nearby, so the possibilities for out-of-town guests are endless. All the history behind the revitalization of the Robert Hall building reflects the best in creative ingenuity, and Owners Will and Christy Spencer are pleased to share three unique gathering spaces – including The Vault, The Garden and Capone’s Bar – along with five furnished rooms in The Huntley House, which can be reserved together or individually. That equals ideal accommodations for traditional weddings or intimate elopements (with both inside and outside ceremony space), holiday parties, corporate events, executive retreats or networking events – complete with full A/V capabilities. On the first floor, The Vault offers its own version of creative versatility! “Especially unique, The Vault is an amazing 2,500-square-foot space with that great industrial feel. Its concrete floors, an exposed wood beam ceiling and eclectic features including neon signs, are such intriguing points,” explain Christy and Will, whose family has been part of this community for several generations. “But, on the flip side, it also includes elegant features such as the large reproduction Art Deco chandelier, velvet sofas and dramatic floor-to-ceiling wall coverings. Our guests have been known to use the space for formal, seated dinners for up to 120 people, then turn the space into a raucous fun dance party with DJ and lights!” The Vault also connects to a 700-square-foot, fully equipped commissary kitchen that’s perfect for use by the venue’s preferred caterers and pop-up restaurant innovators. Thirsty Buffalo is Robert Hall’s bar service partner and a treat for every size of event. Happy clients tell the story best! “My group was searching for a unique downtown location to hold its annual retreat. The meeting included both special A/V requirements, space for a large meeting along with space for break-out groups and a catered lunch. The Vault was perfect! It is a distinctive site that has a cool vibe because of its neon signage company heritage, along with its innovative, eclectic interior. The room is perfect for any size group and allowed us to transition to many specific needs such as large PowerPoint presentations and smaller,
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informal, comfortable break-out groups. I have also been lucky enough to attend several social functions at The Vault. No matter if it’s an upscale, plated dinner or a buffet brunch, the space is ideal and adaptable for any event; there is even room for a dance floor! If anyone is looking for a unique space for any sort of meeting or event, The Vault is what you are looking for!” ~ Michelle M. Come visit Robert Hall, located at 874 N. Liberty Street in Winston-Salem, 336.408.1831, and follow them online at Roberthallwsnc.com, and on Facebook and Instagram @roberthallwsnc, for events and updates. To arrange a tour, or for information on availability and booking one of these beautiful spaces for your special event in 2024 and beyond, email their event manager at Kristopher.Walter@ roberthallwsnc.com.
Achieving Goals and Resolutions by Prioritizing by K AT I E M A X E Y, R D , I B C L C
It’s January, and most of us begin each new year looking at what we want to change about ourselves or our environment over the next year. Then, we set New Year’s resolutions and start the first of January on our year long plans. But, let’s be realistic. How many times have you truly made it past February continuing to work on those goals and achieving your long-term plan for the year? Often, we jump into our goals full force, and it dwindles throughout the first couple of months. It may be because your goals were not realistic for you at the moment, or something got in between your plans and goals and then you struggled to get back on track. You’re not alone. As a dietitian and fitness enthusiast, I’ve watched many people struggle to keep their New Year’s resolutions. By prioritizing and setting realistic steps to achieve these resolutions, you can begin to chip away at long-term habits that you’re hoping to change. Start by looking at the past year. What resolutions did you make for 2023? If your resolutions went well, examine why you were successful. Was it because you had social support pushing you along the way? Or maybe you created a smaller habit of scheduling time to exercise or meal plan each week. You were consistent because of your schedule change goal. If your resolutions did not go well, what happened to make you not achieve your goals? Maybe you set large resolutions to be completed by a certain time frame that seemed impossible to reach. Or maybe you were doing it alone with no support to push you on days when it was hard. By examining the past, you can help yourself achieve your goals for 2024 by sticking to what worked last time or by avoiding the same roadblocks that got in the way before. After examining the past year’s resolution patterns, look at the type of resolutions you are setting this year. Are they realistic? Small goals, that will eventually lead to large habit change, tend to be more successful. Once you have hit your small goal, it gives you momentum to continue pushing and hit the next goal. The small goals, when done consistently, will get you to the larger habit change you are looking for without making it seem overwhelming and unattainable.
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Large goal: I will lose 10 pounds by the end of January. Realistic, smaller goals: I will go to the gym for 30 minutes, three times a week or I will meal plan balanced meals on Sundays to prepare for the week.
Large goal: I will save $200 by the end of January. Realistic, smaller goals: I will pack my lunch three days each week and transfer money into savings that would typically be spent on going out for lunch.
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The smaller goals are going to work together to help you hit your larger goal of weight loss or saving money. But, without these smaller goals set and a plan in place, the weight or financial goal will seem much harder to reach. After you set your small and realistic goals, tell somebody! The more support you have, the more you will feel accountable to reach your goals. Be selective with whom you share your goals. Make sure it’s someone that is encouraging and will nudge you and lift you up when your goals get hard. If someone wants to join in and work together on the same goals, even better. Having a partner is very powerful and can increase your chance of reaching your goals! This year, prioritize your goals by learning from past goal setting successes or mistakes and making sure your goals for 2024 are small and realistic. You can even write them down, check them off and physically watch your progress along the way. And don’t forget to share with someone you trust! Make 2024 the year you achieved your New Year’s resolutions past the first couple of months. You’ve got this!
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The GHOST Who Lives with Us
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I have seen him once, in profile, from the corner of my eye passing from the living room into the kitchen, a dapper middle-aged man in 1940s clothing. He is attired in a collared shirt, patterned knit vest, doublepleated gabardine trousers and dark-colored loafers. A fedora, the most popular hat in that decade, is atop his head. Startled, I jump up from my seat at the kitchen table as he suddenly vanishes in front of my eyes. My heart is pounding because I’m a largely rational creature and this ghostly appearance cannot be squared with reality. I’ve read in paranormal literature that a ghost sighting is often referred to as an example of “ontological shock” – something that cannot happen but DOES. And, it has. It makes perfect sense to me, however – the whispers I have heard, lights and water faucets turning on and off, things in the house moving or falling, the shadows I have intermittently seen passing through walls, freezing cold spots in the house even when the central heat is set at 74 degrees, the voice on the internet screaming “you’ve got mail!” at 3:00 a.m. – though I know for a fact that I shut the computer down many hours before. This is the unadorned truth: a ghost – defined as a dead person who interacts with the living world – lives in my home, and while people may scoff at the veracity of that statement, if you lived here with me, confronted with the occurrences of that unlikely reality, you would soon be a believer, too. For the moment, we are both obdurate. Neither of us is leaving. There is what I might characterize as an uneasy peace, a bilateral acceptance of the fact that we share an earthly environment, infused with indisputable supernatural overtones – for a certainty not everyone’s cup of tea. It seems that I am in good company in my belief that my roommate-apparition exists. According to a survey conducted by the
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Pew Research Center in Washington, D.C., almost one in five people said they have seen or been in the presence of a ghost. If that is correct, that equates to more than 50 million spirit encounters in the U.S. alone. Chapman University in Orange, California runs a yearly survey that asks people about their beliefs in the paranormal – in 2018, 58% of those polled agreed with the statement “places can be haunted.” A 2019 Ipsos poll found that 46% of Americans say they truly believe in ghosts. The idea that the dead remain with us in spirit is indeed an ancient one in virtually all cultures and civilizations, appearing in countless stories from the Bible to Shakespeare’s tragedy, “Macbeth.” The belief apparently offers many people comfort – that deceased family members, for example, are with us in our times of need. Ghosts fascinate us – mysterious, inexplicable, extraordinary, eerie – they challenge the very foundations of how we make our world intelligible and meaningful. Never before have people sought to record so many ghost encounters – thanks in part to mobile phone cameras, microphones, electromagnetic field detectors and other devices that ghost hunters typically use to capture sounds, electrical fields and infrared radiation. On television ghost shows currently enjoy an unparalleled popularity. Even if we are not thoroughly convinced of the existence of spectres, we are clearly curious about whether they are truth or fiction. Skeptics keep the debate going though. They argue that, if ghosts are real, their existence will be discovered and verified by scientists through controlled experiments. They posit that reports of ghosts can be explained by psychology, misperceptions, mistakes and hoaxes. According to an article in “ScienceNewsExplores” dated 10/31/2019, “scientists using reliable research methods have found zero evidence that ghosts exist. What scientists HAVE discovered though, are lots of reasons why people might feel they have had ghostly encounters. The author points to various possibilities that can explain the existence of a ghost – such as experiencing a hallucination or having an incident of pareidolia – a
tendency for the human brain to find patterns amongst ambiguous stimuli – like seeing faces or figures in a cloud. Effectively, the brain finds meaning in meaningless things and makes them sensical. Sociologist Barry Markovsky at the University of South Carolina has forcefully argued in a October 25, 2023 post on the school’s website that anecdotes cannot substitute for objective research – that alleged hauntings have plenty of nonghostly explanations. Still, the ghost stories remain with us. Their currency continues. Prime Minister Winston Churchill and First Lady Grace Coolidge swore up and down that they saw Abraham Lincoln in the Yellow Oval Room. George Washington is said to regularly visit the historic chamber at Mount Vernon where he died in 1799. The ghost of Former Governor Daniel Fowle allegedly has taken up quarters in the Governor’s mansion in Raleigh and likes to push his former bed forcefully against the wall in the evening. As I’m writing this, the light suddenly flickers in the den and, once again, my volume of Black’s Law Dictionary has fallen from its shelf and lies, open, in the middle of the floor. As a former law school graduate, I cannot bear that abomination which has happened on numerous occasions. I walk into the room and say out loud “please leave the law books alone. And, don’t disturb my son and I and the sanctity of my place.” When you live with things that go bump in the night, you have to give – even them – a modicum of respect. Playing it safe, I don’t want to offend anyone or anything. For the rest of the evening, there are no more events. At least until for now.
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Tonya Scott has always been a teacher who loves sharing her knowledge and expertise to help others live safe, healthy lives. At just 16, she began teaching swim lessons – something she continues to do today. As an adult, she chose a career in education in a high school setting as well as teaching community CPR classes. “I love being able to teach others about the career I love and how to save a life,” said Tonya. “Helping people runs in my family. My father worked at a funeral home in the 60s and 70s when the funeral homes responded to accident scenes, sick people, etc. My greatgrandmother took care of sick and injured people in her home. To follow in their footsteps, I became a lifeguard when I was 15. When I moved to NC, I worked with a girl who was in the paramedic program at Davidson County Community College. When she told me about the program, I was hooked. I enjoyed being outside and responding to emergencies, so becoming a paramedic seemed to be the best choice for me. I love being able to see people where they are. Doctors and nurses don’t make house calls, normally. They only know as much as the patient tells them about what is going on. I see them in the moment of their emergency, where it occurs. This can often allow for the patient to get more accurate help. Patients may be embarrassed or don’t think it is important to share certain things with their doctor, but we are able to see what they might not share.” Tonya currently shares her passion for teaching with students at North Forsyth High School as an EMT teacher and HOSA Advisor. “EMT courses started in high schools across NC approximately eight years ago,” said Tonya. “The EMT class is offered at North Forsyth High School which is the only school in WSFCS to offer an EMT academy. The course is broken into two semesters. The first semester, students earn their EMR (Emergency Medical Responder) certification. This EMS certification allows students to perform CPR, use an AED, assess a patient, obtain vital signs and come up with which protocol to follow. The second-semester, students complete their EMT certification. Emergency Medical Technicians are able to give medications like ASA, Nitroglycerin, Narcan and Epinephrine. EMTs are able to put in blind insertion airway devices, place a patient on CPAP for severe breathing difficulty and are trained in childbirth and pediatric emergencies. We also
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learn about different cultures and how they respond to medical situations. Students also complete driver’s training and a clinical rotation during the second semester.” Requirements to enroll in the course are to be a current senior who has successfully completed English 3, and it is helpful for those who have taken anatomy or health science 1 and 2. This is great for “highly motivated students who want a healthcare career that is fastpaced, multifaceted and allows them to work independently,” said Tonya. “There are six students who have gone on to a career in EMS or fire service after going through class. Those who were unable to obtain their certification have still learned valuable skills to help a loved one or friend. They have also made valuable friendships in class while working together on skills and assessments.”
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EMPOWERING WOMEN THROUGH FITNESS Building Confidence and Strength in a Supportive Community at Washington Park CrossFit by M E A G A N J O H N S O N
Washington Park CrossFit, located in Winston-Salem, NC, is not just a gym; it’s a community dedicated to helping individuals, especially women, improve their quality of life through constantly varied functional fitness. Opened in October 2022, Washington Park CrossFit offers a unique fitness experience tailored for women of all ages and skill levels. Head Coach Gavin Culler emphasizes, “We all start somewhere – and it’s never too late to be the fittest version of yourself.” The gym provides hour-long classes from 6 am to 6:30 pm every weekday, ensuring personalized attention with class sizes capped at 12 athletes at a time to ensure personalized attention. Co-owner Brooke Eagle highlights, “One of the best parts about CrossFit is that there is always a new skill to learn. You never get bored.” The coaching staff meets each member at his or her fitness level, emphasizing proper form and fostering an encouraging atmosphere. Beyond fitness, Washington Park CrossFit celebrates community and camaraderie. Regular social events, from Friendsgiving to Friday Night Lights during the CrossFit Open, create a sense of belonging. Members often gather for post-workout brunches or evening socials, reinforcing the strong bonds formed within the community. Katelyn S., a Washington Park CrossFit member, expresses, “The community is so encouraging; everyone wants to see you crush your goals.” The gym’s atmosphere and supportive coaches are designed to shatter stereotypes associated with CrossFit by making it an inclusive space for women of all shapes and sizes.
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Though the gym is not limited to female athletes, there are a host of women-focused opportunities aimed to build and empower those involved. Twice per year, a women-only introduction class is offered to introduce women to the sport of CrossFit and foster a healthfocused environment, free from judgment. If you’re seeking a fitness journey that empowers and a community that uplifts, Washington Park CrossFit is the place for you. Experience it firsthand with a one-week free trial. Follow Washington Park CrossFit on instagram @washingtonparkcrossfit and visit washingtonparkcrossfit.com to view our full class schedule and sign up for your free trial!
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What Do You Do When You Find a Lost Dog? by C A R O LY N S P E T E R S O N
Speaking from personal experience, being able to reunite a lost dog and its owner is a rewarding feeling, but it’s not always an easy task. Sometimes, for various reasons, you may not be able to catch the dog and in this case taking a picture and posting it on social media with a description, can many times, lead to the owner actually seeing the post and contacting you. If you see a loose dog and feel you are prepared and are able to help, and it’s safe to do so, there are a few tips to help you find the owner as quickly as possible. Since I am always on alert for any animal I may see that is lost or in distress, I have a few items that I keep in my car. I have treats, a water bowl, bottled water, a leash, in case I do need to get a lost dog out of a dangerous situation or just to safety inside my car. Remember, your safety is of the utmost importance in any rescue situation.
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At all times, approach the dog calmly and encourage them to come towards you. Try to read the situation and assess if the dog is injured, which would make it more aggressive simply because it is in pain. Dogs are less intimidated if you turn your body sideways and continue with slow movement. Offering a treat, pouring some water in the bowl, if you have one, may entice the dog to move closer. Don’t try and chase the dog, as this can scare them to run possibly toward an unsafe area like the road.
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COLLARS AND MICROCHIPS
In a perfect world, the dog would have a collar or be microchipped, hopefully both. With either one, reuniting the dog with its family happens quickly, unless the dog was dumped and abandoned. If the dog is wearing a rabies tag, the number listed is unique to the animal and to the veterinary clinic where they received the vaccination. You can call the vet and have them look up the owner information in their system. If there is no form of ID on the dog, the best bet for being reunited with the owner(s) is through the local animal shelter, as that is the first place an owner would look. Your local animal shelter has a website where the dog’s photo and the area where it was found can be uploaded.
SPREAD THE WORD The more people know about the dog you have found, the better. Taking the old fashioned route of making fliers with a picture of the dog and any contact info for yourself is a way to spread the word. Make sure to get owner identification confirmed before you let the dog leave with anyone. You can also keep some details to yourself, like if there is a scar on the dog’s foot, so only the actual owner would be able to tell you that information. These steps can be valuable in helping a scared and lost dog, or cat, find its way home.
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Importance of Lighting with your Decor Do you feel like you have a case of the blues after Christmas when all the lighting has been removed? Even though Christmas lights and décor made us feel amazing, you might feel your rooms are drab. Take this time to think about changes for the New Year. Lighting will be the first thing on my list. During winter, your home gets less natural light than any other time of year, and this can greatly affect your mood and the appearance of your home. During the holidays, our homes are filled with the ambient light of trees, garlands and holiday candles. We would all feel more festive throughout the year if we paid as much attention to lighting as we do during the holidays. Accent lighting provides focused interest to a room. This method of lighting can highlight an architectural feature like bookcases or a doorway. LED spotlights produce additional lovely effects. LED lighting has become the hottest trend, especially since it is so energy efficient. An important note of caution, however, is the spectrum of light for the LED choices. The bulbs and the ceiling’s recessed lighting should coordinate with the spectrum of color. Lumens are an important term with LED lights. We typically recommend 2700K or 3000K warm. It is important to purchase the same color of bulbs (if using LED bulbs), and lighting changes throughout with the same spectrum. Some lighting can be a work of art in and of itself. Aesthetic lighting is still very important with today’s changes to energy efficient LED choices, such as candle sticks, solid crystal chandeliers and table lamps. My favorite lighting is the decorative lamps on end tables and bedside nightstands. My personal choice is to use 3-way lighting that is incandescent for those lamps, but there are options for 3-way LED bulbs, as well. My overhead LED recessed lighting is 2700 warm that will match most incandescent bulbs. Electricians like to use 3000 lumens warm which is a brighter light but can go more towards daylight in color. It has become very difficult to find 2700 lumens with recessed options. We are not sure what the shortage is, but it may have to do with the global need. Overall, lighting is a versatile and essential design consideration in any home or business. Lighting makes a huge impact but can be confusing and a technical part of design. Let one of the designers with June DeLugas Interiors, Inc. “light up your life” and assist you with an updated lighting plan in your home. Visit our retail store and design center to see the stunning lamps pictured in person. God Bless,
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A food that has high nutritional value and has been shown to prevent diseases is the unofficial definition of a “superfood.” Superfoods are not regulated and have no scientific basis behind the name, but certain foods have been coined as being mightier than others due to their dense nutritional value. So, why not throw in some of these superfoods into your daily intake to ensure that your diet is packed with a few healthy powerhouses? Fresh produce is by far the food group that has the most superfoods. Are you surprised? Fruits and vegetables tend to be high in fiber, vitamins, minerals and, most importantly, antioxidants. Antioxidants have been shown to fight “free radicals” in your body which help to prevent multiple illnesses and diseases such as diabetes and cancer. Vitamin C and Vitamin E are two antioxidants that help to keep your body healthy. Did you realize that when you ate bell peppers or tomatoes you were consuming Vitamin C? But, nutrients are not just found in fresh fruit and vegetables; they can also be found in seafood and whole grains. By including superfoods throughout the week, you’re sure to consume vitamins, minerals and antioxidants that can help keep your body healthy during these winter months when germs are quickly spread from person to person!
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Pears Blueberries Avocado Chia seeds Cabbage Oranges Limes Grapefruits Pomegranate Brussels sprouts Beets Garlic Winter squash Ginger Kale Apples Fennel Sweet potatoes Broccoli Fennel Walnuts Spinach Salmon
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A lot of the foods listed above are probably familiar to you. But, how often do you eat them? By throwing in a baked sweet potato for dinner one night, adding oranges to your breakfast throughout the week, including beets in your lunch salad and using garlic and ginger to season dinner dishes, you can add a powerful amount of nutritional value to your meals.
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Hustle & Heart Three Stories Your Brand Needs to Be Telling by TA R Y N J E R E Z , OF GOFORITCREATIVE.COM
This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.
You will never stop hearing that storytelling is the key to your best content strategy. We all know this! Humans are designed to love stories from an early age – they pull us in! When it comes to your brand, the type of stories you share with your audience can make the difference between a lifelong customer and someone hitting the unsubscribe button. You know what you stand for as a brand, who you serve and what you’re selling, right? So, let’s make sure you’re delivering stories that are converting followers into leads and leads into customers! Grab something to take notes because here are the three different types of stories your brand needs to be telling this year!
#1 BRAND MISSION & VALUES You might be thinking you already share about your brand’s mission and values; “I even have them on my website somewhere, come to think of it!” Listen, you want what you stand for and how you uniquely choose to do business to serve as the cornerstone of your identity. Stories about why you started your business and choose to serve the specific type of customer you do will provide a deeper understanding of what your brand stands for. This is a perfect example of how to highlight how you’re different from competitors! What stories create an emotional connection, allowing your audience to align themselves with a purpose beyond just a product or service? Allow yourself to show up transparently and authentically to foster connections that go beyond just another Instagram post or marketing email. These stories will help build trust and loyalty faster than you can say “add to cart.”
#2 CASE STUDIES & CLIENT INTERACTIONS Can you simply share customer reviews and screenshots of client comments from your work together? Of course, but is that what’s going to really drive home the impact your products and services are making? Sharing stories about specific customer journeys, wins, results and more provides tangible evidence of your brand’s ability to solve problems and deliver value. Don’t be shy, and try different things here. When you dive into specific instances where your brand made a difference for a client and share exactly how you worked together, you humanize your business and build credibility. Highlighting challenges faced, solutions implemented and the positive outcomes achieved creates a powerful storytelling framework that really isn’t hard to create because it’s literally what you did! The
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goal here is to help future customers envision similar success for themselves, ultimately increasing the likelihood of conversion.
#3 TEACHABLE MOMENTS & LESSONS LEARNED You want your brand to show up as an authority and expert in your industry. With the art of storytelling, you can position yourself as an authentic and relatable brand by sharing stories that connect your audience to teaching points. These stories should inspire, educate and resonate with your audience, emphasizing the things you truly want to be known for and seen as an expert on. Each story can be different, showcasing personal stories, professional accounts, interesting anecdotes or pop culture references but create an image of you as a trustworthy source of knowledge and experience. Through teachable moments, you not only impart wisdom but also foster a sense of community, where both your brand and audience grow together.
HUSTLE & HEART CHALLENGE This month, dig into your brand as a whole and brainstorm 2-3 stories for each of the three story types listed in this article. Before implementing these stories into your content strategy, pinpoint how each story you’re telling relates back to your business and what you’re selling to make sure it aligns well!
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“That includes five of us having even further experience and training, adding up to 64 additional years of experience in X-ray, nursing and physical therapy,” says Amy. There are 10 Pilates teachers leading various classes that range from clients with spinal issues and injuries, to athletic and cardiobased Pilates instruction. Offering a wide blend of different therapies – including specializing in nonmedical pain relief, functional muscle balance and Pilates therapy for rehab – is one element that sets the studio apart. As a boutique studio, you’ll find small, intimate classes at Inner Strength Pilates where you’ll receive attention to proper
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form and technique on the way to creating what we all aspire to – a strong, stable body. The studio offers Pilates, Movement Restore Therapy, Scolio-Pilates, Egoscue Therapy, Polestar Pilates Education, Massage Therapy, Esthetics and Lymphatic Therapy. Conditioning your body with precision of movement will also improve your lean muscle mass, flexibility and posture. Immersed in the fitness industry for 30 years, Amy has owned several studios in the Winston-Salem area, and opened Inner Strength Pilates in 2012, along with this super strong team of professionals she’s been working with for years. Amy is also a senior educator with Polestar Pilates, an international training center for Pilates teachers. “What sets Polestar apart from other schools is the fact that we teach Pilates teachers to assess the client and design a program based on each client’s specific needs,” she explains. “We don’t try to make clients fit into the exact same Pilates routine.” That is welcome news, and certainly a confidence builder, for “students” of any age!
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THE PILATES LIFESTYLE While you’re learning the Pilates lifestyle, you’ll assuredly be focusing more on self-care – which is one of the most positive things women can do! Amy shares a few priorities in her life we can all take to heart, especially as we embark on a brand new year. * Movement is medicine! (Read that again!) * Knowing Jesus, while also making him known to others. * Proverbs 16:3 says to commit your works to the Lord and your thoughts will be established. * Remember to stay hydrated at all times. * Always love and serve others. “At Inner Strength Pilates, we have a prayer ministry committed to praying over the studio daily, as well as for all who enter. When you walk into our studio, you feel the peace of the Holy Spirit,” Amy adds. Much as her faith does, Amy stresses that Pilates helps support the stable foundation on which to build your inner strength! Once that foundation is strong, you can “construct” the rest of your house, en route to a much healthier life!
Amy is also happy to introduce Ginny Beeson, the studio’s newest massage therapist, with 10 years of massage experience. Originally from Southern California, Ginny obtained her masters in clinical psychology from Pepperdine University, and worked in mental health for 12 years before making a career shift. She went back to school to become a licensed massage therapist – inspired to dedicate herself to massage after several injuries in college-level soccer were treated successfully with massage techniques. Join the Inner Strength Pilates family this New Year, and get moving towards your best life! The studio is located in the Harper Hill Commons Shopping Center – at the corner of Peace Haven Road and Country Club Road – at 4983 Martin View Lane Winston-Salem, NC, 336.813.5320. Hours by appointment. Visit innerstrengthpilatesnc.com for more information, events and scheduling, and follow them on Instagram @inner_strength_pilates or on Facebook at Inner Strength Pilates.
WHAT’S NEW AROUND THE STUDIO Clients know and love her, and Teresa Hucks has been a fixture alongside Amy since 2007. For the New Year, Teresa is semi-retiring from massage but will be introducing the Vital electrodermal screening technology to the studio. The vital EDS technology uses the meridian points of your hand to scan and check the health of each of your major organs and systems. Because our bodies are electrical, the scanner reads the electrical impulses to determine where there is an imbalance. When a deficiency or imbalance is found through the scan, suggestions for supplements are made in order to bring those systems back into balance. The greater balance there is within your organs and systems, the better able your body is to provide healing for itself. January 2024 | 51
Tourist Free Italy THE PERKS OF OFF-SEASON TRAVEL by A M Y H I L L
When most people dream of an Italian vacation, warm weather and plenty of sunshine come to mind. As it turns out, Italy is just as enjoyable in colder weather and even more enjoyable for crowd-averse and cost-conscious travelers. Budget-friendly travel means avoiding peak summer season hotel and flight prices. If beaches and water-related activities are your top priority, it is difficult to avoid summer travel; however, those looking to escape to Italy primarily for culture, cuisine and sightseeing should consider the autumn and winter months. Want to save even more money? Limit your time spent in major tourist cities such as Rome, Milan, Venice and Florence, and head straight to the south. Northern regions will be more susceptible to cold temperatures and snow storms. The south, however, tends to provide travelers with more manageable winter temperatures and drier weather, depending on the region. Cooler temperatures may also reduce the not-so-pleasant smell of garbage that often piles up on the streets of cities such as Naples, where waste management is not always as efficient as U.S. travelers are accustomed to. Mainland southern regions such as Puglia, Basilicata and Calabria are ideal for adventure travelers who want to stray from typical tourist itineraries and challenge themselves. Off-season prices in less visited regions of Italy are shockingly affordable and over-crowded restaurants, streets and tourist attractions are a nonissue. Another perk? Rental cars with automatic transmissions are much rarer than manual rental cars, so the likelihood of securing the rental car you need to travel around rural regions of Italy is higher with fewer tourists. Sicily offers milder temperatures in the winter than northern Italy, making it budget-friendly without missing out on some of the most beautiful sights Italy has to offer. Although a trip to Sicily’s coast during warmer months would be ideal for most, baroque hilltop towns such as Ragusa in southern Sicily offer stunning views and authentic cuisine. Exploring Sicilian hotspots such as Ortigia and Agrigento can be more meaningful in the absence of sweltering heat, while large cities such as Palermo and Catania will be less chaotic and navigable without hoards of tourists. Although a cold, rainy day in Italy is inevitable during the fall and winter, there is nothing wrong with spending those days enjoying a cappuccino, visiting a museum or simply relaxing indoors until your dinner reservation that evening. Sometimes taking a slower-paced vacation where there are not as many must-see sights filling up your itinerary is truly more of a vacation than standing in long lines to tour the Vatican. For those who aren’t willing to skip out on the canal-packed city of Venice during their off-season trip, keep in mind that the acqua alta, or “high water,” is more likely to occur between October and January, increasing the chance of your day of sightseeing being majorly inconvenienced by temporary flooding. If you insist on traveling to Venice during these months, I suggest planning to stay for at least three days to increase the likelihood that you will have decent weather and walking conditions for at least a day or two. Summertime hotel prices in Venice also skyrocket, so get more bang for your buck regarding accommodations when tourism slows down. From personal experience, I explored the cities of Rome, Naples, Bari, Lecce and Matera during late November and early December. I packed warm clothes and didn’t let a bit of wind, chilly temperatures and the occasional rain shower stop me from experiencing each town. In fact, I believe it was much easier to get a true feel of each city when mostly locals are filling restaurants, cafes and piazzas. While I do aspire to take a summer trip to Italy’s coastal towns in the future, I find the temptation of convenient off-season travel much harder to resist.
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What’s a Girl to Do?
“I Still Love You”
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Waiting for a red light at a busy intersection, I suddenly saw, to my right, a dilapidated old building with the words “I still love you” in heavy black paint on the side. There are moments like these which feel like an epiphany – something that rocks you to your very soul, an insight that is nothing short of life-changing. I had kept the man of my dreams, who had loved but ultimately left me, at the periphery of my mind for so many years and, in an instant, everything came flooding back to me – the unimaginable pain of a severed relationship which was supposed to have culminated in a marriage, the labored and uneasy explanations which had to be provided to inquiring family and friends, the constant reworking of scenarios of what went wrong and what my responsibility was for that. In the end, he walked away with claims that he simply wasn’t ready to fuse our lives and needed “space.” To this day, the word “space” makes me cringe because it carries the hurtful remembrances and associations of a failed partnership and the shame I felt for not seeing a matrimony ensue. For years, everyone I met asked me “what went wrong?” remarking “you two were such a terrific couple.” There are not always words which are adequate to describe one’s emotional life and, if truth be known, not everything is comprehensible. Often, I was reduced to the statement “I don’t know. Things seemed to be going so well, and I loved him so much.” Momentarily, I basked in the pity and the empathy but, in the end, there was simply an empty apartment to return to replete with many photos and artifacts of a shared and joyous life. A friend invoked an Irish witticism, learned in her Dublin home from a cousin: “better quarreling than lonely” and I felt there was veracity in that and wanted him back, even with the background of all the fighting, remonstrating and losing ground because it was, in his eyes, me who was responsible for the failure of our relationship and our lives that could no longer go forward. Driving to Winston-Salem in a darkening sky and a drizzling rain, I wished that I had never seen those sorrowful words on what would have otherwise been an obscure and forgettable cement structure. They reignited sentiments that I had long put away – that I had never stopped loving Daniel, with his wonderful laughter and charm, quick wit, his blazing blue eyes and impossibly reddish-blonde hair. For two years, we loved each other with a ferocity that was extraordinary. It had substance, it had tenacity, humor and endurance. I never doubted that coupledom would do anything but continue – until it didn’t. When I recently read Chilean poet Pablo Neruda’s words about lost love – “there is no space wider than that of grief” – tears poured down my face. The pain of the relationship’s closure seems still so fresh and unnerving. I try to console myself with an observation that the English Victorian poet, Lord Alfred
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Tennyson, made: “‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” However, it took years until I believed it. There is someone who (virtually) helped me ultimately deal with the collateral heartbreak. As it turned out, I happened to run across the writings of Tony Robbins, an American motivational speaker and life coach, who spoke powerfully about consequences of broken relationships, how to help repair a broken heart and addressed the concept of how learning to let go of someone you love is the only way you can be “the architect of your own life.” Here are a few techniques he suggested to help one get back on track: 1) Recognize when it is time to let go. Face what happened, accept that you can’t change it and plan to move on. Stop the blame game and forgive yourself. 2) Identify limiting beliefs like “I’ll never find someone else who loves me.” Replace these thoughts with empowering mantras like “I am open to what the universe has in store for me” and “I love myself and deserve the best.” 3) Take time to grieve. Do some journaling, spend time in nature, eat a rich delectable dessert. Stop apologizing. You are not someone’s victim. Hold your head high and keep on walking. 4) Make self-care a big part of your life. Get regular sleep and exercise and keep busy – very busy. 5) Talk to people you trust. Hang out with people who appreciate you and emanate positivity. Consider getting a therapist if the emotional pain doesn’t decrease eventually. 6) Change your story so that your past empowers you instead of holding you back. Robbins has famously said “your past is not your future unless you live there.” Show yourself some serious love – take a vacation, buy those expensive UGG boots, get a manicure. You deserve everything. 7) Finally, find the lesson in every experience and be grateful for it. Wish your former partner and you a future good life and mean it. You loved that person for a reason, so keep those good memories in a space where you can retrieve them at will. Admittedly, there may always be a part of you that still loves them, but reframe the narrative to one which says “thank you for allowing me to experience the phenomenon of love. I am enriched by it and ready for the next time it may enter my life.” As Robbins says, “The only thing that’s keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself.”
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Why People Don’t Achieve Their Goals and What You Can Do About It by J A N E B U R N E T T E
www.healthcoachjane.com IG @coachjanebb FB @coachjane So, you’re all set—course enrolled, groceries stocked, and you’re buzzing with energy. You are motivated to transform yourself for the new year. Weight loss, mood elevation, strength, and productivity— you’re ready to conquer it all. This time, failure is not an option. However, even superheroes have their kryptonite. Yours? A sneaky inner critic that knows just when to strike.
THE SELF-SABOTAGE CYCLE 1. Starting but not completing a new diet 2. Making excuses: “I don’t have time,” “Eating healthy is expensive.” 3. Rewarding yourself with sugar 4. Blaming and shaming yourself for not succeeding 5. An unwillingness to recommit to yourself after falling off the program
THE SILVER LINING Awareness is the first step. Recognize your triggers—stress, fatigue, or even certain family members. When your inner critic starts whispering, listen but don’t obey.
YOUR ACTION PLAN • • • • •
Write down your ideal health scenario: What does your dream health life look like? Identify the inner critic: Catch yourself when you’re using absolutes like “always” or “never.” Prioritize sleep: A well-rested mind is better equipped to handle the inner critic. Self-care routine: Disconnect from social media, connect with loved ones, and indulge in nature walks. Seek support when needed: A support system can provide encouragement and accountability.
Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. Your inner critic might be here to stay, but you have the power to choose which voice you listen to. So, go ahead, rewrite your story and become the person you were always meant to be!
MEET YOUR INNER CRITIC
This inner voice, your personal troll, is a relic from your childhood. It’s the voice that whispers you’re not enough—smart enough, pretty enough, or capable enough. It’s a story you’ve been telling yourself for years, and it’s time to rewrite it.
THE ORIGIN STORY
The inner critic is born from the beliefs and messages we received as children. Phrases like, “Why can’t you be like your sister?” or “Why can’t you ever listen?” stick with us. We internalize these messages, and they shape our self-view.
WHY IT MATTERS Your beliefs dictate your behaviors. If you feel like you are not worthy, you’ll act accordingly—even when you make positive choices like joining a health program.
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A little about me: My name is Jane Burnette and I’m passionate about health and wellness. As a holistic health coach with a degree from UNC Chapel Hill and numerous certifications, I specialize in lifestyle changes that empower people to achieve their health goals. My mission is simple: guide clients to optimize their daily habits so their body’s natural healing processes can kick in. Rather than focus on diets or quick fixes, I teach sustainable strategies for nutrition, exercise, stress relief, and more.
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Our team has the pleasure of engaging in life planning conversations with clients and potential clients often. We consider this trust a great privilege. One of the most rewarding aspects of our role as financial advisors is helping folks determine their “number.” A recent conversation with a potential client comes to mind. In the initial discovery meeting, the client asked, “How much money should we have before we walk away from work?” The response naturally was, “This depends on the lifestyle you want to live. Not only today, but also in retirement.” We began to drill more into their spending goals. It was fulfilling to see their mindset shift as we continued our conversation. A simple response helped this married couple understand there is no single magic “number” to reach before they can retire. Simply put, your “number” will be driven by your lifestyle/spending. It is our duty to assist investors in understanding and estimating how much they need to accumulate to live the lifestyle of their dreams. Every person is unique and has different goals to pursue. We pride ourselves on being a value-add partner in this subject matter. For instance, let us say an investor is saving in their 401k and on track to accumulate a large amount of wealth in this retirement account. However, they have other, more immediate goals. What if they have a goal of spending $30,000 on an anniversary trip in five years or to purchase a lake property before they reach retirement? In our opinion, investors should have multiple buckets allocated based on the time horizon for each goal. It is a top priority to invest for your long-term retirement, but what about the milestones you would like to hit along the way? This is where a professional team can come into the fold and help you design a road map.
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MEGAN QUINN Megan Quinn is a junior designer with Theodore B. Interiors. She has a bachelor’s degree in interior design from East Carolina University. “I am passionate about creating captivating spaces that reflect unique personalities and lifestyles. My keen eye for textiles allows me to seamlessly blend patterns, colors and textures to create a classic palette. Some of my achievements as a new interior designer include expanding my portfolio, building positive client relationships and working on successful projects with Theodore B. Interiors. As an interior designer, some of my hobbies include exploring architecture, visiting art galleries, traveling and working on my personal blog. I also enjoy spending time with my family and friends!”
SUZY VAILE Suzy Vaile is the lead counselor of pediatric trauma and trauma survivors network coordinator at Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist Hospital. She has a master’s degree in clinical mental health from Wake Forest University and is currently working towards her PhD in counselor education and supervision from Liberty University. “I grew up in an army family, living all over the world,” said Suzy. “I am a wife, mom and dually licensed clinician at Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist Trauma Center. I enjoy serving with my family in our community at Two Cities Church, decorating and organizing, team building, and speaking and advocating for the counseling profession and the communities that we serve.” In her spare time, she loves spending time with her husband, Billy, daughters, Caroline and Lauren, and son, Caleb.
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ANITRA MITCHELL Anitra Mitchell, owner of LoveWell Boutique, has lived in Winston Salem since she and Brad, her college sweetheart, married 25 years ago. She has a bachelor’s degree in marketing from Clemson University and has loved retail since an early age. Brad and Anitra opened a women’s clothing store at 110 Oakwood Drive in 2012 and it became LoveWell Boutique in 2019. “We couldn’t think of a better place than Winston Salem to have poured out hearts into,” said Anitra. In her spare time, Anitra enjoys reading the Bible, playing games with her kids, spending time with family and friends, heartfelt conversations, styling outfits, and working out.
JASMYNN BLACKSHEAR Jasmynn Blackshear is the program facilitator for LEAD Girls of NC. She has a bachelor’s degree in social work from Winston-Salem State University and is pursuing a master’s degree in public affairs with a concentration in nonprofit management at UNC Greensboro. She began her work as a spring 2022 intern at LEAD Girls of NC that transitioned into being hired in the role of full-time Program Facilitator. In her spare time, Jasmynn loves to bowl, explore nature and do arts and crafts.
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As winter sets in, what better time to explore destinations close to home that offer quiet, wooded tranquility along with beautiful landscapes…and, if we’re lucky this year, maybe even some snow? Get ready to build a fire and bundle up. These are wonderful, woodsy getaways you will love.
BREVARD Brevard, North Carolina is a quaint little town and the county seat of Transylvania County. It is located at the entrance to Pisgah National Forest and has become a noted tourism, retirement and cultural center in the western part of our state. It’s also known as the “land of waterfalls.” When you get to Brevard, bundle up and go find Looking Glass Falls and Sliding Rock, with the Moore Cove Falls Trailhead in between the two. These are just two of numerous waterfalls in the vicinity. There is a thriving art scene alive and well in Brevard. Craftspeople in studio hideaways, potters throwing beautiful shapes on the potter’s wheel and young musical prodigies performing classical masterpieces under the stars at Brevard Music Center. You will find art galleries in town to visit, as well. Brevard offers ample gorgeous scenery all around. Many of the most beautiful areas are located inside Nantahala National Forest and Pisgah National Forest. Keep an eye out for some of the white squirrels that lurk around Brevard College. Where to stay: The Sunset Motel offers the classic “Vintage Vibes” roadside motel experience all within a 10-minute walk to the center of downtown. This motel was voted among the “10 Best Roadside Motels” in all of America by USA Today’s readers for 2020 and 2021.
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BRYSON CITY
A great place for a family weekend getaway is Bryson City. Sitting on the western edge of North Carolina near Tennessee, Bryson City is a quaint small town that has lots to offer. Their Great Smoky Mountains Railroad is a bucket list experience! Throw on your PJs and get tickets for the Polar Express ride near Christmastime to delight kids of all ages. (Polar Express rides go on through January, so check the website for dates and times.) Celebrate Bryson City’s vibrant arts and entertainment scene where the streets are lined with hand-painted artwork, and music flows from every corner. Snap a selfie at one of downtown’s many murals as a keepsake from your visit. The Stecoah Artisans Gallery offers a unique opportunity to buy original artwork as well as the fine crafts that have made North Carolina famous. Don’t miss the action and excitement at Harrah’s Cherokee Casino Resort! They feature live table games like Blackjack, Roulette, Craps and more. Find video slots for beginners to experienced players…there is something to love for everyone here.
BURKE COUNTY
Morganton, North Carolina is the Burke County seat and a great home base for exploring the Linville Gorge Wilderness. Hop in your car and take a short drive to Table Rock Mountain and Hawksbill Mountain or head up to Wiseman’s View for an incredibly gorgeous view of the Gorge. For flatter terrain, check out the Catawba River Greenway in Morganton. It’s a lovely, scenic trail that connects two of the town’s best parks. Take a selfie in front of Linville Falls and stop by Silver Fork Winery for a taste of some amazing North Carolina wine. But, don’t just stay for the wine. Enjoy the live music and another spectacular mountain view while you’re here, too. Morganton offers a vibrant downtown with great restaurants and attractions to keep you engaged. You can also explore the quaint surrounding towns of Valdese, Connelly Springs and more.
Where to stay: Gina’s Great Getaways
Take a detour to the Henry River Mill Village in Hildebran. Some clever locals have preserved this piece of NC Mill history which you may also recognize as District 12 in the first Hunger Games film!
“We are a small family business in The Great Smoky Mountains, and we try to stand out in more ways than one. You can expect great service, communication, cleanliness and local tips. We will make your stay as stress free as possible. Most of our rentals are creekside and all just minutes away from waterfalls, tubing, hiking trails, the National Park and still less than five minutes from Bryson City’s quaint downtown. We have Tiny Homes, Log Cabins, a 1965 Vintage Camper, a one-of-a-kind Caboose Camper, a 1920s Farmhouse and much more!”
Where to stay: The Belle at Avery, built in 1890, is located in historic downtown Morganton. The combination of Colonial Revival and Victorian era design elements are maintained in this newly renovated home. This property was formerly a school and is a short walk to craft breweries, restaurants, music venues and everything downtown Morganton has to offer. See more photos and Book through the AirBnB website link. airbnb.com/ rooms/20469553?locati…
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Forsyth Music Stage Charlotte Bluegrass Allstars by R O B I N S H U P E
Happy New Year, Forsyth Woman readers! I hope that everyone enjoyed their Thanksgiving holiday and was able to spend quality time with family and friends! Now, the music scene is wide open this holiday season, and I got to enjoy the best live music collaboration this side of the Mississippi. To start the New Year right, we will begin with the Charlotte Bluegrass Allstars and, although only one member is in the Charlotte city limits, all but one member, Jake Joines, is within a 30-minute drive. My introduction to the band was through the lead guitarist of the fourmember team. Direct from their EPK…charlottebluegrassallstars.com/epk. Formed in October 2022, Charlotte Bluegrass Allstars is a genre-defying powerhouse hailing from the heart of Charlotte. This unique collaboration brings together a diverse ensemble of musicians, each drawing from distinct musical backgrounds, including rock, blues, classical, jazz and jam band influences. United by a shared passion for Bluegrass, they’ve woven a tapestry of sound that defies traditional boundaries and expectations. Chad Andrew Harris (Guitar): Chad’s mastery of the guitar and soaring vocals and harmonies create a captivating sound that is both soulful and powerful. His inventive and melodic playing elevates the band’s music to new heights, adding a touch of magic to every performance. Steven Davidson (Mandolin): Steven’s mandolin skills and powerful vocals and harmonies bring a mesmerizing energy to Charlotte Bluegrass Allstars. He seamlessly weaves intricate melodies that not only pay homage to the roots of Bluegrass but push the boundaries of the genre, as well. Jake Joines (Dobro): Jake’s nimble fingerpicking and soul-stirring solos on the dobro provide the backbone for Charlotte Bluegrass Allstars’ sound. His instinctual understanding of the genre shines through in his playing, and he brings an undeniable passion to every note. Dennis Contreras (Bass): Dennis holds down the low end with his skillful bass playing, providing the steady foundation that drives the band’s rhythm. His rich and resonant tones perfectly complement the band’s overall sound, lending depth and texture to their music. I was lucky enough to enjoy this band and several other local bands that we will cover in the coming year, with next up, the Ladies Roundtable from the 2nd Singer Songwriters’ festival in Statesville November 16th-19th at the Arts Council building at the Old Jail in historic downtown Statesville! Go out, Forsyth Woman readers, enjoy the local music scene and take in live music to support local musicians! Happy New Year, and look out for my February Music Stage group!
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Cassoulet
DAY 1: Soak the beans. Place 1 pound dried great northern beans in a large bowl. Add enough cold water to cover the beans by 2 to 3 inches. Soak at room temperature for at least 8 hours or preferably overnight.
DAY 2:
Boil the beans for 5 minutes. Drain the beans. Place the beans in a large pot, and add enough cold water to cover them by 2 inches. Bring to a rapid boil over medium-high heat, and boil for 5 minutes. Drain again. Cook the beans. Bring 2 1/2 quarts unsalted chicken stock or broth to a boil over medium-high heat in the same pot. Add the beans, bring back to a boil and skim off any scum. Reduce the heat to maintain a simmer and cook uncovered until the beans are just tender but still whole and unbroken – 45 minutes to 1 hour.
for a Cold Winter’s Day by K A R E N C O O P E R
If you’re looking for a delicious, unique cold weather dish, this slow-cooked casserole which includes a variety of delicious meats and white beans has long been considered the height of French home cooking. It’s a rustically charming meal that requires time and planning. The hardest part about making a cassoulet when you’re not in southwest France is shopping for the ingredients. You may find that you need to order some things ahead like the duck fat and confit as well as the garlic sausage. It will help to find a good butcher as a source for salt pork and fresh, bone-in pork and lamb stew meat. The beans, though, aren’t hard to find at all. Great northern/ cannellini beans work just fine in this dish. In the end, you will find all your effort is worth it as you are rewarded with the luxurious mix of fragrant beans around rich chunks of sausages, duck confit, roasted pork and lamb all under a crisp salt pork crust that will leave a favorable and lasting impression on you and your dining companions.
A BRIEF HISTORY
Named for the cassole, the earthenware pot in which it is traditionally cooked, cassoulet evolved over the centuries in the countryside of southwest France, changing with the ingredients on hand and the cooks stirring the pot. Three major towns of the region – Castelnaudary, Carcassonne and Toulouse – all strongly maintain that their town created what they consider to be the only true cassoulet. It is a feud that has been going on at least since the middle of the 19th century, and probably longer. If you would like to make your own version of this classic dish, follow the instructions below.
INGREDIENTS
1 pound dried great northern beans 2 1/2 quarts unsalted chicken broth 3 ounces salt pork 2 duck confit legs 8 ounces fresh French garlic sausage 4 ounces boneless pork shoulder or belly 4 ounces fresh pork skin (optional) 3 cloves garlic 1 teaspoon ground nutmeg 1 /4 teaspoon kosher salt, more as needed Freshly ground black pepper
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Cut the meats. Dice 3 ounces salt pork. Halve 2 duck confit legs between the joint so that you have 2 drumsticks and 2 thighs. Cut 8 ounces garlic sausage into 2-inch pieces. Cut 4 ounces boneless pork shoulder or belly into 2-inch chunks. Cut 4 ounces fresh pork skin into 2-inch squares, if using. Make salt pork and garlic paste. Place the salt pork and 3 garlic cloves in a food processor fitted with the blade attachment. Process it into a sticky paste – about 15 seconds. Refrigerate until ready to use. Sear the duck and pork. Place the duck skin-side down in a large frying pan over medium-low heat and cook until golden-brown – 5 to 10 minutes per side. Transfer to a plate. Add the sausage to the pan and cook until browned – about 4 minutes per side. Transfer to the plate. Add the pork belly or shoulder and cook until browned on a few sides – about 3 minutes per side. Transfer to the plate. Refrigerate the meats until ready to use. Cool the beans. When the beans are ready, remove from the heat and let cool – about 1 hour. Season the beans. Add the garlic-pork paste, 1 teaspoon ground nutmeg and 1/4 teaspoon kosher salt to the beans and stir gently, breaking up the paste until evenly distributed. Drain the beans. Pour the bean mixture through a strainer over a large bowl. Use a cassole, 3 1/2-quart Dutch oven or other heavy-bottomed, oven safe pot. Line the bottom of the vessel with the cut pork skin, if using. Assemble the cassoulet. Layer half of the beans on top of the pork skin. Place the duck confit and pork shoulder or belly on the beans. Layer the remaining beans over the duck and pork. Top with the sausages, nestling them into the beans. Top with cooking liquid. Pour enough of the bean cooking liquid into the cassoulet to barely cover the beans. Sprinkle freshly ground black pepper. Move on to the next step and bake for 3 hours, or the cassoulet can be covered and refrigerated overnight. Refrigerate the remaining bean cooking liquid. Bake the cassoulet for 3 hours. Heat the oven to 325ºF. Bake the cassoulet uncovered for 3 hours. While it is cooking, a brown crust will appear on top. Pierce the crust and moisten the surface by spooning the cooking liquid over it; make sure not to disturb the layers below. Allow the crust to re-form 2 or 3 times. Let the cassoulet cool to room temperature, then cover and refrigerate overnight.
DAY 3:
Bake the cassoulet for 1 1/2 hours. Heat the oven to 325ºF. Uncover the cassoulet and bake for 1 1/2 hours, breaking the crust with a spoon and moistening the surface at least twice. If the beans look dry, add spoonfuls of extra bean-cooking liquid or chicken broth. Serve immediately without stirring. Enjoy the fruits of your labor!
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The ENNEAGRAM Gut/Instinctive Types by L E S L I E S P E A S
The Enneagram is a tool to improve self-awareness as well as other elements of emotional intelligence. It is a study of the nine basic types of personality. It explains why we behave the way we do and points to specific directions for growth.
A center is a filter of how you usually relate to the outside world. The Gut/Instinctive types approach the world through their gut or instincts. They are as follows: Challengers – Eights, Peacemakers – Nines, and Reformers – Ones.
TYPE EIGHT – THE CHALLENGER
TYPE NINE – THE PEACEMAKER
Eights are self-confident, strong and assertive. They have a desire to be self-reliant, strong and to avoid feeling weak or dependent.
Nines are creative, optimistic, supportive and go with the flow. They want to keep the peace, to merge with the agendas of others, and to avoid conflict.
SUPERPOWER – Boldness and Energy
CORE FEAR – Being harmed or controlled by others CORE DESIRE – To assert strength and control to mask vulnerability
EIGHTS AT THEIR BEST • • • • • • • • • •
Independent and self-sufficient Direct Decisive Lots of energy Make things happen Strong Sense of honesty, integrity and fairness Protective Courageous Confident
EIGHTS AT THEIR WORST • • • • • • • • •
Stubborn and headstrong Controlling Insensitive Demanding Aggressive Confrontational Intimidating Have trouble being vulnerable May not listen
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Get in tune with emotions – Learn to recognize your emotions. Pause and sort out your thoughts/feelings before taking action. Learn that vulnerability is strength, not weakness – Work to show more vulnerability as this will enable you to connect more deeply with others and be most effective. Learn to monitor your intensity – Watch the eyes and body language of others you are interacting with and adjust accordingly.
SUPERPOWER – See value in all perspectives CORE FEAR – Loss or separation CORE DESIRE – To be at peace NINES AT THEIR BEST • • • • • • • • • •
Calm, cool and collected Good mediators Non-judgmental Accepting of different views Great listeners Optimistic Pleasant and likable Patient Inclusive Empathetic
NINES AT THEIR WORST • • • • • • • • • •
Conflict avoidant Forgetful Indecisive Slow-moving and procrastinating Defensive Passive-aggressive Unassertive Have trouble saying no Care too much about what others think Unhealthy behaviors
TYPE ONE – THE REFORMER Ones are responsible, thorough and hard-working with high standards for themselves and others. They want to improve themselves and the world around them.
SUPERPOWER – They can improve anything CORE FEAR – Being wrong or being bad CORE DESIRE – To improve the world ONES AT THEIR BEST • • • • • • • • •
ONES AT THEIR WORST • • • • • • • • •
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Learn to see value in conflict – Understand that conflict isn’t always bad and can result in deeper, more meaningful relationships. Practice being more direct and assertive – Practicing with people you trust first may be helpful. Set goals with definite deadlines – Nines can be procrastinators, so goals with deadlines are helpful in keeping them accountable
Powerful inner critic Judgmental/critical of others May get engulfed in details Inflexible Overly serious Controlling See things in black and white Have trouble relaxing Don’t know when “good enough” is enough
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High personal standards Ethical Reliable and responsible Detail-oriented Productive Accurate Honest Fair Organized
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Learn to relax - Take some time for yourself, without feeling that everything is up to you and that your absence will create chaos. Try not to be so critical of yourself and others – Work on your inner critic. When you begin to beat yourself up in your mind, talk back with something positive. When you notice yourself getting frustrated with others, remember that not everyone is wired like you and it’s okay. Manage your anger - You get angry easily and are offended by what seems to you to be the perverse refusal of others to do the right thing – as you have defined it. When you start feeling angry, practice the pause and do some deep breathing before you respond. If you notice yourself stuffing anger, do the work to bring it out and deal with it. Manage stress – Managing stress is important for all of the types. Walk, eat well and practice mindfulness! Planning can also help Ones manage stress.
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9 1 9 B A C K YA R D B B Q
BRUNSWICK STEW RECIPE by TA N N E R J O H N S O N
For January, I wanted to share one of my absolute favorite BBQ leftover recipes! This one utilizes leftover pulled pork with some chicken and some veggies for a perfect, warm, comforting meal that will have everyone going back for seconds! To start off, you’ll need some leftover pulled pork, or you could even buy some already made. You don’t need a lot – just two cups! Ingredients:
Instructions:
• 6 T (3 oz) unsalted butter
1. In a large dutch oven or pot,
• 1.5 cups chopped onion
melt butter and saute onion until
(any kind works)
translucent, then add the minced
• 1 T minced garlic
garlic and stir for two minutes.
• 3 cups diced potatoes (Russet or Yukon Gold) • 1.5 cups frozen baby lima beans • 2 cups frozen corn • 3 cups chicken stock • 1 can (14.5 oz) diced tomatoes • 1.5 cups BBQ sauce • 1 T Worcestershire sauce
2. Add potatoes, lima beans, corn, tomatoes and chicken stock – bring to a boil. 3. Reduce heat, cover and simmer for 25 minutes. 4. Add BBQ sauce, Worcestershire,
• 2 T brown sugar
brown sugar (optional), S&P, and
• 1 tsp salt
cayenne pepper, then lastly add the
• ½ tsp ground black pepper
chicken and pork.
• ½ tsp cayenne pepper • 2 cups shredded or chopped chicken thighs (cooked – usually on the grill right before) • 2 cups shredded/cooked pulled pork
5. Stir it all together, let cook (uncovered) for an additional 15 minutes. 6. Serve it in a bowl with some cornbread (our favorite), biscuits, rice or anything else! This is also one of those recipes where you can add other things that you have laying around in the kitchen, too! So, get creative with it and enjoy!
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Your House Wants a Facelift by TA B AT H A R E N E G A R
I woke up on New Year’s Day and thought to myself, we need to rename this month. January should really be Drabuary! The bright, festive holiday decorations are all wrapped up and put away for another 11 months, it’s cold outside, and the sky is about 50 shades of…. well, you know. There isn’t even another really big holiday to look forward to for months! As I was moping around the house with these thoughts in my head, I looked around and decided to take action! Rather than settle for drab, why not take advantage of this time to perk things up around my house? I don’t mean major renovations – just the opposite! What are some small, inexpensive, or free things that we can do in our own homes to bring some freshness and good energy to where we live? Move your art around. Sometimes just swapping out a landscape watercolor in your living room with an abstract in your den can make a room feel refreshed! Get some new faces! Do you have framed photos of family and friends on shelves, mantles, and tables? Empty them and start over! Maybe with updated photos of those beloved folks or, have some fun and stick a picture of Brad Pitt or Lady Gaga into a frame and see if anyone notices!
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REARRANGE THE FURNITURE This is one of my all-time favorite things to do! A switcheroo can truly change the entire vibe of a room! A great book about this is: Use What You Have Decorating by Lori Ward. The fun before and after photos are sure to inspire you!
PROPAGATE PLANTS If you’ve got the winter blues, how do you think your houseplants feel? It will only take a few minutes on Google or Pinterest to find step-by-step instructions on how to turn your favorite plant into several that you can spread throughout the house.
ADOPT A FISH For well under $50.00, you can add a cute little aquarium to any room in your house. Not only is a colorful fish a great stress-reliever, but the tank light will give off a soothing hue.
CANDLES, CANDLES, AND MORE CANDLES! For maximum glow, place candles next to mirrors, either above a fireplace or in a container next to a mirror resting against a wall. Windows work well, too. A candle in a glass holder will also be brighter as the light inside will be refracted. Similarly, candles will offer more light against a white wall.
PAINT And speaking of walls…. Paint one! Or the whole room. When it comes to making a dramatic change without a dramatic cost, you can’t do much better than painting. Accent walls behind a headboard are very trendy right now and make a big impact with minimal work! (Check back and I’ll have my own before and after photos of this to share!)
CHANGE OUT YOUR SHOWER CURTAIN You spend a lot of time in this room; why not add a bright pop of color or a funky pattern to add some pizazz to the loo? Do you have a glass door to your shower? Then find some bright new towels in fun patterns for the same effect.
LIGHT IT UP! Adding a few small lamps to a room can make it feel cozier and brighter at the same time. There are countless inexpensive options in local thrift stores and at Goodwill. Use as is or with a fresh coat of spray paint in a bold color.
FRESH FLOWERS! When all else fails, run out to Trader Joe’s and bring home a few bunches of colorful flowers and fresh greenery, and then spread them throughout your home. And think outside the vase! Put them in wine glasses, bowls, pitchers, jars… any vessel that holds water is fair game! For more fun ideas on freshening up your home in the New Year, put ‘use what you have decorating’ or ‘freshen your home’ in the search field on Pinterest.
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WINSTON-SALEM MONTESSORI SCHOOL OPEN HOUSE 6050 Holder Road
This is the last WSM Open House before the 2024-2025 school year! Come tour the Winston-Salem Montessori campus. Take a tour of our beautiful Montessori environments and outdoor learning spaces for children ages 18 months to 15 years old. Meet the Guides, listen to their expertise, chat with WSM families and meet like-minded people interested in joining our wonderful community.
SUGAR MAMAS MOVEMENT – VISION BOARD PARTY
Sugar Mamas Movement is hosting a “Build Your Own Dream” vision board party. Your $40 ticket purchase will include mimosas, heavy hors d’oeuvres, networking and all the materials for you to create a beautiful vision board for 2024. Stay tuned for more details as we are excited to announce our special guests who will be joining us to provide tips for health and wellness!
GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT
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LESLIE DUNNER CONDUCTS THE GREENSBORO SYMPHONY Steven Tanger Center for the Performing Arts
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CELEBRATE THE LIFE AND THE LEGACY OF MARTIN LUTHER KING, JR.
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Mount Tabor United Methodist Church Celebrate the life and legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. through song and spoken word. This hour-long service will include performances from the Joy Singers of Yadkin Valley, Voices of God’s Children and Mount Tabor UMC’s Chancel Choir as well as readings from the youth group.
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STEEP CANYON RANGERS Steven Tanger Center for the Performing Arts North Carolina’s own, the Steep Canyon Rangers – Grammy winners and perennial Billboard chart-toppers – will join the Greensboro Symphony for an evening of their latest bluegrass hits and seasoned favorites.
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Hanesbrands Theatre – The Little Theatre of W-S Wiletta Mayer is a talented Black actress who has been cast time and time again in stereotypical roles in second-rate plays. Now, she’s been given a role in an upcoming Broadway play about anti-lynching in America. But it might not be the dream role nor the enlightened play she was hoping for, given the director is a white man, but that doesn’t mean it won’t sell out. intothearts.org/hanesbrands-theatre
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Piedmont Jazz Alliance Experience the vibe! Tickets and information available at piedmontjazzalliance.com.
JESSIE MONTGOMERY’S STRUM Reynolds Auditorium
A fun work by composer Jessie Montgomery opens a concert featuring virtuoso bassist Edgar Meyer and Dvorak’s New World Symphony. Tickets and more at wssymphony.org.
FORSYTH WOMAN MAGAZINE’S 3RD ANNUAL WOMEN ON THE MOVE LEADERSHIP CONFERENCE
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WinMock at Kinderton
Delve deep into self-discovery, and unlock your full potential. Limited tickets available. Cost: $99/person. Learn more and purchase your tickets at tinyurl.com/WOMC2024
*Event details are subject to change. Please check event websites & social media pages for updates as the dates draw near.*
Conversation with Your BFF “How Do I Enter the New Year with a New Perspective on Relationships?”
You never want to give up on someone turning things around and being as you think they should be, but no one changes unless they see an issue with their behavior. You can’t fix them, but you can remove yourself from the situation.
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JUST LIKE YOUR COMPUTER, EVERYTHING WORKS BETTER IF UNPLUGGED FOR A BIT
Almost everything will work better if you unplug it for a little while, including YOU! It’s not necessary to wallow in a bad relationship and keep beating yourself up for not being able to figure out who or what needs to change to make it work. Walk away for a day and see if you feel better; if so, try a week, etc. Just because a relationship worked in 2023, doesn’t mean it will work for the new year or for a lifetime.
FINDING JOY IN THE NEW YEAR The secret to getting ahead in life or in entering the new year with a different perspective, is to focus your energy not on fixing and fighting the old of 2023, but on building and growing something new. People are experts at getting bogged down and falling into a rut, but picking yourself up and moving on takes determination and courage which you have within yourself.
STORMS COME AND GO
With the end of one year, another one begins; becoming introspective happens for many of us. What worked last year may not be good for you this year. Not everyone we had in our life in 2023 is meant to follow us into 2024. We have those who suck the energy right out of a room and out of us, but letting go isn’t easy. It’s easier to look into a new year dragging our baggage with us because it is a “known” in the “unknown,” however, it’s not always the best idea. So, how do you enter the year ahead while letting go of relationships that aren’t adding to your life? I am so glad you asked!
CLOSING THE DOOR OR TURNING THE PAGE…
One of the hardest things we do in our lifetime is say goodbye to those we love. Some of those goodbyes are permanent due to death,
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and some have to be permanent for our own state of mind. Reining in toxic relationships is for your sanity and mental health. Closing the door or turning the page on a friendship is something you have control over and is in your hands to decide when a person hurts you more than they love you. Let them go in the new year, and you’ll feel a weight lift off of you.
FIND HAPPINESS IN WHAT THINGS ARE AND NOT IN WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO BE
Many times we find or make ourselves unhappy by pushing and searching for a glimmer of what we want things to be and not accepting things as they truly are. Accepting life as is and not as you wish it was is hard because hope springs eternal.
When times get tough with people, we usually pray for the storm to calm…please let this pass, so we can move on from here. Let’s hurry up and make it through this time to get to the other side of whatever mess we find ourselves in at the moment. While the storm will eventually pass, you can’t control the length of time the storm swirls around you, but you can control the calm you have in the storm. Don’t get swept up in the chaos going on around you; take time to just sit in quiet and meditate and/or pray. I find getting closer and stronger in my faith helps me with every storm that comes. The day you understand everything and see things as they are, is the day you stop trying to figure it all out. Peace and freedom come the day you let everything go that takes your peace away and claim that you can and will make changes to see things and people as they are.
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