FW January 2023

PHOTOS BY MEGAN BLACK PHOTOGRAPHY

The beginning of a new year! 2023 is going to be a good one, I can feel it. While January is the first month of the year, I’m going to spare you from all the “New Year, New Me” stuff. To pull a line from one of my favorite articles in this issue, “I don’t need you to remind me that the turning of the calendar is my chance at a fresh start, because every day is a fresh start.” You can read Taryn’s “break up” letter to New Year’s resolutions on page 18. She really hits the nail on the head with this one.

This month we are featuring F45 Winston-Salem on the cover! They have a fabulous, high energy team of trainers and their studio is tucked right in the heart of downtown at Bailey Park. Read all about F45 Training Winston-Salem on pages 68-71!

If you know me, you know I am a big fan of exercise. From keeping your heart healthy to lowering your anxiety levels—the benefits are plenty! I am a big believer that if you “hate” exercise, this simply means you haven’t found the right form of exercise yet. There are quite literally hundreds of options when it comes to moving your body! And because of this, there is no reason to stick with something you don’t enjoy (and let’s be honest, if you hate doing it, chances of you sticking with it for long are slim)!

In addition to F45 Winston-Salem, this issue features several other exercise options! Inner Strength Pilates (page 28), Washington Park CrossFit (page 32), and Club Pilates (page 5). I’d encourage you to try any or all of them out and see what you think! Step out of your comfort zone and try something new!

Finding a community of people you enjoy working out with AND loving the types of workouts you are doing? THAT, in my humble opinion, can be life changing.

We are getting so excited for our 2nd Annual Women on the Move Leadership Conference! I cannot even explain the energy that was at this conference last year. It was incredible! The event will be happening this year on Monday, March 20th at WinMock. You can learn more about the event on page 24. Don’t wait too long to purchase your ticket! They sold out fast last year!

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Wishing you a happy and healthy month of January! All my best,

Brooke Eagle, Publisher

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Jane Daniel Candice Deal

Amy Hill

Taryn Jerez Jean Marie Johnson

Tanner Johnson Debbie Lanier

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Keeping It Real

I LIKE NEW

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

I like “new!” It feels fresh and clean. “New” has no baggage, no memories to beat me around. It’s untainted by yesterday’s failures and life’s regrets. “New” offers me a blank slate to start again. I like “new!”

Given the astonishing opportunities afforded by “new,” why is it that we often use it so feebly? Think about it. What do we female creatures do when we dislike the reflection in the mirror? We go shopping! Surely, getting a “new” outfit will bring confidence to meet life’s demands. A “new” hairstyle will rid us of life’s stifling monotony, right? I’ll lose weight. That’s got to help. It’s exactly what I need . . . a “new” me. There’s just one big problem with this solution. Have you noticed how quickly the “new” wears off? Within weeks, we’re right back where we started . . . a predictably overwhelmed life that leaves us feeling blah all over again!

It’s time we start using “new” in ways that truly work for us. After all, we stand at the brink of a brand “new” year. While new clothes and looks are fun, we need more than this to create authentic “new” in our lives, a kind that generates lasting change. We need some forward movement with a new view!

I can’t help but think of an old friend, Paul. Here’s a guy who, despite his extraordinary brilliance and stature in the community, made some dreadful choices he lived to regret. Paul desperately wanted to change his story. He longed to get past his past. Ever been there? There was just one monumental problem. Paul’s harassing memories played like a continuous movie reel in his head. Sleepless nights became his new normal. Paul’s past hounded him without reprieve as frustration festered and shame surged.

When Paul finally hit the wall, he had an encounter with the One who is all about forward movement. In fact, God’s dreams for your future are exponentially greater than you could dream for yourself. They were conceived even before you were!

This life-changing encounter alleviated Paul’s agony, providing a fresh perspective. Paul famously penned, “Forgetting those things which are behind me, I press on!” (Philippians 3:13) For you see, when he realized God wasn’t holding Paul’s past over him as punishment, Paul decided he would stop dwelling on it, too. He dropped the “neverenough” mentality that crippled his ability to live today and hope toward tomorrow. Paul pressed on to the goal of his life found in the One who dreams big for us.

You may wonder, “How do I stop dwelling on what I can’t change? How do I alleviate regrets that play persistently in my head? How do I experience the joy that “new” can offer with my weighty baggage of yesterday’s pain and guilt?” It’s not as difficult as it seems, I promise.

It’s funny, somehow we think God doesn’t know the package He's getting. Surely, He doesn’t know what He’s signing up for when He takes us in. Truth is, God knows precisely what He is getting. He simply

believes in the power of His love more than the power of our failures!

Hear me tell you that the God who adores you is continuously obsessed with your future. In fact, He does not relate to you based on who you are now but on who He knows you can be! Wow! How many people in your life offer that invaluable gift? Most people will not let you forget what you did wrong at a particular point in time. God will not let you forget what He knows you can do right! He speaks life into us and continually seeks to remind us of who we can be!

Give yourself a gift this “new” year. Forget those things that are behind you, those things you can’t change. You can't start enjoying the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one. Choose to press on! Choose forward movement that focuses on what can be. It’s a perfect time for “new” in you! Let’s press on together. Forward, march!

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at www.HopeCommunity Church.tv.

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

OVERTHINK MUCH?

BY LESLIE SPEAS

Do you tend to overthink things? Consider what you should have said or done? Relive discussions or circumstances? Analyze mistakes in great detail? Get consumed with what-ifs or I-should-haves? I used to do this all the time but finally realized that overthinking things was pointless and didn’t add value in most situations.

It is important to have some insight into ourselves, our motives, our choices, our temptations, and our actions. So, a certain amount of self-evaluation can be good, but it can undoubtedly be overdone. Too much self-evaluation keeps us focused on ourselves and the things we should have done, ought to do, and will do. We dwell on our guilt, shame, and regrets when we overthink. And overthinking can lead to depression, anxiety, and analysis paralysis.

If you are a chronic overthinker, here are five steps you can take to overcome this tendency.

1. ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR THOUGHTS

Familiarize yourself with your thought patterns so that you can quickly identify when you’re falling into the overthinking trap. When you do catch yourself overthinking, ask yourself the following:

• Am I feeling stressed or anxious?

• Are these thoughts preventing me from being able to focus or move forward in a reasonable manner?

• What am I afraid of?

• When did these thoughts start and what could be the root cause?

2. REFRAME

Usually, when we overthink, it’s in a negative way. It’s usually something like – if I had done it differently, the situation would have turned out better. Or if I make this decision, things may not turn out well. Try to reframe the situation and think about how it might turn out in a positive way – or if you are ruminating over a mistake, think about how you can learn and grow from it.

Practicing gratitude can also help you shift your mind and can even help rewire your brain. Start a Gratitude Journal and commit to reflecting on what you are grateful for each day.

3. OVERCOME PERFECTIONISM

We sometimes want the execution of our ideas and decisions to be perfect which results in getting stuck in overanalyzing. We are human and none of us are perfect. So, why try to be? Give yourself the grace to start and understand that it’s not the end of the world if things don’t go perfectly, Commend yourself for having the courage to move forward.

4. SCHEDULE THINKING TIME

Stewing on problems for long periods of time isn’t productive, but brief periods of reflection can be beneficial. Incorporate twenty minutes of “thinking time” into your daily schedule. During this time, worry, ruminate, or mull over whatever you want. Then, when the time is up, move on to something more productive. When you notice yourself overthinking outside of your “thinking time,” remind yourself to save it for later.

5. PRACTICE MEDITATION OR PRAYER

Turning your concerns over to God through prayer can help you gain acceptance and peace. Meditation or mindfulness exercises can also help you focus on the present moment, rather than getting caught up in the mistakes of the past, or fears of the future.

A Break Up Letter, With Love, to New Year’s Resolutions

Dear New Year’s Resolutions,

There is something I’ve got to get off my chest.

From elementary school essays and college dorm vision boards to Facebook posts and journal entries into adolescence and adulthood you’ve been there… reminding me of the year ahead, the person I want to become each January. You’ve played such an important role in my life for so many years, that it pains me to tell you that… I think it’s finally over between us.

• It’s not you, it’s me. You see, that person I want to become each January? The one you remind me about every year? I’m already her. Sure, I may not be the best version of her every single day, but I show up and I do my damndest. Of course, I know you do, too. I’m not saying you’re at fault here, you’re just doing your job - reminding each of us to do better, to reach higher, to go farther this year. I mean, that’s great advice!

• I think I just need space right now. It’s been a difficult few years for the human race if I’m being honest, and while I love the idea of “reaching higher” I think a lot of us are just fine with reaching next to us or just slightly across from us right now. I don’t know if anyone’s ever told you this, but you can really put the pressure on. Maybe timing just isn’t your thing but the end of the year midholidays really is one hell of a time to throw the whole “new year, new me” mantra in our faces.

• I love you, but I’m just not in love with you. I’ve always loved dreaming up what the new year will hold and challenging myself to dig deeper into what I want the next 365 days to look like. I love you for the gentle reminders and the added accountability. Even the publicity you bring with you every December and January is really something to behold. There are whole industries obsessed with you, using you in their marketing ads to help coax people into buying their products or subscribing to their services just to keep up with whatever resolution they committed to. You’re impressive, I’ll give you that.

• We’re both looking for different things, really. This year, I’m reminding myself that January 1st isn’t special. There’s nothing scientific about starting a goal in January that says we’re any more likely to achieve it. In fact, it may be hard to hear this, but I think you make it more likely NOT to for some of us. I don’t need you to remind me that the turning of the calendar is my chance at a fresh start, because every day is a fresh start. So this year, I’m not looking to walk hand in hand when the clock strikes midnight on New Year’s Eve, but I hope you’ll still cheer for me anyway.

• You’re going to make some lucky girl really happy someday…It’s just not meant to be me. I greeted the new year with my head held high about every little thing I accomplished (and didn’t) last year. Keep reminding people of what’s possible and be there when they need you. I’m keeping my eyes set toward the future each day and I’ve got my sunglasses ready because I know it’s going to be bright.

Best Wishes for a Happy New Year.

XO

TARYN JEREZ

Hi! I’m Lauren. I’m a freelance writer, a food blogger and the official Forsyth Mags Foodie! Stay tuned each month to find everything from achievable dessert ideas to healthy, quick dinners that’ll happily feed the family.

@brightmomentco | abrightmoment.com

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

Sheet Pan Lemon Garlic Butter Salmon

Servings: 4 Prep time: 10 minutes

Cook time: 18 minutes Total time: 40 minutes

INGREDIENTS

4 Salmon Fillets (4-6 oz. each)

1 lb. Fingerling or Baby Yukon Potatoes

1 bunch Asparagus, trimmed, about 1 lb. 1/2 cup Unsalted or Salted French Butter, melted 1/3 cup Lemon Juice, freshly squeezed

4 Garlic Cloves, minced or grated

1 tsp. Salt

1 tsp. Black Pepper

1 tsp. Onion Powder 2 tbsp. Chopped Parsley

INSTRUCTIONS

1. Preheat oven to 400F. Line a rimmed baking sheet pan with parchment paper.

2. In a bowl, whisk the melted French butter, lemon juice, grated garlic, salt, black pepper, onion powder, and chopped parsley.

3. Slice the potatoes into bite-sized wedges, if needed. Add the potatoes to the prepared pan. Drizzle one tablespoon melted French butter mixture over the potatoes, and toss until well-coated.

4. Bake the potatoes for 15 minutes.

5. Push the potatoes to the side of the pan. Add the salmon fillets and asparagus in the center. Season the salmon fillets with salt and black pepper.

6. Pour two-thirds of the butter mixture over the asparagus and salmon.

7. Bake for an additional 12-18 minutes, or until opaque throughout and potatoes are fork tender. Broil for 2-3 minutes. Garnish with fresh herbs. Enjoy immediately!

BY TARYN JEREZ

Yolanda Grier | Abstract Artist & Author

This month’s featured artist and author, Yolanda Grier, shares her perspective and journey of finding beauty in the broken, sharing the wholeness that healing brings in each of her works.

How would you describe your work?

I would describe my art as expressive healing art. My paintings are informed by color, form and rhythm that lead to conversations about life and thriving. There are layers of stories in many of my paintings. These layers may or may not be seen, but they add depth and history to the building of the art. As a survivor of trauma and abuse, I found joy and healing in art and art journaling. The cheerful colors I use in my painting is a stark contrast to the dark place I was. I didn’t know that’s where my heart was leading me. I just had to trust the journey of creativity.

What influences your art most?

I am influenced by rhythm - the rhythm of life, of seasons, of relationships. The rhythm of brokenness. The rhythm of being made whole. I am influenced by shared life experiences that lead to conversations about overcoming challenges and learning to be brave. So, the rhythm of a mark leads to a brush stroke and the rhythm of the brush stroke responds to a new color choice. Therefore, the painting evolves after the push and pull, cover-up and reveal rhythm of my hands or mark-making tools.

Many of my titles reflect the commonalities we all share as we heal and become the person we are meant to be. Yet, as we continue to evolve so does the painting, as each viewer experiences something different.

How have you evolved, personally, as an artist?

I realized that the work of healing was up to me. Regardless of the trauma I experienced, it was up to me to do the work. I had to forgive and then forgive again. I had to have conversations with myself and be more open while writing in my journal. I evolved from being afraid and waiting for permission, to being courageous and welcoming challenges.

I was writing and creating art and these creations were personal and shared with no one. I began to notice that time moved differently while I was creating. The creative space was sacred. I remember praying and asking God to help me. I couldn’t imagine not thriving for the rest of my life. I realized that art placed me on a path to healing. I had to embrace my own creativity and then share it, first with my family and then with the world. Creating a personal art journal was one thing, but sharing my art with the world was another. Sharing honest art created safe spaces for honest conversations.

As an artist and an author, how do you combine your two talents together most often?

As a creative, it feels seamless to write and create art especially in my art journal. Art journaling as a means to self-care and wellbeing is powerful. It gives room to play, discover and reflect. Combining words, colors and images can be relaxing, reflective and engaging. Often after teaching art journaling classes, women share with me about their own discoveries and epiphanies about life.

How do you carve out time to be creative?

My creative time is very important, so I carve out time on purpose. Years ago, I read the book, Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. Though I knew my creative cup was easily filled in the early morning hours, this book helped me realize the power of consistency. I have a reminder note in my studio that reads, “Show-up.” I often remind my students of the time they have to work on their art, not necessarily to finish. I, too, show up to move or find rhythm in my studio, because movement will inevitably lead to finishing.

What are you working on that excites you right now?

Currently, I am working on a collection of art and my 3rd book titled, “Whispered Stories.” This project has challenged everything I proclaim about being free and living boldly. I am excited because this project is bigger than me. I believe in the healing power of art and journaling, as this is life giving and life changing. My first book, Heart in Pieces Made Whole and my second, The Other Side of Whole paved the way for this collaboration of art and the written word.

What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with fellow artists?

Show up consistently while spending time with yourself, getting to know yourself better so that you create the most honest art you can. Get to know yourself and then share with the world.

If you are interested in learning more about Yolanda Grier you can follow her on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/YolandaGrierArt/ on Instagram @yolanda_grier_art as well as find her work online at www.yolandagrierart.com.

A monthly column that keeps its finger on the pulse of Forsyth’s artists and their inspiring stories!

first look

at the 2023 Women on the Move

BY TARYN JEREZ

There is magic in the making as we countdown to Monday, March 20th for the 2023 “Women on the Move Leadership Conference ‘’ hosted by Forsyth Woman Magazines. We hope you will join us for the second year of bringing our monthly “Women on the Move” column to life in conference form. “Women on the Move” has highlighted the incredible accomplishments of women in our community since Forsyth Woman’s inception 16 years ago!

This year’s full day event is made possible with the generosity of our presenting sponsor, Renewal Med Spa at Salem Plastic Surgery, and will bring together our community’s incredible women who are ready to learn and grow both personally and professionally. Attendees can expect to take part in an inspiring and empowering event at the gorgeous Winmock at Kinderton in Bermuda Run surrounded by hosts, speakers, sponsors, and attendees who are ready to show up for each other and themselves.

EMPOWERING OUR COMMUNITY OF WOMEN

Forsyth Woman has brought together a group of powerhouse ladies from our community—from those in business, to owners and entrepreneurs, for a day full of impactful presentations, networking, shopping, food & drinks, and much more.

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PHOTOGRAPHY BY MEGAN BLACK PHOTOGRAPHY

Forsyth Woman is thrilled to be hosting this conference again this year! We feel it perfectly aligns with our mission of celebrating women,” said Brooke Eagle, Publisher of Forsyth Woman Magazine. “Seeing this conference bring our column to life was so amazing last year! The empowerment, love, support, kindness, and good vibes that were felt throughout the entire day were absolutely beautiful. I was honored by the feedback we received from attendees for literally weeks afterward and can’t wait to serve the women in our community again this year!”

A CONFERENCE EXPERIENCE DESIGNED WITH YOU IN MIND

If you attended the inaugural conference last year, then you got a taste of what a delicious event this is, but trust us…2023 is going to be taking it up a notch!

This event has been created for women of all ages and all walks of life. Attendees do not need to be a business owner or in any specific niche for this event to make an impact! Brooke shared that, “Each and every one of our speakers were strategically and thoughtfully chosen to ensure every woman gets so much out of this experience! We want you to come as you are and know you are exactly where you need to be!”

Leadership Conference

The Women on the Move Leadership Conference is going to kick your week off right when you arrive on Monday morning to a room filled with women as hungry for a purposeful and passion-filled life as you are. Be Kind Coffee will be ready to greet you with your morning caffeine fix so you can jump into the day!

Local vendors will be joining throughout the day for photo ops, an afternoon cocktail hour featuring Thirsty Buffalo and of course, in true Forsyth Magazines fashion, opportunities to shop and support local retail businesses!

Lunch will be catered and offer a plethora of snacks and beverages to give you energy throughout the day. Attendees can look forward to receiving swag bags filled with products and special discounts from all sorts of local businesses as well as the chance to win one of several door prizes announced throughout the day.

This isn’t a sit in your seat and take notes kind of conference! In between our standout speaker presentations, there will be opportunities for community building with two of our 2022 speakers, Jordan Gomez of the Body Confident Blueprint and Taryn Jerez of One Crafty Miss; leading us in an intentional group networking activity to get attendees more deeply connected.

WE CAN’T WAIT TO SEE YOU THERE

Whether you come with a group or decide to venture alone, there is a room of women ready to welcome you. The Women on the Move Leadership Conference is the experience you’ve been waiting for, and it won’t be the same without you! Forysth Woman has every expectation that tickets will sell out before the event date; therefore, it’s highly encouraged to register and get your ticket in advance. To keep up with all the latest conference announcements and behind the scenes looks, be sure to follow @ForsythMags on Facebook and Instagram pages as the event gets closer!

If you are interested in purchasing a table or have any questionsabout the event, please email conference coordinator and Publisher of Forsyth Magazine, Brooke Eagle at brooke@forsythmags.com

PURCHASE YOUR TICKETS AT: tinyurl.com/WOMConference

THIS YEAR’S LOCAL LEADERS SHARING THE STAGE

PRESENTED BY:

Emily Davis Owner of Fleet Feet Winston-Salem & Clemmons, Co-founder of Mission: Feet First fleetfeet.com @fleetfeetws

WEALTH ACTIVATION & STRATEGIES TO TAP INTO YOUR HIGHEST POTENTIAL

Kay Hillman, Owner of Becoming CEO mrskayh.com @becomingceo

BOUNDARIES: EMBRACING & EMPOWERING

Mary Beth Ivester, Owner of Ivester Homes, LLC marybethivester.com @marybethivester

ENTREPRENEURSHIP & MENTAL HEALTH

Alexia Mitchell, MSW, LCSWA, Owner of Reset and Heal Consulting resetandhealconsulting.com @resetandheal

Women in Philanthropy: THE NEXT 100 YEARS OF IMPACT IN FORSYTH COUNTY

Antonia Monk Richburg, Ph.D., President & CEO at United Way of Forsyth County

EAT THIS, NOT THAT LEVEL UP YOUR NUTRITION TO RECLAIM YOUR HEALTH

Alice Smith, MS, RD, LDN, CHC, Owner of Alice Approved aliceapproved.com @alice_approved

HABIT STACK Your Way to a Better Day

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

Life changes when we make changes, when we consistently incorporate new behaviors into our day. So, let’s be honest: If we think in terms of changing our life, we’re likely to feel overwhelmed and – no surprise –discouraged. But if we corral the notion of change by translating it into an action or a behavior we can incorporate into our day, we begin to change our life. It’s intentional and it’s incremental.

Case in point:

For years I thought I’d really like to do Pilates. It will be good for me. Oh, but that’s such a big commitment. When will I find the time? Consequently, I did nothing. But then one day, I realized: What if I sandwich a 30-minute Pilates You Tube video between drinking my morning coffee and going for my 30- minute walk? And what if I did that just one day a week? That was about a year ago, and, almost without fail, I am seamlessly incorporating that workout before my walk, at least once a week!

What I didn’t realize was that I was practicing a super-healthy behavior. It’s called “habit stacking” - piggy-backing on an existing positive habit –or habits - like a set of building blocks. What’s really cool is that the new behavior is likely to “stick” because you are building on a pattern that already exists in your brain, which makes habit stacking both effective and efficient! For me, it meant eliminating the fretting about when or if I’d manage to fit in a Pilates session; now, it’s simply part of my routine.

THE HOW TO OF HABIT STACKING

Identify an Existing Habit You Want to Piggy-back On. Be sure it is an ingrained habit, not something you only sometimes do. Brushing your teeth first thing is an ingrained habit or walking outside to check the mailbox may be another ingrained daily habit. The point is to snag a habit that is already deeply-anchored, and to piggy-back on it.

Example: Every morning, after I brush my teeth, I will set my timer and stretch for ten minutes. Or, Just before I check the mail, I will take a quick walk around the block. Or, After I make my bed, I will pick up any clothes that are lying around.

Here’s one I’ve recently incorporated: After my husband and I eat our leisurely Sunday breakfast, I read a spiritual book for at least an hour. In the past, doing so was an “If I get to it” activity. Now it is a welcome respite and a true celebration of my Sunday.

Build Your Habit Staircase. Once your new behavior has truly become part of your routine, ask yourself if and how you might want to enrich it. I’m not a huge fan of green tea, but I want to incorporate more of it into my diet. Now I have a cup after our shared breakfast, while I am doing my very personal readings. That’s three great habits – stacked! People who use habit-stacking often suggest that morning and evening routines can provide the best “triggers” for habit stacking, as you probably already have some form of routine in place.

HABIT STACKING TIPS

Link That New Behavior With a Value or Goal. Pilates supports my goal to be more fit in semi-retirement than I have ever been. My spiritual reading supports the value I place on nurturing my inner life and honoring the contemplative life.

One Thing at a Time. Habit stacking shouldn’t be a burden. It should make building the life you want easier by incorporating one small, new habit at a time. That might also mean limiting the time you spend on that habit – even five minutes to start - so that you can get into the groove with it instead of petering out or losing interest. Another good reason to mindfully and slowly build your habit staircase is that you want to make sure that you leave some room for spontaneity!

Acknowledge Your Wins and Reward Yourself. Every good habit you incorporate into your life is a personal win, so give yourself a pat on the back and treat it as such!

Pilates & Postural Therapy Studio Featuring Massage Therapy with Carmela Thompson

BY ADELE CASANOVA

Inner Strength Pilates’ motto is “Pilates isn’t just a workout, it’s a lifestyle!” Winston-Salem’s premier Pilates studio, Inner Strength Pilates, offers a well-rounded approach to functional balanced strength, non-medical pain relief, lean muscle mass, athletic performance, and therapy rehabilitation. An integral part of this approach is massage therapy. Carmela Thompson, an NC Licensed Massage Therapist, most enjoys working with clients at Inner Strength Pilates because, “Here I am allowed to truly care for my clients, taking the time to understand their needs and create individual treatment plans. At Inner Strength Pilates, our approach is to guide our clients toward health and strength through self-healing.”

Carmela, a 2010 graduate of the Living Arts Institute in WinstonSalem, has always been drawn to serving others. Her special interest is in pursuing a holistic approach to health, including self-healing and nutrition. Carmela has found massage therapy as a way of offering healing, as well as preventative maintenance, for those with structural or muscular issues. She treats a variety of clients who may be experiencing pain from such sources as scoliosis, osteoporosis, accidents, occupational injuries created by repetitive movements, or illnesses such as cancer. Performance athletes, as well as those with desk jobs who sit all day, can benefit from massage therapy to correct muscular pain and maintain pain free lifestyles.

Carmela believes in treating the cause of pain, not just addressing the symptoms. “Everyone needs to take their health into their own hands and really listen to their bodies. Modern medicine often advocates the use of ‘band aids,’ such as oral or topical painkillers, instead of addressing the root causes of pain,” says Carmela. “Lifelong maintenance of one’s health includes treating sources of pain not just symptoms.”

Carmela uses several modalities to treat her clients, including:

• Trigger Point Massage – Locating a knot or area of localized spasm within a muscle, a trigger point, and applying pressure to release the muscle and reduce pain.

• Hot Stone Massage – Sustaining heat to promote relaxation, pain relief and flexibility. Used in conjunction with massage, hot stones allow for deeper muscular relaxation.

• K-Tape Application – Releasing lymphatic fluid within a muscle and reducing pain using K-Tape. K-tape is cotton or synthetic tape with unidirectional elasticity, stretching in length but not in width. Injured or overused muscles contain a build up of lymphatic fluid, and correctly applying K-Tape releases the fluid and pressure between the muscle and its lining, the fascia, reducing pain.

• Mind Gut Connection – Counseling clients to maintain good health using food as preventative medicine. “People should eat, not just for taste, but for proper fuel, leading to a state of homeostasis, or self-regulating health,” says Carmela. “Proper nutrition and hydration lead to both physical health and mental clarity.”

To explore improved health and wellbeing, please contact Carmela Thompson at Inner Strength Pilates for a massage therapy consultation and personalized treatment plan. She can be reached at 336-813-5320. Inner Strength Pilates is located at 4983 Martin View Lane, Winston-Salem, NC 27104, in the Harper Hill Commons Shopping Center at the corner of Peacehaven and Country Club Roads. Learn more at www.innerstrengthpilatesnc.com.

PHOTOS BY MEGAN BLACK PHOTOGRAPHY

A Good Fit for Community and Individuals

BY MEAGAN JOHNSON, PHOTOS BY JODIE BRIM CREATIVE

Located just a couple of miles from downtown Winston-Salem, minutes from Ardmore and nestled right next to West Salem, you’ll find Washington Park. In addition to beautiful 100+ year old historic homes, this neighborhood has so much to offer. A few of its highlights are a beer garden (Southside Beer Garden), neighborhood barber shop (Washington Park Barber), a convenience store that sells the best fried chicken (J&Js), a coffee shop (Coffee Shed), the perfect casual breakfast or lunch spot (Acadia Foods), a quaint neighborhood pub (Swaim’s), a vintage clothing store (Elevated Weirdo), an eclectic live music venue and bar (Monstercade) and the most recent addition? Washington Park CrossFit.

The building that is now home to Washington Park CrossFit, has been a host of other businesses over the years. What started as a pharmacy under various ownership, including the original Crown Drugs, became a laundromat and a furniture store just to name a few. After sitting vacant for several years, a gym was a welcome addition to the neighborhood. Scott Tyler, Brooke Eagle and Gavin Culler were excited to bring this dream to life. They all have a passion for bringing their community together through fitness.

Washington Park CrossFit is a diverse community of like-minded individuals. Members range in age from early 20s to mid 60s and all have vastly different skill levels and goals. The coaches at Washington Park CrossFit tailor each workout to meet your current skill and fitness level and aim to help you become a better athlete (and no, you don’t have to currently play sports to be considered an athlete). Whether that’s learning how to improve your form and mobility so you can properly squat or if it’s something more advanced like working towards a goal of power cleaning your body weight or mastering a bar muscle up, they can help you get there.

CrossFit is “functional fitness,” meaning each movement is rooted in improving an athlete’s daily life. Think: squats for getting up and down from a seated position, deadlifts for picking things up off the ground, etc. Establishing proper technique won’t only help you get stronger while minimizing risk of injury today, but continues to help you be proficient with these daily movements for as long as possible over the course of your life! Getting stronger (at any age) has incredible health benefits and does wonders for building confidence.

The members at Washington Park CrossFit love fitness of course, but they love the community aspect of the gym. When you spend time with the same people three, four, five times a week, you build a relationship with them!

What can you expect during class? Classes last one hour and once you complete the warm up, you’ll move on to a gymnastics or weightlifting skill portion of class and end the class with a metabolic conditioning workout to get your heartrate up.

The best part about CrossFit? It’s constantly varied. Workouts are constantly switched up and you’ll never be bored. Members can track workouts through the available app and website so they can see progress over time.

Classes are offered in the mornings, lunchtime and evenings. FREE community WODs (“workout of the day” CrossFit terminology) are offered every Saturday at 10am and you can find the full class schedule on their website, washingtonparkcrossfit.com.

Washington Park CrossFit offers a one-week free trial! Come check it out for a few classes to see if it’s a good fit for you! Sign up for your free trial at washingtonparkcrossfit.com.

-Christina B.

“The coaches are amazing and there is no need to have experience in CrossFit or Olympic lifts. They’ll teach you everything. Gavin’s coaching and classes have been a great asset to my fitness program.”

“I love the constant coaching and the community. Everyone gets a warm welcome!” – Nikki H.

Washington Park CrossFit is located at 2020 Hollyrood Street in WinstonSalem. Follow them on Instagram, @ washingtonparkcrossfit and check out membership options, the workouts for the week and the complete class schedule at washingtonparkcrossfit.com.

On the Road Again: Vermont

BY AMY HILL

Looking for a laidback, family-friendly destination in the Northeast? Here’s how to spend seven days in the “Green Mountain State” of Vermont.

Day 1: Settle into Burlington

This week, rest easy knowing your luggage will be staying put in one hotel room each night. Burlington is Vermont’s most populous city, and unless you’re planning a ski trip at one of Vermont’s mountaintop resorts, it’s best to plant your roots in Burlington and take day trips to surrounding sights. Plan to fly in and out of Burlington International Airport (BTV) and arrange your rental car accordingly. Fortunately, Burlington sits alongside Lake Champlain, which is the sixth largest lake in the country. Lake Champlain houses numerous beaches, plenty of opportunities for water sports, and a slew of state parks for camping and picnics.

Day 2:

Cross the Border

Burlington is too close to Canada to forgo the opportunity to explore a new country. With your passport in tow, be adventurous and drive less than two hours north to Montreal in Quebec. Predominantly a French-speaking destination, Montreal transports tourists to Europe without leaving North America, especially in the Old Montreal district, where you can find the Notre-Dame Basilica and the picturesque clock tower. Don’t forget to taste a Montreal-style bagel, which is distinctly different from New York-style bagels with a thinner, sweeter, wood-fired flair.

Day 3: Discover Maple Syrup

Since Vermont produces more maple syrup than any other state, it is almost considered a crime to visit Vermont without exploring its sweeter side. In fact, Vermont has higher standards for its maple syrup production than the U.S. government’s standards, which is one reason the state has prevailed in its prolific maple syrup production. Sugar maple trees abound and sap from Vermont’s sugar maple trees are used to make the iconic pancake topping. Visit the New England Maple Museum over an hour south of Burlington to learn more about Vermont’s maple syrup industry, and stop by Baird Farm nearby to purchase authentic Vermont maple syrup to take home as a souvenir.

Day 4: Capture Vermont’s Beauty

Vermont is a photographer’s dream, especially in the autumn season when stunning fall colors can be seen around forests, along highways, and especially along Lake Willoughby (which is worth a visit if you’re willing to take the two-hour trip east for the day). Vermont is also home to a shocking amount of covered bridges throughout the state that are ideal for fall-themed photoshoots. To name a few popular covered bridges, Seguin, Quinlans, Sanderson, Hammond, and Depot Covered Bridges are all within reasonable driving distances from Burlington for a day filled with photography. Each bridge can be located on Google Maps, making them easy to track down.

Day 5: Ben & Jerry’s

Aside from maple syrup, Vermont is also home to the iconic Ben & Jerry’s ice cream chain. Visit the Ben & Jerry’s location in Vermont’s Waterbury Village Historic District to visit Ben & Jerry’s Flavor Graveyard, in addition to taking a factory tour and snacking on ice cream amongst beautiful mountain views. To read more about the Ben & Jerry’s factory experience and book a reservation online, visit www.benjerry.com/about-us/ factory-tours.

Day 6: Shop and Dine in Burlington

After a few days of sightseeing and driving around Vermont, slow down and take time to take in the charming city of Burlington. Visit the city’s famous Church Street Marketplace to shop at a mixture of local and major retailers, grab a treat at Lake Champlain Chocolates, or sit down for a craft cocktail and a Vermont cheese plate at The Gryphon in downtown Burlington.

Day 7: Say Goodbye

Return your rental car and check-in for your flight home out of BTV. Be sure to read TSA’s liquids regulations carefully before packing up your Vermont maple syrup in your luggage to head home. The last thing you want to do is be forced to toss your sugary souvenir in the garbage at the TSA checkpoint and leave Burlington emptyhanded.

CAREPATROL OF WINSTON-SALEM: A Calm Voice When Choices Matter Most

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY JODIE BRIM CREATIVE

Transitioning a loved one to senior living is never easy. Emotions are high and questions are many –but knowledge is power! Having experts available to lead you through an overwhelming sea of options can be life-changing, and there’s no better choice than CarePatrol of Winston-Salem.

Founded in 1993, CarePatrol employs 150 senior care advisors around the country, offering the best, most caring and realistic advice when your family conversations are turning to assisted living, independent living, memory care, skilled nursing care, or in-home care.

Gina Gordon and her husband purchased the Winston-Salem CarePatrol franchise in May of 2022, and opened for business in October. Coming from a 30-year career in healthcare, Gina was looking for an opportunity to serve the aging population, and circling back to a love of direct patient care. When she and her husband began the journey to business ownership, she found the established principles of CarePatrol a perfect fit.

It’s also a personal mission for Gina, who has been navigating – along with her mother and brother – her own father’s dementia diagnosis for several years.

“Talk about perspective,” she says. “There isn’t a day when I don’t experience an emotion or connection as I work with families. As a business owner and as a daughter, I have an opportunity to positively influence the narrative around aging and senior living, while advocating for our moms, dads, grandparents, friends, and neighbors.”

North Carolina is fortunate to have a strong CarePatrol presence, and the Winston-Salem team works closely with neighboring colleagues in Raleigh/Durham/ Chapel Hill, Burlington/Greensboro, and Charlotte to stay up-to-date on senior living opportunities. With its 20-plus year reputation, the company’s mantra centers around a steadfast commitment to finding the most appropriate place for seniors to call home. Considering care needs, finances, and personal wishes, CarePatrol provides a more thoughtful and intentional transition.

“The decision to move a loved one to independent living, assisted living, or memory care comes with many emotions and questions,” Gina explains. “Families experience both fear and guilt, which can be difficult to overcome. They fear the unknown, based on stories of a friend’s family experience in the “dreaded nursing home”, and they feel guilt because a parent said years ago they never wanted to leave or sell their home.”

Once the CarePatrol team receives a referral for a new client, they personally meet with the senior and family members to determine the right living option. The most positive results always come when an individual’s personal needs and care needs are both met, instead of decisions based on location or appearance.

“An important part of my job is to know the history of all senior living options, and I take the responsibility of recommending a community very seriously,” says Gina. “I must be able to confidently say I would recommend a place for my own mom or dad before recommending it to someone else.”

Another vital component of transitioning to senior living is finances, and while not a popular topic of conversation, pre-planning will pay off. “Most communities are either private pay only or require a defined time period of private pay before accepting special assistance through Medicaid.,” Gina explains. “And Medicare does not pay anything for assisted living or memory care, which is shocking to most families.”

CarePatrol helps families understand the costs they face, and advises them with budget options. “My advice to anyone reading this article is to have the conversation now with loved ones about the costs associated with aging,” adds Gina. “Once I meet with a family, I can help identify living options that meet both care needs and budget. Much like purchasing a house, I schedule a tour with families to ensure they see and experience the community before making any decisions. I educate, coordinate, and guide families through the process, but it’s ultimately their personal decision. I also work

closely with the community to ensure a smooth move-in process, and follow-up with families as well, to monitor their experience and progress.”

As the senior living industry continues to evolve, there is no “one size fits all” choice, which is why services like CarePatrol prove so valuable. Gina and the CarePatrol staff encourage families to stay openminded and consider all options!

“There is a term used in the industry called ‘aging in place,’ with the goal at any phase in life being to thrive and live safely,” adds Gina. “As we age, the concept of aging in place begins with the question of ‘How long can I live at home and thrive with a high quality of life and live safely?’ When home is no longer a safe option, senior living communities in this area are committed to helping residents maintain as much independence as possible and advancing care services and resources, within a time frame most appropriate for each individual.”

You can reach Gina and CarePatrol of WinstonSalem at 844-218-2273, or online at carepatrol. com/winston-salem. The staff serves Forsyth, Stokes, Surry, and Yadkin counties, and Gina’s services are free to families.

Gina Gordon, RN, RD, LDN, Certified Senior Advisor (CSA)®

Hustle & Heart

Quieting the Noise this Year

BY TARYN JEREZ, OF ONECRAFTYMISS.COM

This is your brand’s year to lean into its unique vision and voice to connect with customers on a deeper, more impactful level. Afterall, this is what consumers are craving more than anything: real, authentic connection. If this sounds exactly like what you’re trying to accomplish with your own branding and marketing, I have a secret for you.

Your most powerful tool in making this change is learning how to quiet the noise that’s impacting how you show up in your brand.

DISCOVERING WHAT THE BACKGROUND NOISE IS COSTING YOU.

Maybe you don’t notice the noise I’m talking about. Perhaps you are working hard over there, not even realizing the low humming of outside perspective and voice influencing your own? The truth is, between competitors, outside industries and even your inner circle, it can be difficult to really home in on how you want to build your unique brand without allowing a little “noise” to pull you away from where you truly feel called. You don’t want a watered down message that falls flat. This year, let’s cut out some of the noise to find your brand’s vision and voice by embracing the below everyday tips.

LOOK AT YOUR BUSINESS FROM THE OUTSIDE IN.

Most days you’re working in your business from the inside, running the day to day, creating marketing, finalizing pricing and offers, client communications and more. What if you stopped for a moment to see your business the way your customers do? A simple way to go deeper with your vision for your business is to interact with your brand the way an outsider would. Scroll your own website, follow yourself on social media, fill out your contact forms, go through your consultation or loyalty process. See how your messaging all fits together and the story and overall journey you’re taking potential customers on. What falls short? What opportunities do you see? Where can you choose to add more of your personality and voice to create something special that stands out from the crowd? This really will allow you to have a better, more cohesive understanding of your brand.

Find Your Brand’s Vision & Voice

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This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

UNDERSTAND YOUR TRIGGERS OF INFLUENCE.

You may find yourself easily influenced by outside opinions - there is a very human tendency to have our thoughts and ideas affected by others.Sometimes it’s something that we’ve decided to do in our business and we share it with someone and moments later we’re questioning our decision. The same could be said about scrolling Facebook - one moment you’re confident and the next you’re not. Eliminating what causes comparison based on what your feelings are telling you is an important tool. Certainly, this is easier said than done but most definitely worth the effort. It’s impossible to cut out everything that causes you to compare your business or yourself. What’s important, however, is to stand your ground when you know something isn’t good for your mindset. This will look very different for every person. Give yourself permission to not attend a specific function, to unfollow specific accounts on social media, to stop being friends with someone that doesn’t make you feel good about yourself or your choices.

EMBRACE CHANGE AND CHILD-LIKE CREATIVITY.

There is something special about watching a young child create artwork or build a tower of blocks. They simply get started without always having a whole plan in front of them. There may be mess ups and miscalculations but they are wholly absorbed in what they are creating. In your business, embrace that same child-like creativity to play with your words, messaging, visuals and every other part of your brand’s story. Write out a “brain dump” list of words or phrases that describe or feel like your brand, without worrying about what sounds right or wrong. Allow what you’re feeling drawn to now, to differentiate from where you are. Brands are meant to change and be fluid in certain seasons the same way we grow and evolve as people.

HUSTLE & HEART CHALLENGE

This month, think about your ideal audience and all the ways your business serves them. Think about how your brand’s voice speaks to them throughout every touchpoint in your business. Where is there an opportunity to elevate your vision and tweak your voice to showcase this and reach that audience this year with higher impact?

Jodie Brim, Photographer

BY RENEE SKUDRA

MURALS: WhyTheyAreImportant

The “City of the Arts” descriptor of Winston-Salem is a richly deserved one. One need not even look closely to see all the evidence of artistic creations everywhere. Street art in particular occupies a prominent place in our community, and has a particularly dense concentration in the Historic North Arts District in the form of murals. Street art (of which murals are a form) mainly appears in urban areas and public locations such as on the exterior walls of buildings, highway overpasses and bridges. A Wake Forest University professor once remarked to me that all art is intended to change the world. If you look around Trade and Liberty Streets for example, you can see such an effort at work. Several days ago I made it my business to look at a number of murals which brought home the fact that in so many cases street art can function as a means of urban regeneration and beautification. Not only do murals add a splash of color to architectural facades but they, as pieces of public art, humanize the built environment and invigorate public spaces. Murals function as a call to attention, stopping people in their tracks and in their best sense, moving people to think about things in a different way, consequently shifting both individual

and community perceptions. In its most extreme expression, murals can be political acts which have a powerful role in constructing new social and cultural discourses.

In short, murals can act as collective thought spaces. They express ideas and tell stories. They can create dialogue around a subject or community issue through what they depict. In Winston-Salem some of the murals I looked at are clearly a protest, a call for change, communicating important messages and thereby empowering, inspiring and educating us. Others serve an informational function, denoting some cultural or historic relevance which precedes the present time. For example, a mural located on the side of the Shop Flowers Store on Liberty Street in the Arts District provides a detailed visual running history of the Black press and its newspaper The Chronicle along with images of numerous people in the AfricanAmerican community who fought to make that publication a cogent reality and a success. Since street art is an important part of the identity of a city, it can help shape and define the sense of community and personality of a metropolis. I see this mural in particular as one which can become a community centerpiece bringing people together to celebrate the heritage and history of their home.

Another mural, located on Trade Street, N.W. on the side of the Tobacco Soho Building, captures the bustling life of a bygone era of Winston-Salem. Under the title, Miller’s Department Store, a group of people look outward at their audience. The colors of the mural are black and white, monochromatic, and the men and women, many smiling, move about fluidly, in garb which, to the modern eye, seems rather

vintage. Some men wear hats and possibly 1930s or ‘40s apparel and a sign on the mural broadcasts the store’s message of “Better Clothing.” An African-American man strums a guitar, seemingly oblivious to his onlooker. While murals occur in numerous graphic styles (abstract, photorealistic, surrealist, expressionist and graffiti), in this instance it would appear that the rendering incorporates elements of both realism as well as a playful and whimsical stylization reminiscent of some of Marc Chagall’s paintings. The mural captures a vibrant community which proudly faces the artist who makes its creation in a manner full of reportage and void of judgment.

At another stop in the historic Arts District I scored another discovery of numerous murals behind the Artivity on the Green Sculpture Park. A long row of murals behind huge metal sculptures reveals a potpourri of different artistic styles, many with surrealism and abstract imaginings. I see fantastical monsters, a tiger and other creatures in a highly stylized Asian-style universe, a gorgeously textured octopus – all the murals are alive with intensity and color. Opposite the numerous murals I spy another on the side of a building which says “Black excellence isn’t just the exceptional; it’s the everyday” against a pink background full of flowers and butterflies. A mural on 7th and Liberty Streets depicts a huge terrifying mythical-looking bird and further down the street is a mural with a deep sea diver in a marine environment. Street art is uncurated and I love the fact that no one is deciding what pieces, in fact, are worthy of presentation or display. A colleague reminds me that art on walls started with the cavemen (think: Neolithic cave paintings). People are brazenly putting their art in the street and yes, I just love this. I’ll be looking for more.

Creative Perspective for Classic Bedrooms

Creating beautiful and comfortable bedrooms comes naturally to us. We have all the resources to create anything from all neutral with different textures to any color scheme imaginable.

Upholstered headboards are very popular, and we can have one custom designed for you in any size or shape with the fabric of your choice. For those of you who have high beds and mattresses, we have access to oversized coverlets and duvet cover to fit large beds. Don’t forget the sheets that should be so soft that you sink right in.

Many of us often wait to spend money on the master bedroom last. I think of the master bedroom as one of the most important rooms of the home and it should not be neglected. Walking through your master bedroom should bring instant Zen. Think of it as a place of peace and relaxation. As the centerpiece of your room, the bed is inarguably the most important component of a comfortable sanctuary. Investing in a high-quality mattress will help you wake up rested and restored. Younger parents ask for kid-friendly materials and we have plenty of those options as well.

Another item on my checklist is to make sure, you have something soft to step on when you get out of bed. It is hard enough to get out of bed without having icy floors to greet you. Lighting is another important aspect that will help create a soft, flattering, and romantic setting. I would suggest lighting with easy access so you can reach the controls from your bed. Don’t forget artwork. It is the fastest way to inject personality into your decor.

There is one more element that should not be overlooked: the paint color. It is as important as the furnishings and linens. I think of soothing colors that will help you rest. For me, that means tranquil blues, peaceful azures, quiet corals, and sandy beiges balanced with plenty of white and cream. All these ideas will create that cozy, relaxing, and comfortable retreat.

With Valentine’s Day coming up, think about your creative ideas for the master bedroom or guestroom. Think classic.

God Bless,

Book Onsite Bridal Styling With DASH Beauty

BY AMY HILL

Triad locals are familiar with DASH Beauty, one of Winston-Salem’s esteemed services for bridal styling, hair color, and more. Within the last year, DASH Beauty owner and bridal stylist Rachel Newsome transitioned DASH Beauty from its original salon location to a traveling service with highly trained stylists performing onsite transformations. Rachel and her talented team travel to prepare bridal parties for wedding ceremonies year-round, having worked a whopping 31 weddings throughout 2022.

With a plethora of artistic talents, Rachel is well-versed in wedding dos, performing freelance work in bridal shops throughout North Carolina. Whether brides are looking for loose, boho braids or a polished, sleek style for their big day, Rachel arrives prepared to deliver top-notch looks for ladies and gentlemen looking to tie the knot. The name DASH Beauty originated from the first names of Rachel’s four children, with each letter representing the name of each child. Ironically, the name DASH also happens to pair nicely with the iconic WinstonSalem Dash minor league baseball team. Rachel’s children and their growing extracurricular schedules inspired Rachel to transition DASH from being a salon-based service to a business on-the-go, leaving her plenty of time during the week to spend time with her family, with her weekends reserved for traveling to weddings and events for DASH.

Rachel adores being able to have deep, meaningful conversations with her clients without the background noise of a busy salon. In fact, Rachel’s clients describe her as a good listener and great conversationalist. If clients are nervous about making a change to their beloved locks, Rachel’s ability to make them feel comfortable and cared for helps put their minds at ease. Creating gorgeous hair not only pleases her clients, but also serves as a form of therapy for Rachel herself. She often finds that she loses herself in her work, allowing her to forget the world’s troubles when she steps into the salon.

As for the latest wedding dos, Rachel has noticed a gradual transition away from sleek, tight styles to 1990s-inspired updos and blow-outs with an emphasis on volume and bounce. Part of her job as a bridal stylist is to educate herself and stay on top of the newest techniques to provide brides with the dos they desire. Soon, Rachel aspires to teach

bridal education courses, allowing aspiring bridal stylists to receive hands-on training with an emphasis on efficiency. Rachel believes efficiency is key when styling bridal parties and remaining unfrazzled in high-stress wedding environments. In fact, she once styled the hair of 12 ladies in only 4 hours alone.

In the beginning, DASH Beauty was described by Rachel as a “onewoman show.” This year, Rachel is excited to expand her DASH Beauty team even more with new bridal stylists and makeup artists. Interested in joining the DASH Beauty team? Send resumes to dashbeautync@ gmail.com.

If wedding bells are in your future, don’t wait to book DASH Beauty for your big day. Visit www.dashbeautync.com for bridal inquiries and services offered. Check out Manes by Rach on Facebook and follow @ manesbyrach to see more of Rachel’s work.

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WOMEN ON

LESLIE SPEAS

Leslie Speas has launched a new Human Resources (HR) Consulting Firm, InfluencHeR Consulting. This new firm will help small and medium-sized organizations elevate their talent, influencing positive results. She says her firm is differentiated by its affordable solutions and HIRE Guiding Values –Humility * Integrity * Respect * Empathy which is why you should HIRE them! Services include HR compliance and projects; engagement and wellbeing; assessments and leadership/employee development and coaching. Leslie is a strategic, HR professional offering more than 25 years of experience with broad expertise in leadership; talent acquisition; talent development; compensation; benefits; employee relations; DEIB and engagement. She has been an HR leader in the manufacturing, service, insurance, retail, technology, healthcare and non-profit industries and started several HR departments from the ground up. Leslie has a master’s degree in I/O Psychology, senior HR certifications from HRCI and SHRM. She was the president of Winston-Salem Society for Human Resources Management in 2022 and remains on the board in 2023. She is also the author of two Christian non-fiction books. Follow her at influencherconsulting.com.

JENN OTTEN

Jenn Otten is the operations manager at The Barn at Reynolda Village. “I have spent my working career building knowledge from experiences in hospitality settings of all types,” she said. “I have 15 years of experience and am incredibly passionate about hospitality. I promise to always have a smile when you step into the barn and welcome you like it is your home. I pay attention to every detail, so you don’t have to and am dedicated to providing the best experience.” Jenn was born and raised in northern Minnesota and has an associate’s degree from Lake Superior College. “My husband’s career in golf took us to Washington, DC and to Winston-Salem in 2021,” she said. “We have been enjoying all of Winston’s treasures from restaurants and breweries to shows at The Ramkat and Dash baseball games. When Chris and I are not working, we enjoy walking state parks with our dog, Drake, golfing and watching our favorite sports teams.”

RACHEL SHERMAN

Rachel Sherman is the designer and creator behind Brick and Boho, a furniture restoration and home accents small business which she started during the pandemic, and grew into a successful business. Whether it came from the curb, or from a special family looking to update a treasured piece, Rachel helps repurpose and restore them with a fun, Boho, modern twist. She does interior design as well and has worked with families and businesses in her community to create new spaces they will enjoy. Aside from spending time with her four kids, she enjoys shopping second hand, supporting local shops and traveling. She is a lover of music, tacos, Dr. Pepper and her two dogs, Lola and Abby. Her biggest supporters are her husband of 15 years, Casey, her mother, Debbie and her many friends.

THE MOVE

KAYLI KIMERER

Kayli Kimerer is a senior stage manager and current Student Body President at University of North Carolina School of the Arts. She has lived in the Triad for the past few years while being a full-time student and leader in the community. She started working in student government and quickly joined various clubs, committees and student organizations, such as UNCSA Ambassadors, UNC Association of Student Governments Internal Operations Committee, UNCSA Housing Appeal Committee and co-chair of the UNCSA Tuition & Fees Committee. Along with her participation in these groups, she has volunteered her time to various school events, projects and productions. Her work goes beyond school life and into the Winston-Salem community. Kayli has been serving on the College Advisory Board of Winston-Salem for the past three years. In her time on the board, she has had a hand in representing college students in the surrounding area on the housing and food insecurity initiative. Representing her school for the NLC (National League of Cities), she takes her devotion to the students to a whole new level. This year, she is serving as the Student Body President and has become a voting member on the UNCSA Board of Trustees. She has dedicated her life to serving the students of not only UNCSA, but of the Winston-Salem community, as well.

APRIL BRUNET

April Brunet is the owner of Sapphire-Studio LLC & Sapphire 24 Fitness LLC. She has more than 25 years of experience in dance and coached a competitive clogging team. “I opened my dance studio in 2014,” she said. “After a year, I began to see a need for health and fitness. I opened a small women’s gym alongside the dance studio. Through Covid, it turned into just a personal training studio where I did personal training. Now, in 2022, I train at my new 24-hour gym! Sapphire 24 Fitness opened January 1st of this 2022.” April has a bachelor’s degree in psychology with a minor in French. She married her best friend, Ralph, in June of 2022.

HANNAH JACOBS MARTIN

Hannah Jacobs Martin is the owner and head mixologist of The Drippy Bartender. “After completing my 30 before turning 30 list, my goal was to just have fun with the certification and make it off the list,” she said. “Now, I’m in my first year, and we are expanding all over North Carolina and South Carolina.” Hannah is currently pursuing her bachelor’s degree. “My hobbies are creating new drinks as well as mocktails,” she said. “I would like to thank my wife and friends who have truly helped me during the first year of business. It truly means way more than they know.”

Chicken Pot Pie Soup

(Healthier and Dairy Free)

Serves 6 | Prep Time: 15 minutes

Cook Time: 30 minutes | Total Time: 45 minutes

SOUP INGREDIENTS

1 sweet onion, diced 2 shallots, diced 2 garlic cloves, minced 4 celery stalks, diced 3 large carrots, diced ½ cauliflower head, chopped 2 large or 3 small russet potatoes, peeled and diced ½ cup frozen peas

1 tsp garlic powder

1 tbsp sage

1 tsp thyme 1 tsp black pepper 1 tsp salt 1 tbsp olive oil 1 ½ - 2 chicken breasts 2 cups unsweetened plain almond milk 2 cups chicken broth

PIE CRUST CROUTONS INGREDIENTS

1 sheet puff pastry Salt and pepper

Olive oil spray or egg wash

DIRECTIONS

1. In a soup pot, add the olive oil and sear the chicken breast on both sides. It does not need to be cooked all the way through. Remove the chicken and set aside.

2. Add the onion, shallot, and garlic to the soup pot. Cook until they soften. Then add the celery, carrots, cauliflower, and potatoes. Once cooked a few minutes, add the salt, pepper, garlic powder, thyme, and sage. Cook again for another few minutes.

3. Add in the almond milk and chicken broth to the pot. Add the chicken breasts back in and cook for another 10 minutes. Remove the chicken breasts from the pot.

4. Cook the soup for another 10 minutes. Once the vegetables have softened, ladle out ½ of the vegetables into a blender, draining the liquid before adding it to the blender. Blend the vegetables until smooth and then add back into the pot. This will thicken the soup.

5. Shred the chicken breast and add back into the soup. Lastly, add the frozen peas into the pot. Cook for another few minutes and serve with the Pie Crust Croutons!

6. To make the Pie Crust Croutons: Preheat the oven to 400 F. Line a baking sheet and cut the puff pastry into tiny squares. Lay on the sheet about 1” apart. Spray them with olive oil spray or brush with egg wash. Season with salt and pepper and bake for 9 minutes. Store in an airtight container on the counter or in the pantry.

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Post Holiday Tips to Maximize Nutrition

Detox Your Mind and Body and Boost Overall Health

BY SUSAN BOYOUNG BAILEY SCHABACKER

Feeling bloated after a few too many sips and bites at holiday gatherings? You may be feeling a bit done in by all the dessert-ing, but this is an ideal time to focus on getting healthier. No need to give up everything you crave that’s unhealthy. Instead, creatively substitute with healthier options. Here are some hacks after the holidays to get healthier and happier.

ALIGN AND AFFIRM THE BEST VERSION OF YOU

You are precious and full of potential, but you yourself have to believe that, too. Your perception of yourself can have a profound impact on the way you live your life which also has a ripple effect on others. Remind yourself that there’s no one else quite like you in the world and celebrate what makes you uniquely you. Write down some of your best qualities and positive feedback from others.

STAY HYDRATED

Since our bodies are composed of at least 60% water, it’s vital to stay hydrated. Start your day with simple hot water and lemon or green tea and lemon, Move over cocktails. Instead, sip and savor mocktails without the added alcohol. Alcoholic drinks like cocktails can be alluring and also addictive, but non-alcoholic virgin drinks can be just as amazing. Substitute alcohol and sodas with water, organic teas, and fruit and veggie juices.

MORE MINDFUL EVERYTHING

Mindfully improve your digestion, respiration, and overall health and make better choices

to be healthier and live better. Focusing on deep, diaphragmatic breathing as part of your life force can have a direct physical response on your blood pressure and cortisol. Living in the now, staying attuned and aware in the present allows you to make wiser, healthier decisions. Chewing food more slowly can aid your digestion. It’s easy to be on autopilot and take these invisible aspects of life for granted, but the more you can implement them into daily living, the better off you’ll be. So, make a habit of thinking, feeling, and living mindfully.

PROBIOTICS AND PREBIOTICS

Boost beneficial bacteria in the gut microbiome to ward off invading illnesses and support the immune system. Find prebiotics in fiber-rich foods, including vegetables, fruits, and whole grains. Find probiotics in fermented foods and beverages, like sauerkraut, kimchi, tempeh, kefir and kombucha.

THE 3 S’S: SUPERFOODS, SMOOTHIES, AND SPICES

Whether a meal or snack, the 3 S’s contain bountiful benefits. Nutrient dense superfoods include fish, nuts, cruciferous veggies, dark leafy greens, pomegranates, berries, and lots else. There’s a surprising amount you can pack into a single smoothie, from greens to frozen fruits to powders and spices like matcha, moringa, spirulina, turmeric, and cinnamon.

MASSAGE WITH AROMATHERAPY

Whether it’s a DIY massage on yourself, with a partner, or by a professional masseuse,

benefit your body and mind in many ways. Relax your muscles, increase circulation, de-stress from daily cares, and soothe your senses with aromatherapy. Simply mix a plant-based carrier oil such as coconut, olive, argan, jojoba, or avocado oil with essential oils. For an energizing massage, try essential oils like eucalyptus, rosemary, or peppermint. In contrast, for a relaxing massage, opt for oils like lavender, chamomile, ylang ylang, and jasmine.

REFLECT ON YOUR INNERMOST THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS

Find time to document and record (and don’t forget to date) what’s on your mind and heart. Keeping track of what you go through and what you are thinking and feeling can help you piece together the puzzle of life, shedding light on where you’ve been, where you are now, and where you want to go with your dreams, goals, and objectives.

USE POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT

to reach your health goals. Rewarding yourself with healthy treats and positive encouragement provides fuel and fire for your engine and helps overcome obstacles like avoidance and procrastination. Be your own cheerleader and boss, recognizing and rewarding yourself along the way.

The new year is the ideal time to break through to a healthier and better version of you.

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Purpose Push:

It’s a New Year, why do you care?

Many of us wait until the beginning of the year to implement new goals we set last year and I have always wondered why. We could’ve begun these new goals in October or November but we use the end of the year to slow down, or throw in the towel, and pump ourselves up for next year and end up wasting valuable time that could have gotten us ahead of the curve. We don’t get our time back but a New Year happens every single year. So what’s all the hype about?

Don’t get me wrong, I love celebrating the New Year because, for me, it represents another year of birthdays, holidays, seasons, and anniversaries. On the other hand, many of us use it as a time restraint to lose weight, make a certain amount of money in our careers and businesses, or achieve life milestones like getting married or having a baby. And it sets us up for another emotional cycle as the end of the year gets closer and we throw in the towel again to wait for, you guessed it, the New Year.

Don’t Limit Yourself to 365 Days

What if you accomplish your goal in 380 days? Giving up just short of your accomplishments is disheartening and regrettable. Who said it had to be done in one year? Most likely no one, other than yourself. Give yourself grace just like God does. If He isn’t that hard on you, why treat yourself that way? The goal should be the goal, not a date you set for it. Instead of monitoring how far you are away, appreciate how far you’ve gotten and pat yourself on the back. You’re doing what many others won’t do.

But here’s another revelation that goes back to the beginning of this article. If you started in October or November, it would be accomplished before the end of the year. Just food for thought.

Your New Year Begins When You Say it Does

Here’s a secret: This article was written before January. If I had waited until January 1st to start and submit this article, I would’ve missed out on the opportunity to speak to you. Things are already preplanned and moving in the background that leads up to a published magazine and I have to be ready for that. It’s a challenge, but the key is to mentally put yourself in the place of where you want to be and how you want to accomplish your goals, and before you know it, you will be there. I had to put myself in January before I arrived and I pray what I’m saying is relevant to you, right now.

I don’t want you to decide later when you should be deciding NOW. You could be too late. So keep this

BY SHERIDAN WATKINS

quote in mind, “The best time to do it was yesterday, the second best time is right now.”

Embrace Each Day of This Year

Tomorrow is not promised. So what can we do today that will create a better tomorrow for the world around us? This helps us to be selfless and understand it’s not only about us but about the human experience here on Earth. How can you make it better? How can you produce something that outlives you and helps future generations? It doesn’t have to be a grand or noticeable thing; we all have an individual calling and it looks different for each person. Some are called to spread love and fix family quarrels that will affect the future children born into that family. Some are called to

speak to the masses or make a noticeable impact that strengthens the awareness of mental health. Whatever your calling is, make your first step towards it today. If you are unsure of what your calling is, your first step should be to ask God. If you are unsure of what God is saying, your first step can be to read your Bible or listen to a sermon. Do you see where I’m going? There’s always a first step to take and there’s no need to wait.

So why do you really care about the New Year? I pray you are able to celebrate all the birthdays, anniversaries, and milestones that will come and give it your best effort yet. I have so much faith in you. Happy New Year!

Sheridan C. Watkins is a journalist and the owner of Perennial Peaces, a jewelry and gifts brand focused on transcending self-worth to all women. Her true work began after climbing out of a dark place with the help of God and therapy and her life mission is to provide tangible peace through her Divine gifts to help women heal and transform their life. Follow the mission on Instagram and Facebook: @perennialpeaces

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Dress Your Home to Love It

Most of you have been house hunting at one time or another and know the stress of finding the perfect house that you can make a home. Thankfully our present house has been our home since 2004 but my husband and I have had several house hunting excursions through the years. Many factors played into the decision of where we would buy a house: location, neighborhood, commute time, cost, size, whether our furniture would fit, etc. I remember that feeling each time of finding just the right house that would work for our family. Was it perfect? No, but with a few décor changes and a little work it would be. Looking past the flaws, I knew we would love the house and make it our home.

There are some great shows on HGTV. One I especially enjoy watching is ‘Love It or List It.’ The show is just that: love the home you are living in after a redesign and renovation, or list it for sale. I’m not sure of the percentage of couples that decide to “Love It” or to “List It,” but on most of the shows I have watched the couples decide to “Love It,” mainly because of reasons they fell in love with the house in the first place.

Through the many times we have moved (job related), I’ve realized that even though I loved the house we were in, I could move and make a new home in a new place for my family as long as we were together. In this mobile society in which we live today, many of you will not get the chance to move into your ‘forever house,’ raise your family or welcome

grandchildren there. You will make several houses your home in your lifetime.

Ways to love the home you are in:

• Make your home feel like you by honoring your taste. This can be done by painting the inside and exterior with colors you love. Changing out the light fixtures, hanging your art, bringing in family heirloom pieces and accessorizing with things you love.

• Declutter and organize. Yes, I know, it’s hard work but it’s worth it in the end and you will love how your home looks and feels.

• Tackle small projects and you might surprise yourself by getting inspired to do a larger project.

• Simplify. That doesn’t mean that you have to give up all your favorite things. It means to pare down and keep the things you really love, and let go of the rest.

• Do little things….paint the front door a fresh new color, buy new bedding for your bed, treat yourself to new placemats, add a beautiful green plant, or purchase a new lamp/accessory for your home.

• Doing a new project or adding something new can be just the thing to inspire you and help you to love your home.

It is my pleasure to share decorating ideas to help you love your home. Give ReDESIGNS by Ava a call for help with your next decorating project…..336-345-2929.

“I think homes should be lovable; should make you smile, and we should want to spend time there.” – Wendy Wrzos

You have the brand new workout gear, gym membership, or new diet program. Motivation is high and 2023 is YOUR year to get healthy. How can you make that resolution stick after motivation is gone? It is all about creating habits around those resolutions. And it doesn’t take 21 days to “wire in a habit” as long as the ability and prompts are present. This information is based on the work of BJ Fogg and James Clear.

First, lower the bar. It can be overwhelming when we set our sights on losing 20 pounds. Celebrate the small wins daily or weekly. “I lost a pound this week,” cue the fist pump. Dopamine, a feel-good neurotransmitter, keeps us motivated when we celebrate anything regardless of how large or small it is. Our brain wants to seek that behavior out again!

Change happens when we feel good.

Positive emotions wire in the habit. So let’s discuss the A, B, Cs of creating a habit, shall we?

First and foremost, get clear on the goal you want to accomplish. There are two parts to this: the outcome and behavior. The outcome is what you want and the behavior goal is what will get you there. Going small and measurable is the best way to do this! For example, the outcome is I want to eat more vegetables to help me lose weight. The behavioral goal could be, I will have a big salad for lunch every day this week.

A IS FOR ANCHOR

This is a reminder of the new behavior you want to install. We have anchors or prompts that we do every day without thinking twice. Our phone dings, we pick up and see who texts us. If it is raining, we grab an umbrella on our way out the door.

Some types of anchors are environmental (foods in the pantry), internal (stomach growling), and frequency (stopping at a red stop light).

List out your morning, afternoon and evening activities. You will find there are some common themes each day…making coffee, brushing teeth, taking a shower, going to the bathroom. “Habit stack” new behaviors on top of the current ones.

Some examples:

• While the coffee is brewing, I will do 10 air squats.

• When I’m at a red light, I will take 3 deep breaths in and out of my nose

• When my phone pings, I will think of something I’m grateful for before checking.

• While waiting in the carpool line, I will order my groceries online for pick-up.

You can also have negative “anchors.” In the kitchen, refrigerator and pantry, you may have “not so ideal” food choices in full view. Pull the vegetables out of the crisper and add them on the shelf at eye level. Take social media apps off your phone if they tend to be “time sucks.” Go a different route to work if you tend to stop at the local bakery for a sweet treat. Make the habits you are trying to break harder to do!

B IS FOR BEHAVIOR

Reduce to the ridiculous; make the behavior so small that it is winnable. You can use the two minute rule with this. Some examples:

• Instead of the overwhelming task of decluttering your house, set a timer for 2 minutes and clean out a junk drawer.

• Get up in the morning, drive to the gym, walk through the doors of the gym and walk right back out!

• Go for a 2 minute walk after dinner.

• Pour a large glass of water and leave beside your computer. You are setting up the behavior to snowball into something bigger. It makes us feel safe, is easy to do, and doesn’t rely on the fickleness of motivation and willpower.

C IS FOR CELEBRATION

As I mentioned above, celebrate the small wins in order to rewire your brain to cultivate the new habit. Dopamine gets mini hits throughout the day when you give yourself a high five one way or another to keep you going!

Cheers to new habits and your healthiest year yet! Jane

• I will sleep in my workout clothes so I am ready to go first thing in the morning. www.healthcoachjane.com . IG @ncjane77 . FB @janedanielinhc

A little about me:

WHO AM I?

Hi! My name is Jane Daniel. I am a proud mom to three healthy boys, a lover of the great outdoors, a forever student, health nut, exercise enthusiast and native of the Triad. I am also a graduate of The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.

WHAT DO I DO?

I am a holistic health coach with multiple certifications in all things related to health, nutrition and exercise. In 2015, I received my first certification as an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach from the Institute of Integrative Nutrition. I haven’t stopped taking classes since then and hope I never will! The areas I’m most passionate about are my training in Ayurveda, Polyvagal Theory, Female Hormone Optimization and Weight Loss, and most recently the Journey of Intrinsic Health. All of these have one thing in common; the body has the ability to heal itself if we allow it to do so. I’m super excited to have the opportunity to share all things health for the lovers of Forsyth Woman magazine!

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Politics and the Market from a Historical View

BY JON MARZANO, AIF®, FOUNDING PARTNER, MANAGING PRINCIPAL

At Marzano Capital Group, we strive to provide education on a multitude of topics that we feel our readers should take note of. In this article, our goal is to educate our readers about how the political cycle tends to affect the markets. The purpose is to provide our readers a basic understanding about what political outcomes could create a potentially more stable and positive environment for business, consumers, and tax payers alike. I believe we all could use a positive slant on a very emotionally charged and sometimes very divisive topic.

We all understand that there are differences in the way people view the government, our elected officials, and their involvement in the economy and our everyday lives. We, the voters, are the benefactors of the decisions made and we are the ones that must live with the decisions made by those that are elected.

It is totally logical to think that one voter’s view can be wildly different than the view of another voter. That difference is not a bad thing. The difference and how it gets negotiated out is at the root of the political process. A functioning democracy, from an American’s standpoint, is one where issues must be negotiated and compromises made. The negotiation process is the check and balance that helps keep the whole process moving forward in a two-sided political system. Someone will give up something to get something else. Assuming all of that negotiating is done on behalf of the voters and not the personal benefit of the elected official, it is a good system that can create positive outcomes for all of us over time. Total power being wielded by one political side alone, red or blue, is not sustainable long term and potentially creates an even more polarized voter base for the future.

Total political control can cause extreme volatility in the stock and bond markets due to the uncertainty that may surround things, such as the agendas of those who wield the most power. History reminds us that this is a real possibility by way of the total or extreme shifts back and forth between the two political parties. It is like the swinging pendulum affect, always swinging to the right and then back to the left, before turning back again. While those swings keep a grandfather clock ticking, they do not have the same affect on our political system.

A little time in the political middle for the next couple of years would be welcome. A check and a balance of power tends to creates better outcomes, less volatility and keeps all stakeholders more engaged. Politics has not been a fun topic recently but if the concept of politics would change from polarization to negotiation, the system may function better in the future.

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Having a 60-Something Birthday?

There’s a Lot to Celebrate!

BY DEBORAH BARR

Do you have a 60-something birthday coming up? If so, and if you feel like protesting the number of candles on your next birthday cake, experts have some really exciting news for you. In a TEDx talk called The Most Productive Years of Your Life May Surprise You, mentor and life coach Lloyd Reeb, told his audience, “There’s compelling evidence that the second half of your life and mine could be the very best season of our lives.” Executive mentor Bob Biehl agrees and says even more specifically that your 60s are the most productive years of your life.

In his lecture, Decade by Decade, Biehl says that the operative word for the sixth decade of life is “strategic”. He says that while physical energy may be declining during the 60s, strategic thinking is increasing. In the 60-something years, many people really stop and take stock of their lives. As people age, according to Lloyd Reeb, they begin to value deep, intimate relationships more than they value accomplishments. According to Biehl, in their 60s, people begin to think about all they’ve been through, all they’ve learned, and all they’ve accomplished, and begin to strategically ponder the years ahead. It’s the time in life when thoughtful people begin to ask questions such as:

• How can I make the most of the years ahead? What are the most important things I can be doing during this time in my life? How can I redeploy my expertise and my skills to make a meaningful contribution to other people’s lives?

• The strategic pondering of many 60-something people, however, often collides head on with our culture’s concept of retirement, what Lloyd Reeb calls the “leisure myth.” He explains that the “leisure myth” is the belief that our best years are behind us, and so we buy into “the idea of packing up our bags and moving to Leisureville.” It’s a myth, he says, because for “many, if not most,” that definition of retirement is just not very rewarding or fulfilling.

• What IS fulfilling—and exciting, joy-producing, and productive—is the strategic redeployment of the wisdom you’ve acquired, the expertise you’ve gained, and the people skills you’ve honed. This leads not only to greater purpose for your 60-something years, but also opportunities for making a difference in the world as well.

Reeb says that to make the most of the second half of life, which obviously includes the 60-something years, people need to lay some groundwork. They need to “get” three things:

• First, they need to get clear on their answers to some questions: What are your personal strengths? What are you passionate about? What’s your “calling”? Where does your influence lie?

• Second, they need to get free from what’s holding them back. For some, it’s stuff—the many things they own. For others it’s the commitments and obligations they’ve made that take up their time.

• Third, they just need to get going!

Whether you are entering your 60s or well into them, push back on the idea that you are “too old” or that “it’s too late” to use your skills to help others or fulfill your dreams. Instead be inspired by what these other 60-somethings have done:

• Herbie Hancock was 67 years old when he won the Grammy for Album of the Year in 2008.

• Tony Bennett was 68 when he won the same Grammy in 1995.

• Ernestine Shepherd, a self-described “total couch potato until age 56,” was at age 74 named the oldest female competitive bodybuilder in the world by the Guinness Book of World Records. In 2022, at age 86, she is still an active bodybuilder.

• Harland David Sanders (“Colonel Sanders”) was 65 when he incorporated Kentucky Fried Chicken.

• Moses was 80 and his brother Aaron was 83 when God sent them to Pharaoh to say, “Let my people go” (Exodus 7:7).

• K. Barry Sharpless, age 81, was one of three winners of the 2022 Nobel Prize in chemistry. It was his second Nobel Prize; he won the first at age 60.

For more inspiration, listen to Lloyd Reeb’s TEDx talk, The Most Productive Years of Your Life May Surprise You and Bob Biehl’s Decade by Decade lecture, both on www.youtube.com.

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G E T F I T I N 2023

BY LESLIE SPEAS

Have you set a New Year’s resolution to get fit and failed in the past? Don’t feel too bad. Studies have shown that about eighty percent of New Year’s resolutions fail. So, what can you do differently in 2023? Here are five suggestions to up your chances of success!

1. START SMALL AND SET REALISTIC GOALS

If your goals are too lofty, you aren’t likely to achieve (change meet to achieve) them. For example, if you set a goal to run a marathon in sixty days and you haven’t been running, you aren’t likely to be successful. Setting a goal to run or run/walk a 5K in ninety days by doing a Couch to 5K Training Program is more realistic.

For behaviors to change, you need to set SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time-bound) goals. For example, you might set a goal to walk thirty minutes a day at least three days a week for the next four weeks. Once you achieve that consistently, perhaps you move on to something else. Focusing on changing habits can be much more effective than setting big goals. And give yourself a break! If you mess up, all is not lost. Show yourself a little compassion and get back in there!

2. STAND UP AT LEAST EVERY HOUR AND MOVE

Most of us live rather sedentary lifestyles. The CDC says that one in four American adults sits more than eight hours a day. Sitting has been called “the new smoking” and can result in wide-ranging health problems. Getting fit isn’t all about exercise. Our bodies were made to move, and to be fit we need to move them!

Even if you are exercising regularly, it is extremely important to move throughout the day. Make a conscious effort to stand up and move around at least once an hour. Do some stretching, take a short walk, and maybe throw in a few pushups or sit-ups.

3. DO SOMETHING YOU ENJOY

There are two common reasons why people don’t exercise regularly.

1. No fun

2. No time

Interestingly enough, we often make time for activities that we find fun. So, find something you enjoy and do that! If you hate to run, then don’t try to start a running program. If you like to dance, look for opportunities to do that. The best exercise is the one you will do.

4. EXERCISE WITH A FRIEND

Most things are better if you do them with a friend, including exercise. You are also more likely to be compliant if you have someone else to answer to. Look for someone with similar goals and interests and who has a comparable fitness level and schedule. Then, cheer each other on and hold one another accountable.

5. EAT RIGHT

Many people seem to think that fitness and diet are two separate things. You work out to build your muscle, and diet to lose weight, right? Wrong. Diet and fitness are more interconnected than you might think. The truth is that diet is just as (if not more) important as fitness when it comes to achieving results. You can’t outexercise a bad diet.

Some general guidelines for eating right are below but note that these are general recommendations and they may differ from person to person depending on your specific situation.

• Eat more whole foods and avoid processed foods

• Eat five or more servings of fruits and vegetables every day (Healthy Eating Pyramid)

• Watch the sugar, consuming no more than 24 grams a day (American Heart Association recommendation for women)

• Eat breakfast and include some carbs and protein (WebMD)

• Drink water, consuming about 11.5 cups a day (U.S. National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine recommendation for women – includes other beverages and fluids from foods)

Now, you have some tips for success. Let’s do this, ladies!

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BY AMY HILL

Jack’s New Grass is the Triad’s go-to spot for outdoor power equipment sales and repairs. Family-owned Jack’s New Grass has been servicing the greater Triad area since 1981, and offers customer tutorials on how to safely operate new purchases. The team performs demos outside the shop and won’t allow customers to leave before they feel completely at ease operating the equipment on their own. Single ladies looking to tend to their grass are in luck, as Jack’s New Grass carries a fair share of lightweight equipment. Jack’s New Grass also offers convenient delivery services for customers who don’t have the means to tow their heavy equipment home. Visit the shop’s website at www.jacksnewgrass.com, and find Jack’s New Grass on WXII and Fox 8. Check out the team on Facebook and Instagram at @jacksnewgrass.

Since working in the jewelry industry at the age of 14, Danny Wingo of Wingo’s Fine Jewelry has grown a strong appreciation for jewelry, and an even stronger affinity for providing unmatched customer service. While customers are able to shop for valuables such as engagement rings and wedding bands, Wingo’s also carries high-end watches, designer rings, pearls, and more. Danny and his team stay busy fulfilling custom jewelry orders from clients and working hard to find a design that will perfectly suit individual customers’ preferences. Visit Wingo’s Fine Jewelry inperson at 2503 Lewisville Clemmons Rd, or call (336) 766-8505 to speak to a team member. Check out Wingo’s Fine Jewelry on Facebook and shop online at www.wingosfinejewelry.com.

A Triad staple for the last 10 years, TRU Taekwondo serves and nurtures others, helps Taekwondo students of all ages achieve excellence, and celebrates the success of its staff and students. TRU’s newest campus in Clemmons serves as the perfect middle ground for students and families situated between TRU’s Advance/Bermuda Run and Country Club Road locations. TRU’s Clemmons location functions as an academy, where current members, masters, instructors, and leadership team members can interact with Grand Master Douglas at different intervals. Visit TRU online at www.trutkd.com to read more about TRU’s team, mission, and class schedules. Check out TRU on Facebook and follow the team on Instagram at @trutkd to stay updated on the latest news from the TRU crew. Meet the staff and tour TRU’s newest Clemmons location at 600 Meadowbrook Mall Court Ste 5, or call the campus directly at (336) 448-0152.

Owned by Jessup and Annie Marion, Our Banqueting Table is a furniture and décor store focused on Fair Trade and shopping with a purpose. Sales at Our Banqueting Table have helped provide food to families throughout Northwest North Carolina through Second Harvest Food Bank. Additionally, Our Banqueting Table supports Mercy House Global, which strives to rescue women in Kenya from human trafficking and invest in their education and occupational skills to prevent them from returning to a life of trafficking. Fair Trade is near and dear to the Marion family’s hearts, which is why they are dedicated to making sure Our Banqueting Table is a cog in the wheel of ending worldwide suffering. Our Banqueting Table sells a wide variety of industrial, modern furniture and accent pieces, as well as pieces with a chic, farmhouse flair. Head to 2685 Lewisville-Clemmons Road in Clemmons on Tuesdays through Saturdays to shop around. Read more about the business and browse online inventory at www.ourbanquetingtable.com, or call the store directly at (336) 448-5058 to speak to a team member. Check out the shop’s Facebook page and follow @ourbanquetingtable on Instagram to stay up to date on the team’s latest news.

Stylists at Beautifully Hypnotic Hair Salon are well-versed in leaving their clients with strong, shiny hair and countless smiles. Open since April 2021, salon owners Debi Marion and Nicholas Pettenati set out to create a warm, welcoming environment for clients and stylists alike. At Beautifully Hypnotic, clients are offered a wide variety of services, from top-notch color, conditioning treatments, perms, up-styles and makeup for weddings, along with hair extensions, highlights, keratin treatments, lash and brow services, and hair tattoos. Additionally, barber services such as men’s haircuts and beard and mustache trims are provided, in addition to a hot towel treatment. To book an appointment or consultation online, and to view a list of services offered, visit the salon’s website at www.beautifullyhypnotichairsalon.com. To keep up with the latest news from the salon, follow @beautifullyhypnotichairsalon on Instagram and check out the team’s Facebook page. Walk-in appointments are also welcome. Visit the salon in person at 6353 Cephis Drive.

Treasures Decor Consignment

Perfect for new homeowners looking to fill a new space with something old, or consignment connoisseurs in search of unique finds for their homes or offices, Treasures Décor has something in store for everyone. In March, shop owner Tony Hinkle and his team moved Treasures Décor into a brand new location complete with 3,500 additional square feet and a striking storefront visible to customers at 2671 Lewisville-Clemmons Road. With added floor space, customers can spend hours browsing the new location’s designer furniture pieces, taking advantage of some of the best consignment deals in the Triad. Shopping at Treasures Décor is an environmentally friendly way to fill up your new living space. Rather than tossing old furniture in landfills that could easily be salvaged, individuals are able to pass their pieces on to be refurbished and reused by new owners. If you have pieces that are clean and in great condition, send photos to treasuresdecor@yahoo.com or call the team at 336-306-9341 to learn more about the consignment process. Visit www.treasuresdecor.net to learn more about Treasures Décor’s requirements for accepting consignment pieces, along with information on the pick-up process.

Full Moon Oyster Bar is notorious for its dynamic dining experience, fresh oysters and seafood entrees, and one-of-a-kind team of dedicated employees. Full Moon president Randy Russell puts just as much effort into the food at Full Moon as he puts into creating a close-knit workplace for his staff. Much of the Clemmons’ location’s positive employee morale and strikingly low turnover rates for two decades can be attributed to management’s mission in taking care of its team. Full Moon Oyster Bar patrons are intrigued by menu items with a Cajun flair such as the spicy Shrimp Entoufee and the New Orleans-inspired Crawfish & Alligator Cheesecake. While chowing down on North Carolina gold and cold water oysters, diners never know who they’re going to sit next to each visit. To learn more, visit www.fullmoonoysterbar.com, check out the team’s Facebook page, and follow @fullmoonoysterbarclemmons on Instagram. Visit the Clemmons location for dinner at 1473 River Ridge Dr., and call the store at (336) 712-8200 to speak to a team member.

call (336) 829-1173 or email carolinavintiques@gmail.com.

Clemmons consignment shop Carolina Vintiques is notorious among customers for its charming interior, welcoming staff, and never-ending influx of distinctive modern and vintage home furnishings and decor. In December, Carolina Vintiques celebrated its second anniversary at its Clemmons location at 2550 Lewisville Clemmons Road. Seven full-time vendors, including shop owner Shelle, share floor space in Carolina Vintiques, which generates a constant flow of new, unique inventory for customers. Visit the store in-person and stay posted on the latest news and updates from Carolina Vintiques on Facebook and Instagram. For custom orders and other inquiries,

Each day, during the winter months, I look out my window around two or three o’clock in the afternoon and notice how the sun is already setting. By six o’clock, nighttime will have fallen. Between the months of November to February, the days are shorter than usual due to the winter time change. These shorter days bring about more hours of darkness, but for some people, they cause changes to their daily life. Seasonal Affective Disorder, S.A.D, impacts many people by taking away their energy, and affecting their moods. S.A.D affects millions of people throughout the world and can be treated with light therapy. It is also just one of the many ways the winter days can influence people’s attitudes. The good news is there are ways to help a person make the most out of the gloomy winter days. Whenever you are feeling blue again and find yourself wishing for summer, try one of the ideas below:

1. BECOME ACTIVE

Whether you are moving indoors or outside, exercising can help alleviate symptoms of S.A.D and help you generally feel better. Not only does exercising improve your physical health, it can benefit your mental health, as well. Don’t forget to eat healthy to get the greatest impact.

2. GET OUTDOORS

Natural sunlight is a wonderful mood booster. During the winter months, be sure to do as much as possible outside. Whether it is exercising, sitting in the sun for 15 minutes a day, or just running from place to

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place accomplishing your to-do list, take in the sunlight.

3. TAKE ADVANTAGE OF WINTER ACTIVITIES

Winter is the only time of the year for a person to go sledding, skiing, or participate in other winter sports. Classes are available at ski resorts or other sports-associated businesses. Make it a weekend getaway to the mountains with your loved ones and take part in learning a new winter sport together. In addition to the winter sports, don’t forget to make time to go on a sleigh ride at night to see the stars or experience a winter festival.

4. FOCUS ON SELF-CARE

When the evening hours do come, use them to your advantage and fill them with self-care activities. Some examples are soaking in a long bath, drinking your favorite warm concoction, or watching your go-to T.V. show. Whatever your form of self-care is, do it. The extra hours of darkness can be hard, but by focusing on yourself, you are able to destress and put yourself in the correct mindset to carry on.

5. ENJOY A MARATHON OF MOVIES, T.V. SHOWS, AND BOOKS

Don’t be ashamed of sitting in front of the T.V. for a full Saturday, watching your beloved movies or shows. Winter is a great time to enjoy a movie marathon, because the weather is colder and there isn’t as much to do outside, unlike the other seasons. Also, you can spend time curled up reading a new

or classic book. There is nothing better than hunkering down with a blanket, cup of hot chocolate, and a good book.

6. LEARN SOMETHING NEW

Once the hustle and bustle of the holiday season is over, usually a person’s day becomes quieter and includes more free time. What better time than the winter season to learn a new skill? Now is the time to learn the skill, language or dish that you have been putting off. Once you have learned and practiced your new talent, show it off to your family and friends by hosting a party.

7. REFLECT

Winter time is a season of renewal. The Winter Solstice marks the rebirth of the sun on the shortest day of the year. Instead of filling the time with activities to get the most out of the winter months, embrace the quietness of winter and reflect. Spend time building a better you, getting to know yourself better, and set goals for the new year. Just like animals hibernate during the winter, you can go into a figurative hibernation yourself to prepare for the upcoming seasons and the best version of you possible.

During winter, the world changes. The days get bluer, colder, and shorter. But these days we should still live and experience all the opportunities that come with them. As we go through another winter season, use these ideas to help you make the most out of the shorter days.

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1st row: Krissy Peters

2nd row L-R: Mariana Merrill, Alexa Besch

Back row L-R: Annika Branham, Eric Porter, Lee Sharum, Terrell Wagner, Dee Duggan

WINSTON-SALEM

Invest in yourself with team-focused fitness!

BY MARTIE EMORY PHOTOS BY JODIE BRIM CREATIVE

If you are new to F45 Training, welcome to the world of teamfocused training for all ages and physical abilities. Break down the name of this popular concept, and you’ll find the “F” stands for functional training, paired with a 45-minute HIIT (high-intensity interval training) workout, alternating strength, cardio, and hybridbased workouts each day. And yes, the calendar says January, so no time like the present to join a fitness community that embraces all, and provides an incredible workout each and every day.

GLOBAL REACH

Owner Dee Duggan opened the F45 Training Winston-Salem location in January 2020, after having lived overseas for over 20 years. Dee was a member at the F45 overseas and loved it so much she wanted to bring F45 Training home to Winston-Salem.

“I love the concept, the community, and the workouts,” she explains. “The workouts are different every single day, and my body never adapts, even after five years of working out at F45 Training! I don’t have to think about the workout, as it’s something you come in and do, knowing you will be working your body at maximum capacity at every single class.”

F45 Training is specifically designed to provide a functional full-body workout, while also improving energy levels, metabolic rate, strength, and endurance. Its popularity also includes time-efficiency, with a goal of burning up to 750 calories per each 45-minutes session.

There’s no worry about a format, as the science behind each workout is programmed for you by their corporate athletics team, allowing your personal energy to be focused on reaching your individual goals. Each day builds on the previous day’s workout to make sure all muscle groups are

worked, both from a cardiovascular and muscle building, whether lean or bulk, framework.

“The programming itself is a global program written by the F45 Global Athletics team, and is built on science,” says Dee. “Each day, the same workout is run in every studio around the world, through our technology systems, and coached locally by our certified trainers. Our trainers focus on form, modifications, and progressions, and can coach both the athlete and novice in the same class using different weights or progressions to keep everyone working to their max capacity and to ensure everyone in the same class has an awesome workout. Whether an individual chooses a 90-pound or 15-pound dumbbell, our coaches are watching … keeping everyone accountable and making sure the weight is right for each individual!”

A PERSONAL PLAN

During their seven-day trial period, prospective members are given the opportunity to meet with a coach to discuss their overall goals (fitness and nutrition) and to help determine the best plan of action. A Fit 3D scan determines a starting point, and based on individual goals and the scan, trainers can recommend a membership option to reach realistic goals.

“We usually recommend an unlimited plan, which allows members to come to the studio daily, have access to our online portal (online workouts when you can’t make it into the studio), an entire nutritional portal with all types of recipes to help members reach their goals, and follow-up meetings with our coaches, if desired, to help stay on track with accomplishing and tweaking goals,” explains Dee.

F45 Training Winston-Salem is proud of their community feel – in every aspect – and coming together as a team to support each other, achieve fitness goals, and also reach personal milestones outside the studio. Coaches, which includes a current team of seven, know the members and are invested in their successes! “Our team is passionate about people and their desire to be the best version of themselves and we pride ourselves in making sure we know each individual and what they want to accomplish,” says Dee.

“We have fun and we get the work done,” she adds. “We get results, knowing what each individual puts into their fitness regimen is what they get out of it. If you’re truly invested in your goals, our coaches are going to do everything in their power to help you achieve them. It’s like one-on-one personal training in a group training studio!”

There’s no doubt the F45 Training coaches are an enormous part of the studio’s inspiring vibe, including keeping energy at a high level and facilitating the “team training” approach familiar to all F45 communities. You’ll see members motivating each other from the first minute you walk into the studio, whether it’s a high-five or a fist-bump, but it’s always heartfelt. Dee explains the importance of their heart rate monitor system, allowing members to compete with themselves – or a teammate! – keeping everyone accountable. The system’s real-time data is also a useful tool for coaches to monitor progress and suggest new strategies if needed.

Here’s another popular perk: With thousands of exercises in the F45 database, and nearly an infinite number of possible combinations, members will almost never take the same class twice!

WHAT IT’S LIKE TO BE ON THE TEAM:

Krissy Peters, Studio Manager and Head Trainer

“To be part of a team means you must first create a community of like-minded people who push each other to want to be the best version of themselves! F45 Winston- Salem has been my “team” since we opened in 2020. Our goal has been to create a ‘safe space’ for all who come through our doors to feel empowered and welcomed. It’s a dream come true to be able to witness so many others accomplishing goals they never knew were possible, and believe in themselves for the first time. It’s a privilege to wake up and go walk side-by-side with our members on their fitness journey.

Why F45 Training Winston-Salem: Dave Julku, Member

“I have been a member for about two years, and it’s one of the best gyms I have belonged to – they go the extra mile to make you feel like family! I recently had a chance to try another F45 location, and F45 Winston-Salem is a step up in many ways, starting with the warm, upbeat way the coaches greet you. They set up the workouts and lay out equipment so it’s easy for members to flow through the workout, and receive positive encouragement along the way. I feel horrible when I travel and can’t go, but know when I come home I’ll be greeted with a warm welcome back!”

Why F45 Training:

Rachel Carrasquillo,

Member

“F45 Training has helped me discover my love of working out again. As a medical student at Wake Forest University School of Medicine, F45 Training is the perfect stress reliever for me, and I always leave in a better mood. One of the many aspects that makes it stand out among other gyms is the amazing community that keeps me coming back, class after class.”

F45 Training in Winston-Salem is located at 486 N. Patterson Avenue, Suite 125, in Innovation Quarter at Bailey Power Plant (just behind the RJR Smoke Stack!) Visit the website F45training.com/winstonsalem for more information or call 336-703-7556, and follow the studio on Instagram @f45_training_winstonsalem.

F45 Training is open seven days a week with class times ranging from 5:30 am through 6:30 pm, during the week, and morning classes being offered on the weekends!

Chiropractic Doctor of the Year

BY CAROLYN S PETERSON

For a physician, being held in esteem by one’s peers is quite an accomplishment. Day in and day out, physicians interact with their patients and know the difference they make in patient care, but to know that other physicians see you as a leader, and a doctor to be honored, does not happen every day. But it did happen recently for Dr. Kevin Sharp of Sharp Chiropractic in Winston-Salem, NC.

Dr. Kevin Sharp, a native of Flushing, Michigan, moved to Forsyth County in 1994 along with his wife Kim and their family of seven children. His experience with chiropractic care began when he was a patient in childhood, and with two generations of chiropractors before him.

“I am a third generation chiropractor, however, it was my family chiropractor who encouraged me to pursue a career in chiropractic. My practice began in my hometown 34 years ago and has continued with my time in the Winston-Salem area. I have always made my practice patient oriented, making treatment choices based on what’s best for the patient. We at Sharp Chiropractic care about our patients and set expectations high, and as a doctor, along with my staff, we strive to meet those standards daily. I love being a Doctor of Chiropractic and even after 34 years, I look forward to treating patients each day and I’ve got a great team to help me accomplish the best for our patients. I believe in the ‘high touch’ approach to chiropractic care, meaning a personalized, hands-on treatment plan for each patient because everyone’s needs are different and their care should be individualized,” said Dr. Sharp.

After 34 years in practice, Dr. Sharp was recently recognized by his peers as Doctor of the Year, based on his individual contributions to the profession of chiropractic care.

“I have been very involved in the chiropractic profession, teaching in more than 15 states for the American Chiropractic Association (ACA) and several state associations, too. I consult with chiropractors in North Carolina who desire to have high quality practices and want to improve their administrative efficiency. I have also helped start more than seven new practices with three being here in the Winston-Salem area, in addition to mine. Those practices are run by three wonderful doctors who

share a similar vision for high quality care for patients. Most importantly, my daily objective is to care for the patients in my own practice. Outside of my practice, my wife and I are active in our church, Calvary West, and see that as an important part of our lives’ mission. Over the years of getting to know my patients and their passions, I invest or contribute to those endeavors. We really like to support the causes of our patients since they are important to us. I also work and am actively involved with conservation efforts through Ducks Unlimited,” Dr. Sharp commented. With all of Dr. Sharp’s investment in his patients and community, he is humbled by the award of Doctor of the Year, recognizing his commitment to the profession.

“This prestigious award is given to one doctor per year and is nominated and voted on by your chiropractic peers. Essentially, it is based on a doctor’s individual contribution to the profession. I am so honored to have this award and the recognition by my peers. Doctors of Chiropractic are a welcoming body of medical professionals, committed to the care of our patients and to be seen as special in this group means so very much to me,” stated Dr. Sharp.

Sharp Chiropractic is located at 4622 Country Club Road, Suite 140, Winston-salem, NC. For information, call 336-768-7227.

“I love being a Doctor of Chiropractic and even after 34 years, I look forward to treating patients each day and I’ve got a great team to help me accomplish the best for our patients.”

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Katelyn F. Simmons, M.D.

Katelyn F. Simmons is a native of Houma, LA. She earned an undergraduate degree in 2014 in Biological Sciences from Louisiana State University in Baton Rouge. Dr. Simmons then attended LSU Medical School in Shreveport, LA where she earned her medical degree in 2018, receiving an award for excellence in OBGYN. She went on to complete her obstetrics and gynecology residency at Ochsner Medical Center in New Orleans, LA earning distinction in laparoscopic surgery in 2021. She enjoys cooking, being outdoors, playing tennis and spending time with her husband and her dog.

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WINTER HYDRATION HACKS

BY CANDICE DEAL

When the temps are freezing outside, the last thing I want is to down an eight-ounce glass of ice water. Brrr! Hydrating is essential to our mind and body health but staying hydrated in the winter can be harder if you’re shying away from drinks because they may be cold, choosing to order a hot, caffeinated drink or shying away from drinking water at all!

Finding your personal preference for hydrating in the colder months is key. When you are feeling cold and don’t want an iced or chilled drink, opt for a hot drink that isn’t caffeinated. Hot herbal teas are tremendously warming in the colder months, and you get the herbal benefits of teas while rehydrating your body. Many of the decaffeinated, herbal teas contain herbs like rose hips and hibiscus. Rose hips are touted for their ability to lower blood pressure and reduce the signs of aging, and they are packed with antioxidants to help your body fight off cell damage from free radicals. Hibiscus contains immunity boosting Vitamin C and antioxidants, and also supports the liver and helps fight inflammation. While sipping on a hot cup of herbal tea you get the beautiful aromatic essence of the flowers and herbs, which makes them enjoyable any time of year, but most especially when it’s frightfully cold outside.

Enjoy your plain old H2O at room temperature. There are some benefits to drinking your water at room temperature versus ice cold according to Ayurveda practices. Drinking warm water in the morning is said to wake up the digestive track and essentially boost your daily metabolism. Ordering your water without ice at a restaurant is a good idea if you tend to be prone to headaches or migraines. Cold water is scientifically shown to restrict your blood vessels, while room temperature doesn’t have that same effect. Ice cold water can vary from 32 to 37 degrees, while room temperature water may vary from 67 to 78 depending on how warm your room is. Your body won’t get that jolt of a cooling effect from the sudden

intake of a cold glass of water when you opt for no ice. Drinking room temperature water may also keep you feeling more hydrated, while sipping cold water can increase your feeling of thirst.

Infused water can help boost hydration and your interest in drinking. Infused water can help boost hydration and your interest in drinking. Adding a small pinch of sea salt or pink Himalayan salt can boost your glass of water’s electrolyte levels. Pink Himalayan sea salt also contains a wide variety of essential trace minerals which can help detoxify the body and boost energy, improve digestion and the health of your hair and nails. Avoid using plain table salt as that is 97.5% sodium chloride and excess can lead to issues including hypertension, kidney disorders and bone loss. Sodium is an essential mineral for good health, however, if you are on a low sodium diet per the doctor’s orders, it’s best to skip this altogether. If you are eating a very clean diet and eliminating processed foods, you may not actually be getting enough sodium in your diet, and this is a great hack to balance that out.

In addition to sea salt, you can use fresh ingredients to boost your water’s taste and

hydration. Use fresh fruits like lemons, berries, melons, and pineapple, or fresh vegetables like cucumber, spices like ginger and cinnamon sticks, and herbs like rosemary, lavender, and sage to infuse your water with nourishing ingredients that will be aromatic to your nose while you prepare and sip and reap the benefits of the extra hydration, vitamins, and minerals. Citrus fruits, cucumber and herbs hold up well over time in the infusions and pack a punch of flavor and smell. Berries are beautiful for color but don’t tend to add a ton of flavor. If you like spicy, you can even infuse water with jalapenos for a kick! The options of combinations to suit your specific preferences are endless. When trying out infused water, plan on infusing for at least an hour and if you want a deeper infusion, infuse at room temperature and for longer times. Then pour your creation over ice if you prefer it chilled.

If you aren’t drinking enough water because you find water, well, simply boring, there are many ways to jazz it up and make it taste and smell better without losing the hydrating benefits.

Happy Hydrating!

The Overwhelming Cost of Childcare

& How Smart Start of Forsyth County is Helping Families

BY E’LAINA BARRON

Did you know that more than half of parents are more concerned about childcare costs today than before the pandemic? According to www.care. com’s 2022 Cost of Care Survey, many parents face a significant uphill battle when it comes to being able to afford quality childcare. While childcare costs have been a concern long before the pandemic, the 2020 COVID pandemic created new issues around childcare that are having a major post-pandemic impact on families and the childcare industry.

Since the pandemic, over 8,000 daycare centers have closed in the country, with 28 percent of childcare centers and home facilities closing here in Forsyth County. Along with a reduction of centers/ facilities available, the cost of quality childcare has increased drastically, creating yet another hardship for middle-income families.

THE 2022 COST OF CARE SURVEY ALSO REVEALED:

• The cost of childcare is higher for families in 2022. 51% of parents say they spend more than 20% of their household income on childcare, and 72% of parents report spending 10% or more.

• Quality childcare continues to be tough for parents to find. In fact, 43% of parents say it’s much harder to find childcare over the past year.

• Parents continue to struggle to pay for childcare. In fact, 59% are more concerned about childcare costs now than in years prior, which is driving significant changes, such as taking on a second job (31%), reducing hours at work (26%), changing jobs (25%), and leaving the workforce entirely (21%), to foot the bill.

SO HOW MUCH ARE WE TALKING & WHAT’S AFFORDABLE?

We talk about childcare costs being expensive, but just how expensive are they really? Most recently, data shows that since the pandemic, the average weekly cost for daycare centers is $226, and $221 for a family/home center. This brings average monthly costs for one child to roughly $1,017, and $2,034 for two children. For many, this cost is comparable to and sometimes exceeds their monthly rent/mortgage payments. Childcare is considered affordable if it costs families no more than 7% of their household income, which, as the survey showed, is only about 28% of families. That would mean that quality childcare is unavailable for approximately 72% of families.

HOW SMART START IS HELPING FAMILIES

Smart Start of Forsyth County is working to help families that are struggling with accessing and affording childcare, through our Family Childcare Scholarships Program. The ongoing Family Childcare Scholarship Program provides childcare scholarships to qualifying families residing in Forsyth County.

Each year we serve 300-400 children with scholarships for childcare. We served 311 children in 2019-20, 394 children in 2020-21, and so far in 2022-23 we are serving 311 children. And in addition to the regular scholarship program, we receive about $20K in funding for our Emergency Assistance Program, which serves families that have had an emergency and need temporary assistance quickly.

Eligibility for the scholarships is based on income guidelines identical to the Forsyth

There are a few parent requirements:

• Working 25 hours per week,

• Attending school full-time, or

• A combination of working and attending school for a total of 25 hours per week.

Family engagement is also promoted through the Family Childcare Scholarship Program. Our team is prepared to promote healthy relationships between childcare providers, families, and their children by establishing positive and goal-oriented relationships to ensure family well- being.

Please know that we do STILL have scholarships available and would be happy to discuss how we can be of service to you or your family. Please visit our website at www.SmartStart-FC.org for more information.

For more information on how you and your family can benefit from some of the services here at Smart Start, visit our website at www.SmartStart-FC.org or visit our office at 7820 North Point Boulevard, Suite 200, Winston-Salem, North Carolina 27106

County Department of Social Services. Childcare scholarships are available for children from birth through the start of kindergarten.

On Going Gently Through this Life

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

It was late last summer, the first week of school. Kids waited for their school buses, heads-down, in their phones. The light was different, and so was the air. I decided to immerse myself in the loveliness of it all by wading in our community pool. Slathered on sunscreen, brimmed hat on my head, I languished in the shallow end, propped up by a noodle. The comfort and tranquility soothed me as I pondered an upcoming “big decision,” weighing pros, cons, and the inevitable unknowns.

At some point, something on the surface of the water caught my eye. After all, there isn’t supposed to be anything on the surface of self-contained pool water. Whatever it was, it shimmered. I turned in its direction and realized it was a moth of some type, struggling to release itself from the water’s hold in search of terra firma. It was getting nowhere.

There was a time when I might have – probably would have – swatted it away. Yuck, you’re outta here. My instinct this time was, instead, to help. I placed a wet finger under its small, struggling, weightless self and it gingerly took hold. Now, how to keep it stable enough to place on the hot, flat concrete that surrounded the watery depths? I spoke to it in my heart – I’ve got you. Hang in there. I placed her down and watched. After a few seconds, she attempted to flap her water-sodden wings and inadvertently flipped herself on her side. I gently tapped her upright wing and voila! She was standing. I went off to wade a tad more but was compelled to check back – frequently, in a matter of just a few minutes. Oh no, she is completely upside down! Her little legs flailed helplessly. I once again tapped and managed to get her upright. The good news was that she hadn’t given up. I leaned in as close to her as I dared and saw the loveliness of her tiny, jewel-like blue eyes. Come on, girl! She started flapping again, attempting flight, this time managing a little height before settling back down on the concrete. Again and again, she flapped. And each time, came closer to taking

flight. I turned away to take a sip from my water bottle and then headed back in her direction. She was gone. I cast my eyes about and realized she was nowhere to be seen. Now that’s my girl!

It was just a few minutes, and yet those minutes immersed in another being’s struggle to go on made it impossible for me to return to my problem -pondering. My mind went to so many things – bigger questions and matters of, well, the soul. I thought of The Hippocratic Oath, regarded as “the oldest and most widely-known treatise on medical ethics.” In layperson’s terms, it holds physicians to this profound standard: “to do no harm.” The contemporary version, revised in 1964, includes this statement:

“I will remember that I remain a member of society, with special obligations to all my fellow human beings, those sound of mind and body as well as the infirm.”

But why restrict these “special obligations” to human beings? Why not all beings? How would we “non-doctors” think and act differently if we broadened the net and reached out to all of life accordingly?

“My girl,” the moth, also brought me back to this truth: the importance of going gently through this life. Children need to learn to be strong; women need to know how to be assertive; men need to stand in courage – these are primary messages that are repeated in the culture. Are they relevant and important? Yes, they have their place. But blessed and burdened with being human, there is more. And while it is not a “special obligation” - as in the language of The Hippocratic Oath - it is a privilege, at the least, to also go gently through this life. And that takes a different type of strength, assertion, and courage. It takes humility and caring that is its own reward.

Millions of Milks

BY ANGELIA CORNATZER

If you have been around coffee shops, grocery stores, and everywhere else then you have experienced hearing about the millions of milks that are now popular and available! There has been a huge influx of using these plant based milks in recent years. Plant milks offer many different flavors, textures, and benefits for those who have an allergy or those who just may want to try something new! We are going to look at some of the newest milk alternatives and see what all the excitement is about.

Lately, the alternatives to animal-based milk have become so popular that some people now prefer plant-based milks over animal-based milks. Others may have even realized an allergy to animal-based milks, and must now consume plant-based milks. Not only allergy or preference, but it is reported to even be more environmentally friendly to use some select plant-based milks. There are so many options out there, and some you can even make yourself at home! From soy milk, oat milk, almond milk, rice milk, cashew milk, macadamia milk, and more - try out all of the tasty options.

If you are looking for a thicker texture, a good source of protein and a consistency close to cow’s milk, soy milk may be the match for you. Soy milk has no cholesterol and is able to be used in baking recipes.

Oat milk is one of the creamier options of plant milk! It is my personal favorite to add to cereal, lattes, and smoothies! Oats naturally assist in helping your cholesterol levels, so this is a great way to get your oats in. There are more calories and carbs in oat milk, so that can be something that helps power your body with energy.

Almond milk has many benefits, from magnesium to calcium, and being low in carbs and calories. It is also high in antioxidants and vitamins. Whether you are a health nut, or just like the flavor - almond milk is a good great option!

Cashew milk is another plant based milk that has an amazing taste, texture, and health benefits for us to take advantage of. It is said to be loaded with minerals, vitamins, immunity boosting abilities, skin health benefits, and more. Cashew milk is even good for the health of our eyes.

With the plant milks that we covered here, you can actually make them yourself right at home and skip out on all the chemicals! All you need is the main ingredient of the milk (oats, almonds, cashews, rice, etc), water, a blender, a nut milk bag, and water! The way to have homemade plant milk is to simply soak your main ingredient, blend it in water, strain it through a nut milk bag, and add a splash of vanilla for flavor! You can even add in cocoa powder, vanilla extract, cinnamon, or fruits if you are feeling adventurous. If you choose to make your own plant milk from home, be sure to pay attention to the date and shelf life. Homemade plant milks should stay in the fridge and only be kept for 3-5 days.

Whether your milk comes from a cow or an almond, may you have a delicious experience with your dairy (or dairy alternative)!

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B.F. HUNTLEY:

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

When it comes to recalling industrial businessmen and innovators in Winston-Salem’s history, the name R.J. Reynolds usually comes to mind. R.J. Reynolds is well-known for his business savvy skills and for building the R.J. Reynolds Tobacco Company, which created Camel cigarettes, the first nationally popular cigarette in the United States. However, Mr. Reynolds is just one of the many men who have helped put WinstonSalem on the map.

During the 20th century, B.F. Huntley and his furniture company, B.F. Huntley Furniture Company, paved the way for the furniture industry in the southeast region of the United States.

“He is an industrial revolution success story that not many people know about. He wasn’t showy and did what he could to contribute to the community,” said Christy Cox Spencer. Spencer’s husband Will is the great grandson of B.F. Huntley. Together, the couple is on the mission to preserve Mr. Huntley’s story in the history of Camel City and in North Carolina. “We know the big names of people in our town’s history, but we don’t know all of the big names. B.F. Huntley is one of those big names that many people don’t know about.”

Born in 1863, Benjamin F. Huntley (B.F. Huntley), lost an arm in a cotton gin accident at the age of 19. He worked odd jobs in Virginia and in his home state of South Carolina until he landed in Winston-Salem in 1890. He started his career in the furniture industry as a traveling salesman for a furniture company in High Point. Eight years later, the Oakland Manufacturing Company was created between a partnership with Mr. Huntley, William P. Hill, and Madison D. Stockton. In 1906, the Oakland Manufacturing Company bought out the Winston Furniture Company, leading to the formation of the B.F. Huntley Furniture Company. After that, the company grew to become one of the largest bedroom and dining room furniture manufacturers in the US. In fact, the company included R.J. Reynolds as one of the stockholders.

During the company’s years in business, it saw great success and had doubled in size by 1920. Factories were built in what is now downtown Winston-Salem, one located on the corner of Patterson Avenue and 12th Street. In 1961, the B.F. Huntley Furniture Company ended its operations and was bought out by Thomasville Furniture Industries.

The Story behind the Furniture Tycoon of Winston −Salem

“Mr. Huntley was an entrepreneur at his core, but also gave back to the community in various ways. During his life, there were no personal taxes to pay, so a majority of his wealth was used to buy property, homes, and land. In fact, the homes near his plants belonged to the hundreds of employees in his company.”

B.F. Huntley served on many committees and was active in the Baptist church. He donated the land to the NC Baptist Convention for them to build their hospital in Winston-Salem. This hospital soon became known as Baptist Hospital. In addition, Mr. Huntley became one of the first directors of the North Carolina Baptist Hospitals, Inc., and was a chairman of the hospital building committee.

“Mr. Huntley lived in what is now known as downtown WinstonSalem and invested in that area. He gave land to build the nursing school at Baptist Hospital. His farmland was located in the current Sherwood Forest area and he gave that land away for building different projects.”

He also participated in the building committee for First Baptist Church on West Fifth Street and was a trustee for Meredith College. Lastly, another of his numerous roles was president of the Winston-Salem Hotel Company who was owner of the Robert E. Lee hotel.

B.F. Huntley passed away in 1925 leaving behind a wife and children. Just a year before, in 1924, Mr. Huntley and his wife created their own version of the Reynolda House on 2900 Country Club Road. White stucco in a Georgian Revival style with a green tile roof was designed and landscaped by Charles Barton Keen and Thomas Sears, two people who also participated in the building of the Reynolda House.

Since his passing, Mr. Huntley’s daughter, Kathleen Huntley Spencer (Will Spencer’s grandmother), has been honoring

his story and mark on Winston-Salem. Spencer and his wife, Christy, have continued on that mission. A historical marker has been placed to commemorate the site of his factory and the couple has also opened an Airbnb, The Huntley House, at Robert Hall in downtown Winston-Salem. They are also taking part in the revitalization of the Industry Hill neighborhood where Mr. Huntley’s old plant used to sit. In all of their endeavors, they are keeping B.F. Huntley’s entrepreneurial spirit and giving at its core, as well as his memorable stories, such as the time Mr. Huntley met Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, and Harvey Firestone.

“It wasn’t planned at all for them to meet. Mr. Edison, Mr. Ford, and Mr. Firestone were on a roadtrip through the Piedmont and had car trouble near Winston-Salem. Someone picked them up and brought them to Forsyth Country Club. While they were on their way, a welcoming party and luncheon were organized. It just so happens that Mr. Huntley was a part of that welcoming committee. He was at the right place at the right moment” said Spencer.

Thanks to his family’s efforts, the name B.F. Huntley will forever be cemented in the history of Winston-Salem and North Carolina.

What my Fur Babies Taught Me About Winter

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

My fur babies, “my girls,” have passed over the Rainbow Bridge. Feisty Madam Butterfly was a piece of work from the get-go. Spawned in a puppy mill and caged in a mall pet store, she was wired for mischief, petulance, and pomposity. Miss Noelle, on the other hand, had a legitimate pedigree which was evident in her regal but demure, gentle bearing and nary an iota of haughtiness.

I loved these two girls with my whole heart. But man, they could not have been more different - except that they were both obsessed with me (yay!) and shared an unconditional love of the outdoors. Both spent most of their lives in the frigid, snowy Northeast where winter hung on like a bad cold. Neither was deterred by the temperature or the ice and snow because their joy wasn’t predicated on sunshine or 70-degree perfection. To their credit, they got me out of the house on many a winter afternoon when I was hunkered down praying for the appearance of the first snowdrops, harbingers of spring. The more I think about it, the more I realize what I’ve learned from their experience of winter:

MAKE NO EXCUSES

Breathing in the fresh air and getting your body moving always feels good. Why wait? Why imprison yourself within four walls when all of nature is calling to you? Exchange your excuses for a hat, a warm coat, and a pair of gloves and embrace the day. Start small – 10 minutes – then build on more time as you go.

CREATE YOUR OWN FUN

You’re out there, so why not get into it? Start by taking a good look around. The bare branches have a beauty all their own while the winter sun is welcoming and the crisp air is nothing short of invigorating. Take it from there! Madam once dug out a half-eaten hot dog from a pile of snow 12 inches high. What a trooper!

DON’T MAKE YOUR JOY CONDITIONAL

My girls greeted neighbors and strangers alike, regardless of the weather. It was almost as if they had a “we’re all in this together” approach to the winter walk. Instead of grumbling about the cold, be cheerful about the fact that you are outdoors.

ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING

You know the adage: perception is reality. It rings true because we know that our attitude about a situation determines our experience of it. My girls personified “great attitude.” They knew exactly how to make the most of a winter walk. Noelle “skated” gracefully down our long icy driveway, taking it all in stride.

REWARD YOURSELF AFTERWARDS

Madam and Noelle looked forward to snuggling in their warm beds after a brisk winter walk. And so did I. Or maybe a hot cup of tea or cocoa is your preference. The point is that if you have to nudge yourself to get outside, play that positive mind game where you envision the reward you’ll have afterwards. It works!

THIS IS WHAT I MADE ALL OF THEIR LESSONS MEAN FOR ME:

TAKE THE LONG VIEW

To watch a dog is to know that she embodies every moment without exception. Whatever she is doing, she is all in. We humans bring more complexity, more “stuff” to our experience. We weigh down the moment with worry, obligation, expectation – all of which interfere with our ability to take delight in the now. While I am sure that my girls weren’t philosophical about taking the long view in life, they certainly lived as though they did. For many folks, winter is the season that challenges our spirit. We have a way of forgetting that each day is fleeting and that it’s on us to make it joyful. My girls reinforced this lesson. They helped me to accept winter for the natural cycle that it is, one that I have the power to embrace with my whole heart.

From Hot Mess to Soul Rest

BY LESLIE SPEAS

I had someone ask me recently, “How is it with your soul?” I said, “Okay I guess” because I wasn’t sure what my soul actually was. I knew that probably wasn’t an honest answer, but I needed to do a little research on the topic. Turns out a lot of people don’t know how to define the soul because I asked around!

The definition of soul that I liked best is the part of a person that is not physical and lasts eternally as a person experiences death. The soul is essentially the essence of who we are. The body is obviously our outermost and visible part, and by it, we exist and experience things in the physical world. Our soul, though unseen, is just as real. It is made up of your mind, emotions, and will. In our world, we exert most of our energy on satisfying the body’s appetites and almost none to the soul, which requires just as much, if not more, attention.

Here are some things that you can do to nourish your soul using the SOUL REST acronym.

S – SELF-AWARENESS

If you don’t understand your true self, you lack baseline knowledge that is essential to caring for your soul. It is important to understand your personality, including your struggles, strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivations, and emotions. Do the work to elevate your selfawareness through taking assessments, doing self-reflection, gathering feedback from others, and even possibly engaging in counseling.

O – OBEDIENCE

Have you ever had a strong feeling that you shouldn’t do something but did it anyway? If so, it probably didn’t go so well because it was likely the Holy Spirit pointing you in another direction. This causes turmoil and isn’t good for your soul. To be obedient, we need to live by faith and try to discern and follow God’s will in making decisions.

U – UNBUSY

Being busy is often seen as a badge of honor in our society. However, to care for your soul, you have to give it the rest it requires so that it doesn’t become fatigued. It’s important to make time for things like spending time with a friend, going for a walk, taking a nap, reading, unplugging from technology, and participating in hobbies that you enjoy.

L – LOVE

We are commanded to love God and love our neighbor as ourselves. And notice, it says “love yourself” so show yourself some TLC and compassion. Nurturing your relationships with the Lord and with others in your life will have a definite positive impact on your soul.

R - RELEASE

Sometimes you have to let things go to care for your soul. That may include relationships, jobs, and control! In addition, you will need to release some of the other strongholds (negative mindsets) that you have accumulated in your life like comparison, people-pleasing, guilt, shame, and more.

E – EAT WELL AND EXERCISE

To nurture your soul, you need to care for your body, the vessel that carries it. If you eat well and exercise, you will feel better and be in a better place to serve God and others.

S – SOLITUDE

Your soul suffers if you don’t make some time to be alone, intentionally unplug, and experience God. It’s even better if you do it in nature, God’s beautiful creation!

T – THANKFUL

Practicing gratitude for the positive things you have in your life is very important. Humans have a proclivity to go negative and being grateful for what you have can actually help rewire your brain to be more positive. Keeping a gratitude journal and writing down three things you are thankful for each day can be helpful.

So, go forth and put these strategies to the test to move from hot mess to soul rest!

WHY THE STRUGGLE IS GOOD

BY KAREN COOPER

The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places. - Ernest Hemingway

If I had breezed through my life with no adversity, I would be a very different person today. The first 25 years of my life were mostly carefree, idyllic even, and they made me think that life would always be easy. As I moved into my 30s, with marriage, kids….and then some real grown-up problems, I realized that there were difficult times ahead and I would have to learn to cope and adapt. Although it wasn’t easy during those times, sometimes the hard times seemed unbearably hard, I came through it with some things I didn’t even recognize until quite a while later. I came through with much greater humility, more compassion, a great deal more empathy and yeah, some wisdom. These were things I hadn’t had enough of before.

While you’re going through it, the struggle is REAL! So real and so hard…but once you’re through it, most of the time, the struggle is worth it. Why? Here are some of my favorite reasons.

YOU BECOME MENTALLY STRONGER

Struggling can make you stronger. When people have had an easy life, they tend to be mentally soft. However, those who have faced struggles have had the opportunity to build mental toughness.

YOU LEARN A LOT ABOUT YOURSELF

When life is easy, you have a natural tendency to breeze through it. Any struggle can be a real test of your will, resourcefulness, and perseverance. Through this process you learn how you handle hard times and the stuff you’re made of.

YOU CAN LEARN TO CARRY ON

For many people, hardships in their lives that last too long will cause them to give up. The good thing about hanging in there is that these challenges we all go through are designed to build up our strength and determination to keep going.

YOU LEARN THE VALUE OF HUMILITY

It’s only when we are faced with a situation that’s out of our control, that we truly realize where we fit into the grand scheme of things. Helplessness forces us to reconsider our pride and lay ourselves bare to the unknown. It can be a slap in the face of our reality, and a necessary one at that. Because it is only

through humility that we learn to let go and surrender, which carries the greatest powers of all.

YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE INCREASES

Effectively dealing with struggles can make you feel like you can conquer the world. You feel confident and powerful. You gain self-confidence by dealing with adversity.

YOU LEARN THAT LIFE’S OTHER CHALLENGES ARE NOT SO BAD

When people don’t have trouble in their lives, they tend to be overly stressed by small, sometimes insignificant things. Those that have lived with adversity are more likely to take things in stride. A little struggle now and then can remind you to be grateful and see that your life isn’t so rough after all.

YOU LEARN THE VALUE OF EXPERIENCE

Difficult times bring an understanding that life experience is of great value. Knowledge, skills, and experience are powerful and the longer you live, the more of them you have. Draw on these things to be better in everything you do. Listen more than you speak. Think before you make decisions. Lead with empathy and compassion. Let your lessons learned be your guide.

YOU LEARN TO BE GRATEFUL

We all have a tendency to look at what is lacking in our lives, but when hard times come, it forces us to look at our stored up resources and endurance to get us through. Through this process, you learn to appreciate yourself more and to count your blessings…because things can’t be good all the time. The hard times make the good times even better. Learning to practice gratitude can change your outlook on everything you do for the rest of your life.

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by TANNER JOHNSON

REVERSE SEARED FILET

For this month I wanted to share my all time favorite cut of meat to cook. Since I first tried the “reverse sear” method I haven’t wanted a steak cooked any other way. This is a cook you can do using an oven, grill, or a smoker. My preferred way is to use the smoker for the first part of the cook, and to finish it off, I sear directly over some blazing hot coals at around 650-700 degrees. Another solid way to do this if you don’t have a charcoal grill for the sear, is to finish it off with the sear on a really hot cast iron pan on the stove, a griddle (like a blackstone) or a gas grill turned as high as it will go. If you want to do this all inside, you can even cook the steak in the oven first and then just finish with a sear on the stove.

Typically most people will just grill a steak on high heat for a few minutes per side until you get the desired temp.. Or sear it first and then finish in an oven, or indirect heat until the preferred temp. The reverse sear is just doing this same method in the opposite order… as the name explains. Cooking a steak this way (any steak, not just a filet) allows you to have much more control of the cook, avoiding flare ups and overcooking the steak. This also allows for the perfect wall to wall cool pink center (if you like medium rare which I love.) Because we rest the meat after the time it spends in the smoker for 10-15 minutes before searing, you can serve it up and slice right in after you’re done searing. Now let’s dive into the steps to create the perfect melt in your mouth filet that will taste better than most steakhouses serve for a fraction of the price!

1. First, you’ll want to find some good thick filets at the store. I’ve been getting the USDA Prime filets from Sam’s club lately and they are phenomenal.

2. Then I always like to let the steaks sit out of the fridge to get to room temperature for around 30 minutes before cooking.

3. Preheat your oven or smoker to 225-250.

4. Rub a little olive oil on the steaks, then season with Salt and Pepper or your favorite steak seasoning. My personal favorite is Hardcore Carnivore Black—a traditional beef seasoning mixture, with black pepper, garlic, sea salt and some activated charcoal that gives it a really unique flavor profile and amazing color.

5. Once your cooker is around 225250, put the steaks in (depending on thickness and the temperature you’re going for, they should only take 30-45 minutes to get to temp).

You’ll want to set a 20 minute timer or so and flip the steaks halfway and check the internal temp. We always use the MEATER+ probe that is inserted into the steak before the cook to keep track of the temp the whole time.

6. Once your steaks get to the desired temp (115-120 internal) for medium rare, 125-130 for medium/medium well—pull them out and let them rest for about 15 minutes (the resting period allows the juices in the meat to redistribute—otherwise, when you slice it you’ll have a super juicy cutting board, and not a juicy steak).

7. Crank up your cast iron, charcoal, or griddle—whatever you’re going to do the finishing sear on and let it get very hot while the steak(s) are resting.

8. Sear for about a minute (sometimes a minute and a half) per side until you get that delicious crust and you’re temping around 130-135. I like to be on the lower side of medium rare and shoot for 130.

NOTE: If you’re searing over charcoal that’s all there is to it extreme high heat and live fire. It may take less than a minute to get the right temp.

If you’re searing on a cast iron pan or a griddle, it’s good to use some butter or oil, and some fresh herbs like rosemary, thyme, etc. After you flip the steak, you can start basting it with the melted butter and herbs.

9. Now after you’ve reached your perfect internal temp and you have that delicious crust from the sear, you can slice it right up and dig in. Once you master this technique you’ll question buying a steak from an expensive steakhouse forever—plus homemade meals just always taste better!

For more recipes and demos, follow Tanner on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook @919backyardbbq

CELEBRATIONS

Reanna Ruark

Reanna Ruark, Miss Forsyth County USA 2023, is excited to express her loyalty to her community by participating in the Miss North Carolina USA 2023 pageant. Reanna, a life-long resident of Belews Creek, is passionate about growing her skills of interior design, promoting a healthy lifestyle for herself and those around her, and volunteering with the 11/11 Veteran Project, a service designed to support veterans and their families. Reanna is looking forward to representing her passions, her community, and her local sponsors in the February 2023 state pageant.

Sunless Body Studios

Congratulations on their brand new location!

CELEBRATIONS

Sew Fabulous, Inc.

Sew Fabulous, Inc. celebrates 16 years as a small business. Operating from our home in the southern portion of Forsyth County, we specialize in hand-crafted Wake Forest University licensed quilts & gifts, custom theme-stitched t-shirt quilts, quilting classes, longarm quilt services and fabric sales. Thank you to the Piedmont Triad community for your support! We survive and grow by word of mouth. Please help spread the word! www.sewfabulousquilts.com

Kyler’s Kards

Congratulations to everyone who helped Chrystal Yates exceed another annual fundraising goal for Kyler’s Kards! $5750 was donated to give to families who spent their Christmas at Brenner Children’s Hospital, bringing Chrystal’s collective donation total to $19,685 in the last six years!

Doris Gordon

“Happy 102nd Birthday to Doris Doyle Gordon. Doris is beloved by her six children, was once featured in the Winston-Salem Journal for having a perfect hand in Bridge and has lived in the same house in Sherwood Forest since its origin in the mid-1900s.”

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LOCAL EVENTS

JAN 3-7

TANGLEWOOD PARK FESTIVAL OF LIGHTS

Tanglewood Park in Clemmons

Open nightly. Tickets may be purchased at the gate upon entry and in advance at the Welcome Center at Tanglewood Park. The gift village will be open with snacks, hot cocoa and marshmallow roasting. Prices start at $20/car.

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JANUARY JUBILEE SALE

Simply Sterling & Company 5275 Robinhood Village Drive

JAN 08

10AM-6PM

Fancy name for a major inventory reduction! Also, mark your calendars for the 14th Annual Breakfast at Simply Sterling Shopping Event on Saturday, February 4th. Visit SimplySterling.com for more information. Open Monday-Saturday.

WINTER SALE AT FRALEIGH’S BOUTIQUE

2626 Lewisville-Clemmons Road

Visit FraleighsBoutiqueNC.com for more information.

10AM-5PM MON-FRI 10AM-4PM SAT

WINMOCK SIP & SEE

Winmock at Kinderton

10AM-2PM

If you are seeking the perfect venue to host your wedding or special event, we invite you to schedule a private tour with a seasoned tour guide who can assist you in envisioning your celebration here at WinMock. Feel free to spend some time enjoying music, bubbly and treats at our open house either before or after your scheduled tour time. To learn more and schedule your guided tour of WinMock, please visit winmock.com to secure a tour time. In the meantime, please don’t hesitate to contact us with any questions.

STYX 2023 WORLD TOUR

Steven Tanger Center in Greensboro

7:30PM

The essence of Styx is defined by harmony, chemistry, balance, grit, dexterity, determination and solidarity. The successful rock band has forged a legacy on albums and onstage. Styx has now added a new chapter to their story: “The Mission.” It’s the band’s 16th album. Tickets start at $45/person.

WINTER SALES EVENT AT TEDDY’S TACTICAL

7:30PM

Teddy’s Tactical in Clemmons Enjoy a winter sales event. Use discount Snowy10 for 10% off at TeddyTactical.com.

JAN 14

SAT

JAN 20-29

EVERYBODY SAYS DON’T: JOHN CARDEN SINGS BROADWAY

7:30PM

Watson Hall at UNCSA Campus ohn Carden, a 1988 alumnus from UNCSA, performs a program of works from musical theater and Broadway. Carden is the youngest countertenor to be awarded a contract at The Metropolitan Opera. Tickets are $20/adult and $15/student.

STEPHEN KING’S MISERY

Winston-Salem Theatre Alliance

JAN 21

SAT

8PM

“Misery” follows Paul Sheldon, a successful romance novelist, who is rescued from an auto crash by his biggest fan. She takes him home and forces him to write a new “Misery” novel and has no intention of letting him go. Tickets are $21/adult and $19/student.

TRIPLE J MANOR HOUSE SIP & SEE

10AM-1PM

Triple J Manor House Sip and See will allow you o come experience Triple J Manor house beautifully dressed up for a special event, learn about the venue from our tour guides, see the work of our wonderful vendors partners and sip on a delicious hot drink. The knoll will be setup as a mock ceremony, the porch as a cocktail hour and the manor room as a mix and mingle reception. Learn more at triplejmanorhouse.com.

RIDERS IN THE SKY

The Historic Earle Theatre, Surry Arts Council

JAN 26

THU

7PM-9PM

Join us for an evening of award-winning harmonies, wacky Western wit and high-yodeling adventures with Riders in the Sky. The group has made an astonishing 7,200+ appearances, 35 years on the Grand Ole Opry, 40 records albums and tours of all 50 states and all over the world. What began as a celebration of classic Western Music and an evening of hilarity has become a career, and that career has become a legend!

ABWA FORSYTH CHAPTER MONTHLY MEETING

Maple Chase Golf and Country Club

6PM-8PM

The Forsyth Chapter of ABWA is one of the many ABWA Chapters and networks in the Piedmont Triad Area. We invite you to visit with us or another ABWA chapter or network to learn more about this national organization. We offer opportunities for education, personal and professional growth, networking, friendship and fellowship. Our January meeting features guest speaker Mare Hutchinson with leadership presentation, “The Hats of leadership.” Join us for our monthly meeting, and see how ABWA Forsyth can enrich your personal and professional life.

FORSYTH WOMAN MAGAZINE’S WOMEN ON THE MOVE LEADERSHIP CONFERENCE

WinMock at Kinderton

9AM-5PM

Forsyth Woman Magazine’s “Women on the Move” initiative comes to life through it’s Second Annual Women on the Move Leadership Conference happening on Monday, March 20th, 2023. Forsyth Woman will bring together local leading ladies, from those in business, to owners and entrepreneurs, for an all-day event full of impactful presentations, networking, shopping, food + drinks, and more. Learn more and purchase your ticket at tinyurl.com/WOMC2023.

*Disclaimer: Event details are subject to change. Please check event websites & social media pages for updates as the dates draw near.*

Conversations with Your BFF

Earlier this year I had a chat with my BFF about whether her boyfriend was gaslighting her and exactly what gaslighting is. The official definition of ‘gaslighting’ is a manipulative abuse tactic where a person starts questioning their own reality. This is accomplished through one person, usually referred to as an ‘abuser’ questioning facts and/or denying memories another person has, undermining their judgment, and bullying them into believing the abuser’s reality. But have you ever thought that you could be gaslighting yourself? I am so glad you asked!

SIX SIGNS YOU MAY BE GASLIGHTING YOURSELF Excusing Behavior

If you’ve ever been in either a romantic or friend relationship, where someone’s behavior just doesn’t ring true, yet you make excuses for that behavior, you may be gaslighting yourself. Trust what you see, what you hear, and the vibes that people put off. It’s okay to give a person a pass once or twice, but when a pattern develops, don’t excuse poor behavior, especially if the person’s behavior hurts you and is ongoing. You deserve better!

Invalidation of Feelings

There’s usually a time in your life when you feel like someone completely invalidated your feelings. Someone may have dismissed what you felt in a situation and basically told you that your feelings were inaccurate, insignificant, or just unacceptable. You can actually do this to yourself. As women, especially, we tend to put everyone else before ourselves, so we dismiss our feelings and focus on how others feel, but if you tell yourself that what you’re feeling isn’t as important as another’s feelings, you’re gaslighting yourself. Don’t do it!

Second Guessing Your Shoulds and Should Nots

Once you make a decision, stick to it, unless details or information changes. Second guessing yourself on whether you should or should not do something or act a certain way can set you up for a terrible battle with yourself. You can wear yourself out going back and forth trying to

‘Could

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BY REBECCA COOPER

“should” or “should not” yourself to death. Stick to your guns and after weighing facts, carefully, make a decision and go with it.

Being In Tune and Sensitive is Not a Bad Thing

After you hear something from someone you care about for so long, it becomes part of who you are. How many times has someone said to you, “You’re just too sensitive”? You may start believing it yourself and begin saying it to yourself. Putting yourself down is not good and being sensitive to others and yourself isn’t a bad thing. You know yourself better than anyone, so don’t talk negatively to yourself with words others have used against you in the past.

Doubting Your Own Judgment is Dangerous

We all have a set of beliefs that help us throughout life in making hard judgments about situations and people. If

you are having problems trusting your own judgment in life’s hard choices, you can find yourself between a rock and a hard place. Weighing what you know about people or situations, taking that info and passing judgment to protect yourself, is important. If you don’t trust yourself, who can you trust?

You Always Find a Way to Blame Yourself

With a romantic or friend relationship, when things go wrong or hit a bumpy place, it’s not always your fault and if you think it is, you are gaslighting yourself. It takes two to tango and to make a relationship work, and if there’s only one working to stay in touch or keep a relationship going, it’s not a relationship. If you seem to find a way to excuse the other person and always tend to blame yourself, just stop it! I know that’s easier said than done, but blaming yourself is like running on a treadmill, you’ll wear yourself out and you won’t get anywhere.