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16 COVER STORY
30 Legacy Saddlebreds Inspiring All Ages with
Life Lessons for the Body & Soul
20 The Art of Encouragement and Teaching Kindness
24 The 12th Annual St. Baldrick’s Day at Finnegan’s Wake
36 Brain Injury Survivors A Support Group
54 Taco Night Celebrating a Love of Tacos
70 Amani Children’s Foundation
86 The Lonely College Student
IN EVERY ISSUE 16 Out & About in Winston-Salem with the Open House of Fire Station #7
58 From the Book Shelf “A” is for Apple
64 My Grace-Full Life
Grace Learned from a Tree Stump and a Buick
74 It’s a Grand Life –
78 Triad Moms on Main
96 A Sweet Ending
In Memory of Nap Time
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Accepting New Patients! Tina Merhoff, DDS Pediatric Dentist - Board Certified Melissa Blake, DMD Pediatric Dentist
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I’ve just returned from my “Dream of a lifetime” vacation in Hawaii! Seriously, I have wanted to go since I was a young girl. Thanks to both uncles on my mother’s side working in the airline industry, I had well-traveled cousins. My uncle Wayne was a pilot and my uncle Buck worked the ticket counter at United. I especially envied my girl cousins, Vickie & Bonnie, and their Hawaiian adventures with my grandmother DeEtte. My family once went to see them off at the airport and I fondly remember getting to board the plane before take-off to see the plane and meet the pilot. Obviously, this was back in the day before all the TSA regulations and security. Suffice it to say, I have anticipated this homage to Hawaii for a very long time. I was slightly worried it may not live up to all I had dreamed of, but that was not to be the case! On August 1st, eight of us boarded the plane in Charlotte for our very early flight to Dallas and then on to Oahu. Aren’t we cute in our family vacation T-shirts? Thank you Keela for such a thoughtful gift! We gained 6 hours on the flight and arrived at our hotel around lunch. We didn’t waste
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any time and started day #1 with a hike to a waterfall. Pearl Harbor was our mission the next day and then our adventure carried us to Maui the day after, where we would spend the rest of our time. The water and scenery were breathtaking and we crammed absolutely everything we could into our stay there. Tim and I were given an amazing early 30th anniversary gift by my youngest daughter, Morgan, and her boyfriend, Deep, to go on a helicopter tour. Road to Hana, mai-tais, snorkeling, mai-tais, sunrise at the Haleakala Crater, watching a minimum of 13 sea turtles sun themselves and did I say mai-tais? What fun! Legacy Saddlebreds is our September cover story and if you have never been to this place, do yourself a favor and go! We are blessed to work with so many wonderful business partners, month after month, year after year. Please utilize our advertisers whenever you can and tell them you saw them in Forsyth Family! I hope if you have a dream of a lifetime vacation on your bucket list, like I did, that you enjoy it half as much as I did! Thank you Gale Adouli with Great Getaways for booking a magical vacation for us! Blessings!
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Birthdays at Kaleideum Your child’s birthday is special at Kaleideum! Our fun, engaging, interactive birthday parties at Kaleideum Downtown and Kaleideum North help make your child’s birthday an unforgettable experience that is very easy on you! Kaleideum offers three different types of parties:
Kaleideum Super Party Custom Birthday Celebration Choose from multiple themes and options, and you can create the perfect party for your child. For more information and pricing, please contact: Kaleideum Downtown Kenny Arnold email@example.com (336) 723-9111 ext 205
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Born into Real Estate To
say that Winston-Salem native Kaitlin Eller Wall has been in the Real Estate business her whole life is no exaggeration. Her father, Rod Eller, was training and managing real estate professionals in the area before Kaitlin was born. The lifelong experiences and exposure to the business make real estate more than a career—it’s a part of her life. “I remember listening to the conversations between my dad and my step-mother, Heidi Eller, as I was growing up. At the time I didn’t think that I would ever be in a position where I would be a part of those conversations, and now I can’t imagine not having those experiences,” recalls Kaitlin. The fact is, a career in real estate was not a plan for Kaitlin until her senior year in college, as she considered opportunities in sales. It was then that she called home to say that she was thinking about going into real estate sales. That decision put a career in motion that has flourished over the past seven years, in different markets and with different focuses.
“I’m very excited and honored to have the opportunity to expand our services for our terrific team of professionals, by expanding our training and development for experienced and new sales professionals.”
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“I started just like every other new agent, getting licensed and learning the basics. I wanted to learn it all, and, of course, I had a lot of mentors willing to help me,” Kaitlin reflects. It was that desire to start with the basics and learn the business from the ground up that fueled a passion for real estate and continued learning. Over the next few years, Kaitlin explored many opportunities in the field of real estate, including a move to Charlotte, North Carolina. After successfully growing a real estate practice in the Triad, Kaitlin wanted to be closer to her friends in the Charlotte area, so she loaded up the truck and moved to the Queen City. “It’s funny, my Dad didn’t ask about me being away from home—but the ‘ultimate real estate manager’ asked me about my plans for my career.” Kaitlin continues, “I told him that I had built a business based on fundamentals that he had stressed, and I would do the same in Charlotte.”
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The fundamentals as the foundation of a real estate practice remains the key component of Kaitlin’s philosophy to this day. Since Charlotte, she has moved back to the Triad, worked as a builder liaison for RS Parker Homes, gone back into general real estate brokerage sales with Long & Foster Real Estate, become one of the top agents in the Triad, gotten married and, most recently, taken over as the Broker-in-Charge and manager of the Winston-Salem office of Long & Foster Real Estate. In every step of her career, Kaitlin has enjoyed helping people. It was those opportunities to help other agents, mentor or train skills that fueled a passion for a different path from sales into management. “I’ve always thought that I would like to be on the management side of the real estate business at some point and I’m very excited and honored to have the opportunity to expand our services for our terrific team of professionals, by expanding our training and development for experienced and new sales
professionals,” assures Kaitlin. “We are so lucky to have a team of professionals that truly support one another and are eager to help each other succeed. That doesn’t happen by accident—it takes a great team, and we have it.” Ginny Burcham, a co-worker, and award-winning real estate veteran herself, agrees. “I am excited to support Kaitlin in her new role as Broker-in-Charge. She has strong experience and proven skills—as both a producer and a leader—to effectively manage and expand Long & Foster in the Triad. It is a pleasure to work with her!” The Long & Foster Winston-Salem Office is part of a company that operates over 220 offices, and over 11,000 agents are employed by its real estate brands, including Fonville Morisey Realty in the Triangle. The company celebrated its 50th Anniversary this year. For more information, please contact Kaitlin Eller at 336-813-3703.
Our team is here for all of your real estate needs.
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More Than Half of Workers Approaching Retirement Believe They Will Return to Work New Career Assessment Tool from Winston-Salem Area Home Instead Senior Care Aims To Inspire Next Career Move
insight into the changing post-retirement landscape, a new survey by Home Instead, Inc. has revealed that more than half (53 percent) of workers approaching retirement in the next five years believe they will likely return to work. In terms of their next move, the majority of both those approaching retirement (68 percent) and those who have “unretired” and returned to work (65 percent) said they will change or have changed industries. What’s more, nearly 80 percent of both groups said they want to make a meaningful impact in their communities in their post-retirement years, such as through volunteerism or a role involving caregiving, teaching or giving back. “Finding a fulfilling post-retirement career can be incredibly valuable for an older adult,” advised Shannon Hodge, owner of the Home Instead Senior Care® office serving the Forsyth County area. 10 / FORSY T H FAMILYMAG A ZIN E.COM
“For some Forsyth County men and women, that fulfillment comes from being a professional caregiver, but many find new career or volunteer opportunities that help serve their skills, passions and life goals, and challenge them in a way their previous career might not have.” According to the Home Instead, Inc. survey, important motivators for returning to work for those who have retired were fighting boredom (44 percent) or keeping their minds sharp (22 percent), while finding new challenges and fulfillment were the most common motivators for those pending retirement. Catherine Collinson, CEO of Transamerica Center for Retirement Studies, reaffirms that with people living longer than ever, it’s important to focus more on maintaining a sense of purpose than holding on to the outdated hallmark of retiring at age 65. “With Boomers blazing the way, full retirement is no longer a point in time. The transition could be a decade or more, and involve shifting gears and working in a different capacity or finding a flexible arrangement, all with more time for family,” Collinson said.
So what are the some of the hottest postretirement jobs? According to Tim Driver, CEO of RetirementJobs.com, today’s older workers are considering a wide array of flexible options, including at organizations that meet the criteria for age-friendly workplaces. “Retail sales clerks and bank tellers are among the most popular options, as they are jobs that allow you to work from home, such as with online tutoring. And caregiving is often a job where creativity is rewarded—giving you the ability to create activities for older adults and get a peek into what older life looks like,” Driver observed. To help workers start thinking about how to make the most of their post-retirement years, the Home Instead Senior Care network is introducing tips and resources, including an online career assessment tool that asks users questions about their interests, skills and ideal work environment before recommending categories of jobs that might suit them. “Whether you are looking for an opportunity to make a difference in the lives of others, share your expertise, network with new people or create something new, our hope is the career assessment tool will help spark ideas and conversation around what a rewarding next chapter could look like,” explained Hodge. Families can find program resources and information at UnRetireYourself.com. Or, contact your local Home Instead Senior Care office for additional resources and to learn about professional CAREGiversSM opportunities. Find an office near you by visiting www.homeinstead.com.
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THE EVIDENCE IS IRREFUTABLE —AND PROFOUND. BY FAMILY SERVICES
Studies show that the first five years of a child’s life are a time of rapid brain development — a once-only window of opportunity when a child’s mind becomes wired for success (or hardship) that will last into adulthood. Well before kindergarten, children are developing the social, emotional, cognitive, and academic road map that will guide their futures.
Ellie is smart and loving. But she almost didn’t know it. In the past, children were considered ready for kindergarten if they could say their ABCs, count, identify colors, and write their first name. This is still true. Yet, brain research now shows that school readiness must include a child’s ability to follow directions, express feelings using words, and adjust emotionally to unexpected situations. Thankfully, Ellie had access to Family Services comprehensive developmental opportunities in the first five years of her life. She is excelling in school and has the confidence to keep succeeding.
Every child in Forsyth County should have access to this opportunity. But they do not. That’s why Family Services is launching the Raising Every Child Campaign to expand the programs and services that are helping disadvantaged children – from birth through age 5 – to be ready to achieve in school. People who support the Raising Every Child Campaign will •
Improve the physical, social and emotional health of 1,500 young children annually
Rehabilitate and add preschool classrooms to serve over 300 three- and four-year-old children
Provide 100 preschool teachers with training and support to help Forsyth County children become good learners, and
Support efforts to make high quality Pre-K programs available to all four-year-olds in Forsyth County
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IT’S WORKING. However, continued success is dependent upon the entire community coming together as never before to expand these powerful, proven solutions. You can ensure that more of Forsyth County’s youngest children are ready to achieve in school and in life. Join Family Services in Raising Every Child today at www.familyservicesforsyth.org.
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CHILDREN AREN’T BORN WITH THE SKILLS TO SUCCEED. They’re born with the potential to develop them.
It’s a scientific fact. Children who have access to high-quality, early childhood development programs in the first five years will be better prepared both intellectually and emotionally — to become healthier, happier and more socially responsible adults. That’s why we are launching the Raising Every Child Campaign to improve the physical, social, and emotional health of 1,500 young children annually. Benefitting children, families and preschool teachers, Raising Every Child helps build a better future for our community. But, we cannot do this alone. We need your help.
Visit www.raisingeverychild.org to learn how you can help.
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LT Nails & Spa BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON
already know that a mani-pedi makes your nails look fantastic. There’s nothing like taking a little time out of your day to be pampered. At LT Nails & Salon, Thuy and Linh Pham and their technicians pride themselves in the excellence of their work, with an attention to details that make all the difference in your experience getting a manicure or pedicure. But there’s more behind LT Nails & Spa than what you see.... Thuy Pham, co-owner of LT Nails & Spa, gives credit for where she is today to her hero, her mother, Hoa Pham. “My mother worked hard in Vietnam to save up enough money for her nine children to have a second chance in life. With an investment of a lot of money and time, lots of paperwork, medical checkups and interviews and a sponsor here in America, we settled in a refugee camp in the Philippines, until we arrived in America on March 3rd, 1990,” recalled Thuy. Language was a struggle for the Pham family, making applying for jobs difficult, and getting hired even more so. Thuy and her siblings found minimum-wage jobs; then, in the mid-1990s, Thuy’s sister Yen (Luci), as well as sister, Linh (Lila), decided to pursue their nail technician license. Thuy later followed in their footsteps and became a nail technician, too. Although they had very little money and barely any clothes, they still felt fortunate just to be here.
PHOTO BY PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA With over 18 years of experience as nail technicians, the Phams opened LT Nails & Spa a little over a year ago, wanting to spend more time with their families, and after having had the good fortune of meeting the right person at the right time. “Over the years, we spent a lot of time working summers and holidays, with long hours. So when we opened up our business, we decided to take a step back and enjoy our work while enjoying our family. We started with the luck of knowing Lori Lawrence, one of my long-time clients, who had open space in the area where we are located. My sister Lila’s boyfriend is a General Contractor and has built many nail salons, so he helped make the salon what it is today. My relationship with Lori has truly been a blessing in disguise. I remember our first day. It was just the three of us, me, Lila and our sister-in-law, Tuyen (Tina) Dang. We didn’t expect to have any business that first day, so we were playing Vietnamese music, but then a steady stream of people arrived and we turned on American love songs. Since then, our business has built up over a short period of time and now instead of 3 of us, we are up to 8,” Thuy said. With a welcoming and relaxing atmosphere, LT Nails & Spa specializes in feet and hands. “We want our clients to feel refreshed, clean and pretty when they leave. We do gel manicures, regular manicures, any many different types of pedicures. We also offer SNS, acrylics, waxing and eyelash extension; our products are the highest quality. We are focused on our clients and building relationships with them, helping them feel at home and welcomed with each visit,” commented Thuy. As Thuy looks back over the past 18 years, she recalls, “I don’t believe any of us thought we would ever be a nail technician, let alone own our own business. Nail salons weren’t a big thing when we came to America, but this type of business has given Asians, who have little English, opportunity. Our mother’s hard work, our persistence and hard work, meeting Lori and Danny Lawrence, our landlords, as well as help from our family, our loyal clients and who we are as individuals, have made us successful,” stated Thuy. LT Nails & Spa is located at 3623 Clemmons Rd., Clemmons, NC. Hours of operation: Monday–Saturday, 9 am–6:30 pm. Closed on Sunday and major holidays. For more information, call 336-546-7406.
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Out &inAbout Winston-Salem with the Open House of Fire Station #7
BY HEATHER SPIVEY
2016, Fire Station #7, at the corner of Arbor Road and Country Club Road, closed temporarily, and the men relocated to Station #6 (on Academy Street) for almost 2 years, while Station #7 received a new addition and some much-needed upgrades. This $2 million project expanded the building size, added bays and improved and updated the living and working spaces for the firefighters. The contractors did a superb job in keeping with the style and exterior of the original building that was placed in service in 1951. Station #7 is now home to Rescue One, Rescue Three and Safety 7. Each of these trucks has a unique purpose. Rescue One is the hub for technical rescue for the City for swift water rescue, confined spaces, high angle rescue and auto extractions, as well as service and fire calls. Rescue 3 is a support truck equipped for building collapse and trench rescue. Safety 7 is for the safety officer who reports to incidents to insure firefighter safety and also conducts department-wide training. There are 3 shifts of 5 firemen. These brave men protect our community and are great neighbors. Chief Trey Mayo presided over the “uncoupling” ceremony, which marked the official dedication of the new Station #7. The ceremony was attended by Mayor Allen Joines, the members of the City Counsel, numerous members of the Fire Department, and many local residents and children— who may grow up one day to serve in Station #7.
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conducted at the University of British Columbia, children spanning the ages from 9 to 11 were asked to perform and record three acts of kindness per week across 30 days. A separate group of children maintained entries of three “pleasant places they visited.” The findings revealed the following: • Children who performed acts of kindness or visited pleasant locations felt happier. • By offering encouragement to peers, children gained friends and reflected that acting kind was worth the effort.
The Art of Encouragement and Teaching Kindness BY LISA S.T. DOSS
you ever watched children at a community playground? From first sight, a child will begin running with the anticipatory desire to engage in sliding and climbing, spinning and swinging. Instantly, the new child is welcome among the players. Why? At a place of common ground and community, a child does not have to be well liked or talented, smart or possess any skill other than the desire to play. Conflicts and disagreements are not part of the experience; with ease, sharing occurs and turns are patiently taken. The rules change when competition and ranking matter. If we don’t learn the human value of kindness, bullying is always going to have a place in our society. Teaching lessons of showing and verbalizing friendliness, encouraging others through compliments, and actively displaying kindness can spread through classrooms and schools, playgrounds and communities. Kindness Equals Positive Rewards Children are listening to kind words exchanged between parents and grandparents, as well as the tone adults use to convey positive actions and behaviors. While valuable, witnessing modeled behavior is not enough for children to understand how to be kind to others. Through research
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• Children discovered kindness created a feeling of community and acceptance among classmates; as a result, a positive outlook on “life” extended to family, friends, school, learning, confidence, and self. • A noticeable lessoning of bullying behaviors occurred. • Additionally, kind acts improved energy levels, academic achievement, and established an overall personal feeling of success.
Though a teachable moment, parents can capitalize on the opportunity to teach their child the art of being kind with the following suggestions. • Compliments offer a feeling of praise and recognition. While most children thrive on positive words, it may not be easy for a child to voice a compliment to a friend, classmate or stranger on their own. A parent may help begin the conversation by asking the child to think about a person’s strength. For example, the child might say, “I’ve never thought of that idea before. You are so creative!” Thinking positively can also change a child’s mindset from jealousy or disappointment to kindness. Additionally, when compliments are freely given, they are often returned. • On a weekly basis, take the opportunity to share as a family one situation that was gratifying. By openly talking, members of family will self-reflect and find new ways to strive for kindness. • With the current trend of recording live situations through a cell phone,
society has taught our children to be bystanders, rather than people of action. It is important for our youth to aid a person in trouble or who is struggling. Acts of kindness can be more than just finding help. Compassion is needed to remain present and communicate reassurance. • Who else can’t speak for themselves? Animals. Touch and play must be conducted with gentle hands and a calm voice. The rewards of caring for the family pet and all creatures may lead to a mutual understanding of respect and sometimes friendship. One question can be considered, “In what ways can you help animals?” Empowering children to think and care for others, which also includes young children, the disabled, and the elderly, can cause positive changes in more than one life.
The following suggestions can engage children in spreading kindness. • Encourage children to hold open a door and remember to ensure no one is coming before letting the door close. • Invite a new friend to the lunch table to expand a feeling of community and friendship. • Teach children to acknowledge an unknown person of their own age by saying the word “Hello” or offering a genuine smile. Not all children need to be close friends; yet, if we take the initiative, it allows the receiver to feel accepted, and potentially to develop into a friend. Children who enjoy keeping a written record may enjoy starting a friendship journal. The Random Acts of Kindness Foundation If you are a parent, educator, or leader and seeking inspiration to promote acts of kindness, go to the website, www.randomactsofkindness. org. The foundation’s mission is to “Change schools, the workplace, families, and society through kindness.” It’s more than just an essential human value. The art of encouraging kindness is a movement toward happiness and success!
More than 12,000 children live in foster care in North Carolina.
You can be part of the solution by becoming a foster family. Find more information at crossnore.org/foster-care-adoptions
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difficult. Find one that’s comfortable for you. A light rider buying too light of a bike can be just as dangerous as buying a heavy bike with too much engine. How Much Should I Spend? In addition to handling and power, cost is a primary factor. A new 600cc bike can cost $9,000 or more, with larger engines and styles costing as much as $30,000 or more. A new 250cc bike can be bought for around $3,000, and the price goes even lower, as with all motorized transportation, with a used bike. Get something you can develop your skills with, and trade up when you’re ready.
How to Buy a Motorcycle For many, few experiences rival riding a motorcycle across an idyllic backdrop – whether it’s a cruise down the coast, a drive through the mountains or a trip through the countryside. If you’re considering buying your first motorcycle, read on for some things to consider. Education The first step, of course, is to develop the skills needed to safely operate a motorcycle. A safety course with the Motorcycle Safety Foundation (MSF) is a great place to start. Visit www.msf-usa.org or call 800-446-9227 for details.
Time for Research Dealerships are great places to view a range of bikes. Visit a reputable local dealer to explore your options and have your questions answered. They have experts who can help size you for a bike. If you’re looking to test drive a bike, it probably won’t happen at the dealership due to liability issues. It’s not unusual for someone to purchase a motorcycle and ride it for the first time when they leave the lot. Once you settle on a size and how you are going to use the bike, turn to Google. With research and reviews, you’ll be able to zero in on what you want. Buying New vs. Used When you buy new, you’ll know exactly what you are getting, along with the benefits of a warranty. The price will be higher and it’ll begin to depreciate when you leave the lot. If you’re a beginner, a used bike may be your best option. The major benefit is a lower price, but you won’t know how the bike has been used.
A safety class will prepare you for what to expect. If you go to the Department of Motor Vehicles and have never been on a bike and try to ride, chances are you will not get a permit. Additionally, many insurance providers will give you a discount if you successfully complete the class, so spending the time and money to participate in this class is a wise investment. Pick Your Style There many kinds of motorcycles, each designed for different types of needs: speed, commuting, different road surfaces, weather conditions, long-distance touring, etc. Pick the style that is right for you.
When seated, you should be able to rest both feet flat on the ground without having to be on tiptoes – so the bike doesn’t tip over. Handlebars and controls should be within easy reach. Choose a model that’s easy for you to engage and disengage the centerstand. A good rule of thumb for bikes: if it feels too heavy, it probably is. Motorcycles generally range from 125cc to 1400cc (cc = cubic centimeters – the size of the bike’s engine). A smaller model with a 250cc to 300cc engine can make a great starter or commuter bike. If you are planning on doing a lot of highway riding, you may want one with an engine in the 500cc to 750cc range so you can easily keep up with traffic. Most importantly, buy the bike that’s best for your height and weight. Keeping a 300-pound bike balanced on two wheels is 22 / FORSY T H FAMILYMAG A ZIN E.COM
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September 29th from 12-6pm, Finnigan’s Wake, located at 620 North Trade Street in Winston-Salem, will host the annual St. Baldrick’s Day event, a celebration that began in 2000 at Jim Brady’s pub in Manhattan. The goal on that first day was to raise $17,000, but the event raised $104,000 instead! This incredible event has touched the lives of countless individuals across the country, including one very special boy named Mason. “Mason is a very sensitive child; he has always sought out other children and even adults that seemed to be struggling in some way and tried to make things better,” said Mason’s mother, Kim. “I think when we went to the St Baldrick’s event to watch my co-worker shave her head, he was touched that adults and a few kids were shaving their heads and raising money to help children with cancer. He reminded me the entire next year that he wanted to participate in the event ‘next year.’ Approximately a year after Mason became involved with St. Baldrick’s, his oldest sister, Sydney, became ill. After struggling for almost two years to find a diagnosis, Mason’s second oldest sister, Caroline, developed similar symptoms to Sydney’s. They were diagnosed with Ehlers-Danlos and POTS syndromes. Ehlers-Danlos
syndrome is a group of disorders that affect connective tissues supporting the skin, bones, blood vessels and many other organs and tissues. Postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome (POTS) is one of a group of disorders that have orthostatic intolerance (OI) as their primary symptom. OI describes a condition in which an excessively reduced volume of blood returns to the heart after an individual stands up from a lying down position.” Even though Mason’s sisters are not affected by cancer specifically, he believes that helping others work through the illness of a family member is very important. “Mason is very much exposed to the changes of life that occur in a family when one or more children are battling illness,” observed Kim. “His life has changed by the frequent doctor visits, disability needs of his sisters and the new normal of our family. He and his third sister, Ava, have been troopers, and I think being able to relate to illness has fueled his fundraising efforts even more! He is determined!” Each year, Mason utilizes word of mouth, social media, family connections and the generous people of Lyndhurst Gynecological who allow him to place a donation jar in their office to raise money
for St. Baldrick’s Day. “Last year, we had generous donations from Piedmont Structural Company in Salisbury and many employees and business partners of Graybar Electric,” reflected Kim. “Mason has ties to all of these companies through us, his parents and his stepfather. We have also had a few business owners in the Clemmons area offer to help. We will be having a fundraiser this year on September 1st at the Clemmons Civic Center from 5-9pm. There will be a silent auction, Wutusay food truck and the band ‘Lemonjack 3’ will perform!” For more information about Mason’s cause, visit www.stbaldricks.org/participants/ mypage/988116/2018. You can also learn more about the event as a whole at the St. Baldrick’s website at www.stbaldricks.org. Mason has a team that is open to anyone to join! “This event is dear to our family because children are precious and deserve the best chance of beating childhood cancers, or any illness, through constant, ongoing research,” explained Kim. “Also, from our family to other families, please cherish normalcy; you never know when illness can change your life. We are thankful and blessed with our children and are so proud of Sydney and Caroline for being fighters, as well as Ava and Mason for changing their lives to make life better for their sisters! Love each day to the fullest and love a lot, be kind...you will never regret being kind!”
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Fostering a Positive Body Image in Your Children
BY TARYN JEREZ
you remember summers at the beach as a small child? Your parents not being able to get your swimsuit on fast enough for you! How could anyone expect you to sit still with the excitement of running on the sand and playing in the water just moments away? If you fast forward, can you remember the first time you were swimsuit-clad and your carefree excitement was replaced by hesitation? It may have been something as simple as a pause in the mirror or a few extra tugs at the elastic band of your suit before joining your friends, but there it was. More than likely, you can’t remember it. Not the very first time that uncertainty or comparison of your body came to mind. That’s because so often it’s a slow transition that seems to just take over without notice. It’s as if a switch goes off during childhood or adolescence for so many, that tells them to question their body. Look for signs of negative body image and be mindful about fostering a positive one. One of the sweetest things about childhood is the innocence and pure outlook on life that only a child can hold with them. With changes in pop culture, technology and social media, it seems that the length of time children get to enjoy this blissful part of their lives grows shorter with each generation. There is so much pressure to look a certain way in society that even children as young as 4 and five years old have shown concern over body image. While boys and girls naturally may begin being more private or shy about their bodies, it’s important to know the signs of true insecurity or body shame. These present themselves very differently and are not something to make light of, as they can lead to serious problems, such as eating disorders, self-harm and depression. Examples of this behavior may include things like being verbally or physically unkind to their bodies, avoiding activities that involve removing clothing, such as swimming or gym class or
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having a negative or fearful attitude towards food. This is why being mindful and intentional about fostering a healthy and positive body image is so important in children and teens. Be cautious when commenting on your own body and others. There will always be arguments about “Nurture vs. Nature,” but when it comes to having a negative body image, many believe this is a learned behavior. Avoiding negative terms when referring to your own body can be one of your biggest tools to help your child not pick up the same habits. While it can be difficult for many women if they picture their child saying the same hurtful things about their own bodies that they say about theirs, it may help motivate them to be more cautious. Another thing to consider is how often children grow up hearing how much they look like one of their parents. Imagine what happens in a child’s mind when they hear this, paired with the continuous comments from their mother or father about how “ugly,” “fat,” or “too skinny” they are. Limiting negative self-talk will not only help reduce the influence it has on your impressionable child, but will also help you with your own body image. Remember to be kind to yourself! Speak words of affirmation to them, not just on their appearance In the book The Help, the character Aibileen repeats this phrase to the little girl she looks after, “You is kind, You is smart, You is important.” When you read that back, do you notice what words are not included? It’s important to note that she isn’t repeating a mantra on the child’s physical appearance whatsoever. There is no “You is beautiful” or “You is pretty” sentiment. Of course, there is nothing wrong with telling your little boy how handsome he is or your daughter how cute she is! Additionally, pointing out how strong, smart, fast, determined, funny and kind they are is an important thing to be mindful of. Positive affirmations
of children that don’t have to do with their appearance can be empowering and help them concentrate on more than just their bodies. Reinforce and encourage positivity as the years go on Children and teenagers may find themselves more judgmental of their own bodies (and those of their peers) as they get older. Any adult can confirm that the act of questioning oneself and dealing with insecurities in their appearance doesn’t get any easier, just because they’ve reached adulthood. The reality is that the relationship you have with your body evolves, just like that with many other parts of you. There may be seasons of self-acceptance followed by seasons of insecurity. It’s important to emphasize that no matter how your child views his or her body, encouragement and even creating conversation around body image should continue over time.
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Inspiring All Ages with Life Lessons for the Body & Soul
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Saddlebreds is an established American Saddlebred Equestrian Facility, with 50 acres of lush, beautiful pasture tucked away in a setting that’s convenient to reach, but far enough away from city life to be slightly magical. The real magic takes place within the walls of this beautiful facility. Riders young and old learn to ride and care for horses through the instruction by the Legacy team who give their heart and soul to every day they gather at the barn to inspire yet another budding horse enthusiast. “We are lucky enough to have been able to make our passion our career, and can share that passion and watch it spark and grow in the riders and families that are a part of our Barn Family,” maintains Sondra Warren, Assistant Manager of the Riding Academy, and also a riding instructor.
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BUILDING SUCCESS Known for offering the most advanced riding opportunities in the region, Legacy Saddlebreds, LLC, opened its facility in Winston-Salem in 2014. Success has come easily, as the show teams have earned multiple regional, national, and world titles, and their immensely popular Youth Club has raised over $5,000 for multiple charities, while organizing other community service projects and volunteering for shows and open houses at the stables. In 2017 they were named Youth Club of the Year. The primary mission and driving force behind Legacy’s growth over the past three years, however, has been to provide a safe, warm, family-friendly environment for riders of all ages, explains Sondra. “No matter what their riders’ journey with horses is, or what their goals, the Legacy Saddlebreds’ staff strives to offer top-quality instruction, customer service, and a rewarding experience for everyone that walks through our doors!” she says. Legacy’s nationally acclaimed riding instructors have decades of teaching experience between them, and the 40-plus, much-loved lesson horses are selected for their ability to provide a safe riding lesson, while also challenging the riders in order to progress in their skills. Their first-class facilities are beautiful: The Academy Barn features two indoor climate-controlled riding arenas, comfortable viewing lounge with a sound system and video surveillance, offices, and an on-site apparel shop. The indoor heated arenas allow lessons to be offered seven days a week year-round. “Our top priority is safety,” declares Sondra, and the stables were built with that in mind. “The state-of-the-art facility does offer comfort for the families to watch the lessons, but it also removes as many distractions from the lesson as possible, so the horse, rider, and instructor can completely focus.” Part of Legacy’s facilities have been transformed into dream settings for special events, as it has also become one of the Piedmont Triad’s top wedding venues. From weddings to corporate functions, parties, and more, they can host any size gathering in the picturesque countryside of Winston-Salem.
With indoor space for over 800 guests, Legacy Stables & Events is an ideal location for conferences and gatherings of all kinds. GOOD FOR THE SOUL If you’re searching for even more reasons to perhaps “get back” into riding, consider this: Horseback riding has many benefits other than just learning how to handle a horse, and it is also an amazing workout. Here you can attend an adult clinic every year where a guest instructor comes out and works with riders, offering a different perspective on their skill levels. For first-time riders or those who have taken some time off (a few months or even a few years!), muscles you never realized you had will be sore after a good lesson. Other benefits include practice in critical thinking, problem-solving, and teamwork skills, as it’s just you and a 1,000-pound animal with a definite mind of its own! Parents find that lessons and activities also teach a sense of responsibility and how to properly care for an animal, not to mention the proven therapeutic effects that riders of all ages experience. “Riding instills confidence and a unique self-awareness, as your body tells the horse what to do,” says Mallory Giebink, Riding Instructor at Legacy. “We start teaching at three years of age, and it’s amazing to see a three-year-old control a 1,000-pound animal while keeping a huge smile on their face! Priceless!” It’s no secret that horseback riding is a wonderful sport for children and teens who may not excel at a conventional team sport, such as soccer or basketball. But for children who enjoy the team aspect of competition, Legacy also has opportunities with their Academy Team. Summer camps are also available for various age groups and skill levels, as well as a winter break camp between the Christmas and New Year’s holidays. In 2018, they also introduced a Riding Series for Adults and Homeschooled Children, and this month they will kick-off a new Adult Fall Introductory Riding Series with three different scheduling options. During the five-week period, participants learn riding and horse basics, while making some fantastic new friends.
Nicolette Anderson, another Riding Instructor at Legacy, explains that many adults ride at the stables, some who used to ride as children and are anxious to dust off their riding skills, and others who have always wished to ride a horse, but never had the opportunity. They even host a regular group of women who steal away from stressful corporate jobs to come out to the barn, allowing a much-needed escape to reconnect and also get in a good workout. Several pairs of mothers and daughters are also frequent riders— making the most of a great bonding experience over a shared passion! “Absolutely anyone can be part of our barn family,” assures Jeanine Lovell, Riding Academy Manager and Head Riding Instructor, emphasizing there is something for everyone, including kids, teens, parents, high-level competitors, those who compete occasionally, and those who just want to enjoy the company of the horses. The staff is especially proud of the Ambassador Program—a working student program that allows teenagers and adults to work at the barn, learning horse care and facility maintenance. “It’s great for teenagers to learn about time management, responsibility, accountability, professionalism, and other skills that will guide them as they venture into the workforce,” recommends Jeanine. “It teaches them how to conduct themselves around customers and treat everyone with respect, as they represent Legacy as an ambassador.” Discover your own passion for horses—or renew a childhood hobby—by joining the fun and fellowship at Legacy Saddlebreds. Visit their beautiful stables at 4151 Thomasville Road, Winston-Salem, call them at 336-529-6760, or learn more about their lessons,
camps, and clinics at Legacysaddlebreds.com. If you’re planning a wedding or other special event, be sure to visit legacystablesandevents.com or call 336-293-7159, to see how easy it is to plan an unforgettable event in this truly perfect setting!
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A single-premium annuity is one option for a more secure retirement. With a single payment, you can convert a portion of your savings into guaranteed income for life. The periodic payments help create a budget for essential costs, like utilities, groceries and housing. You can spend your remaining savings on lifestyle choices, such as travel or entertainment, without worrying how to pay for necessities. A Modern Woodmen financial representative can help you estimate how long your savings will last and develop a strategy to make sure your money lasts your lifetime. Make sure you don’t outlive your savings. Gain peace of mind with a financial plan to maintain your lifestyle and independence.
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Denzil Strickland is a brain-injury survivor on a mission. He has first-hand knowledge of what a brain injury can do to a person and what recovery looks and feels like. Armed with his experiences and understanding, Denzil has set-up a support group open to other braininjury survivors. HIS STORY In December 2004, Denzil suffered a brain aneurysm. He spent two weeks in intensive care, followed by a difficult recovery period of approximately two years. “It was an almost seven-year process to get back to where I felt I was before the brain aneurysm. Recovery is a lifelong process,” Denzil explained. Denzil’s professional career is in advertising. In addition, he’s also a published author, currently working on his second novel. Although he remains involved in advertising and writing, he views the nurturing and continued expansion of the Brain Injury Survivors group as his life’s work. “We had three people at our first meeting, four at the second, and now our average attendance is about twelve. Considering that we just started meeting in January 2018, and are still letting the community know about this group, the growth rate is encouraging.” MEETING INFORMATION The Brain Injury Survivors group meets the second Monday of each month at St. Timothy’s Episcopal Church (2575 Parkway Drive) in Winston-Salem. The overall purpose of the meetings is to provide mutual support and a forum for those at varying levels of recovery to share and offer encouragement. Denzil stressed, “This group does not have any medical background, and we are not competing with other support groups; we see ourselves as more of the ‘parking lot conversations after a meeting.’ While there is a structure to the meetings, the intent is to get together with others who have something in common, so that discussions do not require so much explanation. The members get what others are saying.” Realizing that only another brain-injury survivor knows what it’s like to endure and strive for recovery is the point of the meetings. Initially, some new members have difficulty even talking about their injuries. The survivors attending the meetings sustained their injuries in a number of ways; some occurred from strokes, concussions, aneurysms, or traumatic brain injuries. Every injury is different, and symptoms may manifest themselves differently, depending on the point of 36 / FORSY T H FAMILYMAG A ZIN E.COM
injury. Feeling free to talk, interact, and discuss with those in similar circumstances is empowering. Early in the recovery process, most find they can’t do what they used to and may become depressed, experience anger issues, frustration, lack of mobility, physical manifestations, inability to focus or have memory issues. Hearing others share those feelings and that improvement may be slow but steady over time provides encouragement. Denzil sees these sessions as building relationships outside the scope of meetings for additional support. “Positive thinking is important to recovery. Don’t limit yourself to what you’ve been told you can do. Try and push forward and don’t let others determine your boundaries,” explained Denzil. HOW THE GROUP WORKS Each session is for an hour and a half. Check the website for any schedule changes during the holiday period and for information about new groups forming in other parts of the area. Every session has a specific topic for discussions, such as nutrition, sleep issues, meditation/quiet time, the need for exercise, and patience in allowing the time for healing. “Typically, we spend around 20 minutes on the planned topic,” explained Denzil, who acts as the group moderator. “The remainder of the meeting is devoted to sharing. New members introduce themselves, and other members may share experiences. Caregivers are also welcome to attend.” Basic guidelines include using first names only, keeping all discussions confidential, and letting everyone get a chance to speak. Cooperation within the group is key to its success. HOW TO JOIN THE GROUP Joining Brain Injury Survivors is easy. After potential members make their interest known via phone (336.705.7795) or e-mail (firstname.lastname@example.org), Denzil contacts each of them and explains the logistics of when and where the meetings are held. Currently, members attend from Forsyth County, Lexington, Lewisville, and Greensboro. Plans are underway to expand the meetings to other areas. CONTACT INFORMATION For additional information, contact Denzil via phone at 336.705.7795, via e-mail at braininjurysurvivors@yahoo. com, or visit their website (Braininjorysurvivors.net). Support through common experiences is important. Talking with someone who understands personally what you have gone through can be a cathartic experience.
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Migrant Mother. White Angel Breadline. Broke, Baby Sick and Car Trouble. The devastation our country endured through the Great Depression inspired a host of socially conscious photographers to capture the painful stories of a time to which we, as Americans, hope to never return. However, poverty in modern day America remains persistent and endemic in our communities. Though this contemporary poverty may look different from the poverty of Dorothea Lange’s photography making it sometimes unrecognizable and hidden, the impacts on children, on seniors, on families and on community health remain the same. Second Harvest Food Bank is proud to partner with Reynolda House Museum of American Art as the museum presents Dorothea Lange’s America, an exhibition of the legendary documentary photographer’s work during the 1930s. The timing of the exhibition could not be more suited to present day concerns. This month, Congress will work to reconcile House and Senate versions of the 2018 Farm Bill, which include proposals that will either strengthen or further dismantle our nation’s nutrition support programs for families, children and seniors. As we bear witness together to the poverty of nearly a century ago and reflect on poverty in contemporary America, these comparisons can create a new lens through which to understand the struggles before us and the importance of all sectors working together to strengthen our communities. More information about the exhibition is online at reynoldahouse.org/america.
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10 WAYS to Practice
Self-Care as a Working Parent BY TABI FALCONE
important function of parenthood is to raise good human beings who become happy, healthy and productive members of society. In order to do that, parents need to teach by example—model healthy boundaries and put worth on taking care of themselves. Far too many working parents fall into the trap of putting themselves last in favor of doing everything for their children. The list below includes practical ways for busy parents to practice self-care and live their lives by the example they want to set for their children.
1. TAKE A TIMEOUT. When overwhelmed, separating yourself to spend some time alone is a great tool for self-care. Not only will this give you a break to regroup, but it will also teach your children coping techniques, as well. Timeouts can be quick, to fit into your busy day, sometimes only 5 minutes of quiet is needed to re-set yourself.
thousand different activities. Between time and money, you need to make sure you have family time together and don’t spend your entire lives in the car. Know that you have limits to how many things you can do in a week and don’t be afraid to tell your kids, “No!” It will help them down the road to understand priorities and not being able to do everything when they’re adults.
2. EXERCISE. Endorphins are a powerful thing. Not only will exercise improve your health and set a great example of modeling healthy behavior for your children; exercise has been scientifically shown to increase happiness and improve mental health. Most importantly, your kids will think you’re totally awesome when you can do more pushups than they can. Workouts can cut out chunks of time in your day, but working parents can easily work around that by taking early morning trips to the gym, doing lunchtime workouts, utilizing gym childcare centers (they get to hang out with other kids and have fun, too!) or even finding free YouTube videos to do at night after the kids are in bed.
5. HOST A “WINE AND PAINT” OR CRAFTING NIGHT. These can be a wild success! The supplies can be purchased on sale if budgeting is an issue. There are tons of easy DIY projects available on Pinterest, and if you’re hosting, there is no need to get a babysitter. Bonus points if you invite your friends with kids who can occupy yours during the painting or crafting. Not everybody has to do the same craft, but you get to hang out with your friends and get a cool piece of art at the end!
3. MAKE TIME FOR YOUR HOBBY. Time spent doing things you love is worth its weight in relaxation. Whatever your hobby is, make sure not to ignore it for your children. They need to know that your existence isn’t just for feeding them and working, that you’re a human, too! If you don’t have a hobby… find one! Try a few things out until you find something you enjoy. Hobbies are also something that can take as little or as much time as you want them to, depending on your interests and schedules. 4. LIMIT EXTRACURRICULAR ACTIVITIES TO 1 OR 2 PER CHILD. Nobody has time to be running around the world dropping off a thousand kids at a
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6. SPEND TIME WITH YOUR FRIENDS. It is so important to find and keep your tribe. Friends are so key to some people’s well-being that they can feel themselves getting stressed out if it has been too long since a good chat. You can go out and grab coffee, dinner, go on a hike, or even just talk on the phone—but make time for your core friendships. 7. WAKE UP 30 MINUTES EARLY AND ENJOY A CUP OF COFFEE OR TEA ALONE. Set your alarm a little early to be able to have coffee or tea, and get some “you time” in for reading, meal planning or one of those hobbies you’ve now picked up. Even just thirty minutes of solo time can launch your day on a positive note, and it will grow from there. 8. READ A BOOK. Reading allows you to escape into an
alternate reality for a few hours. Whether you disappear into a fantasy land of elves, delve knee-deep into a murder mystery, or get engulfed in an inspirational “howto” guide on discovering your potential; detaching from reality by curling up with a good book (or Kindle) is a sure-fire blood pressure reducer. An added plus: books and Kindles are small enough to throw into your bag to pull out for a lunch break destress session. 9. TAKE A CLASS. This one is great and can be adjusted based on budget. You can take a weekly long-term class, sign up for dance lessons, or even a one-time jewelry making class at a local art school. Something to get you out of the house and stretching your brain or body. The options are extensive for classes outside of traditional working hours, depending on what schools and studios you have around you. Like yoga and animals? Find a baby goat yoga class! Want to expand your knowledge of power tools? There’s a class for that, too! 10. JOIN A PARENT’S GROUP. There are local parent groups as well as online parent groups, depending on the availability in your area. This can get difficult for working parents, as many of the in-person parenting groups meet during the day, but this trend is beginning to change. There are also MANY online parenting groups that cater to different parenting styles and circumstances. Thanks to the Internet and social media, you can now find parenting groups as specific as “Secular Foster & Adoptive Parenting,” “Crunchy Parents Who Vaccinate” and “Conservative Vegan Parenting.” Having these connections to be able to talk to people who are going through what you’re going through, or have gone through it already, makes more of a difference than you might realize.
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Now Open to Boys AND Girls! BY MADDIE WILDER
August, Boy Scouts of America is opening Cub Scouts to both boys and girls for the first time, and many families are excited about the new change. Scouting embraces the outdoors with handson activities like camping, hiking and physical activities, while focusing on strong values that build physical, mental and emotional character. By welcoming girls into the program, more youth will have access to the character development and values-based leadership that Scouting promises, and be better prepared for future success. Cub Scouts is a yearround program that helps build confident young leaders and is excited to welcome young girls into their program. The Harterink family is one example of a family delighted about this new opportunity for girls. Shane Harterink spent four years leading his son’s Cub Scout pack and can’t wait to share the same experience with his younger daughter. Shane has watched his son go through the Cub Scout program since he joined in first grade. Since then, his son has enjoyed the outdoor activities that are core to the Scouts program and has grown into a more independent person who is about to start Boy Scouts. Shane’s daughter has watched her brother hike, camp and shoot with avid interest and a growing desire to get involved herself. She intended to join Venture crew—a BSA program for boys and girls ages 14–20—as soon as she was old enough, since that was the only option at the time, but now that Cub Scouts is open to both boys and girls, Shane can’t wait to see his daughter join, and neither can she. Shane’s daughter has been going on family camping trips since she was young, a family tradition that started a while ago, and she’s no stranger to the outdoors: “She doesn’t mind getting dirty, she really likes the adventure and can’t wait to shoot a BB gun like her brother does,” he acknowledged. “She is really excited about joining Cub Scouts.” This new initiative comes from recent feedback that families attend Scout meetings as an entire family and would love a program that included their daughters. Surveys collected said that 90% of families who aren’t already involved with Scouting would be interested in a program like Cub Scouts for their daughters. Boy Scouts of America’s core mission and values align with this inclusion, and the organization sees a great opportunity to instill these in both young men and women.
Not all existing packs will make this transition. The current program allows flexibility for different packs across the country. One option is that packs will include both boy dens and girl densâ€”with the dens remaining single gender (and coming together only for awards ceremonies and family activities). Another option allows for an all-female pack comprised of several all-female dens. The last option is not a change; packs can choose to stay all male. In the Old Hickory Council, which serves youth and families in Forsyth County in addition to seven northwest North Carolina counties, including Alleghany, Ashe, Stokes, Surry, Watauga, Wilkes and Yadkin, about 30 of the 75 Cub Scout packs will offer options for girls. If you are interested in finding out more about this new opportunity for girls or want to find a pack for your daughter or son, visit BeAScout.org to find a local Cub Scout pack in your area. Girls and boys ages 5-10 are encouraged to join.
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Positive Beginnings, Bright Futures:
The Primary Division at The Piedmont School BY KORI MACKALL, DIRECTOR OF COMMUNICATIONS
over thirty-five years The Piedmont School, an independent school in High Point, has been known for providing an individualized education to Triad area students with ADHD and/ or language-based learning differences such as Dyslexia. For much of its history, The Piedmont School predominantly geared its program for students in 2nd-8th grade. As the school has grown, a real need developed to provide the individualized and specialized education TPS specializes in to the youngest of students. In 2014, The Piedmont School founded the KinderAcademy program which made The Piedmont School’s methodology available to Kindergarten students for the first time in the school’s thirty-year history. This program has since evolved into the Primary Division of The Piedmont School working with students Kindergarten through 2nd grade providing them with an individualized and developmentally appropriate curriculum to help each student start their school career with a positive, enriching, and goaloriented beginning. At TPS the importance of early intervention is understood by administration and the Primary Division faculty. The Piedmont School also understands that some of the most challenging milestones of parenthood come along with the decisions regarding education and schooling. Which school is best for my child? Is my child ready? Will my five-year-old succeed in a traditional class of twenty (or more) students? These questions are often the ones parents wrack their brains (and hearts) over. The Primary Division of TPS has grown to be a unique educational program for many families in the Triad area who have struggled with these questions. While The Piedmont School specializes in working with students with ADHD or learning differences, the school also understands that many times younger children are not diagnosed until age seven or after. Unlike the 3rd-12th grade programs, the Primary Division at TPS does not require students have an official diagnosis of ADHD or a learning difference for enrollment.
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Instead the program aims to serve students who may benefit from a smaller classroom environment and a more individualized approach of instruction for their Kindergarten/1st/2nd grade years. In order to provide a positive start, students receive initial benchmarking assessments to gage their independent abilities at the beginning of the year and will be informally assessed throughout the year to determine their growth. These assessments will help parents have an idea of any strengths and weaknesses their child is experiencing and also help parents provide valuable and professional information that can assist in exploring any possible diagnosis determinations. The faculty and administration help guide parents through the necessary educational evaluation processes as well as keeping parents well-informed on their child’s progress throughout the year. When visiting the Primary Division, it is common to see a lot of movement. The Piedmont School understands that young children are most successful in the classroom when they are not confined to sitting and attending to a task for long periods of time. It is often noted by visiting families that the Primary students are among the most engaged and it is not uncommon to see individualized instruction, small group instruction and whole group instruction within a single hour. While movement and change of direction are common in the Primary Division, they are executed with structure and purpose at all times. The program also values experiential learning and real-world application of concepts, therefore the Primary students take many field trips throughout the school year to help them see what they are learning in action. Primary students have visited local fire stations, libraries, apple orchards, as well as the Apple Store for hands-on education in 3D modeling and animation. Students are constantly encouraged to explore their strengths and creativity. The Primary Division students participate in the same well-balanced education that all students at The Piedmont School receive that includes music, art, drama, and physical education classes in addition to their core academic areas. The Piedmont School is located at 815 Old Mill Road in High Point, NC. Conveniently located off of 311, it sits about 25 minutes from downtown Winston-Salem and 10 minutes from Kernerville. For families interested in learning more about the Primary Division at The Piedmont School, please visit: http://www.thepiedmontschool.com/academics/primary To arrange a tour or have questions answered, please call the school at 336-883-0992. The Piedmont School accepts several of the NCSEAA state grants including the Opportunity Education Scholarship, Disabilities Grant, and the NC Education Savings Account. More information about these grant programs can be found at www.ncseaa.edu.
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BY DR. DEBBIE LINVILLE Each month, I spotlight two books guaranteed to delight readers and provide fun activities to further extend the meaning of each reading experience. With so many wonderful titles available, this is no easy task! I bring a 35-year teaching career, literacy expertise, and a passion for creating joyful readers and writers to every column I write. I certainly hope you enjoy this month’s picks as much as I do.
“A” Is For Apple Next to bananas, apples are the mostconsumed fruit in the United States. Americans love their apples: raw, caramelized, stewed, candied, baked, grilled, pressed, sauced, dried, poached, smashed, glazed, pickled, sautéed, stuffed, and fried. This delicious fruit originated in Central Asia thousands of years ago. When the Pilgrims came to America in the 1600s, they brought seeds from over 70 varieties of apple trees in England. By the early 1800s, John Chapman (best known as folklore legend, Johnny Appleseed) had introduced apple trees to large parts of Canada and the American Midwest. Over 14,000 varieties of apples were planted in the U.S., and while there are far fewer varieties grown today (about 2500), America is second-largest apple producer in the world (China ranks first). Knowing just the right time to harvest apples is the key to best quality, taste, and longest shelf-life. In the Piedmont region of North Carolina, the apple
harvest season runs from late August to late October. There is nothing like biting into a fresh apple right off the tree. If you have a few hours to spare, gather the family and head to one of the apple picking locations less than an hour from Forsyth County. A fun adventure awaits! Hill’s Orchard & Vineyard 4554 Finch Farm Road Trinity, NC 27370 Phone: (336) 475-7042 Millstone Creek Orchards 506 Parks Crossroad Church Road Ramseur, NC 27316 Phone: (336) 824-5263
“If one man and a few apple seeds can change the world, then I can, too.” APPLE SAYINGS Quote: “You are the apple of my eye.”
Ten Red Apples Pat Hutchins, beloved author, and illustrator of over 40 books, never disappoints! In this highly engaging predictable text, readers can quickly chime in and follow along with the repetitive phrases, numbers, and familiar farm animal noises. As a succession of animals takes apples from the tree, there is no fruit left for the farmer’s wife to bake a pie. The farmer saves the day when he spies another tree off in the distance laden with juicy red apples ready for picking. A lesson in sharing, thinking of others, and problem-solving is highlighted in this cute circular storyline. Hutchins’s trademark gouache paintings of hinged wooden figures—including the familiar farming couple from Changes, Changes and Rosie the hen from Rosie’s Walk—are the perfect accompaniment to this delightful tale. Ten red apples hanging on a tree. Yippee, fiddle-deefee!.... Save some for me! 44 / FORSY T H FAMILYMAG A ZIN E.COM
Explanation: One’s favorite person; the one you love most. Quote: “One bad apple spoils the whole bunch.” Explanation: The negative influence of one in a group could prove to be the undoing of the entire group that would otherwise (without the negative influence) remain good. Quote: “Don’t upset the apple cart.” Explanation: Take care not to ruin carefully laid plans. Quote: “As American as apple pie.” Explanation: Something is very typically American. Quote: “Rotten to the core.” Explanation: To behave in a way that is not honest or moral.
APPLES No K-2 home or school library is complete without at least one book by prolific author and illustrator, Gail Gibbons. She has single-handedly taught children more about the world than any other picture book writer. While the (over 50) book titles are simplistic, the content is not. Gibbons anticipates questions young readers have; producing texts that are extremely informative and at the same time, highly understandable. In Apples, she shares the process from blossom to pollination to picking and provides plentiful tips on how to plant and take care of apple trees. She also discusses different varieties of apples, their various parts, the legend of Johnny Appleseed, and even directions for making an apple pie. The non-fiction information about all things apples and the beautiful illustrations are a winning combination. Each year about 250 million bushels of apples are grown in the United States—the most popular apple is the Red Delicious, which originated on a farm in Iowa in 1881.
Growing an Apple Story In Ten Red Apples, Hutchins uses a different verb to describe how each animal eats the apple picked from the tree (e.g., horse chomps and goat gulps). Expand your vocabulary and grow the story by coming up with as many different verbs (action words) as you can to describe how each farm animal can move. Then, select one of those verbs for every animal and replace the word “came” on each page and reread the story. For example, “Horse pranced and ate one, chomp, chomp, chomp.”
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Horse Cow Donkey Goat Pig
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Sheep Goose Duck Hen
Easy as (Apple) Pie Likely, you have enjoyed a delicious piece of apple pie, but have you ever made one? Solicit help from an adult and follow these five easy
directions to make an all-American treat. Serve your family or friends a slice of warm apple pie (with a scoop of vanilla ice-cream on top, if desired). Psst…be sure to save a piece for yourself! INGREDIENTS: 6-8 apples (Granny Smith and Jonathans work well) 2 frozen pie crusts, thawed ½ cup brown sugar ¼ tsp. salt ½ tsp. cinnamon ¼ tsp. nutmeg Vanilla ice cream (optional) DIRECTIONS: 1. Peel and slice apples (remove the cores) and put the slices into one thawed pie crust (leave crust in pan). 2. Mix all dry ingredients together and sprinkle over the apples. 3. Take other thawed pie crust out of pan and drape it over applefilled bottom pie crust.
4. Pinch down the edges to seal and remove any extra dough. Poke small holes (use a fork) into the top. 5. Bake for 50 minutes at 425°F *recipe from Apples, by Gail Gibbons
Apple Print Animal Art Apple printmaking is fun! Use corn cob holders to make the apple halves easier to handle when dipping them into the paint. Necessary supplies are few: paint in any/every color you wish to use (tempera or finger paint), white paper, apples cut in half (ask an adult to cut the apple from top to bottom or side to side), a black (washable) marker, and wiggly eyes (or black round stickers or construction paper circles). Once the apple prints dry, add wiggly eyes and draw details with the black marker to complete the animal art: insect, bird, reptile, fish, mammal, or imaginary creature.
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BY VONDA HENDERSON
The “Sandwich Generation” has changed from the original 1981 definition, when it referred to those in their 30s/40s (mostly women) who had young children to care for, as well as aging parents. Nowadays, the definition is broader, covering both genders with the “sandwich” age group, ranging from 40s up to 59 years, having aging parents and/ or young or over-18-age children at home. Statistics about the Sandwich Generation: • Approximately 43.5 million people are unpaid caregivers. • 80% of long-term care is provided by family or friends. •6 6% of caregivers are currently employed women in their 50s or 60s. • $304,000 of income is lost annually by caregivers’ work absences. • One in four caregivers takes a leave of absence to care for family. • The average time devoted to caregiving is approximately 25 hours per week. •O ne in seven of the sandwich generation provides some level of financial support to parents or their children. Ideas for the “Sandwich” Group: Many are already well into the sandwich generation phase of life; this is a growing segment. You may not be at the point of caregiving, but some general ideas on how to address that phase may be helpful. Have the financial talk. Asking ones’ parents about their financial status might be uncomfortable; however, if you find that you need to help ensure that bills are paid, you need to know their financial picture. We’re not generally wired to share with our children how much money we have, or what our financial portfolio looks like; but for a caregiver, it’s important information. Perhaps there are discount options for seniors available or free versus paid services available. Giving them a hand in setting up or re-working a budget
gives them (and you) a chance to see what money is coming into the home and where it’s being spent. That can be an eyeopening experience. Equally important to the financial talk is the importance of remembering whose money it really is. You may find yourself writing checks or paying online on behalf of a parent; but, at the end of the day, it’s their money, and they need to continue to be a major part of the process. On the other side of the “sandwich,” teaching your children how to budget and save is just as important. Having them sit with you occasionally when paying bills, teaching them how to write a check and balance an account, and sharing the family budget can give them a perspective on money management that will help them as they mature. Learning to save for something can be a rewarding experience. Seek caregiver help if needed. Not everyone is able to be a caregiver. Research local options for adult daycare opportunities, in-home care, or temporary assistance, as needed. Make time for self-care. With two generations looking to you for help, taking care of yourself is in everyone’s best interest. Be sure to carve out time for physical activity, whether sports, exercise classes, running, or yoga. You need an outlet for your own health. If hobbies are important to you, make time to enjoy being creative. Don’t neglect your friendships— those may be your source of strength and an outlet during times of stress. Love the time of caring. Everyone goes through cycles or phases of life. Take time to enjoy the specialness and closeness of caring for parents, as well as children. Use the lessons you learned as a child and pass them forward to your children while you care for your parents.
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ITCH, ITCH, ITCH: BY MEGAN TAYLOR
Say Goodbye to the Symptoms of Eczema
my whole life, I have struggled with eczema flare-ups. I’ve tried numerous lotions, prescription creams, and more, trying to find what worked. Moreover, the battle with eczema is more common than many people might think. According to the National Eczema Association, over 30 million Americans have the condition, which can affect babies, children, and adults alike.
As stated on the association’s website, eczema can be defined as “A group of conditions that cause the skin to become red, itchy, and inflamed.” However, none of the groups are contagious. There are multiple types, including atopic dermatitis. This kind is known for being chronic, and one of the more severe forms. While there is no known cause for the condition, medical experts have found that genes can play a part. An affected person might not have enough filaggrin, a protein that helps the top layer of skin create a protective barrier to keep moisture in and bacteria out; or the person is said to have an “over-reactive immune system” that is easily triggered by various environmental substances. Common triggers include dry skin, stress, metals, fragrances, pollen, household cleaners and detergents, mold, sweat, climates that are too dry or too humid, long, hot showers or baths, fabrics, and body washes. What irritates the skin varies from person to person, and it might take some time to figure out what causes a flare-up for you. Consult with your primary care physician or dermatologist if you are having difficulties. A key to identifying triggers is to pay attention to the symptoms of the disease. Eczema can appear in only one area of the body or all over. In addition, different parts can be aggravated at different times. If you notice your skin becoming very itchy or dry, remember to not scratch and cause the area to get more inflamed. This is usually one of the first symptoms a person sees. Others include red, inflamed skin, dark-colored patches, oozing, scaly patches, or swelling. Note that you may have all, or only a few, symptoms. As with the cause, there is no absolute treatment. However, there are many ways to help control the itch. First, know what provokes your skin and try to stay away from it. Maybe you need to change your laundry detergent to something fragrance-free or stop using the fancy perfumes. Also, always remember to moisturize daily, especially after taking a shower, bath, or being in the water. Try to lotion up within three minutes of getting out of the shower. Lastly, over-thecounter medicines and topical, injectable, and oral prescriptions are available. Yet, there are multiple other remedies, often overlooked, that can assist in maintaining symptoms. 48 / FORSY T H FAMILYMAG A ZIN E.COM
• Use colloidal oatmeal products, such as Aveeno, to relieve itching. You can either put it in a warm bath or use it in the form of a lotion or cream. Whether you decide to add oatmeal to your water or not, regularly take lukewarm showers or baths. Hotter temperatures dry out a person’s skin. • Moisturize with coconut oil. This item has antibacterial and anti-inflammatory benefits which prevent additional bacteria from seeping into the skin. Another option to try is olive oil. You may feel oily, but it is worth it in the end. • Speaking of moisturizing, thick creams are the way to go. Every day, I put on a thick cream multiple times, because it locks in more moisture than lighter lotions do. Plus, the cream keeps my skin from getting dry as I go about my plans. • Clean out your closet. Assistant Professor of dermatology at Columbia University Medical Center Doctor Lindsey Bordone states in the article, “10 Home Remedies for Eczema,” that rough fabrics, such as wool, are triggers. An alternative is to go for more breatheable fabrics. For me, cotton is the best option. • Watch what you eat. Food allergies can affect your skin. For example, soy products, fish, gluten, nuts, and eggs can create inflammation, as well as sugary products. On the opposite end, anti-inflammatory foods, foods with a high amount of quercetin (an antioxidant and antihistamine), and probiotic-rich foods improve symptoms and irritated areas. So, stock up on all the apples, blueberries, broccoli, and salmon that you can! Eczema can be an annoying recurrence, but it is one that can be maintained. If you suffer from this condition, try these tips above to help ease your symptoms and flare-ups. Always consult with your doctor before starting any new treatment. Finding the best solution for you is possible, and will make life a little bit easier.
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Kid-friendly Crock-Pot Recipes St. Patrick’s Day Treats BY KRISTI JOHNSON MARION & EMILY DODSON
BY KRISTI JOHNSON MARION
School days are upon us and it’s a great time to pull out the crock-pot for easy dinner ideas with less mess to clean up and more time to spend with family.
CROCK-POT MAC ‘N’ CHEESE INGREDIENTS: 1½ cups milk
CROCK-POT CHEESE TORTELLINI
¼ cup (½ stick) butter, melted and cooled to room temperature
1 (19-oz.) bag of frozen cheese tortellini 1 small bag of fresh spinach
2 (14½-oz.) cans of Italian-style diced tomatoes, drained
3 cups shredded Italian blend cheese
1 block (8 oz.) of cream cheese (softened in microwave)
½ tsp. salt
INGREDIENTS: 3-4 boneless, skinless chicken breasts
1 (12-oz.) can of evaporated milk
CROCK-POT PIZZA CHICKEN
2 tsp. Italian seasoning blend 1 tsp. garlic powder
1 tsp. red pepper ﬂakes
2 tsp. Parmesan cheese (plus extra for topping) 1 cup pizza sauce
1 lb. Italian chicken/turkey sausage links
¾ cups low-fat shredded Mozzarella cheese
½ cup grated Parmesan cheese
3-4 cups of chicken broth (start with 3, add more to preference)
1 Green bell pepper, sliced
8 oz. pasta or pre-made pizza crust
1. Grease the inside of the crock-pot with cooking spray.
1. Slice and brown the sausage.
2. Combine milk, evaporated milk, butter, eggs and salt in the crock-pot and whisk until smooth.
2. Cube the cream cheese and place all ingredients in the crock-pot.
3. Add Italian cheese and pepper to taste, stirring to coat.
3. Cook on low for 4-6 hours.
4. Sprinkle Parmesan cheese on top.
Notes: Keep an eye on your tortellini, as it may be done early. If it’s still soupy, leave the lid off for the last half hour of cooking. If you use Neufchatel (one-third-fat cream cheese), know that it will not melt as well and will leave curds.
½ pound elbow macaroni black pepper
5. Cover and cook on high 30 minutes. 6. Reduce heat and cook on low for 1½–2 hours, until the center does not jiggle and pasta is tender. 7. Serve in bowls while warm.
2 oz. sliced turkey pepperoni
Place chicken in crock-pot. Season with Italian seasoning, garlic powder, red pepper ﬂakes and Parmesan cheese. Add green pepper and pour pizza sauce over chicken. Cover and cook on low for 4 hours. During last 30 minutes of cooking time, toss in pepperoni and top with shredded cheese. Serve over hot cooked pasta or ovenwarmed pizza crust.
SHOPPING LIST CANNED: Italian-style diced tomatoes CONDIMENTS/SOUPS: Chicken broth Pizza sauce
DAIRY COOLER: Butter Cream cheese Eggs Milk Italian shredded cheese Parmesan cheese
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Shredded Mozzarella cheese MEAT: Chicken breasts Pepperoni Turkey or chicken sausage
PASTA: Frozen tortellini ½ lb. elbow macaroni Pasta of choice, if preferred for Chicken Pizza recipe
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— Hello, Fall! BY MEGAN TAYLOR
the calendar switches to September 1st, many people start thinking about fall. With all the gorgeous colors, delicious smells, and autumn activities, what’s not to love? Yet, the ﬁrst day of the new season doesn’t begin until Saturday, September 22nd. As we change from summer to fall, there are many ways to say goodbye to the old and welcome in the new. Take some time this month to celebrate the two seasons with your loved ones with these fun ideas.
Goodbye, Summer!: • Remember the fun times of summer all year long by creating a photo album. Gather all your pictures from the past few months. Then, design a scrapbook, using colorful paper, stickers, markers, etc. This is a great way to reﬂect on all the laughs and happy moments your family had during summer 2018. Other creative ways to commemorate the good times include choosing a single photo that summarizes the summer and placing it in a write-on frame. Next, write memories around the picture through phrases and sentences. Always remember to include the year! Another option is by channeling the summer into a journal. Describe events and activities that stick out in your family’s mind, as well as adding in the funny moments. In 20 years, you’ll be glad you penned those memories. Lastly, start a memory box with items that are special to whatever happened throughout the season. Also, include a note, explaining why each object is important. • If you like an “animated” aspect to your memories, record interviews of your loved ones about their thoughts on the summer. All you need is a camera to have fun. Be silly with your questions and don’t worry about the bloopers. Candid reﬂections are often the best. Make sure to save the videos in a protective place. • Host a farewell party for your friends, family, and neighbors. Possible themes for your festivities are a beach party, a luau, “under the sea,” a barbecue, etc. Make your decorations to match your theme, if you decide to do one. Cook up summertime foods, ones that are light and multi-colored. Have your party outside and include outdoor games for your guests. Lastly, you really need to have entertainment and music. Maybe watch a summer movie or listen to beach tunes. There is nothing better than ending a season on a high note.
Hello, Fall!: • I’ll be honest. Once it becomes September, it is full-on autumn for me and it starts with decorating the house. Pumpkins, leaves, and more make their appearance, and candles that smell like cinnamon and apple pie are burned. There is no shortage of fall decorations in stores, so why not stock up and welcome in the season with lively decorations? • Create a seasonal bucket list. Every year, there are certain festivities that I must do, such as going to the fair, shopping for pumpkins, and taking in the hues of the sights outside. Think about events and activities that make fall special for you. Maybe it is baking an apple pie or getting a pumpkin spice latte every morning. Or you might have to go on a bike ride through the mountains or jump in a pile of leaves. Make your bucket list ﬁt you and your lifestyle. In addition, your list will become a tangible memory to add to your collection. • Get outside. Autumn is a time of the year when people can enjoy indoors and outdoors. With the weather cooling down, you are able to spend more time outside without sweating through your clothes. Every day, try to do something that isn’t conﬁned to inside. If possible, always bring your camera to capture the images of those around you and the images of the season.
This time of the year is a favorite for many people. The activities above can be interchanged for any season and can be used as either a goodbye or a hello. Enjoy the new season and make the most of fall 2018! 52 / FORSY T H FAMILYMAG A ZIN E.COM
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Laura Tucker was growing up, Family Taco Night wasn’t just a dinner. It was an event. A mealtime favorite for all, the entire family pitched in to prepare all the possible toppings while her mom browned and seasoned the ground beef. “It was so exciting when Mom announced it was going to be Taco Night. My dad and I used to beg her to make them,” said Laura. “And even as an adult, it’s still an event.” So what makes Taco Night such a favorite for so many families? Reasons include: • They are easy to make. • Tacos meet the dietary standard for virtually every appetite. Seriously, who doesn’t love tacos? Even the pickiest eater will ﬁnd something to like. And they work for both carnivores and vegetarians without having to make two separate meals! • Taco Nights make dinner an interactive meal experience that tends to encourage conversation. Really, the only debate that happens on Taco Night is the age-old controversy that has plagued families across the country for years—hard shell or soft?
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With all that said, setting up a perfect Taco Night is easy, and a fun way to guarantee everyone shows up at dinner time! TACO NIGHT SHOULD INCLUDE: • MEATS: Ground beef or shredded chicken. Grilled shrimp is a great option, too. • SHELLS: Thankfully, the hard shell/soft shell debate can be easily settled. Just have both. The low-carb enthusiasts can enjoy tacos on a lettuce leaf (iceberg being the best option in this case). • VEGGIES: Shredded lettuce, diced tomatoes, and diced onions. • OPTIONAL TOPPINGS: Diced avocado, cilantro, radishes, jalapenos, and black olives. • CHEESE: Lots of it! • OTHER: Salsa, sour cream, guacamole, wedges of lime. • SIDES: Mexican rice, black beans and/ or pinto beans. Tacos are ﬁlling and, frankly, it’s comfort food that can (not always) have a healthy twist. Admittedly, taco calories are diverse, depending on the one who is doing the assembly work.
With all that said, schedule your own Taco Night soon! And for some added fun, consider adding some fun quotes about Tacos to each place setting. Some ideas include: • Inhale tacos. Exhale negativity. • The only bad taco is the one you didn’t eat. • People need to understand the difference between wants and needs. Like I want abs, but I need tacos. • Yesterday, I really wanted tacos. Now I’m eating tacos. Follow your dreams. • All I’m saying is you’ve never seen me crying and eating tacos at the same time. • I eat tacos over a tortilla so that when stuff falls out—Boom! Another taco! • Thank goodness I don’t have to hunt for my own food. I don’t even know where tacos live. • I want to start juicing, but I’m hesitant because I don’t know how to juice tacos. • You cannot make everybody happy. You are not a taco. • Feed me tacos and tell me I’m pretty.
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WHEN OUR HOME REALLY ISN’T OUR CHILDREN’S HOME (at Least in Their Opinion)
a parent of teenagers, I’ve experienced a phenomenon in recent years that’s both discouraging and yet, at the same time, not all that surprising. The basic question that arises from this particular situation is, “What does home mean to our children?” Now I’m not talking about the fundamental base that provides security, nurturing, love, compassion, and empathy for their physical, mental and emotional needs. Instead, I’m speaking about their home in the literal sense. In other words, about the place where they grow up and which always will be, as long as their parents live, their home. Now, in relation to my earlier question, knowing this, you’d think they would take pride in their home and want to take care of it. Such things as keeping their rooms straight and clean, along with their bathrooms; their clothes picked up; and even concerning themselves with the outside appearance, such as mowing the yard, keeping the landscaping, ﬂowers and plants pruned and healthy, and so forth; as well as helping out with regular maintenance and repairs, as necessary. I know some of you are probably laughing at this assumption, thinking, “What world does this guy live in?” But that’s precisely my point. Why does this seem like such a preposterous idea? Why don’t children feel pride and an obligation in taking care of “their home?” Okay, technically I realize they don’t actually own it, but it’s still theirs in the emotional sense, at least. The reality is, children don’t feel that sense of ownership and obligation that we as parents do. Most don’t care about landscaping or yard work, nor do they care about cleanliness with regard to their rooms and such. They truly don’t feel the connection that parents do to this lifelong responsibility, and therein lies the problem, because parents need assistance as our children are growing up to help us manage all the routine duties that have to be performed on a regular basis. Which is why, I think, many older parents choose to downsize when their children move out of the nest. They simply don’t have
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the energy or stamina to keep up with all that needs to be done around the house. Now saying all this, I can’t say I don’t understand at all what they’re feeling, because I can still remember in my teenage years trying to get out of the house quickly before my dad got home and started handing out chores for me to do. I do acknowledge that I liked the way my childhood home was well kept and nice, especially when I had friends and dates to bring over. But I just wasn’t eager to be a part of the solution that makes that happen. I guess it’s just part of growing up and adjusting to the alarming transition from being a small child with no basic responsibilities except to play, only to be drawn into the teenage years, and thrust into a world of duties and chores that—let’s face it—no one likes to do. Ironically, when I eventually moved into my ﬁrst apartment solo, I was a bit of a neat freak. I kept it looking nice. In reality, of course, I didn’t have a lot in the beginning, so it didn’t take much effort to keep it that way, plus it being just me who lived there. Nevertheless, I took pride in it looking good, and I felt responsible for it without anyone telling me this was what I had to do. My parents obviously were not as amused by my sudden cleanliness streak, now that I was out on my own. The point, though, was that I had learned in a positive way from my responsibilities growing up. I guess the lesson from all this is that regardless of what our children put us through to get them to perform their chores and help out around the house, it’s important we teach them this responsibility. Basically, because they need to learn in life that we all have to do things we don’t like to do to maintain order in our environment and take care of our belongings. It makes sense to say, of course, that’s easier said than done; so Godspeed to us all in this endeavor. We’ll need it.
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Testing Reform Needed NOW! BY STEPHANIE HELSABECK
school year often begins with nervous anticipation…new teacher, new friends, sometimes a new school. These feelings are very natural as a child begins a new school year. What is un-natural are the negative feelings brought on at the beginning of third grade and continued until graduation, due to the nature of North Carolina’s End-ofGrade/End-of-Course testing program. As a teacher, I have seen students nervous and upset by the testing program. Some students become physically ill and wind up “getting sick” on the actual test. As a parent, I have witnessed the loss of sleep, appetite, and love of learning. At the beginning of third grade the focus quickly becomes “the test,” and most, if not all instruction revolves around this “snapshot” of student achievement administered over a few days at the end of the school year. Why does North Carolina put this much emphasis on one test? There is an entire school year to evaluate, so why is this test seen as the main way to evaluate our students and judge our schools? What can we do to change this? North Carolina’s Department of Public Instruction states on their website that these scores are used to measure student learning. So, what’s wrong with using scores in this way? Measurement experts agree there is no test good enough to be used as the primary basis to make any important educational decision.
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Here in N.C. they are used in that way. Administrators and teachers use test scores as a primary way to determine success of students, and success of the school itself, when in reality the scores are simply an indicator, not a way to show the complexity of the learning process and take into account the other socioeconomic factors that are beyond the reasonable accountability of the school system. Being a teacher myself, I have seen the effects of the testing program over the last twenty-ﬁve years. Educational researchers have also reported these negative aspects. Student engagement declines when schooling becomes “test prep.” What person wants to go to school and be forced to read mind-numbing selections and choose A, B, C, or D? How could student engagement not decline when the student is presented with learning tasks like this? Testing narrows the curriculum and forces teachers to teach to a test, which is a “one-size-ﬁts-all” approach that actually ﬁts few and negatively affects many. In fact, there was a nine-year study done by the National Research Council (2011) that found the emphasis on testing caused harm and produced little learning progress. There are many studies and articles I could cite that document the negative impact of our state’s approach to testing, but it can be easily searched using the internet for those wishing to delve further.
What can be done? For starters, we as citizens can become educated about what is happening in our schools, and about how money and instructional time is being thrown away due to these tests. School-based conversations on testing issues, and alternatives that are authentic ways to assess students need to be taking place in our communities. Facebook, web pages, and other social media, ﬂyers, and word of mouth can be used to spread the word that the testing program needs to change. There is already a website called FAIRTEST.ORG that has articles, sample letters to legislators, and information on successful actions taken in other states that have produced positive changes. For years, I have waited for the testing madness to end, but because we have moved to seeing students as “data,” I am afraid it won’t change until parents and citizens demand an end to the “highstakes” testing ﬁasco! There is nothing wrong with using a test as an indicator of student achievement. The problem is that here in N.C. it is used inappropriately. Students and teachers are judged harshly for scores that do not meet the state’s expectations. Testing to monitor growth is appropriate, but should be used as an indicator, not as part of a harsh reward/ punishment system. I invite you to join the conversation that can lead to positive change in testing for our students. There is no more time to waste!
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The George Hamilton IV
Music Festival BY MEGHAN E.W. CORBETT
George Hamilton IV Memorial “Folksy Music Festival” is a celebration of Americana music to beneﬁt the RJ Reynolds High School’s Arts Magnet Program and in memory of RJ Reynolds alumnus, George Hamilton IV. The event takes place at RJ Reynolds Auditorium from 5pm til 10pm on Saturday, September 22 and is the culmination of many special occasions including R.J. Reynolds High School transitioning to an arts magnet school, a beloved teacher suggesting the creation of an Arts Hall of Fame and the induction of George Hamilton, IV into that Hall of Fame in September of 2017.
“When the Arts Magnet Grant Committee was researching to write the federal magnet grant in 2007, they learned about many Reynolds alumni who went on to have impressive careers in the arts,” said Karen Morris, Arts Magnet Director. “The idea to have an Arts Hall of Fame and to celebrate these artists while connecting them to current students was born. When George Hamilton, IV was inducted into the R.J. Reynolds Arts Hall of Fame in 2017, his family attended and accepted the award on his behalf. George had ﬁrst performed on the RJ Reynolds stage as a high school student. When the family learned about the arts magnet program at Reynolds, they proposed moving [and event known as] 60 / FORSY T H FAMILYMAG A ZIN E.COM
FolksyFest to the place where their dad/husband got his start and to hold it as a fundraiser for the magnet program.” It then took several people working together to make it all happen. “It wasn’t until Roby Walls (beloved former RJR history teacher who produced the Key Club Follies for many years) said at the retirement breakfast in June of 2017, ‘Karen, I have a bone to pick with you. We have had a Sports Hall of Fame for many years, but we don’t have an Arts Hall of Fame and it is high time!’ Roby and another former teacher, Phyllis Dunning, joined current parents, teachers and other community members to put on the ﬁrst Arts Hall of Fame in September of 2017. Thirteen members were inducted and many made connections with current students. For example, music students Skyped with Ben Folds and performed for him via technology; theatre students learned from director, Michael Wilson, in person; Howell Binkley (Tony Award winning lighting designer) spoke to the technical theatre students, visual artist and museum curator, Endia Beal, spoke with the entire student body, etc. The ceremony exceeded our expectations and met the goal of connecting current students/families to those who are making art their career,” said Morris. Art is a very important part of RJR for many reasons, but the impact art can have on students is immeasurable. “In the 11 years since becoming an Arts Magnet School, our enrollment has increased, our test scores have increased in nearly all areas, our graduation rate was 92% in 2017 and teachers are working to differentiate instruction and to meet the needs of all students who enter our doors,” said Morris. “In fact, our students have exceeded expected growth in recent years and, through increased opportunities and support for students, our 2018 graduates earned entrance into competitive universities and nearly $18 million of scholarships. Although nearly 50% of our students qualify for free and reduced Lunch, 92% of 2016 and 2017 graduates went on to colleges or universities.” For those interested, the process to enroll in a magnet school should answer all questions prior to making a decision. “Families should know that if they want to attend a magnet school, they should visit the potential schools, attend the WSFCS Magnet Fair in November and apply in January,” said Morris. “Schools like Reynolds that have more applicants than spaces participate
in a lottery to select out-of-residential-zone students. People who wish to donate to the Arts Magnet Program can send a check to R.J. Reynolds High School at 301 North Hawthorne Road in Winston-Salem with ‘Arts Magnet Program’ in the memo line. Readers who wish to get involved in this innovative program (classroom speaker, volunteer, tutor, participant in our career fair, visiting artist, ﬁeld trip site, etc.) can contact me by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org or calling 336.703.4145. Whether you are directly involved with R.J. Reynolds or not, you are encouraged to attend FolksyFest on September 22nd from 5-10pm. The Arts Hall of Fame inductions will be at the beginning of the program and will honor Music Educator, Robert Mayer, Visual Artist Judy Voss Jones, and Musician, Mitch Easter. Ticket prices range from $10-$20 depending on when you register and those younger than 12 get in free. More Information and Tickets @ www.FolksyFest.com Artists Performing on Sept. 22 include Dori Freeman, Scott Freeman & Willard Gayheart (3 Generations of Appalachian Americana), Award-Winning Bluegrass Band Chris Jones & The Night Drivers, the bo-stevens, the LEGENDARY Mitch Easter & Band, Host/MC George Hamilton V, RJR Students/Faculty, and Many More!
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“I’M SORRY!” BY CINDY KEIGER
“Turn to God! Give up your sins, and you will be forgiven.” ~ Acts 3:19 When we do something wrong, it’s easy to make excuses. “Ooops! Sorry.” “I didn’t think it would matter.” “It’s not my fault.” We might think that saying “I’m sorry” makes everything all better. But that’s not how God sees it.
The verse above says we are forgiven when we turn to God and give up our bad ways. Do you know the word “repent”? That’s the Bible word for turning away from the bad things we sometimes do. Repent means to say that what we did was wrong, and then change the way we think and act. Wow! That doesn’t sound like an easy thing to do, does it? Let’s pretend for a while. Mom looks at you and asks, “Did you just eat a cookie?” You say you didn’t take one, but she says, “Then what are those crumbs I see around your mouth?” You hang your head down and say, “Sorry, Mom.” Sneaking a cookie might not seem like such a
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bad thing, but lying is a sin for sure. And once you start to tell lies, it gets easier and easier. Maybe you could answer like this: “Yes, Mom, I took a cookie. I’m sorry. I know it was wrong and I’ll try to do better.” You could even say a prayer—out loud or in your heart. “Lord, you know how I love cookies. Help me to obey. Help me tell the truth.” Even when you do something wrong, God still loves you. So does Mom. So does Dad. And the best news is that when you ask God to forgive you, he does! Read the Bible verse again. The word forgive means “to wipe out” or “erase.” The Bible says our sins are buried in the deepest ocean. That’s really wiped out, isn’t it? This is a great big lesson that we must keep learning and practicing. Yes, even grownups are still working on this lesson. Your job is to repent. You say, “Yes, God, I did that. I was wrong.” God’s job is to forgive. He says, “I have erased it. I won’t think about it again.” Saying, “I’m sorry” is good, but check to make sure there’s nothing bad hiding behind your words.
Homework Hangups BY TAMI RUMFELT
my kids were younger, our least favorite thing about the school year was homework. We could never get through a weekday afternoon without a homework meltdown. What frustrated me most was when one of the kids asked for help and then argued with me about the advice I gave. It would go something like this… (KID) “Mom, why do I keep getting this subtraction problem wrong?” (ME) “You need to write it out, don’t try to do it in your head.” (KID) “I don’t want to write it out!!! It will take too long. My hand is tired. I HATE HOMEWORK!!!!” (ME) “Well, you asked me why you keep getting the problem wrong. TAKE THE TIME TO WRITE IT OUT AND GET IT RIGHT, OR DO IT IN YOUR HEAD AND GET IT WRONG! IF YOU FAIL MATH AND CAN’T GO TO COLLEGE AND END UP LIVING IN A CAR, DON’T BLAME ME!!!” Sound familiar? I was thinking about how much it bothered me when my kids used to do this to me, and then I realized that I do the same thing to my dad. My heavenly Dad, that is! Oh, the times that I have found myself with a problem I couldn’t solve, asked God to help me with it and then argued with Him about what He told me to do. “But, God…that’s too hard, it will take too long, can’t you just ﬁx it for me?” I can only imagine what God is thinking when I tell Him…the Creator of heaven and earth, the Author of my life…that His answer is just not going to work for me. I’m just thankful that He is far more patient and gracious with me than I am with my kids. I’m also thankful that, unlike my kids with their math homework, I have the answer key for my problems—the Bible. Proverbs 3:5—“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” So, let’s pray for parents, students, and teachers as we head into another school year. And let’s pray for each other as we remember not only to ask for God’s help with our problems, but that we will also be wise enough to accept His answers even when they aren’t exactly what we wanted to hear.
The Most Important Day to Pray for Your Pastor
you ever wondered when the best time to pray for your ministry leaders is? Pastor Casey Bradford of High Point, NC, provides this ﬁrst-hand insight: “As a pastor, I pray that the church I minister to prays for me every day, but ESPECIALLY on Monday! After ﬁghting off spiritual attacks while planning and delivering my message (on top of all of my other responsibilities as a ministry leader), Monday is the day that all of my worries start to sink in, and I start questioning my ability to lead. ‘Did the message include at least one complete thought?’ ‘Was I boring? I saw someone sleeping the entire time...’ ‘Did the parents of that screaming baby see my panicked look of distraction? Will they be back?!?’ But most importantly, ‘Was Jesus magniﬁed and gloriﬁed in all we did in word and deed?’ This is the question that weighs most heavily on my heart as I begin to prepare for the phone calls, prayer requests, visitations, and counseling sessions for the upcoming week, and as I begin to study for the next message. These and many more are the questions I ask myself on Monday, and the devil always tries to make it worse than it is! So, please, remember to pray for your pastor...especially on Monday!”
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My Grace-Full Life
Grace Learned from a Tree Stump and a Buick BY DENISE HEIDEL
upon a time, a 17-year-old girl and her friend decided to go out for a bite to eat at a quaint little tea shop. When they pulled into the gravel parking lot, they were too busy admiring the historical Victorian home-turned-tea-room to notice a large tree stump in the middle of the parking lot.
Just as my mother knew the whole time about what has heretofore been known as the “Infamous Buick & The Tree Stump Incident,” God knows every detail and every moment we ever experience. He knows every thought we have, even the ones we never articulate into words.
After sampling crumpets and ﬁnger sandwiches, and feeling completely out of their element, the girls got back into the car. The still relatively new driver grossly underestimated the amount of space and acceleration she needed to back out of a parking spot and promptly found herself stuck on top of a tree stump.
We aren’t going to shock Him with anything. He already knows, and He’s waiting for us to confess it all so He can show us His extraordinary grace. Hebrews 4:13 says, “Nothing in all creation is hidden from God. Everything is naked and exposed before his eyes, and he is the one to whom we are accountable.”
And that, my friends, is my story.
So often, we are afraid to go to Him. Afraid that we’re the one exception in all of history that His grace won’t cover. And that’s a lie.
Yep. It’s true. And I have to say—when it comes to getting a car stuck on top of a tree stump, I took it to a level of epic proportions. I managed to get all four tires of my Buick off the ground, and the bottom of my car was completely resting on top of a ginormous tree stump. In a moment born out of teenage panic, all I could think was, “My mother is going to kill me!” Since this took place around 1992ish and carrying cell phones wasn’t quite commonplace yet, we had to go back into the elegant, sophisticated teashop and borrow a phone. Any assumed dignity I had were left in a Buick parked on top of a tree stump. We called my friend’s dad and bless his heart, he met us there and paid for a tow truck to get the car down. I begged him not to tell my parents. In hindsight, I could see he was choking on his laughter, but he promised he wouldn’t. And for years, I kept that moment a secret. I was 40 years old when I ﬁnally confessed to Mom. And I only told her after I was fairly certain that I was too old for her to ground me. Turns out—she’d known all along.
In 1 John 3:20 it states, “Even if we feel guilty, God is greater than our feelings, and he knows everything.” Giving myself grace is a daily struggle. Many of us have that in common. I spent 23 years terriﬁed to tell my mother about the car, instead of just admitting I screwed up and letting her give me grace. And we do the same thing to God. It’s pointless to try to hide what He already knows! We have to give Him the opportunity to give us grace. He wants to lavish it on us, because He loves us beyond human comprehension. Who are we to deny God that opportunity? Otherwise, a lie takes root when we can’t believe that God’s forgiveness extends to us, too. That lie diminishes His love and His power. We have to constantly remind ourselves that His grace, mercy, and forgiveness transcend ANY understanding on our end. It’s not about our understanding. It’s about our acceptance. In 1 John 3:21-22 we read, “Dear friends, if we don’t feel guilty, we can come to God with bold conﬁdence. And we will receive from him whatever we ask, because we obey him and do the things that please him.” And when we go to Him with bold conﬁdence, we can be conﬁdent of the forgiving grace that surpasses all understanding. And simply accept it with humble gratitude.
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THE OPPOSITE OF LOVE As
I prepare for the cooler air to settle in and the telltale signs of summer fade into fall, I’m ready for a change. Yes, most of us love summer, but fall has always been my favorite season. With every seasonal shift, we adjust our lives accordingly. We will soon change our wardrobes, exchanging tank tops for sweaters; we will change our pace and schedules, adjusting back to a school routine for those with young children; and say goodbye to long summer afternoons, as the sun sets a bit earlier each evening. This week I was going through my personal library, purging my books and texts of ones I would pass along to others and making room for the new ones Amazon will soon deliver. Clearing my ofﬁce shelves to the musical stylings of Pandora internet radio, I heard a song that caught my attention. Songwriters Fraites and Schultz wrote the lyrics to “Stubborn Love,” made popular by American Folk Rock band, The Lumineers. As I examined my books, the song came blazing through the speakers. One simple phrase stood out: they sang, “The opposite of love is indifference.” The rest of the song faded into the background of my mind, and I heard the Holy Spirit whisper, “True.” Do you ever hear the Holy Spirit speak in your heart, or perhaps your head? I recognized the phrase and immediately knew I had heard it before. After some research, I discovered the lyrics were
inﬂuenced by American-Jewish writer and professor, Elie Wiesel. He was quoted: The opposite of love is not hate; it’s indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness; it’s indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy; it’s indifference. And the opposite of life is not death; it’s indifference. Because of indifference, one dies before one actually dies. To be in the window and watch people being sent to concentration camps or being attacked in the street and do nothing, that’s being dead. True. All summer my worshiping community, Sunrise, has been studying a discipleship series, “Salt Life.” Jesus names us as the salt of the earth (Matt 5:13) and calls us to love God and one another (Matt 22:37). Quite simply, our purpose is love, to incarnate God’s love. Over the years the church has tried to live out this purpose by giving their money, time, prayers and voices to those in most need of God’s mercy. Church has always been a people of action, a sent people. You may understand my concern then, when I observe Christian congregations giving intellectual assent to the basic tenets of our faith, without making the sacriﬁces to move us toward a more just and grace-ﬁlled society. This is a huge problem and perhaps a symptom of a crisis of faith, in an era of
rapid church decline. Regardless of how many people attend worship, how many young millennials are present, how great the choir or praise team, or how many sermons are available online, church is not faithful if it only gathers to sit and talk about the love of God. When the community, gathered in remembrance of Jesus Christ, refuses to move out from the pews and chapels and into our world of loving service, it does not fulﬁll its purpose. This kind of community will eventually fade, as sure as the summer season turns to fall. If we are honest, there may be more of our congregations who struggle with this reality than we would like to admit. Friends, for our Christians witness to reach and transform lives in our present culture, it is not enough to preach the world only. It is not enough to merely avoid the most offensive evils of our time, to simply refuse an ethic of hate and cling to the false logic that refusing hate is to choose love. This is the opposite of life and love. This is indifference. As a people of life, resurrection life, we must witness to the life-changing love of God in both word and deed. As the salt and light, we are to pick up our hammers, put on our overalls, and get to the work of the spiritual life. We are to offer our prayers, presence, gifts, service, and witness for God’s people, church, and the world.
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link between a person’s religion or spirituality and physical condition is one that has gained increasing recognition in healthcare discussions. We know well that what affects the body also affects the mind and spirit. They’re interrelated, so to treat the whole patient, you have to address each of these components. To address the needs in times of health crises, hospital chaplains provide a spiritual dimension to health care. For those called to pursue the vocation of chaplain, Wake Forest Baptist Health, under their Division of FaithHealth Ministries, offers internships and a residency program. For those pursuing a chaplaincy, it’s about much more than going to class to reach a graduation date. “The greatest asset anyone who is providing spiritual care for others can have is to be able to share their own faith journey. It comes down to what you’ve learned in your trials and how your faith has helped you. Our interns have 100 hours of education and 300 hours of closely supervised ministry, and our residents, much like a medical residents, join us after receiving a Master’s in Divinity. We have one- to three-year residencies, and those individuals are both employees of Wake Forest Baptist Health and students. They have 20 hours per week of being in the hospital and another 20 hours with curriculum. Our chaplains are interfaith, meaning they can work with a person of any faith or of no faith. If you are in the hospital facing a serious health crisis, your sense of meaning and purpose are usually challenged. The great joy of being a chaplain is you get to hear the Gospel told over and over through different people, and [then] their faith as their life begins to make sense to them,” said Jay Foster, Director, Chaplaincy & Clinical Ministries. Beyond giving spiritual care to patients and their families, chaplains are also involved with bereavement; crisis ministry; hospitality ministry for the hospital; sacramental ministry; worship services and advanced directives. The reasons a person comes to chaplaincy are as diverse as the patients they care for, but each agrees it is a calling, going beyond a vocation or job. Sabrina Long has had two callings in life, the ministry and nursing. After 15 years as an RN, Sabrina saw the evolution of nursing as not having as much interaction with the patient as it once had and decided to pursue becoming a chaplain. With a Master’s Degree from WFU Divinity School, Sabrina is now entering her second year of residency. “What I do as a chaplain isn’t task-oriented like many of the actions of a nurse. For physical pain, you give medication, and the pain goes away,
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but with grief, sometimes just being with the patient and their family, offering support in silence, or by talking, is what makes the difference,” said Sabrina. Jeff Vogler was Director of Social Services at the Baptist Retirement Home and then a full-time minister for 15 years. After a divorce, Jeff felt out of place not serving in a ministerial role. In 2012, Jeff began working at Wake Forest Baptist, found out about the FaithHealth ministries, and is entering his second year of residency. “Becoming a chaplain has become a second chance for me at age 55, and I feel alive again. I cherish every day in my role as a chaplain. Sharing ministry with my peers through our curriculum and work with patients is very rewarding. Having a small part in the lives of people during difﬁcult times, giving care, encouragement, kindness, and hope is a wonderful way to serve others,” Jeff disclosed. David Harrison, Jr., took a leap of faith when, after working in IT and software, he entered graduate school at WFU and received his Master’s in Divinity. For David, it came down to wanting to work with people more than he wanted to work with machines. After an internship at Wake Forest Baptist, he came to love the work of a chaplain. “Being at a level-one trauma center, we see a lot of tragedy, and in a moment I can bring about a place of calmness and connect with another person’s spirit. I let them know that I am there in any way I can be to help them on this road they are on. Outside of the hospital, I am a co-director of a local food pantry and work with those in our community who are food insecure. As a chaplain, I work with cardiology patients and have found that many patients I meet are food insecure and aren’t able to care for themselves nutritionally, and so I work to connect them with community services that can help them. As chaplains, we meet people on the hardest day of their lives, walking with them arm in arm, addressing their fears and concerns. It’s so very rewarding to be there for our patients in that capacity,” commented David. In today’s hospitals, chaplains offer far more than a prayer and a handshake: they are a critical part of a healthcare team helping to address the patient as a whole, encompassing mind, body, and spirit. For more information on WFBH Clinical Ministries and FaithHealth Education, visit www.wakehealth.edu/Chaplaincyand-Pastoral Education.
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visit to the Amani Market, off Robinhood Road, is a fun experience— the shop is ﬁlled with colorful beaded jewelry (necklaces, earrings, and bracelets) to go with any outﬁt, baskets of loose beads, desk accessories, baskets in a variety of vibrant colors, woodcrafts, and other decorative accessories. All items are handcrafted by artisans in Kenya. The artisans are all independent business people who receive the full value of their craftwork at the time of purchase. “The Amani Market is the hub of the Amani Children’s Foundation,” explained Jane Stephens, Director of the Amani Children’s Foundation. “There are 20+ other Amani, regionallyunique initiatives around the country, and all operated under the Foundation leadership on a volunteer basis. Other than operating expenses, all funds are earmarked to support the New Life Homes, with four locations in Kenya. These homes, founded by a British couple, have been in operation for 20 years caring for abandoned babies, many found on the roadsides. Although many of the children are born to HIV mothers, it has been found over time that most don’t have the virus. New Life Homes is unique, as they support local legal adoptions within Kenya, versus focusing on international adoptions.” The New Life Homes can house up to 175 babies, with most adopted by the age of one. As one is adopted, another baby takes its place. The need for the homes and support continues. The Amani Market is staffed by a team of dedicated volunteers. Jane Stephens serves as Director. Alice Nesbitt is the Arts Coordinator. Tina Haynie serves as the Educational Coordinator. Susan Strickland, Anne Wallen, Tori Petty, and Joan Celestino are shopkeepers and manage various events. Jane shared that when the idea of creating the Foundation began to develop, she reached out to Dr. Maya Angelou for her thoughts. “She encouraged us to start something new,” shared Jane. “She told us to lean on young people, do something every 70 / FORSY T H FAMILYMAG A ZIN E.COM
day, and most of all, to enjoy it.” They followed her advice and now, when you enter the shop, you know it’s a fun place to be. The Amani Market is not just a place to shop. They love parties— and want you to join in on the fun! Plan your child’s next birthday party at the Amani Market. With only a $10 per-person donation, your guests will have an opportunity to make their own jewelry, learn about African arts, have a time of story-telling, and enjoy refreshments. You’re also welcome to bring along a birthday cake. And parties are not just limited to children. Adults want in on the action, too. Jane shared that they’ve hosted parties for retirement groups, ofﬁce team-building events, Christmas parties, secret Santa parties, and church groups. Artistic skills are not required; just bring along your imagination. You’ll be amazed by how creative you can be! Consider a bead party the next time you plan a get together with friends. The Market also holds an Amani Camp twice each summer. Ten campers each session learn about Kenya and Africa, crafts, and the value of helping others through volunteering. In the fall and during holidays, these young people may be helping out at the shop, behind the scenes or making sales, and are the Foundation’s next generation of volunteers. Instilling a desire to help others is an important life skill they develop and nurture. Amani Children’s Foundation Market is located at 3279 Robinhood Rd. (near Grassroots salon). Their hours of operation are Monday through Friday from 11:00 am to 5:00 pm; Saturdays, from 10:00 pm to 3:00 pm. For more information, call 336.253.7857, e-mail at info@ amanichildren.org, or visit their website (amanichildren.org) to learn more about the Foundation or check their social media sites (Facebook and Instagram). Stop by for a visit soon!
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the time this article hits the stands, our family will have welcomed a new member. Our seventh grandchild and fourth grandson will have made his entrance into the world. We are so excited to meet this precious boy, but I must admit to still being amazed at having grandsons outnumbering granddaughters. My family is deﬁnitely female dominant. Both of my parents had a sister, I have a sister, my sister has two daughters, and my husband and I have three. It was no surprise to us when our eldest daughter announced their ﬁrst child would be a girl. However, when 2 ½ years later the gender revealed child number two was a boy, even my son-in-law was in disbelief. Now, each of our daughters will have both genders to raise, and it will be interesting to watch the process. When each of our daughters had her ﬁrst born, it was easy to purchase something she would need. Once they have all the major equipment (and it is amazing what is considered necessary for an infant), it is difﬁcult to ﬁnd something equal to welcome the second baby. I remember seeing pictures of my sister laying in a beautiful bassinet trimmed in ribbons and lace. I loved to rib my parents when I saw my very plain bassinet. Apparently, my grandparents had given the bassinet with its beautiful cover as a gift. The cover didn’t make it 4 ½ years later until my birth, and I’m sure there were more important supplies needed than an ornate replacement cover, but that is not the
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case with this upcoming birth. So, now I wonder what to do to welcome this little guy. Our youngest daughter, the expectant mother, doesn’t like being the center of attention. She did not want a shower or any fuss made that would put her in the spotlight. Her sisters agreed to her wishes, in part, but put together a gathering of the four of us. It was the perfect compromise, and she loved that her sisters planned an evening that made all parties happy. My super-creative middle daughter made an invitation to put in his baby book and whale cookies keeping with the theme of his nursery. Our gifts tended towards that as well. So, mothers of mothers-to-be, what to do to help welcome the new addition? Ask what the nursery décor will be and ﬁnd items, on parent approval, that they can use. Ask for suggestions about what they might need. Just because they had plenty of blankets or sleepers, doesn’t necessarily mean they still do. If the ﬁrst child was born in the spring and the next in the fall, then even if they are the same sex, what worked for one may not work for the next. Different genders will also need new clothes.
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IN MEMORY OF NAP TIME BY LAURA SIMON, A REGULAR CONTRIBUTOR TO TRIAD MOMS ON MAIN
kind of nice being forced to rest—whatever that looked like. For an introvert, it looked a lot like sanity.
Naptime is over.
Plus, it’s been eight years—EIGHT—since my oldest was born, so frankly I have a hard time remembering what life looks like without a nap schedule. Was there life before the nap schedule? Oh my gosh….I’ve reached a new stage in parenting: The One Without Naps.
been seven days since my three-year-old took a nap. And before that last nap, it had been seven days since the one before. This is my third—and last—kid, and I think I know what this means.
Sure, she’ll probably nod off in the car from time to time, and on really tiring days she might give me a little doze, but if she’s anything like her brothers, I can just kiss those two (or sometimes three) hours of afternoon serenity goodbye. On the one hand, this has all sorts of promise. No more rushing to be home by 1 PM in order to avoid the oh-sodreaded car nap. No more leaving fun events early. No more missing afternoon parties. No more scheduling LIFE around that huge chunk of afternoon time. We can go to the zoo, the children’s museum, the beach…pretty much wherever… and stay the whole, ever-loving day. We can get our money’s worth. I am all about getting my money’s worth. And, the sweet little squish now goes to bed around 6:30, which is good because that’s precisely when she decides to push ALL MY BUTTONS. Her older siblings have learned to A) chill a little and B) play in the backyard for hours at a time, so this little development is deﬁnitely taking the edge off my evenings. Sometimes I load the dishwasher in silence. I had forgotten what that was. But at the same time, those afternoon hours were sweet and blissful. It felt like the whole world shut down, even though it was just our house. The big kids did quiet things…or outdoor things. I got actual work done for my actual paying job. I scheduled phone calls without wondering what my toddler would say at top volume at exactly the wrong moment. It was
The hardest part is the realization that we don’t have babies in this house anymore. As much as this big kid stage with sports and chapter books and opinions is really fun, and even though, frankly, I’m not what you’d call a “baby person,” it’s sad to realize that we’re done with paciﬁers, cribs, and daytime sleep schedules. We’re parents of big-ish kids now. Just. Like. That. I don’t know if we’ve had our last nap. Maybe we already have. A milestone like that should give you a heads up or something. Like, hey, this is your baby’s last nap, so grab your beverage of choice and enjoy the next hour, OK? But no…one day she napped, and the next day she didn’t. Next week, she’ll probably start applying for college. I’ve heard many parents call this new stage we’re in the “sweet spot” of parenting—the kids are older and more independent, but not yet to the angst and tumult stages of adolescence. It’s deﬁnitely fun and exciting, and I’m not exactly sad to be done crawling around on a dark floor at 2 am looking for a lost paciﬁer. But I’m not sure the word “sweet” tells the whole story. I think “bittersweet” sums it up nicely.
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Enduring the Transition BY BRITTANY M. ORIE ransitioning into a blended family is difﬁcult. There’s so much going on, important life situations, such as separation, divorce, or loss. If you’re having a hard time dealing with your new step-family, try looking at things from a different vantage point and ﬁnd a way to love your blended family more. BENEFITS OF HAVING STEP-FAMILIES More diverse personalities. When you have a group of various personalities, they may either mesh or clash. Most of the time, step-families struggle because of this. But remember, opposites attract under one condition: both parties must be open to accepting each other’s differences. Just think how dry a onedimensional household would be. Diverse personalities open the door to needed multiple viewpoints when you want an issue resolved. Also, when the family gets together for a family function, different energies combine to create a dynamo of a fun time! Learn different cultures and traditions. Being part of a blended family can easily be an eye-opening and a mindexpanding experience. Some families end up blending with different cultures or races. This gives one a chance to learn the history, traditions, customs, and popular foods of a given culture. If you love cultural studies, keep this advantage in mind! More support. More family members mean more love and support. Naturally family will support your desires and pursuits. You will have more people attending your sports events, parties; more people praying for you; more people helping you build your business 80 / FORSY T H FAMILYMAG A ZIN E.COM
or organization; and more promoters. If living with extra people feels crowded, remember that this likely means you have ampliﬁed support! Hefty family events. When nuclear families get together for an event, it’s always enjoyable. But with blended families, there’s a bigger element of surprise, because their traditions may be much different from the way your family does things. There may be a different brand of entertainment. For instance, they may have a different set of games, interests, or activities for everyone to partake in. HOW TO CONNECT WITH STEP-RELATIVES MORE What does everyone enjoy doing together? Finding mutual interests, passions, and traditions really binds a family together by establishing common ground. Once the common ground is solidiﬁed, it becomes easier to birth conversation. Find what your natural family enjoys doing with your blended family and bond over that. Explore different age groups. Stepparents can bond with their step-children, and older step-siblings can bond with the younger ones. This will help you appreciate each other more by getting to know each other and understanding their role in the family. Perhaps an older stepsibling will help a younger one through high school. Perhaps a step-daughter will make her step-mother realize what having a daughter feels like. Blended siblings, unite! If you’re an only child, relish this command, especially if you’ve always wanted a sibling! With your new blended family, it’s likely that
you will be blessed with some siblings on your hierarchal level. If you already have natural siblings, a new set of siblings will add a new dynamic. Create an open line of communication with not only step-siblings, but with step-parents as well. That way, you feel like you can talk to them about anything. Stepfamily members are not to be treated as strangers. Have dinner together frequently. This is the one time during the day when everyone sits together and converses about their day or what’s on their minds. Do this with no mobile devices to distract you. This is one of the greatest ways to broaden the line of communication with each other. WHAT I’VE LEARNED ABOUT BLENDED FAMILIES It takes time to adjust. It may take up to years to fully accept a new family, depending on what’s happening in life. Novel family members coming into your life may be intimidating, because everyone feels like strangers to one another. But the more time we spent together, the more we started to feel like family. Conﬂict may take longer to overcome, because we may not fully understand their personalities, pasts, or habits. But the more we know about them, the sooner we make amends. Loyalty makes family. While sharing bloodlines technically constitutes a family, loyalty keeps the family alive and strong! Learn how to embrace your blended family in such a way that blood ties wouldn’t necessarily make you all closer!
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COMMUNITY F O U N D AT I O N
Announces the Election of its Board of Director Ofﬁcers Beginning July 2018:
Greg Brewer, Chairman Greg has been the President and Co-owner of Right at Home franchise in Winston-Salem, North Carolina since 2004, with his wife and partner, Jackie, Assistant Agency Director. Greg’s previous career experience included corporate executive positions with several Fortune 500 corporations as Vice-President of Human Resources, specializing in recruiting, organizational development, training, quality and diversity. His leadership has included positions with the Northwest North Carolina American Red Cross, The Shepherd’s Center of Winston Salem, YMCA of Winston Salem, and Reynolda Rotary of Rotary International and Winston-Salem First.
Michael Combest, Vice Chairman Mike currently serves as Councilman with the Village of Clemmons. A graduate of West Point and the School of Advanced Military Studies, he spent most of his career in the U.S. Army in every rank from Second Lieutenant to Brigadier General. Mike is also an independent consultant and cofounder of Strackhammer, LLC, an agricultural ﬁrm. A long-time active supporter of the Clemmons community, Mike has volunteered with the Jerry Long YMCA, the Rotary Club of Clemmons, the Village of Clemmons Planning Board, Friends of the Clemmons Library, and the Twin City Track Club. Mike and his wife, Janice, live in Clemmons and have three sons.
Maria Vernon, Secretary Maria Vernon is a resident of Lewisville, NC. She is a part-time speech-language pathologist with WSFCS and works at Southwest Elementary in Clemmons. Maria is a volunteer coach with WCCC basketball, serves on the Appalachian State University Beaver College of Health Sciences Advisory Council, and is a member emeritus and former Board Chair of the Appalachian State University Reich College of Education Advancement Board. Maria also serves on the Board of H.O.P.E. (Help Our People Eat) Winston-Salem; she volunteers on various committees at River Oaks Community Church, where she is the Volunteer Coordinator for the ROCC 5K race; and coordinates the Alex’s Lemonade Stand Fundraiser for pediatric cancer research at her school each year.
Donald Kinney, Treasurer Donald Kinney is a Certiﬁed Public Accountant with his own practice, Donald S. Kinney, CPA, P.C., in Winston-Salem, and has been a resident of Clemmons for more than 20 years. Donald graduated with a BA from UNC Charlotte and a BS from High Point University. He is active in his church and serves on its Board of Directors. Donald also serves the Boards of Winston Salem First and Triad Family Network. Donald and his wife, Carolyn, have two grown daughters and four grandchildren.
John Bost, Immediate Past Chairman. John has served two terms on the Winston-Salem/Forsyth County Planning Board; served on various not-for-proﬁt boards, as well as being actively involved in several Community Development Corporations. He has served on the Mayor’s Ten-Year Plan to End Chronic Homelessness; is a previous chairman of Leadership Winston-Salem and a former three-term Mayor in the Village of Clemmons. An entrepreneur, John is currently sponsoring an ecosystem called the Saltbox at 1650 Ivy Avenue in Winston-Salem, is a licensed realtor with the N.C Real Estate Commission, and is owner of Master Counsel and Associates, Inc. John is married to LaDonna Bost, an interior designer, and has one daughter, Summer Bost Jackson, a Principal with the WSFC Schools.
In addition to the election of its ofﬁcers, four new Directors will join the Board for a three-year term beginning July 1, 2018, namely: Tim Bell Director of Property Management & Operations for Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center. Tim is a part of the Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center team, where he has served for over seventeen years. He is currently the Director of Property Management & Operations and oversees a $23M operational budget. He is a veteran of 20 plus years of military service in the United States Air Force, where he served as a Headquarters Financial Analyst. Tim is also an ordained minister and motivational speaker. He is married to Donyea (Dee) Dockery of Raeford, North Carolina, has two sons, Brandon and Jared, and two grandchildren, Brandon and Malia.
Holly Groce Holly is an attorney in Clemmons and works for Holly M. Groce, PA, practicing primarily juvenile and family law. Holly has lived in Clemmons for the majority of her life. She earned her undergraduate degree from UNC and graduated from the Campbell Law School. Holly is an active member of Center Grove Baptist Church and served on the Board at the Jerry Long YMCA. Holly is married and has three children.
William Lawler Community Volunteer. Bill Lawler has been a resident of Clemmons since 1993. Retired after a 36-year career in business and corporate development, he is now active as a board member and volunteer for a number of community organizations. Bill is married to Donna Lawler and they are the parents of 8 children and 11 grandchildren.
Brett Hoge Financial Advisor & Senior Managing Director at BB&T Scott & Stringfellow Brett W. Hoge has been in the ﬁnancial industry since 1999. Brett has gained several recognitions within BB&T for his performance, including the Sterling Performers Award, the John Sherman, Jr. Leadership Award and membership in the ﬁrm’s President’s Council. In 2017 & 2018, Financial Times Magazine named Brett as a Top 400 Financial Adviser. An avid volunteer, Brett has been awarded the National Mentoring Excellence Award by Investing News. Brett is also founder and Board Member of the LVH ALS Foundation, which raises money to fund ALS research for the Duke University ALS Clinic. The Foundation has raised over 1 million dollars for ALS research since its inception in 2014. In his spare time, Brett enjoys hunting, ﬁshing and golﬁng. Brett & his wife, Wendy, live in Advance with their two girls, Riley & Berkley.
The Clemmons Community Foundation extends its deep appreciation to retiring Board Members Ken Burkel, Brad Davis, Mark Hess, Joanna Lyall, and Kirsten Russ. About the Clemmons Community Foundation The Clemmons Community Foundation exists to unlock the full philanthropic potential of Clemmons, Lewisville, and surrounding communities by connecting people and resources in ways that thoughtfully and meaningfully transform our communities with access, opportunity, and an enriched quality of life. The Foundation is an independent 501(c)(3) nonproﬁt, ﬁrst formed in 2004 by the Rotary Club of Clemmons and converted to a community foundation in 2012. For more information, call 336-663-6794. SEPTEMB ER 2018 / 83
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ago, I met an 85-ish-year-old veteran in a Starbucks in Chattanooga. I was supposed to be studying for midterms, but I got caught up in his war stories and ended up listening for over two hours. He told me he still had shrapnel in his legs from being bombed. He didn’t have access to a Veterans’ Hospital, so instead of seeking treatment he could in no way afford elsewhere, he would take a razor blade and cut out the bits of metal himself. He told me about crouching behind barricades for days, waiting to be targeted by missiles, and when they ﬁnally came, watching his friends lose life and limb before his eyes. When he ﬁrst returned to the States, at the sound of loud noises, he would panic and instinctively fall to one knee, his arms tensed into position, holding an invisible ﬁrearm. His eyes ﬁlled with tears when he spoke of his wife dying from cancer at a young age; he said, “I know no one is perfect, but she was as close as it comes.” This veteran had unwittingly been a mentor to me. I am now in DC interning at the Department of Veterans’ Affairs, and that Starbucks vet gives me the determination to serve veterans and their families with respect and diligence each day. About 20,000 summer interns go to DC each year. Their summers’ success can easily be measured by the impressiveness of the line on their resume and the tone of their letter of recommendation. However, the most important thing to gain from an internship is a network. Gaining an internship is the easy part; making it worth your while is an entirely different story that depends completely on your community-building skills.
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You must cultivate the habit of making every new person you meet a sort of mentor by showing honest interest in his or her life. If you do this, your network will grow, giving you extraordinary opportunities. Congressman Trent Kelly, a veteran himself, emphasized to me that a great way to ﬁnd out what you want to spend your life doing is to ﬁnd mentors. Though you should try and ﬁnd one consistent person to mentor you, anyone you meet can be a mentor, whether they are a co-worker, sibling, or person you meet on the Metro (or in a Starbucks). An important thing to note is that you should look for mentors in lots of career ﬁelds. You never know where you will end up in life, and if you limit the people you are getting to know to the ones in your current ﬁeld, you will regret it. The Chief Information Ofﬁcer for the Department of Energy told me that if you think you have an answer for “what your ﬁve-year plan is,” you’re kind of dumb. As far as I can tell, I am not going to spend my life working for the Department of Veterans’ Affairs, but I wouldn’t trade my internship here for anything. I have met Congress members from all over the U.S., journalists from Mali, editors who never sleep, producers who also never sleep, environmentalists who are literally trying to save the world, and Uber drivers who ﬁnd purpose in strangers. Each of these people offered me a wealth of knowledge; however, it was the Starbucks vet who was my ﬁrst mentor in this Veterans’ Affairs journey. I am eager to see where all the lives I have encountered and the lessons I am learning will lead me, and I wait for the day when I can ﬁnally take my turn in guiding those like me.
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The LONELY College Student BY BRITTANY M. ORIE
away from home on a college campus away from family can be a lonely experience sometimes. Here is the prescription for the lonely college student, along with some reasons to embrace loneliness at this time. CONNECT WITH YOUR ROOMMATE. It may feel awkward moving into a dorm room or apartment with a stranger. You will either bond with your roommate right off or get closer to each other after a good span of time. Either way, having a good, sociable roommate is good for helping loneliness. See how much commonality lies between you two, and make plans to go to campus events, have lunch together, or just have genuine, honest conversations during the day. Loneliness may look like a lack of physical presence, but it’s more an emotional thing. You can feel lonely in a room full of people but have no connection to anyone. So having good conversations with your roommate is imperative when getting rid of loneliness. ATTEND CAMPUS EVENTS. Scope out that campus activities calendar and see what events pop out at you! There you will meet like-minded students who possibly share your interests. In situations like this, it is easier to strike up conversations with others with starters such as, “Hi, so what led you to come here?” It will give you a chance to mingle with others and talk about the event, and establish connections that may eventually lead to friendships. JOIN STUDENT CLUBS. This is one of the biggest ways to diminish feelings of loneliness. Most campuses have various student organizations that cater to each student’s needs and interests. Joining a student club of your liking will help you connect with other students with similar interests, beliefs, pursuits, and talents. Because the common ground is already established, all you must do is build the connection from the foundation! For instance, if you join a Student Photography Club, you can ask some other folks how long they have been practicing photography, what their favorite subjects are, or what inspired them.
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BEFRIEND SOME CLASSMATES. What classes are you taking right now? Other than learning, the classroom is a viable opportunity to bond with other classmates. Try talking with those sitting around you before class begins. Take advantage when the instructor tells you to “ﬁnd a partner.” On the ﬁrst day of class, when everyone goes around introducing themselves, ﬁnd some people who have common interests with you and introduce yourself after class. Form a once-a-week study group. Have lunch with some students after class. Exchange contact information, just in case there’s any questions about the course, or just for some support. TAKE A WALK. Exploring your campus is a unique way to meet people. As you walk around, see if there are any events going on that you are curious about. If anyone happens to begin talking to you during your walk—if you feel led and if you feel safe—talk back to them. Perhaps if you take a walk with the intention of meeting others, that is what will happen. But loneliness isn’t always a negative thing. Here’s where moments of loneliness can lead you…especially in college: 1. Self-discovery. When you ﬁnd yourself alone with no other physical presence nearby, focus inward. Look at where you are in life and think about what you really want to do post-college. Focus on what you want to do and not what others expect of you. Think about your interests and passions and how you can creatively engage in them. 2. Relaxation. Look at loneliness as a time to decompress. College is ﬁlled with deadlines, responsibilities, and peer pressure. Being alone with no stressors is a great way to relax. 3. Getting it done! If you’re more productive by yourself, a moment of loneliness could turn into a moment of productivity. Without the distraction of others, getting your work and projects ﬁnished is easier. 4. Independency. Being away from home breeds independence by itself. But learning how to be content by yourself gives you social independence. Then, you won’t need to depend solely on the presence of others to make you happy. Decide whether you want to overcome loneliness or embrace it!
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Congratulations to Lisa and Bob Gfeller who are the recipient’s of the 2018 Living Your Best Life Award! The third annual Living Your Best Life Speaker Series is sponsored by Dewey’s and scheduled for October 2, 2018. See ad on page 76 for details.
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Kathryn Mackenzie Foster (aka: Katie Mack) recently competed in the 2018-2019 International Cinderella Scholarship Program in Dallas, Texas! She brought home the title of North Carolina Tiny Tot and was chosen to represent her state in the international Pageant! Katie Mack was chosen in the Top 5 of her age group! Also, Katie Mack was named the International Overall Beauty
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Dining What’s the News at Pie Guys’ Pizza and More? BY VONDA HENDERSON
goes great with football season? Pizza, of course! Pie Guys’ Pizza and More is announcing NEW FALL HOURS, beginning September 3rd, 2018, just in time for football season. The new hours are: MONDAY THROUGH THURSDAY: 11:30 am to 9:00 pm FRIDAY AND SATURDAY: 11:30 am to 11:00 pm SUNDAY: 11:30 am to 6:00 pm
These new hours apply to dining-in, pick up, or delivery. In fact, they deliver every hour they’re open. Their delivery service spans all Clemmons and up to the Hanes Mall Blvd./ Jonestown Rd. area. When ordering by phone, don’t be surprised if a team member suggests an option that gives you a better value; they’re proactive in their customer service and you get to beneﬁt from it. With a staff of twelve, Pie Guys’ ensures prompt, courteous service, whether to your table or to your door. Get your team spirit on for Sundays at Pie Guys’ Pizza and More! Join The Pie Guys’ staff by wearing your favorite team jerseys; let’s have some fun, friendly rivalry and celebrate the season we call Football! They have plenty of seating, from high tables that seat four to bench seating with tables that can be pushed together for a long row, or as tables for two. Or, enjoy their outdoor seating, available as long as temperatures cooperate. Pie Guys’ Pizza and More is known for their New Yorkstyle pizza, ordered by the slice or by the pie (in sizes 12” medium, 14” large, or 16” extra- large). But don’t forget the And More. Their other menu items include appetizers, wings (mild, buffalo hot, Italian, or barbeque), a variety of salads, sandwiches, desserts, and 92 / FORSY T H FAMILYMAG A ZIN E.COM
“just for children” options. Their beverage options include water/tea, soft drinks, beer, and wine. And, they also have gluten free-ish pizzas in 12” and 14” sizes. Add any of their toppings for a delicious gluten freeish pizza! Check out their specialty pizzas or customize for your personal favorite. Perhaps combine the Carnivore and Herbivore into a half-and-half to suit opposing tastes. Planning a get together? Need catering? Call Pie Guys’ Pizza and More! For orders of $100 and up, they offer drop-off catering, which includes teas, lemonade, and soft drinks. Give Robert, founder of Pie Guys’ Pizza and More, a call about their catering menu before your next party. Then relax and enjoy your guests; the food is on the way. Happy Anniversary! Pie Guys’ Pizza is ready to celebrate! And, they want you to join them, too. October 5th marks their one-year anniversary of business in the community. Check their website for special offers beginning October 1st and lasting to the 7th (a week-long celebration), as a thanks to their customers and a welcome to new customers. Come by for a slice, a pie, wings, and more! Pie Guy’s Pizza and More is located at 3425 Kinnamon Village Commons in Clemmons. For delivery, call 336.893.7331. Check out their website (pieguys.com) for specials, news about their one-year anniversary, or menu options. Follow them on social media (Facebook and Instagram). Are you hungry yet? Wouldn’t a pizza taste good about now? Absolutely! Give them a call!
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FIRST TUESDAYS (THROUGH OCTOBER) IRISH MUSIC SESSION 6:30-8pm, Central Library in downtown W-S. Goilin will host an Irish music session in the auditorium at Central Library! All levels of musicianship and listeners are welcome. Come out to learn and share some tunes with us. You can download our standard tunes at http://tiny. cc/WSirishsession.
SECOND WEDNESDAYS PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTONSALEM MEETING 11:30am-1pm, Flow Club at the BB&T Ballpark. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting. Learn more at PWWS.org
NOW THROUGH OCTOBER 1 “ICEVENTURE” EXHIBIT Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Decorate a snowman, collect snowballs, go ice fishing and slide on the sock-skating rink! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. www.kaleideum.org
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Ticketed events and A FREE Family-Friendly Saturday Festival with Readings, Panels, Booksignings, Exhibitors, & Food Trucks!
PFAFFTOWN FARMERS’ MARKET 4-7pm, Remedy Apothecary, 4725 Yadkinville Road in Pfafftown. Come together for fresh and locally grown food, fun and music! Support the efforts of your local farmers and food producers!
NOW THROUGH JANUARY 1 “TOY TIME” EXHIBIT Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Travel back in time to when there were no cell phones or video games and batteries were never included! Engage and delight in tumbling, sliding, rocking, spinning, dancing and flying folk toys that demonstrate the effects of gravity, inertia, rhythm, harmonic motion and mechanics. Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. www.kaleideum.org
KIDS’ KEYNOTE WITH DAV PILKEY Friday, September 7 at 6:30 p.m. RJ Reynolds Auditorium Tickets Required: Reserved seating in Balcony, Mezzanine, and Orchestra: $15–$60 (includes a copy of Dog Man: Lord of the Fleas). Call 800-838-3006.
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WAKE FOREST MEN’S SOCCER VS. NC STATE 7pm, Spry Stadium, 1100 Polo Road in W-S. Watch the Demon Deacons open up conference play against their in-state rivals.
SEPTEMBER 8 HARVEST GRILL – FARM TO FORK DINNER 6:30pm, Harvest Grill at Shelton Vineyards, 230 Cabernet Lane in Dobson. The Farm to Fork Dinner is a family style dinner featuring fresh local ingredients created to be enjoyed with your favorite Shelton Vineyards wine. Please call the Harvest Grill at 366.3590 for reservations, or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
ST. BALDRICK’S FUNDRAISER EVENT Village Square Taphouse, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court in Clemmons. Fundraiser event to benefit kids with cancer. Live music, head shaving, games and more.
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SKULL CAMP OUT Round Peak Vineyards, 765 Round Peak Church Road in Mount Airy. Our annual, signature event featuring
camping in the vineyard, music, food, s’mores, great beer & wine, and tons of fun! Skull Camp Out is family and dog-friendly, so bring the whole clan. Cost: $35-$45/person day of the event. Includes dinner Saturday evening, three drink tickets and continental breakfast Sunday morning. Registration is required. Visit http://bit.ly/SkullCampOut18.
SEPTEMBER 10 KIDS’ MORNING OUT 10-11:30am, Salem Gymnastics & Swim, 4870 Country Club Road in W-S. Free event. Come see all that Salem Gymnastics & Swim has to offer with a variety of individual activity stations and two warm water pools with amazing instructors! If you’d like to give the pool a try, don’t forget your bathing suit and towel! Children under 3 must be accompanied by a parent in the pool. Adults receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board!
SEPTEMBER 12 GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT 5pm-until…, Midtown Cafe & Dessertery, 151 South Stratford Road in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, coworker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much needed Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy $4 select wines by the glass, mimosas, bellinis and featured desserts; $3 select beers and shareables; $8 lighter dinner features; and $11 dinner features! Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways!
SEPTEMBER 13 ORANGETHEORY FITNESS LAUNCH PARTY 5pm, Footnote, 634 West 4th Street #120 in W-S. The first day to become a member of Orangetheory Fitness! Our lowest prices for one day only, guaranteed for the lifetime of your membership! https://winstonsalem. orangetheoryfitness.com/ WAKE FOREST FOOTBALL VS. BOSTON COLLEGE 7:30pm, BB&T Field, 499 Deacon Boulevard in W-S. Watch the Demon Deacons open up conference play against Boston College.
SEPTEMBER 14 13TH ANNUAL WS SIGNATURE CHEFS AUCTION (see page 72) 6-9pm; Benton Convention Center. Join us for the March of Dimes premier fundraiser.
SEPTEMBER 15 ROTARY CLUB OF WESTERN FORSYTH PRESENTS “SOUTHERN SWINE” Lewisville Town Square, Shallowford Road in Lewisville. Open to public. Face painting and jump house for kids with live music. Come have a BBQ plate or purchase whole pork shoulder. Proceeds benefit Lewisville Elementary and Lewisville Elementary Food Pantry as well as other local non-profits. SUNSET CONCERT SERIES FEATURING BLACKWATER RHYTHM & BLUES 6-9pm, Shelton Vineyards, 286 Cabernet Lane in Dobson. The Blackwater Rhythm and Blues Band is dedicated to the live performance of beach music, along with blues and funk. Cost: $20-$25/person.
SEPTEMBER 16 AMERICAN BUSINESS WOMEN’S DAY 12-3:30pm, Greensboro High Point Marriott Airport, 1
Marriott Drive in Greensboro. A day set aside to honor the contributions and accomplishments of the millions of women in the work force. We invite you to learn more about ABWA, while enjoying food, fun and networking at the Piedmont Triad Area Council’s annual luncheon. http://ptac2018abwday.eventbrite.com
SEPTEMBER 18 ACAP WINSTON-SALEM (ADULT CHILDREN OF AGING PARENTS) 5-7:30pm, Knollwood Baptist Church, 330 Knollwood Street in W-S. You will gain evidence-based information and key strategies related to aging and caregiving, become aware of meaningful local resources, receive much-needed support and become part of an ongoing caring and encouraging community of caregivers through free, monthly education programs provided by ACAP Winston-Salem. www.acapcommunity.org/acapwinston-salem-nc BETTER MARRIAGES DATE NIGHT 6pm for dinner, meeting at 7. Trinity UMC, 3819 Country Club Road. $10 for dinner and must RSVP for dinner to Jean Brewer 336-978-8611
SEPTEMBER 19 THE WORLD THAT FOOD MADE WITH RAJ PATEL 7pm, Wake Forest University Porter Byrum Welcome Center, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. Writer, activist and academic Raj Patel will speak on “The World That Food Made.” This talk draws on world history, agronomy and will feature footage from “Generation Food,” the latest film by award-winning director Steve James. http://events.wfu.edu/event/the_world_that_food_ made_with_raj_patel#.W04ayBJKi7M THE ABCS OF ROCK & ROLL 7:30pm, Hanesbrands Theatre, 209 Spruce Street in W-S. Join Spring Theatre on a rock & roll journey you won’t forget! From “Born to Be Wild” to “Edge of Glory” to “Victim of Love,” our spectacular cast and live band will help you roll through the alphabet with 26 songs that rock! Cost: $20/person. https://rhodesartscenter. org/abcs-rock-roll/
SEPTEMBER 21 KALEIDEUM NIGHT AT FIDDLIN’ FISH 6-9pm, Fiddlin’ Fish Brewing Company, 772 Trade Street in W-S. Join Kaleideum for an evening of family fun at Fiddlin’ Fish! There will be special activities and crafts, and door prizes! Free to attend; donations accepted. For every beer purchased, our friends at Fiddlin’ Fish will donate $1 to Kaleideum! www.kaleideum.org
SEPTEMBER 21-23 & 27-30 CALENDAR GIRLS 7:30pm, Southeastern Center for Contemporary Art (SECCA), 750 Marguerite Drive in W-S. When Annie’s husband passes away from cancer, she persuades a group of friends to pose au naturel for a calendar fundraiser to benefit the hospital. Based on a true story, this heartwarming, comedic tale is an inspiring story of friendship, hope and determination. Cost: $24/person. www.LTofWS.org
SEPTEMBER 21-OCTOBER 27 GHOST TRAIN 7:30-11:30pm, Tweetsie Railroad, 300 Tweetsie Railroad Lane in Blowing Rock. It’s safe, scary fun for the whole
family! Kids will enjoy the Halloween shows and trickor-treating. And, take a chilling journey into the night on the Ghost Train -- if you dare! Advanced tickets required. Cost: $38/person. http://tweetsie.com/special-events/
SEPTEMBER 22 KÖRNER’S FOLLY FAMILY REVUE PUPPET SHOW 10:30am, Cupid’s Park in Körner’s Folly, 413 South Main Street in Kernersville. This puppet show is great for children of all ages (and the young at heart). Provides a fun and interactive way to learn about the Körner family and the history of Körner’s Folly, and is followed by a make-and-take sock puppet craft. Cost: $2/person. MOM & ME MAKER NIGHT 6-8pm, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Kids, grab your mom or a special caregiver and spend the evening creating in The Prop Shop. Cost: $10-$12/person (includes museum admission and pizza dinner). Pre-registration required at www.kaleideum.org. THE GEORGE HAMILTON IV MEMORIAL FOLKSY MUSIC FESTIVAL (see page 60) 5-10pm RJ Reynolds High School Auditorium
Are You Ready for Some Football? We have the NFL Sunday Ticket! 10 Big Screen TV’s to watch your Favorite Team! Sunday Funday Food and Drink Specials!
SEPTEMBER 23 RALEIGH LUNGE FORWARD 5K WALK, RUN & RALLY 12:30-3:30pm, MidTown Park at North Hills, 4208 Six Forks Road in Raleigh. From the 5K race to the celebration rally to the kid’s dash, this year’s event will include a variety of activities for the entire family. Cost varies. www.lungcancerinitiativenc.org
ST. BALDRICK’S FUNDRAISER EVENT (see page 24) Finnigan’s Wake, 620 North Trade Steet, WS. Fundraiser event to benefit kids with cancer. HISTORIC BETHANIA’S BLACK WALNUT FESTIVAL 10am-4pm, Historic Bethania’s Visitor Center, 5393 Ham Horton Lane in Bethania. Fall and festivals go together like bread and butter. http://townofbethania. org/black-walnut-festival/ WAKE FOREST MEN’S SOCCER VS. DUKE 7pm, Spry Stadium, 1100 Polo Road in W-S. Come watch Wake Forest take on in-state rival Duke FARM FUN DAY 1-4pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Celebrate autumn with some fun on the farm! Meet barnyard friends (including cows, goats, sheep, donkeys, chickens and more), help us with llama felting by walking on the wool in a wading pool, sample delicious spiral apples and enjoy other harvest activities, crafts and demonstrations. Included with museum admission, and free for Kaleideum members. www. kaleideum.org
Mac & Nellis Come Try Out Our New Menu! keep up with all our weekly dining specials & events listed on our Facebook or website
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SEPTEMBER 30 MDA MUSCLE WALK OF WINSTON-SALEM 2pm, Tanglewood Park, 4061 Clemmons Road in Clemmons. The Muscular Dystrophy Association of central and western NC is hosting its 2nd annual muscle walk. The walk serves to promote awareness for muscle disease and fundraising for research and resources that help nearly 700 families in our community. It is a great way to support the community and learn more about how you can make an impact! mdamusclewalk.org SEPTEMB ER 2018 / 95
Magnolia Table’s Buttermilk Blueberry Puff BY SARA WILES
you happen to be living under a rock and have not heard of Joanna Gaines, it is time to wake up! From her home styling and remodeling business to a restaurant, bed and breakfast now and so much more, Joanna has flipped Waco, Texas (and possibly even the world) on its head. Whether you are into all the shiplap, rustic ware or recycled barn materials, Joanna has a way of turning even the most outdated homes into people’s prized possessions. With her recent launch of Magnolia Table, a New York Times’ Bestselling cookbook, Joanna has made her way into the kitchens of millions through her comforting American, and her Southern, recipes. The cookbook features 125 classic recipes from breakfast, lunch and dinner to small plates, snacks and desserts. Joanna has managed to bring a modern spin and her unique touch to many American and Southern classics. I recently got my hands on Magnolia Table after discussing its tasty recipes with many food-loving friends. As I have slowly delved into its pages, I have begun to experience the homegrown and flavorful recipes of Mrs. Gaines—and I have to admit, they have all been delicious! So delicious, in fact, I knew sharing Magnolia Table’s Buttermilk Blueberry Puff was the perfect contribution to this month’s Sweet Ending—easy enough to throw together on a Sunday afternoon, but rich and sweet enough to eat for dessert and breakfast. I fully intend to keep this recipe in the rotation of sweet treats, and have a feeling you may feel the same way, too.
BUTTERMILK BLUEBERRY PUFF (Yields 12 servings)
INGREDIENTS: 1 tablespoon unsalted butter—softened to room temperature 5 to 6 large croissants—cubed to 10 to 12 cups 3 cups fresh or frozen blueberries ½ cup unsalted butter—softened to room temperature ½ cup sugar 3 eggs—at room temperature 1 cup heavy cream ½ cup buttermilk 1 tablespoon vanilla 1 teaspoon salt 1 tablespoon coarse sugar for topping DIRECTIONS: 1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees Fahrenheit. Grease a 3-quart baking dish with the one tablespoon of unsalted butter. Spread croissant cubes evenly into the baking dish and top with blueberries. 2. In a large bowl, beat the ½ cup butter and ½ cup sugar with a mixer on medium until creamy. Beat in the eggs, one a time, until combined. Beat in cream, vanilla, buttermilk and salt (the mixture may appear curdled). Pour over croissants and blueberries in the baking dish. Sprinkle with the coarse sugar. 3. Bake at 375° for 30 minutes, or until a knife inserted near the center comes out clean.
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Saturday September 15 6 pm
Clemmons Movie Night
Bring your family and join your neighbors and friends for a movie under the stars! We will be collecting art supplies for the Arts for Health Program.
All movies will begin at sunset at the Jerry Long YMCA. Come early to enjoy the playgrounds and fields and enjoy a night off from cooking by purchasing delicious goodies from Boone Doggies, Chick-fil-A Clemmons, Kona Ice of Kernersville, Southâ€™s Finest Homemade Ice Cream, and Sweet Treats Concessions. Donâ€™t forget your blanket and chairs. Please note that the Jerry Long YMCA Campus is alcohol, dog, and tobacco free.
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Ballet & Performing Arts Centre ..................23 Cub Scouts ..................................................41 Kaleideum ....................................................7 Legacy Saddlebreds ....................................47 ProDance Academy .....................................39 Salem Gymnastics & Swim .........................49 YMCA ..........................................................53
ADOPTION & FOSTER CARE
Crossnore School & Children’s Home .........21
A Child’s World ...........................................55 AlphaBest ...................................................39 Calvary Baptist Day School .........................25 Connie’s P.M. Playtime ...............................17 Forsyth Country Day School ........................35 Our Lady of Mercy.......................................71 The Montessori School ...............................47 The Piedmont School..................................55
Christina’s Dessertery .................................89
Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp ........23 Modern Woodmen Fraternal Financial .......43 Truliant Federal Credit Union ........Back Cover
BEAUTY / STYLING
HEALTH & FITNESS
Enhance Hair Studio ...................................15 Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics .......................73 LT Nails & Spa..............................................15 Lyndhurst Medical Spa ...............................25
A Child’s World ...........................................55 AlphaBest ...................................................39 Connie’s P.M. Playtime ...............................17 YMCA ..........................................................53
Sunrise United Methodist Church ..............66
DENTISTS / ORTHODONTISTS
Ardmore Dentistry ......................................51 Chermak & Hanson ......................................2 Salem Smiles ..............................................57 Tina S. Merhoff and Associates Pediatric Dentistry ......................................5
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Busy as a Bee Concierge .............................79 Chamberlain Place .....................................51 Dero’s..........................................................19 Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp ........23 Furniture Mattress Warehouse ...................15 Jody Peske & Co..........................................23 Long & Foster Real Estate..............................9 Piedmont Sheet Metal................................85 Realty One ..................................................43 S & K Cleaning ............................................57 Susan Maier-Colon, Broker .........................69 Tarheel Basement System ..........................59 Weedman ...................................................71 Wrights Landscaping ..................................73
HOME MEDICAL CARE
Home Instead Senior Care............................3
Wrights Landscaping ..................................73
Wine Merchants .........................................93
Forsyth Family Eye Care ..............................45 Hillcrest Vision ............................................71 Home Instead Senior Care............................3 Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics .......................73 Lyndhurst....................................................25 Summer Family Care ..................................55 WomanCare ................................................27
Clemmons Bicycle ......................................65 Clemmons Village Shopping Center ..........15 Dero’s..........................................................19 Furniture Mattress Warehouse ...................15 Hip Chics Boutique & Gift ...........................35 Miracle Grounds Farm Store .......................21 Rolly’s Baby Boutique .................................49 Styled Gatherings Boutique .......................15
Desilu Photography ....................................75 Photo Artistry by Melinda ...........................59
WBFJ ...........................................................67 100.3fm......................................................91
REAL ESTATE & HOUSING
Chamberlain Place .....................................51 Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp ........23 Jody Peske & Co..........................................23 Long & Foster Real Estate..............................9 Realty One ..................................................43 Susan Maier-Colon Berkshire Hathaway .................................69
Clemmons Kitchen .....................................15 Hakkachow Asian Eats ................................93 Honky Tonk Smokehouse ...........................93 Little Richard’s Smokehouse BBQ...............21 Mac & Nelli’s .........................................93, 95 Midtown Café & Dessertery ........................93 Mulligan’s at Bermuda Run........................93 Nothing Bundt Cakes .................................93 Pie Guys Pizza .............................................93
Busy as a Bee Concierge .............................79 Crossnore School & Children’s Home .........21 Family Services ...........................................13 Hayworth-Miller Funeral Homes & Crematory .............................................69 Nu expression.............................................87 S&K Cleaning..............................................57 Second Harvest Food Bank .........................77 Trellis Supportive Care ................................27 Triad Mac ....................................................61
Nu expression.............................................87 Triad Mac ....................................................61
Bookmarks Festival .....................................94 Ezra Goldbach Foundation .........................53 Live to Lead .................................................81 Living Your Best Life Series .........................76 March of Dimes Signature Chef’s Auction ..72 Movie Night at the Village ..........................97 Reynolda House – Dorothea Lange’s America .......................37 Southern Charm at the Farm ......................79 Wake Forest Football ..................................99
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