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V’s Barbershop

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Kids’ Heart Health Starts at Home

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Summer sure has passed by quickly! School buses are rolling, and summer vacations are all but a distant memory. Except for those of us who are no longer a slave to the school calendar. Guess that’s one advantage of having grown children or not working in the education sector. For the first time in many years, we will take our summer vacation in September. Before our kids were in school, we used to love to vacation this time of year. Crowds are somewhat diminished, rates are usually a little lower than peak summer and temps have cooled just a bit, too. So, given the busy summer we had, I cannot wait to relax and enjoy my family for a whole glorious week! While I may no longer have back-to-school shopping, open houses, homework, PTA meetings, end-of-grade testing or after-school activities to contend with, those were some of the best years of my life! Educators are unsung heroes and play such a vital role in the lives of our children. So, this month, we’re starting a new feature called “A Heart for Education” (see pages 98 & 99). Going forward, we hope to highlight some of the many wonderful folks we have in our education system. Nominations can be made via this link: www.surveymonkey.com/r/FFHeartForEducation I hope this will be the best year it can possibly be for all students and educators! September is one of my favorite months, and this month’s cover features V’s Barbershop. Adam’s staff is ready to serve the special men and boys in your life with superb haircuts and an old-fashioned shave for the men! Summer may be over, but September is not short on fun or things to do in our great city! In this issue, you’ll read about lots of great events to come with the annual Bookmarks Festival, Apple Fest at Historic Bethabara Park, Autumn in Old Salem and Fiesta 2016. Not to mention the various walks, charity fundraisers and LivetoLead and Living Your Best Life speaker series coming up! Honestly, we all should be lifelong students in this game of life! We should never stop yearning to learn more, not only academically, but emotionally as well. From birth to our last breath, we should be open to new ideas and methods and being the absolute best we can be! Blessings!

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It’s a Mutual Admiration Society BY JACKIE KINNEY I’m sitting on the porch of my grandpa’s house, talking with him as he microwaves his mid-morning snack of coffee cake after daily Mass. I’m recounting my night. It’s about to pour. We—the Dash front office and the field crew—stand on the first base side at BB&T Ballpark, poised and ready to hop the wall and roll the tarp onto the field. My grandpa can imagine it: me, the 5-foot-3 Dash intern in a purple rain jacket (that functioned more like a windbreaker than any kind of water repellent), with my new white Adidas Superstar sneakers in a Winston-Salem Dash polo, sprinting in the downpour to drag the now-drenched tarp over the infield. I tell him about the comical roars from the crowd when we run off the field. The WinstonSalem fans haven’t come together to cheer for the team at this level in seven innings of play, but the Dash front office gets on the field, and it’s a standing ovation. A combination of hilarity, pity, and beer. Here we are, that morning after the tarp pull, a place neither imagined the two of us would be. Me, living in my grandpa’s home in WinstonSalem for the summer for an internship. And my grandpa, plus many of my extended relations—my mom’s two siblings and mother, and three of my dad’s sisters and his father—playing my host family in Winston-Salem. I’m chasing a career in baseball—the most expected part of the situation—which brought me to the Dash as a sponsorship and media relations intern. My grandpa unﬂinchingly agreed to house me for two-and-a-half months. His wife and my dad’s mom, the glue, the joy, the mastermind of the seven children in the Kinney family, died suddenly in November. This is the first year my grandpa has spent without her since they met when he was 21. They married about a year later. That was 62 years ago. And in the first summer since her passing, he acquired a roommate. A 21-year old college student from the University of Georgia who will introduce his refrigerator to fruit and vegetables for the first time in months and infiltrate his upstairs with an unexpected taste in leopard cardigans. I will learn about the state of American politics and Megyn Kelly’s latest hairstyle from nightly Fox News. He will watch Robert DeNiro and Anne Hathaway in The Intern. I will sleep through, and miss, 7:45 a.m. Mass with him on Sundays. He will scoff at my version of dessert as a York peppermint patty. I grew up outside of Atlanta and made holiday trips to WinstonSalem to visit the place where my parents met and went to 14 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

middle and high school. Never for more than a few days. The times I’d been in WinstonSalem involved each of my grandparents’ houses and the quick commute on Business 40 that separated them. But now my family will open their home to me for an entire summer. And I will witness a family reunion whenever I drive myself ten minutes (because nothing in Winston-Salem ventured past the 11-minute mark on Google Maps) to my choice of relations’ house. The meals and moments I wasn’t working allowed for years of stories that bridged a generational gap. Journalists interviewed my grandma as a baseball wife when her late husband and my namesake managed in the Minor Leagues, and my grandpa sunbathed on the boat deck on his way to Germany in the military during the Vietnam War. A few weeks after my tarp story, I’m perched on the ﬂoor in the living room of my aunt’s and uncle’s house with my two cousins, explaining my evening. I am on my way back from escorting the Dash’s mascot, Bolt, to a Mayberry’s opening in Lexington. There was jazz music, there was ice cream, and there was Bolt, whose costume is now in the trunk of my car in what could be mistaken for a body bag to house the enormity. Then, I was merely in need of a loving audience for what I believed to be another hilarious happening in my Minor League baseball career. It dawned on me much later that baseball, the game that I had been warned about for the hours and travel that would endanger relationships and family, had done just the opposite for me. The hours were the same foreseen brutality, but baseball instead had delivered me directly to my family. About mid-way through the summer, in June, my grandpa and I talked about how nice it had been to finally get to know each other, since moving on from the few days here and there at massive family events over my lifetime. He said this, which rings true for the entire family who housed and chatted and laughed me through the time I wasn’t at the park with the Dash this summer. It’s a mutual admiration society.

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Gotta Get Thin: Healthy Parents = Healthy Family BY MARTIE EMORY, WITH KIM AND SCOTT ALDERMAN

As Dr. Paul Williams, a popular Clemmons chiropractor, began seeing so many patients who were hampered physically by carrying extra weight, he and his wife, Diane, became intrigued with the NutriMost Ultimate Fat Loss System. Convinced the best way to lose fat is by balancing hormones and neurotransmitters, the “Gotta Get Thin” program starts each client out with the ultimate fat-loss scan, using NutriMost technology to discover each person’s unique fat burning zone.

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hrough my early years and into my 20s, I was active and KA: T always trim. As I started having children, I could never find what worked well to keep the weight off, and my exercise regimen came to a halt. Excuses and eating out were always easier than making a quality healthy dinner at home.

“We have a son and daughter, and they have been on this journey with us,” says Kim, who dropped 30 pounds. “We make sure now to eat dinner as a family and share in the planning and cooking. It gives us special bonding time with our kids without distractions.”

SA: W hen I was younger, I was active and played every sport available, but once my active life slowed, my poor eating habits caught up with me. The final straw was seeing my picture during a Super Bowl party. I saw a guy trapped in a body that didn’t feel like his own.

She and Scott have also made their weight-loss journey a real team effort.

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KA: T he program taught us effective portion control, how to expand our protein choices, to make sure we include vegetables and fruits in every meal, and to delete all processed foods. I rarely enter the “middle” of the grocery store now, as most of what we cook comes from the “outside edge.”

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With “back-to-school” in full swing, school supply ads, consuming almost as much commercial time as political ads, and the chaotic attempt to cram as much fun as possible into these warm summer nights before fall comes, have all of us wondering where all the time went.

Although some in the community can simply head to Target or Office Max and buy all the school supplies on the list with a few extra thrown in, this is a luxury not enjoyed by all. Many parents struggle to afford even the most basic supplies like pencils and paper, forcing them to send their children to school with empty book bags. With extremely tight budgets within the school system, teachers find themselves picking up the slack and purchasing supplies for their students out of their own pockets. This is where Educator Warehouse comes into play. This non-profit helps all teachers employed in the WS/FCS system who have filled out a simple application on the School District’s website. Each quarter, teachers are allowed to shop for classroom supplies using points they have been given, as opposed to their hard-earned dollars. With some teachers spending more than $500 of their own money on school supplies for their classrooms, Educator Warehouse strives to close this gap and allow teachers to avoid spending their hard-earned money on paper and pencils. While donating money is always appreciated, Educator Warehouse Director Karel Chandler needs volunteers, as well. The Educator Warehouse also benefits greatly from direct donations of muchneeded supplies.

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For more information, including how you can help through volunteering, contact Karel Chander at kchandler3@msn.com or 336.817.1673. The Educator Warehouse is located at 986 Hutton Street in Winston-Salem. Hours of operation are 3:30–5:30 pm on Tuesdays and Thursdays and 9–11am on the first and third Saturdays of each month. To learn more about the Warehouse, visit the website at forsytheducatorwarehouse.org.

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Autumn in Old Salem. A season for the senses. September 3 homowo heritage festival, African American food tasting, hands-on activities, and more September 17 mesda saturday seminar: southern longrifles October 15 harvest day at old salem! Fall foods, hands-on activities for all ages October 28, 29 legends and lanterns tours October 29, 30 pumpkin carving, trick or treat

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Ask the Experts from Brenner FIT BY MELISSA MOSES, MS, RD, LDN

Q: I’ve heard that breakfast is the most important meal of the day. But there’s no time in the morning to cook! I can barely get my kids to take a granola bar on their way to the bus stop. Please help me make breakfast a priority in my family!

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struggle with eating breakfast. However, with a few small changes in your routine, you can make breakfast a priority for your family.

Research shows that people who don’t eat breakfast tend to overeat at their next meal and throughout the day. When you skip breakfast, you tend to graze and choose higher fat, higher calorie foods. Not eating in the morning causes your metabolism to slow down and makes it harder for you to stay at a healthy weight. Breakfast gives your body the energy and nutrients to be healthy. Planning ahead can help you make breakfast a priority. Wake up just a few minutes earlier, so you have time to make breakfast. (I know this may be hard, but it will be worth it!) Start small. Eat a banana or drink a glass of milk. Breakfast does not have to be fancy. Finding just a few minutes to sit down for breakfast may encourage others to join you at the table. If it seems impossible to sit together, send the kids out the door with a grab-and-go option. A granola bar or cheese stick is better than no breakfast at

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all! Some people don’t eat breakfast because they don’t feel hungry. Starting to eat something will train your body to be hungry. Once you get into the habit of eating in the morning, you’ll probably want to add more variety. At Brenner FIT, we encourage families to have at least three food groups for breakfast. This can be as simple as adding a fruit to what you eat right now. By having three food groups for breakfast, your family will feel more satisfied. Also, including higher fiber foods (three grams or more of fiber per serving) will help everyone feel fuller. Try cereal with milk and fruit. Or, maybe serve deli meat wrapped in a high-fiber tortilla with canned fruit. A grab-and-go breakfast can be a granola bar, string cheese and grapes. Have your family help you create your grocery list! Pick a food from each column to create a balanced breakfast.

Signed: Melissa Brenner FIT (Families in Training), a pediatric weight management program at Wake Forest Baptist Health Brenner Children’s Hospital, is here to help families create healthier lifestyles together. Brenner FIT Kohl’s Family Collaborative offers free cooking, nutrition, and parenting classes. Visit BrennerChildrens.org/BrennerFit for our current class listing. Register by calling 336-713-2348 or e-mail brennerfit@wakehealth.edu.

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Craniosynostosis Awareness Month BY MEGHAN E.W. CORBETT

Sometimes, just knowing someone else is going through or has gone through a hard time similar to yours, is all you need to help you through. This can especially be the case when that hard time includes a child, and that child’s family feels helpless and scared. According to the Mayo Clinic, “Craniosynostosis” is defined as “…a birth defect in which one or more of the joints between the bones of your baby’s skull close prematurely, before your baby’s brain is fully formed. When your baby has craniosynostosis, his or her brain can’t grow in its natural shape, and the head is misshapen.” Shannon Ford knows this definition all-too well, because at just three months of age, her son was diagnosed with craniosynostosis. “I kept telling myself he had my grandfather’s long forehead,” said Ford. “I had never heard of it and had never known anyone that was diagnosed. The scariest part was that doctors really told me nothing—just referred me. They said they were not that familiar with it. I remember the doctor saying, ‘Don’t let this ruin your long weekend. We have had cases like this before, and the kids were fine.’” Luckily, Shannon was made aware that there are essentially three options for treatment— • Extended strip craniectomy with helmet therapy • Spring-assisted cranial expansion • Cranial vault distraction As fate would have it, she found that one of the nation’s best surgeons, Dr. Lisa David, practiced at Brenner Children’s Hospital and was one of very few doctors on the East Coast at the time who was an expert in the spring-assisted cranial expansion. “Without this surgery, their heads will continue only to grow one way and place pressure on the brain,” Ford said. “If not treated, complications can develop regarding the cranial pressure, including poor vision, developmental delays, and even 24 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

permanent brain damage.” Luke’s surgery took place June 2010. “I spent the entire night before surgery staring at him,” confessed Ford. “Oh, how I wanted the night to end…to just be over…this feeling of dread. And, on the other hand, I never wanted the night to end… morning brought surgery on my baby’s head. I prayed all night. I tried my best to keep those terrible thoughts from creeping into my head.” Everything went well! “They kept us updated throughout the surgery,” stated Ford. “That call was such a relief that he was done and in recovery. Oh, the relief. He was so tiny with his head completely bandaged. And he was definitely swollen. And very pale. It’s amazing how resilient babies are—we were only in the hospital for two days. He was a champ.” Since the surgery, Luke has had zero issues. “He will be checked annually by Dr. David until puberty, as these plates stay open into puberty to allow the brain room to grow,” said Ford. And, because she originally felt so scared and unsure, she knows how important awareness is for all those parents in the future who will be faced with similar fears. She has some wonderful, comforting advice for them. “You are not alone,” Ford said. “It’s more common than you think, and the outlook is wonderful, once they are treated. So, even though the surgery and side-effects are incredibly scary, it’s treatable.” Through all of her research, Shannon found some great resources that helped her feel confident about what was going on every step of the way. “I wish I had thought of Facebook groups,” admitted Ford. “One of the most active Facebook groups that connect people all around the world every day to specialists is Cranio Kids-Craniosynostosis Support. It’s so wonderful to have someone going through something similar, at your fingertips 24/7.” For more information about craniosynostosis, visit www. cappskids.org/craniosynostosis. To read more about Shannon’s story, visit triadmomsonmain.com/my-blog/got-cranio or contact her at shannonshinaultford@gmail.com.

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FIESTA 2016 Downtown Winston-Salem is once again going to take on a Latin flair, a salsa beat and jazz flavor for the 24th-Annual FIESTA street festival. On Saturday, September 24th, the Hispanic League will hold their FIESTA street festival on Poplar Street, Spruce Street, Holly Avenue, at The Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts, The Sawtooth School for Visual Art, Winston Square Park, and the Hanesbrands Theater parking area. Held in downtown WinstonSalem and celebrating National Hispanic Heritage Month, FIESTA is a multicultural Hispanic festival presented by the Hispanic League. FIESTA has become a true WinstonSalem tradition, with an average attendance of over 20,000 people, making it the largest one-day popular street festival in the Triad. Most importantly, it is a key community event, celebrating diversity, Hispanic/Latino heritage, and crosscultural understanding among all people of the community. Kicking off FIESTA this year will be a naturalization ceremony by USCIS in The Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts at 11:30 am. This is the first time this ceremony will be performed at FIESTA, with an estimated 25 individuals becoming citizens of the United States. Immediately following will be the annual Parade of Flags, stopping at each of the three stages. This colorful parade celebrates all Latin American countries and Hispanic Americans. Downtown Winston-Salem will be alive with regional, national and international Hispanic/Latino live music, unique arts and crafts, authentic food vendors, a healthy-living area plus the fabulous and fun children’s area. There will be flyers with maps available at FIESTA, listing all the great booths and activities. Public parking garages are located on the corner of 4½ Street and Poplar and Cherry streets near the Embassy Suites. There is also “on the street” parking in the surrounding area. FIESTA is a rain-or-shine event FREE to the community. However, you will want to bring some money to purchase tickets to enjoy the many authentic food vendors offering the best of Latin-American cuisine and drinks from the Beer & Margarita Cantinas, plus PepsiCo-sponsored soft drinks. Also, there are arts and crafts with items for sale from around the world. This year, we will continue the use of food tickets to help make your purchases from food vendors easier. There will be three clearly marked and easy-to-find booths, where you can purchase your food and beverage tickets, along with a bracelet to allow alcohol purchases. Each ticket is worth $1 and they can be purchased in increments of $5 and $10. Please note, food and drink vendors cannot accept cash, only tickets. The Smart Start of Forsyth County Children’s Area will be at Winston Square Park, located at 310 N. Marshall Street. Plan to bring your family for the day from 12–7 p.m. The area includes a Children’s Stage with local live acts, including the dance of “Los Viejitos,” the Grupo Panailli Aztec dance, performing elementary school students from WS/FC Schools, and even a Kids’ Zumba Fitness and Hoopdio. The Children’s Area will also have an arts and crafts station, face painting, piñatas, balloon art, and other activities to keep the children entertained. Other highlights will include the Forsyth County Public Library Book Mobile, large inflatables and more! Remember, FIESTA is FREE to the public and is a rain-or-shine event! For more information and a complete schedule of performance times, activities and events, visit www.hispanicleague.org. FIESTA is a fundraiser for the Hispanic League, with all funds raised from FIESTA sponsors, vendors and donations supporting cultural, health, education and scholarship programs for the Hispanic/Latino community. Established in 1992, the Hispanic League improves the quality of life for Hispanics/Latinos through community inclusion, education, health and multicultural understanding. For more information on the Hispanic League, to learn about upcoming events, become a member, volunteer, make a donation, or stay connected to your local Hispanic/Latino community, visit www.hispanicleague.org, or e-mail info@hispanicleague. org, or call 336-770-1228. 26 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

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On Wednesday, August 3rd, Fleet Feet Sports of Winston-Salem celebrated their 10th anniversary in stride with a ‘fun run’ that consisted of a 1- and 3-mile course. Following the run, the 300 participants and guests enjoyed food that was donated by Fleet Feet’s retail neighbors—Hickory Tavern, PDQ, Tijuana Flats, Walmart, Firestorm, and beer from Foothills Brewing. The afternoon was filled with excitement and fun, as Kurt Myers from WBFJ Radio Station entertained the crowd. Fleet Feet had door prizes and gave away ten pairs of shoes, one from each of their core shoe vendors. Local franchise owners Keith and Emily Davis had a vision ten years ago when they opened their 2500-square-foot store. This was all to help their community live a more comfortable, fit and healthy lifestyle. Both avid marathon runners and sports enthusiasts, Emily’s and Keith’s fitness passion has brought them to their new 7200-square-foot location at HanesTowne Village on Stratford Road. Keith says, “We’ve been blessed to be able to do this for a living. Helping others live a more fit life is very rewarding. There have certainly been ups and downs over the years, but what makes everything come together is consistent prayer and a fantastic staff that operates as a family.” Congratulations to Fleet Feet on a decade of growth and success! And they would like to thank the community for supporting Fleet Feet Sports and all local businesses. If you’re “sole” searching, be sure to stop by Fleet Feet Sports, 278 Harvey Street (next to LA Fitness on Stratford Road), or go to www.ﬂeetfeetwinston-salem.com

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Kids’ HEART HEALTH Starts at Home Just the Facts, Ma’am BY AMERICAN HEART ASSOCIATION NEWS

The road to cardiovascular disease begins in childhood, and it’s a road many American children are on, based on a new report from the American Heart Association that indicates very few kids meet all the criteria for ideal heart health. Many are overweight or obese. Others don’t get enough exercise or have picked up smoking. But the biggest disqualifying factor was diet: Less than 1 percent of children ages 2 to 19 meet the criteria for an ideal diet, according to federal data from 2007 to 2008. That troubling reality led the AHA to issue a scientific statement that provides the first detailed look at ideal heart health for kids: No tobacco use, a healthy weight, at least 60 minutes of exercise a day, a healthy diet score and normal blood pressure, total cholesterol and blood sugar. Among the data compiled in the statement, about 91 percent of children have poor diets, with most calories coming from simple carbohydrates, such as sugary desserts and drinks. Among 6- to 11-year-olds, only half of boys and about one-third of girls got at least one hour of exercise each day. Even fewer teens got enough exercise.

Challenges to help your family get healthier together. For the first Family Health Challenge— “Movement is Why”—Forsyth families are encouraged to plan and participate in activities that get the family up and moving more in fun ways. Then on a simple online form, families will share what they have done to get more exercise together and how they made it fun. They will also describe how getting more active as a family has improved and/or changed their family’s health and strengthened their relationships. For the first Family Health Challenge, Forsyth families that participate will be entered to win a kayaking adventure on the Haw River and a three-month Family Membership at the Gateway YWCA. Visit www.NovantHealth.org/LifeIsWhy for healthy family tips and to get started today! MAKE YOUR PLAN & MAKE IT FUN: Whether you’re a single parent or married, a stay-at-home parent or working, here are ways to make more time for the whole family to be more heart-healthy:

school. Make physical activity a regular part of your family’s schedule. Write it on a weekly calendar for the whole family. 3. Take baby steps, not giant leaps. If you’re the head of your household, making sure that all the heads and hearts in your home are healthy is a lot to handle. The key is to take baby steps. Getting heart-healthy is a journey; you don’t have to do everything at once. 4. Limit TV, computer, video-game time. Don’t position your furniture so the TV is the main focus of the room. Remove televisions from bedrooms. And remember to avoid using TV as a reward or punishment. 5. Be active with your kids. Experts say that what kids want more than anything else is time with their parents. To give them that, don’t just send them out to play—go play with them! 6. Most importantly—MAKE IT FUN! Here are just a few ideas: • a family game night out in the back yard • shooting some hoops after dinner

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1. Identify free times for activity. Pick two 30-minute and two 60-minute time slots for family activity time. Weekdays are usually better for 30-minute activities and weekends are better for 60-minute activities.

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Sportsplex/Soccerplex BY MEGHAN E.W. CORBETT No matter what type of athletic activity you are into, there is a way to get totally immersed in it at the Winston-Salem Sportsplex. Even if you consider yourself more of a spectator, there is something for everyone at this facility that is quickly growing in popularity! “The Winston-Salem SportsPlex is perfect for families and players of all ages, sports and skill levels,” said Program Director Jessica Baity. “Our facility boasts two turf indoor fields, concessions and a spectator mezzanine. We also have brand-new outdoor artificial turf fields surrounded by nets and with lights to make sure the fun never stops! Our facility also offers a variety of programs for all ages and serves as a great location for programs/individuals to rent for their own programs/play. We share our facility with Athletic Republic, a 5,000-squarefoot indoor workout facility that focuses on improving athletes’ strength, speed and agility.” The Winston-Salem SportsPlex has recently been through some major changes. “In the spring of 2016, Owner Scott Wollaston decided to expand and rebrand the Winston-Salem Soccerplex to become the Winston-Salem SportsPlex, in order to enhance our facility for all sports,” said Baity. “We began the renovations in June by replacing the indoor turf to improve field quality and get rid of the black infill that was there previously. Our next step was to break ground on the new outdoor fields behind the facility. These fields will have the same artificial turf as the indoor fields and will offer sport nets and lights for continuous play. Lastly, we have renovated the inside of the facility through painting and full-facility cleaning.” 32 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

There are many ways to enjoy all the space at the Winston-Salem SportsPlex, including SoccerTots, Summer Camps and Training, Indoor and Outdoor Leagues, Open Play and events like birthday parties and corporate events. ~ SOCCERTOTS: “A program we run through SuperTots Sports Academy that targets kids ages one-and-a-half through five,” said Baity. “It is designed to delight and engage kids in physical activity. The program is professionally constructed to develop motor skills, promote physical activity and build social skills along with self-confidence.” ~ SUMMER CAMPS/TRAINING: “We offer specialized sports camps and training opportunities, such as SoccerOP Training, for kids of all ages and skill levels throughout the year.” ~ INDOOR/OUTDOOR LEAGUES: “We offer men’s, women’s, co-ed and youth leagues throughout the course of the year. You can bring your own team or enter as an individual.” ~ OPEN PLAY: “Starting this fall, we will be using a new app (available for download on your cell phone) to schedule all of our openplay events. Using this app, players will be able to view open-play times and register themselves for a certain time. Come and play alone or bring a group of friends!” ~ BIRTHDAY PARTIES: “Our birthday party packages range from basic to all-inclusive and are designed to give you the ultimate party experience. Each party includes a party area, 90-minute field rental and 45-minute party coach whose role is to make sure that every child has a blast. Each party also includes access to multi-sport equipment (ex.: soccer balls, softball/baseball equipment, dodge balls and more) so that the kids can choose their own fun! Lastly, we offer discounts when you book your cake and pizza through our partners. Our customers also have the option to rent bubble soccer balls or inﬂatables for all parties.

~ CORPORATE EVENTS: “We offer a special discount to corporations which want to host a fun, athletic outing for their employees. Run similar to a birthday, rentals include a mezzanine area for food, a field rental and access to all of our multi-sport equipment, along with a party coordinator to organize your event. This fall, the Winston-Salem SportsPlex will kick off “Playdayz,” where moms and not-yet-school-aged children can come play one day a week. “Pay a small, per-child fee and enjoy unlimited play in and out of our facility,” said Baity. “Check back with our website for more information and weekly play themes. We will also be opening our facility to school-aged kids on fall days, when they have either early release or no school! Check our website for more information and to reserve your spot!” While the Winston-Salem SportsPlex has just recently gone through some major changes, the door is always open for suggestions and comments from customers on ways to offer even more. “Our hope for the SportsPlex is to become the premier training destination for all sports and teams in the Piedmont Triad area,” said Baity. “Our facility is open to groups of any and all sports for one-time rentals or longer-term lease agreements. We have hosted lacrosse, field hockey, baseball, football, soccer, ultimate Frisbee, ﬂag football and dodge ball. We also serve as a training facility for local high schools and clubs in the Triad area.” The Winston-Salem SportsPlex is located at 7620 Phoenix Drive in Winston-Salem. For more information, call 336.896.0383, e-mail baity.jessica@gmail.com or visit the website at www. wssportsplex.com.

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Lillie’s Friends TURNING TRAGEDY INTO HOPE BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

On Good Friday, April 9th, 2004, Michelle and Cory Boyte welcomed Lillie into their family of three. Along with sister, Hannah, Lillie was a special blessing with a smile and spirit that could light up a room and touch a world. Little did the Boytes know, their Lillie would touch the world of children and families dealing with neuroblastoma, a rare form of pediatric cancer. From Happiness to Heartbreak in One Day Like many families, the Boytes enjoyed family beach trips. With two little girls, Hannah, 5, and Lillie, 2 ½ years old, these were the days parents wish they could freeze in time and hold on to forever. “During our family beach trip in October 2006, we began to notice that Lillie wasn’t sleeping well, but she was away from home and out of her routine, so we didn’t think that much of it. But once we returned home, the poor sleep continued, and she looked a little pale and seemed tired. Nothing out of the ordinary for a toddler with a virus,” recalled Michelle Boyte. When the symptoms persisted, Michelle took Lillie to PrimeCare, where the physician did blood work. “The doctor was alarmed when Lillie’s hemoglobin was 6.5 and her platelets were 22,000. I later learned that normal hemoglobin is 12.0 and normal platelets are 150,000. We were immediately sent to Brenner Children’s Hospital Emergency Room. Lillie stayed overnight and had more tests, and the next day we were told that Lillie had Stage IV cancer with only a 30% chance of survival,” said Boyte. The Journey to Save Lillie When Lillie was diagnosed, she had a tumor on her adrenal gland the size of a softball, areas of disease on her liver and 80% of her bone marrow was diseased. “Lillie had all of the aggressive treatment recommended, except the bone marrow transplant. We took Lillie to St. Jude in Memphis, TN, five days after her diagnosis, where there was a clinical trial that Lillie could be part of. Brenner Children’s Hospital was instrumental in a very quick transition to St. Jude. When she did not respond to the treatment, we went to Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center in Manhattan, NY. After only one round of treatment, Lillie was declared NED (no evidence of disease),” commented Michelle Boyte. The next six weeks of remission status was filled with hope and the birth of the Boytes’ third daughter, Eva Hope. Lillie and her dad, Cory, returned to NY for a follow-up scan, when Lillie became ill, and the physicians discovered that the cancer had returned and had spread to her brain. “With a two-week-old, Eva, and Hannah, then 5, I flew to NY to be with Cory and Lillie and determine the status of the disease and the treatment options. After six weeks we realized a cure would not be found for Lillie. She bravely battled ‘the beast’ for ten months. She was finally cured on August 28th, 2007, when she went to Heaven,” said Michelle Boyte. 36 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

Finding a Way to Go On After Lillie passed away, Michelle Boyte began struggling with the true purpose of her life and Lillie’s illness. “What were we supposed to learn or do with this heartache? There had to be a reason. Our faith remained strong, and we knew God could take this pain and bring something good from it; He works all things for good,” recalled Michelle Boyte. Almost a year after Lillie’s passing; the Boytes and some friends began talking about a foundation to help other families dealing with childhood cancer. Lillie’s Friends Foundation was founded to provide real hope to families by raising awareness and funding for innovative research that significantly increases cure rates; support is also given to families through the crisis that comes with the child’s diagnosis. Ultimately the goal is to give people a very tangible way to help kids fighting cancer. But it is also extremely important to share our faith and our story of hope after tragedy. Good things can and will come, but it is a choice we make. “Follow the Yellow Brick Road” Lillie’s Friends Foundation will hold their 8th-Annual 5K to support kids with cancer on Saturday, September 17th, 2016. However, there are major changes this year, including new time, new location, and a new theme. “September is Childhood Cancer Awareness Month, and we felt like it was only fitting to hold the event during this time,” said Boyte. Lillie’s Friends’ “Follow the Yellow Brick Road 5K” and “Munchkin Mile Fun Run” will start and finish at the Gateway YWCA. The course will run through historic Washington Park and Old Salem. Participants will literally be “Going Gold” with our finish-line color throw! This event is fun for the whole family, with Wizard of Oz characters, a costume contest, crafts, face painting, tandem hot air balloon “rides” (weather permitting) and much more. All proceeds go to support kids with cancer. For more information on Lillie’s Friends Foundation, recent projects funded or to register for the “Follow the Yellow Brick Road 5K” and “Munchkin Mile,” visit www.lilliesfriends.org.

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KERNERSVILLE LOCATION Hayworth Miller’s motto, “Old Values, New Traditions,” is evident as you visit, or are served by, any of our locations. HayworthMiller is one of the largest family-owned funeral homes in the state and one of the few in Forsyth County that are still familyowned. Dating back over 55 years to 1961, when it was formed by W. Paul Hayworth and Robert F. Miller, the business has grown to include five locations—Winston-Salem, Kernersville, Rural Hall, Advance, and Lewisville—all of which provide full-service funerals and cremations, customized to meet the families’ needs. Our Kernersville location, established in 1984, is one of our largest locations, convenient for both Forsyth and northwest Guilford families. Our newly renovated Chapel will seat 245 people, with the capability of projecting services into overflow areas for larger crowds. Our facility also provides ample parking, creating smooth transitions from services to processions and allowing room for outside memorial displays of vehicles, etc. that depict a part of a loved one’s interests or career. Being locally owned and operated means that business decisions directly affecting families are made at the local level. Families have the peace of knowing that we share the same customs, traditions, and neighborhood involvement. Our staff members live in nearby neighborhoods, spanning Winston-Salem, Kernersville, Colfax, Oak Ridge, Germanton, and Walkertown, giving families the comfort of finding a familiar face. We have all experienced loss in our families, thoroughly understanding the importance of treating others in the same caring way we want to be treated ourselves. Kernersville Chapel’s involvement in the community reaches beyond our doors. We proudly sponsor and participate in events with local organizations like The Shepherd Center, area churches/ high schools, YMCA-Active Adult Day, the Kernersville Police Day Camp, Kernersville Cares for Kids, Special Needs Proms, Grief Share, and we host an annual July 4th Veterans Breakfast. We have staff that are active members of Kernersville Rotary and Kiwanis Clubs and provide pizza for many local church Vacation Bible School programs. 38 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

As with all of our locations, our Kernersville Chapel provides our families with a group of qualified staff that share compassion for others, while taking care of necessary details for proper and respectful “Celebrations of Life.” We always have sufficient staff at services and work together as a team to carry out the many components of a service. We are very mindful of the emotions that accompany a loss and go above and beyond to provide measures that bring comfort to families, incorporating their ideas wherever possible. Each location has a Pre-Need Consultant available for preplanning details and financial arrangements. Although final planning is not something one thinks about every day, taking care of these arrangements certainly can offer peace of mind to the individual and his or her family. Hayworth-Miller is very open to the personalization of funeral services through many different forms of technology, including our “Life Tribute Video” program, giving families the option of selecting a collection of photos for use at visitations and services. Our website features obituary notices, online guest books and photo albums, where visitors can upload pictures and leave online condolences for families. One can find information on our website for preplanning funerals and resources for aftercare and counseling services. We have a wide range of products customizing burial merchandise that enable families to highlight a loved one’s interests and character, as well as products like Fingerprint jewelry and Life Symbol pieces that can be used as keepsakes following the death of a loved one. We also provide monument services for families seeking to place visible, enduring tributes at a burial site. Being able to provide families with guided trust and sincere care when death occurs is the utmost goal of our service, and we will continue to uphold our well-established reputation and maintain the positive values that are at the core of our business for many years to come.

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Bouncing Your Way through the School Day BY MEGAN TAYLOR Sitting at a desk for 5–6 hours a day can be hard for anyone, let alone a young, energetic student in a classroom. So, how can a student release his or her energy while still learning? Former school counselor, Scott Ertl, used his career experience to come up with a bouncy solution. In 2014, Ertl founded “Bouncy Bands,” and students, teachers, and parents are finding them to be a great success. “As a counselor for 18 years, I worked with kids who didn’t know what to do with their extra energy, anxiety, or frustrations in school. I tried everything from stress balls to yoga balls and got mixed results. Then, I heard about tying recycled bicycle inner tubes to desks, and kids could bounce their feet on the bands. I visited the Clemmons Bike Shop for some old bicycle inner tubes, but after thousands of bounces, problems occurred. After working with many different designs, materials, and molds, we have made amazing improvements on our original design,” said Ertl. Ertl’s inspiration to creating Bouncy Bands came from wanting to help students enjoy school more by being able to focus better in class and to show what they have learned when taking tests. “I love helping kids enjoy school. Many parents feel helpless when their children say they hate it, and [the parents] often don’t know what to do to help. It’s really hard when kids get in trouble every day for being themselves. Now, parents can ask the teacher if it’s okay for their child to try a Bouncy Band for a week. Most teachers are amazed at how quickly they help, and most of all kids are happier and less stressed in school.” said Ertl. The bands come in a few different types. There are three styles for desks, including wide and specialty, as well as two types for chairs, one for chairs with legs 13–18” apart and a larger one for chairs 17–22”. All bands come with support pipes, and replacement bands are also available. “Bouncy Bands are made from a latex-free, heavy-duty rubber and are strong enough to hold down tarps on tractor-trailer trucks. The support pipes are created from a polypropylene plastic that is phthalates-free. All packaging and shipping of the products is done at our warehouse in Winston-Salem. To assemble, the bands and support pipes simply slide up the chair or desk legs from the floor. The support pipes keep the band 40 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

from sliding down to the floor from repeated use,” said Ertl. To order bouncy bands, individuals or schools can order via Amazon at Kaplan’s in Lewisville, and at BouncyBands.com. To determine the success rate of the product, Ertl sent a survey to teachers who bought the bands in 2015. According to Ertl, results came back from 144 teachers in 23 different states and showed that 92% reported that Bouncy Bands help students release energy, and 87% stated movement helped students to focus better in the classroom. A full summary of the survey results and additional research can be found on the company’s website. Financial assistance is also available for educators interested in purchasing Bouncy Bands. “My best success has been the fact that over 1,400 teachers were able to get funded last school year through DonorsChoose.org, AdoptAClassroom. org, GoFundMe.com, or through local grants. Social media and sharing online fundraisers have been super successful for teachers in avoiding the handling of donations and receipts. They simply put the Bouncy Bands into their online shopping carts and share the link with family, friends, and students’ parents. Most parents share the link, and the class fundraiser is quickly funded, and the Bouncy Bands are automatically shipped to the teacher,” said Ertl. Looking into the future, Ertl already has big plans for the company, including expanding into medical offices. “I’ve heard from doctors and dentists who have been using the bands in their waiting rooms for kids and adults before surgery, or just regular visits, which can also be really stressful. They are telling me they are noticing patients are using less anesthesia and having quicker recovery times. I’d like to get a National Institutes of Health (NIH) study to investigate and hopefully help millions of people. Also, I’m working on different applications for different style chairs and products for cars, vans, and airplanes for long trips,” said Ertl. Bouncy Bands is located past Airbound Trampoline Park at 8075-Q North Point Blvd. in Winston-Salem. Call (646) 926-2440, or visit online at BouncyBands.com. Be sure to like them on Facebook.

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A Word from the Residents: Chamberlain Place Apartments BY MERIDITH WHITAKER If you are looking for a new place to call home, you may be considering location, safety, cost, and amenities as factors in making your decision. Catherine, Alexandria, and Angie were considering the same things, and they are each happy to have found the perfect fit in Chamberlain Place Apartments. I spoke with these three ladies about their experience and was pleased to hear how each, though with different backgrounds and in different stages of life, have made Chamberlain Place home.

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and the quiet, comfortable atmosphere. I liked that it was close to the highway, with plenty of options for shopping nearby. It was only after I moved in, though, that I realized the biggest benefits of living in this particular community. The Officer Manager and Assistant Managers are so friendly and are willing to help out at a moment’s notice. When I informed management that my dishwasher was leaking, they showed up with a new dishwasher the very next day. When my balcony needed to be pressure washed, they came out and took care of it two days later. They will fix things, spray for bugs—whatever they can do to make you feel at home. In addition to the excellent office staff, I enjoy feeling connected with my neighbors. Everyone is friendly, and they look out for each other. I go to the pool almost every day, and I know everyone there!

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I moved to the WinstonSalem area two and a half years ago from New Jersey to be closer to my daughter, who lives in North Carolina. I looked around at many apartment complexes, but what attracted me to Chamberlain Place was the convenient location

I have a two-year-old and a baby, so I really appreciate that this apartment complex is quiet and safe. I have never had any issues with noise or any other problems from neighbors. In fact, my neighbors are incredibly kind and supportive—they even brought gifts when my daughter was born! The playground is within walking distance, which is incredibly convenient with my children. I also enjoy the location, which is near the highway and close to Tanglewood, where we enjoy spending time outdoors. The

office staff is great, too. They are willing to help out whenever I need it, and they always call ahead to notify me before maintenance comes in. Everyone respects each other here, and I doubt I could find that in many other communities.

Angie What first attracted me to Chamberlain Place was the layout, which was unique compared to some other apartments I was looking at. To me, the layout of the community is more spacedout, and there is plenty of greenery in the landscaping, making it a refreshing retreat from the city. I have a dog, so I was looking for a petfriendly community, too. Chamberlain Place has great sidewalks to walk my dog around safely. She loves making new doggy friends! The office and maintenance staff have been very helpful and attentive with any questions I have. The location is perfect, since it is close to the hustle and bustle of Clemmons, with easy access to the highway; yet when you come through the gates, it is quiet and quaint. My take-away from the conversations with Catherine, Alexandria, and Angie was that Chamberlain Place is a safe, welcoming, kindhearted community in a convenient location. It is also a place with very happy residents!

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Creation at its Finest BY MADISON LING

As I stepped into Studio Create, I saw a whirlwind of movement and heard lots of excited voices. I was greeted by about 15 energetic children, two counselors, and Mrs. Leigh Ann Alexander herself. This is the heart of the studio—art camp. While the studio’s main focus is birthday parties, Leigh Ann let me in on a little secret. Her heart really lies in the camps and teaching kids the joy of expressing themselves. She puts an emphasis on the camp being “open-ended to foster creativity,” even teaching kids about math, reading, and writing under the guise of art. Also, she really tries to show the kids lessons about life, including, but not limited to, giving to others. Her camp pushes kids to seek out their creative spirit, but also teaches them about real life. Her down-to-earth sensibility, combined with reaching for the absolute most imaginative concepts, creates the best atmosphere for kids to learn and play during the summer. Speaking to some of the kids who were participating in the camp this week, I saw some real, beneficial differences in learning about art in an atmosphere like Studio Create, compared to traditional art classes in school. The camps at Studio Create engender a much more free and independent spirit, allowing the kids to express themselves and let their imagination go wild. I was greeted enthusiastically with explanations of every single project the kids had done so far. Painting, drawing, and working with clay seemed to be the favorites of all of the kids, while another favorite included “art attacks,” where kids gave out “color bombs” they had drawn to boost joy. The best part of the camp, one child said, is that “each day is different, you get to be yourself and be creative.” Another child excitedly explained the wonders of expressing herself 44 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

and showing her skills. The one problem the kids found during the camps was running out of time to create all the art they wanted to! One of the counselors marveled to me at how amazing the art was that the kids created, given how young they were. Her favorite project with the kids was exploding paint, made with vinegar and paint, into which the kids put baking soda, causing the bag of paint to explode, which brought seemingly endless fun to the campers! Another, more serious project, was shown to me, this time by Leigh Ann. And this creative endeavor blew me away with its sensitivity and creativity. In a previous week, Leigh Ann had created a camp directed towards kids with a creative, entrepreneurial tendency. One of the fruits of this camp came in the form of a large orange box. This box, created in remembrance of her brother Breiner, was inspired in an attempt to create comfort in the hospital room of a sick or injured child. She chose to create a box of blankets, toys, art supplies and, of course, love, that would be placed in hospital rooms as a distraction not only for the sick or injured child, but also for their siblings. Its main purpose would be to draw attention away from the whirring and beeping of the hospital and instead, bring hope and joy to the family. The title of this diverse tool is “Breiner’s Box of Hope.” Created by kids for kids, in the words of its inventor, Leigh Ann hopes to sponsor this invention and bring this idea into existence in local hospitals and make a difference in comforting families in tough times. The thoughtful creativity of a child burst forth from the encouragement that was given to her at Studio Create, and brought forth an idea that could very well change the lives of many scared and hurting families. STUDIO CREATE is located at 6285 Shallowford Rd, Lewisville, NC 27023. Call 336.689.3669 and be sure to like them on Facebook!

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Helping Children Cope with the Loss of a Pet BY ROBIN WHITE ELLIS

As a parent, I believe that the most difficult thing to explain to our children is death. A child is so innocent and full of joyful expectations that they cannot understand the ultimate finality of such a prospect. To mar that whimsical and lovely mindset hurts us as protectors of our little ones. I have been guilty of replacing fish in tanks with look-alikes so that my daughter would not notice that the originals had taken their final flush. Unfortunately, that is not a long-term answer. At some point, we have to inform our kids that a beloved furry family member is gone and will not return. While heart-wrenching, it is a fact of life. A child’s first foray into the possibility of death can be traumatic and confusing. Thankfully for caregivers, there are steps that can be taken to lessen the effect and help a child to recover from such an experience.

Another vital fact to bear in mind is that children turn everything back onto themselves. They may feel unreasonable guilt by expressing that they did not spend enough time with their pet. Children look for reasons, when sometimes there is no explanation to offer. They will have many questions, and those queries should be answered as honestly as possible, while refraining from scaring the little one. He or she will most likely ask about the afterlife for animals. We should be prepared for that with answers based upon our own spiritual beliefs or even by simply answering that we do not know, but can offer possibilities based upon other religious backgrounds. It is incredibly difficult to provide such answers, but our children will wonder and want to know.

The first thing is to be direct. We should never use terms such as “put to sleep” or “gone away.” Those phrases are confusing to a child and leave hope that the pet will return. We also do not want to open up the idea that sleep can equate to never returning! Good luck trying to put a little one to bed after such a conversation! While being direct, we can soften this somewhat by leaving out traumatic and frightening details of what happened. A child does not need to hear the details of an accident or illness. We should never use phrases such as “God took your pet,” as that elicits fear that God will also take them or their parents and other loved ones.

It is perfectly acceptable to cry in front of, or with, your child. We should control our emotions as much as possible, because sobbing uncontrollably can frighten a young one even more. Shedding tears and sharing in the child’s grief is acceptable and, oddly enough, it is helpful to the child to watch their parent work through bereavement and heartache. We do not have to appear as stoic soldiers in front of our children. It is also a good idea to plan a memorial or burial for the pet, for the family to get a chance to say goodbye and honor the life of your pet. Encourage your children to express themselves through drawings and stories, and use those things to create a scrapbook of favorite memories and pictures.

Bear in mind that your child’s reaction may vary according to age and temperament. They may not respond in ways that you expect. A very young child may seem inconsolable one moment and play cheerfully the next, only to return to sadness later. Older children may react in anger and denial. We should give our children permission to work through their grief, encouraging them to talk freely about their lost pet, when needed. This could involve speaking to their teachers, as their school work and behavior may be impacted by such news.

Children and pets just seem to go together. I remember every one of my childhood animal pals with adoration and fondness. They were my faithful sidekicks, my family, my best friends who always were available to show me love and affection. It hurt a great deal to lose them, but I believe that these pets made me a more caring and open person. There is no doubt that having and caring for a pet teaches our children a great deal about life, both the joy and dealing with the sadness.

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A lot has changed in the barbering industry over the years. For instance, did you know that before the 1800s many barbers were also considered surgeons? That’s right, they not only groomed your hair, they also performed various necessary surgeries as well, including repairing broken limbs. I think even today’s barber is happy that practice no longer exists. However, there are some things that haven’t changed, including one early tradition that dates as far back as 5th century B.C.

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That tradition is the art of socializing, and it has become a staple of the profession as much today as it was then. The early Greek barbers encouraged local gossiping to fill the time while performing the typical services of hair grooming, styling, and beard shaving and trimming. Of course, today, it’s not as much about gossip as it is about merely enjoying the comradery and social interaction with your trusted barber while discussing sports, politics, the latest news events and more. This tradition has continued, perhaps because there’s just something about barbershops that makes them seem natural as places where you can let your guard down and simply enjoy the company and experience. When a young Adam Thomas was growing up, relishing his rite of passage into manhood by having his hair no longer cut by his mom, and instead at the local barbershop in the small town of Austell, Georgia, outside of Atlanta, he never thought that one day he would own a similar service in Winston-Salem. To hear him talk about it, though, there is a significant difference in the early experience he had, versus the one he provides his customers today. This difference centers on the retro-classic, and yet upscale-stylish, environment and enhanced services his customers can experience at V’s Barber Shop at 380 Knollwood Street in Winston-Salem. A sophisticated environment that embodies the beauty of old-school appeal combined with a contemporary touch, incorporating the luxury services of today, was exactly what Adam had in mind. One step inside V’s Barbershop and there’s no question he hit the mark. From the blackand-white diamond-checkered tile floors to the thick, rich leather chairs and chrome accents and footstools, with ceiling fans providing

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gentle breezes, V’s takes you back to a simpler time. Next, V’s blends in modern amenities, including a personal highdefinition flat-screen television at each station, and significant and interesting sports memorabilia photographs adorning the emerald-green-and-brick-veneeraccented walls. The cherrywood stations topped with granite provide a feeling of both opulence and casual comfort at the same time. V’s offers the finest men’s grooming products, including Jack Black, American Crew, Suavecito, Upper Cut, Layrite and more, along with V’s own select brand of specialty shaving products. Adam reveals that these offerings are a big hit with his customers, who understand the benefit of using superior products to achieve their best appearance. Topping off the ambiance are the soothing sounds of contemporary jazz music playing in the background. You can see this is clearly not your grandfather’s barbershop. Although the environment is important, Adam knows that excellent services are equally important, and V’s strives to provide the best to pamper their customers—grooming choices that include haircuts and styles from traditional to the latest trends, shampoo, straight-razor shaves, and beard and mustache trims. There’s also added features like facials and facial massages, and even

the classic shoeshine. To top it all off, V’s provides a complimentary hot-lather neck shave and relaxing shoulder massage after your haircut that rejuvenates your mind and spirit to take on the rest of your day. V’s has taken the chore out of getting your routine haircut and replaced it with a feeling of anticipation and pleasure. This is a refined, masculine resource to visit and experience one of the best solutions to a tired, hectic, demanding day, and that’s no other than their hot-towel, straight-razor shave. The facial and facial massage are also excellent services to turn your busy day around to a more positive note and leave you feeling restored, refreshed, and relaxed. V’s prominent signature hot towels make these experiences even more soothing and enjoyable. Adam makes a point that today’s barbers, with all the new services offered, require special training to be the best. That’s why he’s happy to have such a great staff of male and female Master Barbers available that are experienced and highly skilled at what they do. You’ll feel comfortable and confident knowing you’re being groomed and styled routinely by artisans in their craft. He is pleased to be able to offer these upscale services and products to his customers at very affordable rates, with haircuts starting at just $15 for boys and $21 for men. Special Packages and Gift cards are also available that make it easy to provide a nice relaxing experience for that special someone for any occasion. Being the proud father of his son, Grant, who is a member of the United States Navy, Adam has a special bond with military servicemen, which is why V’s is delighted to offer military personnel (both

active and veterans), police and firemen, along with V’s senior customers, a 20% discount on services every day. Adam advised, “One of the best parts of this business is getting to know new people along with building strong friendships with existing customers and families. Watching the families grow and seeing what was once little children become grown men and [then] becoming loyal clients in their own right is a most rewarding experience. I enjoy being a small part of their family’s rich history.” Aside from his business Adam has been able to pursue another passion he’s always wanted to explore, and that’s the sport of auto racing, both from the perspective of sponsoring a car and driver, along with driving his own #22 sponsored race car. On spring and summer weekends, from the end of April through August, you can find him along with the Brown Style Race team including Jonathan (a.k.a. Jon Boy) Brown and Joseph (a.k.a. BoBo) Brown, at Bowman Gray Stadium racing; Adam in the Stadium Stock Division and the

Brown brothers in the Modified division. After the season is over at Bowman Gray, he plans to race at Caraway Speedway, located near Asheboro, and then on to the historic half-mile oval at Myrtle Beach Speedway. Although quite new to the sport, he’s really enjoying the time he’s had thus far, as he said, “I’ve gained a lot of experience, and I’m having fun.” He adds, “I wish everyone in Winston-Salem would check out Bowman Gray racing; it’s so much fun and so affordable, and it’s good family entertainment.” Feel free to cheer for Adam in the #22 car sponsored by, who else but V’s Barber Shop, among others in the Stadium Stock Division. Of course, Adam is also very proud of his local barber shop business, which opened its doors in February of 2013. The community has truly embraced his

shop and his excellent team of master barbers. Adam says, “I’m thrilled with how the community both supports and values the local merchants, which is important. Our loyal and friendly customers that come in every day make providing this service all the more enjoyable and rewarding.” He’s happy to work and live in Winston-Salem, stating, “With what this city has to offer its residents, we’re very fortunate to enjoy a great quality of life and with some really good people.” There’s no other place he’d rather be than a city rich in culture and heritage, a city that appreciates the arts and theater, provides high-quality sports, dining and entertainment options, and is simply an ideal place to raise a family. You owe it to yourself to experience V’s Barber Shop at 380 Knollwood Street in Winston-Salem. Whether you’re looking for a great haircut and style, a

relaxing straight-razor shave, beard and mustache trim, or a soothing facial or facial massage, this is the place to go. You may want to try out their package deals like “The Whole Deal,” which includes a haircut, old-fashioned shave, face mask, moisturizing crème, relaxing shoulder and facial massage, and lots of V’s signature hot towels; or “The Works,” that offers a shampoo, haircut, old-fashioned shave and a complimentary hot lather neck shave and relaxing shoulder massage. Finally, there’s the “Big Day Package” for wedding parties, offering the groom and groomsmen many of the same services already mentioned and completing the experience with a complimentary cigar. Adam sums up V’s Barbershop experience in this way. “We are that old-fashioned, hot-lather-straight-razor-shave barber shop

like you and your dad went to as a kid. We give you an incredible experience and all at a price that won’t break your wallet. Aside from our quality services, we also have fantastic natural hair care, shave, shower, body and other men’s grooming products that allow you to continue to look good and feel good in between your routine visits.” V’s offers an authentic sense of nostalgia,

coupled with generous amenities that leave you feeling pampered in style, and is the undisputed leader in hot-toweland-lather straight-razor shaves. Make them a part of your grooming routine and you’ll no doubt benefit from making good friends, always looking your best, and revitalizing your day. To learn more or schedule your appointment online, visit their website at vbarbershop.com; you can also download the V’s Barbershop App from the App Store and Google play, or give them a call at (336) 245-8461. Even better, just drop in to say hello; they’re open Monday through Friday, 8:00 am to 6:00 pm, and Saturday, 8:00 am to 5:00 pm. Walk-ins are welcome, and they’re always glad to see you, after all,

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Ways to Avoid Being Targeted Your privacy and the belief that it is secure continues to shrink. The ability to “share” mere thoughts, personal experiences, and even family pictures broadens to a much wider audience through social media websites. Despite not having a close relationship with many of your listed “friends,” you may unknowingly be revealing too much information about your activities and family members. Rules of safety can be taught to teens and young children; however, it takes every member of the household to consciously maintain a level of personal safety and home security. The following tips may be helpful. Social Media Postings In having a presence online accessible to a vast number of people, how many of your social networking friends do you trust? “All friends” may now be the name of your employer, your work schedule, the name of your children, and places you frequent through years of posting. One way to get a hold on security is to maintain friendships only with those you trust. Also, check every social media account to ensure security is set up to share with “friends only” and not “everyone.” TIP: Keep your travels private. Never tell your social media friends when you are leaving the house and how long you intend to be gone. Wait until you return home to post special photos. TIP: Never advertise possessions or problems with the entrances to your home, for instance. Passwords, phone numbers, e-mails, addresses, and other vital personal information should not be openly available. Most likely the people who need your information already have it. Advertising through Bumper Stickers Not until our vehicle is at a standstill in traffic do we take notice of our surroundings. Instantly, our eyes become attracted to the many stickers found on the back window or bumper of a nearby car. Without even seeing the occupants, we can glean a great deal about the driver. For instance, a school sticker reveals the age of children. Viewing the name of a gymnastics 52 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

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center or dance studio openly suggests the driver spends the evenings away from home and could provide clues to a specific part of town where he or she lives. A parking permit adds to the information available. Not only does it provide potential criminals the name of a company, but could reveal further clues, such as a work schedule and the driving distance from home. And, finally, a sticker promoting the friendly Golden Retriever or the imposing German Shepherd determines whether a house may be difficult to enter or not. Without thinking about the repercussions of such stickers, we willingly place them on our vehicles. As a result, information about our lives, schedules, children and pets is presented openly to the public. With this information, you may be unknowingly telling a potential criminal where the family spends time during the day and evening, and the type of dog that remains at home. In today’s world where home burglaries are occurring every 15 seconds in residential neighborhoods, the best practice is to remove detailed informational stickers, such as the “stick family decals,” from your vehicle. lter driving routes to ensure your patterns are TIP: A not predictable. TIP: If possible, leave a car in the driveway, turn on a radio, and set a lamp on a timer if working late, to create an impression that someone is home. Sharing News Every day, we see examples of people who share too much information. In recent news, a young woman told friends she was saving money to purchase a car. With the added detail that she kept cash in her home, the outcome led to robbery. There was never a chance to edit her words or delete the post; the words were already spoken. Privacy is indeed challenging in our world of open communication, where our patterns and words can easily be pieced together. If you haven’t given it much thought, it’s time to consider whether your family is being targeted, and how to alter what is “shared” with the public.

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Lewisville Elementary School “Bikes for Books” Program Encourages Students to Read BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON These days, from the moment they can hold a phone, kids are mesmerized by electronics. From cell phones to tablets and Ipads, to laptops and even being at home with video games and Xbox, kids have their attention turned to the latest gadgets. Old-fashioned activities like reading and riding a bike go by the wayside. For the past three years, in an effort to get kids reading, Lewisville Elementary School, West Bend Masonic Lodge and Cycle Therapy in Lewisville have partnered to provide bicycles to students who do reading outside of class. “The ‘Bikes for Books’ program began at Lewisville Elementary School as a result of Mr. Zack Rothrock of Westbend Masonic Lodge suggesting the idea to us. When I was the principal at Old Town Elementary, I participated with another Masonic Lodge, so I was familiar with the idea. We started small the first year with two bicycles. Last year, we gave away six and this year we are going to give away one bicycle per grade. We challenge all students to read books at their level in various genres, with goals based on the student ages and grade. This reading is in addition to their daily assignments, and all students are given the opportunity to participate,” said Angie Choplin, principal

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of Lewisville Elementary School. A Win-Win for Everyone! There really is nothing like a little incentive to get kids to do something outside of what they are used to, and that’s why Bikes for Books has been such a great success in getting a book into the hands of kids. “Parents have been very supportive of the program. They feel blessed that we have such a committed community partner with Westbend Masonic Lodge, the group responsible for providing the bicycles. Often, when we call the parents to tell them their child has won the bicycle, they are in disbelief,” Angie commented. If the parents are shocked, imagine how the kids feel when they are announced as the winner of the bicycle. “Once the children have reached their goal set by the media coordinator and curriculum coordinator, a form is submitted to the media coordinator. When we give away the bicycle, we make it a big deal! Each bike is decorated, and then we rush into the classroom in ‘prize patrol’ fashion to announce the winner. It is a very uplifting day. The student is

allowed to ride the bike up and down the hallway. As the principal, I am proud of my students for reading and am very touched that members of our community are dedicated to encouraging reading as well,” stated Angie. One of the past winners is Jackson Lea, a 3rd grader at Lewisville Elementary School. “Jackson wasn’t a strong reader before Bikes for Books and didn’t like to read on his own. Bikes for Books encouraged him to read and enabled him to find out how much fun reading is. Since the program ended, he has continued to want to read on his own,” said Susan Lea, Jackson’s mother and teacher at Lewisville Elementary school. Jackson not only won a bike, but also found a love for writing. “It was great to win the bike, because there was just one bike for my grade and I didn’t think I would win. Before Bikes for Books, I did read at school, but now I like to read more at home, and still at school. Now, I read every night before I go to bed,” Jackson commented. Sometimes it just takes a little bit of a nudge to get kids to realize that things they may think aren’t fun can not only be fun, but perhaps lead to winning a bicycle.

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Defining UNDERSTANDING THE

8 DIFFERENT INTELLIGENCES BY ELISA D. WALLACE

What defines intelligence? Some may believe that intelligence is a measure of one’s ability to remember specific facts, dates, equations, etc. Others believe that intelligence is the measurement of a standardized test taken at school. And many believe intelligence is defined by their personal IQ score. However, there are many sides to intelligence. According to Howard Gardner’s “Multiple Intelligences Theory,” there are actually many different types of intelligence. Therefore, it is possible for one person to be intelligent in one mental capacity, yet be lacking in others. Howard Gardner first introduced this theory in his 1983 book, Frames of Mind: The Theory of Multiple Intelligences. It was in this book that Gardner began to describe his theory that there are, specifically, eight intelligences. According to Gardner’s procedure, there were very specific criteria that all of the intelligences had to meet. While there are distinctions between the different intelligences, Gardner opposes labeling specific learners in terms of just the one intelligence that they excel in. Gardner maintains that his theory of multiple intelligences should “empower learners”—in other words, not restrict them to one modality of learning. According to Gardner’s book, (an) intelligence is “a bio-psychological potential to process information that can be activated in a cultural setting to solve problems or create products that are of value in a culture.” What qualities do each of these different intelligences embody? What makes each intelligence unique in its own way? Let’s explore the EIGHT different sides of intelligence. MUSICAL- RHYTHMIC & HARMONIC: This specific intelligence has to do with sensitivity to sounds, rhythms, tones, and music. According to the PBS website which analyzes Howard Gardener’s Multiple Intelligences, “people with a high musical intelligence normally have good pitch and may even have absolute pitch, and can sing, play musical instruments, and compose music.” These people have “sensitivity to rhythm, pitch, meter, tone, melody, or timbre.” Composers such as Ludwig Beethoven or Wolfgang Mozart are wonderful examples of those who have “musical intelligence.” VISUAL- SPATIAL: Those who have “visual intelligence” can deal with “spatial judgment and [have] the ability to visualize with the mind’s eye.” In layman’s terms, these prodigies have an ability to recreate visual brilliance. Examples of these prodigies include visual artists, such as Leonardo da Vinci and Pablo Picasso. VERBAL- LINGUISTIC: Those prodigies with a high level of verbal 56 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

or linguistic intelligence have the ability to easily command written languages. These people are gifted at reading, writing, telling stories, and memorizing words. An example of this type of prodigy would be any of the world’s famous authors, such as William Shakespeare or Ernest Hemingway. BODILY- KINESTHETIC: Those who have this type of intelligence have strong control of their body and its motions. Gardner elaborates by saying that this also includes “a sense of timing, a clear sense of the goal of a physical action, along with the ability to train responses.” Any well-known athlete or dancer is among those who have a high level of such intelligence. INTERPERSONAL: When someone has a high level of interpersonal intelligence, they have a high sensitivity to “others’ moods, feelings, temperaments and motivations, and the ability to cooperate to work as part of a group.” In other words, these prodigies can communicate effectively and empathize easily with others. These people enjoy discussion and debate. Martin Luther King Jr. would be an example. INTRAPERSONAL: This type of person possesses qualities that are the opposite of interpersonal intelligence. They are very introspective and can often be considered to be introverted. They are talented at examining their own conscious thoughts and feelings. Famous philosophers are excellent examples, such as Socrates and Plato. NATURALISTIC: This final type of intelligence was not part of the original seven. In 1995, Gardner introduced this intelligence, which he believed should be added. He stated that those who are gifted in this intelligence are able “to make [other] consequential distinctions in the natural world; and to use this ability productively (in hunting, in farming, in biological science) is to exercise an important intelligence.” An example would include Charles Darwin. While these are the original intelligences that Gardner believed existed, he did admit that many believe that there should be some type of “spiritual intelligence.” This type would be called “existential intelligence.” Gardner didn’t do thorough research on this type, yet other theorists have explained what makes up this intelligence. All in all, it is vital for all to know what the different types of intelligence are. Without examining all sides of intelligence, we wouldn’t be able to truly understand the vast variety of prodigies around us.

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Listening, Watching, and Helping Our Youth BY LISA S.T. DOSS

While we believe today’s youth should be brimming with activity and success, friends, and future goals, the learned truth is sometimes shocking. Many children and teenagers hold a heavy secret linked to problems well beyond their ability to handle. Before the words “I wish I had known” have to be uttered, take the time to observe a child’s body language, while paying close attention to his or her words. The combined clues may reveal pain, anger, fright, exhaustion or a sense of despair and sadness. A child may not be able to express his or her feelings clearly; yet, you could be the one person to see beyond the act, and provide a new approach to an endlessly challenging situation. BULLYING Tormentors and oppressors come in a variety of labels. They are acquaintances and found in one’s social circles, or the boyfriend or girlfriend. Combining feelings of embarrassment and fear, most victims have difficulty admitting they are involved in bullying and will create excuses for low grades, and missing school and extracurricular activities. In fact, every day, approximately 160,000 teenagers skip school in fear of bullying. Other statistics include: • Almost 70 percent of students believe if they tell a trusted teacher, coach, school administrator, or parent, the bullying will intensify. • Over 70% of students have identified bullying as a significant problem in their school. • According to a Yale University study, 58 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

“Victims of bullying are between two to nine times more likely to consider suicide.” Students need to know there is a solution, and that legal help is available. North Carolina has school violence prevention laws that protect victims from bullying and harassing behavior. To deter a child’s feelings of isolation and those resulting from cyber bullying, it is a good idea for parents and extended members of the family to be included on every social networking “friends” list. THE OVER-ACHIEVER Let’s say, one teen’s name is often mentioned in connection with an ever-growing list of achievements. Academically, she is a model student and has impressive future goals. You are not only one who wonders how she manages to do it all. Yet secretly, highachieving students often have self-doubt and wonder how much longer they can juggle every promise and contribution. In a leadership role to always be the best and the brightest, she thinks the weight of obligation is often overwhelming. The solution may sound easy to an outsider; yet, to the over-achiever, eliminating a few obligations from her calendar, she feels, would let others down. Sometimes, criticism is her worst fear, simply because it implies failure. To help our students visually understand how their time is used, encourage the design of a calendar. In viewing hours consumed by school and extracurricular activities, students can see the need to balance school with time for themselves, family, and friends. Driven students must

make time for fun, laughter, and stressfree days! DRUGS OR ADDICTIONS: According to a 2016 report, 58% of high school juniors and seniors are consuming alcohol, while almost 35% are using marijuana. Most students view alcohol and drug use as a normal teenage experience. Readily available, alcohol and drugs become a usual presence among groups of friends.

Also: • These substances help alter feelings of unhappiness, frustration, and encourage levels of confidence. • Teens who cannot be alone seek something to occupy their time and the facility to bond easily with others. Withdrawn behavior or disinterest in activities, unusual tiredness and poor hygiene could be signs that a teen is developing a drug-related problem. Repeated drug use will change how the brain makes decisions, learns and retains information, and controls behavior. Even for the teen who wants to stop, quitting will be difficult, and professional help may be the only solution. OPEN CONVERSATIONS Beyond the usual banter of pleasantries, some children and teens have a story that may be difficult to share. In trusting you, their words will come slowly; yet, an open and honest conversation is a good place to start.

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The Class of 2020 Part One: The Dawn of a New Workforce My youngest son started high school this year, which means he is a member of the Class of 2020. For my wife and me, that means he’s entering his last teenage phase before adulthood. A change that takes some getting used to, but at the same time, there’s an air of excitement to what lies ahead and seeing what decisions he’ll make concerning his future. In that regard, however, some interesting information about future prospects for the Class of 2020 brings its own brand of questions and challenges. For instance, did you know that, with the speed and intensity of technological advancements, companies today are increasingly ceasing to need as much in the way of human resources as before? According to one report by Citibank, for example, China is working towards using robots to replace as much as 77% of its manufacturing workforce. Also, the U.S. Department of Defense, the world’s largest employer, has been using unmanned aircraft for years now. The world’s two other largest employers, Walmart and McDonald’s, are also looking into using robots for such things as inventory counting for the former, and a robotic arm for cooking and serving its customers for the latter. What does this all mean when three of the top ten world’s largest employers are moving quickly towards robots to replace their current human workers? Quite simply, it means the careers of the future, by as soon as the appearance of the Class of 2020, could be dramatically different than anything we’ve seen in our history. This definitely could impact the career prospects of our current high schoolers. Optimists say, although robots could replace potentially a large portion of today’s typical workforce, there will be new positions that are created in their place, such as robot managers/monitors, robot mechanics and so forth. However, it’s agreed, the new job growth may not outpace the current jobs eliminated as a result of robotics. Pessimists say that it will create an even further divide between lower- and middle-income workers and senior management and large business owners (emphasis on large).

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There’s even been mention of some minimum wage jobs being eliminated in favor of robots, if the minimum wage is increased. This is not exclusive to the United States—as mentioned, China, India and other countries are following the same movement. This emerging trend in robotic technology replacing people doesn’t just happen on the manufacturing floor. It could be happening even in your local fast food restaurant and more. A/I, or Artificial Intelligence, robots can replace white collar positions in areas such as I/T helpdesk functions and customer service. Think of the impact this will have on workers of all ages, including high school teenagers. It also pushes them to think about their career choices, and if those selections could be affected by this trend. It’s important for this high school freshman class, as they progress and become future business leaders and entrepreneurs, to be aware that the impact of their business decisions can go well beyond just the company’s stock price. How can they become mindful of this? It takes a willingness to pay attention to the effects of those decision-making strategies as a whole, and realize the influence they have on a grand human scale. The question then becomes, will those in the decision-making roles be cognizant of this? The path they choose could very well decide the direction of this great nation. Hopefully, the leaders of the Class of 2020 will have the clear vision to make the outcome a positive one for all. This could very well be a most defining high school senior class for our nation’s future. Just think of that the next time you look at fourteen- and fifteen-year-old teenagers playing on their phones and with video games. Think about how their view of our world today could shape their world of tomorrow.

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Challenged but Not Defeated:

Strategies for Coping with Autism and Schizophrenia, BY RV KUSER BY REBECCA OLSEN

In RV’s own life, his diagnosis didn’t come till adulthood. Born into an era when the definitions of such childhood disorders were still somewhat controversial, and treatment options few, RV and his family were sometimes left adrift to find their own way to cope. Most of RV’s progress towards managing in a world full of overwhelming stimuli and emotional turmoil came with small incremental growth with the help of his family and the influence of teachers along the way. There was Mrs. K’s class, where he learned the value of cooperation. The acting class which helped RV to identify and understand the range of emotional expressions. The wrestling coach who taught him to visualize and thus anticipate stressful scenarios. All of these individuals and scenarios helped RV to develop the tools that allow him to navigate life successfully while dealing with sensory overload and language integration difficulties. It was not always easy. RV recounts being sent to what other students referred to as the “retard shack” for special education services, the difficulties making friends and of facing the constant demands to be less like himself and more like those around him. In RV’s own words, “I pulled together all the other behavioral tools from my teachers and figured out that my stress was not because I was slow or weird. It was because I didn’t accept the fact that I was so different from other people, and I allowed my insecurity about my personal identity to be shaped by those who were not like me. I began to appreciate who I was and where I was going.” ABOUT THE BOOK: RV’s parents knew that their son was different. It wasn’t until they were told by his doctor he would probably end up being institutionalized that they realized the extent of those differences. Yet none of those predictions came to fruition. Today, RV is an independent adult, living and working with his wife, Marlene, and has published his first book about his experiences as an individual living with autism. In Challenged but Not Defeated; Strategies for Coping with Autism, Schizophrenia, RV tells about the power of hope and perseverance in his own life. It was while volunteering in a program working with adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities that RV recognized his calling to help children and adults who struggle with the same challenges he faces. Unlike many teachers and caregivers, RV actually has firsthand experience and understanding of how an autistic individual experiences and interprets the world around him- or herself. Which means he is in the unique position to identify and implement strategies and tools to help them learn more effectively. 62 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

While full of practical advice for parents, educators, and caregivers who have an autistic individual in their lives, RV’s message in Challenged but Not Defeated is one of acceptance and encouragement. RV also says, “I felt out of place in the world until I got my dual diagnosis of autism and schizophrenia. After that, more things seemed to come together. I wanted to share my personal experiences living with autism with individuals who have a misconception of what autism is and do not understand what it’s like living with it daily. It was also important to share my experiences with professionals working with people who face similar challenges, like educators, licensed professional counselors, policy makers, psychologists, social workers, other health and human service professionals, family members, and advocates. But it was most important for individuals who live with the experiences daily, so they know that they are not alone.” In addition to his family and teachers, RV credits both his Jewish faith and Marlene’s unconditional love, acceptance, and support for what he is today—a successful adult, able to help others who are struggling. Challenged but Not Defeated is an inspirational story for anyone dealing with children with special needs who needs encouragement. ABOUT THE AUTHOR: RV currently works as a consultant and lecturer. You can pick up a copy of Challenged but Not Defeated at the Cricket’s Nest on Country Club Road in Winston-Salem. RV will be signing books on Saturday, September 24th, from 11:00 am to 1:00 pm, as a part of the Cricket Craft Festival. To order a book online, request a speaking engagement, or connect with RV, visit kusertalk.com/, or you can e-mail him at rainman917@yahoo.com.

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BY KATIE MARSH I took a stroll through my Facebook history and in 2012, I wrote a post that said, “For me—this election has been about choosing between the lesser of the two evils, but nonetheless, my vote has been cast. Make sure yours is, too.” Four years later…well, never mind. This article isn’t about my political preferences. I don’t even like talking about politics, but whether I like them or not—there they are. In your face. Especially if you’re on social media. If your Facebook newsfeed is anything like mine, every other post is about politics. The 2016 Olympics were a relief to me…where the 2016 political debate was temporarily put aside to discuss green swimming pools and whether Michael Phelps would need to buy a new suitcase to carry home all of his medals. Whether you’re anti-Donald/proDonald, anti-Hillary/pro-Hillary—it seems everyone has an opinion. But while we all have opinions, are we all exercising our right to VOTE for our choices? When you don’t like either candidate, what do you do? Here are our options: 1. Don’t vote at all 2. Coin toss 3. Eeny, Meeny, Miny, Moe

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4. Write-in vote 5. Choosing between the lesser of the two evils LET’S TAKE A CLOSER LOOK… Don’t vote at all: To me, this isn’t an option. This is a right, and shame on anyone who doesn’t exercise this right. I have always said, “If you don’t vote, you can’t complain.” And if you don’t exercise your right to have a say in our leadership, then I hope you can keep your mouth shut for four years. Coin toss or Eeny, Meeny, Miny, Moe: Your vote is a four-year commitment. While not the same kind of lifetime commitment as marriage, one would hope that grown adults wouldn’t leave this kind of decision to chance. Write-in vote: If this method worked, I think our country would have voted in Homer Simpson a long time ago. Choosing the lesser of the evils: Unfortunately, this is probably the best option, especially since a recent Gallup poll shows that 25% of our country doesn’t like either candidate. It’s probably not as difficult as it seems, it just requires a little extra homework. Visit websites like ISideWith.com and 2016Election.ProCon. org to take quizzes to see which candidate you have most in common with… and c’mon…don’t roll your eyes. Surely you have something in common with them. The likelihood that you both like pizza is huge (and if you just said that in a Donald Trump voice, you get MY vote!)

Please make plans to vote. It’s so important. Start thinking now (you don’t have a choice if you’re on Facebook! It’s in your face every time you log in!) Weigh the pros and cons, and if it gets right down to it, choose between the lesser of the two evils. Let’s face it…we are a divided country. I may not agree with you, and you may not agree with me. That’s okay. The Constitution doesn’t say we have to agree with each other. But the beautiful thing about our country is our freedom to choose. Our freedom to speak our mind. Our freedom to elect our leaders. And if, at the end of The Great American Mud Slinging of 2016, one of four scenarios will happen: Your candidate was elected. Great. Good for you. You were an important part of the political process. I hope they live up to your expectations. Your candidate wasn’t elected. At least you still get to complain. Your candidate was elected, and he or she is failing to live up to all of his/her promises. You now get to gripe about how they let you down. Finally, your candidate isn’t elected, and the competition wins and doesn’t live up to all of his/her promises. Not only do you get to gripe, but you also get to say, “I told you so.”

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All of our children need us–NOW It’s a fact. Quality early-childhood development – or lack of it – has an enormous impact on whether a child will succeed in school and, ultimately, in life. Alarmingly, thousands of our Forsyth County children are destined to live their lives with crippling educational and emotional disadvantages, an all-too-frequent result of poverty. The rate of poverty in our community has increased by more than 83% since 2000. 34% of children under the age of five live in a household that is below the poverty level. In fact, one in three children in our community lives in poverty, a shocking reality when compared with our statewide count of one in four children.

No child deserves to live this way.

Every child in our community deserves the best possible start in life – mentally, physically, and emotionally. The first five years of life are a time of rapid brain development, and the architecture of the brain is largely developed during those years, establishing the foundation for success in later life. A scientific consensus has emerged about the profound impact that high quality early childhood development programs can have on the social and income mobility of poor children. Studies have shown that low-income, at-risk children who have access to high quality pre-kindergarten programs are

• less likely to be retained in grade, • less likely to be referred to special education, and • far less likely to go to jail.

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• graduate high school • attend, and graduate, college • become employed • own a home • have insurance •m aintain a professional career, all leading to higher earnings.

No child should be excluded from receiving a solid foundation for success. That’s why Family Services has convened a task force representing various sectors of the community to develop a plan to make Forsyth County the first county in North Carolina with a universal pre-K system. And, this fall, we hope to ignite a community-wide movement to help our most vulnerable children and families. We are committed to creating a community in which all of our children have the opportunity to succeed in school and in life. If we hope to have a prosperous community in the future we will need to make a major investment in the development and education of our youngest children today. As a community, we understand what’s at stake here. We know that our children are our future, and that our future is only as socially and economically promising as our children’s collective readiness to reach their inherent potential. We have the power to reverse the generational cycle of disadvantage in Forsyth County. Let’s work together to remove the barriers that inhibit all children and their families from reaching their full potential and contributing fully to the community we all call home.

For more information on Family Services (www.familyservicesforsyth.org) and the Wake Up Walk (www.wakeupwalk.org) on October 22 contact Michelle Speas, Chief Development and Public Relations Officer, at mspeas@familyservicesforsyth.org or 336-722-8173.

PLEASE JOIN US ON SATURDAY, OCTOBER 22, FROM 8 TO 10 AM AT BAILEY PARK Because we all want to live in a community in which ALL children can Wake Up Safe in their home and neighborhood Ready to succeed in school Supported within a strong family Today, alarmingly, 1 in 3 children in Forsyth County does not wake up this way. But here’s the good news. Every step we take together has the power to reverse the generational cycle of disadvantage and build a better community for all of us. So let’s start by raising $30,000 to help families overcome the barriers that prevent them from reaching their full potential. Please save the date and make plans now to participate in our community’s walk of the year.

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BY FRED PATTERSON, OLD HICKORY COUNCIL, BOY SCOUTS OF AMERICA We all want our children to grow into responsible, caring adults with strong, positive values. The early years of elementary school is the time when those values begin to be molded and formed. The activities a parent and child participate in together during these few years will likely set the course for the child’s future. The Boy Scouts of America, the nation’s oldest and largest youth development organization since 1910, has been helping families, churches, and schools raise young men of strong character. The twelve values of the Scout Law along with the ideals of the Scout Oath—duty to God and Country, citizenship, service and personal fitness—are instilled through a variety of age-appropriate and fun activities. Cub Scouting, the Scouts’ program for boys in first through fifth grades, weaves the concepts of getting along with others, self-reliance, new skills, and fitness into fun, safe activities. Regular meetings are led by qualified, trained volunteers and provide a variety of experiences for boys from all backgrounds. Cub Scouting also encourages strong family involvement, so it’s good for the boys and their parents, too! After Cub Scouts, boys can move up to the Boy Scout program, which has a greater emphasis on the outdoors and camping, decision-making, service, teamwork, and leadership. As boys 11−18 progress through the program, they take on greater responsibilities and are introduced to a wide variety of potential career and leisure opportunities. Some Scouts’ involvement culminates in the Eagle Scout award, an achievement including the leadership of a major community improvement project. Many colleges and employers recognize the accomplishments of Eagle Scouts in their acceptance or hiring decisions. Older youth—boys and girls, 14−20—can take part in Venturing, a program which puts youth leadership at the forefront and focuses on outdoor adventures. To find out more about the programs—and the benefits for youth and families— offered by the Boy Scouts of America, visit www.scouting.org To find a Cub Scout Pack or Boy Scout Troop in your neighborhood, visit www. BeAScout.org or call the Old Hickory Council at 336-760-2900. “Join Scouting” nights will be held all over Forsyth County in September of 2016.

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Join Scouting Today! The Cub Scouts will help your son build character, learn to be a good citizen and develop physical fitnessâ€”all while having fun! Cub Scouts is a program of the Boy Scouts of America for boys ages 6-10. Cub Scout joining events are taking place at local schools and Cub Scout pack meeting locations during September. Additional opportunities are available for older youth in Boy Scouts and Venturing.

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New Year. New Faces.

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Benjamin Montgomery Kindergarten Teacher

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Benjamin Montgomery is the new Kindergarten teacher.

“My idea of serving is to love my congregation where they are at. I love being in a team ministry and one of my priorities is to help the teachers and staff to maximize their gifts and abilities. I also like to have fun and really just enjoy the ministry that we have been called to as educators,” Pastor Keith said.

Ben’s wife, Michaela Montgomery, is the school’s new music and Spanish teacher. She also is a graduate of Concordia.

St. John’s Lutheran School is renowned for preparing its students for the future. Through a balance of challenging academics, Christian education, sports, art, music, theater, and community service participation both locally and internationally, students are encouraged to explore infinite possibilities.

He is replacing Sandy Bryant, who retired after serving 25 years St. John’s. Benjamin relocated here from his home state of Nebraska. Benjamin is a graduate of Concordia University in Seward, Nebraska.

“We interviewed several candidates for these positions, and we chose Mr. and Mrs. Montgomery because we felt their energy and credentials were absolutely the right fit for our kids and the school,” said Mark Edmiston, St. John’s principal.

Lydia (Holz) Ingram is joining the school as its middle school Language Arts teacher. She taught at St. John’s from 2005–2008. She returns to the school as a wife and mother after teaching in Texas for the past seven years.

“We are truly blessed to have Mrs. Ingram back at St. John’s. Middle school is a prime time for students to learn how to become critical thinkers and better writers, and Mrs. Ingram is the perfect person to help our kids thrive,” Edmiston said.

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“The school’s computer lab has just received a new shipment of Apple iMacs, so now all students can learn about different programs at their own pace,” Edmiston said. “We now have one of the finer Mac computer labs in the area.” St. John’s Lutheran School is a PreK-8 private school located at 2415 Silas Creek Parkway, Winston-Salem. Tuition

rates are kept low, as the church contributes, on average, 50 percent of all student tuition. There are still spaces

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The IMPACT of Reality TV on Our Daughters

BY ROBIN WHITE ELLIS Reality television has become a staple in many households. From Survivor to The Bachelor to Keeping Up with the Kardashians and Real Housewives, the popularity of such shows is staggering! While we can hope that there is not actually much “reality” in all of this drama, it is indeed presented as such. Most of it revolves around backstabbing, cat fights, scantily clad people frolicking hither and yon, and enough in-your-face melodrama to satisfy the masses and keep us all on the edge of our seats. Adults can see the hidden scripts and pumped-up secret thrills that have no connection to actual real life, but what about our children, especially our young daughters? Access to such television can present an intensely skewed version of not only their physicality, but also their emotional growth and maturity. Our culture’s obsession with beauty has never been what one could consider healthy. Reality television takes this problem to the extreme, depicting woman obsessing over beauty, thinness, and even plastic surgery to become “better” than what they are naturally. That glass ceiling gets even more cloudy when this impression continues that a woman’s value is based upon her appearance. Since the year 2000, the number of eating disorders in female teenagers has tripled! Rather than seeing examples of women 72 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

succeeding in careers, our little girls see flowing alcohol followed by catty remarks and even harder flowing tears and hair pulling. Grown women are shown in cliques that make our middleschool memories pale in frightening comparison. These shows are laced with rampant sexuality, gossip, aggression, and bullying others to win. I shudder to picture a little girl sitting in front of The Bachelor, as a passel of women parade themselves in front of one man, who gets to kiss and grope his way through them all. How do we make them understand healthy relationships? How about Survivor Brains versus Beauty? Is that implying that we cannot have both? This may seem like nitpicking, but these are powerful messages to little girls, who pay much more attention than we realize! In many shows, even young adults wear expensive designer clothes, take extravagant trips, and focus more on partying than actually working at a regular job to afford such a lifestyle. This overt materialism promotes the “grass is always greener” mentality and sets unrealistic goals for young girls and teenagers. Consider the decision-making in these shows. We see teenage mothers, risky sexual behavior, alcohol-fueled shindigs, loud arguments, and even physical altercations. Rarely do we actually see

a negative outcome to these behaviors. They grant social acceptance to such attitudes and steal whimsical, lovely innocence from our youth. There is opportunity to at least open a dialogue with your child about the drawbacks of such attitudes and behaviors, but it would be nice for them to be able to view the consequences of such lifestyles, instead of idealizing them. For me, one of the saddest parts of these television shows is the lack of sisterhood. It seems that most of them depict that “mean girl” mentality to get ahead. Many women are shown with phony attitudes, gossiping about their best friend of the moment. It seems that the winner is the one who was able to lie the most and backstab the hardest. It would be a pleasure to watch some true friendships, without the gossip and histrionics. Goodness knows, I have enjoyed a few reality shows over the years, yet many leave me cringing. My heart drops a little with every duck-faced teenage selfie I see posted online. We cannot hide this outrageous media from our kids completely. It is everywhere! However, we should take time to have some serious talks about how unreal “reality” television actually is, and what we expect from our daughters...and that involves beautifying their minds, not photoshopping their bodies!

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Childhood Goes By in the BLINK of an EYE

BY STACY LEIGHTON

Hello, September! Do you hear that? It’s the sound of every parent of school age children everywhere breathing a sigh of relief. Their children are safely aboard that blessed yellow school bus and on their way to school. I imagine them slowly walking back to their homes. Blurry eyed, a little wrung out, but oddly triumphant. That is, until they open the door and gaze upon the wreckage the children have left in their wake….

way home. Of all the pearls I’ve heard, THIS made the most sense to me. I don’t remember getting older, but I must have, because just look how the kids have grown! I remember countless baseball games, dance recitals, proms and life lessons along the way. After a while, it all becomes a blur. Life runs away with you when you have kids. It’s like being stuck in fast forward. Ever feel like you’re just trying to keep up? If only there was a “pause” button on life’s remote control!

Moms and Dads, those of us who have gone before you, we feel your pain, and we salute you! One of ours is in college, and one has now graduated from college. Still, it seems like yesterday to me. I understand how truly hard, and also rewarding, it is to parent. It is the most important and amazing thing we will ever do.

And then, all of a sudden, as if by magic, someone hits “stop.” You look around and see the children are grown. At ﬁrst, it’s a bit shocking; then, it’s marvelous! You see that these grown people are just as delightful as they were when they were little, but oh, so much easier!!! Our times together are still full of laughter and hugs, but now they can cook, they can do dishes and they can even buy their own clothes! I’m proud of our independent and resourceful children. Occasionally they still need me, too, although I suspect it’s a ruse meant to make me feel good. It does.

I know, some of you just rolled your eyes. That’s okay. I get that, too. When my children were small, I heard it all. It was usually while I was sleep-deprived and covered in my child’s sticky mess (of unknown origins). I’m pretty sure I rolled my eyes, too. Have you heard, “Don’t Blink or you’ll miss it.”? I remember thinking, “Well, that’s just silly. One way or another they are always with me! Even in the bathroom. How could I miss anything?!” or “Don’t blink? I’m lucky if I get any shut-eye at all!” But as exhausting as it is, I hope we can try not to wish it away too quickly. Because now I realize childhood goes by in the blink of an eye. The day I delivered my baby to college, I heard someone say, “In parenting, the days are long, but the years are short.” This swam around in my mind all the

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So, no, I’m not here to gloat, I will not moralize or lament. I will, however, promise you that there is life on the other side. This next chapter is going to be great. One day soon you will sit with your sweetheart (remember him or her?), sip a chilled beverage and listen to the silence. You will enjoy memories of laughter, tears, sleepless nights, all- night science projects, pre-teen angst and honest wonder (usually ours). And when you do, remember to give yourself a pat on the back. Because not only did you MAKE amazing people—you will have lived to tell the tale!

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BY JAN ALLISON Technology has brought school bullying to a whole new level, and now you can monitor your child’s activity on the web, and even limit it. But that doesn’t mean that your child isn’t still being bullied at school as well. The trouble with your child being bullied at school is that you’re not there to handle the situation, and many times students don’t tell their parents about it. They worry that it will make the situation worse, make the bully angrier, or would just be embarrassing. Your child may be bullied at school if they... • Have any physical marks, cuts, bruises, etc. that your child will not explain. • Claim to “lose” many prized possessions. • Don’t want to go to school. • Are moody or anxious and depressed with no obvious cause. • Begin bullying a younger sibling (bullied children often reverse the roles). • Have an abrupt change in their grades. • Begin to eat ravenously (bullies often 76 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

take food, money for food, etc.). • Are afraid to ride the school bus. Many bullied children don’t tell their parents or teachers because they’re embarrassed and feel helpless. It can be hard to find out whether or not your child is bullied, but if they exhibit a pattern of the behaviors mentioned above, then you may need to dig deeper to find out. Try to get your child to open up to you, to avoid harboring these negative emotions and becoming more withdrawn. If the bullying continues, your child could suffer harmful, longterm effects. Those effects are low self-esteem, loneliness, anxiety and depression, emotional distress—all of which could, worst case scenario, cause your child to take his/her own life. Ask them questions about the possessions they lose. Or, if they seem to be gobbling down their afternoon snack as if they haven’t eaten all day, ask if they have been eating lunch. It’s also a good idea to really consider where you are when you approach them with these questions. For instance, if you are in the car you could be more likely to get more

information from your child, since the conversation may not be the first thing on their mind. It may just slip out before they realize that they’re telling you. If they aren’t open to talking to you about the situation, then you’ll have to talk with your child’s teachers and even classmates. Teachers aren’t always aware of bullying in their classrooms, either; it typically happens in less supervised areas, like the bathroom or parking lot. Most schools have very strict, notolerance bullying policies and are required to investigate any potential bullying scenarios, as well as take steps to ensure that the bullying does not continue. Many times a child won’t tell their teachers or guidance counselor at school for fear of being a “tattle-tale,” but if you can get information from them, you can make your student’s teachers aware, so they take the steps to protect your child. Do what you can to alleviate the stress of the situation for your child. But for your child’s well-being, also make the administrators at your child’s school aware of the problem, so that they can investigate the situation and prevent the bullying from continuing.

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International Pirate Day (September 19) BY VONDA HENDERSON

“Life’s pretty good, and why wouldn’t it be? I’m a pirate, after all.” ~ Johnny Depp

From Disney’s famous ride at Disneyland, “Pirates of the Caribbean,” to the imaginations of kids dressed as Captain Jack Sparrow, Pirates have long held a fascination for us. Perhaps it’s the freedom to sail wherever they wanted, the mystic of living on the high seas, or the idea of having no rules to follow, the life of pirates (real and imaginary) intrigues the inner kid in all of us.

It’s doubtful that Walt Disney had any inkling that the last ride he developed and oversaw to completion in 1967, “Pirates of the Caribbean,” would one day gain such a juggernaut of followers as the Pirates movie series. Most would enjoy a bit of Captain Jack Sparrow’s selfconfidence and swagger in their life. The reality of real-life pirates was, of course, quite different. Captain William Kidd was of Scottish descent and lived in New York City. He was involved in helping to build Trinity Church. He originally was given a position to help get rid of pirates, but became a pirate himself instead. Unfortunate for him, he attacked an East India Company ship and was tried in England and sentenced to be hanged. His hanging was memorable, as the first two ropes broke, and they finally hanged him on the third attempt. Blackbeard is likely one of the most well-known of all the pirates of the 1700s. His real name was Edward Teach—certainly not a name to cause fear in anyone. His nickname came from his long dark beard, which he sometimes lit on fire during battles to frighten the enemy. As if that sight weren’t enough to put the fear in his 78 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

enemies, Blackbeard was known to be a fearsome fighter, typically using two swords, with knives and pistols handy as well. He had four ships and around 300 men at his command. His ship, Queen Ann’s Revenge, prowled the coast of the eastern American colonies. He was ultimately killed in a battle at Ocracoke Island. According to legend, Blackbeard was hit by five musket balls and up to 20 sword wounds before dying. Black Bart, or Bartholomew Roberts, was actually forced into piracy when the ship he was on board was captured. Within about six weeks the pirate ship captain was killed, and Roberts was named the new captain. He proved to be a very good pirate. In three years, he captured and looted over 400 ships. Local writer M. H. Healy wrote of pirates in his book, Pirate Straits–Oath of Blood, staying true to several common practices he describes. Pirates did force some of their captives into piracy—in most cases, it was “be a pirate or be killed” (that must have made the decision easier). Most pirates did not destroy the vessels they captured; instead, they renamed them and added them to their fleet. Pirates had their own version of democracy and fairness in splitting up their loot (the position of a crewmember was a driving decision). “A century before the concept took hold in America, pirate ships were democracies. Most captains were elected by the crew and could be voted out anytime.” (Robert Kurson)

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“God told Me to Tell You...” A friend of Energize Ministries is currently serving God as a full-time missionary in another country. She shared with us how she has a whole new appreciation for pastors, after dealing with certain challenges in her role as a missionary. Here’s some of what she had to say: “I’ve been in the mission ﬁeld about six months now, and I’m absolutely exhausted. From day to day, I don’t know where the emotional and mental energy are going to come from. It struck me how very ironic it is that this is what my pastor has probably experienced for years, and now I’m feeling a very similar thing. I receive e-mails from supporters, family and friends weekly that mask their opinions by saying, “God told me,” or, “God put it on my heart to tell you...,” as though that is then going to justify the harsh words or opinions that come after them. I’ve even received e-mails from people on the same subject with two contradicting messages, telling me that “God told them to tell me….” At Energize, as you encourage people to keep praying, encouraging and supporting their pastors and ministry leaders, I urge you to help spread the word that encouraging is not manipulating, with Godly words and phrases! Encouraging is genuinely praying that God can speak deeply into your pastor’s and ministry leader’s hearts, and that He would speak loudly enough to drown out the other opinions, ideas, and at times hurtful words that come from congregation members, friends and even family.” While we are sorry our missionary friend is experiencing these frustrations, we are so glad she shared how the words, perhaps wellintentioned, of her brothers and sisters are affecting her spirit. We’re thankful for the reminder to encourage and support our pastors and ministry leaders without manipulation or hidden agendas disguised as spiritual insight.

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What a Day! BY CINDY KEIGER This is the day the LORD has made. Let’s rejoice and be glad today! ~ Psalm 118:24 For many people, summertime includes vacation time. Maybe your family took a trip to see someplace new or to visit relatives. Did you go to the zoo or have a picnic in the park? Perhaps you and your best friend got to sleep in a tent in the backyard. Think about your favorite day this summer. Are you thinking? What made it so special? What will you remember forever? Now, talk about that day with whoever is sitting beside you. Yes, right now! It’s easy to be happy when things are going just right. Those good times stay in your heart and mind and still make you happy. Can you remember a favorite birthday or the best Christmas ever? Do you still get a smile on your face when you think about the time you made pizza with your grandma or grandpa? What a day! Some days are bad...even in the summer. Maybe your best friend had a party, but you were sick that day and couldn’t go. Or, while playing ball, the ball hit you right in the face and gave you a black eye. Maybe it was a perfect day to ﬂy a kite, but you disobeyed mom and were sent to your room instead. What a day! Think about your worst day this summer. What made it so terrible? And now, yes, talk about it. God has made you to be carefree. That means you don’t have to worry about too many things because Mom and Dad and other adults take care of the big stuff for you. Even more important, God is taking care of you—every single day. Even on the “yucky” days. The Bible says TODAY is the day the Lord has made. Rejoice TODAY. The word rejoice means to be super happy, or to celebrate. You know how to celebrate when you’re having ice cream or watching ﬁreworks or going to the county fair. But can you be happy if your dad ran over your bike or your best friend moved away? God cares about every part of your life, every day, so talk to him. Tell him about your troubles and talk to him about the really great stuff, too. Thank him for this day, because TODAY is the day the Lord has made! What a day!

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While I had accurately estimated the traffic flow, I miscalculated how long it would take to park. I drove around and around the church in an ever-widening circumference, desperately seeking a parking space. Running out of patience and time, I finally edged the car into a spot that I had a feeling was not legal. There was a sign, something about no parking 7AM to 7PM, even on Sundays. But, I figured, other cars were parked there, so why couldn’t I?

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Laura and I wasted no time jumping out of the car and walking towards the church. But I was stopped in my tracks when I heard someone yell out, “Hey, you can’t park there!” I turned and saw a man who had pulled up next to the car I had just illegally parked. His window was rolled down and he said, again, “You can’t park there! You’ll get a ticket!” He then proceeded to read the words on the no parking sign in front of my car. I pretended I hadn’t noticed it there. I was somewhere between tears falling and my head popping straight off of my neck. I think he sensed this, so he added, “Drive up a couple blocks to Madison, you should be able to find a spot there.” Irritated, I got back into the car and headed up the street. To be completely honest, at first I was pretty ticked off. Who died and made that guy a meter maid? It wasn’t any of his business where I parked, anyway. I was trying to go to CHURCH, for crying out loud!

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But, then I noticed the parking enforcement officers out in full force. They seemed to be enjoying their work, as they happily placed their little slips of paper on each car that had broken the rules. It didn’t take me long to realize that the guy I had written off as a busybody had actually done me a big favor. The irritation of not being able to park would have paled in comparison to what I would have felt if I returned to my car to find a ticket. I didn’t end up making it to church that morning. But, the Lord had a lesson for me, nonetheless. Sometimes, hearing the truth is painful. The truth can force us to look our errors in the eye when we’d really just rather pretend that everything’s fine, thankyouverymuch. I think it’s pretty normal to get irritated when someone speaks a truth that stings at first. But we owe it to ourselves to evaluate, at least, what was said and decide if we need to do something about it. Yes, sometimes the truth hurts. But avoiding the truth is likely to hurt a whole lot more.

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BY REVEREND JENNIFER HAMPTON OF SUNRISE UNITED METHODIST CHURCH

One of the greatest privileges in serving as a vocational minister is the welcome I receive into the precious moments of people’s lives. As Pastor, I’m often given a holy access to the highest and lowest points in an individual’s or family’s life. Like possessing a God-stamped backstage, all-access pass, as a vocational minister, I’m allowed into places off-limits to others. I can visit any care facility after visiting hours; I can enter the CCU even though I’m not family; I can see the bride adorned with gown and veil, to pray with her before the ceremony; I can hold the premature twins in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit; I can even show up, unannounced on a front porch and be welcomed inside for a visit! That’s truly awesome, given the culture we live in today. Long gone are door-to-door sales-folk, yet pastors are greeted at the door and often welcomed in for conversation and prayer, despite “the mess inside.” I pray I will never take this holy privilege of ministry granted. Never. With this God-stamped backstage, all-access pass, I am allowed to live into a promise and covenant far greater than anything I could hope or imagine: the promise of God’s never-failing presence and ever-abiding love. In Paul’s letter to the believers in Rome, he shared his conviction that “neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (8:38-39). As Pastor, I enter these high and holy spaces and moments as a reminder of what already is —

God with us. What an amazing truth. Let me be clear: I do not come magically bringing God (as if God could be carried in like a casserole). I come as a reminder of the One who is and always will be: the One who already knows your joys and fears, your helplessness or hopelessness, your doubts and your delights, your belief, and your unbelief. There is no place in life, or space in creation, where you can be separated from the love of God. In our most recent sermon series, the congregation of Sunrise UMC has been spending a “Summer in the Psalms.” Looking at, studying, and praying the Psalters each week has deepened my understanding of this promise of God’s presence. What I love so much about the Psalms are their honesty, and their ability to express the full range of human emotions: joy, anger, rage, bewilderment, fear, despair, delight, praise; it’s all in there, just as God is always with us. The Psalms teach us that prayer is always possible, regardless of circumstance, because God is always present. Always. If you find yourself in a place where you don’t know what to pray, or say, or think; when you are lonely beyond words and can’t feel the warmth of hope; or when you are basking in the light of love and gratitude, turn to the Psalms and recall God’s presence. Life is not always Sunny, but the enduring love of Christ is bright. Keep on the Sunny Side Church, keep reading and keep returning to God’s word, you followers of Christ! Trust God’s promises until we ourselves shine like a city on a hill with eternal truth, justice, and mercy.

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Remember when your babies were “babies?” Little hands that cupped your face, their eyes brimming with unconditional love? Hold that picture in your mind. You’re going to need it! Buckle up friends, the ride you’re about to take with your high school child and college-age child is a white knuckler! But having been through it, I promise it is very rewarding, too. You will fall in love all over again with these people you made, as they learn to “adult.” As your children enter high school and then college, parenting as you knew it will have to change. There will be a myriad of terrifying decisions on the horizon. Your first instinct may be to panic and put them back in your pouch. I often suggested “Home College” to our daughter and son. Yeah, they think their Mom is pretty funny, but was I really kidding? I’ll admit I panicked. I was going to need a plan. It’s what I do. I try to anticipate bends in the road up ahead. Plans give me a false sense of security, which was what I needed at the time! I listed the skills they might need to make the best choices when I was not there to guide them. Soon, I would move from coach to a place on the sideline. Our daughter is five years older than our son. She has said the oldest child is the “practice child,” and in this case, she wasn’t far wrong. Many of the lessons I learned about being a better parent I learned from her (thank you, Samantha). As she, then he, matriculated, I noticed

my list changed. So much so, it began to look like the opus of a madman. The original bullets are now riddled with scribbles, strikeouts, arrows, footnotes, and underlines. I would like to save you from this madness; here are the remaining suggestions that were actually invaluable. motional Regulation: With teens, 1. E everything is magnified. Listen, without over-relating; to them, it is not about you. When they become overwhelmed, talk about self-soothing techniques. Ex.: breathe, color, listen to music, journal, or exercise (endorphins). When they’re calm, ask them to suggest possible solutions and encourage them to work it out. 2. R outines and Rituals: In high school, encourage your child to create and protect specific study spaces and times. In college, it will be tempting to skip the books and play, a routine will help them stay focused. They should automate reminders for assignments and exam dates in MS Outlook or on their phones. If possible, encourage a regular bedtime during the week; sleep is important. 3. F amily Core Values: reinforce these so that when you’re not with them they WILL make good choices. Model these and compliment them when you see these. Ex.: be respectful, always try to do your best, maintain integrity (doing what’s right even if it’s not popular), be responsible for your actions. That also means letting them face the music,

if necessary! 4. Friends: praise them for choosing their friends wisely. Remind them of their value, and to protect their boundaries while respecting the boundaries of others (great roommate advice). “Neither a borrower nor a lender be.” And that we do not give in to peer pressure; if it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. 5. Limits: Explain why rules exist and their consequences. When they test their limits (and they will), be cool and chose your battles wisely. Established consequences must be followed through every time, or you will lose credibility. When they come home from college, they will be different, they have lived on their own (with no curfew, eating what and when they want, being messy, etc.…). Talk about this with them. Decide what you can live with and what you expect from them. Remember, you want them to want to come home, but don’t forget, if they are going to be treated like adults—they can help more, too! Our children are discovering who they are, separate from us. This is both exciting and terrifying. Our compassion and consistency will make it easier in this transition. It’s going to be OK. When you can steal a moment to watch them without being seen, I think you’re really going to like the young adults you made. I know I do.

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Safe Routes to School in Winston-Salem BY KATHY NORCROSS WATTS

TIPS FOR WALKING SAFELY TO SCHOOL • Walk together and use a sidewalk if one is available. • Wear bright or reflective clothing to be visible. • Walk facing traffic if there is no sidewalk. • Cross the street safely, looking in all directions for traffic. • Obey traffic signs, signals and adult school-crossing guards. Excerpted from http://www.saferoutesinfo.org/sites/ default/files/tips_for_kids.pdf

Walking or biking to school benefits both students and the community, and Winston-Salem’s “Safe Routes to School” Program helps schools create opportunities for students to walk and bike to school safely. Now volunteers can help more students walk safely by walking a group of students to school. Starting the day with exercise by walking or biking to school can help reduce child obesity, a growing problem nationwide. Also, when parents don’t drive their children to school, they reduce traffic congestion and air pollution—further goals of the Safe Routes to School Program. For Judi Wallace, Coordinator of Winston-Salem’s Safe Routes to School program, enabling children to walk and bike safely to school is personal: she experienced first-hand the benefits of walking and biking to school. “When my daughter was ready for school, we were able to walk or bike the few blocks to the school every day,” Wallace said. “It was a wonderful way for us to have time together while also getting exercise. Safe Routes to School allows me to encourage others to enjoy this experience, too.” Since 2008, Wallace has worked with local schools to develop SRTS programs, beginning with Kimberley Park Elementary. Sherwood Forest Elementary followed close behind. Both schools continue to have active and growing SRTS programs today. Other schools have adapted the program to their specific resources, such as the availability of sidewalks and volunteers. For example, some schools without sidewalks have held “Walk At School” events, so that children can enjoy the benefits of walking before school. Another option is finding a safe remote drop-off location, like a nearby church that has a sidewalk connecting to school, and volunteers can lead groups of students to school. Wallace is working with two elementary schools to start a “Walking School Bus” Program for this fall. A walking school bus means a trained adult volunteer walks with a group of students to school in the morning. The walk leader can pick

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students up along a designated route, or walk with them from a designated meeting place. Walking school bus groups become a team and can choose a certain name or mascot, with approval from the principal. Other walking school bus programs around the country have helped reduce the number of tardies and absences at participating schools, reports Wallace. While most focus has been on elementary schools, middle schools can also participate. Several Jefferson Middle School students enjoy walking to school. “I think that when I walk I’m getting a good morning workout, and I’m waking myself up because it’s so early in the morning,” said Grace Nemeth of Jefferson Middle School in November 2015. Ehime Abhulimen said it takes him only about five minutes to walk to Jefferson. “You’re more ready for academics,” he said in November 2015. Studies show that he’s right: children who walk or bike to school can focus and learn better, due to the active start to their morning, Wallace said. Wallace has developed a bike safety curriculum, “Bike Smarts,” that includes safety lessons—and bicycle practice— and has been used by more than 6,000 students in Forsyth County. “Regardless of their locations, all elementary schools can teach students safe walking and biking skills using the free “Let’s Go NC!” Curriculum,” Wallace said. “For the future, I would love to see more elementary and middle schools encouraging students to walk to and from school, if it’s safe to do so, or to have Walk At School programs for all students,” she said. “Some schools are even including staff members, to encourage a healthy school community.” For more information, contact Judi Wallace, Safe Routes to School Coordinator, 336-768-3339 or judiwallace@triad.rr.com. Check out http://www.cityofws.org/departments/ transportation/pedestrians/aboutsafe-routes-to-school or https:// www.facebook.com/pages/ Winston-Salem-Safe-Routes-toSchool/249437901793337.

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The rite of passage of high school: the smell of gym socks, boys in fast cars, college and future life decisions to be made. No longer does the child stand in front of your house holding the cute placard on the first day—instead, they might ask to be dropped off a block away from school and not to be seen with their parents. While this is the case for some, most high schoolers become aware of the fact that the game has changed. They feel the beginning pressure of the future, as well as the sense that others seem to watch their every move. High school can and should be an exciting time for students, one that sees them branching out from their nest, beginning to spread their wings and testing the sky as to what lies ahead. As a parent of a new kindergartner, I might not have the exact parental advice needed for the high school parent, but in 18 years of teaching 11th grade, where the curriculum might have changed, and technology has definitely changed—the students have stayed the same. They still feel hyper-aware that someone is monitoring their outfit, what they say and whom they hang with. They still let little things bother them, and everything seems to be a crisis. There is still that student who never studies or takes notes and seems to pass every assignment, while the other kid writes every word of a lecture and cannot pass a test to save his or her life. There’s the class clown, the nerd, the bookworm, the jock, the teacher’s pet—they all still exist in high school—the only difference is they now all carry smartphones. Coming up with some pieces of advice for parents and students was tough, so I enlisted some of my colleagues for help. Each is a suggestion to explore as your child enters the world of high school. • Become involved in school! It’s a long four years for you only to go to class! There is something for everyone—a club, an activity, or a sport! Being involved is any easy way to find someone with common interests. • As a parent, become active while you can—use the POWERFUL tool of PowerSchool and know your child’s grades and attendance. This system is a live look into the school life of your child and is accessible 24/7. It’s advised to become active before you lose control. • Now is the time to become organized—4 classes, A day vs. B day, 4–6 classes and teachers, maybe even two schools—high school is tough to navigate, organization makes your life easier. • Have an agenda, keep up with a calendar! • Students have a powerful school and studying tool in

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CELL PHONES! Encourage your student to download the PowerSchool app, so they can have access to their grades themselves and take responsibility. There are so many studying apps—flash cards, quizlet, and others, that your student can use to AID in their learning. • Recognize that students are addicted to their phones, and it is such a challenge for teachers to fight this addiction and keep the attention of 30 phone-holding teenagers. To help this, don’t text or call your child during school or class hours. They haven’t learned the art of calling later. They treat everything as an emergency that has to be answered ASAP. Even if you ask them to remember to feed the dog, they feel the necessity to answer “Okay.” • Students usually spend more time complaining about the work than actually completing the assignments. I believe that keeping students on track and curbing procrastination helps eliminate headaches in the future. If a student waits until the last minute to start their semester-long “Around the World” project, you’ll suffer just as much as they will. • Just as they say junior year is the toughest, with the threat of reality settling in—college, future, majors, GPA and SATs— the entire four years can be a tough time for some students. Remind them to treat their actions as if someone IS watching or videotaping. While a text might be deleted on their phone, it never is truly deleted. They should learn to use caution in anything they Write, Text or Take a picture of—consider that “someone” permanent for the rest of their life! • Students, don’t ever be afraid to be yourself! Peer pressure isn’t the after-school special from when we were kids. It abounds in school, from the outfit you wear to the people you choose to be friends with. The hardest part is to learn who you really are and to be confident in that person. • High schoolers believe they are the 3 I’s: INVISIBLE—No one ever seems to them to sneak a look at their phone while they’re taking a test. INVINCIBLE—An 11th-grader told me last night, “I am the best driver, it’s everyone else out there that needs to learn to drive.” INDIVIDUAL—“Yes, I’m so unique, I am the only one wearing Jack Rogers sandals today.” The reality of these three words can be a true learning experience for some high school students. With these and so many other pieces of advice, high school has the potential to be a wonderful and exciting time. They do not refer to this time as a “rite of passage” for nothing—it truly is that for everyone. When students frequently say, “High school sucks!” I remind them that it is SUPPOSED TO! It’s how you navigate and survive this time in your life that defines who you are—and reminds you that you are definitely not alone!

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To Infinity & Beyond:

Encouraging a LOVE of Science with Hands-On Experiences

BY LISA S.T. DOSS With our daughter, delving into the subject of bugs, wild animals or dinosaurs, perhaps led to a fascination with the oceans, the water cycle, wild weather, Earth and then the universe. It was easy to help our child expand her innate sense of wonder and curiosity of science-related themes. From weekly trips to the children’s non-fiction section of the public library, to enjoying wonderful educational shows such as The Magic School Bus and Bill Nye the Science Guy, children have great resources to sit, listen and absorb fascinating content; yet, there is another experience for the budding scientist. Natural exploration begins with questions, or the words, “I wonder.” The next step is to think through concepts and facts by creating a visual artistic project, hands-on activity, or experiment. The unexpected outcome is the best part. Even when the experiment does not work, eager scientists become even more engaged and try yet again. It’s one of the many reasons why science is cool! CONSTELLATIONS: Sometimes books are presented with either few pictures or are too advanced for a young learner; therefore, why not encourage your stargazer to write her own “Field Guide.” Begin with facts about stars, and progress to the story of each constellation. For example, one of the most recognizable constellations is the Big Dipper. Stargazers could learn the story of Ursa Major and the Great Bear. The field guide could include hand-drawn pictures and perhaps a description of how to locate each constellation in fall, winter, spring, and summer.

their immediate environments clean. A great way to expand on conservation topics is to help children live by “The Three R’s: Reduce, Reuse, and Recycle” by finding useful solutions for the cardboard, plastic, and paper around the house. Also, children can learn what items are compostable and contribute to the scientific process of decomposition. By investing the time to use a container or raised-bed gardening methods, there are numerous ways to minimize cost while improving the soil. IMITATING NATURE: We find evidence of nature in our children’s pockets and hands; perhaps, she loves to collect leaves or rocks, or desires to use her resources and create an actual rainbow. Children love the idea of hands-on experiences. Personally, I found my five-year-old with the front door wide open admitting in the afternoon sunlight. After putting a few magic markers into a glass jar, she poured a glass of water onto the floor. Needless to say, she was greatly disappointed. In talking about her ideas, she learned her theory was mostly right. (To all parents, budding scientists will make huge messes in the name of science, of course. Be patient.) There are great books and websites available to safety demonstrate scientific experiments just for children. Is it important to let your child ask the questions, predict the outcomes and, when possible, try again?

THE PLANETS: One of our favorite books is titled, Actual Size, by Peter Jenkins. On each page, he illustrates the size of animals, insects, birds, and oceanic creatures. Sometimes, we need more than just “facts and figures” to picture how big or small something actually is; in fact, we need to see it firsthand to appreciate the magnitude of its size. How interesting would it be to create an “actual size” of the planets? This project includes research, mathematics, and a creative means to show a visual.

WORLD OF ENGINEERING: If you have a child who has been fascinated with blocks or other building materials, he or she would probably love to learn about engineering topics, such as bridges, buildings and planes, electricity and circuits, and weights, motion and resistance. How about experimenting with building a parachute, a skyscraper, or dam, and discovering what happens when a design needs to be improved? Children can learn about air resistance, weight, the quality of materials, or water pressure. Soon, your child will be learning about interesting buildings and architecture, and pioneers who changed the definition of structural engineering.

CONSERVATION AND RECYCLING: Beyond the conversations surrounding Earth and Arbor Day, children who are part of a classroom community are continuously reminded about conserving water, properly disposing of waste, and keeping

To think, a child’s interest in science can begin with the fascination of a ladybug or a dinosaur! The curiosity about our world and its complexities can take the mind to infinity and beyond. Keep going, and never give up!

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Sibshops BY REBECCA OLSEN

It’s Friday evening, and when you enter the rec room of the Children’s Center on Coliseum Drive, you’re likely to think you’ve stumbled onto some sort of kids’ camp. There are children wearing brightly colored tie-dyed shirts clustered around the room in groups, engaged in games, crafts, and conversations. They all seem to be having fun, if the laughter and chatter you can hear is any indication. They all seem to feel right at home: welcome to Sibshops. If you have ever spent much time with a child who has special needs, then you know that it can sometimes be overwhelming. Caring for a child with intellectual, medical, behavioral, or social disabilities can be allconsuming for families. With so much focus on one child, the siblings of these children can be left feeling confused by the differential treatment a brother or sister with special needs often receives. Sibshops are workshops designed specifically for these kids—the siblings of children with special needs—to give them a time to relax and have fun while connecting with other “sibs.” Sibshops is a program designed to be engaging, with purposeful activities that build the understanding and skills children need to navigate life with a member of their household who has a disability. Sibshops helps these children tackle some of the unique challenges they face, such as when others stare, a family member has an extended stay in the hospital, or a brother or sister is disciplined differently because of their disability. These tough topics are tackled in a safe environment where children get to share their feelings, role-play scenarios, and support each other, while building empathy for their loved one and the communication skills to help them better convey their own needs. Chris Gentry, the Director of the Family Support Network, who sponsors these monthly events, says, “We believe that the greatest asset that a child can have is a strong family. For a child with special needs, this support system will often be needed across the lifespan. Every member of the family is affected by a child’s disability and needs a different kind of support. Sibshops is a unique type of support for kids who have brothers or sisters with a disability. I am often amazed at the depth of understanding and character of these young people. Sibshops is one of my favorite programs!” It is a favorite among participants as well, for whom the workshops offer a refuge from daily stress. Robbie Schmitz, age 9, says, “I like Sibshops because I get to learn about other kids’ siblings with special needs like my brother. I like playing with kids who relate to me and eating the yummy food!” The Family Support Network is an outreach program of The Centers for Exceptional Children. Their programs come at no cost to families in the Forsyth community who have children from birth to 21 years with special needs. Sibshops is supported by volunteers from the Winston-Salem Jaycees, who make managing the 30 young attendants each month feasible. Themes, topics, and activities vary from month to month. Sibshops’ members visit Serenity Acres, an animal-assisted therapy farm.

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To learn more about The Centers for Exceptional Children and other Family Support Network activities, visit www.thecfec.org, or to learn more about Sibshops meetings, contact Chris Gentry at ChrisFSN@theCFEC.org.

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BY MEGAN TAYLOR Starting a new year of school can be a fun, exciting, and somewhat hectic time. Your family is trying to get back into a routine and trying to make everyone’s schedules fit together. During these crazy, busy times, of course, a few things will go askew. It happens to everyone during the first few days of school. Take a look below and share a laugh at some of our readers’ back-to-school stories.

“On my son’s first day of kindergarten, he was also starting at a new before-/after- school care facility. Since he was going to be riding the bus through the year, I decided not to take him on the first day, because I wanted him to ‘jump into the deep end’ and go with what would be his norm. However, being the nervous mother I am, I wanted to make sure he got to school okay. So, I dropped him off at the daycare facility, with plans to follow the school bus. I drove across the street to park, watch, and wait. At the same time that the bus rolled up for my son to board, so did the police. Did I mention that it was 7:30 AM and I had decided to park in an empty bank parking lot? I hadn’t thought about it when I did it, but apparently, a bank employee was nervous about the black car sitting outside for 30 minutes when they were closed, and they called the police. My son got to school fine, but I didn’t get to follow him; I was busy being questioned, and once they understood, the police were rolling with laughter while I was beet-red with mortification.”

“My first year teaching drama I served seven elementary schools. Before school started, I was to visit each of the schools to introduce myself to the faculty. At the first school, I looked up at the entrance to see a man doubled over in front of the door. As I got closer, I could he was laughing. When I introduced myself, he said, ‘I hope your teaching is better than your driving. I’ve never had anyone drive the wrong way quite the way you just did...you will have to practice before school starts, or you will kill someone.’ At the end of the day, he got on the intercom and said, ‘Ms. Stacy has left the building; please give her a few minutes to clear the area before you go to your cars.’ I was mortified. Six months later, my mother came to see the school play I was directing. ‘Your principal was so kind,’ she said as she entered the building. ‘He greeted me in the parking lot and somehow naturally knew I was your Mother.’ Later that night, he came up to me and said, ‘I knew it was your Mother when she entered our lot going the wrong direction and still kept going after many jeers and stares from parents...I escorted her into the building to keep her safe from the parents and PTA.’”

~ Denise Heidel

“When I was in the third grade, I got on the wrong bus the first week of school. After sobbing to the bus driver, the policeman directing the school traffic drove me home and then to school. What a first week. My dog also tried to bite him.” ~ Vonda Henderson

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“My mom lives at the beach and drove up to take my daughter Brooke to one of her first few days of school. She knew it was in Clemmons, but that is about all. So, she decided that Brooke (who was three years old at the time) could show her which way to go. All Brooke would say was, ‘go straight, Mamaw, go straight.’ 30 minutes (or so) later, they ended up at Thruway Shopping Center. There was a guy walking down the road, and they rolled down the window. My mom said to him ‘Excuse me, sir, do you know where Clemmons Moravian Preschool is?’ He said very kindly, ‘Yes, ma’am, turn around and drive about 5 miles; it’s on the left.’” ~ Keela Johnson

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A HEART FOR EDUCATION

BY KIM UNDERWOOD

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“That’s one of the reasons I wanted to be a teacher,” Bostian said. “I want children to love to read just as much as I do.” With that in mind, she is switching from teaching kindergarten at Diggs-Latham Elementary to teaching third grade there this year, so that she can help students who have not yet mastered the skills necessary to make reading a pleasure. “I want to help those children who are struggling,” she said. Are you interested in nominating a teacher or educator with “A Heart for Education?” We’ve just made it easier than ever to be profiled with our new online submission! Each month, we will feature up to six teachers and educators in the community who are setting the standard for excellence in the classroom, celebrating a new promotion, or deserve accolades for a job well done! “A Heart for Education” includes a high-resolution headshot of the person nominated and a biography of 200 - 250 words. If you are interested, please visit SurveyMonkey.com/r/ FFHeartForEducation for full details.

To help her learn more about the best ways for doing that, she signed up to take a weeklong workshop in the Orton-Gillingham approach to reading, which combines visual, auditory, tactile and kinesthetic techniques with an in-depth exploration of the rules of reading. The workshop—led by Ron Yoshimoto, an expert in the approach who is based in Hawaii— met last week in the media center at Cook Literacy Model School. The elementary school is radically altering its approach this year and, with a staff that is mostly new to the school, Cook is placing developing students’ reading and writing skills at the heart of its approach.

SUMMER RILEY left Kimmel Farm Elementary to become the literacy teacher leader for pre-kindergarten through second grade. This year, she said, they will be devoting 200 minutes a day to reading and writing, and 45 of those minutes will be devoted to the Orton-Gillingham approach. “It will be a stand-alone component of our literacy block,” she said. Before participating in the workshop here, Riley—along with Paula Wilkins, the principal at Cook; Ashley Richardson, the school’s literacy teacher leader for grades three through five; and Kelley Bendheim, the literacy coach for kindergarten through fifth grade—went to Indianapolis for an Orton-Gillingham training. Riley said she came away with a better understanding of how everyone learns how to read. Orton-Gillingham can help all students, not just those who are struggling with reading, she said. “It is multi-sensory,” said Riley. “I think it is going to be empowering.”

TAMRA STOKES, who had been teaching at Summit School, a private school, had been thinking about taking a break from teaching when she heard about the new approach at Cook. Already familiar with Orton-Gillingham and knowing what it could do for students, she was eager to become part of the team. “Everybody is here for the right reasons,” Stokes opined. “We’re all getting the same training. I think this is awesome.” She would like to see the Orton-Gillingham approach become a part of regular teacher preparation programs. This is the second year that the nonprofit organization ReadWS has sponsored the

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workshop. It is doing so with the support of Winston-Salem/ Forsyth County Schools and money being administered through The Winston-Salem Foundation. Through its Augustine Project, ReadWS had already been training volunteer tutors to work with students in the schools, and offering it to school system teachers was a way of making it available to children throughout the school system. Holding the workshop at Cook this year was a way to support the new emphasis on literacy at Cook, said Henri Brown, the director of ReadWS. Yoshimoto is quite funny and has a gift for making those in his workshops comfortable and eager to share in his humor. During the workshop, he and the participants covered such topics as the “magic e,” that is, the “silent e” at the end of a word that can transform such words as “can” and “hop” into “cane” and “hope.” Having such skills will also help teachers prepare students for reading tests. That fits right in with one of the school system’s major goals—to have 90 percent of third-graders read on or above grade level by 2020. Another one of the workshop participants was JESSICA PERRY, who teaches first grade at Union Cross Elementary. Perry decided that she wanted to take it after Allison Peters, a fellow first-grade teacher who took the first training, spoke highly of it. “I was excited because I thought it might help some of my kids that I wasn’t able to reach,” Perry said. “I was desperately looking for something to help those struggling students.” Perry said that she identifies with struggling readers in part because learning to read didn’t come easily for her. “I wish that, when I was a young first-grader, I would have gone through a program like this myself…It makes better sense than anything I have seen in my career so far.” Perry wasn’t comfortable with reading until she was in middle school, she said, and her decision to become a teacher grew out of her appreciation for the teachers who helped her along the way. “I had a lot of teachers who really took care of me and made sure I was where I needed to be,” said Perry.

VIVIA SCALES, who teaches at Old Town Elementary, has taught first grade for 25 years. This year, she will be moving to second grade, so that she can continue to work with the students she had this past year. “I think it will be a new challenge,” she said. “I will be excited to see the growth of the students.” After talking to other teachers at Old Town who took the workshop last summer, she decided to sign up for this summer’s workshop. She’s glad she did. She thinks she is better equipped to help children understand the rules of reading. “I can see the connections,” Scales said. “The training is really equipping me to help them be more successful this year.”

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Too Much Homework? BY ROBIN WHITE ELLIS

Ah, the homework question. It is an argument that has been fought fiercely by both sides for quite a while! Curriculums are demanding more and more from our kids, and the overwhelming load of homework grows in consequence. This mom falls on the side that claims it is all too much. In fact, the National Education Association seems to agree, as they recommend a total of ten minutes of homework per grade level. Anything above that is considered excessive and unproductive. In other words, a child will understand a notion or hypothesis better by working on five questions or problems, instead of slogging through fifty or sixty. The frustrating part is that much of what is assigned seems to be simply busywork, with no real purpose. Intensive research shows that there truly is not much correlation between the amount of homework and academic prowess and success. Are there repercussions to homework overload? Absolutely. To begin with, it restricts the time shared with others. The effect upon family life can be extreme, especially when homework is combined with extracurricular activities. Children need time to simply be kids! During their playtime, they are developing the social skills required for overall development. We all require restful sleep and relaxing downtime. After six to seven hours in the classroom, supper, homework, baths, and other nightly routines, most of the day is already claimed. Children should have time with the family that does not involve a schedule to follow. Children and teenagers with too much more can become

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disillusioned with school in general and lose their motivation to succeed in academics. Their stress levels rise, interfering with healthy sleep and eating habits. Being overwhelmed in such a manner may lead to them feeling inadequate and unprepared. All of this combined can lead to physical and emotional ramifications. What can we do about this? If you truly feel that your child is overburdened, speak with the teacher about the possible options. You can also discuss the issue with the principal, or even other parents, about ways to improve the situation. No one is trying to abolish homework entirely! Being realistic and open to suggestions will produce happier results than demanding a full â€œcease and desist.â€? Let us be frank with one another. Most kids loathe and despise homework. To be honest, many parents hate it, too! There are certain ways to alleviate the homework hysterics, and the first is to create a calm workspace for your child. Turn off the television and cell phones. Keep their supplies within reach. Once they are home from school, provide a snack and a rest prior to a regularly scheduled homework time. Remain nearby to offer help as needed and offer encouragement and praise for each completed assignment. Keeping the experience as positive as possible will help your child stay focused and confident. It will also teach him or her that sometimes we have to power our way through unpleasantness before enjoying some much deserved down time and play!

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School is back in session! Kids are often running late. Let them help make these easy make-ahead muffin tin breakfast cups for those grab-and-go mornings!

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1 cup milk

½ cup buttermilk

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2 eggs

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½ cup grated cheddar cheese

1 Tbsp maple extract

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3 Tbsp chopped fresh sage (optional)

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½ cup milk

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1. Preheat oven to 375°F. Spray muffin cups with cooking spray.

1. Let cookie dough stand at room temperature for 10 minutes to soften. Preheat oven to 350˚. Spray 12 regularsize muffin cups with cooking spray.

2. In a medium bowl, stir Bisquick mix and milk with a wooden spoon to form a thick dough. Turn out onto floured surface and roll out the dough to ¼-inch thick, using a floured rolling pin. Cut into 3– or 4–inch rounds.

2. In a large bowl, break up cookie dough with a fork. Add buttermilk, eggs and maple extract. With an electric mixer, beat on low speed 1–2 minutes until well-blended. The batter will be slightly lumpy.

3. Press the rounds into muffin cups to form a crust. Sprinkle each cup with cheese. Place a few cubes of ham in each cup. Crack an egg into a small bowl and gently slide on top of a muffin cup. Repeat for the rest of the muffin cups. Top with remaining cheese.

3. Pour batter evenly into muffin cups. Top each with 1 Tablespoon of the sausage crumbles. Bake 20–30 minutes or until golden brown and toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean. Remove from oven and immediately loosen the cups with the tip of a knife and gently lift each cup out. Sprinkle with powdered sugar. Serve warm, and store remainder tightly covered in the refrigerator for up to 1 week.

4. Bake for 20–25 minutes or until the egg whites are set. Cool for 5 minutes before removing from pan. 5. Serve immediately or store in an airtight container in the fridge for up to 3 days or freeze for up to 1 week. Reheat in the microwave.

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DIRECTIONS: 1. Preheat oven to 375°F. Spray muffin cups with cooking spray. 2. In a medium skillet, cook sausage and onion on medium heat 5–7 minutes, frequently stirring, until sausage is no longer pink. Drain and cool 5 minutes. Stir in cheese and sage (optional). 3. In a medium bowl, stir baking mixture ingredients with a fork until blended. Spoon 1 tablespoon of baking mixture into each of the 12 muffin cups. Top each with ¼ cup sausage mixture. Spoon 1 tablespoon baking mixture on top. 4. Bake 30 minutes or until toothpick inserted comes out clean, and muffin tops are golden brown. Cool, 5 minutes. Using a knife, gently remove muffin cups and place on cooling rack. Cool for ten more minutes. Serve warm and store the remainder in an airtight container in the fridge for one week.

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Kids & Sports Injuries Keeping Your Young Athletes in the Game BY MARTIE EMORY

ICE: Apply an ice pack for 20 minutes at a time, four to eight times a day.

It’s September. That means school is in full swing and for many kids (and frazzled parents), that means the fall sports season is up and running. Nothing beats the camaraderie of being part of a team, but along with those exhilarating competitions come the inevitable aches, pains, and often, serious sports injuries, even in children. Emergency rooms and urgent care centers overflow with young athletes in pain as school sports gear up, and even if your child is just involved in neighborhood recreation, it’s wise to prepare yourself for the occasional injury. Of course, soft tissue injuries, such as sprains and strains, top the list, and ankle sprains are by far the leading sports injury in children, as the sprain damages the ligament (the tough tissue that connects bones together at the joints), causing severe pain and discomfort. Strains are also a common interruption of play time and can happen to either a muscle or a tendon, and that includes muscles in every part of the body. Parents should also be familiar with growth-plate injuries that occur in the area of developing tissue at the end of the long bones in still-growing children. Usually, once adolescence arrives, this “plate” is replaced by solid bone. Long bones are found in the hands and fingers, in both bones of the forearm, in the femur (the bone of the upper leg), in the tibia and fibula (the lower leg bones), and at the foot bones. When any of these areas become injured, you should take your child to see an orthopedic specialist as soon as possible. Even in children, stress fractures and tendinitis can occur from overuse. Known as “repetitive motion injuries” for a reason, these ailments, along with the familiar sprains and strains, are best helped with the handy procedure known as RICE. REST: Stay off your feet for at least 48 hours, even longer for some injuries.

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COMPRESSION: Think wraps, air casts, boots, or splints, as needed to reduce swelling (and hopefully keep your anxious young athlete still!). ELEVATION: Keep the injured area elevated above the level of the heart to reduce swelling. Especially in the warmer days of September and early October, sports practices can also result in dehydration and heat exhaustion. Symptoms to watch for include dizziness; nausea; pale, moist skin; a weak pulse; and disorientation. Because children perspire less than adults, rigorous activity in sweltering temperatures should be closely monitored at all times. As your children explore their talents and find a team sport that fits them, you’ll see the benefits of organized sports when it comes to keeping your budding athlete safe and sound. Your recreation center will have a well-maintained facility or playing field; its coaches are trained for emergencies; every piece of equipment should be well-maintained; and young athletes are taught proper use of each piece of equipment, which can greatly reduce the chances of injury in the first place. Many organized football and soccer programs even have certified athletic trainers involved, which means your kids will learn the importance of proper warm-ups and cool-downs as part of their sports routine. As you’re preparing to send your young superstar out onto the field or the court or the track, make sure they’ve had an up-todate physical (required by most team sports), and keep them supplied with water, sports drinks, and sunscreen, as well as shin guards, mouth guards, shoulder pads, athletic supporters (for boys), and any other safety equipment recommended for their particular activity. There are some excellent sporting goods consignment stores, so don’t feel these safety measures have to break your budget. So gear up properly, grab that water bottle, and play on!

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Red Queen by Victoria Aveyard Ages 13-17 years old | REVIEWED BY REBECCA OLSEN Mare is just a normal “Red,” jobless and awaiting conscription when she turns 18 in a few months. She steals to survive—with three brothers away at war and a crippled father, it’s not like she has a choice. She’s not special like the “Silvers” that run the Reds’ lives. She isn’t supernaturally strong, can’t conjure fire, read minds, or control water. She’s as plain as the red blood running through her veins—until a spectacularly public and unfortunate accident proves she does have unaccounted-for powers. All of the sudden Mare is left straddling the line that divides Reds and Silvers, caught between two worlds, but belonging to neither. And everyone seems to have a plan for her future: the king wants her dead, the queen wants to use her as a pawn, the prince’s motives remain to be seen, and Mare just wants to come out of this alive. A fast-paced read, Red Queen is Hunger Games meets fairytale, and will have you holding your breath till the very end!

I Love You, Grandpa by Jillian Harker & Daniel Howarth Ages Toddler/Child | REVIEWED BY EILEEN CARTER A special gift from his Grandparents, I Love You, Grandpa is a favorite of my 2½-yearold Lucas. He is a “Papaw’s Boy” through and through, and after visits with his doting grandfathers, he always seems to gravitate towards this book. This sweet story follows “Little Bear” and his Grandpa Bear as they traverse through the woods. As they tromp through field and stream, Little Bear exerts and demonstrates his physical skills while Grandpa Bear remembers his younger, agile self, then imparts the wisdom he has gained as his physical prowess has waned over time. This sound story shares many lessons of life, love, and learning, perfect for any toddler or child.

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BOOKMARKS’ Festival of Books and Authors SEPTEMBER 8–11, 2016 BY VONDA HENDERSON

“A book is like a garden carried in the pocket.” ~ Chinese Proverb

The annual Bookmarks’ Festival of Books and Authors will be held on September 8–11, 2016, in and around the Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts. Exhibitors will also be set up in the parking lot across the street. There will be plenty of parking nearby—at MudPies, Calvary Moravian Church, 1st Presbyterian Church, and the Century Plaza parking deck. If you love to read, love to write, or want to develop a love of reading—this festival is for you. Add some new books to your own library. “A house without books is like a room without windows.” (~Heinrich Mann) Mark your calendars to enjoy this annual, free event. The 2015 festival was a threeday event with approximately 15,000 attending and included special guest author, Pat Conroy. For this year, the festival will run for four days with authors in attendance that every age group will want to meet, with special closing event author, John Grisham. The festival will host 40+ authors and 50+ exhibitors, plus about a dozen food trucks. Reading-related organizations will also have booths (such as “Read Winston-Salem,” Salem Academy, and Winston-Salem Writers). Some sessions are ticketed events and are clearly marked on the website. PAT CONROY

On Friday, September 9th, the “Authors in Schools” events are scheduled. Authors will visit thirty schools in the area from pre-school to college-age. This year, about 4,000 students will participate in the event. The authors’ interaction depends on the age of the students. Some may have story time with their young audience, while for the older students, the authors may conduct a writing workshop. The Bookmarks team, headed by Jamie Southern, Operations Director, and Ginger Hendricks, Executive Director, has worked to ensure something special for each age group. Kids have a chance to earn a free book; last year 350 were given out. Teens will have an opportunity to hear several of their favorite authors (Sarah Maas, Thorne of Glass series; Gayle Forman, If I Stay; and Jacqueline Woodson, Brown Girl Dreaming, just to name a few). For the sports enthusiasts, there will be a special appearance and book signing by former USC Football Coach, Steve Spurrier, on Saturday, September 10th, from 1 to 3 pm at the Booksigning Tent. Coach Spurrier will be signed his autobiography, Head Ball Coach. Davis Miller, the author of Approaching Ali, will be featured at the Downtown Stage that afternoon, as well.

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Author booths will be scattered throughout the area. It’s a great opportunity to meet writers who are happy to share their inspiration for writing with you. With the holidays coming, books are a welcome gift (especially if it’s one signed by the author).

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EMERGENCY KITS – NEW JOB KIT BY LINDSAY CRAVEN

Emergency kits might inspire fear at the first mention of their name, but they aren’t necessarily tied to instances of disaster. Thanks to handy sites like Pinterest and Etsy, there’s inspiration for ways to create kits for both real emergencies, or for those little emergencies that life throws at us daily. This column will explore ideas of items that could be essential for various types of emergency kits, so that you can be inspired and start your own. This month we put together a kit for a friend, family member or co-worker with a new job.

Look for a bin that will be handy for desk organization or a trendy trashcan to gather all of helpful supplies for your kit.

A lint roller is always handy item to have at the desk, particularly if there are pets or children at home. If you’re heading into a big meeting with the boss, and you want to look your best, a quick swipe over the suit with a lint roller can make all the difference.

Lunchtime can wreak havoc in the office, especially if you’re clumsy with your meals. Include a stain-removing pen or wipes and a fresh-scented wrinklerelease spray. If the new hire dribbles some mustard on their tie our blouse or finds their pants wrinkled from a long day sitting at the desk, they can thank you for being able to put themselves back together.

Offices can be dirty and germy places, and they only get worse when cold and flu season come to town. Stock your kit with some handy items, like a container of disinfecting wipes, and a healthy supply of hand sanitizer will keep their workspace neat, clean and germ free.

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Some days you just have to enjoy that garlic-soaked lunch cheat and you’ll be stuck in the office with the breath of death. No one wants to brush their teeth in the company restroom so help out the new employee in your life by stocking them up a bag of floss picks and breath mint spray or strips.

A new job will be fun and exciting at first, but eventually there will be a hard day, and your kit recipient will need a little pick-me-up. To boost their spirits, include their favorite flavor of protein or energy bar. If you’re not sure what their favorite is, chocolate is always a good choice. Who couldn’t use a tasty chocolate bar to get them through a tough day at work?

What would a new job kit be without office supplies? Fill a pencil cup or other organizational holder with items that reflect your recipient’s personality and the needs of their new job. Things like quality pens, a stapler, good scissors, highlighters and paper clips are always handy and might save them a trip to the office supply closet.

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Mommy Guilt BY ROBIN WHITE ELLIS

When my daughter was in elementary school, I made an epic blunder. One of those infamous, soulstealing, cookie-doughnightmare fundraisers was going on and I completely forgot to get sales for my little girl. When the day came to award prizes to the top sellers, every single child in my little girl’s class received some ridiculous, plastic, ten cent toy...except for my child. She was the only one who received nothing at all. I was absolutely horrified and became stricken with Mommy Guilt. To remedy such an atrocity, I took my daughter to the nearest toy store and spent an outrageous amount of money on a toy she had been eyeing for a while. Even with this recompense, I still felt guilt and shame over such a misadventure in parenting. Trust me, Mommy Guilt is real and evil! It is that bleak, empty feeling that comes along when something unpleasant happens in our child’s life, whether it is our fault or not. It does not even have to be a big deal in the grand scheme of things! If our child is affected in any negative way, that nasty creature that is Mommy Guilt seeps through our pores, into our bloodstreams, and lands squarely and harshly upon our hearts. It could begin with something as simple as letting an Elmo video “babysit” while you get a twenty-minute break, or an incident as serious as a divorce. Any lack of perfection for our children makes that living entity of overwhelming guilt rear its ugly head. The situation usually ends with overcompensation, as it

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did in my fundraising fiasco. My daughter is now seventeen, and I still feel it over the strangest things. If a friend hurts her feelings, I want to make it better and inevitably feel guilty because I cannot. For a long time, I assumed I was slightly insane, then discovered through various discussions with friends that I am not alone. There is something intrinsic to motherhood that makes us want to protect at all costs. In reality, I know that not only can’t I make everything right, I really shouldn’t, either. After all, how will she ever learn to deal with disappointments or trials if I jump in to fix it all? It is a bitter pill for a parent to swallow. Motherhood is unlike any other role in life. There are seriously high stakes when it comes to raising a child! While some guilt may be valid...and even productive...much of it is utter nonsense. A facade of perfection teaches our children nothing. Sorting out these emotions into categories of what is just and what is silly can be a slippery slope, yet is important nonetheless. We should take a few steps back and ask ourselves if this is something that will even matter a month from now. Imagine your own response if your friend came to you with feelings of guilt or remorse over the same action. Would you tell her that she should not feel so bad? Cut yourself the same slack! Pause before you overcompensate and remember that we live in a flawed world, and our children are watching how we deal with disappointments. Their actions will likely mirror our own. When it comes down to it, we need to take a page out of Elsa’s book and let it go! My mother sent me to school with shorn hair that had been subjected to a home perm...and I still think she was a pretty great mom! I was referred to as Brillo Pad Head, Orphan Annie, Fuzzy, and many other less than complimentary names...and I survived. I did not hold it against her into my adulthood, and when I see those pictures, I can even laugh. Trust me, your children will forgive you many missteps, as long as they feel loved unconditionally!

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I’m a fortunate guy. I meet a lot of teachers, and, day after day, I’m given the opportunity to see the magical work so many of them do with young people. While talking with a teacher, I may tell her or him one of my school-related stories. Which one depends on what we’re talking about or what grade the teacher teaches. If it’s kindergarten, the story is likely to be about how, when I was 5, there was no public kindergarten, and my mother started a kindergarten at our church so that the other children and I could go to kindergarten. I then say that I spent much of the year in the hall because she was my mother and I talked back. So she would send me out in the hall to maintain order. I have no idea how many times that actually happened. But it’s a fun story to tell. From the perspective of today, I know that my mother gave me and the other children a big gift by starting a kindergarten. I should probably start working that into the story somewhere. When I went to first grade at Forest Park Elementary, my teacher was Mrs. Morgan. I have two stories that I might tell about her. One is about how, if we got rowdy, she would simply open the door to the classroom and tell us to run to the fence on the far side of the field and back. If she thought that hadn’t quite done the trick, she would have us do it again. It’s hard to imagine that happening today. She is also the teacher, who, seeing me coloring a strip of blue across the top of my paper for the sky, told me to look out the window. “What do you see?” she asked. “The blue goes all the way to the ground,” I said. That was quite a revelation. If we’re talking about the teacher doing her or his best to see that each student has the working environment that works best for him or her, I may mention that, in second grade, I had so much energy that it was hard for me to stay seated, and how Miss Summers gave me a desk where I could stand up all day. I later realized that, too, was a significant gift. When we’re talking about reading and how important it is, I may talk about how much I love to read and tell the story about my fifth-grade teacher, Mrs. Barfield, who told me that, as long as I paid enough attention to understand whatever the class was working on, I could just sit in the back of the room and read until it was time to take a test. That, I realized years ago, was one of the biggest gifts I have ever received, and I do make it a point to mention my sense of gratitude when I tell that story. BY KIM UNDERWOOD

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A lot of people are walking around with feelings of gratitude for gifts that one teacher or another gave them. It’s too bad the thank-you doesn’t always get delivered directly to the teacher. The problem, of course, is that, often, you don’t understand until years later the gifts you were being given at the time. When I ask teachers why they became a teacher, many will tell me it was because they realized what teachers did for them and they want to do the same for others. I like knowing that the world is filled with teachers for whom a sense of gratitude is at the heart of what they do.

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Pets are a part of our families, and for many, the heart of the home. The members of our team are all big advocates for pets and pet adoption. We hope you will consider giving one of these sweet animals a “fur-ever” home with you!

Stormie is a male Pitbull-mix. His estimated date of birth is 04/26/2012. Stormie is neutered and up-to-date on vaccinations. Stormie is an outgoing and gentle boy. He is even working on learning tricks! Stormie walks well on a leash and gets along with kids.

“Winston” is a neutered male hound-mix. His estimated date of birth is 04/26/2010. Winston is a calm and laid-back guy. He walks well on a leash and would be good around children. He is gentle and is looking for lots of love.

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If you are interested in adopting Winston, Stormie, or Cupcake, fill out an adoption application at www.davienchumane.org or call the adoption center at 336.751.5214 116 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

“Bianca,” a beautiful one-yearold domestic shorthair, has been waiting for her forever home for over eight months! She wants to love on everyone and enjoys a good game of cat-and-mouse. She’s ready to go home and conveniently her adoption fee is fully sponsored by Airtype!

“Josie” is a 2-year-old Coonhound-mix. She is a moderately playful pup who is eager to please and is a graduate of the New Leash on Life program. Like most hounds, she is a very vocal girl who would probably be best suited for a standalone house with children and/or other dogs and a big backyard where she can spend most of her day.

“Maggie” is a sweet eightmonth-old Labrador-mix who wants to give you all her love! She is timid at first, but will open right up after some love and TLC. She is good with any-aged human, as well as other cats and dogs and can’t wait to join your family!

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Making a Home-Cooked Meal an Everyday Occurrence

BY MEGHAN E.W. CORBETT

As kids journey back to school, and our daily routines once again become hectic, it can become way too easy to settle for quick fixes for dinner, like pizza and fast food. With work, busy afterschool schedules and lengthy lines at the grocery store, many have a hard time finding the hours in a day to get it all done. Before settling into bad habits, let Midtown Cafe and Dessertery keep your dinner table full of home-cooked meals from their “Midtown Market” or fabulous menu in the dining room! “Busy days are back,” said Co-owner Jeff Cayton. “The weather is great, so it is time to relax on the patio. Midtown Cafe and Dessertery is a great place to meet as a family, because there is a great variety for parents and kids, affordable pricing and seasonal entrees. Our summer menu is wrapping up, and our fall dinner menu is starting in October.” Midtown Cafe and Dessertery offers it all. No matter what the occasion, there is something on the menu for everyone to enjoy, whether for a midweek family dinner or a casual weekend brunch. There is a fun, casual atmosphere with a wonderful beer and wine menu, fabulous scratch-made desserts (of course!) and even a new, extensive gluten-free menu.

One of the best features of Midtown Cafe and Dessertery is the Midtown Market. “Too busy to meet, or need to feed a group?” asked Jeff. “Midtown Market has it covered. We are introducing Pick-Up Catering when you need to feed a larger group. Just call a day ahead, and they can have your meal solution hot and ready to pick up. The market offers Midtown chicken pies, quiches, hearty lasagnas, casseroles and slow-roasted, pulled pork, just to name a few. There are also tasty sides, including macaroni and cheese, home-style green beans, cinnamon-baked apples and more!” With the long days of summer behind us, Midtown Cafe and Dessertery is a great option for all the busy days ahead! “We have just what you need to feed your family great cooked, graband-go options, or take and bake,” said Cayton. “We will even bake it for you with just one day’s notice. All you have to do is specify if you want to pick it up hot.” Let Midtown Cafe and Dessertery feed your family this year, whether in the comfort of your own home or in its beautiful dining room. You’ll soon understand why it is such a favorite for so many residents of Winston-Salem!

MIDTOWN CAFE AND DESSERTERY is located at 151 South Stratford Road in WinstonSalem. Hours of operation are Sunday–Thursday from 7 am–8:30 pm, and Friday–Saturday from 7 am–9:30 pm. For more information, call 336.724.9800, or visit the website (www. midtowncafews.com) to check out the menu or sign up for the monthly e-mail that lets you know about the weekly features. 124 / ForsythFamilyMagazine.com

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