Forsyth Family - November 2018

November 2018

Forsyth Family Eye

Forsyth Family Eye Care Celebrates 50 Years

Serving Patients in Winston-Salem and Surrounding Areas

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FEATURES 10 Second Annual Christmas Silver Tea Cancer Services Benefit 28 A Look into the “Real Mayberry” 32 Gobble Gobble 50 2018 Christmas Gift Guide 64 The Billy Graham Library 74 Letters from Home

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Inspired by and for Veterans

84 The Rules of Friendship

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92 IN EVERY ISSUE 18 Out & About in Winston-Salem Celebrating the 55th Anniversary of Piedmont Craftsman

44 From the Book Shelf Gratitude Is My Attitude

64 My Grace-Full Life Worry Is INsulting to God

76 It’s a Grand Life – School Check Up

78 Triad Moms on Main Make a Threat, Keep a Threat

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As

we flip the calendar to November, we have turning our clocks back an hour to look forward to, celebrating our Veterans and everyone’s favorite stuff-a-thon, Thanksgiving! We celebrated Thanksgiving with my in-laws at my mother-in-law’s home for many years. When it became difficult for her to handle, we all pitched in and helped. After her passing, we took over Thanksgiving, and my brother and sister-in-law volunteered to host Christmas. I love this time of year and the quality time spent with those we love the most.

We have much to be thankful for!

November also signals two years since my breast cancer diagnosis. I’m still recovering from my recent breast reconstruction surgery in early October, but slowly getting there.

The amazing staff at Wake Forest Baptist Health took stellar care of me! Many thanks to everyone involved with my care, from folks checking me in, to the nurses. And of course, the doctors! How blessed are we to have such stellar health care in our back yard? Many thanks to Dr. Alexandra Thomas,

PUBLISHER Robin Bralley • Robin@ForsythMags.com SENIOR ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE Tamara Bodford ACCOUNT EXECUTIVES Morgan Bralley Brooke Eagle Heather Spivey ADVERTISING Advertising@ForsythMags.com COVER PHOTOGRAPHY Jon Eric Johnson Photography

Dr. Marissa Howard-McNatt, Dr. Karen Winkfield, Dr. Jennifer Cannon and finally Dr. Malcom Marks. You are all top-notch and I will be forever grateful for your expertise and knowledge! I had no idea this would end up becoming a two-year journey, but I remain hopeful and grateful!

Our November cover features Forsyth Family Eye Care, who will be celebrating 50 years of practice! They have a gorgeous office located off Robinhood Road and would be happy to take care of your family’s eyecare needs. Many time-honored events are featured in this issue that are sure to make your holidays merry and bright! Please remember to shop local whenever possible and in-person. Call me old-fashioned—online shopping is great—but I remain vigilant that our stores need us to buy in person. They cannot survive if you touch and feel in their store, but go online to purchase elsewhere.

Wishing you and your family a very Happy Thanksgiving and a special birthday shout-out to my mom!

Blessings!

CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS Brian Westerholt Dan Beckman Katherine Reeves Photography Photo Artistry by Melinda

OTHER CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Robin Bralley • Lisa S. T. Doss • Tabi Falcone • Family Services Julie Fritz • Jennifer Hampton • Mallory Harmon • Vonda Henderson Rachel Hoeing • Cindy Keiger • Dr. Debbie Linville • Kristi J. Marion Tami Rumfelt • Brittany Orie • Susan Schabacker • Heather Spivey Megan Taylor • Keith Tilley • Eric Whittington • Sara Wiles Susan Woodall

CONTENT EDITORS Tim Sellner Meghan Corbett (Assistant)

GRAPHIC DESIGN & PRODUCTION Laurie Dalton

SENIOR STAFF WRITERS Meghan Corbett Denise Heidel Carolyn Peterson

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Second Annual Christmas Silver Tea Cancer Services Benefit

BY JULIE FRITZ

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is a unique holiday event happening in Winston-Salem that ties together the Christmas spirit, a silver tea service, and raising money for a great cause. The 2nd Annual Christmas Silver Tea on December 1st, 2018, is being co-chaired by Stacey Karagiorgis, owner of Little Richard’s Barbeque, and oe Michael, owner of Mama oe’s and Cin Cin Burger Bar. As members of the Daughters of Evrytania at Annunciation Greek Orthodox Church, they started this event last year to raise money for Cancer Services in Winston-Salem. It was such a success last year, they decided to make it an annual event.

Cancer Services is a local organization that was established in 1955 to serve this mission: “To enhance the quality of life for those living with cancer and to provide the gift of life through education.”

Why They Choose to Raise Money for Cancer Services

Daughters of Evrytania

Getting a diagnosis of cancer is life-changing. If you receive this diagnosis in our community, you will, shortly thereafter, learn about Cancer Services. When Stacey Karagiorgis was diagnosed with Breast Cancer in 2016, she found herself in shock. She said, “When I was diagnosed, it was like someone hit me upside the head. I really wasn’t sure what to do. But then, a group at Cancer Services called “Pink Broom Sticks” reached out to me.

They introduced me to all the support and education available through Cancer Services, and with their support, I knew I would be able to handle the things that came with the diagnosis. I had lived in Winston-Salem all of my life, but having never dealt with cancer in my family, I just wasn’t aware that a place like Cancer Services existed.”

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SERVICES INCLUDE: • Patient advocacy and information.

• Medication & financial assistance.

• Help to provide equipment and supplies.

• Transportation for treatment.

• Peer support.

• Wellness groups & programs.

• Risk-reduction & survivorship programs.

Karagiorgis went on to say about Cancer Services, “Once they reached out to me, I felt like I was not alone and that I would be able to get through this. Everything I needed was there; it was exactly what I needed at just the right time.” In 2018, Karagiorgis is cancerfree, but she continues to use cancer services for education and support.

The Daughters of Evrytania at Annunciation Greek Orthodox Church has a history of philanthropy in this community. This group was started after the original members emigrated from the Evrytania region of Greece. Its members now are 2nd- and thirdgeneration family members. They have always focused on philanthropy, and put on a fundraiser every year. Last year, they noticed that many members of their community were dealing with cancer, so they decided to tailor the yearly fundraiser to reflect this.

Karagiorgis felt compelled to recommend Cancer Services as the beneficiary of the event, because of how much help they were able to provide during her diagnosis and treatment.

The Christmas Silver Tea This is a great event you will not want to miss. In addition to a classic presentation of tea, there will be a full buffet of heavy hors-d’oeuvres and sweet treats. There will also be vendors, including To Your Health Bakery and local artists selling sculpted pottery, functional pottery, baskets, and woodworking crafts. Be sure to participate in the silent auction as well. You will also enjoy holiday music, Christmas carols, and performances by professional ballroom dancers and numerous dance academies for your entertainment.

The Christmas Silver Tea will be held on December 1st, 2018, at 4 pm at the Greek Orthodox Hellenic Center—435 Keating Drive in Winston-Salem, NC. Reservations are accepted in advance of the event. Tickets are $40 for adults, $20 for students, and $15 for children under 12. For ticket information, please call or e-mail Stacey Karagiorgis at 336575-6904 (skaragiorgis triad.rr.com) or oe Michael at 336-848-7203 (zoegap1 aol.com).

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BY MEGHAN E.W. CORBETT

BEGINNING

Friday, November 16th, a beloved annual tradition in Clemmons officially begins! The Tanglewood Festival of Lights is a must for anyone in the Triad area, anytime between November 16th and January 1st, and this year is, of course, no different, as thousands are expected to drive through the spectacular lighting throughout Tanglewood.

“We are truly impressed and humbled by the visitors to the Festival of Lights each season,” said Jessica Sanders, Marketing and Events Manager for Forsyth County Parks and Recreation. “The Festival of Lights is a tradition for so many, because it is a unique, cost-effective experience that can be shared with friends and family members of all ages. We are beyond excited for our 27th season and can’t wait to show off our new light displays! I did want to mention that due to unfortunate circumstances, Santa Claus will not be at the Festival of Lights this season. S’moresville, located just outside in the Gift Village, will be open again with our amazing sponsor, Lowes Foods, operating marshmallow cookers and selling s’mores kits on-site.”

Speaking of the Gift Village, the Festival of Lights has something new to offer that it knows many attendees will be excited about! “Each season, we receive requests from patrons who would love to visit the Gift Shop, but are unable to attend the Festival of Lights,” said Sanders.

“So, this year, we are opening up the Gift Shop two days prior to the Festival of Lights, so that the public may come shop! The Festival of Lights Gift Shop Pre-Sale will be Sunday, November 11th, from 11am-4pm and Monday, November 12th, from 9am-2pm. The Pre-Sale will include the vendors that will be selling their items at the Gift Shop during this season of the Festival of Lights. We have an extensive variety of items in the Gift Shop this season! Patrons may purchase homemade baked breads, cookies, jams, honey, fresh fudge, and muscadine juice.

Jewelry, clothing, pottery, wood carvings, dog treats, book art, lamps, and candles are also popular gift items that may be purchased in the Gift Shop.”

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Additionally, the Paws in the Park event has been so beloved since it began in 2014 that it has been extended as well! “Paws in the Park has been widely attended since its first event,” said Sanders. “To better accommodate all participants (four-legged included) and help facilitate the most enjoyable environment, we have extended the event an additional day.”

The most popular times for visitors to attend the Festival of Lights are weekends and evenings just prior to Christmas, so Sanders and her team suggest visiting on a weekday, especially early in the season, to avoid long lines and extended wait times. However, even long wait times are worth the wait to see all that has been done throughout the year to make the event complete. “We work on Festival of Lights all year round—before the current season even starts, we are already preparing for the next season,” said Sanders. “From installation and staffing to marketing and design, it is a departmentwide effort to make sure the show is not only successful, but safe and well managed, as well.”

For more information on the Tanglewood Festival of Lights, visit www.forsyth.cc/Parks/Tanglewood/fol.

2018 FESTIVAL OF LIGHTS EVENTS: • SOUPER 5K – Saturday, November 10th • TOAST WALK – Sunday, November 11th • PAWS IN THE PARK – Monday, November 12th and Tuesday, November 13th • FESTIVAL OF LIGHTS GOLF TOURNAMENT – Sunday, November 18th • RUNNING OF THE LIGHTS – Monday, December 31st For more information about these, events, visit: www.forsyth.cc/Parks/Tanglewood/fol DISCOUNT NIGHTS a e o e e t t t and t and icin o t ose e enin s onl is: FAMILY VEHICLES: $5 COMMERCIAL VEHICLES: $15 MOTORCOACHES AND BUSES: $65 Please note that the Gift Shop will close at 11pm Sundays–Thursdays and at 12am on Fridays and Saturdays, with the exception of Sunday, December 31st, when it will close at 10pm.

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Styled Gatherings

Your Shopping Destination for the Holiday Season

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON PHOTOS BY KATHERINE REEVES PHOTOGRAPHY

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holiday shopping season is upon us, and the dread of rushing to the mall comes to mind. Jockeying for a parking space, running from one place to another and losing your sanity does not drum up thoughts of decorating the tree or hanging the stockings. What if you could go to one place with unique gift items to check off most of your gift list? Styled Gatherings is your shopping destination for holiday shopping.

Styled Gatherings opened in Mocksville, NC, three years ago, and welcomed the opportunity to move to a larger location this past July in the newly revitalized Clemmons Village Shopping Center. It is a contemporary women’s boutique offering a relaxed, enjoyable shopping experience, where an ever-changing inventory of stylish product, great customer service, and affordability are key elements. “I am excited for women to discover Styled Gatherings’ interesting mix of product: clothing, jewelry, accessories, gift items, seasonal goods, and d cor items for home and occasion,” said Marcie Appelt, owner of Styled Gatherings.

Tapping into her creativity and many interests, coupled with her experience as a former corporate buyer and visual stylist for major retail chains, Marcie took the leap of faith into business ownership.

“I am grateful to have this opportunity to showcase my business vision and inspire in others a shared passion for stylish fashion, thoughtful gifting, and memorable entertaining.

The support of my family, friends, and a dedicated customer base have been a great foundation as my business has grown,” Marcie commented.

Experience the eclectic ambiance of Styled Gatherings this holiday season for a totally unique and enjoyable shopping experience. Styled Gatherings is having their Annual Christmas Open House on Saturday, November 10th, from 10 am–7 pm. Come and enjoy festive food, new arrivals, prize drawings, giveaways, and more!

Styled Gatherings is located at 3611 Clemmons Road, Clemmons, NC, in the Clemmons Village Shopping Center. Extended holiday hours, starting November 6th: Tuesday through Thursday, 11 am–6 pm; Friday and Saturday 10 am–7 pm.; closed on Sunday and Monday. For more information, call 336-661-8016 or visit styledgatherings gmail.com.

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The

World of and

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

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may have heard the acronyms STEM and STEAM before, especially if you are a parent.

These acronyms are used to describe educational curriculums that have risen in popularity. Currently, there is a push for students to learn more about the sciences and arts. With the uncertainty about jobs and the economic climate, the more skills in different areas a student can learn, the better equipped they’ll be once they get out of school. To start with these, it is important to understand the differences and similarities between STEM and STEAM, along with activities you can do with your family.

STEM and STEAM activities are available for all grades and ages. In addition, you can incorporate into them aspects of the social sciences, such as writing, reading, psychology, and history. Common projects include bridge building, computer programming, and seed necklaces. However, the list doesn’t stop there. An example of an activity is the “Craft Stick Catapult.” This project is adaptable for kids of all ages and is a hands-on experiment to help them think through the various aspects of STEM and STEAM.

STEM:

DIRECTIONS:

STEM stands for science, technology, engineering, and math. It has been found to be best to incorporate all aspects of STEM into a project, activity, or curriculum, instead of teaching them separately. In the article, “STEM vs. STEAM vs. STREAM: What’s the Difference?” author Ali Trachta states that the objectives of STEM are to “broaden STEM literacy and participation, particularly among young women and people of color, as well as to strengthen the STEM workforce by increasing the number of students who pursue a career in a related field.” In addition, it is designed to help increase competition in careers in science and technology. According to recent research, there is a current need for 8.65 million workers in STEM-related jobs.

1. Stack 7 popsicle sticks on top of each other and place an elastic band around each end, to hold them in place.

STEAM:

1. Does a heavier ball travel further?

STEAM is STEM plus art. Stated in the article “STEM (and STEAM) 101,” the addition of art increases student engagement and allows for a better vision for scientific experiments and technological innovations. In addition, STEAM provides for a more holistic and rigorous approach to 21st-century education. Students are thus being given all the necessary skills to succeed in school and beyond.

2. What happens if the catapult end is shorter than usual?

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SUPPLIES: Wide popsicle sticks Elastic bands Table tennis balls Double-sided tape Milk bottle top Tape measure (optional)

2. Place another stick above the stack and one below it to create a cross shape. Move the stack of 7 in between the two sticks, about of the way towards one end.

3. Twist an elastic band around the middle of the cross, connecting the stack of 7 to the other two sticks. Then, place an elastic band around the two sticks, creating a wide “V” between the stick above and below the stack.

You should have about of the stick on one side of the connecting cross and of the stick on the other side.

4. Using the double-sided tape, attach a milk bottle top. Then, experiment catapulting your table tennis ball into the air. Also, test other objects’ distance.

Questions to Ask Your Child:

3. How far can you get a ball to travel?

Remind your child to be creative with their design and find multiple ways for the catapult to work.

In today’s world, STEM and STEAM skills are needed more than ever.

Introduce these types of activities at home and in school to help create a generation of 21st-century leaders and learners.

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Out & About in Winston-Salem Celebrating the 55th Anniversary of Piedmont Craftsman

BY HEATHER SPIVEY

On

Saturday, September 29th, the 55th Piedmont Craftsman Anniversary Gala was held at the Old Salem Visitor Center. Hurricane Florence did not dampen the enthusiasm of the guests that braved the weather to celebrate the mission of Piedmont Craftsman.

Jim Steele, host of Afternoon Jazz on WSNC 90.5, kicked off the evening as the Master of Ceremonies. While perusing an exciting silent auction, guests enjoyed an imposing assortment of food prepared by Diamondback Grill. Music was performed by Matt Kosma Trio.

“It’s been five years since Piedmont Craftsmen has celebrated a major milestone birthday,” recalled Jane Doub, President and CEO. “We were excited to share our 55th Anniversary with our artists, supporters and the community.” Proceeds for the auction will benefit Piedmont Craftsmen’s educational and community programs.

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Our care has always set us apart. And now, our name does too.

For 40 years, Hospice & Palliative CareCenter has provided compassionate care to patients and families throughout the region. Now we are proud to introduce our new name: Trellis Supportive Care – representing the framework of support, care, and guidance we provide. We’re still the same nonprofit, mission-driven organization you’ve trusted for decades, and we’ll be here for generations to come.

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Santa Paws with Davie Humane Society Saturday, Dec 1st, 11am-2pm

Pet photos with Santa. Proceeds benefit the Davie Humane Society.

HOLIDAY ETIQUETTE When you have made the perfect meal and the table is set, all of your family and friends have taken their seat...now what? Proper etiquette for serving is to pass each dish counterclockwise (to your right).

It is always perplexing trying to get the table set and the silverware placed correctly. For most family affairs, you are not using a ton of utensils and if you follow these guidelines you will be ready to entertain in no time.

Starting with your dinner plate in the center add the silverware as follows: • dinner fork to the left side of the plate • dinner knife to the right side of the plate (blade facing plate) • teaspoon to the right of the dinner knife • if you will be serving salad and need the salad fork, it goes to the left of the dinner fork • if you will be serving soup, it goes to the right of the teaspoon

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Big Future for Our Smallest Patients

BY ERIC WHITTINGTON

“They deserve a hug. They deserve a thank you.

They deserve a You’ll never know how much this means,’” says Olivia. “It’s worth more than just words can say.”

The Beroth family is doing well. Micah joined the family in 2017, and they are excitedly awaiting the arrival of their fourth child in 2019.

Brenner Children’s offers the community and the region the finest neonatologists, pediatric surgeons, neonatal nurse practitioners, nurses and pediatric specialists equipped with state-of-the-art technology and equipment. They care for our tiniest, most vulnerable patients—giving them the best chance of surviving and thriving throughout their lives.

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We are raising $25 million over the next two years to build a new NICU with 50 private patient rooms—a private moment deserves private space.

Your support will help us to create a quiet and inviting setting for bonding and give families like the Beroths as close to a home environment as possible.

families who end up in Brenner Children’s Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) never expect to be there. T.J. and Olivia Beroth were no exception.

Early one morning, 25 weeks and six days into her pregnancy, Olivia began having contractions. She says, “I thought they would be able to give me some kind of medicine to stop the contractions. I knew it was too early and we weren’t ready.”

A little more than an hour after arriving at the hospital, Tyson and Hunter were delivered by emergency C-section. Each boy weighed a mere 1 pound, 12 ounces. As T.J. recalls, “Tyson was so small, my wedding band could slide all the way up to his forearm.”

Unfortunately, an early arrival was not the only complication. Hunter had a gastrointestinal issue that would require surgery, and Tyson had a Grade 4 brain hemorrhage—an extremely dangerous issue that can occur in early newborns whose blood vessels are not yet fully developed.

Despite these early obstacles, Tyson and Hunter were able to head home as happy and healthy babies after a three-and-a-half month stay in the NICU. Looking back years later, in a house littered with toys and full of the laughter of his sons, T.J. says, “Now we’ve got healthy kids.

You’d never know that they had complications at birth . Every day I feel like a daddy who’s watching his sons hit home runs.” “ At Brenner Children’s , you’re putting your child in the care of men and women who are just angels,” he says. “Thousands of people drive by there every day and don’t know how blessed we are to have Brenner in our community.”

To learn more and to help support the new NICU, please visit GivetoBrennerNICU.org.

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Often, people are more conservative when they spend using this tactic. Many financial experts say that you can save 10-to-20 percent by using cash or debit cards instead of credit cards.

Plan travel around peak times. This year, Christmas and New Year’s Day fall on a Tuesday, but to avoid crowds and to get better ticket prices, look at flying on Wednesday or Thursday prior to Christmas and flying home on Thursday or Friday after Christmas. This can make your travel more enjoyable and potentially save you money.

Tips for Smart Holiday Shopping The holidays are just around the corner. It’s important to tackle gift buying and holiday spending with a strategy that doesn’t wreak havoc on your finances.

Consumers who took on debt during the holiday season last year added an average of $1,054 to their balances, up 5% from 2016, according to a survey from personal finance blog Magnify Money. To help keep the season fun and joyous – and to help you avoid the post-holiday money blues – follow these tried and true shopping tips for smart spending.

Before gifting yourself, observe the 30-day rule. It’s tempting to purchase gifts for yourself during the holidays.

Instant gratification is one of the easiest ways to wreak havoc on a budget. The 30-day rule is a good way to learn if you really need to make a purchase. Next time you feel the urge to buy a costly item, wait 30 days to make a decision. After a month passes, you’ll know whether the urge to buy was all that great in the first place. And if there’s something you’d really like but are wary about buying – within reason – drop clues to remind your family and friends of your general tastes. Give them some variety by mixing up the price points so they can reasonably afford it.

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Start early. The earlier your start, the better prepared you’ll be to make smart decisions instead of ones guided by last-minute panicking. You’ll have time to compare prices, search a greater selection and not be tempted to snag what’s left. You’ve also got the added benefit of spreading expenses across multiple pay periods. One tip for early shoppers: make sure you check the return policy so you’ve got enough time to return items if needed.

Make your list. Make a maximum budget for how much you are willing to spend during the holidays before you buy anything. Unfortunately, many families create their lists first and then try to figure out a budget. This strategy almost always guarantees an unhappy January when credit card bills arrive in the mail. Have gifts in mind for those on your list before you leave the house or go online.

Pay cash. Credit card bills that are loaded with surprises in January can certainly sour holiday memories. One solution is to put the cards in a drawer and only pay with cash (or debit cards) for presents during the holidays. A number of studies have shown that it’s more difficult to spend from a checking or savings account than it is to use a credit card.

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what the holidays are celebrating. If you keep the season’s spiritual meaning – whether it’s Christmas, Kwanzaa or Hanukkah – in mind, you’ll probably enjoy the festivities a great deal more. And by taking a few steps early, you’ll be able to focus on what’s important – more time with family and friends.

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required or no vision complaints are noted. Children who need eyeglasses or contact lenses should be examined annually or according to their eye doctor’s recommendations.

Tests used during pediatric exams vary depending on the age and maturity level of the child. Many children five years old and older can

are surprised that infants need an exam. “Even if no eye or vision problems are apparent, the American Optometric Association recommends scheduling your baby’s first eye assessment at six months,” said Dr. Appanaitis.

“We strive to provide excellent vision and maintain healthy eyes for the entire family,”

The American Optometric Association recommends scheduling your baby’s first eye assessment at 6 months—and it doesn’t cost a thing. InfantSEE®, a public health program managed by Optometry Cares®, the AOA Foundation, is designed to ensure that eye and vision care becomes an essential part of infant wellness care to improve a child’s quality of life.

Under this program, Forsyth Family Eye Care optometrists provide a free, comprehensive From complete eye exams and infant eye assessment between 6 and 12 months of age. treatment of eye

Making vision clear in Winston-Salem for almost 50 years!

diseases, Things that Dr. Appanaitis and to contact lens Dr. Gurley will test for include: fittings and selecting the • Excessive or unequal amounts of perfect pair of frames, you can nearsightedness, farsightedness, or trust your eye care needs to us. astigmatism • Eye movement ability • Eye healthMost problems insurance plans accepted!

These problems are not common, but it is important to identify children who have them at this young age. Vision development and eye health problems are easier to correct if treatment begins early.

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Meet the experienced and friendly doctors who make Forsyth Family Eye Care the leading provider of vision care products and services in Winston-Salem Dr. Alex Appanaitis grew up in Cameron, NC. He attended the Visit Universityour of Northnew Carolinaoffice and at graduated with a degree in chemistry in 1993.

5305 Robinhood Village Drive Dr. Appanaitis moved to Memphis, Tennessee, where he received his doctoral degree from NC 27106 Winston-Salem, Southern College of Optometry in 1997. He ForsythFamilyEyeCare.com then moved back to North Carolina to work in a need-based area (Yadkin336.924.9121 County) designated by the state as underserved for eye care. After several years as an Associate at Old Town Family Eye Care, he purchased the practice from its founder, Dr. Barry Ramsey, in 2008. He has

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A Look into the

“Real Mayberry”

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

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people, when they hear the word “Mayberry,” picture a small town in the 1950s and 60s, with Andy, Barney, and Opie walking the streets. he n ri h Show has memorialized the vision of rural, small-town America.

Throughout the past decades, small towns in the country have faced successes and challenges. Yet, they still survive and have stories that need to be told. And that is exactly the goal the Real Mayberry project and documentary sets out to accomplish.

Mount Airy native and filmmaker, Bill Hayes, remembers growing up in Andy Griffith’s hometown and the obstacles the town faced. Since then, Hayes has produced shows for TLC, Discovery Networks, UPtv, and others. In addition, he has founded Figure 8 Films and Thunder Mountain Media. According to the project’s website, Hayes wanted to investigate and explore how the heart of America, its small towns, survive during today’s challenging times. To this, he uses his film background and has created a documentary about stories of towns throughout the country, while intermixing clips from he n ri h how. In addition, the project and film ask and answer the question: “How does small- town America survive and keep its heart and soul? e eal

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Throughout the piece, Hayes finds that these tales show that everyone shares many similarities and that small towns are essential to our country. The Real Mayberry provides viewers with the answer to the question above by giving them stories about the lives, accomplishments, and more, about people and businesses.

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love letter to small-town America. In addition, O’Neill states that there is something for everyone, “whether you are a new business, a millennial, a fan of Mayberry, a farmer, or a person who wants reassurance that the American way of life is alive and well—it is all in the film.” e eal a

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To go along with the documentary, a website, therealmayberry. com was created. On the site are short stories and videos about small towns. These tales pass through various places in North Carolina and the people associated with them, including Sea Life in Emerald Isle, Nester Hosiery in Mount Airy, and the Fiddler’s Convention in Surry County. Part of this collection includes a short documentary titled ill an ing, which depicts the textile industry in Weaverville and Lumberton during a financial crisis for the industry. In this section, there are also excerpts from “Anytown, USA,” which are student films about small towns in the Tarheel state. The “Anytown, USA” is actually a course from the Duke University’s Center for Documentary Studies. These films are student-produced and edited, and center on the small-town concept.

One of my favorites on the website is the video about “Dr. T’s Tattoos and Bible Study.” Always on my way to Mount Airy, I pass by a tattoo parlor with a sign in the window stating “Bible study.” Now, thanks to The Real Mayberry, I know the story behind the sign.

Hayes and The Real Mayberry project are still on the hunt for more tales about small town USA. If you would like to submit your story, or for more information, visit: therealmayberry. com/. The documentary is currently on Amazon, Google Play, and iTunes. As the project continues to grow, it stays true to its tagline “Real Stories. Real People. Rural America. That’s what we’re all about.”

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SUCCESS IN LIFE IS A CO-BRAINER. For one-third of Forsyth County’s youngest children the first five years of life are threatened by the constant stress and pressures of living in poverty – which leads to emotional, behavioral, health, and learning problems. As a result, too many of our youngest children are stranded on the far side of opportunities that could help them thrive.

We know that children who have access to high-quality, early childhood development programs in the first five years will be better prepared both intellectually and emotionally – to become healthier, happier and more socially responsible adults.

That’s why we have launched the Raising Every Child campaign to improve the physical, social, and emotional health of 1,500 young children annually. Benefiting children, families, and teachers, Raising Every Child helps build a better future for our community.

We cannot do this alone. We need your help.

The goal for Raising Every Child is $3.75 million. More than $3 million or 87% of this goal has been raised from community foundations, businesses and private donors.

behavioral and emotional challenges of 3- and 4-year olds • Partner with Wake Forest Baptist and Imprints Cares to expand physical, social, and emotional health services to 500 young children and their families annually • Establish a county-wide engagement campaign, The Pre-K Priority, to make high-quality Pre-K programs available to all four-year-old children in Forsyth County The need is great as too many of our children who enter kindergarten in Winston-Salem/Forsyth County schools are at risk of falling behind, particularly in reading, from the first day they start school. In addition, a 2017 Harvard University study ranked Forsyth County one of the worst counties in the United States in helping poor children up the income ladder.

These children are no less precious, and we don’t see them as victims.

They are just under-resourced.

• Repair and improve existing classrooms and add five additional preschool classrooms to increase the number of children served by over 300 three- and four-year olds.

When you are born into poverty, it doesn’t make you less gifted; it only gives you fewer options – and more obstacles. We want to remove those obstacles so that every child in this community has the opportunity to use their gifts and grow in their own way to support themselves and their futures.

• Provide 100 teachers in 50 classrooms with training, coaching and mentoring in how to address the

Working together, our community can make this happen.

Success in life is a co-brainer.

Raising Every Child will expand and fund several projects:

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Well before kindergarten, children are building the social, emotional, cognitive, and academic road map that will guide their futures.

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Many children who do not have access to quality Pre-K programs and services start behind and constantly struggle to catch up.

Every child in our community should have access to the opportunities that help them reach their full potential.

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Visit www.raisingeverychild.org or call 336.722.8173 to learn how you can help.

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BY LISA S.T. DOSS

The

staple of our harvest celebration has many juicy and curious secrets. As you gather at the grand table among family and friends, the tribute displayed as the centerpiece includes more than just the tenderest pieces. Beyond the colloquial term “Turkey Day,” the bird is a fascinating creature of biology, myth, and history.

The Wishbone Scientists have concluded the wishbone first belonged to meat-eating dinosaurs, namely the Tyrannosaurus Rex and the Velociraptor, dating back approximately 150 million years. The formation of the bone served as the connection point between muscles and as support for the expansion and flapping of wings. Also called a furcula, the wishbone acts as a spring.

Prior to setting this year’s wishbone aside, allow the children to test the elasticity.

Of Course, Turkeys Can Fly! The spectacle of a turkey in flight is rare.

Pursued by predators, female turkeys, called hens, prefer flight and can reach speeds of 55 miles per hour. With a running speed measuring 25 mph, most turkeys, especially gobblers, also known as Toms, remain grounded while grazing on grass and insects, nuts, seeds, and berries.

One of the most widely commercial breeds, the white turkey, cannot fly due to its broad breast and substantial weight.

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may connect deep exhalations to the need for a nap. It seems logical, and science is involved, too. Combining the carbs from breads and sweet potatoes to pie and other sugary sweets, the body reacts to a high level of amino acids found in the food. Simultaneously, a chemical reaction occurs when the body absorbs turkey meat. Tryptophan, also found in cheese, nuts, and shellfish, stimulates the release of serotonin. If you are familiar with the natural sleep aid, melatonin, serotonin similarly produces a hormone to relax the body and mind. The glass of wine will foster the need to sleep.

Contentment Matters The turkey is a sensitive creature. If you have ever seen frightened turkeys, their first instinct is to flee toward one location, jump, and begin the effort to create a stack, ultimately smothering those on the bottom. For this reason, turkeys remain in small flocks to help balance their

fragile nerves. Scientists believe the filoplumes, or hair feathers, serve as a sensory function to alert other turkeys.

From the moment the turkey awakes, a series of soft yelps are sent to ensure that the group is okay. If perched in a tree, a wild turkey will wait to hear from the others before descending from the roost. Only the gobblers can make the iconic sound. Hens communicate through clucks or soft chirps.

Through tasting the meat, you’ll instantly know if your gobbler or hen was contented. If displeased with its environment, the turkey will release a stress hormone affecting its flesh.

Choosing the Right Bird Weight is often the only requirement to be the prized choice for the big day.

While an adult gobbler may weigh between 16 and 22 pounds, the snood, defined as the fleshy protuberance growing above and over the beak, is a valuable indication of a turkey’s health.

A short snood may appear as a horn and suggest the bird is agitated or threatened; on the other hand, the gobbler with the longest snood will always win a hen’s attention, indicating his robust health and spirit.

History, the “Turkey Pardon” At the sweet age of eight, Tad begged his dad to spare the life of a turkey meant to be the White House’s Christmas dinner in 1863.

It was ironically named “Tom.” As an animal lover, Abraham excused himself from a cabinet meeting to issue “an Order of Reprieve” for the bird. Even though President Lincoln established the National holiday, Thanksgiving, and an unofficial “First Turkey Pardon,” the first official Presidential Proclamation arrived in 1963, when the words, “Let’s keep him going.” were used to keep the unnamed Tom gobbling.

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Celebrates 50 Years

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Serving Patients in Winston-Salem and Surrounding Areas

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patients of Forsyth Family Eye Care are well aware of the rich history of this practice. It all began when Dr. Barry W. Ramsey first opened the practice as Old Town Family Eye Care in 1969 in Old Town Shopping Center in Winston-Salem. Twenty-five years later it had grown so much they made the decision to expand their office space. This turned out to be a positive trend, as eight years later they would expand further in the same location. It was also during this time in 1997 that Dr. Alex Appanaitis was invited to join Dr. Ramsey. It would be just the move the practice needed to build on their future. For as it turned out, just over ten years later, Dr. Ramsey decided to reduce his hours to parttime and sell his sole ownership to someone he trusted who would continue in the tradition he had started forty years earlier. Dr. Ramsey would ultimately retire in 2011 with confidence that his patients, both old and new, would be well cared for under the direction of Dr. Appanaitis.

The results speak for themselves, as by 2015 they continued to grow at such a rate they decided to relocate to The Village at Robinhood (5305 Robinhood Village Drive, Winston-Salem) where they remain today. They also changed their name to Forsyth Family Eye Care. The practice has come a long way in 50 years. The office is new, some of the faces are also new, but what remains constant is their dedication to providing quality professional vision care services by caring doctors who give their patients the personalized service they need and deserve.

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MEET THE DOCTORS Since joining the practice in 1997, Dr. Alex Appanaitis has enjoyed helping his long-time patients maintain their vision health, along with caring for and teaching their new patients healthy practices, providing routine exams and corrective actions necessary to preserve their vision. Dr. Appanaitis is a native of North Carolina and went to school at UNC-Chapel Hill, graduating with a degree in Chemistry in 1993. He earned his doctoral degree in 1997 from the Southern College of Optometry in Memphis, Tennessee, before coming back to North Carolina to help out in underprivileged areas in need of vision care. Dr. Appanaitis says, “I truly enjoy being able to make a positive impact on people’s lives. The gift of sight is a precious one, and we strive to enhance, preserve, and protect vision and eye health.” Since joining and taking over

this practice, he continues his efforts in the community, including providing eye care services for Wake Forest University athletics, along with assisting with his favorite charities each year. His wife’s name is Mariedith, and they have two daughters, Mary-Kate and Alexa. They’re also members of Lewisville United Methodist Church. When he’s not helping patients, Dr. Appanaitis likes to stay active, including spending time with his family, hiking in the mountains, playing tennis and generally doing anything that keeps him moving. He truly understands the value of staying healthy and spending quality time with his family and friends.

Dr. Amy Gurley joined the practice before the founder Dr. Ramsey retired and remained to become an integral part of their continued growth and success. She, as well, graduated from UNC-Chapel Hill (in 2004) and from the Southern College of Optometry (in 2008). While in college, she volunteered her services to help others as part of the Student Volunteers in Optometric Service to Humanity program. Dr. Gurley is married to Aaron, and they have two daughters, Arlyn and Naomi. They are members of First Presbyterian Church. Dr. Gurley enjoys spending her free time reading, traveling with her family, and doing anything outdoors.

The most recent member of the team is Dr. Van Vo. Dr. Vo is originally from Garland, Texas, having graduated from the University of Houston in 2006. Like the others, she also received her Doctorate of Optometry from the Southern College of Optometry (in 2013). She is bilingual and speaks fluent Vietnamese. She has volunteered her time and talent for medical mission trips to

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Guatemala and Honduras. Dr. Vo’s husband is Tyler Groce, and they have two boys, Carter and Kenneth; their beloved family dog is a miniature dachshund.

All three hold memberships in various Optometric Societies and Professional Organizations, including the American Optometric Association, NC State Optometric Society and the Winston-Salem Optometric Society, among others.

MODERN TECHNOLOGY UTILIZES THE LATEST TRENDS IN VISION HEALTH Forsyth Family Eye Care prides itself on using the most advanced, state-of-the-art diagnostic technology and products available to provide their patients with the best care and treatment possible. Dr. Appanaitis explains, “Just a couple of examples of state-of-the-art technology we use in our practice include the Optos Optomap and Optical Coherence Tomography (OCT). The Optomap captures wide-field pictures of the retina without the patient having to use dilating eye drops, to aid in the assessment of eye health. It also helps us rule out eye disease and complications from diabetes, hypertension, macular degeneration, glaucoma and more.

The OCT provides non-invasive measurements and images of the inside of the eye similar to the way ultrasound works, to assess the risk of disease or monitor for the progression of diseases such as glaucoma, macular degeneration, and diabetes, to name a few.”

PROVIDING AFFORDABLE EYEWEAR PRODUCTS As a proud member of Vision Source, they’re a part of North American’s premier network of private practice optometrists. Using their combined purchasing power, they’re also able to provide quality, affordable eyewear at discount prices for their patients. Come in and see the tremendous selection, designs, and styles they have available today.

YOU CAN EXPECT THESE VALUABLE SERVICES AND MORE… Comprehensive Eye Exams and Screenings to maintain your vision health and diagnose any concerns early, taking corrective action as needed.

Lenses and Frames in the latest styles and trends, not only to give you clear vision, but also make you look good!

Contact Lenses for those that prefer this option, including colored lenses and bifocal lenses, among others.

Children’s Exams to make sure your children are seeing what they’re supposed to be seeing. Often, they’re not even aware they have an issue until it’s determined in their annual exam and screening. It’s important to get them started out right, understanding the significance of good vision care and health. The earlier they get comfortable with their eye-care professional, the better. To that end, Forsyth Family Eye Care offers free exams for infants.

Vision Correction services for the long-term care and health of their patients. This comprises a variety of conditions and treatment options, including for glaucoma, cataracts, and macular degeneration, that work best.

When you visit your eye care professional annually, you want to know you can trust they will take care of you in the best way, with modern technology and a thorough knowledge of how to help you see clearly. At Forsyth Family Eye Care you can count on all these things.

ADVICE FOR A COMMON VISION QUESTION TODAY REGARDING BLUE LIGHT Our extended use of computers and smartphones today has often resulted in a condition referred to as Digital Eye Strain (DES). There’s been a lot of talk recently about the effects of “blue light” emitted from our electronic devices causing undue harm to our retinas. Dr. Appanaitis explains how the “blue light” of our peripheral electronic devices contributes to this problem.

“Blue light is a part of the visible light spectrum. Natural blue light exposure during daylight hours positively impacts a person’s mood and energy level. However, many artificial sources of blue light also exist, including smartphones, computers, tablets, and televisions.

They utilize Light Emitting Diodes (LED) to generate illumination.

The issues arise from the increased volume and duration of blue light exposure due to extended use of these devices during the day and particularly in the evening hours that can disrupt normal sleep patterns. Children can be more adversely affected because their eyes absorb more blue light than adults. An even greater concern for both is the potential for eye damage due to prolonged blue light exposure over their lifetime. Although no long-term

study exists, as the LED devices are relatively new technology, shortterm exposure has been shown to induce retinal damage in other species. For humans, this could mean an increased risk of macular degeneration and subsequent vision loss.”

Fortunately, there are things you can do to limit your risks of exposure to these shortwavelength light sources. For instance, special eyeglasses that contain a lens coating that blocks or reflects the blue light can greatly reduce your overall exposure. Dr. Appanaitis suggests, “Limiting blue light exposure is beneficial for short-term comfort and potentially long-term eye health. We recommend Essilor of America spectacle lenses, because they offer blue-light filtering on all their products. It can provide a range of filtering ability based on the patient’s visual needs and lifestyle. The more time you spend on your computer or smartphone, the greater benefit for you in terms of decreased eye strain and fatigue, reduced headaches, and a normal sleep pattern.” He adds, “Digital Eye Strain (DES) can be effectively limited by decreasing our screen time, and taking advantage of technological advances in lenswear to reduce blue light exposure.”

Dr. Appanaitis offers some important advice to preserve your vision health. “Maintaining eye health and good vision is more of a marathon than a sprint. Annual eye exams are especially important for children, older adults, contact lens wearers, patients with established disease entities, such as diabetes or hypertension, or those taking high-risk medications that can cause eye health or vision problems. Even people without any visual complaints or known health problems often discover opportunities for vision improvement or early detection of disease by virtue of an eye examination.”

CHOOSE TODAY TO SEE A BETTER TOMORROW Your vision is critical to enjoying your life normally; it’s imperative you take proper care of it. Give Forsyth Family Eye Care a call today to schedule your next eye exam. The better you take care of your eyes, the clearer your life will become.

To schedule your visit to Forsyth Family Eye Care, call 336.924.9121 or visit their website (forsythfamilyeyecare.com). They’re open for your convenience Monday–Tuesday from 8:00 am to 6:00 pm; Wednesday–Thursday from 8:00 am to 5:00 pm; and Friday from 8:00 am to 3:00 pm. They’re located at 5305 Robinhood Village Drive, just across from the intersection of Meadowlark and Robinhood Road. You can also follow them on social media (Twitter and Facebook).

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Leave a legacy of lower debt Life insurance can help pay mortgage, bills Jason’s neighbor, a widow, sold her home six months after her husband died. The woman told Jason she was moving from the neighborhood because she couldn’t afford the mortgage, credit cards and car loan without her husband.

Jason was unsettled thinking debt could force his family into the same predicament.

Seven out of 10 U.S. families with children under age 18 would have trouble paying their bills immediately or within a month or two if the primary wage earner died unexpectedly.* If you died, what would your family have to give up to make ends meet?

Life insurance can provide peace of mind for you and the loved ones you leave behind. The income tax-free death benefit can help pay for housing and debt.

Life insurance can also help pay for:

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• Necessary living expenses – Food, clothing, education, day care, utilities, transportation and insurance.

• Emergencies – Home and auto repairs, uncovered medical and dental expenses, temporary layoff, or helping a parent or adult child in need.

• Miscellaneous living expenses – Vacations and recreational dues and fees.

A Modern Woodmen financial representative can review flexible and affordable life insurance options. A variety of plans are available to fit your unique situation.

The more you learn about your options, the better prepared you can be to select the type of life insurance that’s best for you and your family.

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The Montessori School of Winston-Salem

For

Celebrates 45 Years

four-and-a-half decades, the Montessori School of Winston-Salem, TMS, has been providing high-quality authentic Montessori Education for children and their families. Originally founded in 1973 in rented space of a local church, with its Children’s House program for 3-6 year-olds, TMS has steadily grown to meet the demand from local parents wanting a different educational experience for their children.

With the launch of its Adolescent program this past August, TMS will now serve students from 18 months through 9th grade on two campuses comprised of approximately 15 acres.

“The addition of our North Campus and our 7th through 9th grade Adolescent program certainly brings many exciting and new beginnings. It is the strong foundation of our younger programs, however, that has made this newest program possible,” says Head of School and TMS parent, Jon Churn.

“While the academics of a TMS Montessori Education are undeniable,” Jon continues, “Our Mission goes far beyond intellectual or academic goals. We view education, as Dr. Montessori did, as an aid to life—with each program setting the stage for the next.”

SO WHAT DOES A TMS MONTESSORI EDUCATION FOR LIFE LOOK LIKE? IT LOOKS LIKE: Autonomy & Collaboration At TMS students are able to hone their collaboration, cooperation, and negotiation skills. Students develop from the earliest ages the vocabulary and skills needed to accept or decline inclusion in others’ work with equanimity, ask for and accept help graciously and resolve conflicts peacefully and respectfully.

Intrinsic Motivation/Love of Learning The Montessori teacher knows that each child possesses the natural desire to know and that the “work is its own reward.”

The TMS curriculum and materials stimulate each child’s natural curiosity and promote engaged exploration and discovery. The child’s freedom to choose his or her work (within limits) nurtures individual initiative and personal responsibility.

Confidence and Competence Confidence is built upon success. A Montessori environment creates many occasions for success. In the spiraling framework of the Montessori curriculum, each educational experience builds towards another. Each lesson and activity prepares the child for more complex learning to come, providing greater chances of success for the child throughout his experience.

Independence Each child develops independence through a balance of freedoms and responsibilities. These include self-selection (with guidance) of opportunities for constructive work, care of environment, and care of self and others in the community.

With the support of a meticulously prepared environment and the consistent nurturing guidance of the teachers, this

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balanced structure of freedoms and responsibilities leads to the development of concentration, inner discipline, internalization of the learning and learning strategies and metacognition (thinking about thinking).

Academic Preparation At TMS, children learn by doing. Academic preparation is achieved by nurturing each child’s natural curiosity into a lifelong love of learning. The spiraling nature of the Montessori curriculum, one experience building toward successively complex experiences, creates a learning scaffold for the child.

Through the use of the Montessori didactic materials, the child achieves perceptual first, and then cognitive understanding, of concepts. The interdisciplinary nature of the curriculum allows the child to make connections between disciplines, leading to deeper understanding and application of skills and knowledge.

Social Responsibility Independent and autonomous persons are always a part of a group and must attain independence and autonomy through participation in group activity. Students at TMS operate within the carefully crafted, mutually agreed-upon limits of the group. These limits are articulated in the course of the school experience through clearly defined class agreements which are modeled by the guide and the children. Social responsibility develops from the child’s willing adherence to, and enforcement of, these agreements. Children in a Montessori environment attain independence and autonomy and, at the same time, develop social responsibility.

Global Citizenship From the earliest experiences of negotiating and adjusting one’s behavior with other students through the study of people of various cultures, the Montessori curriculum guides children to move far beyond the family and school, towards global citizenship. Personal responsibility is configured for the child in successively broader terms to include an awareness of the importance of stewardship of the planet. Children acquire civic virtue and an understanding of the natural world and of the necessity to cherish, respect, sustain it and live harmoniously within it.

With an average student to teacher ratio of 11 to 1, The Montessori School of Winston-Salem offers full-day programs, and before- and after-school programs, for all levels. Half-day programs are also available for our Toddler (18 months–3 years old) and Children’s House (3–6 years old). In addition, TMS offers a wide variety of co-curricular programs that include after-school studios, from world languages and cooking to backpacking, as well as fun and engaging summer camps.

TMS is now accepting applications for all levels the 2019-20 School Year. To learn more about what The Montessori School of Winston-Salem and a Montessori education has to offer, contact Brittney Biggs, Director of Admissions, at 336-766-5550 or visit our website to schedule a school tour.

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Say YES to Audiobooks!

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

“I

cannot listen to audiobooks! I have trouble following along. It just doesn’t work for me.”

If you have voiced one of the following statements, you probably have not given audiobooks a chance.

Listening is a gift and a learning style. There is a reason why millions of people are listening to books while jogging, cycling, or walking during a lunch break, folding clothes, or commuting to and from work. They want to find relaxation from a message instilled in a book. Acquiring the ability to listen takes practice and attention; however, once the skill is learned, the act of processing information for either short segments or long periods can be achieved without the taxing feeling of exhaustion.

An audiobook listener named Joy expresses, “I’m currently listening to Ruby Dee reading Their Eyes Were Watching God. I feel like I’m sitting on someone’s front porch sipping lemonade while listening to her life story.”

Listening and Reading Comprehension At the University of Memphis, a study was conducted revealing that the act of listening offers substantial advantages over reading. Out of mere politeness, we are preconditioned to listen to entire conversations. While readers may stop at the slightest interruption or skip paragraphs, listeners

will continue until there is a distinct pause or a conclusion to a chapter. We unknowingly can contribute this to a “musicality of words.” This implies that we understand by interpreting the patterns of stress and intonation, specifically the rise or fall of pitch, in the language. The act of listening provides a much more intense experience.

“The Ocean at the End of the Lane [is] written and narrated by Neil Gaiman.

He can go from being a 6-year-old boy to an ancient woman with only a slight change in his voice,” writes Erin.

Great Narrators A gifted narrator may create specific voices for each character. To the delight of the listener, the storyteller’s capacity to differentiate between voices according to a character’s age, sex, and personality can instantly elevate a listener’s appreciation of a book. Perhaps you will love the unique voice of Tim Curry, Jim Dale, James Earl Jones, Bronson Pinchot, Will Patton, or Davina Portman. You, too, will claim your favorites and discover a unique enjoyment of the narrated story.

Jackie confirms, “From an app on my phone, I have listened to everything by authors and narrators David McCullough and Neil Gaiman.”

Getting Started Sometimes the act of becoming familiar with a writing style, a list of characters and settings requires help from a reader. By introducing the hearing sensation of audiobooks to children, they too will enjoy the magic from the storyteller and develop a love of reading. Following along with the book offers an understanding of unknown words by hearing the pronunciation, especially of names, places, realms, and worlds. While a series is a great escape, listeners will chance new titles just by enjoying a particular narrator. A list of a few of the most popular narrators: • David Tennant: How to Train Your Dragon series, The Wizards of Once, Chitty Chitty Bang Bang • Bronson Pinchot: The Hero’s Guide series, Furthermore • Jim Dale: The Harry Potter series, The Stoneheart Trilogy, The Starcatchers series, The Book of Beginnings series, Peter Pan, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, Return to the Hundred-acre Wood, Around the World in 80 Days, A Christmas Carol, The Little Miss Collection • Jesse Bernstein: The Percy Jackson series, Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children • Simon Jones: The Bartimaeus Trilogy, The Unwanteds series, The Thief Lord, Erec Rex books Lisa expresses, “A whole world opened up to my daughter by listening to audiobooks. From BFG (David Walliams), and Dragon Rider (Brendan Fraser), and now to the Septimus Heap series (Allan Corduner and Gerard Doyle), she cannot wait to listen to the next segment. By “reading” two levels above her reading level, she is still learning about words, problems, characters, and is capable of answering questions. Is a joy to find my child so excited to find out what happens next in the seven-book series.”

When there is nothing interesting on the radio, there could be a fascinating audiobook to enjoy together! And who said being read to is only for the young?

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BY DR. DEBBIE LINVILLE Each month I spotlight two books guaranteed to delight readers and provide fun activities to further extend the meaning of each reading experience. With so many wonderful titles available, this is no easy task! I bring a 35-year teaching career, literacy expertise, and a passion for creating joyful readers and writers to every column I write. I certainly hope you enjoy this month’s picks as much as I do.

Gratitude Is My Attitude

On

a recent Baltic Sea cruise, I had the opportunity to make broad brushstroke-visits to six countries in less than two weeks.

Sampling the cultural highlights served as a reminder that in spite of our unique differences, as humans, our similarities are vast and worthy of celebrating.

I can think of no better avenue for understanding and appreciating our lives and the lives of others than children’s literature. Books serve as mirrors to affirm our own cultural “ways of being and doing,” and windows to learn about the lives of others. We may wear different clothes, eat foods that do not look, smell, or taste the same, travel by alternate means, live in different style homes, and enjoy unique holiday traditions, but when it comes to what matters most—enjoying life fully in the

midst of those who mean the most to us and being thankful for all we have—we resemble one another a lot!

In this season of thanksgiving, it is important to express gratitude to those who love us most (even if things can get a little rough around the edges) and appreciation for everything we have—no matter the circumstances. Research shows that children who practice gratitude are more optimistic, feel more satisfied with life, and have more positive attitudes toward their family and friends.

Five Ways to Show Gratitude Ever Day: 1. Start a collection of little grateful moments by keeping a “gratitude journal,” and day by day, watch all the good in your life pile up.

2. Verbalize your thanks to that awesome person. Show gratitude by verbally acknowledging someone and make his or her day (and boost your own mood, too!).

3. Clean up after yourself. This small act of kindness symbolizes your respect for others and for their things/space.

4. Don’t complain for 24 hours. This might seem strange, but it will be good to realize how quickly you might be prone to jump to complaints rather than solutions.

5. Write a thank-you card. This physical memento shows that you are truly appreciative of someone giving you their time and effort.

(SOURCE: THEMUSE)

“For what you see and hear depends a good deal on where you are standing. It also depends on what sort of person you are.” ~ C. S. Lewis, The Magician’s Nephew

Giving Thanks: A Native American Good Morning Message As a former elementary teacher, I know that any title featured on the longrunning TV program Reading Rainbow will be a hit even before I open the cover.

This poignant text by Native American author/illustrator duo Swamp and Printup is no exception. A poetic children’s version of the “Thanksgiving Address,” an ancient message of the Iroquois Indians showing appreciation and celebration for all the rare and precious gifts of nature, is accompanied by beautiful illustrations depicting the Iroquois culture. From the first verse, “To be a human being is an honor, and we offer thanksgiving for all the gifts of life,” to the last, “So we will be happy and healthy every day and every night,” children and adults are prompted to express gratitude, daily, for all things.

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Thanks a Million!

Award-winning poet Nikki Grimes has written sixteen extraordinary poems around the theme of kindness and gratitude. Poetry forms in this collection range from a riddle, haiku, and rebus to a narrative, free verse, and a poem for two voices; each genre carefully matched to the mood of the text. From appreciation for math, a book, and shoes, to family, weekends, and shelter, every poem reminds readers of the importance of saying “Thank you,” and how wonderful it feels to express our gratitude to others. The vibrant acrylic illustrations by Cozbi Cabrera are the perfect accompaniment to Grimes’ masterfully crafted poems. An example: REWARD “Thank you” is a seed I plant in the garden of your heart.

Your smile is the flower.

A slow and sweet surprise, it blooms before my eyes!

Gratitude Concentration Everyone loves a game of “Concentration.”

Using plain 3x5 index cards, draw one item you are thankful for on each card and write the name of the corresponding item on the remaining cards. Include people, places and things that matter most to you and remember to include small, everyday things akin to those in Grimes’ Thanks a Million and Swamp’s Giving Thanks. Once the cards are made, shuffle the deck and place the cards face down. This game can be played with any number of people (or play solo—as solitaire). In turn, each player flips over two cards; turning them face up. The objective is to turn over matching cards (picture and corresponding label).

The play continues until the two cards selected do not match. Those cards are turned face down (leaving them in the same places) and the next person takes a turn. The game is over when the last pair of cards is picked up, and the winner is the individual with the most pairs.

Gratitude Photo Scavenger Hunt

10. that has a vibrant color.

This is the perfect pre-Thanksgiving activity (or post-Thanksgiving meal opportunity to get outside and move around). Work with a partner or a small group to capture images of items on the list below (or create your own list!), using a digital camera or smartphone. Set boundaries (e.g., only go on certain streets) and a time limit for the hunt. When time is up, gather together and compare photos.

Everyone is a winner…feel blessed!

(LIST RETRIEVED FROM LETS.GET.TOGETHER)

Something I’m Grateful for 1. that is in nature.

2. that makes a beautiful sound.

3. that tastes good.

4. that smells amazing.

5. that I would like to share with others.

6. that is older than me.

7. that I recently discovered or learned.

8. that has words on it.

9. that makes me laugh.

Cooking up Gratitude At my house, getting the Thanksgiving Day meal ready is an all-hands on deck, multi-day cooking event. At first thought, it may seem like the simpler, easier process to have only adults don the aprons and chef hats, but inviting children to assist with prepping, measuring, mixing, and baking can prove to be beneficial.

Research shows that children helping out in the kitchen increase their confidence, empowerment, and independence. Additionally, it provides an opportunity to teach them about nutrition, measurement, and how to make healthy choices.

So why not start a new tradition this year by giving ownership (with an appropriate level of adult supervision) to each child for making one familyfavorite side dish or dessert? Sincere gratitude for a job well done will most assuredly produce big grins and possibly, a guarantee they eat their veggies.

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The Season of Waiting and Preparation:

Advent

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Excitement

is in the air, a light of promise and expectation. It comes with a season of preparation. It may begin the morning after families and friends are gathered together in the Day of Thankfulness.

Slowly, the arrival materializes in the form of an evergreen tree. Each symbol represents a tradition of our faith. It is hard to imagine what life was like for the people before the birth of Jesus. They may have walked without hope or the presence of an inner light.

“The Coming” Christians mark Advent as the period of four Sundays ending on Christmas Eve. It is the preparation for the birth of Jesus, His coming into the world. Through the symbols of an Advent wreath and calendar, each day is a moment to celebrate the meaning of Christmas. It celebrates 1. The birth of Jesus, the coming of Christ, who came into the world to live, teach and die for his followers. A time indicating a new beginning of forgiveness and salvation.

2. The light of faith, and Jesus’ presence through the Holy Spirit.

3. His Second Coming, the arrival of Jesus’ kingdom in heaven.

Advent Wreath This symbolic wreath comprising greenery, and most often, four candles, is laid flat as a representation of eternal life. While traditions and symbolism vary, candles can be red or purple.

Some wreaths have a “Christ Candle,” a white candle placed in the center and only lit on Christmas Day. The symbolism of the four candles: • The first candle represents Isaiah and the other prophets who predicted the coming of Jesus, and is symbolic of hope.

• The second candle often identifies “the Manger” as peace.

• The third candle embodies Mary as a symbol of joy. (Gaudate Sunday means “Sunday of Rejoicing.” A rose candle may be used to honor Mary, as the mother of Jesus, or as a transition from repentance to celebration.

• The fourth candle personifies John the Baptist, who told the people to prepare for the teachings of Jesus.

On the second Sunday of Advent, we light the second candle, as well as the first one.

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Not typically a custom in homes today, the wreath can be one new symbolic tradition to gather the family together, witness the lighting of the candle, and perhaps say a prayer.

Advent means “the coming” The Advent Calendar Whimsical in nature, the format of the Advent calendar can be a 24-box train or numbered envelopes connected by a string that the children make themselves. It also can be a wall hanging.

Constructed from a durable and washable quilted fabric, large in size, the Advent calendar can be modeled after a 24-pocket snowman, a gingerbread house, or the Christmas tree. Some calendars do not have the numbers stitched in order; instead, it is a game. Moving the marker from the fourth day to the fifth, for instance, is an honor, especially if the house has children.

Additionally, the pockets can contain slips of paper intended for a particular purpose, such as those mentioned in the next paragraph.

Tasks to Promote Understanding and Love To young children, Christmas may be perceived as a season of receiving. Through the tool of the Advent calendar, children can be motivated to promote joy, establish peace, rekindle relationships, and help others not to feel the strain of loneliness.

The simple and fun task of baking and delivering homemade cookies to an older couple in the neighborhood can make a difference in their life. With open-ended phrases such as “show kindness,” “make a friend,” “help someone in need” or “be uplifting,” a gift from the heart spontaneously performed for a person can instill a feeling of goodness during the season of Advent. This time of preparation is not just now, but a season of continued goodness.

Our Traditions The people of Israel were familiar with the idea of waiting. They, too, awaited their promised Messiah and began symbolic rituals.

As Christians, we carry forth and instill the traditions in our children by lighting candles and counting down in hope, love, and preparation for “the coming.”

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Helping Children Understand

Veterans Day

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

painting a picture of the setting and job of the soldier. To expand a child’s understanding, parents can read up to two levels above a child’s reading level.

In

a holiday of solemnness to honor and pay tribute to America’s past and current veterans, children often have little awareness of the essential roles veterans have played in our lives. By openly mentioning the topic, children may become intrigued and want to know, first of all, the definition of a veteran.

Despite the complexity of answers relating to specific wars, geography, and historic people, Veterans Day can be an opportunity to talk openly about the values of bravery, loyalty, working as a unified team, and the definition of a hero. If you are wondering how to approach the holiday arriving on Sunday, November 11th, here are a few age-appropriate ways to help your children feel included.

A CALENDAR WALK Young children need several opportunities to be introduced to, and understand the concept of, veterans. Bringing out the big desk calendar is one way to visually create enthusiasm for the special day to come.

Begin by accessing your child’s understanding by asking, “Who are the military?” Beyond the word “soldier,” parents can mention the individual branches such as the Army, Navy, Marine Corps, Air Force, and Coast Guard; then, discuss any family members who may have served.

Activity: In learning about the exceptional job or title of family members or well-known family friends, children may be eager to mail a picture of patriotic symbols or write a letter.

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RECOMMENDED TITLES ARE: • H is for Honor: A Military Family Alphabet, by Devin Scillian OPERATION GRATITUDE Through the motto, “Learn how you can help, any day, anywhere,” the organization “Operation Gratitude,” www.operationgratitude.com/ express-your-thanks/, is one of several organizations which offer individuals, businesses, or groups the opportunity to assist U.S. Troops, first responders, veterans, military families, and wounded heroes directly.

Tip: Families can donate their Halloween candy to troops overseas, or send care packages or cards.

SAY THANK YOU Veterans are everyday people who may not be dressed in camouflage or wear their branch, rank, or years of service on a hat or T-shirt. A veteran can be a mom or dad of young children, a son or daughter, a brother or sister. It can be a stereotype for children to think a grandfather or a man defines a veteran.

Parents can model by saying, “Thank you for your service,” when meeting a veteran in a store. By introducing children, they, too, can show kindness by smiling, waving, or saying, “hello!” It is an honor to be the veteran and to know your sacrifice is appreciated, especially by young children.

BOOKS AND CONVERSATION Librarians are eager to assist families by recommending age-appropriate books about military life. In reading together, families can discuss concepts as they come up in the text. Books have a descriptive way to help children understand difficult situations, while

• Sergeant Reckless: the True Story of a Little Horse Who Became a Hero, by Patricia McCormick (Ages 6 to 10) • Magic Tree House Super Edition: World at War, 1944 by Mary Pope Osborne (Ages 7 to 10) • The Nathan Hale Hazardous Tales books,

by Nathan Hale (Ages 8 to 12) • Max, Best Friend, Hero, Marine, by Jennifer Li Shotz (Ages 8 to 12) • George Washington, Spymaster: How the Americans Out-Spied the British and Won the Revolutionary War, by Thomas B. Allen (ages 9+) • Guts and Glory: World War II, by Ben Thompson (Ages 10 to 13) ATTEND A MILITARY EVENT Experiences will help children broaden their knowledge. Check your local community calendar to discover when special military events are occurring. It may be a town parade or an air show.

Families may consider traveling in the state to visit museums, a battleship, or battlefield.

PATRIOTISM Our veterans are our history. There is pride in their eyes to see children actively participating in the defense of our country. It is important to expose children to patriotic songs, events, and learn the details of the events and people in our history. By acknowledging Sunday, November 11th, in open conversation, it will ensure our history and the men and women who served and sacrificed are never forgotten!

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B AC K F O R T H E S I X T H Y E A R –

from the WINSTON-SALEM SYMPHONY!

Before

you have even had a chance to finish off the leftover turkey from Thanksgiving, Christmas will be in the air—literally—in Winston-Salem. The WinstonSalem Symphony will present A Carolina Christmas!, its popular holiday concert, the weekend after Thanksgiving on Saturday, November 24th and Sunday, November 25th at Reynolds Auditorium. Returning this year will be the crowd-delighting Cirque de la Symphonie, who will deliver their signature acrobatic artistry on the stage— and in the air!—to accompany the classic Christmas music from the Symphony.

A Carolina Christmas! includes a selection of popular and traditional holiday music, including It’s Christmas Time, The Christmas Song, Winter Wonderland, Sleigh Ride, “Waltz of the Flowers” from The Nutcracker, a Christmas Sing-Along, and more. Joining the orchestra will be the Winston-Salem Symphony Chorus (Dr. Christopher Gilliam, Director). In addition, members of Cirque de la Symphonie will thrill audiences with their daring, dazzling, and beautiful acrobatic feats, all choreographed to music.

“A Carolina Christmas! is a perfect start to the holiday season,” said E. Merritt Vale, Winston-Salem Symphony President & CEO. “These concerts present the best of the holidays with their combination of upbeat carols and songs and moving spiritual music. We’re particularly excited to have

the incredible aerial artists from Cirque de la Symphonie back this year. Their high-flying act is always a thrill. And I know you’ll love hearing beloved local celebrity Lanie Pope from WXII as our emcee.”

These concerts will be part of the Winston-Salem Symphony’s annual Toy Drive partnership with The Salvation Army of Greater Winston-Salem.

Concert goers to all Symphony concerts during the month of November are encouraged to donate new, unwrapped toys for children up to age 12 at the concerts. The toys will be distributed through The Salvation Army of Greater Winston-Salem’s annual Christmas Program.

Be sure to kick-off the Christmas season with this toe-tapping, high-flying Triad holiday tradition!

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Strengthen Family Relationships with Storytelling

Encourage a Legacy of Family Literacy!

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER a il to ies in ene ations o et e Every family has unique life stories to share.

Collecting and expressing family narratives maintains our sense of belonging, as we pass on our values, wisdom, virtues, beliefs, and cultures. Your descendants can catch a glimpse into your life and learn positive lessons from your family’s stories of overcoming obstacles. Families that write, talk and share their stories can provide hope and important insights for future generations.

Writing and illustrating your family story can be a creative experience that can turn into a full-fledged book project. Family bonds grow stronger and more personal as you collect and share stories. Family stories can be shared orally and can be interpreted visually with illustrations and photographs.

Encouraging all family members, young and old, to engage in storytelling can foster learning and growth within your family and can provide children with a stronger identity, greater personal interrelationships, and healthy development. ee ene ation a il to olla o ation When I was younger, my family and I embarked on a three-generation collaborative book project that was brought to life with a story told by my mother and me, and was then illustrated with my grandmother’s artwork.

Our story, Huckleberry Robin, is a published children’s book based on the true story of a lost baby robin who is found and taken care of by a young girl. The baby bird, Huckleberry, is later released back into nature to be reunited with his family.

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Writing this story brought three generations of our family closer together. Each of us contributed creative skills and strengths, and we treasured the time together as the story unfolded. I was inspired watching the baby robins as they hatched and nestled outside my window. Now, looking back as an adult, I realize that our collaborative book project was a highlight of my younger years and has ignited my lifelong love of reading and writing. It is this passion for family storytelling that I hope others can experience and embrace as well. ene ts o aisin ild en it a o e o ite ac To cultivate your children’s love for reading and writing, make it a daily goal to read a variety of books with your children. Take turns reading aloud to them and having them read aloud to you, while helping them spell out and pronounce challenging words.

Frequent your local library and bookstores with your family to expand your range of books, and gather ideas and inspiration for creating your own family stories. Improve your children’s literacy skills, build their vocabulary and help them learn new words as you explore new stories.

Studies show that children raised in homes with exposure to family literacy do better in school and are better readers than children who grow up in homes where literacy is not promoted.

One study has shown that the more children know about their own family history, the higher their self-esteem, the stronger their sense of control over their lives and the more successful they believe their families are. ild en s a il to tellin o ects One way to initiate a family story project is to share stories orally. Ask an older family member to tell the story, and then younger family members can re-tell the story in their own words. Compile children’s drawings, add words and use photos and cutouts from magazines. Family stories can also be told through monologues, poetry, and songs.

Family books are filled with special memories and can range from homemade, simple projects to complex, professional publications. With self-publishing resources, your family story can be shared on smartphones, tablets, and computers with family, friends and even a world-wide audience.

Amazon’s Kindle Kids’ Book Creator is a free tool that supports multiple layouts for children’s books and enables your family story to be uploaded to Kindle. If you want a print version of your book, Amazon’s CreateSpace and Lulu “print-on-demand” services are the answer, where you get to choose your book size, paper, and binding for a completely customizable package. ns i e assion o eadin and itin Don’t miss the opportunity to bring your family closer together and inspire a life-long love for literacy. Share and preserve your family’s treasured memories today and with generations to come!

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FIRST-TIME VOTING

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month marks the first time my oldest son will get the chance to vote in an election. He missed out on voting in the 2016 Presidential election because he wasn’t yet old enough, so he’s really excited to get his chance on this occasion to vote in the mid-terms. It’s fun to see his excitement and enthusiasm. I remember the privilege I felt when I was able to pull the lever on the voting machine for the first time at my old high school. It was something about knowing I had a chance to make a difference that infused a sense of pride and patriotism in me at that young age.

As I watched the young people of Florida in the past months give speeches and interviews, once again I was amazed at how they were able to communicate so effectively. If we could all set aside the position they were taking for a moment, and look unbiased just at the fact that these were young teenagers standing in front of television cameras, as well as a crowd of thousands, and speaking so eloquently, and intelligently presenting their point of view, it was a remarkable thing to watch; especially when one is a parent of teenagers.

In the last ten years, I’ve witnessed personally how the younger generation is approaching politics and our country with the same vigor and passion that I felt many years ago. I watched as my niece entered the political realm and worked on a variety of campaigns, including a presidential primary campaign, while she was in college.

Her connections ultimately led her to Washington, DC, and then to New York City and back to Washington. Through it all, her dedication and commitment have been unwavering. She has, however, matured a great deal since those first campaigns during college.

She knows the system well, much better than the average citizen or I would; after all, she’s worked in the halls, so she’s seen it first-hand. She understands the “politics” of Washington, and how it differs from what we know on the street. My wife and I had our first taste of how far my niece had come when one of her tweets was trending nationally online and came across our computer screen one day. That was pretty amazing, considering this young lady was born and raised in a small mill town in Virginia.

It’s a testament to just how sharp-minded she is. She had a positive influence on her younger brother as well, as he, too, is very knowledgeable about how government truly works.

After graduating from the University of Virginia, he joined his sister in Washington, although in a different capacity. Both are prime examples of this generation’s attitude toward the future…their future.

I watch my two sons as they grow up playing sports and video games, and watching Netflix, interacting on social media, and spending time with their friends; and it’s during those times, as a parent, you don’t imagine them ever being interested in the inner workings of the real world around them. And then one day, they surprise you with intelligent conversation about the world and national events, and reveal a clear understanding of what they’re talking about. You begin to realize, they’re growing up. Their world is becoming bigger than just their community. Their interests are growing as well.

And given the fact they have far more resources at their fingertips than my generation ever had growing up, they’ve become more informed, more quickly. Parents really have to stay on their toes to keep up, and that’s a good thing, because as parents, we should stay informed; just because we’re older doesn’t mean we can’t still care as much. Perhaps the younger generation is influencing us in a positive way in this manner.

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In the end, I’m happy to see the interest is peaking in the future of our country, that being our young people. As we get older, they will be the majority that passes laws that take care of us. Let’s pray they make good decisions. As far as I can tell, it won’t be from a lack of knowledge and understanding, that’s for sure!

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CELEBRATE!

BY CINDY KEIGER

“Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good.” ~ Psalm 106:1

The

word “celebrate” means to have a party or to be really glad. People celebrate when they hear good news or when something fun or exciting happens. Did you jump for joy when you got to have a birthday party and invite all your friends? Have you ever been so happy that you danced around the room or sang a silly song? These are just a few of the ways we celebrate.

Do you have any favorite words that show how happy and thankful you are? Maybe you shout, “Woohoo”!

Awesome! Some people might say, “Cool! Amazing! That’s really neat!”

Whatever words you use, it’s usually the big smile on your face that shows the joy that’s in your heart.

And sometimes the little words, “Thank you,” say it better than anything else.

“Rejoice” is a Bible word that means the same as “celebrate.” You will see this word a lot, especially in the book of Psalms. The Bible tells us to rejoice (celebrate like it’s a party) always. Always! Philippians 4:4 says, “Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!” What? Even when things seem bad or sad? That sounds kind of crazy, doesn’t it? But read the verse at the beginning of this page again. “Give thanks to the

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Lord, for He is good.” God is always good, even when things don’t look or feel so good.

Every year, on the fourth Thursday of November, we celebrate a day called Thanksgiving. When you hear the word “Thanksgiving,” what do you think of? Turkey?

Pie? Family? Football? Yes, we can be glad for all of these things! But the first and biggest praise in our hearts should be our thankfulness to God—God who is always good and who loves us more than we can ever imagine.

Since we celebrate Thanksgiving this month, here’s an easy project to help you remember that giving thanks isn’t something that we do just once a year. Make a special card for the Lord. Draw or color or paint a picture to show God some of the things you are thankful for. You could make a list of things that make you happy. Then hang that picture in your room or on the refrigerator to remind yourself that every day is a good day to celebrate and to give thanks!

Devotion: Thanks in Advance

BY TAMI RUMFELT

Have

you ever thanked someone, in advance, for something? You may have even used the abbreviation TIA. “Thanks in advance for your help with this!” The context is usually that you’ve asked someone for a favor and you know that this person is most likely going to come through, so, you are showing your appreciation for what they are going to do, before they even do it.

For the majority of this year I have been praying for God’s favor in a situation that is filled with uncertainty. I know, in my heart, how I want things to turn out. But, I have no idea if what I want aligns with what God wants. I have done everything within my power to assure that things will work out the way I am hoping they will— the rest of it is out of my hands.

So, I pray about it. Daily. Sometimes, hourly.

What I have found challenging is figuring out how to pray. I could beg God like a kid in the candy aisle, “Pleeeeeeaaaasssseee give this to me, Daddy!” But that seems pretty immature and short-sighted. Or, I could pray with maturity and stoicism, “Father, your will not mine, I accept whatever outcome you allow.” While that is a mature and admirable way to pray, it is not an honest reflection of how I truly feel, and I think God wants my sincerity over my attempts at sounding holy.

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regularly pray for our family and friends when they’re sick and we pray for God’s comfort for those hit by disaster, but how often do you pray for your pastor? Did you know your pastor needs your prayers, too?

After a great sermon on Sunday, on Monday the pastor rests, but on Tuesday the devil is quick to attack. On hump-day Wednesday, it’s a time to focus on the family and get things done, but the kids are fighting. On Thursday, your pastor is searching God’s word for Sunday’s sermon and is praying for guidance.

So the next time you’re engaged in fervent prayer, ask the Lord how you may pray for your pastor—it may be the prayer he needs!

I was having one of those “How-do-I-pray-about-this?” moments, when I asked God, “Lord, how do I pray about this?” That’s when the phrase “Thanks in advance” came to mind. And, that’s perfect, really. When I bring this situation to God, I can thank him in advance for hearing my prayers, for knowing the outcome, for wanting what is best for me, and for whatever the future holds, because His will and plans are perfect.

Are you struggling with the kind of situation that has stretched you and your faith thin? Have you also been left without even the words to pray? Try thanking God in advance for what he is going to do, remembering these words from Philippians 4:6-7, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

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My Grace-Full Life

Worry Is Insulting to God

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often do you think you succumb to temptation without even being aware of it? Do you consider worry to be a sin?

that a sin is a sin is a sin…. I’m referring to “more sinful” by the world’s standards, not God’s).

However, Satan is a master at subtle. And what a clever way to tempt us…to tempt us to worry. Worry and anxiety are tools he uses to tempt us from following God’s plan for our lives.

For many of us, the sin of worry is at the top of our lists. But have you ever stopped to think of how worry and anxiety are insulting to God? It doesn’t matter how much we say we trust God and have faith in His plan if our actions don’t back it up.

And when we worry, we completely contradict the truth in Scripture that tells us that God is faithful and trustworthy.

However, when we stop referring to “worry” as “human nature,” and begin to look at “worry” as a temptation to NOT trust God, it gives us a different perspective on how to fight it. When worry creeps up on us, we can CHOOSE how to react. Will we choose to succumb to the temptation to worry? Or will we choose to trust in God? Personally, I want to choose the latter. It’s not easy, but God will always make it worth it and prove Himself worthy of our trust.

Fear and anxiety are tools of Satan. And the Bible specifically tells us that worrying doesn’t accomplish anything. Consider this verse in Matthew 6:27, “Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?”

In short—Jesus was telling us that worry doesn’t gain us anything. God wants us to be fully dependent on Him.

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King David is a great example, because he understood how to trust God fully. He wrote in Psalm 28:7, “The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in Him, and I am helped; therefore my heart greatly rejoices, and with my song I will praise Him.”

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Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. ~ Matthew 6:34

“My heart trusted in Him, and I am helped.” Nine simple words with a very powerful truth. When our hearts trust God, He helps us. After all, God not only knows our past and present, He knows our future. Jeremiah 29:11 tells us that God has plans to give us a future and a hope. Since God knows His plans for us, why isn’t that sufficient? Why is trust so hard? Why is it so hard NOT to worry?

“Let not your heart be troubled; you believe in God, believe also in me.” ~ John 14:1

When we think of temptation, we think of the devil whispering things like “tell a lie,” “gossip about that person,” or even more “sinful” things (I put “sinful” in quotes because I know

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Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. ~ Philippians 4:6-7 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding. ~ Proverbs 3:5

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OUR SOURCE OF HELP, HOPE AND LIFE Last

month, my son met a police officer for the very first time. Being only ten days old, he meets new people and has adventures each and every day.

His life is full of exciting firsts—as long as they are able to fit into 3-hour segments.

I endeavored to take this new life out of the confines of the house that I might, once again, experience the warmth of the long-lost sunshine and try out his new stroller. Despite the multitude of warnings that he was still too young and without a defined schedule, I was determined to make this trip happen. We arrived at our destination, parked the car and prepared to embark on our first shopping trip! It was exciting. I felt a surge of energy rush through me and confidence roll over my entire being. I thought: “Ha! I can do this!

My life is not completely over. I am not one of those hopeless and helpless parents.

I am completely capable of parenting.

Better still, I am not doomed to solitary confinement in my home for the next four months!”

With my son safely in my arms, I exited the car and literally heard my bubble burst.

All the positive thoughts left my psyche, and all the blood drained from my face when I heard the car door shut. And lock.

I stood in the record-breaking October heat, in the middle of a shopping center parking lot, a tiny human in my arms, while my pocketbook, bottles, diapers, cell phone, wallet, and car keys remained locked behind the closed car door. While attempting to absorb the reality of my newfound predicament, my son let loose a hunger cry, as though right on cue. In that instant, I was demoted from “capable parent” to “poor unfortunate soul.”

Later, the non-emergency safety line was called, and police were dispatched; after the car was unlocked, the bottle retrieved and hungry child fed, I reflected on the chaos of the moment. I was utterly helpless without any of my own resources. I was at the mercy of others and the kindness of strangers.

As Christians, we claim to rely fully in God’s provision for our daily needs; we profess to seek first the Kingdom of God, trusting that God will make sure our needs are met. But do we really live this truth in our present culture? Do we believe profoundly enough in this truth that we are willing to bet our security or safety net on it? I doubt it. More than likely, we view ourselves as fully capable and self-sufficient regarding our physical needs, and perhaps our

spiritual needs, too. We may claim “Jesus is Lord,” but so many other voices around us and even within us warn of the danger of being dependent on others and thus, we have our security compromised.

What is our security base? God or ourselves? Our money? Our diaper bags?

Proverbs 11:28 reads, “Those who trust in their riches will wither, but the righteous will flourish like green leaves.” How can we trust in the Lord with all our hearts and also rely on our own understanding or provision?

In this season of Gratitude and Thanksgiving, I challenge each of you to self-examination and prayer. Ask yourself, just how fully do you rely on God? Are you willing to walk away from all you have in order to live out the faith you claim?

Whatever place you find yourself in in this holiday season, in plenty or in want, I hope you recognize your own poverty and the amazing gift of God’s grace given freely. I hope you recognize the riches of salvation through that same grace by faith, and continue to pursue a more perfect faith in love. May your hearts be filled with gratitude and thanks to the Lord of Lords this Thanksgiving.

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The Billy Graham Library

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Have

you visited The Billy Graham Library yet? It’s only about an hour and a half away from WinstonSalem and is worth visiting, especially in the coming holiday season. Situated on 20 acres, the library contains 40,000 square feet and is filled with activities and exhibits for every age to enjoy and find inspiration from. Since the Library opened in June 2007, over a million people have visited.

If you were fortunate to have attended one of the Crusades in years past, you may recall that Billy Graham was not interested in personal recognition, he entered the events without fanfare and would simply walk up to the pulpit ready to present a message of Jesus’ love and offer of salvation to those in attendance.

His ministry was and is about the Gospel of Jesus Christ. The Library concept was developed as a continued extension of that Crusade environment.

A group from Old Town Baptist Church recently visited the Library. “It was inspirational to see the Hand of God as It moved through the life of Billy Graham,” explained Dr. Rick Speas, Senior Pastor at Old Town Baptist Church. “But the Library is not about Billy Graham himself.

People hear the Gospel with every visit.

It’s inspiring and uplifting to see how God moves all over the world through this ministry; it’s all about the ministry.

Even when visiting the gravesites of Dr. Graham and his wife, there’s a Chaplain on site for anyone who wants to talk.”

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Whether you visit as a group, as a family, or individually, you’ll find inspiration in each activity. One family shared that attending the Christmas Dinner at the Library has become a tradition and brought new memories each year. “It’s a wonderful, traditional meal, all you can eat with live entertainment. The decorations are incredible; we always have a picture in front of the Christmas tree,” Sue shared. Tickets can be ordered online; check the website for more details about the dinner.

Other Christmas events planned include a live nativity presentation, horse-drawn carriage rides, story time at Ruth’s Attic Bookstore, and Christmas Carolers, featuring a variety of performances. Visit the website for more details and times.

In addition to the special events, the daily options offer much to visitors. Gain insight into the Graham family beginnings. Tour the restoration of the Graham family’s home place. Restored with about 80 percent of the original materials, the home is located approximately three miles from where it was originally built. Then, tour the “Journey of Faith,” filled with memories from the life of Billy Graham. This self-guided tour usually takes about an hour and a half and includes videos, memorabilia, and more. Visitors are encouraged to enjoy the exhibits at their own pace. The Memorial Prayer Garden is special and a place of quiet reflection.

A visit to the Graham Brothers Dairy Bar is a hit for young and old. Take a break and enjoy a sandwich, a salad, cookies or some ice cream. Follow-up with a visit to Ruth’s Attic Bookstore for books written by the Graham family, Christian literature, DVDs, CDs, gift ideas, or collectibles.

Special events are planned throughout the year, such as “Home-School Day,” “Bikers with Boxes for Operation Christmas Child,” “Teddy Bear Tea,” or “Ladies Night Out.” There are also events for the military, for preschool moms, and Father’s day and Mother’s day.

The Billy Graham Library is located at 4330 Westmont Drive in Charlotte. For information, call 704.401.3200. The Billy Graham Evangelistic Association Headquarters is also on the property, just behind the library. With interstates nearby, both I-77 and I-85, and located near the Charlotte airport, the Library is easily accessible with convenient parking.

The Library hours are Monday through Saturday, 9:30 am to 5:00 pm. The Library is closed on Thanksgiving Day, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and New Year’s Day. Follow Library events on social media (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube). Visit the website for more details on special events and tips to make your visit enjoyable and easier (billgrahamlibrary.org). Most events are free, but check the website to confirm. Visit soon!

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KING TUT –

Facts, Legends, Myths

NOVEMBER 4 - KING TUT DAY

BY VONDA HENDERSON

The

mystery and mystique that surrounds King Tut have never seemed to go away. Why else would the day his tomb was discovered still be celebrated?

Perhaps all the unknowns about who he was, how he lived and died, and the potential royal intrigue draw people in to see his artifacts, discovered in 1922 in the Valley of the Kings. King Tutankhamen’s burial chamber was opened in 1923 and is considered one of the most important archaeological discoveries of the 20th Century.

According to history, King Tut ruled Egypt for approximately ten years, assuming the throne at age nine. He died when he was in his late teens, perhaps as a result of an accident. Or, maybe he was murdered. Egyptian royalty was known to be ruthless, and the murder of potential rulers or family rivals was not uncommon. The history of Cleopatra supports that theory with the deaths of her siblings, so that she alone could rule. nte estin acts: In keeping with traditions of that time, King Tut’s internal organs were removed and buried separately in small coffins. Typically, the heart was preserved and left in the body, since it was considered the most important organ. However, this was not the case for King Tut; his heart was not in the body.

Speculation was that he might have died too far away for his heart to be adequately preserved, perhaps in a hunting accident.

He was known to be fond of hunting ostriches. There was an ornate feathered ostrich fan found in his burial chambers.

Ostrich hunting was considered a royal sport, although somewhat dangerous, i.e., the “royal fox hunting” sport of his day.

King Tut had five different royal names; most were phrases that described him. He actually changed his birth name after he took the throne.

Although important in its discovery, King Tut’s tomb is the smallest of the tombs in the Valley of the Kings. Some think that there may be more to be found; possible secret chambers that lead off from the original find.

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at e e so e o t e nds Among the nearly 5,000 artifacts, two trumpets were found. One was silver, the other bronze with gold overlay. In 1939, the trumpets were played during a BBC radio show. According to the legend of the curse, playing those trumpets resulted in the onset of World War II. Items found that would be needed in the afterlife included food (watermelon seeds and almonds), six royal chariots, two thrones, couches, beds, and alabaster containers.

Symbolic statues found included a jackal to act as a guard and the head of a leopard. Also discovered were a favorite board game played at all levels of Egyptian society, known as Senet, and throwing sticks that were commonly used to hunt birds. Their shapes were similar to boomerangs. in ut s u ial ask There were three coffins, each encased in the other. Two were made from wood and covered in gold. The middle coffin may not have been designed for King Tut, as the images were not in keeping with those on the other two. The third coffin was spectacular; it was made of thick sheets of beaten gold. e o ula it o in ut Depictions of King Tut were widely used in advertising early in the 20th Century. Egyptian motifs appeared in fabrics and fashions.

President Herbert Hoover named his dog, a German shepherd, King Tut. In 1923, Harry von Tilzer performed his musical hit, Old King Tut. One of the lines referenced his tomb “full of souvenirs.”

In 1978, Steve Martin wrote and performed his famous King Tut video. In it, he included the stylized dress and headpiece. When the coffin opened, a golden Tut played his trumpet.

Like Von Tilzer, Martin made reference to the commercialization of the finding of the tomb.

His song included the line, “…he gave his life for tourism.”

No matter the mystery or myths, the treasures found in King Tut’s tomb are amazing and fascinating. Even today.

SOURCES: Historyextra.com, BBC.com, Ancient-Egypt-online.com

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turkey has been carved, the pies are cooling, and the sides are all out at the table. The final and most meaningful part of Thanksgiving begins—the circling around the table to share what we are thankful for with our friends and family. Have you ever wanted to immortalize those sweet moments when your eight-year-old says he’s thankful for learning to play catch with his father, and then your five-yearold follows up with being thankful for farts? Get ready for a fun and surprisingly professional-looking craft you can display in your home for years to come! : • Hands to trace • Paper to trace hands on—this can be construction paper and watercolor, mixed media, or whatever floats your fancy • Drawing instruments that are not too dark—crayons watercolor paints, and colored pencils are recommended • Any other type of flat crafting supplies you want—glitter, sequins, stickers • Frame large enough to fit your family’s handprints • Background paper • Scissors • Tape • Sharpie : 1. Spread out all your supplies on your crafting (or kitchen) table. If you have the space for it, dump all the crayons, pencils, paints, and other supplies out and spread them all over. This makes it easier for little ones to visualize all their options.

2. Trace each family member’s hand on a piece of paper in pencil. You can choose to round out the palm where it meets the wrist, or you can extend the wrist down further.

3. Each family member decorates their own hand, taking care not to make the fingers too dark. This is where the fun really happens; let your imagination go wild! Don’t be afraid to mix up mediums either; you can easily throw some watercolor on top of light crayon

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doodles for a very artistic effect. Don’t forget about the sequins and glitter if you’re a sparkly person! It is so much fun for each person in your family to express their personality onto their own handprint and see them all juxtaposed with each other.

4. When each person has completed their hand, go around the table and discuss what each person is thankful for. This will differ based on age and the child’s ability to express. If you have preschoolers, you may focus more on easy things such as “mommy” and “my doggie,” whereas with a teenager you can have a deeper conversation about gratefulness.

5. Each person writes down five things they are thankful for—one in each finger with a sharpie. Younger children may need more help writing these or need to practice before committing to the permanent marker.

6. Cut out each hand; younger children may also need help with this.

7. Now it’s time to mount your thankful hands! Cut a piece of paper the size of your frame and start laying out the hands until you get a composition you are happy with. If your frame is deep enough, you can also get a thin piece of cardboard and cut it down to be half an inch smaller on all sides of your background paper. Wrap it in wrapping paper (think fall-related plaid or brown craft-paper prints) and then arrange your hands on that.

8. Be creative when laying out your hands and thinking about layers of paper underneath. Don’t be afraid to layer and interlock fingers, keeping in mind to make sure all your words are still visible.

9. When you have your design finalized, add a little piece of rolled tape (or scrapbooking glue dots—whatever you have easily accessible) to keep it in place.

10. Frame it and make sure to write on the back the year you created it as well as everybody’s names and ages! In 20 years you may not remember and will be very grateful for this tiny step.

11. Hang up and enjoy!

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Service Dogs Retirement and Adoption

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Some

dogs stand guard awaiting the sound of a familiar engine, a key inserted into a lock, and the welcoming greeting from an owner.

Not all canines have such a life. For roughly 2,500 dogs chosen and trained in bomb, weapon, and drug detection, tracking, and attacking the enemy, their “service” is connected to a contract in the United States or in overseas deployment. Accompanying a group on an often-dangerous mission, a dog trained for accuracy in detection or tracking can offer peace of mind and additional safety. Later, the days of retirement are unknown. There is the hope of comfort and loving care, a warm bed, and a human to follow if a service dog is fortunate to live with his handler or become adopted! e

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Only the best will do for the Army. Possessing a keen focus and the ability to learn quickly, the Dutch Shepherd puppy named Remmy was selected to go through rigorous training in the PEDD program as a Patrol Explosive Detection Dog. The slightly built canine served four years as a military contractor in Afghanistan alongside his handler, Dan Traeder. For “biting to kill” members of the Taliban and preventing 12 US troops from entering a hut rigged with explosives, Remmy earned respect and love from his comrades.

Once a military service working dog is retired and put up for adoption, little if anything is ever known about its past history or the identity of its handler. eet eti e ent Not all dogs and handlers have the good fortune to come home together. When a handler is injured, service dogs continue to work. After an attack from an Afghan dog, Remmy returned to the United States to heal. Fortunately, Remmy had a happy ending.

In one year, up to 400 service dogs are retired; however, some are separated from their handlers, causing financial and logistic difficulty for the service dog to come home.

Realizing this need, a variety of nonprofit organizations have joined forces with volunteers to bring our canine heroes home. ta tin t e ocess o do tion Dogs which are well socialized and have perfect house manners are in high demand. It takes a particular person to adopt a retired service dog which has served in the field of military or police guide, or therapy. The nonprofit organization “Mission K9 Rescue” placed Remmy into the care of an experienced dog

handler; however, civilian adoptions are also possible. Begin by contacting a military base or training center to inquire if they have a working or service dog available to be adopted.

But depending on the location, some adoption agencies have a waiting list of names stretching out for months and sometimes years.

The process begins with a detailed background check and written evaluation about each member of the household, and the intended care for the dog. As a beloved service member, it is vital the right person can understand the canine’s experiences, disposition, and health difficulties to provide a sympathetic and loving environment. As an older dog, he may not have abundant golden years left. o

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Breeds such as German and Belgian Shepherds, Spaniels, and Labradors are choices for specialized training; however, more than 70% will not pass the requirements to be placed with an owner and labeled a training drop-out. Adopting a younger dog, whose career ended because of temperament, such as not being able to perform during stressful conditions, or having health conditions such as hip dysplasia, is another option for rescuing a service dog.

A family dog may have the right level of aggression and excitability to be professionally trained. Not far from home, dog owners may discover a dog training school taught by a retired K9 handler. Rather than being placed on a list to adopt, your dog could be trained to learn basic obedience, search and rescue, therapy skills, and advanced protection training.

Dogs are fit for a specific service. In some cases, families pursue specialized training to give their canine a purpose!

To learn more about Remmy’s story, please consider reading Priscilla Miller’s book titled, “Remmy: A Hero Dog of War.” All proceeds from the sale support the nonprofit organizations “Mission K-9 Rescue” and “Operation Warrior’s Path.”

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fingers are stinging” is an acute description of a person suffering from Carpal Tunnel Syndrome, or CTS. It is comparable to the feeling of needles pressed into the fingertips, and a tingling ache raging throughout the hand. The symptoms arrive slowly. It may begin with a sensation of pins-and-needles the first thing in the morning. As time progresses, pain or tingling will appear after strenuous activity, such as pulling weeds or holding a heavy item like a book. The hands and arms may feel weak. In raising arms to fold clothes or towels, the activity may feel too painful to continue. Before reaching the point of not being able to button a shirt or hold a book, there is hope!

A Medical Explanation On the palm side of the wrist are bones, ligaments, and nerves. In this location, a narrow passageway controls sensation and movement, starting from the thumb and extending to the first three fingers. When this area is pinched or compressed, the result is Carpal Tunnel Syndrome, a numbness, weakness, or pain in the hand.

Am I at Risk?

As a common nerve disorder impacting one in 20 individuals, especially women, carpal tunnel syndrome can be related to other medical conditions, such as diabetes, gout, hypothyroidism, pregnancy, rheumatoid arthritis, and frequent sprains of the wrist. Occupational tasks such as lifting heavy boxes, assembling small parts, or using vibrating hand tools increase the risk.

Relieving the Pain CTS can be painful and disruptive to daily life. It helps to know the multitude of ways to relieve symptoms. Limit how long you engage in one activity, whether it is typing, sewing, using a drill, or playing guitar. Wiggling fingers and stretching hand muscles can improve blood flow.

YOGA: There are 11 postures in yoga designed to strengthen, stretch, and balance the joints in the upper body. If you sit at a desk, learning the “mountain pose” creates an awareness of the spine and promotes good posture. Yoga enthusiasts claim just an eight-week regimen eased their discomfort and stress levels.

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WRIST BRACE: If the hand tends to curl or rest underneath your head while you sleep, these examples could result in waking to exceptional pain.

While it is difficult to keep the hands open and straight, one solution is to wear special gloves which relieve the pressure in the wrist and eliminate movement. A hand brace can be worn during the day, especially if you are engaging in repetitive tasks.

LOOSEN THE PRESSURE: At times, the pressure or force of your grip will result in the hand aching. Although it is difficult, try reducing your force or using a tool which can aid in completing the activity.

BE AWARE OF WRIST MOVEMENT: If sitting at a desk, be aware of the positioning of your hands. They should rest in a neutral position with fingers in line with your forearms.

Medical Treatments Although the symptoms are tolerable at first, the condition often worsens with time. Pain may also radiate up the arm to the shoulder or impair the muscles of the thumb, leaving the appendage to waste away.

Acupuncture or Botox injections are treatments to reduce inflammation temporarily.

Surgery can be an intimidating option; however, scheduled as an out-patient appointment, the procedure is often accomplished endoscopically by inserting a camera through a small incision. Once the ligament is cut to relieve the pressure, the process of recovery takes between six months and a year; but the symptoms of chronic pain and weakness are resolved within two months. Since, however, the effort to take frequent breaks and exercise is worthwhile as well, sufferers of carpal tunnel syndrome do not necessarily have to live with chronic pain, even without surgery or medicine.

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Letters from Home

Inspired by and for Veterans

BY VONDA HENDERSON | PHOTOS BY DAN BECKMANN

Nostalgia, that feeling you get when you hear music from your past or from a period of history closely associated with a particular style of music—those emotions move us. We feel a sense of the good that was, and still is, in the heart of this country—the patriotism and pride that comes from the love of country and those who protect and serve her here and abroad.

“Letters from Home” brings those sensations with every show they perform. Founded in 2010 in Winston-Salem, NC, the inspiration came directly from a veteran. Erinn Dearth, the founder of Letters from Home, remembers, “My Dad, Pat Dearth, a US Coast Guard veteran, suggested the concept to me during one of our regular Sunday night dinners. He shared his collection of records from the 1940s, and the idea took shape. As the saying goes, ‘the rest is history.’”

Their first show was at a retirement community. Initially, they performed locally. Their first large performance was for the VFW National Convention, with about 10,000 in attendance. Since their beginning, they have held performances in 41 states and will be touring overseas soon. They’ve done shows at theaters, air shows, schools, patriotic celebrations, military bases, VA hospitals, VFWs, American Legions, and on cruise ships. Letters from Home gets around!

A Letters from Home show is packed with high energy, great music, tap dancing, and interaction with the audience. You’re likely to see happy tears, lots of smiles, some singing, and maybe even some dancing from the audience. “Our shows are reminiscent of the Bob Hope-style of entertainment,” Erinn explained. “Those USO shows were designed specifically for the troops. We do the same thing with many of our show designs— targeting the era when our veterans served. Our goal is to revive those feelings of patriotism; for the older generation; it’s important to be remembered, for the middle generation to gain a 74 / FORSY T H FAMILYMAG A ZIN E.COM

renewal of love for country, and for younger generations to get a sense of what our veterans gave for our future.” Erinn noted that sometimes after one of their shows, veterans have begun talking about their experiences for the first time.

The Letters from Home team consists of Erinn, Courtney Groves, and Dan Beckmann, who sing and dance on stage and out in the audience. On special occasions, Lynn “Win” Roberts does great impersonations of Bob Hope, Red Skelton, Jack Benny, and more.

Together they put on quite a show, interactive and with great joy and humor. The veterans thrive on the fun and interaction; many end up with big red kisses on their heads or find themselves on stage or dancing with one of the team. “During one of the “Flights of Honor” trips Letters from Home participated in, one of the veterans started jitterbugging with me,” Erinn recalls.

“He was 91 years old. Afterward, his caregiver brought over his wheelchair after we finished dancing. It was such a special moment for all of us.”

Letters from Home has several period-based shows.

“Sentimental Journey” is unique to the World War II era, “We Gotta’ Get Outa this Place” is designed for Vietnam veterans, and their Christmas show is called, “Love to Keep You Warm.”

Letters from Home refreshes their shows every year; no two are exactly alike. Their costuming fits the period, and the music is tied to the theme of the show. They may be in uniform, in fringed outfits for “Proud Mary,” or in 40s, Marilyn Monroe style dresses.

For information on their show schedule and more, visit their website (lettersfromhomesingers.com, or the group’s e-mail (LFH firstflightentertainment.com). Follow them on their Facebook page as well (lettersfromhomesingers). Enjoy the show!

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most children, school has been in session for about two months. When you talk to your grandchildren, one of the first questions you are likely to ask is, “How is school going.” Another would be, “Tell me about your day.”

The response you get will likely be, “Fine” or “It was okay.” Not the start to the discussion you were hoping to have, but quite typical.

As this has happened to me with all of the now three grands attending school, I have read with interest articles that broach this subject in hopes of getting insight and information so as to help start a dialogue. My research has provided me with some suggestions I am passing on.

You need to get creative with your questions. Instead of the tired, “How was your day?” which they get ask by everyone, try “What made you smile today?” If that doesn’t work, ask “Tell me something you know today that you didn’t know yesterday.”

Other suggestions provided by HerViewFromHome.com include: • What did you do that was creative?

• Who did you sit with at lunch?

• Was anyone in your class absent today?

• Did you like your lunch?

• What was the hardest rule to follow today?

• If you could change one thing about your day, what would it be?

• What made your teacher smile?

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• If you could switch seats with anyone in class, who would it be? Why? • Can you tell me an example of kindness you saw/showed?

• What kind of person were you today?

My fifth-grade granddaughter, when asked by her mom about other children, mentioned one girl, in particular, saying she was popular.

When pressed about what it was that made people want to be her friend, she responded, “She’s nice.”

My daughter asked, “But, is she kind?” The question gave her pause and a half-hearted, “I guess” reply.

They were then able to get into a discussion of the difference.

With children of all ages using iPads and computers, it doesn’t take long for them to see, read or hear about things on the internet. Even children whose parents are in control of passwords somehow manage to circumvent the blocks. As great as some of the Internet is, it has created a number of issues and concerns – especially for young people. One important discussion to have with your grandchildren is finding out what is concerning them. Are they being bullied? Do they feel left out?

Are they lonesome? Are they being

pressured by so-called friends to do or try things they know are wrong?

I have read about schools that have a bench on their playground where children who are feeling alone or left out can sit with the knowledge that other children will come and either sit with them or include them in their play. Teachers make it a point of teaching children to be kind to one another – something that should be emphasized at home. A piece from @mommywinetime goes, “Let your child be the weird kid. Let them be the funny kid, the quiet kid, the smart kid, the athletic kid, the theater kid, the numbers kid, the teacher’s pet, the chatterbox, the valedictorian, the middle of the pack kid, the ‘barely made it’ kid. Just don’t let them be the mean kid.”

A sign painted on the wall of a school imparts these words that the kids pass by every day. It states: “Some kids are SMARTER than you. Some kids have cooler clothes than you. Some kids are better at sports than you. IT DOESN’T MATTER. You have your thing, too. Be the kid who can GET ALONG. Be the kid who is generous.

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Wake Forest Basketball Is Back, and Fans Are Ready!

BY A. KEITH TILLEY | PHOTOGRAPHY BY BRIAN WESTERHOLT

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a tailgater’s dream, that time of year when football is in midseason and basketball season is just beginning. And when you’re a fan of the Triad’s ACC team, you’ve got plenty to be excited about. ACC basketball season has arrived, and the Wake Forest faithful are gearing up for all the thrills, buzzer-beaters, rivalry games, and the electrifying atmosphere that is Demon Deacon Basketball!

You don’t want to miss your chance to witness this experience with your friends and family this season. And Wake Forest Athletics is offering a variety of ticket options that fit into any fan’s budget, allowing everyone the opportunity to get in on the action; but more on that in a minute.

First, let’s take a look at the excitement coming to the Joel Coliseum this season. The season kicks off on Saturday, November 10th, against North Carolina A&T. The Aggies are coming off their first 20-win season in five years and were undefeated at home last season for the first time in 30 years. Led by 2017-18 MEAC Coach of the Year, Jay Joyner, they will no doubt be ready for the challenge. Next, the Deacons travel to Conway, SC, for the Myrtle Beach Invitational. They arrive back home to take on the 49ers of UNC Charlotte on December 6th. ACC fans will recognize firstyear head coach, Ron Sanchez. Sanchez spent the last 12 years with Tony Bennett, first at Washington State, and then at Virginia, most recently as Associate Head Coach, before taking over the helm at Charlotte. Then, on December 17th, Davidson comes into Joel Coliseum. The Wildcats won the Atlantic 10 Conference tournament last season, before losing in the NCAA first round to Kentucky. On December 29th, it’s Gardner-Webb, picked to finish second in the Big South Conference this year. The Bulldogs will have already faced two other ACC opponents in Virginia Tech and Georgia Tech, so they will be no stranger to ACC competition.

January 2nd brings Cornell of the Ivy League. The Big Red will be finishing up their challenging pre-conference schedule that includes games at UConn, Syracuse, and Wake Forest.

The Deacons begin their ACC Conference schedule at Georgia Tech. Their first home ACC game is against Duke on January 8th, and should be a thriller. This will be their 250th meeting, and in the past, Joel Coliseum has not been a favorite place to play for the Blue Devils. Will this be another opportunity to “roll the quad”? NC State comes in on January 15th. The Wolfpack, led by second-year head coach, Kevin Keatts, want to improve on their tie for third in the conference last season and NCAA first-

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round appearance. Boston College will visit on January 26th; the Eagles made the National Invitation Tournament (NIT) last season before losing in the first round. The Louisville Cardinals will play the Deacons on January 30th. Led by first-year head coach, Chris Mack, former Xavier head coach and a familiar face to Deacon fans as a former assistant coach to Skip Prosser from 2001-2004. The Cardinals also received a post-season NIT bid last season, losing in the quarter-finals. Pittsburgh arrives on February 5th. The Panthers are coached by an ACC veteran in new head coach, Jeff Capel, formerly of Duke. On February 16th, the UNC Tarheels will be in town. This rivalry speaks for itself. The Deacons finish out their home schedule with three more post-season tournament teams from last season. On February 26th, with Miami (NCAA first round); March 2th, Syracuse (NCAA Sweet 16); and the final home game against Florida State (NCAA Elite Eight). How’s that for excitement?

Wake Forest Athletics is happy to provide a number of promotional days this season. These include “Salute to Service Night” with free admission for active duty military, veterans, and families (Nov. 10th) and “Farewell to 40 Night”—a construction-themed promotion slated to coincide (approximately) with the closing of Business 40 through Winston-Salem (Nov. 27th). Other promotions tentatively planned include a “Diaper Derby” baby-crawling contest (Dec. 29th); “K-9s in Flight” (Jan. 8th); “Happy Birthday, Wake,” celebrating the founding of Wake Forest University (Feb. 5th), and many other great halftime acts and promotions planned throughout the season. For updated promotions, log on to wakeforestsports.com or follow @WakeMBB on Twitter. For inquiries about any of these promotional days, please call Wake Forest Athletics at (888) 758-DEAC (3322) extension 1.

In appreciation for their loyal fans, Wake Forest Basketball is offering special Season Ticket Packages, including the popular Value Plan at just $120 for one; or the Value Bundle, including four season tickets for $320, while supplies last. Many other very attractive ticket options are available as well; for more information visit the Wake Forest athletics website at wakeforestsports.com/ tickets or by calling 1-888-758-DEAC (3322). Tickets for select contests can also be purchased in person at the Bridger Ticket Office located at BB&T Field.

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MAKE A THREAT, KEEP A THREAT

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BY RACHEL HOEING WITH TRIAD MOMS ON MAIN

recently attended a baby shower where they passed around a book and asked us to write our best parenting advice for the mom-to-be.

Mine was simple…

“Make a Threat, Keep a Threat!”

How many times have you witnessed something like this: You see a child misbehaving at the grocery store. Let’s say the child is yelling and beating up on his younger brother. Mom states, “Timmy, if you do not stop hitting your brother, I am putting back those popsicles you picked out.”

Timmy does not even bother to look at his mother, much less stop hitting his brother.

“Timmy, I told you to stop it, or I am putting back those popsicles!”

Timmy may look up this time but continues his antics.

After a few more minutes of Timmy torturing his brother, the mom stops the grocery cart, looks Timmy straight in the eyes and yells, “That is enough, Timmy!

If I have to yell at you once more, we are turning around and putting those popsicles back in the freezer!”

This time Timmy not only turns right back around to torment his brother but smiles while he is doing so.

At this point, if you are like me, you want to turn to the mom and yell, “Put the freaking popsicles back in the freezer!!!!”

Is it just me, or do you clearly see the problem here? Timmy is never going to stop hitting his brother because he knows he will never have a consequence for doing so. Of course, it is easy to see the problem when you are watching from afar, but when you are in that situation it is quite different!

Sometimes I will say or threaten anything just to get my kids to stop their bad behavior.

The bottom line is that you can’t always stop your kid from misbehaving, but you can certainly give them a consequence which will, in turn, stop the behavior or possibly prevent it the next time. I know all too well that this is tough to do. I often have a hard time sticking to my guns when I make a threat, but I figured this post today could be a good reminder for all of us.

I remember one summer day when my kids were younger. We were at the swim club trying to enjoy a beautiful afternoon. The pool was not very crowded, so every time my kids spoke,

it seemed to amplify around the pool.

They began arguing, and I reprimanded them and asked them to stop. They argued again, and I said, “Kids, if you continue to argue we are leaving the pool.” Then I thought to myself, “Crap.

I don’t want to leave the pool. Our friends are coming any minute. If we leave, what the heck are we going to do for the rest of the afternoon?”

But then…you guessed it; they started arguing again. I promptly stood up and started packing up our things. The kids took note and started to cry. “Mom, we promise we will stop! Mom, please!

Please let us stay! We’re sorry!”

At this moment our friends walked in, and I had to sadly report that we were leaving. I was not going to budge. Both kids cried the whole way home, and it was a quiet afternoon at the Hoeing household. Was my day ruined? Yeah, pretty much. I never should have made the threat if I didn’t want to leave. But once I made it, I kept it. Did my kids fight again at the pool that summer?

Of course, they did! But when I gave them the warning, they stopped. All they needed was the reminder of what happened the last time.

So there it is, a gentle reminder from a not-so-perfect-my-kids-can-be-brattytoo mom.

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Using Your Talents to Give to the Community

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now and then we are gloriously burdened with the dangling question, “What can I do to give back to my community?” We always hear how famous celebrities give back to their hometown by creating businesses, non-profits, scholarships, and educational programs, or by making huge donations to their charity or organization of choice.

We may believe that we must have wads of cash to give back in certain ways. Yes, it takes monetary investment, but mainly what we need to invest is our talents.

Based on whatever gift we may possess listed below, here’s how you can impact the community for the better.

MUSIC Whether you’re gifted at singing, composing music, or playing music, there are several ways to give to the community. Teaching classes goes a long way. You can rent out recreational space and train the younger generation in playing instruments and how to exercise vocal talent. Try signing up as a performer at a local restaurant that has live music. Become a member of a music ministry at your church, whether you’re in the band or choir. Better yet, you can create your own music ministry with a team of musicians and singers and spread the Gospel all throughout your community.

ART Are you into photography? Try dabbling with photojournalism—a way of covering current events by means of descriptive photos of the event or its aftermath. This will vividly inform readers of what’s happening in the community. You can also try exploring your city and taking photos of the hidden beauties that very few natives know about. Use your photography to captivate everyday life in your community (very much like the “Humans of New York” photos!).

What about painting? You can become an art instructor at a local “paint and sip” studio.

You can create storytelling artwork and see about having it featured in a local museum or publication. Again, teaching recreational art classes for the community will awaken creativity inside of anyone who’s interested.

WRITING Writing is such a useful gift that it is easily overlooked, because we read something every day—whether it’s a flyer, a text message, an e-mail, or even a Facebook update.

But talented writers occupy an important place in the community! If writing is your gift, you can share it by blogging, becoming a tutor who helps students with writing academic papers, a journalist for a local newspaper, or a contributing writer for a local publication! You can also consider becoming a personal writing consultant and help locals with creating resumes, cover letters, invitations, or even books!

FILMMAKING Documentaries are captivating for the community. If you’re into directing and producing documentaries, you can seek out city natives who have compelling and poignant stories to tell. It gives the viewer an eye of what’s going on around them and of the kind of people who live in their community. Documentaries can also leave the viewer with a chilling “call-to-action” kind of feeling. If it’s a true-story film that evokes empathy from the public, there’s a strong chance that more locals will get involved and try to alleviate any issues a given community may face.

SEWING & KNITTING Sewing and knitting are quite practical ways to deliver clothing, and therefore warmth, to people like the homeless and needy families. You can create stylish and basic clothing items and sell them, or donate them to homeless shelters or any local organization that gives to those who have less.

LEADERSHIP Leadership is a powerful gift to have in the community. No matter what shape a community is in, there is always a great need for more bold folks who will assert their role as leaders. Leadership manifests itself in numerous avenues, such as teaching, ministering, mentoring, and being a public speaker. Do you have an urge to be an educator? Educate youth on things that aren’t taught in schools, such as starting a business or attaining and maintaining good credit. Do you want to preach the Gospel to lost souls in the city? Start a church or a Bible study, even if you have to meet in your own living room!

ASK YOURSELF: “What will be my mission in using my gift? What thoughts, ideas, or stories am I destined to share and how will they impact the community for the better?”

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situation. One response may be, “Thanks for offering to help, but I have a different idea that I would like to try.”

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Approximately 30% of teens are involved in bullying either as a bully, a target of bullying, or both. Attacks can occur as physical acts or malicious teasing, whether it is in the form of stealing, damaging belongings, or name-calling and starting rumors. Many children believe reaching out for help will only escalate the situation; however, parents just have to notice a slight change of pattern or behavior, such as chronic complaints of a headache or sickness, a loss of appetite, difficulty sleeping, and a sudden disinterest in the activities that once mattered, including school, to recognize a problem.

The solution is not simple. It requires an open belief in the child on the part of the parents, and communication. To understand the act of bullying, children need to describe what is happening and where. They must have a clear definition of bullying, as gossiping or intentionally tripping a student may be perceived as okay, while name-calling could be interpreted as bullying. It helps the victim if they can voice, or at least agree upon, a solution.

childhood, the doors to friendship are left open.

Whether it’s a community or school playground, neighborhood, sporting event, or trios tripling their numbers, introductions and beginning conversations can lead to great experiences. As daughters and sons confess their troubles about old and new friends, the immediate response for parents is to step in, especially to answer the plea, “What should I do?” The rules of friendship are never easy, whether the age is six or an independent 20. Mothering through guidance, open conversations, listening, and cheering from the side-lines leads our children through mistakes and broken hearts until they can find a way to use their wings and fly solo.

There’s always one person who interrupts a gathering to make an unkind remark, leaving the individual involved too stunned and embarrassed to reply. Knowing how to respond in these awkward situations is a rare gift. Too often, the solution is to walk away and feel the regret of not having said a word.

In a moment when children believe they have done nothing wrong, the power lies within them to focus on the friends who return support, unconditional loyalty, honest advice, and lift crestfallen spirits. Not everyone is entitled to be in the inner circle; yet, those who succeed will be strikingly different in personality. Of course, they all have one thing in common, an understanding of how to be a good friend.

“BOSSY PANTS” Identifying the bossy friend is simple. Advice is not given upon request, but forced upon the hearer unrequested. Such situations are challenging for those who don’t want to hurt a friend’s feelings. It doesn’t take long before we realize we must confront the problem.

One critical life skill is to be patient and offer kindness when conveying a response. If the demand is, for instance, “Don’t do that. I’ll show you how it should be done.” The goal is to demonstrate courage and strength while not inflaming the 84 / FORSY T H FAMILYMAG A ZIN E.COM

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STAYING TRUE TO VALUES AND OPINIONS Scenarios derived from current events or fictional stories can be used as a platform to ask open-ended questions. Just by thinking through answers and voicing them aloud, children find meaning in their opinions. It creates an inner feeling of empowerment when the mind already knows how to respond.

At some point, every child is pressured into following the crowd. Despite the feeling of wanting to walk away, there is always a fear of a negative response and a worry of being disassociated. These situations create a tug-of-war between doing what is right and what is easy. If the truth is known, good friends will value your decision, especially when the boundaries make you uncomfortable. If not, ask yourself, “Are they my friends?” If the answer is “No,” it is okay to change the arrangement of your inner circle.

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BY HEATHER SPIVEY Traditions, especially holiday traditions, are treasured and are so important for our families.

Holiday traditions are passed from generation to generation. The Candle Tea at the Single Brothers House in Old Salem is one of the most authentic and anticipated Christmas celebrations in North Carolina, and we are fortunate to have it right here in our city!

The Candle Tea is an annual Christmas event that the Women’s Fellowship of Home Moravian Church host to raise money for outreach activities, locally and globally. The Candle Tea presents the many customs that Moravians have used to prepare for the seasons of Advent and Christmas for hundreds of years.

The Candle Tea begins at the Single Brothers House that was first constructed in 1769. Guests are instantly greeted with the awesomeness of the large, hand-crafted, 110-point advent star; a symbol now used universally to indicate the beginning of the Advent season, or the four weeks before Christmas Day. Fragrances are important within the Moravian customs—the piney fresh evergreens, the aroma of the love-feast coffee, the warm sugar cake, and the beeswax that is being molded into beautiful candles are just a few of the aromas you will experience at Candle Tea. The preparation of the Moravian beeswax candles is a church tradition for both young and old. Children enjoy participating in the candle trimming, which entails a red ruffle being tacked around the base of the candles.

The candles are used for lovefeast and candle services on Christmas Eve in Moravian churches. Over 7,000 candles in three sizes have been made by the women of Home Moravian Church in preparation for the start of Candle Tea. Candle making will continue as a demonstration throughout the Tea. Candles are offered for sale at the Regular Tea and school, and scout groups each receive a trimmed candle during their visit.

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If you haven’t experienced a Christmas Eve lovefeast in the Moravian Church, you may want to consider adding it to your holiday tradition this year—but be sure to arrive early! It is a moving and beautiful service that concludes with the sanctuary being lit by beeswax candles held by the congregation, symbolizing Christ as the light of the world.

At Candle Tea, one of the highlights for guests is the large putz (which in German means “to decorate”) in the basement of the Single Brothers House.

The first part of the putz is a hand-crafted miniature of the village of Salem as it looked around 1900 on a snowy Christmas Eve. The second part of the putz is a dramatic nativity scene composed of wooden figures hand-carved in Germany and donated to Candle Tea. All of the decorations in the Single Brother’s House are designed and created by members of Home Moravian Church. At the front door, a 32-foot swag of live greenery is punctuated with elements the early Moravians had available— antlers, turkey & pheasant feathers, magnolia leaves, and cedar boughs.

The photos in this article of the decorations showcase the creative work of Susan Mickey, Home Church member. For ten years Susan has been the idea maker and organizer for the Candle Tea decorations—she has a lot of help from many volunteers, but the Candle Tea wouldn’t be what it is without her.

Candle Tea is held at the Single Brothers’ House in Old Salem / 600 South Main Street (Corner of Main and Academy Streets) / Winston-Salem / NC. SCHEDULE: Thursday and Friday – November 29th and 30th, 2018 Thursday and Friday – December 6th and 7th, 2018 1:00pm – 8:30pm Saturdays – December 1st and 8th, 2018 11:30am – 8:30pm ADMISSION: $5 Adults $1 Children 12 and under CHRISTMAS EVE LOVEFEAST SCHEDULE: December 24th 11:00am (children) / 2:30 (family) 5:00pm & 7:45pm The first two services have a lower brass prelude, and the final two have a full band prelude. Doors open one hour before each service.

To learn more about the Candle Tea, visit homemoravian.org/candletea or call 336/749/9463

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It’s finally fall, which means finally Pumpkin Season! Pumpkin lattes, pumpkin candles and pumpkin décor, not to mention pumpkin on your plate! Embrace the season with your children, and your taste buds with these recipes.

PUMPKIN NACHO DIP INGREDIENTS: 2 Tbsp. butter ½ cup green pepper, finely chopped 2 Tbsp. onion, finely chopped 1 can cheese soup 1 cup canned pumpkin purée (not pumpkin pie filling) ½ cup half and half 1½ tsp. canned chipotle peppers in adobe sauce, diced ½ tsp. salt Pumpkin tortilla chips (if you can find them: Costco, Trader Joe’s, etc.) or corn tortilla chips DIRECTIONS: 1. In a saucepan, melt the butter over medium heat. Add the green peppers and onions. Sauté until tender, about three minutes.

2. Stir in the soup, pumpkin, half and half, chipotle peppers and salt, cooking over low heat until heated through, about 10 minutes, stirring constantly.

3. Pour into bowl and serve warm with tortilla chips.

TORTELLINI WITH PUMPKIN ALFREDO SAUCE INGREDIENTS: 2 (9-oz) packages cheese tortellini 1 Tbsp. butter 1 small shallot (or half small onion), finely chopped ½ cup canned pumpkin purée (not pumpkin pie filling) ¼ tsp. nutmeg 1¼ cup heavy cream ¼ cup Parmesan cheese, grated (plus more for garnish) Freshly ground black pepper Fresh Italian parsley, chopped (optional) DIRECTIONS: 1. In a large pot, bring salted water to a boil.

Add the tortellini and cook according to package directions.

2. Reserve ½ cup of the cooking water, then drain the pasta.

3. In a skillet, heat the butter over medium high heat. Add the finely diced shallot (or onion) and cook, stirring, until slightly softened, about 2 minutes. Add the pumpkin and nutmeg and cook, stirring, for 1 minute. Stir in the cream and bring to a low boil. Reduce the heat to medium low and simmer, stirring, until slightly thickened, about 5 minutes. Stir in the Parmesan and cook until thick, about 1 minute more. Season to taste with salt and pepper.

4. Add the tortellini to the skillet and toss with the Alfredo pumpkin sauce, adding the reserved cooking water to loosen the sauce if needed.

Divide among four bowls and garnish with more freshly grated Parmesan and chopped parsley.

PUMPKIN FLAN WITH MAPLE CARAMEL INGREDIENTS: ¾ cup sugar One-third cup pure Grade A maple syrup ¼ cup water Cooking spray 1 cup canned pumpkin purée (not pumpkin pie filling) 1 tsp. pumpkin pie spice 1 tsp. vanilla extract 4 large eggs 1 (12-oz) can evaporated milk 1 (14-oz) can low-fat sweetened condensed milk DIRECTIONS: 1. Preheat oven to 350° and spray a 9-inch round cake pan with cooking spray.

2. In a medium, heavy saucepan, cook sugar and maple syrup over medium-low heat until dissolved, stirring gently as needed to dissolve sugar evenly.

Cook, swirling (no stirring!), 7 minutes more or until golden. Immediately pour into cake pan.

3. Add pumpkin, pumpkin pie spice, vanilla, eggs and milks to a food processor, blending until smooth.

Pour the pumpkin mixture over the caramel mixture in the cake pan. Place the pan into a 13 x 9-inch rectangle baking pan; add enough hot water to the large pan to come halfway up the sides of the round cake pan.

4. Bake at 350° for 1 hour and 10 minutes or until the center is set. Remove round cake pan from the water and cool on a wire rack. Once completely cool, refrigerate overnight.

5. Loosen edges of flan with a knife or rubber spatula.

Place a large serving plate, upside down, over the round cake pan and invert flan onto the plate. Drizzle any remaining caramel over the flan.

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Celebrations

Meghan Corbett, (Forsyth Mags Senior Staff Writer), and her husband, Will, welcomed Hugh William Corbett on August 20th.

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We are so proud of you- you inspire us more than you know! With all the love we can muster, we hope and pray for the best years to come.

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These two quotes may, at first glance, seem to be making the same claim. True, if we have access to an audience on social media, we have become journalists. When we contextualize these two statements, however, we see that one is right and one is wrong.

Here is the background of the author of one of the quotes, Engin Onder, a young man just out of his teenage years who decided to adopt the responsibility of citizen journalism with the power we all have through social media: On December 28, 2011, two Turkish jets dropped bombs on an innocent group of villagers who were initially believed to be Kurdish militants. Bound, as 21-year-old Engin Onder believed, by government censorship, the main news networks in Turkey refused to cover the 34 villager deaths for hours after the attack. Onder instigated the citizen journalism group 140 Journos, which utilized social media to speak “illegal” truths about his government.

Turkey is a nation that imprisons more journalists than any other.

However, Onder’s network grew as citizens recognized the need for, and took on the responsibility of, journalists. 140 Journos covered the Gezi Park protests, which began as a sit-in against the demolition of an Istanbul park and soon instigated a fullfledged anti-government protest. Onder admired the work of the contributors who covered the rebellion and recognized the power of technology by saying “We are all journalists now.” In announcing this, he emphasized the potential social media offer; he does not concede that all of us fulfill, or even attempt to fulfill, that potential.

Onder understood that to be a journalist, even a civilian journalist, you must adopt the responsibility and the essential values of the calling.

• You must, first and foremost, have an obligation to the truth.

• You must be dedicated to upholding democracy by keeping authority structures in check.

• You must be committed to the verification and contextualization of all essential facts.

• You must restrict your own bias by displaying all relevant sides of a situation or dispute.

Esra Arsan, a professor of journalism at an Istanbul University, commented on the 140 Journos group, saying, “There is a huge potential of distortion and manipulation in social media.

But in Turkey, in my country, these people are trying to spread real information.”

This dedication to truth flies in the face of the idea behind the second quote at the beginning of this article.

In his article “Today We Are All Journalists” the founding father of videojournalism, Michael Rosenblum claims, “Everyone who contributes to Facebook or Instagram or YouTube or Twitter— anyone who contributes content to the vast and ever-growing sprawl of the information media matrix is a journalist.”

Journalism requires a much greater commitment and taskorientation than Rosenblum acknowledges in his article.

It is more than uploading a video, commenting on a post, or sharing a story. Journalism is the publication of verified, contextualized information that strives to communicate the best available version of the truth to readers.

Onder recognized true journalism in the members of 140 Journos. He witnessed their commitment to unbiased publication of his country’s political situation and said, “It’s a lot of responsibility. They’re writing a history of the present.”

So, how can one of the two almost identical quotes be true and the other false? When these two individuals choose to call all modern people journalists, they are focusing on two different sides of the coin. Onder is conforming to the historical view of journalism by focusing awareness on the responsibility that comes with our ability to act as citizen journalists. In a way, Onder is saying we are all journalists if, like 140 Journos, we choose to take on the responsibility. Rosenblum is interested in the power alone and makes the false assertion that because we have the potential to have power, we automatically wield it.

With great power comes great responsibility but that does not mean everyone with power turns out to be a superhero.

If we have chosen to abuse the power of citizen journalism by spreading rumors, fake news, and misinformation, we have decided to abandon the values that good journalists must hold, and become villains.

We may have the power of journalists, but that doesn’t mean we have chosen to take on both the power and the responsibility—we are civilians until we choose to take on the role of hero or villain.

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“We believe that we are the only local restaurant that offers great Asian food (see our reviews on Yelp, Trip Advisor, Open Table and Google) including sushi in a modern and contemporary setting offering a full and diverse wine list and cocktail selection,” said Owner Jonathan Chung.

“We have very fun wines and cocktails like the Pomegranate Sake Cosmopolitan as well as a good domestic and imported sake and tea selection including Tropical Green Revolution Tea and Golden Chamomile Herbal Revolution Tea.” Some other amazing crafted cocktails include: • SPICY MANGO MARGARITA: Tequila, Grand Marnier, Thai Chilis, Mango, Lime.

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Celebrate the persimmon and traditional farming on a historic property. Arts & crafts, food & beverage, live music, demonstrations, history, persimmon products and more. Cost: $10/person ages 12 and up; free for children. www.colfaxpersimmonfest.com

EXHIBIT: LIFE AFTER DEATH: THE DAY OF THE DEAD IN MEXICO Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. The exhibit’s centerpiece is a traditional ofrenda, an altar with food and beverage offerings, flowers, sugar skulls and photos of deceased family members. Admission is free. http://moa.wfu.edu

DISC GOLF GRAND OPENING & COOKOUT Noon; Sunrise UMC, 1111 Lewisville-Clemmons Road. Come check out their new disc golf course and help celebrate this wonderful new addition to the community!

FREE event!

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“TOY TIME” EXHIBIT Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Travel back in time to when there were no cell phones or video games and batteries were never included! Engage and delight in tumbling, sliding, rocking, spinning, dancing and flying folk toys that demonstrate the effects of gravity, inertia, rhythm, harmonic motion and mechanics. Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. www.kaleideum.org

NOVEMBER 2-3

35TH ANNUAL COZY COTTAGE CRAFT SHOW 9am8pm (2nd); 9am-3pm (3rd), Kernersville Community House, 405 Salisbury Street in Kernersville. Unique hand-crafted gifts, home décor, jewelry, yard art, pottery, holiday decorations, baked goods and more. Proceeds from raffle benefit Trellis Supportive Care (formerly Hospice & Palliative CareCenter). No admission charge.

NOVEMBER 2-4 & 8-11

YOUNG FRANKENSTEIN: THE MEL BROOKS MUSICAL Southeastern Center for Contemporary Art (SECCA), 750 Marguerite Drive in W-S. Picking up from Mary Shelley’s classic gothic tale, Frederick Frankenstein inherits a castle in Transylvania containing Igor, Inga and Frau Blücher. Cost: $22-24/person. www.thelittletheatreofws. org/young-frankenstein.

NOVEMBER 2-5

CINDY DOLLAR WEEKEND WORKSHOP Sunrise Yoga Studio, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Ct. #1 in Clemmons.

Cindy Dollar has been helping people live more flexible and balanced lives since 1985. Cost: $45-$210/person. www.sunriseyoga.net

NOVEMBER 3

MISSION 5K & FUN RUN 8am; downtown WS. Postrace expo includes: activities for the kids, food & music provided by WBFJ. Proceeds: Feet First & WinstonSalem Rescue Mission / fleetfeetwinston-salem.com 336.722.8477

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preview of the ballet. Afterwards, you can learn some dance steps and enjoy a meet-and-greet with the performers! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. Kaleideum Downtown, 390 S Liberty Street, Winston-Salem. (336) 723-9111. www. kaleideum.org.

UNCSA NUTCRACKER PREVIEW EVENT Kaleideum Downtown 10:45 am; Enjoy a special storytime at 10:45 am, then watch in wonder as cast members from the University of North Carolina School of the Arts’ production of The Nutcracker perform a short

NOVEMBER 7

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT 5pm-until, Jeffrey Adams on Fourth, 321 West Fourth Street in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy ½ price wine, nachos, wild mushroom and artichoke dip, and cheesecake! Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways!

NOVEMBER 10

GREENSBORO LUNGE FORWARD 5K WALK, RUN & RALLY 8-10:30am, Center City Park, 200 North Elm Street in Greensboro. From the 5K race to the celebration rally to the kid’s dash, this year’s event will include a variety of activities for the entire family. However you choose to participate, your support will make an impact in the fight against lung cancer in North Carolina. Cost: $15-$35/person; survivors free. www.lungcancerinitiativenc.org BONE HEALTH WORKSHOP WITH AMERICAN BONE HEALTH AND WAKE HEALTH 9:30am-12:30pm, Bowman Gray Center for Medical Education, Conference Room 5206 and 5207, 475 Vine Street in W-S. American Bone Health is partnering with Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center to bring a free workshop to Winston-Salem, for adults to learn how to build their own roadmap for better bone health. Registration begins at 9am in the 5th floor lobby (right off the elevators). Free parking is available in the P7 Innovation Quarter Lot, entrance at the corner of 4th and Vine streets. https://americanbonehealth.org/ CRAFT AND VENDOR SHOW BY ARDMORE NEIGHBORHOOD ASSOCIATION 10am-3pm, Miller Park Recreation Center, 400 Leisure Lane in W-S. Crafters from crochet to stained glass, and vendors from Pampered Chef to “31” Totes.

NOVEMBER 10-11

61ST ANNUAL GREEK BAKE SALE Annunciation Greek Orthodox Church, 435 Keating Drive in W-S. The lunch and dinner menu includes Mousaka, Chicken Riganato with rice and Pork Souvlaki with rice. All meals are $13 and served with Spanakopita, Greek-style green beans, Greek salad, a roll and beverage. Pastries for sale include Baklava, Koulourakia, Kourambiedes, Finikia and many more. 100 percent of the proceeds benefit local and national charities. www.facebook.com/ WSGreekFestival/?tn-str=k*F

NOVEMBER 12 & 13

PAWS IN THE PARK (SEE AD PAGE 33) Stroll through the enchanted light display with your pups and friends. Food trucks & vendors. For tickets: paws. davienchumane.org

NOVEMBER 12 THROUGH 19

OPERATION CHRISTMAS CHILD (SEE AD PAGE 63, 65) National Collection Week for shoeboxes.

Shoeboxes can be picked up & returned filled to any Hayworth-Miller location.

NOVEMBER 13

KIDS’ MORNING OUT 10am-12pm, Legacy Saddlebreds, 4151 Thomasville Road in W-S. Free event! Come check out the amazing facility at Legacy Saddlebreds. Pony rides, several activity stations and hayride (weather permitting). Each adult will receive four raffle tickets from Forsyth Family for the door prize drawing.

FIGHTING FOR FORSYTH: WHAT IS FORSYTH COUNTY DOING TO COMBAT THE OPIOID CRISIS? 7:30-8:30pm, Goodwill of NW North Carolina, 2701 University Parkway in W-S. Join The Fellowship Home of W-S for a discussion with guest speakers. www. thefellowshiphome.org

NOVEMBER 15

REDEEMER SCHOOL OPEN HOUSE (SEE AD PAGE 43) 1013 Melrose Street; RSVP at RedeemberSchool.org/ admissions/inquiryform

NOVEMBER 16

CHEERS! TO BRENNER CHILDREN’S 7-10pm, The Millennium Center, 101 West 5th Street in W-S. Mix and mingle with celebrity chefs, enjoy gourmet food from W-S’s finest restaurants, wine, craft beer, a live auction, games and much more! Funds raised at Cheers! support the campaign to build a new Neonatal Intensive Care Unit at Brenner Children’s Hospital.

Purchase your ticket and support Brenner Children’s by visiting brennerchildrens.org/cheers.

TANGLEWOOD FESTIVAL OF LIGHTS (SEE AD PAGE 13) Open through January 1st. Tanglewood Park in Clemmons.

NOVEMBER 17

GO FAR FAMILY 5K & FUN RUN 7-11am, Showplace Courtyard, 211 East Commerce Avenue in High Point. Families are encouraged to join their children.

Registration will also be held on race day from 7–8:30 a.m. After the race, enjoy vendors, food and fun. GO FAR is a nonprofit running club that teaches children of all abilities about healthy eating, goal setting and how to train for a mile or 5K. For details, visit runsignup.com/ gofar, or call 508.4380. Cost: $15-$25/person.

MAYBERRY HALF MARATHON 5K AND 10K 8am, Downtown Mount Airy, 259 North Main Street in Mount Airy. Come run our flat, fast courses through Historic Mayberry and the beautiful Granite City Greenway along the Ararat River and Lovill’s Creek – featuring cash prizes, custom medals, half marathon finisher medals, long-sleeve technical t-shirts, and an awesome swag bag. http://mayberryhalf.itsyourrace.com STATESVILLE ARTISAN AND CRAFTER’S EXPO 10am-3pm, Statesville Activity & Fitness Center, 1875 Simonton Road in Statesville. Something for everyone!

More than 70 vendors. No direct sales. All handcrafted.

Visit Facebook event page for more information – www. facebook.com/events/617799398577236.

PARENTS NIGHT OUT - KALEIDEUM DOWNTOWN 5:30-9:30 pm; Start your holiday shopping early —or simply enjoy a fun night out —while the kids make musical instruments and have a dance party at Kaleideum! Pizza dinner included. Members: $20/ first child; $15/additional sibling. Non-members: $25/ first child; $20/additional sibling. Pre-register atwww. kaleideum.org. Kaleideum Downtown, 390 S Liberty Street, Winston-Salem. (336) 723-9111.

WAKE FOREST FOOTBALL VS. PITTSBURGH BB&T Field, 499 Deacon Boulevard in W-S. Come cheer on the Demon Deacons on Senior Night and last home game of the season!

NOVEMBER 17-18

HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE 11am-5pm (17th); 12-5pm (18th), Shelton Vineyards, 286 Cabernet Lane in Dobson.

Free admission. It’s the holidays! Come and join us for all the sights, sounds and tastes of the season!

NOVEMBER 18

CLEMMONS COMMUNITY THANKSGIVING SERVICE 7-8pm, Holy Family Catholic Church, 4820 Kinnamon Road in W-S. The Clemmons Clergy Association is pleased to invite everyone to the annual Worshipers are invited to bring canned goods or cash or check donations to share with the Clemmons Food Pantry.

Are You Ready for Some Football?

We have the NFL Sunday Ticket! 10 Big Screen TV’s to watch your Favorite Team!

Sunday Funday Food and Drink Specials!

NOVEMBER 24 & 25

A CAROLINA CHRISTMAS WITH CIRQUE! (SEE AD PAGE 53) Reynolds Auditorium; WSsymphony.org for tickets

NOVEMBER 23-DECEMBER 29

TWEETSIE CHRISTMAS Tweetsie Railroad, 300 Tweetsie Railroad Lane in Blowing Rock. Advance tickets required.

Enjoy the wonder of the park dazzlingly lit for the holidays, with a nighttime train and more. Cost: $38/ person. http://tweetsie.com/special-events/

NOVEMBER 29-DECEMBER 2

DISNEY ON ICE (SEE AD PAGE 99) Opening night tickets $15; DisneyOnIce.com

NOVEMBER 29-DECEMBER 9

CANDLE TEA Single Brothers House in Old Salem, 600 South Main Street in W-S. Singing, candle making, sugarcake and Moravian coffee as well as experiencing the Nativity story. Profits go to outreach.Cost: $5/adult; $1/child. www.homemoravian.org/candletea

NOVEMBER 30

Mac & Nellis Come Try Out Our New Menu! keep up with all our weekly dining specials & events listed on our Facebook or website

336.529.6230 macandnellisws.com 4926 Country Club Road | Winston-Salem, NC 27104 Monday - Thursday 3pm - 1am | Friday - Sunday - 11am - until

SUPPER AND SANTA - KALEIDEUM DOWNTOWN 6-8 pm; Enjoy dinner, crafts, cookie decorating, storytime, a goody bag, and a visit from the man in red! Hearts & Arrows Photography will photograph your little one on Santa’s lap, a cherished keepsake that will be emailed to you. Prints also available for purchase on site. Pre-registration required for both children and adults. $18(+tax)/Kaleideum member, $20(+tax)/nonmember. Register at www.kaleideum.org. Kaleideum Downtown, 390 S Liberty Street, Winston-Salem. (336) 723-9111.

DECEMBER 1

YMCA MISTLETOE RUN (SEE AD PAGE 77) Learn more and register at ymcamistletoe.org 2ND ANNUAL CHRISTMAS SILVER TEA (SEE PAGE 10) 4pm; Greek Orthodox Hellenic Center; 435 Keating Drive. Benefitting Cancer Services. Call Stacey Karagiorgis 336-575-6904 for tickets.

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Caramel Apple Upside-Down Cake

BY SARA WILES

THROUGHOUT

the fall we all tend to go a little overboard on the pumpkin spice this and that. I often times wonder if we’ve forgotten the other smells and tastes of fall. Things like caramel, maple, cranberry, and apple—the true unsung heroes of fall flavors. So, let’s pump the brakes on all things pumpkin and switch to a true, classic combination of caramel and apple. The richness of sweet caramel and the tartness of the apple makes the perfect duo to bring the taste of the season without being too bold and in your face. Not to mention, the combination provides the perfect balance of richness without being too dense, leaving you with plenty of room to eat as much as you would like. So, grab some flour, peel some apples, and get to work. This recipe is simple yet satisfying.

CARAMEL APPLE UPSIDE-DOWN CAKE (Yields 8 Slices)

INGREDIENTS: For the Topping ¼ cup unsalted butter ½ cup light brown sugar ½ teaspoon ground cinnamon 2 large apples, peeled, cored, and thinly sliced For the cake: 1½ cups all-purpose flour 1 teaspoon baking powder ¼ teaspoon salt ½ cup unsalted butter, softened to room temperature cup granulated sugar 2 large eggs, at room temperature 1 teaspoon vanilla ½ cup milk, at room temperature DIRECTIONS: 1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Spray a 9-inch cake pan well with nonstick cooking spray and set aside.

2. To make the topping: add butter, brown sugar and cinnamon to a saucepan over medium heat. Stir well until the mixture is completely melted and smooth. Remove from the heat, pour the mixture into the prepared cake pan and evenly spread it on the bottom.

3. Arrange the apple slices in an even layer on top. Set aside.

4. To make the cake: whisk together the flour, baking powder, salt and cinnamon in a large mixing bowl. Set aside.

5. In a separate bowl, beat the butter and sugar with an electric or stand mixer until light and fluffy. Slowly add eggs, one at a time, mixing well after each one. Add the vanilla and mix until fully combined.

6. Alternate mixing the dry ingredients and milk into the wet ingredients, starting with the flour and ending with the flour.

7. Pour the batter into the cake pan on top of the sliced apples.

8. Bake at 350 degrees for 35-40 minutes or until a wooden toothpick inserted into the center of the cake comes out clean.

9. Remove from the oven and allow to cool for about 10 minutes in the pan before flipping over onto a large plate or cake stand.

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ACTIVITIES

Kaleideum ..................................................39 Legacy Saddlebreds ......................................7 Salem Gymnastics & Swim .........................55 YMCA ..........................................................77

ADOPTION & FOSTER CARE

Crossnore School & Children’s Home .........67

BAKERY/CONFECTIONS

Christina’s Dessertery .................................89

BEAUTY / STYLING

Enhance Hair Studio ...................................15 Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics .......................73 LT Nails & Spa..............................................15 Lyndhurst Medical Spa ...............................81

CHILDCARE

YMCA ..........................................................77

CHURCHES

Sunrise United Methodist Church ..............62

DENTISTS / ORTHODONTISTS

Ardmore Dentistry ......................................47 Chermak & Hanson ....................................17 Salem Smiles ..............................................49 Tina S. Merhoff and Associates Pediatric Dentistry ......................................3

EDUCATION

Calvary Baptist Day School .........................49 Forsyth Country Day School ........................55 Imprints Cares ............................................45 Redeemer School .......................................43

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The Montessori School ...............................41 The Piedmont School..................................75

Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics .......................73 Lyndhurst....................................................81 WomanCare ................................................69

Rolly’s Baby Boutique .................................47 Styled Gatherings Boutique .......................15

Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp ........77 Modern Woodmen Fraternal Financial .......79 Truliant Federal Credit Union ........Back Cover

PHOTOGRAPHY

HEALTH & FITNESS

YMCA ..........................................................77

WBFJ ...........................................................65 KissFM ........................................................97

HOME

REAL ESTATE & HOUSING

Busy as a Bee Concierge .............................57 Crossnore School & Children’s Home .........67 Family Services ...........................................31 Hayworth-Miller Funeral Homes & Crematory .............................................63 Nu expression.............................................85 S&K Cleaning..............................................83 Second Harvest Food Bank ...........................4 Trellis Supportive Care ................................19 Triad Mac ....................................................77 Two Maids ...................................................73

FINANCIAL

Busy as a Bee Concierge .............................57 Chamberlain Place .....................................57 Dero’s..........................................................21 Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp ........77 Furniture Mattress Warehouse ...................15 Long & Foster Real Estate............................41 Piedmont Legacy Group - Realty One .........29 Piedmont Sheet Metal................................41 Realty One - Karen Wood ..............................5 S & K Cleaning ............................................83 Stitches .......................................................71 Susan Maier-Colon, Broker .........................75 Two Maids ...................................................73 Wrights Landscaping ..................................75

HOME MEDICAL CARE

Home Instead Senior Care............................9

LANDSCAPING

Wrights Landscaping ..................................75

MEDICAL

Forsyth Family Eye Care ..............................27 Hillcrest Vision ............................................71 Home Instead Senior Care............................9

Photo Artistry by Melinda ...........................83

RADIO STATIONS

Chamberlain Place .....................................57 Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp ........77 Long & Foster Real Estate............................41 Realty One - Karen Wood ..............................5 Susan Maier-Colon Berkshire Hathaway .................................75

RESTAURANTS

Clemmons Kitchen .....................................15 Hakkachow Asian Eats ................................93 Honky Tonk Smokehouse ...........................93 Little Richard’s Smokehouse BBQ.........25, 93 Mac & Nelli’s .........................................93, 95 Midtown Café & Dessertery ........................93 Pie Guys Pizza .............................................93 Wine Merchants .........................................93

RETAIL

Clemmons Bicycle ......................................69 Clemmons Village Shopping Center ..........15 Dero’s..........................................................21 Furniture Mattress Warehouse ...................15 Hip Chics Boutique & Gift ...........................11 Honda of Winston-Salem .....................33, 81 Miracle Grounds Farm Store .......................67

SERVICE

TECHNOLOGY

Nu expression.............................................85 Triad Mac ....................................................77

UPCOMING EVENTS

A Carolina Christmas with Cirque ...............53 Ballet & Performing Arts Centre The Nutcracker..........................................29 Cheers to Brenner’s Children .....................25 Disney on Ice ..............................................99 Mistletoe Run .............................................77 Operation Christmas Child Collection ........63 Paws in the Park..........................................33 Sunrise UMC Disc Golf Grand Opening ......61 Tanglewood Festival of Lights.....................13 UNCSA The Nutcracker ..................................2 Wake Forest Football ..................................79 West End Holiday Homes Tour ...................94

VACATION RENTALS

Blue Ridge Mountain Rentals ....................27

Disney On Ice

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