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June 2014

V’s Barber Shop

Where Traditional and Contemporary Meet






On a farm the barn is the center of activity. We’ve continued the tradition. Developed on the former country estate of the late Bowman Gray, Jr., Brookberry Farm features exquisite single-family residences and cluster homes priced from the $300s to $2 million. The extensive amenities showcase the land’s natural beauty and great heritage. Come and experience what makes our leading community the place to call home. ©2014 BHH Affiliates, LLC. An independently operated subsidiary of HomeServices of America, Inc., a Berkshire Hathaway affiliate, and a franchisee of BHH Affiliates, LLC. Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices and the Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices symbol are registered service marks of HomeServices of America, Inc.® Equal Housing Opportunity.









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contents In our ongoing effort to make Forsyth Family the ultimate resource to Forsyth County families, check out our new color-code tabs! We’ve organized our content by categories to make sure you can quickly find exactly what you need when you need it! Also, check out our Index on page 90, which organizes all our advertisers by type of business!

Local Business 6 Mill Creek General Store: Serving Quality, Whole Food Products in the Blue Ridge Area 8 Skeeter Security 10 An Appalachian Summer Festival 2014 12 Core…The Missing Link 14 iCan House: A Place for Everyone 16 Salem Band: Free Summer Concerts by Salem Band

Health & Wellness 20 22 24 26 28 30

Old Vineyard Behavioral Health Services Bed Rest: Part Two – Journey of an Infant Admitted to NICU Be Prepared this Summer Preparing Families for Emergency Situations Summer Ailments Grow Your Own Garden

Parenting 32 34 36 38 40

A Memory is Worth a Thousand Words (Writing to Our Children) What I Want My Son To Know About Life Small Stories for a Big World The Mommy Diaries: Working Mom Triad Moms on Main: Oh. Hi Summer. You’re Back (*Heavy Sarcasm*) 42 The View From My Section: My 15th Anniversary of Fatherhood – The Times, They are A-Changing

co ver s tory 45 V’s Barbershop – Where Traditional and Contemporary Meet

Education 48 Educational Summer Fun with Your Preschooler

Ages & Stages 50 My Toddler Is A Carnivore?!?! 52 Learning to Drive

Community 56 Winston-Salem Natives Win Best Local Film Award 58 Embracing 35 Years of Hope: Sharing 35 Stories to Help Tell Ours 62 The Betty and Jim Holmes Food Bank Garden 64 Kick Off Your Summer at SciWorks 66 Continuing a Legacy: Kids of Childhood Cancer Foundation Gives Back 68 Sydney White – “Scattering Kindness”

Activities & Sports 70 Northwest Forsyth American Little League 50th Anniversary of Adult Service to Youth

Faith & Family 72 73 74 76

The Recital Foster Parenting Musing About…Yesterday Not Smarter…and Two and a Half Times Harder!

For the Kids 80 82 83 84 85

Kids Morning Out Babysitting Isn’t Just For Girls Kids in the Kitchen: No-Bake Edition iTalk: In Search of Summer Jobs The Artist Corner

Dining Guide

June 2014


n the infamous words of a classic Alice Cooper song…School’s out for summer!! No more teachers, no more homework… well, for just a little while at least. Families with school-aged children are rejoicing at their freedom from homework assignments and strict bedtimes. And I daresay no one is happier about that than the educators themselves! Summer is a much-needed and well-deserved break for everyone! Whew, April & May were both busy months for me and my family! But we have both girls home from college now and are ready for a fun and relaxed summer! Bring on the pool, cookouts, WS Dash baseball games and evening walks at Tanglewood! These are just a few of the things we look forward to at my house! Not to mention our annual Sunrise youth mission trip and, best of all, VACATION! This year we have a few other items on our summer bucket list as well…a downtown Segway tour with Triad Eco Adventures (I did this last fall without my family and it was simply AMAZING! See pg. 25), a race at Bowman Gray Stadium (embarrassed to say I’ve never taken my children to a race there) and dinner at Keaton’s Chicken. There are just certain experiences in life that I feel are a parent’s responsibility to provide for their children and especially things local to your area. Even things that may not be our cup of tea, but we’ve always tried to offer up a variety so they can decide for themselves if that’s something of interest to them. June issue features V’s Barber Shop as our cover story, and how appropriate is that for June? A place for dad to be treated like a king, and that’s exactly what owner, Adam Thomas, wishes for the male patrons of his establishment! So if you’re looking to make the males in your life feel special this Father’s Day, be sure to include a gift card to V’s! Lots of great info packed into this issue! Congratulations to all the graduates and Happy Father’s Day to all the wonderful dads out there! Special birthday wishes to my dear Aunt Tina Darnell who will turn 80 this birthday! Blessings!

Robin Bralley

86 13 Bones Celebrates Five Years of Great Food and Great Times

Other 88 Calendar of Events 90 Advertiser Index

Thanks to all those who visited our booths at the Earth Day Fair and Clemmons Community Day! Homemade bubble recipes and ideas can be found on our Pinterest site… Be sure to join us at the Triad Dog Games on June 7th & 8th (see pg. 91) and Women’s Showcase on June 8th (see pg. 88)…both are FREE events!

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Owners: Ben & Helen Holmes

Mill Creek General Store: Serving Quality, Whole Food Products in the Blue Ridge Area By Meridith Whitaker generations past, food preparation took a significant amount of time and effort. There were no microwave meals, no sauces from a packet, and no chocolate chip energy bars with a six-year shelf life. Now, with boxed dinners on every grocery store shelf and a drive-thru on every corner, we can eat cheaply and quickly at any time of the day or night. With the busy, scheduled lives many of us lead, the convenience of this processed food revolution has been welcomed—perhaps to the detriment of our health. Yes, we have come a long way as a society. But have we been moving in the wrong direction?


Mill Creek General Store, a new family-owned business in Mount Airy, invites you to think back to a time when good food was not tampered with. There, you will find wholesome, quality products, such as unrefined sweeteners, Amish butters and grass-fed, antibiotic-free beef. Mill Creek General Store is a refreshing oasis of real food in a desert of typical grocery store convenience products. Ben and Helen Holmes opened their specialty store with the idea of

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providing a solution to the void in Mount Airy's shopping options. “Our family believes that many of the health problems people experience have to do with the food they are putting in their bodies,” said Ben. “Our products have a healthier slant. We carry a lot of organic and nonGMO items and offer plenty of gluten-free products. We are trying to provide a healthier option for the Blue Ridge area.” The store specializes in Amish meats and cheeses, whole food options, gluten-free flours and foods, non-GMO foods, locally grown and produced goods, whole grains, freshly baked breads, and specialty baking and candy supplies. Several items, such as dairy-free cheeses and -butters, goat’s milk products, and non-homogenized milk, have been added as a result of customer requests. Ben and Helen are happy to do research for customers and, if you ask, they may be able to stock something just for you! When shopping, you can expect bulk pricing (sometimes with a savings of greater than 50%) without the requirement of purchasing a large

quantity of the same product. Mill Creek sells in bulk packaging while providing the customer with the flexibility and choice that the typical bulk “clubs” cannot offer. Customers can also feel good knowing that bulk purchasing reduces packaging waste, thereby reducing the carbon footprint on the environment. An extensive offering of Amish deli meats and cheeses can be sliced to order, and the in-store deli serves sandwiches and wraps while you shop. Afterward, treat yourself to a scoop of delicious hand-dipped ice cream or a fresh ice cream float. “We want our customers to feel confident about shopping with us and to have a good experience resting in our bistro area with friends and a delicious sandwich,” Ben said. “We are not ‘fast food,’ so preparation may take longer, as we use fresh ingredients and make every sandwich to order. If you are in a time constraint, call ahead and we will have things ready for you.” In addition to the deli and ice cream counter, the Mill Creek shopping experience is enhanced by a large selection of classic hand-crafted Amish furniture, including a new line of comfortable and durable poly-resin outdoor furniture for the summer. The Holmes’ mission statement for their business reads as follows: “Our mission is to glorify God in all we do, even in the small decisions. We want to exercise honesty and integrity in our customer, employee and community relationships. In turn, we pray that God honors our attempts to honor Him by providing us with honest employment and financial provision for our family and children.” It is a mission that matches their product in its authenticity, its wholesomeness and its integrity. Skipping the pre-packaged microwave meal to cook a meal from scratch may

Holmes children L to R: Carter, Tucker, Harrison, Stovall. Background L to R: Victoria, Priscilla, Ford & Jackson.

take more time, but with people like Ben and Helen making the shopping and selection process as simple and enjoyable as possible, you will not need to sacrifice convenience to provide a real, unprocessed, wholesome meal for your family. For more information, please call 336-755-2340 or visit For the latest updates, be sure to “like” the Facebook page at

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Skeeter Security By Justin Cord Hayes


ot long ago, Kelly Holton planned to throw an outdoor birthday party for her daughter. A downpour had occurred the night before the event, and, as the Holtons went out to set up, they were attacked by swarms of mosquitoes left in the rainfall’s wake. In a panic, they called Skeeter Security, a spin-off business of Chamberlain Landscaping & Lawn Care, Inc. Skeeter Security sprayed the yard just hours before their daughter’s party. “They sprayed our very large backyard, and for hours that evening, there were no signs of mosquitoes,” Holton says. “Our guests did not have any bites. It was a wonderful evening, mainly because we were bug-free.” Todd and Dedra Chamberlain began their Landscaping and Lawn Care business 19 years ago. Many of its original customers are still with them, and others have been with the company for well over a decade. Most of its crew has been with the company for over ten years as well. They launched the Mosquito Control aspect about three years ago “We don’t have much turnover at all,” Dedra Chamberlain says. “We treat our guys like part of our family.” Customer and employee loyalty are not the only benefits of using Skeeter Security. Many of the other companies performing mosquito control are franchise companies and must pay franchise fees. Skeeter is part of an established, independent and locally owned business with no fees to pay, which allows the company to pass those savings on to its customers. In addition, Skeeter Security and the Chamberlains really care about families. Todd Chamberlain worked diligently to find lawn products that

are organically based and designed to be very natural and safe for kids, pets and shrubbery. “We tested [the mosquito spray] out with several of our regular customers to be sure it was effective,” Dedra Chamberlain says, “and it has been a great product for mosquitoes and ticks.” With summer rapidly approaching and people spending more time outside, it is important to take precautions against tick and mosquito bites and the diseases that can come with them. North Carolina had more than 800 cases of tick- and mosquito-borne illnesses and deaths reported in 2013. Diseases commonly associated with ticks and mosquitoes include LaCrosse virus, West Nile, Rocky Mountain Spotted Fever and Lyme disease. The CDC is also now warning that a potential outbreak of the Chikungunya Virus is possible. In late 2013, the Chikungunya virus was found for the first time in the Americas on islands in the Caribbean. This virus is not currently found in the United States; however, there is a risk that the virus will be imported to new areas by infected travelers. “Chikungunya” is derived from an African language word meaning “to become contorted.” The mosquito-borne virus can result in fever and intense muscle and joint pain that could last for weeks, or even for years! Better call Skeeter Security. If you’re thinking to yourself, “I’ll just go spray my backyard with bug spray,” then you might want to reconsider. The product Skeeter Security uses cannot be bought in a retail store, and you must have a Ground Pesticide Applicator License to order it. For that matter, many homeowners do not properly mix the products they buy, making them practically useless. And since they’re not using commercial-grade products, chances are, most homeowners spend more money trying to cover their lawn adequately by themselves than they’d spend by using Skeeter Security’s services. “With us, you have experienced professional applicators who know the proper rates, and exactly where and how to apply products for the most effective coverage. We also guarantee our product for our customers who sign on for our season-long protection program,” Todd says. Skeeter Security has more fans than the Holtons of Winston-Salem. 8 •

“It really works! So we say two thumbs up to Skeeter Security.” - Patricia Blackwell of Lewisville

Owners (L-R) Todd & Dedra Chamberlain with son, Hayden

Patricia Blackwell of Lewisville is another satisfied customer. “We live by a stream, have a child and two dogs, so we were so excited when Todd told us that he was adding this environmentally safe mosquito service,” Blackwell says. “It really works! So we say two thumbs up to Skeeter Security.” The folks at Skeeter Security/Chamberlain Landscaping & Lawn Care are justifiably proud of the reputation they’ve earned after nearly twenty years of service to the Triad. “We built our business very slowly and steadily by word of mouth, with a focus on quality and customer service, rather than quantity and high-pressure sales,” Todd says. Contact Skeeter Security at 336-462-0835, or visit the company online at

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An Appalachian Summer Festival 2014 By Meghan E.W. Corbett ypically, unless you live in a big city like Los Angeles, Chicago, or even Charlotte, local festivals and fairs do not seem to draw the biggest names in entertainment. Most of us in North Carolina are used to headliners we have not heard of before and may never hear of again. Those who have attended Boone’s annual Appalachian Summer Festival, however, are used to the big names and the best in entertainment year after year!


“An Appalachian Summer Festival brings world-class entertainment in a setting that you can hardly believe is real,” said Marketing and Public Relations Manager for the Office of Cultural Affairs at Appalachian State University, Megan Stage. “The mountains of NC are a blissful place, and bringing performances to light up the mountain evening is icing on the cake to a great day in the High Country. Performers like Sheryl Crow and Matthew Morrison…you can see these artists in larger metropolitan markets…sure! But at the Appalachian Summer Festival, you can see them for a lower ticket price and add on a mountain adventure while you are at it!” This year marks the 30th anniversary of the festival, and each year, more and more tourists and residents take part in the many events throughout the summer. “It definitely brings a lot of visitors to the area, and I think the local community members love that,” said Stage. “There is a great energy that comes with the visitors to our area—excitement and love for the mountains and our town. It makes us appreciate everything we have here

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on a daily basis. This festival is something we hope the local community embraces as their own and is extremely proud of.” There is no single must-see event—everything is must-see, and there is always something for everyone to enjoy! “It is honestly hard to only be excited about a few things—the entire festival is exciting,” said Stage. “There is a certain excitement that comes along with an anniversary year. We are expecting the Schaefer Popular Series events to sell out as they typically do. Our hall is a good size, but with some of the artists we are bringing, it is selling out faster than usual! Call our box office and talk to our friendly box office attendants and reserve your seats now! Or you can now pick your seats online…either way…but get them quick!” This year, performers include Matthew Morrison from Broadway and “Glee” as well as Sheryl Crow, Nickel Creek and Michael McDonald. While tickets will sell out fast, it is important to buy your seats as early as possible! Those who come to the area can also enjoy all that Boone has to offer. “We can provide your evening entertainment, but it isn’t hard to find something to do during the day,” said Stage. “I’d suggest visiting or They have great suggestions!” An Appalachian Summer Festival officially kicks off June 28th. For more information, including videos, artist biographies, or to purchase tickets, visit, call 800.841.ARTS (2787), or email

An Appalachian Summer Festival 30th Anniversary Pilobolus July 3


Outdoor Fireworks Concert: Little Big Town June 28 Pilobolus July 3 Michael McDonald July 5 Eastern Festival Orchestra with Sir James Galway, flute July 6 Triad Stage: “All’s Well That Ends Well” July 10 Summer Exhibition Celebration at the Turchin Center July 11 Matthew Morrison July 12 Nickel Creek July 14 Dance Theatre of Harlem July 19 Sheryl Crow July 24 National Youth Orchestra with Gil Shaham, violin July 26

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The Missing Link

By Kelly Lewis, CPT


What can you do to improve YOUR core strength?

What is the core?

The good news is that it’s never too late to improve your core strength. There are many exercises that you can do that will make a big impact. My #1 suggested exercise is something called .

here’s no doubt about it…Core Strength is one of the most important aspects of fitness and, regrettably, it’s something most people lack. When I complete a fitness assessment on a new client, I often find that it is their core that needs the most work and attention. Many people are surprised to find that the core is more than just the “abs.” Our core actually includes the pelvic muscles; mid- and lower-back muscles, and even our hips.

Benefits of good core strength: Core strength is vital to our overall health and fitness. Improving your core strength will enhance your posture, spinal alignment and more. Some of the proven benefits include a decrease in lower-back pain, an increase in athletic performance and improved balance.

Plank is a tried-and-true staple for the core. The plank is so important because it provides strength benefits to many muscle groups all at the same time. It requires no equipment and very little space. To initiate plank, lie face down on the floor, positioning your elbows directly under your shoulders. Taking your body off the floor, squeeze your glutes and tighten your abs. Keep a neutral neck and spine. Your body should create a straight line from head to toe. Performing several sets of this key exercise each day will have you well on your way to achieving the core strength your body needs to function at its best.

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Signs that your core may be weak: Poor posture is a good indicator of a weak core. The muscles that make up your core aid in keeping your upper back and shoulders in a neutral position. When these muscles are weak, it usually results in “slouching.” When the core lacks strength, undue pressure is placed on the spine, causing pain and making you more prone to injury. A surprising result of a deconditioned core is an overall feeling of weakness in the body, particularly in the extremities. When the muscles are not able to stabilize the spine, it becomes more difficult to initiate movements needed for daily life.

I’d like to issue you a 30-day challenge… should you choose to accept it. Try holding plank for 15 seconds on day one and add 5 seconds to your time each day. By day 30, you will be holding plank for over 2½ minutes! You will be amazed at the impact that this simple exercise will have on your fitness level, and also on your overall quality of life!

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James Durbin from American Idol stopped in for a visit.

iCan HOUSE: A Place for Everyone quietly into a space on Fourth Street in downtown Winston-Salem, between a salon and a design studio, is a special place that has served countless people since its inception in 2008. But few people know the story behind it. This place, the iCan House, is a place that guides those with social interaction challenges by teaching them social and life skills in groups. iCan House uses a club-based model, whereby participants become members of a club and thus belong to it. Belonging and acceptance are something most have never before experienced. And with increased self-esteem and new skills, they are able to learn, enjoy life, make friends and have fun.


Every week 120 people come to the iCan House programs, many with differences that stem from the diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorders or Asperger’s Syndrome, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), or other developmental and social delays. However, because the focus is on behaviors, a diagnosis is not a required to participate. Founder and Executive Director Kim Shufran began the iCan House on seeing the need for such a place after her own daughter, Erica, was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome. Through the programs and services that the iCan House offers—such as social interaction skills training, independence building assistance, employment preparation guidance, as well as education for parents, family members and the community—these individuals are being given valuable tools to live an adult life while facing their differences. “We first meet people where they are and develop a human connection. Then, as they participate in the clubs and through our curriculum, they learn practical skills essential for employment and independent living. iCan House is a center of positive actions where lives are changed,” Shufran said. Programs at the iCan House serve participants from the age of 8 all the way through adulthood. They focus on what their clients CAN do, based on individual abilities and strengths. A positive approach is always taken, and their goal is to make all people feel successful and accepted. Their concept is an original one, and it promises to grow more and more, one person at a time. 14 •

Not Your Grandparent’s Band Concert. Join us for a true family experience. Come early and picnic, play colonial games, take a wagon ride, and visit with members of the WFU Athletic Department while listening to music from all eras. Dino's famous NY Hot Dogs and 25 cent ice cream cones available as well.

Concerts take place on the 2nd Tuesday June-October.

Celebrate America’s Independence with a day that will include a reading from the Declaration of Independence, Uncle Sam on stilts, colonial re-enactors, children’s games and activities (including a liberty pole), music by the Bethabara Concert Band, magician Vince McHenry, and performing at 4:30, the 208th Army Reserve Band.

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In Session: Attorney Carl Hearn is available for your legal needs By Karen Holbrook ttorney Carl Hearn’s practice covers a wide spectrum when it comes to services offered. Handling everything from traffic and criminal cases to the settling of small estates, Hearn stays busy.


Working out of his private office in Lewisville, Hearn is centrally located to serve clients in surrounding counties. “I regularly handle cases out of Forsyth, Yadkin and Davie counties,” said Hearn. He also takes on matters elsewhere on a case-by-case basis. Growing up in Norcross, Ga. and attending law school at DePaul University in Chicago, Hearn finds the small-town feel a very welcome change for him, his wife Joann and their two children. “We love Lewisville

“I like getting to know my clients and working with them to formulate their goals...” and being part of the community,” said Hearn. “I like getting to know my clients and working with them to formulate their goals and accomplish their objectives in an economically efficient manner.” Hearn attended law school after several years of real-world practical experience. After graduating from Lenoir-Rhyne University, Hearn worked as a parole officer and later worked in sales. “I started law school at the age of 30,” said Hearn. “I enjoyed law school. I treated it like a full-time job.” Hearn was also very fortunate to have a support system as he worked days on his studies; “my wife was very patient.”

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After passing the bar in Illinois, Hearn worked for a large Chicago firm. When he and his wife saw an opportunity to return to the south, they relocated to North Carolina where he practiced with a couple of firms. In 2011, Hearn set out on his own. “I’ve really enjoyed it,” said Hearn. Being a family man, Hearn appreciates the flexibility being a solo practitioner affords when it comes to what he values most. “If I need to leave the office to coach my children’s sports teams or attend a school function, I can and do,” said Hearn. Carl Hearn handles a variety of matters, including, but not limited to, traffic, criminal, family/domestic, business formation, estate, litigation and personal injury cases. Hearn’s law office is located at 6580 Shallowford Rd., Suite 100, in Lewisville, NC. For further questions, or to schedule a free consultation, Hearn’s office can be reached at 336-790-9651.

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FREE Summer Concerts by Salem Band s the school year winds down, the summer months are the perfect time to spend time with family and friends at one of the many local outdoor concerts. Be sure to mark your calendars for the four concerts in the Community Connections series this summer by Salem Band.


All of the Salem Band concerts are performed on historic Salem Square at Old Salem Museums & Gardens. Best of all, Salem Band’s concerts are FREE for everyone! “Salem Band was formed in 1771 and is one of the oldest bands in America,” Salem Band Music Director Eileen Young said. “Our summer Community Connections series promises to be lively, fun music for the whole family.” “We encourage all members of the community to join us at Salem Square for the free concerts,” Young added. “Be sure to bring a lawn chair or blanket. We’ll have hot dogs, gelato, and other refreshments by Wild Willie’s Wiener Wagon and Caffé Prada for sale at the concerts.”

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Salem Band begins its summer Community Connections series on Tuesday, June 3 at 7:30 p.m. with a “Dance!” concert featuring both the Salem Band and the Salem Swing Band. Guest dancers will include performers from the Piedmont Swing Dance Society. The concert will include soloists Mignon Dobbins, vocals and Eileen Young, alto saxophone. The free Community Connections series continues just two weeks later on Tuesday, June 17 at 7:30 p.m. with a Salem Band concert called “Movies and Musicals: Family Fun Night.” This concert is particularly good for all ages and includes music from the “Wizard of Oz,” “Wicked” and other beloved classic films. The “Movies and Musicals” concert also will feature costumed character appearances from Oz and Looney Tunes. What would a Fourth of July celebration be without patriotic music? Get in the spirit for the Fourth by joining Salem Band for its popular “Annual Patriotic Concert” on Tuesday, July 1 at 7:30 p.m. on Salem Square. The concert’s patriotic theme will honor American veterans

from the Winston-Salem area. Rain date for the concert is July 2 at 7:30 p.m. The final concert in Salem Band’s Community Connections series is on Tuesday, August 5 at 7:30 p.m. The series finale is a tribute to “The Old North State” and features Winston-Salem’s own Anita Cirba on trumpet and Charles Murph as guest conductor. The rain date for all Salem Band summer concerts – with the exception of the Annual Patriotic Concert – is August 19 at 7:30 p.m. Salem Band’s season sponsor is Pfaff’s Auto Glass with additional support from GGS Information Services and the Salem Congregation.


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To find out if this is the right step for your family, call to schedule a free assessment. Family sessions are a part of the treatment program, and highly encouraged. Old Vineyard accepts most major insurance including BCBS, Aetna, Cigna, United, Medicare, Tricare, and Medicaid for teens. Let us give you peace of mind. Our licensed therapists and registered nurses will give you additional information. Please call 336-794-3550 or visit us at


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Bed Rest: Part Two —Journey of an Infant Admitted to NICU By Lisa S.T. Doss

all for the cause” became our credo. Diagnosed with placenta previa, a condition which causes severe bleeding, I was placed on bed rest at week 31 to save not one life, but two. Doctors were preparing me for a preterm delivery and the probability that my son would be admitted in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit. Bed rest was not the only moment I surrendered myself to our credo; we also placed our preterm infant in the hands of professionals for seven days. Through personal Facebook posts, the nature of one experience can be shared.


despite the audible beeps and bright lights.

27th: Thrilled!!! Through an ultrasound, I was told our boy weighs five pounds. I have four weeks to go until week 36. We’re both doing well!

29th: Day 3: Our boy has been placed in a cradle! Amen! We're looking at seven days in the NICU. Discharge tomorrow; doctors have arranged for me to stay in the Ronald McDonald parenting room. So thankful!

28th: Doctors think our boy will be around seven pounds. NICU will not be his placement; rather, a level-two nursery (pending lung development.) The previa looked normal. I have a 5% chance of needing a hysterectomy. My next highlight is an ultrasound 13 days away. While 37 weeks is considered term, babies delivered earlier may have respiratory problems or lung failure; lack the ability to suck; become jaundiced; not be able to control their body temperature; and/or develop other complications due to a low birth weight. The NICU staff is well equipped to handle a NICU baby the moment of delivery. 14th: We have a delivery date. He will spend a minimum of four hours in the level-2 nursery, largely because I have gestational diabetes. In touring the NICU today, I was impressed. Every baby had their own cubicle. Many parents who live far from the hospital are unable to visit their baby or twins. I cannot imagine. At birth, our son weighed six pounds and ten ounces. Hours later, I was informed our son had developed neonatal respiratory distress syndrome and had been admitted to the NICU. He appeared so tiny. Connected to so many cords and a C-Pap machine, it was difficult to see his face. Wheeling closer, I wanted to touch him softly in hopes he would feel I—we—were with him. There are so many emotions in visiting a newly placed infant in the NICU. No connection of skin to skin or attempt at breast feeding; instead, we were on the exterior of the decision-making process in complete open trust! 28th: Day 2 in the NICU: We just spent an hour with our bonny lad. His breathing is labored, but he is alert and has good color. Nurses think he has great sucking abilities and should start eating tomorrow. I am so anxious to hold him! Delivering through cesarean, small movements result in a searing pain. Walking is the recommendation. Every step—perhaps only a ten-minute walk—was one step closer to a quiet peace in watching my son sleep,

30th: Day 4: Our boy's breathing tube and IV were removed when I walked in at 2 a.m. He has one last sugar test. 30th: The gamble failed. A second phototherapy light was added. His numbers increased in 24 hours from 15 to 18. 1st: Day 5: Today is a big day. One blood test taken at 7 a.m. determines whether we can go home. If not, our separation continues. My poor daughter has been without both of her parents long enough. 2nd: Day 6: The Bilirubin numbers have increased; so, one more day! We will be issued a phototherapy light. My daughter is having such a hard time. I hope she knows I miss her, too! 8th: Remember the movie While You Were Sleeping? I felt like I was tucked away in winter and walked out in the midst of spring. I feel a great freedom in being home. Most importantly, I'm getting to know my daughter all over again. Emotionally, we're both coping. I am trying to reassure her that Mommy IS home. I'm also adjusting to walking out the door with two children. I'm slowly getting there. As a mother, I experienced the joys of pregnancy, through IVF, three times, and the sorrow of miscarrying one child and a twin. Surviving my being hospitalized on bed rest for five weeks was a surrendering to God and faith that my husband, despite the added stress of responsibility and worry, would manage. Focusing on the birth continuously lifted our spirits. Experiencing the NICU perhaps prepared me for future complications. By only gaining two ounces that first month, it took time for our baby to enjoy feeding and remain wakeful for long periods. I stopped worrying after the third month. He was growing and impressing doctors. By the 11th month, he had transitioned into 24-month T-shirts! Our son arrived at his first birthday developmentally sound, progressing forward, and delighted to be eating cake!



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Be prepared this summer

By J. Sloan Manning, MD

Strains, sprains and broken bones

It was a long, hard winter, but now that summer is in full swing, families across the Triad are spending more time outdoors. With the increased activity level, you may want to take certain precautions so your day in the sun doesn’t end with a trip to urgent care or the emergency room. Now is a good time to think about prevention, first aid and what to do in case of accidents and injuries.

Summer sports mean an increased risk for muscle strains, joint injuries and broken bones. If you experience a muscle strain or joint sprain, rest the injured limb and apply ice as soon as possible to reduce pain and swelling. Repeat periodically for 10-15 minutes during the next 48 hours. You can also minimize swelling by keeping the injured limb elevated whenever possible and applying an elastic (ACE) bandage.

Water safety Swimming is the most popular summer activity, but it’s crucial to exercise caution and use good judgment about water safety.

If you suspect a fracture: • Do not move the person if the injury is to the neck or back. Call 911 immediately

• Swim in designated areas supervised by lifeguards, and always swim with a buddy.

• Keep the broken limb still, applying splints if needed.

• Never leave a young child unattended near water; teach children to always ask permission to go near water.

• Apply ice to minimize pain and swelling.

• If you go boating, wear a life jacket. Most boating fatalities occur from drowning. • Avoid alcohol use. Alcohol impairs judgment, balance and coordination; affects swimming and diving skills; and reduces the body’s ability to stay warm. Roughly half of all boating accidents are alcohol or drugrelated.

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• If the fracture causes the bone to protrude through the skin, apply gentle pressure to stop bleeding but do not attempt to push the bone back in. • Seek medical attention as soon as possible. Sunburn Sunburn causes reddened or pinkish skin that is tender and warm to the touch. Your best bet to protect your skin is to use sunscreen or wear protective clothing when you're outside. Look for sunscreen with sun protective factor

(SPF) 15 or higher, and both UVA and UVB protection. Reapply sunscreen if you stay out in the sun for more than two hours or after swimming. Wear a hat with a wide brim to shade the face, head, ears and neck. If you do get sunburn, remedies include cooling the skin with cool baths or wet towels and applying pain-relieving gels or sprays containing aloe vera. Keep sunburned skin out of the sun as much as possible while it is healing. If the sunburn is severe or affects a large portion of the skin, medical attention may be needed. Keeping a basic first aid kit handy with items such as sterile dressings, bandages and antibiotic ointment is a good way to be prepared for minor accidents this time of year. It will allow you to act quickly in case of an accident, but it will also give you a little peace of mind so you can focus on the activities you and your family enjoy. J. Sloan Manning, MD, is a family physician and medical director of Novant Health PrimeCare. PrimeCare offers dependable medical coverage for unexpected health needs, minor emergencies and family medicine. To view PrimeCare locations around the Triad, as well as wait times, or use our Hold My Place service, visit our website at

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Preparing Families for Emergency Situations By Lisa S.T. Doss we-inspiring stories are celebrated, liked, shared and openly discussed. We admire courageous youth who are able to respond appropriately to critical home situations. Parents, especially, take note and contemplate their own efforts. This reminds parents that children are listening to their safety warnings, and have the capability to participate, regardless of the frightening nature of the word “crisis.” Equally effectively, schools continuously revisit safety topics and practice drills throughout the year. How many families include their children in discussions about evacuations due to fire, or home crises involving cuts, burns and other accidents? While many of us have received professional training to act in an emergency, another instinct tends to take over when it is our own child. At times, instincts are conflicted, and, too often, panic occurs. With preparedness and a plan, parents can remain calm and help children who seek adult direction and reassurance.


Thinking Ahead Creating a plan is the first step for children, including, perhaps, those as young as five. With repetition across the years, young children will grow to become confident and more aware of safety practices. Similar to adults, children will react differently in moments of stress. Thus, it’s important to explain, especially to young children, why discussing situations openly and often will make everyone well prepared.

a pool. All parents should consider learning infant first aid for choking and child CPR, which covers children from one to eight years old. Emergency Planning and Preparation

Families can have open discussions about critical situations. Talking about each item in an emergency kit and its purpose, for instance, would be a beneficial practice. Place scissors and other sharp • In case of fire or a need to evacuate items, such as safety pins, in Ziploc bags, the home, is there a plan in place? and in a pocket for added protection. Are smoke detectors tested every How you pack alcohol wipes, medications six months? If not, place the task and ointments depends on the age of your on your yearly calendar. children. By packing the kit together, children can assist without feeling scared. • Where is the emergency kit located? Additionally, parents never know when How far does a family member need providing directions to a child may help to go to retrieve it? The kit needs to save precious time. be in a centralized location for easy access. If young children are in the Role-Play home, you might place it on a hook Situations involving cuts and blood, above the reach of little hands on burns, choking, or falls may need the inside of a closet or kitchen immediate attention, and most pantry. Emergencies occur during importantly, a well-planned response. road trips, too; therefore, consider Children need a way to eliminate their creating a small kit for each vehicle. fears and find reassurance during • Parents of infants can post on the confusing moments. One of the best ways refrigerator door helpful suggestions to discuss safety, for example, is to adapt in large clear print. and practice situations through role-play. • Babies and toddlers can choke on food or toys, become tangled in curtain cords, or accidently slip at

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• Create scenarios to help your child determine when to call 911, and how to answer specific informative questions.

• Not all situations occur where a parent is around the corner; therefore, choose examples which may include a grandparent, young siblings, a friend, or which occur outside, away from home. • For older children or teens, safety discussions can include situations occurring when parents are not at home. Role play would also resolve how to handle problems. Is there a neighbor that can be a “go to” person in special circumstances, such as losing power in the home or feelings of uneasiness? • With the help of your first aid kit, assist children in responding to minor injuries, such as bumps, cuts and sprains. A home emergency is an act-fast event. When plans are discussed among families, every participant has a role, even if the only job of a preschooler is to sit close to another sibling or parent. Thinking ahead has great advantages. Despite the time away from your family, a few hours in a CPR training course is an exceptional skill, useful when every second counts. Methodical planning, preparing and practicing will maintain that ultimate key word of keeping every member of the family “safe”!



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Summer Ailments By Dr. Suzanne Hilton and Dr. Aimee Lischke

ummer fun has just begun! Summer temperatures are here, and with them come summer pests and concerns that arise when we spend more time in the great outdoors!


Ticks: Ticks are pests during summertime. They transmit illnesses such as Rocky Mountain Spotted Fever, Ehrlichiosis, and Lyme Disease (especially in the New England States). We recommend checking all family members, including pets, after every hike, bike trip and other outside activities. Because ticks that transmit infection are very small (often pin-head sized), we recommend total body checks, including groin, underarms and ears. We advise tick removal as soon as possible after it is discovered. The risk of Lyme Disease transmission increases significantly after 24 hours of attachment and is even higher after 48 hours. In addition to timely removal, it is important to remove the tick completely. Ticks should never be handled with bare hands and should be disposed of immediately, or preserved in alcohol, if identification is needed. The most commonly recommended and successful tick removal method is manual extraction, using a blunt, medium-tipped angled forceps. It is important to remove the tick completely, including the mouth part. Twisting off the head should be avoided, because this may cause the tick’s body fluids to escape. We do not recommend using sharp forceps to squeeze the tick’s body, or petroleum jelly, gasoline, or lidocaine. Also refrain from using heat, nail polish, or alcohol. After the tick has been removed, we advise applying an antiseptic solution to the attachment site. If signs of infection develop, seek medical advice. Mosquitoes: Mosquitoes are another annoying insect. They can transmit West Nile Virus, which causes severe flu-like illness and meningitis/encephalitis (an inflammation of the brain). Avoid exposure to mosquitoes by covering exposed skin and using insect repellent with DEET. The AAP recommends DEET-containing products with concentrations of up to 30% for all ages, except for infants under the age of 2 months, who should not have DEET exposure at all. We do not recommend combination sunscreen and DEET products, because the repetitive application required for sunscreen leads to over-exposure to DEET. 28 •

Once you are bitten, we recommend the treatment of cool compresses and antihistamines, as well as anti-itching and anti-inflammatory medicines. Calamine lotion works well and topical steroid creams can be useful. Occasionally, reaction to mosquito bites can be severe enough to warrant medical attention and systematic steroids. Poison Ivy: Leaves of 3; Let Them Be. Poison ivy, poison oak, and poison sumac can cause a skin rash called allergic contact dermatitis. The red, uncomfortable, itchy rash often shows up in lines or streaks and may have blisters or hives. The rash is caused by oil. It is present in all parts of the plants, including the leaves, stems, flowers, berries and roots. Indirect contact with the oil by touching clothing, pet fur, sporting gear, or other objects that have come in contact with one of these plants also can cause the rash. The rash appears 8–48 hours after contact with the oil, but can occur from 5 hours to 15 days after touching the plant. The rash may continue to develop in new areas over several days, but only on the parts of skin that were exposed to the oil. The rash is not contagious and you cannot spread it to others. We recommend washing the exposed area immediately with soap and water, wet compresses and cool baths. We also recommend washing all articles of clothing and other items that may have come in contact with the oil. Antihistamines and calamine lotion may help relieve the symptoms, along with topical steroid creams. Severe rashes may require treatment by a doctor. The best way to prevent the rash is to avoid the plants. There are many wonderful ways to enjoy being outside this summer, and even more when we talk to the necessary precautions to remain safe! Make the most of all the long, warm days ahead by having a happy, healthy summer!

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Grow Your Own Garden By Melissa Dellinger, RD, LDN, Wake Forest Baptist Health

showers bring May flowers, and the days get longer. What more could one ask for than sunshine and flowers? How about juicy red tomatoes, cool green cucumbers and sweet orange carrots? Not only is spring a good time for flowers and trees to grow new life, it is also the perfect time to begin planning and planting an edible garden. Planting edible delights in your yard or on your porch is a great way to add color to your meals and snacks!


Now is the time to begin planning what you would like to grow. Seeds can be purchased from your local home improvement, hardware or grocery store. If you want to have a faster yield, purchase seedlings to be transplanted into your garden or a bigger planter for your porch. How to get started growing your own garden: Choose a planting guide to help you determine what grows best in your climate zone. Decide whether you want to start with seeds or transplants. 30 •

Begin planting outdoors after the last frost of the season.

it’s just fun to get your hands a little dirty and enjoy a nice afternoon in the spring sun!

Keep an eye on the forecast. If a frost warning is issued for your area, cover little seedlings and big pots with an old shower curtain, a tarp, light fleece blanket or newspaper. Move small planters indoors to protect them.

Try adding your freshly plucked tomatoes to a sandwich. Slice fresh bell peppers for your chicken stir-fry and even sprinkle the cilantro you’ve grown onto fish tacos. The convenience of having your own garden helps on those busy nights when you are running short on time and you aren’t able to get to the grocery store. You can simply walk out onto your patio and balance your family’s dinner plate by adding sliced cucumbers to your meal.

Know your local experts. Call the North Carolina Cooperative Extension when questions come up. If you don’t have yard space to grow a garden, think about growing these plants in pots: Carrots, Lettuce, Peppers, Tomatoes Herbs: basil, parsley, cilantro, rosemary, mint Growing your own garden is a way to get kids involved in meal planning and cooking. Kids are more willing to try these fruits and vegetables if they have helped to grow them in their family garden. Kids can help dig the hole for the seed or seedling, cover it with soil, and provide the water and love it takes to grow the seed into the edible fruit. The joy of life and creation is shared by people of all ages. Plus,

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A Memory is Worth a Thousand Words (Writing to Our Children) By A. Keith Tilley

, maybe it doesn’t have to be a thousand, but remembering our past through words can sometimes be just as rewarding as the pictures we take (think Bridges of Madison County, perhaps not the best example). It seems that since the advent of smartphones that include built-in cameras, along with Facebook and Instagram, chronicling our lives through pictures has become increasingly in vogue. And though the old saying goes, “A picture is worth a thousand words,” sometimes those words can mean so much more than the picture can.


Being a writer by heart and profession, when my wife and I decided to have our first child, I began journaling our experiences as we entered this new phase of our lives. To keep it manageable, I wrote my entries on a regular basis each month, recounting what we were doing, and identifying such things as what our jobs were, the issues we were tackling, and the thoughts that were going through our heads as we prepared to take this next step in our relationship and our lives together. This family journal has morphed into what amounts to an annual opportunity to reflect on the events of the past year within our family. I make small entries throughout the year, which makes it easier to remember things as they happen. I’ll note personal items such as our vacations; our children’s various activities; interesting things we did that year; notes about our extended family, when applicable; and, finally, newsworthy events that add a historical perspective and point of reference in time. You'd be amazed at the many interesting, sometimes comical, and oftentimes sentimental and nostalgic things we forget in just a short period of time. Reading the entries from years past takes us back to that time and reminds us of what it was like in that moment as our kids took their first step, spoke their first word, finished their first dance recital, or scored their first goal. And it doesn’t just have to be the highlighted moments. For instance, I like to remember funny things my kids have done along the way, books and movies they really liked, or cute habits they had. To each his own; you choose what you feel you’ll enjoy the most, looking back. For some of you the thought of taking on such an ongoing project might be too intimidating to consider. To those readers, might I suggest other options that better suit your interests, abilities and schedules? You might consider the art of simple letter writing. For instance, you could choose to write a personal letter to your child at the end of every year, not necessarily to the extent of the journal idea. Instead, you can be as specific or general as you wish. After all, it’s your letter and should reflect your own style, whatever that happens to be. You may also choose to write additional letters at specific milestones or events in their lives (for example starting kindergarten, high school, their first prom and so 32 •

on). Or it could simply be a letter written out of the blue at a time when you felt most compelled to convey your thoughts and feelings to them. You needn’t worry so much about sounding perfect. If the thoughts and feelings are genuine, that will come through in your writing, and the message will be received in a way that’s unique to you and your personality. Nor should the length be a concern. You should write as much or as little as you feel is appropriate to convey the message you want to send. Once you’ve completed the letters or journal it’s important to keep them in a safe place—one where someone else besides you knows where they are. Depending on what you’ve written, you may choose to keep it and give it to them at a later date, such as when they get married or are expecting their first child. Or, it may be something you think would benefit them right away to hear. Perhaps it’s just the medicine they need to get them through a trying time. Writing can also be a wonderful way to say the things that are difficult for us to express well in person. Regardless of what method you select, of this I’m certain—moments pass by quickly in time and memories gently fade like the wind. Therefore, anything we have that helps us rekindle those memories and moments in our lives that were both special and ordinary will forever be cherished. That goes for us, our children and our children’s children. Leaving behind a part of ourselves and a glimpse into the lives and nature of our children will help them remember and pass these on to the generations that follow us.

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You recently told me that you learned about the prophet Job in Sunday school. Job is a good example of what I’m talking about. He is subjected in a brief period of time to more loss, terror, heartbreak and physical ailments than your average person endures over the course of an entire lifetime. When his story opens, he’s living the good life. He has everything he needs and even all that he wants. In short, he’s a good guy living a good life and the last person who would ever say that life isn’t fair. Sure, he must have had neighbors who didn’t have enough…sheep or goats or myrrh…or whatever people needed back then. And he probably felt bad about their misfortune. Chances are, he even shared some of his surplus goods with his neighbors. Job strikes me as that kind of guy. Then, in a matter of days, everything Job has is gone. And what did he do to deserve such a fate? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. God wanted to prove Job’s faith in Him wasn’t contingent on Job’s successful life. Of course, I’ve always wondered why an omniscient God couldn’t simply have looked into Job’s heart and found his proof without subjecting Job to countless tortures, but…well, then we wouldn’t have much of a story, would we?

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By Justin Cord Hayes , I want you to know that you will hear a lot of people say that life isn’t fair. Well, they’re right. And they’re wrong.


Life changes all the time, and it’s unpredictable. When all is going well, that lack of predictability will make you happy. You’ll feel like you’ve won the lottery…heck, maybe you WILL win the lottery; that’s the epitome of unpredictability. During these times, you’ll think all the naysayers who claim life isn’t fair are just jealous haters. On the other hand, when life dips you into a trough, you might bewail your misfortune. You’ll think about how seemingly random acts led you to a dark place; or, you may want to beat yourself up because some of your actions had unexpected, negative consequences. This is when you’ll agree with the agonized Greek chorus bemoaning the injustice of existence. Like I said, son, Life is unpredictable. That’s actually what makes it great. If everything unfolded exactly as we’d like, then existence would become so predictable that it would be practically worthless. So, life will be unfair sometimes, and life will be uh-may-zing at others. Your job is to create within yourself a place of calm and inner peace that will add joy to wonderful times and that will insulate you from too much negativity during rotten times. 34 •

The stories in the Bible don’t always make rational sense, but that’s because they’re designed to make a point to their readers. The point of Job’s story is that misfortune can visit us at any time in any place and for any (or for no) reason. We can’t control that. That’s something you need to know about life, son, and I think it bears repeating. No matter how much we strive for success and contentment, forces beyond our control could assert themselves at any time and knock us to the ground. That’s why it’s important to focus on how Job responds to his misfortune. As he loses his wealth, his loved ones, his status, his health and his friends, he remains positive for a very long time. He has within himself a peacefulness that isn’t affected by outside forces. Yes, Job finally asks, “Why me?” God blasts him for that, going on and on about how Job needs to remember that he’s just a mortal and God is…God. But I don’t think you should focus on the fact that even Job finally loses his patience and serenity. No, you should focus on the fact that he endures his losses peacefully for so long. That’s what makes Job a man worth following, worth emulating, worth incorporating into yourself. Job endures. Job abides. That’s what I want for you, son. Yes, I want you to be very, very successful. But more importantly, I want you to be able to face life when it seems completely unfair. That’s the mark of a strong human being. That’s the man I want you to be.

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Small Stories for a Big World By Kim Underwood the end of the work day some years ago, a friend and I stepped out of the office on an early day in spring into the remains of what had clearly been a marvelous day.


Every year at this time, he said, he got depressed. How so? Working such long hours, he said, he would come out at the end of one spring day after another feeling as if he had missed the heart of the day. The beginning of each spring made him think about how, yet again, he was going to miss much of spring. Although you can still savor spring when you work, I could see what he meant. I feel something of that same sense of loss at the beginning of summer. When you’re a kid, summer brings the sense of freedom that comes with the end of school—the kids’ version of work. For the most part, you can do whatever you want. When you’re an adult, summer may bring a vacation. Mostly, though, you keep going to work. I imagine that, if I had lots of money, I would keep working—I would just find a way to take off two months during the summer. Some of my fondest memories of summer date from the days when we lived in a small town in West Virginia. A bank sat on a corner near my house, and, after supper, any kid who wanted would just show up there to play hide-and-go-seek. The game would go on until it was too dark to be fun. I liked that any kid who wanted to play did and that you could show up and leave whenever you wanted. Days offered plenty of fun possibilities, too. There was a vacant lot where kids gathered to play wiffle ball. Kids would come over to our house to play shuffleboard on the court that my dad had painted on our driveway. And our neighbors Artie and Andy Henderson had a badminton set.

Their mother would bake chocolate chip cookies and leave a plate of them on the counter. They could take one whenever they wanted. When we walked through their kitchen, they might pick up a cookie. They might not. That amazed me. As the member of a family with five kids, where any cookies that came into the house disappeared in an instant, it was all I could do to limit myself to grabbing two cookies from the plate. It wasn’t always my idea to be outside during the day. I liked to read and, left to my own devices, might read for hours on end in my room. I smile at the memory of my mother—having had quite enough of a son holed up in his room on a beautiful summer day—coming in, taking my book, pushing me out the front door and telling me that she didn’t want to see me again until it was time for supper. If no group activity materialized, I might ride my bike or search the neighborhood for empty glass soda bottles that I could turn in for the deposit. There was one summer when I really, really, really wanted a pair of flippers for swimming. That was the sort of luxury that, in our family, you didn’t just go out and get. You put it on your birthday list. I hated that my birthday was September 3rd, which, although it would mean that the flippers would be on sale, would be far too late in the season to do much good. When I told that story to Sparkle Girl and Doobins, they were quite sympathetic and offered to get me flippers for my birthday. I appreciated the thought, I said, but I no longer had any need for flippers. Garnet thinks that I should get a pair anyway and wear them around the house for the amusement of the family.

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The Mommy Diaries: Working Mom

hile I have dearly treasured my time home with Lucas, making the adjustment from a full-time working woman to a stay-at-home mom was not easy. I am highly energetic and independent, very goal oriented. All of a sudden my very structured work day became much more loosey-goosey, and there were no clear expectations; even caring for my son seemed to be a moving target, as his needs changed daily.


My days were no longer measured in assignments, checklists and products, but instead by the completion of laundry, cooking and caring for my child. As one friend said so accurately, “It’s a thankless job.” Cooking and housework are tasks that must be done over and over again. You are not recognized for a “job well done.” Your family only notices if these things don’t get done. As much as I deeply love my son, I was also challenged by feeling constantly on demand—no time for myself. In those early weeks, when I was home alone with my son, there were days I barely had time to use the bathroom or eat lunch. I also longed for adult conversations (that’s how my Mama’s group saved me!). However, as hard as it was adjusting to staying at home, I was so not prepared for the mixed feelings that surfaced once my time to return to work drew near. After visiting a daycare facility several weeks before I returned to work, I cried all the way home. I had spent the last 10 weeks, day-in and day-out, with my son. What was it going to be like to be away from him for nearly 9 hours a day? Would he miss me? Would he cry? How would he handle it? How would I? The week leading up to my return to work, I was a mess. My anxiety snowballed. I was so nervous about the unknown. How would I get out the door? How could I possibly find time to pump milk during a hectic school day? Was I going to get any sleep? These fears churned inside my brain. Surprisingly, my return to work went much smoother than I had imagined. My husband adjusted his schedule to care for our son two days a week, and my sister-in-law (a super stay-home mother of three) came the first week to help us through this transition. I found that waking up a little earlier to get ready was not half as bad as I had anticipated, and my colleagues pitched in and offered to watch my class so I could pump at work. I won’t sugar-coat it and say it has been seamless. I really missed, and still miss, my son, and he is still getting used to the bottle instead of the boob. My days are long, and I feel super tired by the end of the day. However, I have adjusted to my new schedule and routine much quicker than I had anticipated. The truth is, it’s also nice to have a bit of a break. 38 •

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I can check my e-mail without getting up, actually eat a meal for more than five minutes, go to the bathroom without worrying. The best part is that I am so excited to see my son at the end of the day. I feel like I am refreshed as a mom and ready to jump in and spend quality time with him when I arrive home. One thing is for sure, there is no harder job than staying home with your kids. Not only is it the most important job you will ever have, it’s also the most exhausting. But I am comfortable with my decision to be a working mother. It’s what is right for me, and I think it actually makes me a better mom for my son. However, I will never regret those first three months we spent together, and I look forward to spending my summer months with him, and many hours of play with him to come. 04-03-14 Dear Baby Lucas, You are growing by leaps and bounds. I can’t believe that your 3-month ou tfits are getting too tight. You are just too long for them already! I wo nder how tall you will be when you grow up? The most magical thi ng this month is yo ur wonderful smile. W hen the corners of yo ur mouth turn up and into tha t precious grin, my heart just melts. It brings me and your father so m uch joy to know that we can m ake you so happy. I am still amazed at how profou nd my love is for yo u. It just keeps growing and gr owing. I feel so fortunate to have spent these last two-anda-half months with you, and I am sad to lea ve you in two weeks to return to work. I know you wi ll miss me, and I will certainly miss you. Please kn ow tha t if I could clone myself an d be in two places at once, I would. No job is as important as being your mom, and I will do my bes t to give you the most quality time I can when we ar e together in the eveni ngs and weekends. Continue to grow in Always, Mom

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summer vacation. I see you are back, you Minx. I know you are allpopular and everyone loves you. I get it. You are all hot and steamy and fun with your sunshine and your maxi dresses. But like every great have your faults. Like no school. And lots of sweating. And lots of hours to fill with entertaining a twoyear old. You roll in and get everyone worked up into a lather and we are all excited for pool time and beach trips and tans. But then you stick around. And a few weeks in, we are all just sitting around, staring at our kids, remembering why we “heart” Winter so much.


It is not that I don’t love my child. But when you come around, it’s all Honey Badger and Mommy, all the time. There is no two-mornings-aweek break. There is no time to enjoy a trip to the Teeter alone. There is no time to sit and sip a cup of coffee with a little Facebook and Today Show. There is no using the bathroom alone. Seriously, bathroom time, originally designed to be a solo process, becomes a round-table discussion when there is a two-year-old involved. And I don’t love that. That doesn’t make me a bad person. Summer, you have officially arrived, and I am not entirely pleased to see your sunny disposition and glowing face. Yes, there will be family time and lots of fun. Yes, I will have a great time on vacation and 40 •

playing outside. But there will also be lots of long days. Filled with a hot, sticky two-year-old who is constantly “jonesing” for popsicles and to be carried. Worst combination ever. There is potty training to start and a big-girl bed to transition to. There are changes afoot and they will be emotionally trying, and I am certain will involve a fair amount of poo on my couch. When I see the back of you, heading out to be replaced by Fall, I will have a little girl on my hands, not a toddler. And I can’t say I totally love that either. I can’t stop you, I can only brace for what you bring. Which I hope will be lots mornings at the pool and lots of long naps in the afternoon. I will try to look past the 100% humidity, public-venue timeouts, and the peeing on the floor that you will inevitably bring. Happy thoughts of Fall, that cool lady, will keep me going. Thea is also the author of her personal blog The Lint Trap (

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By A. Keith Tilley

My 15th Anniversary of Fatherhood– The Times, they are A-changing ive years ago, I wrote a story entitled “The First Ten Years – A Father’s Day Reflection” (Forsyth Family, June 2009) in which I envisioned what the next ten years would bring. I’m five years farther along now, and unquestionably the times, they are a-changing. My oldest child, who was once a sweet little ten-year-old boy who enjoyed spending time with his dad playing video games and shooting hoops, suddenly has decided he’d rather do anything but. As he struggles through the difficult teenage years between boyhood and man, a part of him, you can tell, still relishes those familiar moments. Yet an even stronger part is telling him he must pull away and begin to assert his independence. It’s the evolution of life, I guess. My other once seven-year-old child is now in middle school and dealing with his own life changes. Middle schoolers these days are different than when I grew up. They deal with a lot more mature matters than I ever had to contend with. Although he still has time for dad you can feel the strings loosening, little by little with each passing year.


Watching my children grow up is such an interesting journey. When your children are very young, you just hope that you’ll do all the right things to help them be the best they can be for themselves and their friends, family and the community around them. As time passes, you quickly realize that doing all the right things is a lot harder than you expected. Your intentions can be good, but there are so many variables that get in the way of doing everything right. So, in the end, you realize, as the old saying goes, “The best laid plans of mice and men often go astray.” (Quote from Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck.) All is not lost however, because in spite of what obstacles and challenges life throws at you when you are trying to raise your children the best you can, when you get the opportunity to witness how well they turn out, it’s a rewarding experience you can be immensely proud of. With that in mind, as I look at my oldest son who’s in high school now, I’m very pleasantly surprised at just how good a young man he’s turning out to be. I’m not just speaking of mere accolades, but more in regard to his true character. I wish I could take credit, but I know that he genuinely has a good heart and he lets his heart guide his actions. He has patience beyond anything I’ve ever had in my life. He always sees the good in situations and people, and has a way of viewing even the 42 •

most frustrating events as just a normal part of life, making it easier for others to accept. When he was little, he always intrigued me by his good nature, but now that he’s grown into a teenager, I’m actually starting to learn as much from him as he does from me. This is an interesting part of the parenting journey you don’t anticipate. Whatever future lies ahead of him, I hope he uses his sincere spirit and optimistic outlook on life to help others. I think he can truly make a difference in other people’s lives in a positive way. When it comes to my younger son, there are no fewer surprises. He has this magnetic personality that just seems to draw people to him. It doesn’t hurt that he is without a doubt the funniest person in our family. It’s ironic, because when he’s at school or out in public he is very much an introvert and shies away from attention. Yet at home, he can literally crack improvisational one-liners that rival the style of a Rodney Dangerfield or Don Rickles. Even as a little child he would make me laugh out loud at his creative comebacks. For example, there was the time when, after struggling with finding ways to get him to cooperate in taking his afternoon nap, I resorted to giving him advance warnings. One day I asked him, “Okay, you’ve got 5 minutes before it’s time to take a nap. So what do you want to do with these 5 minutes?” He responded, “Make ‘um longer!” Then there was the time when he left his clothes on the floor of his room, and I told him to clean up his mess, and he immediately retaliated that his brother had clothes on the floor in his room. I said that I didn’t care about his brother at the moment, that I only cared about him. To which he replied, “Oh, that’s so nice of you, Dad.” So, as I arrive at my 15th anniversary of parenthood, the words of Bob Dylan ring in my head, “Come mothers and fathers throughout the land, and don’t criticize what you can't understand. Your sons and your daughters are beyond your command. Your old road is rapidly agin’. Please get out of the new one if you can’t lend your hand. For the times, they are a-changin’.”

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V’s Barbershop – Where Traditional & C ontemp orar y Me et By A. Keith Tilley


here was a time not that long ago, relatively speaking of course, when a young man’s trip to the barber shop was a sort of rite of passage. It represented that he was growing up, becoming a “little man.” Before then, mom would always cut his hair and he would look forward to the day when he could sit in the big leather and chrome chair and listen to the barber shop chatter as his hair was groomed to resemble the style of someone much older than he was. This was a special time, indeed, and it’s not surprising, considering that, historically, a man’s visit to the barbershop has always been a very macho thing to do. That’s right, the barbershop has always been a special place for men to be men, do what men do, and talk about what men talk about. As time has passed, the traditional barbershops have slowly slipped away, like relics of a bygone era, and been replaced with salons that cater more to the feminine sex. That’s why, to have one in your hometown is such a special treat. Then, if you are lucky enough to also have one that looks and feels like the original barbershop style, but with contemporary updates that fit the era we live in today, it’s truly a special find. Lucky for us, we’re fortunate that on Knollwood Street in Winston-Salem there is such a place. V’s Barbershop opened its doors in April of 2013 and has been providing men in this area that special place that reminds older gentlemen what it used to be like, and provides younger gentlemen the opportunity to experience their own rite of passage, just like in the old days. Photos By One Shot Photography June Issue 2014 • 45


nce you step inside V’s, you immediately know the difference. It is a nice place with a great ambience. A place you want to call ‘your barbershop’—one filled with great aromas and lots of hot towels. Of course, we are one of the few shops that offer old-fashioned hot lather shaves, shoe shines and even an awesome facial.” So he opened up his shop at 380 Knollwood Street in Winston-Salem and gave it his own personal flair. Thinking of the features he liked best in his own experiences, he wanted to incorporate those unique and special touches, making his shop not just traditional, but a step above. You feel it as soon as you walk through the doors. History, combined with a touch of extravagance and bonus amenities, that let you know immediately you’re in for a treat.

Adam Thomas is the owner of V’s and he couldn’t be happier with the response he’s received from the community for his traditional and exceptional service. One visit to V’s and you’re hooked. It makes the experience of a haircut or shave take on a whole new meaning. Adam didn’t start out in this business. After graduating from high school and attending Georgia State University, he took a job with Amana Refrigeration and began a career that would span 15 years. Having grown up in the small town of Austell, Georgia, a suburb of Atlanta, and gone to the local barbershop as a child, he always had fond memories of that time in his life. Then, in late 2012, Thomas states, “I was semi-retired and looking for a new opportunity and learned of this franchise.” It incorporated all the things he remembered fondly as a child and more. “Once I found this, it reminded me of days gone by, when I went to the barber shop with my dad, and that was a guy thing to do. It was cool to me then, and still is today.”

As you enter the shop, you immediately notice the black-and-white diamond-shaped flooring. The walls that surround you are classically painted in emerald green and taupe on top, and accented with a brick veneer below, with dark wood trim. They're adorned with a wide variety of enduring photographs of various sports legends, like Johnny Unitas, Joe Namath, Bart Starr and Terry Bradshaw. There’s also a renowned picture taken of one of the famous Muhammad Ali and Joe Frazier bouts; baseball legends, including Babe Ruth; basketball highlight photos and too many more to mention. Local favorites Wake Forest and Winston-Salem State are well represented on the walls, along with UNC and Duke. The lighting includes classic chrome fixtures with green shades and old-style ceiling fans that provide a gentle cool breeze from above. No less than five flat-screen HD televisions hang on the walls, allowing each patron to see just what they want to see. Note for younger customers: they even show ageappropriate cartoons to keep them entertained during their experience. Each station consists of cherry wood with granite tops, complimented with plush, thick, rich leather barber chairs with chrome accents and footstool attached. No doubt, this is even better than you remembered it being in the old days. Everything about this place speaks of class and casual elegance, even down to the soft, contemporary jazz music that surrounds you, the burgundy capes emblazoned with V’s insignia and the old-fashioned red-white-and blue-striped barbershop light that hangs on the back wall. Thomas describes it this way: “Once you step inside V’s, you immediately know the difference. It is a nice place with a great ambience. A place you want to call

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‘your barbershop’—one filled with great aromas and lots of hot towels. Of course, we are one of the few shops that offer old-fashioned hot lather shaves, shoe shines, and even an awesome facial.” Thomas adds, “We are fortunate to have a great staff of both male and female Master Barbers with many years of experience.” And their services are second to none, including haircut styles ranging from traditional to the latest trends, and a complimentary hot lather neck shave and relaxing shoulder massage to top off the experience. They have individual and packaged services that include shampoo, straight razor shaves, beard and moustache trims, facials and facial massages, and shoe shines. There’s even a Big Day package for grooms and groomsmen that includes many of the services mentioned and completes the experience with a complimentary cigar. They use only the finest products like American Crew, The Art of Shaving, Jack Black, Lucia Bay and more. You can make an appointment, and walk-ins are always welcome—after all, this is your personal barber we’re talking about here. Now, as for the experience itself, that’s something you’ll have to try first-hand. But I can give you a little taste of what it’s like. If you have never had a straight razor shave, then you simply must give it a shot. The process involves first preparing your skin with the hot towels Thomas spoke of earlier. Next, a variety of different solutions are applied to the skin to both soften and prepare it for a clean, close shave. After the

frankly, wake you up from your experience! You awaken from this peaceful, relaxing experience feeling refreshed and ready to take on the rest of your day. Imagine, with that type of remarkable experience from the shave, just how calming and tranquil the full facial would be like. Having a rough morning? Try calling ahead and scheduling a shave or facial during lunch to relieve your stress and prepare you to take on the afternoon with renewed enthusiasm. It only takes about thirty minutes, and it can truly make your entire day, believe me. V’s celebrated their one-year anniversary in April, and it is a milestone that Thomas sincerely appreciates. “We have been very blessed and have had the opportunity to serve over 1800 clients thus far, and we’re always looking to welcome new customers.” Reflecting on the past year, Thomas says, “I have always enjoyed retail and the interaction with people. We get to meet some great people and get to know them and their families. We look forward to watching the kids we’re servicing now grow up to be successful in their own right.”

shave, more hot towels are applied to your face to clean any remaining shaving cream and residue from the surface. Then, more delicate skin solutions are gently rubbed into the skin to soothe the surface while cleansing the pores and providing a soft, relaxing facial massage at the same time. Finally, one last hot towel is applied to cleanse off any excess, and you finish up with a cool towel to close the pores—and, quite

V’s Barber Shop also received some very special recognition in their first year when they were announced as the official barbershop of the Winston Salem Dash. V’s has also partnered with the Dash in their “Dash for Cash” program,

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Educational Summer Fun with Your Preschooler By Lisa S.T. Doss it too early to whisper the phrase “summer vacation” yet? Looking at the calendar, the anticipated event is, in fact, right around the corner. Parents often wonder how to maintain educational standards for the youngest members of the family during the summer. Two-, three-, and four-year-old children are learning something new every day! Yes, age and maturity are factors! Continuous exposure, repetition and practice will also influence a child’s preparedness. Summer is a great time to take advantage of the season to provide high-interest and creative educational activities for your eager preschooler!


Outings The “family field trip” would be a wonderful get-away at least twice a week. The Piedmont Triad and surrounding communities have exceptional opportunities for young children at interactive museums, farms, libraries, and zoos; state parks and playgrounds; and community gatherings where children can socialize and play. Turn to the back of the magazine to find this month’s “Calendar of Family Events.” The monthly Forsyth Family Magazine "Kid's Morning Out" event is an exceptional opportunity to socialize young children. This month, join everyone at Old Salem on Monday, June 16th from 10a.m. to noon! Environmental Exploration Some of the greatest discoveries occur during a hand-in-hand walk through the neighborhood or park. Young children often show great interest in learning about bugs, birds, flowers, water, and aspects of gardening, to name a few things. Whether or not your child can say,

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“Wow!” hands-on education is important. There are endless possibilities right outside your door, such as: Planting sunflower or watermelon seeds. Collecting items from your excursions. Together, you can count; compare sizes, shapes and colors; and trace objects. Afterward, assemble objects or drawn pictures in a hand-made book. Children can expand their understanding of our environment and their visual vocabulary, too. Two-year-olds may enjoy watering and digging in a garden; however, older children have the dexterity to plant and cover seeds, water and collect the harvest. Why not make an ant farm or hatch butterflies this summer? Creative Activities While independent and social play is vital to a preschooler’s progression, parents can help children engage in activities which emphasize hand-eye coordination, motor skills and creativity. Make a homemade bubble solution and wands out of pipe cleaners. Lay a rope in a zigzag pattern and ask how many ways a child can go over it. Create an “Etch-a-Sketch” by placing a small amount of sugar in the bottom of a glass dish. Children can practice writing numbers or letters, or drawing shapes. Learning about parts of the body can be achieved through tracing. One activity can be to dress the paper bodies according to weather conditions and/or season.

Make musical instruments out of recyclable materials. Illustrate symmetry with finger paint, play “Pictionary” with sidewalk chalk, or teach feelings by making faces with play dough. Literature Two-year olds will show an interest in numbers, shapes, animals, letters and anything else that captures their attention. By taking a “picture walk,” this great pre-reading activity lends itself to pointing out the pictures on the page and identifying “known” letters or numbers. Three-and-four-year olds will start memorizing words, phrases, and reciting them during baths and car trips. This should not come as any surprise; you have only read Michael Rosen’s We’re Going on a Bear Hunt a thousand times in the past three years! While preschoolers love listening to a story, their favorite books encourage participation. For instance, P.D. Eastman's book Go Dog Go emphasizes directional prepositions, sizes and colors. By pointing directionally or at particular objects, you are allowing your child to verbalize words such as “up” or “down,” “blue” or “green.” Dr. Seuss books, for example, have plenty of opportunities for parents to allow their child to finish a sentence or read entire pages, just by pointing to the pictures on the page. This practice gives preemergent readers the confidence to believe they can read. Through crafts, imagination, and games, preschool-aged children can continue to expand their understanding of concepts in that giant world around them. Yes, play dress up, catch fire flies, build forts and make sand castles. The educational and developmental possibilities are truly endless!

Ages & Stages My Toddler is a Carnivore?!? Stacy Leighton all toddlers bite other toddlers, but many do. This can strike fear in the hearts of parents of young children. Whether your child is the offender or the offended, there are some things we ought to know to help ease our anxiety, such as why they do it and what we can do to help curb this behavior. Let’s begin by understanding that this is developmentally appropriate, even if undesirable. For toddlers this is NOT aggression; think of it as assertion.


There are reasons for this, and YOU are likely not one of them. As good parents we try to make sense of it. “I don’t bite my child—where did they learn this?” Most don’t learn it. These thoughts can snowball if we’re not careful. A parent once said to me, “Was it something I ate when I was pregnant? We are not an aggressive family,” she pleaded. “Her brother never bit.” Stop this train, I want to get off! Breathe easy, there is nothing “you” did, but there is plenty you can do. Everything will all be all right. These children will grow into healthy, happy, productive adults. Few children graduate from college still biting their friends. Toddler biting is typically an emotional expression that they cannot yet express verbally. They might feel tired, hungry, or overwhelmed. It could be a spontaneous reaction to teething pain or frustration with a friend or family member. In some (rare) cases it could be a learned behavior. Families and caregivers need to work together for the biting child and the others. Before it happens… • Observe the child and the climate to determine if we can predict when biting is most likely to occur • Maintain routines and schedules; this helps us to self-regulate • Alter the environment; remove overwhelming stimuli, provide quiet, cuddly spaces for sleepy children • Provide close supervision to prevent biting • Utilize distraction/redirection techniques • Provide something they CAN chew on to ease discomfort (not keys or food; example: a washcloth fresh from the fridge or freezer, teething rings, etc.…) If biting does occur… • Stay calm, firm and clear; remember, these children are too little to be considered “aggressive” 50 •

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High School Learning to Drive By Vonda Henderson box, causing the broomstick to rock. He’d give me a stern look and tell me I’d just hit the other car. After three or four of these episodes—since I always hit one or both boxes with the same comment each time—I’d be crying, and he’d be completely frustrated and exasperated. I’m sure he was convinced I’d flunk my driver’s exam.

that magical day you took your first driving lesson? I bet you can recall it like yesterday. Oh, how long you’d dreamed of driving a car! Your perspective on that momentous occasion is most likely extremely different than your parents’ assessment. I found during my learning-todrive experience that there was a tremendous difference in the driving instructions and attitude between my parents. Perhaps this is yet another Mars versus Venus situation. Let’s take a few moments to explore this.


My Dad took the job of teaching me to drive extremely seriously. Let me say, he did not take kindly to my boyfriend stepping in to provide his driving experience. One man in the equation was quite enough, and he made that crystal clear. It was his job and maybe my mom’s as backup. Back in those days, stores were usually closed on Sundays, so those empty parking lots were my afternoon classrooms. Bless his heart; Daddy tried so hard to teach me to parallel park. For weeks, we’d go up to the parking lot and he’d set up two boxes with broom handles sticking out, spaced with enough room between them to park. He’d do a few parking examples with me watching either inside or outside the car to get a good idea of what I needed to do. He made it look so easy. When it was my turn, well, let’s just say looks are, and were, deceiving. There was nothing easy about it. I forgot everything, and he spent a week’s worth of patience and then some. I’d get started backing and hit the 52 •

Ok, now to lessons with my Mom. She was so relaxed and easy-going about this whole process. We’d go over to the local softball field where, for some reason, there was a driveway around the entire field. She’d let me drive a few times around with her in the car. Then she’d go sit in the bleachers and let me drive alone. I always thought that she had such confidence in my ability, but in hindsight, maybe it was her self-preservation kicking in. Anyway, she took a definitely more relaxed approach. When it was my turn to teach my daughter to drive, I will admit I was more like my Dad than my Mom. But, I mostly chickened out and hired a driving school to do the in-car teaching. I am, and have always been, a terrible passenger, so I knew my instincts to embed my nails in the dashboard would not help in teaching or building any sort of confidence. Now, my daughter drives a fivespeed and can parallel park with ease. I’m proud of her. I can’t drive a five-speed. And, I still can’t parallel park.

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Winston-Salem Natives Win Best Local Film Award By Kristi Johnson Marion Photo by Jessie Judge

growing up in Winston-Salem, Moriah Thomason and Amber Adams never met during their time here. Instead, they were destined to meet eastward in Wilmington, NC, where together Adams formed the Cape Fear Dance Theatre and Thomason became the Dramatic Arts Director. Cape Fear Dance Theatre is a physical theatre and “dance-on-film” company that produces films that screen locally at events, theatres and restaurants.


“We approach our performance and film work through a humanistic lens while spotlighting the physicality of storytelling on film,” said the company’s artistic director, Amber Adams. Adams studied ballet and contemporary dance at the University of North Carolina School of the Arts here in Winston-Salem, before going on to receive her BFA in Ballet, Theatre and Film Studies from Marymount Manhattan College. Moriah Thomason began dancing in Winston-Salem at the Academy of Dance Arts and later at the Triple

Threat Dance Center. An actress as well as a dancer, Thomason’s second home was the community theatre scene in Winston. Thomason went on to study physical theatre in Italy and received her BFA in Acting from Boston University. The Film Weight Their latest physical theatre film project, Weight, just premiered at the Cape Fear Independent Film Festival, where it won Best Local Film. The film was written by Thomason and inspired by her favorite novel, The Things They Carried, by Tim O’Brien. The book and the film focus on the experiences of a band of soldiers during and after a war. “We believe film is a learning tool that can hold a magnifying glass up to the intimate details of life and make people think, and inspire discussions and questions,” explained Thomason. Hopes are to submit the film in film festivals like RiverRun International Film Festival here in Winston-Salem and Sundance Film Festival, among others. Classes Cape Fear Dance Theatre offers classes for all ages through community outreach and various schools around Wilmington, NC, as well as pilates, yoga, and barre fitness classes. Cape Fear Dance Theatre is located in Wilmington, NC. Contact them via email at, or by calling (917) 828-1544.

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Sharing 35 Stories to Help Tell Ours By Ann Gauthreaux

aden, Miriam, Tricia, Ben, Vonda, and Marketia. It is my privilege to introduce you to these six gracious people who all have one thing in common —a connection to Hospice & Palliative CareCenter. They represent 35 people who are sharing part of their story, so that you might better understand ours.


2014 marks Hospice & Palliative CareCenter’s 35 years of service to our community, and yet, after caring for generations of families, there are still many people who don’t fully understand the benefits of our care. Perhaps by reading some of the 35 stories we are sharing, you will get to know us better and know where to turn if you or a loved one is ever in need. As the first hospice in the state, we admitted North Carolina’s very first hospice patient in 1979. It must have been a leap of faith for them to reach out at such a vulnerable time. After all, hospice was a new approach to healthcare at end of life. The movement was just beginning nationally and in North Carolina. It changed

“My favorite part about Camp Carousel was when we tied the note to the balloon and let it go. My note said, ‘I miss you and wish you were here.’ But my grandpa is in a better place now and I accept that and feel better.” - Jaden Pledger

the way people thought about living their final months. Hospice care was a new alternative that offered patients a choice to embrace quality of life rather than enduring futile treatments and dying in hospitals. Hospice made it possible for patients to be at home, with holistic care designed to support them and their family—medically, emotionally, socially and spiritually. As we commemorate our 35th year, we remind our community that when curative treatment for serious illness is no longer effective, there is still much we can do. That’s why Hospice & Palliative CareCenter exists. With Hospice, you can embrace hope. Hope to live fully and comfortably at home, making lasting memories with those who matter most. This was the guiding principle 35 years ago, and it remains the same today. Sitting knee-to-knee and hearing their stories has been a gift. I’ve been touched by their strength and resiliency, and I’ve been reminded why I so eagerly wanted to join this organization 20 years ago. We chose to commemorate this milestone with one primary goal: to share the stories of 35 people who know first-hand what it feels like to reach out to Hospice & Palliative CareCenter, so that you get to know us better. Please don’t hesitate to reach out for help, hope and support—we are just a phone call away. 58 •

“I was growing very tired of watching people who were nearing the end of their life being filled with fluids and doing CPR on them. I decided I was ready for a change and wanted to help make people comfortable at home in familiar surroundings. Working for Hospice allows me to do what I love— caring for people.” - Tricia Zylstra

“My first call was to Hospice. They helped me through the entire process. Our Chaplain spoke Spanish—and even though the others didn’t, mom was very comfortable with them. I felt like I could pick up the phone and call day or night. They were always there for me—until the last moment. They are there when you need them the most.” - Miriam Hernandez

“I am grateful to Hospice that we were able to fulfill my father’s wishes of being at home. And for honoring my father’s final wishes to be with his family. He was at peace knowing we were there for him—and that Hospice was there for all of us.” - Vonda Henderson

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The Betty & Jim Holmes Food Bank Garden By Kristi Johnson Marion is a gorgeous little piece of country smack-dab in the city of Winston-Salem, complete with barn, horses, llamas, chickens and a community garden with a distinct purpose: The Betty and Jim Holmes Food Bank Garden at The Children’s Home on Reynolda Road.


A community garden is a garden where people join together to garden—a shared green space that is planned and maintained by community members for the use and enjoyment of the entire community. Volunteers manage this particular community garden and the harvests primarily benefit Second Harvest Food Bank of Northwest North Carolina. Sowing the Seeds of the Garden The Garden began in 1998 by James Holmes Jr., who had previously served as the chairman of The Children’s Home board. “The way this got started,” explained James Holmes, III (Jim), the son of founders Jim and Betty Holmes, “is one day Dad and I were riding down Reynolda Road and he looked over at The Children’s Home property and said, ‘Isn’t it a shame that we can’t cultivate some of that property and give the food to poor people.’ I was participating in a program called Leadership North Carolina at the time. One of my classmates was Nan Griswold, who was Executive Director of the Northwest NC Food Bank.” Jim agreed with his dad and connected him with all the right people to get the Garden going at The Children’s Home. Although many of the early volunteers were from Centenary United Methodist Church, Mr. Holmes was always adamant that this was a community garden and welcomed many other groups to come and cultivate the Garden. Now the volunteer base has grown to include many other churches, a synagogue group, students from universities and grade schools, businesses and individuals. Over the years, four generations of the Holmes family have been involved in some aspect of the Garden.

How the Garden Grew Patsy Dwiggins and Ellen Kirby work together as co-coordinators of the garden. Patsy has been a volunteer and coordinator for many years. Ellen returned to Winston-Salem to retire after she directed the community horticulture program at Brooklyn Botanic Garden in New York City. The Food Bank Garden was a perfect volunteer activity for her. The Betty & Jim Holmes Food Bank Garden has moved from its original location and expanded to cover three acres at The Children's Home. In 2013 the Garden contributed nearly 7,000 lbs. of fresh produce, primarily to Second Harvest Food Bank of Northwest NC. It is part of a growing movement in Forsyth County to address food insecurity for many of its citizens. The Garden, now bursting each summer with tomatoes, peppers, okra, squash, watermelons, cantaloupe, beans, cabbage, broccoli, collards, greens, cucumbers, zucchini and sweet potatoes, needs more hands to help in the harvest in this growing movement to address food insecurity in our community. Volunteers Needed Volunteers are needed to plant, water, fertilize, hoe, weed, harvest, etc. Starting in June, the harvesting will take place three times a week. Individuals, families and their children are welcome during garden workdays Mondays and Wednesdays, 5:30–7:00 p.m., and Saturdays, 9:00–10:30 p.m. Individuals do not have to sign up, just show up. Children and youth are always welcome in the garden while accompanied by an adult. Some of the crops that children enjoy picking are okra, tomatoes, bell peppers and sweet potatoes and beans. Youth and teens are especially helpful in also picking watermelons and cantaloupes. Working in the Garden is a wonderful, unique outdoor family experience to see how crops are grown and picked, and a great opportunity to serve others.

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better way to start your summer in June than with all What the fun things going on at SciWorks? Here’s just a few to make sure you don’t miss out… Design, Build and Be an Engineer in Tech City Solve the real-world problems faced by engineers with the new Tech City traveling exhibit at SciWorks. Opening June 14th, this exciting exhibition highlights the engineering behind so many of the structures and functions in our daily lives—from buildings and bridges to traffic intersections and gravity dams. Visitors who enter Tech City will learn about the engineering process of designing, building, testing and modifying. Twelve highly interactive exhibit stations use hands-on activities and multimedia experiences to present problems that can be solved using an engineering approach. The exhibit promotes engineering as a problem-solving process and appeals to a wide variety of learning styles. Exhibit highlights include: “Separation Station,” where visitors can “clean” the water; “Traffic Jam,” where visitors can use computers to optimize traffic flow; and “Earthquake,” where visitors can design and build structures, and then test the results against earthquake forces on the shake table. Designed to include activities for both younger and older individuals, this exhibit will delight visitors of all ages! 64 •

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Continuing a Legacy: Kids of Childhood Cancer Foundation Gives Back By Sarah DiGerolamo Our Inspiration: ix years ago, our little boy, Vinny, was diagnosed with Embryonal Rhabdomyosarcoma, a rare soft-tissue sarcoma we could barely pronounce, and which approximately 300 children are diagnosed with each year. Thinking that he was experiencing complications after a serious cleft palate-related surgery, Vinny had an MRI which showed a 7-cm tumor invading the surgical site in his palate, spreading from the base of his tongue, behind the left eye, and into the left temporal lobe of his brain.

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We heard the words “We found a mass.” Cancer did not run in our family; it did not pertain to us. Suddenly, it was our 4-yearold son, Vinny. That is when we found out about a hundreds of underground little warriors battling many different childhood cancers right at our local hospital, Brenner Children’s Hospital in Winston-Salem.

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When Vinny was first diagnosed, our Triad community came out of the woodwork to help our family with fundraisers, dinners, or babysitting our daughter, Desiree. Each time I went back to the hospital and told my new friends about the community support, I realized that most of them did not have the same support we were given. After 11 months of chemotherapy, surgeries and radiation, Vinny was cancer-free for the 1st time. During the short 9-month period of being cancer-free, we threw our heart and souls into giving back to the children on our ward who were not as fortunate as our family was. We recruited some friends, and together we founded Kids of Childhood Cancer Foundation. Our Mission: Kids of Childhood Cancer supports families going through treatment at Brenner Children’s Hospital Pediatric Oncology Ward by easing the childhood cancer journey and making the hospital stays more comfortable. We provide financial support—including for small household bills and medical bills, as well as food, gas cards, clothes and toys. We hold events for the children, such as Ice Cream Parties, Polar Express parties, and Lego Therapy Night. We send families in North Carolina on respite vacations to our Safe Haven Beach Condo on Topsail Island, to escape from their harsh reality.

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2014 3rd Annual Bike Run: June 7th, 2014, Smokin Harley Davidson, 3441 Myer Lee Dr, Winston-Salem, NC. For event information, visit: Book Signing with 5 Local North Carolina Authors: Sedge Garden UMC: 794 Sedge Garden Rd, Kernersville. 4–8 p.m. Authors include: Blaire Edwards, Nancy Gates, Karen Fitz, Lynette Hampton, Dixie Land, Jim and Joyce Lavene, Harol Marshall, Dave Shaffer and Lynn Willis

The Legacy: One month after starting our foundation, Vinny relapsed in the lung. He continued to relapse again and again, fighting a very brave battle four times in 5 years, finally earning his wings and passing away on February 18th of last year. Even though we have faced our greatest loss, our passion is to continue helping the children still battling on. Vinny’s legacy and inspiration lives on and touches each family with cancer that we help through our foundation. 66 •

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Sydney White – “Scattering Kindness”

By Susan Woodall An impressive young lady, her selflessness and dedication did not go unnoticed. Her aunt nominated her for the 2013 Kimberly S. Roberts Servant’s Heart Award. Created by Crumley Roberts to recognize and support positive impacts in our community and service to others, this award was won by Sydney and she was honored this past March. The award recognizing her ongoing fundraising for VJC came with a $5,000 donation to the camp. In true fashion, Sydney was having her VJC Valentine's fundraiser when she learned of the award. “I cried and was so happy and honored,” said Sydney. “I could not believe that I was going to send two more kids to camp. I did not start doing fundraisers for VJC to be rewarded or honored in this way. The reward from seeing kids get away from the hospitals and have a lifetime experience is reward enough for me. Crumley Roberts and Kim Roberts really went above and beyond and really made me feel very special and appreciated. I can’t thank them enough for everything they have done for me and VJC.”


ompassion is defined as “a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering.” Most children have not had the type of life experiences that lead them to understand the true meaning of compassion or being compassionate, but this does not apply to Sydney White. At the age of six, Sydney lost her beloved grandfather in a tragic car accident. In keeping with his love of NASCAR, the family asked that, in lieu of flowers, donations be made to the Victory Junction Camp (VJC). For most children, that would have been the end of it, but not Sydney. “A few months later, my mommy was making invitations for my 7th birthday, and I asked her to put a note in there asking people to give me money instead of gifts, so I could make a donation to VJC,” said Sydney. “That year, I raised $1,600. I knew then I wanted to send a lot more kids to camp, so I made it a goal of mine to do a fundraiser every year and send as many kids to camp as I could. The next year, I had a walk-a-thon at my school, and all my friends came and helped out, too. That year we raised more than $3,500.” In the years that followed, Sydney organized softball and golf tournaments, held bake sales, sold T-shirts, Texas Roadhouse peanuts and even rocks. She had a Valentine’s Day party where everyone was asked to bring supplies for the camp—she collected more than 300 items. This on top of the more than $30,000 she has raised in just five years. Both Sydney and her mom, Kathy, are quick to point out the amazing friends and family they have working with them and supporting the cause. “It takes a village,” said Kathy. “And our village is made up of a wonderful group of friends and family and a lot of businesses who donate items/food to make the events successful.” 68 •

Sydney’s mother, Kathy, is proud of her daughter’s accomplishments. “She is such an inspiration to me and so many others,” said Kathy. “She makes me a better person and mother. I have always tried to instill in Sydney the value of helping others and being the kind of person that makes a difference. Sydney has a philanthropic spirit and a servant’s heart like no other 12-year-old I have ever met. I am so full of pride and joy because of what Sydney has done with her life and will continue to do. I am very excited to watch her grow and see where God takes her in her life. He has provided a path for Sydney to walk down, and where that path takes her is up to her. I believe she will do great things in her life for herself and others. She has faith in her Lord Jesus and knows that no matter where she goes, He is there to guide and help her. I often find myself crying ‘happy tears’ and thinking about her and all she has done for others.” Not only does Sydney plan to keep on fundraising for VJC—she hopes one day to work there. It is clear that she loves doing for others. “Sydney ‘scatters kindness’ wherever she goes and leaves a trail of kindness for others to follow,” said Kathy. “That just happens to be one of her favorite sayings—‘scatter kindness.’” Congratulations, Sydney, on your well-deserved award!



MAY 27 – AUGUST 31 There’s no better place than Old Salem to experience an All-American Summer. It is the site of the nation’s first official 4th of July celebration and after all, George Washington really did sleep here!

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and softball, beloved sports, have stood the test of time. For many, telling stories of fond memories dating back to early childhood is often its own pastime. Remembering sitting in the stands with grandparents, uncles, cousins, parents, siblings and good friends is the basis of the best stories. Baseball and softball define family fun, team spirit, loud cheers, hotdogs and peanuts, and the unification of people. It is a sport today’s parents want to continue to foster for their own children. Little League is a brand that emphasizes adult service to youth.


For 50 years, Northwest Forsyth American Little League of Forsyth County (NWFALL) has been a success, due to the adults who not only love baseball and softball, but volunteer their time for the enjoyment and safety of all. Little League is not about being the best or the worst, or the smallest or the tallest. This particular brand stands apart from other “team sports for youth.” In fact, every child and every teen plays. While one team may lose a game, everyone gains something uniquely special when participating on a NWFALL team! Volunteerism Encompassing the communities of Vienna and Pfafftown and parts of Lewisville and Winston-Salem, NWFALL is a self-maintained and -owned 18-acre complex. Of the seven fields dedicated to T-ball, baseball and softball, three are lit for night games. Most recently, a “T-ball-sized” field was created for the youngest players, age four to six. “We operate a full concession stand. Our board works hard to maintain the safest, family-friendly complex possible,” shares Mike Crespi, President, volunteer umpire, and former coach. “It is amazing we have been able to maintain the complex with such dedicated volunteers. The whole purpose is adults’ service to youth, which means the adults pull together to make it all work. These are people who played in youth and came back. They are cleaning fields, dumping dirt, mowing grass, working the concession stand, umpiring and coaching for free. And, since the 50th anniversary, more people who remember playing Little League as a kid are now choosing to volunteer. We are just one Little League, but we have longevity." Training Equals Safety While the complex functions due to its strength in volunteers, training is a first priority to the continuation of the league’s success. Mike whole-heartedly believes that while volunteers will come, they need to be placed based on their individual talent; therefore training is provided, from maintaining and using the mowers and 70 •

front-end loaders, to safety, first-aid and coaching. Each volunteer who works closely with the children submits an application to consent for Little League International’s annual background check. While each position emphasizes trust, Northwest Little League lives by its three aspects of leadership. Whether you are a volunteer, a player, or even a family member, everyone instills the belief in courage, character and loyalty. “Last year, we started an initiative to train the coaches on teaching the game while reinforcing and showing leadership. That is what we do,” says Mike. Family “Little League is so much more than baseball and softball. It’s families being together, teamwork, volunteerism, respect and commitment,” writes Chris Swink of the Board of Directors and coach. Through Little League, families are uniting, school friends are bonding and new friendships are forged. The NWFALL is bridging communities together. “I was out there with my kids, too, and I see first-hand how it made them confident. Today, it is about the 320 kids right now. We’re fostering better relationships between parents and kids through baseball and softball. It’s especially fantastic when we have great temperatures, the kids are cheering, and everyone is having a great time,” shares Mike. Yes, Little League is for everyone. It's 100% inclusive. Whether it's T-ball, machine pitch, baseball, softball for girls and boys, or teens, Northwest Forsyth American Little League has been impacting lives, forging and continuing friendships, instilling sportsmanship, and building leadership in youth for the past 50 years. In building a league, the community remains strong. Play ball! For additional information on Northwest Little League's registration and programs, for example, please access the website

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Cheers! for Brenner Children’s Hospital By Heather Spivey 10th annual Cheers! A Toast to Children’s Health was held Friday, April 25. The gala benefitting Brenner Children’s Hospital filled the Old Salem Visitors’ Center with celebration, with more than 300 guests attending, enjoying fine wine and gourmet food while mingling with friends.


Wineries, restaurants, businesses, corporations, breweries and volunteers gather annually for this popular event for a great cause, all to provide a memorable evening for attendees and supporters of Cheers! Guests enjoyed wine tastings, samples from a local microbrewery and food from some of the area’s top rated restaurants, caterers and specialty food companies. The 2014 event chairpersons were Susan & Mark Conger and Julie Groves. With the help of their committee members, volunteers and the local community, Cheers! was again a memorable and successful event for Brenner, providing much-needed support for programs at Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center’s Brenner Children’s Hospital. Presenting sponsors were BB&T and Bell Davis Pitt. Mr. & Mrs. Richard A. Brenner and Hatteras Financial were the Diamond sponsors, along with an extensive list of other notable sponsors. Cindy Caines, Director of Development Events for Wake Forest Baptist and Brenner Children’s Hospital, said that on behalf of the patients, staff and volunteers of Brenner, she would like to say a special thank you “to all the dedicated participants and generous sponsors who make Cheers! such a festive evening and such an important difference for Brenner Children’s Hospital.

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The Recital

By Ben Curti

a young man, born and raised in Port Huron, Michigan, I was fortunate to have grown up in a wonderful, music environment which included the piano, double-key organ, acoustic guitars, a marimba and electric guitars. My mother was, and is, a brilliant piano player/composer, while my late father was a self-taught, creative pianist and guitar player.


My mother, having been a former piano teacher, insisted that my three sisters and I take piano lessons with another teacher (she felt that we would learn better from a different teacher). We all ended up taking 5 years of lessons from a professor by the name of Romeo Fracalanza, originally from Italy. Part of Professor Fracalanza’s program included participation in a yearly recital, which was usually looked upon with dreaded anticipation. I had just turned 13, and it was June 29th of 1970, when I participated in my 3rd recital—only this time, I invited this girl that I really liked, Nancy Graham. I originally met Nancy via my older sister Emily, who knew her brother in high school. So the stage was set, we picked Nancy up on the way to St. Edwards-on-the-Lake Church, on Lake Huron, for the recital. As we entered the church, professor Fracalanza greeted all of us in his thick, Italian accent, “Good to see everyone, good luck Ben!” I was #8 in line out of 15 students. Naturally, as I looked around, I could see the anxious, nervous faces of the other students, of all different ages and skill levels, thinking through and rehearsing their music pieces, hoping that they didn’t flub their songs! Of course, that included me as well.

To this day, I have no recollection of what Nancy G. said to me. I was probably too traumatized and embarrassed by what had happened. Finally, in came my mother. Oh boy, I was expecting to really hear it from someone who was at a concert pianist level. So, expecting to hear the worst, I was told instead, “Son, that’s one of the proudest moments of my life, you never gave up, and that’s what’s important. You won’t ever forget this day, it wasn’t easy on you, I know.”

So what’s the real lesson here? Well, we live in a competitive, highly technological age, and as parents, we want our kids to be challenged and to succeed in life. However, maybe we need to take a step back at times, and realize that things may If you’ve ever played in a recital, you know that time tends to fly by, and then all of a sudden, you not always go as planned. Perhaps it’s related to hear, “…and next, is Benjamin Curti, who will play an adapted version of Prelude by Frederic school/academics, sports, relationships for the Chopin.” Egad, it was my turn! Not only was my entire family in attendance, but oh, yeah, I forgot older ones, and yes, maybe even an occasional that Nancy had been sitting next to me as well! Did I forget she was there? Of course I did, because music recital. As parents, we know that there will I was rehearsing Prelude in my head, which is a difficult piece due to it being an entire chordal, be times when our kids experience bumps in the sequential piece—no runs or trills, just chords. road, and that it’s critical to be supportive of them, whatever the circumstances. I know that my Ah, yes, there it was, the monstrous, menacing, but beautiful ebony Steinway grand piano, waiting parents, especially my mother, understood this. for its next victim. So up I got, strolled over to the piano and sat down to conduct the obligatory nervous cough and to begin the piece. Things started off OK, until I reached the 8th stanza, when my As for Nancy G., wherever she may be, I hope that she can look back at that fateful day with a smile mind went blank. Oh, no, this couldn’t be happening. I started over and it happened again. Not and realize that it all turned out OK. Yes, I have only did I miss on the 2nd try, but also the 3rd, 4th and all the way up to 8th! By this time, I was never forgotten that day almost 44 years ago, back starting to shake like a leaf, felt like crying, and wished a hole would open up and swallow me, piano on June 29th, 1970. Despite the trauma and and all! It was at that moment on the 8th try, when I mentally tuned everything out, and re-focused embarrassment of the moment, I can say that I will for about 10 seconds, relaxed, and started over again. also never forget the support and encouragement Aha, this time, on try #9, it all came back, and, in what seemed like an eternity, I was able to that I received from my family and that we should, complete the piece! Sure, everyone clapped when it was over, but I felt as if my face had been stuck as the old phrase goes, “never give up.” in an oven—I was burning up with embarrassment. I remember Professor Fracalanza coming over and giving me a shoulder hug, and saying, “I’m glad you were able to complete the song.” My Dad NOTE: This article was written with my recollections of that day, but also from those of my mother and came over, and told me that I looked like the American flag. “What do you mean by that?” I asked. sisters who attended as well. Information also came He said, “Well, you’re wearing blue pants, a white shirt, and your face is as red as a beet.” I’m sure from my mother’s diary. my Dad was trying to use a bit of humor to lighten me up.

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Foster Parenting By Tami Rumfelt I’m friends with a couple, we’ll call them Joe and Sue, who have opened their homes and hearts to foster children. They mostly take in newborn babies, loving and caring for them until a “forever family” can be found.

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Joe and Sue go way above and beyond the job requirements of foster parents. They realize that these children’s adoptive parents are missing the first days, weeks or months of their child’s life, and they do everything possible to fill in those blanks. They take tons of pictures every day and write down all of the baby’s firsts. When the babies they foster arrive at their permanent homes, they come with a scrapbook full of pictures and information chronicling their young lives. This couple treats these little babies as if they were their own, even though they know that their time with them is limited. And every late-night feeding, each cuddle and kiss and even every diaper change makes it harder to say goodbye. But Sue says she knows that the babies have a loving mom and dad who long to bring them home, so she is able to let each little one go, knowing they are being sent into the arms of loving parents. When I think about what Joe and Sue do, I realize that my job as a parent isn’t much different. John 1:12-13 says, “Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God— children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God.” So, while we tend to think of our children as belonging to us, that’s only partially true. More accurately, we are foster parents, temporarily assigned to care for God’s children. Our duty is to love them, care for them and fully prepare them for the day they will go to their “forever home.” And, when we look at it that way, we realize what a great honor it is that God has chosen us for the job.

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Musing About‌ Yesterday

By Tim Roberts - Pastor of Sunrise United Methodist Church in Lewisville

was yesterday. It was just yesterday that I first saw her sitting on a couch in the day room of the EMS headquarters in Cabarrus County. She looked around with a most timid expression, searching for any sign of welcome from the experienced, seasoned and hardened counterparts who were now her colleagues. As much as she wanted to fit in, she would have to prove herself to us that she had what it took to be part of this tight group of arrogant and overly confident paramedics. She was scared of them and of me. It was yesterday...if yesterday was another life ago.


It was yesterday. It was yesterday that I bent down on one knee and professed my enduring love to that same girl who had been so intimidated by me just a year before. As she looked into my eyes, she could see that the words I was uttering were true. Tears welled up in the corners of hers eyes to the point that they could no longer defy the force that would pull them down to form shimmering streaks along her cheeks. It was yesterday...if yesterday was a quarter-century ago. It was just yesterday. It was just yesterday that I held her in my arms for the first time, and as the florescent light above assaulted her newly opening eyes, she desperately tried to keep them open long enough to focus on my face. She had heard my voice for the last several months, muffled at best, but yet it was a voice that she innately recognized and now she was just learning to make a connection between the voice she heard words of love from and the face that she would learn would radiate that sentiment for many years to come. It was just yesterday...if yesterday was twenty-two years ago. It was just yesterday. It was just yesterday that I held another little girl who, like her older sister, was craning her neck so she, too, could put a face with the voice who had whispered words of unconditional love to her from the moment that she could first perceive the sense of sound. As she fought against the soft blanket that held her confined, as if to mimic the

warm envelopment she had been used to for so many months, she peered around to catch her first glimpses of her new family. It was just yesterday...if yesterday was two decades ago. It was yesterday. It was just yesterday that I first met him with a buttoneddown shirt and a necktie secured squarely at the center of his neck. I felt a bit sorry for him. He was nervous, to be sure. He was quite a bit smitten with our oldest daughter and now was the dreaded moment to meet the family. Yet little did he know at that moment that in time, he would become very much one of this same family. It was just yesterday...if only yesterday were just a few years ago. It was yesterday. It was just yesterday that I looked into his eyes and watched them close for the last time and heard his final breath. It was just yesterday that I bent down and kissed her then cool forehead and bid my heart-wrenched goodbye. In just the span of a couple of yesterdays, both of the people who raised me to be the man I am today transitioned from glory to glory. It was yesterday...if only yesterday were a matter of missing heartbeats. Yesterday. Each person has those moments which stand sentinel, marking pivotal points in change of direction in his or her life. Those moments encompass the highest moments of pleasure and joy and the occasions of great depths of sorrow and despair. In each occurrence, they become embedded in the fabric of our existence as a yesterday. We can yearn for our yesterdays and wish they would remain as a constant in our day-to-day lives, instead of their constant progression towards becoming distant memories. But life continues. We have more yesterdays waiting to be formed and experienced ahead of us, each proclaiming the thrill and lavishness of life itself. In each of our yesterdays, our todays and our tomorrows, God is with us. Godspeed,

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e’ve all heard the cliché to work “smarter, not harder!” But what if I told you that when it comes to the success rate of reading the best-selling book of all time and climbing the highest mountain on the earth, this cliché stinks.


Here’s a few statistics; Best-selling book of all time – Bible (over 2 billion sold, about 1500 pages long.) Highest mountain on earth – Mt. Everest, 29,029 feet or about 5 ½ miles high. Temperature at Summit during the climbing period is -4 degrees F. Time/Financial investment: Bible – takes about 100 hours to read and costs about $15, but most churches will give you a free one if you ask. Mt. Everest – Rigid training for about 1 year prior to trip. 3 months on site in Nepal. Final trek to Summit is about 12 hours from Camp 4. Cost is about $50,000, but some risk of frostbite and lung issues due to lack of oxygen in Himalayas. 2% risk of death. “Not Smarter and 2 ½ times Harder” – Yet, in spite of the severity of climbing Mt. Everest, 50% of the people who attempt to summit Everest actually succeed. But only 20% of the people who attempt to read the entire Bible actually make it to the top (or end) of the last page. Looking at this comparison, one could say that it is easier to climb Mt. Everest than reading the whole Bible.

Why “Not Smarter?” Different from any other book whether a technical manual, pulp fiction or a Shakespearean classic, the Bible wants its readers to NOT out-think it…. In other words, it’s easier for the Bible to show you God and even yourself when you are the most teachable, admitting you are NOT a spiritual smartie. Darlene Zschech, Australian songwriter wrote the hit worship song called “Shout to the Lord” in 2006. One of the lyrics says that “mountains bow down and seas will roar at the sound of your Name.” Though it is a glorious accomplishment to summit to the “Top of the World,” Everest was spoken into its awesome grandeur by the same God who spoke into the Bible. That is why Ms. Zschech could imply that Everest bows down to the Name of the One who created it. Next time you consider an ultimate adventure; consider doing one 2 ½ times harder than

summitting Everest. Consider reading the bestselling book of all time and the only one God Himself ever wrote! Dare to Summit, Read It Thru! Guy Andrews grew up in Greensboro with one of the climbers (Charlotte Fox) who survived the worst climbing day in Everest history (May 11, 1996.) Guy’s 3 years with a Navigator ministry after his hitch with the Marine’s helped him “get into God’s Word.” He currently resides in Summerfield with wife Becky, and daughters Stacey and Meredith. At 59, he just finished his first marathon in November (Richmond Marathon.) In 2013 Guy published a coaching tool to help regular people read thru the Bible from cover-to-cover. It is filled with simple commentary on every chapter in the Bible along with motivation insights and 183 “chicken-soup-for-the soul” stories. It also parallels the actual trek up Mt. Everest!

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Class of 2014! You did it.

Josie - We're so proud as you head off to Christopher Newport University! Congratulations on achieving your goal of playing collegiate field hockey! Love, Mom, Dad, Jake & Tyler

Congratulations to Caroline Hubble going to Duke University!

Congratulations to David Hubble going to East Carolina University!

Congratulations Justin Lang 2014 Graduate of Forsyth Country Day School We are all so proud of you & love you!

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Congratulations Avery Wood!

Now it's time to celebrate! Way to go ECU Graduates Jonathan Holt and Kevin Sanders!

Congratulations Claire Hess! Heading to University of Georgia!!

Congratulations Jessica Marshall! UNC Charlotte Class of 2014!

Congratulations Morgan & Brayden Smith! So proud of both of you!

Way to go, Evan Thomason! Forsyth Country Day School Class of 2014

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Not Just a Girl’s Job recently offered to babysit my friend’s 4-year-old and 6-month-old daughters, so she and her husband could have a night to themselves. I’m not exactly sure what I was thinking, taking on two at the same time. While I’m a seasoned parent, I only have one child, having never been brave enough to take on a second one on a permanent basis.


respect, and even understand, those fears. After all, I am a mother and girls are certainly not the only children on which child predators prey. But, I also think we’re stereotyping the minority rather than giving honest, caring boys the opportunity to care for young children. There are some really great pros to boys becoming babysitters, including:

My 16-year-old son amazed me. He stepped in to help out. He either played “Little Mermaid” with the 4-year-old or fed the 6-month-old. But for the entire evening, and through the next morning, Charlie really impressed me with his natural skills with young children.

• It gives all children—both the babysitters and the babysat—the opportunity to break stereotypes.

We talked about it after the girls left. He said, “I enjoy hanging out with little kids and playing games with them. I like playing games and drawing pictures and watching cartoons with them.” After laughing over that, I asked him if it made him feel more responsible and he confirmed my assumption. He said, “I enjoy feeling more grown up.” It made me think about my teenage years as a babysitter. It’s totally cliché, but despite all our progressive thinking, babysitting is still largely considered a girl’s job. Additionally, as I researched this article, I found that many parents are reluctant to hire a boy to babysit their children, due to fears that boys are more predatory than girls. I was a bit surprised, as I tried to research statistics of boy babysitters, that every search I did returned report after report that boys were considered less trustworthy than girls. Given the reports in today’s media, I can 82 •

• It gives boys the opportunity to demonstrate responsibility and a nurturing side. • Boys play differently than girls do… it’s like a mother versus a father. A mother is more likely to hold her child inward, as if to protect her child from the world. A father is more likely to hold his child outward, facing the world. So is it also with boys, who are more likely to play adventurous games or help younger children challenge themselves with a new activity. I polled a few parents on this topic. Their answers were reassuring, especially in light of the negativity I uncovered while researching the topic. Debbie shared, “Yes, I’d hire a guy. It’s really no different from hiring a girl. It depends on the maturity level, same as it would for a girl.” Melissa agreed. “If he’s of integrity and trustworthiness, I would love for my boys to have an additional role model to spend time with outside of the family.” Similarly, Lindsay said, “I would hire a boy to babysit. But it would depend on who the boy was, of course. His maturity level, age,

By Denise Heidel activities and personality would all play a part of the decision.” One mother I surveyed reported that she has a male friend who babysits her daughter two days a week. According to Payton, “He’s the best!” Jan also had experience with a male babysitter for her son, sharing, “Jake loved having a ‘guy’ to hang out with” and “I used a male babysitter for my two boys,” said Elyse. “Today, their babysitter is considered their ‘older brother’ and my ‘other son!’” We also had Joe and Bruce both chime in. Both men used to babysit as teenagers, and Joe shared that he has hired boys to watch his children. “It’s more about the person and how responsible they are,” said Joe. While it’s understandable that someone may worry about predators around their children, parents need to worry about trustworthiness and maturity more so than they need to worry about gender. I encourage all of Forsyth County parents to think outside the box and hire the best person as their child’s babysitter, not necessarily a specific sex. Because babysitting isn’t just a girl’s job.

If you don’t already have a trusted resource to babysit your children, contact The Red Cross for a referral. The Red Cross offers a Babysitting Basics class, which includes safe play and care, as well as how to handle emergencies.

Kids in the Kitchen No-Bake Edition By Kristi Johnson Marion




¼ cup old-fashioned rolled oats, not cooked (not instant, quick, or steel-cut)

4 large flour tortillas

5 cups fresh strawberries, hulled and sliced

4 bananas

one 6-oz. container blueberries

peanut butter (or preferred nut butter)

¼ cup sugar

strawberry jam (or preferred flavor)

juice of half an orange

crisp rice cereal (optional)

2 cups Greek yogurt

¼ cup Greek yogurt ⅓ cup milk ¼ cup unsweetened applesauce ½ tsp cinnamon 1 tsp honey, optional (or preferred sweetener) 1½ tsp dried chia seeds (optional)

2 cups whipped dessert topping Directions:

¼ cup honey

1. Spread peanut butter thinly on tortilla.

one 17-oz. angel food cake

2. Spread jam thinly on peanut butter. Directions: 1. In a half-pint Mason jar, add oats, milk, yogurt, cinnamon, honey and chia seeds. 2. Screw lid on and shake well until all ingredients are combined. Remove lid and stir. 3. Screw on lid and place in refrigerator overnight, or up to two days. Eat chilled or warm. Note: Lots of possible variations on this one. Replace applesauce with bananas and add cocoa powder, or bananas and peanut butter.

3. Sprinkle a thin layer of crisp rice cereal for added crunch (optional). 4. Place banana at one end of the tortilla and roll it up.

Directions: 1. Place berries in a bowl with the sugar and orange juice. Let sit for 15–20 minutes at room temperature, until juicy. 2. In another bowl, add the yogurt, honey and whipped dessert topping. Stir until mixture is smooth and spreadable. 3. Slice the angel food cake into large chunks with a serrated knife, adding ⅓ of the cake chunks to the bottom of a medium trifle dish. 4. Add a layer of the juicy berries, then a layer of the cream, and repeat, with the cream as the final layer. 5. Garnish with a few berries on top. Cover with plastic wrap and refrigerate an hour, until chilled, or overnight. Variation: Replace the berries with bananas and chocolate chips, and add vanilla extract to the cream mixture.

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By teen columnist Isabella Migliarese In Search of Summer Jobs Every spring is buzzing with teenagers in search of that perfect summer job. You know—the job that matches your career interests, has flexible hours, pays well and allows you to take summer vacations whenever the family schedules the reservations! In reality, that perfect summer job is the one where you get hired and get paid, regardless of the other perks, if there are any, other than work experience. Teenagers are fortunate in a recovering economy to find summer employment and sometimes have to rely on family or friends with “hookups” and connections in order to locate summer work. But if you are searching this summer for employment and lack “hookups,” a few common-sense tips can help. 1. Search online for openings, but don’t just complete the online application, print a completed form and take one to your potential employer in person. 2. Apply at several potential employers and realize that you may hear, “We are not hiring,” several times before you hear, “We are extending you a job offer.” Don’t get discouraged, and start looking early. 3. When meeting a potential employer to deliver an application, or for an official interview, dress professionally. If in doubt on what to wear, scout the agency or store prior to your meeting in order to determine appropriate dress (avoid blue sparkle nail polish and purple hair unless that seems to be the uniform of people already employed there).

4. If you want to avoid the anxiety of official business interviews, opportunities may be available as a nanny, camp counselor, dog walker, house-sitter, or farmhand. These jobs are more likely to be found through word of mouth or a community bulletin board. 5. If you do receive an interview, be ready to discuss the basics of the business by doing a little research on the purpose, mission and vision of the company. Have a few questions prepared that show you are knowledgeable and interested in the business. Try not to interrupt your interviewer as they talk, and realize that it is better to say that you do not have experience with a skill or task than to lie about non-existent past employment. Highlight your strengths and be honest about your weaknesses (but call them “educational opportunities” versus “weaknesses”). Have a notebook handy in order to take notes during the interview. Make sure you smile, make eye contact, have a firm handshake and remember the name of your interviewer, so you can write a handwritten thank-you note after the interview. 6. If paid opportunities are difficult to find, then try unpaid internships in areas related to your career interests. Great performance as an unpaid intern for a few weeks can sometimes transform itself into a paid job, once you have proven your worth and eagerness to learn. This can enhance your college application as well. Recently, a friend of mine was searching for a summer job and she found that stores where she did not apply in person did not contact her about a follow-up interview. It’s important to introduce yourself and go in person to a job you’re interested in. You will have a better chance of getting a job if your employer gets a sense of what type of person you really are, not what a piece of paper says about you. Allow a summer job to build character and help shape a good work ethic for the future.

2 The Artist ’s Corner

“Art is just a pigment of your imagination.” -Tony Follari Comedian

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Our f e a t u r e d a r t i s t s for this issue

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Caleb Cockerham, 5th Grade, Clemmons Elementary Art Teacher: Frann Paige Mallory Bascom,11th Grade, West Forsyth High Art Teacher: Nathan Newsome


Mt. Tabor Art Club,“Spangler Garden Flowers”Mt. Tabor High Art Teacher: Alice Morley

4 Anthony Olea Munoz, Kindergarten, Old Town Global Academy; Art Teacher: Denise Aldret

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Celebrates Five Years of Great Food and Great Times By Meghan E.W. Corbett


is no shortage of delicious food in North Carolina, especially in the Triad area. We are extremely spoiled with yummy barbeque, southern made-from-scratch home cooking and small businesses run by people with big hearts and great service. On March 31st, 2009, the Triad welcomed another one of these businesses when 13 Bones opened its doors. The collective dream of five friends, this casual dining establishment has created quite a name for itself in the past five years. The unique name and tempting menu got customers in the door, but the rich flavors and a feeling of home kept them coming back again and again! “The name 13 Bones comes from our specialty baby back ribs,” said Owner Angie Venable. “In order to be considered a full rack, there must be 13 bones. In addition to ribs, our extensive menu features steaks, chicken, seafood, pork and sandwiches, as well as appetizers and a kid’s menu.” Fried pickles, buffalo shrimp, barbeque cheesy chicken, surf and turf, and baked apples are just a few of the mouthwatering menu items available at 13 Bones. “With a focus on good food, good prices and good service, our goal is to make you happy,” said Venable. 13 Bones is located in Mount Airy, as well as

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Winston-Salem. “All owners take an active role in both restaurants from the back of the house to the front of the house. Mount Airy is our hometown, [and] each owner is from a different area throughout the county. We moved from Greensboro to Winston-Salem for more of the small-town feel. Our Winston-Salem store is in the Arcadia community, which reminds us of our home town in Mount Airy.” One of the greatest features of small business is the commitment to customer service and willingness to be flexible to satisfy all customers—even those with dietary restrictions. Venable, along with Co-owners Johnny “Opie” Newman, Freddy Hudson, Andy Reece and Tyre and Ellie Needham, work hard to give everyone the opportunity to dine at 13 Bones, no matter what their diets require. “Dietary restriction options are available upon request,” said Venable. “Gluten-free seems to be our biggest request, and we are more than happy to do it. We are also working on sugarfree desserts.” This attention to service brings customers of all ages, diets and taste preferences on a regular basis. “We like to see familiar faces and getting to know our customers on a personal basis,” said Venable. “We are locally owned, and most steak houses are corporate. We strive to give the extrapersonal touch and get to know our customers by their names or, at least, by their faces. We notice when our regulars haven’t been in a while. We are very familyoriented, offer great food at a great price and prioritize our community involvement.” 13 Bones is located at 502 South Andy Griffith Parkway in Mount Airy and at 3450 Old Salisbury Road in Winston-Salem. For more information, call the Mount Airy location at 336.786.1313, the Winston-Salem location at 336.764.3313, email, or visit the website at

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June Calendar of Family Events NOW THROUGH JUNE 7 MIMOSAS AND MUNCHIES: WELCOME SUMMER! 10am-6pm, 110 Oakwood Drive, Suite D in W-S. Join the style team at Mainstream Boutique for some sippin’ and shoppin’! Let them get your closet ready for those hot summer days and warm summer nights. With sizes from XS-curvy, there's something for everyone! ?ref=hl-

JUNE 4 BOOKMARKS PRESENTS PAT NEELY 7-9pm, 610 Coliseum Drive in W-S. Pat Neely, the star of The Food Network's “Down Home with the Neelys” and co-author (with his wife Ginay) of the cookbook, Back Home With the Neelys: Comfort Food from our Southern Kitchen to Yours, will talk about his life and his TV show. Cost: $15-$35/person.

June 8, 2014 11am - 4pm Old Salem Visitor’s Center James A. Gray Jr. Auditorium & Southern Concourse Free Admission! Stop by and meet local businesses and vendors who offer products and services that women love! The 3rd Annual Forsyth Woman’s Showcase: A Celebration of Things Women Love features a great variety that includes make up, style, fashion, jewelry, fitness, photography, food, etc. Bring your friends for an afternoon of fun at Old Salem!

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JUNE 5 SUMMERTIME SOCIAL: BACKYARD BARBECUE AND BREWS 6-9pm, 2250 Reynolda Road. Celebrate the start of summer in the museum’s backyard at this annual event with barbecue samples, beer tastings, games on the lawn and art activities. The Summertime Social will feature a live performance by singer-songwriter Sarah Siskin. Cost: $10/members and students; $15/non-members.

JUNE 6 STAR PARTY AT SCIWORKS 7:30-10:30pm, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Join SciWorks and Forsyth Astronomical Society for a free astronomy observation in the SciWorks parking lot using professional-grade telescopes. In case of bad weather, call 767.6730 after 5:30pm for an update.

CLEMMONS FOOD PANTRY DRIVE AWAY HUNGER GOLF TOURNAMENT 12-05:30pm, Salem Glen Golf Course, 1000 Glen Day Drive in Clemmons. The Clemmons Food Pantry is a local nonprofit that provides supplemental groceries to residents of Forsyth County. Cost: $70/player.

JUNE 7 “REBUILDING LIVES” 5K WALK/RUN & GOLF TOURNAMENT 8am-2:30pm, 3535 Winston Lake Road in W-S. Benefits men coming out of incarceration and helps them reconnect to their families. Cost: $30/Walk-Run; $55/Golf.

KINGDOM DELIVERANCE WORSHIP CENTER “FEED THE BEAST” SHREDDING EVENT 9am-12pm, Kernersville Town Hall, 134 East Mountain Street. Bring your personal, confidential papers to be shredded. This is an opportunity for the residents of Kernersville and surrounding areas to come and bring their documents to be disposed of properly. Keep yourself safe from identity thieves.

CRAFT FEST AT BETHANIA VISITOR CENTER 9am-3pm, 5393 Ham Horton Lane (corner of Bethania Road and Main Street-Highway 65) in Bethania. Shop from local artists and crafters selling various mixed media arts, handmade jewelry, handmade home and garden items and home baked goodies. Sponsored by Mizpah Moravian Church.

HORSEFRIENDS OPEN BENEFIT HORSE SHOW 9:30am-4:30pm, 221 Flintrock Trail in Reidsville. The show will include English, western and therapeutic riding classes. Cost: $10/class or $60/day. All proceeds benefit HorseFriends Therapeutic Riding Program at Flintrock Farm. There will be a silent auction and lunch concessions.

JUNE 7-8 TRIAD DOG GAMES (see pg91) FREE EVENT! Reynolda Village in WS.

TRIAD FARM TOUR 2-6pm. Load up a car with your friends and family, choose the farms you’d like to visit and get out in the countryside! Visit for details about the tour and the 17 farms included this year! Cost: $30/person.

JUNE 8 FORSYTH MAGAZINE’S 3RD ANNUAL SHOWCASE: A CELEBRATION OF THINGS WOMEN LOVE 12-4pm, Old Salem Museum and Gardens. Free event; sponsored by Nu Expression. No registration required. SECOND SUNDAYS on FOURTH (see ad pg60) Family friendly street festival from 3-6pm through September. Live music and lots of FREE fun children’s activities!

JUNE 12 GIRLS' NIGHT OUT 5 pm…until! River Ridge Tap House, 1480 River Ridge Drive in Clemmons. Enjoy $5 hopsicle beer cocktails, $4 frozen margaritas, $3 select craft beers and $3 select tapas! Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways! Sponsored by River Ridge Tap House, Forsyth Woman and Forsyth Woman Engaged! See you there!

JUNE 13 FISH THE MAGISH AT WALKERTOWN LIBRARY 2-3pm, 2969 Main Street in Walkertown. Fish the Magician will transform the audience magically into scientists. Come discover his surprising mix of magic, science and fun. Free event.

JUNE 13-22 PLAY: “FIVE ROW: REYNOLDA’s SECOND VILLAGE” Times vary, 2250 Reynolda Road. The Peppercorn Children’s Theater presents an original play about Five Row, the African American farm village at Reynolda during the early 20th century, based on the oral histories of the residents and children who lived there. Cost: $5/person (cash only).

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6:30-8:30pm, 1855 Lewisville-Clemmons Road in Clemmons. At River Oaks Community Church, Summer BLOCK Party (Vacation Bible School...with a twist) is planned for children ages three through completed 5th grade.

10am-12pm, 2969 Main Street in Walkertown. Create a one-of-a-kind garden craft with guest artist Priscilla Williams. Call 703.2990 to reserve a free spot as space is limited. Materials provided.

JUNE 14-SEPTEMBER 6 BRADLEY METHOD NATURAL CHILDBIRTH CLASSES 1-3pm, 534 North Liberty Street in W-S. Bradley Method® is a comprehensive, 12-week, small-group course equipping couples to birth their babies naturally, covering nutrition, exercise, relaxation, dad's role as coach, stages of labor, breastfeeding and more. Cost: $325.

JUNE 15 FATHERS’ DAY BRUNCH 12-3pm, 450 Groce Road in Ronda. Celebrate Dad with a brunch at Raffaldini Vineyards! Enjoy an open buffet overlooking the mountains. The Raffaldini Vineyards Vintage '51 Dodge Truck will be on display. Bring your camera for a one-of-a-kind photograph opportunity. Cost: $45/person or $30/person no wine.

JUNE 16 KIDS’ MORNING OUT 10am-12pm, Old Salem, 924 S. Main Street, WS. FREE Event! Grab a friend and bring kids of all ages for a morning of fun at Old Salem! Enjoy games, hands-on activities, puppet show and more! Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board!

JUNE 17 MEET THE MOVIE MAKERS: U’BEJANI 3-4:30pm, 2969 Main Street in Walkertown. Walkertown Library welcomes Director/Writer/Actor Wayne Crawford and Producer Olena Crawford, showing their awardwinning family film U'BEJANI ('Black Rhino' in Zulu). Discussion of African wildlife or movie making following film. Free event.

JUNE 21 RUNNING FOR A PURPOSE 8-9:45am, West End Boulevard, Hanes Park in W-S. "Running for a Purpose" is a 5K and fun run benefitting the homeless veterans of W-S and Forsyth County. Funds raised go towards the "Homes for Our Heroes" project by Whole Man Ministries of NC. Cost: $30/person.

SUNRISE PEDDLER’S SUMMER SOLSTICE VENDOR FAIR 10am-6pm, 3561 Clemmons Road in Clemmons. The fair will be in the garden area of the SunRise Peddler to celebrate the first day of summer and to promote area vendor crafts and wares. Blue grass, concessions and vendor booths will be featured.

JUNE 22 DIXIE DIVAS 5K 8-10am, 251 North Spruce Street in W-S. Come out to celebrate and enjoy being a Dixie Diva by running a very special 5K. There will be jewelry, chocolate, great food and lots of other goodies. Cost: $30/person.

JUNE 23-AUGUST 1 DRAMA KID CAMPS 9am-3pm, 405 Salisbury Street in Kernersville. Camps for kids ages 5-17. Activities include group improvisations, fun and creative theater games, dialogue scene starters, character development and a whole lot more! See website for specific schedule and details: Cost: $219/week.

JUNE 26 SCIENCE MADNESS AT WALKERTOWN LIBRARY 2-3pm, 2969 Main Street in Walkertown. Science Madness of the Piedmont presents an hour of fizzing and surprising science fun.

JUNE 28 “OCEAN COMMOTION” DAY AT SCIWORKS 1-5pm, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Dive into the wonders and mysteries of the sea! Discover the diversity of ocean life, learn about marine mammals and see how much is still unknown. Included with museum admission.

JUNE 29 BETHABARA PARK INDEPENDENCE CELEBRATION 1:30-4:30pm, 2147 Bethabara Road in W-S. A day of oldfashioned fun, patriotic music and more, featuring a special performance by the 208th Army Reserve Band. Free event.




10-11:30. Trinity Presbyterian Church, 1416 Bolton Street. Monthly interest groups include Book Group, Lunch Bunch, Bridge, Day/Evening Card Groups, Crafts, Dinner and Wine Groups. Free initial meeting; $35 annual dues. 245-8406.

SECOND THURSDAYS (JUNE 12SEPTEMBER 11) BETHABARA BAND CONCERT AND FAMILY EVENING 6-8:30pm (5:30-8pm in September), 2147 Bethabara Road in W-S. This is not your grandparent's community band. The Bethabara Concert Band plays music from all eras. Sing along with our soloists to the music you know. Come early and picnic, enjoy a wagon ride, play colonial games or visit with WFU staff. Free. 924.8191

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Advertiser Index Activities Ballet & Performing Arts Center.................61 Pro Dance Academy ..................................43 Tanglewood BMX ......................................65 Triad ECO Adventures ................................25 Winston-Salem DASH ...............................67 Automotive Express Oil................................................21 Roger Marion Automotive..........................41 TJ’s Body Shop.........................................13 Beauty / Styling V’s Barbershop..........................................47 Churches Sunrise United Methodist Church ..............74 Dentists / Orthodontists Chermak & Hanson ...................................33 Drs. Handy and Handy...............................19 Kephardt, DDS ..........................................41 Kingery & Kingery .....................................43 Salem Smiles ...........................................35 Tina S. Merhoff and Associates Pediatric Dentistry ...............................51, 65 Winston-Salem Dental Care.......................37 Education St. John’s Lutheran School..................61, 75 Financial Financial Pathways ....................................53 Truliant Federal Credit Union .....................15

Landscaping Chris’ Lawncare.........................................55 Skeeter Security ..........................................9 Weed Man ................................................27 Medical Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center .............23 Cornerstone Health Care............................29 Home Instead Senior Care ...........................3 Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics.....................13 Lyndhurst Gynecological Associates..........17 Novant Health ..............................Back Cover Wake Forest Baptist Health Brenner Children’s Hospital .......................31 WomanCare ..............................................61 Mental Health Old Vineyard Behavioral Health Services....20 Organizations Children’s Museum of Winston-Salem.......25 Goodwill ...................................................27 Historic Bethabara Park .............................15 Hospice & Palliative Care Center ...............29 Old Salem Museum and Gardens ..............69 WBFJ........................................................77 Winston-Salem DASH ...............................67 Other Carl Hearn.................................................16 Moore Self Storage ...................................57 State Farm, Will Wilkins ............................37

Fitness C3 Fitness.................................................12 YMCA .......................................................63

Party, Event, & Entertainment 201 Media ................................................41 Christina’s Dessertery .........................87, 89 Leather & Lace Acoustic Duo.....................75 Ten Little Monkeys ....................................65

Florist Minglewood Florist ...................................75

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Real Estate & Housing Brookberry Farm - Berkshire Hathaway Home Services............................................2 Chamberlain Place ....................................55 Susan Maier-Colon - Berkshire Hathaway ..54 Restaurants 13 Bones ..................................................87 Bonefish Grill ............................................87 Chang Thai................................................87

Christina’s Dessertery .........................87, 89 Cupcakes by Three ....................................87 Honky Tonk Smokehouse...........................87 New Town Bistro..................................27, 87 Omega House ...........................................87 Phoenix Grille ...........................................87 River Ridge Tap House ..............................87 Which Wich ..............................................87 Retail Clemmons Bicycle....................................65 Goodwill ...................................................27 Hip Chics..................................................13 Mill Creek General Store..............................7 Minglewood Florist ...................................75 Rolly’s Baby Boutique ...............................23 Service 201 Media ................................................41 Busy as a Bee Concierge...........................25 iFix Cell Repair..........................................37 Goin Postal ...............................................75 Moonlight Designs....................................61 Nu expression ...........................................49 Quality Refrigeration Concepts...................17 Ruff Housing .............................................34 Winston-Salem Cleaning Service ..............57 Summer Camps Ballet & Performing Arts Center.................61 Camp Say .................................................75 Imprints Cares...........................................60 Pro Dance Academy ..................................43 Salem Gymnastics ....................................63 SciWorks ..................................................63 St. John’s ...........................................61, 75 YMCA .......................................................63 Technology iFix Cell Repair..........................................37 Nu expression ...........................................49 Upcoming Events Appalachian Summer Festival ...................11 Old Salem Museum and Gardens ..............69 Showcase: A Celebration of Everything Women Love ............................88 Triad Dog Games.......................................91 US Figure Skating Championships.............39 Winston-Salem DASH ...............................67 Vision Hawthorne Eye Associates.........................41


Come, sit, stay at the Triad Dog Games June 7 and 8 at Reynolda Village in Winston-Salem. Admission is free, and donations benefit sick and injured pets.


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Forsyth Family June 2014  
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